OUT November 2, 2012 | Volume X, Issue 11 Maryland Voters Poised to Make History Obama, other leaders embrace gay marriage Rev. Donte BY STEVE CHARING cally whose lines were blurred with religios- Hickman The long, hard-fought battle to win civil ity. It became a key component of the 2004 speaking marriage rights for same-sex couples in presidential election where 11 states went on TV ad Maryland is reaching the day of truth. By to the voters to enshrine discrimination into supporting November 6, Marylanders will have voted their respective constitutions. Question 6 on Question 6, which would, if approved, Not satisfied, the sitting president, extend myriad rights, benefits and responsi- George W. Bush, favored a federal con- bilities to gay and lesbian couples and their stitutional amendment to define marriage children as well as protections for religious as solely between a man and a woman. institutions to follow their own beliefs. If ap- Though that effort ultimately failed, the proved, Maryland will become the first state measures put forth in those 11 states suc- to have legalized same-sex marriage via ceeded as did ballot measures of an ad- the ballot. ditional 21 states over the next few years It had been a slow slog to reach this including the bitter Proposition 8 battle in point. When same-sex marriage became California in 2008. legal in Massachusetts in 2004 by a court In Maryland, while the state legislature ruling, the issue became a firestorm politi- —continued on page 2 Re-Elect President Barack Obama President Obama deserves another four der people. He has appointed the largest of the past quarter century that has led to years and our support! number of openly gay people ever to po- the greatest income disparities since the When we endorsed President Obama sitions within his administration, accom- 1920s. Progressive journalist Bill Moyers in 2008, it was a very easy call. He was plished a major goal of the mainstream gay has described the relationship between ma- running as a moderate Democrat against a movement with the repeal of “Don’t ask, jor financial firms and the federal govern- Republican standard bearer who supported don’t tell,” refused to defend the Defense ment as an “incestuous orgy,” and Presi- the economic, antigay, and anti-choice poli- of Marriage Act, come around to support dent Obama is no radical reformer intent on cies that have been the staple same-sex marriage, spoken out breaking the flow of Wall Street cash to his of Republicans for decades. EDITORIAL against bullying, appointed mod- campaign or the cycle of financial insiders Little did we know that his re- erate judges to the federal courts holding key government posts. Nonethe- election would be even more important, as and placed two moderate women on the less, he has managed to apply sandpaper Republicans have done what was unthink- Supreme Court. to some of the rough edges that caused the able – become even more right-wing and Yes, the president has been very good housing crisis and the great recession. nominated a chameleon candidate with- on gay issues. But of equal, if not greater The president’s first legislative act was out principles beholden to his party’s idiot importance, he has adopted economic poli- a victory for working women and fairness in fringe. cies that will benefit most working families. employment – the Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay The president has proved to be the He entered office during the worst econom- Act – that reversed a ruling by the Supreme most gay friendly in the nation’s history ic slowdown since the Great Depression Court barring a woman from bringing a sex and he deserves a huge vote of support and adopted policies aimed to tap down on discrimination suit. His stimulus legisla- from lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgen- some of the draconian economic policies —continued on page 4 S P E C I A L E L E C T I O N I S S U E R E M E M B E R T O V O T E, T U E S 11 / 6! NEWS // LOCAL

MARYLAND POISED the leadership of the legislature’s LGBT gious beliefs.” The choices are for the re- TO MAKE HISTORY caucus and the governor managed to win ferred law or against the referred law. – continued from front page passage of the Civil Marriage Protection Act Polls have consistently shown that mar- Co-Publishers in the Senate and eeked out a victory in the riage equality is viewed more favorably Jim Becker • Jim Williams fought back similar proposals for a consti- House with just two votes to spare during among voters than not. This reflects a na- [email protected] tutional amendment, it had not been moved the 2012 General Assembly. tional trend whereby same-sex marriage is Executive Editor Jim Becker to embrace marriage equality. Moreover, On March 1, 2012, history was made. seen more positively than in recent years. [email protected] sitting governors during this period were ei- “The way forward is always found through The improvement has been noted in gains Managing Editor ther hostile towards the notion (former Gov. greater respect for the equal rights of all,” among African-Americans who are expect- [email protected] Robert L. Ehrlich, Jr.) or reluctant to sup- said O’Malley just before signing the legis- ed to provide a quarter of the electorate by Production Director port full marriage equality as was the case lation. “If there is a thread that unites all of November 6. Bob Wellington of Gov. Martin O’Malley until 2011. our work here together, it is the thread of Recognizing that polling of social is- Sales Director human dignity.... Let’s sign the bill.” sues requires a skeptical eye, Josh Levin, Mary Taylor Attempts to bring the Maryland legis- [email protected] lature on board were challenging. In 2011, Governor O’Malley, flanked by Senate the campaign manager for Marylanders for Leather Columnist after passing the Senate for the first time, President Thomas V. “Mike” Miller (who op- Marriage Equality has expressed cautious Rodney Burger the bill was sent back to committee in the posed the bill) and House Speaker Michael optimism. “Polls are tight but we have a Contributing Writers House of Delegates as the vote-counters Busch, signed the law amidst loud cheers by lead,” Levin told Baltimore OUTloud. Joey Amato • Sharon Brackett • Cathy Brennan • Rodney Burger • recognized the pro-equality forces were to jubilant onlookers. To be sure, the campaign has benefit- Joshua Buchbinder • Steve Charing • Jeffrey Claggett • Jeffrey Clouser • Wayne Curtis • Woody Derricks • Chuck Duncan come up short by a couple of votes. Opponents of marriage equality immedi- ted from open support by President Obama. • Michael Farley • Jon Fairbanks • Gerry Fisher • Bruce Garrett • Following that major disappointment, ately mobilized and vowed to take advantage Having “evolved” to accept marriage equal- Jeff Hammerberg • Dr. Eva Hersh • Shirli Hughes • Sam Kunz Michelle Lanchester, Esq. • Dana LaRocca • Jessica Lemmo • Jay Equality Maryland, the organization who of a Maryland statute that allows a law to be ity earlier in the year, the President had tak- Loane • Rev. Meredith Moise • Gregg Shapiro had led the way in attempting to pass the petitioned to referendum provided it meets en a political risk to push for what is right. legislation, began to unravel. Although back the requisite number of signatures. This effort In a recent statement, this support was rein- Graphics on its feet now after a tumultuous internal was headed by a group called the Maryland forced. “While the president does not weigh Joe Velasquez • Bob Wellington struggle and the naming of a new board Marriage Alliance who is being supported by in on every single ballot measure in every Cartoonist and executive director, the lead for advanc- the National Organization for Marriage, led by state, the president believes in treating ev- Bruce Garrett (www.brucegarrett.com) ing marriage equality was assumed by a Derek McCoy, the Maryland Catholic Confer- eryone fairly and equally, with dignity and Photographers new group called Marylanders for Marriage ence and others. respect,” said Obama for America spokes- Bruce Garrett • Jay W Photos • Justin Nixon Equality that was formed in July of 2011. The signature-gathering effort was suc- man Frank Benenati.” Maryland’s same-sex Web Editor Anja Saine MFME attracted partnering entities to form cessful as well over 100,000 name and ad- marriage law would treat all Maryland cou- [email protected] a diverse coalition of civil rights organiza- dresses were collected thereby placing the ples equally, and that is why the president Managed Web Services The Fusio Group tions, faith groups, labor unions and others. Civil Marriage Protection Act on the ballot supports Question 6.” 866-322-7498, www.thefusiogroup.com Governor O’Malley, having witnessed along with other Questions. The NAACP, leading African-American National Advertising Rep the passage of same-sex marriage in New Question 6 reads: “Establishes that clergy, civil rights icon Julian Bond and Rivendell Media York State in 2011, had a change of heart. Maryland’s civil marriage laws allow gay prominent elected officials and celebrities 908-232-2021 He applied pressure on wavering legislators and lesbian couples to obtain a civil mar- have joined in the effort, especially to per- Founders riage license, provided they are not other- suade African-American voters. Rev. Donte Jim Becker • Joe Berg • Mike Chase • and was vocal in his support. Lee Mooney (1959-2007) • Jim Williams The fledgling organization along with wise prohibited from marrying; protects cler- Hickman, Pastor of the Southern Baptist gy from having to Church in Baltimore, and Rev. Delman Baltimore OUTloud perform any par- Coates, Pastor of the Mount Ennon Baptist PO Box 4887 Baltimore, MD 21211 Church in Clinton, Maryland, have frequent- 410-244-6780 ticular marriage www.baltimoreoutloud.com ceremony in ly appeared on TV ads to promote Question violation of their 6. The fairness aspect of marriage equality Additional Information religious beliefs; and the fact religious institutions would be Baltimore OUTloud is published every other Friday by Pride Media, Ltd. in Baltimore, Maryland. Readers comments and affirms that each protected comprised the central message. unsolicited materials are welcomed and may be sent to: editor@ religious faith has But the opponents are placing ads on baltimoreoutloud.com. All materials appearing in this newspaper exclusive control the air as well. Using a tried and true scare are the property of Pride Media, Ltd. and may not be reproduced without the written permission of the editor. over its own theo- tactic, MMA has begun to run an ad that says logical doctrine that children will be taught about same-sex regarding who marriage in the schools. Although govern- may marry within ment officials and others have debunked that faith; and that charge given that school curricula are provides that re- determined by educators and parents, this ligious organiza- tactic was determined to be pivotal in sway- tions and certain ing voters to support Proposition 8, which related entities nullified same-sex marriage in California.

are not required Supporters of marriage equality have The opinions expressed in Baltimore OUTloud are solely those to provide goods, worked outside the campaign structure to of the writers unless otherwise indicated and do not necessarily services, or ben- canvass, phone bank and other grass roots reflect the views of Pride Media, Ltd., and the staff. Rabbis for Marriage Equality – On October 25th, several area rabbis and efits to an indi- initiatives to help immunize voters from the delegates came together to endorse marriage equality and to urge voters to vidual related to expected negative ads by the opponents. © 2012 – All rights reserved Chair of the Board of Trustees – Jim Becker vote for Question 6. Pictured here are (l to r) Margaret Stein, Rabbi Daniel the celebration To the extent that these efforts will again President – Jim Williams Burg, Del. Dana Stein, Rabbi Elissa Sachs-Kohen, Rabbi Jessie Grossman, or promotion of fall short or whether history will be made in Secretary and Treasurer – Mike Chase Rabbi John Franken of Roland Park’s Bolton Street Synagogue, and Rabbi marriage in viola- Maryland will be determined on November Susan Grossman. Not pictured: Rabbis Andrew Busch and Steven Fink. tion of their reli- 6. t 2 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMBER 2, 2012 • BALTIMOREOUTLOUD.COM NEWS // LOCAL

