Spring 2010 JHS Classes of ‘71, ‘72, ‘73 Issue No

“Lies! Lies! All of It, Lies!” Spring 2010 JHS Classes of ‘71, ‘72, ‘73 Issue No. 23 Thirderly Online Newsletter

Welcome to this, the 23rd newsletter of the JHS classes of ‘71, Official Propaganda Tool of ‘71, ‘72, ‘73 Jericho High Alumni ‘72, and ‘73, and friends.

ReunionIn this Update issue: 1 RSVPs Are

Yearbook to Facebook 12 Leslie Schwab, Mark Miller, Pouring In! Marjorie Freedman, Debra 2

Cherson, Mark Osit, more RSVPs are coming in from as far away as

California for the “Intergalactic Space

3 Nooz About Yooz Party” reunion to be held at Milleridge Karan Bunin Huss Cottage in Jericho on Saturday, October 9, 3 2010, from 1 p.m. to 6 p.m. (We have In Tribute 4 other activities scheduled throughout the Cheryl Rassell Turoff Columbus Day weekend.) Until May 9,

In Tribute 45 you can RSVP at the discounted price of Donald Schrager $110; after that, the price returns to the regular $125 per adult. Catch Up With … 67 We’ve located most members of the Robbi Goldberg JHS classes of ‘71, ‘72, and ‘73, but there are still some who have evaded our

Takin’ Care of Bidness — 9 clutches. If you happen to know their Jerichonians at Work 11 whereabouts, please let Phil (philipbashe Jerry Moran: Tip-Top Chef 12 @optimum.net) or Larry ([email protected]) New Column: Personals! 11 know or have the person get in touch. ◘

Look who’s already RSVP’d! Tareq and Cartoons by Dan Clurman 12 1971 Silver, Jan Michaele Salahi of Washington, DC. Simon, Jill

Tomaszewski, Ann Which is kinda … weird, since we didn’t And Now, for the Youngsters 13 Abrams, Sally Walters, Steven invite them. Also odd is Mrs. Salahi’s (Grandkids Edition): Peter Alessi, Arlene J. 15 and Joyce (Targove) Man- Caninizzaro, Jean claim to have been a JHS cheerleader 1972 in 1972 — she would have been six. delkern, Virginia Ferrante, Cannone, Teresa Arnold Tropper Chapman, Margaret Centola, Donna Cohen, Barry 1973 Martello, Steven Cohen, Allan 15 Fariello, Michael Meyers, Scott First Person Singular Cole, Grainger Goldberg Fein, Leslie Anderson, Karen O’Connor Blizzard, Lyle Meet the Reticents! (Iris 17 Esposito, Joseph Weinstock/David Goldman) 19 Goldman, Ronald Beal, David Raduano, George Hamilton, John Fairfield, Olivia Belser, Eileen Reichgot, Steven 25 Gross, Steven Everything You Ever Wanted 19 Hoffman, Mara Beth Cannone, Vincent Robson, Alan Harrah, Robert Roth, Susan to Know About: Anne Havrilla Kaminester, Ellen Dibenedetto, Ann Kass Savot, Phyllis. Mari, Beatrice Sachs, Lisa 28 Erwin, Robert Lewman, Mark A. Meadow, David Frankel, Linda Schiffman, Marc Everything You Ever Wanted 22 McCord, Maureen McEwen, Alan Schwartz, Roy Gaeta, Ralph to Know About: Rita Corwin Nelson, Joseph J. Nuszer, Bela Greenberg, Matt Shuman, Robin

Roth, Barbara Linda Rorer, James Haviland, Stuart Smilowitz, Eric Faculty Lounge 3429 Saydan, Ayda Sachs, Peter Hladky, Lawrence Sobel, Richard Mr. Michael Friedman Snow, Emma Samuels, Roberta Johnson, Deborah Staab, Janet

Schwartz, Audrey Weisenfeld, Laura LaFavers, Brian Trattler, Robert Rachel Glickman’s New York 37 Silver, Howard Weiss, Lee Lester, Phil Zdan, Carolle

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In our travels around cyberspace, we frequently come upon photos of former classmates, especially on Facebook. “Yearbook 2 Facebook” features folks who perhaps didn’t make it to the last couple of reun- ions, so we haven’t seen them in a while. If they come to next October’s big party, now you’ll recognize ‘em. Can you believe how good everyone looks?! Maybe they’re all robots. Yep, that must be it.

Mark Miller (’71) Debra Cherson (’72) Beth Gerchick Green (’71) Palm Harbor, FL Montpelier, VT Encino, CA

Marjorie Freedman (’73) Leslie Stevens Luria (’71) San Jose, CA Coconut Creek, FL

Mark Osit (‘73) Iris Weinstock Rubin (’71) Barbara Simpson Carswell (’72) Basking Ridge, NJ Upper Montclair, NJ Tewkesbury, MA

Continued on page 3

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cot. They pretty much fell in love the first day they met. So now my daughter’s name is Nikki Nicolet. Ya can’t make this stuff up!” Continued from page 2 Karan and her husband, Marty, live right around the block from the Susan Finch Compton (’71) newlyweds — in sunny Redondo New York, MI Beach, California. “Marty retired last

year,” Karan explains, “so we sold our home and moved out here. We didn’t plan on living so close to Nikki and Adam; that was a fluke, and a very long story. But it’s great. “Adam is now in mortgage and loans and is on his way to becoming a professional softball player, while Nikki graduated from Cal State Full- Leslie Schwab (’72) erton with a degree in marketing. If Boca Raton, FL anyone has any leads, she's cur- Karan Bunin Huss: rently looking for a job — along with California Girl, Mother of the rest of the classes of '09!” ◘ The Bride

Karan Bunin Huss’s daughter, Nicolette, married her longtime sweetheart Adam Nikolic last June. The couple, whose prom picture (right) graced our summer 2004 issue, met seven a half years ago Barbara Silverblank Eisenstein (’71) when the Husses lived in Wap- South Pasadena, CA pinger’s Falls, New York. According to Karan, Adam was a baseball player for the Hudson Valley Renegades, an A-ball affiliate of the Tampa Bay Rays. “We were his host family, and Nikki was the team mas-

Paul Corwin (’72) New York, NY

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In Tribute Cheryl Rassell Turoff (1972)

By Ellen Rader Smith (‘72)

o all those near and dear to Cheryl, we all sustained T a terrible loss when she passed away in November 2009 after a courageous two-year fight with breast cancer. I have lost a best friend, while her three children (Eric, Amy, and Daniel) lost their beloved mother, her husband, Bob, lost his wife of twenty-nine years, her mother, Sylvia, who still lives in Jericho (where Cheryl’s Cheryl (center) with Jill Harmon (l.) and Ellen Rader room can still bring back childhood memories) lost a daughter, her sisters, Sandy (class of ’70) and Elisia Smith (r.) at the class of ‘72’s 30-year reunion. (class of ’75), lost their sister, her dogs Maggie and Zoe have lost their primary caretaker and all her cuddling For those of you who are still close with your Jericho and attention, her hand therapy patients have lost their friends, you know that it is really only those who you therapist, and countless other friends from near and far grew up with that can fully understand you and your have also lost this wonderful human being. family dynamics, because those influences (positive and Cheryl and I date back to seventh grade. We were negative) impact heavily on how we got to be where we close throughout junior and senior high, but I believe our are today. friendship truly became stronger in adulthood, as we Cheryl never gave a second thought about helping built our families and careers. For the longest time, my others and always gave of herself. She regularly trav- daughter even thought that Cheryl’s family were her ersed the island from her South Shore home in Islip to cousins! Cheryl and I were two days apart in age, so we the North Shore to take her kids to art lessons and other always celebrated our birthdays together, along with activities. She loved the beach and doing pet therapy Susan Sugarman Gold, when we regularly celebrated with her dogs at the nursing homes. Cheryl’s house was with a show in NYC. (As I married later, neither Cheryl or centrally located between her out-of-state sisters and Susan would ever forgive me for setting the walking pace Rassell enclaves were regularly held at her house, in NYC when they were eight months pregnant, and I clearly exemplifying the epitome of a close family who could not understand their need to slow down!) was there to share all celebrations and opportunities Cheryl studied physical therapy at the University of together. Cheryl was even thinking of a career change to Maryland, and I became an occupational therapist. We social work so that she could counsel and help individu- were both involved in the specialty of hand rehabilita- als and families in need, particularly those with chronic tion, while Cheryl pursued the route of becoming a certi- illnesses. fied hand therapist. Cheryl often provided me a second Cheryl’s determination and resilience was known to professional opinion when I was evaluating difficult hand everyone. Throughout her illness, Cheryl never gave up. cases. After each surgery, she got herself back in the best shape as possible — even doing more than what most A Caring Friend healthy people could do. She could easily challenge the

best of us to a good, healthy five-mile walk. Cheryl was my matron of honor, made my wedding and first baby shower. We were present at each other’s chil- A Determined, Positive Outlook dren’s Bar and Bat Mitzvahs. While I can remember these events clearly, more so will I remember her unbe- Following Cheryl’s diagnosis, it seemed that each time lievable qualities as a person and a friend, who was al- Cheryl got good news, it was soon followed by a setback, ways there and able to provide support and encourage- which meant either more chemo, radiation or surgery. ment whenever needed, and ask leading and insightful However, you rarely every heard Cheryl complain be- questions to help me come to good decisions by myself. Continued on page 5

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In Tribute In Tribute Cheryl Rassell Turoff Don Schrager (1971) Continued from page 4 Donald Schrager passed away at his cause she was forever optimistic home in Sunrise, Florida, in late Novem- that she would not let this disease ber. Here are some photos and remem- take control of her life and that she brances from friends and family. Thanks would beat the C word. To know what to Peter Berson, Linda Caputo Fried- she endured would make anyone mann, Paul Drucker, Jake Jakobiak, Ste- feel selfish to think for a moment ven Kabatsky, and Kraig Libstag. A facebook page in Don’s memory has that they were hurting. Similarly, been set up. Simply go to facebook and type “Donald Schrager” in the when Cheryl attended support Search Box. groups, she only enjoyed those groups where the people were in Peter Berson, Don’s cousin: similar places as she and who didn’t Some of us are fortunate to be so generous and kind in life. feel their life was over or asked “Why We meet people, and a bond of friendship and warmth develops between Cheryl in junior high. us. Don is this person. As we know, he could be so kind, so generous, and so warm — even if you couldn’t fit your arms around him. Friendship that lasts over decades are the testament of this man. It was a beautiful day when I went with Donny to say good-bye here at Ce- dar Beach. I hope to be more like Donny one day.

Don, circa 1970–71, with Linda Caputo Friedmann (l.) and Photo courtesy of Robbi Goldberg. Caryn Ellenbogen Dayney (r.) from the me?” but, rather, how they could be class of ‘72. empowered to make the most of their situation. Linda: Don was a I know that what I will miss most wonderful person is not being able to just pick up the with a big heart. I phone and hearing Cheryl’s voice — have many fond whether for just a regular catch-up memories of parties call or when I really needed her sup- at his house, and he port. This gap will be almost impossi- was the original DJ. ble to replace, but I feel that if I can He introduced me to somehow think of how Cheryl would lots of music, and have handled the situation or the music was always his advice she would have given me, I passion. There are will be in a better place. many people who kept in touch with Don, and he posted emails and sent Cheryl was the epitome of a true his comments to many of us regularly. He will be missed by many and friend. I know she will be remem- fondly remembered. Continued on page 24 Continued on page 6

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In Tribute Don Schrager Continued from page 5

Steven Kabatsky (‘73): We were in high school, and it was lunch one day. A whole bunch of us piled into cars and

headed right for Greenvale to Burger King. The biggest Whopper-eating contest was about to start, and we all thought (Above) Paul Drucker (’71): This is one of the last photos I took of Don, when Don was a shoe-in. How Don loved he visited me at my home in Jupiter, Florida, last August. On the left are John to eat! Cooney (‘72) and his wife, Veronica; my wife, Lori; Don; and me. We sent I can’t remember ever seeing a Don home with a photo that John had taken of the statue of Jesus that over- bigger cheering section, and I can’t looks the city of Rio in Brazil. even describe the laughs that we all had. I remained friends with Donald ever since, but I can’t recall ever having so much fun with him as we Despite living in did that day. I’m not sure if he was Florida, Don stayed disappointed when he came in sec- close to many of ond — as Leslee Moskowitz won for his friends, includ- the most whoppers consumed that ing, from the class day. of ‘71, Roy Fiorino, Gary Malin, and Kraig Libstag.

