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MOTHERS ACROSS BORDERS: A TRANSNATIONAL ANALYSIS OF PARENTING BETWEEN INDIAN MOTHERS IN EDISON AND KOLKATA by MADHURIMA DAS A DISSERTATION Presented to the Department of Sociology and the Graduate School of the University of Oregon in partial fulfillment of the requirements for the degree of Doctor of Philosophy June 2017 DISSERTATION APPROVAL PAGE Student: Madhurima Das Title: Mothers Across Borders: A Transnational Analysis of Parenting Between Indian Mothers in Edison and Kolkata This dissertation has been accepted and approved in partial fulfillment of the requirements for the Doctor of Philosophy degree in the Department of Sociology by: Eileen Otis Chairperson Ellen Scott Core Member Jill Harrison Core Member Arafaat Valiani Institutional Representative and Scott L. Pratt Dean of the Graduate School Original approval signatures are on file with the University of Oregon Graduate School. Degree awarded June 2017 ii © 2017 Madhurima Das iii DISSERTATION ABSTRACT Madhurima Das Doctor of Philosophy Department of Sociology June 2017 Title: Mothers Across Borders: A Transnational Analysis of Parenting Between Indian Mothers in Edison and Kolkata. This dissertation addresses the central question- How are parenting methodologies across the sending and receiving nations shaped by larger macro forces embedded in economy and labor market forces? In order to answer this key question this project analyzes interviews with 59 middle-class mothers in Edison, New Jersey and Kolkata, India. This project contributes to the larger scope of immigration and transnational studies while placing them at the cross section of globalization of economy, labor market and education. The first chapter examines extensively the schooling systems in Edison and Kolkata and the ways it shapes parenting methods in these two locations. The key argument in this chapter focuses on the influence of the education system upon mothers in Edison and Kolkata and the ways they maneuver the schools. In the subsequent chapters I compare and contrast between support groups and community networks that help mothers in Edison and Kolkata navigate everyday child rearing challenges. The iv central puzzle that these chapters solve is: why immigrant mothers in an individualistic society resort to community and on the contrary mothers in Kolkata that belong to a more traditional society resort to commercial parenting schools instead of extended family to support everyday child rearing? The primary reason is embedded in the globalization of the labor market and economy. The immigrant mothers in Edison, who immigrated to the US as spouses of elite professionals in a globalized economy were confronted with the challenges of parenting in a foreign country. They resorted to community support to help them negotiate everyday parenting challenges. On the other hand in Kolkata the rapid changes in the field of employment an education had forced mothers to resort to commercial agencies for parenting support. Finally the dissertation concludes by returning to the central research questions and briefly states the central findings along with raising avenues for future research. v CURRICULUM VITAE NAME OF AUTHOR: Madhurima Das GRADUATE AND UNDERGRADUATE SCHOOLS ATTENDED: University of Oregon, Eugene Jadavpur University, Kolkata. Presidency College, Kolkata. DEGREES AWARDED: Doctor of Philosophy, Sociology, 2017, University of Oregon Master of Science, Sociology, 2012, University of Oregon Master of Arts, Sociology, 2010, Jadavpur University Bachelor of Arts, 2008, Presidency College AREAS OF SPECIAL INTEREST: Immigration Parenting and Transnational Families. GRANTS, AWARDS, AND HONORS: Sushil Jajodia Indian Student Scholarship, University of Oregon, 2016-17 Nominated for Sasakawa Young Leaders Fellowship Fund (SYLFF), University Oregon, 2016 Wasby-Johnson Award, Department of Sociology, University of Oregon, 2016 Nominated for Excellent Faculty Advising Award, University of Oregon, 2015 Joan Acker Graduate Fellowship Award, Department of Sociology, University of Oregon, 2015 Small Grant Fund, Department of Sociology, University of Oregon, 2013 Distinguished Graduate Student Teaching Award, Department of Sociology, University of Oregon, 2012 The Lawrence Carter Graduate Student Research Award, Department of Sociology, University of Oregon, 2011 vi ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS I would firstly like to thank my respondents from Edison and Kolkata who willingly participated in my project. In spite of being marginalized in a foreign country my respondents in Edison, were brave, beautiful and enthusiastic to step forward and express their hearts freely. They had the zeal to fight the system and challenge systemic patriarchy. More power to them! A special