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By Suzanne Thompson Cozza the The Heartland’s CW, where she dispenses fi- “It’s important to know where your money is nancial advice five days a week at 6:30 a.m. She going,” says Tracy M. Bonner, branch operations When it comes to money, it seems there’s nev- emphasizes the importance of self-discipline. manager at The Bank of Missouri. “Every dollar er enough, and with the holidays looming ahead, “With a holiday financial plan, you are setting spent and every dollar saved adds up. Develop a it’s easy to accumulate more debt than you had boundaries that should not be crossed, not even by spending plan as well as a savings plan. The two go intended. you,” she says. “Once it is set, there is no turning hand in hand.” LaKenya Taylor, author of the book “Improving back.” When the holidays loom, it’s easy to whip out a Your Money Flow,” says having a plan is import- The only acceptable changes to spending are credit card and say, “Charge it.” Balances can pile ant. ones that reduce the amount of spending, she says. up fast, but it takes time to pay down the balances. “Have a holiday financial plan and stick to it,” “If you need to update the plan, that’s OK, but “Don’t let this be daunting,” says Ashton Bals- she says. “Keep yourself in the black and not in the only do it if decreasing the amount is the plan; mann, assistant vice president and mortgage loan red. ... I know you want to be kind and get a gift, otherwise, get creative when it comes to gift-giv- officer at Wood & Huston Bank. “Whether it’s plus cook for everyone, but this year, do something ing,” she says. “Perhaps make some gifts. You can the credit cards that may seem like they’ll never go a little different.” always check out Pinterest.” Taylor is known as the “Money Clues Lady” on Tracking your spending is a must. Continued on page 43

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6 Flourish | winter 2016 Stock photo www.semissourian.com/flourish winter 2016 | Flourish 7 business & finance / productivity tunity for unique storage. One stylish and By BrandPoint affordable option is to cut a peg board and place it in an open frame. This eye-catching Empty boxes, piles of paper, pens strewed wall hanging allows for easy access to office about — everyone is guilty of office disorga- essentials. nization. What most people don’t realize is a messy, disheveled office space can dramatical- WRITE IT DOWN ly reduce worker efficiency and productivity. Sixty-two percent of office workers A staggering 98 percent of office workers 7 prefer to manage their to-do list on say they’d be more productive at their jobs if a piece of paper rather than a computer or their offices were more organized, according digital device. Write your task list and place to a 2015 Post-it study surveying 1,000 full- it somewhere you’ll see it, such as the edge of time office workers. That means it’s time to your computer monitor or the front of your get organized, and these 10 simple ideas will Stock photo notebook. This visual reminder will keep you help you tidy up your work area and stay on on task throughout the day. task for good. items. If you don’t use it weekly, find another DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL REDUCE AND RECYCLE place for it. That means unused folders, sta- STUFF Go through drawers and get rid of pa- plers, tape dispensers and the like can go in 8 1 a drawer. At a loss for how to organize paper perwork and supplies you never use. clips, tacks and other small office items? Recycle paperwork and give unused supplies AN OFFICE SUPPLY STAPLE Small tins are a great way to sort and store to co-workers or donate them to your com- these office odds and ends. Place them in munity’s schools. If you’re never going to use Despite the rise of the digital office, 4 drawers so they are out of sight. these things, they’re just taking up valuable sticky notes are still an office staple. On average, office workers use 30 of them per space. SYSTEMIZE FOLDERS week. Keep notepads nearby so you can easily KEEP SUPPLIES STOCKED use them to mark paperwork or write your 9 Tackle that pile of folders in the cor- ner and create a simple organizational Ninety-four percent of office workers co-worker a note of encouragement. 2 system. Color code the folders based on your are less productive when they don’t CORRAL PENS work responsibilities so each tab color is tied have all the supplies they need to work. Or- to a specific task or status of a project. der necessary supplies like sticky notes, file 5 Pens and other office extras like scis- sors, letter openers and highlighters folders, tabs, daily planners, notebooks and CUT CORD CHAOS pens. Then, put colored flags on the calendar look tidy when placed in a jar on your desk. A Are you always digging under to mark when you need to reorder supplies so big jar can hold everything, or use smaller jars 10 your desk for the right cord? you’re never without the necessities. to sort each item into its own container. Clear glass jars make it easy to see what’s inside. Black binder clips typically used to hold pa- RETHINK YOUR DESKTOP perwork together are also great for organiz- THINK VERTICALLY ing USB, cellphone chargers and other cables. A clean desktop is essential to produc- 3 If you’re short on desktop space, think Clip to the side of your desk and thread the tivity, but many people are guilty of 6 chord through the metal to eliminate tangles. having their desk covered with unnecessary vertically. Walls provide ample oppor-

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school or even in cyberspace. By Lindsay Jones “I see a lot of personal interaction kinds of stressors,” she says. For most people, stress is a part of everyday life: Some- Whatever the reasons, stress should be managed as it one cuts you off in traffic. You’re late for work. Your base- arises and not allowed to become a chronic draw on en- ment is flooded. Your spouse isn’t doing their fair share of ergy or contentment. the chores again. Someone “unfriends” you on Facebook. To help clients find ways to mitigate stress, Nagel says Your boss is on the warpath. The cable technician doesn’t she tries to help them realize why certain things trigger arrive on time. The washing machine suddenly breaks. them to overreact. Many times, the way people react to Your car has a flat tire. The baby sitter doesn’t show up. situations is connected to traumatic experiences early in The utility bill is twice as high as it should be. life. Sometimes, all it takes is being exposed to a certain Stressors like these can stretch on seemingly forever. smell to trigger a reaction. But when stress begins to accumulate over time, it can “These things get stored differently in the brain,” she cause much bigger problems than momentary frustration. says. “What trauma does is make associations that don’t Dr. Julie Sappington, who teaches mental health nurs- make sense.” ing at Southeast Missouri State University, says one of In many cases, people will attempt to “zone out” or the most obvious byproducts of chronic stress is how it self-medicate by watching TV or engaging with social affects mood. People who are exposed to nearly constant media. But that’s not particularly helpful. stress can become irritable or short-tempered, which not “You may feel like you’re coping with it in the moment, only can affect their relationships, but can put them at but you’re really just avoiding it,” Nagel says. risk for physical illnesses such as heart disease and stroke. One way to help confront and lessen stress is by prac- The reason for this, she says, is how the mind and ticing mindfulness, whether it’s in the form of yoga or body react in stressful situations. When stress occurs, taking a brief walk in nature. Exercise is another way to hormones and neurotransmitters are released in a “fight keep stress from accumulating, even on a cellular level. or flight” reaction that’s only meant to be a short-term “Even just little things we can do for ourselves can per- mechanism. meate our lives,” Nagel says. With chronic stress, however, those chemicals stick Just as stress accumulates, so, too, can small snippets around and can damage blood vessels and suppress the of “me” time as people work to remove themselves from immune system, among other things. situations that cause the most stress. “So people are more likely to get sick,” she says. Even preparing dinner can become a mindfulness ac- They’re also more likely to gain wait around the abdo- tivity if a person concentrates on the feel of chopping men, have trouble sleeping or suffer from anxiety, depres- vegetables and enjoys the smell of the food while it’s sion or foggy thinking. cooking. Alyssa Nagel, a licensed professional counselor at “I cannot talk about self-care enough,” Nagel says. Great Oak Counseling in Cape Girardeau, says one of But when all else fails, seeking professional help is an- the most common forms of stress she sees among cli- other way to discover why stress is taking such a toll — ents are rooted in relationships, whether at home, work, and to do something about it.