… and John Ruestow ...

Don with Roy Fiorino ... … and Gaile Goodgold Horowitz. Don also visited friend Jake Jakobiak (‘71, inset) at his ranch in Parrish, Florida. Jake: You can see how much Don liked horses!

JHS Classes of 1971-1972-1973 Thirderly On-Line Newsletter • Spring 2010 Page 7 Catch Up With … Roberta “Robbi” Goldberg (‘72)

y family was one of caused it. So not only did I We didn’t stay in the Great M the early "settlers" in enter tenth grade ten days Neck house too long. Just Jericho; we moved to White late, but for the first two three years later, I graduated Birch when I was two, in months I had a patch over from Great Neck South, fol- 1956. one eye! lowed by my younger brother, The neighborhood kids The main reason we David. (My older brother, Jeff, included Mindy Wertheimer, moved was for the closer graduated from JHS in 1968.) Lori Berman, and Risa commute to the city. My fa- Plus, my parents’ business Sugarman. Later on, Sue ther was one of the first peo- ended up in an office space Silverman moved in across ple in the bar-coding indus- right there in downtown Great the street, and we became try and wrote an industry Neck, which was even better. really good friends. In fact, newsletter that still exists So they sold the house and we’re still good friends. My today. Before that, he was in bought a condo. My mom still best childhood friend, plastics. Remember the oh- lives in Great Neck. though, was Susan Chattle- so-famous line from the I went to George Washing- ton. Just the other day, I movie The Graduate, where ton University in Washington, found a card from her that the family friend tells Dustin DC, and earned a BA in politi- she’d sent me when I was in Hoffman to go into plastics? cal science and an MBA in in- college. Our family thought that was ternational business. I loved Mitchell Meyer lived next the funniest thing ever. Continued on page 00 door to me. We were very

“When I told close. Many of my old family (Below): Now we stories have the Meyers in are six. Robbi and my boss at them; we were friends with neighbor Mitch Common his parents and used to go Meyer survey the Cause that I to the beach together. In suburban dream in was leaving to 2007, at the last reunion, I May 1960. (Right): Now we are … well, become a walked into Milleridge Cot- tage, and the first person I never mind. Robbi painter and live laid eyes on was Mitchell. I and Mitch at the on the Greek hadn’t seen him in almost 2007 reunion. island of Ios, forty years. It was really nice. his reaction The whole time we were sitting and talking, people kept was something coming up to him and ask- to the effect of ing him if he was still funny! ‘Oy vey, your During the summer of poor mother!’” 1969, when I was fifteen, we moved to Great Neck. My transition to high school there was ... difficult! It did- n’t help that just before the school year started, I started having double vision. We never did find out what

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Robbi Goldberg until Richard Nixon sacked him) the special Watergate Continued from page 7 prosecutor. These were just fantastic human beings to Washington; still love it. be around. One of my apartments was just two blocks from the Time for a Change — a White House. I also got to Really Big Change spend my sophomore year at the American College in In January 1983, I walked Paris, which was wonder- into Fred Wertheimer’s of- ful. fice and announced that I After graduation, I was leaving not only Com- worked for the university, mon Cause but also the which was how I paid for States, to become a my MBA. Even though I painter and live on the wasn’t an athlete, I got in- Greek island of Ios. His re- volved in different athletic action was something to Robbi’s life chronicled in paintings. Ever wonder how associations, starting the the effect of “Oy vey, your somebody could live on a tiny island for years? Wonder booster club and serving as poor mother!” no more. (Above) Ios’s port, and (below) the Koubara the soccer team’s time- To this day, I don’t Shore. Looks like a TV commercial for Corona Beer, keeper and statistician. I know where I got that idea. doesn’t it? was just in Washington for I used to do some sketch- a reunion of the soccer ing in college, but I had team; we’re like a family never used a paintbrush and have been getting to- and never used color. What gether annually for some- little art experience I had thing like thirty-five years. came from having Scott In the late 1970s, I be- Mackay as my art teacher gan working at the non- in seventh and eighth profit public advocacy or- grades while still at Jericho ganization Common Cause, Junior High. Some people which turns forty this year. were scared of him, be- It was started by John cause he was so meticu- Gardner, who’d been secre- lous and exacting, but we tary of health, education, got on really well. I didn’t and welfare under Presi- learn that he had passed dent Lyndon Johnson. away until I ran into That was a great ex- teacher Barbara Murphy at year. It wasn’t a spur-of- couple of months. When he perience; the people there the class of ‘72's 30th re- the-moment decision, but I left to go home in Decem- were all so bright, and the union, and she told me. He didn’t anguish over it, ei- ber, I started painting seri- causes were all so good. I was somebody I really ther: decided to go in Janu- ously, although I had no worked for Fred would have loved to have ary 1983 and left that Sep- idea what I was doing at Wertheimer, who’s still gotten in touch with again. tember. My brother David, that point. fighting for campaign- I’d been to Greece as a who today lives in Port And one year turned finance reform through his tourist seven times since Washington (Jeff lives in into thirteen! own organization, and I 1976, and I knew that if I DC, and his three closest Ios is about the same assisted the chairman of sublet my apartment in friends from Jericho remain size as Manhattan in terms the board, Archibald Cox, Washington, I’d have his good friends today ), of square miles, but it’s the Harvard constitutional enough to money to live met me in Paris and then shaped totally differently, law professor and (briefly, there and paint for one stayed with me on Ios for a Continued on page 9

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Robbi Goldberg rooms, except that there are four ca- Takin’ Care of Bidness! fes. One closed down for the winter, Continued from page 8 another was only for old men, which left the younger people two cafes. with a lot of hills and rocks, and it gets Needless to say, with so few people, green in the winter and full of wildflow- everybody got to know everybody -- ers. It’s so incredibly beautiful, it’s al- the cafes in the square are the center most painful. It’s a very romantic kind of life in every Greek village and city. of existence. Every The people day of my thirteen around my age were years there, I felt mainly men, be- that magic. cause back in those Only about days, the women Jerichonians fourteen hundred did not go to cafes people live there. by themselves. Eve- At Work When I moved ryone spoke English, there, it was a because they’d Jerry pretty poor place. I been dealing with Moran didn’t have a tele- tourists since they phone until the were young. They all (‘73): last two years I had local busi- Tip-Top was there. nesses, like night- (Nowadays, clubs and things like Chef though, every- that. Of all the body’s got a cell Greek islands, it’s OWNER-CHEF, LA CENA RISTORANTE, phone and com- the biggest party 211 NORTH LAURA STREET, JACKSON- puters, and all that island for younger VILLE, FL 32202, (904) 633-9255 stuff.) Island life cen- A view of the village. people; it gets really tered mainly around crazy and crowded was kind of an insider- the village. As people started having in July and August. Ios is one of those I outsider at Jericho. I knew a more money, they started building bet- world spots like Goa, India, or Bali, lot of people, I was captain of ter roads, which enabled people to Indonesia, that were/are on the inter- the swimming team, but I didn’t build houses farther away from town. national “hippie” circuit. really socialize all that much. But Ios was small enough that I The group of friends I made on Ios For one thing, my family could walk pretty much everywhere. are still some of my best friends to- lived on Wheatley Road in Sometimes I’d take a bus. Then, a few day. Gradually, as some of the guys Brookville, in the house next to years into my stay, I got an old car. I got married, I became friends with Robin Hood Country Day School. figured I’d learn how to drive a stick some of the wives (and not with oth- So we were a little isolated. shift, since that’s all they have over ers), many of whom were foreign. Plus, my parents were pretty there, but after some lessons with an Not long after I moved there, I be- strict. I was expected to take English friend, I realized that just was- gan living with a guy named Michalis, care of the property after n’t going to happen for me. It would whose family was beloved on the is- school. have to be a car with an automatic land. That was lucky, because I didn’t I had a dirt bike, a 1969 transmission. Good luck finding one! It speak fluent Greek at first, but people Hodaka (still have it), and would took several months, but a car dealer- figured that if he was with me, I must ride the power lines between ship in Athens finally found me a used be nice. Northern Boulevard and Jericho Honda Civic. When I brought that back Gradually, they came to know me Turnpike. In retrospect, what I to Ios, it was a huge curiosity. Every- as “the painter.” I say the painter, be- used to do on that motorcycle body wanted to try to drive it. cause there was really no other was terrifically dangerous. Note The main square in the village is painter on the entire island. (Well, to parents: Don’t let your kid about the size of most people’s living Continued on page 25 Continued on page 10

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Jerry Moran for two and a half months. back then was swimming. class of ‘73’s thirty-year And we were all growing Starting in my junior year, reunion, they had a multi- Continued from page 9 then, so everyone looks with a new coach named media presentation, which different. Barry Roffer, we had a included my picture from have a motorcycle. I sure Here’s a story that illus- pretty good team: Dave the 1972–73 swimming wouldn’t! trates how little I knew Mollineaux, Jeff Soukup, team, and I guess I looked For fun, I would head about the rest of Jericho: Bob Ehrlich, and Howard pretty ripped. People were over to Susan Shelton’s During my senior year, I Fielder, to name a few. As saying to me, “Jerry, is that house on Valley Road and had to take driver’s ed, a senior, I held the record you?” And I’m thinking, annoy her for a while. I even though I’d had a Flor- for absolute speed for a Where were you when I would do a perfect (but sin- ida license since I was four- long time, but I think Bob needed you?! cere) Eddie Haskell job on teen. One day I’m driving Ehrlich would have if his Becoming a chef was- her mother, and Susan east along Jericho Turn- event had been freestyle n’t considered sexy either hated me for it. I did love pike, with Mr. Greenspan instead of butterfly. I could- back then, not like it is to- Mrs. Shelton, though. next to me, and just as we n’t do a stroke of butterfly. day. My father was an offi- I never spent a summer pass Howard Johnson’s, he Bob was truly the top swim- cer and director for on Long Island, even from says, “Take South Marginal mer of the era. Meinhard-Commercial Fac- the time I was a baby. My Road.” That’s the service But swimming wasn’t a tors. The company did a lot brother, Steven (JHS ‘77), road to the Long Island Ex- sexy sport like it is now, not of business in the South- and I would get shipped pressway, in West Birch- even after Mark Spitz’s re- east, financing furniture, down to Kingsley Lake, wood. I know that now. I cord-breaking performance textile, and carpet manu- Florida, which is where my didn’t know that then. at the 1972 Summer Olym- facturers. He was one of mother grew up. It’s this I’m thinking, South pics. Nobody ever came to the top guys in the field. My perfectly round, crystal- Marginal Road? Never the meets. The cheerlead- dad was a little paternalis- clear lake in the middle of heard of it. I figured Mr. ers were always at the foot- tic, and the plan for me nowhere. We had Grand- Greenspan just wanted me ball games and the basket- was to get an accounting ma’s old house, right on to head back to the school, ball games, and we didn’t degree at the University of the lake, with a dock, and and the quickest route was get jack! It’s funny, though, North Carolina, and then we spent all of our time in to bear left and stay on how things change. At the Continued on page 11 the water. I was a pretty Jericho Turnpike. We came hot barefoot water skier. to the fork in the road. I Jane and husband Ed , There was a little redneck turned my steering wheel who’s originally from Riviera-style water park at to the left; he turned his to East Northport. The one end of the lake. I was the right. The car went couple wed in 1986. the lifeguard there in somewhere in between, 1972. Between the job and and we wound up on the the ski boat, and a really grassy median. sweet little girlfriend (the I always thought that I boss’s niece), that was a was born a little too early. good summer. Like I said, my big interest Then we’d drive back north over Labor Day Weekend, just in time for school. Talk about culture shock! Here you’d been in the middle of redneck country all summer, run- (Left): “Perfectly round” indeed. Kingsley ning around barefoot. Now Lake, Florida, where Jerry spent his sum- you’re back in Jericho, with mers growing up. His mom, now eighty-nine, your long pants on again. still lives in the lake house (above). “I go out You haven’t seen anyone there on weekends to look after her.”

