The Record-Setting Class of 2006 Graduating Class Receives Offers of More Than 2 Million Dollars in Grants and Scholarships

Carolina Friends School Summer 2006 The Record-Setting Class of 2006 Graduating class receives offers of more than 2 million dollars in grants and scholarships. When Carolina Friends School to go to school.” Randy notes that held its Meeting for Graduation one student who was offered on June 11, it was to honor a class admission to an ivy-league univer- whose performance has been sity has chosen to attend another record-setting in important ways. fine school offering him opportu- We are pleased to congratulate nities more closely related to his the Class of 2006 not only on interests “I know there are many their varied accomplishments but places where he would have been also on their exciting future plans, counseled, even pressured, to which for most includes college choose the ivy. It’s wonderful that matriculation. our students are allowed the inde- Around 95% have accepted pendence to choose the institu- offers from colleges of their tion that best fits their academic choice. “The emphasis here is on and social needs.” photo by Amelia Shull ‘choice,’ says Upper School coun- “It’s also great that so many in of more than 2 million dollars in grants the ways in which these students’ lights selor Randy Berry. “Not only do this class were offered admission and scholarships, not including finan- have shone brightly. We’re delighted to these schools constitute an to this state’s most selective public cial aid that students would have to pay congratulate the CFS Class of 2006. impressive list, but they really do university,” Randy says. back. [See page 2] represent where the students want This year’s grads also received offers These numbers are only some of

From the Principal Strategic Planning, Shared Values, and Spiritual Purpose by Mike Hanas Three years into my work as principal of bilities of our Board. Rest assured, they have state of readiness to embark on strategic plan- CFS, I’m finding the writing of my article for moved toward this state of readiness very ning for the School?” the summer edition of We & Thee a daunting deliberately. The Board considered the query at their last task, again. Readiness for a vacation may be a The Board’s efforts over the course of this meeting in June, in a format known by factor, but I think most significant is the fact past year have included (1) familiarizing them- Friends as worship sharing, which involves that what I have so deeply felt and want to selves with current external trends—demo- periods of silence as the context from which share is just hard to describe. I hope you’ll graphic, social, economic, political, scientific members contributed their views. To prepare read on. and technological—likely to impact the for that meeting, they reread Chapter 4 of the During its final Meeting for Business for School; (2) developing a richer understanding Governance Handbook for Friends Schools, the 2005-06 school year, members of the CFS of several internal issues and opportunities titled “Shared Vision and Strategic Planning,” Board of Trustees confirmed their readiness to such as professional culture, tuition aid, and prepared by Friends Council on Education lead the School community’s fourth strategic facility needs that CFS will likely face and and Philadelphia Yearly Meeting. The chapter planning process. This is big news for CFS, enjoy in coming years; and (3) highlighting begins, “What is the significance of a shared where, in addition to hiring, evaluating, and if the importance of attending to the voices of as vision in a Friends school? In a Friends necessary firing the principal (yikes!), strategic many as possible in the CFS community school, the ‘visioning’ process draws from the thinking and planning are primary responsi- before considering the query: “What is our spiritual purpose of the school’s founding, and continued on page 11 We & Thee 2 Congratulations to the CFS Class of 2006

Emily Holladay Anderson Collin Blackmore Joel Bronstein Lynsay Megan Bush Leah Marie Civiok Banks Thomas Clark Elizabeth Ferree Clark Caitlin Louise Conner Rachel Anna Cotterman Sutton Freedman Abbie Lillian May Gabrielson Rachel Whitney Galanos Ross Adam Cohen Goldberg Ari David Gross Ian Michael Hayes Elsa Dora Craige Hoffman Eugene Chaney Howe photo by Amelia Shull Elizabeth Anne Ladd Rachel Emily Laliberte Rose Anna Laudicina What’s Next for This Year’s Grads? Aaron Lopez-Barrantes Fall will find five of this year’s grads close to home at the University of North Samuél Lopez-Barrantes Carolina at Chapel Hill. Three will attend Oberlin College in Ohio, two have Sachi Devidasi Maclachlan chosen Earlham College in Indiana, two have selected Smith College in Christopher Lloyd Maternowski Maya Joanne McKean-Peraza Massachusetts, and two are enrolling at the University of Vermont. The rest Ryan Scott McLaughlin of the class of 2006 will attend: American University in Washington, DC; Sara Anne Mitchell-Olds Beloit College in Wisconsin; Bucknell College, Franklin and Marshall Schuyler Peters Nowicki College, and Lafayette College (all in Pennsylvania), Emory University in Ava Christine Page Sarah Plonski Georgia; Hawaii Pacific University; Hofstra University and Skidmore College Matthew Rubin in New York; Lewis & Clark College in Oregon; Mount Holyoke College and Rachel Frances Schonberg Simmons College in Massachusetts; Pitzer College and the University of San Zachary Pascal Strom Francisco in California; St. Olaf College in Minnesota; Washington Allison Mara Ulrich Misha Florence Ulrich University in Missouri; and Alamance Community College, the University of Nicole Maria Urdaneta North Carolina-Asheville, and Warren Wilson College (all in North Carolina). We & Thee 3 On Campus this Spring photos on this page by Laura Shmania Grandparents Day 2006

