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THE BOYS OF ST. MARY’S KEEP ON KEEPING ON CAROLINE WHITEHEAD By the same author: Shadows In Every Corner Surviving The Shadows Rowland: A Heart of Sunshine Under The Railway Clock THE BOYS OF ST. MARY’S KEEP ON KEEPING ON Stories by: Delvin John Flynn Antony Hayman Michael McKenna Terry S. McKenna Ronald Mulligan John Michael Murray and other members of the KOKO St. Mary’s old boys group EDITED BY CAROLINE WHITEHEAD PUBLISHING HOUSE Copyright page PUBLISHING HOUSE 151 Howe Street, Victoria BC Canada V8V 4K5 www.agiopublishing.com © 2015, Caroline Whitehead. Stories and photographs used by permission of the authors. All rights reserved. Without limiting the rights under copyright reserved above, no part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in or introduced into a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form or by any means (electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise), without the prior written permission of both the copyright owner and the publisher of this book. Permission to reproduce newspaper articles has been graciously provided by The Gravesend Reporter. The Boys of St. Mary’s ISBN 978-1-927755-23-5 (paperback) ISBN 978-1-927755-24-2 (ebook) Cataloguing information available from Library and Archives Canada. Printed on acid-free paper. Agio Publishing House is a socially responsible company, measuring success on a triple-bottom-line basis. 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1cs Cover photo: St. Mary’s School, Gravesend, Kent, England DEDICATION This book is dedicated to the boys of St. Mary’s, Gravesend, Kent, England, who gave their lives with honour and distinction when serving King and Country during the Second World War. We will remember them. A Plaque Erected By St. Mary’s Old Boys In Memory Of Their Companions Who Lost Their Lives in the War 1939–1945: JOSEPH ANDERSON PAT WALSH JIMMIE FISHER GEORGE BUCKLAND JACKIE READE DENIS BROOK JOSEPH IZZIO JACKIE COOGAN RONNIE SULLIVAN JACKIE BODINGTON LOUIS IZZIO WALTER GRAHAM LEWIS BUCKTHORPE DENIS EDMEADS JACK McSWEENEY JAMES O’KEEFE JOHN BARZEE GORDON KANE BILLE GIBBONS GEORGE BLOXHAM JAMES WARREN R. I. P. ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS First and foremost, to the members of the KOKO writers group worldwide who approved publication of their memoirs from the 1920s era of St. Mary’s, Gravesend, Kent, England, by Agio Publishing House, Victoria, British Columbia, Canada. Special thanks to (Delvin) John Flynn for setting in motion a “network” of old boys in 1988 and encouraging them to write their stories so they can now be told. His invaluable time and energy in compiling their emails is much appreciated. Terry McKenna for his contribution and invaluable time in collating the emails sent to the writers group, worldwide. His ongoing communication between England, Canada and Australia was instrumental in achieving this goal through his contact with John Flynn. Antony Hayman for providing the article by Reporter Ltd, Gravesend of Schoolboy Football – St. Mary’s v St. Joseph’s, Rotherhithe, Stonebridge Road Ground, and many photographs of the school. To those group members around the world who generously contributed towards the cost of this publication, and who set me on this journey in the fi rst place. Tony Larkin, an historian of Gravesend, Kent who diligently takes care of the St. Mary’s Boys’ Remembrance Plaque, of those who gave their lives during the Second World War. Social Workers past and present: Cabrini/Irene Coppock, Irena Lyczkowska, Teresa Downy. Mr. J. Lyons, Archivist. Their excellent services over the years enabled many of our members to search their personal records at the Purley archives, which enabled them to understand their family history. Their support and respect, greatly appreciated. My son-in-law Don Boston for his expertise and time to ensure all systems functioned on my computer to allow this manuscript to unfold. Special thanks and appreciation to Bruce and Marsha Batchelor of Agio Publishing House for their advice and support to make this publication possible. To Marsha Batchelor, an award-winning graphic designer, for the cover design. — Caroline Whitehead CONTENTS INTRODUCTION i ABOUT THIS BOOK ii THE WRITERS ii HISTORY OF GRAVESEND, KENT, ENGLAND iii HISTORY OF ST. MARY’S, PARROCK ROAD, GRAVESEND, KENT iv MEMORIES OF ST. MARY’S, BEFORE AND AFTER 1 WELCOME TO YOUR NEW HOME 17 EMAILS FROM THE KOKO WRITING GROUP 19 THE BOYS OF ST. MARY’S: OUR FOOTBALL INSPIRATION 89 GATHER UP THE FRAGMENTS 93 RON’S STORY 101 TALES OF A LAUNDRY BOY 125 DO WE EVER FIND OURSELVES? SEEK AND YE WILL FIND 165 THE BAKEHOUSE BY THE PRISON WALL 181 PROTECTION OF OUR PERSONAL FILES 217 EPILOGUE 