2006 Convention: Going Back to Hamilton

Sigma Phi FLAME NUMBER 108 • DECEMBER 2006

2006 Convention: Going Back to Hamilton (and back in time in these Beta photos) PAGE 2 THE FLAME Message From the Chairman: “Sigma Phi Sets the (New?) Standard” by Marshall Solem, F’79 [email protected] t our 2006 Convention at (as most Oliphant speakers are), it Hamilton College in September, I would still be valuable to host such ses- A believe Sigma Phi set a standard sions with experts on or near each of by which all Greek organizations can our campuses. Given that several of measure themselves. our chapters are very close to state In conjunction with the Sigma Phi capitols, it should be relatively easy to Educational Foundation, Convention orchestrate such an interchange organizers at the Beta orchestrated an between professors and/or elected engaging and formal interchange on officials on issues of interest or rele- “Hamilton vs. Jefferson” between three vance nationally or locally. professors from across the country. (I It would be easy to sit back and was struck by how much this discussion demur, suggesting that such an event mirrored the impact of the legendary should be coordinated by the local Marshall Solem, F’79 Oliphant Series sponsored by our Inter-Fraternity Conference (IFC) on Cornell chapter.) I won’t detail the each campus, for which Sigma Phi ensure Sigma Phi continues to lead. event here except to suggest that it is (and all other fraternities) would get It’s my opinion that Sigma Phi’s precisely this type of accessible and credit by virtue of affiliation. Rather, I leadership is a direct function of intellectual event which can help suggest that Sigma Phi should take the Brothers who continue to care. In that restore some respect for the Greek sys- leadership role in creating such cam- context, I offer this closing thought. As tem in the media and public opinion. pus programs. Such leadership will we enter the time of year to give thanks The event, which was open to the provide many benefits: 1) our reputa- for our many blessings and send holi- public, did not take an exorbitant tion will be enhanced, which will help day greetings to friends and family, I amount of effort to coordinate. The our rush efforts; 2) our chapters will encourage you to reach out and con- topic was interesting and the speakers build better relationships with their nect with a long forgotten Sig brother. engaging. The public witnessed Sigma host university/college and communi- Use the ‘brother locator’ feature in the Phi providing a community service ty; 3) organizers - particularly active ‘brothers only’ section of the Sigma consistent with our goal of fostering brother organizers - will make connec- Phi website (www.sigmaphi.org) to find learning, not detracting from it. We tions with individuals who may help a brother you haven’t communicated and other Greek organizations need to them in their future career endeavors; with in several years. Give him a call. do more of this. Even if speakers are and 4) we will all learn something - Reconnect. Reignite the flame that we not flown in from around the country, either from the event itself or from the know is “sacred to friendship.” I can or are not internationally acclaimed process of organizing it. guarantee that that purposeful call will I challenge each of our chapters – add new meaning to your holidays, actives and alumni, alike – to follow and add a spark to your relationship Sigma Phi the lead of our Epsilon and Beta with Sigma Phi. The Sigma Phi Society publishes the brothers and consider developing a You have my warmest wishes for a Sigma Phi Flame twice yearly. Please direct program like this on your campus in happy holiday season, a prosperous all inquiries, suggestions, photos and this coming spring semester, or by next 2007, and a continuing passion for changes of address to Sigma Phi National fall at the latest. Such programs will this Society. Headquarters, Post Office Box 4633, Chapel Hill, North Carolina 27515-4633.

CO-EDITORS: Kudos & Thanks… MIKE IMIRIE M’69 …to the following Sigs for their articles, information or [email protected] suggestions supporting this issue of the Flame: Jon Bellona, ALVAR SOOSAAR S’96 H’00, Ross Blaufarb, I’80, David Farmer, H’89, Randy Fields, [email protected] H’81, Todd Hargrave, M’06, Dell Hutchinson, I’71, Jake Kramer, C’98, Dan Martineau, H’78, Scott McCrae, V’82, MEMBER,NATIONAL Andy Mansfield, M’06, Joe Rosati, L’83, Tim Welland, M’04, INTERFRATERNITY Matt West, M’06 & David Williams, W’61. CONFERENCE Issue after issue, we solicit Sig perspectives, and every one that we publish improves the periodical in which it Sigma Phi Home Page: appears! Contact either co-editor Alvar Soosaar, S’96 www.sigmaphi.org ([email protected]), or Mike Imirie, M’69 ([email protected]) with your feedback and/or suggestions. DECEMBER 2006 PAGE 3 Convention ’06: Planner’s Perspective by Randy Fields, H’81 [email protected]

