LET US FACE THE TRUTH: Our society is in a sexual crisis. We are a sexually damaged society. Sexual issues are at the root of many addictions, marriage and personal problems. Sexual abuse and molestation of children is at an all time high. 37% of all pastors are struggling with pornography. The average South African teen watches 14,000 sexual encounters a year on television alone. The divorce rate is 50% for both the church and the world. Internet pornography has infiltrated our homes, polluted our businesses and even defiled our churches. In our country, 30% of all teenagers under the age of 15 have had sexual intercourse. Teenage pregnancy is on the increase. Abortion has become a way of life. WE NEED HELP! You can order more of these books from Kanaan Ministries: Office hours: Monday to Friday, 9am to 3pm. Tel : +27(0)21 930 7577, Fax : 086 681 9458 Physical address: 27 John Voster Avenue, Plattekloof Ext. 1, Panorama, 7500 Postal address: P.O. Box 15253, Panorama, 7506 E-Mail:
[email protected] , WebSite: www.kanaanministries.org 2 Table of Contents Chapter 1 Let's Start at the Very beginning Page 4 Chapter 2 Sexual imprinting Page 6 Chapter 3 Sexual Damage Page 11 Chapter 4 Sexual Abuse Page 14 Chapter 5 Help! I'm Living with a Sexual Abuse Victim Page 18 Chapter 6 Understanding the Dynamics of Shame Page 26 Chapter 7 More About Sexually Deviant behaviors Page30 Chapter 8 Sexual Addiction Page 44 Chapter 9 Help! I'm Living with a Sex Addict Page 51 Chapter 10 Breaking the Strongholds Page 57 Chapter 11 Time for Ministry Page 69 Chapter 12 Ministering to the Sexually Wounded Page 77 Chapter 13 Protecting Our Children Page 84 Chapter 14 The Church as a Safe Place Page 87 A Final Word from Kathy Tolleson Page 89 Resources Page 91 Prayers and Petitions Page 92 3 Chapter 1 Let's Start At the very beginning Why would a God who created our very bodies to reflect our sexuality leave this part broken and in disrepair? The answer is He wouldn't.