OCTOBER 2019 | TISHRI / CHESHVAN 5780 18th Annual Israel Walkathon Family Walk for Israel! THE ONLY Sunday, October 27, 2019 WALKATHON WITH A Registration 10 am KIDDUSH! Walk 10:30 am — noon Dogs and Strollers welcome!

WALK FIRST! EAT LATER.

Collect sponsorship money for the walk and participate in the event!

The walk starts and ends at CAI, followed by an Israeli themed “Kiddush” Lunch. It’s a great way to show our support for Israel while taking a stroll with friends and family. Supervised activities include a short walk for young children who don’t plan to join the main walking group. Pick up a registration form in the office. Registration fee: $18 • All donations tax deductible • Includes T-shirt

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Contents

4. Services 12. Adult Education 22 CAI Walkathon 5. From the Pulpit: Rabbi Silverstein 14. Early Childhood Center 25. Men's Club 6. From the Pulpit: Rabbi Lucas 15. Development News 26 Cemetery Association 8. Cantor's Notes 16. Social Worker: Resilience and Refuah 29. Yahrtzeit Donations 10. Education Matters 18. Sisterhood 30 Tributes & Donations 11. Education Calendar 20. Environmental Committee 33. Personals

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Monthly Schedule Israel/Environmental Speaker from JNF – Rabbi Cohen Friday, October 4 Dinner ...... 6:45 pm Erev Shabbat Service ...... 6 pm Speaker ...... 7:45 pm Saturday, October 5 Saturday, October 26 Shacharit...... 9:15 am Shacharit...... 9 am Mincha/Talmud Study/Maariv/Havdalah...... 6:10 pm B’nei Mitzvah – Justin and Ashley Projansky...... am Israel/Environment Shabbat – Tuesday, October 8 Guest speaker – Rabbi Michael Cohen from JNF...... 11 am Erev Yom Kippur, Minchah, Kol Nidre, Maariv...... 5:20 pm Lunch 'n' Learn with Rabbi Michael Cohen...... 1 pm Wednesday, October 9 Mincha/Talmud Study/Maariv/Havdalah...... 5:35 pm Yom Kippur, Shacharit...... 8:30 am Bat Mitzvah – Hayley Ebner...... pm Friday, October 11 Erev Shabbat Service...... 6 pm Candle Lighting Times Saturday, October 12 Rosh Hashanah Ends, Tuesday, October 1...... 7:34 pm Shacharit...... 9:15 am Shabbat Meditation...... 9:30 am Friday, October 4...... 6:15 pm Bar Mitzvah – Jackson Joshua Pope...... pm Shabbat ends, Saturday, October 5...... 7:25 pm Bat Mitzvah – Emily Carpenter...... pm Tuesday, October 8...... 6:09 pm Mincha/Talmud Study/Maariv/Havdalah ...... 5:55 pm Wednesday, Yom Kippur Ends...... 7:10 pm Sunday, October 13 Friday, October 11...... 6:04 pm Erev Sukkot...... 6 pm Shabbat ends, Saturday, October 12...... 7:14 pm Sunday, Erev Sukkot, October 13...... 6:01 pm Monday, October 14 Monday, Erev 2nd night Sukkot, October 14...... 7:07 pm Sukkot I...... 9:15 am Sukkot ends, Tuesday night, October 15...... 7:11 pm Erev 2nd night Sukkot, mincha/Maariv...... 6 pm Friday, October 18...... 5:53 pm Tuesday, October 15 Shabbat ends, Saturday, October 19...... 7:03 pm Sukkot II...... 9:15 am Sunday, Erev Shimin Atzeret, October 20...... 5:50 pm Mincha/Maariv...... 6 pm Monday , Erev Simchat Torah, October 21...... 6:57 pm Friday, October 18 Simchat Torah Ends, Tuesday, October 22...... 7 pm Shabbat in PJs...... 5:30 pm Friday, October 25...... 5:43 pm Erev Shabbat Service...... 6 pm Shabbat ends, Saturday, October 26...... 6:53 pm Saturday, October 19 Shacharit, Chol Hamoed Sukkot...... 8:45 am Daily Services Bar Mitzvah – Miles Orenstein...... pm Mincha/Talmud Study/Maariv/Havdalah...... 5:45 pm Mornings Monday & Thursday...... 6:45 am Sunday, October 20 Tuesday, Wednesday, & Friday...... 7 am Hoshana Rabba, Shacharit...... 9 am Sunday Talmud Study...... 8:15 am Bat Mitzvah – Emily Dyme...... am Sunday Shacharit...... 9 am Erev Shmini Atzeret with Yizkor...... 5:30 pm Evenings Monday, October 21 Sunday-Thursday...... 7:30 pm Shmini Atzeret...... 9:15 am Friday (see schedule) Yizkor...... 10:45 am Mincha...... 12:45 pm Saturday Schedule Erev Simchat Torah – Young Children’s Service...... 6 pm Erev Simchat Torah – Children’s Service...... 6:45 pm Services begin ...... 9:15 am Erev Simchat Torah – Main Service...... 7:30 pm (When B'nei Mitzvah)...... 9 am Torah Study Group...... 9 am Tuesday, October 22 Shabbat Meditation (per monthly schedule)...... 9:30 am Simchat Torah...... 9 am Torah Reading Chug (twice a month, ages 9-12)....10:15-11 am Mincha/Maariv/Havdalah...... 5:45 pm Torah for Tots (ages 0-4)...... 11 am Friday, October 25 Shabbat Friends (twice a month, grades K-2)...... 11 am Erev Shabbat Service ...... 5:45 pm Jr Congo (grades 3-6)...... 11 am

4 Congregation Agudath Israel of West Essex From the Pulpit

RABBI ALAN SILVERSTEIN

Why Be Jewish?

Sociologist Peter Berger wrote, are best inspired by communal, “The modern individual…lives in a political, or philanthropic acts, world of choice, in sharp contrast deeds that transform the lives of with the world of fate inhabited individuals and of society. by traditional man. Modern This stark breakdown is not men and women must choose so cut-and-dried! We all have in innumerable situations of pieces of Head, Heart, and Hand everyday life [and] this necessity within our individual Jewish of choosing reaches into the identity. Yet each of us has a areas of beliefs, values, and dominant mode — intellectual, world views.” spiritual, or communal. People In today’s environment of manifest different degrees of multiple options, the fastest- Head, Heart, or Hand selves growing religious denomination at different stages of life or in in American life is “None” — varying contexts. Being Jewish “None of the above,” whose Gershom Scholem sitting in Sukka learning Zohar is an immense blessing. It offers members say, “I identify us the opportunity to continually with no one specific religion.” Some Jews are attracted to sample and savor those Head, Heart, and Hand qualities that becoming a “None.” They ask, “Why be Jewish?” “What’s in best meet our personal needs. it for me?” “What is there to be excited about? After all, I I have known folks who are mitzvah heroes (Hand Jews), am not particularly religious at this stage of my life.” gaining “a helper’s high” in performing deeds of loving- To answer the question “Why be Jewish?” let’s examine the kindness toward others in need. I have encountered wisdom shared by Jewish historian Gershom Scholem (1897- renowned scholars and thinkers and teachers and 1982), who defined three categories of Jewish identity: communicators (Head Jews), whose fulfillment stems from “Head Jews,” “Heart Jews,” and “Hand Jews.” being nourished by the wisdom of our heritage. I also have admired spiritual giants (Heart Jews), whose powerful Head Jews are cerebral; they find meaning and fulfillment soulfulness emanates from their being and brings others to via the realm of books, ideas, discussions, and the probing feel imbued momentarily with a touch of divinity. of issues. Heart Jews are those who seek serenity via holiness, spirituality, ritual, and prayer, which serve as Why be Jewish? Being a Jew is profoundly enriching for the routes to intimacy with God. Hand Jews are individuals who vast majority of Jewish people.

Rabbi Silverstein, Rabbi Lucas, and Cantor Caplan would like to reach out to our community members in need. Please call Debbie Lurie, ext. 118, or Meryl Natter, ext. 115, if a loved one or friend is ill and/or hospitalized.

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www.agudath.org | OCTOBER 2019 5 From the Pulpit

RABBI ARI LUCAS

A Shul Is Like a CSA

“What’s a CSA?” you ask. Community Supported Agriculture people who share their values, connecting and developing is a model of partnership between consumers and local relationships — sometimes transformative ones — through farmers. Consumers buy a share of the farm’s produce a shared commitment to the cause. “Man does not live on at the beginning of a planting season. The farmer bread alone.” (Deuteronomy 8:3) A shul and a CSA are periodically delivers a portion of the produce directly to both designed to help people find community through their the shareholders. This model holds many advantages search for fulfillment. for both; the farmer gets (literal) seed money up front, Next, as our consumer culture trends toward more and reducing some of the risk of organic, small-scale farming, more personalization, CSAs and shuls are blessedly counter- while the consumers benefit from having a relationship cultural. Stitch Fix offers a personal stylist to recommend with the farmer who produces their food. Consumers have clothing that fits your unique taste. Blue Apron will ship greater assurance that the food is grown ethically, in an ingredients for a meal to your doorstep ready to cook and environmentally conscious way, and that the produce assemble. There’s even a company that let’s you mix your is fresh and delicious (often picked the same day it’s own shampoo and skin care products. In this era of hyper- delivered). individualization, CSAs and synagogues offer a different An additional benefit is that because a CSA requires some approach. They sacrifice some individual choice for the effort to distribute the produce that arrives from the farm, greater good of being part of a larger community. You consumers get to know one another, may not get the prayer service, or connecting at pick-up times and often religious school, or bar/bat mitzvah organizing field trips to see the farm A shul and a CSA are ceremony that’s individually tailored and meet the farmers. both“ designed to help people to your specifications — but you do get to be part of something I am delighted to participate in a bigger and better when we build it CSA here in Caldwell. The experience find community through together. has connected me to my neighbors their search for fulfillment. and community in a delicious way. There’s an old joke about a Jew who Participating in a CSA is not all roses. ” says, “I have the perfect idea for a Sometimes, the farmer has a variable growing season and shul; the only problem is I need nine other people to join produce is limited. Consumers don’t have as much choice as me.” Our synagogue is wonderfully diverse and we do our they might at a farmers’ market or supermarket that sources best to meet everyone’s spiritual needs and desires. It may from local farmers. For example, I may have wanted more not be exactly what you want all the time, but we hope you tomatoes and fewer eggplants this week, but in a CSA — you feel energized by your engagement with our shul — and get what you get. On the upside, necessity is the mother of learn to improvise with the eggplants. creativity, and I’ve learned to improvise with an eggplant. Lastly, these organizations are sustained by the volunteer The CSA also requires additional work on the part of the efforts of their members. In a CSA, the farmers do their consumers, who are expected to volunteer for shifts and part by planting, growing, and harvesting, but volunteers have to pick up their shares on delivery day. This is all in do their part, too: registering people, setting up the tables addition to supermarket shopping, because what you get and bins, and showing up to make the whole program run. from a CSA is usually only vegetables (although some offer The same is true of a synagogue. Your rabbi will till the fruits, eggs, and even meat — but I’ve yet to see a kosher soil of Torah to share an insight with you. The cantor will meat CSA). In short, the CSA experience adds time, money, harvest the fruits of the siddur and offer them to you. The and effort to our weekly routine. But we do it because we staff will plough through crops of phone calls and e-mails think it’s worth it. and spreadsheets. But nothing grows in this ecosystem So how is a shul like a CSA? without the efforts and volunteerism of our members who are committed and bring forth spiritual produce from the First, in both cases, people join because they’re searching landscape of their souls. for sustenance —physical or spiritual. In seeking out that sustenance, members can together build community with May this be a fruitful season for all of us.

