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❥ Shimmy, shake and twirl your tassels at Miss Indigo Blue’s Academy of Burlesque. Different from standard , burlesque is about the art of the reveal, as well as the playfulness of the performance, and the academy’s course offerings cover moves from beginner to beyond. Start with the “Bump & Grind Dance Class” (beginning March 4; running eight weeks) or the popular “Burlesque 101” (beginning March 8; running six weeks), which includes a weekly private lesson and ends with a student recital where you can show off a routine of your own creation. Also offered is an array of classes on specific fundamentals, such as “Walking in Heels” and “Burlesque Makeup.” And fellas, it’s not all about the girls: “Boylesque 101” (beginning Upcoming Academy of March 17) specializes in “masculine/ Burlesque other-gendered” representations One-Nighters of the art. >> Capitol Hill, West Hall of OddFellows Building, ❥ “A Taste of the Tease,” a one-hour 915 E Pine St.; 206.47.TWIRL [89475]; introductory sampler; academyofburlesque.com ¶ Miss offered February 16 Indigo Blue has become a Seattle and February 23 sensation with her performances at ❥ “The Art of the El Gaucho’s Pampas Room and the Tease,” a two-hour Triple Door. See for yourself what workshop that all the buzz is about. >> Pampas explores some of the skills of burlesque Room, downtown; 2505 First Ave.; legends; offered March 206.728.1337; elgaucho.com; Triple 28 and April 11 Door, downtown; 216 Union St.; 206.838.4333; tripledoor.net

Do the Hard Work

Best way to work on your relationship couples, on five occasions: February 20–21, May 1–2, July 17­ –18, September 25–26 and December 4–5 ($725­–$775; sign Even the best relationships can use a tune-up. If up at 206.523.9042 or gottman.com). The workshop aims to yours is in the doldrums—or worse—call Dr. John teach couples how to build affection and connection, and resolve 3 Gottman. An emeritus professor of psychology conflict. Drs. John and Julie will lecture and demonstrate skill sets at the University of Washington (where his through role-play, and individual couples will practice exercises “Love Lab” gained fame) and founder, along one on one, under the supervision of a clinical therapist, if with his wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, of The Gottman they like. Institute, Gottman has made a 30-plus-year career out of If money is no object when it comes to love, the Gottmans studying relationships, and has spent the past 13 years teaching also offer small-group, private retreats at their Orcas Island home workshops to couples aiming to keep it real. An accomplished (as many as six couples, over two days; $4,000 per couple, not G author on the topic, he’s written, among other titles, the best including meals, transportation and lodging; March 27–28, May N U O

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62 seattle february 2010 sex in our city 4 Cut a Rug Learn to dance together

If you and your lover want more groove in your moves, check out the Century Ballroom classes (around $60/five-week session; $50­–$75/hour for private lessons), an institution on the Seattle dance scene for more than a dozen years. Whether you’re newbies or seasoned dancers, the Century has a class that’s in step with your style. Every five weeks, expect a new round of options—from salsa and West Coast swing to tango and two- Anniversary dance step. And it’s not just about partner dancing here: The Century recently initiated The Century Ballroom a wildly popular Michael Jackson dance class, in honor of the late king of pop. will celebrate its 13th Also on the roster at the Century, the “queer series” for gay and lesbian couples anniversary—and the first anniversary of its Tin Table and singles (salsa, two-step, waltz and East Coast swing have traditionally been restaurant—with a party on the most popular) as well as twice-monthly queer dances. >> Capitol Hill, 915 February 27. Don’t miss it! E Pine, second floor; 206.324.7263; centuryballroom.com

movies Say what you will about Seattle’s dating scene (given that Seattle we are encased in rain-repellant fabrics much of the year, it is a bit of a miracle that anyone ever makes a connection), as the Hollywood seems to think it’s the perfect place for romance—or Romantic more specifically, for romantic comedies. The following handful of rom-coms set in Seattle are full of unlikely couples and their Lead attendant antics on the inevitable path to lurve. B.D.

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february 2010 seattle 63 timeline Sex in Seattle A look at our sometimes scandalous history

1853: The Felker House 1853: After taking over as manager 1967: The Dorian Society is founded of Felker House—Seattle’s first hotel, as Seattle’s first gay rights organization, at Main Street and First Avenue—Mary and Seattle magazine (unrelated to this Ann Conklin (aka Mother Damnable) one) publishes a cover story on “The diversifies the business, adding a Homosexual in Seattle.” brothel.