Cyberbullying Law in Effect covered under harassment statutes. Maryland’s ed’ based on a number of criteria. These criteria Harassers could face fine or imprisonment existing electronic harassment legislation was include a distinction between public and private last updated in 1998 and applied only to “elec- forums. BY STEVE CHARING a popular social networking site. But when she tronic mail” (email) that is sent and received by “The challenge that we must address is that If you have ever been berated on Facebook went to the local authorities, she was told that an individual “identified by a unique address.” many of the newest technologies are, by design, with personal attacks and insults, threatened in such conduct was not a crime under existing Maryland is one of 38 states to have enacted intended to publicize interpersonal communica- an email, or intimidated in a text message, there law. If her attackers had used the phone or email, laws that sanction electronic harassment. tions. For example on Facebook walls, photo al- is now a legal recourse available to Maryland- then police could do something.” By changing the language from “mail” to bum ‘tags,’ blogs, posts, and threads make pub- ers. Such harassment is addressed in House Washington acknowledged that such forms “communications” and striking the requirement lic the individual to individual exchange of words Bill 8,”an act covering harassment in electronic of harassment are on the rise as evidenced by that these communications be directed towards and blur the lines just enough to allow individuals Communication,”that took effect on October 1. recent high-profile cases of an individual at a unique ad- to use these to harass, intimidate, and bully.” Sponsored by Delegate Mary Washington, cyberbullying, distribution of dress, “texts” will be covered and The language is adaptable and should cover the bill, which was signed into law by Governor graphic material without the possibly direct communication future forms of electronic communication. “Now Martin O’Malley on April 10 of this year, is aimed permission or knowledge from social media and network- there are increased protections and legal rem- at expanding the existing law prohibiting harass- of the subject and online ing sites. The law would apply in edies for those being harassed or threatened, ment to include all forms of direct electronic com- domestic verbal abuse and instances whereby a person en- which I believe will help to curb cyberbullying and munications, such as texts, instant messages, stalking. Accordingly, she gages in a course of conduct: 1) other means of intimidation that harm our youth,” and direct messages through Facebook and decided it was time to con- with the intent to harass, alarm, Washington said. Added Aaron Merki, executive other platforms. tact the attorney general’s or annoy the other; 2) after re- director of the Baltimore-based Free State Legal “I think it is what we need to add strength to office “to explore ways that ceiving a reasonable warning or Project, “If a gay student is being continuously the anti-cyberbullying legislation we have passed Maryland law could be made request to stop by or on behalf of harassed via Facebook or Twitter by other stu- in the General Assembly,” Washington told Balti- to catch up with technology the other; and 3) without a legal dents or their parents because of their sexual more OUTloud. “Because of the Internet, harass- and provide legal remedies purpose. orientation, that would likely violate this statute.” ment is far more than just annoying phone calls for survivors and enforcement tools for state and “In developing this bill, we’ve solicited the Kisha Brown of the Maryland attorney gen- or letters.” local law officers.” technical advice of the attorney general’s office eral’s office, suggests that victims of offenses Washington, a Democrat who represents Over the course of three months, Washing- to ensure that we address concerns about the included in this law could file charges with the the 43rd District, explained her motivation for ton worked with Delegates Sandy Rosenberg protection of free speech under the First Amend- state’s attorney’s office. Violation of the law is a sponsoring the bill. “A constituent contacted me (D-41) and Luke Clippinger (D-36) to develop ment,” Washington noted. “As we all know, ver- misdemeanor and carries a statutory penalty of because she found herself on the receiving end legislation that would amend Maryland law by bal and oral communications can be considered imprisonment for up to one year and/or a maxi- of a vicious high-tech harassment campaign on broadening the types of communication that are as speech that is either ‘protected’ or ‘unprotect- mum fine of $500. t

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By Authority: Marylanders for Marriage Equality. Sophia Silbergeld, Treasurer

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RE-ELECT ended commitment in Afghanistan, has PRESIDENT OBAMA shown a collaborative approach to most Both Sides of Marriage Issue – continued from front page foreign policy issues and a weariness to commit ground troops. His relentless use of Discussed at Fox45 Town Hall tion, although smaller than some economis drones is scary, with untold consequences recommended, salvaged the auto industry for the future, but overall his approach to WBFF (Fox45) hosted a town hall meet- civil rights if she turned out to be a lesbian. and set the stage for economic recovery. international relations is rational and re- ing on October 25 whereby both sides of The other side of the panel presented In 2010, he signed the Dodd-Frank Wall strained. Question 6 had the opportunity to answer a picture of grave consequences. Despite Street Reform and Consumer Protection Contrast President Obama’s solid re- questions posed by some in the capac- the specific language in the bill, Delegate Act which, although a modest effort, aimed cord of moderation and progress to the ity studio audience, the moderator Mark Burns, who was dour throughout the to curtail some of the worst practices of world envisioned by Mit Romney. The Re- Hyman, and those participating on social broadcast, still maintains that churches Wall Street and the banks unleashed by de- publican nominee promises to repeal the media. The 90-minute broadcast was aired will be forced to perform ceremonies in- cades of wholesale deregulation. health care act, continue tax cuts for the over Fox45’s website live, and a link re- volving same-sex couples. “The legal Then of course there is ObamaCare. rich, adopt the extreme budget prepared mains for others to view it at Foxbaltimore. community would take actions against re- The Patient Protection and Affordable Care by his running mate, Paul Ryan, repeal com/news/features/town-hall. ligious institutions.” Act, while not the single-payer we would the Wall Street reform law and regulations, The panel consisted of Ezekiel Jack- Mr. McCoy didn’t present any new sub- have preferred, is an extraordinary accom- sign any anti-abortion legislation passed by son, a married father of three who works stance other than reiterating his stance plishment. Beginning with Harry Truman af- Congress, and adopt a more aggressive for Maryland- ter World War II, five presidents had tried approach to world affairs reminiscent of the ers for Marriage and failed to expand access to health care. cold war. Throw in Romney’s decades of Equality; Mary- This reform of the American health care opposition to the aspirations of the LGBT land Delegate system has real life consequences for mil- communities, and the choice is obvious. Mary Washing- lions of people who can no longer be denied Yes, we need four more years of a president ton, the first Af- coverage for preexisting conditions, and who listens to us and seeks to curtail the rican-American millions more who will gain access to health relentless war of the one percent against lesbian legislator care they couldn’t afford before. the rest of us. We enthusiastically endorse in Maryland; Del- In foreign policy, the president has re- President Obama and urge Maryland voters egate Emmett versed the disastrous policies of his pre- to cast your ballot for him, Senator Ben Car- Burns, who has decessor. After hundreds of thousands of din, the Democratic nominee for Congress been a staunch senseless deaths, the Iraq war is over. He in your district, and of course vote yes on t opponent of has had the good sense to avoid an open- Question 6. marriage equal- ity; and Derek McCoy, director of the Maryland Marriage Alli- ance, the group who sought to Near chaos as Fox TV tackles same-sex marriage put the law on the ballot for a statewide vote and is look- that marriage should not be redefined. He ing to defeat it on November 6. commented that there are thousands of The subjects were familiar: whether gays and lesbians who left that “lifestyle.” same-sex marriage is a civil right, children, Because of the format, there was no op- religion, school curricula, and the conse- portunity to offer a counter-argument that quences should marriage equality prevail. would have stated that the ex-gay move- Both Mr. Jackson and Delegate Wash- ment had been debunked by medical pro- ington offered well thought-out arguments fessional organizations. and were calm throughout, even when For their part, the pro-marriage equal- there was a brief period where the heated ity panelists were effective in defending discussion devolved into near chaos. the law as a step towards fairness. Indeed, the audience members were Delegate Washington was very persua- passionate and at times raucous, cheer- sive in placing the issue of equality in an ing their favored panelists. But for the most historical context, especially on Constitu- part, they were respectful, although many tional grounds. were seen on camera as visibly frustrated Mr. Jackson, who admitted “evolv- or even repulsed by comments made by ing” on the issue, expressed his support the panelists with whom they disagree. based on meeting and talking to gay and There was a distinct majority in the audi- lesbian couples. “People want to join in ence who supported Question 6. marriage because it’s something beauti- One member of the audience, a teach- ful,” he said. er, emotionally told of two eight-year-olds. Delegate Burns, on the other hand, Katie, a friend of her daughter, Sadie, has blamed the legislature for “putting us two same-sex parents. She wants Sadie in this position” and refers to the pos- to have all the protections that children of sible enactment of the law as “a slippery heterosexual parents have. As for Sadie, slope.” He strongly protested the argument she vowed she would always protect her that this is a civil rights issue. t 4 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMBER 2, 2012 • BALTIMOREOUTLOUD.COM NEWS // LOCAL Light Brigaders Visited by Police MD Dems OK Marriage Equality

BY STEVE CHARING speech and assembly,” said Patro. “My im- Democratic Rep. C.A. Jacobs, has been a After more than two dozen visits to over- pression is that we can be on a public side- “Dutch” Ruppersberger an- leading foe of same- passes and other venues around Maryland, walk as long as we are not blocking the pas- nounced during a debate sex marriage. Light Brigade Maryland, “the group that dis- sage of other pedestrians and we can be on with his opponent Republi- Cummings spoke plays lit panels that spells out messages a bridge as long as it has a sidewalk and we can Nancy Jacobs on Octo- of his own journey promoting marriage equality in the Novem- are not attaching things to the bridge.” ber 23 that he supports mar- on this issue. “Ulti- ber 6 referendum,” received visitors them- She indicated the signs are a “distrac- riage equality. The next day mately, I identify with selves. While on another mission on the tion” to drivers on I-95, and someone asked Rep. Elijah Cummings told President Obama’s evening of Oc- how it was differ- the Washington Blade that evolution on the tober 24, this ent from the illu- he, too, will vote for Ques- topic of same-sex Light Brigade minated chang- tion 6 on Election Day. time in Arbutus credit: Rob Brune marriage,” he said. in Baltimore ing digital sign In doing so, the Con- “When you come County, the installed over the gressmen join the other from a religious back- event attracted road by SHA. members of the Maryland Rep. C.A. ‘Dutch’ Ruppersberger ground where you’ve four police offi- Her response Democratic Congressional been taught all your cers with three was, according to delegation in taking a stand for marriage life that marriage is between a man and a squad cars and Patro, “They only equality. Senators Barbara Mikulski and woman, and then you find yourself look- flashing lights. look at that for a Ben Cardin as well as Representatives ing at how a society is changing and how On the second. They will John Sarbanes, Donna Edwards, Chris many in your own community are seeing Selford Road look at this sign Van Hollen and Steny Hoyer have also ex- the issue in terms of fairness and equality, bridge over for a longer period pressed support for legalizing same-sex it makes you re-think your position.” I-95 facing of time.” marriage. Cummings concluded, “I respect and southbound In response “I prayed about it. I did whatever I support the decision of the Maryland legis- traffic, the po- to this incident, a thought I needed to do, and in the end, I lature and will vote in support of Question 6.” lice presence woman posted on decided,”a very tough decision for me,”to John Delaney, who is challenging ten-term was immedi- Facebook: “What come out in favor of it because I worried Republican Roscoe Bartlett in the 6th Con- ately noticed. difference is there about discrimination,” Ruppersberger gressional District, also expressed his sup- “Three were when people put a said. His opponent, state Senator Nancy port for the same-sex marriage law. t standing in a relaxed posed with their hands thousand lights on their house during Christ- clasped behind their own back with their mas or when 9/11 occurred and ‘Support our feet slightly spread,” recalled Mark Patro, troops’ were on every overpass?” the founder of the group. “The fourth was This was the first time the activities of the on a cell phone. “ Light Brigade were interrupted by authorities. Patro inquired as to whether or not Patro said he is proud of the group. “They re- there was a problem. A state trooper re- mained unintimidated by the police presence sponded that they were there as requested and continued to hold their panels in place back-up. He approached a female officer while the police officer was on the phone with and asked her as well. She responded by her SHA contact. I am so very proud to be as- saying she was on the phone with some- sociated with these folks. Everyone who has one from the State Highway Administration. ever held a light panel is dedicated to getting “SHA owns the bridge and they are asking out the positive message that Voting for 6 is a you to leave,” the officer told Patro. vote for fairness and equality.” “Some of us felt like this was a viola- Undaunted, five more Light Brigade tion of our First Amendment rights to free events are planned. t