6 Congregation Agudath Israel of West Essex MEN’S CLUB MEMBERSHIPSAVE THE DATE! ISRAEL WALKATHON 4TH ANNUAL CAI Comedy Night! IN LOVING MEMORY 2019 ANNUAL OF BABEe AKSELRAD a Z”L Spirits in the Sukkah Featufriendring 18TH ANNUAL Mark Schiff Thursday, Oct. 17, 7:45 pm in the Adult Lounge Israel Walkathon at CAI! Join the Men’s Club for our annual event! A local Saturday, December 14, 8 pm Sunday, October 27, 2019 distributor will present craft beers or spirits for Stay tuned for more details and Registration 10 am, Walk 10:30 am – noon, tasting. “Special drink” to be determined. registration information! “Kiddush” following $20/person includes a CAI tasting glass and invite Standup comedian, Mark Schiff, WALK STARTS AND ENDS AT CAI Questions/RSVP: Joseph Shumofsky at “Mark Schiff is one has headlined at all the major a frienof the funniest,d! DOGS AND STROLLERS WELCOME!! [email protected] casinos in Las Vegas and Atlantic the brightest, the Young children’s walk: From 10:30 till noon there City, as well as clubs across the best stage comics I will be supervised activities available, including a Congregation Agudath Israel | 20 Academy Rd., country,Thank you and for has helping appeared to onspread The the word about short walk around the block or building, for young Caldwell, NJ 07006 | 973-226-3600 | www.agudath.org Tonight Show and Late Night with have ever seen.” our special community at Congregation Agudath children who don’t plan to walk (or stroll). David Letterman. Mark has had MEMBER ENGAGEMENT IsraelMEMBERSHIP and all that we have to offer. —Jerry Seinfeld both HBO and Showtime specials, andKeep has telling been yourthe featured friends, act family, at and neighbors Find updates and donate online at agudath.org. “…if you can get theabout Montreal your positive Comedy experiencesFestival. He here. YOU are him, I would do it, hasour writtenmost successful for and guest advertising. starred on Mad About You and writes because there is Congregation Agudath Israel | 20 Academy Rd., articles for The Jewish Journal. nobody funnier…” Caldwell, NJ 07006 | 973-226-3600 | www.agudath.org CurrentlyA warm on welcome tour with Jerry to our newest families Seinfeld, his new project is the —Paul Reiser play,as of September MARRIED PEOPLE, 3: which he co-wrote with Steve Shaffer. Knit and crochet for a cause! Darron and Meredith Collins with Lennox and Julian MeridithBe a Egyesfriend with Lennox and and invite Sabrina a friend! Thursday, Oct. 17, 11:30 am – 1:30 pm Congregation Agudath Israel | 20 Academy Rd., BarryCaldwell, and Cheryl NJ 07006 Grummer | 973-226-3600 | www.agudath.org Drop in anytime! Thank you for helping to spread the word about our Jonspecial Gordon community and Jordana at CongregationHorn with Zev, Rami, Agudath Israel Open to all skill levels. We work together to create Gabriella,and all that Orli, we Aliza, have and to Yael offer. goods to donate to organizations that serve people LiamKeep Krausz telling• MEMBER and your Lauren OF friends, CONGREGATION Rabner family, AGUDATH and neighborsISRAEL • about in need. We also accept donations of items you’ve your positive experiences here. YOU are our most already made. If you have hooks, needles, or leftover Bryan Niederman with Asher successful advertising. yarn, please bring them along. Marc and Noaa Stoler with Neve and Reece RSVP: Debbie Lurie, [email protected], or JeffA warm and Lauriwelcome Wactlar to ithw our Claire newest families as Caryn Snerson, [email protected]. Forof Sep information,tember 3: contact membership and Darron and Meredith Collins with Lennox and Julian Congregation Agudath Israel | 20 Academy Rd., community relations coordinator Debbie Lurie at Caldwell, NJ 07006 | 973-226-3600 | www.agudath.org 973-226-3600,Meridith Egyes with ext. Lennox 118, and or [email protected]. Sabrina All program information is subject to change. Barry and Cheryl Grummer CongregationGet up-to-date Agudath information Israel | at20 agudath.org.Academy Rd., Jon GordonCongregation and Jordana Agudath Horn Israel with Zev, | 20 Rami, Academy Rd., Congregation Agudath Israel | 20 Academy Rd., Caldwell, NJ 07006 | 973-226-3600 | www.agudath.org Gabriella,Caldwell, Orli, NJ 07006 Aliza, and | 973-226-3600 Yael | www.agudath.org Caldwell, NJ 07006 | 973-226-3600 | www.agudath.org Liam Krausz and Lauren Rabner

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CANTOR JOEL CAPLAN

Sukkot, Yizkor, Simchat Torah — and My Father

YOUR OWN YIZKOR FOR MY FATHER: SUKKAH: As a cantor, I’ve been helping lead Yizkor ceremonies for many How about years, but now that my father has died, this month will be it this year? the first time that I will be a “full” participant in Yizkor. Some We have used thoughts about that: sukkahs that I think the custom of “If you don’t have to say Kaddish, leave you can have during Yizkor” is an unfortunate one. Oh, I understand it — for free! We “What, you’re staying in for Yizkor? Do you wish your father will subsidize (or mother) and I were dead, God forbid?” So, many Jews, a sukkah for even in our congregation, don’t come for Yizkor — and that’s congregation members who’ve never had one; too bad. The result is that the first time it’s your turn to be you’ll get an 8’ x 12’ sukkah, including all parts, present for Yizkor, you don’t know what to expect, and it can for about $325! And it’s easier than ever to put be even more upsetting. We should take a few minutes to up and store. Make it happen this year! remember our beloved dead together. YIZKOR ON SHEMINI ATZERET: Dick Caplan on the Hereafter: “I’m not scared to die. I don’t remember where I was before I was born. That doesn’t scare Mark your calendars so that we may come together me. And when I die, it will be like before I was born. So I’m to say Yizkor (15-minute service) for our beloved not afraid.” dead on Shemini Atzeret, this year on Monday, Oct. 21, at 10:45 am. If you can’t come then, we will My father had co-edited an anthology titled “Death and also offer Yizkor at the evening service on Sunday, Dying in Literature.” For the end of his own life, he basically Oct. 20, at 5:50 pm. wanted to “fade away” — to die in his sleep, without pain or discomfort. Thank God, this is indeed what happened.

SIMCHAT TORAH I find the following image — it’s from that anthology — helpful; DANCING: it reminds me of our referring to the dead in our Amidah as “lee-shay-nay afar” — the “ones who sleep in the dust”: This year, Simchat Torah is Monday night, Oct. 21, and Tuesday morning, Oct. 22. Come out and dance with the Torah scrolls! Let’s get our kids and So live, that when thy summons comes to join teenagers to join in, too! Monday night’s dancing is sponsored by Dr. Hy Fisher in memory of Dr. The innumerable caravan… Rosalie Fisher — so in Rosalie’s memory, let’s …approach thy grave, dance up a storm! Like one who wraps the drapery of his couch SIMCHAT TORAH READING: About him, and lies down to pleasant dreams. Do you want to read Torah on Simchat Torah morning, Tuesday, Oct. 22? For the past several — From “Thanatopsis” by William Cullen Bryant years, well over 100 readers have been reading short aliyas from every Torah scroll we have. (American, 1794 –1878) This is especially good for beginners, children or adults — you can read as little as one sentence. Call Nancy Caplan at 973-228-7985 to arrange a reading. Goodbye, Dad. We’ll miss you.

8 Congregation Agudath Israel of West Essex NOVEMBER CONCERT

Above: The Loose Canons. Right: Metropolitan Klemzer Double Bill: The Loose Canons and Metropolitan Klezmer MURRAY AND RANDI SPIEGEL INVITE YOU TO A FREE* GALA CONCERT IN RECOGNITION OF THEIR TENTH MUSIC PROGRAM AT CAI. Saturday, November 16, 8 pm

THE LOOSE CANONS: A cross between Manhattan Transfer and Second City! The Loose Canons are a unique group of New Jersey-based singers and musicians who perform an eclectic mix of folk/pop, doo-op, parodies, and classic melodies that span the decades. They are known for their musicianship, style, zany humor, and ability to connect with an audience. They have performed at dozens of venues throughout New Jersey, including Morristown’s First Night.

METROPOLITAN KLEZMER brings eclectic exuberance to Yiddish musical genres from all over the map. Performing vibrant versions of lesser-known gems from wedding dance, folk, swing and tango styles, as well as material from vintage Yiddish films, they re-invent tradition with both irreverence and respect. They are celebrating their 25th year.

*Free with advance registration, $20 at the door. Register at agudath.org/events

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www.agudath.org | OCTOBER 2019 9 Education Matters

SUSAN WERK, EDUCATION DIRECTOR

The many meanings of Sukkot

“Stand up straight and tall!” How many times in my The symbols of Sukkot also signify the transition life have I heard this command? As a child, a teen, from the dry to the rainy season. We will end and an adult, my posture — which bends me into a Sukkot with Shemini Atzeret, the holiday when pronounced slouch — has irritated so many of those we begin to pray for rain for the Land of Israel. who love me. Most recently, one of our beloved Thinking like a farmer, we wonder if the winter congregants gave me the gift of a ball to be used as a months will bring us what we need to have an back exercise to improve my posture. Etrog abundant spring.

