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When Shame Begets WHEN SHAME BEGETS SHAME HOW NARCISSISTS HURT AND SHAME THEIR VICTIMS CHRISTINE LOUIS DE CANONVILLE COPYRIGHT AND DISCLAIMER Copyright © Christine Louis de Canonville 1st edition, XII, MMXVIII ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form whatsoever, electronic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by any informational storage or retrieval system without the expressed written, dated and signed permission from the author. Author: Christine Louis de Canonville Title: When Shame Begets Shame 00Category: PSYCHOLOGY/Psychotherapy/General The author has provided this e-book to you for your personal use only. You may not make this e- book publicly available in any way. Copyright infringement is against the law. If you believe the copy of this e-book you are reading infringes on the author’s copyright, please notify the Author at: [email protected] LIMITS OF LIABILITY/DISCLAIMER OF WARRANTY The author of this book has used her best efforts in preparing this material. The author makes no representation or warranties with respect to the accuracy, applicability or completeness of the contents. She disclaims any warranties (expressed or implied), or merchantability for any particular purpose. The author shall in no event be held liable for any loss or other damages, including but not limited to special, incidental, consequential, or other damages. The information presented in this publication is compiled from sources believed to be accurate; however, the author assumes no responsibility for errors or omissions. The information in this publication does not represent and it is not intended to replace or substitute professional advice. It is not intended to provide specific guidance for particular circumstances and it should not be relied on as the basis for any decision to take action or not take action on any matter that it covers. The author and publisher specifically disclaim any liability, loss, or risk that is incurred as a consequence, directly or indirectly, of the use and application of any of the contents of this work. WHEN SHAME BEGETS SHAME HOW NARCISSISTS HURT AND SHAME THEIR VICTIMS CHRISTINE LOUIS DE CANONVILLE FOREWORD I became aware of Christine’s work at a conference workshop and was struck by the relevance to the experience of some of my clients who were victims of this behaviour. The explanations offered during the workshop made sense to my beginning awareness of narcissistic behaviour, this learning facilitated me in supporting clients in their journey back to health. Thankfully, I availed of the opportunity to attend the workshops offered by Christine in the following year in which I gained from her personal experiences working with this behaviour in her personal and professional life. In reading the essays and her first book, Three Faces of Evil, I could understand in a more informed way what my clients were reliving in their narrative and to support the learning which facilitated their understanding of what they had been part of. In this new book, I recognise the types of shame that my clients recount and it is interesting to be able to distinguish between the Narcissist and the Co-Narcissist. I find that the co-narcissist is, as Christine discusses, “a modest gentle and humble self that does not need to be the certain of attention”. Part of the therapeutic work is supporting the co-narcissist to look after their own needs and to not work as hard to please others. In explaining the process of shame, she brings an understanding to what is a difficult learning for the child with lack of secure modelling, abandonment and the memories of what they see, hear and feel. The way this shame internalises, positively or negatively, sets up how that young person either develops or not, this unhealthy or toxic shame undermines the self-esteem and confidence of a secure individual leading to the False self which is where their pathological narcissism resides. Christine’s personal recollections shows how a therapist may hear of their experience in living with this behaviour, I have heard similar narratives in clients living and working in households and employment that have experienced this behaviour. Christine explains how the victim cannot understand how anybody can be so manipulative and again this is my experience of clients where they cannot fathom how somebody they might love can treat them in this Jekyll and Hyde fashion. I agree with Christine’s assertion that it does not need to be a direct family member. The narratives I have listened to have been; teachers, extended families, partners, sports coaches, employers and their managers. One other point I have to agree with is that the co-narcissist has a target on their back and until they can develop an ability to recognise the behaviour in therapy they may be subject to a number of narcissistic relationships either professionally or personally. To conclude, I would recommend this book to all therapists so that they are aware of what might be present in a client’s narrative. It is with this knowledge and awareness that one can understand what the client might have experienced in order that we, as professionals, may listen with a possible alternative hypothesis of the client’s experience. I commend Christine in her work and I thank her for enlightening me around this behaviour and in the assistance she offered me at a time when I experienced this behaviour in my professional life. Eugene Mc Hugh, is a Psychotherapist/Counsellor in private practice and a Counsellor Educator in the Psychology Faculty in Dublin Business School. ENDORSEMENTS “Christine's book will bring new awareness to survivors and counsellors alike regarding narcissistic abuse and the shame that all victims endure. The relationship between two people in the dance of toxic narcissism has, thankfully, become mainstream conversation. Leave it to Christine Louis de Canonville to bring something new to the discussion. Everyone attempting to help heal victims needs to digest this work, take notes, and be prepared to help their clients take those needed accountability steps forward to help them past even becoming a survivor of abuse. The real evolution here is around accountability - the ultimate accountability for all of your relationships. Christine brings the relationship with yourself exactly where it needs to be - front and center where real healing begins. The next level starts with this book." —Kristin Walker CEO of Behavioural Health Provider Solutions, and Host of Mental Health News Radio DEDICATION In memory of Gerard, who found life so hard, and made it hard for others. But through you, my dear brother, I found my life’s mission. I hope, at last, that your spirit has found peace in its spiritual home. Table of Contents Foreword Endorsements Dedication Acknowledgements Chapter 01: Introduction ............................................................................. 1 Chapter 02: Toxic Shame: The Narcissist and Co-narcissist Conundrum. ..................... 26 Chapter 03: Is There a Relationship Between Narcissism and Shame? .. 36 Chapter 04: The Narcissists and Co-narcissists Convoluted Dance. ................... 47 Chapter 05: What Is Narcissism and Co-narcissism Coupledom? ..................... 59 Chapter 06: The Narcissistic Pilot and the Co-Narcissist Caretaker Live Parallel Lives. .......................................................................... 73 Chapter 07: Narcissism as a Pattern of Multi-addictions – Especially the addiction to “Self.” .............................................. 82 Chapter 08: The Revealing of the Personality: From Ego Strength to Ego Transcendence. .................................. 94 Chapter 09: The Birth of the Broken Spirit of the Pathological Narcissist. ...... 107 Chapter 10: The Face of Shame in Adulthood. ............................................. 119 Chapter 11: The Formation of a Co-narcissist Caretaker. .............................. 133 Chapter 12: Building Healthy Physical and Psychological Boundaries. ........... 141 Chapter 13: The Origins of Perfectionism (Frozen in the grip of the other). ..... 148 Chapter 14: A Diamond Doesn’t Know Its Worth. ........................................ 158 Chapter 15: “It’s all about me”: The Narcissistic Sexual Predator and Entitlement………………...166 Chapter 16: Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame ............................... 182 Chapter 17: Can the Co-narcissist’s Shame be Cured? ................................... 192 Chapter 18: Narcissistic Abuse from a Shamanic Perspective: “The Narcissist Comes as a Gift, but Only If the Victim Choose to Accept It” ................................................... 231 Bibliography……………….…………………………………………… 244 About the Author ……………………………………............................. 251 ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS I would like to thank all my wonderful teachers throughout the years who have encouraged me to grow, and who brought me to this point of my life, especially Professor Ivor Browne who led me to this path. To the therapists and supervisors who held me through my own personal journey of recovery from pathological narcissistic abuse and shame. To all the clients who allowed me to witness their pain and shame, thus helping me to develop a deeper understanding of the crippling effects of shame, especially in relation to narcissistic abuse. To the Irish Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists who understood the gap in therapists training. They graciously promoted my research and workshops by bringing
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