In April we welcomed more than a hundred grandparents and We are fortunate to have grandparents involved at CFS in friends of Early, Lower, and Middle School students for a many ways, and not just once a year. Some volounteer as read- morning of sharing and celebration. In the Lower School, stu- ing partners, in the library, or even on the baseball field. We dents interviewed our guests about times past. thank them all! Upper School performs The Laramie Project

CFS hosts students from Qatar. In April, CFS welcomed thirteen students from the Middle East International School (MIS) in Dohar. The week-long visit was arranged by Malik Dixon, a CFS alum teaching at MIS. The group included students from Qatar, Bangladesh, Pakistan, Egypt, Jordan, and Lebanon. After visiting New York City, they came to North Carolina, where they stayed with CFS families, attended classes and Meeting for Worship, cheered at soccer games, and developed friendships. Plans are in the works for a group from CFS to visit Qatar next year. We & Thee 4 End-of-Year Sessions Continue Outreach, Service, and Learning Students return to Newton Grove, NC In May CFS freshmen spent their end-of-year session in Newton Grove, where they worked with migrant farmworkers. In a tradition established by the class before them, these students will return to Newton Grove in the fall of their sophomore year. Photos below and to the right by Elise London.

Another trip repeated this year was the one designed by one of last year’s graduates, to La Isla, El Salvador, where students had plenty of opportunity to practice Spanish while engaging in community service. Photo left by Dave Worden. Other Upper School end-of-year experiences included a trip to Ireland, a camping/backpacking/rafting trip out West, a trip to Savannah to work with a Head Start program, and many internships. Meanwhile Middle School students were engaged in their Exploratorium session. Opportunities involving outreach and service included Doing Something for World Peace (connecting with our sister school in Afghanistan and the Al-Imam School in Raleigh) and Sharing the Gift of Reading with students at Forestview School. Others included studying and experiencing rollercoasters, flyfishing, power webbing, super- charging your brain, and more. These intensive learning experiences are a hallmark of a CFS education.

In honor of our students from Rwanda, the Upper School has chosen to Upper School’s focus their required summer reading on some of the important issues fac- ing Rwanda. Staff are developing activities that relate to the 1994 geno- Summer Reading cide, mountain gorillas, and what these experiences have to do with a small Quaker school in the woods. Each student is required to read one or both of these books: An Ordinary Man: An Autobiography, by Paul is Focused Rusesabagina with Tom Zoellner; or In the Kingdom of Gorillas: Fragile Species in a Dangerous Lane, by Bill Weber and Amy Vedder (sister of a on Rwanda CFS parent). We & Thee 5 Come and Celebrate With Us

photo by Laura Shmania Please join us at the new Upper School building on Thursday, Sept. 21 from 7 to 8 p.m. for a community-wide celebration of a new school year and space that will enhance our students’ experience at CFS. Current and former parents, students, staff, board, and friends are invited. Principal Mike Hanas will review our forming arts productions. And learn about We will provide light refreshments, as well recent accomplishents and present a vision of the structure’s unusual “green” features, as child care for children from preschool future possibilities. including gardens that will provide an ele- through middle school. You’ll be able to explore the beautiful new gantly simple water reclamation system for We hope to welcome many friends of CFS building that will allow the Upper School to the upper third of the campus. You’ll also past, present, and future. For more informa- gather comfortably for commuunity meet- have a chance to see renovations to the origi- tion, contact John Ladd at 383-6602 ext. 270 ings, Meeting for Worship, and smaller per- nal “log cabin” Upper School main room. or [email protected]. Planning for the Best Gift Did you know that you can make a gift to your heirs, an IRA may not be the best wise passing of assets to heirs. CFS and ensure enough income for you and choice. Your planning might also include cre- When considering a planned gift, people your spouse for your lifetimes? ating an endowment that honors someone often think of a bequest through a will, and “We can discuss simple and safe ways for and/or supports the School in a way that’s Matt is glad to help supporters plan in this you to have a guaranteed annual income for meaningful to you. Or, you may be thinking way. “Bequest wording can be simple,” he life and then give the remainder to CFS,” says about making a cash or stock gift and are just says. Matt Drake, Planned Giving Coordinator. undecided about the timing. When you con- To initiate a confidential conversation “You may be pleasantly surprised at the sider the current availability of a matching about any of these forms of planned giving, amount of annual income you can receive, gift that will double the impact of your gen- please contact Matt Drake at 919-383-6602 your tax savings, and the size of the gift you erosity, you may decide to complete your gift ext. 228 or [email protected]. “We’ll sit can make.” to CFS this year or next. down together, identify your objectives, col- Planning can ensure that your assets are Other forms of planned giving may lect and review alternatives, and then you wisely passed on to your heirs to best achieve involve more consideration, because planning decide what, if anything, to do,” says Matt. your goals. For example, we can show you can have many benefits, including the joy of “The best decision is the one that makes you why, when choosing which asset to give to giving, tax savings, lifetime income, and the the happiest.” We & Thee 6 A Whale of A Tale:

This spring Lower School’s Forest Class decided to venture into a study of oceonography. They began with a field trip to How a Lower School the coast, where they visited the North Carolina Aquarium at Ft. Fisher and brainstormed a list of ocean animals that they saw and wished they could have seen. Class Created a Each student chose a sea animal about which they could become the “class expert”-- manatees, loggerhead sea turtles, cuttlefish, killer whales, and more. They conducted research Life-sized Lesson and recorded important facts. Once they completed their research, they wrote a series of Little Books About the Big Ocean. in Oceanography. While students were engaged in research and writing their

The Egg & Eye tor so compelling for students ages 10-14. afforded students an opportunity to immerse Science Takes On And then contraption after contraption fol- themselves in the scientific method, from start lowed the same path and resulted in the same to finish, in little over an hour. Humpty Dumpty drippy ooze, until one egg The problem statement: what will enable an survived. All of this egg to survive a drop of various heights. The by Henry Walker hypotheses: various contraptions made by 12 How would you use straws and masking groups of students, with different procedures tape to package an egg so that it could with- for crafting their devices. The variables: how stand a drop of 5 feet, 10 feet, or more? straw and tape were utilized, as well as the This was the challenge that former Middle heights from which the eggs were dropped School teacher Bill Messer (now an M.D.) (students could choose lower or higher). The posed for Middle School students on Science results dropped and dripped before the gleeful Day in May. Students then divided into crowd. groups, collected materials, and set to work. Thus kicked off Middle School Science Day Eggs were dropped without protection to ‘06--filled with a morning of workshops serve as control and to engage the “yuck” fac- offered by community scientists, parents, and We & Thee 7

books, the class also watched videos about sea life, conducted sea water visitors whom they would invite to join them in the gymnasium on the experiments, discussed the water cycle, and began talking about whales. day they would inflate the humpback whale. Someone suggested that they could learn a lot about whales by That day was June 7. Students from the other Lower School classes, attempting to build one, life-sized. Could they do it? They found plans as well as the Campus Early School, were invited to the gym, where on the internet, obtained materials, and set to work, resulting in the they were offered tours of the humpback whale, inside and out, and inflatable 60-foot humpback whale, pictured above. where they were able to query student experts about the whales featured The whale is constructed of plastic sheeting, with an inner side of on their their poster projects. clear plastic on which students sketched the whale’s skeleton, and an Nobody said they felt like Jonah, and all agreed that this is an excel- outer black side that did nicely for the whale’s skin. lent example of Friends School philosophy in practice: learning Once the Little Books were complete, Forest Class students joined through inquiry, collaboration, action, research, multi-modal explo- “whale groups” to study other types of whales. They collected research ration, reflection, and just plain fun. and created group poster reports that they would be able to present to

Upper School students. The workshops people in different age groups? included fossil making, electricity/magnetism, Do people do better on math problems DNA, “blue disease,” double helix, chemical if they think they’re from the SAT or from a reactions, making curds and whey, baby rats, fourth-grade textbook? yogurt/cheese making, the water cycle, intro How do different music genres affect free to some of the basic tools used in family and throw shooting performance veterinary medicine, and more. How does dress affect clerks’ reactions to In the afternoon, students, teachers, and a customers? panel of judges toured the gym lobby, where Which digital cameras are best for which about 100 science experiments done by CFS kinds of pictures? middle school students were on display. Which soft drink, combined with The projects ranged widely. Among the Mentos, makes the most gas? questions these young scientists explored: At the end of the day, one student declared How does talking on a cell phone affect that Science Day should take place every year. performance on a driving video game? “It’s a great day for learning and exploring.” How does meditation affect the pulse of We & Thee 8