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5 ways to say goodbye to your ‘sad desk lunch’ STEP AWAY FROM THE SNACK MACHINE

Professional Fitting With A Certified Fit Specialist Stock photo Band Sizes 28 - 54 WALK AWAY FROM YOUR DESK. own with only six ingredients. Thickly slice 2 FIND A NEW WAY TO PACK YOUR SALAD. By BrandPoint Do you eat at your desk every day? You have pounds of potatoes and coat them with olive Forget about soggy, wilted lettuce. One of the best Cup Sizes A - N a lunch break for a reason, so use it. You’re busy oil and 1 tablespoon of salt. Season with cay- ways to pack a salad is in a quart-sized canning jar. You’re running out the door, already late and and need a few minutes to recharge throughout enne and ground pepper. Arrange the slices on a Put your dressing on the bottom, then add your lettuce, thinking about that important 8 a.m. meeting. the day. You’ll come back refreshed and ready greased baking sheet and bake at 400 degrees for veggies and any other salad toppings. Everything stays Lunch is the last thing on your mind. In fact, to be productive for the rest of the afternoon. 30 minutes until potatoes are crisp and golden separate until it’s time to toss together. Simply pour the you usually just pick something up from the deli Eating at your desk also means you’re probably brown. Then, spread them out on parchment pa- salad out into a bowl and you’re ready to eat. Your salad line or local fast food place and hurry back to multi-tasking, not paying attention to your food. per, sprinkle with salt and enjoy. Pack a handful will also last for a couple of days in the fridge, so you your desk. Leaving your desk will help you become a more of chips in your lunch each day for more crunch can make a few days’ worth of lunches ahead of time. Sound familiar? You’re not alone. Only one mindful eater and you’ll enjoy your meal more. and less guilt. in five people actually ditch their desks during Take a walk, socialize with co-workers or do MAKE YOUR LUNCH AT WORK. their lunch hour. When you feel your stomach something that gets you up and moving for at STRAY FROM THE PB&J. Are you always running out of time to pack a lunch? growl, it’s all too easy to grab something from 519 Broadway least 15 minutes. Peanut butter and jelly might be a staple, Choose a lunch you can throw together in minutes. A the vending machine or — if you remember — but it’s time for a grown-up work lunch. You chicken salad wrap, tuna melt, pita pocket sandwich to pack a cold turkey sandwich. But there are Downtown Cape Girardeau BAKE UP A BATCH can find sandwich fixings that are not only easy with hummus or a Greek yogurt parfait are all rela- plenty of easy ways to spice up your lunchtime OF HEALTHY CHIPS. and quick, but take your lunch to the next lev- tively simple, healthy meals you can prepare in the of- 573-290-0041 routine at work. Here are some tips to improve Step away from the snack machine. You don’t el. Chicken salad is a healthier option, and you fice. Keep the ingredients on hand and lunch will be a your mediocre midday meal: www.perfectfitbraboutique.com need those stale potato chips. You can bake your can’t beat that classic, creamy texture and flavor. no-brainer. Tues-Fri 10-6 & Sat 9-4

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By Anne Hudson softer the color, the more milky in appearance the product will appear on a darker complexion. It is my firm belief that wearing red lipstick can The same idea goes for burgundy: You want a be as effective as changing from an office pantsuit burgundy or wine-colored lipstick with a high into a slinky LBD (little black dress). That being pigmentation so the color doesn’t get lost on your said, one of the biggest fears I hear from women skin. It can be a great contrasting color to your is they are terrified of how they will look in a red complexion and can break up how heavy makeup or dark-colored lipstick. We all have that fear can appear if you have darker skin. of going out in public, smiling at someone and, Now let me suggest a few tips on application instead of flashing our pearly whites, we look like and how to wear these colors so it feels less we got punched in the mouth because of all the intimidating. About Anne lipstick on our teeth. This could cause anyone to When you wear a red, dark wine or burgundy Anne Hudson, a self-taught makeup run in the opposite direction when looking for a color, you’ll want to prime your lips. As the color artist, has had a passion for makeup since she was old enough to know what darker lipstick. wears throughout the day, it will begin to settle powder was. She could write a book However, I am still a huge advocate of red into the cracks and crevices of your lips and give a about red lipstick, but for now, she’s lipstick and what it can mean for any woman who more aged appearance. offering her best tips in Flourish maga- wears it confidently. My objective today is to calm To avoid or minimize this, first apply a scrub zine. Have a question for Anne? Send it to [email protected], the anxious hesitations we have of wearing a red product to your lip or brush your lips with a and you might find the answer in a or darker-colored lipstick and hopefully change toothbrush to remove any excess dry skin. Then future issue of Flourish. your opinion of these gorgeous shades by helping apply chapstick or a primer to moisturize your lips you understand which will look best based on before the application of your lipstick. Do this at your skin tone. the beginning of your makeup application rather Let’s start with a fair complexion. Those of us than right before so it has time to soak into your shadow brush and the concealer product and run with cool undertones need to stick to reds with a lips. it against the edge of your lips. bluish undertone. Have you ever heard that if you Once you are ready for lipstick, start by lining In contrast to the red, however, we want to want the appearance of whiter teeth, wear a color your lips with a matching lipliner (Tip: if you are soften the lines of a burgundy or wine-colored FIRST PLACE with a bluish undertone? The blue undertone will olive/warm toned, apply a lipliner with a bluish lipstick. If the line is too sharp or we draw the not only give the appearance of whiter teeth, but undertone. This will cancel out the excessive cupid’s bow too sharp, it gives the appearance will add vibrancy to your skin. If you prefer a more orange undertones.) Fill in the entire lip with of a more aged or even masculine look. You’ll in Best Magazine/Alternative Publication dark or vampy lipcolor, stick with a raspberry or liner. This ensures intensity and longevity of the want to round off the cupid’s bow a little, as that in the Missouri Press Foundation's 2016 Better Newspaper Contest. cranberry hue. The cool pink undertones of these lip color. area is where it can appear sharp. Also, try using two colors can liven up your complexion and give Applying a loose powder over your lip product formulas with a satin or glossy finish. These types a more playful appearance. also helps with longevity. Simply separate a piece do not appear as dark as the matte formulas and For those of us with a medium complexion, of toilet paper into one ply, then place it directly can be a little more wearer-friendly. we tend to be warmer than our fair counterparts. over your lips and tap on the powder. The toilet Red lipstick can be such a powerful lipcolor. And for that, I would stick to an orange-based paper will act as a filter, allowing just enough If you decide to give it a go, let it be the focal Inspiring Women. red lipstick and avoid anything with a bluish powder through to set your lipstick. This also point. Keep your eyes and cheeks in neutral colors hue. Women with warm undertones or olive prevents you from ruining your brush with the and avoid piling on the bronzer. If the darker, complexions can sometimes have a sallow lipstick, and from looking like you tried to eat more vampy colors are your preference, you can Since 2010, Flourish Women's Magazine has been producing content to encourage women and cultivate appearance, so to offset or cancel that, orange every powdered doughnut in the factory. entertain a smokey eye look, but again, you don’t tones are preferred. Burgundy hues are a great A trick to wearing red lipstick is to outline want to have a strong eye, cheek and lip. Have a community. We are honored to be awarded best magazine and appreciate the support of our loyal readers option as well. While they can be a little vampy the outer portions of your lip with a concealer focus area and stick to it, at least until you feel that is half a shade lighter than your skin tone. and advertisers. You make us want to achieve more with every issue! looking, most burgundy colors play off very well more comfortable with the color palette. to a warmer complexion. The concealer acts as an eraser by covering any With all this in mind, challenge yourself to If you are dark complected, you want to veer mistakes an unsteady hand creates when lining step out of your comfort zone this season and try toward a high-intensity color, while also keeping the lips or applying the product. It also helps something a little different. But no matter what with the orangey-red colors. A bright fire-engine create a sharper line when run across the edge you choose, always have confidence in yourself. red lipcolor will certainly liven up your face. The of the lipliner. Just use any flat liner brush or eye That will always be your best look.

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On Leslee, at left: Red “Happy Camper” T-shirt, blue and purple plaid flannel shirt with hood, distressed jeggings and green puffer vest with faux-fur trim, all available at Maurices in Cape Girardeau. Leslee also is wearing a gold LC Lauren Conrad “knot” bracelet from Kohl’s in Cape Girardeau, and her own boots.

On Shalyn, at left: Free People jacket in moss with plaid flannel lining, Flying Monkey black midrise skinny jeans, BKE long-sleeve waffle-knit henley top in taupe, Buckle two-way cam- isole in rose brown, Khombu tall lace-up Adeline boots in tan and white, BKE pewter knotted necklace and BKE magnetic wrap-style bracelet in white with rhinestones, all available at The Buckle in Cape Girardeau.

On Leslee, next page: Orange Creek furry fringe vest, Cello skinny jeans and handmade gold, turquoise and leather pendant, all available at Brickwood Boutique in Cape Girardeau, worn with a brown lace- sleeve top and hat from Maurices, a black and gold choker necklace from Stash, and Coconuts by Matisse Miranda fringe booties in saddle shade from Stash.

