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Discursive Matrixes of Motherhood I 00_Martisk.pmd 1 24.11.2006, 15:27 University of Helsinki Department of Sociology Discursive Matrixes of Motherhood Cultivating Decency and Emotion in Finnish and French Mother-Talk Heini Martiskainen de Koenigswarter Helsinki 2006 III 00_Martisk.pmd 3 24.11.2006, 15:27 Research Reports No. 249 Department of Sociology University of Helsinki Layout Anssi Sinnemäki / Tamara Press © Heini Martiskainen de Koenigswarter ISSN 0438-9948 ISBN 952-10-3593-5 (paperback) Helsinki University Printing House, Helsinki 2006 IV 00_Martisk.pmd 4 24.11.2006, 15:27 Abstract Discursive Matrixes of Motherhood examines women’s discourse on their ex- periences of new motherhood in Finland and France. It sets out from two cul- turally prevalent turns of speech observed in different social forums: in conver- sations amongst mothers with tertiary education and in the print media. The pool of data includes: 30 interviews, 8 autobiographically inspired novels and 80 items from women’s magazines. With instruments loaned from the toolbox of rhetorical analysis, the recurrence of certain expressions or clichés is analyzed with regard to the national, cultural, biographical, political and daily contexts and settings in which the speaking subjects are immersed. Staying at home is such a short and special time, the first expression under scrutiny, caught the sociological eye because of its salience in Finland and be- cause it appeared as contradictory with a core characteristic of the Finnish con- text: long family leave. The cliché was found to function as a discursive micro- mechanism which swept mothers’ ‘complaints’ under the proverbial carpet. Proper emotions and decency in mother-talk thereby appear as collective achievements. An opposite phenomenon – that of the scaling up of rewards pro- cured by children – was also discerned in the data. Indeed, the French catch- phrase Profiter de mon enfant [‘making the most of my child’/‘enjoying my child’] is interpreted as a crystallization of a hedonist ethos of motherhood in everyday language. Secondly, the recurrence of this utterance is analyzed in the light of a requisite located in child-rearing expert literature: that of pleasure that women should take in mothering. Hence, one of the rules found to structure the discursive matrixes of mother- hood is the laudability and audibility of enjoyment and conversely the discre- tion and discouragement of ‘complaints’. The cultivation of decent matches between certain categories of emotions and certain categories of individuals also appears as a characteristic of discursive matrixes. One of the methodological findings relates to the fact that such matches may be constituted as sociological objects through the identification of recurrent discursive crystallizations in a V 00_Martisk.pmd 5 24.11.2006, 15:27 given culture. Ideal matches may crystallize in turns of speech and mismatches can be managed through clichés. Becoming a mother entails an immersion in such a particular economy of speech. Key words: mothers, motherhood, transition to parenthood, family, emotions, morality, bonds, rhetorical analysis, discourse analysis, media analysis, France, Finland, comparative sociology VI 00_Martisk.pmd 6 24.11.2006, 15:27 Acknowledgements Written in English by a Finn in France, Matrixes has fed upon the social and intellectual umbilical cords provided by my two alma mater: the University of Helsinki and the University of Versailles Saint-Quentin-en-Yvelines. Sustenance during the research project was provided namely by the The Family in Transi- tion project (2003-2005), directed by Riitta Jallinoja and financed by the Finn- ish Academy of Science1; and funding was prolonged by a grant from the Uni- versity of Helsinki (2006). I am therefore indebted to these two institutions. Discussions and comments were provided by all project members along the way. My special gratitude for stimulating conversations on sociological cuisine and for their collegial care in Helsinki goes to Riitta Jallinoja (co-supervisor of this dissertation), Kaisa Ketokivi, Jaana Maksimainen and Anna-Maija Castrén. Mianna Meskus also commented an early version of the dissertation. Riitta’s sociological nose and counselling prompted me, on several occasions, to pur- sue relevant trails of enquiry which surfaced in my analysis. Kiitos. Invaluable support was also provided by my second supervisor (and very first supporter): Jacqueline Heinen. Her corrections, tolerance of eclectic combina- tions and encouragements over the years – not to mention the daily bread that I found in teaching and research positions at the Université de Versailles Saint- Quentin-en-Yvelines in the Gender and Local Management of Change in Seven European Countries and the Egalité des Chances-projects directed by Jac- queline – got me through the first years of this adventure. Working and publish- ing together constituted my primary socialization to the world of sociology-as- profession. Merci. Occasional financing, permanent logistical help and day-to-day collegial support were also provided by members of the Laboratoire Printemps (Profes- sions, institutions, temporalités, ESA 8085, CNRS) and its director, Didier Dumazière, at the Université de Versailles Saint-Quentin-en-Yvelines. Sharing 1 For a presentation of the project, see <http://www.valt.helsinki.fi/sosio/Perhmurros/english/> VII 00_Martisk.pmd 7 24.11.2006, 15:27 experiences and survival tips informally and formally with doctoral students in Paris and Helsinki also lent buoyancy to this task. I also express my gratitude towards Anne Cova and Jaana Vuori, pre-exam- iners of the dissertation, for their accomplishments in a time-crunch; and for cordially doing me the added honour of becoming my examiners for the viva. My acknowledgements also go to Anssi Sinnemäki, who did the layout for the dissertation and the Department of Sociology of the University of Helsinki, for including the work it in its publication series. Last but not least, I thank all the mothers and fathers, the Paris and the Hel- sinki area dwellers, for the gift of their time, which they took to discuss with the researcher their experiences of becoming parents at this rush-hour of their lives. Heini Martiskainen de Koenigswarter Béon, November 15th 2006 VIII 00_Martisk.pmd 8 24.11.2006, 15:27 Matrix • noun [pl. matrices or matrixes] A situation or surrounding substance within which something else originates, develops, or is contained. The womb. Computer science. The network of intersections between input and output leads in a computer, functioning as an encoder or decoder. ORIGIN: Middle English matrice, from Old French, from Late Latin mâtrîx, mâtrîc-, from Latin, breeding-animal, from mâter, mâtr-, mother. IX 00_Martisk.pmd 9 24.11.2006, 15:27 Contents Abstract ........................................................................................................... V Acknowledgements ...................................................................................... VII Introduction ......................................................................................................1 PART ONE: SETTING THE SCENE 1 The power of categories (the sociological clearing)...................................11 1.1 Doing sociology: natural, official and theoretical categories...............12 Banishing categories ..........................................................................13 Frame breaking ..................................................................................15 1.2 Gendered categories ...........................................................................21 1.3 A Genealogy of Categories: ‘Matrix’ & ‘Motherhood’ .......................24 ‘Matrix’ ..............................................................................................24 ‘Motherhood’ .....................................................................................28 2 Data and methods ......................................................................................31 2.1 The research process ..........................................................................31 Connecting issues ...............................................................................32 2.2 Lint combing for comparative details .................................................37 Details as sociological objects ............................................................37 Discursive minutiae & ‘clichés’..........................................................39 2.3 Materials ............................................................................................43 The interview sample .........................................................................43 Recruitment ........................................................................................46 Semi-structured interviews .................................................................47 Preliminary analyses ..........................................................................48 Novels ................................................................................................50 Women’s magazines ...........................................................................53 3 Contexts of motherhood ............................................................................55 3.1 Coping with great expectations: the biographical context ...................56 3.2 Extended context: fashions in childcare ..............................................62 Historical perspective .........................................................................63