1969: Lesbian bar the Silver Slipper S E

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of Washington president Asa Mercer to was called the Amusement Center. E G

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to allow brothels, gambling parlors and N O saloons if contained to Skid Road (south Mary Kay Letourneau is arrested I 1997: T

of Yesler Way); opponents want to outlaw for second-degree rape of her 12-year-old C E

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1911: Seattle Mayor Hiram Gill is only serves six months (released January L A 1991: dan savage recalled from office for supporting an 1998). I C

Open Town policy, including granting a E P

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1930: “The Casino” opens at 1999: Center for Sex Positive Culture P O T

Washington Street and Second Avenue, (aka Wet Spot) opens in Interbay,

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1934: The Double Header opens in I Pioneer Square, believed to be one of the 2000: Cowgirls Inc. opens in Pioneer W K

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64 seattle february 2010 2005: Enumclaw horse sex case sex in our city

2002: Cowgirls Espresso opens its first of many local bikini barista stands in Tukwila. Expand 2003: First Seattle Erotic Art Festival Your (organized by Center for Sex Positive Culture) held in the basement at Town Skill Set Hall. Take a sex technique class 2003: Strippergate—the city scandal involving zoning laws and connections 5 ❥ If you’re looking to turn up your technique, the sexperts at Capitol Hill’s Babeland between strip clubs and organized crime. are ready to help. Debuting in Seattle in 1993, this woman-owned sex-toy shop now boasts additional stores in New York and Los Angeles, plus a phenomenal Web site, 2004: Letourneau released from where you’ll find a schedule of in-shop classes that will, as they say, have you and your prison. partner begging for homework. Show your man you’ve got game with “Score a Touchdown with Your Guy,” on Super 2005: Letourneau and Fualaau marry.

S Bowl Sunday, February 7, 11 a.m. to noon (admission is free; emissions are … well, E

G 2005: The Stranger holds its first never mind). The class promises tips from Babeland’s popular “How to Please Your A

M Hump! amateur porn film festival

I Man” workshop (plus, complimentary brunch snacks! Booyah!).

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I For couples, there’s “Cheap Date Night,” on Thursday, February 18, 6 to 7 p.m. (again,

B Lynn Shelton to create the award

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M club mandates, including bright lights, A: Be honest about who you are, what you want, and what you’re willing to E

L no direct tipping and city inspections settle for. Be “good, giving, and game,” as I’m always saying in “Savage Love,” G while shows are in progress. U and seek out a partner who is just as good, giving and game. You’ll have to O D

/ 2007: Suburban bikini-ed barista make compromises, of course, and you won’t ever find “the one.” There is no e n trend (Tukwila, Auburn, Shoreline) earns perfect partner or perfect fit. But you can come close if you prioritize sexual i o national media attention. fulfillment—giving and getting—during your hunt for a mate. M e L 2007: Zoo, the documentary based on s a the Enumclaw horse sex case (by Seattle l g filmmakers Robinson Devor and Charles u

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N “Draco” Lane-Smith and “Naughty”

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S Greenan’s polyamorous lifestyle in chocolate cake ($285). Afterward, introduce your amour to the pleasures of the pedicure

W Seattle, debuts on YouTube. Gains the ($55–$70/person) at the spa’s beautifully appointed pedi-room a deux, where you can U

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T >> Downtown, 1000 First Ave.; 206.957.1000; hotel1000seattle.com

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W couples massage, but a private bath and rain shower for an after-massage soak with 2009: Five bikini-ed baristas from the K

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february 2010 seattle 65 dating through the decades Decoding Seattle’s

Dating Scene By Diane Mapes Publications like Forbes and Marie Claire are constantly ranking Seattle as the center of the singles universe, based on our census data, our high volume of Starbucks coffee shops, and the fact that there are seemingly more sappy dating movies and TV shows set in our city than any other place on Earth. ¶ But what do Seattle singles have to say about the dating scene? Is there one? If so, who’s out there in it and how are they going about it? Do people even use the word “dating” anymore? Or do they prefer some euphemism like “hiking the Pacific Crest Trail”? (And if that’s the case, are condoms one of the 10 Essentials?) ¶ We penetrated the city and asked local singles for answers to your burning dating questions (as for that burning sensation, you really should see a doctor). Read on for our decade-by-decade breakdown of the Seattle singleton scene.

