The Mindful Marriage an Interview with Kittisaro and Thanissara
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THE NEW HOPE SleapANGHA NEWSLETTER of faithWIntER/SPRING 2009 Weekend of Spiritual Inquiry and Insight Meditation February 20–22. See page 3. The Mindful Marriage An Interview With Kittisaro and Thanissara Dear Friends, by Leslee Goodman his Winter-Spring Newsletter ormer Buddhist finds the world, our country Tand many individuals in monk Kittisaro was the midst of profound challenge and born Harry Randolph great opportunity for change and F transformation. Human kind and the Weinberg in Chattanooga, planet we inhabit has experienced Tennessee, the son of a similar periods of challenge and change New York City Jew and a in the past. What is unique for us is Thanissara and Kittisaro that it is happening in our present Southern Baptist. Former lifetime and we get to participate in it. Buddhist nun Thanissara The unconditioned dharma as taught by Gotama Buddha is an unchanging truth. The Buddha was born Linda Mary Peacock in London, England, said, “What the Tathagata (Awakened One) has the daughter of an Irish Catholic father and a laid down should not be discarded.” No matter Protestant mother. Both Kittisaro and Thanissara grew how the world may change, these teachings are unaffected. They don’t change with the world. up in households that bridged religious and cultural The teachings of the Buddha are as relevant today differences. Both discovered Buddhism as young adults as they were 2500 years ago. The Buddha didn’t and spent more than a decade in monastic life. And create the truth, he only discovered it himself and then set out to declare it so we can find the end of both relinquished their monastic vows to make another suffering. During these difficult times please know cross-cultural commitment: to each other, as husband that you can take refuge in the teachings of the Buddha and the wise ones and that your spiritual and wife. practice and the support of the Sangha is always Born in 1952, Kittisaro was a wrestler in junior high and high school, here to serve you. I hope you enjoy the interview winning five Mid-South Wrestling championships and the National Prep with Kittisaro and Thanissara, both of whom were Tournament. He went on to wrestle at Princeton University, where he was ordained in the Theravada Buddhist lineage and injured early in his freshman year and had to have four screws put in his presently practice the dharma as lay people. They shoulder. With his wrestling career ended, he initially decided to become a are good examples of how the teachings can be doctor, but after graduating from Princeton with honors in 1974, he won applied in a mindful marriage. a Rhodes scholarship to attend England’s Oxford University and decided to With love, study English. He was writing his master’s thesis on mysticism, science, and art in the works of Aldous Huxley when he developed an interest in Buddhism. continued on page 4 S PRING 2 0 0 9 S CHEDULE FOR R ETREAT S AND W ORK S HOP S February 8 Advance registration is recom- What to bring: A bag lunch if June 19-26 Hillsboro, NC mended. Registration is possible at you wish. A folded blanket and Ann Arbor, MI Half-Day Retreat the class site, space permitting. cushion if you want to sit on the Residential Retreat Sponsored by The New Hope What to bring: A bag lunch if floor. Chairs are available. With Barbara, Aaron, and John. Sangha you wish. A folded blanket and All levels are welcome. For This half-day retreat will include cushion if you want to sit on the April 19 information contact Pat Shalis at Durham, NC sitting and walking meditation floor. Chairs are available. [email protected] or 734-996-3743. Workshop and be held in silence. There Recommended text: Mindfulness When Things Fall Apart: Upcoming Retreats— will be instruction offered for in Plain English by Henepola Inner Work During Mark Your Calendars those new to the practice and Gunaratana, ISBN#0-86171- Difficult Times October 23-25, 2009 a question and answer session 064-9 Instructor: John Orr Ann Arbor, MI towards the end. Residential Retreat with Barbara, February 20–22 Time: Sunday from 10:00 AM to Time: Sunday from 10:00 AM to Mebane, NC 5:00 PM Aaron, and John. For information 1:00 PM Pat Shalis at [email protected] or Take Refuge in the Silence: Location: Duke East Campus, Arrival: Please plan on arriving 734-996-3743. A Weekend of Insight 107 The Bishop’s House between 9:30 and 9:50 AM Meditation and Spiritual Fee: $85 for Early Enrollment reg- Location: John Orr’s home at Inquiry. istrations made by 4/3, thereafter December 28– 2301 Hermitage Rd. Hillsboro, $95. Course ID #12130. January 4, 2010 Residential/ Non Residential Hot Springs, NC NC 27278. For directions, it’s Registration: Register online Retreat with Barbara Brodsky, New Year’s Retreat with John at best to e-mail John at bodhi@ through Duke University Con- Aaron and John at Stone House, the Southern Dharma Retreat duke.edu or call 919-943-0438. tinuing Studies at www.learnmore. a beautiful center on 70 acres Center, 1661 West Rd., Hot Fee: The retreat will be offered on duke.edu/weekend/courses/ near Chapel Hill. See page 3 for Springs, NC 28743. Call: a Dana (gift) basis. registration.asp or by phone details. 