I've had a fabulous time with him, but point on the European leg of the tour grass to countrypolitan) populated by News of have recently started the job hunt. My coming up this summer. We have a well-drawn characters, most of whom Alumni and Staff travel has been limited in recent years beautiful home next to a horse ranch, a were engaged in either confession or to Canada and India to visit Ameena's wonderful 8-year-old godson, and our righteous confrontation.” The May reunion and visits to cam- family. I have not been to Gaza since special black lab/chow.” Sarah Gillman Whitney ’87 is mar- pus have generated much news from the fall of 2000 when I worked with Leanne Darling ’86 is a full-time ried, with a 7 year-old boy, Dylan. She and about alums, which we much the Palestinian Centre for Human musician (viola) in NY City and lives in and her husband are partners in a appreciate. Please keep in touch by Rights at the outset of the second Brooklyn. She teaches viola privately design/build company in Eugene, OR. emailing [email protected] or stopping intifada. Previously I lived in Gaza for and performs around the city and the Sarah is a landscape architect-in-train- by the Development Office when significant parts of 1993 and 1997- US. Leanne plays all different styles of ing with the goal of gaining her land- you’re on campus. 1999. As for basketball, it’s hard to viola music, specializing in Middle scape architect license. Their nine-year- believe I'm old enough Eastern music and just completed a old company focuses on green design for the old men's CD (www.leannedarling.com). She and materials along with the integra- leagues (over 35). It continues to see other CFS alums tion of the home and landscape into wasn't too long ago around her neighborhood. the surrounding ecosystems. They seek those guys laboring up to reduce the energy use of a building and down the court Sylvia Darling Greene ’83 graduat- through design and utilize alternative seemed ancient to me.” ed from Haverford College and then energy systems to aid in this goal. traveled and worked in a variety of jobs. Kyra Caspary ’89 Sylvia is married and lives in Raleigh Stefan Gottschalk ’86 is single and lives in CA with her with her husband, James, and two lives in Chapel Hill. He completed his husband, Mark boys, Avery (4) and Donovan (2). She’s PhD is computer science at UNC and Feldman. “I am a PhD an at-home mother these days. Prior to works in Research Triangle Park as a candidate in educa- having children, she worked at a sewing microchip architect for Nvidia, a “pro- tional policy at UC shop repairing sewing machines and grammable graphics processor tech- Class of ‘86 at the 25th Reunion in May. Berkeley. My sister equipment. In her “spare time,” Sylvia nologies” company based in Santa Tamara Caspary quilts. Clara, CA. He has worked there since attended CFS for three years and grad- 1999. Stefan’s interests include pho- uated from the NC School of Science Judie Davis Grooms ’87: “I am liv- Alumni tography, guitar, poker, ultimate and Math in 1988.” ing in Waynesville, NC and working as Frisbee, reading, and sometimes knit- an investment counselor with First Rosita Adamo ’04 visited CFS Sarah Coleman Craig ’86 does ting. Email Stefan at Citizens Investor Services. I am mar- recently and let us know she has spent bookkeeping, program development, [email protected]. ried to Ed Grooms, and we look for- the last two years in New York City and general staff support “at this really ward to celebrating our eighth wedding Bill Graves ’85 “lives in Charlotte studying and dancing at the Alvin Ailey funky teen center (www.ware- anniversary in October. He is retired with Jan (spouse), Emerson (daughter), School. She has been appointed to one house21.org) around the corner from from the NC Wildlife Commission and Pushkin and Tucker (dogs). I of the few openings in the Alvin Ailey my house. It is a crazy chaotic place and is now managing a restaurant/bar spend most of my time either being a II Dance Company and will dance that keeps me laughing and smiling day in his ‘retirement.’ We travel as much professor of geography at UNC with them on tour this upcoming year. in and day out. In many ways, I think as we can and particularly enjoy going Charlotte or preventing my 100-year- I have never wanted to leave behind the David Barrows ’95 lives in Atlanta on baseball trips and visiting different old house from falling down.” Jan is energy of adolescence. I am also a and works for a fencing company. He parks. We’ve been to Spring Training in helping start a K-4 Friends School. founding Board Member of the and his wife of four years, Allison, have Florida for the last three years.” a 13-month-old daughter. “Life is Sustainable Global Leadership Alliance Catherine Gutman ’85 works for a good,” he says. (www.sgla.org), a program to teach Matt Feinberg ’86 has lived in NC, German pharmaceutical company, young adults leadership skills for a sus- Oregon, and Colorado over the last few Schwarz Pharma, in Raleigh and has Fleming Best ’86 lives in Hubert, tainable world and plan to go to India years, earning degrees in philosophy been there for the last five years. Her NC, near Swansboro. She works as a with the program next summer. I am and religion along the way. While in responsibilities focus on finding prod- substitute teacher in Onslow County, finishing up a degree in Philosophy and Eugene, OR he assisted in the creation ucts to be licensed and developed for teaching grades pre-K through 12. Linguistics at the University of New of the Wellspring Friends School, treating diseases of the nervous system. When not teaching, she enjoys reading, Mexico. Meanwhile, my husband which opened in ’94 as an Upper Prior to that she completed a PhD in listening to live music, and appreciat- Chris is pursuing his writing, and we School. Matt has moved back to neurobiology at Duke. Catherine’s lat- ing art. Fleming helped organize and just had a well dug on our land in Chapel Hill and recently enrolled at est other interest is scuba diving. attended her 20th class reunion in May th Colorado.” UNC in the School of Nursing for a Catherine lives in Durham. and is already working toward the 25 BSN degree. Eventually, he’d like to Simone Costanzo ’85: “I have lived Samantha Hartford ’87 graduated reunion. return to Colorado. in Cave Creek, AZ for the last five from NC State with a degree in Michael Brown ’87: “I’m living in years. I moved from Atlanta, GA, Robbie Fulks ’80 lives in Chicago, English. For the last ten years she has Takoma Park, MD with my wife where I was a production coordinator writes, sings, and tours. In late June he worked at the NC State College of Ameena, our two-year-old son Amrit, for concert promoters for many years. sang at the Pour House in Raleigh. Veterinary Medicine where she is the and our dog Habibi. We are expecting Once in Arizona, I went back to school Laura Jackson ’80 and Jenni Osborne Assistant Director of Continuing another son in August. I left my posi- for my interior design degree and have Detwiler ’81 were two of Robbie’s local Education. She’s also in graduate tion as executive director of Partners for been working independently on some CFS groupies attending. Laura reports, school at NC State in the liberal stud- Peace (focused on the Israeli- amazing design projects. My fiancé “The place was packed . . . it was an ies program focusing on an “in-depth Palestinian conflict and specifically on Dale produces concert tours and is cur- awesome show!” According to a exploration of the human-animal ending the Israeli occupation of the rently the Production Manager for The Triangle Weekly Independent review- bond.” She enjoys her “children” (a Palestinian territories as the means to Rolling Stones world tour. I will soon er, “Robbie Fulks’ Georgia Hard was horse, a dog, and two cats). On a recent achieving peace) in July 2005 to be the join him to work on the tour as the VIP one of 2005’s top records, a tribute to trip, she took a cruise along the Alaskan primary caregiver for Amrit for a year. coordinator. We plan to marry at some the sounds of ‘70s country (from new- coast. We & Thee 9