303 ABOUT THE EDITOR 307 INTRODUCTION This is not the fi rst time Caroline Whitehead has published about life in an institution, but this time she has lent her efforts to the St. Mary’s Boys Orphanage, Gravesend, Kent. This book is compiled and inspired by emails written by the members of a London group recalling life lived in an institution in a past era, times hopefully never to return. Caroline writes with fl uidity marrying up the thoughts of the members of the St. Mary’s old boys. Each member has recorded his own unique experiences but the one question rarely answered is, WHY? Did their mothers not want them? They felt they were to all intents and purposes like left luggage at a railway station and their mother failed to collect. This is a book that explores the innate ties that binds a boy to a mother who did not necessarily reciprocate the longing to know and the bonds of blood that tie us all. — Delvin John Flynn i ABOUT THIS BOOK, THE WRITERS AND THE SETTING ABOUT THIS BOOK This is the story of young children who, due to unusual circumstances, found themselves in the care of St. Mary’s Home for Boys at Gravesend, Kent. Their stories are characterized from the sublime to the ridiculous, relating to family history when parents in the twentieth century were either unable to care for their sons or so poverty-stricken, incapable of bringing them up. It is when they reached manhood that the St. Mary’s boys found they were travelling incredible journeys that would take them to unheard destinations to different parts of the globe, in search of their birthright. Many were to leave the shores of England and settle in countries abroad, leaving memories of the old regime behind. The question was ‘why me?’ by some of the old boys after they discovered other siblings were allowed to remain at home, when they were the chosen ones to be taken away and put in St. Mary’s, Gravesend. ABOUT THE WRITERS A “network” of old boys was inspired and founded in 1988 in North London, England by master-mind (Delvin) John Flynn, to give each a voice and provide them with the initiative to speak up and free ghosts of ii THE BOYS OF ST. MARY’S iii past, long held in many closets. The group’s motto was KOKO (Keep on keeping on). Memories, good and bad, were channelled across all continents. Some writers tell of happy times where they spent summer holidays at Dymchurch, Kent. Others remember their contribution and duty to the church as choir boys. Sports Day gave each boy the opportunity to extend his skill and energy on the football ground, to succeed to unheard of heights. Mentioning Father Baker and his tuck shop brings back memories of sweet treats; albeit, not without payment. Each writer tells his story in his own style, often with pathos, in the understanding we are who we are today. Throughout their many trials and tribulations from childhood to manhood, and through sheer perseverance, they are determined to keep on keeping on their motto, KOKO, alive. HISTORY OF GRAVESEND, KENT, ENGLAND Gravesend is a town in northwest Kent, England on the south bank of the Thames, opposite Tilbury in Essex. It is the administrative town of the Borough of Gravesham and because of its geographical position, has always had an important role in the history and communications of this part of England. It still retains a strong link with the river. The opening of the international railway station immediately west of the town at Ebbsfl eet Valley, the arrival of high speed train services to and from Gravesend railway station itself, and the town’s position in the Thames Gateway, have all added to the town’s importance. Notable personalities: • Charles Dickens (1812-1870) is associated with Gravesend and the villages around the borough. Though he died over 140 years ago, many of the links between him and Gravesend are still in evidence – Gravesend he visited, at Chalk he spent his honeymoon, at Higham he lived and died, and at Cobham he found inspiration for The Pickwick Papers. • General Charles George Gordon (1833-1885) lived in the town iv CAROLINE WHITEHEAD & KOKO during the construction of the Thames forts. For six years he devoted himself to the welfare of the town’s “poor boys”, setting up a Sunday school and providing food and clothes for them from his Army wage. • Composer Nikolai Rimsky-Korsakov (1844-1908), offi cer in the Russian Navy, was posted to Gravesend in 1862, where he wrote part of his fi rst symphony. Rowing Matches have been taking place on the River Thames at Gravesend since the year of 1689, and the fi rst organized Regatta was in 1715. The Annual Borough Regatta goes back to 1882. HISTORY OF ST. MARY’S, PARROCK ROAD, GRAVESEND, KENT St. Mary’s was originally known as The Manor of Parrock, Gravesham.