BullEtin Board ConfidEntiality aCCEssiBility & In an effort to ensure the safety and pri- sPECial nEEds vacy of all conference participants, Physical accessibility: The DCU Center everyone must adhere to the following and Hilton Garden Inn are both wheel- rules and guidelines: chair-accessible and are fitted with ele- vators throughout the facility. The No photographs, video or audio record- parking garage across from the hotel and ing are permitted without express per- Center are equipped with handicapped mission of all involved. parking spots and elevators. Do not give away or sell names, contact Other needs: If you have any specific information, and other personal or iden- special needs or disabilities that you tifiable information of persons involved did not indicate on your registration or participating in the conference with- form, please let us know so that we can out their express written consent. try to accommodate you. We strive to have this conference be accessible to as Personal stories and information dis- many people as possible, and we will closed during workshops and informal do everything feasible to allow you to gatherings are considered confidential. participate fully. Respect the privacy of others. Any press or media MUST REGISTER Please turn off your cellphone PRIOR to the conference. during all presentations.

No interviews at the conference. Any Evaluations press must be arranged with the organ- Please help us continue to improve the izers. Transcending Boundaries Conference by filling out an evaluation form for We reserve the right to ask you to leave both the conference as a whole and the if you are violating our rules or are presentations you attend. You will find making the conference an unsafe place the evaluation forms in your registra- for anyone. tion packet, at the info desk, and in each conference room. Please return CovEr art finished forms to the box labeled Thank you to artist Katie Diamond "Evaluations" located at the informa- for the wonderful cover art illustrat- tion table. Thanks for your cooperation ing this year’s theme “Intersections” and your ideas. Our contact e-mail is [email protected] asl intErPrEtErs Photography by Jawnhenry Thank you to Ingrid Nevar Nosko, Mary Jo Schwie, Joan Wattman and Abigail McGahey for providing Amer- Architectural, Fetish, Nude, and ican Sign Language Interpreting serv- Industrial, and Expressive ices this weekend. We would also like Railroad at Photography at to thank Cat Dvar and the Massachu- jawnhenry.com jawn.us setts Commission for the Deaf and Hard of Hearing for coordinating these Contact [email protected] interpreters. BullEtin Board onE-on-onE PlEasE BE advisEd Many TBC presenters are also profes- KinkAcademy.com will be doing some sionals in their fields. Some of these filming throughout the conference. professionals have agreed to donate They will only be filming pre-approved events and will not include any at- time to attendees of the Transcending tendee questions or comments without Boundaries Conference. To sign up for permission. No one will appear on film a brief one-on-one session with without their express consent. Michelle Wexelblat, LICSW or TBC Transcending Boundaries will also Conference Chaplain Rev. Matthew, have an official photographer docu- please see the Information Desk and menting this year's event. Photographs ask for the One-On-One sign-up sheet. will be used for promotion on the Tran- Call for voluntEErs scending Boundaries website. Photo- graphs will only be taken with consent. Transcending Boundaries 2011 can't If you do not wish to appear in a photo, happen without you! If you are inter- please let our photographer know and ested in being a part of next year's con- he will be happy to comply. ference, please e-mail us at Bathrooms [email protected]. We Gender non-specific bathrooms will be can use organizers, vendors, sponsors, located next to the ballroom in the DCU volunteers. We would love to have Center. Please respect people's gender your assistance! self identification. WElComE to thE 2010 transCEnding BoundariEs ConfErEnCE! Transcending Boundaries was formed with the intent of gathering and forming alliances within the bisexual/pansexual, trans/genderqueer, intersex, polyamorous and allied communities. This conference is designed to increase understanding, build solidarity, and en- courage activism among our communities. Transcending Boundaries has a his- tory of creating welcoming, stimulating environments. This is a great place to feel at home being yourself, even if you don’t fit into a nice, neat box of sexuality, gender or relationships. It’s also an opportunity to meet interesting, friendly peo- ple and learn from each other! We urge you to take this unique and powerful opportunity to learn about other communities outside your own. Also, we encourage you to take the time to con- nect with yourself within this safe space. The organizers of this conference want everyone to experience the freedom to be themselves. As such, please be considerate of other people’s differences and pa- tient with anyone who might mistakenly offend. After all, part of building com- munity is making mistakes and learning from them! Once again, the Transcending Boundaries Conference welcomes and thanks you for attending. lEttEr from thE transCEnding BoundariEs lEadErshiP Aimee and Alex Welcome to the 2010 Transcending Boundaries Conference! We are very ex- cited for this year's event, and believe that we have a great weekend in store for you. All of us at Transcending Boundaries are thrilled to have Lee Harrington as our keynote speaker, and honored to be able to see his one man play, Crea- ture on a Quest. We are also pleased to have over 50 different presenters to ed- ucate, entertain, and inspire you this weekend. Transcending Boundaries is a great event to be a part of, and we were blessed with a wonderful staff who dedicated so much of their time to make this event a success. TBC is also grateful for our many vendors and sponsors. Please show them your support this weekend. We hope you have as good of a time at TBC as we have had putting it together for you. Have a great weekend.

thE history of thE transCEnding BoundariEs ConfErEnCE Transcending Boundaries grew out of a project of BiNet USA, a national bisexual organization. Throughout the 1990's, BiNet helped bisexual activists around the country organize on a local level. They sponsored regional conferences, including one in the Connecticut/New Jersey/New York Tri-State Region. In 2000, BiNet replaced its regional focus with a more centralized organizational style. Those in attendance at the 2000 Tri-State Conference voted to continue the conference independently from BiNet USA and to hold the next year's conference in New Haven, Connecticut. The organizing committee expanded the scope of the conference in two ways: widening the geographical reach to include the entire Northeastern United States, and including transgender and intersex issues as well as bisexual ones in the con- ference theme. The new name “Transcending Boundaries” reflected this expanded scope, as well as the fact that bisexuals, transgender persons, and intersex persons do not fit into the simple categories of gay/straight, man/woman, and male/fe- male. Transcending Boundaries, Inc. was founded in 2001 to organize based on this ex- panded vision: a Northeast regional conference for bisexual, transgender, and in- tersex people and our allies. In 2009, this focus was expanded to include the polyamorous community as well. Transcending Boundaries has held five suc- cessful conferences between 2001 and 2006, teaming up with the Americas Con- ference on Bisexuality in 2005 and PFLAG Northeast in 2006. After a brief absence, Transcending Boundaries returned in 2009 and is thrilled to continue its work again in the queer community. organizErs BiograPhiEs aimEE - 2010 Co - Chair tivist, he is focused on building a com- Aimee is thrilled to be serving as a Co- munity of like minded people and pro- Chair for the 2010 Transcending fessionals to live and create together. Boundaries Conference, an d to con - Bi, poly, and kinky, he lives with three tinue her position as the Transcending partners in Springfield, MA. Boundaries treasurer. As a solo attor- ney practicing in Western Massachu- JaWn - PhotograPhEr setts, Aimee is a polyamorous, kink, Jawn is a photographer and musician and queer friendly professional who fo- from Worcester. He has been active in cuses on child welfare, domestic rela- the BDSM community for over a tions, and basic estate planning. She is decade. He will be entertaining this year a member of the bar in both Massachu- as the leader of Reverend Reacharound, setts and Connecticut. Aimee lives in an irreverent folk-punk duo, which can Springfield, MA with her three part- be found online at www.reveren- ners, 4 cats, and one tiny dog. dreacharound.com. Jawn will also be serving this year as Transcending alEx - 2010 Co-Chair Boundaries' official photographer. Alex is honored to be a Co-Chair for the TBC 2010. A graduate of Skidmore JaWn's doll - sPECial ProJECts College, Alex is currently kept busy Jenn has played a number of roles in pursuing her Masters in Social Work at her life, both literally as she earned her UConn, working with at-risk teenagers, BA in Drama from Ithaca College, and and teaching her passion of technical figuratively as she earned her MEd theater to high schoolers. Alex has long from University of New Hampshire. been fascinated by sexual expression, Her most important role is currently as and has been a Goddess for Athena's the owned slave of Jawn. She is also Home Novelties, a home party com- the Assistant Director of MAsT Mass pany, for four years. She hopes to use (Masters And slaves Together), a a future license in Clinical Social Work monthly discussion and support group to continue her work in sex education, for those interested in pursuing power teen empowerment, and therapy exchange relationships. With Jawn, she through the arts. She lives in Southern is Reverend Reacharound, an irreverent Connecticut with her mother and her punk cabaret group. cat, about whom she is mildly obsessed. John - sPECial ProJECts Esh - KEynotE liason John Healy is a graduate student whose I am a house keeper, nanny, personal field of research includes alternative assistant, gourmet chef, alchemist, caf- family structures. feine/tattoo/piercing addict, chaos magic using, book reading, erotica lov- laurEl - dirECtor of mEmBErshiP ing, bisexual, poly, sub, dancing, Laurel Pickard is once again excited to scarred mother and wife. be the Director of Membership for TBC. Laurel hates labels, but can ian - dirECtor of PuBlishing probably be described as a queer/bisex- Ian is proud to be part of the team that ual, poly, kinky, geeky girl, a chronic makes the Transcending Boundaries volunteer, and constant adventurer. Conference happen. An artist and ac- When not working her day job as an engineer she can be found stalking flea costumes. Melissa is fortunate to have markets, playing with chainmail, read- amazing friends and partners who sup- ing comic books or generally causing port her work and is owned by an ab- trouble. She lives in Connecticut with normally large house cat. her husband and tail-less cat. miCah - dirECtor of faCilitiEs lisa - dirECtor of invEstmEnts Micah is proud to be part of the Tran- Lisa Jacobs is one of the original co- scending Boundaries staff, serving as the founders of the Transcending Bound- Hotel and Facilities Liaison for the sec- aries Conference, as well as the current ond year in a row. A graduate student at president of Transcending Boundaries, UMass Amherst, he lives with his cho- Inc. An avid label collector, she identi- sen family in Western Mass. He hopes fies as bisexual, pansexual, that everyone has a great conference, and polyamorous, genderqueer, kinky, if you have any complaints or problems switch, transgender and intersex ally, with the hotel or convention center, it's queer, pagan, disabled, bunny, goth, ge- most likely someone else's fault. nealogist, amateur historian and several miChEllE - dirECtor of ContEnt labels which have not yet been in- Michelle Driscoll is grateful to have vented. She resides in Connecticut, ex- served as the Director of Content for the cept when she's in Florida, and works 2010 Transcending Boundaries Confer- for her family's antiques business, ex- ence, and as the Secretary for the Board cept when she's working on her many of Transcending Boundaries Inc. other projects. Feel free to say hi if you Michelle is queer/pansexual/bisexual, see her. kinky, poly, and glad to work to bring lorElEi - dirECtor of Promotions those communities together. Michelle The super fabulous Lorelei Erisis is a lives in Springfield, MA with her wife transgender performer, writer, activist, and their two partners, 5 furry compan- adventurer and Pageant Queen. Follow ions, and a baby-to-be due in March. her blog on The Web at: transprov.word- mary - voluntEErs press.com & watch out for her monthly Mary Spila is your Pre-conference Vol- column: “Ask A TransWoman” in The unteer Coordinator, and General Infor- Rainbow Times!!! Slaínte! mation/Research Monkey. When I am not working on the Conference, I am a mElissa - dirECtor of hosPitality Librarian in the Harrisburg Pennsylva- Melissa Kaplan has been involved in nia area. I am: Poly, without current GLBT activism since her early teens. partners; Kinky, without any experience; She joined TBC staff following an eye sexuality is Fluid/Bi/Pan. I am female, opening experience at the 2009 confer- and that is what I want to be. I am the ence. She is a Licensed Mental Health quiet activist that you don't notice at the Counselor (LMHC) in the Common- gatherings. I am the one who helps get wealth of Massachusetts on a mission the area set-up before, and cleaned up to educate her colleagues about non-tra- after, and generally tries to keep things ditional gender expression and relation- running smoothly. Due to my chronic ship structures. In her spare time (all that conditions, Lupus and Rheumatoid time that's left over after the full time job Arthritis, I will be unable to attend this and working on this conference) she year's Conference; so I hope that you all writes fiction, knits and creates crazy have a wonderful experience. Transcending Boundaries conference 2010 PlEnary lunChEon

