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Learning to Live Without Anger & Lust 2020-01-12 BIG IDEA: Living In The Kingdom Of God Means BIG IDEA: Living In The Kingdom Of God Means Learning To Live Without Anger & Lust Learning To Live Without Anger & Lust Matthew 5:21-30 Matthew 5:21-30 Learning To Live Without Anger - Matthew 5:21-26 Learning To Live Without Anger - Matthew 5:21-26 Three Types of Anger: Three Types of Anger: • ____________ Anger – instinctive, gut-deep • ____________ Anger – instinctive, gut-deep bodily bodily response to a stimulus or experience. response to a stimulus or experience. • __________________ Anger – grows over period • __________________ Anger – grows over period of of time…the more we stew on it, the worse it time…the more we stew on it, the worse it becomes. becomes. • anger about things ___________________ Anger – • ___________________ Anger – anger about things that anger God. that anger God. Ingredients That Fuel Anger: Ingredients That Fuel Anger: • Unmet _____________________– the occasion for • Unmet _____________________– the occasion for the anger. the anger. • _____________ – the perceived disrespect, slight, • _____________ – the perceived disrespect, slight, hate, hurt, lack of love, etc. hate, hurt, lack of love, etc. I Must Move From Fear To Trust I Must Move From Fear To Trust In the Kingdom of Heaven…God is always _________. In the Kingdom of Heaven…God is always _________. We are never ________ and never need to be ________! We are never ________ and never need to be ________! Learning To Live Without Lust - Matthew 5:27-30 Learning To Live Without Lust - Matthew 5:27-30 False Narrative - All Sexual Desire is ________ False Narrative - All Sexual Desire is ________ Silent Church in a Sex-Crazed World Silent Church in a Sex-Crazed World False Narrative - All Sexual Desire is ________ False Narrative - All Sexual Desire is ________ Jesus Narrative - ____________ is the Problem Jesus Narrative - ____________ is the Problem • Epithumia is ___________ • Epithumia is ___________ • Epithumia is intentionally _________________ • Epithumia is intentionally _________________ another person for one’s own _______________. another person for one’s own _______________. Understanding Epithumia Understanding Epithumia • It’s not referring to the first look but the _________. • It’s not referring to the first look but the _________. • First look may be attraction; the second is _______. • First look may be attraction; the second is _______. • Lust does not value the person…only mere ______. • Lust does not value the person…only mere ______. • Lust is the opposite of __________. • Lust is the opposite of __________. • Love __________ people…Lust __________ people. • Love __________ people…Lust __________ people. • Love ____________…Lust leaves us ________ more. • Love ____________…Lust leaves us ________ more. I Must See Epithumia For What It Is I Must See Epithumia For What It Is False, short-lived _______ of pleasure that ultimately _____ life. False, short-lived _______ of pleasure that ultimately _____ life. I Must Cultivate Something Else I Must Cultivate Something Else A strong sense of _______, ________ and an appreciation for A strong sense of _______, ________ and an appreciation for __________ in the Kingdom of God. __________ in the Kingdom of God. .
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