ou’d think that running a Sig done…and it gets done! Since then, I’ve spent nine years in national convention would be Weekend highlights included a marketing, PR, and advertising for a Y old hat to me by now! After all, I cocktail party on Thursday evening at retirement community in nearby New was in charge of most of the activities the Oneida Street home of Rand Hartford. (I find there’s really not too for the 1981 and 1991 conventions at Carter, H’74, an open-air barbecue at much difference between the Beta and the Beta. Things were a bit different the Bristol Campus Center on Friday Sunset Wood, despite the age thing then, though, because we still had a evening, and a tea for female guests and keg stands!) Through those years, house to use as a base of operations, and other interested convention-goers my heart has always been with the and most activities took place on the hosted by Hamilton’s Sig Sisters on Beta. Being able to help host the 175th Hamilton campus. Saturday. Convention was the perfect way for me But this was 2006. Over the week- From my perspective, the 175th to celebrate my 25th year as a end of September 15-17, Hamilton's convention was a great success. No Sig…AND my 60th birthday….all on first fraternity, the Sigma Phi Society, major snags or blunders throughout the same weekend! The gents who celebrated the 175th anniversary of its the weekend. Everything got done in were seniors when I was swung turned founding on the Hill in conjunction proper order…even an impromptu out in force, probably the largest single with the Society’s 175th National conclave in the hospitality room (spe- class there. Seeing all of them togeth- Convention. And it was my job to make cial thanks to luminaries Rand Carter, er again brought back lots of memo- it roll. H’74, and Mark Singer, H’78)! I was ries. And I had my “new boys” – today’s Taking the whole kit-and-caboodle pleased to see lots of smiling faces Beta undergrads – on hand to help to an off-campus venue - even one as everywhere, all of them celebrating keep things moving. My Big Brother, beautiful as the newly-restored, historic Sigma Phi. Brendan McCurdy, H’80, was there for Hotel Utica - created a whole list of The event was especially meaning- moral support as were a couple of my new problems. How do we provide all ful for me. I was swung in the spring of Little Brothers from years past. the meals we need to offer without 1981 as an adult. I had let my friend, What more could any Sig ask for? charging a huge fee? How do we trans- Rand Carter, H’74, volunteer my servic- A house, perhaps…. But we all port everyone back and fort to the es in 1981 to run the Beta’s meal plan learned that weekend that the house campus for the Hicks Oratorical, a bar- for a couple of months until the stew- doesn’t make the Sig; it’s the becue and tours of the campus? How ard could hire a full time person. Friendship, Love and Truth they all do we schedule so many meetings in a Instead, I was given a bid, swung with a carry around with them wherever they hotel with limited meeting space? And group of undergraduates, and stayed go. And I’m glad that all came to visit how do you pack 150+ people in a ball- for 16 more years! I even lived in the us in Utica that weekend. It made my room for dinner without having them Sigma Phi Place from 1995-97, after birthday the happiest in years, and site in each others’ laps? The answer? the College forced all the fraternities showcased the Beta’s 175th birthday in We’re Sigs. We just believe it can be out of their houses. all the right ways. photo by Karlton Bontrager, H'97 photo by Karlton Bontrager, At Convention '06, “the jolly Sigs were stirring….” PAGE 4 THE FLAME Convention ’06: First Principles for Sig by Dan Martineau, H’78 [email protected] “In disquisitions of every kind there are certain primary truths, or first principles, upon which all subsequent reasoning must depend.” - Alexander Hamilton, Federalist Paper #31

n a recent fall weekend, a O gathering of Immortals graced the shores of the murky Mohawk River. They stirred and flew on wings of Grace from their far lairs to attend the 175th Anniversary of the establishment of our Sacred Society. Of many ages, interests, professions, means and achievement, all heeded the call to link arms once again as equals to honor the Arms that once held us all so close – the blessed Sigma Phi. Significantly, most of the weekend’s events occurred away from Hamilton College and our former house. H'97 photo by Karlton Bontrager, Our beautiful mansion The former Sigma Phi Place will soon become Hamilton's new Admissions Office. on the hill, built with the money and laughter, our attitudes and our hearts. families and distances and the dross of effort of our forefathers as our eternal From cocktails at Professor Carter’s, to earthly being….this Convention gath- home, has been stolen. All of us knew the instructive and inspiring discourse ering in 2006 may be the last time we the story; few of us were prepared for on Messrs Hamilton and Jefferson, to would see many of our brothers alive? the shock of seeing her gorged and the Conclave, to the Convention, and The leaves have fallen on another stripped of her Sigliness. But as with all the drinkdowning and friendfind- season, like the hands of an old man most sorrows on this earthly sphere, ing in between, the weekend was a resting on pages of poetry at twilight. we discovered that there was hope rare delight. And how fantasmical to We cherish our time together and amidst the ruins. It was made clear be reborn as 21 year olds in each merrily re-strengthen our bonds to our for us that Sigma Phi is not a building other’s eyes: to toast and honor our own band of brothers. A small group or a place, but a people; She is us younger selves, and to share and we are, but led by the principals of and we are Her. Whenever two or relive long-forgotten memories of our Friendship, Love and Truth, and more brothers gather, there She is undergraduate days of wine and roses. guided by the spirits of those of our honored and Her spirit is revived and Amidst all of our joy, sorrow too brethren who have gone before, we strengthened. The memories of the filled the air. Whose heart could beat deepen our connections to Eternity weekend are “first principles”: unwounded at the sight of our gutted and each other. O that the molecules Friendship, Love and Truth. These home? And while we honored the life of the Universe were ordered in such a cannot be taken from us by human of our dear brother Mike Cleary, H’00, way that we were instantly brought hand, the destructions of time, or who could not be grieved by a life cut together whenever mighty Leo roared! even death. short, and the passing of all of our But they are not. How wonderfully rewarding to fallen brothers, as the circle of life Do not go gently, brothers! The see friends not seen in years! A little spins on? And finally, who can deny lifeblood of the Sigma Phi is in our rounder or a little greyer perhaps, that many thought what we could not veins. Seek each other out; make the but still the same spirit living in our speak – that because of work and time; keep the Flame alive! DECEMBER 2006 PAGE 5 Poignant Convention Highlight any convention-goers experienced a very moving moment in connection with a M memorial service on Friday. That moment involved two H’00 brothers unveiling an original portrait of Lt. Michael J. Cleary, H’00, who was killed in Iraq on December 22, 2005, by a roadside bomb. The portrait, rendered in watercolor by local artist Monica Acee, was commissioned by pledge brother Jon Bellona, H’00. Jon commissioned the work, raised funds, and - most importantly - found an enduring way to honor his pledge brother as more than just a dimming memory. Michael’s fiancee, parents and other guests were there for the unveiling. There was genuine emotion in that room in that moment. The moment was followed by Brendan McCurdy, H’80, leading the Sigs in singing "Western Lion's Lair." That portrait will hang in what used to be the Sigma Phi Place when it reopens as the College Admissions Office at some point in 2007. The College has agreed to keep the carved Sigma Phi crest over the front door, as well as the Sigma Phi from the original Beta house inside the foyer. The alumni have returned architectural features such as chandeliers, sconces and newel posts – taken for