Some hold the opinion that a person “walks” their Shaking the lulav and etrog can also symbolize the feelings or spirit; after all, the definition of “walk tall” shaky feeling we get as we face transitions and the is “to be proud and confident.” (I would like to think unknown. As we do the ritual shaking, when we utter that my poor posture is no reflection on my inner God’s name in the liturgy, we stop and stand straight bearing; it’s just the result of not paying attention!) and tall, showing our strength and purpose when we are with God and our companions in prayer. As we approach the holiday of Sukkot, the achievement of harmony of body and spirit is And there is more these venerable ritual items reinforced by the symbolic significance of the Lulav offer: The etrog has both taste, representing components of the lulav and etrog as each relates learning, and fragrance, meant to stand for good to a particular body part and the way it can be used deeds; the date palm (lulav) has taste but no to serve God (Sefer ha-Chinuch, #285): fragrance; the myrtle has fragrance but no taste; and the willow has neither. “Etrog refers to the heart, the place of understanding and wisdom. Lulav refers to the From this we understand that each component backbone, uprightness. Myrtle corresponds to the represents a different type of person. Some people eyes, enlightenment. Willow represents the lips, the both have learning and are performers of good service of the lips, or prayer.” deeds; some have one without the other; and Myrtle some have neither. Real community is composed Shaking the lulav and etrog always reminds me of all types of people — with varied backgrounds, of a dancer who moves with grace, bending and strengths and weaknesses, attitudes, opinions, and swaying to the rhythm of the music, an integration of needs — being brought and bound together under movement and meaning. The “lulav” is straight and one roof. tall, presenting pride and purpose but also flexible and able to bend and adjust when it is shaken with So stand up tall with the etrog and lulav. Sit the etrog and the myrtle and willow branches. What and relax in our sukkah. Enjoy the Time of our a symbol for us! When we are shaken, we look for Happiness — another name for Sukkot — with your supportive partners to help us bend and sway and CAI community! Chag Sameiach! adjust to the buffeting of life’s challenges. Willow — Susan Werk

Sukkot Happenings

Sukkot begins Annual Sukkot family dinner Simchat Torah — Sunday evening, Oct. 13. Wednesday, Oct. 16, 6 pm Dance with the Torah Lulav and etrog sets can be Featuring dairy meal, games, Monday, Oct. 21 purchased for $40 on agudath.org. and stories in the CAI sukkah. 5:30 pm: Kid-friendly dairy dinner by Thursday, Oct. 10. $5 per person. 6 pm: Young Children’s Service Pick-up will be on Sunday, Oct. 13, Register at agudath.org 6:45 pm: Children’s Service 10 am - 2 pm. 7:30 pm: Main Service

10 Congregation Agudath Israel of West Essex Education Calendar

Saturday, Oct. 26: Sunday, Oct. 13: EARLY CHILDHOOD CENTER SHABBAT WITH FRIENDS, 11 AM KADIMA EVENT, NOON Tuesday, Oct. 1: Sunday, Oct. 27: Tuesday, Oct. 15: ECC CLOSED ISRAEL WALKATHON, 9 AM RELIGIOUS SCHOOL CLOSED Tuesday, Oct. 8: Wednesday, Oct. 16: ECC EARLY DISMISSAL, NOON ELEMENTARY SCHOOL TEEN MONTHLY EVENT, 6 PM Tuesday, Oct. 8: Monday, Oct. 21: ECC EXTENDED DAY EARLY DISMISSAL, 1 PM (GRADES 3-5) SIMCHAT TORAH CELEBRATION, 7:30 PM Tuesday, Oct. 1: Wednesday, Oct. 9: Tuesday, Oct. 22: ECC CLOSED RELIGIOUS SCHOOL CLOSED RELIGIOUS SCHOOL CLOSED Sunday, Oct. 13: Tuesday, Oct. 8: Wednesday, Oct. 23: AL GALGALIM, 10 AM RELIGIOUS SCHOOL CLOSED TEEN PROGRAM, SEMESTER #1, 6 PM Monday, Oct. 14: Wednesday, Oct. 9: Saturday, Oct. 26: ECC CLOSED (EXTENDED DAY OPEN) RELIGIOUS SCHOOL CLOSED TEEN LEADERS MEET FOR SHABBAT Tuesday, Oct. 15: Saturday, Oct. 12: FRIENDS, 10:30 AM ECC CLOSED (EXTENDED DAY OPEN) TORAH CHUG Sunday, Oct. 27: Friday, Oct. 18: Saturday, Oct. 12: ISRAEL WALKATHON, 9 AM SHABBAT IN PJS, 5:30 PM TOV M’OD CHOIR SINGS Wednesday, Oct. 30: Monday, Oct. 21: Tuesday, Oct. 15: TEEN PROGRAM, SEMESTER #1, 6 PM ECC CLOSED (EXTENDED DAY OPEN) RELIGIOUS SCHOOL CLOSED Monday, Oct. 21: Wednesday, Oct. 16: TEENS (GRADES 9-12) DINNER/SIMCHAT TORAH CELEBRATION, FAMILY DINNER IN SUKKAH, 6 PM 5:30 PM Wednesday, Oct. 9: Monday, Oct. 21: RELIGIOUS SCHOOL CLOSED Tuesday, Oct. 22: SIMCHAT TORAH CELEBRATION, 6:45 PM ECC CLOSED (EXTENDED DAY OPEN) Saturday, Oct. 12: Tuesday, Oct. 22: Sunday, Oct. 27: TEEN LEADERS MEET FOR SHABBAT RELIGIOUS SCHOOL CLOSED FRIENDS, 10:30 AM ISRAEL WALKATHON, 9 AM Saturday, Oct. 26: Wednesday, Oct. 16: TORAH CHUG TEEN MONTHLY EVENT, 6 PM PRIMARY (K-2) Sunday, Oct. 27: Monday, Oct. 21: Saturday, Oct. 5: MINDFUL FUN, 8:30 AM SIMCHAT TORAH CELEBRATION, 7:30 PM BREATHE IN A BLESSING, 11 AM Sunday, Oct. 27: Wednesday, Oct. 23: Saturday, Oct. 12: ISRAEL WALKATHON, 9 AM TEEN PROGRAM, SEMESTER #1, 6 PM SHABBAT WITH FRIENDS, 11 AM Wednesday, Oct. 23: Wednesday, Oct. 16: USY EVENT, 7:30 PM FAMILY DINNER IN SUKKAH, 6 PM MIDDLE SCHOOL (GRADES 6-8) Saturday, Oct. 26: Friday, Oct. 19: Tuesday, Oct. 1: TEEN LEADERS MEET FOR SHABBAT SHABBAT IN PJS, 5:30 PM RELIGIOUS SCHOOL CLOSED FRIENDS, 10:30 AM Sunday, Oct. 20: Tuesday, Oct. 8: Wednesday, Oct. 30: RS MONTHLY PROGRAM RELIGIOUS SCHOOL CLOSED TEEN PROGRAM, SEMESTER #1, 6 PM Sunday, Oct. 20: Wednesday, Oct. 9: CHAVERIM EVENT, 11:30 AM RELIGIOUS SCHOOL CLOSED Monday, Oct. 21: Saturday, Oct. 12: DINNER/SIMCHAT TORAH CELEBRATION, TEEN LEADERS MEET FOR SHABBAT 5:30 PM FRIENDS, 10:30 AM

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www.agudath.org | OCTOBER 2019 11 Adult Education 2019-2020

MONDAYS WITH RABBI MICHAEL JAY BEIT MIDRASH NIGHT WITH RABBI ARI LUCAS “ISRAEL’S MILESTONES AND THEIR MEANINGS: THE LEGACY OF THE PAST AND THE CHALLENGE This class is more about form than content OF THE FUTURE,” 10 AM - 12 NOON (although there will be plenty of content). We’ll Mondays, Nov. 4, 11, 18, 25; Dec. 2, 9, 16, 23, 30; study a few of my favorite texts on a variety Jan. 6, 13, 27; Feb. 3, 10, 24; Mar. 2, 9, 16, 23, 30; of topics. In preparation for each session, you’ll need a Apr. 6, 20, 27; May 4, 11, 18 havruta – study partner. You can choose your own, or we A course covering great moments of the State of Israel from can pair you up. As a havruta pair, your responsibility is to the Balfour Declaration to the Six-Day War and beyond, connect on your own schedule, learn and discuss a source and how these moments have impacted Israel, the Jewish sheet I’ll mail out to you in advance (I’ll provide tools for people, and the world. beginners, intermediate, and advanced learners to prepare the texts), and then come to our class meeting prepared to Fee per class: $120 for members; $240 for nonmembers review the texts and discuss in a larger group. Register at agudath.org/events Tuesdays, Nov. 5, 12, 19, 26; Dec. 3, 10; 7:45 ‑ 9 pm Fee: Free for members; $120 for nonmembers TUESDAYS WITH NANCY CAPLAN Register at agudath.org/events CONVERSATIONAL HEBREW ADVANCE BEGINNER TO INTERMEDIATE LEVEL, 9:15 - 10:15 AM ROSH CHODESH WOMEN’S GROUP TEXT AND COFFEE: TORAH TEXT THROUGH MANY LENSES, 10:30 ‑ 11:40 AM Looking for a meaningful woman’s Together let’s explore Torah text with an eye towards how experience? Join our monthly Women’s Rosh Chodesh it can be interpreted by different, sometimes conflicting Group. Learn, share and grow in a safe, loving environment. approaches: from ancient to modern from Jewish to other No prior knowledge of Hebrew or Torah needed; just the religions. We will begin with the book of B’Midbar. desire to learn and share with your fellow congregants. Led by Susan Werk. WHERE AND WHEN: JEWISH LAWS AND CUSTOMS — WHY DO WE DO WHAT WE DO?, 12:30 ‑ 1:30 PM Tuesday, Oct. 29 - Cheshvan, 8 pm; Meet at the home of Amy Borg Glickman, 8 Bear Brook Lane, Livingston, NJ 07039 FIRST SEMESTER: Tuesdays, Sep. 17, 24; Oct. 29; Register at agudath.org/events Nov. 5, 12, 19, 26; Dec. 3, 10 Fee per class: $120 for members; $240 for nonmembers Register at agudath.org/events ART WORKSHOPS WITH MARGIE SAMUELS, WATERCOLOR CLASSES WITH RABBI SILVERSTEIN ARTIST AND PAINTING INSTRUCTOR THE BOOK OF DANIEL, 10 AM Margie Samuels is an award-winning artist and instructor. SELECTED ISSUES ON THE HOLOCAUST, 11 AM She is an elected member of the New Jersey Watercolor Wednesdays, Oct. 2, 16; Nov. 6, 13; Dec. 4, 11, 18; Society and the Essex Water Color Club. Samuels teaches Jan 8, 15, 22; Feb. 12, 19; Mar. 4, 11, 18, 25; Apr. 1, 22, 29; painting workshops at various locations throughout the United May 6, 13, 20 States. Visit her online at margiesamuelswatercolor.com/. CONTEMPORARY JEWISH THINKERS, MUSICIANS AND ARTISTS, 9:30 AM FOUNDATIONS OF WATERCOLOR PAINTING: JEWISH ARTISTS Thursdays, Oct. 24, 31; Nov. 14, 21; Dec. 5, 12, 19; Jan. 9, 16, 23, This workshop focuses on the basics of watercolor painting, 30; Feb. 6, 13, 20; Mar. 5, 12, 19, 26; Apr. 2, 23, 30; May 14, 21 such as washes, color mixing and brush techniques. The Fee: Free for members; $240 per class for nonmembers class will be a great start for those who have never painted Register at agudath.org/events or a solid review for those who have. Mondays, Nov. 4, 11, 18; Tuesday, Nov. 26; 12:30 ‑ 3 pm Fee: $40 for members; $80 for nonmembers TEXT AND JEWISH POP WITH SUSAN WERK Register at agudath.org/events

