Kaboom: the Film Winged Visions: Concept Seminar What to Do Against Homophobia? Bi-Quiz: Quiz Cards and More
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BiJou 27 The Bisexual Journal May 2013 www.bine.net/bijou Kaboom: The Film Winged Visions: Concept seminar What to do against Homophobia? Bi-Quiz: Quiz cards and more.... BiJou 27 Table of contents We‘ve got the first word! We’ve got the first word!. ...............................................................3 The earth is shaking – on one side It’s me again Traveling all over the place 20 years of BiNe – an excursion with Anja ........................................4 the resistance against gay marria- Around ten years ago I first att- First of all a warm welcome to ge is crumbling, on the other side empted to work on the BiJou on Mara: May you have lots of fun and Interview with Walter ....................................................................6 hate and discrimination towards a regular basis. What despite good success in our editorial team! Ecstasy is Necessary ......................................................................7 non-heterosexuals is thriving. intentions failed at the first att- My focus this time wasn’t wri- We dealt with these issues in our empt, went perfectly smooth in the ting. Instead I worked on getting Kaboom! ......................................................................................8 past issue (Bijou 26) with articles second attempt. And it was com- an ISSN for the BiJou (ISSN is an Who invented what? The bi:forum turns one ......................................9 about different political parties, pletely unintentional this time, it ISBN for magazines) and represen- Concept seminar 2013: Winged visions ........................................... 10 gay marriage, and the situation in just happened. I sent maybe three ted BiNe at events we were invited Russia. In this issue we’ve got an emails to Frank about some ideas to (like an invitation to speak at Honourable desire: Your commitment to self-determined sexuality ...... 11 interview on homophobia as well I had and before I knew it I was the European Commission against The end of the one-time rule ........................................................12 as an American study about bi- an official member of the editori- Racism and Intolerance (ECRI) and Six times Sex ..............................................................................14 and homophobia (The end of the al team. Naturally then I had no the opening of the first rainbow one-time rule). choice but to deliver. ☺ family centre in Berlin). The ultimate bi quiz ....................................................................15 Changes are being promised at the I’m looking forward to, as per the I hope you enjoy reading! What to do against homophobia? ..................................................19 concept seminar (Winged visions) pleasure principle, do what I en- Meschede rocks! Where fox and bisexuals bid each other good night ...22 while the interview 20 years BiNe joy doing (writing) and to at the Christoph e.V. allows us a look back. same time create something with Where’s a man a man? ................................................................. 23 The main focus this time is the bi others, which will - hopefully - We don’t want to be telephones! – Polyamory .................................. 24 film Kaboom… enjoy reading! bring you, the readers, enjoyment Also I’d like to welcome Mara as an and maybe a light bulb moment or Swinger clubs postal code 3 ..........................................................28 active new addition to the editori- two. The bisexual umbrella ..................................................................30 al team! Now there are three of us! Enjoy reading and see you in the Impressum ................................................................................. 31 next issue… Frank Infos......................................................................................... 32 Mara Bisexuality doesn’t equal bisexuality! Not every bisexual is the same. There are plenty of variations! I think the differences between different bisexuals are greater than between he- tero-, bi-, and homosexuals. Since not every issue of the Bijou can cover all types of bisexuals, let me point out a few ways in which bisexuals can differ from each other. They can be anywhere between: • Monogamous to polyamorous, • Loyal to cheating, • Having sex with only one person to being a swinger, • asexual to nymphomaniac, • more attracted to one gender to “fifty-fifty“, The Bi Quiz (Part 1) • completely outed to completely closeted, The bi quiz cards (in the centre of the magazine) can be cut out and used for a number of different game • interested in men and women to interested in more androgynous people, variations. • possibly transgender, intersexual, etc or not, One idea would be: • identifying oneself as bisexual to not believing in labels. The players take turns reading the topmost card to be answered by the person sitting next to them. If they know the answer they receive 2 points. If they don’t, the “reader” reads the 3 possible answers. If the “gues- Each contributor in this journal has his or her own idea as well – and ser” answers correctly after the choices being read they receive one point. by the mere act of writing the article nothing is said about their own But of course it’s up to you how you want to make use of the cards. sexual identity, orientation, or behaviour. Enjoy! Frank Frank 3 BiJou 27 BiJou 27 Most people only associate BiNe with the open mee- What do you wish BiNe for the next 20 years? 