safekeeping - to be incorporated in that special H'97 photo by Karlton Bontrager, building’s ongoing restoration. Portrait of the late Michael J. Cleary, H'00 The Star by Scott McCrae, V’82 [email protected] henever I attend Sig functions, off fabulously. Randy Fields, H’81, and mony to timeless Sig ideals and values. I am always amazed at the Brendan McCurdy, H’80, marshaled The notion of this epiphany W commonality of the member- the troops and made the Beta’s 2006 coming to me so belatedly - after 24 ship. This is especially evident when I Convention a veritable “Swiss watch” years as a member of this Society - meet Brothers from other chapters. It of efficiency and fun! reddens my cheeks. However, I freely is consistently so that, when I walk Although this is all well and good, subscribe to the old adage: better late through the door of any chapter, it it still begs the question: How can a than never. feels like home. solar system exist without a star? Then It makes me happy to say that Before embarking on my journey the answer hit me like “a gleam of being in Utica with my Brothers gave to Utica for the 2006 National glory bursting from an unclouded me that feeling of which I spoke Convention, I can freely admit that I sun.” I remembered that specific line previously when I walk into our chap- really didn’t know what to expect. In from our charge advising “a society is ter houses. Whether it was Thursday’s the many Conventions I have attended its members.” It is not the bricks and delightful and gracious cocktail party in the past, the Chapter house was the mortar, but rather our Brothers at Rand Carter’s lovely home, Friday’s focal point or center of the themselves. It is the warm smiles and on-campus barbeque, the Hick’s Convention. It is as a star in its own gleaming eyes exuded by Sigs coming Oratorical Contest in the College solar system. All of the various events together after being separated by time Chapel or any of the other wonderful and happenings are like the planets and space. It is the wit and wisdom Convention events, it was abundantly revolving around the star. I worried shared by old and young. It is the hilar- clear to participants that “the sweet star that the Convention might seem nebu- ity, mirth and resulting therapeutic of the firmament” is truly the Society’s lous and disconnected without a star. I laughter shared by all. That viewless members – each and every one of us. am delighted to report that my fears star is also our heritage and history; Convention ’06 was another excellent were completely unwarranted! As is it’s the security of knowing that our reminder of how fortunate each of us usually the case, the Convention went amazing, 179-year longevity is a testi- is to be a part of that sweet star. PAGE 6 THE FLAME Winning Hicks Speech by Gregory Allison, V’05 [email protected]

igma Phi is a funny institution. You can never quite put now trying to put Sigma Phi into your finger on what it is, and I guess that’s part of the words is a daunting task, but one that S reason why we are all here. I’m not even quite sure how I will gladly undertake. it is that I even got up here to give you an oration. But here I At the Alpha of VT, we have a big am. So without further adieu, let’s focus on the topic at email list with all of the actives on it. hand: Sigma Phi! And every now and again, maybe I don’t even know where to begin. Sigma Phi is a feeling. when things get a little heated, I will Gregory Allison, V’05 It’s one of those feelings you can’t describe. When you try, write a witty little poem, just to there’s no way to do it justice. It’s like love; you know it is mellow the atmosphere out. When I was asked to do the there, you know the funny feeling it gives you in your tummy, Hicks, I knew I had to write it in the form of a poem. So now but you just can’t describe it. So me standing up here right I’m going to get all Dr. Suess on you…