On Shalyn, pages 20 and 21: Articles of Society distressed skinny jeans, En Creme multicolor print kimono, black velvet choker necklace, CC Exclusives pink hat and Very Volatile Rissa bow-back sandals in blush suede, all HAPPY available at Stash in Cape Girardeau, paired with a charcoal gray tank top from CAMPERS Maurices in Cape Girardeau. Other items: Stainless steel thermos, Sonoma gray plaid COZY STYLES FOR OUTDOOR FUN sherpa throw blanket and The Big One blue plaid throw, all available at Kohl’s in Cape Girardeau.

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By Logan Young

Kriste Martin is all about finding solutions. Martin, who opened Perfect Fit Bra Boutique on Oct. 19 on Broadway in downtown Cape Girardeau, says she originally came up with the idea to open her own bra shop when she herself couldn’t find a well-fitting bra in Southeast Mis- souri. “I’ve been actually wanting to do this for prob- ably three or four years, and the reason why is I had always had trouble finding bras that fit, and I was having to travel to St. Louis to get them and it was really kind of aggravating,” she says. “Once I understood what constitutes a bra that fits well, I would see women that were wearing the wrong bra, and I knew myself what it did for me.” Finding the desire to provide “bra interven- FEATURING tions” for the women around her, Martin decided to open Perfect Fit and provide the service herself, LAURA SIMON ~ [email protected] all with the goal of helping women look and feel Kriste Martin, owner of Perfect Fit Bra Boutique on Broadway in downtown Cape GIrardeau. better. “You have better posture, you feel better about less bras for many sizes, up to an L in U.S. sizing. yourself, your clothes look better, it really slims You have better “It is not just for plus-sized, it is not just for you — I don’t think people really understand this,” full-busted, it is not just for a mastectomy patient she says. “posture, you feel better or someone that’s nursing; we have bras in all siz- Martin says her background of about 15 years The about yourself, your es, all ranges,” she says. in group health insurance has made the transition Shades of Soul Martin also offers matching underwear pair- to store owner easy. clothes look better, it ings and loungewear from PJ Harlow, and she Penguin Party! “I really enjoy sales and meeting new people will begin offering loungewear from the Colom- and helping people, so I was ready for a change really slims you — I Come Chill and Support Our Schools bian company Options Intimate in December. and this is what I did,” she says. “I just wanted to don’t think people really She even has petite bra options for preteens and Saturday,February 11, 2017 at 6 pm help women feel their best and, too, I think, how younger women. fun to be in a retail boutique environment. Bras understand this. “We’ve got a lot of variety, different bras for dif- are not quite as serious business as health insur- ferent solutions,” she says. Rays Banquet Center • Call 573-651-0555 ance.” She says she plans to continue changing up her Most importantly, Martin wants to help area ” to reserve your table now inventory by incorporating more colors and styles women find that perfect fit and empower them Martin has a number of solutions in stock for as vendors release them. All in all, she wants to [email protected] • www.capeschools.org through the perfect bra in a safe, clean and judg- women unable to find the ideal bra for a certain empower women to take charge of how they look. ment-free environment. situation. She offers maternity bras, nursing bras, “That’s what it’s all about, trying just to help “I really want it to be about helping women feel mastectomy bras, sports bras and band sizes rang- women feel their best and look their best and have good about themselves and looking great, feeling ing from 28 to 54 and cup sizes from A to N, with fun doing it,” she says. great, and there’s no judgment here,” she says. prices averaging around $65. She also offers strap-

24 Flourish | winter 2016 www.semissourian.com/flourish www.semissourian.com/flourish winter 2016 | Flourish 25 Tara Landewee stays fit By Logan Young second time in a figure competition in September. features / bodybuilding with regular workouts Bikini competitions typically center on slim fig- GETTING at the Osage Centre in ures and less on muscle, whereas figure competitions Cape Girardeau. Several months ago, Tara Landewee wrote her goal READY LAURA SIMON ~ lsimon@ of appearing in a bikini bodybuilding competition on focus on well-defined muscles and clear definition. semissourian.com the goals board in the Osage Centre fitness room. In either situation, diet proves to be a key factor in FOR THE A graduate of Southeast Missouri State University terms of success. with a Bachelor of Science degree in health manage- “Diet’s definitely one of the biggest things. You HOLIDAYS? ment with an option in health promotion, Landewee have to be really good about it because you can work Everything under has been focused on her health and working out for all day long, but you’re never going to outwork a bad most of her life. diet, so that’s what it comes down to,” Morozko says. one Roof “I’d always been in the working-out field, but over On a personal level, Morozko says bodybuilding the years I’d gotten more dedicated and more serious takes a supportive group of people who understand about it,” she says. the process and the dedication it takes to improve In the past six months she started focusing on and succeed. bodybuilding and bringing her fitness to a whole It also takes a positive mindset. new level. “You have to do it to be happy with yourself, to be “It had always been kind of like a dream to me,” happy with where you get, and only compete with she says. “It was something you wanted to set goals yourself … you have to be happy with you, and you and do, but I was scared to death to do it, primarily kind of have to set your own goals when you’re train- because of the hard work, the dedication you gotta ing to beat yourself prior to that,” Morozko says. put in, the stage time — you actually have to do pos- Along with role models she follows on Instagram, ing classes and you have to wear the bikinis.” Morozko says her mom is an inspiration because At the time, a couple of her friends who also ex- even when facing obstacles, she has continued to ercise at the Osage Centre had participated in com- work out and stay strong. Floor Coverings petitions before and were looking to do another. They “She is my inspiration … she has two knee re- ‘BEING HEALTHY MAKES YOU asked her to come along, and she decided to take the placements and her back’s been out a few times, and Flooring chance and compete. she’s gotten through it and still worked out, so I think She hired a trainer and worked with him to set a it started me to be like, ‘OK, stop being a baby, you meal plan and workout schedule. She met her goal should probably do more,’” Morozko says, laughing. FEEL FABULOUS’ with her first competition on Aug. 13 in Arnold, Bodybuilding also can be a platform to help others. 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Main St. Jackson MO 573-243-8888 26 Flourish | winter 2016 www.semissourian.com/flourish winter 2016 | Flourish 27 features / hope No one wants to hear that their child has a terminal illness — but too many parents will hear that very news. Rachelle Weber and Megan Jensen share how they led their families through difficult times and kept moving forward.

diagnosis. spouses have to share, Rachelle says. She, By Tyler Graef Both women had other children at home, for example, is a natural planner. She poured too. Megan was 10 weeks pregnant, and she herself into settling the logistical bramble It starts with a sense of shock. says the most important thing for siblings is of treatments and checkups. Her husband When your child gets a bad diagnosis or to make sure they know and feel they’re not Dean, stronger in faith, became the family’s injury, as did Rachelle Weber’s oldest son forgotten. emotional anchor. Nolan, the world stops on a dime. “I can remember at the hospital being in “We complemented each other well,” she “It’s like, ‘Did I really just hear that?’” she 1 an elevator,” she says. “And overhearing two says. “It’s very difficult to do that as one per- says “Is this going to affect the rest of our parents talking. We could tell from the way son.” lives? It’s shock and denial.” they were talking they’d been in the cancer For the Jensens, the key was total openness. For Megan Jensen, whose daughter Ab- world for a while. But we were new. One said “Nothing was off the table,” Megan says. igail was diagnosed with cancer in 2010, it to the other, ‘It’s OK to spoil your sick child. She knew a couple in St. Louis, she says, ‘YOU’RE ALWAYS was the same. When Abby started walking As long as you spoil their siblings, too.’” who had done the opposite, and it didn’t end funny, Megan and her husband, Jon, thought It stuck with Megan. It became her phi- well. After sending their daughter back for a she had eye problems. They took their 4-year- losophy. Since the diagnosis, they saw every radiation treatment, the husband broke down old to the optometrist, only to be referred to STRONGER THAN day with Abby as the precious gift it was. in tears. The wife told him to suck it up. That another doctor, whose CT scan revealed an And so was every day with her other daugh- he was being a pansy. unknown mass in their daughter’s brain. ters, Mary-Beth and Emily and eventually “So from then on, he held it all in,” Megan “I just put my face in my mom’s chest and Sara, too. says. “Gave himself a heart attack.” YOU THINK YOU ARE’ cried,” Megan says. Jon did the same in Ab- Rachelle says it’s crucial to find time to Not communicating will only compound by’s lap. spend with the other siblings. And if there’s the problem, she says. “Then, after the first few minutes, we no time, make time. “You’re two different books on two differ- pulled ourselves together and said, ‘OK. Let’s Megan says that once, she surprised her ent pages,” she says. “But you have to figure fight. Let’s go,’” she says. oldest daughter by picking up her from out how to be on the same chapter.” Rachelle did the same. school and taking her to the movies. Nolan Weber and Abigail Jensen passed “There’s a sense of urgency that’s multi- “We saw ‘Ramona and Beezus,’” she says. away. Unfortunately, inevitably, the same will plied because they’re your child,” she says. “We were the only two in the theater. We happen to other families in the future. But “And that first step depends on who you’re had a popcorn fight and just enjoyed one not all. So the most important thing, Rach- dealing with at the time, if it’s a doctor or another.” elle says, is to keep going. Megan says the emergency room attendant or even just a She says she wanted Abby’s siblings to same. spouse.” look back and think about the good times “People say, ‘Oh, I could never handle For her, it was going to St. Louis after No- they had with their sister, not just being in something like that,’” she says. “But they’re 2 3 4 lan had an unexpected seizure. For Megan a hospital. wrong. You’re always stronger than you think it was similar — heading to St. Louis for a And the situation’s weight is something you are.” PUT YOUR BEST CHIN FORWARD!

