Angry Rumination Mediates the Unique Associations Between Self-Compassion and Anger and Aggression
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Metta Bhavanabhavana Loving-Kindnessloving-Kindness Meditationmeditation Ven
MettaMetta BhavanaBhavana Loving-kindnessLoving-kindness MeditationMeditation Ven. Dhammarakkhita HAN DD ET U 'S B B O RY eOK LIBRA E-mail: [email protected] Web site: www.buddhanet.net Buddha Dharma Education Association Inc. Metta Bhavana Loving-kindness Meditation Venerable Dhammarakkhita Published for free dist ribution 974–344–130–1 First edition , copies August Enquiries: Ms. Savanraya Vipatayotin (Nay) Dhammodaya Meditation Centre / Mu Tambol Th anon — Khat Ampur Muang, Nakhon Pathom , Th ailand Tel. (-) . Fax. (-) Website: http//www.rissir.com/dhammodaya E-mail: [email protected] Cover design by Dhammarakkhita with technical assistance from Khun Sangthong Srikaewpraphan Metta Bhavana Loving-kindness Meditation Venerable Dhammarakkhita Venerable Dhammarakkhita is an Australian Buddhist Monk of the Myanmar Th eravada tradition. He has been a monk for about eight years. After extensive and intensive practice in vipassana-mindfulness/insight meditation in Australia and Myanmar, his teacher Venerable Chanmyay Sayadaw instructed him to teach vipassana in Myanmar, Singapore and East and West Malaysia. Venerable Dhammarakkhita spent three years successfully establishing a monastery in South Africa. Th ese days he teaches by invitation in Myanmar, Japan and Th ailand and gives talks wherever he goes. “If you truly love yourself, you’ll easily love another; If you truly love yourself, you’ll never harm another.” Introduct ion Th is short explanation on how to practise Metta Bhavana or Loving -kindness Meditation was given as a three-day week- end retreat at Dhammodaya Meditation Centre in Nakhon Pathom in Th ailand. Mae-chee Boonyanandi, a Th ai Buddhist nun, has invited Venerable Chanmyay Saya daw of Myanmar to be the patron of the Centre. -
Anger Management Techniques
Anger Management Techniques 1. Drain the Brain WHEN to use: When your temper begins to flare. WHAT does it do: Mentally challenge yourself before taking out your anger on others HOW? Ask yourself these questions: o WHAT is the source of my irritation? o WHAT is the degree of my anger? o WHAT is the other person’s actual role in the situation? . Turn the circumstances around to see how you would want to be treated if the other person felt as you do. These mental gymnastics can help you regain control over runaway emotions before they escape and cause external damage. 2. Walk It Off WHEN to use: o In those moments when you feel the familiar rage start to rumble, excuse yourself if others are present and take a quick walk down the hall or outdoors, depending on whether you are at home or at work, and the weather conditions. o Even a 5-10 minute stroll, especially one that is fast- paced, will help to cool your irritation as you practice the fight-or-flight strategy by escaping the potential conflict, which is one of the more popular and useful anger management techniques. Anger Management Techniques 1.Count to 20 before saying anything. 2.Leave the room for several minutes, or hours, if necessary, before discussing sensitive issues that may provoke your anger. 3.Write out a response to a problem before tackling it orally or in debate. This will give you time to think about the best approach to a problem rather than responding with random anger. -
About Emotions There Are 8 Primary Emotions. You Are Born with These
About Emotions There are 8 primary emotions. You are born with these emotions wired into your brain. That wiring causes your body to react in certain ways and for you to have certain urges when the emotion arises. Here is a list of primary emotions: Eight Primary Emotions Anger: fury, outrage, wrath, irritability, hostility, resentment and violence. Sadness: grief, sorrow, gloom, melancholy, despair, loneliness, and depression. Fear: anxiety, apprehension, nervousness, dread, fright, and panic. Joy: enjoyment, happiness, relief, bliss, delight, pride, thrill, and ecstasy. Interest: acceptance, friendliness, trust, kindness, affection, love, and devotion. Surprise: shock, astonishment, amazement, astound, and wonder. Disgust: contempt, disdain, scorn, aversion, distaste, and revulsion. Shame: guilt, embarrassment, chagrin, remorse, regret, and contrition. All other emotions are made up by combining these basic 8 emotions. Sometimes we have secondary emotions, an emotional reaction to an emotion. We learn these. Some examples of these are: o Feeling shame when you get angry. o Feeling angry when you have a shame response (e.g., hurt feelings). o Feeling fear when you get angry (maybe you’ve been punished for anger). There are many more. These are NOT wired into our bodies and brains, but are learned from our families, our culture, and others. When you have a secondary emotion, the key is to figure out what the primary emotion, the feeling at the root of your reaction is, so that you can take an action that is most helpful. . -
Anger, Murder, Adultery and Lust!