Eight score and nineteen years ago, But I’ve been charged and that charge Or the wide world where she’s been A dim light at Union began to glow. I will keep Remember that saying most important to From darkened buildings and moonlit halls Until I’m lowered in my grave 6 ft deep. Sig progress If you listen carefully, you can hear the call That good ol’ saying that the Sigma Phi Of four great Americans in whose shadows Where do we go from here just where is timeless. we now stand do we go, Remember the songs, the mystery, and the Whence they conceived the idea of a We must spread our flame of friendship heart, most loyal band. GO SIGS GO! Remember how you felt singing “Oh The censer swung, the flame traveled far. Why Must We Part” That dim light grew and grew and grew Word began to spread of who we are. Remember your friends: the living and And a beacon of friendship would ensue. At Hamilton, Williams, and NYU, the passed. Not a warning but a helping hand At Geneva, the Green Mountains, and with The friendships that always rekindle that To any man worthy of our band. the Tigers too. you never thought would last. And so they came with boyish hearts Ann Arbor, Lehigh, Cornell, Wisco, and Never forget those times spent laughing until To pledge a deathless love that will never part. Berklee the sun began to glow With the Serps and now our youngest And when it all ended you wondered Blessed by the angels, fairies and gods on high daughter at UNC. “Where did the time go?” Spread rumors both far and nigh Of some mysterious gathering of men nearby Sigma Phi has lived and what a life she has had. That’s why you all are here, That foil the glance of every eye, She has proven herself to be no passing fad. To keep the Sigma Phi living for yet And call themselves the Sigma Phi. One hundred and seventy-nine years and 38 another year. The Thrice Illustrious Sigma Phi. heads of state. Your stories inspire and make us laugh Two world wars and even Watergate. out loud But what is this Sigma Phi? Vietnam and North vs. South And I can say I’ve never been so proud Sounds like spooky language to me, an invisible She survived the depression and the To wear on my breast this bright badge of gold man in the sky. dustbowl drought. We all in veneration hold A bunch of guys in some exclusive club? She witnessed the Indians get forced off Like the setting sun in a blood-red sky An excuse for drinks at the local pub? their land We pledge our love for the Sigma Phi. I never knew until I saw her there, Californians mining for gold with their The goddess of our band giving me that bare hands. Keep this in mind wherever you may go impish stare. JFK and September Eleven Because in Sigma Phi you will always have She spoke words of wisdom, words I took And the tail end of Beethoven before he a home. to heart went to heaven. A place to return to and rest your head This is what she said but only in part. She is older than the car, the light bulb and A place that will always love you, even when She said, “You will never know me and sewing machine, you’re dead. sadly it’s true, She has even seen the rise and fall of the A place that loves every brother regardless of You will never understand me until you infamous Boss Tweed race or creed understand you. Don’t forget the Alamo; she saw that too, And fulfills that most critical human need. Know thyself and trust thy brother, The invention of television and the Iranian The need for friendship, for love, and Be a loyal Sig, and you will need none other.” crisis rescue. for truth. And at this - POOF! - she turned into mist. She has seen it all both evil and true Friendship beyond all of life’s obstacles, Leaving me breathless to keep my tryst. She is wiser now and she continues to teach Love that lasteth and knows no bounds. The journey will be long it will take the me and you. Truth that binds us all wherever our onward years of my life, No matter how far she has come course may go. It will go through periods of joy, heartache, No matter what she has seen May the flame of the Sigma Phi continue love, and strife. No matter where she will be going to grow. DECEMBER 2006 PAGE 7 Undergraduate Perspective: Convention ’06 by Tim Welland, M’04 [email protected] Jeffrey Anusbigian M'04, Andrew not just talked at for hours on end. I for as long as they did. Mansfield M'06, Andrew Putman remember one exercise in conflict res- One particularly touching experi- J M'05 and I all attended the 2006 olution in which we were put in groups ence for me was on campus when the National Convention in Utica by our respective houses and asked to Hamilton Sigs took us by the old Sigma this past September. Despite having to use the conflict resolution algorithm to Phi Place on campus. It was a very leave the convention a day early, I still solve problems that we may have emotional experience for me to see was able to enjoy a great time. Despite amongst ourselves. Fortunately, we had such a beautiful house gutted and not having a Sigma Phi place at no such issues, but were able to use the surrounded by temporary orange con- Hamilton College, the Beta Sigs put on struction fence. It is a testimony to the a great show. comprehensive bonds we form in this I must admit that after hearing Society that I could feel such empathy about topics at prior Undergrad Work- for the Sigs who will never use this shops, I was a little skeptical about this house as well as for past Beta Sigs who year’s workshop….especially at 8:00 in have been robbed of their house. the morning! I was pleasantly sur- The Hick's Oratorical Contest was prised, however, by the time and effort time to discuss other issues pertaining also impressive, and the speeches of all that was put into this year's Leadership to the house. Chuck Heisinger, F’76, who entered demonstrated great effort Workshop. I think we all agreed that, and his assistant, Hank, did a great job and real passion for this Society. It although it may have gone on a tad with that daylong session. That means seems to this neophyte convention too long, we were glad that it was a a lot because - trust me! - it’s hard to traveler hat the future of the Sigma highly interactive experience; we were keep a bunch of college kids engaged Phi is in good hands. Berkeley All Star Conclave by Ross Blaufarb, I’80 [email protected] n Berkeley, when the planets The early presider was this have revolved in their proper semester’s Head of House, Will I orbits and the Little Fairy has Stafford, I’05. He was replaced descended from on high, we by other Sig leaders and exhibi- hold periodic ‘All Star tionists long before the conclave Conclaves.’ These wee hour gath- had run its course at about 1 erings provide common denomi- A.M. nator sharing opportunities The group high point was across our member ranks, from experienced at the very end, eldest to the most humble and when we all gathered in a circle inexperienced. The most recent and hugged and shook hands at of these was held on October 13. the end of a fantastic evening… It was unlike all which preceded with the spirit of Sigma Phi blaz- it…. while remaining reassuring- ing anew in our hearts. ly familiar in every important Sig As I made my bleary way way. home afterwards, I ruminated About 30 actives and alums, that it was fantastic to see that took part, serene in the knowl- the actives are keeping the edge that our five pledges had conclaves fun and full of the been sent out of the Sigma Phi theatrical hijinx we know and Place on an extended scavenger love. My heart was warmed, too, hunt to nearby San Francisco. to note that this year’s actives These luminaries gathered in the are very motivated to learn 2307 Piedmont Avenue, All Star Conclave venue extraordinaire nether regions of the Berkeley about Sig and Alpha of Alpha at 9 PM: Bill Forward, I’78, Greg - my own blood brother, Jon “Could California traditions that have gotten Stefanek, I’80, Steve Hunter, I’80, Tony you speak louder, as I’m nearly 50” lost or diluted over the years. Hartinger, I’81, Dave Munroe, I’80, Blaufarb, I’77. A healthy bevy of actives What better way to bond with your Matt Cline, I’80, Dave Elias, I’92, Kevin was naturally on hand to lend their dis- Brothers, I ask you, than an ‘All Star Wiens, I’93, and – senior among them tinct Sig energies to the proceedings. Conclave’? PAGE 8 THE FLAME Overheard at Convention ’06

eeing the Place was a shock. It is gutted, with the entire robably the most positive convention I’ve been to in “ north side of the house (facing the parking lot) torn off, “ years. The Hamilton-Jefferson panel discussion was great, S including Randy's old apartment. The piano was still P and I hope it sets the standard and precedent for similar there, conjuring up memories of listening to people play there. events to come. It was a nice, friendly rivalry between the Beta It was very difficult to see. I did take a piece of slate from the and Serp groups. The Hicks Oratorical Contest was very good, roof, but the shock was terrible. On the other hand, seeing Jim with all undergrad speeches conveying a strong sense of Sigliness. Wackerman and other Beta Sigs who made the return trip, A guided tour of the Faculty Cemetery by Jim Wackerman, H’92, many of whom I have not seen in 15 years or so, was great.” was eye-opening, and a great reminder of the contributions that – David Farmer, H’89 Sigs have made on the Hamilton campus and in the world for generations. I really enjoyed hanging out with undergrads from Virginia as well as California, Michigan and Union. Our actives “ riday’s leadership workshop provided great instruction in make me optimistic for the Society’s future.” the ideals of Sigma Phi, and will help me better realize – Treasurer Alvar Soosaar, S’96 F my potential as a Sig. I believe the success of the workshop was strongly rooted in all of us undergrads being able to most deece weekend. Thanks to Randy and Brendan (bril- experience a close brotherhood with Sigs from geographically “ liant master of the three ring circus) and all the under- distant locations. The distance just didn’t matter.” A grads and anyone else who made it happen. Highlights – Andy Mansfield, M’06 for me included the wonderfully awful keynote speech by Mike Bromley, H’83, the undergrad with the woman's bonnet and the clave, which brought back fond memories of past evenings in the I've lived in Hawaii since 1992. I'm H'87, but I had never spook room and also - in a fleeting moment of unexpected clarity “ been to a Convention until this year. While I did travel a - laid clear the origins of the French Revolution. I'm so pleased I slightly longer distance than most, one fellow "87" - Jean- Mark Singer, H’78, could be there as it is hard to imagine the Raphael Dantin - was planning a Saturday phone call from the evening without him pairing with Rand Carter, H’74, to muster Darfur region of Sudan, where he works in logistics for Doctors the madness.” – Chip Haslun, H’78 W/O Borders! The Convention was a lot of fun. While the bonds of brotherhood are often strongest between those of the same n reflection, the most Sigly part of the event was the class, I realized once again that those bonds transcend pledge “ Hicks Oratorical Contest. The second best part was class and chapter, and even the ability of a fellow Sig to attend O recognizing that this Society has been around for 175+ Convention. Absent Brothers are always present in the stories and years (being the 175th convention). Third was seeing a Sigma Phi recollections of their fellows, and also of course, in our hearts. Place that I had never seen. Even though it is no longer inhabit- Unfortunately, this was especially true this year in Mikey Cleary's ed by the Goddess, it still holds our hearts. Fourth, was the fel- case. Again, however, the stories and memories of those who lowship with convention-going Brothers whom I have known for knew Mike made his presence felt. Never forget.” several years as well as those whom I had just met in Utica.” – Devin Driscoll, H’87 – Bob Mersereau, M’74

