Why & How Do I Pray?

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HTB—ALPHA 2007 4) Why & How Do I Pray?—Nicky Gumbel 14/2/2009 1/20

You may replace the It’s an interesting fact to me that in Britain, which is a text in red with a local predominantly secular society, and rather sceptical at that, surveys statistic / fact. have shown that 75 percent of the people pray at least once a week. I don't know what sort of prayers those are, but I know the kind of prayers that I prayed before I was a Christian. There were basically two types of prayer. One was the kind of formula prayer. My grandmother taught me a little prayer, although she wasn’t a churchgoer, when I was a child. It went something like this: `God P bless Mummy and Daddy and Granny’ and one or two others, and The introduction and it ended `Make me a good boy. Amen.' And I prayed that right into story are a good my teens—it’s rather sad, actually! But it was really a superstition— opening to the theme of prayer. It identifies it was Ì don’t think I might sleep if I don’t pray this prayer tonight.’ common views and The other type of prayer that I prayed was a kind of èmergency' uses of prayer that guests will easily prayer —prayer in a crisis. If everything else had failed, then I relate to before the would cry out to God. I heard about an atheist, a total unbeliever, speaker moves on to a more detailed who fell over a cliff. And as he fell over a cliff he managed to grab biblical and practical hold of a tuft of grass. exploration Christian prayer. And he was just literally dangling 250 foot above rocks. And Try to maintain this if although he was an unbeliever, an atheist, he cried out to God. He you use your own examples. said, Òh God—if you’re up there—help me!’ and to his amazement he heard this voice saying, Ì am here. Let go of the tuft of grass and trust me.’ And he thought about it for a moment, he looked down, and then he said, Ìs there anybody else up there?’

Talk point 1 THE ALPHA 1. WHAT IS CHRISTIAN PRAYER? COURSE

Now, those were the kinds of prayers that I prayed before I was a Christian. And the question I want to ask tonight is: What is Christian prayer?

HTB—ALPHA 2007 4) Why & How Do I Pray?—Nicky Gumbel 14/2/2009 2/20 Christian prayer is the most important activity of our lives. It’s the very purpose for which you and I were created: that is, to be in a relationship with the God who made us. Would you like to turn to Ephesians, chapter 2, verse 18. St. Paul writes this:

Ephesians 2:18 For through him —that is, Jesus Christ—we both — that’s Jews and Gentiles, the whole known world—have access to the Father by one Spirit.

First of all, Christian prayer is to the Father. Jesus taught us to pray Our Father in heaven . And in that expression we have this extraordinary combination of what the theologians would call the `transcendence and the immanence of God’. First of all, the transcendence. In heaven —the greatness of God. When we pray, we are speaking to the Creator of this entire universe. Do you know that our sun (S-U-N) is one of 100,000 million stars in our galaxy. And our galaxy is one of 100,000 million galaxies. I read somewhere that for every grain of sand on the beach there are a million stars. And in a throwaway line in the book of Genesis the writer says: he made the stars also —`just like that!’— billions and billions of stars. That’s the transcendence of God in heaven. But—this is the amazing thing—he’s also Our father . He’s immanent, he’s right here now. And the extraordinary thing is that we can have a relationship with him which is like a parent with a child. And Jesus called God ` Abba ’, which is an Aramaic word, which is left in its original because it’s virtually untranslatable. It means something like `Daddy’ or `dear Father’. And Jesus said we could have the same kind of relationship with him that Jesus had— that intimacy, that closeness. So Christian prayer is to the Father, who loves us intimately.

HTB—ALPHA 2007 4) Why & How Do I Pray?—Nicky Gumbel 14/2/2009 3/20 Second thing is it’s through the Son - Jesus. S I read of something that happened during the American Civil War. This is a key As a result of a family tragedy, a soldier had been given permission to illustration of how have a hearing with the President, because he wanted to request Jesus gives us direct access to the Father. exemption from military service. But when he arrived at the White

House, he was refused entry and he was sent away, and he went to If the example of President Lincoln sit in a nearby park. And as he was sitting in this park, a young boy does not work in your came across to him and just remarked about how unhappy he looked. context / culture, try to think of a similar And the soldier found himself pouring out his heart to this young guy. example that does And eventually the boy said, `Look, come with me,’ and the dejected work and that people will relate to. soldier went back to the White House, they went round the back. None of the guards seemed to stop them—even the generals and the high-ranking government officials stood to attention and let them pass through—and the soldier was amazed. Finally they came to the presidential office. Without knocking they went into the west wing, the young boy opened the door of the Oval Office, walked straight in, and there was Abraham Lincoln, standing there in conversation with the Secretary of State. And the moment they walked in, Abraham Lincoln turned to the boy and he said, `Todd, what can I do for you?’ And Todd said, `Dad, this soldier needs to talk to you.’ He had access, through the son.