Kara Ikenberry ’86 graduated in art “snacking and napping.” family enjoy ice hockey, camping, and jobs. My last show was right after 9/11 at Guilford College then lived and rock climbing. Rolf has his MS in (which event, horribly, I witnessed Susan Lindsay ’86 is living in worked in London for six months and mechanical engineering and recently from my Brooklyn rooftop). Then I Greensboro. She married Randy Fulk traveled in Europe. “I worked at Lu-E- sold his partnership in a private firm to decided I was tired of having a stom- in April ’05. Susan taught middle G’s (a Hillsborough restaurant) for a take a job at the University of achache all the time and quit acting. I school science in the public schools for number of years with Tim and Darlene Rochester’s Laboratory for Laser resumed piano lessons instead. Last seven years. Since then she has worked Wells. Kirsten Krueger and I went to Energetics. The ultimate goal of the year I worked on the Rachmaninoff as a visitor educator at the NC Zoo in India, Nepal and Thailand for seven Department of Energy funded lab is 2nd Piano Concerto, and this year per- Asheboro. Susan and Randy have trav- months where I real- clean, sustainable nuclear fusion ener- formed Rhapsody in Blue with my eled twice to ized I didn’t want to gy.” wonderful teacher. . . . I teach part- Uganda in recent work for anyone (as in time, which leaves me plenty of days to years on a project Evian Patterson ’98 graduated from a ‘real’ job). When I play with my son Will (3 last May) and to support locally UNC-Wilmington, studied Arabic and came back I started enjoy Brooklyn. My husband Nils and run ecotourism contemporary Islamic culture in Cairo, ‘Ikenhelp,’ doing odd I have been together since ‘94, married projects. They are Egypt on a Fulbright Scholarship, and jobs for people, which in ’99, and love our brownstone and expecting their returned in 2003. He lives in I am still doing. In backyard in the Windsor Terrace neigh- first child in Washington DC where he works for 1998 I was awarded a borhood. I am fortunate that I can see December. the Academy for Educational two-year scholarship or talk to my Manhattanite sister Kate Class of ‘85 at the Reunion. Her friend- Development (www.aed.org) on a position at the almost daily. Please call or drop by if ship with a USAID project that brings Palestinian Penland School of Crafts in the NC you’re in NYC!” CFS Middle School student has kept students into the United States for mountains. I met my husband Ronan her in touch with the school. strategic training programs in universi- John Sheffield ’85 attended CFS there (married in 2002). We moved to ties across the country. from Lower Chapel Hill in 2003 and both set up Leigh Millar Bhe ’86 lives in Wake Evian hopes to contin- School through studios (me:blacksmithing, him: pot- Forest with husband Tony and daugh- ue his engagement 9th grade and tery). You can check out our work at ters Tyler (4) and Maggie (2) She with Middle Eastern then transferred www.Ikensmith.com and www.nine- received an MS from NCSU in coun- cultures through inter- to Northern HS. toespottery.com. We are expecting our seling and worked on the staff there in national educational He completed first child in early December.” disability services for students. Leigh exchange programs high school recently received her real estate broker’s Kirsten Krueger ’86 married Rob and is committed to through license. Her company is Sweet Pea LaVelle (current Upper School Spanish bridging the gap of Durham Tech Properties, LLC. Leigh’s mother, Claire teacher) on April 15, 2006. They live in understanding Class of ‘87 at the Reunion and then served Millar (former Upper School coun- Carrboro. Kirsten manages research in between Arab and four years in mili- selor) visits often from Chapel Hill. reproductive health in Sub-Saharan American cultures. tary intelligence with special training in Leigh looks forward to her sister, Africa for Family Health International. Spanish. He holds a degree in philoso- Marianne Millar Milligan ‘85 and hus- Jasmine Powell ‘04 visited the She loves gardening. “We eat from our phy and creative writing from UNC. band Steve, and their children James Alumni office recently. She is a junior