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1. Abigail Jensen, 5, plays with her grandfather Arnold Jensen in January 2011 at her family’s Oak Ridge home. 2. Nolan Weber’s senior photo. 3. Rachelle In-Office ~ NO Surgery Weber, Nolan’s mother, addresses the crowd Sept. 13, 2014, before the start of the first Nolan Weber Believers 5k and Fun Run in Jackson. 4. Abby Jensen. 5. The Weber family at the Cure for Cape Cancer Gala in August 2013. 6. Participants take off from the starting line Sept. 13, 2014, during the first 573-651-1882 Nolan Weber Believers 5k and Fun Run in Jackson. 7. Nolan Weber talks with his mother, Rachelle Weber, in December 2011. (Submitted and Southeast Missourian file photos)

28 Flourish | winter 2016 www.semissourian.com/flourish www.semissourian.com/flourish winter 2016 | Flourish 29 living / space A FLEXIBLE SPACE Create a room that’s perfect for guests, but practical for you, too

By Melissa Rayworth Associated Press

Hosting houseguests can be a challenge un- der the best of circumstances. Having a well-de- signed, private space for them is a huge help, but many homeowners don’t have a dedicated room just for that. “Realistically, most people don’t have guests ev- ery week,” says interior designer Betsy Burnham, founder of Burnham Design in Los Angeles, so many people create hybrid guest room/home of- fice spaces, or blend a guest room with a playroom or crafting room. The challenge is making the space warm and welcoming to guests but functional for other needs. Here, Burnham, small-space design expert Kathryn Bechen and Brian Patrick Flynn, found- er of the design firm Flynnside Out Productions, TRIA GIOVAN/BETSY BURNHAM via Associated Press offer advice: This undated photo provided by Betsy Burnham shows a guest room designed by Burnham of L.A.’s Burnham Design. Built-in bunk beds create a welcoming sleep space for guests while using space CREATE A FLEXIBLE SPACE efficiently in this guest bedroom. If your home office will double as your guest satin.” room, Flynn suggests designing a creative work Burnham’s new line of furniture, called Ward- station that doesn’t feel like a corporate office. robe, is upholstered in cozy, touch-friendly fabrics Realistically, Instead of putting identical nightstands on like soft linen, chambray and denim. most people don’t either side of a bed or sofa bed, try mixing and If the room has a sleeper sofa or futon with a matching bedside furniture, he says, “letting one “ less-than-luxurious mattress, add softness with have guests every of them be a desk or console table to double as a plush blankets, bed pillows and high-thread- workstation.” count sheets. A sheepskin instantly warms up a week,” says interior And you may not want a queen-size bed dom- guest room floor, Burnham says. designer Betsy inating your workspace. Burnham notes there are Too many throw pillows on a sofa or bed, how- many comfortable sofa beds these days. Or try a ever, can be a nuisance for guests to remove each Burnham, founder daybed with a trundle attachment. Decorate with night and rearrange in the morning. So stick with structured cushions that give the appearance of a a few luxurious ones that add beauty and comfort. of Burnham Design sofa by day, but are easily put aside at night. in Los Angeles, One great retro option: Burnham says there SHARING THE SPACE are modern Murphy beds with innovative designs If the room is normally your office, decide so many people that work well in smaller rooms. whether you’ll completely withdraw from using it while guests are in town. If it’s possible to work create hybrid guest COLOR AND TEXTURE elsewhere in the house for a few days, make that room/home office Another way to make a home office feel like a easier by keeping an attractive empty box or bas- welcoming guest room is using color “to personal- ket on hand to gather work items for temporary spaces, or blend ize the space and draw you in to rest,” says Flynn. relocation. “I use blue-grays and gray-greens because they’re If relocating isn’t practical, Bechen suggests a guest room with soft and relaxing, but not too energetic.” discussing the subject up front, preferably before This undated photo provided by a playroom or Betsy Burnham shows a home office He also suggests using a range of textures in your guest arrives. designed by Burnham of L.A.’s upholstery, bedding and floor coverings. For ex- “A lot of people work from home,” she says. “So crafting room. Burnham Design. This home office ample, “Mix super-nubby textures like boucle that doubles as a guest room. A pullout feel good on your feet with sleek ones like silk and Continued on page 43 sofa serves as daytime seating and doubles as a bed for houseguests. TRIA GIOVAN/BETSY BURNHAM 30 Flourish | winter 2016 via Associated Press www.semissourian.com/flourish winter 2016 | Flourish 31 Q & A / style & beauty soup / living