thanks to my Kolkata mothers who let me into their lives and never for once made me feel like an outsider. They shared their deepest anxieties and secrets and without their selfless support this project would not have been possible. A special thanks to Payel, from the mom-schooling agency who patiently answered all my questions regarding mom-schooling and was never irritated at my repeated phone calls and constant questioning. I appreciate her enthusiasm and zeal as a young entrepreneur and her dynamic personality is inspiring! I would like to thank the Department of Sociology and University of Oregon, for supporting my project through various grants and awards. The Lawrence Carter Award was the first award that actually shaped the foundation of this dissertation and later the Wasby-Johnson Dissertation Research Award and Sushil Jajodia Indian Student Scholarship that helped me finish my project, by funding my travel and other research amenities. A big thanks you to my dissertation committee, for their patience, kindness and constant support. Eileen Otis, my mentor, my chair, my advisor and the first faculty I bonded since the initial days of my Doctoral program in Eugene. You have always guided me when I felt lost, helped me to creatively think and analyze the data and made research so much fun. Thank you for your valuable feedback, healthy critique backed with constant encouragement and forcing me to keep writing unless it was perfect. Many thanks to Ellen Scott, for being the tough taskmaster, who accepted nothing short of perfection in my writing and work. You gave me structure, insight and discipline in my research that was so invaluable. Your constructive feedback not only for my dissertation but throughout my graduate life has shaped the researcher and scholar I claim myself to be today. My heartfelt thanks to Jill Harrison, for being the perfect mentor and friend with whom I could share my tears, eccentricity and laughter all at once. I am grateful to vii you for giving me the space where I could share my anxieties as well as intellectual conflicts. You have always helped me prioritize self-care more than anything else and I will forever look up to you as a brilliant human being and an incredible scholar. Many thanks to Arafaat Valiani for being the fantastic South-Asia expert who helped shape my project in a million constructive ways. I will cherish our meetings where we discussed practically everything from politics to philosophy. Your kindness and patience kept me steady when times were not great and your encouragement and enthusiasm gave me the quest to look out for more not only in my field but also in other areas. Lastly I would like to thank my family for their selfless support and love. Ma, Papa for being the perfect parents, who always gave me love, support and guidance. Being far away from them was not easy, dealing with homesickness was even harder, but our regular phone calls and Skype chats kept me going in those gloomy winter days of Eugene. You have always been so proud of me and always made me feel strong even when I was feeling down and lonely. I love you! Madhupa Das (my sister), Didi I cannot even imagine life without you. You have inspired me in so many different ways and you are the reason why I chose this topic for my dissertation. Your phone calls, laughter and constant boost of encouragement made life so much easier. I am not even half the person you are, and I constantly strive to be like you one day. I admire your intelligence, kindness, warmth, perseverance and patience. You are the best! Eeheet, Eshayu (my nephews) and Ranajoy Sarkar (my brother-in-law), thank you for bringing so much joy to my life. Your jokes and humorous take on life made my days brighter and colorful. Indrani Roy (my mom-in-law) who never forgot to call me and check in on me. You are the sweetest and your support means so much to me! Finally Dibyadyuti Roy, my partner, my husband, my best-friend and basically my world. I am not sure how I would have done this without you. You have been my strongest supporter, my cheerleader and my confidant. Our academic discussions as well as our mundane daily chats kept me sane through all the difficult times. I love you to the moon and back! Thank you for having my back and holding my hand when I have been at my worst. You’re the best that has ever happened to me. Thank you all! viii TABLE OF CONTENTS Chapter Page I. INTRODUCTION ........................................................................................................... 1 A Tale of Two Cities, and Two Crises: ............................................................................................ 6 Solidarity Networks/Communities: Edison and Kolkata ............................................................... 6 Models of Parenting: Edison