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PURIM COSTUMES! 38 PRESIDENT TRUMP WITH ISRAELI PRIME MINISTER BENJAMIN NETANYAHU HOLDING A PROCLAMATION MARKING ISRAEL’S SOVEREIGNTY OVER GOLAN HEIGHTS What To Make Of A Historic Pro-Israel Presidency JONATHAN S. TOBIN Secretary of State Mike Pompeo Iranian menace?” remains.” said something last week timed to the Pompeo’s response went directly to Many heard this and mocked (with PM OF ISRAEL BENJAMIN NETANYAHU AND US SEC. OF STATE POMPEO VISITING Jewish holiday Purim that made a lot the point: “As a Christian, I certainly good reason) the notion that Trump THE WESTERN WALL AND ITS TUNNELS of people snicker. When asked by an believe that is possible.” He went on to could possibly be compared to the interviewer by the Christian Broad- say that he is confident that the Lord heroine of the Purim story. IN THIS casting Network if U.S. President Don- is at work here,” when he surveyed But so deep runs the contempt for ISSUE ald Trump had been “raised for such a “the work our administration has Christian conservatives among some time as this, just like Queen Esther to done to make sure this democracy in sectors of the chattering classes, as Closer To The Day help save the Jewish people from the the Middle East, that this Jewish state, CONT. ON P12 Shalom Pollack...... 4 One Huge Steak Roy Neuberger...... 8 Question to My Fellow Jews: How The anti-Semitism crisis in the Thankful for Every Step Can You Still Vote Democrat? Democratic Party Alan Magill...... 12 JASON MEISTER ALEX JOFFE Social Media Marketing Online I am an American Jew. I’m part of a demographic The Democratic Party has been overtaken by an an- Mordy Glaser...... 15 that overwhelmingly votes Democrat. Three out of every ti-Semitism crisis, a process of “Corbynization” akin to that Multigrain Muffins four Jewish-Americans are Democrats. Most of my Jew- of the British Labour Party. The process’s three principal Tamar Genger MA RD...... 22 ish friends, family members, and neighbors are all Dem- proponents—Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, Rashida Tlaib and ocrats. Yet, I will never understand the political loyalty of Ilhan Omar—personify the three components of socialism, JNS NEWS...... 30 American Jews to a party that has devastatingly failed to Palestinianism and Islamism given impunity by the con- stamp out rabid anti-Semitism within its highest ranks. cept of “intersectionality.” During World War II, anti-Semitism was rooted in The trajectory of their red-green alliance is leading CONT. ON P20 CONT. ON P5

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Freedom of expression. Jewish blood has (and is) being CLOSER TO No wonder the Israeli (Jewish) spilled to keep them asleep. Night public have a growing disdain for can no longer be acclaimed as day. this institution. The proponent It is not working as it did before. THE DAY of extreme and overriding “legal The Left (many Left politicians Shalom Pollack activism” has established it as the flee from the unpopular label and determining voice in Israel. When insist they are “Centrists”) will self-appointed judges are of one suffer another defeat, B”H in three It is getting closer. We are get- ruling. political/cultural mold, the ballot weeks and Bibi will be prime min- ting closer to the day when the At the same time, a number of box loses meaning. Democracy is ister again. He has also not ful- donkey that has been carrying political parties whose members made a mokery and is in serious filled the wishes of the people. He a haughty and derisive rider on have been either jailed for severe danger. This arrangement is per- runs from battles and prefers quiet its back will kick that domineer- breaches of Israel’s security or fect for those (the Left and Arab and his own power over principle. ing one off and leave him far have escaped Israel after aiding parties) who can’t win a majority He has failed the people but has behind. The donkey bearing the the enemy in time of war, are in the Knesset on election day. managed to hang onto power em- heavy burden I refer to is the vast allowed once again to warm the Until today (with the excep- ploying very deft politicking and majority of citizens of Israel. The Knesset seats in the hated state tion recently of Ayelet Shaked) no good speeches. haughty rider is Israel’s supreme of Israel. Amongst these repre- “right wing” leader has found the Hopefully, just as the masses no court. sentatives of the Jewish state is a strength to stand up to the self- longer accept the moral authority Yesterday, we were treated to “Jewish” member of one of these appointed monitors of (“correct’) of the courts, so too will their eyes yet another example of how it anti-Israel parties. Mr. Kasif is a thought and speech. “1984” has open wider yet and elect people rides roughshod over the donkey “philosopher”, a Communist and arrived just a few years late, in the who do have the strength, faith, that has been its unwilling and an enemy of the Jewish state idea. nineties with super Liberal justice and moral fortitude to fight for humiliated carrier for years. The He justifies the murder of Israeli Barak and has since been jeal- them - for real. Very few such supreme court made history yes- soldiers and wants to do away ously defended by the other Left people are running in this elec- terday. For the very first time, it with Israel as a Jewish state. elites (in politics, justice, media, tion. Thankfully there is a ray of barred a citizen from running for The law states that one can not entertainment, academia) as the hope which I pray will become a the Knesset. This is a first. Turn- run for the Knesset if he(she) de- final bulwark that protects them full-blown sunny day very soon. ing over a vote by a Knesset com- nies Israel as a Jewish state. from the will of the people. Only G-d willing. mittee, the court ruled that Dr. Other individual Knesset mem- this guarantees their position and www.shalompollacktours.com Ben Ari of the “Otzmat Yehudit” bers were on board a terrorist ship power. Great Golan tour on Sunday, party may not run for the Knes- that engaged the IDF. Others were The people of Israel are waking April 7. Special Pesach Chol set. He was barred on the grounds guests of honor at rallies for the up from a long stupor cleverly Hamoed tour on Monday, April that he is a “racist”. No proof was Hizbullah in Lebanon. administered by a well-oiled and 22. You will love them! What a mentioned in the delivery - just a Kosher. powerful machine. Too much country!!!! 4 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 3/29/19

JOFEE antipathy towards Jews, disgust CONT. FROM P1 with America and conspiratorial the Democratic Party towards worldview are entirely prod- socialism. For American Jews, this ucts of her religious and cultural means their deep allegiance to the backgrounds. Indeed, it was her Democratic Party over many gen- eagerness to express her negativ- erations has been rewarded with ity about American Jews and the abandonment and suspicion. For United States that precipitated the Israel, there is the prospect of a current party crisis. But she is, by future Democratic administration virtue of her gender, “race” and that advocates its destruction. For faith, the literal trifecta of “inter- the rest of the world, the party’s sectionality.” Any criticism of her severe inward turn portends glob- is automatically an attack on all al retreat. women, all “people of color” and With astonishing rapidity, all Muslims. Therefore, she can, the U.S. Democratic Party has and does, say anything at all with succumbed to Corbynization. near impunity. And with support Tweets and other statements by from CAIR, the Muslim Brother- newly elected members of Con- hood’s arm in the United States, gress have asserted that American she is linked to that organization’s Jews are disloyal, that support for global aims, if not methods. Israel is bought, and that accusa- Three otherwise unexcep- tions of anti-Semitism are used as tional characters have thus come weapons to silence dissent over together to form a so far un- Israel and the role of Jews. stoppable force. They gain their Though long anticipated, few unassailability through “intersec- expected that the process would tionality”—the ideology that all take only a few weeks. However, injustices are in effect one, and the nature and dimensions of the which in practice has become Democrats’ problem far transcend a reductio ad Juden. The three- that of the Labour Party in Britain. pronged assault by “women of The potential transformation of color,” “Palestine” and Muslims the United States has global rami- cannot be challenged. And togeth- fications. er, they have successfully changed Ocasio-Cortez is the Social- the parameters of the discussion ist—blithe, ignorant, media-savvy regarding Israel. As Ocasio-Cor- and media-anointed face of a tez put it, support for Israel today It has set the stage, however, for a including legitimization of the generational rebellion against the should be equated with support 15 Jacobin rebellion. worldview in which “the Jews” are aged Democratic leadership. A years ago for the Iraq War—that is These Middle Eastern-style central, and where their loyalties true representative of her gener- to say, an evil that must be con- politics, where the state and media and “influence” are legitimate ation, she is defiantly ignorant of fronted. are subordinated to political par- topics for debate, along with a re- economics, history and politics, So hollowed out as an in- ties, began with President Barack assessment of U.S. policy towards and is protected by an equally tellectual and moral force is the Obama. It was he who came into Israel, not as one of several special defiant attitude of entitlement Democratic Party that House office seeking to put “daylight” be- relationships but as a unique and that repels criticism, converting Majority Leader Nancy Pelosi and tween the United States and Israel; spectral one. policy disagreements into putative all the current presidential candi- who was behind the creation of For American Jews, the situa- attacks on her gender, “woman of dates have fallen in line with the new organizations such as J Street tion is suddenly dire. The political color” status and “life experience.” rebels. This craven collapse is mo- to destroy the American Jewish party where a majority of them Tlaib, a Palestinian Amer- tivated by fears that the insurgents consensus on Israel; who created have found a home for a century ican, is the Palestinian part of will channel millennial support an interlocking structure of party, has repudiated their concerns and the equation. She is essentially a and seize the party organs. Sine- state and media; who demonized fears, relegating them to the bot- one-issue person (“Palestine”) and cures aside, their paralysis is also Netanyahu and his supporters tom of the heap. Their votes, too, as a “woman of color,” her bona driven by their profound loathing at every opportunity in order to no longer seem to matter. They fides are unassailable. But by “Pal- for U.S. President Donald Trump, cripple liberal Jews and to dimin- are, after all, a shrinking minority estine,” she means not support for which anathematizes him into ish American public support for soon to be outpaced by Muslim a Palestinian state alongside Israel, an existential evil; by their anger Israel; and who, perhaps most Americans. Their celebration of but Israel’s complete dismember- over the 2016 election, which consequentially, opened the door Democratic values for generations ment. Like all American support- was supposed to have been fixed wide to Muslim immigration. has brought them little loyalty or ers of “Palestine,” her articulation for Hillary Clinton by the “deep The Corbynization of the even forbearance. of that state is vague. But Tlaib is state”; by a nihilistic rage that Democratic Party is one conse- In the longer term, the global the vital bridge to the “most im- legitimizes all measures to fight quence. But Omar’s recent attacks consequences of American so- portant issue of our time,” which Trump’s “radicalism”; and by an on Obama, in which she alleged cialism and a triumphant red- motivates minorities, Muslims absolute will to power never seen that he was merely Trump with a green alliance—still unrealized and increasingly millennials via before in American history. The pretty face, unleashing the same and avoidable—are grim. For the the idea of “intersectionality.” willingness to extend the corrup- American violence worldwide, are world, the possibility of real iso- To be against “Palestine” is to be tion of all American institutions, also entirely predictable. Radical- lationism from America’s global against justice itself. including the intelligence and ization, once unleashed, has no security commitments is a seri- Representing the minori- justice systems and the media, to bounds. ous danger. NATO and Chinese ty plus ultra is Omar, a Somali undermine Trump and punish The short-term effects of expansionism are remote issues Muslim from Minnesota. Her his supporters has no precedent. this process are already clear, CONT.ON P7 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 5 3/29/19

out that it is far better to achieve account that a person is a physi- Aharon’s Silence atonement for a transgression by cal being, he gains from silence. Mordechai Lewis suffering an insult in silence than Speaking is... a physically based to undergo physical punishment power. Speech is a physical at- “The sons of Aharon, Nadav What is the value of silence? which may interfere with one’s tribute, not a mental one at all. and Avihu, each took his fire pan, The Gemara says, “When a person ability to perform mitzvos or For that reason, speech should be they put fire in them and placed ignores insults, Heaven ignores study Torah. shunned so as not to suffer from incense upon it; and they brought his or her sins.” Here is some food for thought: an error or mental disintegration. before Hashem a strange fire that Why? A stupid person who is silent When a person is involved in He had not commanded them. A Rashi explains that a person is considered to be wise. Silence is verbal activity, he is negating his fire came forth from before Hash- who “does not stand on principle” lovely for a wise man, all the more mental resources… One should, em and consumed them, and they is someone who is not exacting so for a fool. Therefore, “One who therefore [try to] maintain silence died before Hashem.” with people who cause him grief guards his mouth and tongue pro- and take initiatives with his intel- What was Aharon’s reaction? overcomes his impulses [for ven- tects himself from trouble.” Avos lectual features that are not cor- He could’ve complained. As geance] and just continues on his recommends, “The best medicine poreal, as is the power of speech, Gemara says, “A person whose way. We also find that whoever is that is most beneficial for one’s thus avoiding errors.” suffering causes him to challenge compassionate to people, Heav- body, is silence. Shlomo HaMelech says, G-d is not sinful.” No, Aharon did en will be compassionate to him. The Maharal writes: “Silence is Your [i.e. Hashem’s] just the opposite! He fell silent. Rabbi Moshe Cordovero points The point is that taking into CONT.ON P7

What did it take for the slaves who Have we dared to try to combine Rabbi Dr. Bernhard Rosenberg left Egypt to finally change their tradition with innovation? Or do mistaken ways? It took nothing. we say this is the way we’ve always QUESTIONS FOR PASSOVER Most never did. They died in the done it, and it’s good enough for physical wilderness, in their arid me. The great message of Passover We are informed that a full out to be easier than taking Egypt mental deserts. is that we are free. We can make 80% of the Jews who were slaves, out of the slaves. No sooner did Will we ever change our ways? legitimate, legal, halachically cor- actually chose to stay in Egypt the slaves leave than they yearned Are our bodies here but our rect, moral changes in our ways of rather than join the freedom band- to return. Well may we ask: Are minds imprisoned in an Egypt of doing many things. But so many wagon. Many of the slaves who left we still enslaved to outdated no- our own making? Is even our sed- of us are enslaved to habit and by Egypt remained there psychologi- tions regarding the ways in which er experience the same old same the “familiar.” cally. Taking the remaining 20% we live our lives? How difficult old? Are we enslaved to old tired Also, the fact that many of of the slaves out of Egypt turned is change for the human species? out ways of conducting the seder? CONT.ON P7