Featuring Music by: HumBle Tripe

Welcome To Transcending Boundaries

KeynoTe presenTer: lEE harrington groWing BEautiful floWErs at thE intErsECtions: from complex ecosysTems To inTersTiTial collaBoraTion

communiTy discussion

lEE harrington Lee Harrington is a pas- sexuality, psychology, sionate spiritual and faith, desire and more erotic educator, gender since 1995, and has no radical eclectic artist intention to stop any and published author time soon. and editor on human sexuality and spiritual Along the way he has experience. He is a nice been a brainy academic, guy with a disarmingly a female adult film per- down to earth approach former, a world class to the fact that we are sexual explorer, an out- each beautifully com- spoken philosopher, plex ecosystems, and and an award winning we deserve to examine author and artist. Check the human experience out the trouble he has from that lens. He's been traveling the been getting into, as well as his many globe (from Seattle to Sydney, Berlin books, audio classes, videos and more to Boston), teaching and talking about over at www.PassionAndSoul.com.

transgEndEr day of rEmEmBranCE

The Friday night vigil, hosted by AIDS Project Worcester, will feature a reading of names, candle lighting, and our guest speaker and performer will be Raven Kaldera. The service will be non-denominational. Please join us for a reception after the vigil. friday night transCEnding BoundariEs PrimEr Widow centauri & lorelei erisis An improvizational lexicon and welcome to Transcending Boundaries. haPPy hour Happy Hour Burlesque is a sideshow cabaret based in Western Massachusetts. They regularly perform at conventions and can be fol- lowed on Facebook and YouTube.

saturday night CrEaturE on a QuEst - lee Harrington “For I stand before you, a creature on a quest… for within each question there it stands, this word, quest.” Thus begins Lee Harrington’s one man show, which begins as an academic lecturer, travels backwards and for- wards through men’s leather culture, sex work, happy heterosexual mar- riage as a woman, to being a genderqueer teen and gender unsuspecting child, and ends with audiences pondering the nature of gender, happiness, and relationships. Quest with Lee as he opens up his soul, his heart, his body, and his tales, walking at your side into the center of love. This show contains non-explicit nudity and adult themes and is rated R. traniWrECK TraniWreck is an all gender, all genre variety cabaret show. A rawkus rab- ble rousing exhibition of genderbending irreverence; Drag, Burlesque and Performance Art. Since 2004 TraniWreck has been bringing the best over- the-top, boundary-busting talent to the stage. We're excited to be perform- ing at Transcending Boundaries! Check us out at http://www.truthserum.org MC Heywood Wakefield (Boston), Johnny Blazes (Boston), Madge of Honor (Boston), Maggie Cee (Boston), Jonathan Bitchman (NYC), Billy Burg (NYC) BroKEn roCKs - chuck fellows FTM poetry and prose of love, lust and life. A collection of work based on all body types and many, many genders. This stuff will make you laugh, want to cry, hold on to the ones you love and maybe even give you food for thought. BEdtimE storiEs - cecilia Tan Selections of erotic tales of gender, sexuality and adventure. rEvErEnd rEaCharound Reverend Reacharound is an irreverent folk-punk-cabaret duo based in Worcester, MA. Influences include: The Vaselines, Frank Zappa, and Beat Happening. Transcending Boundaries would like to thank our sponsors:

Platinum sPonsors Bitsmith Technology group massachusetts comission for the deaf and Hard of Hearing www.mass.gov/mcdhh

gold sPonsors aids project Worcester - www.aidsprojectworcester.org aimee K Bouchard - www.aimeebouchard.com

silvEr sPonsors eunice avilés - www.euniceaviles.com andrew and Bonnie Kaplan Kink academy - www.kinkacademy.com laurel pickard new england leather alliance - www.nelaonline.org anonymous

BronzE sPonsors The network/la red - www.thenetworklared.org pflag Queens chapter - www.pflag-queens.org united church of christ, open and affirming churches www.ucccoalition.org

rainBoW sPonsors circlet press inc - www.circlet.com The point foundation - www.pointfoundation.org

in-Kind sPonsors Katie diamond - www.katiediamond.com laraine Wilson Binet usa - www.binetusa.org The society of cT - www.thesocietyct.org Program dEsCriPtions