These 19th century Sig monograms differ from each other in two subtle ways. Can you identify the differences? DECEMBER 2006 PAGE 9 The Sigma Phi Badge: Two Reflections

'm not entirely sure exactly what drove me lthough I am only a sophomore, I to take the plunge and buy the badge when think I can say a few things as to I I did, but I think that it has a lot to do with A why I'm looking forward to having my attitude towards the house and our Society my own Sig badge. Truly the badge is an at this point in my life. excellent memento of my time at the Sig I’m a senior, and my time as an active will house and of my lifelong membership in soon draw to a close. Because of that, I'm trying what will certainly be the most meaningful to both make the best of my time here and also organization of my life until I have raised a to give the house the best of its time with me (I family. In my time in college I will wear the hope that makes sense). I want to be involved badge at times of joyous Significance, in in everything that I can be, to leave my mark the great celebrations that allow a belea- on the house and in the minds of the actives guered Sig to battle through the rigors of who will succeed me. Even though I am with- college life. The donning of formal attire out an officer position (not for lack of trying), will finally be truly fulfilling as I will have I have the sort of personality that makes it easy the perfect jewelry to complete the look for me to get involved with or without a title. which best reflects my inner feelings. With all of that in mind, getting and wear- What's more, after graduation, when I must ing a Sig badge is just one more way for me to move away from the Sigma Phi Place itself, connect to the house, to be an example to that gold jewelry will be a shining reminder younger brothers and pledges, and to hold a of my younger days, when ecstatic pinna- valuable, tangible artifact of these times for the cles of brotherhood and merrymaking rest of my life. Owing a badge will provide a were part of the undergraduate fabric in great sense of accomplishment and pride. I Ann Arbor. don't spend $150 in one pop all that often, but Finally the badge will remind me of all I made this purchase without hesitation, Sigma Phi has provided for me; I was able because I knew that it would be a valued and to afford the badge through the generosity very personal treasure. Having that outward, of the Viele Scholarship fund. The symbols public sign of belonging to this group, while at on the front will represent moral pillars the same time holding secret information that that I can take through all my life. And the only Brothers can know, is exciting. inscriptions on the back will represent the And I will be happy to have the pledges fruits of determination, and my true spiri- admire it when I wear it to our formal! tual oneness with the Sigma Phi. – by Matt West, M’06 – by Todd Hargrave, M’06 [email protected] [email protected] Final Dues Request

This is your final dues reminder It’s your support, after all, which of 2006. Dues are $50 for moves our Society forward. alumni initiated prior to 2001 Society initiatives of all kinds – and $35 for those initiated publications like this ‘Flame,’ 2001 or afterwards. If you database management, chapter haven’t yet paid dues this year, visits and more – are made we hope you will respond possible by your ongoing generously. The address is below. generosity towards Sigma Phi.

“Among so few, Brothers, the influence of each one is deeply felt.” Be sure to include your name, chapter and class year, address update, and personal news/updates for “News of Interest.” Please make your check payable to Sigma Phi Society and mail to: Sigma Phi Society • P.O. Box 4633 • Chapel Hill, NC 27515-4633 PAGE 10 THE FLAME Sig History: With Lincoln at Ford’s Theater by Mike Imirie, M’69 [email protected] (with source materials from Wikipedia) Ours is a Society which owes much to its history and traditions. Some of our best stories and attitudes stem directly from the history that our members have made over the decades. The Sigma Phi ‘Flame’ occasionally reflects that history to its readers. In this issue is presented a little known story about a distinguished Union alumnus by the name of Henry R. Rathbone, U’1854.