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A prominent rosh yeshiva once ness of the physical heart reflects remarked to me, “I never ate a sickness of the spiritual heart. steak in my life.” This is a great problem, because our goal is to “love Hashem, your This comment stayed with me, G-d, with all your heart ….” If the because it represents such a devi- pathway to the heart is blocked, ation from the norm, even among we are in trouble. It would appear the observant community. We that the mitzvah of Parah Aduma have to understand how subservi- represents the cure for the disease ent we are to a dominant culture which blocks us from dvaikus with whose lifestyle has enveloped us Hashem. If our desire is towards without our understanding what is gashmius, the prognosis is fatal. happening. I feel this problem on a personal level. Most of you who read The Para Aduma is one these words were brought up sur- huge steak. rounded by mitzvos and a Torah “A steer weighing 1,000 perspective. But I grew up in that pounds … will average around 430 assimilated world in which all that pounds of retail cuts.” (Oklahoma is recognized are material objects Department of Agriculture, Food and the only power acknowledged and Forestry) “Steers, heifers, and is material power, i.e. government, bullocks produce beef of the high- military, police, or the charisma of est quality.” (The Food School, an influential person. There is no California) knowledge of a Power Who Rules The Para Aduma represents a All, and of the neshoma which can life submerged in gashmius, which connect to that Ruling Power. blocks our ability to connect with In such a world, the neshoma Hashem. This is arguably the feels abandoned, a prisoner with- Hashem l’negdi samid … I have pulverize and burn this obsession central problem of mankind. It ap- in the body. No one remembers set Hashem before me always. with gashmius, we cannot leave pears to be identical with what oc- that it exists. It is starving, while Because He is at my right hand I Mitzraim! The proof of this awe- curred at the primal stage of life in the body is being luxuriously fed. shall not falter.” (Tehillim 16) some challenge is that at least four this world, when Chava disobeyed Even now, after I have discovered When I say “Shema,” I try to fifths of Am Yisroel never in fact Hashem’s one explicit mitzvah by Hashem, I am struggling to rise internalize the fact that Hashem did leave Mitzraim! (See Rashi on eating from the Aitz Hadas. It all from the condition in which I was encompasses the entire world; Shemos 10:22 and 13:18 and other began with a taiva for food. raised. I am not saying that I am there is nothing outside Him. commentators.) “Coronary heart disease is the unique in this regard, but I still The infinite details and worries Perhaps the halachos of Parah leading killer of women and men feel it strongly. of life are subservient to Him; all Aduma are incomprehensible to in western civilization. It is pre- You may recognize this expe- is in order if we focus upon Him us precisely because our spiritual dicted to become the number one rience: I am davening Shemoneh alone. But we are overwhelmed by arteries are so clogged. We cannot global disease burden by 2020. It Esreh. I am standing in front of distractions, which the Satan so comprehend the extent of this consists of an inflammatory build- the Kisai Hakavod. And what cleverly places before us. To focus spiritual blockage which has its up of blockages in arteries to the am I thinking about? Practically upon Hashem is a never-ending roots buried so deeply in our past. heart muscle…. everything under the sun. Here is effort, and that is why Am Yisroel When we are cleansed, everything “Who develops heart disease? a moshel: a man is admiring the is enjoined to involve ourselves will become crystal clear! Everyone eating the typical west- display in a store window. Sud- constantly in Torah, “while you sit We beg Hashem: Please purify ern diet …. [In cultures] where denly, someone hits him twice on in your home, while you walk on us now with the ashes of the Parah there is a virtual absence of coro- the chest! Oy! What’s going on!? the way and when you retire and Aduma! nary artery heart disease … their “Oh! I forgot! I am davening! I you arise.” nutrition is plant based ….” (Dr. just said, ‘chatanu … fashanu!’” The clogged arteries leading to Roy Neuberger’s latest book is Caldwell B. 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an unfair advantage to the animal This seems to be the answer to the “THE SHMUZ” soul. They strengthen it and give it question on the Rabbeinu Bechaye. extra force. Just as too much caffeine Within man, HASHEM implanted a Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier causes people to be jittery, anxious, neshamah so pure that it pulls him and short-tempered, certain foods to greatness. Its only desire is to be PRIMED FOR SPIRITUAL PERFECTION affect our spiritual balance. When as much like HASHEM as it can be. meat and milk are cooked together, HASHEM is perfect. HASHEM is PARSHAS SHEMINI the combination strengthens the holy. And so, man’s neshamah pulls animal soul of man. To understand toward perfection, toward becoming how it does that, you would need to as holy as a human can be. “For I am HASHEM your G-d — life to defend him. But when the dog be a scientist of the soul. That law you are to sanctify yourselves and sleeps, its body lies there flat and is called a chok because the average The difficulty with man reaching you shall become holy, for I am holy; almost lifeless. When it wakes up, its person isn’t schooled enough in spir- this state is that his animal soul tugs and you shall not make your souls essence comes back again. That part ituality to understand how it works. him toward everything temporal and impure through any creeping things of the animal, its inner essence, is its But the Torah warns us against this passing. Its desires are immediate that creeps on the earth.” — Vayikra animal soul. combination because it has the effect and mundane — the opposite of all 11:44 of making the animal soul more that is holy and sublime. The more HASHEM implanted into the an- powerful and primary. that man gives in to these desires, The Torah seems to be connect- imal soul all of the drives it will need the stronger their pull on him. If left ing holiness with not eating impure for its survival. A cat hunts mice by The Gemara (Yoma 39) tells us unchecked, they would turn him food. Rabbeinu Bechaye explains instinct. A bird eats worms because that treif food deadens the heart of into an animal in the form of a man. that this is the Torah system for spir- of an inner urge. Those instincts and man. When a person eats forbidden So the Torah warns us against these itual growth. By keeping the mitzvos hungers are part of the animal soul. foods, it becomes more difficult for activities that will prevent us from in general and by not eating forbid- him to feel the holiness of Shabbos, den foods specifically, the desires in Man also has an animal soul. CONT.ON P10 to learn Torah, and to feel another man become weaker and his seichel There is a part of him that yearns person’s pain. Why is this? Because becomes stronger. Thereby, he be- for physical things. He desires to in that fine balance of his person- comes holy. eat, sleep, and procreate. HASHEM ality, the animal soul has been put into man’s animal soul all of the strengthened, and by consequence, This concept is very difficult inclinations he needs to stay alive. his neshamah is weakened. The per- to understand. Controlling one’s If he follows these instincts, he will son becomes more animal-like and desires is a fine notion, but how does survive, and the species of mankind less G-d-like. And now, it is more that make a person sacred? It may will continue. difficult for him to relate to spiritual stop him from becoming a hedonist, The fight in man matters. but it won’t make him holy. These two elements of man are opposites and are competing for A pull to holiness The nature of man primacy. Each vies for control over The answer to this question is the person. As a result, man is in based on a more focused under- constant flux. The more he uses one standing of human nature. side, the stronger and more influential it becomes. Much like a muscle The Chovos HaLevavos (Sha’ar that becomes stronger with use and THE Avodas Elokim 3:2) explains: When atrophies with disuse, if a person JEWISH HASHEM created man, He joined uses his spiritual soul to control his SERVING THE ENTIRE JEWISH COMMUNITY two distinct elements to form his liv- animal soul, it becomes stronger, ing soul. These are his spiritual soul and he becomes elevated. If he gives (what we call his neshamah) and his in to his desires, then the animal soul animal soul. The conscious “I” that gains command. His desires become Get your FREE thinks and feels is made up of both more intense and frequent. They de- parts. The neshamah comes from mand to be fulfilled more often and under the throne of HASHEM’s with more force until man becomes copy of glory. It is pure and lofty, holy and controlled by his drives. sublime. All that it wishes for is that which is good, proper, and noble. Life is a battle between these two The Jewish Because it comes from the upper forces. Ideally, if a person succeeds worlds, it derives no benefit from completely, his pure intellectual soul this world and can’t relate to any of will harness his animal soul and use Connection its pleasures. The other part of man’s it for the purpose of keeping himself soul is very different. It is exactly like alive. However, if a person allows his delivered to you that of an animal, with all of the pas- animal desires to win and he follows sions and desires necessary to keep it their natural pull without controlling alive. That is his animal soul. them, they will become stronger and by Email. eventually rule over him. An animal has a living essence. In fine balance Just like man, it has a part that isn’t Most of the mitzvos of the Torah physical, but spiritual. 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SHMUZ neshamah will shine. Don’t do that Rabbi Eliyahu Kirsh CONT. FROM P9 because it will sully you and make attaining a true state of holiness. it more difficult for you to actualize From Rashi and Kedushas Levi From Toras Chaim (Kossov) your potential. IN OUR LIVES Holiness is inborn in us. All we Shmini- Kashrus as a Preparation This concept is particularly rele- need to do is use the system to bring for Prophecy vant because the Torah is teaching it out. When we do, we fulfill the us that being holy isn’t foreign to us. reason for Creation and our purpose Quite the opposite, it is part of our for being put into this world. We In Vayikra Chapter 11 the gardless of any reasoning, nev- very nature. Half of our personality become more like HASHEM; we laws of kashrus are introduced to ertheless there are times we are only wishes for that which is elevated become holy. us. Moshe Rabbeinu states that can glean some insights form the and proper. If we listen to that side, Rabbi Shafier is the founder of the Shmuz. com – The Shmuz is an engaging, motivat- these are these are the animals words in the Torah regarding why we will be holy. The difficulty is that ing shiur that deals with real life issues. that we shall eat. Rashi gives us a we do certain mitzvos. As stated, there is another half of us blocking All of the Shmuzin are available free of charge at www.theShmuz.com or on number of insights before we get the word chaya generally refers the way to that state. To grow, we the Shmuz App for iphone or Android. into the details of this major area to wild animals. However, the have to resist its call and stand up Simply text the word “TheShmuz” to the number 313131 and a link will be sent to of Torah observance. 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Mitchell First ESQ. and animals listed in the Torah so Only Hakadosh Baruch Hu, the that people could readily identify source of all life, both physical and Understanding Personal Injury exactly what is forbidden and what spiritual, can determine how to Law in New York State: Accidents is permitted. Perhaps, that gener- attain this spiritual life and one of in Supermarkets ation had the clearest guidance in the primary obstacles to its attain- this area. Besides being guided by ment is consumption foods that People often come to us after win at trial in such a case unless Moshe Rabbeinu who heard ev- are spiritually unclean. slipping on food in supermarkets. you prove that the supermar- erything directly from Hakadosh The clients commonly assume that ket had either “actual notice” or Baruch Hu, they also had the right The Kedushas Levi ex- these are strong cases. 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If it’s more than that, But, what about children that are so As a parent, what do you do? language, institutions, behaviors. it’s worth learning more about Op- far off of the spectrum? What about If you are a parent who is dealing People look at me, and positional Defiant Disorder. children who make those with dis- with a child who exhibits relentlessly and see only the words inside their Dr. Riley explains, “Children orders look like a simple irritation? defiant behavior, know that you are skulls that they have already used to pass through several stages as they In May 2014, the American Psychi- not alone. The first step in helping judge me. mature, stages in which they chal- atric Association decided to include your child and your family is to un- Perform well = positive judgment. lenge your authority, in which they a new diagnosis into the Diagnostic derstand what you are dealing with Perform poorly = negative. question your most cherished beliefs. and Statistical Manual of Mental – it is normal growth, Oppositional My future is a long dark tunnel of It is appropriate for a child to push Disorders (DSM), a manual used to Defiant Disorder, or Disruptive being invisible, eclipsed by grades, limits… It becomes important to un- diagnose mental disorders. Mood Dysregulation Disorder? Once resumes, so many markers of status. derstand what represents a ‘normal’ The new diagnosis is called you understand the diagnosis, you The only thing left to do is stop per- amount of oppositional behavior Disruptive Mood Dysregulation can gain tools and support to make forming and wait to be recognized. and where the boundary of “nor- Disorder (DMDD). The defining your life and those around you less I am defiant because of the misguid- mal” ends. In general, oppositional characteristic of Disruptive Mood angry, less stressful, and a lot more ed hope that one day I will be seen. children have a drive to defeat adults Dysregulation Disorder in children fun! - S.H. Steele that assumes absurd proportions. is a chronic, severe and persistent An acclaimed educator and education con- irritability. This irritability is fre- sultant, Mrs. Rifka Schonfeld has served They are as relentless as gravity in the Jewish community for close to thirty The poem above is written from their pursuit of proving adults to be quently displayed by the child as years. She founded and directs the widely temper tantrums or fits that occur acclaimed educational program, SOS, the perspective of someone dealing wrong, stupid, or both.” servicing all grade levels in secular as well with Oppositional Defiant Disorder Below, I have assembled a few three or more times per week. Even as Hebrew studies. A kriah and reading when the child is not having a fit, he specialist, she has given dynamic work- (ODD), someone who acts out and “rules” about the behavior of chil- shops and has set up reading labs in many throws fits in order to be seen. What dren with Oppositional Defiant will appear to be in a persistently an- schools. In addition, she offers evalua- gry mood. 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I have often maintained that part of a refuah is, when one is able to, to get Alan Magill back to what makes them tick. Avraham Avinu at an advanced age was recover- ing from his bris and I believe that part of his recovery was to be able to have the joy to invite three strangers in for a meal. THANKFUL FOR You couldn’t call the man in the next bed to me a stranger after three days EVERY STEP in the hospital. In a few conversations with this Irishman of a certain age, I had learned bits and pieces about his life. Including that he had been to Dublin and There are many lessons I learned from my recent hospitalization. One of that Phoenix park was beautiful. Motzei Shabbos, about 4 in the morning, I was them relates to the onset of my illness, when a virus in my ear caused me to have wide awake. I had earlier looked up Phoenix Park, Dublin, on my smart phone no balance, even to walk one step. I told the excellent Hatzolah men to “treat me and saw that it was indeed beautiful. I had wanted to show him the picture but he like a baby” as they would have to be the ones who “cradled” me out on the chair was often either sleeping or being attended to by nurses. to the ambulance. But on that night at 4 a.m. a nurse came in to draw his blood. As she left I received excellent care at Mount Sinai Brooklyn Hospital. After a day there I saw my opportunity. I walked with my walker the few steps to the other side I began hobbling around my room. What a JOY to be able to ambulate even a of the curtain to see him and saw that he had not yet fallen back asleep. I ex- few steps by myself. By the second day, with the aid of a walker, I was improving changed greetings with him and asked if he would like to see a picture of Phoenix by leaps and bounds! I could even venture out to the hallway about 20 feet and Park. I was delighted that he was genuinely interested and I moved closer to come back. Each day, I improved more and more and by the fourth day I could him and held my phone near his face. He stared at it for a few seconds and I was walk on my own about 50 feet. And from this I understood for the first time in concerned that the image may have been too small for him. Then he said, with my life that I need to be thankful to Hashem for every step I take. a smile on his face, “Yep, that’s Phoenix Park.” Still smiling, he looked at it for Another lesson I learned is how much it meant to me to have people visit. about five seconds and then drifted off to sleep. It did wonders for my refuah Even if it was a stranger from a Bikur Cholim group who came in to wish me that I was able to help him “go home,” even for just a short time. well, it brightened my day. It made me realize that even if I have only an ab- After five days in the hospital I was feeling much better, walking better, and breviated short time for a Shabbos Bikur Cholim visit to a hospital, that words thankfully I was able to go home. I was grateful for the care that I got from the of encouragement and greeting, however short in duration, could help to fill a Mount Sinai Brooklyn staff. If they had just done their job well, it would have whole in a person’s loneliness and a need to feel connected. been enough. But for them, it was beyond a job. It was a calling. Shabbos night was very challenging for me. By day, my wife Miriam visited So I did what I thought what was important to do. I sent a letter and a num- and we talked on the phone and I also had other visits from friends. Without a ber of emails of thanks to key Mount Sinai staff. Chumash in the hospital, I was delighted to find a web site on my Smart Phone Now I am back to work and feeling much, much better. May we never need that had that week’s sedra, line by line, in Hebrew and then in English. to go into a hospital, but if we do, may we be healed and may we be a part of the I also found a web site where a man gives Bar Mitzvah lessons, and I heard healing process as well. After five days in the hospital I was feeling much bet- a beautiful reading of that week’s Haftorah. Thanks to a dedicated staff member ter, walking better, and thankfully I was able to go home. I was grateful for the there – David Adonolem – I was given challahs and grape juice for my Shabbos care that I got from the Mount Sinai Brooklyn staff. If they had just done their seudahs. job well, it would have been enough. But for them, it was beyond a job. It was a As Friday afternoon gave way to evening, I was grateful that I could daven calling. Kabbalat Shabbat and Maariv and then make Kiddush and wash over bread and I can be reached at [email protected] then have my delicious seudah of chicken and other delicacies. Then…there was a lot of blank space. I tried to read and before long I was tired. All right, I would go to sleep CHANI’S which I did. But I got up at 11:30 p.m. wide awake and a long night loomed ahead of me. I took a little walk, I read, took another walk and read again. I realized how different the hospital experience was not to be able to be connected to others like Sudoku on a weekday. And then it hit me. I understood the greatness of people who are alone not one Shabbos, but a lot of Shabbosim. People, who through no fault of their own, find themselves outside of a Jewish community, and they observe the Puzzle Shabbos all alone. Also, what it must be like for single people who might go to Complete the grid so that every row, column and shul, but may go home all alone for their seudahs. Given what it felt like to me 3x3 box contains every digit from 1 to 9 inclusively. to be alone one Shabbos night, it increased my awareness to try and invite, along with my wife, people for Shabbos seudahs who otherwise might be alone. 1 7 6 1 TOBIN policy.” The magazine blasted CONT. FROM P1 the administration’s policies on well as the foreign-policy estab- Pompeo’s own evangelical faith. 7 3 6 lishment, that Pompeo’s willing- TNR and other voices on the left ness to speak of “the Lord” was have often blamed Trump’s tilt 1 5 enough to set eyes rolling. towards Israel on a desire to curry Others, like Rabbi Jonah favor with evangelicals. 2 5 4 Pesner, the head of the Religious As with every discussion of Action Center of Reform Juda- Christian support for Israel, 1 8 ism, deplored the introduction of Pompeo’s comments prompted theology—even one that is fa- some to regurgitate the familiar 8 vorable to Zionism and the Jewish claims from some on the left that 2 people—into any discussion of avowed Christian Zionists, like the foreign policy. secretary of state, are only sup- 9 3 7 That was an opinion echoed in porting Israel because they wish to The New Republic. It published set off an apocalyptic scenario that 9 5 7 1 a scathing attack on Trump and would generate the return of the Pompeo for seeking to carry out a Christian messiah. ANSWER TO TIS WEEKS SUDOKU ON PAE “Christianization of U.S. foreign CONT.ON P14 6 12 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 3/29/19