828-622-7112 or www.main. What to bring: Participants 919-684-6259. Have the follow- nc.us/SDRC. should bring a cushion to sit on. ing information ready: Class ID Some chairs will be available. February 28 12130 and MC/Visa information. Raleigh, NC Dana (pronounced “dah-na”) Advance registration is recom- is a Pali word meaning “gift” or February 14 Workshop mended. Registration is possible at Durham, NC “giving.” It is closely related to Mindfulness Meditation: An the class site, space permitting. the virtue of generosity and is Workshop Ancient Practice Finds its What to bring: A bag lunch, if expressed in many forms—the The Gift of Mindfulness Place in American Culture you wish. A folded blanket and offering and sharing of our time, Join us this Valentine’s Day for Instructor: John Orr cushion if you want to sit on the energy, knowledge/expertise, a special time together that will Time: Saturday from 10:00 AM to floor. Chairs are available. material items and financial include instruction, practice in 5:00 PM Recommended text: When Things resources. Dana is a purely mindfulness and loving kindness Location: Meredith College Fall Apart by Pema Chodron, volitional act of giving in which meditation, and discussion. Common Room Jones Chapel ISBN# 9781590302262 Fee: $70 for Class ID #1044, 0.6 we develop our ability to let Instructor: John Orr CEU. go, convey our compassion and Time: Saturday from 10:00 AM to April 25–May 2 Registration: Mail: Make checks Emerald Isle, NC caring, demonstrate our commit- 5:00 PM payable to Meredith College and ment, and acknowledge our inter- Location: Duke East Campus, Residential Retreat mail registration and payment to: dependence and connectedness. 107 The Bishop’s House This retreat for senior students Meredith College Community Fee: $85 for early enrollment experienced in meditation will be Programs 3800 Hillsborough registrations made by 1/30/09, held at a house overlooking dunes Street Raleigh, NC 27607-5298 NEWSLETTER thereafter $95. Class ID #12129. and a quiet beach. Some sittings Online: Register and pay online at: Registration: Register online will take place on the beach, such The newsletter is usually pub- www.meredith.edu/ through Duke University Con- as at dawn with sunrise, and there lished twice each year and is community-programs. Phone: Call tinuing Studies at www.learnmore. will be opportunity to walk on offered freely. You donations allow Community Programs at duke.edu/weekend/courses/ the beach and to swim. This is a us to continue to publish the 919-760-8450 with Class ID registration.asp or by phone Vipassana retreat led by Barbara, newsletter. If you would like to 1044 to pay with MasterCard, 919-684-6259. Have the follow- Aaron and John, and will be in contribute to the cost of printing VISA or American Express. ing information ready: Class ID silence. For information contact and mailing the newsletter, then 12129 and MC/Visa information. Janice Durand at 919 563-4454 or please make a check out to the [email protected]. Durham Meditation Center and mail to 1214 Broad Street #2, Durham, NC 27705. P AGE 2 Take Refuge in the Silence A Weekend of Spiritual Inquiry and Insight Meditation February 20 – 22, 2009 weekend retreat is an opportunity to develop calmness, wisdom, and compassion in a supportive environment. Emphasis is placed upon developing mindfulness in sitting, standing, and walking to help us access our innate understanding, joy, and peace. A weekend retreat such as this can be a wonderful way to learn meditation and to Adeepen one’s practice. Beginners, as well as the more experienced, are welcome to attend. There will be instructions, practice, dharma talks, chanting from various spiritual traditions and silence. THE TEACHERS Barbara Brodsky is a Quaker and trained dharma teacher in the Buddhist tradition. She is the guiding teacher of Deep Spring Center in Ann Arbor Michigan. Barbara has been deaf for 35 years. She is the channel for the discarnate entity, Aaron. Aaron is a being of light who has evolved beyond the need to return to the physical plane. We have a special page on Aaron at our web site, newhopesangha.org. John Orr received Theravada Buddhist ordination and training for eight years while living in Thailand and India.