We will examine Jewish topics in contemporary PRIVATE CLASSES BY MARGIE SAMUELS (AT CAI) TV and film, beginning with Shtisel and moving into other Israeli and American expressions. Traditional FOUNDATIONS OF WATERCOLOR PAINTING Jewish text will support our conversations. Monday, Oct. 28, 9:30 am ‑ 12:30 pm (at CAI) Thursdays, Oct. 24, 31; Nov. 14, 21; Dec. 5, 12, 19; 10:30 ‑ 11:45 am Fee: $80 Fee: Free for members; $240 for nonmembers Register at margiesamuelswatercolor.com/workshops Register at agudath.org/events

12 Congregation Agudath Israel of West Essex Adult Education (continued)

THE ABC’S OF ABSTRACT PAINTING TUESDAY MATINEES AT CAI: JEWISH FILM SERIES If you love the look of contemporary, nonrepresentational art, but have no idea where to begin, this workshop is for 1 pm viewing of film, followed by congregant-led discussion you. We will create multiple types of abstract paintings, all THE CHOSEN: Tuesday, Nov. 5 in watermedia. All levels of painters are welcome. ANNIE HALL: Tuesday, Nov. 19 Thursday, Nov. 14 and Friday, Nov. 15, 9:30 am ‑ 12:30 pm each day (at CAI) CROSSING DELANCEY: Tuesday, Dec. 17 Fee: $150 (Early Bird $130 if registered by Oct. 14) BLAZING SADDLES: Tuesday, Jan. 14 Register at margiesamuelswatercolor.com/workshops THE PAWNBROKER: Tuesday, Jan. 28 DRIVING MISS DAISY: Tuesday, Feb. 11 FLORALS IN WATERCOLOR BROADWAY DANNY ROSE: Tuesday, Mar. 3 This workshop reveals the secrets of painting flowers. BILOXI BLUES: Tuesday, May 5 Participants will do practice exercises as well as create floral artwork. All levels of painters are welcome. Register at agudath.org/events Monday, Dec. 16, 9:30 am ‑ 12:30 pm (at CAI) Fee: $80 (Early Bird $65 if registered by Nov. 16) THE MICHAEL AND BARBARA Register at margiesamuelswatercolor.com/workshops ERLICHMAN FILM SERIES LESSONS FROM JOHN SINGER SARGENT All movies are screened in the Adult Lounge and begin at 7:45 pm. John Singer Sargent was a talent force in American and THE LAST SUIT: Wednesday, Oct. 23 European watercolor painting, both in landscapes and THE STORY OF CHIUNE SUGIHARA: Wednesday, Nov. 13 portraits. Singer’s artwork has powerful messages that still THE STORY OF A JEWISH DOG: Wednesday, Mar. 18 apply to watercolor painters today. This two-day workshop will include a power-point presentation as well as painting SEFARAD: Wednesday, May 20 exercises. Using Sargent’s important lessons, participants Register at agudath.org/events will complete a landscape painting. All levels of painters are welcome. Thursday, Jan. 9 and Friday, Jan. 10; 9:30 am - 12:30 pm each day CAI TRIPS TO ISRAEL (at CAI) Fee: $150 (Early Bird $130 if registered by Dec. 9) Your senses will be filled with the life, Register at margiesamuelswatercolor.com/workshops smells, sounds and textures of modern Congregation Agudath Israel's Israel, along with an appreciation of Exploring Israel: Food, Art and Social Justice Led by Susan Werk October 27–November 7, 2019 our connections to our Jewish roots and View and download itinerary and application at www.israeltour.com/adultai

DISCOUNTED PRICE FOR CHECK PAYMENT FULL PRICE FOR CREDIT CARD PAYMENT Land Only Package – $3895 Land Only Package – $4050 per person in a double room per person in a double room Land and Air Package – *$5375 Land and Air Package – *$5579 per person in a double room per person in a double room biblical history. Tours are arranged by Single Room Supplement – $1295 Single Room Supplement – $1255 *Air security and fuel surcharge are subject to change

Round trip air: EWR – Tel Aviv – Return MOVIE SCREENING Added to the costs above are tips for Guide, Driver, Restaurants, and Porterage – $190 *Air price is subject to change as are fuel and security surcharges **Tour price is based on 20 participants; price will increase with less participants and be reduced at 25 or more participants ITC Tours LLC. Contact tour manager Yafa #Israel is trending #Food #Wine #Art and Social Justice Join Congregation Agudath Adult Israel trip: Tour Old Jaffa, Israeli Art Wing at the Tel Aviv Art Museum, Architectural walking tour Tel Aviv's “White City”, Nachalat Binyamin, Carmel Market, Bohemian Sheinkin Street, graffiti tour of the hip Soho of Israel, Tasting tour of the colorful Levinsky Market. Meet Rabbi Elisha Wolfin, Ein Hod Artists Colony studios and galleries led by a local artist, Druze hospitality at Nora's Kitchen, Tulip Winery in Kfar Tikva, Maimonides Heritage Center, Tour of Devorat Hatavor, a silk and and honey farm on Moshav Shadmot Devorah, Hameiri 100 year old Cheese factory, Tour mystical Tzfat's, Tripolitani (Libyan Jewish) culinary experience, Bio-Bee on Kibbutz Sde Eliahu, View Old City of Jerusalem and Temple Mount from Mt. Scopus, Archaeological story of the Western Wall, Russel's Bakery, an artisan, Tasting tour of Machane Yehuda Market, Hebrew Music Museum, Yad Vashem at [email protected] or 973-535-2575. Campus focusing on Holocaust art. Engage in hands on Zedekiah Project, Bilingual Arab-Jewish Hand in Hand School, Wine tasting tour in the Judean Lowlands (Shfelah), First timers options, Traditional Kurdish lunch and Wine tasting and discussion with vintner Shuki Yashuv at the Agur Winery, Visit Yad Lakashish, Curator tour in the Israel Museum, Israeli Kabbalat Shabbat in Jerusalem. Your THE LOST CROWN: Wednesday, Nov. 6; 7:45 pm senses will be filled with the life, smells, sounds and textures of modern Israel, along with an appreciation of our connections to our Jewish roots and biblical history. Your experience will be a exciting fantastic, fun-filled spiritual adventure! Come join us!

For additional information please call Susan Werk at 973-226-3600 or email [email protected] or Yafa at [email protected] · ITC Tours LLC at 800-247-7235. A private screening of The Lost Crown, a “One does not travel to Jerusalem, one returns.” FAMILY ISRAEL ADVENTURE LED BY detective documentary film about the Aleppo RABBI ARI LUCAS AND SUSAN WERK Codex, aka The Crown — considered the most accurate and valuable manuscript of Aug. 16-28, 2020 the Hebrew Bible. The film tracks the efforts of an Israeli View itinerary at www.israeltour.com/cai/rlucas/swerk. filmmaker as he embarks on a quest to reveal the fate of Contact Rabbi Ari Lucas or Susan Werk at 973-226-3600 or The Crown, which was safeguarded for centuries by the email Rabbi Lucas at [email protected] or Susan at swerk@ Jewish community of Aleppo, including the whereabouts of agudath.org. many of its pages that disappeared while being smuggled to Israel in 1957. The film includes rare testimonials FAMILY ISRAEL ADVENTURE LED BY SUSAN WERK involving an Israeli president, Mossad agents, Rabbis and antique dealers. Q&A with one of the film’s producers to Dec. 20, 2020 – Jan. 1, 2021 follow the screening. View itinerary at www.israeltour.com/caifamily. Register at agudath.org/events Contact Susan Werk at [email protected] or call 973-226-3600

All program information is subject to change. Get up-to-date information at agudath.org/events

www.agudath.org | OCTOBER 2019 13 Early Childhood Center

CONGREGATION AGUDATH ISRAEL . EARLY CHILDHOOD CENTER GEULA ZAMIST, EARLY CHILDHOOD CENTER DIRECTOR Sunday, November 24, 2019 The ECC Educational 10AM - 2PM . CAI Social Hall Join the CAI Community for a day of holiday shopping! Enhancement Fund

Event raises money for the The ECC Educational Enhancement Fund provides for so Early Childhood Center Educational Enhancement Fund. many wonderful extras for our school. Donations to the fund have been used to buy special Vendors selling jewelry, women & children’s clothing, judaica, learning materials and books as well as new ipods and accessories, gifts and more!! other technology support. Each year the fund supports our theater program presented Interested or know of anyone who could be a vendor? by the Pushcart Players, and last year money collected Please contact Danielle Wormser at [email protected] from the fund was used to purchase new indoor climbing equipment. Check out the Book Fair Special life cycle events are acknowledged by a gift to Sponsored by the Education Department the fund. Families enjoy receiving a card in the mail that

CONGREGATION AGUDATH ISRAEL . 20 ACADEMY ROAD . CALDWELL, NJ 07006 | P:(973) 226-3600 . WWW.AGUDATH.ORG acknowledges the donation. The Holiday Boutique is the biggest fundraiser for our Enhancement Fund. Please be sure to come to the boutique for a chance to purchase holiday gifts and provide gifts for our school at the same time.

Recent trip to Hannover and Germany Check out Phil Kruger's essay about his trip — a follow- up to the Interfaith Committee's weekend event, “Our Ancestors Would Be Incredulous: Jews and Christians in our Time," held in May 2018, led by Dr. Ursula.Rudnick, ECC FAMILY PROGRAM KOSHER COOKING CLASS Head of the Desk for Jewish-Christian Relations in Lower Saxony, Germany, and an ordained Lutheran minister. Available on our website at agudath.org/interfaith-committee Cooking Class with Shabbat in Pajamas Susie FOR NURSERY SCHOOL FAMILIES Fishbein Friday, Oct. 18, 5:30 pm: Child-friendly dinner HOSTED BY WORLD-FAMOUS KOSHER COOK 6 pm: Services with Susan Werk and Cantor Caplan AND AUTHOR OF THE KOSHER BY DESIGN Adult Lounge and Conference Rooms. COOKBOOK SERIES, SUSIE FISHBEIN! No cost for the dinner. Monday, Sept. 9, 11 am (please arrive by 10:45 am) RSVP required for planning purposes. The Kitchen at Bed Bath & Beyond, Email [email protected]. 180 Route 10 West, East Hanover

Susie will demonstrate her Modern Congregation Agudath Israel | 20 Academy Rd., Holiday Recipes; Chestnut Mushroom 14 Congregation Agudath Israel of West Essex Caldwell, NJ 07006 | 973-226-3600 | www.agudath.org Soup, Silan Glazed Salmon, Pumpkin Braised Short Ribs and Chili Delicata with Blueberry Honey. All food will be served and eaten on premises. The brand-new, state-of-the art facility will be made completely kosher prior to the start of this cooking class.