enry Reed Rathbone (July 1, 1837 – August 14, 1911) was H present at the assassination of Abraham Lincoln, and was sitting with his fiancée, Clara Harris, next to the President and his wife at the time of its occurrence. Henry R. Rathbone was born in Albany New York, the son of Jared L. Rathbone, a merchant and business- man, who later became Albany's mayor. At the time of his father's death, Rathbone inherited the very consider- able sum of two hundred thousand dol- they were not related by blood. the stage, Booth amazingly made a suc- lars from his family's estate. His wid- During the play, John Wilkes Booth cessful escape, and remained at large owed mother, Pauline Rathbone, surreptitiously entered the Presidential for more than two weeks. Meanwhile, remarried Judge Ira Harris. Judge Box and shot Lincoln with a deringer the dying Lincoln was taken across the Harris was appointed U.S. Senator pistol. Rathbone grappled with the street to the Petersen House, where from New York after William H. Seward assassin and was severely wounded by Clara Harris remained with Mrs. became Lincoln's Secretary of State. As Booth, who also wielded a large dagger. Lincoln during her vigil of some nine a result of this marriage, Senator Ira After stabbing Rathbone in the arm hours. This death watch lasted through Harris became Rathbone's step-father. and slashing at his head, the assassin the night. Lincoln died at 7:22 A.M., His daughter, Clara Harris, became leapt from the box onto the stage and on April 15, 1865. Rathbone's step-sister. reputedly cried out “Sic semper tyran- Rathbone recovered from his Rathbone studied law at Union nis.” (Some claim to have heard him wounds and married Clara Harris on College and was a member of the say, “The South is Avenged.”) Although July 11, 1867. The couple had three Sigma Phi Society. He entered the he had broken his leg jumping on to children. Union Army at the start of American Civil War, during which Rathbone served as Captain in the 12th Infantry Convention History Lesson Regiment. By the war's end, he had Jim Wackerman, H’91, provided conven- attained the rank of Major. tion-goers with an excellent history lesson On Good Friday, April 14, 1865, when he led a tour through the Hamilton U.S. President Abraham Lincoln and College Faculty Cemetery on September his wife decided to attend a perform- 16. This headstone, for example, belongs ance of the play Our American Cousin at Ford's Theater. The Lincolns invited to George H. Sicard, H’1902, former several people to accompany them, General Secretary of the Sigma Phi including General Ulysses S. Grant and Society. Another gravesite to which Jim his wife, but all of them declined for led his guess belongs to Society patron various reasons. Mrs. Lincoln finally Elihu Root, H’1860. Countless members invited Major Rathbone and Clara of this Society have played key roles in – Harris, and they accepted. The young and made significant contributions to – couple had recently become engaged. Hamilton College over the years. Although technically brother and sister, DECEMBER 2006 PAGE 11 Wherefore ‘Society’? by David Richard Farmer, H’89 [email protected] o the non-affiliated, the Greek When Chs. T. Cromwell, the Bowie System is a monolith: different brothers, and Th. S. Witherspoon T shades of gray. Regardless of gathered and founded the Alpha on type of Greek organization, a campus- March 4, 1827, they formed something wide stereotype is often applied. That special. Focusing on those core ele- stereotype is hardly favorable. ments of successful human relation- Sigma Phi strives to be different, ships, Friendship, Love, and Truth, and one of the most obvious signs of their collaboration – our Society – that difference is the use of the word would influence the growth of young ‘Society’ in our name and in our men for many generations to come. hearts. The strength of our Society is A house full of energetic young grounded in the leadership qualities David Farmer, H’89, and his wife, Anne men on a college campus is nothing of the members, in the interrelations by step, so does the Society to which unusual. There was nothing really that between and among them, and in the they belong. different about its Greek-letter name, unique character of each chapter. As each generation of Sigs learns nor was there anything different about Ours is a Society where, as actives, about the Society’s past, it is also the physical plant. Indeed, to the strong individuals grow up and prepping for the future. The circle casual eye, there appeared very little mature. It is a Society where the increases in size, but the center - the differentiation. But there was some- alumni support, mentor, and guide context for the relationship - is the thing different something special the actives. In this process, the alumni culture of the Sigma Phi Society. about this particular house. still grow as well; it is a living, organic (“Oh, Brothers remember wherever society. dispersed… whose love grows anew as Sigma Phi Society. As they pledge and then live in the past is rehearsed.”) This process Not Greek Letter Fraternity. the house, members learn that they repeats itself on every campus. But it is Society. are a part of a magnificent history of much more…. In their early days of coming to their respective chapters. At each step We are a society of “characters.” know the Sigma Phi, aspirants quickly of the journey, from pledging to being Each chapter is unique on its campus: learn that the difference between an engaged alumnus, each individual it is a collection of strong individuals “Fraternity” and “Society” is important, learns and becomes a part of the who prefer not to walk in the rank- and it certainly influenced our deci- Society’s culture. By his very presence, and-file of the typical; rather, they seek sion to become Sigs. In joining a he enriches it. out experiences of significance. The “Society’, we understood that we had For alumni, a trip back to the common bond is that we are all Sigs, joined something unique. For some, Place is also timeless: an opportunity regardless of chapter. A Sig is a Sig. this understanding prompted joining. to review the amazing history of Sig, Unique processes and traditions Others came to realize this important and to recall their personal paths away reflect each chapter’s culture. Yet, a difference during the membership from Sigma Phi after graduation…and guest Sig at another chapter quickly process. Regardless of when the notion back again. It provides an opportunity recognizes a welcoming familiarity of “Society” resonated, it provided a for powerful, individual reflection: of and the shared bond. Such a visit profound moment. remembering growth and lessons yields an easy opportunity to get to learned while know a chapter from within. Our first living in the experiences with Sigma Phi were from house & without: all of us mere mortals crossing thinking of the portals into a mysterious place. As decisions Sigs visiting another chapter, we are which affect- insiders, and the trek across the ed the course ‘strange portal’ warms as it welcomes. of one’s life From our local roots, this Society along the grows stronger. At national events, way. As they there are Brothers from across the lead such country and from many Sig genera- lives, the tions. Gathered alumni and actives Brothers immediately feel welcome; they sense stand strong, and share the common culture and grow, and bond of the Society. Convention This sign at the Alpha of California makes the distinction…. flourish. Step provides a time to (Continued next page) PAGE 12 THE FLAME Williams Homecoming by David Williams, W’61 [email protected] illiams Sigs regularly demonstrate posthumously following his accidental Ann further reminded us that the their ongoing commitment to death in 2004. Ann reminded us of Bob Quay Memorial Fund at Williams is W the Thrice Illustrious. While Bob’s legacy status as a Sigma Phi; his still in need of pledges if it is to become most carry Sigma Phi in their hearts, great, great grandfather and two great a permanent memorial fund. Contribu- many gather on campus each year for uncles were also members of the tions may be mailed to Williams a special reunion. On November 13, Massachusetts Alpha. Bob had also College, Office of Alumni Affairs, 75 2005, the Alpha held its 36th been a four-year recipient of our Sigma Park Street, Williamstown, MA 01267. consecutive alumni reunion since the Phi Scholarship. Ann traveled from As always, we look forward to the closing of the Sigma Phi Place in Atlanta, Georgia to express her thanks attendance of any ‘wandering birds’ Williamstown in 1969. Several of those for our scholarship support of her son who might find themselves on present have attended every reunion and for our initiating him into the migration in Western Massachusetts since the closing. Sigma Phi. To describe Ann as kind, in the fall of the year. Our reunions We were honored to be joined by intelligent and gracious greatly under- are always held on the first Saturday Adam Manus, H’94, and Tom states her attributes. of November. Bleezarde, H’54, from Hamilton and by our very special Sig senior, W. Taylor Ostrander, W’29. Drinks and dinner were followed by a rousing chorus of song, led by our equivalent of “The Three Tenors” (only more handsome): Peter Hutcheon, W’62, Denny Blagden, W’59, and Richard Tyner, W’61. We were extremely proud and honored by the presence of Ann Quay, mother of Bob Quay, W’04. Bob was initiated into the Williams chapter Enthusiastic Homecoming participants in Williamstown