Mind Blown Lesson 2: Anger, Murder, Adultery and Lust! [Reader: group leader] We’re in the second lesson of a series on the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5, 6 and 7). Jesus was the preacher of that sermon, and He said some pretty mind-blowing things. In the first study we read how Jesus said the whole Old Testament centered around Him. Imagine some preacher telling you that in this day and age. Your reaction might be something like that of the kids in this video whose parent hadn’t told them the identity of Darth Vader. Watch Mind=Blown Star Wars Video In this lesson, we’ll see what Jesus has to say about murder, anger, adultery and lust. Hint: It’s not just going to be mind-blowing; it’s going to be completely counter-cultural! But first, let’s be a little counter-cultural ourselves and open in prayer. [Leader prays.] Part 1: MURDER, HATRED, REVENGE AND ANGER [Reader: person with the longest hair)] Here’s what Jesus’ had to say about murder in the Sermon on the Mount: “You have heard that our ancestors were told, ‘You must not murder. If you commit murder, you are subject to judgment.’ But I say, if you are even angry with someone, you are subject to judgment! If you call someone an idiot, you are in danger of being brought before the court. And if you curse someone, you are in danger of the fires of hell. So if you are presenting a sacrifice at the alter in the Temple and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you, leave your sacrifice there at the alter. -
25 Positive Emotions in Human-Product Interactions
ORIGINAL ARTICLE Faces of Product Pleasure: 25 Positive Emotions in Human-Product Interactions Pieter M. A. Desmet Delft University of Technology, Faculty of Industrial Design Engineering, Delft, The Netherlands The study of user emotions is hindered by the absence of a clear overview of what positive emotions can be experienced in human- product interactions. Existing typologies are either too concise or too comprehensive, including less than five or hundreds of positive emotions, respectively. To overcome this hindrance, this paper introduces a basic set of 25 positive emotion types that represent the general repertoire of positive human emotions. The set was developed with a componential analysis of 150 positive emotion words. A questionnaire study that explored how and when each of the 25 emotions are experienced in human-product interactions resulted in a collection of 729 example cases. On the basis of these cases, six main sources of positive emotions in human-product interactions are proposed. By providing a fine-grained yet concise vocabulary of positive emotions that people can experience in response to product design, the typology aims to facilitate both research and design activities. The implications and limitations of the set are discussed, and some future research steps are proposed. Keywords – Emotion-Driven Design, Positive Emotions, Questionnaire Research. Relevance to Design Practice – Positive emotions differ both in how they are evoked and in how they influence usage behaviour. Designers can use the set of 25 positive emotions to develop their emotional granularity and to specify design intentions in terms of emotional impact. Citation: Desmet, P. M. A. (2012). Faces of product pleasure: 25 positive emotions in human-product interactions. -
Why Don't People Act Collectively: the Role of Group Anger, Group Efficacy
Efficacy, Anger, Fear and Collective Action Running Head: EFFICACY, ANGER, FEAR, AND COLLECTIVE ACTION The Relative Impact of Anger and Efficacy on Collective Action is Affected by Feelings of Fear Daniel A. Miller Tracey Cronin Indiana University – Purdue University, Fort Wayne University of Kansas Amber L. Garcia Nyla R. Branscombe The College of Wooster University of Kansas KEY WORDS: Collective action, emotion, group efficacy, fear, anger, suppression WORD COUNT: 9,005 words excluding references, tables, figures and title page Author’s Note: We are grateful to Matthew Hornsey for his helpful comments on an earlier version of this manuscript. Address correspondence to Daniel A. Miller, Indiana University - Purdue University, Fort Wayne, Department of Psychology, 2101E Coliseum Blvd., Fort Wayne , IN 46805; e-mail: [email protected] Efficacy, Anger, Fear and Collective Action Abstract Two well established predictors of collective action are perceptions of group efficacy and feelings of anger. The current research investigates the extent to which the relative impact of these variables differs when fear is or is not also included as a predictor of collective action. The results of two experiments indicate that when fear is not assessed, the importance of anger as a predictor of action is underestimated while the importance of group efficacy is overestimated. The results further indicate that fear, in addition to affecting the impact of known causes of collective action (anger and group efficacy), is a powerful inhibitor of collective action. The implications for current theoretical models of collective action instigators are discussed. Efficacy, Anger, Fear and Collective Action The Relative Impact of Anger and Efficacy on Collective Action is Affected by Feelings of Fear oderint dum metuant: Let them hate so long as they fear. -
Moral Emotions As Determinants of Third-Party Punishment: Anger, Guilt, and the Functions of Altruistic Sanctions