100 things you Can do to KEEP art and sCiEnCE of Kissing sExual frEEdom alivE Sunday 2:30PM - DCU C Saturday 4:00PM - DCU A Marah Fellicce Raven Kaldera Have you noticed that the world of Want to make the world a sexually freer kissing has significantly diminished? place? Find out how! It's not just for ac- Kissing can be a wonderful and inti- tivists any more - no matter who you mate experience. In an age of instant are, you can do a few things on this list popcorn, let’s slow down, back off the and add to the Work of Sexually Heal- hurry and talk about kissing. During ing The World. This is a fun and inno- the workshop participants learn about vative workshop that is also inspiring. the science, history and culture of kiss- ing. We discuss what makes or breaks alEistEr CroWlEy and thE a kiss, and collaboratively create a top aBolition of BoundariEs ten things that make a great kiss. Along Sunday 9:30AM - DCU B the way you’ll learn about some scien- Beth Kimbell tific research regarding kissing as well Aleister Crowley, poet & priest, as some fun historical facts. Kissing as “Wickedest Main in the World”, was a practicum is offered in the extended not a devil looking for some fun. He version of this workshop, which in- was a prophet & forebear to those who cludes: “kiss yoga” – exercises to fur- would be free. He did not work just so ther enhance non verbal we may play, but for all to have true communication skills. The kiss work- freedom in the pursuit of their Will. His shop is not intended as a pickup scene, aim was the Great Work, self-perfection and it is open to all gender expressions, & the uplifting of humanity. Should we and orientations. A partner to kiss is not be able to conclude our own path, not required for this workshop, but to act in accord with the dictates of our also, without a partner, kissing is not soul? Polyamory, gender-bending, try- guaranteed. The audience for this ing the limits of body & mind, his path workshop is anyone who is interested of initiation united sexuality with spiri- in learning more about their own kiss tuality, aiming every act at Liberation, style and about kissing in general. & he was vilified, that we may know There’s rich and meaningful history the strength to defend these rights & the surrounding the kiss. Participants in the purpose of so-called base needs. class get to be a part of it! Heralding the New Aeon, when we will not be slaves to the religions of restric- asExuality 101 tion nor have our lives dictated by our Saturday 11:00AM - DCU F neighbors’ morals, he became the Great Ashley LeClerc and Lev Malkis Beast, bringer of Light & Gnosis. Come What is asexuality? What are the var- hear of the methods he used, the scan- ied, personal definitions of asexuality? dals he knew, & how he became 73rd Do asexuals want relationships or fam- of the Greatest 100 Britons of all time. ilies? How do asexuals negotiate inti- macy and sex in relationships with "slave"? If you're a dominatrix, does asexual or sexual partners? How do that mean you're like Lady Heather on asexuals define and experience attrac- CSI? And what's a furry? If you've ever tion, arousal, and intimacy? This panel wondered about any of these questions, discussion seeks to provide an intro- or have any questions of your own, duction to asexuality and the asexual now is your chance to ask them anony- community. The discussion will ex- mously to a diverse panel of kinky peo- plore the questions above and others ple. Questions will be gathered prior through the personal experiences and to the panel and during introductions, reflections of the panelists. Audience then answered honestly by our pan- members are encouraged to participate elists. No topic will be off limits! This in the discussion with questions and presentation is for attendees over 18 comments for the panelists throughout. years old. If you would like to submit questions to the panel leader before the asK a KinKy PErson session, you can e-mail Saturday 4:00PM - DCU D [email protected]. Moderated by Jawn's Doll (jenn), Pan- elists: Jawn, MJ, rabbit, Lord Percival asK a Poly PErson Why do you like to be spanked? How Saturday 5:30PM - DCU E can you wear that rubber dress? What Moderated by Ian Rose, Panelists: MJ, does it mean when you say you're a Melissa, Esh, Ray Maybe you didn't know polyamory ex- isted until you happened upon an article or saw a video clip. Perhaps you have AIMEE K. BOUCHARD questions but are unsure of when and Attorney at Law how to ask. You're probably wary of of- GLBT fending or prying. Fortunately, you can come to Ask a Poly Person and get Queer some answers. Several practicing poly Poly folk will take questions and provide Kinky their unique perspectives on consensual non-monogamous relationships. Who sleeps where? What if your partners don't get along? What's NRE? Is it wise to merge that many google calendars? Bring your inquiries and an open mind! Questions will be gathered prior to the Massachusetts panel and during introductions, then an- Connecticut swered honestly by our panelists. Child Welfare Domestic Relations asK a trans PErson Basic Estate Planning Saturday 9:30AM - DCU E www.aimeebouchard.com Moderated by Lorelei Erisis, Panelists: Tasha Rose, rabbit The best way to learn about life as a Do we get taken seriously, or dismissed transgender person is from a transgen- as just having a pet cause? Do we be- der person, but we all know you can't come the point person on an issue, or just walk up to someone and start ask- do we get treated like Exhibit A? Do ing personal questions. "Ask a trans our voices help to gather others like us person" provides a forum for the ques- and allies, or do we get singled out? tions you normally aren't comfortable How does being "that person" affect us asking. Several transfolk will be and our identities? Are we a positive speaking about their experiences in an force for change? And most impor- open non-judgemental atmosphere. tantly, where are we all going on our Topics may range from sexuality to day off - or will we ever get one? surgery to interacting with society and everything in between. Questions will BEyond trans 101 for be gathered prior to the panel and dur- gay, lEsBian, Bi, & alliEs ing introductions, then answered hon- Saturday 11:00AM - DCU B estly by our panelists. Gunner Scott Often LGBQ activists are called upon asK thE ProfEssionals to explain the “T” in LGBTQ, but not Saturday 11:00AM - DCU D everyone has the same understanding Moderated by Michelle Wexelblat, or may feel able to address the issues LICSW, Panelists: Aimee Bouchard facing the transgender community. Esq., Alex Solomon, Bendy Yoga Girl, Transgender individuals deal with a Rev. Matthew myriad of issues some similar to There is no agenda for the panelists- it LGBQ people and some significantly is what the attendees of the panel bring different. The LGBTQ communities to ask that will be the discussion. Bring have always been historically linked, your questions! but transphobia, homophobia, and bi- phobia has been used to try to keep BEing that PErson these communities separated. This Saturday 9:30AM - DCU G workshop will address the following raycho questions: What does it mean to be We all know that person, and many of transgender; where do transgender peo- us have been that person. You know, ple fit into the larger queer/bi move- the one in the front row with their hand ment for rights, access, and up, always reminding everyone about recognition; and how to be an effective that group of people inadvertently (we ally to transgender communities. All hope) left out? This discussion is for are welcome. all of us who are "that person", the one always bringing up access issues, gen- BisExuals in a mixEd oriEntation der issues, race issues, whatever - marriagE: paTHWays To success we've got issues! At least the people Saturday 5:30PM - DCU B who always wind up with our hands in Moderated by Mark Rheault their faces might think so. We'll dis- This presentation explores a variety of cuss what it's like to be "that person". issues faced by individuals in a mixed orientation marriage where one spouse shop will feature a sharing of stories by is bisexual and the other is straight. others who have traveled this journey Our focus will be on the evolution of out of the closet to their spouses as we the relationship in a marriage where the can all learn from those who have trav- bisexual starts the relationship deep in eled this journey with us. [Some top- the closet with their partner not being ics to be shared by our panelists aware of the same sex attraction. The include: When did you become aware revelation of same sex attraction ten, of your same sex attraction? Why did twenty, thirty or more years into the you become involved in a traditional marriage often results in a crisis where heterosexual relationship?, How did couples must redefine their entire mar- you came out to your partner? What riage dynamic. The first half of the were some issues faced in the early workshop will feature an overview of days after disclosure? What has the nature of mixed orientation mar- worked and what did not as your mixed riages and their evolution from the se- orientation marriage has evolved? cret no one must know into a healthy What is your relationship like today relationship that features open commu- and where would you like it to be to- nication and acceptance of the bisexual morrow?, and Things you know today spouse. We will examine why a bisex- you wish you had known then.] It is uals same sex attraction often becomes our hope that participants will take an issue later in the marriage. We will away a greater understanding that look at the difference between self dis- mixed orientation marriages can be re- closure and discovery and the impact warding, successful relationships. on trust. We will discuss common pathways and solutions that lead to suc- BrEadCrumBs: Keeping your on- cessful mixed orientation marriages line idenTiTy safe and we will examine some of the issues Saturday 2:30PM - DCU G associated with these various paths. The Red-Headed Diva Finally, we will discuss a variety of re- Everywhere we go today, technology sources for help and support for both follows. The onslaught of Social the bisexual spouse and the the straight Media has exploded over the past few spouse. The second half of the work- years, and it rapidly changes before our eyes. Even in alternative lifestyles we lifestyle but were easily discovered have Social Networks that allow us to through their real identity with just a be ourselves in and express who we are few small clues. We'll do a hands-on and who we'd like to be. For many, experiment to help you see how safe maintaining a balance of privacy and you really are and conclude with sim- anonymity (our breadcrumbs) with our ple, easy tips to guarantee your safety, lifestyle is an important factor. Every privacy and anonymity. This workshop social media expert has been buzzing is open to anyone who has the desire to about privacy online and how easy it is maintain even an iota of privacy online. to be private with your social media ac- It's also for those who think they are al- counts. But is it? This workshop will ready very private online - after this take a hard look at the dirty truth of so- talk, you'll be thinking twice! cial networking, and how your trail of breadcrumbs can lead to full exposure BuCKing thE Binary of gEndEr & of your privacy. It will teach you that oriEntation: living in THe grey you can effectively maintain your pri- Saturday 9:30AM - DCU A vacy and how to avoid loopholes that Aiden Fyre may expose more information than Between the black and white binaries you're willing to share. We will look at of sex, gender, and orientation lie pio- some real-life case studies of individu- neers living in the grey. Labels like als who thought they were private by “Queer”, “Pansexual”,“Genderqueer” using an alias for their alternative and “Transgender” transcend the bi- nary... but what do they mean? Wish transgender individual can be over- you could ask without offending some- whelming. Finding a support group can one? Want to explore the concepts of help foster healthy relationships and sex, gender, and orientation in a safe- allow all involved in the transition to space where the only wrong question is feel supported and understood. This the one not asked? Whether you left the discussion will be based on the tech- binary behind years ago or are curious niques to create successful grassroots about learning (but were too afraid to supports groups in your own area to ask), come join us as we delve into the allow support for those individuals who grey in this judgment-free workshop may not have services available. about gender, orientation and living in the undefined. ChaotiC Kiss: Transgender issues in comics Building suPPort for Saturday 4:00PM - DCU G transPartnErs MKT Productions Saturday 5:30PM - DCU F Chaotic Kiss is the break out transgen- Sarah Lemons der comic from MKT Productions that Building support for transpartners re- has been touring New England for the volves around providing an outlet of last six years. There are transwomen support for those in relationships with here at all stages of transition, and this individuals who are transitioning. In comedy-drama has opened the eyes of some instances being the partner of a many people outside the LGBT com- munity to the ups and downs of living around you, or even just your close transgendered. Michelle Pinard, the friends or relatives know about your artist and writer for CK, will be hosting kinky life? Need helpful suggestions or a presentation on the characters, plot, guidance on how to do so? You have and the reception her work has re- questions? We have suggestions.... cieved. Also, Michelle will speak about gender issues in Japanese ConfErEnCE fEEdBaCK comics/animation. Following the pres- Sunday 11:30AM - DCU A entation will be time for Q&A. Check Do you have ideas for next year's Tran- out the first five issues online at scending Boundaries Conference? Did www.chaotickiss.com. you enjoy what you saw this year? What would you change? Would you ComE as you arE: gender presen- like to be involved? Come to our feed- TaTion and Body image in Queer back session to voice your opinions space with next year's TBC staff! Saturday 9:30AM - DCU D Alice Leibowitz Common sEnsE in How do you dress in a space like Tran- KinK rElationshiPs scending Boundaries? Are you more Saturday 9:30AM - DCU F relaxed or more self-conscious about Tala Thera your appearance than in the outside With the explosion of the internet and world? More gender conforming or books on kink new submissives are gender variant? As transgender, gen- flooded with conflicting and confusing derqueer, and even gender conforming information. This discussion will relate people, we make decisions every day common sense points to keep in mind about how we present our gender. In an during the beginning stages of a kink accepting space like Transcending relationship. This class includes lecture Boundaries, we should be able to relax. and discussion. But do we? At TBC 2009, several par- ticipants mentioned that they police CrEating, KEEPing and living in a their gender presentation more here family than in the outside world. What is it Sunday 2:30PM - DCU A about a space where you can be your- Mistress Sly self, whoever you are, that puts more The dictionary describes a family as pressure on some of us? Come explore two or more people who share goals these questions and share your own and values, have long-term commit- unique experience at this interactive ments to one another, and reside usu- discussion and workshop. ally in the same dwelling place. We will discuss what constitutes a leather Coming out KinKy family and how family pertains to us in Saturday 2:30PM - DCU D the wonderful world of BDSM. Our Scott and Princess Kali family units are combinations of Tops, Are you just starting out in kink? Have Masters, Mistresses, Dommes, Doms, you finally decided to let the people subs, bottoms, slaves and however else we may be labeled, but once we live to- tive, and they don't often encourage the gether as a unit, we are a family. Come girls to gain confidence and start shop- explore that concept and talk about ping in mainstream stores. what works, what doesn't, how we What I have found is that consignment came together, and how we've handled stores and stores like Goodwill and Sal- individuals leaving our family. After vation Army can be liberating to CDs. talking about some of the foundations This presentation will be an introduc- of our family, we'll take questions from tion to using Goodwill and Salvation the audience. army as a CD to buy clothes that look incredible on you and don't break the CrEaturE on a QuEst bank, how to get comfortable dressing Saturday 8:00PM - Ball Room and do it on the 'cheap' and tricks I have Lee Harrington learned along the way to maximize Storytelling Performance your Goodwill CD experience. “For I stand before you, a creature on a quest… for within each question there EmBraCing your innEr diva: cool it stands, this word, quest.” Thus begins confidence creaTed Lee Harrington’s one man show, which Sunday 11:30AM - DCU D begins as an academic lecturer, travels The Red-Headed Diva backwards and forwards through men’s Everyone has an inner diva - that feel- leather culture, sex work, happy hetero- ing of excitement and satisfaction we sexual marriage as a woman, to being get when we do something that makes a genderqueer teen and gender unsus- us feel amazing. More often times than pecting child, and ends with audiences not, we have a difficult time letting out pondering the nature of gender, happi- our diva. We are affected by negativity, ness, and relationships. Quest with Lee outside influence, and even fear of what as he opens up his soul, his heart, his others might think. Why do we con- body, and his tales, walking at your stantly sacrifice feeling fabulous? This side into the center of love. This show talk will help you understand how to contains non-explicit nudity and adult channel your inner diva in every situa- themes and is rated R. tion so you can feel your best all the time! The Red-Headed Diva will share drEssing Without fEar her trade secrets on this topic, starting Saturday 11:00AM - DCU A with the one tool you need to feel fabu- Jaida lous: confidence. She will share expert There are many dressers out there, and tips and tricks on how to constantly dresser-wanabees, who are trapped by build your confidence and feel comfort- their fear of being outed while explor- able in every situation, including ones ing. Many of them are resigned to the where negativity may be an influence. fact that it is too risky to try this at all. Participants will take away valuable re- Others travel to the few stores that cater sources and exercises they can begin to CD transformations. These stores using immediately to begin building have great value in the community but their confidence. This lecture is open the markup on clothes can be prohibi- to anyone who has ever felt the desire to squash a negative situation with a three Berlin-based queer women’s positive, "I am fabulous" attitude while magazines from 1924-1933 will form keeping true to the person you are. If the basis for a discussion about queer you have ever felt like an outcast, mis- femininities in the Weimar Republic. understood, defeated, or without hope, Topics of discussion regarding this please join me for this important talk. print culture include: the use of the terms “homosexual,” “bisexual,” EmPoWEr thE Bi movEmEnt “transvestite,” “bachelorette,” Saturday 11:00AM - DCU C “friends,” and “love”; the issue of mar- Moderated by Cecilia Tan, Panelists: riage; censorship and anti-sodomy Lisa Jacobs, Robyn Ochs, Ian Rose, laws; differences and collaborations Alice Leibowitz, Tom Limoncelli between men’s and women’s homosex- At last year's TBC we asked the ques- ual organizations, and the uses of queer tion "Are we still invisible?" In other histories in contemporary politics. No words, is the bisexual movement still history background necessary! All are necessary? The answer was a resound- welcome! ing yes. Although the past two decades have seen great strides in increased bi finE ConvErsation 101 visibility, we are still fighting an uphill Saturday 2:30PM - DCU C battle for inclusion. Come hear from Marah Fellicce bisexuality activists about what they've A new workshop to cover finer points done and are still doing to prevent era- of conversation/flirting and how to be sure and speak up for bisexual valida- a good con guest. I've found that after tion. Examples will be given, stories my kissing workshop, a lot of people will be told. Bring us your examples to ask me about the prelude to kissing- share, as well! We'll build a "to do" list just talking with someone else, and get- of ten vital steps you can take to in- ting to a point where kissing might ac- crease bi visibility in your world and tually happen. This is not intended to the world at large. be a class about hooking up, rather an interactive workshop on carrying on fEmalE friEnds, Woman lovE, and the successful banter and lost art of BaChElorEttEs: Queer femininiTies conversation that is useful in any situ- in female Homosexual magazines ation. of THe Weimar repuBlic Sunday 1:00PM - DCU E fixEd or fluid: spiriTual idenTiTies Stephanie Skier and gender This workshop will introduce partici- Saturday 11:00AM - DCU G pants to the vibrant queer print media Dani (newsletters and illustrated magazines) Shulamith Firestone’s formally intro- that existed during the Weimar Repub- duced the fact that there are at least five lic period in Germany, from the 1920s human sexual identities. I argue there until the Nazi seizure of power in 1933. are far more, that our sexual and spiri- Looking at selected photographs, draw- tual identities are increasingly more di- ings, and brief texts (in English) from verse and fluid. Numerous authors deconstruct natural determinist stand- praxis, as well as theory, will be the points reiterating phallocentric or ho- forefront of the workshop. The work- mophobic beliefs often drawing on shop will include lecture and presenta- scientific facts and nature as evidence tion components but is designed for for diversity. Discussing gender in discussion and interaction. Creative conjunction with transgressive concep- writing and interactive activities are tions of spirituality, point will be made also part of the workshop. ALL ARE of both the timely and unavoidable ne- WELCOME TO THE WORKSHOP. I cessity for accepting gender fluidity strongly encourage teachers, social and diversity in our society. The Eco- workers, scientists, philosophers, and feminist conception that socially con- health care workers to attend. structed forms of oppression are intersecting and must be addressed si- gEndEr PErformanCE multaneously will constitute part of the through imProv discussion. We will think beyond nat- Saturday 2:30PM - DCU F uralistic or goddess mythology, though. Lorelei Erisis We will discuss cognitive and concep- Second City trained improviser and tual frameworks including my own re- “Miss Trans New England” Lorelei search on learning in children, Erisis will share and discuss insights metaphor, and gender diversity vying about gender as well as the basics of for a metaphor beyond postmodern improv and how it can be used to en- power theories. Methodologies for rich your own relationships and per- sonal presentation. This is a hands-on intErsEx 101: similariTies and dif- workshop that will explore the perfor- ferences BeTWeen inTersex and mative aspects of gender using the Transgender people techniques and tools of improvisa- Saturday 9:30AM tional acting. Participants will have Elder A. Vickie Boisseau the chance to stretch their legs, open Elder A. Vickie Boisseau AIS, Ac- their minds and get up on their own tivist/speaker with Mass Transgender feet to learn some basic games and ex- Political Coalition will present a work- ercises. No improv or acting experi- shop exploring the social, legal, and ence is necessary, (though experienced medical issues faced by many Intersex performers are welcome too!) just the people, as well as the similarities, and willingness to try something new and differences between Intersex and Trans have a little fun. Come ready to people. play!!!! intErsEx PanEl talK Saturday 11:00AM - DCU E gEndEr variant languagE Saturday 4:00PM - DCU B Moderated by Elder A. Vickie Boisseau Widow Centauri This is your opportunity to ask various There is little awareness in the main- Intersex people questions about being stream regarding trans-issues. One of intersex, and how they see the world, the major issues surrounding the lack as well as their intersex condition, and of awareness is the issue of what to call how it affects their day-to-day lives. transgender people. The problem is multi-faith sErviCE that the English language is lacking ter- Sunday 9:30AM - DCU A minology to define and discuss gender Please join us for an inspiring service of variant folks in ways that are neither contemplation and celebration. Take offensive nor awkward. Given the lim- the theme of "Intersections" to heart itations of the binary-based vocabulary through words, ritual, and silence. This available to us in this culture it is im- service will be led by our Conference portant to assess the use of several gen- Chaplain, and is open to all, regardless der-variant neologisms (GVN) that of religion or spiritual persuasion. Even have begun to circulate in the transgen- those with no spiritual impulse will find der community, such as zhe, hir, grrrl, meaning in this community gathering. boi, and hiz. This presentation covers the issues surrounding the gender bi- my family mEmBEr/friEnd nary, in the structure of the English lan- is Changing, What do i do? guage, and the politics of identity that Saturday 9:30AM - DCU C present themselves through this binary. Michelle Wexelblat, LICSW My research questions focus specifi- This is a chance for people who have cally on the perception and perform- others transitioning around them (either ance of gender. I answer some gender, sexual orientation, lifestyles, preliminary questions about the poten- etc.) to ask questions or get information tial for a gender-neutral pronoun to on what they can expect, what are their gain regular usage. emotional rights, tips on how to manage. nEgotiating for nEEds ParallEls and intErsECtions in Sunday 9:30AM - DCU D transgEndEr and disaBility Jawn's Doll (jenn) ExPEriEnCE When entering into any kind of rela- Saturday 4:00PM - DCU C tionship with another person, a negoti- Moderated by Bet MacArthur ation occurs. We agree on what names Three panelists discuss the ways dis- to use, what pronouns we prefer, how ability experience and transgender ex- close to get, where we can be touched, perience mirror one another. The and so on. But how much of these ne- discussion will include psycho-social gotiations are for what we want vs. theories of diversity, personal experi- what we need? How much thought ence of a trans person with a disability, have you given to what your basic and a political analysis of the contro- needs are, and how you get these needs versies involved in introducing the two met? This class will use Maslow's Hi- oppressed communities to one another. erarchy of Needs as a model to help you determine what your basic needs Polyamory PrEdiCamEnts are as a person, and which needs can Saturday 4:00PM - DCU F and can't be compromised. We'll also Valerie White discuss what might happen if some Living polyamorously, and, more sig- needs aren't met, and how you can nificantly, parenting while poly, is often compensate for that. fraught with difficulties. It may be true that "life's a beach, and then you die", but if you're poly, it can be a ROCKY beach. Dealing with partners, authori- ties, families of origin, schools, chil- dren . . . all present special challenges when your life involves multiple part- ners. This workshop will provide use- ful information for polyfolk. Bring questions, bring answers--let's share our wisdom and experiences as we dis- cuss polyamory predicaments.