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Jerry Moran Been Lookin’ for Love in All the Wrong Places? Continued from page 10 … Then You’ve Come to the Right Place! get a job with one of the many manu- Jericho High school facturers down there. Personals From Rednecks to Hillbillies

Well, I went down to Chapel Hill, North Carolina, and that was more culture shock. I mean, I knew all about rednecks from spending my summers in Florida — and I mean old Florida; think Larry the Cable Guy — but I had never seen hillbillies before. I’d never lived away from home, either, and I just went crazy when I went to school. I had a lot of fun. I’d earned quite a bit of money working over the summer (my first on L.I.) as a lifeguard at the Piping Rock Gloria Rothstein (’75) • Jericho, NY Country Club in Locust Valley, and I spent it all in two weeks! I lived in a I am back in New York after a nineteen-year vacation dorm with other folks from out of in Southern California. I am a social worker at New state, and I don’t think that anybody York Presbyterian Allen Hospital. I love to dance, es- in that whole building actually gradu- pecially West Coast swing and hustle dancing, and ated from UNC, myself included. am an easy laugh. I did pretty well in the business — [email protected] classes, but, after a Jericho High Robbi Goldberg (’72) • Westhampton School education, the rest wasn’t very interesting. Frankly, I think it’s a Beach, NY mistake for most kids to go right from high school to college, unless I'm a professional painter since 1983, although my they’re going into a particular profes- college degrees were in political science and an sion or are academically inclined. I MBA in international business. I am kind, generous, think many kids should get out in the easygoing, independent, and have a good sense of world and work first, then go back. humor. I have been known to be stubborn -- but only That certainly would have been bet- when I'm 100 percent certain I'm right. Ha! I love to ter for me. travel and believe that life should be an adventure Oh, and what ever happened to (which doesn't mean I like bunjee jumping, just that change is good). I the swimming career? Didn’t like the also believe that if you have your health, then all the rest is a piece of Continued on page 14 cake. I'm a big Mets and Jets fan, and I love to cook. Favorite books: Steinbeck and Dickens are my favorites, but I love to read, especially about different places and times. “I would say that most Favorite movies: a long list. I love movies of most genres except for people who work in horror movies and very violent movies. restaurants have emotional Favorite music: I'm a big music fan who likes all good music (except problems, mental problems, for heavy metal and most rap/hip-hop). Currently I listen to a lot of alter- native rock. addiction problems.” — [email protected].

JHS Classes of 1971-1972-1973 Thirderly On-Line Newsletter • Spring 2010 Page 12 T O O N S C A R T O O N S C A R T O O T O O N S C A R T O O N S C A R T By Dan Clurman

About Dan: “I have been a coach and educator for the last twenty- five years, de- livering training and classes in nonprofits, universities, and corpora- tions. “I assist professionals, business people, couples, and students to more skill- fully navigate life transi- tions, as well as improve their communication and presentations. I also have a small practice as a Fel- denkrais® practitioner, a movement-based form of education. “I've cowritten a few books, Money Disagree- ments: How to Talk About Them and Conversations With Critical Thinkers, as well as a book of poems and drawings, Floating Upstream.” These toons are part of Dan’s just-published book You've Got to Draw the Line Somewhere, available for $15 at http://www.dantoons.com. Daniel Goleman, best- selling author of Emotional Intelligence, has this to say about You’ve Got to

Draw the Line Some- where: “impish but pointed, edgy and astute, wise, and just plain funny.”

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“… And Now, for the YoungSHTERS!”

What are some ‘71-’72-’73 progeny up to? A Vital Public Service! Find out right here … GRA Grandparenting 101 NDKID ED S Haven’t quite gotten the hang of ITION this Grandma-Grandpa/Nana- Gaga/Meemaw-Peepaw/Gabba Gabba Hey stuff yet?

Well, try these phrases on for size, pardner, and before you know it, you’ll be shivering in 90-degree heat despite wearing two sweaters, just like a bona fide old person!

• “Did I tell you I have three grandchildren? I have some pictures of them somewhere …” [Rummage through purse or fanny pack the size of an ocean liner’s cargo bay.]

• “You call that music?! I call it noise!”

• “Did I show you what my Felicity Rose Hyams, age 7 grandson/granddaughter sent Grandparents: Arnold (‘72) me?” [Proudly display “World’s and Linda Tropper Best Grandma/Grandpa” mug/ T-shirt/hip flask/truss, etc. “Felicity Rose Hyams is in second grade. She and her mom recently moved back • “Hey, Mister/Missy: Stop burn- home. So my wife, Linda, and I are baby- ing all the lights! You think elec- sitters on call 24/7, but Felicity gets tricity grows on trees?!” to go to school in Port Jefferson. “I get to do bus stop duty every • “Who wants hard candy!? I morning and most afternoons. It's great Too cute! Above: Princess Felicity have some in my …” being a stay-at-home ‘Papa.’ I never Rose. (Top): Arnie, Linda, and [Rummage through purse or knew what I wanted to be when I grew Felicity with two plushies on the fanny pack the size of an ocean up until I became a grandpa.” streets of Manhattan. Or maybe liner’s cargo bay.] Continued on page 14 it’s Disney World — can’t tell.

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“… And Now, Jerry Moran for the Continued from page 11 YoungSHTERS!” pool or the training. They Continued from page 13 wanted me to swim all four strokes and distances, and Allison Sara Mandelkern, age 1 I was a freestyle sprinter, Grandparents: Peter and Joyce period. So that lasted less (Targove) Mandelkern (‘73) than a season. Also, beer and pool water are not a good mix. One bonus, though: As a sophomore, I assisted teaching a fresh- man girls swimming class. Got an A in that class, and lots of dividends! Chapel Hill was still the “Hippie Hill” back then, full of artsy people and hippies. I was hot for a money- At left, Allison, who turned one on making job and got one in a December 7, 2009. According to restaurant, even though I’d grandmother Joyce (pictured with Pe- never worked in one in my ter, above), “She’s a diehard Mets life. It was a new, upscale fan, just like her parents.” Joyce and place called P.O.E.T.S. Cor- Peter, who live in Port Washington, LI, ner. (Get it?) I think every celebrated their thirty-first wedding freak in town worked there. anniversary on March 24. I was thrown right into the kitchen, and the staff ac- Cymbaline Josephine DiPol, age 2 cepted me. Everyone was either drunk or stoned, the G’ma: Virginia Ferrante Cammareri (‘73) owner and chef included. I was still a student, and “My granddaughter cur- mostly laid off on the drink- rently lives in New Jersey, ing, but that was my initia- so I don’t see her as much tion into the underworld of as I would like, but I cherish hospitality work. my visits with her. She loves One of my coworkers the water, and enjoys visit- was an older guy who caring Grandma in the sum- ried a first edition of Wil- mer, as I have an in-ground liam Burroughs’s Naked pool. Her mom, Barbara, is a strong, intelli- Lunch around with him. A gent woman with strong family bonds, and hippie who looked like the her dad, my son Thomas, loves her so. I'm Zig-Zag man came in every hoping to have her here for a weekend very day and baked the bread. soon. In the meantime, I plan on going to You get the picture. The job Jersey around my birthday in March. No became my life, the work- nicer birthday present than that! She was ers my friends, and I spent named after a character in some Shakespearean play (I don’t remember whjch less and less time in class one!), and the ‘Josephine’ is after my mom. I love that part the best.” Continued on page 30

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First Person Singular First Person Singular Iris Weinstock David Schaffer-Hall Goldman (‘73) (‘71)

o you want to hear a ’m fortunate in that I’ve D funny story? I was at a I gotten to play with some business lunch and was pretty well-known musi- talking to a film editor that cians, some of them from I’ve worked with. He asked Jericho. In high school, I me where I grew up, and I was in a series of jams/ told him Jericho. bands with people like Ash- “Jericho? Yeah, me too! ley Ren (‘71), Michael Ste- Where in Jericho?” bel (71), Frank Boesch “West Birchwood.” (‘70), Marty Itzkowitz (71), “Oh my God, me too! Monte Sugarman (‘69), What street?” and Neil Brodbeck (‘69). He said, “This little Ashley is one of the most street you probably never talented people who ever heard of called St. Law- Iris Weinstock and David Goldman knew each came through that school; rence Place.” he’s like a Paul McCartney “That’s the street I other in high school; in fact, says Iris, “We went on a or Todd Rundgren in that grew up on! What house date when I was in seventh grade — but David says he can do it all: write it, number?” he doesn’t remember, so I guess that doesn’t count!” (She’s produce it, direct it, sing it, “Twenty.” a multi-instrumentalist. Neil We got out the old JHS dating rulebook and checked.) “That was our house!!!” right: got into doing studio guitar My parents sold 20 St. After high school, they both pursed careers in the often work on the West Coast. Lawrence Place and moved capricious and cruel world of popular music. Each went Another talented player to Manhattan not long after from Jericho is David Star- on to enjoy considerable professional success in other I graduated and had begun obin, also from the class of pursuing a career in music. fields but still related to the arts. And the two New Jersey ‘69, who has become a I started thinking about residents now play together for fun in a rock group called world-class classical guitar music seriously when I was player. the Reticents. in ninth or tenth grade. By During my senior year, then I’d been taking piano we had a band called Hon- lessons for a long time. I Itzkowitz (‘71). Sadly, We’d go over to Chuck’s est John Rocket, with me also played guitar and had Chuck died of throat can- house or my house and on drums, Neil on gui- started writing songs. I cer a few years ago. He have these fun jams all the tar/vocals, a great musi- used to jam with local mu- was a big inspiration to me time. cian named Chuck Hoff- sicians. Everything seemed in deciding to pursue mu- After high school, I man on bass/guitar/ to revolve around this great sic. went to Emerson College. I vocals, Gregg Winter on guy from Syosset named David Goldman played was unsatisfied with the guitar/keys/vocals, and Chuck Hoffman, who was a drums in a band with music scene in Boston and Les Dwyer on clarinet/ talented song writer and Chuck and Neil Brodbeck really wanted to pursue a Piano. (Les studied at Juil- played guitar and bass. His (whose younger sister, career in music, so I moved liard with Paul Drucker, girlfriend — and later his Mary Ellen Brodbeck, from out to California and stayed first chair clarinetist in the wife — was Gina Itzkowitz the class of 1972, was a there for four years. I went New York Philharmonic. (’69), older sister of Marty very talented piano player). Continued on page 16 Continued on page 16

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David Goldman Iris Weinstock Continued from page 15 Continued from page 15