Judgment and Decision Making, Vol. 4, No. 7, December 2009, pp. 543–553 Moral emotions as determinants of third-party punishment: Anger, guilt, and the functions of altruistic sanctions Rob M. A. Nelissen∗ and Marcel Zeelenberg Tilburg University, the Netherlands Abstract Third-party punishment has recently received attention as an explanation for human altruism. Feelings of anger in response to norm violations are assumed to motivate third-party sanctions, yet there is only sparse and indirect support for this idea. We investigated the impact of both anger and guilt feelings on third-party sanctions. In two studies both emotions were independently manipulated. Results show that anger and guilt independently constitute sufficient but not necessary causes of punishment. Low levels of punishment are observed only when neither emotion is elicited. We discuss the implications of these findings for the functions of altruistic sanctions. Keywords: third-party punishment, social norms, emotions, decision-making. 1 Introduction own (Haidt, 2003). We experience feelings like empathy, anger, and guilt if we consider how others have been hurt, People often defend the interests of others. They stand wronged, or harmed (e.g., Batson, 2006; Haidt, 2003). up for their friends if someone speaks ill about them in The view that moral emotions also have functional behav- their absence. They do not tolerate a colleague being bul- ioral consequences is reflected in evolutionary hypothe- lied at work. They boycott consumer products that are sis about their adaptive value (e.g., Tooby & Cosmides, produced using child labor. Some even come to the aid 1990; Trivers, 1971). of a stranger who is being physically harassed, in spite Especially Robert Frank’s (2004) notion of emotions of obvious personal danger. -
Happy to Help? a Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis of the Effects of Performing Acts of Kindness on the Well-Being of the Acto
Happy to help? A systematic review and meta-analysis of the effects of performing acts of kindness on the well-being of the actor Oliver Scott Curry ([email protected]) Lee Rowland Sally Zlotowitz John McAlaney Harvey Whitehouse September 2016 Abstract Does being kind make you happy? Recent advances in the behavioural sciences have provided a number of explanations of human social, cooperative and altruistic behaviour. These theories predict that people will be ‘happy to help’ family, friends, community members, spouses, and even strangers under some conditions. As a preliminary test of whether and to what extent these predictions are supported by the existing literature, here we conduct a systematic review and meta-analysis of the experimental evidence that kindness interventions (for example, performing ’random acts of kindness’) boost subjective well-being. Our initial search of the literature identifies 376 articles; of which 19 (21 studies) meet the inclusion criteria (total N=2,685). We find that the overall effect of kindness on well-being is small-to-medium (d = 0.38). There is also some indication of publication bias – lower quality studies tended to find larger effects – suggesting that the true effect size may be smaller still (0.31 ≤ d ≤ 0.34). We also find that the design and methodological limitations of existing studies preclude the testing of specific theories of kindness. We recommend that future research: distinguish between the effects of kindness to specific categories of people (for example, family, friends, strangers); take kindness- specific individual differences into account; and consider a wider range of distal outcome measures. -
Not-So Random Acts of Kindness: a Guide to Intentional Kindness in the Classroom
Volume 7, Number 2, November 2015 pp 49-62 www.um.edu.mt/cres/ijee Not-so Random Acts of Kindness: A Guide to Intentional Kindness in the Classroom 1 John-Tyler Binfet Faculty of Education, University of British Columbia, Okanagan, Canada Much has been written about random acts of kindness – acts performed spontaneously and often to strangers. The topic of kindness and the benefits arising from performing kind acts holds both empirical and applied interest in the fields of education and psychology. Encouraging students to reflect upon and perform intentional acts of kindness develops perspective-taking, increased social membership, and a structured way of encouraging kindness within the school context. This paper provides an overview of kindness research and argues for the need to promote intentional acts of kindness by providing a framework for teachers to support students in the performance of intentional kindness. Keywords: kindness, kindness definitions, teaching, social and emotional learning, positive education First submission 10 th August 2015; Accepted for publication 15 th October 2015. Introduction “The self is not something ready-made, but something in continuous formation through choice of action.” (Dewey, 1916, p. 351). Even more than honesty, gratitude, or hope, the trait of kindness is identified as one of the top-ranking character strengths valued in Western society (Karris & Craighead, 2012; Park, Peterson, & Seligman, 2004). When parents are asked what they wish for their children, ‘being good’ or ‘being kind’ is consistently indicated to be a top trait (Diener & Lucas, 2004; Seligman, Ernst, Gillham, Reivich, & Linkins, 2009; Wang & Tamis-LeMonda, 2003). Although kindness and other elements of a child’s behavior was often seen as something solely within the purview of parents and the moral authority of religion, increasingly, the mandate of schools has broadened beyond a unique focus on the promotion of core academic abilities to 1 Corresponding author. -