Add all remaining ingredients, except cabbage dente (or GF pasta) and barley. Bring to a simmer. Add barley. Adjust • Extra Parmesan cheese for garnish (optional) seasoning. Simmer a few minutes, then add cab- bage and simmer until barley is done, about 20 Crock-Pot version: minutes. Stir gently, but make sure to get all the Puree beans with 1 cup of the broth in a blend- way to the bottom to avoid sticking. Add water or er. Heat oil in a large nonstick skillet over medi- beef broth as needed to make the soup as thick or um-high heat. Add the carrots, celery, onion and thin as you desire. Check for seasoning. garlic and saute until tender and fragrant, about 15 Cool properly and divide to share with family minutes. and friends, or freeze small containers for later use. Transfer to the Crock-Pot, along with the re- (Submitted by Susan McClanahan) maining broth, tomatoes, pureed beans, Parmesan cheese rind, salt and pepper. Add the rosemary, EIGHT CAN TACO SOUP basil and parsley; cover and cook on low for 6 to • 1 can (15 ounces) black beans, drained and 8 hours. rinsed Forty minutes before the soup is done cooking, • 1 can (15 ounces) pinto beans, drained and add zucchini and spinach. Cover and cook 30 more rinsed minutes. Remove bay leaves, rosemary sprig and • 1 can (14.5 ounces) petite diced tomatoes, Parmesan rind and season to taste with salt and drained black pepper. Ladle 1 1/4 cups soup into 8 bowls, SOUP-ER MEALS • 1 can (15.25 ounces) sweet corn, drained with 1/4 cup pasta in each, and top with extra Par- • 1 can (12.5 ounces) white chicken breast, mesan cheese if desired. Stock photo drained • 1 can (10.75 ounces) cream of chicken soup Stovetop directions: • 1 can (10 ounces) green enchilada sauce Puree beans with 1 cup of the broth in a blend- simmer for 30 minutes or until heated through. • 1 can (14 ounces) chicken broth er. Heat oil in a large pot over medium-high heat. Nothing beats a big pot of soup for dinner — it’s Yield: 14 servings (3 1/2 quarts). • 1 packet taco seasoning Add the carrots, celery, onion and garlic and saute (Submitted by Brooke Clubbs, via “Taste of Home”) easy, it hits the spot on cold nights, and you’re Mix all ingredients together in a large pot. Heat until tender and fragrant, about 15 minutes. until warm, stirring occasionally. Serve with tortilla Add the remaining broth, tomatoes, pureed VEGETABLE BEEF SOUP bound to have plenty of leftovers chips. beans, Parmesan cheese rind, salt and pepper. Add Start out with a very large pot, like a canner or (Submitted by Brooke Clubbs, via highheelsandgrills. the rosemary, basil and parsley, cover and cook on 12- to 16-quart stock pot. This makes a large batch com) low 40 minutes. Add the zucchini and spinach, of soup. tion in her family, like the “Super-Duper Chili” SUPER-DUPER CHILI cover and simmer until the zucchini is tender, about By Logan Young • 4 1/2 pounds ground beef she makes every Halloween. • 1 pound bulk pork sausage CROCK-POT MINESTRONE SOUP 8 to 10 minutes. • 2 onions, chopped Also no stranger to traditional and nostal- • 1 pound ground beef • 1 can (15 ounces) white beans, drained, rinsed Remove the bay leaves, rosemary sprig, Parme- As cooler months approach, comforting, • 7 or 8 medium potatoes, peeled and cubed gic soup recipes is Susan McClanahan, Good • 2 cans (16 ounces each) hot chili beans, (cannellini or navy) san rind and season to taste with salt and black home-cooked meals become household staples, • 1 bag (16 ounces) frozen carrots Times columnist and administrator at the Cape undrained • 1 32-ounce container reduced-sodium chicken pepper. Ladle 1 1/4 cups soup into 8 bowls with especially when it comes to soup. • 1 bag (16 ounces) frozen lima beans Girardeau Senior Center, whose favorite soup is • 1 jar (16 ounces) salsa broth (or vegetable broth for vegetarians) 1/4 cup pasta in each and top with extra Parmesan “The family is ... more in the mood to gather • 1 bag (24 ounces) frozen green beans her mother’s vegetable beef recipe. • 1 can (16 ounces) kidney beans, rinsed and • 2 teaspoons olive oil cheese if desired. around the table and all of those good smells, all • 1 bag (16 ounces) frozen whole kernel corn “There’s nothing like making a humongous drained • 1/2 cup chopped onion (Submitted by Brooke Clubbs, via skinnytaste.com) of those good things that simmer all day long • 2 large cans (28 ounces each) whole tomatoes, pot of soup … and part of that is a lot of good • 1 can (15 ounces) pinto beans, rinsed and • 1 cup diced carrots are what we’re in the mood for, I think, when chopped, with juice memories,” McClanahan says. “Not only does it drained • 1/2 cup diced celery SLOW COOKER BROCCOLI it gets cooler out,” says Brooke Clubbs, recipe Rinse cans with half full amount of water and taste fantastic, but part of it is emotional.” • 1 can (14 1/2 ounces) diced tomatoes, • 2 garlic cloves, minced CHEESE SOUP columnist for The Best Years and communi- add to pot. Whether making it for your family or shar- undrained • 1 can (28 ounces) petite diced tomatoes • 1/3 cup butter, sliced cations instructor at Southeast Missouri State • 3 boxes (32 ounces) 50 percent less sodium beef ing it with friends and neighbors, McClanahan • 1 can (10 3/4 ounces) condensed cream of • Parmesan cheese rind (optional) • 1 1/2 cups chopped yellow onion University. broth says a large pot of soup has the ability to bring mushroom soup • 1 fresh rosemary sprig • 2 cloves garlic, minced As a mom of three, Clubbs says her favorite • 1 can (46 ounces) V-8 juice, rinse can with a people together. • 1 can (8 ounces) tomato sauce • 2 bay leaves • 6 tablespoons all-purpose flour soup recipes typically are the ones her kids will little water and add to pot “Heating it up for later, sharing it with • 8 ounces processed cheese (Velveeta), cubed • 2 tablespoons chopped fresh basil • Salt and freshly ground black pepper eat, too. • 1 cup quick-cooking barley friends and family or freezing it to use later — • 1 1/2 teaspoons chili powder • 1/4 cup chopped fresh Italian parsley • 2 cans (12 ounces) evaporated milk “I have found that when my kids help me • 1/3 cup sugar all of those are keys to making that humongous • 1/2 teaspoon cayenne pepper • 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt and fresh black pepper • 5 cups low-sodium chicken broth cook, they’re more likely to eat whatever it is Check and adjust for salt and pepper. big pot of soup,” she says. In a large soup kettle or Dutch oven, cook • 1 medium 8-ounce zucchini, diced • 5 cups small diced broccoli florets* we’re making,” Clubbs says. “If they help make • 1 medium head cabbage, chopped the sausage and beef over medium heat until no • 2 cups chopped fresh (or frozen defrosted) • 1/8 teaspoon dried thyme it, then it’s just less mysterious or something, so Cook beef and onion together, adding salt and Read on for several of Clubbs’ and McCla- longer pink; drain. Stir in the remaining ingre- spinach they have a little ownership as well.” pepper while cooking. Drain. nahan’s favorite soup recipes: dients. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat; cover and • 2 cups cooked small pasta such as ditalini, al She says certain recipes have become a tradi- Continued on page 44

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34 Flourish | winter 2016 www.semissourian.com/flourish www.semissourian.com/flourish winter 2016 | Flourish 35 artwork age appropriate / dads can end up inundated. plastic sleeves in a three-ring It’s worth creating a system binder. Her kids love thumbing to manage the flow because through their binders from past school artwork can quickly pile school years. up, says Laura Russell, founder “While I’m in charge of the of the craft blog makelifelovely. books now and don’t let the kids com and a mother of four. With pull them out unless I’m sitting just a bit of creative effort, you with them, I plan on giving can also find ways to hold onto them their books when they’re all those funny comments you’ll older,” she says. want to remember years from Another suggestion for stor- now. ing and celebrating art: “Scan Find the Here are four easy projects to the favorite pieces as they come perfect Exercise help do that: home. From those scans you can 1. Follow them with photos. make a slideshow for each year Equipment to You can build on the trend of school,” Russell says. “Life keep you of snapping and posting “first FLYNNSIDE OUT PRODUCTIONS/HGTV.com/ is short, and the artwork that Scripps Networks LLC via AP Active & Fit comes home right now can be day of school” photos by add- This photo provided by HGTV.com ing written notes in your kids’ shows a boys bathroom designed by a wonderful way to tie genera- FinAnciEring own handwriting, says Kayla Brian Patrick Flynn featuring framed tions together.” AvAilAblE Kitts, special projects editor at children’s art on the walls, perfect for 3. Save their sayings. displaying all the newest kids artwork Buy a paper date book for HGTV.com. Take a photo on coming in. that first day, and that evening each child (it can be for the cur- gift have kids write out a page list- rent calendar year or for the 18 certificates ing their current dreams and favorites. months that begin in July and run through the end of Include five or 10 questions about anything you’d next year). Make sure the book offers writing space like: the career they’d love to have someday, their fa- for each day — ideally half a page. Keep the book in a vorite school lunch, best friend, favorite class. Have high-traffic spot at home with a pen attached. them write it out in their own handwriting to pre- When one of the kids says something you’ll want serve that, too, says Kitts. Then scan or photograph to remember, write it on that day’s page. Then, during the page. the weekends, ask your child to describe the previ- Do the same on the day before their December ous week at school. If they wish, they also can draw holiday break, and again during the final week of pictures. It’s a wonderfully analog way to preserve a school. school year in our digital world. Then supplement those three photos and images of A twist on that: Kitts suggests keeping a few glass their written surveys with other photos from school jars around the house, along with slips of blank paper Treadmill Series TAMARA EATON DESIGN/HGTV.com/Scripps Netwroks LLC via AP This photo provided by HGTV.com shows a home work space designed by Tamara Eaton featuring an oversized pinboard extending all the way to the events or candid shots with friends, or scans of their and a pen. When your child thinks of something they ceiling, perfect for displaying all the newest kids artwork coming in. An antique rotating cabinet, right, also provides useful storage with unique flair. school artwork. Lay it all out in a photo book you can want to preserve, have them jot it down, write the date order online. on it and put it in a jar. You can do the same. “It’s a really cool book to give grandparents,” Kitts Whether it’s a jar, book or even a note typed into says, and is a keepsake your child will enjoy in the your phone, “just write down those precious memo- future. ries now,” Russell says. “We think we’ll never forget At the end of elementary school, you can easily those precious words and how old our kids were when create a book that includes these photos and written they said them, but the fact is that we do forget.” #imadethis comments as a gift to a special teacher. 4. Have a rotating display of art in their rooms. Ideas for hanging on to school-year 2. Winnow their work. Kitts suggests hanging a few empty frames in vari- Russell begins each year by setting aside a big ous sizes filled with a thin sheet of cork on your child’s memories and artwork file-folder box for each child. She labels one hanging bedroom wall. Place pushpins in the corners of each folder for each month, with some spares in case files frame. When your child brings home art they’re ex- fill up before a month ends. cited about, pin it into a frame. The pins make it easy By MELISSA RAYWORTH If that level of organization sounds too ambitious, to rotate artwork in and out. Associated Press Elliptical Series keep a large plastic bin handy. If the walls are already full, try hanging a length of “Stuff all the art in there,” Russell says, and go twine and use clothespins to hang a rotating selection Kids often come home from school bearing armfuls of classroom art. The eve- through it periodically, asking each child which pieces of school artwork. nings bring comments about their day’s events and sometimes hilarious descrip- FISKARS via Associated Press are their favorites. Useful move as the year wears on: Each time you tions of their world. 2410 William St. This photo provided by Fiskars shows magazine pages used to Once you’ve pared things down to their favor- reach into the bin of creations to select something Parents are sure they’ll save and remember all those paper creations and mem- frame a cork board. Rolling pages and affixing to a mirror or cork ites and yours, Russell suggests slipping the art into new to display, choose a few items to discard. Cape Girardeau orable words. But the pace of life soon takes over, and even organized moms and board to frame it is a great way to personalize a basic dorm item. 573-335-2453

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through the situation instead of being put on year career in school counseling and worked for By Suzanne Thompson Cozza the spot. Knowing what to expect can go a long 11 years before that as a mental health coun- way toward making a child feel more at ease, selor, there are several behavioral red flags that Parents want their children to have happy which can help them for years to come. might signal a problem. lives. Part of that happiness involves being en- “When we help our kids work through “Parents can tell when they’re not sleeping, gaged with peers and with others in the com- things, we are empowering them,” Cook says. not wanting to go to school, or crying because munity. In some cases, a child may want to make they don’t have any friends,” Cook says. For kids who are shy, that can be a bit tricky, friends at school, but just doesn’t know how to These behaviors may mean it’s time to seek but some people are just hard-wired that way, do it. professional help for the child. experts say. Hancock says she sometimes makes sugges- “Shyness becomes a real issue when kids are “Some of us are predisposed; we are shy, ret- tions that might help, like encouraging a shy too shy to go to school,” Hancock says. “Those icent about speaking,” says Utahna Hancock, a child who’s afraid to ask to join a group playing kinds of issues could be attributed to high anx- licensed professional counselor who specializes ball, to stand on the outskirts tossing his own iety or a person who has a low threshold to in couples and family therapy at The Dale & ball up and down. That could lead to an invita- stress. That’s where we therapists come in.” Hancock Center in Cape Girardeau. “While tion to join the game. This type of therapy is generally not long- some of us are outgoing and want to be right Other children, who weren’t necessarily born term. in the middle of things, other people are intro- with a timid personality, choose that behavior. “Most kids who come in with shyness or verted speakers and think things out by read- “Some kids are not shy, but they use the anxiety are not usually with me more than three ing.” shyness disguise, because life experiences have months, six months at the most,” she says. “We Even though parents may be tempted to taught them not to trust anybody,” Hancock start with once a week and stretch the sessions push their children into more open interaction, says. “They’re going to hold back and size up out to once every two weeks or once a month.” Sue Cook, a retired school counselor, says the the situation before they commit themselves.” Therapy can take several forms, Cook says, problem is not necessarily the child. Children whose parents had a bad divorce but for younger children, play therapy is the “Parents need to not impose their standards or have had substance abuse issues, or children way to go. Therapists may use puppets to help for socialization onto their children,” she says. who were victims of physical or sexual abuse, children articulate their issues. “Let the child be who he is. It’s OK to be quiet.” may hide behind a veneer of silence. “They will naturally pick up the puppets and Some children just have difficulty knowing “These kids are cautious,” she says. “They’re start acting out what’s going on in their lives,” how to handle social situations, Cook says, and not going to commit themselves to revealing Cook says. the parents can help out a lot just by letting the anything about themselves until they know for Art therapy is another form of play therapy. child know what to expect. sure that they can trust you, and it’s not easy Hancock is a board-certified art therapist and “You might say, ‘We’re going to Aunt Mar- to come by, getting the trust of a kid who has explains that effective art therapy may bring tha’s house. She’s loud, and her house is always come through some pretty tough times.” a different but happy challenge, because play messy,’” Cook suggests. The absolute worst thing to do is label a therapy is fun. Role playing, a tool frequently used by ther- child by saying, “He’s shy.” Instead, when the “They don’t want to quit,” she says. In cases apists, also can be used by parents to help ease child ducks behind the parents’ legs to hid from like these, she sometimes ends the therapy by a child’s fears about meeting new people. Cook strangers, try, “We’re just going through a cau- telling the child she believes he can handle it poses a scenario in which a parent is taking a tious stage, but she’ll get over it,” or “We’re just on his own, but often the therapy ends at the child to the office to meet co-workers. not feeling like talking today,” Hancock sug- child’s request. “When we get there, someone might ask gests. “One of these days, they come in and I al- you how you like school. What would you say “Just let them know that it’s not a label that ways hope they’re going to say, ‘OK, I’m all if someone asks you how you like school?” she has to stick,” she says. right now.’ I love it when they say that,” Han- suggests. According to Cook, who retired after a 20- cock says. This gives the child an opportunity to think