Gregg wasn’t from Jericho; he was from Brooklyn. We’d met up at to San Francisco sleepaway camp when I was thirteen years old, and we were both Doors State, and I stud- freaks. Many people from Jericho might remember that about me: I used to ied privately with a have "The Doors" painted all over my books and stuff. John Densmore was world-renowned one of my favorite drummers, along with Mitch Mitchell (Jimi Hendrix Experi- vocal coach. I was ence), Bill Bruford (Yes), B. J. Wilson (Procol Harum), and Charlie Watts also writing songs (Rolling Stones). They all came from jazz backgrounds, so whereas most and recording. rock & roll drummers were doing this very imbecilic, simplistic playing, they One of the more were sticking in all of these cool little jazz fills, which, at that time, were un- interesting experi- heard of. ences I had was being a backup Honest John Rocket did both original songs and covers of the times, like singer for Donald Kinsey, Bob Mar- "Let It Rain" by Eric Clapton, "Badge" by Cream, and "Riders on the Storm" by ley’s guitar player, in his band the the Doors. About half the music was our own. Gregg, who later became a Chosen Ones. Not only was I the only Warner-Elektra-Asylum/Ireland recording artist, was a major songwriter, as woman in the group but also the only were Neil and Chuck. Les and I contributed too. white person. I also was produced and recorded by Dionne Warwick’s This Guitar Player Named Joe, from Carle Place ... and Isaac Hayes’s engineer. Isaac Hayes’s band played on all the I went to C. W. Post as a psychology major. I lived at home, on Maytime songs. They were amazing! Drive, in East Birchwood, because that’s where my drums were. You can’t Around 1981, I decided that it Continued on page 17 was time to move back to New York. Photo by Larry Roscher (‘71) I got an apartment on the Upper West Side in this building where a lot of musicians happened to live, Bret- ton Hall. It was a cool “artists” resi- dence that was perfect at the time. Almost all of the tenants played music. I had a studio apartment and got into the whole NYC music scene. I started doing session work, including singing jingles and doing backup ses- sions for various artists. Soon I was in an all original group called Girl Talk, with two other women. One of them was Karan Bunin Huss from Jericho (‘72). Our sound was kind of dance-pop, like Bananarama meets the Bangles. Jimmy Destri, the keyboardist from Blondie, produced several of our songs. Making it in the music business was (and is) so hard! It doesn’t matter how talented your are or how hard you work; it takes a lot of luck and a lot of who you know. Around this time, Karen got married and be- David and wife Jamie Kole on Martinique. The couple met in 1980. Continued on page 17

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Iris Weinstock Iris with twins Jeremy David Goldman and Susannah. Continued from page 16 Continued from page 16 came pregnant. Then I have drums in got married. I knew I a dorm! I stud- wanted to have a family ied percussion one day, and the lifestyle with Howie of a recording artist was- Mann, who’d n’t conducive to that kind replaced Buddy of life. So our attitude Rich in the was, "Okay, we gave it a Tommy Dorsey shot," and we all moved Orchestra, and on. also with the I continued to sing, brilliant jazz pianist Billy Taylor. and in 1984 I began My family was expecting me to working at MTV, which go on and become a therapist, but was then in its third year my dream at that time was to run and really exploding. I wound up spending nine years there, first as manager around touring in a band. Right after of special projects, and then I headed up the planning and design depart- graduating college in 1975, I audi- ment. MTV was a lot fun, and extremely demanding and time consuming; it tioned for this seven-piece horn band was not unusual to put in seventy-hour work weeks. When I had my twins in called Justus based in Oceanside. 1989, I came back from a four-month maternity leave and told my boss, Thirty drummers tried out, and it Tom Freston, the big honcho at MTV, that I wouldn’t be able to continue at boiled down to me and one other. the usual pace. We had a "drum off" in somebody’s Tom was great about it. At one of his strategy meetings, he announced, house: I stood upstairs while the “We have to find something for Iris to do that isn’t as demanding.” Well, the other guy played, then I went down- network was about to move to a new building, so he appointed me project stairs for my turn. manager. It was great, because I got to take classes at the Parsons School Now, I came from a Yes-Traffic- of Design and the New York School of Interior Design. I learned a lot, and Doors-Argent-Genesis-Pink Floyd in- that was a lot of fun. fluenced background, and these Then it was like, “Okay, time to move on.” MTV is kind of like the Roach guys were looking for a very funky Hotel: Either you get out if you can or you’re there for life! Just the other day, drummer. So I put on my funk appeal I ran into someone who’s been there for, like, twenty-five years now. After I — what little I knew of that back then, left MTV, I started up a creative division of a staffing agency called ASA. Eve- which, on a scale of one to ten, was rything was going great until the Internet industry tanked, and the company about a one. I’m playing along to this got sold. stuff by Kool and the Gang, Graham Central Station, and Tower of Power, Back to Music — But in a Different Capacity none of which I’d even heard before. There’s this skinny kid with hair In 2000 I met Doug Hall, a composer who became my second husband. down his back, wearing this sardonic A mutual friend who was also a composer had set us up. Doug is originally smile, looking at me while I’m play- from Missouri and Syracuse. He’s an extremely talented composer and ing. I can see the rest of the band multi-instrumentalist, although his main instrument is keyboards. He’d been members kind of winking at one an- in bands too and then fell into a career as senior composer at Elias Music, a other, so I’m getting a good feeling. very well-known music production company. He scored over one thousand The skinny guy was an eighteen-year- commercials there. old guitarist from Carle Place named After Elias, he started his own music production company, Mess Hall Mu- Joe Satriani. Joe, of course, has re- sic. After we got married in 2002, we decided to start a company together, leased over a dozen solo albums, Propeller Music & Sound Design. Between our passion for music, our talent, played with Mick Jagger, Tina Turner, and project management skills, it seemed like a good fit! Doug is the crea- Chicken Foot, and many others. I got Continued on page 18 Continued on page 18

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David Goldman Iris Weinstock Continued from page 17 Continued from page 17 the gig, and the two of us became buddies and room- tive director and partner, and I’m the executive producer mates on the road. and partner. I own 51 percent of the company, so we are Justus toured for about a year and a half straight, considered a woman-owned company. Pretty tricky, eh? pretty much all over the eastern half of the country: as We compose music for commercials, TV, film, new me- far north as Canada and all the way down to Louisiana, dia, corporate films — everything. We just finished scor- Alabama, and Mississippi. After that experience, working ing two documentaries. It’s really ideal, because you’re in a series of “straight” jobs in the world of sales just able to write music and you can make a really good living didn’t excite me. doing it. Plus, it’s not sleazy like the record biz. But it can First I was selling institutional frozen foods, working definitely be hard, and it’s become more competitive. fourteen hours a day. I left that after just ten months. We live in Montclair, New Jersey, which I’d moved to Then I worked in the audio department of my father's on the recommendation of my older sister, Rochelle appliance business in New York City. I also worked in (‘71). We’re just minutes away from each other; in fact, I sales in the garment district at a company owned by a was just at her house for dinner last night. Our sister family friend. Equally unfulfilling. I had yet to find myself. Shari (‘75) lives in Connecticut. All three of us are very I knew that I didn’t want to go back to school to get a close; we talk on the phone a lot and spend a lot of time masters or doctorate in psychology; I just didn’t have the together. And Mom lives in Fort Lee, so she’s nearby too. passion for it. Doug has a son from a previous marriage — Evan — who’s the same age as my son and daughter, Jeremy Fate Intervenes in the and Susannah. So be- Form of an Old Friend tween the two of us, we have three amazing One of my best friends twenty-year-olds! growing up was Paul Mar- Susannah, a junior at golis (‘71). We were two Penn State, is an incredi- peas in a pod; liked simi- ble hip-hop dancer and lar things, especially is a psychology major. when it came to art and She would like to be a creativity. He and I used therapist. Jeremy is also to hang out with David at Penn State. He’s a Pepper and Larry Ro- really cool kid: very popu- scher, also from the class lar, social, outgoing, of ‘71. smart. He is a political Some of my other science major and might core friends from our Continued on page 27 grade were Jane Rosenbaum (who, sadly, is no longer with us), Stu (Above): Reticently posing for Mass, Mike Stebel, and a group photo are, from left Steven Walters. Steven’s to right, Bob Mellman (bass, father, Norby Walters, vocals), Iris’s husband, Doug was the booking agent Hall (keyboards, guitar, for people like Gloria vocals), Iris, Mike Levine Gaynor and the Trammps, (guitar, dobro, pedal steel and his company repre- guitar), and David (drums). sented Justus when we were touring. (Right): The Reticents rock Continued on page 27 da house.

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After graduation, I attended St. priests and women are nuns. In fact, Rich Zlattner John’s University in Queens; it’s a women couldn’t even be altar boysor Continued fromNational page Bestsller 15 Catholic college — although I would- anything like that. n’t say it was overtly Catholic — and I Then I began going to seminary was involved there to a small extent at night, which was a very interest- in Catholic activities. ing, eye-opening experience. New Everything you I was a communications arts ma- York Theological Seminary was dedi- jor. After graduation, I moved to For- cated to minority pastors. In their always wanted to est Hills and worked in Manhattan in world, you didn’t have to have a de- media sales for WOR-TV. Inwardly, I gree of divinity from a school — you know about wondered if there was something just kind of got the calling and be- else I was supposed to be doing. came a pastor. The people there Anne Havrilla (’73) * With some friends, I became in- were very kind to me and basically volved at a small church in Kew Gar- took me under their wing. The semi- But Were Too Self- dens. Around this time, a small, nary president suggested that I go to * voiceless voice in my head began to Princeton Seminary, which is a Pres- Absorbed to Ask! push me to do something, but I was byterian seminary. not clear on what it was. Finally, I I would have gone anyplace he said “Yes” to the voice. Doors began told me to go, because I didn’t know grew up in to open, and connections began to what I was doing. So I applied and I East Birch- happen. I began to sense a call to was accepted. During my second wood at 68 ministry, but I really did not under- year of a three-year, full-time pro- Merry Lane, stand what that would mean for me. gram, I became a Presbyterian. If with a number My only frame of reference was anybody had told me while I was of JHS stu- Roman Catholicism, and in the Ro- growing up in Jericho that I would dents on the man Catholic Church, men are one day become pastor in a Presby- block: Jackie terian church, I would have laughed. Stanger, Susan Back then, I didn’t even know what a Roth, Debbie Levine and Ellen Presbyterian was! As you probably Lowenstein. Probably some of the remember, we didn’t have a whole of folks that knew me growing up would Protestants in our community. It was remember that our home was fairly mostly Jewish and then Catholic. But religious. My mom, who’s eighty- I feel extremely blessed to have seven, was one of the founders of St. grown up in an area that was pre- Paul’s Roman Catholic Church — the dominantly Jewish, because I have one just past the high school on Ce- learned a lot about not just about dar Swamp Road. Judaism but about my own faith and She was very active there, and about Christ and the Bible from the my younger brother, Eddie, was an experiences that I had just being altar boy. (He attended a private around a Jewish culture. I feel really Catholic school beginning in the blessed in that respect. ninth grade, so he didn’t graduate How to describe the difference from Jericho High.) My father was between Catholics and Presbyteri- converted to Catholicism when he ans? and my mother married. I recall be- In the church where I am cur- ing part of the first “folk mass.” A rently serving as Associate Pastor, group of teens sang folk tunes such Liberty Corner Presbyterian Church, as “Blowin’ in the Wind” and “People in Liberty Corner, New Jersey, there Get Ready” instead of hymns during are a number of ex-Catholics, and masses. Phyllis Vegliante, Bonnie I’ve had to explain the differences to Colgan, and Diana Belano were JHS them. First, it is a mainline denomi- friends at church. Reverend Anne Havrilla. Continued on page 20