And that’s what Paul says, is we have access to God through the Son, through Jesus. Jesus takes us into the presence of Almighty God. And although we have no right of ourselves to go into God’s presence, through Jesus, through what he’s done for us on the Cross, through the blood of Jesus, we have access to the Father. So Christian prayer is to the Father, through the Son, by one Spirit. Sometimes people say, `I really wouldn't know how to pray.’ And that’s what Paul says, St. Paul says. He says: We don't know how to pray … but the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness.

HTB—ALPHA 2007 4) Why & How Do I Pray?—Nicky Gumbel 14/2/2009 4/20 Alpha Weekend or And that's why the Weekend is always so exciting: because the Alpha Day Weekend is all about the Holy Spirit, who comes to live within us. And when the Holy Spirit is living within us, he helps us to pray. So when we pray, the whole Trinity is involved: the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. That’s why it’s so exciting.

Talk point 2 THE ALPHA 2. WHY PRAY? COURSE

So why should we pray? Would you like to turn to Matthew 6:6. Jesus says this:

Matthew 6:6 “But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.”

Why should we pray? First of all, because Jesus prayed. And he taught us to do the same. He doesn’t start here by saying `If you pray’ but he says When you pray —he assumes that we will pray. In a way it’s very natural for human beings to pray. We were created for this relationship. And then, because it’s how we develop a relationship with God. All relationships are based on communication. Many marriages break down because of lack of communication; families sometimes break down through lack of communication. But with good communication, the relationship grows and flourishes. And it’s this relationship with God for which we are created. And in this relationship we find the very meaning and purpose of our lives. And then Jesus says when we pray God will reward us. Sometimes people say, `Well, isn't that inappropriate, to be looking for a reward?’ Well, of course there are inappropriate rewards: money for sex is an inappropriate reward. But there are also appropriate rewards. If

HTB—ALPHA 2007 4) Why & How Do I Pray?—Nicky Gumbel 14/2/2009 5/20 somebody’s working hard for their exams, passing them, getting a qualification, is an appropriate reward. If two people are in love, marriage is a kind of fulfilment and reward for love.

C.S. Lewis put it like this: ` The proper rewards are not simply tacked Q onto the activity for which they’re given; but are the activity itself in consummation. '

So what are the rewards of prayer? When we pray, we begin to experience God’s love for us, his presence with us. We begin to experience joy. So many people are looking for joy in all kinds of areas, and often when they get there it doesn’t satisfy, it leaves people feeling empty. But the psalmist says: In his presence, in the presence of God, there is fullness of joy. So often we go around carrying guilt and anxiety and fear, and Paul says: Don’t be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, present your requests to God, and the peace of God, which passes all understanding, will keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. As we pray, this thirst that we all have, spiritual thirst, is satisfied. The spiritual hunger is met. But prayer not only changes us ; it also changes situations. I don’t think it’s possible to prove to a cynic or a sceptic that there is a God through giving lots and lots of illustrations of answered prayer. But I have found it amazing to see the way in which God answers prayer.

I remember when I had first come to faith in Christ, I thought, `This P prayer thing, maybe I’ll give it a go.’ So it just so happened that I Try to think of your needed—I was at university and I needed to get a lift to London. I own personal had a party I was going to, and I think there was a train strike or examples of when you tried praying and something. And so I thought, `I’ll try it.’ So I just prayed a very quick how you learned that prayer. I said, `Lord, please could I have a lift to London.’ A few God listens.