(Neumos or Showbox SoDo); hour at Wasabi Bistro in a coffee shop, especially one Belltown; or pizza in the high- of the busy independents backed booths at Via Tribunali where you have to share a on Capitol Hill. Other options: table or couch (think Vivace at Amid the drinks and DJs at the 20What’s it called? s South Lake Union or Victrola ’s quarterly Sometimes it’s “hooking up,” who cycles into the city from on 15th); or an art-friendly “Remix” (next one, February sometimes it’s “hanging out.” Edmonds, “because you don’t bash, like the Henry Gallery’s 26!); loud rock and smoldering Sometimes it’s just hard to know what’s going to happen. Open House or Bellevue Arts looks at the new Crocodile. explain. In fact, it’s generally If things start to get serious, Museum’s Finally Friday. Tip: Take a “BlackBerry break” hard to explain, because many though, then it’s dating,” halfway through the date so 20-somethings don’t even use he says. Or going out. Or The ask: Via Twitter, e-mail, you both can catch up on texts the word “date”—although something. IM or texting—anything but from buddies. most of them are dating the the traditional phone call. hell out of each other (usually How do you meet? On That’s out (VM is DOA). Also It’s serious when: You until 4 in the morning, after Twitter; at a friend’s party; at dead, that old saw about up your cell phone plan to which it’s time to head to the a bar like King’s Hardware in women having to wait for a unlimited texting. Hurricane Café for a chicken- Ballard; or through Seattle’s guy to make “the move.” fried steak). “It’s better if no Underdog Sports League, It’s over when: You catch one calls it anything,” says where it’s actually OK to The date: Hanging out at them pitching their Jones Soda Johnathon Fitzpatrick, a 25- tackle the people you think the Olympic Sculpture Park bottle off the side of the ferry year-old freelance journalist are cute. Other options: a club or Green Lake or Alki; happy MV Issaquah.

Are you asking me out? Are you just being The ask: Via phone, e-mail, texting, friendly? I have no idea.” Facebook or face to face. And though either/ or asks (particularly with online dating), many How do you meet? Online at Nerve or women still prefer guys to “put out” first—at OKCupid or PlentyofFish; face to face at a least with regard to the asking. “Men are 30What’s it called? Althoughs the “tweet-up” at Hotel Max or Cocktails for a amazingly passive in Seattle,” says Damiana, D word is passé, most 30-somethings Cause at the Triple Door (both downtown); via who suggests Starbucks or Tully’s for meeting acknowledge that, much like Tim Eyman Grindr (a GPS-based app for gay guys); or at online dates, so you don’t “ruin” a favorite initiatives, dating happens. The problem is bingo night at Calamity Jane’s in Georgetown. haunt. “If a man says, ‘You seem interesting. figuring out if and when you’re actually on Other good bets: Snuggie pub crawls; Ballard I’d love to take you out,’ it’s comment-worthy.” a date. “It happens all the time here,” says art walks; a PNB Backstage Pass after- West Seattleite Damiana Merryweather, party at Ten Mercer on Queen Anne; or via a The date: Cocktails at Rob Roy in 36. “Men will say, ‘We should get a drink’ game of iPhone checkers on the Microsoft Belltown; bowling at West Seattle Bowl; an and it’s completely unclear what’s going on. “Connector” bus. urban hike through Seward or Discovery

66 seattle february 2010 50What’s it called? That things you keep meaning to do if you can only find the time.