garden year ‘round,” she says. For the last five years John has worked (2) and Emma (1) moving from NH to at Oberlin College, double majoring in at the Research Triangle Institute man- Tom Krueger ’85 lives in Chapel Wake Forest this summer. biology and dance. She is working aging information technology services Hill. He and his wife Joy married in again this summer in a Duke research Lawrence (Lang) Moore ’86: “I am for the computer systems that support 2005. They have a six-month old boy, lab, a connection she made through an a partner in the law firm Robinson, the breadth of research projects there. Jack. Tom is a home builder and con- internship while at CFS. Bradshaw & Hinson, in Charlotte. Other interests include playing soccer tractor and has been in the building Intellectual property and antitrust liti- Betsy Rocap Johnston ’85 “I live in and disk golf, traveling, and “hanging industry for 24 years. Boyds, MD about 20 miles outside of gation make up the bulk of my prac- out with his buds.” DC on 30 acres. I have two children, Marnie Lamm ’86 “After Friends tice. My wife, Jennifer, and I are fin- Ryan (6) and Maddie (4). I work part- Marisa Soldi Spurrell ’86 graduated School and college, I went to veterinary ishing up renovations on a 1920s bun- time teaching group exercise and fitness from Warren Wilson College in school at University of Florida and did galow, where we live with our two classes and the other part I take care of Environmental Science with a Wildlife a residency in zoo animal medicine at daughters, Laurie Ellen (9) and Alison my kids! Both my kids love doing Management Concentration. It was UC Davis in CA. I then worked at the (3). I spend most of my free time pho- gymnastics as I did when I was at there that she met her husband John Los Angeles Zoo as a veterinarian tographing Laurie Ellen’s soccer CFS!” Spurrell. Marisa worked as a camp before deciding to deviate my career games.” counselor, helped with John’s tree care path a bit and go to medical school. I Daria Sanford ’87: “I graduated Claire O’Barr Culver ’86 “I live in business, was a wildlife research techni- am currently living in Beer sheva, Israel from Oberlin College where I studied Charlottesville, VA with husband cian in Minnesota and a veterinary and am finishing my third year at The English, Classics, and Theater. The Jimmy and kids Grace (9) and Andrew technician in WI. They’ve lived in NC Medical School for International Great Lakes Theater Festival in (6) (and a number of dogs, cats and since 1994. Upon returning she con- Health which is a program run jointly Cleveland gave me my first job, a high gerbils). I teach 2nd and 3rd grade at a tinued her vet tech work and then by Ben Gurion University of the Negev school residency program combining small, progressive independent school changed to an office position (HR and and Columbia University in NY that two of my great loves: teaching and in the country outside Charlottesville accounting). Over this time they also trains physicians specifically to work in Shakespeare, plus acting in their pro- — it has a number of similarities to traveled, camped, canoed, and biked in the developing world.” ductions. A prophetic start, because I CFS. I recently attended the am still a Teaching Artist today, not the US and Europe. Their son Haydn Matt Libby ’86 lives on a 44-acre Courageous Educators Conference at counting that seven-year break while I was born in 2000, and daughter farm in Rougemont, two acres of CFS and loved the chance to see what was trying to launch my acting career Doriana in 2003. They now live in which “he actually farms.” He is an CFS is like today.” in New York. Of course that meant lots Chatham County near Jordan Lake optician with an office in Durham and with a small menagerie of cat and dogs. Rolf Orsagh ’85 “lives in Rochester, of part-time work, acting training, act- also runs a commercial painting com- Marisa works as a private assistant and NY with his wife, Cynthia, and sons, ing in a lot of really bad plays in base- pany. Matt enjoys traveling, as well as professional organizer and volunteers at Mason (9) and Henry (3). He and his ments, plus a few fun and paying acting We & Thee 10 News of Alums and Staff (from page 2)