38 Flourish | winter 2016 Stock photo www.semissourian.com/flourish winter 2016 | Flourish 39 age appropriate / parenting parenting / age appropriate Parents: Are you Avuncular avuncular: never replace my dad, but he was letting avun·cu·lar me know he would help make sure my guilty of arguing in avun·cu·lar\ə-ˈvəŋ-kyə-lər\ kids would still get a grandfather’s kind adjective of love and fun. like an uncle: kind or friendly like Uncle Denny wasn’t the only uncle in an uncle my life. There’s Uncle Paul, my mom’s front of your kids? older brother, a gifted artist and poet When I first learned this definition, it with a dry sense of humor. There’s Uncle forever became imprinted in mind as “like Sam, my Aunt Dodie’s husband, who can (Part 2) my Uncle Denny.” My mom’s young- always help you out and give financial er brother, Dennis, was the kind of guy advice. There’s my Aunt Teresa’s husband, who took a home movie when he found Tom, the doctor, who joined our family By Shannon Anderson align with them. Or perhaps the child may my cousin and me, two guilty-looking in my adulthood and likes to talk health About Brooke feel the urge to do so on his own. This should About Shannon toddlers, covered in baby powder. When and politics with me. And then there was my Uncle Gil, my dad’s only brother, Brooke Hildebrand Clubbs is an instructor In the last issue, we covered some of the be discouraged at all costs. If this occurs, the Shannon Anderson is a licensed profes- I had a ’50s-themed birthday party, he of communication studies and director effects parental conflict can have on children. child may feel aligned with one parent but at sional counselor and a national certified gave my guests and me a ride in his con- who died in a car accident when I was of health communication at Southeast This time we’ll cover ways to at least reduce the same time feel like he is rejecting the oth- counselor and owner and clinical director vertible. He could be counted on to get 3. I have a few pictures of him holding Missouri State University. She (literally) of Tender Hearts Child Therapy Center in me, but only one memory — and that’s runs around Jackson, where she lives with the harm caused by such arguing and conflict er parent. This is never a good position for the Cape Girardeau. doughnuts if you stayed overnight or to of my dad holding me up and whispering one husband, three kids and two dogs. — and, in certain cases, if done correctly, ways child to be put in and also causes harm. take you for a Dilly Bar on the way home She credits a lot of her writing style to her of handling conflict that can actually model Don’t confide in your child when it comes from church. In fact, he brought Dilly for me to say, “Goodbye, Big Shooter,” as Uncle Denny. His work can be found at for your child appropriate conflict resolution to parental conflict.While this is a temp- So now you know what to avoid. Let’s Bars to the ICU waiting room when his we passed the casket. daily-journal.com. Hers can be found at and problem-solving skills they can use them- tation for some parents, resist doing this. If also cover some points about how to mod- father was being treated for a stroke. He In August, my Uncle Denny suddenly, brookehclubbs.wordpress.com. selves. you’re struggling and need emotional support, el healthy, positive conflicts that can actu- couldn’t stand to see all of us grandkids impossibly, left us, succumbing to a heart Almost all relationships involve conflict at confide in a friend, adult family member or a ally have a positive effect on your child. If so sad, and he said nobody could be sad condition the doctors hadn’t been able to one time or another. So how should you, as a trusted co-worker. But never seek this emo- you have a healthy argument with a part- while eating a Dilly Bar. And thus, avun- effectively treat. I found myself whisper- would still feel warm. It was a year since my parent, handle arguments and conflicts to re- tional support from your child. As a parent, ner and a child witnesses or even overhears cular was, to me, a very high compliment. ing to Lily, my youngest daughter, “Say, dad died and I could feel my eight minutes duce harm to your child as much as possible? you want to model being in control of your it, this can be a way for you to model prob- When my dad died six years ago, Un- ‘See you later, Uncle Pops,’” as we passed with him ... were running out.” Let’s start with some obvious things to emotions and appropriate ways of handling lem-solving and conflict resolution skills. cle Denny drove down from my home- his casket. I’m trying to hang on to the brightness avoid when it comes to arguing around your your own emotions. Remember, your child is Parents who model healthy conflict town of Kankakee, Illinois, to stay with In the novel and movie “Extremely and warmth of my Uncle Denny. I still have child. looking to you for guidance in how to learn resolution skills are teaching their chil- my mom for a few days. When he came Loud and Incredibly Close,” young Os- my last Facebook messages with him on my Avoid intense yelling, screaming and this life skill for himself. dren how to handle conflicts themselves. over to our house, I walked out of my kar narrates, “If the sun were to explode, phone. There’s one where he was asking me physical violence. Obviously you should re- Offer limited information to the child. Think about it this way. Your child looks room to greet him and found he was you wouldn’t even know about it for eight about something he later worked into his sec- frain from yelling, screaming or physical con- After an argument your child has witnessed up to you as a role model, as someone already playing with my kids. Because minutes because that’s how long it takes ond to last column at The Daily Journal. In flicts of any kind. If violent verbal or physical or overheard, you can offer some limited in- who guides him not only through your his grandchildren called him “Pops,” my for light to travel to us. For eight min- the one before that, I was thanking him for arguments are occurring, it’s best to seek the formation so the child knows a little more words, but perhaps even more importantly, kids called him “Uncle Pops.” He could utes the world would still be bright and it showing my son, Eli, such a good time on a help of a trained marriage counselor or other about what’s going on. Children tend to think your actions as well. Parents who are able recent visit to Kankakee. “Thanks for being a relationship expert. Ongoing problems in this egocentrically and often will blame them- to model healthy conflict resolution are great Uncle Pops,” I told him. He replied with area will undermine any relationship and is selves for parental conflicts and arguments if teaching their children a variety of skills some more details about their adventures and unhealthy. you don’t provide some explanation of what’s — problem-solving, feelings, expression When ended with, “It was fun. You’re welcome. I Never criticize each other. No matter how really going on. But don’t go overboard here. and how to compromise, to name a few. guess this is my role. To remind kids that they angry you get at your partner, never criticize Give the basics and be sure your child knows These are important skills that every child Every should be fun uncles someday.” or talk badly about him or her. Remember it’s not his or her fault. The last thing you want must learn at some point. So the purpose of this column isn’t to your child identifies with both of you and is your child blaming himself for the conflicts. So there you have it — some things Moment lament sudden deaths, although they do lend the last thing he or she needs to hear is one You could try saying something like, “Mom to avoid with parental conflict and some immediacy to this message. The purpose is to parent belittling or running down the other. and Dad are not getting along about some- healthy ways such arguments can more Has To Be encourage you to be avuncular. (Yes, even if Doing this can cause lasting harm to your thing right now, but we are trying to work positively affect your child. I’d love to hear Perfect... you are a woman — though the term for “aunt child’s self-esteem and undermine his or her things out. It’s not about you, and we both your thoughts and I welcome any ques- like” is materternal.) Be generous. Look for relationship with you. love you very much.” This reassurance is vital tions or feedback! Just email me at shan- City of the fun in life. Love people. #livelikedennis. I Never ask your child to take sides. Unfor- to help your child maintain a healthy self-es- nona@tenderheartschildtherapycenter. Convention Center feel like my eight minutes with my uncle can tunately, some parents try to get the child to teem. com. Miner be extended if I live like he did, and maybe 2610 E. Malone Ave., Miner, MO 63801 • 573.471.8520 • www.cityofminer.com inspire others around me to do the same.

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Flourish: Why the holiday theme? Geringer: I feel like I spent many years as a mom trying to E-Gift Card create a perfect Christmas for family, and I understood the pres- sure that that moms feel to be everything to their families. I • Order online with the click of a button thought it was time to focus on the peace we can find in the sea- • Choose a personalized design • Use on movie tickets OR concessions son, not just for ourselves, but for other people. Focus on peace, • Send instantly to friends and loved ones not perfection. far away, with no shipping cost • Never expires, available for use as soon as it’s sent Flourish: That sounds true of life in general … Geringer: This is a very Christmas season-focused book, but there are spiritual truths that can carry into other areas, such as Get yours today! creating order in everyday scenarios. (In the book) I talk about Visit wehrenberg.com or your local theatre! BEN MATTHEWS ~ [email protected] preparing your evening so you have a peaceful morning. I also Sarah Geringer poses for a photo at her Jackson home. talk about practical ways to bring peace to people in your circles, whether that’s your extended family or the marketplace or the workplace, because I believe we have a responsibility to share peace in this stressed-out, busy world. AT PEACE WITH Flourish: Is this your first book? Geringer: I have written a memoir that’s currently under re- view with a small-press publisher in St. Louis. It’s called “Heart THE SEASON in a Drawer: My Story as a Child of Divorce.” Flourish: With your Christmas-season book, what’s in it Sarah Geringer’s new book of devotionals for you? encourages women to ‘focus on peace, Geringer: I see myself starting a ministry, not necessarily for my own gain. I have a heart for helping other women. I’m going not perfection’ to have an online Bible study that ties in with the book. It will be on my blog at sarahgeringer.com, and that’s where readers will By Lindsay Jones through a series of devotionals to help them be able to interact, sharing tips and ideas and ways they are ex- cope with the many demands on their time. The periencing peace and sharing peace. Then, I have plans to write As a working mother of three busy children, book is available on her website, sarahgeringer. seven more e-books with online Bible studies in 2017. Sarah Geringer of Jackson knows what it means com. to make sure her family’s needs are met each day. This is what the budding author had to say Flourish: What’s next after the e-books? By extension, she also knows just how much about the book and her hopes for the future. Geringer: I think my dream is to write full time, speak at more taxing the process can be during the win- conferences and maybe publish in the traditional market, where ter holiday season, when wrapping gifts, cooking Flourish: Why did you decide to write the Sarah Geringer wrote an e-book I can reach a large (segment) of Christian women. I’m focused GIFT CARDS AVAILABLE lavish meals and attending holiday events are book? titled “Christmas Peace for Busy right now on building up my readership. 201 S. Mount Auburn 2502 Tanner Drive added to an already hectic mix. Geringer: I love Bible studies, and when I Moms.” In it, she leads readers became a mom, I joined the Bible study at my through a series of devotionals Flourish: What do you like to do when you’re not writing? 573-335-6033 573-334-4747 That, more than anything, is why Geringer to help them cope with the decided to write an e-book titled “Christmas church. I met other women there who could many demands on their time. Geringer: I like to bake. I love sweets. I like to garden and I www.belladonasalonspa.com Peace for Busy Moms.” In it, she leads readers mentor me and help me build up my faith. (Submitted photo) can’t live without reading at least two hours a day.