mility results in the “fear of sin.” also formed from the clay of the Rabbi Eliyahu Safran For the truly pious, fear of sin is earth. Whatever we do, wherever the prelude for all that is G-dly. we turn, sin, error and failure SHEMINI That said, humility does not come await us. naturally to us. True humility is Aharon stood as the Kohen the Power of Humility not a mere “absence” – an ab- Gadol and yet, he would forever sence of arrogance or haughtiness. remain humbled by his crushing “Rav, we beseech you,” the pointment to be politically mo- Rather, it is a fullness of the gen- failure at the altar of the golden townspeople of Simonia called tivated or personally favored by tleness and piety that comes from calf. Lekach nivecharta, Moshe out, approached Rav Yehuda Moshe. a true fear of sin. Humility is not responded to Aharon’s reticence. HaNasi. “Rav, send us someone Despite all this, like Levi, Aha- a single act but a stance, an ap- It was precisely because of his to lead us, to teach us Torah, and ron remained reticent when the proach to life which encompasses remembrance of his dreadful sin to take care of our needs. Send us time came to discharge his duties every aspect of human thought that he was most worthy to stand someone like you.” as Kohen Gadol. and behavior. in the service of G-d. For that To this request, Rav Yehuda “Approach the altar,” Moshe Humility is only achieved remembrance inspired the humil- HaNasi “gave them Levi bar Sisi.” prompted him, “and prepare your through experience. Indeed, ity which made him great. The people of Simonia were sin and burnt offerings.” humility is the necessary result Only the truly humble can be thrilled by news that their spir- Certainly, Aharon was not of an awareness of our profound made great. And only he who has itual leader would soon be among confused as to his tasks. They had imperfection. Though we are cre- sinned can know humility. Maha- them. In anticipation, they been assigned by HaShem Him- ated in the image of G-d, we are CONT. ON P15 constructed a large bimah, with self! Rather, Aharon was humbled a throne-like chair upon which by the awesome tasks before him. Levi bar Sis would sit. When he Shehaya Aharon bosh ve’yare ope Solid Lotion arrived, they placed him upon that lageshet. If you can’t eat it, don’t put it on your skin! chair, and praised him with all Did not Moshe understand Dr. adassah Chaya Davies Pardo manner of praise; so happy were Aharon’s fear and trembling? Af- Lotionist and Owner they to have him amongst them. ter all, Moshe himself tried to turn Soon, they began to approach away from his calling at the Burn- him with their sh’alos. 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presence in Syria must be coun- It is playing with fire and could tered in all aspects. be hazardous to one’s health. JOSEPH FRAGER, MD This sends a powerful message. My suggestion is to wait till the It also highlights the fact that the second term. We are too close to POTUS Has Recognized Israel’s Rights to most essential aspect of security is the American Election right now And Control of the Golan. What’s Next? land mass. Nothing is as vital or to take extraordinary risks and important strategically than hold- chances. ing onto one’s real estate. Israel’s Having said that, it is my belief President Trump once again vating factor. I believe the move security has suffered every time that if Abbas rejects the Trump has demonstrated his profound by POTUS to recognize Israel’s it has made a concession in this Peace Plan, then the President will love and respect for the Jewish control over the Golan Heights regard. tell him , “to take it or leave it”. If People and the beleaguered State is part of a much broader plan So, what’s next? No one he refuses , POTUS will then say of Israel. He became the Hero to deal with the Syrian Civil War knows for sure but permit me to he will recognize Israeli sover- of Heroes and the Champion of and Assad’s tactics. Although the speculate. The President correctly eignty of Judea and Samaria just Champions when he recognized media would like to twist and turn decided to wait till after the Israeli as he recognized sovereignty in Israel’s eternal sovereignty over this into a pre-election acrobatic, Elections to roll out his Peace the Golan Heights. My hunch is the Golan Heights which Israel the timing is much more in line Plan. For starters I would suggest that it won’t change Abbas’ mind. annexed in 1981. He should be with the President’s plan to with- to POTUS that just as he waited I very much see President Trump thanked over and over again. draw some troops from Syria and for the Israeli election to take carrying the Judea and Samaria It was long overdue but very to reconfigure America’s Syrian place, he should wait till after the Recognition Trophy which I will much a shot in the arm to those Strategy. Hence, POTUS said, American Election in 2020 before call the “Trump Cup” for eter- who have literally spent their en- “For years other Presidents have pushing his plan. The Plan has nity. Just like the Golan Heights, tire adult lives fighting to keep the campaigned, they said they’d do it. been described by some as painful it is long overdue. And just as he Golan Heights in Israel’s hands. This is sovereignty, this is security, to both sides. Why take a chance endorsed Israel’s Sovereignty over The instability in Syria was this is about regional security.” of upsetting both your Evangelical the Golan Heights, he will endorse clearly the most important moti- Clearly the Iranian and Russian Base as well as your Jewish Base Israel’s Sovereignty over Judea by even discussing the Peace Plan. and Samaria.

TOBIN well-being that is rooted firmly in absurd. Even if all of them were tinian Authority’s intransigence CONT. FROM P12 biblical texts, not eschatological focused on what would happen and financial support for terror- The support of evangelicals scenarios. The notion that Jews after Jesus’ return, the idea that ism, and his pulling out of the like Pompeo is sincere and rooted should be wary of Christians Jews, who don’t believe in such disastrous 2015 nuclear deal with in a genuine concern for Israel’s because of their theology is also a possibility, should worry about Iran brokered by his predeces- what would happen then is ridicu- sor, there’s no longer any room to lous. deny the depth of the support of talya’s But the more important ques- this administration for the Jewish tion to be asked is how Jews—the state. vast majority of whom, purport to This isn’t to argue that this one care about Israel and its safety— aspect of his administration must can dismiss Trump’s record on cancel out any other considera- this issue as being of either negli- tion when thinking about 2020. gible importance or assert that his But it does mean that an honest policies are actually bad for the discussion about Trump’s policy Jewish state? when it comes to Israel requires After this week’s signing by us to discard our partisan lens and Trump of a proclamation recog- understand that whatever his true nizing Israeli sovereignty on the motivation or how he arrived at Golan Heights, the debate about his conclusions, what he has done his attitude towards Israel should has greatly strengthened Israel’s be over. The timing of the declara- strategic position. tion was almost certainly aimed Some have argued that at aiding Israeli Prime Minister Trump’s “America First” beliefs Benjamin Netanyahu’s re-election will undermine America’s posi- campaign. But the recognition of tion in the world and ultimately Israel’s hold on the Golan sent a weaken Israel. But while that was stronger message to Iran, whose a reasonable argument to make forces and Hezbollah auxiliaries in 2016, before we knew how he are occupying Syrian territory, would govern, it no longer makes than it did to Israel’s voters. It at sense in light of Trump’s strong least partially offset Trump’s ill- stance on Iran or his desire to advised desire to pull U.S. troops persuade NATO allies to strength- out of eastern Syria and reinforced en their defenses. Indeed, with the administration’s tough stance France and Germany—whose against the Islamist republic. leaders are supposedly the epito- Moreover, when placed in the me of true Western values—bent context of Trump’s recognition on appeasing Iran, that argument of Jerusalem as Israel’s capital, his now falls flat. unwillingness to accept—as did Nor has his inconsistent policy ANSWERS ON PAGE 36 previous presidents—the Pales- CONT.ON P15

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TOBIN April elections in Israel may find CONT. FROM P14 out, his peace plan may cause towards Russia—a combination of more harm than good. But it’s weak talk and strong policies that past time that his critics acknowl- are much tougher than those of edge that what he’s done with our European allies—endangered respect to Israel places him above Israel, given that it was Barack any other American president Obama who punted Syria to Mos- with respect to friendship for cow, not Trump. the Jewish state, including Harry Trump has done more than Truman (whom many Jewish merely reverse Obama’s goal of admirers also spoke of in religious creating more “daylight” between terms), Ronald Reagan or George the United States and Israel. He W. Bush. has promoted policies that have That doesn’t make Trump discarded decades of foolish Queen Esther. But whether or not conventional wisdom about the you intend to vote for him next Middle East and replaced it with year, it is past time to stop pre- stances on the conflict that are tending that this administration’s rooted in realpolitik and recogni- policies towards Israel can be tion of Israel’s rights and security depicted as anything but a his- needs. toric breakthrough that should be That doesn’t mean Trump is properly noted and applauded. perfect and, as whoever wins the JNS.org