Mindfulness and Loving-Kindness
MINDFULNESS AND LOVING-KINDNESS Sharon Salzberg Mindfulness, as the word is commonly used in contemporary meditation teaching, refers to both being aware of our present moment’s experience, and relating to that experience without grasping, aversion or delusion. All three habitual tendencies distort our perception of what is happening, and lead us to futile and misguided efforts to deny or control our experience. Loving-kindness is a quality of the heart that recognizes how connected we all are. Loving-kindness is essentially a form of inclusiveness of caring, rather than categorizing others in terms of those whom we care for and those who can be easily excluded, ignored or disdained. Any reduction in our tendency to fall into attachment, aversion or delusion helps refine and expand the force of loving-kindness. A deepening of insight will inevitably include seeing how all of our lives are inextricably interconnected. The diminishing of grasping, aversion and delusion and the increase in insight are both reasons mindfulness naturally leads us to greater loving-kindness. In contemporary meditation teaching, the word mindfulness is used in several different ways—as meaning the act of recollecting, as being present, and very commonly, as a kind of compound which in Pali, the language of the original Buddhist texts, would be sati-sampajan˜n˜a, or awareness and clear comprehension combined. One way of seeing this is to say that mindfulness is a relational process— mindfulness is not just knowing what is happening, such as ‘In this moment I am hearing a sound.’ Being mindful is knowing that we are hearing a sound in a certain way, that is, hearing it free of grasping, aversion and delusion. -
Loving-Kindness and Compassion
Loving-kindness and Compassion A Transcribed Teaching Given by Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche in January, 2004 Loving-kindness and compassion protect us, and protect others as well. The Buddha taught that these qualities spontaneously bring benefit, just like a wish-fulfilling jewel, and that if our minds are filled with aggression and anger, not only will we be unable to help ourselves, we will not be able to help anyone else either. We will not be able to benefit ourselves in this life or in future lives. For example, if you are someone who always thinks about the people you don’t like, and how you can get the better of them, you will never be happy and peaceful. During the day, you will not be able to eat your food well. When you are sitting down, you will want to stand, and when you are standing, you will want to sit down. You won’t be able to sleep well either. In other words, you will never be content. This isn’t the only problem with anger. When your mind is filled with anger, your enemies will increase, not decrease. The mind of anger or aggression thinks about enemies and about how to overcome them. It considers the enemy to be someone who is harming us or will harm us, and therefore thinks about how to overcome the enemy, obtain victory over the enemy. The opinion of this attitude of anger is that we actually can overcome our enemies by way of anger. But actually we find that if we follow after this mind of anger, if we follow after those thoughts, we can notovercome our enemies at all. -
Be Diligent in Your Walk (I) 2 Peter 1:10-11 General Considerations
1 Be Diligent in Your Walk (i) 2 Peter 1:10-11 2 General Considerations • The Lord desires that you succeed • He makes sure to supply everything that is needed for your success • In doing so, the Lord is helping us to be in a position to protect the truth • By embracing a right path • By providing comprehensive resources • By promoting growth 3 General Considerations • In promoting growth • It is to become a ‘well-rounded’ Christian • So faith and character (virtue) and knowledge • Commitment to accomplish character • Self-control and perseverance • Response to the properly grand view of who God is • Godliness (expression of goodness of God) 4 General Considerations • In promoting growth • It is to become a ‘well-rounded’ Christian • How we respond to others (in light of a properly grand view of what God did for us in Christ) • Brotherly kindness and love (expression of what God has done for us) 5 General Considerations • So we are called upon to secure our gains • Principle: • If we are not moving ahead (gaining ground) then we are falling behind • Answer: • It is the constant application of these qualities into our lives that counts • It is important that these qualities increase that we may be fruitful in the knowledge of Jesus 6 General Considerations • And we are given a caution: • Beware the pitfalls • The failure to develop these qualities means something serious in your life in practical terms • Short-sightedness • Blindness • More importantly, forgetfulness • What Christ has done on one’s behalf 7 General Considerations • Point: