BY THE WAY Bethany Baptist Church Women’s Ministries Newsletter
Beauty and the Least
Two children are in the smile at children who are in my place of work or my same room. Both are three “cute,” and I am irritated church…would I notice Him? Volume 1, Issue 2 years old. Both are the same with children who are not. Would I be indifferent size. God has handcrafted Sometimes I let a well- toward Him? Isaiah 53:2 says October 2005 both of them. However, groomed person go ahead that “He had no beauty or childcare workers fawn all of me in the grocery store majesty to attract us to him, Inside this issue: over one child and leave the checkout line when I nothing in his appearance From Homebody To 2 other child to entertain wouldn’t let a not-so-well- that we should desire him.” Heathrow herself. Why? groomed person do so. If one day Jesus showed up at Bad Hair Days 3 Two new women enter an Unfortunately, I do not my work or church and I Adult Bible Class. One think I am alone in my didn’t know it was He, I’m woman is greeted warmly prejudice. afraid I probably wouldn’t The College Transition 4 and invited into In God’s Word, James treat Him very well based on conversation. The other is speaks about the problem of the above description of His Book & Movie Reviews 6 left to stand to the side and believers showing appearance. That is a very, nervously twiddle her favoritism. He says, “My very sobering thought. In The Kitchen 7 thumbs. Why? brothers, as believers in our As Christians, we must pay Why? Because society tells glorious Lord Jesus Christ, closer attention to how we The Truth About Bone 8 us that looks are everything. don’t show favoritism. treat people. Do we show Health And the looks of the Suppose a man comes into favoritism in any way? Jesus neglected child and the your meeting wearing a gold Christ has shown up at our Leaving A Legacy 9 lonely woman did not ring and fine clothes, and a places of work and our measure up. poor man in shabby clothes church. He has shown up in Spotlight On MOPS 10 As a Christian, I would also comes in. If you show the forms of people whom like to believe that I would special attention to the man we are tempted to ignore— Applying James 1:27 11 have treated both children wearing fine clothes and the people we are least and both women in the say, ‘Here’s a good seat for interested in getting to know. Trunk Or Treat, Help Insert above situations the same. I you,’ but say to the poor However, Christ has said, Wanted, Bulletin Board, don’t want to believe that I man, ‘You stand there’ or “Whatever you did for one Cleaning Q&A treat people differently ‘Sit on the floor by my feet,’ of the least of these brothers based on the way they look. have you not discriminated of mine, you did for I want to believe that I treat among yourselves and me” (Matthew 25:40). Let’s everyone the same, whether become judges with evil treat everyone the way we “I wonder how I or not they are considered thoughts?…if you show would treat Christ. beautiful by the world’s favoritism, you sin…” (James would respond if standards. But as I examine 2:1-4, 9) I don’t know Beth Robinson has been attending Bethany about you, but I am for 1 year and is married to Dave Robinson. Jesus showed up in my everyday actions, they She teaches sixth grade at PCS and enjoys tell a different story. definitely guilty of this kind reading in her spare time. my place of work or Sometimes I have more of behavior; I am guilty of my church...” patience with a student who favoritism. is dressed nicely than one I wonder how I would who is not. Sometimes I respond if Jesus showed up Page 2 By The Way
From Homebody to Heathrow
“Kari, I am going to but surely, increased my in small but extremely London this summer. anxiety level. For example, powerful ways during our Wanna go?” I have learned there are mice that run stay. I learned more about in my 26- month marriage around the church we are dependence on Him than to ask numerous questions staying at, the local markets ever before in my life. Our before committing to sell hanging chickens, and daily schedule was packed, something. My first members of Al Quaida and exhaustion was setting question was pretty have resided where we are in. Each day we would general…Why are you going. Oh, and how about have breakfast at 8 and be going to London, Joey? those two timely London on the go until about 10 at Question #2: What exactly bombings. I began to night. The VBS ran every amounts of love for these is the mission of the trip? realize that, for me, this day from 2:30-6:00, then precious children. I think #3: Where would I stay? #4: trip was going to require a we would eat dinner and if we had our way we would The all - important miracle of God, which is head to the local park to have adopted about six of bathroom question—What exactly what happened. As lead the carnival. The the kids we worked with, but is the shower situation? #5: the departure date purpose of the carnival was we didn’t feel asking their How long is the trip? And approached, God to evangelize, as parents was appropriate. ?? finally #6: How long is the began calming well as to build Without a doubt, my life flight? my nerves and relationships for “I began to realize is much different than To make a long story stirring my our host, that, for me, this before I experienced this short, I ‘committed’ to this excitement. I missionary Tom trip. The little things in life adventure, though I didn’t began to see this trip was going to Ward and his that used to worry me or really believe I was going trip through His ministry. My require a miracle of cause me to get anxious until the plane took off in eyes and realized role at the God, which is don’t anymore. It is a daily Chicago. Joey never that the carnival was to battle to truly cast my cares, pressured me to go, though composition of exactly what organize and but through the England he did encourage me to see the team was not play soccer with happened.” trip, God taught me so this trip as an opportunity a mistake (even the young much about His provision. to serve God together in my part). children. Honestly, every th He does supply us with another country. I thought, July 28 arrived, and night as we walked to the exactly what we need, my heart should desire to before I knew it, I was park I would pray and tell exactly when we need it. be with Joey even though taking off from Chicago God that I did not have So the next time Joey asks this trip seemed a little O’Hare on my way to the any energy left to play me about a new adventure, crazy for the Homebody of London Heathrow airport. soccer with the kids for an with God’s strength, I the Year. Six hours and fifty-three hour and a half, and I won’t have to ask so many Throughout the spring, minutes later combined would ask Him to pour His questions. (I will still ask our team met every other with six episodes of spirit into me and to about the bathroom Sunday to discuss the Everybody Loves Raymond in energize and strengthen my situation.) cultural differences we mute (the plane forgot to body. It was so amazing to “…be strong and be courageous would face, to plan our load headphones), we see how and when He for the Lord you God is with lessons for the VBS we landed in London. worked. Literally, I would you wherever you go.” would implement, and to Following a short trip on be walking through the Joshua 1:9 discuss the schedule of our the London tube, my feet park to the area where we week in London. landed at Woodgrange played soccer, and as soon Kari Holland is married to Joey Holland Throughout these meetings Baptist Church, my new as my feet stepped on the and teaches at IVC High School. She enjoys working with the junior high youth I learned little tidbits of home for ten days. field, He instantly gave me at Bethany and has a secret talent of information that slowly, God worked in my heart energy and enormous unicycling. Volume 1, Issue 2 Page 3
Bad Hair Days Have you ever had one of something truly IS wrong just hope everything will be those “bad hair days?” A with me! OK until I have more time. few months ago it seemed I We talk some more and My beautician asked me was in the middle of a bad finally realize in one if I was sick. Couldn’t the hair month. profound moment that my same be asked of me if I’m My hair was getting hair dryer – the one with not in the Word enough? brittle, dry, and frizzy all at the bright red coils – was If I’m not meditating on the same time. I couldn’t “frying” my hair , and the His Word, am I able to figure out what was making more I used it, the worse function at 100%? it happen. I just kept my hair became. I knew it Ephesians 4:12 has been washing and blow-drying it wasn’t working right, yet I described to me as my job more and more to try to couldn’t seem to find the description. It states, “For make it look decent. time to replace it. Now, not the perfecting of the saints Somewhere along the line I only did I have to pay for a for the work of the ministry noticed that the coils in my haircut, but I had to buy a for the edifying of the body hair dryer were a bright red new hair dryer and an of Christ.” In order to when I used it. This didn’t $18.00 bottle of product to effectively minister to seem like a good thing. I help my hair heal! others and build up the figured it was about to quit One day the next month body of Christ I must be on me but I kept on using I was doing my hair and spending quality time in “In order to it hoping it would last just being grateful that the the Word. I simply cannot effectively minister to a bit longer. I was so busy $18.00 product was doing do it on my own. others and build up at the time that I kept its job. My hair was getting Psalm 119:130 says, “The entrance of Your words gives the body of Christ I putting it off hoping it better. At almost the same light, it gives understanding to wouldn’t go completely out moment I realized that this the simple.” must be spending some morning. At my next is a perfect example of what …Light and understanding quality time in the hair cut appointment my my spiritual walk can be from God’s Word. Isn’t beautician takes one look like. Many times I KNOW Word.” that worth so much more at my hair and gets very I am not reading the Word than any hair product? upset. She starts asking, enough. I’m busy. I just “What’s wrong?” “Are you do a quick read, not a real Sandy Wiele has been a 2nd grade sick?” “Your hair has meditation. I have good teacher at PCS for 17 years. She is an ardent Hawkeye fan. On Sundays breakage.” Now I become intentions of doing better – you can find her serving in the first really worried? Maybe my just not now, later. I see grade department. hair is a sign that the “red coils” but again
Crows Feet After picking up my kids When I was young, I got to the airport. Debbie from school, one of my babysat several children got upset and started crying. girls announced she had a and loved them all. Two of Her mom asked what was test that day. I asked her the girls were sisters, wrong and she said, “I can’t what her test was on. She Debbie & Karen. When go now because you never This column is dedicated to life’s moments that give us crow’s feet. replied with a tone of they were 3 & 5, their taught me how to fly!” We Crow’s feet remind us that we disbelief “a piece of paper!” mother decided to fly out never did understand why have laughed, and laughter is truly -Anonymous to South Dakota with them she thought she needed to sometimes the best medicine. Please submit your stories so we to see her brother. The girls be taught to fly. can all improve our crow’s feet! were so excited until they -Juanita Kurtz [email protected] Page 4 By The Way
The College Transition—A Mothers Perspective: Bulldogs and Bearcats It was the summer of other week.” “You don’t were normal. the young lady she had 2001, and Julie would be a want to get West Nile virus, Tip #4—Emotions will become, and excited to see senior that fall. It was time so use bug spray”. For the come and be intense. It’s God’s plan unfold in her to visit colleges. We only most part, she took all this ok. Have a support system life. visited one campus that in stride, with only an for yourself. Titus reminds We prayed with Julie summer. I think we were all occasional “yes mom” with us that it is good to have an when we left. The Holy so traumatized just thinking rolling of the eyes. (The older Christian woman to Spirit was our Comforter of the changes college information for Janna has help you through life. that day. We knew our lives would bring that we just been a little different — Tip #5—If you’re the were changing, yet we had politely drove around the change your sheets at least organized type, you could such a peace as we entrusted campus. Fred and Julie once a semester. I have plan for when sales are and our girl to our Heavenly went to the admissions learned a little.) start college shopping early. Father. office, got a catalog, and Tip #3—Tell your For example, white sales Tip #6 — Take plenty of we promptly left, no tour or student how much you love are usually in January. The Kleenex. You never know anything. I began to realize them. Yes, you have told January before I went to who will need them. Cold this wasn’t going to be them this a million times in college, my Mom and I got bottled water would have easy. words and deeds, but they my sheets and towels. Mom been nice to have too. Tip #1—College fairs are still need to hear it. They and I did a little every Tip #7- It worked well good places to start. Try to need to know that your love month and by July, I was for us to leave siblings at start visiting colleges in is unconditional, and that good to go. However, Julie home. We took pictures to your student’s junior year. you will be there for them chose to wait and do it all show the girls. It was good Get catalogues, visit the no matter what, day or in the summer, thus driving for them to see where Julie admissions and financial night. Tell them that God everyone crazy and keeping was living. Avoid pictures aid offices, and pray. loves them our minds off of yourself, unless you don’t Julie applied at several even more. He the real mind the swollen red eye colleges. Some applications will always be issues of the look. were long and complicated; there for them. “As the roller coaster m oment. Tip #8 — You might want others were not nearly as Pray with your Each way to give your student a bad. Fred and I thought this student. of emotions takes has it welcome box. Include was good preparation for Julie’s over, you are the one advantages. things like a college the real world—some graduation and The time sweatshirt, homemade acceptances, some 18th birthday to point your young finally came cookies, phone cards, rejections. Final decisions happened the for Julie to stamps, etc. My folks also were hard to make. same weekend, adult back to God’s leave. sent her mail during her first Tip #2— Knowing that and so we truth.” Madison and week on campus. God is leading your child celebrated. Molly cried It took us about 2 weeks makes rejections easier on (And cried with joy and all the way over to a before we ate at the dining everyone. As the roller sadness). The summer was friend’s house where they room table. Neither Fred coaster of emotions takes spent buying things for were going to spend the nor I wanted to see that over, you are the one to college. It was an emotional night while we were out of empty chair. (Of course, it point your young adult back time for me. Out of the town. I tried to be strong, had been empty plenty of to God’s truth. Continue to clear blue, something but then my friend started times, but this was different) pray! would stir a memory, or I crying. This was the During that fall I noticed Sometime during her would be reading a book to beginning of a long that I didn’t have much senior year, I realized that Madison and Molly that I weekend. We finally oomph. I went through the there were many things I had read to the older girls, arrived on campus, helped motions of things, but my needed to make sure Julie and before I knew it, I her move in, went to Wal- heart wasn’t in it. Finally, knew. I am sure that I had would be crying. Mart twice, Walgreen’s when I kept saying I wanted told her most of this before, Sometimes quietly, once, did all the parent to get a bird but if I somehow forgot sometimes deep sobs and I activities, and all too soon something, I wanted to be would have to tell myself to the time came to say good- sure she knew it before she breathe. I had lunch with a bye. It was a very bitter- went off on her own. friend that summer that had sweet time. We were so Things like, “eat at least a child in college. She let sad that our Julie was See Bulldogs & Bearcats, one fruit or vegetable every me talk and was leaving, and things would p5 day” and “put clean sheets encouraging. She assured never really be the same on your bed at least every me that these emotions again. We were so proud of Volume 1, Issue 2 Page 5
The College Transition—A Student’s Expectations Continued from page 4 The first time I went to half. And sometimes, I cookies, because I figured college, I had rather high called them 36 times a day, Bulldogs & Bearcats out all by myself that a roll for a pet, and instead of hopes concerning my and I’m not exaggerating. of cookie dough costs $2.59 mailbox. I thought that my But even then, they turkey and dressing for at Kroger, but only $1.99 at Christmas dinner, I wanted parents would send me answered the phone. Wal-Mart. I figured out that steak and grilled shrimp, I cookies and quarters for They listened to me talk. no one could yell at me realized that something must laundry and phone cards, as And they reminded me of anymore if I just wanted to be going on. It was almost well as notes telling me how things they had already told eat the cookie-dough like “postpartum blues”. much they missed me. I me a million times: be nice instead of baking it, and the Everything was good, but watched all the other kids to the annoying kid, don’t consequences thereof. I nothing was right. My role as a mom had changed. get their care packages and be that annoying kid, try to learned that in the dorm tried not to be jealous as get some sleep, don’t Tip #9 Here again is when oven I could only cook you need a “girl friend” they showed off how many procrastinate and, them for 7 minutes before treats they got. Finally, I got remember to read my Bible. support system—-someone they burned, instead of the who will listen and an envelope addressed from They helped me do things I usual 10 mi nutes. sympathize and help get you my father. I was so excited. didn’t know how to do yet: I am a chronic back on track. Immerse It contained an deal with mechanics and exaggerator, you know, and yourself in God’s Word. I insurance card, and that is turned frequently to the my parents have sent me all. mail before. And they even Psalms, and eventually, I could look back and say My phone was also call me now too, but silent. Well, that’s not true. “They reminded me of with David…He restored probably only because we my soul. It rang plenty—for my things they had already all have cell phones now, roommate. Her parents Janna graduated this May, told me a million times: and they don’t have to and I hoped the leaving called her. Her be nice to the annoying worry about the phone bill. home process would be a grandparents called her. I still wouldn’t mind if they little easier. Again, I was Her sister called her. I think kid, don’t be that sent me cookies once in a proved wrong. The house is even her next door annoying kid, try to get while, but I am glad they let quieter, the grocery bill neighbor called her. some sleep, don’t me learn how to bake them smaller (the tuition bill I don’t think my parents myself—it’s a handy skill to larger), and I am aware of my tendency for the blahs. called me once. procrastinate, and have, of course. But if I used to feel sorry for We are not getting any pets, remember to read my anyone else wants to send and turkey and dressing are myself. But then I realized me any, I would not be that it was ok, and that I Bible.” on the Christmas menu. I am opposed. My mother has involved in an in-depth didn’t actually want my my address. Bible Study, and I am trying parents to call me and talk financial aid people, and to talk to other moms who for an hour a day because balance my checkbook. Julie Laugherty is a senior English major at Union University in are going through this then I would never have They would call me if I Jackson, TN. She wants to be a season of life. any time to get anything needed them to make sure I ballerina when she grows up, but will Tip #10 God is faithful. done. And I have enough was up for class after I had settle for being a best-selling author. Stay in His Word. Pray and trouble getting things done been up all night writing a She currently loves high heels and hot then pray some more. Lean fudge sundaes from McDonalds. on your good friends. And in the first place. paper that I had put off The thing my parents writing. They told me they ??Editor’s Note: ? try to keep your sense of humor. did was make it clear that I still loved me after I did 1050 Union University Dr. Box 733 Jackson, TN 38305 By the way...Julie is the could call whenever I stupid things, which is Union University Bulldog, wanted. And for the most probably the most and Janna is the Southwest part, they meant it. (They important thing of all. Baptist Bearcat. would get mad if I called Mostly they just let me Marla Laugherty is married to Fred, too late, of course). figure things out on my Bethany’s Worship Pastor, and is a Sometimes, I only called own. After a while, I didn’t mother of 4 girls. She currently home them once every week and a even need them to send me schools her two youngest daughters Madison and Molly. Page 6 By The Way
Movie Reviews Book Reviews Black What is the “Divine The Chronicles of Narnia – dog, Winn-Dixie. Because by Ted Dekker Dance”? It is our own per- The Lion, The Witch and of Winn-Dixie, Opal must sonal dance with God. It is The Wardrobe be on her toes and ends up Yet another book that I what we were designed for – Opening December 9, 2005 meeting some pretty neat would not have picked up except that it was highly rec- giving ourselves totally to This is a joint film venture people in the small town. ommended by Kimberly our Creator – to perform between Walden Media and Pros: There is no sexual Boerckel. I figured, if Kim- for an audience of One! Disney. The makers of the content. Opal and most of berly was hooked, it must be Sometimes we get so busy film worked closely with the the other kids in this film a good read! doing everything FOR our C.S. Lewis family. If the are cut from an old- Black is a mix between mys- God that we forget that we Lewis family was unhappy fashioned cloth. They ride tery and sci-fi. I don’t particu- need to spend time WITH with the way things where bikes, read books, and call larly like sci-fi, except for God. This is His greatest done, it was changed to each other silly names (they maybe the occasional Star desire; spending time with us – His children. meet their expectations. are kids, after all). There's Trek The Next Generation on One of my favorite quotes Because this movie has yet not a television (or boom TV. I definitely do not read is in the peer pressure chap- to be released, I am relying box) to be seen. The list of sci-fi, so this one was a ter. Shannon is talking on the online reviews that I pros can go on and on. To stretch for me. It took some have read to get me up to time for me to dig in and en- about dressing modestly. check for yourself look up “As a daughter of speed. The movie is in joy, but once I did, it was She writes: www.pluggedinonline.com the King, you are expected to keeping with the book as hard to put down. much as possible. By Cons: Characters discuss The book switches between dress and act like a princess at all times – not just on Sunday watching the trailer, it looks alcoholism, divorce, war, what we would consider real mornings when you find your- like some of the “bad” guys and the troubles they have life and a dream life. If Tho- self within the palace walls.” resemble the evil side of had with the law, but in a mas (the main character) way that children, like Opal, went to sleep in real life he This book is geared more “The Lord of the Rings”. for the teenage to college This movie looks like it can deal with it on their woke up in a “dream” life, own level. There are also and if he sleeps in his age girl, but I must say I would be for kids 8 and up learned a lot. I wish I had the scenes of an animal “dream” life, he wakes up in (depending on their ability this book when I was in to handle some violence belching and a man his “real” life. Both lives seemed to be reality. Both high school. Shannon goes between good and evil). To stepping in dog dodo. A lives are full of twists and through peer pressure, par- view the trailer go to www. main character says the “d” turns, good and evil. This is ents, dressing modestly, and narnia.com word once. “Shut up,” a book that will keep you on dating. You may think that My husband has read the “idiot,” “booger-eaters,” and these areas no longer apply “butt” are all used by the your feet! series to my two girls and we This is the first in a series to you. Ah, you could not have the British version on children. be more wrong! Maybe you of three books. Black is the video. With this in mind, we Overall: This is a good first, Red is the second and just want to know how to are anxiously awaiting family movie with an overall White dance the Divine Dance. It th is the last. Yes, they are December 9 ! fun plot. I give it a thumbs- available in the church li- is never too late to learn! Do you have a daughter, up. Good for kids 7 and up. brary. Because of Winn-Dixie niece, or sister in the teen- Jeanette Akright is the church librarian age years? Giving this book (on video and DVD) and a member of the “By The Way” The Divine Dance Rated: PG Editorial Team. She provides book and by Shannon Kubiak to them, or better yet, read- movie reviews each quarter. ing it with them a few pages All I can say is WOW! Opal and her pastor father at a time will give them a Shannon was a journalism are new to the small town of few things to think about major at Biola University Naomi. Opal has no friends each day. It’s one my daugh- when this book was written and prays to God asking for ters and I will be sharing! Him to send her a friend. two years ago. She certainly He does, in the form of a has a grasp of dancing the Divine Dance! Volume 1, Issue 2 Page 7
In The Kitchen With Susan Apple Tips and Trivia There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven. Ecclesiastes 3:1 from www.chef2chef.net
??? Rub cut apples with lemon The season is changing. Fall is arriving. Mums are blooming and the school buses are juice to keep slices and running. The trees will soon be changing to the beautiful autumn colors. As fall arrives wedges creamy white for and the weather begins to cool my thoughts turn to apples. I would like to share two of hours. my favorite apple recipes with you. ?? Store apples in a plastic bag in the refrigerator away from First is Blue Ribbon Apple Pie along with the recipe for the pie-crust I use. This is the strong-odored foods such as very best apple pie I have ever tasted. I can see where it got its name. It takes a little more cabbage or onions to prevent flavor transfer. time and effort than some other pies I have made, but it is well worth the time spent! ?? Apples are the second most
important of all fruits sold in I’ve also included the recipe for Caramel Apple Dip. Andrea Hoerr’s mother made this the supermarket, ranking next for a Bethany Bistro meal last year. to bananas. Used by permission from Chef David Nelson. Susan Feeney has attended Bethany since the early 70's when it was located on Perry Avenue. She is an RN in the Emergency Department at Proctor Hospital and has always loved to cook. You can reach Susan by email at [email protected]
Blue Ribbon Apple Pie Pie Crust 1-2-3
One double pie crust 5 lb bag flour 3 lb Crisco (Not butter flavor!) Filling: ¼ cup sugar* 2/3 cup packed dark brown sugar* 2 tablespoons salt 3 cups ice water ¼ cup all-purpose flour* ¼ cup fresh lemon juice* 1 Tablespoon vanilla* 1½ teaspoons ground cinnamon* Combine flour and salt in a VERY large bowl. Mix well. With a ½ teaspoon salt* pastry blender, cut in shortening until evenly distributed.
¼ cup butter 4 lbs tart green apples (Granny Smith) Mixture will resemble cornmeal in texture. Add cold water all at peeled, cored, cut into ¼ in. slices once and mix lightly until the flour absorbs all the water and texture resembles putty. If dough is too sticky, sprinkle ¼ cup Streusel: ¾ cup all-purpose flour 3 - 1.4 oz. chocolate-covered English extra flour over top and mix until the dough barely clings 2 T butter, cold toffee bars, chopped or toffee bits together in the bowl. (I have personally never added more 4½ T sugar 1 large egg beaten with 2 tablespoons flour.)
water, for glaze Divide into 10 oblong rolls for double crust pies or I divide into 20 round discs for single crust pies and if I need a double crust, I use 2 discs. Wrap each roll or disc well with plastic wrap and then in heavy duty foil. Store in a plastic bag and freeze. Stores well for 12 months! Thaw in refrigerator before For this pie I sometimes use 3 of my frozen pies crusts. Roll out bottom using. crust and place in a 10 inch pie pan. (Brush bottom with lightly beaten egg white.) Reserve remaining crust for top and decoration. Filling: Combine Susan Feeney, Source: Pies fit for a King – Marianne Wright first 7 ingredients* in large bowl. Add apples and toss to coat. Melt butter in heavy large skillet over medium-high heat. Add apple mixture and cook until apples are slightly softened, about 10 minutes. Cool. (Can be made 1 Carmel Apple Dip day ahead. Cover and chill.) Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Prepare Streusel: Combine flour and sugar in bowl. Using fork, mix in butter until 1 bag Kraft Caramels course meal forms. Stir in toffee. On a lightly floured surface roll out 1 stick butter second dough piece to 14 inch diameter. Mound apple filling in bottom 1 can Eagle Brand Sweetened Condensed Milk crust. Sprinkle streusel over filling. Top with dough round. Trim dough leaving ½ inch overhang. Gently pinch crusts together and crimp edges Unwrap caramels, place in crock pot, add butter and milk. Heat together sealing edges. Brush crust with beaten egg wash. Use excess on low, watch closely as some crock pots get very hot even on dough and cinnamon sugar to decorate pie. Be creative. Cut slits into top low, stir often until combined. Turn off crock pot if it gets too crust to allow steam to escape. Bake until crust is golden and apples are hot. Dip freshly sliced apples in warm dip. Keeps well in the tender, about 55 minutes. Cool pie 1 hour. Serve pie warm with vanilla ice refrigerator and can be reheated. cream if desired. From January 1993 Bon Appetit Susan Feeney, From Andrea Hoerr’s mother at Bethany Bisto meal Special Insert Page 1
Women’s Ministry Bulletin Board Ladies Studies Continue To Meet
Tuesday Morning Bethany Family “Trunk or Treat” ? First Place: Giving Christ First Place October 31 5:00 PM ? James Chapter 4 Women’s Ministries invites your family to Bethany on ? Lord, Is It Warfare? Teach Me To Stand Monday, October 31 from 5-7 PM, to enjoy some fall family ? Escape the Coming Night fun! First, your family will be treated to a dinner of ? Becoming a Friend of the Faithful God: A Study on Abraham (Precept) sandwiches, chips and drinks. Then enjoy some ? Living Free: Learning To Pray God's Word entertainment including juggling, face painting and balloon ? Vision of His Glory animals. There will also be a special presentation by illusionist Jeff Tisdale followed by a costume parade. After Tuesday Afternoon the costume parade, we will head out to the parking lot for a ? The Minor Prophets fun activity called “Trunk or Treat.” Children will visit each Tuesday Evening car’s trunk, where they will be handed a treat! People are ? Becoming a Woman of Prayer encouraged to decorate their cars with a fall theme. Anyone is allowed to wear a costume, but please no scary ones. Thursday Morning Suggestions are animals, professions, Bible characters and (Pearce Community Center, Chillicothe) athletes. Admission price per family is enough candy in your ? First Place: Giving Christ First Place car’s trunk for 100 kids. Please come rain or shine! For Thursday Evening more information contact Casey Davidson at 697-0726 or ? Vision of His Glory Sara Martin at 246-5446. ? Escape The Coming Night ? Believing God
Ladies’ Hobby Night For more information on any study, contact Karen Wilton at 681-9392. All ladies are invited to church on the first Friday of every month for Hobby Night. Bring a craft project work on … anything from scrap booking to balancing Mark Your Calendar For This Inspiring Event you checkbook ... plus your own drink and a snack to to Coming To Peoria on March 4, 2006 share. We start at 6 :00 p.m. and work until late! Speaker Cheryl McGuinness Contact Jeanette Akright at 243 Cheryl is the widow of November 4 -December9639 for more 2 info. Tom McGuinness, the co American Airlines Flight 11, the first airplane to crash-pilot into of the World Trade Center on Septemb er 11. Cheryl shares her story of tragedy, but more importantly Help Wanted! God’s story of healing, forgiveness, hope, and ultimately
peace. ? Fall items are needed to decorate the gym for the October 31 Family “Trunk Or Treat” event. If you have hay bails, pumpkins, or corn ,stalks please you contact Additional information will be available in the coming months. Please reserve the date on your would be willing to donate-0726. or loan Casey Davidson at 697 calendar today. Don’t miss t ? A balloon animal artist is also needed for the his event!
Trunk Or Treat event. If you would be- 0726.willing to For more information on Cheryl and her ministry visit help, contact Casey Davidson at 697 re workers -going need for childca www.beautybeyondtheashes.com ? There is an on
for the MOPS program. Volunteers are needed on The righteous cry out and the Lo Friday mornings from month,9 to 11 twicea.m. You a month, can serve or He delivers them from all their troubles.rd hears Ps them; 34:17 just one time, once a every week. Please contact Sarah Moon at 681-1772 for more information. Special Insert Page 2 Cleaning Q & A
Please note that these are suggestions and you should only try the suggestions at your own risk.
Q: My son wrote with permanent marker on my dining room table, do you know of a way to get it off?
A: According to the Sharpie Marker Web site, using non-acetate nail polish remover will take off permanent marker. Test a small spot on an inconspicuous place and if the finish holds up you can try it on the larger patch.
Note: We actually tried this and were successful at removing the marker, but the finish was slightly dulled. Our thought was that it was better to live with a slightly dull finish than a huge black scribble on the table.
Q: I am getting out my white winter coat and have discovered that it is full of black marks from last winter… any suggestions on how to get the marks off my coat?
A: Here is a secret soaking recipe that I have used more than once to remove those pesky marks (again remember to test on a small patch and consider all the materials on your coat before soaking). 1 c. powder cascade 1 c. Clorox II powder 5 gallons very hot water Soak coat overnight in solution and wash using double power whisk.
Q: I have red Kool-Aid stains on my white carpet. I’ve used Oxyclean and Resolve to no avail. Is there anything else I can try?
A: Before I sound like I’ve been watching too much of the movie: My Big Fat Greek Wedding, I would like to suggest you try Windex! I know it sounds crazy, but I’ve heard it works on “red” stains from wine and juice.
Memory Verse
Let us not become weary in doing good,
for at the proper time we will reap a How was O.K. harvest if we do not give up. school? Fine
Galatians 6:9
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The Truth About Bone Health
For many of us the word is called bone remodeling. breathing, eating, and precise. Its use is best osteoporosis conjures up The spongy bone, which digesting. They are at a confined to screening a low- images of a great - makes up the internal much higher risk for hip risk population when a grandmother who appears support of the vertebrae, the and other fractures. They DXA is not available. Many to have very poor posture. pelvis, and the ends of our experience a great deal of physician offices may offer The tr uth is that long bones, are the first to physical deformity and pain peripheral testing or may osteoporosis can have a be affected by osteoporosis. as well as a loss of support a heel screening much more insidious onset In young people the bone independence due to all offered by a pharmaceutical than this, and its effects are resorption (destruction) and these factors. company. It’s certainly fine much more far-reaching formation are in perfect There are many risk to participate in a free “heel than poor posture. balance, allowing for factors for osteoporosis— screening,” but those results Osteoporosis is a skeletal maximum strength. Our many of them modifiable. should not be used to disease that causes bone mass peaks at around Unfortunately, the biggest diagnose osteoporosis or to deterioration of the inner age thirty and then declines risk factor influencing a monitor treatment. bone tissue causing the by 0.4% per year until woman’s peak bone mass is Who should be screened? bones to become very frail menopause when the loss genetics. So if you have a It is recommended that and subject to fractures. increases to 2-5% per year. strong family history for every woman age 65 or This disease affects nearly The reason for the great loss osteoporosis, pay special older be screened. Also, 13-18% of women over 50. during menopause is that attention! Risk factors for women under age 65 with Another 37-50% of women the balance between osteoporosis include the any of the above risk factors over 50 have a precursor to resorption and following: prior should also be screened. In osteoporosis called formation is fractures, family general screening should osteopenia. At this point in disturbed. More “The humped back history of not be repeated any more the article you may be resorption and is actually just an osteoporosis, frequently than every two thinking that this topic less formation Caucasian or outward expression years. Women who have an doesn’t apply to you—but it contribute to, at Asian ethnicity, abnormal screen require does. Prevention of this the very least, of a very serious poor nutrition, some additional treatments debilitating disease begins as thinning bones. condition.” smoking, low which will be discussed. early as the teen years and Why are we so weight, early As mentioned earlier, the continues on well into concerned about menopause, long-term low key to beating osteoporosis menopause. This disorder is osteoporosis? This disease is calcium intake, and is prevention—beginning at considered to be very much extremely debilitating. The inadequate physical activity. a very young age. Even my preventable. The goal of Dowager’s hump (described Some method of screening teenage patients hear about this article is to discuss above in great-grandmother) for osteoporosis is osteoporosis prevention. briefly the basics of bone with which many of us are recommended, especially for Premenopausal women maintenance, risk factors for familiar is actually due to a women with any of the need 1000 mg of calcium osteoporosis, complications series of small fractures in above risk factors. The best daily. of osteoporosis, basic the vertebral column. The test available at present is See Bone Health, p 9 screening tests available, and humped back is actually just the dual-energy X-ray BONE HEALTH Cont’d various therapies that are an outward expression of a absorptiometry, or DXA for Postmenopausal require- felt to be helpful. very serious condition. As short. It measures bone ments do rise to 1500 mg It is important to realize the back becomes more density at the important each day. Only those who that our bones are in a rounded all of the body sites of osteoporotic are very conscious about constant state of turn-over, systems are affected. Many fractures—especially the hip their diets will be successful meaning that old bone is of these women find and spine. Peripheral in obtaining enough destroyed and new bone is difficulty in the most basic testing, otherwise known as calcium and vitamin D laid down constantly. This of life functions including the “heel test,” is less from diet alone. Dairy Volume 1, Issue 2 Page 11 foods, green leafy they must be taken on an Leaving A Legacy vegetables, and calcium empty stomach with a full supplemented orange juice glass of water. They also Recently a family of young doubt and rebel. Little did are