The Canadian Friend Volume 107, Number 5 December 2011
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The Canadian Friend Volume 107, Number 5 December 2011 ‘From the Heart of Darkness - Hope’ Stories of Wonder and Transformation The Canadian Friend Editor’s Corner The Canadian Friend (ISSN 0382-7658) is the Dear Friends, magazine of Canadian Yearly Meeting, and is Transformation occurs within and published five times a year on its behalf by the without every day, in our Meetings and our Publications and Communications Committee. The Canadian Friend is sent to all members of Canadian lives. These are occasions of wonder. During Yearly Meeting and to regular attenders. It is funded Experience of the Spirit in our Lives at CYM, through quotas and free-will donations of the Mona Callin recalled a time during worship membership to further the work and witness of the when she received a message - through Ministry - to be generous. Religious Society of Friends (Quakers) in Canada. It transformed her attitude, and the situation she was struggling • Submissions with resolved beautifully as she approached it with a generous heart. Send articles, poetry, photos, and art, to the editor: I was reminded of a quote of Tulku Thondup Rinpoche, that Bill Sherryll-Jeanne Harris Curry (Prairie) passed to me. “Even if you have a lot of work to do, E-mail: [email protected] if you think of it as wonderful, and if you feel it as wonderful, it 1829 Fern St., will transform into the energy of joy and fire, instead of becoming a Victoria, BC, Canada, V8R-4K4 Telephone: (250) 370-0190 burden.” • Advertising: This issue, while not as lengthy as others, is packed withmarvelous • Send camera-ready or clear, readable copy to stories of enLightenment. Perhaps, as you read through, you will recall the editor, by e-mail. Advertising rates and moments of wonder and transformation in your life. Consider sending details are available from the Business Manager them to me so that they may be shared with Friends in future issues. on request. Experiences such as these are important stories that have strength and • Subscriptions and Donations: power to change us. One cannot help but be moved by the letter from Annual subscription rate for Canada is $28. Paulina Southwick, dated in 1900. Hers is a lesson of deep Faith, and See coloured insert for detailed information. concern for others despite her personal grief. Contact: Beryl Clayton, Business Manager As Steve Fick recalled his dream, I was reminded of a very E-mail: [email protected] Argenta, BC V0G 1B0 important moment when I was four. My dad died suddenly and his Telephone: (250) 352-0038 chosen faith group claimed he was a lost soul; he wasn’t a true believer. • Reproduction: Following the funeral, as I stood on a balcony feeling devastated Copyright © 2010 is held by Canadian Yearly beyond words, an angel appeared face to face with me and Dad was Meeting. Please request permission before reprinting nestled under a wing. This was truly miraculous; such peace filled excerpts longer than 200 words. me, as I understood that he was in God’s care, and I need not worry or fear. Throughout my life, during times of despair, that experience Publications Mail Registration No. 09887 anchors me in the certainty of God’s presence. PRINTED ON RECYCLED PAPER In Falcon O’Hara’s song I hear the call to change, to be open to The cover is printed on FSC Certified the new enlivening essence of the Spirit and, recently at Canadian paper and the pages are 30%, post- consumer recycled paper Yearly Meeting when I heard John Calder say “we need an evolution of the heart”, I thought of Romans 12.2: “... let God transform you NEW ADDRESS? PLEASE ADVISE into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will Send updated address information to: learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and Canadian Yearly Meeting perfect” (New Living Translation). I would add freeing, as well. 91A Fourth Avenue, Ottawa, ON K1S 2L1 E-mail: [email protected] I am happy to include an article from Margaret Slavin again and Tel: (888) 296-3222 and (613) 235-8553 hear the new voice of Darlene Kennedy singing another song to life. The sense of wonder is certainly found in diverse places! Thank you The Canadian Friend acknowledges the to all Friends who contributed to this issue. financial support of the Government of Blessings and joy, Canada through the Canada Periodical Sherryll Harris Fund (CPF) for our publishing activities. 