40What’s it called? “Oh dears The ask: A phone call, face to face How do you meet? Over drinks at SAM After God, do I really have to go back out or an e-mail invitation, followed Hours; cruising the Capitol Hill Block Party; there?” by hours of checking him or her browsing the snow sports department at REI; out on Google and/or a full-blown at that high school reunion you finally broke How do you meet? Through background check via the mobile down and attended; waiting in line at SIFF; and friends, through work or via an app DateCheck. yeah, skating that fine line between hip and hip online dating site like eHarmony. replacement on the online dating sites. But prepare yourself. “Internet The date: Rock climbing at dating is like a second job—at Vertical World in Ballard; cocktails The ask: E-mail or phone call—occasionally to Walmart,” says Diana (who asked and frites at Café Presse on someone you forgot you went out with 10 years that her last name not be used), Capitol Hill; strawberry picking ago (awkward!). a 40-year-old counselor from at Remlinger Farms in Carnation; Eastlake who recommends Mona’s Belgian beers and brats at The date: A rockabilly show at the Tractor in at Green Lake as a good date place. Brouwer’s in Fremont; a lazy walk Ballard; a play at the Rep, Intiman or Book-It at “Every time you think they’re going along the Kirkland waterfront. Who Seattle Center; sushi at Wabi-Sabi in Columbia to let you work in electronics, you pays? Who knows! City; Sundays at the Fremont Farmers Market; get sent back to organize the sale kayaking in the Washington Park Arboretum. shoes.” But many find it a necessity. It’s serious when: You invite “Match.com is the only venue that them over to meet your kids at a It’s serious when: You decide to go “Hoh” works for me since I’m a single pre–Solstice Parade brunch. for the weekend (the rain forest, of course). father,” says Fremont 40-something Kent, who also asked to remain It’s over when: The dearth of It’s over when: You log onto the online anonymous (that’s another thing parking in their neighborhood finally dating site where you met and find out they’ve about dating in your 40s; everybody outweighs your desire to see them. reactivated their profile. knows you, you know everybody). Other options: MOHAI pub trivia nights at Hopvine or Clever Dunne’s on Capitol Hill; “Read Dating” at University Book Store; dancing at the Little Red Hen in Green Lake; The ask: Via phone, e-mail, text, Twitter, or hanging out with a four-legged Facebook (never underestimate the friend at Marymoor Park’s off-leash technical savvy of a single sexagenarian), dog area in Redmond. in person or, for the truly innovative (or romantic), a handwritten note. 60What’s it called? What isn’ts it called? Dating, friends with benefits, companionship, The date: An evening at the Seattle and, for a few, a big bother. “I meet more Symphony; a bike ride around the city; parks. Other options: A Seattle Storm men than women who say they want to find dinner at Ray’s at Shilshole; a reading at game, gay bingo in Fremont; coffee and that special person,” says Mary Davies, 61, Elliott Bay Book Company; an afternoon of carbs at Cupcake Royale in Madrona; a who writes the blog Sixty & Single in Seattle wine and chocolate (or music) at Chateau Sexy Sunday seminar at Babeland on (marysreallife.blogspot.com/). “The women Ste. Michelle in Woodinville; Silent Movie Capitol Hill. have been in long-term relationships and a lot Mondays at the Paramount. of them feel like they’ve already done that.” It’s serious when: You buy tickets It’s serious when: “If somebody together for Bumbershoot 2010—and How do you meet? Dancing to blues at bought me tickets to Seattle Arts & it’s only June. Highway 99 under the Alaska Way Viaduct; Lectures, I’d know it was serious,” says drinking brews at a monthly History Café Davies. It’s over when: Your BF or GF at The Pub at Third Place Books Ravenna; changes their Facebook relationship perusing the produce at Ballard Farmers It’s over when: They ask you if you status from “In a relationship” to “It’s Market; talking politics after a Town Hall want to drive up to Mount Vernon to see the complicated” to “Single.” lecture; hunting for antiques in Puyallup. birthplace of Glenn Beck.

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entertaining restaurants LOVE Eat, Dine, LETTER Love Kelley Moore creates a new Seattle’s dining scene offers at-home Valentine’s Day dinner tradition countless opportunities to pump with an heirloom love letter tablecloth up the romance—after all, there’s nothing sexier than shooting each other sultry looks amid clinking Love letters are an incredibly romantic gesture that have been lost glasses, glimmering candlelight and a in the flurry of e-mails and Twitter posts (that’s a hint, fellas). For a giant tantalizing meal. Here are some of our gesture that’s sure to impress, profess your eternal love with an inscription favorite perches for love pigeons to coo on a personalized Valentine’s Day tablecloth you can enjoy year after year. at each other. B.D.