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Anne Havrilla pastors since I left in 1986. I’m often asked why Catholi- cism excludes women from the priesthood, and why Continued from page 19 some Protestant denominations choose to ordain women. Both Catholicism and Judaism are religions nation, not unlike the Methodist church and some Bap- where tradition is important. The Protestant Reformation tist churches. It’s not quite as liturgical as the Lutherans occurred because the Reformers went back to the scrip- and the Episcopalians. I’ll put it this way: If you have Ca- tures, and asked, “What do the scriptures actually say?” tholicism on the far end of the spectrum, I’d say that They held that they could read the scriptures and under- Presbyterianism is sort of in the middle. It’s fairly liberal, stand them for themselves, whereas Catholicism counts although I wouldn’t describe myself as theologically lib- what it calls “holy” or “sacred” tradition as having equal eral. authority with scripture. Judaism is also a faith rich in When I converted to Presbyterianism, my mother and tradition. my brother were always supportive; in fact, my mom sup- But also, it’s how you interpret scripture. Catholics ported me through seminary. (My dad died when I was point to one passage in the book of Matthew where nineteen.) It was still a challenge for her to accept that I Jesus says to Peter, “You are Peter, which means rock, was no longer Roman and on this rock I will Catholic. I remember build my church.” And having a conversation because Peter was the with her when I first head of the apostles, out went to Princeton. She of that came the apostolic asked, “Don’t you think succession. you could consider be- Protestants don’t in- coming Episcopalian?” terpret that verse that “Mom, why would I way. Their take on it is want to be an Episcopa- that Jesus was referring lian?” specifically to Peter. He And she said, “Well, I wasn’t projecting that we think Episcopalians are were going to have popes closer to Catholics, and for years and years up the we’ll be nearer each road. So there are differ- other in heaven.” Like, ent interpretations of we’d be near the “seats” scripture, as well as dif- of the Catholics. Anne with husband Alden Johnson at NYC’s Russian Tea ferent versions of the Bi- I said to her, “I don’t Room. The couple met in seminary and have been married ble. It really depends on think it works that way.” since 1977. what school of thought But she was fine with it. you come from. It’s not black and white, even though some people think it is. A Pastor for Thirty Years Here’s another difference: Catholicism teaches that it is the only true church and that there’s no salvation My first year at Princeton, I met the man I would marry, outside of the Catholic Church. The Protestant line of Alden Johnson. He’s originally from Rhode Island. We thinking is that there’s salvation only in Christ. Also, Ca- lived on the same floor in one of the dorms, and got mar- tholicism expects you to do good in order to help you ried during my middle year, which was his senior year. At “earn” your salvation. In Protestant thinking, you cannot the time, Alden was training as a hospital chaplain. But earn it; salvation is a gift from God. That’s the huge shift when I graduated, in 1978, he said to me that he would in thinking between the Catholic Church and what hap- follow me to a church, since, because I was a woman, it pened during the Reformation. would probably be harder to find a position. My first church was outside of Binghamton, New Another Calling: Motherhood York. Alden worked there as a hospital chaplain and, even though he’s a Presbyterian too, he ministered part- In 1986 we moved back to New Jersey, where Alden and time in a Methodist church. I was that congregation’s I both regarded as home. He felt called out of full-time first woman pastor, and they continued calling women Continued on page 21

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country, respects authority, Anne Havrilla and he’s very good at work- Continued from page 20 ing with people. My brother, a former navy jet ministry, and has been the pilot, has already taken pastor of a small church in him to the Navy and Marine northern New Jersey. He bases in San Diego, and works full time for MetLife has given my son a lot of after having also worked as advice. a stockbroker. Amity is a sophomore I pastored a few at Rutgers University, smaller churches part-time. where she majors in dance. In 1988 we had a son, I guess you could say my Alec, and, in 1990, a daughter is living out my daughter, Amity. Alec had dream, because I’ve always special needs, and I felt it loved to dance. Like a lot of Anne and Alden with son Alec, 21, and daughter Amity , was important to be there kids from Jericho, I went to 18, at her high school graduation. Alec is now a college for him. Now he’s twenty- Mrs. Saunders’ dancing senior, while Amity is in her sophomore year. one, and a senior at a school for many year. small Presbyterian college Amity studied dance and is trying to learn every- istrator. I happen to enjoy located northwest of Pitts- from the time she was thing she can. handling administration, burgh. His special needs three and a half. During her but not all ministers find it’s classification was dropped senior year in high school, A Pastor’s Work Is Never their thing. while he was in high she went to Martha Gra- Done I hope to remain with school, and he’s done ex- ham’s School of Contempo- this church for a long time, tremely well. rary Dance in Manhattan I’m in my seventh year as because I really love it. It’s When he graduates, and really fell in love with Associate Pastor at Liberty my passion. We have great he’d like to go into the navy modern dance. Last sum- Corner Presbyterian people who, I think, under- as an officer. I think he’d mer she was in a program Church, which has a con- stand what the church is be a great officer. Alec at the Alvin Ailey dance gregation of about one supposed to be about. For loves history, loves our company. She works hard thousand and a good-sized instance, our congregation staff. I’m really busy, espe- genuinely cares a lot about Anne, second from left in back, with her congregation’s cially right now, since I’m doing mission work. The Grace Moves Dance Choir. filling in as senior pastor church started a school in for a while. I preach, teach, Honduras for very poor chil- counsel, do baptisms, wed- dren, and we recently or- dings, and funerals, visit ganized a mission to Ma- people who are ill — in gen- lawi, where we’re connect- eral, I just try to make ing with orphanages for things happen in the AIDS. Our church is trying to church. be out in the world with its I know a lot of minis- faith. ters who have left the I also get to indulge my church to become counsel- love of dance, through a ors, because providing group called the Grace counsel and comfort is Moves Dance choir. We ac- what they enjoy most. In tually dance during services the ministry, we refer to and are well received by the that as having a strong congregation. Right now, in mercy gift. But as a pastor, fact, we’re working on a you also have to be a good hip-hop piece. communicator and admin- Continued on page 22

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Rich Zlattner “We should introduce them,” we Anne Havrilla said. Little did we know! Continued fromNational page Bestsller 15 After graduation, I went to Union Continued from page 21 College, in Schenectady, New York. It’s funny: Because Jericho was very Modern Attitudes Toward Faith small, I thought I needed and wanted Everything you a small, nurturing school. But after From all the polls, and I read a lot of I’d been there for a bit, I felt like it them, most people in our country always wanted to was too small. Socially, Union was believe there is a God. However, very limited. many people, especially post- know about For one thing, it had been an all- moderns, are not terribly interested male school; I was in only the second in institutional churches. They’re Rita Corwin (’71) * class of women, which was a little interested in a kind of general sort awkward. The men on campus would of spirituality and have what I would * But Were Too Self- say things like, “Well, you women are call a “cafeteria” approach to faith: getting more A’s than we ever got; it a little from here, a little from there. Absorbed to Ask! must be grade inflation.” One guy As we like to say in the circles I go actually admitted to me that he’d in, “They like Jesus, but they don’t voted against the college going coed! like the Church.” ’ve always Not very cool! At my church, we’ve spent a lot I been a city So why did I go there? Well, when of time in the last couple of years person. I’ve I went to visit Union, I thought it was looking at postmodernism and ask- lived just out- absolutely beautiful. But the big ing ourselves how the church fits in side of Wash- swing factor for me (I’m almost to today’s culture. We’re striving to ington, DC, for ashamed to admit this) was that the be what we call a “missional” more than thirty week before, John Sebastian gave a church, where the idea is to equip years now. And concert on campus! I was totally each person to go and be the I can remember wowed by that. church. To live out their faith out back in high I entered Union as a chemistry wherever they are. Not “Well, you’re school, Joan Beer and I would hop on major, mainly because they’d asked going to come to my church and a train and go down to Greenwich me, “What do you want your major to hear my minister, and my minister is Village just to walk around or to see be?” The course that I’d taken most going to convert you,” but really fol- live music. We had some friends two recently that I’d really liked was lowing Jesus. grades ahead of us, Jon Harmon and chemistry. So chemistry was my ma- Church hypocrisy is huge with Bob Nahmias, from the class of jor. I didn’t stay with it very long, younger people. They really want to 1970, who played in a jazz band, though. About three or four semes- know that you’re walking the talk, and that got us interested. ters in, I asked myself, “What am I and if you don’t, they’re not inter- Joan was my best friend in high going to do with this? I’m not going ested. We just had a churchwide school. In fact, we arranged to come to do research. I’m not going to spiritual weekend, and one of things to the last reunion together. We were medical school. I don’t want to teach. that we did was to partner with local in the Blue Key Society together and So why am I majoring in chemistry?” community organizations. For exam- were both very interested in studio I switched to psychology, but ple, we have a local veterans hospi- art. Actually, a girlfriend of mine from ended up majoring in economics and tal and we collected personal-care Westbury and I introduced Joan to psychology. Union didn’t have a busi- items for the veterans who are com- the man who eventually became her ness program per se, but I thought ing back from Iraq and Afghanistan. husband. I’d be interested in business and fi- I think that’s the way the church Joan was going off to the Rhode nance. Throughout college, I would was called to be, going back to bibli- Island School of Design, and my always take extra classes in the sum- cal days. It wasn’t meant to be an friend in Westbury also had a tal- mer, so I was able to graduate in institution, it was meant to be a ented artist friend who was also go- three years. movement, making a difference in ing there, named Donald Damask. Continued on page 23 the world. ◘

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Rita Corwin Continued from page 22

Career No. 1

When I came back to Jericho after graduating in 1974, I still didn’t have a clear idea of what I was going to do. My parents were very worried then! I’d traveled to Israel the summer before, lived on a kibbutz, and I’d studied Hebrew at Union. I think they were afraid that I’d go back to Israel, meet some guy, and stay there. So they really encouraged me to look for a job. I ended up getting a fabulous job at American Express Rita with (l.–r.) Ilana Lewin Feldman, Joan Beer Dam- International Bank. A friend in class at Union College con- ask, and Sue Ellen Cherry Schwam. Rita and a friend nected me to his dad, head of human resources at the introduced Joan to her future husband in 1971. bank. I really lucked out and was offered a position in the management training program. I was then hired into the I international com- and political economy and is captain mercial lending department, did a lot of traveling, and got to work with inter- of the varsity soccer team. esting clients. For the first year, I lived at home and then shared an apart- My longtime friend Joan Beer ment in New York City with a college friend. In 1976 I got married and lived in Damask lives in St. Louis, and, until Brooklyn Heights for two years. recently, so did Debra Schwartz, an- My husband (now my ex-husband) and I were both from New York, so in other one of my close friends from 1978 we decided to try another city. He was offered a medical residency in Jericho. Not long after the last Jeri- DC and I got a position in the division of banking supervision and regulation cho reunion, the three of us got to- at the Federal Reserve Board. Although I’d already worked in international gether when I was in St. Louis visit- commercial lending, I really didn’t know how “the pieces” fit together. Work- ing David. It was a lot of fun. ing at the Federal Reserve for five years, I learned what the banking industry All of my children are very global was all about. in their perspectives, which is some- We lived just fifteen minutes from downtown Washington and were able thing that I’ve always encouraged: to to enjoy all aspects of the city. It’s different from the New York area in the appreciate other cultures. Each of respect that if you want to live in a suburban setting, you don’t have to com- them spent two months in Israel dur- mute an hour. Today I live in a house, but I can still be downtown in twenty ing high school as part of a special minutes. Also, thirty years ago, Washington felt more like a small southern program, and we’ve also traveled town than a big city. It had everything that New York has, in terms of live mu- together. For me, it’s so interesting sic and an art scene, but on a smaller scale. Now it’s totally evolved (along to see how other people live and to with the congestion). There’s so much to do. develop sensitivity for different cul- Originally, we thought we’d stay in Washington for just a few years. But tures. By the same token, one also we became hooked and stayed. I worked in corporate finance and mer-chant gains an appreciation of how lucky banking until 1989. The day after my younger son was born, I was “retired” we are to live in the United States. when my bank merged with another. By then, my oldest son was eight, and With two of my three children in my daughter was six. I’d never expected to leave full-time work, and being let New York, as well as my brother, go was a bit of a rude awakening, but being able to spend the next eight Paul (JHS ‘72), I come up from Wash- years at home with my children turned out to be very nice. ington a lot, especially in the sum- Today, Adam, my oldest child, is involved in research into the interna- mer, when my snowbird parents are tional protocol and legality of holding prisoners. A very timely subject! Be- around. They sold the house on cause of his work, he decided that he needed to have a law degree and is Bounty Lane a long time ago and now in his second year at Columbia University Law School. He speaks several moved to North Shore Towers in languages and has lived abroad. A very interesting young man. Lake Success. In the winter they live My daughter, Lesley, who also attended Union College, also lives in New in a golfing community in Boynton York and works at an advertising agency. And my younger son, David, is a Beach. Between North Shore Towers junior at Washington University in St. Louis, where he’s studying economics Continued on page 24