HTB—ALPHA 2007 4) Why & How Do I Pray?—Nicky Gumbel 14/2/2009 6/20 minutes later there was a knock at the door: someone said, `Oh, hello, Nicky. Do you want a lift to London?’ I thought, `That’s funny! Must be a coincidence.’ But I thought, `Well, I'll try something else.' These are all just trivial things, but the next thing I tried, I thought, `Well, I’ll try something a little less trivial. I’ll try praying for my mother.’ I knew that she had a problem sleeping, and she’d suffered from insomnia for a very long time. And so I started to pray for her. I didn’t tell her I was praying, but I started to pray. For a week I prayed for her to sleep well. And at the end of the week I said, `How are you sleeping?’ She said, `Do you know, it's amazing—I’ve slept so well for the last week.’ I thought, `That’s funny!' And as I’ve gone through now, I guess it’s over three decades, of praying and writing down prayers in a kind of prayer diary, and going back over them and ticking them when they’re answered, the cumulative effect of all those answered prayers leads me to believe that prayer does actually change situations.

THE ALPHA 3. DOES GOD ALWAYS ANSWER PRAYER? Talk Point 3 COURSE

So does God always answer prayer? I believe the answer is yes, but we don't always get what we want. For a start, God can’t act in a way that’s inconsistent with his nature. In other words, you can’t pray that 2 + 2 will equal anything other than 4, because it can’t—that’s a mathematical system that is set up, and that’s how it works. We all have sympathy, I think, with the small boy’s desperate and S doomed prayer emerging from the geography exam, praying: `Oh dear God, please make Paris the capital of Turkey!’ It can’t work.

But also the New Testament tells us that there are some things that can stop our prayers being effective. For example, unconfessed

HTB—ALPHA 2007 4) Why & How Do I Pray?—Nicky Gumbel 14/2/2009 7/20 sin—things that are wrong in our life can cause a barrier between us and God. Don’t misunderstand me: of course, Jesus is the friend of sinners. All of us have things that are wrong in our life, and if that stopped us praying, none of us would be able to pray. But Jesus on the Cross died for us so that we could be totally forgiven. But if we choose to reject that and wander off, like the Prodigal Son, away from the Father’s house, then we’re no longer in that relationship. Or if we plan to set out on a course of rebellion against God. The

psalmist said: If I cherished sin in my heart, the L ORD would not have heard me. Or if we have totally wrong motives for what we’re asking for. The apostle James says: You don’t have, because you don’t ask God. And when you ask you don’t receive, because you ask with wrong motives —that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. So in other words, if we’re praying, `Oh Lord, I want to win the Lottery!’ there’s no guarantee that that prayer will be answered! Also there may be things that we just get wrong—we misunderstand what God’s will is for us. When we pray, God promises to answer; but he says —and it’s just over the page—how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him! So sometimes God will say—the answer to the prayer will be ‘No’, just like with a parent. If a couple of two-year-olds pick up carving knives because they want to have a sword-fight, the parent might say ‘No!’ In fact, you’d hope that the parent would say ‘No!’ Not because they don’t love the child; it’s just because they do love the child, that they know a little bit more than the two-year-old knows, and they know that’s not a good idea. And God sometimes says ‘Wait’, but sometimes he says ‘No’ if, as John Stott puts it, `the things are not good in themselves, or not good for us or for others, directly or indirectly, immediately or ultimately.'

HTB—ALPHA 2007 4) Why & How Do I Pray?—Nicky Gumbel 14/2/2009 8/20 Sometimes, certainly in my own experience, we do understand later P why he said ‘No’. I can think of a couple of things in my life where I have prayed desperately, I’ve just prayed and prayed and prayed, Use personal mainly to do with a job, my work. You know, I can think of times examples here. when I’ve prayed and prayed and prayed for a particular job or a particular place at university to enable me to do something. And both those times God shut the door. And now when I look back, I am so glad that he did shut those doors. Because if he hadn't shut those doors, I wouldn't be able to do what I'm doing now. Now, you may wish he hadn't shut those doors! But I personally love what I'm doing now, and I'm so thankful to him for shutting those doors.

Q I think sometimes in terms of relationships, as well, he shuts doors. I heard about Billy Graham’s wife, Ruth Graham, who's been happily married to Billy Graham now for over fifty years—she told an audience in Minneapolis, she said: `God has not always answered my prayers. If he had , I would have married the wrong man, several times!’