The United Church of Christ (UCC) QuEEr/lgBt disaBility visiBility, has Open and Affirming congregations rights and aCtion that seek to welcome and affirm people Sunday 1:00PM - DCU E who are transgender, lesbian, gay, bisexual, same-gender loving Cynthya BrianKate or questioning This will be an open discussion of is-

For information about LGBT Concerns sues/topics relating to Queer/LGBTI www.macucc.org/mission-justice/index.htm and Disability. This includes what it’s

Find an Open and Affirming Church like to be L,G, B, T, Intersex or several www.macucc.org/e mj/ona.htm of the above and disabled, and/or being the partner or friend of someone who is; perceptions of Queer/LGBT people in disability communities and disabled territory. What do our identities and at- people in the LGBT community; the tractions mean about us? How do we need for visibility of the intersection of approach our lovers with sensitivity? these worlds; sensitivity/conscious- Building on our understanding of sex, ness-raising; fighting for rights on both gender and orientation, come join us for fronts and action/activism. a discussion about how queer identity can affect our sex and relationships in QuEEr sEx: sexualiTy Beyond THe this judgment-free class. Binary Sunday 11:30AM - DCU C rEligion / sPirit BuildEr and Aiden Fyre BrEaKEr of BoundariEs For some of us, the binaries of male/fe- Sunday 1:00PM - DCU C male and gay/straight don't fit. Identify- Rev. Matthew ing as, or finding ourselves attracted to, Throughout history, religion has often persons not following traditional gender played the role of enforcer of bound- expression can place us in unfamiliar aries, particularly in regard to gender

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5:30 PM Meet & Greet

6:00 PM Registration (5:00p – 8:00p) 6:30 PM

7:00 PM Trans Day of Remembrance

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8:00 PM Reception 8:30 PM

9:00 PM TBC Primer 9:30 PM

10:00 PM Happy Hour Social Time Burlesque 10:30 PM

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11:30 PM Saturday Information Hotel – 1 Hotel – 2 DCU - A DCU - B DCU - C DCU - D DCU - E DCU - F DCU - G 8:00 AM Yoga 8:30 AM 9:00 AM 9:30 AM Bucking the Intersex 101 10:00 AM 9:30a – 10:45a Binary P Registration 10:30 AM (8:30a – 1:00p) ! 11:00 AM Dressing without 11:30 AM 11:00a – 12:15a Fear T 12:00 PM ! 12:30 PM

1:00 PM 1:30 PM 2:00 PM 2:30 PM 3:00 PM 2:30p – 3:45p Transitioning w 3:30 PM Information ! ! 4:00 PM (1:00p – 7:00p) Gender Variant 4:30 PM 4:00p – 5:15p 100 Things L 5:00 PM ! 5:30 PM Rope for All 6:00 PM 5:30p – 6:45p Bodies M 6:30 PM ! 7:00 PM 7:30 PM 8:00 PM 8:30 PM 9:00 PM 9:30 PM 10:00 PM 10:30 PM 11:00 PM 11:30 PM 12:00 AM DCU - B DCU - C DCU - D DCU - E DCU - F DCU - G 8

tersex 101 My Family Come as Ask a Trans Being that Common Sense Program Member You Are Person Person

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Beyond Empower the Ask the Intersex 101 Asexuality 101 Fixed or Fluid Trans 101 Bi Movement Professionals Panel

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Plenary (Ball Room) (12:30p – 2:30p)

Working Fine Coming Out Self Care for Gender Breadcrumbs with Trans Conversation Kinky Activists Performance Online Identity

Break! Break! nder Variant Ask a Kinky Self Care for Polyamory Chaotic Kiss Parallels Language Person Activists (Cont) Predicaments Trans Comics

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Bi Mixed Rituals of Writing Politics Ask a Poly What Kind of Building Support Marriage Transcendence in the Bedroom Person Leader?

