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Dark-haired,, dynamic Ann Landers loves people and proves it in her unceasing efforts to help them solve problems. Her ready wit and wise understanding of everyday prob lems, her warmth and sincerity have made her America's #1 human re lations columnist. Readers from every walk of life call on her for advice about every phase of living, and every letter she re ceives gets an answer. She is asked how to handle mooching relatives, lecherous bosses, free-loading fian ces, noisy neighbors, jealous hus bands,, catty girl friends and patho logical liars . to list a few. And, the questions come from everybody harassed housewives to bewildered bridegrooms, and truck drivers to schoolteachers. She never hesitates to call on anybody anywhere to help her provide a better ansiver to a baffling question. Her quest sends her searching the fields of medicine, psychiatry, law, religion^ business,, politics and education. JNlOW, after her years as a columnist answering readers everywhere, here is the sum and substance of all Ann Landers* experience in a fresh new ap proach to life's oldest bugabootrouble. (Continued on back flap) BOOK CLUB EDITION Landers, Ann Since you ask me kansas city public library city, Books will be issued only on presentation of library card. Please report lost cards and change of residence promptly. Card holders are responsible for all books, records, films, pictures or other library materials checked out on their cards, Since you isk me INCE Y ASK E By Ann Landers PRENTICE-HALL, INC. ENGLEWOOD CLIFFS, NJ. For Margo 1961 by Prentice-Hall, Inc. All rights reserved, including the right to reproduce this book, or any portions thereof, in any form, except for the inclusion of brief quotations in a review. Printed in the United States of America. Contents About Ann Landers ix 1. May I tell you about my operation? 1 2. Whistles and thistles 10 21 3. How to pick a winner 4. How important is sex in marriage? 38 5. How to stay married 55 6. Must we outlaw the in-law? 69 7. Marriage is not for everyone 80 8. A life in your hands 94 106 9. Father or cash register? 10. The war between the siblings 116 11. Double trouble 127 12. How well do you know your teen-ager? 139 1 3. Teen-agers and sex 153 14. The battle of the bottle 166 15. Be bigger than what happens to you 178 16. Age it's only a number, Baby! 192 17. Are you for real? 201 v Acknowledgments No writer, living or dead, ever made more unreasonable de mands on a long list of busy people in an effort to turn out as good a book as the writer could possibly produce. ''Thank you" is a phrase so lame and so inadequate that it a barely scratches the surface of my feelings. I am at loss to express my gratitude to the many who gave so much of their time, energy, and wisdom. and thanks to Marshall President My warm special Field, Jr., and Publisher of the Chicago Sun-Times and the Chicago Daily News for his generous support and for the freedom he has allowed me with my column. And my gratitude to the wonderful people in every depart ment of the Sun-Times who have made me feel that I am a member of this remarkable newspaper family. To Lany Fanning, Executive Editor of the Chicago Sun- Times, a set of angel wings (tailored by Brooks Brothers) for editing this book. The pressures of guiding the editorial destinies of a metropolitan daily are demanding and punishing. In the face of a back-breaking schedule, Larry accepted the responsi bility of editing these seventy-thousand words. What appears between these covers bears the mark of his skill and artistry. To Wilbur C. Munnecke, a very special halo for his very- special guidance. Will's insight and his mature approach to living have a stabilizing effect on those who are fortunate enough to be counted as his friends. Every chapter is more than a little bit better because Will has read it and offered his wise counsel. A gold-plated harp to John G. Trezevant, Sunday Editor of the Chicago Sun-Times, for his perceptive evaluation and his keen sense of editorial balance which served as radar to keep me on the beam, vii Vlll ACKNOWLEDGMENTS To Dr. Robert Stolar, Clinical Associate Professor of Medi cine (Dermatology), Georgetown University, Washington D,C., a star-studded crown for his saintly patience. Dr. Stolar listened to this book, one chapter at a time as it was written, on the a sense of and the long-distance telephone. He gave me security assurance that Since You Ask Me contains advice which is scientifically sound. Hugs and kisses to my principal assistants, Lilyan Simmons and Jane Janson. They bore up stoically under the staggering weight of additional