Multifaceted Stigma and Redemption in the Lives of Gay and Lesbian Jehovah's Witnesses
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Journal of Homosexuality, 57:1303–1333, 2010 Copyright © Taylor & Francis Group, LLC ISSN: 0091-8369 print/1540-3602 online DOI: 10.1080/00918369.2010.517076 Inside and Outcast: Multifaceted Stigma and Redemption in the Lives of Gay and Lesbian Jehovah’s Witnesses JANJA LALICH, PhD and KARLA MCLAREN, BA Department of Sociology, California State University, Chico, Chico, California, USA Homosexuality has become a divisive issue in many religions and congregations. Like many other fundamentalist denomina- tions, Jehovah’s Witnesses condemns homosexual acts, thoughts, and feelings. Consequently, gay and lesbian Witnesses experi- ence not just stigmatization and conflict between their sexual and religious identities in the social world, but also a nearly impossible task in their inner world. This inner task adds a new facet to our understanding of stigma (Goffman, 1963). This study explores the written narratives of a subset of gay and lesbian for- mer Jehovah’s Witnesses who were able to comprehend, negotiate, and, in most cases, resolve their multifaceted stigmas and conflicts through struggle, self-determination, and eventually connecting with networks of peers who faced or are facing similar stigmas. This research contributes to other work on the intersection of reli- gion, family, and homosexuality; in particular, the findings have implications for the study of other strict fundamentalist religions. Downloaded By: [McLaren, Karla] At: 18:40 6 November 2010 KEYWORDS coming out, disclosure, Erving Goffman, family conflict, gay identity, homosexuality, identity conflicts, Jehovah’s Witnesses, religious fundamentalism, social networks, stigma This article focuses on the lived experiences of a subset of gay and les- bian Jehovah’s Witnesses who each published his or her own narrative of Earlier versions of this article were presented at the 2004 annual meeting of the Association for the Sociology of Religion and the 2006 meeting of the International Cultic Studies Association. The authors thank Miriam Boeri, Andy Dick, Liahna Gordon, Laurie Wermuth, and anonymous reviewers, all of whom provided insightful comments and useful suggestions. Address correspondence to Janja Lalich, Department of Sociology, California State University, Chico, Chico, CA 95929-0445, USA. E-mail: [email protected] 1303 1304 J. Lalich and K. McLaren self-discovery on the Internet. A content analysis of these narratives reveals not only internal anguish and intense confusion brought on by being stig- matized by one’s own religion and family, but also the personal strength and determination found within most of the narrators as they managed to resolve their identity conflicts. Through this process, they found wholeness (even happiness), as well as solidarity and solace among others with similar experiences. In these times, homosexuality has become a divisive issue in many religious denominations (Hartman, 1996). According to one national sur- vey, the belief that it is a sin to engage in homosexual behavior is “more prevalent among people with a high level of religious commitment,” and highly religious people are much more likely to hold negative views of gays and lesbians (PEW Forum on Religious and Public Life, 2003). Research on the relationship between religiosity and prejudicial attitudes toward homo- sexuals has expanded to include many religions, including Christianity, Judaism, Islam, and Hinduism (Ammerman, 1987; Fink & Press, 1999; Hunsberger, 1996; Hunter, 1983; Roof & McKinney, 1987; Thumma, 1991; Wilkinson, 2004). Many Christians defend their homophobic attitudes on biblical grounds (Fulton, Gorsuch, & Maynard, 1999). As a result, numerous gay and lesbian Christians have felt stigmatized by their own religion (Boyd, 1993; Thumma, 1991; White, 1994; Wolkomir, 2006; Yip, 1997). Yet, even amid such widespread religious intolerance, Jehovah’s Witnesses are often considered stricter than most other conservative denom- inations in its attitude toward homosexuality. Primarily, this is due to the requirement that a homosexual Witness (including those who may be ques- tioning their sexuality) must suppress both sexual behavior and sexual feelings. Witnesses are taught that, like smoking, which is also forbid- den, homosexuality is a choice that can be consciously rejected (“Who Is To Blame,” 2002; “You Must Be Holy,” 1976). Unlike some religions where homosexuals are tolerated as long as they remain celibate (Wolkomir, Downloaded By: [McLaren, Karla] At: 18:40 6 November 2010 2006), Jehovah’s Witnesses (JWs) are expected to reject their internal sexual identities completely (“Who Is to Blame,” 2002). Erving Goffman’s (1963) classic work on stigma proved most useful as an overarching frame through which we analyzed the multifaceted stigma and conflict experienced by the narrators in this study, who proved to be a thrice-stigmatized population. Goffman draws a distinction between the discredited person whose stigma is known (visible, apparent in some way, or previously disclosed) to “normals” (his term for the socially normative or unstigmatized majority) and the discreditable person whose stigma is hidden or undisclosed (p. 42). A discredited person with a discernible stigma must manage tension in the way that wheelchair-bound people must skillfully manage their own and others’ emotions and reactions in order to navigate through the walking world (Cahill & Eggleston, 1994). A discreditable person with a hidden stigma, on the other hand, must manage this information Gay and Lesbian Jehovah’s Witnesses 1305 about themselves in more creative ways so that normals cannot discover any portion of the discredit. In order to explore the types of conflict a discredited or discreditable stigmatized person may face, of particular relevance was Goffman’s “three-fold typology of identity,” wherein he separates the social identity we present to the larger world, the personal identity we present to family and peers, and the ego identity we present internally as our inner, private, “backstage” selves (p. 106). The goal of this article is to not only extend our understanding of Goffman’s (1963) theories of stigma but also to convey the strength and resilience of those who manage to negotiate their way through multiple stig- mas and “come out” the other side with a clear sense of identity. In our examination of the identity dilemma faced by these JWs, we also turned to the literature on the intersection of homosexuality, religion, and family and its relationship to social, emotional, and mental distress. HOMOSEXUALITY, RELIGION, AND FAMILY A growing