Break! Dinner Time (7:00p – 8:00p)

Creature on a Quest

TraniWreck

Author Reading Author Reading

Reverend Reacharound

Sunday Hotel – 1 DCU - A DCU - B DCU - C DCU - D DCU - E 8:00 AM Yoga 8:30 AM

9:30 AM Multi-Faith Aleister Alcoholics Negotiating for Transgender 10:00 AM 9:30a – 10:45p Service Crowley Anonymous Needs Spirituality 10:30 AM

11:00 AM Hotel Check Out

11:30 AM Conference Sade and Embracing Strategies for 12:00 PM 11:30a – 12:45p Queer Sex Feedback Masoch Your Diva Activism 12:30 PM

1:00 PM What Labels Female Religion Time Queer 1:30 PM 1:00p – 2:15p Give Us Friends Builder Management Disability 2:00 PM

2:30 PM Creating a You'd Better Unintentional 3:00 PM 2:30p – 3:45p Art of Kissing Sex Work 101 Family Be Ready Closet 3:30 PM

4:00 PM Closing Ceremony 4:30 PM (4:00p - 5:00p)

5:00 PM and sexuality, no more so then today. we will explore those rituals, both sa- Yet, at the same time, religion has often cred and secular, and talk about how been one place in which those bound- we can craft rituals, both individually aries are torn down, from ancient cul- and as communities. tures that saw intersexed people as shamans because they transcended roPE for all BodiEs gender to modern day churches that are Saturday 5:30PM - DCU A ordaining openly trans people and tak- Lord Percival ing leading roles in fights for justice on Join us for an interactive workshop on issues like same-sex marriage and gen- using rope for play with all sorts of bod- der identity, to clergy who are explor- ies and identities. This workshop is 18+. ing what it means to offer commitment sadE and masoCh: ceremonies for polyamorous couples a HisTory lesson and groupings. This workshop will ex- Sunday 11:30AM - DCU B amine the role that religion has played Stephanie Skier in the construction and deconstruction What could it mean when someone of boundaries, looking in particular at identifies as a sadist or as a masochist? the boundaries that surround heterosex- What are the historical backgrounds of uality and monogamy. It will also look these terms "sadism" and "masochism" at the distinctions between religion and and how do those histories inflect their spirituality, and examine the many meanings in contemporary BDSM? ways that spirituality, whether individ- This class will introduce and highlight ual or in community, can be a powerful key details in the biographies of the force in challenging boundaries. Lastly, Marquis de Sade (1740-1814) and we will look at the role that religion Leopold von Sacher-Masoch (1836- plays in the political and social debates 1895). The class will also trace the around these issues, how to counter re- coinage and multi-lingual etymology of ligious arguments, and where religion the terms "sadist" and "masochist" is emerging as a powerful ally. from 19th-century sexology through contemporary sex-positive culture, rituals of transCEndEnCE with an emphasis on the often neg- Saturday 5:30PM - DCU C lected regional, political, and class con- Rev. Matthew As we move across and between boundaries, ritual can play a powerful role. A formal sacred moment to sig- nify a new identity, the particular step by step manner of slipping into drag, the burning of something signifying the past which has been transcended or a communal affirmation of boundaries overcome- ritual is often central to the work of transcending, or re-affirming anew, boundaries. In this workshop texts. This class is based in part on the with sex work with a specific focus on presenter's original research. street based and survival sex work. In- cluded in the presentation will be a sElf-CarE for aCtivists brief discussion of Rhode Island, Saturday 2:30PM ~ 5:15PM - DCU E Canada and Nevada regulations in re- Robyn Ochs gards to sex work. Returning to TBC 2010 by popular de- mand! This year in a special two-ses- stratEgiEs for EvEryday aCtivism sion block. Sunday 11:30AM - DCU E "If I don't do it, it won't get done right Wintersong Tashlin (or not at all...)"Have you ever felt What kind of subtle decisions do we overwhelmed, unsupported, exhausted make in our everyday lives that consti- by your activism? Let's come together tute a kind of activism, and how can we to brainstorm strategies for taking care implement these decisions more effec- of ourselves while changing the world. tively? From the conscious choice to mention the gender of a partner, to sEx WorK 101 choosing to hold someone's hand in Sunday 2:30PM - DCU D public, or “accidentally” revealing to a Mary Wheeler homophobic store clerk that yes, some Sex Work 101 will discuss the wide va- queers do carry a concealed firearm. In riety of sex work people engage in. We this class, we will talk about how we will discuss certain risks associated can advance the place of LGBT people in the everywhere through the tiny rip- be spiritual. In many ancient cultures ples we make as we move through the we were seen as healers, teachers, world. shamans, witches and holy people, and still are in some places, or have re- timE managEmEnt for aCtivists claimed our places as such in our mod- Sunday 1:00PM - DCU D ern practices. Most cultures have myth Thomas A. Limoncelli and legends of gods and heroes who Tom applies the techniques from his were Queer, LGB, Transgender, Third- popular time management book to the Gender, Intersex or somewhere be- field of grass roots organizing and ac- tween male and female, and many of tivism. * Get more done. Be more re- these stories have been rediscovered. I laxed. * Turn chaos into routines. * The will cover much of this and can also secret trick to getting other people to do speak to my own experience as a trans- work for you. * Feel less guilty when gender-identified intersex Shamanic you don't finish absolutely everything. Witch, Spirit-worker and psychic vam- * Feel more organized, more confident. pire who has built a spiritual practice *Spend more time on the important around my gender and my gender ac- stuff, ignore the petty stuff. Tom says, tivism. "If I had more time I could get all my housecleaning done, and fight the Rad- transitioning With a ical Right, and legalize same-sex mar- third gEndEr idEntity riage, and protect queer youth in every Saturday 2:30PM - DCU A school, and save money by cooking at Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny home, and cure AIDS. The problem is Let's think clearly about what physical that I don't have enough time. The transition means when it intersects with problem is that we, as a community, identity. Wondering whether to physi- don't have enough time. We're always cally transition but held back because too busy to have enough time. Good you don't have a solidly male or female time management can make all the dif- identity? That doesn't have to be a bar- ference!" Tom Limoncelli is the au- rier. Let's talk about the ambivalencies thor of the popular book "Time of shapeshifting your flesh when your Management for System Administra- identity is all over the place. Come with tions" (O'Reilly). questions! transgEndEr, third-gEndEr, thE unintEntional ClosEt intErsEx and QuEEr/lgBt Sunday 2:30PM - DCU E sPirituality Wintersong Tashlin Sunday 9:30AM - DCU E It's a straight world out there. What ef- Cynthya BrianKate fect does it have on our identities as This workshop will explore Transgen- queer people when we are in situations der/Third-Gender/Intersex and where the people around us make as- Queer/LGBT Spirituality. This in- sumptions about our sexuality orienta- cludes the idea that Trans/Third-Gen- tion or gender identity? Does it matter der/Intersex/Queer/LGBT people can how the world outside our doors per- ceives us, or can we go through life What laBEls givE us, What la- knowing who we are without that ex- BEls taKE aWay ternal validation? In this workshop we Sunday 1:00PM - DCU A will commiserate, discuss and strate- Lee Harrington gize ways to live, work and play in a Before many of us were born, we were our broader communities, while still given gender labels that set our life staying true to ourselves and maintain- course in motion. In this discussion and ing the crucial balance between being personally explorative class, we will out and getting ourselves in trouble. dive into looking at a variety of ques- tions: What labels have you been What Kind of lEadEr am i? gifted, inherited, chosen, been forced Saturday 5:30PM - DCU G into, or run away from? How does your Bendy Yoga Girl internal identity for yourself affect your Leadership isn’t something one does - outside identity and your interpretation it is a way of being, and all of us lead of gender and sexual roles you play or in some way. You may not wish to be fill? What power do your labels grant the Chairman of the Board, or the lord you for flirting, community exposure, high mucky-muck of your volunteer- personal interactions, group dynamics, run organization, but you *do* lead in and more? What do you lose by stating some way. This class will introduce a a specific label or expressing it physi- concept of leadership beyond ‘the per- cally at first meeting another individ- son in charge’, and will provide you ual? How are these labels all formed, with a set of tools to identify your and why don’t we just scrap them all? Leadership Personality Type and the Labels can get us hot, labels can turn us types of those with whom you collabo- off, labels drive us mad, and labels give rate. Knowing how you and those us hope for claiming our own sense of around you lead can be a powerful ally self. Let’s challenge ourselves, look in selecting people to work on teams deep inside, then examine how it all af- and projects - and also in choosing fects the current communities we each roles for individuals. play a part in.