$70 per person. Due to limited space, Presented this program is only open to by Caldwell CAI members. Register early at Hadassah agudath.org/events

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Congregation Agudath Israel | 20 Academy Rd., Congregation Agudath Israel | 20 Academy Rd., Caldwell, NJ 07006 | 973-226-3600 | www.agudath.org Caldwell, NJ 07006 | 973-226-3600 | www.agudath.org Development News

MICHAEL E. BRESSMAN, DEVELOPMENT DIRECTOR Well-Deserved Recognition for the CAI Legacy Circle

As part of Create a Jewish Legacy, a national program that endowment will supplement CAI’s budget for education, facilitates planned giving to Jewish organizations, the CAI spiritual life, social action, community programming, and members who have made the synagogue a beneficiary of more, ensuring that our community continues to thrive for their estate are contributing to a much-needed infrastructure generations to come. These monies will also contribute to the of sustainability for Judaism. Last month, their individual synagogue’s immunity to changing economic circumstances, commitments and collective impact were gratefully dramatically increasing its financial sustainability. acknowledged at Shorashim, the Jewish Federation of Greater The magnitude of the CAI Legacy Circle’s impact cannot MetroWest’s yearly celebration of philanthropy in our region. be underestimated. Their commitments will fundamentally With commitments from 74 member households, the change the way the synagogue operates by replacing estimated future value of CAI’s Legacy gifts now exceeds financial barriers with greater opportunities to excel as a $2 million. When realized over the course of the coming flagship center for Jewish life. decades, these gifts will fund the synagogue’s endowment, a Echoing the sentiments of gratitude expressed at Shorashim, pool of resources invested in growth and income-producing CAI proudly acknowledges our Legacy Circle members’ securities. The interest and dividends generated by the generosity, commitment, and vision for the future.

CAI LEGACY CIRCLE CAI’s Fundraising Lay Leadership

Anonymous (2) Karen and Ted Eisenberg Amy and Bill Lipsey Paula and David Saginaw Hope and Paul Aronoff Linda and Leslie Elfenbein Linda and Michael Lowenthal Margie and Larry Samuels Arlene and Mel Berkowitz Mark M. Englander Debra and David Lurie Ronna and Rob Scheckman Gail and David Black Marjorie and Norman Feinstein Etta and Froman Mehl Rachel and Paul Scherzer Stanley G. Blank Joyce and Steven Fichtenbaum Michele and Jonathan Mehl Barbara Kaplan Sebiri Miriam and Matthew Block Phyllis and Marvin Friedman Marsha and Michael Messer Dr. Harriet Sepinwall Phyllis and Barry Bochner Robert E. Friedman Carol Morman Michelle and Adam Shandler Stephanie and Alan Bonder Joyce and Lee Gladstein Nancy Heller Moskowitz Rabbi Alan and Rita Silverstein Susie and Gary Botwinick Cindy and Neil Goldstein Meryl Natter Caryn and Brian Snerson Cantor Joel and Nancy Caplan Marsha and Burton Henry Rebecca and Eric Nelson Randi and Murray Spiegel Greta and Ira Cohen Ruth Jaffe and Paul Horowitz Karen Hauss Nerlfi Bea and Nat Taubenfeld Judy and John Craig Natalie James Jayne and Victor Nhaisi Sandy and Jim z”l Weintraub Beth and Robert Daniel Esther and Harry Kartus Carol and Harris Nydick Melissa and David Weisman Jilana Dellal Shai Lindsey Kartus Mindy and Alex Opper Susan Werk Joan Bronspiegel and Gail and Max Kleinman Deborah and Stuart Rabner Rabbi Steven and Jody Wernick Stuart Dickman Sasha and Matthew Koff Hilary and Howard Rabner Lea Whitney Diane B. Edelson The Larkey Family Michele and Larry Raiken Maxine and Herb Wolf Eric Edelstein The Lewin Family Renée and Joel Reiser Allison and Robert Wright Susan and Steven Eisen Nogah H. and Bruce Revesz

For information about making a Legacy Commitment to CAI, please contact Michael E. Bressman, Director of Development, at (973) 226-3600, ext. 113, or at [email protected].

www.agudath.org | OCTOBER 2019 15 Social Worker: Resilience and Refuah

ANDREA MALMUD, LCSW, JFS ZELLER FAMILY CAI SOCIAL WORKER

The Guilt Script: Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda

I hear about feelings every day — among them sadness, of the grief process. It is especially acute in the event of fear, worry, embarrassment, anger. The ones that seem to suicide and addiction. cause the most sleepless nights? Guilt, shame, regret — Divorce: “I failed.” “I didn’t do enough.” “I did too much.” often all tied into one. Parenting: “I didn’t help enough with homework.” “I helped Jewish Guilt: the good side of it too much with homework.” “I wasn’t home enough.” “I was home too much.” We all know the stereotypes around Jewish guilt. Is Jewish guilt different from that of other cultures and religions? Self care: “I think too much about myself.” “I don’t think I find our experiences of guilt to be similar to and yet enough about myself.” different from those springing from other cultures and religions. I don’t find Jewish guilt to be entirely a bad thing, Craving control especially in terms of how it may shape the expectations of Are you seeing a pattern here? Regrets never come with ourselves and our families. I’m very proud of how much we any clear answers. We feel burdened by our perceived have accomplished in America, Israel, and around the rest mistakes, while we often don’t know if or how we did of the world. A little guilt that inspires us to strive is not anything wrong. Further, many factors influence every such a bad thing. outcome, negating the idea that the issue is all about us. When is guilt a problem? Changing the script Guilt, Jewish or otherwise, is a problem when it haunts If we know that we hurt someone, then of course we want our psyche with “woulda, coulda, shoulda” language. It is to try to make things right. But if our guilt is imbedded natural to look back at situations and think that if we had in regret that we did not change something in spite of done something different, the outcome would have been doing the best we could with the equipment we had, let’s better. When this is a passing thought — like “I shoulda remember the love and mitzvot we have to offer. studied more” — not to worry. But when we find ourselves habitually in tears of remorse and self-torture, there is If you want to learn more, read “The Origins of Jewish Guilt: cause to explore the problem more deeply. Psychological, Theological, and Cultural Perspective” by Simon Dein from the “Journal of Spirituality in Mental Health.” Typical guilt triggers and responses — Andrea Malmud Bereavement: “If only I had/had not ____, he wouldn’t Zeller Family JFS CAI Social Worker have died/suffered/gotten hurt.” This script is a natural part [email protected]

Do a Mitzvah! Recycle at CAI! Deposit used batteries, toner and ink cartridges, and compact fluorescent light bulbs in the drop-off box at the bottom of the stairs leading to the religious school. Dr. Gerry Buchoff will bring all your items to the recycling center.

A message from the CAI Environmental Committee

16 Congregation Agudath Israel of West Essex MEN’S CLUB MEMBERSHIP CAI ENVIRONMENTAL COMMITTEE JEWISH SINGLES

2019 ANNUAL Be a New Jersey Jewish Singles 45+ Spirits in the Sukkah friend Pre-holiday Fall Kickoff Event: Thursday, Oct. 17, 7:45 pm Dessert & Mingle in the Adult Lounge CAI Environmental Join the Men’s Club for our annual event! A local Sunday, Sept. 8, 2:30 pm at CAI distributor will present craft beers or spirits for Shabbat Dinner Admission $10 tasting. “Special drink” to be determined. and invite Friday, Oct. 25 (not the morning kiddush) $20/person includes a CAI tasting glass Adults $23, Children $12, For information and RSVP, contact Sue Grossbard at Questions/RSVP: Joseph Shumofsky at a friend! Age 5 and under free [email protected] or 973-226-3600, ext. 145. [email protected] An environmentally friendly Shabbat Congregation Agudath Israel | 20 Academy Rd., Congregation Agudath Israel | 20 Academy Rd., Thank you for helping to spread the word about dinner with speaker Rabbi Michael Caldwell, NJ 07006 | 973-226-3600 | www.agudath.org Cohen from the Arava Institute for Caldwell, NJ 07006 | 973-226-3600 | www.agudath.org our special community at Congregation Agudath Environmental Studies, a leading Israel and all that we have to offer. academic and research organization Keep telling your friends, family, and neighbors in Israel. Pareve and vegetarian friendly. Let us know of any special about your positive experiences here. YOU are dietary needs. Co-sponsored our most successful advertising. Rabbi Cohen will also speak on by CAI Israel Saturday, Oct. 26 at Shabbat services Committee A warm welcome to our newest families and the “Lunch and Learn.” and Jewish National Fund as of September 3: Register at agudath.org/events. Darron and Meredith Collins with Lennox and Julian Meridith Egyes with Lennox and Sabrina Congregation Agudath Israel | 20 Academy Rd., Barry and Cheryl Grummer Caldwell, NJ 07006 | 973-226-3600 | www.agudath.org Jon Gordon and Jordana Horn with Zev, Rami, Gabriella, Orli, Aliza, and Yael • MEMBER OF CONGREGATION AGUDATH ISRAEL • Liam Krausz and Lauren Rabner Bryan Niederman with Asher Marc and Noaa Stoler with Neve and Reece Jeff and Lauri Wactlar ithw Claire

For information, contact membership and community relations coordinator Debbie Lurie at 973-226-3600, ext. 118, or [email protected].