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Rita Corwin able and what type of organization I would like to work for. When you ask Continued from page 23 people for donations, you really want to feel passionate about the cause. and Florida, they’re always seeing My first job in this new area was people from Jericho. at the United Jewish Endowment Fund, which operates as a commu- Career No. 2 nity foundation. It was very sophisti- cated in terms of its fund-raising and During the years that I was working its focus on developing endowments. and raising a family, my life con- A strong endowment base serves to Here’s Rita with Amy Klinow Halsey, sisted of little else, and I always felt sustain a nonprofit through the vari- Debra Schwartz, and Elaine Zetlin like there was a part of me that ous ups and downs of fund-raising Lotfi, all from the class of 1971. wanted to do more in the community. cycles. So, when I was home for those next After two years at the Jewish Fed- think we’re going to see a number of eight years, I got involved in some eration, I was recruited to work at a fields where older people will be- community organizations. I really large regional hospice in northern come more valuable, not obsolete. loved that, especially when I was get- Virginia to build its major gift and And I also think that our genera- ting divorced, because it helped me charitable gift-planning program. The tion is going to have a different type create a new community of friends. next six-plus years there turned out of retirement than our parents. I cer- I became very involved with the to be a terrific experience too, and it tainly don’t see myself in Florida, Jewish Federation (where I saw Ellen was very gratifying to work with the that’s for sure. If anything, I’d like to Tillman, also from the class of 1971, volunteers and staff there. move into Washington proper and be all the time), particularly in the area Since 2006 I’ve been director of able to walk to all the museums and of fund-raising. I guess my previous gift planning at Children’s National cultural activities. work experience had prepared me Medical Center, working at the Chil- Who knows? I could see even well for helping charities raise dren’s Hospital Foundation. In this, having yet another career. ◘ money, because it’s all about rela- my second career, I’m at a point tionships and being able to explain where my skills and my personal val- In Tribute things, and I’d done a lot of that ues are congruent. And I love that when I was in banking and corporate feeling. Cheryl Rassell Turoff finance. And so I consider myself to be Continued from page 5 In 1997, when it came time to go very lucky. When I talk about my back to work, I wanted to combine work, some people will say, “Wow, bered that way by her Jericho, col- my financial background and my in- I’m so jealous. I never felt that way lege, camp, professional and other terest in doing something for the about my job.” But I meet great peo- friends that she accrued over the community. As a volunteer fund- ple every day. The donors are fabu- years; and as the most selfless and raiser, I’d learned about an area lous. And then there’s the staff and loving person by her family and all called gift planning, or endowment faculty at the hospital, some of whose lives were touched by and development. I thought that would whom have worked there for fifteen, shared with Cheryl. ◘ be a great fit for me. twenty, thirty years, and all of whom I started networking around town are so passionate about their work. to see what opportunities were avail- It’s very exciting to be around. When I’m at the medical center, I see the sick children and the needy families, “I think that our generation is and I remember why I’m asking the going to have a different type of community to support the great mis- retirement than our parents. I sion of this organization. certainly don’t see myself in Fortunately, fund-raising is a ca- Florida, that’s for sure!” reer where age and life experience Cheryl (r.) and Ellen, side by side in are considered tremendous assets. I the 1972 yearbook.

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Robbi Goldberg digital lithograph. I give my painting to the guy who does my giclees, and he photographs it with a camera that Continued from page 9 has something like a million megapixels. Then he brings the picture up on his computer screen, and he reviews it there was one kind of crazy guy, a musician and painter, an inch at a time, to make it agree with the original who’s still a dear friend; he calls himself my brother.) that’s sitting there. When he’s done, he hits "Save." The truth is, I didn’t really consider myself a painter So when someone orders a giclee of one of my paint- until other people started to ings, he prints the image out on say to me, "Can I buy that?" I canvas or paper. The only thing mean, I had no idea what I was that giclee can’t replicate is the doing. I just sat down and depth of the paint, but I under- started painting. People ask me stand they’re working on technol- to describe my style — I don’t ogy that will do that. That’ll be know, I just paint realistically, scary, because you truly won’t be however I see things. People able to tell the difference be- have asked me, Why don’t you tween the original and the giclee. paint like this painter, or that As it stands now, even, the painter? I’ve come to under- reproductions are that good. stand that if I painted like so- They’re produced in eight colors, and-so, then who’s going to sometimes twelve, as opposed to paint like me? So I just paint four for lithography. It’s just like me, and I don’t mess with amazing. The giclees are cheap- it. er, of course, than the originals, and the best part is that I get to Giclee: No, It’s Not That Crappy sell the reproductions and keep Ben Affleck–Jennifer Lopez my originals. Movie Back in the U.S.A. About a year into my stay, I had my first exhibition in a little I would come back to the States boutique in Ios. Then came my once a year for an extended visit. first show in Athens. Oy veh! It View of the Village. By the mid-1990s, my father be- was a good show, and I had a gan ailing, so I moved back to be great time. When I returned to Ios, I left the paintings able to help my parents. (My wonderful dad passed away hanging in the gallery. A few weeks later, a friend from in December 2003.) Eventually I bought a house on the Ios who was visiting Athens told me, "I went to see your east end of Long Island, right on Moriches Bay. I sold it exhibit, and the gallery was closed up, and there was in the summer of 2007, about ten seconds before the note on the door." It turned out that the gallery owner big real estate crash. Now I rent a house in Westhamp- had been stealing all of his artists’ paintings, including ton Beach, because I don’t want the responsibility of some that were worth lots of money. owning a house. I had to go to Athens and get involved with lawyers. In contrast to Ios, where there was no artists commu- He was put in jail, and in the end, I got all but three of my nity, here it’s almost too much! You go to a party and tell paintings back. Luckily, one of them had been turned somebody you’re an artist, they go, “Okay, next!” Every- into a poster, so it still existed, and the other two weren’t body’s a friggin’ artist out here, even the plumbers and major kind of works. Plus, at least I had photos of them. the carpenters! I guess it’s the East Coast equivalent of It was a nice first galley exhibit, huh? A real learning ex- waiter-actors in Hollywood. The Greeks know who their perience. artists are, and they revere them, whereas here it’s like That “adventure” led indirectly to my involvement in … forget about it! giclee. The word giclee is French for "squirt" or "spurt." The thing I miss most about living in Greece is not (They really should have picked a better word, so I don’t having a cafe to go to at the end of my workday. As my have to explain it every time.) What it is, basically, is a Continued on page 26

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Greek got better, the political conversations became a little more intense, and the Greeks love to talk about that stuff. They have very strong opinions. I’ve been back there several times since returning to the States. I spent a month with Michalis in 1999. The following year, he died of pancreatic cancer. I didn’t go back again until 2005; because I was un- able to be there when he was dying, I wasn’t sure how people would re- spond to me. But from the moment I stepped off the boat, it was as if I got a hug from the entire island. It was just a very beautiful experience. The last time I was there was in 2007; I’m thinking of going again sometime this spring or summer. (Above): Robbi and Maya, who died Dog Days: A Cross-Country Trip in 1999, in California on their cross- country trip. You can see all of her Having been away from home for paintings at www.robbiart.com. more than a decade, in the fall of (Left): A painting from Robbi’s L.I. 1997 I decided I really wanted to see I had originally planned to paint farmstands series. what America looked like. I put my as I went. I had all my supplies with (Upper left): Mookie! Mookie! Mookie beloved black cocker spaniel/mutt, me, but it just became not possible Wilson, that is. “The Mets have al- Maya, in the car, a 1993 Nissan to do both in two months. If I had six ways been my team, for better and Maxima, and off we went. I’d gotten months, maybe. So I started taking for worse. In early 2000, I took about her five years before, while living on pictures. I took maybe one thousand a thousand photos at the Mets’ Ios. Since Maya was from there, she shots. Then when we returned home, spring training camp. Throughout the “spoke” and understood Greek. She I spent the next fifteen months doing summer, I produced something like was the perfect traveling companion all the painting — every day, putting fifty paintings. The timing couldn’t — never complained, never said, "I in ten hours or more — producing have been better, because, of don’t want to go there." As long as eighty-eight small watercolors. course, the Mets were on their way she was with me, in the backseat, For the past five years, I've been to the World Series.” she was totally happy, and we had a painting the farmstands of the East great time all around America End of Long Island. I'm currently on I’ve been painting full-time now One of the places that most im- number twenty-one. As with the for more than twenty-five years, and pressed me, even though it’s a paintings of Ios, this reflects a desire I’ve become less rigid about pacing "tourist attraction" would have to be of mine to paint places that are van- myself. When the inspiration is there, Mount Rushmore in South Dakota. ishing from our way of life; kind of a I’ll work pretty intensely, without in- We happened to be nearby, so we historical record of the way things terruption. But one thing I’ve learned went. And it was unbelievable, both were/are. Indeed, some of the farm- is that inspiration doesn’t desert you from an artist’s point of view and the stands I've painted no longer exist, just because you decide to take a technical aspects of it. Pretty mind just in the time I've been working on break. It’ll still be there when I come blowing; very unexpected. this series. back to the canvas. ◘ -

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Iris Weinstock David Goldman Continued from page 18 Continued from page 18 want to go to law school. And Evan is an English major at I have the utmost admiration for Paul, who became a Kenyon College. Like his dad, he’s also a great musician; well-known location photographer. In 1980 he ap- plays guitar, piano and drums. proached me about becoming his agent. Basically he was offering me a desk, a phone, and a salary that was I’m with the Band! less than half of what I’d been making. Probably doesn’t sound like much of an opportunity, but I knew that it was Several years ago, Doug and I were invited to be in a exactly what I’d been looking for, even though I knew band called the Reticents. It started out as a Bob Dylan very little about the world of photography, let alone how cover band, because the bass player, who put the band to sell it. David Goldman Agency was formed May 1, together, had gotten us a gig doing Dylan. It’s a five- 1980. piece group: guitar, bass, keyboards, drums, and me on It's not selling widgets, where you have a set price, a lead vocals, guitar and percussion. We’ve since ex- delivery process, a weight per item, and a rebate sched- panded our repertoire to include other music. We are ule. This was completely different. It’s like representing now doing Little Feat, Delaney and Bonnie, Traffic, the professional athletes or actors. One photographer might be worth $600 a day, another $25,000 a day. And, sometimes, how much the photographer earns comes down to nothing more than pure luck. I compare the experience to being dropped out of a spaceship onto a strange planet and being told, “Good luck making your way!” I went my entire first year in busi-

ness not making a nickel, and during the first five years, I almost went out of business four times. It was extremely difficult. Eventually Paul moved to San Francisco and, not too long ago, to North Carolina. I picked up other clients, including, for a number of years, Jay Brenner (‘72). Jay is a great commercial photographer; he’s owned his own studio for many years. [You can read about Jay and see his

work in the winter 2006 –07 issue, no. 15.] In 1983 I also started representing a few illustrators: Saul Mandel, Norm Bendell, and Jim Kingston. In 1985 I landed the Perrier campaign, which literally changed my life. You may remember “Perrier: Earth’s Iris (center) as one-third of the dance-pop trio Girl Talk, First Soft Drink.” It was one of the best-known illustrated playing the Upper Manhattan rock club Trax in the early campaigns in our industry. I refer to it as my first “hit re- 1980s. That’s Karan Bunin Huss (JHS ‘72) on the left. cord.” From there, we went on to have more hits with launches of Budget Gourmet, Prodigy, and Levitra (!). Beatles, and Marvin Gaye, who I love. We’re interpreters Around 1987, I changed my focus, got out of repre- rather than faithful to the originals, with lots of great har- senting photographers altogether and started to exclu- monies. We don’t want to be considered a “cover” band. sively represent illustrators. That was a painstaking proc- We’re always changing the repertoire, dropping a few ess too, and I built the business client by client. Today I songs and dusting off a few others. represent a dozen highly acclaimed artists worldwide. Continued on page 28 Continued on page 28