No Further Punishment for Trans Student

As reported Baltimore OUTloud last is- Free State Legal Project, Dee and her sue, a trans Patapsco High School stu- family appeared at the hearing. Although dent, Dee, was suspended as a result of a Dee was found guilty on several charges, fight in which she was her five-day suspension was con- called “tranny fag- sidered time served. got.” On October 19, In addition, the a hearing was held to superintendent des- determine if addition- ignee for the Balti- al punishment, including ex- more County school pulsion, was warranted result- board will be meet- ing from her actions during the altercation. ing with the administrators at Patapsco Represented by attorney Aaron Merki, H.S. and holding a forum to address the executive director of the Baltimore-based issue of bullying and LGBT issues. t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMBER 2, 2012 • BALTIMOREOUTLOUD.COM t 5 BEYOND THE BELTWAY compiled by Jim Becker ing anytime soon,” she said. Beaver said Golden Poo award is the model for The Golden Poo Award she did the reporting for the book for years, makes light to get 2012 – the Oscar of the sanitation sector, and then wrote it earlier this year. Since organized by PooP Creative Ltd and the Author Explores it’s a self-published e-book of about 200 serious attention London Short Film Festival. “The Golden pages, Romney’s Gay America was avail- Poo awards were based around the idea Mormonism, able quickly. When it was released in July, London, UK – Human defecation remains that we wanted to be a little bit shocking Romney and Gays it debuted number one on Amazon’s list of a taboo subject, despite the fact that 2.5 and get people thinking about this issue, gay and lesbian non-fiction. Reaction to billion people lack toilets, causing a global but do it in an amusing way,” Curtis said. the book has been mixed, including com- health crisis that kills more than a million “We gave awards to heroes of sanitation Phoenix, AZ – An Arizona author who plaints from both gays and Mormons who children each year. The London School and also to films about poo.” (Reuters – has studied the relationship between the say that it hurts their communities. Rom- of Hygiene & Tropical Medicine (LSHTM) at Julie Mollins at http://blogs.reuters.com/ gay community and Mormonism says that ney’s Gay America is available on Amazon. hopes a new exhibition will make sanita- the-human-impact/2012/10/18/london- if Gov. Mitt Romney is elected president com. (Echo Magazine – Glenn Gullickson tion easier to discuss. The show is part of sanitation-show-aims-to-make-poo-hot- his opposition to marriage equality will at Echomag.com) its efforts to help fight diseases causing topic/ [I suspect that gay men might have a be a centerpiece of his administration. In diarrhoea, which kill more children than heads up on this campaign as we are gen- Romney’s Gay America: Mormon Lead- erally less phobic about discussing bodily ers, Same-Sex Rights – Bridging the Gap, functions. J.B.] Michelle Beaver forecasts what a Romney Poll shows 52% of presidency would mean for LGBT rights. Ohioans back gay Beaver said she would expect a Presi- dent Romney to pursue an amendment to marriage Gates, Bloomberg the Constitution banning same-sex mar- donate big for gay riage with the same passion that Presi- Columbus, OH – Ohioans now support dent Barack Obama has demonstrated for full marriage equality 52 percent to 37 per- marriage health care reform. While Romney has a cent, according to a poll conducted by the reputation for “flip-flopping” on issues, Washington Post. Eight years ago, the num- Seattle, WA – Washington United for bers were very different. In 2004, 62 percent of Marriage and the Approve Referendum Ohio voters limited marriage to opposite-sex 74 campaign found new reasons to cel- couples by passing an anti-marriage amend- ebrate this past week, when they received ment to the state constitution. The new sup- a large new donation from Microsoft mo- port for marriage is also reflected in polls the gul Bill Gates and his wife, Melinda, and Post took in Florida and Virginia. In Florida, a promise of matching funds from New 54 percent responded in favor of same-sex York Mayor Michael Bloomberg. Bill and marriage, while just under half of Virginians Melinda Gates each contributed $250,000, polled favor same-sex marriage, up from 43 malaria, HIV/AIDS and measles combined. according to state Public Disclosure Com- percent in 2006. “People don’t talk about poo enough, mission reports. Bloomberg offered up to However, polls consistently under-rep- and if we don’t talk about poo, how are we $250,000 to match donations generated resent anti-gay sentiment with ballot issues. going to solve the problem of diarrhoeal by the Approve R-74 campaign. On Octo- That undercount has hovered around seven diseases?” asked Val Curtis, director of ber 13, Bloomberg announced that he had percent in the last few years, as was seen the LSHTM’s Hygiene Center. “We want to made an outright donation of $250,000 to when North Carolina passed the nation’s make shit sexy – make talking about shit Marylanders for Marriage Equality. “Mary- 31st state marriage ban amendment earlier possible,” Curtis told AlertNet, adding that land will always hold a special place in my this year. Pre-election polls put support for proper hand washing with soap could pre- heart,” Bloomberg said at the time, be- the amendment at 55 percent, but it received vent 600,000 deaths a year from diseases cause he attended Johns Hopkins Univer- 61 percent of the actual vote. like diarrhoea and respiratory infections. sity in Baltimore. Traditional wisdom is that people do not “You’ve got to know your enemy and look want to seem anti-gay to pollsters, or the your enemy in the face. Some people say ballot language confuses them when they it’s not acceptable for academics to go get to the voting booth. But a study by New around talking about shit, but it’s not ac- Beaver predicted that he would stand firm York University political science professor ceptable for 600,000 children to be dying on his opposition to marriage equality, de- Patrick Egan, which looked at 32 same-sex unnecessarily because we don’t talk about spite growing support for the idea in public ballot measures across the country, found shit,” she said. opinion polls. that neither explanation held up. Prof. Ste- The month-long exhibition, which in- Beaver notes that the Mormon Church phen Frank of St. Cloud State University in cludes a selection of toilet designs, scien- is anti-gay and many gay Mormons end up Minnesota posits that it might boil down to tific tools for the study of feces and a small leaving it “I don’t have a whole lot of hope “voter intensity.” Anti-gay voters might be golden poo sculpture seated on a red cush- for what happens at the top of the church,” more likely to follow up their poll responses ion, is timed to coincide with Global Hand she said. But Beaver said she’s happy to with actual votes at the ballot box. “Certain Washing Day on October 15 and World see progress at the grassroots level, with groups--for example, anti-abortion people Toilet Day on November 19. The school members of local wards in some parts of and, I suspect, the anti-gay marriage people- expects at least 4,000 people to see the the country becoming more welcoming to- -are more likely to follow through,” he told show, which was co-organized by SHARE, ward the LGBT community. She said such Politics in Minnesota’s Paul Demko. (Gay a sanitation and hygiene research initiative a progressive attitude could “trickle up.” People’s Chronicle – Anthony Glassman at funded by the UK’s Department for Inter- Still she said that, “I don’t see that chang- Gaypeopleschronicle.com) national Development. The poo sculpture 6 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMBER 2, 2012 • BALTIMOREOUTLOUD.COM BEYOND THE BELTWAY

Washington United for Marriage cam- paign manager Zach Silk said the new do- nations represented a vote of confidence in the campaign for marriage equality. “These amazing gifts, from two visionary leaders, demonstrate their confidence in our cam- paign, which families across Washington State are counting on us to win,” Silk said. Project TEA Time “They join tens of thousands of individual donors and their call to action, coming as it does in these final days, is an inspiration to every supporter of the freedom to marry.” The Approve R-74 campaign received the $500,000 Gates contribution on Oc- tober 15. It brought the total raised for marriage equality to just under $11 mil- Judge Dennis Jacobs lion. Bloomberg’s money has not yet been counted toward the total, because it is as discrimination faced by women was in contingent on Approve R-74 fundraising. the 1970s. At the time, he noted, they faced Bloomberg, a successful equity broker widespread discrimination in the workplace as well as mayor of New York, pledged and elsewhere. The heightened scrutiny, as matching funds of $250,000 to Washington it is referred to in legal circles, would mean United for Marriage, $125,000 to Mainers government discrimination against gays United for Marriage, and $125,000 to Min- would be assumed to be unconstitutional. nesotans United for All Families. Bloom- The court said the law’s “classification of berg is reportedly the 10th richest person same-sex spouses was not substantially in the U.S., with assets totaling some $25 related to an important government inter- billion. (Seattle Gay News – at Sgn.org) est” and thus violated the equal protection clause of the Constitution. “The question is not whether homosex- uals have achieved political successes over Federal Court in the years; they clearly have. The question NY rules DOMA is whether they have the strength to po- litically protect themselves from wrongful offers a safe, warm, and welcoming place unconstitutional discrimination,” said Jacobs, who was ap- pointed to the bench in 1992 by President New York City, NY – Saying the gay popu- George H.W. Bush. He said it was difficult for transgender men and women to meet lation has “suffered a history of discrimi- to say whether gays were under-represent- nation,” a divided federal appeals court in ed in positions of power and authority with- for support and peer networking. Our social Manhattan ruled last month that a federal out knowing their true numbers. “But it is law defining marriage as a union between safe to say that the seemingly small num- group meets twice a month on the 3rd and last a man and a woman was unconstitutional, ber of acknowledged homosexuals so situ- adding fuel to an issue expected to reach ated is attributable either to a hostility that Wednesdays, from 2:00 - 4 :00 PM. Individual the U.S. Supreme Court soon, Associated excludes them or to a hostility that keeps Press has reported. The 2nd U.S. Circuit their sexual preference private – which, for support is also available. Program services focus Court of Appeals seemed interested in add- our purposes, amounts to much the same ing its voice to several other rulings already thing.” t (Bay Windows and AP – Larry on health and wellness, personal achievement, at the high court’s doorstep by issuing its Neumeister at Baywindows.com) 2-to-1 decision only three weeks after hear- ing arguments on a lower court judge’s find- and community building. All services are free! ings that the 1996 law was unconstitutional. In a majority opinion written by Judge These news notes have been compiled, Dennis Jacobs, the 2nd Circuit, like a fed- with permission, from the online version eral appeals court in Boston before it, found of various newspapers and other web no reason the Defense of Marriage Act sites. We thank these publications for could be used to deny benefits to married allowing us to bring you their news sto- gay couples. It supported a lower court rul- ries. Usually the reports have been sig- ing after a woman sued the government in nificantly edited and you can read the 2010, saying the law required her to pay full story by going to the web site men- For more information, $363,053 in federal estate tax after her part- tioned following the item. Comments ner of 44 years died. Jacobs, though, went are strictly the opinions of Jim Becker call Falina or Phillip at (410) 837-5573 beyond the Boston court, saying discrimi- and not of Baltimore OUTloud or Pride nation against gays should be scrutinized Media. AIDS Action Baltimore • 10 E. Eager Street • Baltimore, MD 21202 by the courts in the same heightened way

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The Human Rights Campaign released 100 from HRC. BY MARK SEGAL those in need. We know much about youth its Congressional Scorecard for the 112th In the House, Republican Andy Har- Just got off the phone with a woman we’ll and bullying issues, much about our LGBT Congress that rates members of Congress ris received a zero. Republican Roscoe call Dina. She told me she and her partner people in military uniform, much about those on their support for issues of LGBT equal- Bartlett garnered a 15. of 30 years are looking at the real possibility of you who wish to marry and have fami- ity. A final scorecard will be released at Democrats John Sarbanes, Donna Ed- of being homeless. Both she and her partner lies. What do we know about our elders? the conclusion of the lame duck session wards and Chris Van Hollen received per- have worked all these years but never made The year 1969, as the Stonewall Riots following the elec- fect 100 scores. Steny Hoyer was awarded enough to save for retirement. Both worked changed history, is often used as a defin- tion. a score of 95, Elijah Cummings a 90, and caring for those in shelters and hospices ing point in our struggle for equality. Well, An analysis of Dutch Ruppersberger received a 75. but, now that they are in need of the very most of those who were young in those days the data shows The full report can be viewed at Hrc. care they provided, where do they turn? Has are now pushing retirement age, and many the LGBT com- org. t society left them behind? And, as a lesbian have reached the 62-65-year-old threshold. munity is making couple, who would accept them? Last week, while at Bucknell University, gains on Capitol Help is on the way. Philadelphia will see I asked the LGBT members of the group to Hill, but anti-LGBT something special and historic this Monday whom I was speaking, How many of you are legislators con- Westminster- at noon that could be the answer for Dina out to members of your family and friends? tinue to hinder and countless other LGBT seniors. We will Almost all proudly put their arms in the air. full equality. The average score for House Carroll County break ground on the nation’s largest capital In 1969, about only one percent of our com- members was 40 percent and 35 percent Chapter LGBT-friendly affordable senior apartment munity would have put their arms in the air. for senators, down significantly from the building. The $20-million project is the only That is why we now celebrate our pioneers: 111th Congress. one of its kind in history to be built entirely They were brave enough to be out and rep- “While we continue to make advance- with public funds and tax credits. resent us in a time where there were con- ments toward equality in Washington, the Parents, Families, and Friends Zero dollars have come out of the com- sequences for those who were, as we’d 112th Congress has more anti-equality of Lesbians and Gays munity. say, in your face. One of the consequenc- members set on halting our progress,” said There are several columns that, when es is they, for the most part, did not have HRC President Chad Griffin. www.pflagwcc.org you sit down to write them, you know it will steady or well-paying jobs. Another is that In Maryland, both U.S. senators,” Bar- MovinG EquaLity Forward be emotional putting pen to paper. For me, many of their families in those days could bara Mikulski and Ben Cardin who are Call us at 410-861-0488 those are usually about family, friends, or or would not accept them and their fight for Democrats,” received a perfect score of our community’s history; this column some- equality and, therefore, they don’t have the how fits into each of those areas. same family support as other seniors might How much do you know about our el- have. So, now that they are seniors with der community? Chances are, very little little or no money, where are they to live? and, therefore, we as a community have We begin to answer that question this Mon- not had their interests and needs on our day. t agenda. That needs to change since it is the Mark Segal ([email protected]) is pub- responsibility of any community to care for lisher of Philadelphia Gay News.