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expert on eating psychology told enjoy comfort food more Dr. Joseph Mercola Huffington Post: Here, a group of undergrad- “There’s conscious and un- uate students at the State Univer- The Science of conscious emotional discomfort. sity of New York at Buffalo were Sometimes we know [what we’re asked to recall a time when a close Emotional Eating and feeling], sometimes we don’t — relationship was under threat, or a Food Addiction we just feel uneasy or not hap- moment when they felt alienated py, and we don’t deal with that. and alone. Another group was not Emotional eating and food serotonin, aka “the happy chem- Instead, we just eat. given this instruction. addiction are very real problems, ical” … serotonin itself isn’t in Then we get what we know Afterward, the group that was and the former can easily lead to food — but tryptophan, an amino we’ll have: shame, remorse, regret. instructed to think back on an the latter. While emotional eating acid necessary to produce sero- We trade in the first discomfort, emotionally stressful time were is a universal phenomenon and tonin, is. which is maybe unfamiliar and found to be more likely to eat won’t do any significant harm in Famously associated with something we’re more frightened the short term, if you find yourself turkey, tryptophan is also found of, for the familiar feelings that reaching for comfort foods on a in cheese … Carbs can also boost come after emotional eating.” regular basis, it can lead to signif- serotonin levels, which can im- Comfort Foods Are Associat- icant problems, both physical and prove your mood, and chocolate, ed With Positive Memories psychological. too, is linked to a serotonin spike.” An interesting study published Physically, emotional eating Comfort Foods Lower Cortisol in 2015 found that people reach can lead to obesity and related Levels in Highly Stressed Individ- for comfort foods when they feel health problems, and psychologi- uals isolated in some way, because the cally, it may delay or prevent you According to the experts on food in question reminds them of from addressing your true emo- eating disorders interviewed by a strong emotional relationship tions and sources of stress. As clin- Huffington Post, emotional eating they once had. Highlights from ical psychologist Susan Albers told is primarily triggered by stress and this study include the findings Huffington Post, “ … [E]ating to boredom. Essentially, the act of that: avoid facing feelings is like putting eating “gives us something to do. Comfort food is associated a ‘Band-Aid on a broken arm.’” It fills our time, gives us a way to with relationships (it has “social comfort foods, and they rated The Chemicals Involved in procrastinate,” Albers says. utility”) the tastiness of those foods high- Emotional Eating Research published in the Feeling isolated predicted how er than the group that were not Your emotions and food journal Psychoneuroendocrinolo- much people enjoy comfort food eating to dampen their emotions. intake both result in a cascade gy in 2011 confirms the stress-re- Threatened belonging led Huffington Post notes: of biochemical reactions, and ducing influence of comfort foods, those with secure attachment to CONT.ON P20 these chemicals can have a potent showing that calorie-dense foods effect. As explained in Dr. Pamela trigger the accumulation of mes- Peeke’s book, “The Hunger Fix: enteric fat — a main contributor The Three-Stage Detox and Recov- to abdominal obesity — which in- ery Plan for Overeating and Food hibits hypothalamic-pituitary-ad- VOLUNTEER Addiction,” the neurotransmitter renocortical (HPA) axis activity. dopamine is a critical player in all The HPA axis is your primary forms of addiction, including food stress response system that links TUTORS NEEDED addiction. your central nervous system and The stress hormone cortisol endocrine system together. Ac- FOR and the neurotransmitter sero- cording to the researchers, “long- tonin also play important roles. As term adaptation to chronic stress reported by the Huffington Post: in the face of dense calories result ZICHRON ETEL “Cortisol is our main stress in greater visceral fat accumula- hormone, triggering our fight- tion (via ingestion of calorie-dense or-flight instinct. 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MEISTER and time again have talked about litical party to support a man who rise of ISIS.) CONT. FROM P1 nuking Israel and its Jewish peo- proudly stated “I’m not an an- This week the ISIS caliph- fascism. Today, it has migrated ple off the face of the Earth. ti-Semite? I’m an anti-Termite.”? ate officially crumbled and the from the far left to the mainstream Led by Obama’s virulent rhet- There is an alternative. You last stronghold was liberated. left. American (liberal) Jews, in oric and the self-serving propa- don’t have to be married to a Defeating ISIS began with–and essence, suffer from Stockholm ganda of the liberal mainstream political party that embraces an- required–a clear, unequivocal, and syndrome–they are hostages who media, American anti-Semitism ti-Semitism. strident condemnation by Presi- have fallen in love with their cap- swells today. President Trump withdrew dent Trump of Islamic terrorism tors. Given this context, Con- from the disastrous Iran deal, coupled with an unequivocal American Jews voted over- gresswoman Ilhan Omar’s recent moved the U.S. Embassy to Jeru- statement that Israeli self-defense whelmingly for President Barack anti-Semitic tropes about Jews salem (the eternal capital of Isra- is wholly justified and in no way Obama. Obama, the darling of and Israel shouldn’t come as a el), obstructed efforts at the Unit- morally or legally equivalent to Jewish (liberal) Democrats, called surprise. Nor should it be surpris- ed Nations to delegitimize Israel, Islamic terror. for Israel to return to its 1967 ing that Democrats running for accepted Israeli acts of legitimate It’s been a long journey, but Borders, making an impossibly the 2020 presidential nomination– self-defense, encouraged Arab the true home of anti-Semitism– narrow corridor between them Kamala Harris, Bernie Sanders, countries to cooperate with Israel, where it breeds and finds itself and the terrorists sworn to their Elizabeth Warren, and Beto O’Ro- and cut funds for the Palestinian most welcome–is now the main- annihilation. urke–won’t be attending next Authority and UNRWA. After 52 stream Left. Today, the anti-Sem- With Obama’s help, Egypt– week’s American Israel Public Af- years, President Trump also fully ites masquerade as anti-Zionists with Mubarak overthrown, the fairs Committee (AIPAC) confer- recognized Israel’s Sovereignty showing their undying support Muslim Brotherhood installed, ence. AIPAC is a bipartisan group over the Golan Heights, an area for terrorist states like Iran and and still receiving U.S. aid–threw whose mission is to strengthen, of strategic importance to Israel’s groups like Hamas. its full support behind Hamas. protect, and promote the U.S./Is- security and Middle East stability. Congresswoman Omar is the This spawned the great Arab raeli relationship. President Trump is the most result of the great leftward march Spring. I have a question for my fellow pro-Jewish and pro-Israeli pres- of anti-Semitism over many de- Obama abstained from voting Jews. Is this what you expected ident the United States has had, cades. American Jews must come against UN Resolution 2334 de- when you gave the Democrats standing in stark contrast to to this realization in order to claring Israeli settlements illegal. your time, money, and support? Obama’s call to return to the 1967 determine how history will judge When Iran’s nuclear program Did you expect your party to sup- armistice lines, threats to stop them. It’s finally time for a Jewish persisted amidst international port the likes of Louis Farrakhan shipping Israel Iron Dome rock- exit from the Democrat Party. fear and criticism, Obama lifted who called Jewish-Americans, ets, continual support for the Pal- Time is running out! sanctions. On his way out, Obama “Satanic Jews who have infected estinians, and repeated willingness Jason D. Meister is an Advisory provided Iran’s mullahs with $150 the whole world with poison and to turn his back on Israel (which Board Member of Donald J. Trump for billion dollars—mullahs who time deceit.”? Did you expect your po- greatly emboldened and fueled the President Inc.

MERCOLA lem. ‘A misleading misnomer if CONT. FROM P16 there ever was one, comfort is not “Think about all the happy something we want to keep associ- and comforting memories you ating with food,’ Koenig said. have involving food. Maybe your ‘We want to file food in our family used to celebrate occasions brains under nourishment and with a trip to the ice cream shop, occasional pleasure. We want to or maybe your mom or dad used seek comfort through friends, to soften the blow of a bad day doing kind things for ourselves with macaroni and cheese. When and engaging in healthy activities you’re feeling rejected or anxious that reduce internal distress. As today, eating one of those foods soon as you start looking for food, is an instant connection to that stop,’ Allen advised. soothing time.” ‘Think, ‘Am I hungry? Do How to Separate Your Emo- I need food in my stomach, or tions From Your Eating is one of my triggers going off? If emotional eating strikes What do I need right now?’’ Both now and then, it probably will Albers and Koenig said that we not cause you any harm. The real should ask ourselves if we’re actu- danger lies in chronic emotional ally hungry for food or if we need eating, which can undermine your some other action to treat what health and emotional well-being. we’re feeling.” So, what can you do? According Journaling is one option. Allen to the experts interviewed by suggests writing down what you Huffington Post, it’s important eat, why and when, to help you to separate your emotions from identify emotional eating patterns. your food intake. Huffington Post Another suggestion offered by writes: Koenig is to think in terms of a “To start with, we have to re- yes/no flow chart. Ask yourself member food’s true purpose — to questions such as “Am I hungry? nourish us. In fact, Koenig sug- What do I want to eat right now? gests that the term ‘comfort food’ What am I feeling?” itself could be part of the prob- CONT.ON P21

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3 garlic cloves, finely chopped occasionally, until the vegetables TURNIP-APPLE SOUP 1 Granny Smith apple, peeled and are softened, 7 to 8 minutes. Stir Gourmet Passover Cooking Recipe chopped into ½-inch pieces in 4 cups of water and bring to 2 tablespoons non-dairy creamer a boil. Cover and cook over low This is a sweet and smooth soup 1 small onion, finely chopped or pareve cream heat until the turnips are very that is creamy and delicious. It 1 celery stalk, finely chopped Garnish: parsley tender, about 25 minutes. sounds like an unusual combina- 1 shallot, finely chopped Turn off heat. Add the creamer tion but is a wonderful surprise Instructions and with an immersion blender, to guests. It’s a nice appetizer on Preheat oven to 425 degree oven. puree until smooth. Season the Passover. On a large roasting pan place soup with salt and serve warm. turnips in a single layer. Roast Drizzle in a little extra creamer Ingredients in oven for 25 minutes or until and parsley for a pretty presenta- 2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil golden brown. tion. 1-1/2 pounds turnips peeled and In the same saucepan, combine sliced 1- inch thick the margarine, onion, celery, MAKE AHEAD The soup can be Kosher salt shallot, garlic, apple and turnips. refrigerated for up to 2 days or 2 tablespoons unsalted margarine Season with salt and cook, stirring frozen for up to two months.

½ cup granulated sugar mixer until firm. With the motor POMEGRANATE PAVLOVA 6 egg yolks running, add sugar, a spoonful at Chef Laura Frankel 2 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil, a time, until whites are glossy and such as Colavita very stiff. You can customize your pavlova 1 teaspoon white wine vinegar ¼ teaspoon sea salt 3. Gently fold potato starch and vin- according to the season and for the 3 tablespoon pomegranate juice egar into meringue with a spatula. holidays and even the color palette. Meyer Lemon Preparation 4. Gently swirl pomegranate juice I love the hint of spring and use ber- Curd (recipe fol- PAVLOVA into meringue creating streaks of ries, Meyer lemon curd and softly lows) 1. Preheat oven color. Do not try to mix it in com- whipped cream for a dairy meal. Sliced berries, to 250°F. Draw a pletely. You want a swirled appear- pomegranate seeds, 9-inch circle on ance. Ingredients whipped cream a piece of parch- 5. Transfer meringue to prepared Pavlova (for dairy meals) ment paper. Flip parchment paper. Form meringue 5 eggs, cold, not warmed the paper so ink into a rustic bowl. It’s not neces- 1 teaspoon kosher salt Meyer Lemon does not get on the sary to make it perfect. Just be sure 1 vanilla bean, split lengthwise and Curd meringue and set to make the center thick enough to seeds scraped out 2 teaspoons Meyer aside. support the filling. 1 cup sugar lemon zest 2. Whip whites, 6. Bake pavlova at 250°F for 1½ 2 teaspoons potato starch Juice of 4 Meyer lemons salt, and vanilla seeds on high in a CONT.ON P23

22 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 3/29/19 FRANKEL MEYER LEMON CURD CONT. FROM P22 1. In a non-reactive pot, whisk hours. Turn off the oven and do not together zest, juice, sugar, salt, and open the door for at least 6 hours or, eggs and lace over medium-low better yet, overnight. The residual heat. Cook for 5 minutes, whisking heat will crisp up the meringue and until thickened and smooth. Strain keep humidity out. curd through a fine sieve set into 7. Place pavlova on a serving plat- another bowl. ter. Pile lemon curd in pavlova and 2. Add evoo and mix thoroughly. garnish with berries, pomegranate Cover surface of curd with plastic seeds, and whipped cream for dairy before chilling to prevent skin form- meals. ing. Chill until ready to fill pavlova.