North Chatham Schools. She writes, “I career – eek!” Elementary School working with kids with all sorts of nonprofits in all sorts of look back very fondly at the environ- Teachers who have learning difficulties. Her ways. Both Darlene and Don are ment that CFS provided for me activities since retiring from CFS in enjoying their five grandchildren, sail- Norm Budnitz, former Middle School through the staff, students, parents, 1988 include “getting two new knees.” ing, gardening, golf, and reading. They and Upper School science teacher: and local community. I realize how find it thrilling to see what all the grads “After leaving CFS, I went to work at Wells Edleman, Upper and Middle lucky I was to be a part of such a nur- from CFS are now doing to make a bet- Duke with Steve Wainwright, one of School teacher 1977-1980s, lives in turing community that went up or ter world. my old professors from graduate school Durham. He continues a lifelong inter- down, left or right, exploring every sit- In Memoriam days. Together, we started a program est in local politics and energy conser- uation in consensus (all three levels called the Center for Inquiry-Based vation. Wells is attempting to help the squished into the middle school Learning (CIBL). The program has Durham Food Co-op and is working library) as a team - not without prob- been growing over the years, helped by against the (deja vu all over again) lems - but always as a team with a $5M National Science Foundation newly proposed increase of nuclear accountability! I would just like to say grant. Our current Director is Dave power plants in NC. to all the staff and students that helped Smith, who taught music and science to make me who I am today - THANK Mark Goodwillie, Upper School many years ago in the CFS middle and YOU VERY MUCH!” math and science teacher and basket- upper schools. At CIBL, we run work- ball coach in the 1980s, lives in Alice Stratton ‘86 “After CFS, I shops for K-8 teachers in NC, trying to Durham with his wife, Jean. He con- went to college, worked in DC, went to help them learn how to use inquiry- tinues to run Pelican Productions, a graduate school, lived in the DC area based methods for teaching science motion picture and video taping com- for seven years, got married, and moved (and other things, too). Many teachers pany he started after leaving CFS. His to CT. I now live in Westport, CT with think of science as just facts and vocab- daughter, Jennifer ’04, has completed my husband Mike, son Nicholas (5) ulary words. We’re trying to help them her sophomore year at NC State. and daughter Erin (2). For my ‘day job’ see science as process—experience I am ecologist for the National Marine something interesting, ask some ques- John McGovern works at CFS. John Alexander, CFS Interim Sanctuary Program, where I work on tions, try to find some answers, gener- Current assignments are Assistant Principal in1988-89, died June coral reef restoration policy & plan- ate more questions, and perhaps even Principal, tennis coach, and coordina- 22, 2006. He was 88. John ning.” more answers. We supply teachers with tor of new building construction, hands-on science kits and train them in among other responsibilities. He served enjoyed a long career as a univer- Tommy Thompson ’87 has been in their use, in hopes that they will let as the School’s Interim Principal in sity administrator at Columbia business for himself (TBuilt their students explore, experience, and 2002-2003. John lives near Durham University, the University of Construction and Design) for the last 7 enjoy doing science. And with real with his wife, Nancy Grebenkemper. Maryland, and SUNY-Albany. years. He’s a contractor specializing in luck, those students will actually get a Their son Jonathon ’97 lives in He also worked for the American home remodeling and additions. chance to do some real thinking, rather Charlotte and daughter Erin ’00 lives Friends Service Committee on Tommy lives in Durham. He is than just memorizing facts and imme- in Durham. John plays tennis, gardens, groundbreaking school desegrega- engaged to Brenda Osborne and likes diately forgetting them. In addition to and, occasionally, enjoys scuba diving. tion projects. John and his wife, to cook and eat. work, I continue to travel in search of Miriam, retired to Chapel Hill in Val Rosado, former Lower and Tim Wells ’86: “Tim and Susan the chance to see new birds—all over the mid-1980s, where they joined Upper School teacher, lives in VA and Wells are enjoying the country life the US (Texas, Arizona, and Alaska), as works as an independent computer the Chapel Hill Friends Meeting. north of Hillsborough with their chil- well as Scotland, Israel, and Costa Rica. consultant. She couldn’t attend the John served ably as Principal dur- dren Jonas and Jolene, now 13 and 11 Origami remains a passion, though I 20th anniversary class reunion but sent ing an important transition fol- respectively. Both kids attended Middle don’t get to do as much as I’d like, her greetings, saying, “Please give my lowing Don Wells’ retirement and School this year. Susan is the Lower mostly because I’ve taken on serious best to all the old FIRE alumni who John Baird’s first year. Afterwards, School After Hours teacher as well as gardening in a big way. I have joined were such an important part of my life he spoke often about CFS, admir- being a regular CFS Summer Programs forces with a couple of other friends, (and Jim’s too) in the mid to late-seven- ing its administrative structure, teacher. Tim continues — and loves — and we have been selling produce and ties. I loved teaching you all (and learn- outstanding teachers, and strong teaching at Campus Early School with nursery crops at the Durham Farmers ing from you, too)!” community. He was a leader in Libby Pittman Pendergrast and fellow Market Saturday mornings. Some of the Chapel Hill Meeting's deci- alumnus, Carly Baker Chapman our regular customers are former CFS Don Wells, former teacher, Middle sion to build a school house and (‘94).” students. If you’re in the area, stop by School Head Teacher, and Principal our stall—Four Leaf Farms. We’ll have writes, “Left CFS and was a invite CFS to use it for a full-time Martha Witt ’85 “is living in New something good for you to eat or plant carpenter/contractor for about 2 years; early school. York City and freelancing as a transla- in your garden. Still trying to nourish helped construct a new home (with tor for RAI, Italian Television. My fam- minds and bodies, I guess. Will I never Tim and Jeff) in Cedar Grove and ily consists of my husband, Remo, my learn!” moved there; purchased a restaurant in five-year-old son, Giovanni, and my We & Thee is published Hillsborough that Darlene ran for 12 daughter, Iris. In 2004, I published my Shirley Block, former Lower School years; worked as ED of Durham three times a year by first novel, Broken as Things Are Head Teacher, was grateful to receive County Habitat for Humanity for 4 (Henry Holt), and I am now working the 1985-’87 Reunion invitation. She Carolina Friends School years; worked as Director of Duke on a new novel. A short story of mine wrote, “My