Govans to Honor Jim Williams Jim Williams returns to Govans Ecumenical meeting Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and at- Development Corporation’s (GEDCO) fun- tending his funeral. As the founding Director draising scene as our compassion honoree for the NEA Health Information Network in for this year’s Thanksgiving tribute. Jim Washington, D.C., he also created school has been active for years with GEDCO as policies and curriculum on HIV/AIDS. a volunteer with the Senator Theatre Clas- Jim moved to Baltimore to become the sic fundraiser and serving second executive direc- on the board of directors. tor of Moveable Feast In all his work and passion, expanding delivery to in- Jim Williams has stood clude not only the City of alongside people in efforts Baltimore, but also sur- to move forward together. rounding counties and Before moving to Mary- the Eastern Shore. Jim land, Williams spent his Williams is also a co- early career in the South. publisher of Baltimore As the first Southeast Re- OUTloud. gional Director for the Na- GEDCO’s Thanksgiv- tional Education Associa- ing Tribute will be hed tion (NEA), his primary task Thursday, November 15, became the merger and 2012 at 6 p.m. in the Cal- monitoring of school de- vin and Tina Tyler Ball- segregation in the South. room of Morgan State He had the privilege of Jim Williams University. t 8 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMBER 2, 2012 • BALTIMOREOUTLOUD.COM Then there is the no- riage debate has been tion that marriage is in- framed by Derek Mc- tended to produce babies. Coy and his Maryland The problem is, other Marriage Alliance as people have babies who one in which gay peo- OUT aren’t married, and there ple would be respect- Spoken are numerous couples who ed but should not be Steve Charing no longer have the abil- allowed to “redefine” ity to procreate or want to. marriage, he showed There is no push, however, his true colors. to have their marriage li- During a recent Revealing Their censes revoked. town hall at the Manna We hear all the time Bible Baptist Church in True Colors that “same-sex marriage Baltimore, the afore- will destroy the institution.” mentioned Rev. An- News flash: heterosexual derson talked of how BY STEVE CHARING couples are doing a fine job the Bible states that I’ve been fighting for LGBT rights for over of that already with their 50 gays and their support- 30 years. Over this timeframe, I have lis- percent failure rate. And ers are deserving of tened to an ever-shrinking pool of argu- in Massachusetts where death. “If we don’t vote ments against us,”none of them convinc- same-sex marriage has against it, than we are ing. Most of these have been used in the existed longer than anywhere in the U.S., Though I don’t personally object that approving these things that are worthy of struggle to obtain full marriage equality that state maintains the lowest divorce rate children learn there is a diverse world out death,” said Anderson. Seated next to the under the law. While I do not doubt the sin- in the country. there, changing school curricula cannot be reverend was none other than Derek Mc- cerity of some of those who truly base their Furthermore, no one could come up with accomplished without input from parents Coy, nodding and muttering in agreement. opposition on strong religious convictions, a single instance whereby a heterosexual and local school boards. It is not done by It’s all recorded, and as much as Mc- even their arguments have become weak. couple split up because a gay or lesbian laws that are enacted. Coy dismisses it, the video doesn’t lie. To For others, I suspect homophobia, plain couple had their nuptials. Thus, when they There are so many more but this is a no one’s surprise, Manna took it down. Mc- and simple, as the reason for denying gays say that same-sex marriage threatens the sample of the rationale used against us Coy, in defending Anderson’s comments and lesbians the rights and protections af- institution or in the case of Ravens’ player past and present. said, “Supporting traditional marriage does forded to heterosexual married couples. Matt Birk’s weird assertion that same-sex The “love the sinner, hate the sin” man- not make anyone anti-gay.” Many people are repulsed by gay folks: marriage would “dilute” it, ask how? I’m tra has been exposed. Though the mar- Yup, we’ve heard that line before. t we’re dirty, sinful, promiscuous, predatory, sure you won’t get a good answer, if at all. child-molesting, and according to Rever- “Marriage has never been redefined be- end Robert Anderson of Colonial Baptist fore,” we’re told. Many cultures had defined Saturday, Nov. 3 • Lite Night Church in Randallstown, “deserving of marriage in alternative ways. Until rather “LADieS NighT” • ALL LighT BeeRS $2 TiLL MiDNighT death.” I wish there was a way to prove it, recently, marriage had been a business but I’m willing to bet that the vast majority and property arrangement between the of people who have voted throughout the wife’s father and the husband. And even U.S. over the years and will do so in Mary- more recently, Loving v. Virginia redefined land and three other states this election marriage to allow people of different races vote against same-sex marriage because to marry. R of homophobia. “Children need both a mother and a fa- Few will admit it, of course. Yet even ther.” That has received more play now that SATURDAY, Nov. 10 • $4 Cove their biblical references from which they the other arguments appear unpersuasive. hide their true beliefs are suspect. “Mar- Most studies from reputable sources point riage has always been a union between out that children do better with two parents one man and one woman.” Not true. King as opposed to one. The findings do not re- Bear & Leather Night David had what, several hundred wives? flect the gender of the parents. And concubines were common. When it “Gays and lesbians can’t procreate so comes to traditional marriage, which tradi- they try to recruit children.” That BS isn’t tion are you talking about? worth the space to dignify such nonsense, Leviticus’ oft-quoted verse whereby but it was advanced recently and may have man lying with another man is an abomi- an effect. nation is a point that should be expanded. The money shot: “If same-sex marriage Here is where people cherry-pick Scripture is approved, children will be taught about it to justify their bigotry. If homosexuality is a in schools.” This is a favorite of the Nation- sin, so is eating pork and shellfish. Right al Organization for Marriage, and the ad is near where I live there are posters adver- already running here. It is the opposition’s tising a local church’s ham and oyster din- ace-in-the-hole when polls show growing ner. support for marriage equality. It worked in The way I like to respond to those who California the last weeks of the campaign open Fridays & Saturdays only love to talk about “sin” is that murder is a over Prop 8 as well as in other states. The 8505 Orchard Rd • Spring Grove, PA sin. But murderers can get married. 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vember 7th. We won’t have lost any of our sex-selective abortions), as does contracep- humanity nor our capacity to love self. Laws tion. Child/children get 40 mentions. Pornog- may have been affirmed but our core, who raphy is referenced twice, but only with re- we are, remains as durable and as admi- Ladybug’s gard to child pornography. Prostitution earns Crossroads rable as it was on November 6th. I feel that Political zero mentions, and trafficking gets four. Chronicles some of the grandiose rhetoric coming from So, vote Democratic if you care about our side can be a historical. After all, bor- Showdown Rev. Mother Meredith Moise Cathy Brennan reproductive choice. But you will get a heap- rowing a lot from the civil right rights/human ing dose of pornography with that. And I don’t rights moments of the 20th century, we want know why you would vote Republican if you The Day After to remember the good and eschew the bad. have a vagina. There were at least 50 years between the rul- The Definition Third parties offer much better platforms ing that affirmed legal segregation in public As we anticipate November 6th, I was called on women’s issues. The Peace and Free- spaces (Plessy vs Ferguson) and the ruling dom Party - running Roseanne Barr and to write about November 7th, the day after. striking that down (Brown vs Board of Educa- of Insanity Yes, brothers and sisters, there is a day after. Cindy Sheehan – demands “full equality” for tion) never mind the laws against race mixing women in all aspects of life. Indeed, Rose- After the storm, the ads, the conversations, in marriage that were on the books for hun- there is the calm, easy or uneasy sense of Every four years, many of us get a pain in our anne has declared her support for women- dreds of years. Eventually, these laws were side thinking about making the best of a bad only spaces, which distinguishes her from end. We have to deal with emotions, thoughts, declared unconstitutional and hit the dust bin feelings, and perceptions. We have to deal situation, to vote for the lesser of two evils in any other candidate. Thanks Roseanne! of history. However, people suffered and died a presidential election. The Green Party has a robust women’s rights with the only constant, which is change. to make this happen, thus proving justice can- As Bishop David Strong, presiding prelate Like many of us, I have gone back-and- platform that implicitly references patriarchy. not be microwaved or McDonaldized! Justice forth on the issue of voting. In 1992, the first Unfortunately, the Greens do the fauxgres- of the Apostolic National Old Catholic Church, takes time and tenacity. Justice takes cour- said to me in a conference call, “There will time I could vote in a presidential election, sive shtick and say “but forget all we said age and faith. Justice takes spirit. I voted for Lenora Fulani, the New Alliance about women’s rights when we are talking be changes on November 6th, but the journey In realizing this, hold fast to our humanity continues.” I believe he meant that regardless Party candidate, who famously heckled Bill about transgender people!” and core. The campaign for the recognition Clinton. I’ve since voted Democratic. Many women seem to think the political of the outcome of the election, our journey as of our humanity has many facets with mar- people, as children of the Most High, contin- Yes, some women say, the Democrats process is flawed. According to a recent Mar- riage being just one facet. There is a lot more are “better” on women’s issues than Repub- ketplace analysis, most undecided voters are ues without skipping a beat. Rather our lives work to do and knowing this is just one stop will be transformed and our view of transfor- licans. We as women make the calculation women. UCLA political science professor gives us energy for the journey and courage that some rights are better than no rights. Lynn Vavreck has stated that “(t)hey’re just mation will be most valuable. to reach the destination. t We will still be gay and lesbian on No- If you vote strictly on the U.S. Supreme not paying attention to the race, perhaps be- Court and abortion – a calculus I have cause their lives are too busy.” used in my voting life – women should vote This shocks many of us who have paid Democratic, as Republicans revel in having close attention to the War on Women raging a strongly anti-abortion platform. On other over women’s reproductive capacity – and it’s women’s issues, such as the proliferation been an especially egregious time for wom- of pornography, liberal are often worse than en, with male politicians discussing laws to conservatives, as liberals like use “freedom require us to have ultrasounds before abor- of speech” to justify anti-woman and anti- tion and whether “legitimate rape” is a thing. child content. But maybe women aren’t paying atten- So what’s a woman to do? tion because the two major parties don’t One approach is to review how often the really speak for or to us and our concerns. political parties address women’s issues. Maybe we realize it doesn’t actually matter The Democratic party platform men- who wins, as far as women are concerned. tions “women” 46 times, “woman” 6 times, Maybe it’s time for a feminist political par- “girls” 4 times, “abortion” 4 times, and “rape” ty – a woman-only political party. In a femi- once. “Sex,” meaning “male” or “female,” is nist political party, women would identify the mentioned only in regard to human traffick- issues that matter to them and abandon the ing. “Gender” gets 7 mentions (and I think idea of “left-wing” and “right-wing.” Women they mean “sex”). Reproductive choice is would organize around our shared interests mentioned once as is “right to choose.” Con- as women. traception gets 3 mentions. Child/children How do we do this? Women’s ability to are addressed 28 times. Pornography and organize as women is under attack by both prostitution get zero mentions (not surpris- men on the left and men on the right. Indeed, ingly), although trafficking garners 11 refer- GLBT people vociferously attack women who ences. seek to have women-only political space. If The Republican Party Platform mentions women cannot have women-only political “women” 19 times and “woman” twice (both space - if such space is demonized as hate- times regarding heterosexual marriage). ful, bigoted, wrong - women will never be “Girls” gets two mentions in regard to restrict- able to organize as women around our is- ing reproductive choice. “Abortion” gets 19 sues. Women will continue to accept the mentions, but rape only gets one. Sex earns crumbs thrown us by the two major political eight mentions, mostly with regards to het- parties, or labor in the lefty manarchist vine- erosexual marriage. Gender gets one men- yard of third-party politics. tion (and means sex, as it calls for a ban on Women deserve better. t