MERCOLA resonance imaging (MRI) and CONT. FROM P21 positron emission tomography this abundance of sugar in the diet (PET) scanning, which offer high is what fuels food cravings and quality views of the brain, Volkow addiction, which in turn can take was able to show that when dopa- a significant toll on your health, mine links to its receptor, called and in a relatively short amount of D2, immediate changes take place time. in your brain cells, causing you to One of Lustig’s studies experience a “hit” of pleasure and demonstrated that reducing added reward. sugars from an average of 27 While just about any food can percent of daily calories down to trigger pleasure, only the “hyper- about 10 percent improved bio- palatables,” foods high in refined markers associated with health sugar, salt and fat, tend to lead to in as little as 10 days, even when addiction when consumed regu- overall calorie count and percent- larly. The reason for this has to do age of carbohydrates remained the with your body’s innate survival same. instinct. The Science of Food Addiction As explained by Peeke, the Research by addiction psy- primary directive of your mind chiatrist Dr. Nora Volkow, direc- and body is survival, and it will go tor of the National Institute on through some interesting adapta- sugar, alcohol or sex, your brain’s survival, and so it compensates by Drug Abuse (NIDA), has shed tions when survival is threatened. reward center notes that you’re decreasing your sense of pleasure much-needed light on how food When you indulge in too much overstimulated, which the brain and reward. addiction develops. of hyperstimulators, be it cocaine, Using functional magnetic perceives as not good for your CONT.ON P25

thirst, since our body is absolute- alcohol by speeding up our ability FAIGIE HIRSCH ly parched. While the thought to process aldehyde dehydroge- Nutritional Advisor of putting more liquid into your nase (ALDH), believed to be the body may sound revolting, water culprit for hangover symptoms. Post Purim Recovery and Beyond can actually help. Typically, the negative symptoms of alcohol Eat some eggs for breakfast derive from the dehydration of Eggs are an excellent thing to We as yidden are told that on ally is a mitzvah—as long as you the body. so keep that water bottle eat to combat a hangover. They Purim we should get so intoxicat- are confident that your behavior handy and keep that water com- contain an amino acid called ed and be in such a state of happi- will remain at the high standard ing.. and you can even have it on cysteine, which your body will be ness that we are no longer to dis- expected by the Torah. If you are the rocks. very happy to receive after a bout tinguish the difference between.. planning to drive, or you know Keep ginger and peppermint of drinking. Cysteine works to cursed be Haman or blessed be that drinking can otherwise get candies and tea handy break down the toxins that make Mordechai Honestly, Purim is not you in trouble, then alcohol might studies suggest sipping on gin- you feel unwell after drinking. By about drinking. Purim is about is treif and off limits. ger or peppermint tea, or sucking helping cleanse your body of these being drunk with sincere happi- Well, let’s say you forgot how on peppermint or ginger candies leftover toxins, eggs can help you ness. sensitive you are to alcohol and is the perfect soothing brew for to feel better, rejuvenated, and Traditionally, Jews have cele- now have to get yourself together hangover-related nausea and more energized. when you pre- brated Purim by drinking a little in order to function post Purim, stomachaches. pare your eggs use minimal fat, extra wine at their Purim seuda (especially since we need to get Caffeine free sodas.. bring out as greasy eggs will make you feel with friends and family, and if that ready for Shabbos the next day) the sprite nauseous. is what it takes to get you to feel here are some quick tips on how Ironically, chugging on sweet, Most importantly, Do your ad delo yadah, then it’s the hala- to wake up fresh and renewed caffeine-free soda, may provide best to eat healthy and enjoy your chically prescribed way to observe Shushan Purim. much solace during a hangover. Shushan Purim and ..shabbos is the mitzvah. Drinking, according Be it ever so humble.. water. In a 2013 study published in the here before you know it, rest up to the sages of the Talmud, can During or after a night of journal Food and Function, Chi- well over shabbos because Sunday heighten the joy and excitement of excessive drinking, most of us nese researchers found the drink is the first day of the great Pesach Purim. So they declared it actu- will turn to water to quench our helps the body better metabolize countdown

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BRAVERMAN scope of this column and requires inclined to say yes – but I would much more matter-of-fact way, CONT. FROM P1 consultation with both a compe- have strong reservations. Why is with a similar attitude to your Aging Woman tent doctor to assess the need and it so important? Do you imagine purchase of the newest Bobbi Dear Aging Woman (and fel- the risks and a competent rabbi to that your life will change in any Brown product, then why not? low traveler), do the same. material way if you undergo one If it makes you feel a little better This is definitely a question of these procedures? Will you (like a new dress or working out) that many women wrestle with, Your real question seems to be devastated if no one notices? and the cost is relatively insignifi- particularly here in southern concern the gray area (I really What fantasies are involved? cant, then I don’t see the harm. California where plastic surgeons didn’t mean to make a pun but What are you imagining? I like to One more caveat. The goal seem to be as numerous as cor- what can you do?). If you can put joke (only partially) that I always is not to turn back time. Time ner markets. Let’s begin with the on makeup, what’s the difference imagined if I bought a certain cannot be turned back. However extreme forms of plastic surgery if you get your brows tinted? How lipstick I would look like Cybil good you feel (and I hope you do) which you actually don’t mention. about acrylic nails? Is it appro- Shepherd. Even though I of course and however excellent shape you Anything that involves a real risk priate to dye your hair? There know that isn’t true, I also rec- are in (and I hope you are) and (general anesthetic etc.) is taken are certain things we take for ognize our susceptibility to the whatever the results of your visit very seriously by the Torah. A granted – is it because they’ve just power of advertising. Somewhere, to the dermatologist, your age surgical procedure can only be been around longer? Is it because on some emotional level, I still won’t change. It’s appropriate to undergone if there is a compel- they’re cheaper and more easily believe it to be true. And I keep not just come to terms with that ling medical reason. This may accessible? I confess to not hav- buying the lipstick. but to appreciate and celebrate it. include psychological reasons but ing the answer but I think I have a If you are indulging in fantas- We need to be grateful for the this is a complicated and personal basic principle or two. tical thinking about the dramatic years we have had and particu- question. The bottom line is we In the first place, cost is defi- differences in your life that will larly grateful and happy if we have don’t risk our lives for what is nitely a factor. What would you follow these interventions, I don’t used them well. We don’t want to typically called cosmetic surgery. have to sacrifice to get those think you should do it. You will pretend we are younger; we don’t If, however, the need is greater procedures? Is there any way that inevitably be disappointed and want to give up valuable lessons than the desire to just look better your family or marriage would your issue has nothing to do with learned or respect perhaps earned. and involves some other type of suffer for the sake of this (let’s call your aging face and much more We just want to look slightly issue (for example, some type of it for now) extra beautification? If to do with your unresolved issues more attractive – for ourselves weight reduction surgery where not, then that is one issue out of and life goals. You need to delve a and our spouse. If this can be the patient’s health is at risk or the way. little deeper into who you are and accomplished with minimal cost, even something seemingly more Secondly, how important is who you want to be and not stay effort and risk, then who am I minor where the patient’s peace of this to you? The answer to this on the literal surface. to object? Actually do you have mind is truly at risk) then it may question can cut two ways. If it If, on the other hand, you someone you recommend? be permissible. This is beyond the is VERY important, I might be approach these procedures in a Aish.com

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JOFFE possible, destroyed. KOVAL thodox world. The viewer senses CONT. FROM P7 Fortunately, the self-correct- CONT. FROM P1 the tension between these two ing corporations and the wealthy ing features of American politics show on Netflix about an Israeli poles and one can almost feel the at gargantuan levels. are still in play. Polls indicate that ultra-Orthodox family that has familiar Footloose-style trope: support for Israel remains strong, gripped the attention of, well, ultra-religious young adult breaks If Labour is any guide, the at least among Republicans and everyone. Educators like me are away from religious constraints to predictable exception to this isola- the broader population. At best, tickled pink: for the first time pursue artistic dreams (typically, tionism will be obsessive focus on we may hope for a rapid reclaim- fellow Jews are pursuing us with screenplay written by just one Israel. For Israel, the prospect thus ing of the Democratic Party by its curiosity-driven, Netflix-fueled such character). But the truth, and looms of its major superpower centrists, who have been horrified questions about Jews, observance, the show, are not that simple and ally being taken over by a Socialist by the takeover. Another likely Judaism, Israel, and yes, Michael not that lazy. regime indifferent to, or even ded- scenario is that the insurgents will Aloni’s green eyes. In truth, the “Jewish answer” icated to, its destruction. This is tighten their grip, but in the fash- The Jewish themes emerging to that question may not be the still distant, but far more conceiv- ion of Labour, expose their an- from the Shtisel phenomenon are same as the cultural answer to that able than it was even a few weeks ti-Semitism over and over again, many, and while the show is me- question, and that is a universal ago. Israelis should be looking to leading to a loss of public support. ticulously researched and execut- interest with Shtisel: where do the the 2024 elections and beyond. But barring a difficult to imagine ed, it’s not perfect. Part of my job, cultural and the religious truths reclamation, Labour’s indecency is I feel, in my new favorite time- converge and diverge? The Shtisels The goal of the millennial now permanent, much as it is for suck Facebook group (“Shtisel - are deliberately not any specific insurgents is socialism, in which red-green alliances across Eu- Let’s Talk About It”) is to helpfully sect of Judaism. They’re not Cha- the totality of the American econ- rope. The red-green alliance in the answer questions on those themes, sidic, they live in the Geula neigh- omy is controlled and directed by United States is now a permanent like Q. Do ultra-Orthodox women borhood, they’re anti-Chabad, the government towards “virtu- threat as well. really wear stockings to bed? A. anti-Zionist, but what are they? ous” ends. In the most dystopian Rarely, unless they’re on TV. We don’t know. conception, American Jews, as the The future of American pol- Below, I explore some of these Many other ultra-Orthodox newly appointed quintessence of itics—and the American experi- major themes. There are spoilers, groups would embrace artists, “whiteness” and “privilege,” ap- ment—is not yet written, but the so you’ve been warned. like the Breslov group depicted by pear destined to become the new script has become far darker. Judaism and the Role of Art Akiva’s spiritual-seeking friends, kulaks—to be stripped of power Alex Joffe is an archaeologist and One of the themes that cuts or even the Chabadniks so hate- and castigated as wreckers unless historian. He is a senior non-resident through both seasons is the role of fully rejected by his father. Art it- they get in line. Israel, as the home fellow at the BESA Center and a Shill- man-Ingerman Fellow at the Middle art and music in the family, and self as a Jewish form is celebrated, of “International Jewry,” is to be East Forum. This article was originally and as Libbi tells Akiva, G-d-given published at the BESA Center. more broadly, in the ultra-Or- isolated, marginalized, and, if CONT.ON P28

MERCOLA ritability, impatience, strategic CONT. FROM P23 planning and more — all the It does this by downregulat- things that figuratively go out the ing your D2 receptors, basically window during withdrawal and CROSSWORD ANSWER eliminating some of them. But this addiction. This is why addicts feel FROM PAGE 6 survival strategy creates another so out of control, and why addic- problem, because now you don’t tion is so difficult to break. feel anywhere near the pleasure Early Trauma Primes Your and reward you once had when Brain for Future Addiction you began your addiction, no Experiencing abuse (e.g., matter whether it’s food or drugs. physical, emotional, sexual), As a result, you develop neglect or other trauma during tolerance, which means that you the formative years of childhood, want more and more of your fix adolescence and young adulthood but never achieve the same “high” can also significantly affect your you once had. All the while, the frontal cortex, thereby making addictive cravings grow stronger. you more susceptible to addiction. Volkow’s work also revealed that Peeke cites research by Susan the changes taking place in the Mason, assistant professor at Har- brains of drug addicts are identi- vard University, which showed cal to those occurring in people that women who had the highest addicted to food. levels of abuse during childhood Regardless of the source of the had a 90 percent increased inci- addiction, you see very little dopa- dence of food addiction. In her mine bonding with its D2 recep- book, Peeke also talks about the tors in the brain, as their numbers role of epigenetics, noting there’s have been drastically decreased a “sweet spot” between the ages due to continued exposure to of 8 and 13 when your genome is the addictive substance/process. particularly vulnerable to epigene- Importantly, Volkow also found tic influence. that addiction affects your frontal If you’re wondering whether cortex, often referred to as “the you may have an issue with food CEO of the brain.” and addiction, there is now a Your frontal cortex is in published and credentialed assess- charge of impulse control, ir- CONT.ON P39

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To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 27 3/29/19 arm and it miraculously stretched reward for Bas Paroh was that REVIEWS | Daniel Keren all the way to the middle of the she had the merit to go directly Nile and she was able to grab hold to Shomayim (heaven) while still of the basket and rescue the baby. alive, a reward that wasn’t even Rabbi Zecharia Rabbi Wallerstein asked given to our Matriarchs Sarah, why did Hashem have to cause Rivka, Rochel and Leah. Wallerstein Discusses such a strange miracle? Why Each of us has that spark couldn’t the basket have simply of Moshe Rabbeinu. So when you Lessons for Pesach remained close to the bank of the see another Jew in danger of going Nile so that Bas Paroh could have off the derech or losing their lives more easily saved the baby Moshe (either spiritually or physically) Now that the joyous topic of “The Whats and Whys in a natural and non-miraculous don’t just say “nebach (how aw- holiday of Purim has come and of Life,” including a couple manner. ful)” or “hazit” gone and we are still recuperating of important take-outs to learn One of (what a pity!) from eating all those hamentashen from the original enslavement of the three rea- Just like Bas cookies and having imbibed yayin our ancestors in Egypt. sons why the Paroh, a Jew from numerous bottles of fancy Jews merited has to put out kosher wines, having wowed our In Parshas Shemos we come to be saved his or her hand neighbors with our spectacular across the story of Moshe Rabbe- from their and do your costumes and original themed inu and how he became a leader harsh enslave- best, realizing shalach manos, in addition to of the Jewish people. His parents ment was that ultimately having given generous gifts to the [Amram and Yocheved] named because they it is only Hash- poor and consuminh an unfor- their third child Tuvia. And when never during em who will gettable seudo (festive meal) to they could no longer hide him, their bondage cause your goal compete with the royal banquet in the baby was put into a wicker take non-Jew- of rescue to be Shushan, the capital city of Persia, basket on the banks of the Nile ish names. accomplished, it is time to turn our attention to River. And his sister Miriam stood And yet we even if logically the great Yom Tov of Pesach. nearby to see what would become primarily know Moshe through there is no way that you can have of her youngest brother. the Egyptian name that was given mazel (success). Rabbi Zecharia Waller- Rashi writes that when Bas to him by Bas Paroh who adopted Later on when Moshe stein, internationally renowned Paroh (the daughter of Pharaoh) him and raised him in Paroh’s Rabbeinu was a shepherd in educator and Menahel of Ohr spotted the basket with the Jewish Palace. Midian for his father-in-law and Naava, was the third speaker at the baby it had moved from the banks passed by the Burning Bush, he Presidents’ Day Hakhel Yarchei of the Nile to the middle of the The name Moshe referred stopped to wonder why the bush Kallah Event and he spoke on the river. Bas Paroh stretched out her to the miraculous manner in wasn’t consumed. The lesson for which Bas Paroh rescued him us today, Rabbi Wallerstein said is by stretching out her arm which that if you see somebody in trou- logically didn’t make any sense. ble, it is easy to make the mistake And a Jew’s name is the essence to of getting distracted by the symp- his mission in life. Therefore to be toms. a leader of the Jewish people or to If you see a young lady be a game changer, one must like who is wearing a skirt that is too Moshe Rabbeinu be prepared to short, or a young man who is make life-saving efforts even when taking drugs or is addicted to the such efforts don’t make any sense. wrong websites, those terrible Hashem caused the mira- actions are not the real problem cle of Bas Paroh rescuing Moshe but merely the symptoms. Unless in an unnatural manner in order you can work on healing the ac- to teach a Jew the lesson that even tual problems, your solving those when it doesn’t seem possible for symptoms will only be replaced you to help or rescue another Jew, by other equally or even worse one must still make the effort. The symptoms.

