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January 2014 | refreshedmag.com from the publishers of the Christian Examiner Real life. Real community. Waiting for Maggie Couple overcomes infertility through adoption Balancing faith, families, music and the love of surfi ng Disney’s animator of heroines MARK LARSON THE CHISOMO IDEA DAVID JEREMIAH Saying ‘hello’ has Building communities Security system: become a lost art in Malawi A hope that endures San Diego’s inspirational lifestyle magazine 2 REFRESHED | January 2014 Welcome to the contents premiere issue of Refreshed, San Diego’s only inspirational FEATURES lifestyle magazine. 5 Waiting for Maggie Couple overcomes infertility through adoption San Diego County is home to scores of periodicals serving a wide 7 Open adoption seeks to honor birth mom, variety of niche markets. While these adoptive families local magazines offer an extensive 16 Just for kicks range of interests, none serves the 17 Community news community with an editorial philoso- phy that embraces a contemporary 18 Disney’s animator of heroines lifestyle within a framework of faith. Mark Henn talks about creating Disney’s leading ladies, We’ve decided to change that by his Christian faith, and his work on Frozen taking our 25 years experience in 5 publishing the Christian Examiner 20 Switchfoot: Fading West newspaper and making a rather radi- Balancing faith, families, music and a love of surfi ng cal change in order to produce a full 23 Downey-Burnett duo expand faith-based stories on TV, fi lm color magazine that focuses on bring- 23 Joni Eareckson Tada sings movie score ing our readers hope, encouragement, inspiration, and practical solutions to 24 The Chisomo Idea the complexities of life. 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Viewpoints expressed in Refreshed are those of their respective writers, and are not necessarily held by the publishers. Reasonable effort is made to screen advertisers, but no endorsement of the publishers is implied or should be inferred. The publishers can accept no responsibility for the products or services offered through ad ver tise ments. The publisher reserves the right to refuse any ad ver tis ing. ADDRESS ALL CORRESPONDENCE TO: P. O. Box 2606, El Cajon, CA 92021 E-MAIL [email protected] PHONE/FAX (619) 567-7811 AD SALES (619) 609-0921 4 REFRESHED | January 2014 Waiting for Maggie Couple overcomes infertility through adoption by LORI ARNOLD he phone rang and Rebekah Kennedy braced herself foroor thetheh message on the other end. Three years of near-monthlynthly Tturbulence, ongoing processing sessions with a therapist, anandnd spiritual wrangling with her Creator led her to this moment. With the receiver expectantly to her ear, Rebekah heard the all-l-- too-familiar refrain: Motherhood eluded—again. “I felt that hope had died,” Rebekah said of their failed in vitroo fertilization treatment. Her next comment, though, prompted an audio double-take. “That was a good thing!” she said. “I felt crushed and de- feated. I just wanted to give up. The good thing was, though, that I was able to express my feelings and pour them out to God. I didn’t feel like I had to hide them. I truly believe that God met me then; when I was brutally honest and held up my hands in surrender.” For Rebekah and her husband, Shawn, the three-year jour- ney through infertility stretched them as never before. “For a while I lost sight of God’s goodness and I felt utterly defeated,” she said. As the couple tried desperately to make sense of their inabil-- ity to conceive, they spent time with a Christian therapist, readad books—and the Bible—together, and prayed. “It took me a little while, but I regained sight of God’s goodnessness aandndnd held tight to that,” she said. “My hope is in Christ’s ultimate goodnessoddnessss aandndd plan. It is my hope to bring Him glory in all circumstances.” One of the things Rebekah learned to do was approach Godd openlyopepenly ababoutbouout her pain. “I felt very little emotion or anger towards God, but was simplymplyl oovercomeveercr omo e RUDYANTOJanuary 2014 WIJAYA | | REFRESHEDTHINKSTOCK IMAGES5 with sadness,” she said, adding that their counselor helped them to understand that their God was big enough to handle anger. “I decided that that summer I would focus on feeling and expressing my emotions toward God and the whole situation,” Rebekah said, adding that the Psalms became a constant companion. “It was hard, because my tendency is to push those feelings down until they blow up in my face. It was very helpful to ex- plore them.” Shawn, community pastor at Exis- tence Church, was sorting out his own emotions, learning how to balance the very public profi le of being a pastor with the intensely personal need for self-pro- tection. “It certainly is a challenge discerning when to share and when to hold back,” he said. “Overall, I think we did pretty good. As for coping with personal pain, I have a series of very close friends inside and out- side the church who I go to for support.” During the process, Shawn said he clung to Romans 8:28, even as he used “I don’t think we would have come to physically and emotionally, to bring his own pain to minister to others. adoption with an open heart if not for home their fi rst child. “Mind ninjas work their magic when going through the grieving process well,” “Some people aren’t comfortable pre- you least expect it,” he said, adding, Rebekah said. “Of course, grieving isn’t a paring or celebrating before an adopted “Without my faith it would have been one-time event. We will grieve in differ- child arrives because of the fear of a failed hard to see the good that God was work- ing in my disappointment.” ent ways for the rest of our life; but the adoption,” she said. “Shawn and I talked His wife agreed. majority of the sadness has passed.” about that. It is a real possibility. In fact, “We really feel that God is in the busi- Having worked through much of the we know several families that experienced ness of redemption and that our story grief, the Kennedys eagerly pursued the that heartache. We decided, though, that would turn out better than we could have future. infertility had already robbed us of so expected, even if it wasn’t how we pic- “A few months before we put in our much joy we were going to march forward tured it,” Rebekah said. “We just had to application, both Shawn and I felt that and embrace the excitement.” trust him to write our story. the Lord had guided us to open adoption In April, just weeks after fi ling their and would use it to bring redemption in application, they were matched with a Looking to adoption our lives, our child’s life, and her birth birth mother and attended an ultrasound That openness to God led the Kenne- mom’s life,” Rebekah said.