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Programs Seminars and Workshops Over the Past Twenty- Five Years Check out the How to Avoid Falling in Love With a Jerk book published by McGraw Hill two John Van Epp, PhD has conducted numerous programs seminars and workshops over the past twenty- five years. His PICK and LINKS programs are being taught in 45 states and seven countries, thousands of churches, agencies, educational, and military settings. Dr Van Epp and his pro- www.lovethinks.com grams have been featured on Good Morning PO Box 596 America, The O’Reilly Factor, Fox News, The Early Show, and in The Wall Street Anna Maria, FL 34217 Journal, Time Magazine, Cosmopolitan, and [email protected] RAM O Magazine. He is an AOL coach and has Learn how to fall in love with the PICK maintained a counseling practice over the program & learn to stay in love with past twenty years in addition to his previous Couple LINKS pastoral and faculty positions. The book, How to Avoid Falling In Love With a Jerk, published by McGraw-Hill, is available at all leading bookstores. Dr. John Van Epp has an MA in Pastoral Counseling and Psychology, a second MA in Church History, and a PhD in Counseling Psychology. He has been happily married for over thirty years and is the proud father of two daughters. The RAM, a practical design for balancing the The current single adult population in the U.S. has Falling in love is easy… staying in love is an HEAD and the HEART in romantic relationships, grown to over 50 million people. Almost every art. A couple who still feels “in love” after is the core of the PICK and LINKS Programs. one of them is looking for a soul-mate, but lacking years of marriage is unsinkable in the waves Five relationship dynamics contribute to theoretically sound, practical knowledge for how of life. In the LINKS Program you will learn your feelings of love and connection to your to do so. The PICK or How to Avoid Falling for a how to regularly revitalize the dynamic partner, and portray healthy and unhealthy Jerk(ette) Program has been taught for the past links of your marriage with the Relationship relationships. The RAM explains that: 15 years. This five or ten-lesson curriculum has Attachment Model (RAM). been successfully used as a roadmap for singles to follow in building a healthy relationship and Emotionally safe dating relationships follow LINKS will help you gain skills for choosing a marriage partner. The program: a simple rule—do not allow one level to communication, conflict resolution, forgive- significantly exceed the previous. Imbalances • Has been empirically validated in a ness and rebuilding trust, satisfying personal create the “love is blind” experience. published study conducted by The Ohio needs, constructing a marriage story, and State University. growing together sexually. When you go Closeness in marriage comes from the depth • Has successfully crossed generational and through the LINKS program you will learn how that you know and trust one another, meet to conduct “huddles”—an essential meeting social economic boundaries. each other’s needs, deepen your commitment that you can use in your marriage to regularly and grow in your sexual intimacy. • Is successfully taught to teens, young-adults, strengthen the five dynamics of the RAM. This and singles-again. will keep your relationship strong and surface Understanding the RAM provides a plan for • Has over 4,000 certified instructors in potential problems long before they dampen pacing a growing dating relationship, and military, educational, religious, prison, and the intimacy in your marriage. maintaining your intimacy and romance after marriage. agency settings The LINKS Program also includes a “certification in a box” for instructors similar to Finally, the PICK Program includes a “certification The PICK & LINKS courses apply the RAM the PICK Program. in a box” for instructors which includes: a video to romantic relationships and have English, instructor’s course, a power point presentation, a Spanish, and Mandarin translations. teacher’s manual with lesson plans, and a video presentation of the program in its entirety..
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