WorKing With trans youth and adults Saturday 2:30PM - DCU B Marisa Howard-Karp Working with transgender youth and adults: what do (non-trans) health and human service providers need to know? Transgender, gender-variant, and gender-questioning youth and adults have unique challenges when it comes to accessing health and human services. Yet many providers in these fields have no idea what these chal- lenges are or how to support their the boundaries of 'mine' and 'yours', of clients in getting past them and access- 'body' and 'mind'. Yoga means union - ing the services they need. Join us for to bring together, and what better way a discussion on best practices in work- to transcend your own boundaries than ing with trans youth and adults, and air let them go through mindfulness, your questions, concerns, and fears. breath, and simple stretches. You’ll leave with concrete ideas and strategies for working with trans folks you'd BEttEr BE rEady and for getting your colleagues pre- Sunday 2:30PM - DCU B pared to do the same. Alisha Clarke Often when transitioning, we focus on Writing PolitiCs in thE BEdroom the immediate issues that arise, but fail Saturday 5:30PM - DCU D to contemplate the more mundane is- Cecilia Tan sues of living and aging as a transper- You're writing erotica or fiction that in- son. This will be an honest discussion cludes a sexy scene. Being the activist of the lifelong challenges, barriers and that you are, you want to make sure joys as a trans-person. Having lost two what you write doesn't merely uphold dear friends to suicide, and one who a heterosexist paradigm or perpetuate a transitioned back after GRS, Alisha stereotype, right? But what do you do feels strongly that more education and if what gets you hot is politically incor- discussion is needed in this area. rect? How do you keep the words flow- ing and your reader interested without veering off into giving a lecture on safe sex, gender politics, or another buz- zkill? Your readers are likely looking for some hot action, not a treatise on how BDSM can be an act of feminist empowerment (which it can!). This workshop for writers will outline the traps and troubles inherent in activist erotica, and teach techniques for bal- ancing your need for real issues with your readers' need for fantasy fodder. yoga for transCEnding BoundariEs Saturday 8AM and Sunday 8AM Hotel 1 Bendy Yoga Girl An all-levels class for people of all shapes, sizes and fitness levels. Let go of the boundaries of thin, fat, male, fe- male, coordinated, bendy, etc.. Let's get together for an hour and transcend PrEsEntEr BiograPhiEs aidEn fyrE ple have positive body image. “Try-sexual” by nature, Aiden Fyre en- Come As You Are: Gender Presentation joys pushing their boundaries or decon- and Body Image in Queer Space, Sat- structing them altogether as a urday 9:30AM sex-positive genderqueer and has spent Empower the Bi Movement, Saturday the last decade (and then some) explor- 11:00AM ing sexuality, gender, kink, polyamory, alisha ClarKE and more. Advocating authenticity in all areas of life, especially sexuality, Alisha is a sociologist (MA - UMass), Aiden enjoys inspiring sexual explo- computer nerd and software developer, ration and playfulness as an active pilot, potter, etc. She identifies as a member in the various sex-positive trans-woman (MtF) who transitioned communities, sex blogger, Cuddle 17 years ago, and had GRS in 1995. Al- Party Facilitator in Training, host of isha taught many college courses in NYC's Alphabet Soup, sexuality edu- Gender & Society, Sexuality, and what cator and model. As a "Kinky Cata- is believed to be the first college course lyst," Aiden encourages debauchery in Transgender Theory in 2000. wherever they go. You'd Better be Ready, Sunday 2:30PM Bucking the Binary of Gender & Ori- ashlEy lyn lEClErC entation: Living in the Grey, Saturday Ashley Lyn LeClerc is a feminist, sex- 9:30AM positive, pan-romantic asexual. By day Queer Sex: Sexuality Beyond the Bi- she works in Boston as a geneticist nary, Sunday 11:30AM studying the causes of human disease. aliCE lEiBoWitz By night she studies the social and be- Alice Leibowitz is a bisexual activist, havioral underpinnings of health dis- a feminist, and a soft fem in a relation- parities as a public health professional ship with a transgender lesbian. One of in training. She is also a deeply cre- the co-founders of Transcending ative and spiritual person who views all Boundaries, Alice values creating expressions of human sexuality and spaces where people can be them- love as profoundly beautiful. selves. Alice also seeks to help all peo- Asexuality 101, Saturday 11:00AM it ccouldouldd be The NT Network/Lak/Lorwethe a Red:Red:k/L partnerparpap rtnert r Endingnding parE partnertner abuse in LLGBTQ,B Q,TG aabuseb polyamorousamorolyp ous and SM ccommunitiesommunities 617.742.4911 (v) 617.227.49116617.227 (tty) sBILINGUALHOTLINEENILTOHLAUGNILIBs sLÓNEADECRISISBILINGàEAENÓLs EàGNILIBSISIRCED sEMERGENCYSHELTERRETLEHSYCNEGREMEs sREFUGIODEEMERGENCIAGUFERs AICNEGREMEEDOI sSUPPORTGROUPPUORGTROPPUSs sGRUPODEAPOYOOPURGs OYOPAEDO The NT Network/Laorwethe a Red:k/Lor Red: puede Acabandoabando ccA conon el abuso de parparejasejas en las serer el l ccomunidadesomunidades LLGBLGBTQ,GBTQ,T poliamorosaspoliamorosas y abusob soded sadomasoquistasdomasa soqu atissoqu s parejaeja íntimaínpar tima BEndy yoga girl BEt maCarthur Bendy Yoga Girl, CYT, MA, has been Bet MacArthur is an independent clin- teaching and training groups and indi- ical social worker, cultural and civil viduals for almost 30 years and has ex- rights activist in Cambridge, MA. She tensive experience with body/mind is past Chair of the City of Cambridge disciplines including several forms of Commission for Persons with Disabil- meditation and yoga, as well as cogni- ities. She was a 2008 recipient of the tive therapeutic techniques, all of City's Peace & Justice Award for life- which she has studied for decades. time activism and contributions to pro- She created the first internal training gressive movements during the fight program for the search engine that for racial integration and voting rights rhymes with Taboo! and has worked for African Americans; the antiwar professionally as an instructional de- movement of the Vietnam era; the Sec- signer, Sexpert, Goddess of Ontology, ond Wave of feminism (1970's); and trainer, business process engineer, in- the Disability Rights Movements formation architect, visual artist, writer, (1990-present). dancer, singer and musician. Based in Parallels and Intersections in Trans- Boston, Bendy Yoga Girl co-founded gender and Disability Experience, Sat- MAsTMass, runs The Submissives’ urday 4:00PM Round Table, is the Speaker Liaison for the New England Leather Alliance, and BEth KimBEll aKa safEty PEnguin is an activist for personal freedom. Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of Bendy presents on a wide variety of the Law. Beth aka the Safety Penguin topics, including leadership, communi- is an advocate for sexual freedom, a cation/negotiation, yoga and medita- switch, a masochist, and an esotericist. tion, spirituality, body language, and She loves her leather family; manages decision making. a Security and Defense R&D facility; Ask the Professionals, Saturday practices magick; plays D&D; plans 11:00AM events for charity; organizes a biannual What Kind of Leader Am I?, Saturday leadership seminar; and caters the rare 5:30PM wedding; but spends most of her time Yoga for Transcending Boundaries, reading, writing her next essay or rit- Saturday 8AM and Sunday 8AM ual, and compulsively rearranging her home. She is a Thelemic Priestess, an Silk Editions, 2010), and others. Tan Initiator, and an Elector in the O.T.O., has also edited numerous erotica an- a NELA volunteer, and is an ally of thologies for other publishers, includ- NORML, ACLU, NCSF, and MAsT. ing the Lambda award nominated Beth recently had the joy of sitting on Women of the Bite (Alyson Books, two panels at the Fetish Fair Fleamar- Ravenous Romance), Boys of the Bite ket #34, Hosting a Play Party andGet- (Red Silk Editions, Ravenous Ro- ting Started with BDSM, presented mance), Sex In The System (Thunder's How to Host a Party at Ramrod's Mouth Press, 2006), Cowboy Lover Leather Expo Day of Education, and (Carroll & Graf, 2007), SM Visions sat on the Rainbow Spirituality panel (Masquerade Books), and many others. during Salem State College's GLBT Her stories, essays, and articles in have Week, 2009. She likes things ‘Just-So’ appeared in dozens of magazines and and idolizes Benjamin Franklin. Love anthologies including Best America is the law, love under will. Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, Best Aleister Crowley and the Abolition of Women's Erotica, Playboy Online, The Boundaries, Sunday 9:30AM Mammoth Book of New Erotica, On A Bed of Rice, Dark Angels, Penthouse, CECilia tan Ms. magazine, Asimov's, Nerve, "Cecilia Tan transcends time, space, Gothic.net, Fenway Fiction, Periphery, gravity, and cultural norms in her line and many more. Learn more at cecili- of work: erotic science fiction," accord- atan.com and circlet.com. ing to the San Francisco Weekly. Susie Empower the Bi Movement, Saturday Bright calls her "simply one of the most 11:00AM important writers, editors, and innova- Writing Politics in the Bedroom, Satur- tors in contemporary American erotic day 5:30PM literature." Tan always considered her- self a writer, but her career took off in Cynthya BrianKatE 1992 when she self-published a chap- "I’m a visually disabled, invisibly bira- book of three kinky science fiction sto- cial, full-figured kinky goth, omnisex- ries entitled Telepaths Don't Need ual medium-femme trans / genderqueer Safewords--and thus Circlet Press was -identified hormonally intersex born. Since that time Circlet Press has Shamanic Witch. I’m also a Spirit- published over 70 books of erotic fan- worker and particularly a Deadworker; tasy & science fiction edited by her, I help dead as well as living transgen- with many more on the way, and in her der and gender-nonconforming people own writing career she has written and have been given the spiritual titles everything from short stories to para- Speaker for the Transgender Dead and normal romance novels. Her books in- Speaker for the Forgotten Transgender clude Black Feathers (HarperCollins, Dead. I’m a diversity speaker and 1998), The Velderet (Circlet, 2001), educator on all of these topics and will White Flames (Running Press, 2008), speak just about anywhere that wants Mind Games (Red Silk Editions, me and also write and do activism on 2010), The Siren and The Sword (Red these topics. " Queer/LGBT Disability Visibility, yoga teacher. Her work is intellectually Rights and Action, Sunday 1:00PM engaged but always personal, bridging Transgender, Third-Gender, Intersex macro and the micro sensitivities in a and Queer/LGBT Spirituality, Sunday genuine desire to understand how it is 9:30AM we know and interact. Her attention to subtlety and conceptual connectivity is dani her greatest strength. Dani SK is an interdisciplinary artist Fixed or Fluid: Spiritual Identities and and scholar interested in the intersec- Gender, Saturday 11:00AM tions of creativity, social psychology, spirituality, learning, feminist aesthet- EldEr a. viCKiE BoissEau ics, history, ecology, polemics, and Elder A. Vickie Boisseau is an intersex metaphor. She is interested in ways of activist/speaker, and is cofounder of the learning, being, and seeing that are Intersex Day of Awareness started at shaped by multi-dimensional the University of Montana in 2003. metaphors, in-depth perception, and The event has now gone national on critical inquiry. She is a teacher and so- herms birthday, October 26. Herm cial justice worker uncovering the am- works with Mass Transgender Political biguity of our human limitations and Coalition to end discrimination of all possibility. She has studied Art His- transgendered people. Herm has writ- tory, Women's & Genders Studies, Stu- ten a chapter about herm’s life in "Her- dio Art, Art Education, Education & maphrodeities 2nd Edition" by Raven Human Development, & Ethical Lead- Kaldera. Herm is also going for a de- ership at several institutions including gree in human services, and is on the Rutgers & Tufts University. She has steering committee of Trans Pride exhibited, performed, and taught na- United. tionally and internationally. In 2008 Intersex 101: Similarities and Differ- she was invited to teach a workshop ences Between Intersex and Transgen- "Our Sights on Change: Perception, Vi- der, Saturday 9:30AM sual Culture, & Human Rights at the Intersex Panel Talk, Saturday 11:00AM Chicago Human Rights Youth Summit. Dani has been commissioned by local gunnEr sCott business, organizations, and individu- Gunner Scott, Executive Director of als to bring beauty to the world. She The Massachusetts Transgender Polit- enjoys collaborating with other ical Coalition, is a nationally recog- thinkers/creators in an effort to ensure nized activist, educator, and epistemic justice and the valuing of di- community organizer on Transgender verse voices. She is interested in lin- Rights, LGBT health issues, and LGBT guistic, visual, and mostly lived partner abuse. He has written articles interventions in the global world. She for What's Up magazine, Sojourner is an advocate for educational access, Women's Forum, and "Agitate and Ac- learning differences, at-risk youth, and tivate", the introduction to Pinned gender-fluidity. She is an avid Down by Pronouns, a 2003 Lambda hiker/naturalist, jewelry designer, and Literary nominee anthology published by Conviction Books. He is on the Joshua tEnPEnny Board of Directors for the Equality Joshua Tenpenny is Raven's Boy, and Federation, on the National Board of his devoted assistant, partner, and slave Advisors for the National Center for for life. He is a massage therapist, Shi- Transgender Equality, a Commissioner atsu practitioner, and yoga teacher. He on the Massachusetts Commission for is polymorphously perverse, and finds GLBT youth, and a founding steering spiritual fulfillment through any kind committee member of the Transgender of worthy service. Advocacy Network. He holds a BA in Transitioning With A Third Gender Liberal Arts from Goddard College, Identity, Saturday 2:30PM where he completed an oral history project titled "Boston Area Transgen- lEv maKhlis der Community Leaders and the Lev Makhlis identifies as a hetero-ro- ENDA Crisis." mantic demi-romantic asexual. He has Beyond Trans 101 for Gay, Lesbian, Bi, lived in the Soviet Union and in Israel & Allies, Saturday 11:00AM before settling in Boston. He works as a computer programmer for Google. JaWn's doll (JEnn) He is also an ethical vegan, a Mensa Jenn wears a number of hats in her life. member, an all-season bike commuter, Formerly a teacher, she is now living a board gamer, a bass-baritone, and a the corporate life. More importantly, musical theatre aficionado. she is the owned slave of Jawn. She is Asexuality 101, Saturday 11:00AM also the Assistant Director of MAsT Mass (Masters And slaves Together), a monthly discussion and support group lord PErCival for those interested in pursuing power Lord Percival (Percy to most) has been exchange relationships. In any spare active in the scene both in private and time, she is half of Reverend in public for almost 40 years, and been Reacharound, an irreverent punk teaching, lecturing, mentoring, and cabaret group. training others for just under a quarter Ask a Kinky Person, Saturday 4:00PM of a century. He's been involved and Negotiating for Needs, Sunday 9:30AM associated with many local groups, on a volunteer level as well. Educating marah fElliCCE others is a particular passion of his and Marah Fellicce is an artist and activist to facilitate such, he has recently ac- living in New Jersey. Recent projects in- cepted the position of Director of Edu- clude an installation of living lawn fur- cation and Programming for NELA. niture on Governors Island, and He runs a regular, ongoing Dojo, as Performance Art with Project Porchlight. well as seeks out many places, both lo- Her interdisciplinary approach to art, cally and internationally, to present. performance and craft has been featured Ask a Kinky Person, Saturday 4:00PM in the Nonsense List, Red Bank Monitor, Rope for all Bodies, Saturday 5:30PM The Star Ledger, Edible Jersey and the TriCity News. She is a featured lecturer lorElEi Erisis @thekinkacademy, and has presented The super fabulous Lorelei Erisis is a her kiss class to audiences in NJ, NY, transgender performer, writer, activist, MA, OH, LA, RI, VT. She looks forward adventurer and Pageant Queen. She re- to bringing the workshop to even more ceived extensive training in improvisa- venues. Her goal in 2010 is to publish a tion and sketch comedy at the kiss-and-tell book on the subject. She has renowned Second City in Chicago and been a kiss expert since 2004. For other Los Angeles and has performed all projects by the artist, visit Marah’s Web- across the country including as the site: http://gypsyartist.org/ Emcee of the Noho Pride Celebration! Art and Science of Kissing, Sunday She is also a director, teacher and inde- 2:30PM pendent filmmaker. She is especially Fine Conversation 101, Saturday proud to have directed and performed 2:30PM with “The Fully Functional Players” in Los Angeles, the first and only all- marisa hoWard-KarP transgender improv group in the coun- Marisa Howard-Karp is the Director of try! In addition to her Second City The GLBT Youth Support Project and training she has also studied at a num- OutHealth, both programs of Health ber of other theater workshops and Imperatives. For the past 8 years, she schools. Including an apprenticeship in has been working with child welfare Pantomime and movement with providers, educators, and providers in Ryszard Choroszy, the assistant to and many aspects of health and human serv- disciple of the great Polish artist Hen- ices to support them in creating and en- ryk Tomaszewski, the founder and di- hancing culturally competent services rector of the Wroclaw Mime Theatre. to GLBT clients and their families. She Follow her blog on The Web at: recently launched an on-line education transprov.wordpress.com & watch out course titled “Providing Culturally for her monthly column: “Ask A Competent Care to GLBT Clients.” She TransWoman” in The Rainbow is an ally to the trans community and Times!!! Slaínte! loves working with non-trans people on Ask a Trans Person, Saturday 9:30AM how to support the community. Gender Performance Through Improv, Working with Trans Youth and Adults, Saturday 2:30PM Saturday 2:30PM marK rhEault users. In 2001 Mary moved to Provi- Mark Rheault has a lifetime interest in dence and continued volunteer work the psychology of variations in gender with the Cambridge Needle Cambridge identity and sexual orientation. Mark Program. In 2002 Mary returned to is actively involved with several mixed Boston to work at the Boston Needle orientation support groups and pro- Exchange Program. She has since left motes building strong relationships by the Boston Needle Exchange to take a incorporating acceptance of same sex position at CAB Health and Recovery attraction into the existing heterosexual Services, Inc. Healthy Streets Outreach marriage dynamic. Program in Lynn which provides serv- Bisexuals in a Mixed Orientation Mar- ices to both injection drug users and sex riage, Saturday 5:30PM workers. Mary has created and pre- sented harm reduction trainings at vari- mary WhEElEr ous venues such as the national and Mary Wheeler CAB Health and Recov- local conferences, parent groups, col- ery Services, Inc. Mary Wheeler began leges and high schools, local trainings working in the HIV prevention field in for outreach workers and local harm re- 1999 as a volunteer outreach worker for duction programs. Mary is currently the JRI Health in Boston. From 1999 until Program Manager at the CAB Healthy 2001 Mary worked as the street outreach Streets Outreach Program where she has coordinator for an outreach program that been for over 5 years. targeted sex workers and injection drug Sex Work 101, Sunday 2:30PM