The Reticents on the Internet David on the Internet

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For a long time, our drum- In 1989 a guy named David Anson Russo walked into my office, and we ended mer was the guitar player’s son. up signing the largest book deal for a first-time author in the history of Simon and He was amazing. But then he Schuster publishing. It’s been an amazing journey: some forty books deals, thirty- went off to college, so we asked five licensing deals, one hundred products selling worldwide. David is now my David Goldman to sit in. David partner, and together we’re create/developing new television/movie/product lives close by in Maplewood, properties, such as Combat Mission (USA Network/Mark Burnett), Who’s Got New Jersey. We would see each Game (MTV/Magic Johnson), and Hey Paula (Bravo/Paula Abdul). other over the years at one of My background in psychology and my experiences as a musician have defi- Chuck Hoffman’s jams. David nitely helped me in my line of work. I’ve always gravitated to people who are not became our regular drummer, uptight, who are not about ego, who are compassionate. And artists — whether it’s and we’ve become really good illustrators, photogaphers, musicians, or dancers — have a certain sensitivity and friends. I’m also very close with a way of looking at the world that really turns me on. his wife, Jamie. All in all, I cherish the path I’ve taken, and there’s very little about it that I The Reticents play all differ- would change if I could, although had I known how difficult the first five years ent types of gigs, although we would be, I probably wouldn’t have done it! I’m extremely fortunate that I got in- tend to do more performance volved in an industry where there’s no place to learn what I do. There’s no school type shows at many different for it, there are no courses for it. kinds of venues. It’s all for fun and we have a great time doing Something Else Pretty Big Happened in 1980 ... it. We just did an amazing fund- raiser for Haiti in Montclair I met my wife, Jamie, in August 1980 through a mutual friend of our parents. where we performed with Dated her a week later and afterward wrote a poem at three o’ clock in the morn- Grammy winner Christian ing, knowing that this was the woman I was going to spend the rest of my life with. McBride and some others. We She’s originally from Dix Hills and is an amazing jewelry designer, with the great- raised $20,000! At this point, est smile and laugh, and the most compassion and sensitivity of any woman I’ve we have a really great fan base. ever met. Every time we play, a couple Our daughter, Alex, is a junior at New York University, majoring in culture, me- hundred people come out to dia, and communications. She’s off studying in Paris this semester, then goes to see us. In fact, the other day I Buenos Aires, Argentina, in the fall. My wife and I played together in a band called went into a local café to get Madison for six years, and our daughter thought that was the coolest thing in the some coffee, and this woman world. It certainly wouldn’t have happened when we were kids: going to see your comes up to me and says, parents’ rock band. "Wow, I saw you guys the other I got to know Iris Weinstock really well through our mutual friend Chuck Hoff- night. That was my music!! That man. For many years, Chuck, Neil Brodbeck, and I would play a place called the was my time!!” It was pretty Blue Hanu, in Huntington, once a month, for fun. After Chuck died of cancer, we funny. started having an annual summertime tribute to him at his wife Gina’s Itzkowitz’s Throughout all this time, house in Huntington. We’d bring out photographs of Chuck, and all these different music has never stopped being musicians would come around and make music in his honor. Iris and her hus- my passion. I’m still singing on band, Doug, were there. commercials and performing. Jamie and I started socializing with them, and then one day they needed a fill- Between the Reticents and Pro- in drummer for their band, the Reticents. It went great, so I filled in another time. peller Music, I’ve found a way to And then when they needed a permanent drummer, they asked me to join. Playing keep doing it. A different way, with them is a great inspiration. Iris sings like an angel, and Doug is one of the but it works for me. ◘ most respected composer-producer-writer-musicians in the entire New York area. Iris on the Internet As I like to say, playing music is the most fun you can have with your clothes www.propellermusic.com/site/ on, especially when you’re not trying to do it as a profession. They say you can’t relive your youth. Well, you can if you’re playing music! ◘

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Wanna learn what some of your former teachers are up to? Since we lived on the “wrong side” of Metropolitan Avenue, I at- Then drop in, pull up a chair, set a spell, but most of all — tended Richmond Hill High School NO TALKING ! — at the ... and not Forest Hills High. There was no bus service back then. When my son and daughter were young, they Faculty were incredulous at the lack of buses and the fact that we had to walk both ways to school unless (as I Lounge used to tell them) there was an available stegosaurus. Growing up, I had strong inter- ests in languages (specifically Span- ish, Italian, Portuguese, and Rus- sian), history, English, biology and earth science — any subject, in fact, that wasn’t math. I was also a fa- natic for the Brooklyn Dodgers and the New York Rangers, and went to as many games as I could afford. I liked to play baseball: shortstop and first base were my positions. Señor Mike Friedman: My friends and I liked to dance, go to parties, have sex — but no Maestro de Espanol drugs for me, ever. Some, but only some, would drink. A number of us grew up in Brooklyn, then moved to an apartment house in a lower-middle- used to go to “wicked” Forty-second I class section of Kew Gardens, Queens, when I was nearly thirteen, midway Street on Friday evenings for a din- through eighth grade. Fortunately, I made friends easily and was quite com- ner out for under two dollars (!), plus fortable in my new neighborhood. Maybe that had something to do with the another seventy-five cents for two fact that I was an only child; my mother was a very slender woman and al- movies. To pay for these trips, I most died giving birth to me. After that, she couldn’t have any more children. started to work as a delivery boy for a pharmacy for twenty-five cents an hour, plus tips. That was a munifi- cent sum in the 1940s! I had wanted to become a doctor specializing in psychoanalysis. How- ever, that was financially impossible even with scholarships. I decided to work with my foreign language skills, and thus teaching was my next alter- native. I transferred to Mexico City College, now known as La Universi- dad de Las Americas, for two years and graduated magma cum laude with a BA in Hispanic languages and literature. Why the interest in Spanish? For one thing, my mother's family traced back to Sephardic Spain, and, ac- Continued on page 36

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Jerry Moran staff, and the staff there was nuts work and closing for the bar. The too. I was the youngest but the most after-hours party started at 2:00 a.m. Continued from page 14 responsible, so I did all the paper- and lasted till midmorning. I became the de facto manager, and every- — though I would usually manage to thing else fell by the wayside for me. read the book and take enough im- I felt important. portant tests to pass. I dropped out of UNC during my At the end of the school term, I junior year to concentrate on that took two weeks off for final exams stupid bar. My association with the and to head down to the lake for a place had put me on the local map, few days. When I returned to Chapel and that meant a lot to a young kid. Hill, I made a beeline for the restau- By then, I was sharing a farmhouse rant and found a chain and padlock with an older girlfriend, a local. She on the front door. P.O.E.T.S. was was kind of freaky. Today? She’s a gone. Yep, that’s what happens state assistant attorney general! when the staff drinks up all the prof- The bar job came to an end when its. a new manager with a minimart A few days later, I lucked into a background was hired. He hated my coveted bartending job at my favorite guts, and I never missed an opportu- hangout, He’s Not Here Bar. I always nity to take a poke at him, since I wanted to work there in the worst was friends with the bar owner. One way. One night, a bartender passed Um, Jerry? Jerry? We’re hardly ex- night, the cash register was over by out behind the bar. I jumped in and perts, but, um, we think the grilled- $24 and change. I sat there all night took over. At that point, I was on the cheese sandwich might be done ... Continued on page 31

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Jerry Moran I worked the grill and was the best to Friends Academy, not JHS, but he man there. The owner’s sister said to knew a lot of people from Jericho. In Continued from page 30 me, “You’re very good. You ought to fact, he came with me to the go to the Culinary Institute.” “Reunion in 3D” at Milleridge Cot- trying to figure it out, and left a note “What’s the Culinary Institute?” tage in 2007.) He’d lucked into the and a mile of adding machine tape. “The Culinary Institute of Amer- gardener’s cottage on the old Lundy The next afternoon, the manager told ica.” Estate, now known as Villa Banfi, me that he’d been sure I was steal- Between the money I was mak- located on Cedar Swamp Road, ing from the register, and so he’d ing and the good feedback I was get- north of 25A. It was this really cool slipped an extra $25 in the till the ting, I decided to go into the food place on a deserted fifty-two-acre night before to see what would hap- business: become a chef, own a res- estate, with a huge vacant mansion, pen. He begrudgingly conceded that I taurant. My mom didn’t think it was a and we had full run of the place. I was not a thief. I quit on the spot. very good idea, though. She said, would up living there three years “You’ll never have a life outside of and, after graduating with honors Jerry Commits to Cooking it.” But I was just hell bent to do it. from the Culinary Institute, serving In 1977 I got into the Culinary as the property’s caretaker while A new late-night restaurant had Institute, in Hyde Park, New York. My working at the best restaurants in opened down the street. I already parents had moved down to the lake the area. knew the owner and asked for a job. full-time, so on the weekends I vis- On the weekends, I would drive The place was open from 10:00 p.m. ited with my good friend and former down to Manhattan to work at vari- to 2:00 a.m. — perfect hours for me. neighbor Mark Howard. (Mark went Continued on page 32

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Jerry Moran before. I went through the management trainee program, in Savannah, Continued from page 31 Georgia, a wonderful town. I had a little carriage house in the historic ous restaurants, usually in the dining district. room, to gain experience that the CIA The training program entailed could not offer. One of them was working in every department of the Sign of the Dove at Sixth-fifth Street hotel. Unfortunately, I had absolutely and Third Avenue, which was a high- no appreciation for the corporate end place with an elite clientele. I structure. I had always worked for remember Richard Nixon always small businesses, and nothing made coming in for brunch, and Jackie On- sense to me at Hyatt. It seemed like assis with John Jr. in tow. there was a lot of waste, window Sometimes I’d work a double Jerry with some of the La Cena staff. dressing, and CYA going on. Manage- shift, spending Saturday night sleep- ment would ask what I thought, and ing on a couch in one of the upstairs In 1980 I moved to Florida and I’d tell ‘em! Well, that didn’t go over banquet rooms. Then it was back out graduated with a B.S. in restaurant very well. to Long Island, and Monday morning management at Florida International To me, right is right, and what’s I’d head up to Hyde Park for the sec- University in Miami. While there, I’d wrong cannot be. I guess you could ond-shift classes. I also worked at coordinated a banquet for the presi- say that’s my motto. I just couldn’t two well-known Long Island restau- dent of Hyatt Hotel Corporation. He handle that corporate nonsense rants, both in Glen Cove: La Pace asked me to come work for Hyatt. I where you tiptoe around problems and Restaurant Zanghi. had never worked for a big company Continued on page 33

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Jerry Moran Continued from page 32 instead of attacking them head on. In a small business, everyone screams and yells. In the dining room, the mai- tre d’ stomps on your foot or pinches you. In the kitchen, you get burned or stuck with a fork. But problem get taken care of on the spot, and we all leave friends at the end of the day. Not so at the big hotel. The process ap- peared to be more important than the results. I quit and went back to work at small continental restaurants.