2 December 2011 - The Canadian Friend In This Issue 2 Editor’s Corner 12 Media Explosion 4 Epistle - Western Half Yearly Meeting Jo Vellacott 4 Everybody Knows 14 Book Review Falcon o’Hara Richard Preston 5 Treasure from the Archives 15 Making the Transition to Peace Kyle Joliffe Don Alexander 6 There is Wonder 16 Transformation and Hedgerows Margaret Slavin Gerald Harris 7 Experience of Birth and Death 17 Love Letter to Tom Findley Darlene Kennedy Patty Lembke 8 Reflection 17 Affirmation Joy Bell Conrad-Rice Ann-Lee Switzer 8 Epiphany 18 Illumination Tina Coffin Keith Helmuth 9 In the Public Garden 19 Clerks Report Roger Davies 21 Notice Board 10 Transformed by Fire 22 Around the Family Steve Fick 23 Last Words 11 Report from Representational Com. Caroline Balderston Parry Volume 107, Number 5 3 Western Half Yearly Meeting Everybody Knows You can have a lot of dough, Epistle you can know the cats to know, you can ride in style with babes October 4 – 7, 2011 on both your arms and have nothin’ but an ache Greetings to Friends everywhere, from Western no one laughin’ at your wake Half Yearly Meeting at Shekinah Retreat Centre, near though you dazzled half the world Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. with all your charms. Arriving in a persistent prairie rainstorm, in the dark, we began our transition from individual Friends Somethin’ special, somethin’ true, and families, to a community. what you love is what you do. In the morning, Spirit blessed us with an enchanting All the honour, all the pride sunrise on the golden hills along the river valley. We won’t make up for what’s inside, celebrated the Divine in our midst by sharing in no one sings your song but you. worship, witnessing circles of joyful children, hiking, berry picking, balancing, and by connecting deeply Find the dream that makes you smile. through one-on-one conversations. Walk that long and lovely mile. Many heeded the advice to live adventurously by Fill the world with all the love you have to give. attending Meeting for Flying Fox zip line. Runnin’ scared is in the past. We listened attentively to stories of work with Take your time and make it last. claimants in residential school cases, with agricultural Everybody knows the magic they can live. workers in Ethiopia, with healthcare workers in Iraq, and met in Meeting for Worship with Attention to Somethin’ hidden, somethin’ free; Business. find the lock and be the key. Give your body, give your soul. We were especially joyful as we connected across Hear the thunder, let it roll. generations with the delightful pair of nine-month- There’s no tellin’ who you’ll be. old babes; the active boys; the energetic, tuneful and inseparable young men; the respected elders in their Touch the flowers, taste the sky. eighties; and all of the rest of us who filled in the Learn to dance and learn to fly. spaces. Some of us experienced the joy of witnessing Somethin’ special, somethin’ true, the growth of those we knew as babies, into parents what you love is what you do, caring for babes of their own. no one sings your song but you. We were at times serene, peaceful, musical, playful and worshipful. We were reminded in many ways of Somethin’ special, somethin’ true, the glory of the natural world: coyote howls, northern what you love is what you do, lights, a full moon, and the wide valley visible from no one sings your song but you. our spacious gathering place. Any small friction that rose among us was easily Falcon o’Hara, Winnipeg Monthly Meeting absorbed in the light of the good and supporting atmosphere of our community. Attending Victoria Meeting We departed with spirits replenished, trusting that we would meet again in this magical place. [Song from A Summer’s Tale (2001) by Falcon o’Hara. Falcon sang this in Meeting recently. Imagine Leonard [Submitted by Susan Starr] Bernstein’s musicals] 4 December 2011 - The Canadian Friend Treasure from the Archives Dear friends: ____________________________ I wish I could communicate something that could This is a wondrous letter from my Great-Great- afford comfort to you. But this is from one who is bereaved Great Grandmother. Long ago, perhaps around the of a beloved partner and endeared husband. I can truly year 1900, my maternal grandmother, Alice Lossing Estabrook, transcribed the following letter from say this is the greatest trial I have experienced. It has 1832 in the possession of her grandmother, Augusta caused me anguish of soul. I have made several attempts Malvina Southwick Marshall. It was written by to write but could not bring my mind to the undertaking. Paulina Southwick (1786-1864) Augusta Malvina’s I requested his brother Marmaduke to write the next mother who was a Quaker, and tells of the sudden week after. He said he would and afterward said he had death of her beloved husband George Southwick. It written concerning the death of your dear brother who presumably was sent from the Quaker settlement at Norwich, Ontario, to her husband’s relatives in the departed this life the 14 of 5th month 1832.