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www.agudath.org | OCTOBER 2019 17 Sisterhood

CINDY GOLDSTEIN, PRESIDENT Learn Talmud with a Master Teacher

Sisterhood Shabbat will present a rare opportunity to study She has been a graduate fellow in the Center for Jewish Law Talmud with a master teacher. at Cardozo Law School, and a Wabash Teaching Fellow at JTS. Dr. Rosenthal has served as an American Jewish World Our guest speaker at Sisterhood Shabbat, on Saturday, Nov. Service Kol Tzedek fellow and taught at the 92nd Street Y, 16, will be Dr. Rachel Rosenthal, adjunct assistant professor Limmud, the JCC in Manhattan, and in communities around in the Department of Talmud of the Jewish Theological the world. Her writing has been published by Tablet, the Seminary, whose stated goal is to translate academic works “Forward,” the Jewish Orthodox Feminist Alliance, and the into texts that are accessible to the general community. “Times of Israel.” She serves as cochair of the Ritual Dr. Rosenthal holds a PhD in rabbinic literature from the JTS. Committee of Darkhei Noam, a partnership minyan on the She was voted List College Professor of the Year in 2018 and Upper West Side of New York City. is a David Hartman Center fellow at the Shalom Hartman Institute of North America, part of a fellowship of emerging The women of Sisterhood and Dr. Rosenthal will be sure to thought leaders in the Jewish community. A graduate of inspire all who attend the Sisterhood Shabbat service. To the Drisha Institute Scholars Circle, she also teaches at the participate, email Sharon Hammerman at Sfhammermn@aol. institute and at Nishma: A Summer of Torah Study at JTS. com

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18 Congregation Agudath Israel of West Essex FILM

The Michael and Barbara Erlichman Film Series 973.810.0110 THE LAST SUIT hwcg.com/south-orange Wednesday, Oct. 23, 7:45 pm At 88, Abraham Burszstein’s place in the world is Local Professional Staff and rapidly disappearing. His kids are selling his Buenos Licensed Caregivers for all of Aires residence and planning to move him to a Your Home Care Needs retirement home. Without telling his family, Abraham goes to Poland, to keep a promise he made over 70 • Hourly or live-in care in your years before to find the Christian friend who saved home or residence him during World War II. The klezmer score adds to • Long term care or post rehab the beauty of the sound track, a mix of Spanish, Yiddish, assistance German, and Polish, adding color to a global adventure. • All caregivers are state-certified & background checked The film will be screened in the Adult Lounge, followed by discussion. Register at agudath.org/events

ECC COMMUNITY

Welcoming New Babies on Shavuot Sunday, June 9, 10 am Torah for Tots Children’s Tots Services to follow at 11 am FOR KIDS: Saturdays, 11 am MAZEL TOV ON YOUR MOST RECENT ADDITION Shabbat friendly activities, games, plays, and more TO YOUR FAMILY!

AL GALGALIM (WITH PARENTS): Join us for Shavuot services for our annual Spring Sundays, per schedule, 10 am tradition of welcoming new babies to our community. All of our families with babies (or grandbabies) born Social Youth Group led by Adrienne Himmelberger in the past year are given a group honor so we can Join our Al Galgalim “Training Wheels” program formally introduce our newest additions to the CAI designed for families with Preschool age children. family! ChildrenCongregation will enjoy Agudath crafts, Israelgames | and 20 Academysongs while Rd., Congregation Agudath Israel | 20 Academy Rd., Meet and mingle with the other families with new learningCaldwell, about NJ 07006 the Jewish| 973-226-3600 holidays |and www.agudath.org Shabbat. Caldwell, NJ 07006 | 973-226-3600 | www.agudath.org babies. Coffee and dessert will be served. Your honor will take place during Shavuot services, so please wear Congregation Agudath Israel | 20 Academy Rd., synagogue appropriatewww.agudath.org attire and refrain| OCTOBER from 2019 using 19 Caldwell, NJ 07006 | 973-226-3600 | www.agudath.org your phone or taking pictures inside the building.

Please RSVP to Debbie Lurie at 973-226-3600, ext. 118 or [email protected]

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Environmental Shabbat programs — and more!

Congregation Agudath Israel’s Environmental Committee following kiddush about the groundbreaking environmental invites you to attend two important programs with Rabbi work being done at the Arava Institute. Michael Cohen, director of community relations and member You also are encouraged to attend: of the faculty at the Arava Institute for Environmental Studies, a major environmental research and academic Wednesday, Nov. 13, 3:30-7:30 pm: Interfaith Community institution located on Kibbutz Ketura in Israel’s Negev. The Green Fair at the Caldwell Library on Bloomfield Avenue, events will take place during the weekend that CAI’s Walk For cosponsored by the Caldwell Environmental Commission Israel takes place (Sunday, Oct. 27). and the West Essex Ministerial Association, of which CAI The Environmental Committee is proud to partner on these is a member. Community environmental groups will be programs with the CAI Israel Committee and the Jewish represented, nature art will be displayed, and there will National Fund. be crafts for children and a lecture at 6:30 pm. For more information, call Fran Larkey at the Caldwell Library at 973- Friday, Oct. 25: Rabbi Cohen will speak at the 226-2837. Environmental Shabbat Dinner. The Israeli meal will be pareve, vegetarian-friendly (let us know of other dietary Also in the works is a Tu B’Shevat seder, cosponsored by needs), and served with no plastic utensils. The fee is $23, CAI’s Education Department. $12 for children, free for those under 5. Register by Oct. 16 We welcome new members to the committee to provide at agudath.org/events. For more information, contact Randi ideas for engagement of the CAI family in helping sustain Brokman at [email protected]. the environment. Contact cochairs Harriet Sepinwall at Saturday, Oct. 26: Rabbi Cohen will speak during the [email protected] or Mark Lipsy at remark1@gmail. Environmental Shabbat service and at the “Lunch & Learn” com.

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20 Congregation Agudath Israel of West Essex CAI Jewish Environmental Committee Is proud to sponsor Environmental Shabbat co-sponsored by Congregation Agudath Israel’s Israel Committee

Rabbi Michael Cohen

Rabbi Michael Cohen is on the Faculty and is Director of Community Relations for the ARAVA INSTITUTE FOR ENVIRONMENTAL STUDIES, a major environmental research and academic institution located on Kibbutz Ketura in the Negev, Israel. He is Rabbi Emeritus of Israel Congregation in Manchester Center, Vermont. He is also Past President of the Reconstructionist Rabbinical Association. In 2002, he co-founded the Green Zionist Alliance, the ‰rst Environmental Zionist Party to run in the World Zionist Congress.

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JOIN US to begin the new Torah cycle, reading Bereishit (Genesis)... "In the Beginning"...about G-d's creation of the world. October 26, 2019 At Shabbat Services and Lunch & Learn following Kiddush Register at agudath.org/events

Congregation Agudath Israel • 20 Academy Road, Caldwell NJ 07006 www.agudath.org | OCTOBER 2019 21 18th Annual CAI Walkathon!

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Sunday, October 27, 2019 Registration 10 am, Walk 10:30 am – noon, “Kiddush” following Walk starts and ends at Congregation Agudath Israel Dogs and Strollers Welcome!! Young children’s walk: From 10:30 till noon there will be supervised activities available, including a short walk around the block or building, for young children who don't plan to walk (or stroll). Parents need to contact [email protected] to reserve a spot. F ttpagdatorg D ttpagdatorg

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24 Congregation Agudath Israel of West Essex Men's Club

JONATHAN MEHL, PRESIDENT Come join the Men’s Club events

There are so many exciting things going on with the CAI Men’s CAI MEN’S CLUB Club. 2019-20 CALENDAR In August, 25 members had a great time at our tremendous barbecue. Thank you to everyone who attended, ate, drank, and Sunday, Oct. 13, 8 am: Sukkah building, Men’s showed continued interest in Men’s Club activities. Club meeting, bagel and lox brunch With the fall holidays, the Men’s Club provides assistance to the Thursday, Oct. 17, 7:45 pm: Spirits in the Sukkah entire congregation. For Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, members (meet in Adult Lounge) serve as ushers during services. To sign up for a shift, please contact Sunday, Oct. 27, 8 am: Sukkah take-down Mark Englander at [email protected]. Sunday, Oct. 27, 10 am: Men’s Club members as Sukkot is a lot of fun in our community. Men’s Club will put up marshals at Walk for Israel the sukkah on Sunday, Oct. 13, at 8 am, when we will enjoy a delicious bagel breakfast. The sukkah will be taken down on Wednesday, Oct. 30, 7-11 pm: Mischief Night Sunday, Oct. 27, at 8 am. Please turn out to help us fulfill this patrol mitzvah. Sunday, Nov. 3, 10 am: Men’s Club meeting Our popular Spirits in the Sukkah program will take place on Thursday, Nov. 21, 8 pm: Ping-Pong tournament Thursday, Oct. 17, at 7:45 pm (meet in the Adult Lounge). A donation of $20 is requested. This fantastic event is a great Sunday, Dec. 8, 4 pm: Regional Men’s Club “Man opportunity for younger members to meet the Men’s Club of the Year” dinner honoring Mark Englander at “veterans.” To RSVP and for more information, contact Joseph Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael, Springfield Shumofsky at [email protected]. Tuesday, Dec. 10, 7:45 pm: Men’s Club meeting Every year on Mischief Night — the night before Halloween, Oct. Thursday, Dec. 12, 8 pm: Texas Hold ’Em 30 — the Men’s Club patrols the outside of the synagogue from 7 to 11 pm. Please sign up for a shift. Sunday, Jan. 5, 9 am – 1 pm: Blood Drive Other events include our monthly meeting on Sunday, Nov. 3, Tuesday, Jan. 7, 7:45 pm: Men’s Club meeting at 10 am, and the second annual Ping-Pong Tournament on Sunday, Feb. 2, 9:45 am: World-Wide Tefillin Wrap Thursday, Nov. 21, at 8 pm, which last year was attended by 2020 meeting and brunch more than 65 men who had a great time.