So sometimes we look back and realise, understand, why God didn’t answer that particular prayer in the way that we had hoped he would. But I think sometimes we’re never going to know in this life why he didn't answer the prayer in the way that we’d hoped.

I think of an occasion a few years ago when one of my very closest P friends, Mick Hawkins, aged 42. We were playing squash together, he played a fantastic forehand shot, he turned to play the backhand Try to use personal and he just dropped dead of a heart attack. And he was one of my examples of an closest friends; he had six children—one of whom actually is helping equally moving story where you had to cry on this course tonight. And at that moment, I have never cried out to out to God in prayer, God more than I cried out at that moment, that God would heal him, even though you didn’t understand the bring him back to life; that he would not die. But he did. And I don't circumstances.

HTB—ALPHA 2007 4) Why & How Do I Pray?—Nicky Gumbel 14/2/2009 9/20 You may replace the know why. word ‘squash’ with I remember five o’clock the following morning. Obviously, I couldn’t another sport, eg tennis, if squash is sleep. I went out on the beach and I was walking along the beach, not well known in and I was crying out to the Lord, saying, `Lord, you know, I just your culture. cannot understand why you allowed this to happen. But,’ I said, `I’m not going to stop praying. I'm going to carry on trusting you for the rest of my life, even though I don’t understand.’ And as I look back in my prayer diary over the years, there are some prayers that are still un ticked, unanswered. But there are loads more that have been answered.

Talk point 4 THE ALPHA 4. HOW DO WE PRAY? COURSE

So how do we pray? Prayer is a relationship. There’s no set of rules in a relationship—all relationships are different. I suppose one key thing is honesty—God wants us to be honest with him, to say what really is on our heart. Not to come with kind of religious jargon and stuff, but he really wants to know what’s on our hearts. He wants us to be real with him. So there’s no set pattern. But sometimes it’s helped, just sometimes like in a meeting it’s good to have an agenda. And in a meeting with God sometimes it’s good to have a kind of agenda. Not that you always stick to that; but a kind of pattern.

This acronym to spell When I started to pray I used to use the acronym ACTS: that stands ACTS may not for translate into other languages. If you are A for Adoration —just worshipping God, expressing our love, our translating you may praise to God. leave out the text in red. C is for Confession—asking forgiveness for the things that maybe we’ve done wrong and things that we need cleansing for. T is for Thanksgiving—thanking God for all his blessings, all the

HTB—ALPHA 2007 4) Why & How Do I Pray?—Nicky Gumbel 14/2/2009 10/20 good things that he’s given us; maybe looking back through the day before and thanking him for answered prayer. And then Supplication—which is asking for things for ourselves and for others. If you want to know more about that, there’s a little bit about that in the little booklet Why Jesus?

But now, most commonly I use the pattern of the Lord's Prayer. If you’d like to turn just across the page to Matthew 6:9, this is what Jesus said. He gave us a model. He said:

Matthew 6:9-13 “This, then, is how you should pray: ` Our Father in heaven —that's, for me, normally just a question of basking in the presence of God, enjoying his love, thanking him. I look back the day before and all the blessings of life. His goodness, his grace, his forgiveness, his kindness, his love. …hallowed be your name —that’s praying that God’s name will be honoured again in our society. As you look around at our society, so often the name of Jesus is a swear word. And it’s a prayer that once again Jesus’ name would be honoured in our lives, in our families, in our workplace, in our society. …your kingdom come —God's kingdom is God’s rule and reign. And that’s a prayer that God’s kingdom would come in our own lives, in the lives of our families.

I read of one youngish mother called Monica who was a Christian S woman, and she was having real problems with her rebellious Try to replace this teenage son. He was lazy, he was bad-tempered, a cheat, a liar, a with your own story thief. And later on, though outwardly he became very respectable as about someone who was faithful and a lawyer, his life was dominated by worldly ambition and a desire to perseverant in prayer. make money. His morals were loose; he lived with several different If you don’t have your own example you may women and had a son by one of them. And at one stage he joined use this story. some weird religious sort of cult and adopted all kinds of strange practices. And throughout this time this mother just continued to pray for him: your kingdom come in his life. And one day the Lord gave her a vision, and she just wept as she prayed, because she saw the light

HTB—ALPHA 2007 4) Why & How Do I Pray?—Nicky Gumbel 14/2/2009 11/20 of Jesus Christ on him, and his face was just smiling at her with great joy. And that encouraged her to keep on praying. But it was nine years before her son finally gave his life to Christ, at the age of 28. That man’s name was Augustine, Saint Augustine, converted in 386 AD, ordained in 391, bishop in 396, perhaps the greatest theologian of the church. And St. Augustine always attributed his conversion to the prayers of his mother. His mother’s prayers literally changed the course of history.

