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be happy Copyright 2009 HAY HOUSE. DO NOT use without permission from HAY HOUSE. Be Happy Interior sample 2.indd 1 1/19/09 8:52:53 PM also by robert holden, Ph.d. ••••• books Success Intelligence* Happiness NOW!* Balancing Work & Life (with Ben Renshaw) Shift Happens! Every Day is a Gift (with Marika Borg (Burton)) ••••• cd programs Be Happy* Happiness NOW!* Success Intelligence* ••••• flip calendar Happiness NOW!* Success NOW!* (available August 2009) *Available from Hay House Copyright 2009 HAY HOUSE. DO NOT use without permission from HAY HOUSE. Be Happy Interior sample 2.indd 2 1/19/09 8:52:53 PM be happy release the power of happiness in YOU Robert Holden, Ph.D. HAY hoUse, InC. Carlsbad, California • new york City london • sydney • Johannesburg Vancouver • hong Kong • new delhi Copyright 2009 HAY HOUSE. DO NOT use without permission from HAY HOUSE. Be Happy Interior sample 2.indd 3 1/19/09 8:52:54 PM Copyright © 2009 by Robert Holden Published and distributed in the United States by: Hay House, Inc.: www.hayhouse.com • Published and distributed in Australia by: Hay House Australia Pty. Ltd.: www.hayhouse. com.au • Published and distributed in the Republic of South Africa by: Hay House SA (Pty), Ltd.: www.hayhouse.co.za • Distributed in Canada by: Raincoast: www.raincoast. com • Published in India by: Hay House Publishers India: www.hayhouse.co.in Design: Jenny Richards Indexer: Richard Comfort All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced by any mechanical, photographic, or electronic process, or in the form of a phonographic recording; nor may it be stored in a retrieval system, transmitted, or otherwise be copied for public or private use—other than for “fair use” as brief quotations embodied in articles and reviews— without prior written permission of the publisher. The author of this book does not dispense medical advice or prescribe the use of any technique as a form of treatment for physical, emotional, or medical problems without the advice of a physician, either directly or indirectly. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being. In the event you use any of the information in this book for yourself, which is your constitutional right, the author and the publisher assume no responsibility for your actions. Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Holden, Robert. Be happy : release the power of happiness in you / Robert Holden. -- 1st ed. p. cm. Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN 978-1-4019-2180-4 (hardcover : alk. paper) 1. Happiness. I. Title. BF575.H27.H64 2009 158--dc22 2008050379 ISBN: 978-1-4019-2180-4 12 11 10 09 4 3 2 1 1st edition, April 2009 Printed in the United States of America Copyright 2009 HAY HOUSE. DO NOT use without permission from HAY HOUSE. Be Happy Interior sample 2.indd 4 1/19/09 8:52:54 PM to Bo Love Holden Copyright 2009 HAY HOUSE. DO NOT use without permission from HAY HOUSE. Be Happy Interior sample 2.indd 5 1/19/09 8:52:54 PM Copyright 2009 HAY HOUSE. DO NOT use without permission from HAY HOUSE. Be Happy Interior sample 2.indd 6 1/19/09 8:52:54 PM contents Foreword ....................................................................................................ix Prologue .....................................................................................................xi Part I: HELLO haPPIness Chapter 1: The Happiness Genie .........................................................3 Chapter 2: Talking about Happiness ..................................................11 Chapter 3: Defining True Happiness ..................................................19 Chapter 4: A New Learning Curve .....................................................29 Part II: YOUr sPIrItUal dna Chapter 5: A Spiritual Path ................................................................41 Chapter 6: A Tale of Two Selves .........................................................51 Chapter 7: Fear of Unhappiness .........................................................61 Chapter 8: Follow Your Joy ................................................................73 Part III: the UNHOLY trInIty Chapter 9: Choosing Happiness ........................................................85 Chapter 10: The Happiness Contract .................................................95 Chapter 11: Fear of Happiness .........................................................105 Chapter 12: One Hundred Gratitudes ..............................................113 Part IV: eVERYDAY abUndanCe Chapter 13: The Daily Unconscious ................................................125 Chapter 14: Ready, Steady, NOW .....................................................133 Chapter 15: The Real More ..............................................................143 Chapter 16: The Receiving Meditation ............................................153 Part V: LOVe and haPPIness Chapter 17: The Family Story ..........................................................165 Chapter 18: The Relationship Questionnaire ..................................175 Chapter 19: Making the Connection ...............................................183 Chapter 20: The Joy of Forgiveness .................................................193 Copyright 2009 HAY HOUSE. 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Be Happy Interior sample 2.indd 7 1/19/09 8:52:54 PM Part VI: FIndInG the Present Chapter 21: The Open Road .............................................................205 Chapter 22: The Beautiful Ordinary ................................................217 Chapter 23: The Last Resistance .......................................................229 Chapter 24: The Gift of Happiness ..................................................241 Index .......................................................................................................255 Acknowledgments...................................................................................263 Endnotes .................................................................................................265 Appendix A .............................................................................................279 Appendix B .............................................................................................281 Appendix C .............................................................................................283 About the Author ...................................................................................285 Copyright 2009 HAY HOUSE. DO NOT use without permission from HAY HOUSE. Be Happy Interior sample 2.indd 8 1/19/09 8:52:54 PM foreword It is said that when the student is ready, the teacher appears. We are all students, and life always has another lesson to teach us. When Robert Holden asked me to write a foreword for this book, I said, “Sure.” I expected to fly through the book and write something quickly. Little did I know that I would become so immersed in the course that it took me several days to read the book and do the exercises. It was an eye-opening experience to read this book as I was encouraged to go deeply into myself to discover and begin to release the un-noticed pockets of resistance I had to being happy (truly happy). Wow! What a powerful book this is. You have a big treat in store for you. And the payoff is joy. Joy and happiness for each of you. Do yourself a favor and make sure you do all the exercises. You will learn things about yourself that you were not aware of. Good things, freeing things. At the end of this course you will like yourself so much more, even love and adore yourself. That would make anyone happy. I thought I was a happy person and I was. Now after completing the course, I am happier on a deeper, quieter level. I also notice that I am happiest when I am being grateful. Thank you Robert. This student was definitely ready for you, my latest teacher. I love learning. I know that the week I leave the planet I will be enrolled in a new course learning something new. Dear reader, read on. You have an amazing experience ahead of you. Just think how wonderful it would be if everyone on the planet would experience their own happiness. No more wars. No more greed. No more getting even. Life would be filled with laughter, kindness, and love. I am so proud to welcome Robert Holden to our Hay House family. I am ready to enjoy my life today. louise l. hay Founder of hay house Copyright 2009 HAY HOUSE. DO NOT use without permission from HAY HOUSE. ix Be Happy Interior sample 2.indd 9 1/19/09 8:52:54 PM Copyright 2009 HAY HOUSE. DO NOT use without permission from HAY HOUSE. Be Happy Interior sample 2.indd 10 1/19/09 8:52:54 PM prologue I have written this book to give you an experience of what it is like to attend my eight-week happiness course, which is the signature event of my work with The Happiness Project. My deepest wish is that this book will assist you in your inquiry into happiness and bring a greater sense of joy and love to every area of your life. My invitation to you is, therefore, that you don’t just read the book, but take the course. The first eight-week happiness course happened in the summer of 1992, which was three years before I founded The Happiness Project. I posted a dozen flyers on bulletin boards in local hospitals and health centers advertising a course on happiness that I described as a support group for people who want to be happy. The invitation was to meet for three hours a week, over eight weeks, to explore