Tuesday, Feb. 4, 7 pm: NJ Devils vs. Montreal The Regional Men’s Club Man of the Year event Canadians at Prudential Center will be held on Sunday, Dec. 8, at 4 pm, at Sunday, March 8: Men’s Club members cook at Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael in Springfield. We are Purim Carnival pleased to announce that the CAI Men’s Club chapter honoree this year is Mark Englander. Mark Sunday, March 15, 10 am: Men’s Club meeting has always been there to help out, not only for Thursday, March 26, 8 pm: March Madness-Sweet Men’s Club, but for the entire congregation. He 16 2020 heads Men’s Club communications, organizes the Mark Englander calendar, and coordinates the ushering for the Sunday, April 19, 10 am: Men’s Club meeting — High Holy Days. Details will be available soon. Please consider Reading of Names placing a full-page or half-page ad in the event journal. Tuesday, May 5, 7:45 pm: Men’s Club meeting We invite you to help lead or participate in our great events. For Saturday, May 16: Men’s Club Shabbat more information, contact president Jonathan Mehl, 201-403- 4506 or [email protected], or vice-president Ari Berman, 646- Tuesday, June 9, 8 pm: Men’s Club meeting 369-4610 or [email protected].

www.agudath.org | OCTOBER 2019 25 Cemetery Association

CAI Cemetery Association to Assist with Interfaith Burials

Some members of our congregation would like to be buried to the same prices Oheb Shalom charges its members. The together with relatives who are not Jewish in a dignified current price for a plot is $2,000, but the price is expected location that is comfortable for members of the Jewish to increase soon. A full description of the cemetery is community. In an effort to meet these needs, Congregation available at OhebShalomCemetery.org. Agudath Israel’s Cemetery Association is pleased to announce that we have developed a relationship with Oheb For further information about purchasing plots at Shalom Congregation, a Conservative synagogue in South Agudath Israel’s current locations or for interfaith burial Orange, to arrange for interfaith burials in a halachically arrangements, please contact Mel Berkowitz at 973-226- approved section of their beautiful cemetery in Hillside. 8623 or Steve Eisen at 973-602-9091 or email cemetery@ Agudath.org. You can also contact members of the board This new relationship, with the approval of Agudath Israel’s of trustees of the Cemetery Association: president Arthur rabbis, will allow our members to fulfill the mitzvah of burial Franklin; vice-president Steve Eisen; secretary/treasurer in an appropriate and respectful manner. Because of the Mel Berkowitz; trustees Keith Marlowe, Rabbi Richard special relationship that the CAI Cemetery Association has Hammerman, and Anita Finkel. developed with Oheb Shalom, our members will be entitled

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28 Congregation Agudath Israel of West Essex Yahrtzeit Donations

AS OF AUGUST 30, 2019

Robert Berkowitz from David Berkowitz Karol Makuch from Christine Goldberg Robert R. Black from David Black Ben Moyer from Dana Ben-Avi Sylvia Blank from Leroy Blank Evelyn Percely from Ruth Percely Aaron Bob from Lucille Zonis Sumner “Jimmy” Pinks from Deanna and Allan Gitlow Sandy Brown from Ivy N. Brown Claire Ralph from Donna Franklin Mollie Cirkus from Sandy Weintraub Dr. Morris Reiser from Joel Reiser Murray Davidson from Beth Sackman Edward Remland from Keith Remland Maxwell Domes from Judith Haberman Allen Rogers from Patricia and Noel Alelov Ralph Edelson from Diane Edelson Florence Ruth Rosen from Bob and Ellen Rosen Sarah Edinger from Barbara and Murray Dobro Isidore Rosenberg from Arlene Grodsky Jack Eisenberg from Ted and Karen Eisenberg Anne Rosenkranz from Jack Rosenkranz Stuart Elfenbein from Anita Elfenbein Hannah Rosenwasser from Nancy Levine Stuart Elfenbein from Les and Linda Elfenbein Harry Roth from Joyce Gladstein Walter Erlichman from Michael and Barbara Erlichman Pearl Roth from Joyce Gladstein Michael Fabricant from Judith Fabricant Jodi Ayne Safier from Shari and Mitchell Caspert Faye Feinberg from Arnold Feinberg Sylvia Tarnofsky Salinger from Lori Bernheim Louis Feit from Randi Spiegel Elsie Schotland from James Schenkel Ray Feit from Randi Spiegel Mona Sherman from Arthur Sherman Michael Fisher from Hyman Fisher Sadie Shigon from Phyllis Friedman Helga Franklin from Arthur Franklin Dorothy Siegel from Lynda Brown Abraham Gitlow from Deanna and Allan Gitlow Benton Sitkin from Steve Chiaet Beatrice Gitlow from Deanna and Allan Gitlow Leo Sitkin from Steve Chiaet Clara Goldberg from Judy Salomon Elynor Skolnick from Dana Ben-Avi Alan Greenfield from Rhoda Greenfield Ronnie Sobo from Joel Sobo Fred S. Grodsky from Arlene Grodsky Dr. Joseph Stern from Merrill Stern Frances Hanover from Esther Kartus Bernard Sudaley from Amy Burke Andrew Herskovits from Donna Zlotnik Sam Uchill from Rabbi Clifford and Dr. Deborah Miller Evelyn Jacobs from Barry and Lois Jacobs William D. Ware from Michael J. Ware Irving Kaplan from Eileen Dombrowsky and Harold Kaplan Cantor Moshe Weinberg from Lisa and Alec Lowenstein Sol Koenig from David and Madeleine Koenig Betty Weinberger from Marcia Mickley Frieda Lerner from Irwin Lerner Joseph Wenick from Martin Wenick Fannie Libert from Rabbi Clifford and Dr. Deborah Miller Dr. Neal J. Zimmerman from Rebecca and Theodore Zimmerman Dorothy Mazer Litt from Arnold Litt Sadie Rosenstock Zinn from Rhoda Greenfield Alan Lowenstein from Lisa and Alec Lowenstein Mike Zonis from Lucille Zonis

Tribute Cards Custom-printed tribute cards can be sent out from our office. Donations can be in any denomination above $10. We also offer the option of purchasing a packet of five cards for $40, which you can send out yourself. Member services assistant Allison Robinson can assist you. Please contact her at [email protected], 973-226-3600, ext. 110.

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THROUGH AUGUST 14, 2019

We gratefully acknowledge all who generously support In honor of Karen Eisenberg Congregation Agudath Israel’s many programs by Rabbi Clifford and Deborah Miller remembering and honoring friends and loved ones. In memory of Derek Fields’ mother, and Noah, Dov, and Donations can be made on our website, www.agudath.org, Adina Fields’ grandmother, Barbara Fields or by sending a check to the synagogue office. If you would Melissa and Jonathan Kitchner like to send out a tribute card or have any questions, please Rabbi Clifford and Deborah Miller contact Allison Robinson, member services assistant, at Bonnie and Bernie Rosenfeld 973-226-3600, ext. 110, or [email protected]. Gail and David Black Jeanette and Harvey Hershkowitz ADULT EDUCATION Gail and Max Kleinman Iris Bashi Sue Grossbard In honor of the engagement of Esta Edelman’s granddaughter, Fern and Mark Kumar and Carol and Harris Nydick’s niece, Paige, to Scott In memory of Aaron Bob and Mike Zonis Saewitz, and on the engagement of Esta’s grandson, and Lucille Zonis Carol and Harris’ son, Philip, to Dani Hauser In memory of Edward Finkel’s mother, and Sherri and Selma Brookman Zahava Finkel’s grandmother, Dorothy Bayard Finkel

THE BARRY ROZMAN TECHNOLOGY FUND Jeanette and Harvey Hershkowitz Lee and Joyce Gladstein In honor of the engagement of Esta Edelman’s grandson, and Carol and Harris Nydick’s son, Philip, to Dani Hauser THE CAI - SUSAN WERK’S SPECIAL FUND Margie Rozman In memory of Rob Fink brother, and Emma In memory of Marjorie Rozman’s father, and Aliza, Avi, and Marley Fink’s uncle, Eric Fink and Dani’s grandfather, Seymour Rappaport Carrie and Bradley Bobroff Marjorie Rozman In memory of Robyn Rudman’s father, and Alex Nass In memory of Derek Fields’ mother, and Noah, Dov, and and Chloe Rudman’s grandfather, Larry Bookfor Adina Fields’ grandmother, Barbara Fields Morah Jessica Jacobs Maida and David Richlin In memory of Michielle Kupferberg’s mother, and Joshua, Evan, and Brooke Kupferberg’s grandmother, Ellen Spector THE CAI LIBRARY FUND Shelley, Serge, Jason, Emily, Caroline, and Jennifer Ben Nathan In memory of Jason Marx’s father, and Benji and Michielle and Jason Kupferberg AJ Marx’s grandfather, Russell Marx Helen Maxman Lisa and Ryan Hipscher In memory of Evan Blum’s father, and Matthew and In memory of Derek Fields’ mother, and Noah, Dov, and Corey Blum’s grandfather, Norman Blum Adina Fields’ grandmother, Barbara Fields Shelley, Serge, Jason, Emily, Caroline, and Jennifer Ben Nathan Karen Nerlfi and Neil Schreffler Maddy and Hank Heller THE CAI TRIBUTE FUND Noelle and David Rips In memory of George Schwartz In memory of Edward Finkel’s mother, and Sherri and Helaine and Michael Mund Zahava Finkel’s grandmother, Dorothy Bayard Finkel In memory of Roz Maddy and Hank Heller Helaine and Michael Mund THE CAI RELIGIOUS SCHOOL SCHOLARSHIP FUND In memory of Charlotte Wolitz In memory of Edward Finkel’s mother, and Sherri and Helaine and Michael Mund Zahava Finkel’s grandmother, Dorothy Bayard Finkel In memory of Evan Blum’s father, and Matthew and Gail and Max Kleinman Corey Blum’s grandfather, Norman Blum The CAI Scholarly Adult Jewish Learning Fund Gail and Ed Smith and Family In honor of Natalie Peck and Debby Miller Irma, Peter, and Jana Berman Iris Bashi Stuart and Debbie Rabner In honor of the birth of Michele and Larry Raiken’s Wendy and Jay Sabin granddaughter, Margot Geri Raiken In memory of Jason Marx’s father, and Benji and Jeanette and Harvey Hershkowitz AJ Marx’s grandfather, Russell Marx The Jacobs Family