miChEllE WExElBlat, liCsW Michelle Wexelblat, MSW, LICSW Michelle Wexelblat is a Clinical Social Worker, Writer, Counselor, Therapist, Mystic, Lady of Perspective, and Com- forting One. She has her MSW degree from Boston University's School of So- cial Work, her BA in psychology from Queens College, CUNY. Ask the Professionals, Saturday 11:00AM My Family Member/Friend is chang- ing, what do I do? Saturday 9:30AM

mistrEss sly Mistress Sly has been in the leather community 30 plus years and believes it to be a lifestyle of honor and respect. She has presented a variety of work- shops on many different subjects from novice programs to extreme edge play all over the US, Canada and around the mKt ProduCtions world. She is a long time associate of MKT Productions is a New England NELA. She is on the executive board based comic studio that specializes in of Welcome Home. Mistress Sly has a stories related to transgender and other strong belief in mentoring and has de- LGBT issues. The studio was created veloped a mentoring program for in 2004 by Michelle Pinard as a place leather women called TIT/BIT which where her captivation by the Japanese is based in Boston MA. Another of comic style and intense story telling Her main focuses in the leather could combine to bring forth the debut lifestyle is education, for both the com- comic, Chaotic Kiss. Michelle has munity to learn and grow, and the gen- spent the last six years showing CK at eral public, to bring our lifestyle out Japanese Anime Conventions, Comic into the light. Since the mid 70's she Book Shows, as well as First Event has worked on the fight to stop the 2010. Michelle is very excited to pres- spread of AIDS, both as a volunteer in ent the first panel on her studios work, the community centers, hospice, and and hopes that her art will enrich the fundraising for AIDS Action in lives of the transgender attendees as Boston, and AIDS rides across the well as the rest of the LGBQ commu- country. nity. Personally, Michelle is a genetic Creating, Keeping and Living in a girl , who has some tomboyish quali- Family, Sunday 2:30PM ties, and has been in relationships and friendships with many transgender mJ women. She hopes that her artwork MJ, or Ms. Jessica is a queer, dominant, continues to inspire transgendered stay-at-home mother of two who takes readers as it has in the past. You can see great pride in her roles as matriarch of the comic and more at her leather family and head of her poly www.chaotickiss.com. household. As partner of two and lover Chaotic Kiss - Transgender Issues in to one, she still occasionally finds time Comics, Saturday 4:00PM to travel and spend time with people who tickle her fancy. Femme is not PrinCEss Kali only a descriptor for this feisty Lady, After almost a decade exploring cre- but her gender of choice. MJ has taught ative sexuality, lifestyle and profes- previously at TES Fest and NELA's sional Dominatrix Princess Kali Fetish Flea. She has also helped organ- launched the video based educational ize many kink events and served on the KinkAcademy.com website to share planning committee for Mazzoni's her passion for making all things kinky Trans Health Conference for two years. more understood and more accessible. This is her first TBC, so please come Recently she also launched an expan- up and introduce yourself....especially sion site, FearlessPress which focuses if you also have young kids. She loves on magazine style articles regarding the meeting fellow parental units! intersection of sex and life. Intent on Ask a Kinky Person, Saturday 4:00PM making “pervert” a compliment, she Ask a Poly Person, Saturday 5:30PM spends her days reaching out to indi- viduals and couples all over the world and presenting workshops regularly for with her playful philosophy of “pleas- many years to the BDSM, Neo-Pagan, antly perverted” sex education. Sex/Spirituality, transgender, and other communities. ’Tis an ill wind that Princess Kali has been lecturing on a blows no minds. variety of BDSM topics throughout the 100 Things You can Do To Keep Sexual country since 2003 in the US and inter- Freedom Alive, Saturday 4:00PM nationally. Presenting at such educa- Transitioning With A Third Gender tional institutions as Harvard, RISD, Identity, Saturday 2:30PM and Brown University as well has Lifestyle venues such Black Rose, rayCho Fetish Flea Fair, Leather Retreat and raycho is a lot of things, none of which Kink in the Caribbean has garnered fit well into dichotomies. She's kind of Princess Kali respect in both the vanilla blind for a sighted person and kind of and kink worlds. sighted for a blind person. She likes Coming Out Kinky, Saturday 2:30PM men, women, and plenty of people who are neither or both. By day, she works raBBit in public health and disability access; As a queer, poly, transmasculine at night, she goes home to her poly kinkster, rabbit has never fit well into family. She's also a proud member of standard boxes and enjoys spending MOB New England, and the handler of time with others who are expanding the a guide dog who couldn't stand to be options and building their own. Over out of the limelight for five seconds the last decade, he has bootblacked or and just had to be mentioned in this bio. presented at events such as FFF, Dark Being That Person, Saturday 9:30AM Odyssey, Leather Retreat, Smartfest, Ohio Leather Fest, Winter Wickedness, thE rEd-hEadEd diva and for groups such as NELA, Adven- The Red-Headed Diva has been an edu- tures in Sexuality, and Purple Rose So- cator for the past 9 years working for ciety. He considers transition to be one both public and private higher education of his biggest and most rewarding ad- institutions. Her presence in higher ed- ventures. ucation has grown exponentially over Ask a Kinky Person, Saturday 4:00PM the past five years, and she just com- Ask a Trans Person, Saturday 9:30AM pleted a two-year Presidential Fellow- ship in Academic Affairs and Alumni ravEn KaldEra Relations at a Massachusetts State Col- Raven Kaldera is a queer FTM trans- lege. She recently moved into a perma- gendered intersexual shaman. He is the nent role in Alumni Relations and began author of too many books to list here, serving as President of a statewide including "Hermaphrodeities: The women's higher education non-profit or- Transgender Spirituality Workbook" ganization. The Diva's passion for ed- and “Double Edge: The Intersection of ucating and empowering others Transgender and BDSM”. He and his exploded with the rising popularity of slaveboy Joshua have been teaching Social Media. Her knowledge base on the topic is frequently sought by senior vated, enthusiastic and passionate mem- level executives and administrators and ber of the Western Massachusetts Power she has been featured in Business West Exchange (WMPE) and The Society. magazine as a Social Media expert. Her Since becoming public, they have made unique approach to educating others in it their mission to make the kink world a social media is highly solicited in the better place, helping others feel comfort- area. Long active from a leadership able with the lifestyle while maintaining standpoint, The Diva is active on many their privacy, and educating others on boards for area non-profit organizations why it is a safe, sane and ideal way of and institutions. She is an active mem- life. They are the founders of The Fet- ber and leader of her College Alumni As- work, an up-and-coming social media sociation Council, and a player and site that will feature kink-friendly busi- member of the Board of Directors for a nesses and consumer reviews and rat- local Theatre Group. The Diva's dedica- ings. When not working for Alumni tion and commitment to her profession Relations in public higher education or and volunteer organizations was honored serving her community, The Red- when she was selected as one of Busi- Headed Diva is a “Professional Social- ness West magazine’s Forty Under 40, a izer” who works to help individuals salute to rising business leaders in the develop a positive, confident social community. Recreationally, The Diva image by educating and empowering has been a lifelong kinkster and fetishist. them on the proper way to use Social She and her husband have been practic- Media. She is a frequent presenter, ing the lifestyle for the past 12 years and speaker and lecturer on the topic and is recently became more involved in the known for her willingness and ability to scene. They are new yet deeply moti- customize her presentation to fit the au- dience’s needs. Her primary focus is to Empower the Bi Movement, Saturday work with individuals, institutions and 11:00AM organizations to integrate Social Media Self-Care For Activists, Saturday into their brand, mission, and strategic 2:30PM through 5:15PM plan. Breadcrumbs: Keeping Your Online sarah lEmons Identity Safe, Saturday 2:30PM Sarah Lemons is a current graduate stu- Embracing your Inner Diva: Cool dent at Goddard College in Vermont Confidence Created, Sunday 11:30AM studying sexuality and sexual orienta- tion topics in counseling psychology. rEv. matthEW Her interests include relationship dy- Rev Matthew is an ordained protestant namics of polyamory, sex positive ed- minister who works at the intersection ucation, and kink topics. Sarah of social justice and pastoral ministry. currently lives with her wife Sofia and A strong believer in the power religion three cats in Southern New Hampshire. and spirituality have to transcend Building Support for Transpartners, boundaries, as well as the importance Saturday 5:30PM of naming the terrible damage the church has done in the name of God, sCott Matthew has written and spoken in nu- His knot tying education started at the merous settings about the interconnec- age of 4 by many ole salts who had tions of religion, sexuality, and justice. been boating for more than 40 years. Religion/Spirit Builder and Breaker of When he came out at 21, he started ap- Boundaries, Sunday 1:00PM plying the knots to bondage, and it has Rituals of Transcendence, Saturday been fun ever since. He considers his 5:30PM leather journey a life long pursuit. Scott held the title of Mr. Boston roByn oChs Leather in 2004. In 2003, Co-founded Robyn is the editor of the groundbreak- the Bay State Marauders, and served as ing 42-country anthology Getting Bi: the inaugural President from 2004 to Voices of Bisexuals Around the World, 2005, and Vice President from 2006 to editor of the Bi Women newsletter, and 2007. In 2007, won the Pantheon of co-founder of the Bisexual Resource Leather New England Regional Award. Center and other bi groups. She has Served as Co-Chair of the New Eng- taught several university courses on bi- land Leather Alliance from 2007 to sexual identity and spoken at hundreds 2008. Now currently the Director of of colleges, universities, and confer- Community Relations for NELA. In ences around the world. She is the re- 2009, was elected to the National cipient of numerous awards, including Board of Leather Leadership Confer- the National Gay & Lesbian Task ence, and was elected to Treasurer of Force's Susan J. Hyde Activism Award. LLC in 2010. Scott is also involved in Robyn married her long-time partner in the Consent Counts Project for the Na- Massachusetts on May 17, 2004, the tional Coalition for Sexual Freedom. first day it was legal to do so. Coming Out Kinky, Saturday 2:30PM stEPhaniE sKiEr became involved with the Twenty Stephanie Skier is an historian, writer, Club, and was elected President in performance artist, and activist. She 2005 and remained until 2008. She holds a bachelor's degree from Har- transitioned and became Tasha Rose in vard University in Social Studies and 2003. Presently Tasha is attending Cap- Studies of Women, Gender and Sexu- ital Community College full time and ality. She was awarded a Fulbright Fel- is one semester short of receiving her lowship to pursue research in gender associates degree in Social Work. She studies. She is currently pursuing a was recently inducted in to Phi Theta PhD in history, with a focus on the his- Kappa, the International Honor Society tory of gender and sexuality and con- for Community College. ceptions of the body in international Ask a Trans Person, Saturday 9:30AM law. She is the author of Waterboard: a Play about Torture. tom limonCElli Female Friends, Woman Love, and Tom Limoncelli is a 40 year old bi/poly Bachelorettes: Queer Femininities in organizer, trainer and speaker from Female Homosexual Magazines of the New Jersey. He co-created BiZone/NJ Weimar Republic, Sunday 1:00PM (support group in NJ, 1991-2002) and Sade and Masoch: A History Lesson, co-created the Tri-State Bi Conference, Sunday 11:30AM which later morphed into TBC. His speaking and training repertoire in- tala thEra cludes time management, leveraging lil.tala is a submissive who serves Mas- the web for your organization, and fa- terGrizly. She entered the local cilitating support groups. His activism BDSM community as a top/switch has earned him 3 awards, including the some ten years ago. She later became Brenda Howard Award. More recently involved and worked with Down- he has written 4 books about computers riverBDSM to produce Camp Fetish in and IT. He is a regular speaker at con- Michigan , helping plan several events ferences around the world. Tom lives She is a large supporting force, helping in New Jersey. MasterGrizly plan and execute Empower the Bi Movement, Saturday monthly munch and Dungeon parties 11:00AM for DetroitSpace. . She also hosts “The Time Management for Activists, Sun- Submissive Ladies Night Out Munch” day 1:00PM in Warren, Michigan. Common Sense in Kink Relationships, valEriE WhitE Saturday 9:30AM Executive director of Sexual Freedom Legal Defense and Education Fund, at- tasha rosE torney Valerie White is on the coordi- Tasha Rose has been involved in the nating council of Family Tree. She was GLBT community since 1988 when founding president of Unitarian Uni- she began volunteering at the Project versalists for Polyamory Awareness 100/The Hartford Community Center. and currently serves on their board. She While at the Community Center, she also serves on the advisory council of the Institute for Twenty-First Century der (i.e. grrrl, boi, hir, shim, ze). She Relationships and the board of Inter- is actively conducting in person inter- weave Continental. Her writing has views pertaining to GVN usage. For been published in Loving More, The more information about Widow Cen- Humanist, Unitarian Universalist tauri or her research visit World, and the Vermont Bar Associa- http://www.widowcentauri.com/ tion Journal. She was president of the Gender Variant Language, Saturday Vermont Civil Liberties Union and the 4:00PM Humanist Society and vice president of the American Humanist Association. WintErsong tashlin Valerie has been in a committed Wintersong Tashlin is a shaman, magi- polyamorous family for 16 years. cian, presenter, and educator who has Polyamory Predicaments, Saturday been teaching and running rituals for 4:00PM well over a decade. He is a council member of Clan Tashlin, a teaching and WidoW CEntauri magical order based in NH, and he is Widow Centauri is a graduate student the past dean of the College of Brigan- in Southern California who has a tia, a pagan adult-education program decade of ethnographic field research run through the First Pagan Church of in the area of professional BDSM. Asphodel. In addition to his magical Through this experience she has cre- and spiritual classes, Wintersong ated a forthcoming book and a one- teaches workshops on various erotic woman show about her life as a techniques, polyamoury, LGBT issues, professional dominatrix. Widow Cen- activism, and disability. 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