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2290 W. Prairie Avenue Coeur d’Alene, ID 83815 208-772-7994 CONNECT WITH US! through grief FIND OUT ABOUT SUPPORT GROUPS JOURNEYAPRIL EDITION 04.2020 CONNECT WITH A GRIEF COUNSELOR AND STAY INFORMED ABOUT EVENTS AT WWW.HOSPICEOFNORTHIDAHO.ORG DID YOU KNOW? FUN FACTS ABOUT THIS PUBLICATION THIS MONTH Maintain connection and find support CONTRIBUTORS during this time of Meet the staff behind this publication “Social Distancing” RESOURCES AT YOUR DIGITAL FINGERTIPS SONJA DOVE, LMSW Check out this article on support: Thanks For The Offer, Sonja welcomed her second JUST FOR YOU But I Don’t Know What I Need! at www.whatsyourgrief. grand baby to the world this past Grab your computer com. What’s Your Grief is a site that has supportive articles for all areas of grief. Be sure to peek through December! She is a proud or tablet and curl up the websites other articles and resources that may be mother and grandmother! with a digital version impactful to you on your grief journey. You don’t even need to leave your home! of this month’s DR. ALAN WOLFELT recommended reading. Doctor Wolfelt is the country’s Pg. 2 GET A FRESH PERSPECTIVE Being out in the fresh air has been scientifically proven to positively leader in grief support through impact your mental health! Even better – being out the Companioning Model. See in nature is a great form of social distancing! Go for a walk around your neighborhood, take a drive, or more of his work on his website FIND SUPPORT simply open a window in your home and breathe in https://www.centerforloss.com/ Read an article from some fresh air. And luckily for us, he will be Dr. Alan Wolfelt about coming to Hospice of North your needs in grief, CREATING CONNECTION WHILE KEEPING A Idaho to provide education then register for our SAFE DISTANCE Did you notice this month’s photo and support to our community’s theme? This publication is meant to aide in the effort November event and grievers this fall. Reserve your to build a bridge of connection. In an age of nearly hear him live, in person!. unlimited internet access and social platforms, we seat today for this compassionate encourage you to pick up your phone, go online, and presentation at https://www. Pg. 3 connect with others who are feeling isolated just like you. hospiceofnorthidaho.org/news/ RECOMMENDED POEM MY FRIEND, I CARE by J. Hendel Don’t tell me that you know. FINDING Don’t tell me that I will survive. How I will surely grow. SUPPORT IN Don’t tell me this is just a test, that I am truly blessed. That I am chosen for this task, apart from all the rest. TIMES OF Don’t come at me with answers that can only come from me. Don’t tell me that my grief will pass, that soon I will be free. ISOLATION Don’t stand in pious judgment of the bonds I must untie. Don’t tell me how to suffer, and don’t tell me how to cry. by Kaylee Kron, LMSW, GC-C My life is filled with selfishness, my pain is all I see. One of the most difficult things to say when we are in grief ourselves emotionally, we are also isolated physically. In But I need you, and I need your love unconditionally. is “I need help.” So often, when a well-meaning friend or times like these, we must find support and community in creative ways. This month’s publication is meant to GRIEF IN relative asks, “what can I do to help?”, we honestly do not Accept me in my ups and downs, I need someone to share. know the answer. Almost by accident, we isolate ourselves serve as a road map through this unprecedented time Just hold my hand and let me cry, with the belief that no one can help, because no one can in history. If you find that you are struggling emotionally, understand what we are going through. In some ways, please reach out to Hospice of North Idaho. We remain THE ARTS and say “My friend, I care.” we are right. here for you. RECOMMENDED READING A GRIEF OBSERVED Grief is so incredibly unique, that no one can truly by C.S. Lewis understand what we are going through. However, if we only function on the idea that in order to accept support Written with love, humility, and faith, this brief but poignant from someone, they would have had to go through the AND EVERY DAY, THE WORLD volume was first published in 1961 and concerns the death same situation, we significantly reduce the number of WILL DRAG YOU BY THE HAND, of C. S. Lewis’s wife. Written