30 Congregation Agudath Israel of West Essex In memory of Sylvia Paisner Arthur and Jane Adler Stuart and Debbie Rabner Anita and Ed Finkel In memory of Michielle Kupferberg’s mother, and Joshua, Hyman Fisher Evan, and Brooke Kupferberg’s grandmother, Ellen Spector Deborah Schwenk Erica and Glenn Lieberman Alix Rubin and David Grossman Stan and Cooki Gulkin The Fichtenbaum Family Jill and Jeff Marcus Roberta Diamond Michael and Helaine Mund In memory of Sharon Glauberg’s mother, Eleanor Weissman Marilyn Rose Stan and Cooki Gulkin Christine and Jeffrey Goldberg In memory of Rob Fink brother, and Emma In memory of Edward Finkel’s mother, and Sherri and and Marley Fink’s uncle, Eric Fink Zahava Finkel’s grandmother, Dorothy Bayard Finkel Jill and Jeff Marcus Rebecca Glass and Derek Fields In memory of Derek Fields’ mother, and Noah, Dov, Marilyn Rose and Adina Fields’ grandmother, Barbara Fields Dara Horn and Brendan Schulman THE ECC EDUCATIONAL ENHANCEMENT FUND Stuart and Debbie Rabner In honor of the birth of Tal and Jason Wolf’s son, Noam Eli Ann and Seth Leeb Beth and Stuart Sackman David and Grace Sumka In honor of the birth of the Handler family’s daughter, Remy Marc Rudoltz and Lisa Hochman The ECC Board Judy and John Craig Judi Fabricant and Rabbi David Saltzman In honor of the birth of Geula Zamist’s grandson, Caleb Max Zamist In memory of Edward Finkel’s mother, and Sherri and Alison and Stuart Rosenthal Zahava Finkel’s grandmother, Dorothy Bayard Finkel The ECC Board Marc Rudoltz and Lisa Hochman In memory of Stephen P. Wormser Alix Rubin and David Grossman The ECC Board Hilary and Howard Rabner In memory of Rob Fink brother, and Emma The Kitchner Family and Marley Fink’s uncle, Eric Fink Alison and Stuart Rosenthal Sally Fineman and Warren Michele and Larry Raiken Carol Berman Cindy and Jack Plawner and Family In memory of Michielle Kupferberg’s mother, and Joshua, Judi Fabricant and Rabbi David Saltzman Evan, and Brooke Kupferberg’s grandmother, Ellen Spector Packet of tribute cards Stacey and Michael Gold Nancy Moskowitz and Marvin Davidowitz In memory of Robyn Rudman’s father, and Alex Nass and Chloe Rudman’s grandfather, Larry Bookfor THE CANTOR’S DISCRETIONARY FUND Stacey and Michael Gold In honor of his Haftarah In memory of Jason Marx’s father, and Benji Stanley and Lesley Weilgus and AJ Marx’s grandfather, Russell Marx In honor of Paul Horowitz’s birthday Stacey and Michael Gold Loren and Mark Roth In memory of Dorothy Fleet and Nathaniel Hamburg THE FERTEL FAMILY FUND Cathi Fleet Robinson In memory of Derek Fields’ mother, and Noah, Dov, and Adina Fields’ grandmother, Barbara Fields In memory of Evan Blum’s father, and Matthew and Corey Blum’s grandfather, Norman Blum Bonnie and Richard Fertel Nogah and Bruce Revesz Evan and Mindy Blum In memory of Michielle Kupferberg’s mother, and Joshua, THE GENERATION TO GENERATION FUND Evan, and Brooke Kupferberg’s grandmother, Ellen Spector In honor of the marriage of Jeanne and Joe Samet’s Michielle and Jason Kupferberg daughter, Arielle Samet, and Eric Solomon In memory of Edward Finkel’s mother, and Sherri and Lynda and Craig Brown Zahava Finkel’s grandmother, Dorothy Bayard Finkel In honor of the birth of Barbara Goldstein’s great-grandson Marjorie and Norman Feinstein Elaine Lieb THE CHEVRA KADISHA FUND In memory of Evan Blum’s father, and Matthew and Corey Blum’s grandfather, Norman Blum In memory of Derek Fields’ mother, and Noah, Dov, and Adina Fields’ grandmother, Barbara Fields Karen and Ken Rosen Deborah and Oliver Shapiro Roz Ehrlich

www.agudath.org | OCTOBER 2019 31 Tributes & Donations (continued) In memory of Serena’s grandmother, Shoshana Rose; and in honor of their daughter Shoshana’s last Shabbat at home before she leaves for her year in Israel; their last Shabbat at home before they leave In memory of Michielle Kupferberg’s mother, and Joshua, for Israel; and for a refuah shelaimah for Cantor Caplan’s father Evan, and Brooke Kupferberg’s grandmother, Ellen Spector Serena and Aaron Solomon Sean, Audrey, Colby, and Siena Jacobs In memory of Steve’s father, Lawrence Eisen, and Steve’s grandmother, Fannie Eisen THE GERALD EDELMAN MEMORIAL EDUCATION FUND Susan and Steve Eisen In memory of Carol Amster’s husband, Art In memory of Nogah’s mother, Zilla Bar-Illan Esta Edelman Nogah and Bruce Revesz THE ISRAEL COMMITTEE FUND In memory of Burt’s father, David Henry In memory of Evan Blum’s father, and Matthew and Burt and Marsha Henry Corey Blum’s grandfather, Norman Blum In memory of Esther’s mother, Frances Hanover Cindy and Tom Spies The Kartus Family In memory of Derek Fields’ mother, and Noah, Dov, and Adina Fields’ grandmother, Barbara Fields THE KIDDUSH FUND Marcia and Gerry Mohl In honor of Nat and Bea Taubenfeld In memory of Edward Finkel’s mother, and Sherri and Christine and Jeffrey Goldberg Zahava Finkel’s grandmother, Dorothy Bayard Finkel In memory of Max Joseph Loren and Mark Roth Hyman Fisher In memory of Charles Freling THE JEREMY SAVITZ MUSIC EDUCATION FUND Myron and Joan Freling In memory of Edward Finkel’s mother, and Sherri and In memory of Ruth Makuch Zahava Finkel’s grandmother, Dorothy Bayard Finkel Christine and Jeffrey Goldberg Hope and Paul Aronoff In memory of Evan Blum’s father, and Matthew and THE JERRY SEPINWALL JEWISH ENVIRONMENTAL FUND Corey Blum’s grandfather, Norman Blum In honor of the Bar Mitzvah of Nathan Benjamin Siegel Sepinwall Kelly and Jerry Lustig Harriet Sepinwall and Jeffrey Rosenberg In memory of Karol Makuch Christine and Jeffrey Goldberg THE KIDDUSH SPONSORS In memory of Derek Fields’ mother, and Noah, Dov, In honor of Stan’s 75th birthday and Adina Fields’ grandmother, Barbara Fields Lesley and Stan Weilgus and Family Kelly and Jerry Lustig In memory of Edward Finkel’s mother, and Sherri and THE KIDDUSH SUPPORTERS Zahava Finkel’s grandmother, Dorothy Bayard Finkel In honor of the naming of Avery June Rehns Kelly and Jerry Lustig Keri and Scott Rehns THE MARTHA AND SOL ROGOFF CHILDREN’S ACTIVITY FUND In memory of Barry Nydick on his first yahrzeit In memory of Michielle Kupferberg’s mother, and Joshua, The Nydick Family Evan, and Brooke Kupferberg’s grandmother, Ellen Spector THE KIDDUSH CONTRIBUTORS Karen and Ted Eisenberg In honor of multiple family summertime birthdays: Max, In memory of Derek Fields’ mother, and Noah, Dov, Helaine, Michelle, Michael, Matthew, Alina, and Pamela and Adina Fields’ grandmother, Barbara Fields Helaine and Michael Mund Nancy Moskowitz and Marvin Davidowitz In honor of the birth of their 7th great-grandchild, Eyal Noam Kelin THE MAYER AND BATIA FURMAN HOLOCAUST FUND Nat and Bea Taubenfeld In honor of Susan Werk In honor of Lesley’s birthday Barbara Sebiri Stan and Lesley Weilgus In memory of the second yahrzeit of David’s father, Arthur Lurie RABBI LUCAS’ DISCRETIONARY FUND David and Debbie Lurie In memory of her husband, Dennis Orland In memory of Michele’s father, Paul Reiner, and in Avia Orland honor of the birth of their granddaughter, and daughter In memory of Laura Sacks’ father, Morton Hess of Marc and Jayme Raiken, Margot Geri Raiken Laura and Glenn Sacks Larry and Michele Raiken In memory of Evan Blum’s father, and Matthew and In memory of Maxine’s father, David Wasserman Corey Blum’s grandfather, Norman Blum Maxine and Herb Wolf Evan and Mindy Blum

32 Congregation Agudath Israel of West Essex In memory of her husband, Ralph Labendz RHODA STERN RELIGIOUS SCHOOL TUITION ASSISTANCE Marilyn Labendz In memory of Derek Fields’ mother, and Noah, Dov, In memory of Derek Fields’ mother, and Noah, Dov, and Adina Fields’ grandmother, Barbara Fields and Adina Fields’ grandmother, Barbara Fields Danny Nerenberg The Podell Pressman Rodnyansky Family: Dan & Adina Podell and family, Ryan & Jessie, Spencer & Jacob; Seva & Rachel (b’shaah THE SYDNEY GROSS TEEN MITZVAH FUND tova) Rodnyansky In honor of Kayleigh and Christian’s engagement RABBI SILVERSTEIN’S DISCRETIONARY FUND The Frost Family Nathan Gardner In memory of Jeff Davidson In honor of the Bar Mitzvah of David and Marcia The Frost Family Danoff’s grandson, Brian Asher Schwartzman In memory of Evan Blum’s father, and Matthew and David and Marcia Danoff Corey Blum’s grandfather, Norman Blum In memory of Mannie Levi’s mother, Flora Levi The Frost Family Mannie and Risa Levi In memory of Burt Schlecker’s father In memory of his wife, Rhoda Stern Alison and Lee Frost and Family Merrill Stern In memory of Michielle Kupferberg’s mother, and Joshua, THE TOBY SHAPIRO FUND Evan, and Brooke Kupferberg’s grandmother, Ellen Spector In memory of Derek Fields’ mother, and Noah, Dov, Jodi Feinberg Weiss and Adina Fields’ grandmother, Barbara Fields In memory of Evan Blum’s father, and Matthew and Shari and Mitch Broder Corey Blum’s grandfather, Norman Blum In memory of Edward Finkel’s mother, and Sherri and Evan and Mindy Blum Zahava Finkel’s grandmother, Dorothy Bayard Finkel In memory of his wife, and Ellis and Joyce The Wieseneck Family Hoch’s daughter-in-law, Nadine Hoch Lewis Hoch THE YAHRZEIT FUND In memory of Derek Fields’ mother, and Noah, Dov, In memory of Harry Zabusky and Adina Fields’ grandmother, Barbara Fields Amy and Vincent Burke Lois and David Dranikoff In memory of Derek Fields’ mother, and Noah, Dov, Marjorie and Norman Feinstein and Adina Fields’ grandmother, Barbara Fields In memory of his mother, June Slutsky Leslie and Lee Lloyd Ken Slutsky

Personals

THROUGH AUGUST 14, 2019

MAZEL TOV TO:

Larry and Michele Raiken on the birth of their granddaughter, Esta Edelman and Carol and Harris Nydick on the Margot Geri Raiken engagement of Esta’s granddaughter, and Carol and Harris’ niece, Paige, to Scott Saewitz, and on the Nat and Bea Taubenfeld on the birth of their great grandson engagement of Esta’s grandson, and Carol and Harris’ son, Ned and Valantina Hedvat on the engagement of their son, Philip, to Dani Hauser Brandon

SINCERE CONDOLENCES TO THE FAMILIES OF:

Larry Bookfor, father of Robyn Rudman, and grandfather of Barbara Fields, mother of Derek Fields, and grandmother of Alex Nass and Chloe Rudman Noah, Dov, and Adina Fields Eric Fink, brother of Rob Fink, and uncle of Emma and Marley Dorothy Bayard Finkel, mother of Edward Finkel, and Fink grandmother of Sherri and Zahava Finkel Ellen Spector, mother of Michielle Kupferberg, and grandmother of Joshua, Evan, and Brooke Kupferberg

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ADMINISTRATIVE ASSISTANT FOR RELIGIOUS SCHOOL, JACELYN GLUSKA EXT. 123

USY ADVISOR, JACELYN GLUSKA EXT. 123

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