❥ Chez Shea (Downtown, 94 Pike St., Suite 34; 206.467.9990; chezshea.com): In a sweet spot overlooking the Pike Place Pick up a piece of Market, this French favorite still has canvas (at a fabric store) big enough to cover your beaucoup appeal for lovers young and old. tabletop and pen your feelings, memories, ❥ the harvest Vine (Madison Valley, 2701 inside jokes—or even E Madison St.; 206.320.9771; harvestvine. pop the question—with a permanent Sharpie com): The intimate bar at this Spanish pen. Add sentiments tapas mecca offers ample chances for a to this easy-to-create titillating game of knee meets knee. tablecloth each year to create a romantic V-Day dinner setting ❥ Eva Restaurant and Wine Bar (Green for two that will last for Lake, 2227 N 56th St.; 206.633.3538; decades. evarestaurant.com): The sparkling lights To complete the table and richly painted walls of this Tangletown setting, layer the treat envelop diners in a rosy, aromatic canvas letter with a world. chic tablecloth (like this dramatic black and cream design print) ❥ Olivar (Capitol Hill, 806 E Roy St.; and add romantic votive 206.322.0409; olivarrestaurant.com): The candles amongst your tiny space only adds to the allure of this finest flatware for that final romantic touch. delicious Spanish-French bistro—you practically have to sit in each other’s laps.

❥ Boat Street Café (Belltown, Credits: Tablecloth: Custom white 3131 Western Ave.; 206.632.4602; canvas fabric, $6.99/yard, and Bonetti boatstreetcafe.com): Don’t be fooled by the black and cream decorator fabric, industrial building—the restaurant inside $29.99/yard, both from Hancock Fabrics (Kirkland, 12030 NE 85th St.; is cozy, charming and unforgettable. 425.827.3020; hancockfabrics.com); medium silver-plated taper holder, ❥ Monsoon East (Bellevue, 10245 Main $34, and 15-inch hand-dipped taper St.; 425.635.1112; monsooneast.com): candle, $15/set of two, at Pottery The second outpost of Seattle’s beloved Barn (University Village, 4627 26th contemporary Vietnamese restaurant is Ave. NE; 206.522.6860; potterybarn. com); Glimma tea light candles, much sexier than its older sibling, and the $5.99/pack of 24 at Ikea (Renton, 601 food is equally as intoxicating. SW 41st St.; 425.656.2980; ikea.com) ❥ The Pink Door (Downtown, 1919 Post G G

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Gents The brainchild of Salon Dewi owner and “waxing diva” Travis Powell, Red Drawers began selling sexy drawers two years ago. Powell says he launched the shop—which is connected to his salon—because he wanted to give male waxing clients something sexy to take ensemble that accentuates your body home and wear. (But don’t feel left out, in all the right ways. She’s best known girls: Salon Dewi also sells lingerie for Suit Up for her affordably priced European and the ladies.) The goods here are definitely Best spots to find designer bra lines (from as low as $40 more wild child than mild child (including sexy lingerie to $140) as well as her selection of panties with porn scenes on them), chemises ($40–$200). And, Bellefleur and all lines in the shop­ include what is a popular spot for brides looking to Powell jokingly calls a “push-up bra” Seattle offers plenty of options special order a corset or bustier for for men—that is, a pouch that pushes for sexy underthings, but a few shops the big day. Finally, should you want to up your package (oh my!). >> Capitol rate tops among ladies and fellas in give your guy a nudge when it comes Hill, 1525 14th Ave.; 206.381.3482; the know. to buying that Valentine’s Day gift, reddrawers.com Bellefleur offers a registry service, as well as after-hours shopping parties, If your guy is a bit more traditional, Ladies for you and your best gal pals. >> steer him toward UnderU4Men, which At Bellefleur, shop owner Jennifer Fremont, 720 N 35th St.; 206.545.0222; carries familiar brands such as Calvin Carroll gets high marks for her bra- bellefleurlingerie.com Klein and Donna Karan, but also mixes fitting finesse and knack for making it up with more daring cuts and colors. customers feel right at home. In fact, For the past 32 years, Nancy Meyer AussieBum’s Flaunt line, made with when it comes to lingerie, she wrote Fine Lingerie has been the go-to spot fabric derived from the beechwood tree, the book—literally—along with Seattle- for girls with an urge to splurge on the is the hottest seller among gals shopping based shopping writer Kathy Schultz good stuff. This high-end shop (prices for their guys—which is about 60 percent (Underneath It All: A Girl’s Guide to range from $150­ to $750 for a bra and of the clientele, says store owner Steven Buying, Wearing, and Loving Lingerie; panty set; $250–$1,000 for a chemise; Lien. Also a top pick: Andrew Christian’s includes some of Carroll’s and Schultz’s and $275–$3,300 for a robe) carries Almost Naked line, constructed from a best tips for the perfect fit). Carroll many lines that are made exclusively for bamboo fabric that reportedly feels like

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