(Wherefore Society from page 11) It’s my belief that Sigs takes this to certainly different from membership celebrate each chapter’s special way of heart, but take it further. Sigs heed this circumstances in the 19th century, we presenting, and a time for recognizing advice and use it as a call for leader- know that the uniqueness and the each individual’s achievements in life. ship, learning, growing, and sharing magic of being a Sig remain. We do From enjoying songs to hearing with all generations. It summarizes not change to “remain the same”; speeches, a national event is the time what it is to “Lead or Die.” rather we change as a natural, to enjoy the feeling of being a con- It is perhaps here where the best evolutionary process. We bequeath to tributing member of this Society. understanding of “Society” lies. Clearly, younger generations a stronger, richer Henry David Thoreau wrote pow- our Society has shared values and his- Society, but we also recognize that erful words which I have borrowed to tory. Within the bounds of such com- they will be called upon to lead the mirror the passion and drive of indi- mon heirlooms, each chapter is differ- Society in directions we cannot viduals in the Sigma Phi Society: ent. Each individual is different, too, possibly predict. and the contribution of each individ- We have confidence that the “I [wish] to live deliberately, ual enables the Society, and - by exten- values, traditions and the context to front only the essential facts of sion - its members to grow. Through of the Sigma Phi Society will endure, life, and see if I could not learn the participation and leadership of its grow, adapt, and… ever continue to what it had to teach, and not, strong individual members, the Sigma lead. Therein lies the strength and when I came to die, discover Phi Society changes and evolves. While beauty of our… Society. that I had not lived.” today’s demands and practices are Esto Perpetua. DECEMBER 2006 PAGE 13 Reflections About Sayre Hill by Joe Rosati, L’83 [email protected] ot long ago, an older Sig Brother with whom I had- n’t spoken in a while asked about an enduring mem- N bership effect. “What’s the lingering impact of your Sig membership since graduation?”, he wanted to know. At first glance, that heavy duty question invites conster- nation! After just a modest reflection, though, I was easily reminded how prevalent Sigma Phi continues to be in my life. From the ordinary to the sublime, I have constant reminders of my membership in our illustrious Society. Examples? On the mundane side, Sig dates and names make up my pin numbers and passwords. More richly, my very best friend is a Sig and our friendship now spans 23 years and counting. Those reminders, large and small, keep me in touch with one of the greatest attributes of our brotherhood: intensity of emotion. To me, a Sig wedding is more joyous than others; a Sig dinner far more enjoyable than one without Sigs; and I know I would rather play golf with The front door of the former Alpha of Pennsylvania my Sig golf buddies than swing clubs with Tiger Woods. I recently attended a high school reunion. While I had a tion, I echo that statement. good time, there was a certain awkwardness with former Sadly, we Lehigh Sigs have no regular conclave. And classmates with whom I was once so close. Not true with a while time and distance have not weakened our bonds, the Sig reunion! Last fall in Bethlehem, a group of ninety Sigs loss of our chapter house has deprived us of many fine and families met for a tailgate and dinner. Time and dis- evenings of Sig camaraderie. Currently, several Lehigh Sigs tance had not diminished the bonds of brotherhood one are on a very preliminary fact-finding mission to see if there bit. Brothers who had not seen each other for as much as fif- is a fit between Sigma Phi and the current Greek environ- teen years embraced and carried on as if the event were a ment at Lehigh. If any progress is made, it will bring joy continuation of a Sunday night house meeting from a week to many … and unique membership opportunities for earlier. Intensity of emotion – humor, love, sincerity, all of it many more. welcome and all of it abundant - was on display that day. A final lasting effect of my Sig membership is found in As I grow older, I make more and more acquaintances, great and vivid memories, especially of fall swings. We had but I have yet to duplicate the friendships I have with fellow some great initiations at Lehigh, believe me! I’ll leave you Sigs. I believe this is less an indictment of my current social with a short musical refrain which I recall from those bur- skills (!) than an illustration of the lasting effect of my Sig nished, satisfying mid-eighties days in Bethlehem: membership. As an undergraduate, I remember an older Sig Tramp, tramp, tramp, the Sigs are marching, standing up in a conclave and proclaiming “the most impor- Hoo, rah, ray for Sigma Phi tant days of my life have been the day I was married, the So get out your calcium light days my children were born, and the day I was initiated into And we’ll illuminate the night the Sigma Phi.” Two decades and more after my own initia- As we rush you into jolly Sigma Phi!

Lehigh Undergrads in the mid-eighties PAGE 14 THE FLAME “Swift, the Happy Hours Are Flying” by Jake Kramer, C'98 [email protected]