Matthew 6:9-13 …your kingdom come, your will be done —that’s not resignation but a desire to see God’ s will in our lives, God’s will which is good and pleasing and perfect . …Give us this day our daily bread —I love to go through the day that’s coming up and just ask God’s help in all the different things that I’m involved in. Give us this day our daily bread . God is interested in all of our lives. God loves you. He’s interested in the things that you’re concerned about, just like any parent would be concerned about the things that their children were concerned about. …Forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors —forgive the things that we’ve done wrong, in other words, as we forgive others. There’s this kind of virtuous circle in the teaching of Jesus that the more we understand that we are forgiven, the more that we want to forgive. When we know that Jesus has died for us, as we were looking at on the second week, that all our sins have been forgiven, we can’t hold anything against anybody else any more. And so forgiving people is not a way to earn forgiveness, but it’s a sign that we have been forgiven. Because if we really experience God’s forgiveness, we will want to forgive everybody, however hard it may be—and sometimes it is hard.

HTB—ALPHA 2007 4) Why & How Do I Pray?—Nicky Gumbel 14/2/2009 12/20 Sometimes people say, `Well, why did Jesus teach us to pray Forgive us our sins , or debts or whatever word it is in the translation, when we’re already forgiven through the Cross?’ That’s what we were looking at on Week 2, wasn’t it, that God totally forgives us because of the Cross. Why do we need to carry on asking for forgiveness? Well, Jesus enacted a kind of parable, which I think is very relevant to this. At the Last Supper what happened was that Jesus was washing the disciples' feet. And he came to wash Peter's feet. And Peter said, `No, no, no, Lord! You must never wash my feet!’ And Jesus said, `Unless I wash your feet, you have no part of me.’ So Peter said, in effect, `Well, in that case, why don’t you wash my whole body!’ And Jesus said, `A person who's had a bath needs only to wash his feet. His whole body is clean.’ When you come to Christ, your whole body is clean, you’re totally forgiven. But as we go through the world, just as in the ancient world they picked up dirt on their feet, we, spiritually speaking, pick up dirt on our feet. And we need that sort of daily cleansing: `Lord, forgive the stuff, the bad stuff in my life. Cleanse me.’

Matthew 6:9-13 Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one — God doesn't tempt us, but he is in control of how much we're exposed to temptation. And all of us have weak areas, whether it’s fear, or selfish ambition, greed, pride, lust, gossiping, cynicism etc. And if we know our weakness, we can pray for protection against it, as well as taking practical steps to avoid unnecessary temptation. We’ll look at that in much more detail when we look at the whole subject of resisting evil.

Talk point 5 THE ALPHA 5. WHEN SHOULD WE PRAY? COURSE

HTB—ALPHA 2007 4) Why & How Do I Pray?—Nicky Gumbel 14/2/2009 13/20 So when should we pray? Well, the New Testament encourages us to pray always . Pray in the Spirit , Paul says, on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. You don't have to be in a special building like this to pray. You can pray as you walk down the street, you can pray on your bike, you can pray on the tube. You don't have to pray out loud—in fact, if you’re praying on the tube it might be a help not to pray out loud! But you can pray in your heart.

But I think it’s a help, certainly I’ve found it a help, to have set times P also. I love to start the day. I always think that whatever you start the Give a similar day with, whatever those thoughts are, the mind tends to grind on personal example of them all the way through the day! And to start the day with maybe how you pray. reading the Bible, which we’ll look at, and praying, is a wonderful way to start, I find.

And then with others. Jesus said, I tell you the truth, if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. In other words, he says there’s a special power when we get together and pray together. And that’s one of the things, hopefully, which will happen gradually in the small groups during the course. As you get to know one another and trust one another—it may not happen tonight, but it may happen later on in the course that you start to pray together.