10 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMBER 2, 2012 • BALTIMOREOUTLOUD.COM THINKING OUTLOUD Rocking the Trans-Vote 2012 Election 2012: Taxes and Jobs

BY VANN MILLS ing, speaks volumes to establishment, po- BY MARK SEGAL he sought to become governor of Mas- Rock the Vote 2012 is in high gear! Cam- litical forces, and community; trans rights Taxes. Could you imagine a Jew or Catho- sachusetts, a state that legalized mar- paigns are bringing out show stopping ads, are to be promptly addressed. Placing the lic voting for a candidate who was opposed riage equality, Romney promised to treat phone bankers are reaching out fervently, vote on the table adds potency to Mr. Kylar to Catholics marrying Jews, or interracial the LGBT family’s with dignity. However, and individuals are casting their early Broadus testimony, the first out person of marriage? Republican presidential nomi- Romney refused to allow birth certificates votes. Polls are sharing predictions and trans-experience who testified before Con- nee Mitt Romney says marriage is for one for children of LGBT couples to list both trends; however, this election will have a gress this past spring. His message gave man and one women, not you, and goes parents. Family and childcare is an LGBT significant impact for people of color who a clear picture of what discrimination as an on to say that if elected, he will use his issue. Romney’s action was heartless and are transgender. Multitudes stand to fall African-American male lawyer and profes- office to keep the Defense of Marriage Act insensitive to children. further by the wayside if they are not edu- sor who is transgender feels like as he en- in force, denying you more than 1,000 ba- Voting rights. While the Obama admin- cated about voting barriers, how to over- dured undue economic depression which sic rights, including tax rights. Taxes are istration has championed a host of trans come the obstacles, and most importantly, still haunts him today. an LGBT issue. Romney will deny you issues, Romney hasn’t even uttered the what their vote means; understanding its Can you imagine millions of others who your tax rights, and Obama will fight to word “transgender.” But he does have power. are of low-income status, of poor health get you the same tax re- a record. He’s supported New restrictive voter ID laws with rigid and educational levels who have incurred lief heterosexual married “President the new Republican-spon- photo requirements may suppress the vot- similar treatment? Voting means EDNA couples already have. sored voter registration ing choice of transgender people of color. will remain on the table and PASS, the Jobs. Can you imag- Obama has laws that have sprung up Low income, senior citizens, and able- trans-vote places continued pressure on ine the African-American in 29 states, many of which challenged persons who are already mar- the “Don’t ask don’t tell” policy to include voter voting for a man who done the most would make it almost im- ginalized, when identifying as transgender, transgender people. The vote means bet- would not voice his opin- for LGBT possible for a transperson face an increase risk of their civil rights be- ter access to prevention and healthcare. ion on their right not to to vote. Voting rights is an ing violated. Reports in the 2011 National With African-American and Latino trans- face employment discrimi- equality than LGBT issue. Transgender Discrimination Survey, indi- gender communities representing approxi- nation? Well, Romney Public safety. The first cates that African-American transgender mately 30% of HIV positive cases, 20% states that non-discrim- any other job of any president is to people are living in severe poverty. not knowing their status, and 44% ination is a state’s right, president in secure the safety of all The numbers indicate this reporting being turned away and refuses to endorse Americans. Romney has group is disadvantaged at from health care, your vote the Employment Nondis- our nation’s opposed the inclusion of more than eight times will keep allies advocat- crimination Act, which sexual orientation and gen- the U.S. population, ing a the federal level. would stop discrimination history, , der identity in hate-crimes and four times the If you still can’t against the LGBT com- better than all laws. Romney does not general African see the power of munity. Jobs are an LGBT care about your safety. American popu- your vote, it is now issue and Romney, by re- of the other Public safety is an LGBT lation. This fact illegal for the So- fusing to publicly speak issue. proves that people cial Security Ad- up, is anti-LGBT nondis- presidents Bullying. While the of color are more ministration to at- crimination. combined.” presidential candidate likely to be unable tach a gender to Economy. When LGBT speaks up against bully- to update legal your social security health, youth and senior ing, he has not endorsed document, result- number. The U.S. organizations receive federal funding to a single piece of legislation anywhere in ing in disproportion- department of Hous- supply needed services to our commu- the nation that deals with bullying. And, ate representation in ing and Urban Devel- nity, those organizations spend dollars in as a student, he personally bullied a fel- the 25,000 transgender opment is taking a stand our community to provide everything from low student who was believed to be gay. persons anticipated to ex- against housing discrimi- medicine to shelters. That is millions of What did he do? While the other boy was perience loss of their right to nation regarding transgender dollars of LGBT economic empowerment. held down by Romney’s friends, Romney vote according to the UCLA Wil- individuals. The department of Romney has offered no LGBT economic pulled out scissors and cut his hair. Was it liams Institute. Health and Human Services agrees that it program for the LGBT community. Eco- a spur-of-the-moment act as he has said? Preparation is the key! All persons is illegal to discriminate based on gender nomics is an LGBT issue. How many people walk around with a pair who identify as transgender are advised to identity and gender stereotyping. The U.S. Women’s health. Most of this cam- of scissors? check the laws in their state. The National Department of Justice has implemented paign has been devoted to women’s President Obama has done the most Transgender Center for Equality has cre- National Standards setting its goal on cre- health issues, and recent studies indicate for LGBT equality than any other presi- ated a check list and provides resources ating an awareness and putting a stop to that lesbian women are more at risk for dent in our nation’s history, better than all at Votingwhiletrans.org. The site offers in- prison rape. breast cancer than heterosexual wom- of the other presidents combined. If you’re structions on how to report voter suppres- Much progress has been made, how- en. One way to combat breast cancer is voting for jobs, vote for the man who will sion, and arms marginalized groups with ever the vote casted from regular trans- through mammograms. Romney will cut not discriminate against you or your com- information and techniques to make the gender citizens, who do not have the funding to the largest provider of mam- munity. If you are voting for tax equality, process smooth as possible. What voters luxury of privilege will propel the trans- mograms in the nation, Planned Parent- there is only one candidate. If you are vot- in marginalized groups must remember: rights movement. Showing the world not hood. He has not even spoken word one ing for public security, there is only one Do not leave the polls without voting, re- everyone looks like Chaz Bono or Andrea on LGBT health issues. Women’s health is candidate. If you want to vote with your quest a provisional ballot if all else fails. James, that transgender persons are men an LGBT issue. Romney, by his silence, is head held high and with pride, there’s only Your vote counts! and women who deserve equal rights and against your health. one vote: President Barack Obama. t Those individuals who are transgender protections is the reason why Trans-Vote Family and Childcare. Family val- Mark Segal ([email protected]) is pub- must know by empowering oneself via vot- 2012 cannot fall short! t ues have been an issue in this race. As lisher of Philadelphia Gay News.

BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMBER 2, 2012 • BALTIMOREOUTLOUD.COM t 11 I was astonished by the notion this person assumed that I was a single-issue voter, that I My Election Day Prayer was only choosing one reason to support the BY SHIRLI HUGHES on opposite sides of the issues they care president. This was my reply: It’s no secret that the upcoming election is most about, is not so great! Please do not characterize me as mono- producing a wide range of strong feelings Of late, I have found myself wondering Rational lithic. The GOP has pushed to regulate wom- among many of us voters, including but not what might happen if in the days between T-hought en’s bodies, prevent individuals from choosing limited to anxiety, frustration, disappointment, now and election day, we all just took a mo- Sharon Brackett whom they wish to marry, and given inordinate anger and even a touch of fear. Tempers and ment each day, to say a little prayer for all preference in tax policy to the folks who need emotions are running high on both sides of candidates, their families, their staff, their it the least. every issue! supporters and for each other. Politically I am from the libertarian wing of the Demo- While on the one hand, it’s great that so Here’s my prayer for today: cratic Party. Government should only regulate many people care enough to even have an Loving God and Spirit, breathe your Monolithic personal freedoms when exercise of those opinion on the various issues and plan on breath of peace into the hearts of all of your freedoms infringe on the freedoms of others. voting, on the other hand, the disturbing lack people. Help us to remain open and loving Election Day is upon us and in Maryland we Corporations are entities and not persons. And civility and care with which some people have with each other in the days ahead. Give us have a lot of issues and candidates to decide some things need to be done by government been interacting with each other as they “sit” wisdom as we prepare to vote. I pray for our on. Marriage Equality, the Dream Act, gambling for the greater good as people will usually put are among the questions – as well as many their self-interest above that of their neighbor, candidates – on the ballot. My Howard County community, state or nation. sample ballot has seven pages of choices to Freedom has a price, and that price is make. I’d like to think I have researched and responsibility. And that means taxes, voting, Dear Friends, formed intelligent opinions on all of them. So participation, and continued interest and edu- should you. cation. By all means educate. But also take a Tuesday is Election Day. Those progressive congregations Recently while advocating for President look at who the GOP folks are servicing. You which advertise in Baltimore OUTloud call on the Baltimore Obama on Facebook I discovered there are want to discuss a no loophole flat tax with a a number of trans folk who were in support of poverty floor exemption and no others, let’s LGBT community and their straight allies to unite. If you Governor Romney. I wrote a diatribe on my talk. How about GE or Exxon-Mobil paying no are tempted to feel that your vote makes no difference, please confusion about how there could actually be taxes against billions in profits? I am all ears. reconsider. If you are registered, please exercise your vote to trans people who would vote against their own Casinos in Maryland? The only good thing is interests given that the Obama administration they might create some jobs and revenue for support Question 6 for same sex marriage in Maryland. (Tinyurl.com/c599dxt) had done more for trans the state. Good, high value, high skill jobs? No. Your voice to support equality and fairness for all truly people than all other previous administrations Clean energy from windmills in the bay or combined. offshore? You bet, we need it. Is being green counts. Join together for marriage equality. So my GOP trans “friends” – If you think costing jobs? No, they already left and are in the GOP has your interest (as a trans person) China now. Get them back? Not likely. What to you missed the boat. Enjoy your brainwashing, do? Have an Apollo program for long term en- please do vote against yourself. This adminis- ergy independence that creates new jobs, and tration has done more for trans folk than all oth- industries that would make America the Saudi er prior administrations combined. It amazes of eternal energy. me how the GOP manages to get folks to vote We are more innovative and creative than Faith Church follows against their own interests in the guise of some any nation on earth, it is time we started in- Christ’s model of other irrational fear. Some here on Facebook vesting in us and not boner pills. Single issue? perfect love in tearing have resorted to name calling and character Think again. St. Mark’s Lutheran assassination that is in typical GOP style to de- So the next time you talk to a trans person, Grace United down barriers that Church mission is mean and make personal attacks on somebody try talking about something other than their be- Methodist Church exclude rather than you disagree with. To date I’ve made no com- ing trans. You see we live in the same world “to embrace diversity, supports fairness for include. We are ment on your character, appearance, or behav- as you, and have thoughts about many other practice hospitality, ior. I have supplied supporting instance and things and ideas. We are not monolithic and all people, to love committed to a circle and make known facts for everything I have said on Facebook. maybe it is time you took note. t whomever they love that is wide and And the other side just hurls threats and innu- Christ’s presence in and to be able to unbroken, and declare endo without basis. Fear-mongering of what word and deed.” might happen rather than what has happened. marry whomever they that all who desire This administration has been one of the only All Are Welcome choose to marry. to join with us will St. Mark’s bright spots for me these past few years. So St. Bernadette be welcomed and you go ahead and vote for Mitt and the forma- Lutheran Church Grace United respected. tion of Jesusland. 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BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMBER 2, 2012 • BALTIMOREOUTLOUD.COM t 13 LIVELY ARTS // OUT ON STAGE Morbid Poe Comes to Life at Centerstage