work which I heaped on them while this book was being written. My thanks to Peggy Constantine who waded through im possible typing (mine) and prepared the finished manuscript for the publisher. love sustains To Jules, my heart, whose and understanding not only Ann Landers but Eppie Lederer. He has made all the good things in my double life possible. To Relman (Pat) Morin of the Associated Press, a plati num-plated sceptre for persuading me that the time had come to write this book and for exacting from me a promise that I would do it. To Bob Cooper, Tommy Thompson, Lib Carr, and Dorothy Portugais of the Chicago Sun-Times-Daily News Syndicate, an affectionate encomium for their unceasing efforts to make the Ann Landers column available to millions of readers all over the world. Special cheers to the fine publishing team at Prentice-Hall, who hacked through a jungle of manuscript which benefited immeasurably from their incisive penciling. And finally, my warm thanks to -the 450 newspapers which publish the Ann Landers column, for their confidence and their faith. These 450 newspapers give me 20 million pairs of eyes every day. Your Problem Girl promises to look out for our readers with loving care always. Ann Landers About Ann Landers Courage and fortitude are words seldom used and virtues and false rarely practiced in a world of anxieties, indifferences, securities. And yet- Since You Ask Me could well have been called The Courage of Ann Landers. Because Ann Landers has courage, and at a time when courage is a vital although virtually forgotten word. She has the courage to take a clear, strong stand on and for her beliefs. And Ann Landers has fortitude, which is the counterpart of bear con courage. She is willing to accept and is ready to the sequences of her courage and the consequences of her beliefs. of Her courage has supported and comforted thousands people who are baffled and dismayed by the problems they face. Ann Landers is Esther Pauline Lederer or "Eppie" or "Led" or "Mother" to her husband Jules and to her daughter Margo. businessman who Jules Lederer is a successful and respected believes his wife and his daughter are his true fortunes. Margo at Brandeis and has just completed her junior year University of her shows every promise of fulfilling all of the hopes parents. her demands Eppie's demands on her associates are great, but of on herself are outrageous. Each day she pours quantities compassionate energy into her letters and her column. From ix X ABOUT ANN LANDERS to the one in her the first column she ever wrote six years ago are this has insisted typewriter as you reading paragraph, Eppie that each letter which calls for an answer deserves, and there devise. fore receives, the best answer she can and In addition to her courage, fortitude, ability insight, her there are at least two unique distinctions Eppie brings to work, to her column and to her book. call individual First, she never hesitates to upon any any answer to the where who might help her provide a better questions she is asked. each answer is Second, and of greatest importance, spe to the individual who asks the cifically designed help question. it does so as a If the answer helps another or amuses another, is to the who asks by-product. Her sole objective help person the question. "Since You Ask Me" is not only by Ann Landers, it is Ann Landers herself, in fact, and in every sense. And as Ann Landers, it is Esther Pauline Lederer. And as Esther Pauline Lederer, it believes is Eppie. For Eppie wrote every word of it and Eppie every word of it. It is a good book because each of us will see of us will see himself reflected in some part of it; because some be ourselves reflected in a considerable part of it; and, further, cause all of us will see examples of others who have done more or who have endured more than we can conceive possible. That the Ann Landers column has been a phenomenal news paper success is beyond doubt. But the true measure of Eppie is that she has grown along with her column. In helping countless readers, she has developed her own knowledge and understanding of the behavior and motivations of all of us, whoever we are and wherever we may be. For these and for a multitude of other reasons, Eppie has the deep affection and great respect of each of her associates. Wilbur C. Munnecke Vice President and General Manager, the Chicago Sun-Times and the Chicago Daily News i ONE I tell about May you my operation? "Man that is born of woman is of few days and full of trouble/' Job 14:1 HIS BOOK is about trouble that uninvited guest who I visits us all.

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