If you’re anything like me, the first time you do it can be a very P daunting experience. I remember the very first time that I prayed with somebody else. I had been a Christian for about, I think, maybe, I This story is a good don’t know, two or three weeks. And we went on—I think we were on way of breaking the a skiing holiday, actually, with my two closest friends, Nicky and Sila ice with guests who may be scared to pray Lee. There were just three of us in the room, and I think it was Sila out loud in a group. who suggested praying together. And we’d never done it before, but Try to use a personal example. we thought we’d have a go. And we prayed for about two minutes—

HTB—ALPHA 2007 4) Why & How Do I Pray?—Nicky Gumbel 14/2/2009 14/20 probably quite long gaps also in that two minutes! And at the end of it I took off my shirt and it was wringing wet, I was so nervous just praying out loud for the first time! But it was a wonderful experience.

The heart of Christianity is this relationship with the God who made us.

And over the years, as I have said, I’ve kept this kind of prayer diary. P And some of the prayers are ticked and they’ve been answered and I’m so thankful to God for doing it; others sometimes remain Finish the talk with an unticked. uplifting, moving and I remember one occasion when I was speaking here on a Sunday encouraging testimony of night, and I got home and the telephone rang, and it was a man who answered prayer. You said, `I was there at the evening service,’ and he said, "I was up in may adapt this story or replace with your the gallery listening to what you said.’ And he said, `I’d love to meet.’ own. So we arranged to meet at, I think, a bistro over here. His name is

The text in red may be James Wynn. He was then an actor. For five years he was the deleted. English teacher in the TV series Grange Hill . At the time, he was quite well known, he’d made a lot of money. And as we talked, I saw someone who in one sense had everything. In addition to all those, he was very good looking, he was very charming, and he had married a very beautiful woman. He told me over lunch that they’d been married for three years and then a year earlier she’d left him. And he said he was absolutely devastated. He said he was so hurt he simply could not forgive her. And as I listened to his story, I was deeply moved by it. There were tears pouring down my face as I listened to him speaking. And at the end of the lunch I said, `Shall we go over to the church, and maybe we could pray.’ He wasn’t a Christian, he wasn’t a churchgoer, but we sat in a room under here and he prayed a prayer of repentance for the things that he’d done wrong that had contributed to the breakdown of his marriage, and he gave his life to Christ.

HTB—ALPHA 2007 4) Why & How Do I Pray?—Nicky Gumbel 14/2/2009 15/20 And he received God’s forgiveness. And when he experienced God’s forgiveness, he found he was able to forgive Anna, his wife, who’d left him. And he wrote to her, telling her that he’d forgiven her. And he said he would love to try and work at getting the marriage back together. But she said no, she wasn’t interested. And in fact he was only able to communicate with her through her lawyer. And I said to him, `Would you mind if I wrote to her myself?’ So I wrote her a letter inviting her to come and see Pippa and I. And to my amazement she said yes, and she came round. And she was the most lovely, lovely person, and we talked for about an hour. And I said to her, `Look, James has changed. He realised that he’s been responsible for a lot of what’s happened in your marriage, and he would love just to meet with you for half an hour, just so that you can see how much he’s changed.’ Two days later I got a letter from her, and she said: `No, I’ve made up my mind. I don’t want to see him ever again.’ And we had prayed so much for her to change her mind. James was devastated, and we all carried on praying. Then there came a moment where the divorce papers came through to James to sign. And at that moment James was in a complete dilemma, because the last thing in the world that he wanted was a divorce. So he went away for a period of two or three days to pray, and I think he actually fasted as well, just to pray and ask God what he should do. And at the end of that time he felt that, although it was the last thing in the world that he wanted was for them to be divorced, he felt that he shouldn’t resist what she clearly wanted; and that, if she wanted a divorce, that he was not going to stand in the way of giving her her freedom. And so he consented to a divorce, and the Decree Nisi eventually went through. But he carried on praying and praying, we carried on praying and praying and praying. And then Billy Graham came to London to speak at Wembley