good sources. The require that the patient children at our school lost they know the consequences majority of us, however, remain sitting up for one- their mother to cancer. The that they and the will require some sort of half hour after ingestion. children are three, five, and generations to follow would calcium supplement to As inconvenient as this eleven. At the funeral, the face. God’s judgment reach our goal. The sounds, many of these eleven-year old spoke of her followed them for forty years majority of the medications are now mother’s salvation and of as they wandered in the supplements are calcium available in once-per-week her hope that her unsaved wilderness, a wilderness not carbonate (Tums, Viactiv, and once-per-month dosing. relatives would come to of lush trees and rolling Caltrate, Oscal, etc.). Although osteoporosis is know Jesus so that they meadows, but a hot, rocky, Unless someone has an a devastating disease, there could have the assurance of lifeless land. Every step acid problem, such as are many interventions that someday seeing her again. reminded them of the wrong ulcers, etc. any of these are can be started even at a What a legacy that young choice they made. An entire fine. For persons with acid young age. We have great mother has left her children! generation would die off and problems calcium citrate screening tests that are They will forever have the never enter the blessed land. may absorb better. The widely available and assurance of This one choice body absorbs 60% of reasonably priced. We knowing she is with “Will they look would be burned whatever calcium is taken have easy access to calcium Jesus. What an into the minds in per 24 hours. So, it is and vitamin D. And, we example for them. back and see a and history of okay to take all the calcium have wonderful Over the last mother who lead Israel forever. as a single dose as opposed medications available to week this very by example, or So I ask myself: to a divided dose. those at highest risk for subject has been on Am I allowing Another prong of developing the disease. my mind. What spoke one way God to be part of prevention to be started at The biggest stumbling kind of legacy am I and lived the decisions I an early age is weight block to treatment is our leaving to my another?” make? How can I bearing exercise. This lack of awareness in society children? Will they make healthy includes things such as as a whole as to the look back and see a mother choices — choices that will weight lifting, jogging, devastating consequences who led by example, or leave a legacy of blessing to aerobics, etc. Exercises such of osteoporosis. Now that spoke one way and lived my children and their as biking and swimming you have taken the time to another? children, not a legacy of are good for the heart but read this article, you can As parents we are passing shame and guilt? It’s less helpful for osteoporosis assist in protecting the on a legacy to our children. incredibly humbling to prevention. bones and health of you Every choice we make, every know that my actions now For some women, and your family. thing we do is a message to are setting the stage for however, even the attempts Jill Birkholz has attended Bethany for our kids. They are watching generations to come. At the at prevention are not five years. She is a practicing Board and depending on what we very thought I find myself enough. Women who show Certified OB/GYN in the Peoria area. do. We are either leading desperate for His help and thinning or osteoporotic them to a life of spiritual grace. I need to consistently bones, even in light of abundance or to a life of seek His wisdom not just in exercise and calcium, may spiritual hopelessness. the big decisions but the be offered medications to In the Old Testament God little ones as well. help restore the balance in brought the Jews out of What legacy are you their bones. Medications Egypt, delivered them from leaving to those closest to such as Actonel, Fosamax, slavery, and led them to the you? I pray God will bless and Boniva all attempt to very edge of the Promised your life and that you may restore that balance. Land. Yet when it came time leave a legacy of glory to God.
Because these medications to trust what God had Kathryn Nielson is a wife and mother are very poorly absorbed, promised, they chose to of two. She works part-time at PCS as a Teacher’s Aide and enjoys writing. Page 12 By The Way
Spotlight On Women’s Ministry: MOPS
MOPS. Wow! Where do thing. My struggle to allow accept Christ as their I start? A simple God back in control of my Savior. What an awesome abbreviation and yet what life would last nearly 10 responsibility and privilege meaning it holds to a years, but praise God, He is we have as moms to meet mother of a preschooler. in control! the daily needs of our Interview a few MOPS In June of 2001, while children, both physical and moms and you might hear waiting for my first child to spiritual. I commend the something like this: “Ah, be born, a seed was MOPS program at Bethany at last, time for mommy.” planted. My mom was up for giving young moms the Or, “How about that from Florida, anxiously encouragement to do just breakfast in peace and awaiting the birth of her that. I find myself counting quiet?” “Ya know, you can first grandchild, and we down to each new MOPS never get enough of that went to lunch with a dear year to see how we will be girl talk in, but when it friend of our family. There challenged to be all God comes down to it, I’m here I sat, (I don’t dare say little intends us to be as wives for the craft and a chance old me, shy of 9 months and mothers. I am amazed to win one of their pregnant), and what better every year with the awesome door prizes!” opportunity than the creativity of our Steering On a more personal present to be invited to Team, and am blessed by “What an awesome level, MOPS brings me attend MOPS at Bethany. the speakers and topics. I was about ready to We are able to do a work in responsibility and back to a memory of a new beginning. I was blessed to become a mom, and I the lives of mothers who privilege we have as be raised in a Christian remember thinking, who have had no example to moms to meet the home, a pastor’s home to am I to deserve the right to follow or those who are daily needs of our be exact, and I came to be a mom? I can now claim needing to put a life back know the Lord at a young Lamentations 3:22 in together. I thank God for children, both physical age. That’s right, I was a answer to that: the support and and spiritual.” PK. In junior high, I made “Because of the Lord’s great accountability that MOPS a point to let my friends love we are not consumed, for provides, and that I have know that because I was a His compassions never fail. been given the opportunity pastor’s kid I couldn’t go They are new every morning; to serve and hopefully and do everything they great is your faithfulness.” make a difference in did, even though I wanted My new beginning was another mother’s life. I can to. I was angry at my about to unfold. think of no better way to parents and God. Since attending my first give someone a new Throughout my high meeting, my life has never beginning than a personal school years, I continued been the same. What a relationship with Jesus to deny who I was and weight had been lifted to Christ. where I came from. By my know that I was back where Junior and Senior years, God wanted me to be. I Kristin Mervis is a stay at home mom sin was easy and lies were knew I would need Christ of two boys, Shawn age 4, and Joshua second nature. I was in back in my life as I began age 2. She has attended Bethany and For more information about direct opposition to to raise a family of my own. been involved with MOPS for 4 the MOPS program, please My children needed to years. She currently serves on the contact Coordinator, Sarah everything I knew was right. I let go of every have the same opportunity MOPS Steering Team as the Moon at 681-1772. Publicity Coordinator. opportunity to cry out to I had to grow up in church, God. Pride is a terrible to know who God is, and Volume 1, Issue 2 Page 13