t is a truly opportune time in my life. On Saturday, August 26, I was I married in Glen Cove, New York, to the former Christy Whitehead. Three of my groomsmen were Sigs (Cyrus Dhalla, C'98; Diederik Sieburgh, C'99, and Dr. Matt Bruntel, C'97). Over a dozen more Epsilon Sigs, spanning ini- tiation years C'95 through C'02, were in attendance. Last but certainly not least, my bride is my college girlfriend and a Sig Sister, swung on the 4th of March 2001. In my undergraduate days, the Sig Sistering had been explained as a sort of ‘pre-engagement.’ Years later, that’s exactly how it has worked out; I am thrilled that Christy is also a part of Sigma Phi. The strong Sig presence at my wedding is not lost on me. It seems Celebration within a celebration: Jake Kramer, C'98, is in the 2nd row, center both natural and fortunate. Being a little over five years does a day pass that I am not in touch enough to accommodate the future. removed from my time at Cornell as an with at least one of them, whether by e- All Sigs have different experiences at undergraduate, things are very differ- mail, by phone, or in person. different times and in different places, ent. I am now an attorney practicing Sigma Phi is a fine institution, and but we are all Sigs. My own experience law in the District of Columbia, mar- I continue to consider myself privi- with Sigma Phi has given me many ried, and otherwise going about life leged to be a member. It is small things, including some of my best busily. Then again, things are some- enough to be personal and large friends and favorite memories. For times very much the same. Many of my enough to be inclusive of all kinds. It is those remarkable gifts, I am grateful. closest friends here and elsewhere are old enough to have strong traditions As I am sure you can tell, Sigma from 1 Forest Park Lane, and rarely and a rich history, yet adaptable Phi is never far from my thoughts. SPEF Goes Musical by Dell Hutchinson I'71, President, Sigma Phi Educational Foundation [email protected] nternal Revenue Service rulings of our Active members. The have held that grants for educa- Foundational has funded undergradu- I tional facilities in chapter houses ate seminars, a wireless network at the are consistent with the exempt purpos- Alpha of Wisconsin, and faculty rela- es of fraternity educational founda- tionship dinners. The undergraduate tions. Thus, the Sigma Phi Educational seminar is now a fixture at the National Foundation has a record of assisting Convention. the chapters with expenses associated Sig Brothers, if you appreciate this with educational purposes. type of training for the active chapter, The Alpha of California has send a check to SPEF. Then be cre- remodeled a portion of the basement ative. How can the Foundation help of the chapter house as a music room. with your educational goals and The room is used as a rehearsal space processes? and is also functional as a recording and ventilation upgrades. The work has studio. When California Actives already started and is expected to be Your tax deductible contribution to the William Stafford, I'06 and Richard Hsu, completed this semester. All improve- Sigma Phi Educational Foundation can I’05 stepped up to remodel and ments will serve to improve the be sent to Sigma Phi Educational improve the music room, SPEF was acoustics and the utility of the music Foundation, c/o The Lending Source, there to assist. A grant was approved at room in the California Chapter House. Ste 1620, 3350 Peachtree Road, Atlanta, GA, 30326, the Fall, 2006 National Convention to Sigma Phi Educational Foundation Attn: David Lipscomb, S’95. pay for acoustic paneling, a new floor exists to support educational activities DECEMBER 2006 PAGE 15

sent off to the publisher. Won't be out until '08; I'm waiting until the crises intensify for News of social security and Medicare. A previous effort – Diversity Machine - contains a chapter on the University of Michigan and its INTEREST diversity efforts. (Then) University President James Duderstadt dismissed the Since the last book because I used the term ‘political cor- issue of the Dave Hamm, M’91, serves up this potpouri rectness.’ The older hardback of the book Flame in July, : Aram Erenberg, M’91 of Sig news finished can be had really cheap on Amazon.com we have been the NY Marathon this year, turning in a The revised paperback is still pricey -- even notified of the very good time (that will shock a lot of in the author's opinion!” Fred’s e-mail is: deaths of the following Sigs: Brothers!). Matt Fortney, M’91, moved to [email protected] Madison and lives about .5 miles from me. Brooks, John, G'42 ...... 8 September 05 I went hunting with Brain Nerbonne, M’91, Joann McGuirk has advised of the death of Christie, Robert G., C'41 ...... 3 February 06 her husband, J. Christopher McGuirk in northern Wisconsin over the weekend of Chamberlayne, E. Pye, S’56 . . .21 October 06 V’63, who passed away on June 1 2005 the Michigan-Ohio State game. Dave’s e- Finlay, Madison S., S'67 ...... 28 May 04 mail is: [email protected] from cancer. “Sigma Phi was a highlight of Jones, Donald S., F'47 ...... 13 December 04 his college days,” she wrote, “and Chris We have a new address for Laurent C. Mark, H. Allen, W'29 ...... talked often of the fraternity and the great McGuirk, J. Christopher, V'63 1 September 05 Lebien S’81: 305 S. America, Covington, times he had.” Schultz III, Robert S., W'38 . . .7 September 06 LA 70403. Laurent, a man of few but pro- Shaw, Robert B., I'42 ...... 13 April 06 Theodore R. Ochs, Jr. L’83, writes: “I have found words, scribbled this encouragement Woolsey, Jay, W'57 ...... across his dues ducat: “Rock On!” lived for the past nine years in Baltimore, MD, 1/2 mile from Innis Harber. My wife, Fred Lynch, M’64, is an associate professor Bernir, and I have a three year old son, of government at Claremont College, and Trey, and are in the midst of adopting a an enthusiastic author. “I’ve just written a child from Guatemala. I work in downtown wrote Frederick C. Smith, C’35, in a book on baby boomers. Tentatively entitled Baltimore as the CFO for Connections recent note. Rock and Roll Retirement Years, it’s just been Academy.” His e-mail: [email protected] We have this update from Harry Willis, Tom Satwicz, M’95, posts this update: “I U’63, “I am still with the New York am now an Assistant Professor in the Secretary as an attorney specializing in Learning & Performance Support municipal law. My wife, Sandy, is a chil- Laboratory, a part of the College of dren’s museum instructor. Our three sons Education at the University of Georgia. I (Mark, Peter and Steven) are all gainfully study informal learning and digital media employed, therefore we are eagerly antici- use.” E-mail: [email protected] pating retirement in about a year.” Harry’s “I celebrated ‘the big 90’ on June 3, 2006,” e-mail is: [email protected]

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Flagship March 4th in NYC

The Society’s 2007 Flagship March Fourth Banquet will return to New York City. While some details are still being worked out, this date has been selected: Saturday, March 10.

The 2007 gathering will be organized by Manhattan alumnus Eric Chartan, V’98. You can reach Eric with your suggestions and questions at either 646-831-5406 or (via e-mail) [email protected]

“I look forward,” says Burlington’s former Head of House, “to planning a great, inviting event with what we'll hope to be a strong attendance.” Convention Souvenirs…

Randy Fields, H’81, and Mike Bromley, H’83 ➝ A Vintage Convention Notice Bob Smithers, H’80 (L), attempts to explain the smile he’s wearing on the cover photo from 23 years ago.

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