KOVAL ever - of a woman, vaguely linked CONT. FROM P25 to his own mother figure, sitting talent must be used. In fact, King with a baby, with her modest David himself wrote in the book hair-covering slipping and show- of Psalms (35:10), “All my limbs ing strands of softly flowing gray will say, G-d, who is like you?” hair. The painting is beautiful. Whatever talents or gifts you have, It’s a tribute to his long-emerging you must use them to glorify G-d grief over his mother’s passing, - whether that means to make an and a statement of his mother’s honest living, bring joy to others, support of his art. or glorify themes of truth and But her hair is not fully cov- beauty. ered. And Shulem, his father, The climax of the art conflict erupts. comes at the very end when Akiva So what would Torah say finally does use his considerable here? Is Akiva’s magnum opus a talent to paint his best painting CONT.ON P29 28 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 3/29/19

KOVAL it that way. and approach him with them forgiveness sought, they forgive in CONT. FROM P29 Yes, sometimes these people and request [forgiveness]. If [the time. Despite so much mistreat- glorification of G-d? Or a dese- act disgusting within the bounds wronged party] is not appeased, ment and misunderstanding, they cration thereof? And the beauty of Torah. And sometimes out he should repeat the process a find room in their hearts for more of Shtisel is that the answer is as of those bounds. Nuchem uses second and third time. If he [still] love and more acceptance. Despite vague as the painting. There actu- his charisma and clout to force does not want [to forgive him], all the angst they come to better ally aren’t clear answers because conditions on his daughter’s en- he may let him alone and need understand Shulem’s redemptive that’s just life. gagement. That’s not even legally not pursue [the matter further]. traits, Akiva’s overarching good- kosher in Judaism; the young On the contrary, the person who ness, Lippe’s loving and generous If you ask me, the painting is couple has to be in total agree- refuses to grant forgiveness is the nature, Ruchami’s young love, beautiful, and I think the moment ment and have total consent about one considered as the sinner. Hanina’s searing yet immature is perfect as is. I also think that art, the match. The smoking is hardly spirituality. This is true forgive- even in the ultra-Orthodox world, in sync with the command to be So I must’ve missed that ness: when you haven’t been can leave room for the imagina- “very watchful of your health” episode on Shtisel, where all this asked, simply because you come tion and have fluctuations within (Deuteronomy 4:15), but is more communication was happening, to understand that the person is each community. cultural than anything else. Yes, and family members were ap- much more than his missteps. they mess up. They are human. peasing each other and begging So do ultra-Orthodox people But to use your talents for And religious people are still for forgiveness. Yet, forgiveness say “I love you?” Recall Tevye’s G-d - which has strains in Gitti’s people. sometimes happens in time. Mai- petulant question to Golde on accordion and Tzvi Arie’s voice - We religious people do look to monides continues: Fiddler on the Roof: “Do you love is a must. Everyone agrees on that. the Torah to cure us of these all- It is forbidden for a person to me? Do I love you? For 25 years too-human frailties. Sometimes be cruel and refuse to be appeased. I’ve washed his clothes…” Be Holy we succeed and sometimes we fail. Rather, he should be easily paci- We laugh at the characters, Another theme that crops When we fail, it looks uglier be- fied, but hard to anger. When the and my instinctive, indignant re- up throughout the show is what cause of the religious package. But person who wronged him asks sponse is: “Of course they do!” But Nachmanides describes while I think the message of Shtisel, that for forgiveness, he should forgive Shtisel doesn’t let us off so easily. explaining the Torah’s com- even the “despicable within the him with a complete heart and a Some don’t. Some are culturally mandment to “be holy” as “na- permitted boundaries of Torah” willing spirit. Even if he aggravat- inhibited. This is the cringe-wor- val b’rshut ha-Torah” – being is really just about the humanness ed and wronged him severely, he thy magnifying glass into a world despicable within the permitted we all share, is arguably worth the should not seek revenge or bear a that I at one identify with and also boundaries of Torah. Loosely potential bad press. grudge. don’t. And it’s precisely these con- defined, Nachmanides is telling us So we see that the Shtisels are versations on these themes that that being holy is not just about Forgiveness maybe a little more spiritual than make Shtisel totally worth it. abiding by the letter of the law as Forgiveness is a Jewish theme we thought. Despite not having Aish.com the Shtisels do - dress modestly, that likewise persists across the pray, say your blessings, observe show. Lippe needs forgiveness for the Sabbath. It also means follow- his breakdown in Argentina and ing the spirit of the law and not co-opting baby Zelig’s name. Ru- engaging in disgusting behaviors chami has to forgive Hanina and that are within one’s legal limits. his father for disappearing, and Gitti has to forgive Ruchami for For example, the men’s per- her shotgun marriage. Libbi learns petual smoking, to the point to forgive Akiva for going against where Akiva measures distance his promise to cease and desist in “two-and-a-half cigarettes,” is from painting, and Akiva has to not explicitly outlawed in the Ten learn to forgive Shulem - for so Commandments, but is it compat- much. Shulem has to forgive Aki- ible with a holy life? This is “legal- va for being who he is. All of them ly disgusting.” How about Shulem must learn what forgiveness really and even more so his brother means. Nuchem’s constant machinations and schemes to get people to do In Judaism, forgiveness is what they want? What about Fuks, something that must be active- the unscrupulous religious art ly sought, something no one in dealer? What about the cursing, this family is very good at, except money-laundering Rebbetzin (I Lippe and he’s an in-law child. love her)? Menucha, the rude He tries and tries to ask but no matchmaker, full of insults for one will even hear him out. None others? The show is full of these of the other characters ask for characters. forgiveness. Maimonides teaches how for- This is one of the reasons giveness ought be attained: some of my close religious friends Even if a person only upset won’t watch the show past the a colleague by saying [certain] pilot. They are so horrified by things, he must appease him and these scheming “religious” char- approach him [repeatedly] until acters, and so burned by bad press he forgives him. about the religious, that they see If his colleague does not desire this as just another way to hurt to forgive him, he should bring our communities. But I don’t see a group of three of his friends To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 29 3/29/19 defend our state,” said Netanyahu via satellite to the 18,000 attendees of the 2019 AIPAC Policy Confer- JNS.ORG: FULL NEWSence in Washington, COVERAGE D.C.

Palestinian terror group leaders head underground: Nations decry US while ago, President [Donald] blames ‘Zionist entity’ for Prior to reports of a ceasefire on recognition of Israeli Trump, alongside Prime Minister blocking Odeh at Berlin Monday night, the Hamas ter- sovereignty over the Golan [Benjamin] Netanyahu, signed a event: rorist organization threatened to Heights: decree—a decree affirming Isra- The Palestinian terror group the escalate its response to airstrikes Russia, Syria, Lebanon, Saudi Ara- el’s sovereignty over the Golan,” Popular Front for the Liberation in Gaza by the Israel Defense bia, Bahrain and Iraq criticized the Pompeo told the crowd of 18,000. of Palestine (PFLP) is blaming Forces. In the late evening hours, United States for recognizing the “What a truly great two days for Israel for blocking convicted ter- the group announced that “the re- Golan Heights as Israeli territory, two great nations.” rorist Rasmea Odeh from speak- sistance would expand its missile following a ceremony attended by ing at an event near Berlin. “The range as long as the Zionist ene- U.S. President Donald Trump and Mandelblit: Netanyahu Ministry of Strategic Affairs of the my’s attacks continued.” Hamas Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin properly explained Egyptian submarine deal: Zionist entity and the racist right- spokesman Mushir al-Masri Netanyahu on Monday. The cer- wing organizations which attack threatened: “We will respond emony featured the signing of an Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin the Palestinian people in Germa- with force to the criminal Zionist official proclamation, and was also Netanyahu’s decision to with- ny, continue a campaign of def- onslaught. Red lines have been attended by Vice President Mike hold classified information from amation and misleading against crossed, and we will not remain Pence and Secretary of State Mike senior defense officials before he the fighter and the ex-prisoner silent.” Pompeo. The pen Trump used to signed off on the German sale Rasmea Odeh upon her arriving sign the declaration was handed to of submarines to Egypt does not to Berlin,” according to the PFLP’s McConnell calls on House to Netanyahu as a gift for the Israeli warrant the reopening of Case official site. take up Senate pro-Israel, people. 3000, Attorney General Avichai anti-BDS bill: Mandelblit said on Sunday. Case Survival is due to ‘miracles,’ U.S. Senate Majority Leader Mitch 3000, also known as the subma- says family in central Israel McConnell (R-Ky.) urged the At AIPAC, US Secretary rines affair, centers on possible whose home was hit by U.S. House of Representatives to of State denounces anti- conflicts of interests surrounding rocket: pass a bill on Tuesday the upper Zionism as anti-Semitism” Israel’s decision to procure three chamber passed last month that, “Let me go on the record, anti-Zi- submarines and other vessels if enacted, would impose fresh onism is anti-Semitism,” U.S. from German conglomerate sanctions on Syria, boost secu- Secretary of State Mike Pompeo ThyssenKrupp. Police believe that rity cooperation with Israel and told a massive cheering crowd at those involved in the negotiations Jordan, and allow state and local the American Israel Public Affairs corrupted the bidding process in governments the right to punish Committee (AIPAC) annual con- a way that favored ThyssenKrupp state or local contractors from ference on Monday. “Just a short CONT.ON P31 engaging in boycotting Israel. It Israeli security forces inspect a house in Moshav Mishmeret, in central Israel, hit also includes an amendment that DOVIE’S by a rocket fired from the Gaza Strip on warned against a “precipitous March 25, 2019. withdrawal” of U.S. troops from WORD Daniel Wolf, whose home was Syria or Afghanistan. hit by a long-range missile from Congressional and Israeli IMMIGRANT SEARCH Gaza on Monday, said although How to solve a search and Find Puzzle his family home was destroyed leaders rebuke Rep. Omar, The words can be located in the diagram by reading forward, backward, up , down in the attack, “a lot of miracles political anti-Semitism: and diagonally. All words will be found in a straight line with no letters being Congressional leaders, Israeli skipped. As you ﬁnd each word, circle it in the diagram and cross it o the word happened” that ultimately spared list. Letters may be used more than once and words will often overlap. All the the family from death. “We are Prime Minister Benjamin Ne- letters in the diagram may not be used. in shock, but the most important tanyahu and U.S. Ambassador thing is that we are all OK,” Dan- to Israel David Friedman indi- iel Wolf told Channel 13 from the rectly rebuked Rep. Ilhan Omar hospital. “It was traumatic. After (D-Minn.) on Tuesday for accus- the explosion, there was silence, ing the American Israel Public dust and screaming. Destruction Affairs Committee (AIPAC) last everywhere.” month of paying members of Congress to support the Jewish state. “From this Benjamin, it’s not Tel Aviv University students about the Benjamins!” Netanya- hold moment of silence for hu told the annual AIPAC Policy ‘martyrs’ in the Gaza Strip: Conference in Washington, D.C., In response to the recent escala- speaking by live video from Israel. tion in the Gaza Strip, students at Tel Aviv University held a Netanyahu to AIPAC: ‘We moment of silence on Tuesday are prepared to do more’ in for Palestinian “martyrs” there. A Gaza: group of students waved the PLO Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin flag and held signs reading “one Netanyahu said that Israel is ready nation, one will, one struggle” and to increase its response to rocket “freedom for the prisoners.” attacks from the Gaza Strip. “I can tell you we are prepared to do a lot In fear of Israeli reprisals more. 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JNS nounced extremists both inside become official. Kfar Saba’s Meir Medical Center CONT. FROM P30 and outside the country’s borders, for care. and benefited them personally. in addition to calling for unity. IDF positions hundreds of In front of the American Israel soldiers in Gaza border, Palestinian cleric: ‘France At vigil for New Zealand Public Affairs Committee’s annual calls up limited reserves: will become an Islamic mosque shootings, policy conference on Monday, Reservists for air-defense units country through jihad’: Brooklyn College students the retired army general said that and two additional brigades of Is- Palestinian cleric Abu Taqi Al- chant terrorist slogans: were he to win, “there will be no rael Defense Forces were called to Din Al-Dari said in an Al-Aqsa The Young Progressives of Amer- Kahanists running our country, the Gaza border region following mosque address that was uploaded ica at Brooklyn College and the there will be no racists leading our the launch of a long-range missile to the Internet on March 12, 2019 Brooklyn College Islamic Society state institutions, and there will be from Gaza, which destroyed a that young people in Germany & Muslim Women’s Educational no corruption leading our ways— residential building and injured and France do not value marriage Initiative held a vigil on Friday, no corruption whatsoever.” seven people, including three as much as Muslims do, but that memorializing the 50 Muslim children. The call-up will bring this is not the reason that France worshippers murdered in Christ- Pence blasts anti-Semitic more than 1,000 additional Israeli will become an Islamic country. church, New Zealand, on March rhetoric, 2020 Democratic soldiers to the Gaza border, and Rather, he explained, France 15 with students chanting terrorist candidates for missing will be comprised of an infantry will become an Islamic country slogans. The Instagram account AIPAC: and an armored brigade. through jihad, since Muslims must of the Brooklyn College Student Vice President Mike Pence blast- have a country that will bring Union clearly displays students ed Democratic freshmen in the Long-range missile from Islam’s guidance and message to chanting, “Long Live the Intifa- House of Representatives on Gaza Strip destroys home in the West. He gave examples of da!” Monday, in addition to certain central Israel, injures seven: times in history when countries candidates on the 2020 presi- Seven people, including two ba- in the West and Asia were ruled Israel launches heavy dential campaign trail, for the bies, were injured in the upscale by the Ottoman Empire, which he assault on key Hamas terror former using “rank anti-Semit- agricultural town of Mishmeret described as an Islamic state, and sites, infrastructure in Gaza: ic language” and the latter for by a long-range missile fired from he said that the Islamic nation is The Israel Defense Forces has declining to attend the American Gaza early on Monday morning. capable of “returning to its former carried out dozens of airstrikes Israel Public Affairs Committee’s Victims include a 59-year-old self” and spreading Islam. Sheik on key Hamas targets throughout (AIPAC) annual policy confer- woman and a 30-year-old wom- Taqi Al-Din added that the entire the Gaza Strip on Monday eve- ence in Washington. At the same an with moderate injuries from world will be subject to the rule of ning following a rocket attack that time, he touted the Trump ad- shrapnel and trauma from the Islam in one of three ways: People destroyed a home in central Israel ministration’s pro-Israel accom- blast, and a 30-year-old-man, will either convert to Islam, be earlier in the day. “We are just plishments, including the United 12-year-old girl, 3-year-old boy forced to pay the jizya poll tax, or at the beginning,” IDF Spokes- States withdrawing from the 2015 and 18-month-old baby with light be fought against for the sake of man Brig. Gen. Ronen Manelis Iran nuclear deal and relocating injuries. They were evacuated to Allah. told Ynet News. “A large attack the U.S. embassy from Tel Aviv is planned. I think that Hamas to Jerusalem in May 2018 after understands this is a significant declaring Jerusalem the capital of strike [following] a serious inci- Israel six months earlier, dent, and ultimately, this is a price that Hamas has been accruing for IDF commences strikes the past year.” in Gaza following rocket attack in central Israel: Group of 120 Jewish The Israel Defense Forces an- Agency emissaries goes to nounced that is has commenced AIPAC: military strikes on Hamas in the A delegation of 120 shlichim Gaza Strip on Monday evening (Israeli emissaries) representing following a rocket attack earlier in the Jewish Agency for Israel are the day that destroyed a home in attending the 2019 American central Israel and injured seven. Israel Public Affairs Committee “We have just started striking (AIPAC) Policy Conference from Hamas targets throughout the March 24-26 in Washington, D.C. Gaza Strip,” the IDF Spokesper- They are part of more than 2,000 son Unit wrote on Twitter. Jewish Agency emissaries who travel to Diaspora communities Spearheaded by Trump, US in 150 countries to strengthen officially recognizes Israeli Jewish identity by bringing a taste sovereignty over the Golan: of Israel to local communities, On Monday, the United States promoting Israel experiences and officially recognized Israeli sov- facilitating Jewish social activism. ereignty over the Golan Heights, adding another accomplishment Gantz denounces for an administration that has extremism, calls for unity been lauded for its pro-Israel in AIPAC talk: agenda that includes recognizing Former Israel Defense Forces Jerusalem as the capital of the Chief of Staff and Blue and White Jewish state and relocating the Party leader Benny Gantz—Is- U.S. embassy in Israel to Jeru- raeli Prime Minister Benjamin salem. 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In the previous column we wrote character trait, and it is fitting for that when we become angry—or a person to distance himself from refuse to let go of our anger—it it to the opposite extreme. One is because we are, to some de- should train oneself never to be- This Pesach, Keep Your gree, fearful.[1] We are fearful come angry, even regarding things because we have lost control over for which anger might be justified. Ego in Check! a certain aspect of our life—our Among the most important circumstances, our image, and triggers of self-regulation failure so on. The response to fear—the are negative emotions, particularly ego’s attempt to compensate for fear (which has been discussed) this perceived loss of control—is and its offspring, anger. While all anger. When we feel threatened, negative emotions betray a lack we go into defense mode; anger of bitachon, they all feed from the emboldens the ego and peddles trough of anger. The following the illusion that we are in control. excerpt from a landmark research Let us crystallize the sequence of paper summarizes the unsur- events: prising range of self-destructive First, there is the event or cata- behaviors that anger spawns. lyst that results in (or reminds us When people become upset they of) an undesirable outcome; this sometimes act aggressively, spend produces a loss of control, which too much money, engage in risky make us anxious and fearful. The behavior, comfort with alcohol, lower our self-esteem, in general drugs or food, and fail to pursue (and how close to the nerve of important life goals. Anger is our self-image, in particular), the related to relapse for a number more fearful we become. As a re- of addictive behaviors, such as sult of our fear, we become angry. alcoholism, gambling and drug This destructive emotion often addiction; and increased eating by serves as a mask for other negative chronic dieters and greater smok- emotions, such as jealousy, envy, ing intensity by smokers. thirst for honor, and the like. For It is significant that anger releases this reason, the Rambam empha- a stress hormone called cortisol. sizes that a person should seek The long-term impact of elevated the middle of the road in all of cortisol levels is detrimental, both his traits and behaviors, with the physically and mentally. Specif- exception of anger. The Rambam ically, cortisol damages cells in writes: the hippocampus and results in There are certain character traits impaired learning. In the short- that one must distance oneself term, cortisol interferes with our from to the extreme. In fact, it is ability to think and process infor- forbidden to take [the standard mation. Herein lies the physiolog- approach of] the “middle path” ical workings behind the Torah’s regarding these character traits. . revelation that when a person is . . Anger is an extremely negative CONT.ON P33 32 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 3/29/19