HTB—ALPHA 2007 4) Why & How Do I Pray?—Nicky Gumbel 14/2/2009 16/20 Stadium. And James by this stage—this was maybe eighteen months later—he’d given up. And what he was really more concerned about was that she should come to know Christ, she should come to know all the wonderful things that he ’d experienced in his relationship with Jesus Christ. And so he sent her two tickets for her and the man that she was living with to go and hear Billy Graham. But she sent them back. Billy Graham decided to stay on for one more Saturday evening event at Wembley Stadium—the earlier events, I think, were at Earl’s Court, but this one was at Wembley Stadium. And so James thought, `Well, I'll just send her two more tickets. What is there to lose?' On the Wednesday their Decree Nisi of divorce had come through. So I think when she got the invitation on Thursday, she thought, `Well, the marriage is over anyway, we’ve got the Decree Nisi of divorce. What’s the harm?’ So she rang up and she said her partner couldn’t come but she would like to come. So they met for lunch and they went on Saturday night to hear Billy Graham speak in Wembley Arena. The following morning, I was speaking at our sister church in St. Paul’s Onslow Square, and just before I got up to speak I looked round—I was sitting at the front—I looked round, and I saw James and Anna walking into the church together. And I had never seen them together before in my life. And they came and they sat next to me in the front of the church. And I was just dying to find out what had happened the night before! But I didn't like to sort of say to her, you know, `Did you go forward?’ You know, Billy Graham always calls people forward to commit their lives to Christ. I didn’t like to ask her that question. But I knew that it had been raining very hard the night before and that all the seats were in covered stands, but that when Billy Graham called people forward he called them out onto the pitch, where it was pouring with rain. So I just said to her, `Did you get wet last night?’ And she said,

HTB—ALPHA 2007 4) Why & How Do I Pray?—Nicky Gumbel 14/2/2009 17/20 `Yes, it was pouring with rain out on the pitch!’ And at the end of the service I invited them to come to lunch, and they told me what had happened—that when Billy Graham invited people to come forward, Anna ran forward! And there was a counsellor there, and apparently this is what they do at a Billy Graham mission, in terms of the kind of questions the counsellors ask, they say, you know, Àre you a Christian?’ and she said no. They said, `Do you want to give your life to Christ?’ and she said yes. And they said, `Well, did you come with a friend?’ And she said yes. And then they said, `Well, is your friend a Christian?’ and she said yes. They said, `Would you like to go and get your friend?’ She said no! So she said, `Well, who is your friend?’ She said, Ìt’s my husband.’ So she said, Òh great, well, why don’t you go and get him!’ She said, `You don’t understand. Until tonight I hadn’t seen him for two and a half years.’ And at that point the counsellor—whhh! — started crying as well! A lot of tears in this story! And as they told me this story of what had happened, it was extraordinary, and Anna decided that at that moment she knew that she wanted to leave what was actually an adulterous relationship and to go back to her husband. And she did. Because they’d already had the Decree Nisi—they hadn’t had the Decree Absolute, so the divorce was not complete—but at that stage you have to get the Decree Nisi un -Decree Nisi’d, so you have to go back to court. And they went to court and they told the judge the whole story. And the judge said, `This is amazing!’ He said, `You know, I sit here all day listening to terrible things that have happened in people’s lives, and this is wonderful!’ The court usher was in floods of tears! And, you know, that’s several years ago now and they’ve been so happily married. They have two wonderful daughters. The oldest of their daughters, Abigail, is my goddaughter. And every time I see them I’m so deeply moved by the way in which God answered those prayers which we had prayed over and over and over again. And I

HTB—ALPHA 2007 4) Why & How Do I Pray?—Nicky Gumbel 14/2/2009 18/20 remember the next day I wrote in my prayer diary, and I wrote this: Praise you, Lord, so much for yesterday, the best day that I can remember. Praise you, Lord, for your greatness and power and love. Thank you so much for Anna Wynn going to Billy Graham. Thank you that she went forward. Thank you that she stayed the night with James. Thank you that she prayed the prayer. Thank you that she’s decided to go back to James. Thank you for her and James coming to lunch afterwards. Thank you for the joy of seeing them together again. Thank you so much that you're a God who answers prayer. Lord, I love you so much. I commit myself back to you, to serve you with all of my heart, all of my life. Is anything too hard for the Lord?

PRAYER May we pray. Father, thank you so much that you are a God who answers prayer. And Lord, I pray that you would help each one of us here to grow in our relationship with you. In Jesus' name, amen.

THE ALPHA COURSE

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