in longhand in notebooks that individuals who can support us from everyone in our YELLING, “THIS IS IMPORTANT! AND Lewis found in his home, A Grief Observed probes the “mad circle, to no one. The truth is, for someone to support us, midnight moments” of Lewis’s mourning and loss, moments they don’t really need to understand exactly how we feel. THIS IS IMPORTANT! AND THIS IS in which he questioned what he had previously believed What we do need is someone who is willing to listen and IMPORTANT! YOU NEED TO WORRY about life and death, marriage, and even God. Writing A unconditionally accept how we feel without attempting to ABOUT THIS! AND THIS! AND THIS! “ Grief Observed he came to recognize that “bereavement is a change it. AND EACH DAY, IT’S UP TO YOU TO universal and integral part of our experience of love.” YANK YOUR HAND BACK, PUT IT ON Truly, the most healing form of support often comes Lewis writes his statement of faith with precision, humor, and from someone who recognizes that they can never truly YOUR HEART AND SAY, “NO, THIS IS grace. Yet neither is Lewis reluctant to confess his continuing understand, and shows up anyway. This support is rare, WHAT’S IMPORTANT”. doubts and his awareness of his own human frailty. This is but oh so very valuable. -IAIN THOMAS precisely the quality which suggests that A Grief Observed may become “among the great devotional books of Now that our nation is faced with the incredibly difficult task our age.” This book is available in digital format through of Social Distancing, we as grievers are not only isolating Amazon.com. No need to leave your home! RECOMMENDED POEM MY FRIEND, I CARE by J. Hendel Don’t tell me that you know. FINDING Don’t tell me that I will survive. How I will surely grow. SUPPORT IN Don’t tell me this is just a test, that I am truly blessed. That I am chosen for this task, apart from all the rest. TIMES OF Don’t come at me with answers that can only come from me. Don’t tell me that my grief will pass, that soon I will be free. ISOLATION Don’t stand in pious judgment of the bonds I must untie. Don’t tell me how to suffer, and don’t tell me how to cry. by Kaylee Kron, LMSW, GC-C My life is filled with selfishness, my pain is all I see. One of the most difficult things to say when we are in grief ourselves emotionally, we are also isolated physically. In But I need you, and I need your love unconditionally. is “I need help.” So often, when a well-meaning friend or times like these, we must find support and community in creative ways. This month’s publication is meant to GRIEF IN relative asks, “what can I do to help?”, we honestly do not Accept me in my ups and downs, I need someone to share. know the answer. Almost by accident, we isolate ourselves serve as a road map through this unprecedented time Just hold my hand and let me cry, with the belief that no one can help, because no one can in history. If you find that you are struggling emotionally, understand what we are going through. In some ways, please reach out to Hospice of North Idaho. We remain THE ARTS and say “My friend, I care.” we are right. here for you. RECOMMENDED READING A GRIEF OBSERVED Grief is so incredibly unique, that no one can truly by C.S. Lewis understand what we are going through. However, if we only function on the idea that in order to accept support Written with love, humility, and faith, this brief but poignant from someone, they would have had to go through the AND EVERY DAY, THE WORLD volume was first published in 1961 and concerns the death same situation, we significantly reduce the number of WILL DRAG YOU BY THE HAND, of C. S. Lewis’s wife. Written in longhand in notebooks that individuals who can support us from everyone in our YELLING, “THIS IS IMPORTANT! AND Lewis found in his home, A Grief Observed probes the “mad circle, to no one. The truth is, for someone to support us, midnight moments” of Lewis’s mourning and loss, moments they don’t really need to understand exactly how we feel. THIS IS IMPORTANT! AND THIS IS in which he questioned what he had previously believed What we do need is someone who is willing to listen and IMPORTANT! YOU NEED TO WORRY about life and death, marriage, and even God. Writing A unconditionally accept how we feel without attempting to ABOUT THIS! AND THIS! AND THIS! “ Grief Observed he came to recognize that “bereavement is a change it.