best wishes to the alums. I Mike Hanas, Principal University’s Certificate Program in will appear in an anthology of feminist know many of those on the list and Kathleen Davidson, Editor Nonprofit Management for 12 years; American women writers this August, remember them with very warm feel- left Duke in ‘05 and formed Laura Shmania, Photo Editor Not Chick Lit (Random House). ings.” Shirley and husband Marvin live DonWellsConsulting, Inc that does Doug Johnston, Consultant Mostly, I spend my time trying to jug- in a Chapel Hill retirement communi- consulting throughout the US working Printed by Quality Instant Printing gle the demands of motherhood and ty. Shirley volunteers at the Rashkis We & Thee 11 From the Principal (from page 1) from the school’s enduring mission, in order also in service, whether on campus, at the named, “is to empower its members . . . to live to assure the school’s continuing integrity and Episcopal Ministry in Newton Grove, NC, or more fully in Truth . . . to educate for good- viability.” As this school year draws to a close, in El Salvador. They feel it as they grapple ness, not by requiring its members to live cer- it is shared values, vision, and purpose, espe- with notions of good and evil in the Upper tain truths, but by enabling them to live their cially spiritual purpose, that are most on my School’s Senior Seminar, and when they make lives in ways that reveal Truth to themselves mind. use of a conference in order to resolve conflict and through themselves to others.” John As some of you have heard me say, I see val- on the Lower School playground. At our very Lester, Quaker educator and member ues shared more widely and deeply at CFS best we make manifest our of the Progressive Education than in any school community of which I have spiritual purpose in response Association, claims that the purpose been part. Coherence between mission, phi- to students who have failed of Friends schools is “to enable losophy, and practice is made visible in count- to do their homework, aced a (children) to come to an under- less ways as we pursue aspirations often test, forgotten lines, scored a standing with themselves about exceedingly difficult to reach. Nonetheless, I goal. what is right for them to do, and recognize that the day-to-day experiences of But how? Several examples then to a desire, an urge, a resolve students, teachers, and families involved in the immediately come to mind. to do it.” life of a school might suggest otherwise. We Lower School students and Heath then frames the chal- certainly hold different opinions and beliefs staff chose to build a whale lenge more specifically, “A about when, how, and how much foreign lan- rather than merely read about Friends school therefore, guage, math, spelling, reading, et al. should be one. Teachers responded to an should bring each, in the taught and learned. We disagree at least at Early School student’s question words of George Fox, to the ‘teacher with- times about grades, the role of competition, about the length of God’s leg so seriously that in.’” He goes on to suggest that the “climate the degree to which consistency/conformity the ensuing project, where students sought to should be one of high hopeful expectancy in would strengthen our disciplinary responses, build a chain as long as they imagined God’s the potential of its members for goodness. and the need for more (or less) structure in our leg to be, turned into a curricular thread link- Our hopes can create our reality. If we gen- Friends school. Given these and many other ing all units of the School, including guests uinely, and, of course, realistically, believe in sources of creative tension that animate life at who joined us for Martin Luther King Day. In the potential of our students, more likely than CFS, I ask you to join me for a moment and the Middle School a small group of students not they will rise to that expectation.” At CFS consider how it is that values are so widely and decided it was time for a Middle School liter- we believe, and, as our own mission states, deeply shared here. ary magazine and took upon themselves the “We expect the students of Carolina Friends I think the answer lives in this community’s tasks of designing, developing, and distribut- School to develop the skills, values, and confi- understanding of and commitment to its spir- ing Embers of a Mask, emphasizing that this dence that support a lifetime of learning, lead- itual purpose. This purpose was palpable in prolific publication is simply their first issue. ership, and service.” Beyond that establish- our Meeting for Graduation, which celebrated Even the Upper School’s summer reading, an ment of those expectations, staff members the accomplishments, uniqueness, and possi- inspired response to the arrival of students across the School strive to create the condi- bilities embodied in our 36 graduates. On a from Rwanda, embodies the practice of tions in which students’ best selves are most daily basis students and staff members alike affording students many different ways to likely to emerge. feel it not only in Meeting for Worship but deepen and demonstrate their understanding, At our very best we “teach students to listen also in dance, not only in courses and conver- many different ways to let their lights shine. within and to others, to express themselves, to sations about Quaker faith and practice but No less important, I think, is the frequency think critically, to take responsibility, to make with which we return to our founding, not a difference in their world,” and we do so in only as one of the southeast’s first deliberately Meeting for Worship, relationships, and deci- integrated schools, but as a school community sion-making; we practice those skills in classes, the core purpose of which is spiritual. Yes, our as members of search committees, crews, casts, graduates this year have earned over two mil- and teams, and in service; and, perhaps most lion dollars in scholarships, our student- importantly, we share in the responsibility for teacher ratios remain very low, the places we’ve the teaching and learning of the children in visited at home and abroad and the programs our care, modeling stewardship as collective we’ve designed are many and varied . . . but responsibility shared by staff, students, par- what animates, literally breathes life, into our ents, grandparents, even alums. In short, we work at CFS is the belief that there is that of make the nurture, support, and care of our God in each of us. As a result, while we most Quaker character the job of everyone. After often think of that which is spiritual as invisi- all, it is our viability and our integrity that are ble and untouchable, at CFS it can be seen at stake. and felt. Thanks for all of your support of CFS. 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Spring brought much fun, including Middle School Arts Day, including jazz performed outside the gym, and the culmination of the Lower School Homes theme, where students erected homes, including this model of a solar home, on the Lower School field.

photo above by Laura Shmania, below by Kathy Schenley