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LIEBERMAN even though they were bringing CONT. FROM P32 the Plague upon themselves. consumed with rage, he cannot While the Egyptians provide an think clearly. example of blind anger, those on Consider the Egyptian response the highest level must also exer- to the Plague of Frogs. According cise extreme caution. Even where to the Midrash, one large frog justified, our Sages state, “The emerged from the Nile. The Egyp- Shechinah [Divine Presence] is tians tried to kill it, but each blow blocked to those who become released dozens of tiny frogs. They angry.” Elsewhere in the Talmud, kept hitting the great frog until it is written: “Whoever is conceit- Egypt was filled with frogs. The ed, if he is a wise Sage, his wisdom Steipler Rav asks, “Didn’t they see will leave him.” Loss of wisdom that they were only making things in a state of anger is not a punish- worse?” Why did they keep hit- ment. It is an automatic conse- ting the frog if each blow brought quence of an egocentric state. more of what they didn’t want? The National Highway Traffic The answer is: they were angry. Safety Administration estimates They were so furious and frustrat- that one-third of all fatal car ed that they kept hitting the frog CONT.ON P34 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 33 3/29/19

LIEBERMAN the other; only then is he able to tive and Aversive Environmental [He answered,] “I would never get CONT. FROM P33 choose—to exercise his free will. Cues,” Brain Cogn. 72 (2010): upset in my home” (Ta’anis 20b). crashes could be attributed to road In this way, he is like Hashem. 124–133. Indeed, there are more than one rage (aggressive or violent be- Rambam, loc. cit. Viktoriya Magid, et al., “Negative hundred studies that link anger or havior toward another motorist). G. Alan Marlatt and Judith R. Affect, Stress, and Smoking in low self-esteem to physical illness. Why is road rage more common Gordon eds., Relapse Prevention: College Students: Unique Associa- “Do not appease your fellow in than supermarket rage? A near- Maintenance Strategies in the tions Independent of Alcohol and the time of his anger” (Ethics of miss between two grocery carts Treatment of Addictive Behaviors Marijuana Use,” Addictive Behav- the Fathers 4:23). Such a person does not provoke the same indig- (New York: Guilford Press, 1985). ior no. 34 (2009): 973–975. cannot listen to reason when he is nation that surrounds a near-miss Rajita Sinha, “Modeling Stress and Rajita Sinha, “The Role of Stress under the grip of his emotions. on the highway. The reason is that Drug Craving in the Laboratory: on Addiction Relapse,” Current “Silence is a fence for wisdom” the fear created on the highway is Implications for Addiction Treat- Psychiatry Reports 9, no. 5 (2007): (Ethics of the Fathers 3:13). When greater, and, as such, the resultant ment Development,” Addict. Biol. 388–395. Katie Witkiewitz and we keep from angry words, we anger is intensified. Also, there is 14 (2009): 84–98. Nadia Aracelliz Villarroel, “Dy- hold onto our wisdom. greater anonymity, and the driv- Todd F. Heatherton and Dylan D. namic Association between Neg- Tanchumah, Va’eira, Siman 14, er does not have to worry about Wagner, Cognitive Neuroscience ative Affect and Alcohol Lapses brought by Rashi, Exodus 8:2. running into the person in the of Self-Regulation Failure. Following Alcohol” (2009). Rabbi Yaakov Yisroel Kanievsky, next aisle. The ego is freed of the Craig A. Anderson and Brad J. Todd F. Heatherton, C. Peter Birchas Peretz 25. potential embarrassment over the Bushman, “Human Aggression,” Herman, and Janet Polivy, “Effects Jacob did not prophesy during ensuing outburst. Annu. Rev. Psychol. 53 (2002): of Physical Threat and Ego Threat Joseph’s absence because proph- Rambam, Hilchos De’os 1:4. The 27–51. on Eating Behavior,” Journal of ets lose their prophetic ability in exact wording is intriguing. He Sabrina D. Bruyneel, Siegfried Personality and Social Psychology times of anger or mourning. advises that one finds the “exact Dewitte, Philip Hans Franses, and 60, no. 1 (1991): 138–143. Michael Joshua, Moses’ successor and middle path, equidistant to the Marnik G. Dekimpe, “I Felt Low Macht, “How Emotions Affect most dedicated student, lost a por- extremes of each trait.” The sur- and My Purse Feels Light: Deplet- Eating: A Five-Way Model,” Ap- tion of his knowledge and power face reading suggests a balanced ing Mood Regulation Attempts petite 50 (2008): 1–11. of reason when he displayed a approach, but there is more. The Affect Risk Decision Making,” Sherry A. McKee, et al., “Stress slight bit of arrogance: “Rebbi Gemara (Shabbos 133b) states, Journal of Behavioral Decision Decreases the Ability to Resist Yehudah said: Just before Moses “One should be similar to [Hash- Making 22, no. 2 (2009): 153–170. Smoking and Potentiates Smoking passed on to Gan Eden, he said em].” But how is walking the Leah H. Somerville, Ph.D., Re- Intensity and Reward,” Journal of to Joshua, ‘Ask me any questions middle path emulating Hashem? becca M. Jones, and B. J. Casey, Psychopharmacology (2011) DOI: you have.’ Joshua said, ‘Did I ever When a person is equidistant to Ph.D., “A Time of Change: Be- 10.1177/0269881110376694. leave you, even for a moment and the extremes of each trait, he is havioral and Neural Correlates of A great Rabbi was once asked, go elsewhere? Did you not write not leaning in one direction over Adolescent Sensitivity to Appeti- “How did you achieve longevity?” CONT.ON P35