BY STEVE CHARING denial of his death, how it could be stopped and how it cast except for Nelson, are called on to play multiple roles. The very instant the pre-show announcements are com- came to be. They portray those various characters superbly. pleted at the Head Theatre at Centerstage, a startling bang Through events and people that come to light (and life) At play’s end, the kindly doctor is filling out a form on rings out, the lights black out simultaneously, and the audi- during his hallucainating state, Poe (performed brilliantly a 19th-century typewriter that Poe would have loved to ence is taken on a time machine to Washington College by Bruce Randolph Nelson) recalls his association with a have used. The doctor asks Poe what he should include as Hospital in Baltimore in 1849. Here, an apparently cold, di- mesmerist (played by Libya Pugh) in an attempt to forestall the cause of death. We won’t reveal that here, but it could sheveled Edgar Allan Poe mysteriously shows up in a state the inevitable but he finds himself on his deathbed at the of delirium. Medical sta ff cannot determine what he is hospital nonetheless. “In true Poe fashion, there is suffering from, but the prognosis is not good. Despite his Other characters appear during his delirium. Poe in- protestations, his demise seems certain, and it is. teracts with his mother, Eliza (Naomi Jacobson), a British- ample use of blood and gore. Stephen Thorne’s play, The Completely Fictional-Utter- born actress, who died of consumption (tuberculosis) two ly True-Final Strange Tale of Edgar Allan Poe, focuses on years after Poe’s birth. He meets up with his foster father, The gory scene may be a little the famous author, critic and poet’s death. He employs a John Allan (Jimmy Kieffer) who, along with his wife, had bit much for the audience’s combination of facts, fiction, and conjecture to tell a story taken him in shortly after. Allan provided him with mate- that is intense in its subject matter and presentation but rial support, but Poe racked up excessive gambling debts tastes, however. I had never also sprinkles just enough comedic lines throughout to which caused an estrangement with the family. keep the audience off-balance. His wife Virginia (Caroline Kaplan) appears. She was attended a play before when But in true Poe fashion, there is ample use of blood Poe’s cousin and he married her when she was 13. Sweet there was a collective “eww” in and gore. The gory scene may be a little bit much for the and innocent, Virginia felt the pain of Poe’s marriage and audience’s tastes, however. I had never attended a play she, too, died of consumption 12 years later. disgust from the audience. But… before when there was a collective “eww” in disgust from Poe also engages with his contemporary Charles Dick- the audience. But…this is Poe! ens (also played by Jimmy Kieffer), a figment of his imagi- this is Poe!” As Thorne himself wrote in the program notes, “Poe’s nation. Dickens is critical of Poe on several levels, and the ability to mix fact and fiction, imagination and science exchanges are thought-provoking. Kieffer’s performances have been any number of possible options though it had to gives his work a kind of documentary feel at times and throughout the play are stellar. be able to fit in the prescribed place on the form. a disorienting sensation of truth.” Mirroring Poe’s fascina- But Poe’s most dramatic encounter and the one which Bruce Randolph Nelson plays the title role to the hilt. tion with the macabre in many of his works, this morbid, works best is with his younger self (Charlie Thurston). In Every line and gesture, every movement was delivered with gothic probe into the character’s psyche explores Poe’s heated and passionate exchanges, the older Poe blames gusto and Shakespearean verve. Nelson, who is among “disorienting sensation of truth” while on his deathbed with the younger on his failures. The younger blames the older Baltimore’s most accomplished and acclaimed actors, had on his choices. won Helen Hayes awards for his work at Rep Stage (The Virginia and Eli- Violet Hour and The Dazzle) and received Helen Hayes Caroline Kaplan, Bruce za also confront nominations for Irma Vep and Faith Healer. He was also Randolph Nelson, and both Poes. This is named Best Actor by the City Paper for his work at Every- Charlie Thurston great theatre per- man Theatre’s Shipwrecked! and The Pavilion. credit: Richard Andersoning formed by gifted Poe is presented in the round in the Head Theatre. actors. Scenic designer Eugene Lee crafted a set that is mostly In fact, the on a raised platform that is three steps up from the floor in entire cast is out- front of the orchestra level. In the center lies the hospital standing under bed which sinks below and disappears when the scene the solid direction shifts. There is also a runway that connects to the floor be- of Curt Columbus, low the stage. The outer perimeter of the theater is draped who like Thorne, in sheet-like material whereby the shadows of the actors debuted this play behind them offer a ghoulish feel. The actors use all avail- at the Trinity Rep- able space, even a couple of feet in front of the first row. ertory Company Veteran costume designer David Burdick deserves a in Providence, standing ovation for his incredibly authentic period attire Rhode Island. for all the characters. Fastidious in detail, the wardrobe Rounding was museum quality and is a major asset to this produc- out the cast is tion. the kind doctor Lighting designer Josh Epstein and sound designer administering to Zachary Williamson are also effective in conveying the Poe in the Hos- Poe-like atmosphere. pital played wryly The 50th anniversary season at Centerstage is well un- by Kenneth Lee derway, and Artistic director Kwame Kwei-Armah was wise and Dr. Moran, to choose this exceptional play that was timed to begin a the blunt truth week before Halloween. t teller, played by The Completely Fictional-Utterly True-Final Strange Erick Pinnick. Tale of Edgar Allan Poe plays at Centerstage through No- They, along with vember 25. Tickets start at $10, and can be ordered online the rest of the at Centerstage.org/poe, or by calling 410-332-0033.

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An interview with filmmaker Lynn Shelton I’ve been jealous of. There is this bond you can’t replicate and yet there are so many layers hidden perhaps to the naked eye that would only be revealed through intimate Sisters are Doing It for Themselves conversations later about resentments of past betrayals or jealousy about whatever or competitive. I thought it was BY GREGG SHAPIRO general. It wasn’t so much a drugs and alcohol kind of in- really rich territory. Straight filmmaker Lynn Shelton sure likes the gays. Her tervention, it was an emotional one. It’s time to get your GS: Was this movie a way for you to comment on 2009 comedic feature Humpday was about a hetero bro- head together. It’s true, when you are in really bad depres- the bonds you mentioned, both sisterly and female? mance that went to the next level. Without giving away too sion [laughs] alcohol’s probably not going to be your best LS: Sure, I’m interested in men and women and peo- much about detail, in Your Sister’s Sister (IFC Films), a place to go. ple. Mike Leigh said that famously after being asked about film stocked with a variety of “reveals,” lesbians get their GS: Hannah is a lesbian who has just left a seven- making great movies with great female characters, “I make due on screen. The movie shines a spotlight on strained year relationship. Why did you make Hannah a lesbian? movies with great people and characters, that’s what I do.” sibling relationships and complicated friendships and Couldn’t she just as easily have been a I’m exactly the same way. I think of doesn’t offer any easy answers as it makes you laugh and straight woman? it as exploring this territory. I’m end- cry and keeps you guessing. I spoke with Lynn Shelton in LS: The thing I liked about her being a lessly fascinated by human beings June 2012. Your Sister’s Sister is being released on Blu- lesbian, in that initial encounter with she and and by our relationships with the ray and DVD in early November. Jack, it definitely changes the timbre of their self and how the self shifts. How we Gregg Shapiro: Your Sister’s Sister opens at a me- relationship. Sex is off the table. There’s a have different masks that we show morial service where Jack (Mark Duplass), the brother certain level of rapport that they can have with different people as we try to of the deceased Tom, doesn’t share in the partici- that if they were both straight and single connect, because we’re so desper- pants’ need to speak well of the dead. Have you ever and on the market, it’s something different. ate to connect with others. I’m inter- been at a memorial service where something like that I think the biggest delight about seeing the ested in those relationships are you happened? film is all the little reveals. want to connect it’s complicated by Lynn Shelton: I’ve been at memorial services where GS: Your previous film Humpday, various things. In Humpday, here people have drunk too much [laughs] and said things that which also starred Mark Duplass, dealt are these two straight guys who re- have made other people uncomfortable. I think the thought with gay subject matter, too. What can ally love each other and want to be behind the scene was a couple of different things. I like you tell me about your interest in gay bonded the way they felt that bond the idea of introducing the character in a way that you themes? Do you have a gay relative or in college, and yet they’re straight don’t immediately follow love in love with him and maybe something? guys so they can’t, it’s complicated he makes the audience just as uncomfortable as the other LS: [Laughs] My stepsister is a lesbian, for them. I find that incredibly poi- people room. But then you eventually end up rooting for yes. I’ve had dear friends who are both gay gnant. Here are these two sisters him. It’s kind of like saying right at the outset, these peo- men and lesbians my whole life. I feel very (in Your Sister’s Sister) who clearly ple are flawed. Every one of them has their weaknesses at home in the gay community. I was an adore each other and yet they can’t and that’s what makes us all human. But also it seems like honorary lesbian when I was asked to un- quite connect because of all of the he’s saying something negative, but you also get in the derstudy Lisa Kron of the New York theater Filmmaker Lynn Shelton stuff in between. That breaks my process of his little speech that he really knew and loved group the Five Lesbian Brothers many years heart and draws me in again and his brother probably more than any of the other people in ago when I went on tour with them. I was like, “You are again, that subject matter. that room. He just wants him back, really, and he wants my family, you are my people.” And I’ve had crushes on GS: There is a moment at the center of the film in the whole person to be acknowledged, as opposed to this women. I remember them asking me, “Why aren’t you a which Hannah says she’s “a really bad person.” Do glorified, sanctified version. That’s an extremely relatable lesbian, Lynn?” (It’s because) I fell in love with this guy you think she is? kind of impulse for people. [laughs]. Because I’ve always fallen for gay men and LS: No, I absolutely don’t. She’s a fallible human be- GS: Jack has a number of problems, including women my whole life, I’ve always been interested in the ing. I totally relate to everybody in the film and everything alcohol. When Iris (Emily Blunt), Tom’s ex-girlfriend boundaries of sexual identity. There was a time in my life they do. I don’t condone or judge anybody, but I find them all and his best friend, offers to let him get away at her where I thought everybody must be bisexual. You should incredibly human. And I can understand where they were at family’s island retreat, alcohol plays a part in getting be able to just fall in love with anybody. And then I came to and where they were coming from when they do whatever him into more trouble, this time with Iris’ half-sister find out through the process of making Humpday, that that they do. Hannah (Rosemarie DeWitt). Are you trying to send is not true at all [laughs]. There are some people who are GS: Your Sister’s Sister ends on a mysterious note. Is viewers a cautionary message about drinking and re- totally straight and totally gay and never the twain shall there an alternate ending somewhere, perhaps on DVD or sponsibility? mix. I have to say it has been an interest of mine. Blu-ray, where the mystery is solved, or did you always LS: No, I really wasn’t at all. It’s a little confusing, be- GS: You address sibling relationships Your Sis- intend for it to be unanswered? cause there is an initial ter’s Sister, both Jack and LS: [Laughs] I always wanted to end the film the way I talk. There is this memo- Tom’s and Hannah and Iris’s. ended it. That was always plan A. rial scene and there’s this How would you describe your GS: As I mentioned earlier, you have previously talk and Iris says, “This relationships? worked with Mark Duplass and you are working again with is your intervention.” I LS: I describe them as in- Rosemarie DeWitt on your next film. Please say something was worried that people credibly boring and uncompli- about working with the same actors more than once. would think she was talk- cated and pure love. So I really LS: My director of photography has now worked with me ing about an alcohol in- had to come at this project from on five films and two web series. We’ve worked together end- tervention, but it really the point of view of a sociologist lessly. And the same with my sound guy, Vinny, who did the wasn’t. It was just that he or an outside observer. Because music for my last two films and is composing again for my had this year where he I have observed throughout my new film. He was my boom operator on my very first feature had just been mired emo- whole life really fascinating, in- and became my sound designer. I really enjoy having these tionally and he’s been tricate, layered, and deep rela- relationships of collaboration and I find that, yes, you build a t acting self-destructive in tionships between siblings that vocabulary together. I love that.