Women’s Ministry Council Applying James 1:27 2005-2006
Val Wichael, Chairwoman “Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to Casey Davidson, Asst. Chair. look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from Crisis Food & Prayer Chain
being polluted by the world.” James 1:27 Jill Phillips, Secretary Publicity
Christine Carbaugh, MOPS Have you ever wondered months, six months, or a a spouse. You may show what you would do or what year later is nice to receive. sympathy with a pat on Dianna Fouts Women Helping Women you would say to a family It tells the surviving spouse their back. Sara Martin, Study Child Care member or friend that lost that people care enough to Don’t be afraid to talk Julie Philyaw, Seminars their spouse through death? take the time to send a about the spouse who has Death of a spouse may note. died. The surviving spouse Leslie Schellenberg, Showers come from a prolonged If the dying spouse is in a will live with the memories Karen Wilton, Ladies Studies illness or suddenly from an hospital or nursing home, and laughter that may accident or medical cause. please check at the nurse’s come from those But even though the causes station before visiting. If conversations. may vary, your response you want to visit a caregiver In time, if the surviving Fall By The Way Team: Dr. Jill Birkholz, Writer should be the same. spouse is a woman, you Beth Bonk, Proofreader In both cases it is may want to volunteer to Casey Davidson, Writer important to just be there; “Sending notes should help with yard work, snow Susan Feeney, Writer that may or may not removal, car problems, Joyce Fraley, Writer require you to talk. Being not stop after the maintenance of the home, Pat Goben, Mailing Team there for that person shows funeral; a note three or any way that you can Becky Ham, Mailing Team Kari Holland, Writer that you care. If asked to do months, six months, or help. If the surviving Julie Laugherty, Writer something, then you are a year later is nice to spouse is a man, another Marla Laugherty, Writer available. Be a good man may offer to take him Linda Martin, Mailing Team listener. If the loss was receive.” out to lunch or breakfast. A Kristin Mervis, Writer sudden, many times they couple may want to invite Rosemary Moffatt, Writer just need to express feelings in their home, call first him in for dinner. A Grace Netherton, Mailing Team and thoughts that don’t before stopping in. Family woman’s group may Kathryn Nielson, Writer Donna Parr, Writer require a response. members need time alone volunteer to clean his home. Beth Robinson, Writer & Proof. When making phone with a dying spouse. They The important thing to Sandy Wiele, Writer calls, be considerate of the also need time to rest. Be remember before making time of day. Ask if it is a sensitive. contact with the grieving good time for her or him. During the visitation or person is to pray first and Consider the length of the funeral keep words short. then go forward to help Coming In the Next Issue: call. Remember that they Just let them know you are however you can. ? Finances 101
may be receiving many sorry for their loss. If you ? In Search of the Lost phone calls from other are speaking to another Joyce Fraley has attended Bethany for Virtue of Modesty 4 years. She has been employed at the concerned people. Christian, you don’t have Women’s Pregnancy Center for 5 years Notes are great. If it is to preach scripture to where she currently serves as Administrator and Nurse Manager. someone whose spouse is them. Give comforting going through a prolonged words. Just let them know Donna Parr has been a widow for 19 ? Beating the Winter Blues years. She serves as a Greeter, Got a comment, suggestion, a illness, they need to receive you are there for them. Deaconess, and MOPS Mentor. She is favorite feature? Know a little notes of They may need you more employed part-time as a Sales & Design Consultant for Wood Front Kitchens. “closet” writer you’d like to encouragement. Let them after the funeral because She has attended Bethany for 10 years. turn in? Please send us your thoughts. We’d love to hear know that you are thinking the days ahead may be Rosemary Moffatt has attended of them and/or praying for more difficult and lonely. Bethany for 11 years. She sings in the from you! choir, is a Kindergarten Sunday [email protected] them. Sending notes Please avoid saying, “I School teacher, MOPS Mentor, and should not stop after the know what you are going Cubbies Leader. In her spare time she Special thanks to all those funeral; a note three through” if you haven’t lost enjoys eating out and shopping. submitted Crow’s Feet and Favorite Websites. By The Way BETHANY BAPTIST CHURCH WOMEN’S MINISTRIES Welcome to our Fall edition of BTW. We hope our second edition is NEWSLETTER as exciting for you as it is for us. As we enter autumn, we often feel saddened by the end of summer, the end of our gardens, and the Proclaiming Jesus Christ As Lord preparations for winter, but this season is also a season of Harvest; it is a time to gather in the fruits and celebrate all that God has provided. We have strived to bring you exciting new authors and interesting new topics. God has been faithful in providing us with excellent authors and fascinating ideas. Our continued hope as you read each addition of BTW is that you get an opportunity to see how God has been faithful as the Author of each and every issue. We are all on a journey. As editors of this newsletter, we hope that By The Way Editorial Team: readers understand what we mean when we talk about, “the WAY”. If Jeanette Akright you are unsure of the Way on your journey, we hope that you realize Jill Phillips Kerri Schellenberg that at Bethany you can find the WAY, Jesus. He said, “I am the WAY… no one comes to the Father, but by me.” We desire to be used by the WAY when we put together each and every issue. Along the journey, we “I am the way and the truth and the life. hope we can laugh, cry, and hold each other up as we celebrate the No one comes to the Father except Harvest He has provided. through me.” John 14:6 -The Editors
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