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FIRST of actual or constructive notice. Rabbi Aharon Ziegler CONT. FROM P10 Once you provide some evidence that the supermarket was actually of actual or constructive notice, PARASHAT SHMINI 2019, 5779 told about the food item on the then the case cannot be dismissed floor prior to the accident. To by the court. Rather, a trial will “INTEGRITY AND HUMILTY” prove “constructive notice,” you be required and it will be up to must prove that the food item the jury to decide whether the was on the floor long enough supermarket had enough time to On the eighth day of the Milu- difference from the fact that Moshe prior to your accident so that the discover and remove the item. im (Inauguration of the Mishkan) had taught him that even maaser supermarket had enough time, in Aharon HaKohen burned the meat sheni, whose laws are less stringent the exercise of reasonable care, to The typical way evidence of of the Rosh Chodesh korban chatat, than those of korbanot may not be discover it and clean it. notice is provided is that people instead of eating it. When Moshe eaten by an onen. Cases where one can observe the item they slipped on Rabbeinu found out he became prove that someone actually told after they slip (i.e., while lying on upset and demanded an explana- Upon hearing Aharon’s argu- a supermarket employee about the floor). If the client can testify tion. (The Gemara Zvachim (101b) ment, Moshe immediately agreed the particular item on the floor that the food item he slipped on details the entire incident and dia- that Aharon was correct. The Ge- prior to the fall are few and far looked very dirty, or looked like logue). Aharon explained that he mara states that Moshe did not at- between. Cases where the injured others had stepped on it before he burned the korban because he and tempt to save face by simply saying, party himself saw the item on the did, this would be some evidence his children were onanim (since “I never heard of that”, but he said floor 10-15 minutes before, and that it had been on the floor for a earlier that day two of Aharon’s , “I did hear of this , but I forgot” then later slipped on it, are also while. Alternatively, sometimes a children, Nadav and Avihu, died) This, by itself, shows the greatness few and far between. The typical supermarket employee admits to so they were forbidden to eat the of Moshe Rabbeinu. However, the case is that someone slips on a the client after the accident that he korban. Moshe did not accept Chatam Sofer, adds a further di- food item on the floor and has no knew the item was there and was this explanation because HaShem mension. Moshe, like Aharon, was idea how long it had been there. meaning to remove it, but did not had specifically commanded that never taught that an onen may not The supermarket’s attorneys then get a chance. Also, nowadays su- the korban Mincha of that day be eat from a standard korban ledorot. take the position that the item had permarkets typically have videos. eaten- in spite of Aharon’s state of He was expected to infer it from only been on the floor for a very A video might show how long the Anninut. Since Moshe had already maaser sheni, as Aharon did. His brief time before the accident and item had been on the floor prior conveyed HaShem’s command- failure to properly use his deduc- the supermarket had no reason to to the accident. (It is important ment to Aharon to eat the Mincha, tive reasoning was more humiliat- know about it. for the client’s attorney, immedi- he criticized Aharon for treating ing to him than simply forgetting How do attorneys win ately upon retention, to contact the Rosh Chodesh chatat different- a Halacha. Admitting to such a these difficult cases? There are the supermarket in writing and ly than the mincha. failure could potentially convince various ways to provide evidence CONT.ON P36 people that Moshe’s logic was Aharon replied, that he under- faulty and lead them to consider stood that HaShem’s command- his halachic decisions as unreliable. ment to eat the Mincha was a The Gemara is telling us that in Horaat Shaa (a limited one-time spite of this concern, Moshe admit- Nutritionally yours leniency), which pertained only to ted his shortcomings and did not the Kodshei Shaa, (the unique kor- ascribe his error to forgetfulness. banot that were brought especially Moshe is not only our “Rabbeinu”, Personal Nutritional Consulting for the miluim) and not the Rosh but our role model in leadership, in Chodesh chatat which is a kodshei integrity and in humility. dorot (a standard and permanent korban brought regularly. Aharon Shabbat Shalom, Faigie Hirsch explained that he deduced the Rabbi Aharon Ziegler Nutritional Consultant 718-690-0807 LIEBERMAN on the day of the inauguration CONT. FROM P34 of the Mishkan (“Tabernacle”), ______about me, “The servant Yehoshua Aaron and his two remaining sons intentionally refrained from Bin Nun never left the Tent”?’ [email protected] Joshua’s strength immediately eating the meat of the sin-offer- weakened; he forgot 300 laws and ing of the Jewish people. Moses 700 questions occurred to him” showed anger when he discovered (Temura 14a). the sin-offering had been burned Moses himself forgot laws on the and not eaten, and thus he for- Helping you step up to the plate to three occasions he showed anger, got the law of aninus (“halachic even though he did so only for guidelines for a mourner before take charge of your life the sake of Heaven. In Deuter- the burial of the deceased”). We onomy 31, the soldiers of Klal find (Deuteronomy 20:10) that Yisrael returned victorious from Moses showed exasperation when their campaign against Midian, the people clamored for water and they took captive the very and thus he hit the rock, instead Midianite women who had caused of speaking to it, as Hashem had the Jewish people to sin. Moses commanded Him to do. For this, showed anger and thus forgot the he was denied entry into the Land laws of kashering vessels of gen- of Israel. tiles. Similarly, in Leviticus 10:17, Nedarim 22b. To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 35 3/29/19

to attacks on Torah, on Shabbos The Light of Torah is Driving Away the Darkness and on our way of life, have to of Anti-Religious Incitement in Teveria be spiritual in nature. Dirshu has dedicated itself to several innova- Gedolim to Attend Massive Dirshu Siyum on Masechta Chulin tive and exciting ways to enhance the spiritual lives of Teveria’s Jews. and Numerous New Shiurim Established The siyum that we will be making Chaim Gold on Masechta Chulin, the masechta that the Daf HaYomi is soon completing, is just the beginning It was a serious meeting at the Hashem, nothing less, which was Shabbos, bussing in people from of our efforts to spiritually fortify home of the senior Rosh Yeshiva of transpiring in their city. Tel Aviv to participate in chillul the city as an antidote to the bar- Ponovezh, HaGaon HaRav Ger- Reb David Ohana, a member of Shabbos festivals on the Kinneret rage of attacks perpetrated by the shon Edel- the City and even trucking in snow from anti-Torah mayor. The siyum will stein, shlita. Council Mount Chermon for a snow fun be a remarkable demonstration of One might of Teveria festival on Shabbos. We realized achdus. Sephardim, Ashkenazim, even call it for Degel that something had to be done so Chassidim and Litvish Yidden will somber. At HaTorah, we went to consult with the vener- come together to participate k’ish the meeting, related, ated Rosh Yeshiva of Ponovezh echad b’lev achad, to celebrate the a number of “The new for advice. We proposed perhaps completion of a masechta but even prominent Mayor making a massive demonstration more so, to accept upon themselves Rabbanim of Teve- on behalf of Shabbos by having a the ol Torah, the yoke of Torah in and energetic ria, Ron citywide Kabbalas Shabbos in the the numerous new programs that askanim from Kubi, has street where thousands would come Dirshu will be starting, encourag- Teveria, were HaRav Gershon Edelstein, the driving force behind the only one out to daven in the city’s main Teveria initiative, arriving at a past Dirshu Kinnus ing and promoting in Teveria,” said consulting agenda: thoroughfare thereby showing how Rabbi Weingarten. In addition, with the Rosh Yeshiva about what Attacking religion and especially important Shabbos is to everyone leading Sephardic and Ashkenazic they should do about the assault on charedim. He has declared war on in Teveria, not just to the charedim, Rabbanim from Teveria will grace but to the vast majority of the resi- the occasion and they will be joined dents who are traditional Sephar- by some of the most prominent dim,” Mr. Ohana explained. minutes before the fall and that Sephardi and Ashkenazi Gedolim FIRST Rav Gershon looked at us and, CONT. FROM P35 there was time for the supermar- in Klal Yisrael. in his clear, deliberate way, said, ket to have noticed it, then the Dirshu is also planning a wide ask them to preserve the video of “Demonstrations are not the way supermarket’s insurance company array of new Torah projects for the the time period of the accident.) to go. You must be mischazek, is often willing to consider set- wider Teveria community as the A critical factor in all these strengthen yourselves and strength- tlement. It costs them thousands ultimate response to such anti-reli- supermarket cases is the precise en others in shmiras Shabbos, in of dollars to defend the case for gious provocation. location of the accident within the keeping Shabbos, in learning the the long period prior to trial, Torah Observance is Increasing supermarket. A supermarket per- halachos of Shabbos and in general, and much more if a trial actually haps cannot be expected to notice raising the level of limud occurs. Typically, if only a modest a food item on the floor located haTorah in town. That is injury is involved, as long as the in a corner of a store, away from the antidote to a rabidly plaintiff’s attorney is not asking any employees. But if the food anti-religious demagogue for an excessive amount of money, item on the floor was in the front and rabble rouser like Ron a business decision is made by the of the store and near the cashiers, Kubi.” insurance company to settle the it is easier to argue that, in the Spiritual Attack, Spir- case, rather than go through the exercise of reasonable care, a su- itual Response cost of a lengthy litigation, and a permarket employee should have It is against this trial on the issue of “notice” and discovered it. The size and color backdrop and in light of other issues. of the item involved is also an this advice from the Rosh Be careful when you are in Overflow crowd at a previous Dirshu Kinyan important factor. A supermarket Yeshiva, that Dirshu will Shas Bechina (1) a supermarket. But if you do fall, cannot really be expected to notice be making a large siyum and even- do get a close look at what caused in Teveria, not the Opposite a small amount of clear water on ing of chizuk this coming Sunday, you to fall, and be prepared to ex- David Ohana, gave a bit of the floor. But a large puddle of 24 Adar II/ March 31 at the Mofet plain why you think the item was background to the upheaval in red cranberry juice in a prominent Hall in Teveria. there for many minutes before Teveria. “Teveria has always been a location is a different matter. According to Dirshu repre- Once the attorney is able you fell! traditional city where the majority sentative, Rabbi Nati Weingarten, of the population was Sephardic. to make some reasonable argu- Mitchell First Esq. has been a personal who has been intensely involved in injury attorney since 1985. His office is For years, the vast majority of the ment that the food item may have in Manhattan and he can be reached at the plans for the siyum, “Rav Ger- been on the floor for at least a few [email protected] or 1-800-710-7250. residents had a warm place in their shon has declared that the response CONT.ON P39

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38 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 3/29/19 MERCOLA CONT. FROM P25 The Community is invited to a special ment you can take called the Yale Food Addiction Scale. Peeke pro- Leadership and Education Conference vides a short and long version of in honor of this test in “The Hunger Fix.” She also has a quick and easy online Yeshivat Har Etzion’s 50th Anniversary and the food addiction test on her website. How to Break Your Sugar Stella K. Abraham Beit Midrash for Women at Migdal Oz’s 20th Anniversary Addiction Fortunately, there are solu- April 7, 2019 • 1:45pm-5:00pm tions to unhealthy junk food Grand Hyatt Hotel NYC cravings. Two of the most ef- fective strategies I know of are A unique opportunity to hear distinguished faculty of Yeshivat Har Etzion and Migdal Oz and alumni and intermittent fasting and a cyclical alumnae in communal leadership positions address the contemporary challenges impacting the Jewish ketogenic diet focused on real, community in Israel and the Diaspora today. whole foods. These strategies will effectively help reset your body’s Speakers will include: HaRav Mosheh Lichtenstein ’78, HaRav Baruch Gigi ’75, Rabbanit Esti Rosenberg, Rabbi Moshe Taragin ’83, metabolism and boost your body’s Yoetzet Halacha Shayna Goldberg, Dr. Yael Landman Wermuth MO ‘05 production of healing ketones, and your cravings for sugar will Chief Rabbi Ephraim Mirvis ’76, Rabbi Dr. Michael Rosensweig ’73, Mr. Moishe Bane ‘77 dramatically diminish, if not Rabbi Dr. Leonard Matanky , Rabbi Menachem Penner ’88, Rabbi Dr. Michael Berger ’80 vanish altogether, once your body Topics will include: starts burning fat instead of sugar as its primary fuel. • What does the future hold for Jewish communities in the Diaspora? Is increasing antisemitism in America and Ideally, for best results, you’ll Europe a threat to the safety and security of our communities? want to do intermittent fasting • Teaching Morally Diﬃcult Sections of Tanakh in Our Day and Age and a cyclical ketogenic diet in • Torah Perspectives on Teaching Modesty and Intimacy in the Era of Overexposure combination. • The Worldwide Dati Leumi Community and the Har Etzion Institutions: Past, Present, and Future Dr. Mercola is the founder of the world’s most visited natural • From the Yeshiva to the Academy; Opportunities and Challenges in Academic Jewish Studies health web site, Mercola.com

Registration is required at www.thegushdinner.org or by email usoﬃ[email protected] Suggested Donation: $18 DIRSHU Followed by Etzion Jubilee Gala Dinner (Registration and couvert required for dinner attendance) CONT. FROM P36 To see full schedule go to www.thegushdinner.org/jubilee-conference/ hearts for religious observance, even if they themselves were not completely observant. “In recent years, the religious presence in the city has grown tremendously. In fact, today 55% of the kindergarten children are religious. Joining the very significant Sephardic religious community, Karlin and Sanzer Chassidus have established neighborhoods with his campaign and his candidacy on have already started giving a course be included in the program.” hundreds of young families com- stoking the fears of an impending to aspiring magiddei shiur from Rabbi Avigdor Berenstein, a bined. The Litvish community has charedi ‘takeover’ of the city. Teveria to help them cultivate senior member of Dirshu’s hanhala also recently established a signifi- “Sadly, his strategy worked the ability to properly structure in Eretz Yisrael related, “Last week cant presence.” and now he is doing everything he and deliver a shiur so as to derive I attended a major gathering of can to secularize the city. He has maximum benefit to their listen- distinguished Rabbanim in Teve- David Ohana continues, “This threatened storeowners who insist ers. Dirshu is also in the process of ria. They are very excited about renaissance of religious life has on being closed on Shabbos, he has trying to rejuvenate and transform the burst of spiritual energy that created the perfect backdrop for a brought public transportation to a number of the city’s shuls to make Dirshu is investing in the city. demagogue like Ron Kubi to step the city and has specifically stoked them into Torah centers. As a tradi- in. Kubi is not even a resident of religious tension by insisting on tional city, Teveria has many shuls “Our objective is not to make Teveria. He and his family live making loud, garish and often im- but sadly, most are closed through- demonstrations and not to enter in Tel Aviv. A few years ago, he moral public festivals on Shabbos to out the day and barely scratch into conflict with Mayor Kubi. We ‘moved’ to Teveria by renting a spite the sensitivities of the religious together a minyan for Shacharis, will leave that for the politicians. one-room, portable caravan, com- public.” Mincha and Maariv. Dirshu will be What we are doing is in the spirit ing to Teveria, walking around starting new shiurim in many of of ‘me’at ohr doche harbei min ha- town and taking daily videos with The Counter-Revolution those shuls in what is hoped will be coshech, a bit of light drives away a his phone and uploading them to The Dirshu siyum is just the a harbinger of a Torah revolution.” lot of darkness.’” Facebook. Even now that he actual- beginning of the Torah counter In addition, Rav Hofstedter, the Certainly the light of Torah ly rents an apartment in Teveria, his revolution. “Dirshu has dedicated Nasi of Dirshu with the encourage- being learned and taught by lomdei family still resides in Tel Aviv and itself,” says Rabbi Weingarten, ment of Gedolei Yisrael, has waived Dirshu will increase Torah learn- it is that secular atmosphere that “to strengthen the learning of Daf the usual six-test threshold general- ing among all of Teveria’s residents is so characteristic of Tel Aviv that HaYomi in the city and will open a ly required before earning a Dirshu and will ensure that Teveria will re- he seeks to bring to Teveria. He is a minimum of ten new Daf HaYomi stipend in Eretz Yisrael. Any person main one of the four holy cities in one issue candidate who has based shiurim for the start of Masechta from Teveria who joins one of Eretz Yisrael that radiates kedusha Bechoros. In order to do this, they Dirshu’s programs will immediately to the entire land. To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 39