16 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMBER 2, 2012 • BALTIMOREOUTLOUD.COM LIVELY ARTS // ARTS Station North Turns Ten & Cakewalk Gallery Grows Up BY MICHAEL FARLEY decor-friendly paintings with very Station North is celebrating its ten-year anniversary as little in the way of curation, the an arts and entertainment district with an exhibition by gallery hired Ryan Schroeder to MICA’s inaugural class of Curatorial Practice graduate coordinate exhibitions. The first students. Invited consists of two projects; The Anniversa- show at the rebooted Cakewalk is ry List, in which artists create site-specific works at neigh- a great improvement. borhood businesses and Celebration Station, a birthday Closest to the storefront, re- party for the district and proverbial bottle of champagne alistically rendered figures on across the bow of MICA’s new gallery space in the studio canvas by Anton Merbaum and center at 131 W. North Avenue. Jaclyn Santos (of reality TV pseu- Invited: The Anniversary List pairs ten artists with ten do-fame) lure in window shop- non-arts-related businesses in the district. The artists pers. The space is dominated produced pieces focused on the material corresponding by Christopher Willey’s series of to the the anniversary of the business’s opening. For ex- large birds with constellations as ample, artist Jaime plumage. They Bennati, who works look great with paper, was cho- from afar but sen to celebrate C&N up-close are Deli’s one-year “pa- revealed to per anniversary” while be disappoint- painter Nancy Wil- ingly pieced- son’s filigreed work together from was paired with the what appear to be 8.5x11 digital prints rather directly simplifies the economics of art to showing restaurant Caribbean textured with matte medium. The tech- what sells. This show, while being a far cry from the themati- Paradise for its 13th nique could be addressed in the work cally curated exhibitions at artist-run or nonprofit spaces, is a “lace” anniversary. in a conceptually interesting manner, tasteful upgrade from Cakewalk’s past setup. Few galleries Invited: The An- but here comes across as cheap and have the potential for profitability and a sense of exhibition niversary List opened somehow deceitful. In the back room, integrity (Nudashank’s thematically curated or solo shows September 28th with Bill Lyon’s easy-to-overlook photographs come to mind) but Cakewalk might just mature into a com- tours by local artist of man made structures eroding in stark mercial gallery that can have its cake and eat it too. t Graham Coreil-Allen landscapes are eerily beautiful. Hands and New York collec- down, The show’s pièce de résistance tive Push Pops as well is a tiny painting by Schroeder, hung out as introductions by of sight in what was probably a gesture my local heroes Do- of curatorial humility. The oil-on-copper reen Bolger and John image has a snapshot photo quality and Waters for my biggest depicts two young boys holding a snake crush: Governor Mar- and locking eyes with the viewer from a tin O’Malley. The ex- bathtub of sanguine liquid. It is extremely hibition officially ends contemporary looking, yet speaks to November 11th, but archetypes and possesses a ritualistic many of the installa- quality. Any narrative of human sacrifice, tions are permanent. bathroom tragedy, or bloody baptism is The project aims to dashed by the humorously guileless title introduce art audiences to local businesses and show en- “Two Children in a Tub of Food Coloring”. trepreneurs the positive impact the arts can have on local In Baltimore, where DIY venues and nonprofits dominate economies. the art scene, it is sometimes easy to forget that art is actual- Invited: Celebration Station kicked off October 21st ly bought and sold. Cakewalk makes no attempt to disguise and also runs until November 11th. The newly-renovated the fact that it is first and foremost a retail space and the art Studio Center hosts work by international and local artists being hung is the product. There is definitely room for this as well as events throughout the duration of the show. niche in the Baltimore art scene. The space sells paintings Highlights include Nobutaka Aozaki’s custom portraits and drawings that appeal to consumer tastes. Here you can drawn on the ubiquitous plastic “smiley face” shopping find work that laymen might actually like and buy and hang in bags. His injection of humor and creative capital into the their home. Don’t come to Cakewalk expecting to find a pile language of commercialism nicely compliments the tone of cinder blocks, fluorescent bulbs, and television monitors of the project. Check Mica.edu/events_and_exhibitions/ looping video art. Come to Cakewalk if you would like to see invited.html for a list of the off-site works and a schedule some nicely executed technical painting, photography, and of programming. occasional craft-centric “misses”. Just south of the district, fledgeling gallery Cakewalk While Curatorial Practice’s Invited uses funding sources (located at 1224 North Charles) is starting to find its feet. such as grants and institutional support to commission con- After opening with salon-style shows that cluttered mostly ceptual work in the service of small businesses, Cakewalk

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abound. Hello, Goodbye Magical Mystery Tour is certainly Inlaws & Outlaws Shows no Help! or A Hard Day’s Night, but it’s BY GREGG SHAPIRO not a bad way to spend an hour with “The trip of a lifetime,” The Beatles’ 1967 The Beatles. DVD special features include Love Doesn’t Discriminate TV movie Magical Mystery Tour (Apple), commentary by McCartney, a “making of” now bowing on DVD, takes the camp and featurette, and much more. BY CHUCK DUNCAN community screenings held in Maryland. silliness of their previous feature films to a Subtitled, “The very loud ending of As election day approaches and we wonder if Mr. Emery was kind enough to provide vivid new level. Directed by all four Beatles, LCD Soundsystem,” the concert doc Shut LGBT rights will be squashed by a lied-to elec- Baltimore OUTloud with a copy of the DVD, with Bernard Knowles, Magical Mystery Up and Play The Hits (Oscilloscope) be- torate in a desperate attempt to impose one and I have to say it really is worth watching, Tour plays out like a series of scenes wo- gins with the quote, “if it’s a funeral, let’s group’s religious beliefs on the entire state especially for those people who are either to- ven together as an excuse to have a goofy, have the best funeral ever.” Talk about go- and country (and let’s not even talk about the tally against the idea of marriage equality or good time and hear Beatles’s songs (in- ing out with a bang, Dylan Southern and Log Cabin Republicans and GOProud who still on the fence. The film actually presents cluding “Fool On The Hill,” “I Am The Wal- Will Lovelace’s doc wants to be the EDM continue to support candi- both gay and straight rus” and “Your Mother Should Know”). equivalent of Martin Scorcese’s The Last dates who could care less couples discussing Richard B. Starkey (aka Ringo Starr) Waltz and Jonathan Demme’s Stop Making about them but will gladly ac- their relationships, but and his Aunt Jessica (Jessie Robins) never Sense, and it almost succeeds (especially cept their endorsement and the gay couples do give their bickering a rest, even after they in the performance footage). votes), it’s heartening to see feature more heavily board the Magical Mystery Tour bus. Run Framing the story of how LCD Sound- that there actually is growing in the film and they are by courier Jolly Jimmy (Derek Royle), host- system’s James Murphy walked away from support for marriage equal- all charming people, ess Wendy (Mandy Weet) and driver Alf, fame at the peak of his career with concert ity in Maryland and beyond. from the Vietnam vet- the bus leaves the town, headed for the footage, Shut Up and Play the Hits is a Even Hollywood is getting eran who found true countryside. Among the other bus pas- surprisingly touching and emotional experi- into the act once again by love upon his return sengers are the rest of the Beatles (Paul ence. Murphy, a straight man with a genu- putting gay characters in home (and after some McCartney, John Lennon and George Har- ine appreciation for classic disco/dance committed relationships front and center on serious injuries and a long recuperation), to rison), a starlet (Maggie Wright), a child music and giant mirror balls, chose (and our TV screens (NBC’s The New Normal does the older ladies who found love late in life. (Nicola Hale) and the “quite harmless” Mr. sold out) Madison Square Garden for the the better job at humanizing the couple than Two particularly heart-tugging segments Bloodvessel (poet Ivor Cutler). farewell show. does CBS’s Partners). feature two Mormon women who had a rela- The tour features “enjoyment within the Pre- and post-show footage, backstage While these efforts are commendable, tionship through their college years, but the limits of British decency,” such as games and onstage, indicates that Murphy (a man most people will still see them merely as pull of the religion was too strong for one of (Blind Man’s Bluff, Tug of War, wrestling, with a French Bulldog named Petunia) is a entertainment and won’t take them quite as them who decided to “do the right thing” and races, a jolly good sing-along ) and the hugger and kisser. It’s perfectly understand- seriously even when the message that gays marry a man, regardless of how unhappy it able as he is saying hello and are not treated equally delivers a well-placed made her, and the story of an older gentle- goodbye to a multitude of people punch to the gut that should get viewers think- man who had been in a totally closeted rela- in his personal and professional ing. It’s going to take real people telling their tionship for fifty years until his partner died in life, “before they disappear.” very real stories to the “low information voters” his sleep, and how the government refused to In a (perhaps too) revelatory on a more personal level to get them to see give him the flag for the casket because they interview with journalist/writer that they are holding real lives in the hands weren’t related. More than anything, these are Chuck Klosterman, Murphy de- when they go to vote. the types of stories people need to hear when scribes the history and function Thanks to director Drew Emery, producers they consider how to vote on marriage. of “the band,” which he describes Lisa Halpern and Larry Schlessinger, and ex- The film, overall, leans more towards the as a “cover band.” Made up of ecutive producer Robert Lemon, the general acceptance of marriage equality but it does mostly former members of punk public now has a chance to “meet” real people also feature a couple of “one man/one woman” bands, Murphy and company in real relationships through the documentary folks who voice their opinions but don’t get any wanted to play dance clubs and Inlaws & Outlaws. Originally shown in 2005 kind of follow-up as to why they feel that way. places where people were hav- at the Seattle International Film Festival, the Viewers who do lean in that direction may feel ing fun. He also touches on ag- documentary took on a life of its own as the they’re not being allowed to participate in the ing, influences, successes and marriage equality movement began to pick up dialog, but they’ve probably said enough al- failures, “the desire to be under- steam after we elected a president who ac- ready. The movie is really about showing that stood,” considering his life and tually addressed the GLBT community and people are people, they love who they love, putting it into context, his ambi- gave us a glimmer of hope that things really and restricting that love can have some sad tion “to leave a mark, to leave a were about to change. consequences (but, don’t fret, the film does stain” and more. When all of its Since then, Emery launched the Hearts end on a happy note). elements come together, Shut Up + Mind Campaign which offers the film to If you’d like to get more information about and Play the Hits is a portrait of a any community, organization or individual Inlaws & Outlaws, visit InlawsAndOutlawsFilm. gents’ visit to a strip club (where the Bonzo man who will never lose his edge. who wants to host a screening. The film com to purchase a DVD or to get licensing in- Dog Doo-Dah Band performs “Death Cab The three-DVD special edition includes has also been aired in Washington state formation about screenings in the area. Even For Cutie”). There is magic at work, as “four the doc on the first disc and the full-length on local public television stations and they if Question 6 does pass in Maryland, I have a or five” magicians (played by The Beatles) three plus hours LCD Soundsystem fare- have raised enough money to get the film feeling it will still be important for many of those whip things up in their lab. There is also well concert at MSG on the second and shown on several other stations across who signed the petition to put the measure on love, as Mr. Bloodvessel falls for Aunt Jes- third discs. DVD extra features include the the country (though, sadly not in Mary- the ballot to see the film, to see these people sica. Period touches of psychedelia and featurette Catching Up With Keith (Wood, land). 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fringes of the far right and the far left. They Puff Baby, refuse to vote, leaving the voting to those Mama’s getting ready to say something most rabid and extreme. Feeling hurt that the that’s gonna give you a headache, so hold change they expected didn’t happen in a year on. “What the hell is wrong with you?” – Getting or two, they abandon a course of action be- Ask (Can Mama say “hell” in the paper?) Any- fore it’s had a chance to work. They refuse to way honey, you knew within the first few Unstuck read about the issues in the most basic ways, ? Mama minutes of meeting this man that he was Gerry Fisher leaving themselves “undecided” for long peri- Mama answers your questions a smoker. I’m sure that you could smell it ods of time, vulnerable to whichever Fat Cat all over him. has enough money to hypnotize and scare As far as asking him to stop smoking We Need More them with TV ads as they sit on the couch. for you, baby, you is just a silly, silly boy! So, should you go vote? Umm, yeah! Smokey It’s his life and he hasn’t stopped yet. But Cooks But my point is much bigger than that. he might quit somewhere down the road, What I’d really like for you to do is to change Workplace you never know. However, he has to want Five months ago, I committed myself to do- your relationship to politics. I’d like for you to to stop for himself. ing an insane amount of work for the “Vote get more comfortable with it, hang out with it Romance Have you tried telling him that you just for Question 6” campaign to make marriage a little bit more. can’t kiss him anymore or nibble or lick his equality the law of the land. My husband, Da- And don’t fool yourself by thinking you’re Dear Mama, special “yummy places” because you can’t vid, and I lived in Massachusetts when mar- immune to politics. Just watch Cabaret again. Help! I’m becoming increasingly at- stand the fact that it’s like licking an ash- riage equality became the law of the land, we Or remind yourself that this affects your abil- tracted to my “straight” co-worker. Every tray and that if you had your choice, there saw the amazing ripple effect that event had ity to marry the person you love, your ability time I’m around her, I get so flustered and on LGBTQ rights and civic life, and we dedi- to control your own body, and my fantasies are getting out of hand, she’s “You knew within the cated ourselves to being a part of mak- our ability to get affordable so sexy. To make matters worse, she flirts ing that happen here in Maryland. health care. with me but I know she has a boyfriend! first few minutes of It’s one thing to guess how hard You don’t have to be What should I do? One of my friends says I a commitment might be, but it’s an insane campaigner should just go for it and ask her out. Anoth- meeting this man that another thing to go through it like I was for these past er friend says definitely not! What should he was a smoker. I’m and to feel it for yourself. My 5 months, but check this I do? sleep’s off, my stomach’s out! If we’d all read up on Hot and Bothered sure that you could off, and I’m off. Wow! the issues this summer, I’ve felt very good about chatted with others about it, Dear Hot and Bothered, smell it all over him. It’s the vast majority of what we’ve and made up our minds, then Take a lesson from a line of one of my his life and he hasn’t been able to do, but there have none of these last-minute favorite movies, Run Forrest Run. You got been some moments that haven’t scare-tactic TV ads would that honey? Stop, cease, and desist! But stopped yet. But he been pretty. At times, I’ve been ag- have any effect on us. And if there ain’t no need in Mama telling you gressive, controlling, short, and un- they are no longer effective, something you already know. It’s a slip- might quit somewhere pleasant. So, at this time, I’d like to then the campaigns will stop pery slope and a long way down that could down the road.” offer a public apology to Steve Charing, running them. If we’re involved really hurt both you and her, if you start Doug Rose, and to anyone else who was in our two parties, then we’ll nominate something and it all falls apart. And there subjected to me being a jerk. I am sorry for more impressive candidates, and we’ll temper are too many questions that I don’t have are a few other things you’d much rather treating you that way, and I’ll tell you so in the more extreme elements on both sides. If we the answers to, to be able to say anything be doing with your mouth? Seriously swee- person, if and when I see you. take five-to-ten years to work on building a third else about this situation, except that if you tums, all you can do is talk to him, calmly Well, enough about me. Given that this party,”electing state legislators and building a ain’t careful, you’re gonna have a hot mess and sensibly and tell him how you feel and issue of OUTloud is an election special, I’d party infrastructure,” then we’ll eventually be on your hands, and not in a good way. And share your concerns. Don’t give him an like to shift gears and talk about some of the able to put up a third-party candidate for presi- by the way, are you really sure that she’s ultimatum. Mama keeps trying to tell all of advice I have for you, dear readers, in terms dent who will be taken seriously. flirting with you or are your fantasies get- you that it never works. You can however, of Election Day. As I do with my life and career coaching, ting out of control? Find an easier mountain tell him that you are interested in the possi- One of the observations I’ve made about I recommend that we stay focused on “do- to climb honey and burn off some steam. bility of a future together and smoking could some of the least pleasant parts of Ameri- ing what works.” There’s a way that politics Keep your matters in your own hand! And definitely shorten that future. You know that can politics today, “Super PACS, the influ- work for the people, and there’s a way that it you know just what Mama means! Mama loves you and all her babies! Be ence of last-minute TV ads, the ability of a becomes an overly expensive, painful, free- safe, be wise and most of all, be careful. It’s candidate or an advocate to flat-out lie, the for-all with the 1% buying what it wants and a big, crazy world out there sometimes. t obscene amount of money that gets poured manipulating our officials like puppets on a Dear Mama, into politics when it could be used for social string. I’m doing the one The ashtray of romance? causes,” is that we’d all be better off if we Just don’t confuse Election Day with thing I swore I would nev- stopped avoiding politics. Not that it’s perfect Thanksgiving. It’s not about just showing er do, I’m dating a smok- by any means, but the problem is not with the up on one day and expecting a scrumptious er. He’s a great guy and political system or the candidates, so much; meal to be served to you. It’s about planning I’d like to have a future the problem is that too many people have the menu, doing the shopping, and spend- with him but I don’t know checked out of politics. ing the time in the kitchen. Don’t believe me? if I can stand the smoke! I And people check out in a number of Just ask your mom. want him to stop smoking ways. They get frustrated with party politics, Now… go vote! t for me or else I’m going so they register as independents, leaving the Learn more at BaltimoreLifeCoach- to stop seeing him. two major parties to the most rabid, lunatic Gerry.com Puff

BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMBER 2, 2012 • BALTIMOREOUTLOUD.COM t 21 “Scruffy” Vitale gave instructions on puppy SECC Leather 2012 Sir play. The weather was just beautiful on Andy Chmielowski-Liu Saturday afternoon when the Jersey boys and Mr. N.J. Leather of Leather hosted a poolside cigar party. 2009 John Nowak. Ac- Saturday night brought the main ing as Judge’s boy was event- the Mr. & Ms. New Jersey Leather Mr. Maryland Leather 2013 Contest. This event has been getting 2012 boy joe. Keep- bigger every year. I don’t think another ing the contest rolling person could have squeezed into the club. along in a crowded Paul Maffei from Hoboken, N.J., was se- room that started to fill Leather on the lected as Mr. New Jersey Leather 2013 with chatter at some and “Babygirl” a member of the Jersey points, were hosts Amazons was selected as Ms. New Jer- Dave Watts, Ms. N.J. Jersey Shore sey Leather 2013. Other contestants were Leather 2010 Mor- Shawn from New Jersey, boy Quentin gaine, and Miss Gay Over the last few years I have heard a from Philadelphia (a member of the D.C. N.J. 2006 Lady Marisa. lot about the rebirth of Asbury Park, New boys of Leather), and Lady Wanda who Dave Watts was espe- Jersey. I have also met many New Jer- is also a member of the Jersey Amazons. cially clever when he sey leather titleholders and have heard The Brotherhood award was presented introduced the judges nothing but great reviews of New Jersey to Shawn and the Community Champion with a poem describing Leather Weekend. I don’t know why it took Award was presented to the Bootblack Bri- each one. me so long to go and check it out for my- gade. This year’s judges were American Contestants ap- self! Over the weekend of October 19-21 Leather Woman 2005/ Ms. N.J. Leather peared in barware, per- Dragonslair Productions presented the Mr. formed on stage fanta- & Ms. N.J. Leather 2013 Contest and this “The Garden State has sies, appeared in jock/ time I didn’t miss it! hot ware, and compet- The beautiful Empress Hotel bills it- a wonderful leather ed in formal leather / self as “N.J.’s Ultimate Club Complex and speech. Getaway Destination” and is located at community and on The on-stage ques- 101 Asbury Avenue in downtown Asbury New Jersey Leather tion was done in a very Park, N.J. The hotel is right across the fun way. Contestants street from the beach and boardwalk. Our Weekend in Asbury selected pieces of pa- room had a balcony with an ocean view. per from three bowls. The resort contains a lobby bar, restau- Park it really blossoms! One had the name of a rant/bar, a dance club, and two poolside Let’s wish everyone a person, one contained bars. The hotel has 101 rooms and was the name of a place, the perfect setting for the weekend. New speedy recovery from and the third paper had ‘Babygirl,’ a member of the Jersey Amazons, and Paul Maffei of Jersey Leather Weekend does not charge the name of an object. Hoboken are Ms. / Mr. New Jersey Leather 2013 winners a run fee to attend the festivities so one Hurricane Sandy.” The contestants had to does not feel obligated to run from event describe a fantasy using the three items. blossoms! to event. It is a layback and relaxing week- We were treated to such ideas as Judge Also coming up soon is the award win- end. 2005 Amanda Farrell, Mr. Mid-Atlantic Judy in a laundromat with a bowl of fruit ning Philadelphia Leather Pride on No- There was a Leather Mart, a display Leather 2012 Matt Bronson, Mr. Chicago or Derk Jeter in a Dollar Store with a can vember 8 – November 11. There is a long from the Carter/Johnson Leather Library, Leather 2012 Angel Valez, Mid-Atlantic of frosting. It was just a fun evening all list of events planned including the 25th and seminars organized by the Jersey slave 2006/ International slave 2007 slave around. There was even a performance by Anniversary Party for the Leather Journal Kollege of Kink. Mr. Michigan Leather barb, American Leather Man 2011 / Mr. Bear-donna. One of the highlights of the on Friday November 9 from 6 to 9 p.m. at 2009 Dave Watt presented a demo on N.J. Leather 2006 Tom Savage, Leather- evening was the very moving step-down the William Way Community Center fol- food fetish; International Mr. Leather man of Color 2007 Doc Hoskins, Ms. N.J. speech of Mr. New Jersey Leather 2012 lowed by a Kinky Karnival at the Bike Stop. 1994 Jeff Tucker demonstrated fire play, Leather 2012 Fidget, and Mr. N.J. Leather Danny Tamez. Although Danny had trav- Also scheduled is Philadelphia Leather and Mr. New Jersey Leather 2011 Robert 2012 Danny Tamez. Tally Masters were Mr. eled to Chicago over the Memorial Day Pride Night on Saturday, November 10 Weekend to represent New Jersey at the from 6 p.m. to midnight at Voyeur which International Mr. Leather 2012 Contest, he will include an auction and entertainment had to be rushed to the hospital for emer- by Bruce-Michael Gelbert, Desire De La gency surgery and did not get to compete. Hoz, Rasta Boi Punany, Dino Fontaine, During his speech he brought out his Lady Marisa, and more. There is a whole hospital gown and stated, “This badly big weekend planned. Go to Plpn.org to made piece of cotton taught me more learn more. about the leather community than any Many in the leather Community will re- piece of leather.” It was a fitting speech for turn to The Empress Hotel in Asbury Park a weekend that was filled with brotherhood on Saturday, November 24 as the Bucks, and a true celebration of the New Jersey M.C. present the 39th Annual Santa Sat- leather community. I felt a true spirit of lo- urday. Doors open at noon and the show cal pride that can be sometimes lacking at and auction are from 1 to 6 p.m. Admission other state contests. is just $15. Check out Bucksmc.org for all The Garden State has a wonderful the details. You’ll have a wonderful time leather community and on New Jersey at the Jersey Shore! I know I did and with Leather Weekend in Asbury Park it really the low drink prices I drank like Snooki! t 22 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMBER 2, 2012 • BALTIMOREOUTLOUD.COM MR. & MS. NEW JERSEY LEATHER | OCTOBER 19-21, 2012 | ASBURY PARK, NJ / PHOTOS BY RODNEY

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