20 years of BiNe tings – do you feel the same way? Or is BiNe more I wish that BiNe will always be a network that fights than that? against homophobia and that stands for equality and – an excursion with Anja Of course BiNe is more than just the open meetings! acceptance of different lifestyles. And of course I’d BiNe is an advocacy which offers the possibility to like for the meetings to continue. state and develop political demands. BiNe in my How long have you been a BiNe member and how did you can forgive me for not remembering. Those were opinion has spearheaded many discussions on sexu- Interview conducted by Mara you find out about BiNe? times where the BiJou, current, informative, and full al identity, love, and relationships, through the se- I was at a national meeting in Groß-Bademäusel in of enthusiasm, stood for the networking of bi-inte- minars by Jürgen Höhn and Bettina Wessolowski to the early 90s where they discussed founding an as- rest groups and individuals in Germany. name just one example. It reaches beyond bisexuality sociation. I was against it because I didn‘t want to and that’s very important. I find the question inte- join yet another association and I felt that the or- If you were to compare BiNe at the very beginning resting on whether bisexuality or specifically poly- ganisation of meetings was going just fine without with BiNe today, what changes do you perceive? relationships bear a socio-political relevance since one. I’d been in several other associations and it was Hmm… those that every association goes through people who are involved in multiple relationships my experience that it could get pretty complicated. throughout its development and professionalisati- display less competitiveness and aggression at work I did ultimately join the association out of solidarity on. I believe the demand for professional visibility and in their private life. to Winnie since further organisation of the meetings has increased. I also think that the drive to achieve would have only been possible through a funding of something politically has become stronger and that Is BiNe getting enough people involved? For the as- her work. activities like the participation at the CSD allow us sociation, for political issues? to go more public. The reason for this change might I don’t know. I guess so. I’m not really involved in What does BiNe mean to you? Is it just an association be that the public image of bisexuality has evolved. what the association does internally. to you or is it something more? Did you get true and There were times that bi was ‘in’, there were cover lasting friendships out of it? stories in magazines like the Marie Claire, and, at the How do you live your bisexuality? Are you monoga- Of course there have been true and lasting friend- time, shocking reports that dealt with bisexuality and mous or polyamorous? ships, for as long as I’ve been active in the bisexual sadomasochism. I remember one particular situation I’ve been openly bisexual since I was 16. That was scene. On a professional as well as private level, at in the 90s, when I was still working for the BiJou. never a question for me. I’m married and am current- meetings, seminars, workshops... There have been a I’d given an interview for Jürgen Domian at the WDR ly in a heterosexual monogamous relationship with number of people who have left an impression in my with two other guys. Inge Meisel joined in via tele- my husband, with occasional sexual encounters with heart and whom I’d really like to see again. These en- phone and said that it wasn’t a big deal anymore no- women. Polyamory would be too complicated for me. counters were always very meaningful and I wouldn’t wadays. I disagreed and argued that bisexual people It’s difficult enough to keep ONE long-term relation- want to miss a single one of them. In short, I’ve be- were still being discriminated against today. She was ship going. come a part of BiNe. I have to admit that it probably acting all arrogant and insisted that I was wrong and wasn’t such a bad idea to found this association after that nowadays discrimination wasn’t an issue anymo- Anything else you’d like to say on the topic of BiNe, all. I’m still not much of an “association person” but re. I felt that her position was too undifferentiated bisexuality, or yourself? I am now blessed with the kindness of old age so I since discrimination didn’t always manifest openly or I’m much more ‘offensive’ with my bisexuality now no longer care to oppose it.