Striking Out On His Own

In 1982 I talked my dad into helping me open my own place in Jacksonville: La Pasta Fresca Ristorante. It was a little space in a rundown shopping center. I did the plumbing and electrical work, and my dad did most of the carpentry. We never pulled a permit for any of it! We featured fresh pasta made in-house, as well as the usual meat and seafood. It was just a hole in the wall, but the line was out the door. It was wonderful. Within two years, I had built a big building — 6,400 square feet — and went from a small place to a huge restaurant with two hundred seats and a staff of thirty-five. I am proud to say that many careers were launched from that spot. We kept a lot of kids out of trouble, too. When you own a restaurant, though, every five or six years you get the urge to change things. At least I do. In 1990 I closed the place, and leased the building to another restaurant. I announced, “We’re going down to Or- lando,” which we did, with the entire kitchen staff and a couple of the waiters. There was a recession going on at the time, but we did all right. The food was good, and we We were in the neighborhood, so we thought we’d drop were highly rated in Zagat. Looking back, though, it was by. Guests at La Cena have included some Jerichonians. a reckless thing to do. The move and renovation cost (Top) That’s Jerry’s former neighbor and fellow member every nickel I had. Today I wonder how I ever had the of the swim team, Jeff Soukup (‘72). Above: Jerry with nerve to do such a thing. violist Ann Roggen from the class of ‘71. Last summer My father had died in 1986. His only request of me she was in town playing with a symphony orchestra and was “Take care of your mother,” and my mom was still came by for dinner after the performance. living at the lake. I began to reorder my priorities. When an opportunity to sell the Orlando restaurant came up in Magazine named us “Best Italian Wine List 1997.” But, 1993, I took it and reopened in Jacksonville, but under once again, I got the urge to try something else. In 2000 the current name: La Cena (pronounced La Chay-na). It I decided to open a panini shop with a bakery instead of was good to be back home, and I settled into a routine of a fine-dining restaurant. working in Jacksonville and heading out to the lake on Jacksonville was on the upswing then, and the down- off-days. town area was being heavily promoted, so we moved La Cena, both in Orlando and Jacksonville, won all into the old Elks Building downtown. I found a little apart- sorts of awards: DiRoNA (Distinguished Restaurants of ment a block away from the restaurant. The renova- North America) rated. Wine Spectator rated. Restaurant Continued on page 34

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Jerry Moran tan, and is a very highly regarded, Juilliard-trained stand-up bass Continued from page 33 player. He knows Ann, who’s a professional violist. She was in Jackson- tion took over a year to complete. I ville on the Star Wars concert tour, did a lot of the work myself. We had which had a full orchestra playing the most delicious sandwiches. We music from the movies. Ann and all baked all the bread, roasted all the the musicians came in for dinner meat — even cured our own pickles. afterward, and we had a great time. But we couldn’t succeed with it. As it I’ll tell you, it was very rewarding to turned out, the downtown area was be feeding New Yorkers, who know full of office workers, and the culture their food! And they liked it too. of Jacksonville was such that people wouldn’t go to delis like they do in, Mamas, Don’t Let Your Babies Grow say, New York. After just five months, Up to Be ... Chefs? I said, “Fellas, as good as this is, we’ve got to go back to the old for- I’ve been in the business for thirty-six mat.” I renovated the place again years and have had my own place for and returned to being La Cena. twenty-eight. But to start up a new Who wouldn’t love to have one of Over the years, I’ve acquired a restaurant now would be nearly im- these in their basement? A pasta loyal following, and so we don’t ad- possible, and not just because of the “lab” for making stuffed cappelletti vertise at all. Because we’re down- current economic conditions. It’s an and tortellini and egg pasta. town, we get many business travel- expensive and highly regulated ers, and whenever VIPs come to proposition, and so it’s hard to make happened to me at my first job at town, they’re sent our way. All the money. But I’ve always been very P.O.E.T.S. The problem is, I would say politicians come in and have their careful. I’m a saver, and carry no that most people who work in restau- special tables. Delta’s in-flight maga- debt. Also, I’m mechanically inclined, rants have emotional problems, zine recommends La Cena as the so I’m able to cut expenses by han- mental problems, addiction prob- place to go for Italian in Jacksonville. dling maintenance and repairs my- lems. You can do well if the lifestyle I’ve always been able to mix with self. Like, just recently, the compres- doesn’t get the best of you and if you all types of people, which is helpful in sor on our walk-in cooler blew out. I are disciplined enough to resist the the restaurant business. Besides, put the new one in myself. That dark side of the business. I guess most famous people are pretty cool would have been a $4,000 job. I also I’ve managed to do that. and down to earth. (Although the do my own bookkeeping and payroll, So what you have today are kids ones that aren’t are a pain in the and handle half the cooking. At La whose families have spent $60,000 neck!) But I like being in the service Cena, we rely on no one other than or more to put them through culinary industry and helping people have a ourselves, and that’s a good feeling. school so they can get a $300-a- good time. You receive a lot of posi- Nowadays, with TV shows like week job — if they’re lucky. It’s very tive feedback from it, and that’s Top Chef (which I never watch), eve- hard work, and many soon realize worth some of the bitching you have ryone wants to be a chef. You see a that they’ve made a mistake. I have to endure. Something else I like lot of upper-middle-class kids that a small staff right now, and only one about owning a fine-dining restau- have been exposed to food and have of them is under forty-five. My assis- rant is the access you have to power- had a little experience with dining tant, Wilfried Hausy, is sixty-eight, ful and prominent people. I’m on a out decide they want to be chefs. and the two of us do the whole first-name basis with most of the They go get a part-time job. If you kitchen with a dishwasher and a pan- politicians and top business people can work at all, you’re accepted as a tryman. I hate to say it, but I’m reluc- in North Florida, and that helps when member of the team, and that’s a tant to hire kids at this point, be- you need to get something done. good feeling. You’re young, you’re cause, in my experience, they gener- You know who was in here last working with older people, and, sud- ally lack a strong work ethic and just year? Ann Roggen (‘71) from Jericho. denly, you’re hooked and get sucked can’t take the heat. My brother, Steve, lives in Manhat- into the culture. That’s exactly what Continued on page 35

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Jerry Moran Restaurant Depot for supplies. Jack- hour and be with like-minded people. sonville has come a long way in the Jacksonville, though, is kind of a de- Continued from page 34 supplies department, but I still have pressed, backwater sort of town, to order some items in from New with no night life. Most people go to Not only that, but I don’t know if York, like our signature coffee and bed by eight or nine o’clock! So, so- the younger educated folks know Mozzarella di Bufula cially, it can be isolating. I’m looking how to actually cook anything any- Once I’m back at the restaurant, at my video monitor right now, and more. At La Cena, we do everything I’ll fix anything that needs fixing and the street is completely deserted at from scratch. To me, it doesn’t make make business calls until it’s time to eleven o’clock. sense to have a beautiful kitchen start cooking. But, you know how it Part of the reason why is that and then buy processed and prefab- is. There are always interruptions, so Jacksonville is not a safe town. I’ve ricated foods. I have a pasta lab in I wind up taking care of a lot of busi- become very involved in the commu- the basement, and we make it all: ness in my office after hours. It’s, nity and trying to clean up downtown. the stuffed cappelletti and tortellini, say, midnight, I’ll fix myself some- In 2006 we had the Super Bowl and all the egg pasta. Everything is thing to eat, maybe check what’s here, and it was like being in a real fresh. All the bread and pastry is open in the wine cellar, and catch up city for a week! Jacksonville has tre- done in-house. on paperwork for a couple of hours. mendous potential, but the critical We have a large refrigerated ta- I’ve always been a night owl. Now, if mass has not yet arrived. I was chair- ble with eighteen drawers, just like a you’re in a big city like New York, man of the Sheriff’s Advisory Council filing cabinet. There we keep our there are places you can go at that Continued on page 36 mise en place. That means “everything in its place.” The meat is Me and Deirdre cut, the shellfish is peeled, the vege- tables are sliced, and so on. Chef Wilfried went through a formal Euro- It’s not well known, but my dear friend pean apprenticeship. He always Deirdre Rasulo (‘73) and I maintained an quotes one of his mentors: “Without on-and-off relationship for almost forty mise en place, you are nothing!” years. We had some great times together, When we get an order for some- and then she (usually) would get mad at thing, we take basic ingredients from me, and we’d break off for a while. But the table and cook it right in the pan. then we always got back together. It’s all ala minute, and that’s the old I would meet Deirdre when I was in way of doing things, which you see in New York, and she would visit me in Flor- very few restaurants these days. It’s ida. My mother liked Deirdre (a rare occur- all mostly assembling stuff now. They rence) and even thought we’d marry one may be creating gorgeous plates, but day. Deirdre is the only other person that there’s little substance — or flavor — has driven my 1994 Rx-7, and she was to it. Nobody cooks anything any- smart, and she could be tougher than I’ll more! ever be. The last time I spoke to her was As for owning a restaurant, my November 2008, when she called me late mother was right all those years ago one night after a long dry spell. when she warned me that I wouldn’t Then came a period of no contact. I emailed her the following Fourth of have time for much else. Luckily, the July to recall a great July 4 we’d shared some years ago. No response. But restaurant is what I like to do. On a that’s the way we were. A month later, the JHS newsletter arrived, with the typical day, I come in around two headline “Tribute to Deirdre Rasulo.” I said to myself, Wonder what she’s o’clock in the afternoon. By then, up to now? I knew Deirdre to be a closet philanthropist and figured that she Wilfried — he’s an early bird — has had done something big. Then I read the first paragraph and learned that begun setting up the kitchen so that she had died of cancer in March. No one had called to tell me. I would have it’s all ready to go at five-thirty. My gone to her and held her hand. I like to think that she was protecting me, first job is to check reservations, and but I’ll never know. I do know that I still haven’t quite come to terms with then head to the farmer’s market or the whole thing.

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Señor Mike Friedman Jerry Moran Continued from page 29 Continued from page 35 cording to some genealogical “I started my teaching career “The local newspaper identi- papers in my uncle's safe in in Jericho on Wednesday, fied me some years ago as the California, two of my great, February 1, 1961, and never ‘love him or hate him chef.’ great, great (etc.) uncles were highly placed at the court of taught anywhere else until my Too bad for my detractors, I King Ferdinand and Queen Isa- retirement in 1992.” say.” bel around 1492. All were forced to leave Spain. This enormous act of stupidity — that is to say, the last year. The city was on the upswing expulsion of the Jews and the Moors from Spain — led to its downfall as for a while, but I’m afraid it’s spiraling a world power. But I digress. My maternal grandfather spoke Ladino, the downward again, and it’s not going to Sephardic version of Spanish, but died when I was very young. Thus I change until we get a new mayor. I com- never learned the language. pare it to what New York City was like in I started my teaching career in Jericho on Wednesday, February 1, the mid-1970s. At night, the area is 1961, and never taught anywhere else until my retirement in 1992. Al- overrun with vagrants and panhandlers, though I began in the senior high school, over the years I taught all post- many of whom are quite aggressive. elementary grades, from seventh through twelfth. I very much loved my Most people don’t go anywhere without subject and enjoyed working with young people, and using my skills and some kind of a weapon in their pocket, my empathy for people. Not only was I immersed in the Spanish-Hispanic myself included. culture, I transmitted much of it to my students over the years. I went on Still, it’s a very interesting life. I love to acquire my master’s degree, magna cum laude, and over time ac- to cook. I love to please people. And quired some 135 graduate credits as department chairman, guidance even though it becomes most of your counselor, and special education teacher. existence, it’s very satisfying at the same time. It’s as if it were a spiritual Passing It On calling. Hospitality work is not defined as subservience to another but rather I now live in Jupiter, Florida. My son, Mike, who lives in Atlanta, is a very providing a product in the form of ser- successful criminal attorney. He uses Spanish exclusively except in court vice to the guest. Over the years, I’ve and is called to represent clients from throughout the United States and seen it all, but one thing I will not toler- all over Latin America. Lisa, my daughter, a very fine reading and English ate is for a guest to abuse my staff. If teacher, lives nearby. I am very proud of my children, as was my late that happens, the meal is terminated, wife, Elsa. Fluent in five languages, as well as two dialects of Italian, she and out the door they go. It doesn’t hap- and her family suffered under the Nazis during World War II but survived, pen much anymore, but I attribute that and we enjoyed forty-two wonderful years together until her death in to twenty-eight years of weeding a small 2003. The pain of that terrible loss and her final two and a half years of market. The local newspaper identified suffering cause me pain every day and night. me some years ago as the “love him or I still try to learn something “Spanish” every day and have dedicated hate him chef.” Too bad for my detrac- part of my life to accumulating knowledge for its own sake, because tors, I say. every day I realize how ignorant I am. The more I “learn,” the more new You never know what path you’re questions arise for me to explore. ◘ going to take in life. In my case, my course was laid out for me: Go to UNC, get the accounting degree, work a cou- Everybody’s Got a Story to Tell — Even You! ple of years, then get the MBA. Today, How about sharing it in the pages of your JHS Classes and 1971- when six o’clock rolls around, and I’m at 1972-1973 Thirderly Online Newsletter? Feel free to write it your- the restaurant talking to guests, I’ll say self or, as is usually the case, feel like a real big-shot and be inter- to them, “You know, I’m not supposed viewed over the telephone. Interested? Get in touch with Phil. to be here. I’m supposed to be at the Greensboro Country Club right now, having a drink!” ◘

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Concept: A girl. A camera. Rachel Glickman’s And the greatest city in the world. The last remnants of the 1 meat packing district, with boutiques on either side.

Guy at Lincoln Tunnel hand- 2 feeding pigeons. He was spotted on the Upper West Side, too.

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4 The definition of adventur- ous in NYC. A Bentley at a muni-meter?

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