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Shiny silver and gold, the warm glow of lights, dazzling bursts of color — the Christmas tree THE helps fill our homes with laughter and love during the merriest of seasons. And while gath- ering together to trim the tree is a beloved family tradition for many of us, let’s be honest — for HOLIDAY others, it’s an intimidating decorating nightmare. But don’t be overwhelmed — it’s easy to go from dazed to dazzling with a few insider tips. HUSTLE STEP 1: Find the tree that 8 timesaving tips fits your lifestyle. Designer John Griffith decorates dozens of for the holidays trees and leads holiday design seminars for Re- placements Ltd. He recognizes since we all live By BrandPoint in different spaces, the picture-perfect 7-foot tree won’t work for everyone. The holidays are magical, but all that fun and “People like myself who live in apartments, festivity can eat up a lot of your time. Don’t let condos or smaller living areas often feel stuck the joy of the season be overshadowed by a hec- having to get a tiny tree because of limited space, tic schedule and too many to-do’s. These 10 sim- TRIM when there are so many more options,” Griffith ple tips and tricks will help you save time so you says. “Flat trees, which are very low profile and can focus on what really matters. sit close to the wall, are perfect for tight spaces. Half round trees are another great option be- Host a decorating party. Decorating can THAT cause they’re basically half a tree, while corner be extremely time-consuming, but not as trees reflect their name because they’re shaped 1 much when you have help. Invite friends Shop early. Whether you need gifts for to fit into corners. These types of artificial trees and family over, turn on some festive tunes and all your loved ones or you’re stocking up TREE create the impact of having a larger tree that in deck the house to the nines. Everyone will be in 5 on groceries for special dinners, shop reality doesn’t take up all that much room.” a festive mood, and you’ll save numerous hours ahead of time to reduce stress. Shopping ahead you’d otherwise spend decorating. means you won’t get stuck in long, last-minute Dazzling decorating STEP 2: Light it up. lines and instead can go home to relax with fam- easy as 1-2-3 Once you find the perfect tree, figure out how Take shortcuts. There’s no harm in ily. many lights you really need. Griffith suggests taking shortcuts when necessary. Need using at least 150 lights per foot of tree to deco- 2 holiday cookies for your next book club Wrap as you go. Whether you love or rate just the tips. For more depth, use at least 250 meeting? Swing by the bakery instead of mak- loathe wrapping gifts, if you do it all at lights per foot. ing them yourself. Stick to your priorities and 6 once, you’ll be up half the night. Instead, And consider LED lights. Griffith notes that consider convenient shortcuts for the rest. if you wrap gifts as you buy them, you spread out while upgrading to LEDs may be expensive the work, plus you get to display those gifts to initially, they’re a good investment in that these Plan backward. Set due dates for your- keep loved ones guessing as to what awaits them lights burn much cooler, last longer and are more self and plan backward to ensure you get in the future. energy efficient. 3 all steps completed on time. For example, if you want your holiday cards to arrive by Dec. Pack light. Heading out of town to cel- STEP 3: Think in thirds. 22, also mark dates for ordering cards, writing ebrate this year? Opt for gift cards to One of Griffith’s best practices: decorate in the insert and addressing envelopes to ensure 7 streamline your shopping and lessen your thirds. you stay on track. load. If you must bring wrapped gifts, try ship- “This is one of the easiest ways to make sure ping them to the destination ahead of time. your tree is balanced from a decorating stand- Limit lists. Kids make the holidays mag- point,” he says. “Start by looking at your tree as ical, but sometimes their gift lists can get Secret Santa. Instead of shopping for ev- what it is — a huge cone — then section it off in 4 out of control. This year, have kids focus ery family member or co-worker, propose thirds around the tree. For example, if you have on three main things: one item they want, one 8 drawing names and conducting a Secret 1,500 lights, use 500 for one section, 500 for the item they need and one gift for the entire family. Santa exchange. That means you buy and receive You’ll save time knowing what they truly want, one gift and don’t know who it’s from until the Continued on page 56 and kids will learn to prioritize their desires. day it’s unwrapped. Bonus: You save money. Stock photo Stock photo 54 Flourish | winter 2016 www.semissourian.com/flourish www.semissourian.com/flourish winter 2016 | Flourish 55 Continued from page 54 kitchen / ‘tis the season TRIM THAT TREE This photo shows a delicious middle and 500 for the last section. Do the same more affordable to collect,” she explains. solution for a dry cake. Whatever One of my favorite the kitchen disaster, there’s usually thing with your ornaments by dividing them into an easy fix available. three groups before you start arranging those on What’s hot for 2016? techniques is adding MATTHEW MEAD ~ Associated Press the tree.” Griffith says one of this year’s big decorating “ trends centers on monochromatic, such as using bullion to a tree,” he Next, stylize with ornaments. the same color lights (regardless of the hue), with says. “Bullion is a very While lights create seasonal glow, ornaments ornaments in either all silver or all gold, but not dazzle and delight, bringing out the child in all both. thin wire you add on the of us. Our choice of ornaments reflect more than “One of my favorite techniques is adding bul- individual style and taste — they’re distinctively lion to a tree,” he says. “Bullion is a very thin wire outside tips in geometric sentimental. you add on the outside tips in geometric shapes shapes that gives the tree “Annual ornaments are always popular from a that gives the tree a different kind of texture, nostalgic standpoint because of the special mem- movement and depth. It really adds richness to a different kind of texture, ories connected to each one,” says collectibles spe- the tree, and the way the light reflects off this wire cialist Kristen Pulley. “For instance, those made by looks very luxe.” movement and depth. It Lenox China are very dear to me because of my Finally, Griffith notes no tree is complete with- really adds richness to two daughters. I started a collection for each of out an over-the-top tree topper. Really nice bows them when they were born — I began the teddy made from high-quality ribbon look lovely, while the tree, and the way the bear series for one and the gingerbread man for the he favors using feathers, branches, floral stems and other. ... It’s become part of our family tradition.” other natural elements to put an exclamation point light reflects off this wire Blown glass ornaments also have kept their on the top of the tree. looks very luxe. popularity, she adds. With these great tips, it should be easy to find “Production costs have gotten less expensive your own flair to kick off what’s sure to be a mem- without compromising the quality making these orable holiday entertaining season. ” For Every Season

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56 Flourish | winter 2016 www.semissourian.com/flourish www.semissourian.com/flourish winter 2016 | Flourish 57 kitchen THE TURKEY IS DRY tatoes below.) top of the dessert with lightly sweetened whipped ‘tis the season / Turkey tends to be flavorless enough as it is, cream (preferably piped on using a decorative tip) never mind when it is overcooked and dried out. THE GREEN VEGETABLES or by dusting it with powdered sugar shaken from To fix a dry bird, heat the oven to 300 degrees. ARE OVERCOOKED a mesh strainer. And if you want to get fancy, pick Carve the meat off the bird, slicing it as you would Pop the vegetables into the food processor and up a paper doily ahead of time. Place the doily over to serve. Arrange the slices, slightly overlapping, in pulse until they are finely chopped. Now mix them the cake and dust with powdered sugar over that. a shallow baking pan, then pour some turkey or into the mashed potatoes, rebranding the dish as Beautiful! Either quick fix should be done at the chicken broth over them, enough to come halfway “Brussels sprouts potato mash.” And by the way, last minute because the whipped cream eventually up the sides of the slices of turkey. Cover the pan that example is particularly delicious if you hap- can get watery and the powdered sugar will weep if tightly with foil and heat the turkey for 10 minutes, pened to toss some bacon in with the overcooked it sits for too long on top of the cake. or until it’s heated through. Now lift out the slices Brussels sprouts. and arrange on a serving platter. Ladle gravy over Or, if the meal could use a first course, turn the THE ROLLS BURNED the slices. It will be a beautiful presentation and the veggies into a soup. In a blender, combine the over- ON THE BOTTOM meat will be deliciously moist. cooked vegetables with some milk, broth or water, Perform a taste test. Using a serrated knife, slice a little garlic and some cheese, then puree until the bottom off one of the rolls, then taste what’s THE TURKEY ISN’T CARVING NICELY smooth. You also could stir in a spoonful or two of left. If it tastes burned, toss them. If it tastes fine, Sometimes when you carve the bird, much of mashed potatoes for thickening, then garnish the slice the bottoms off all of the rolls, arrange them the breast meat remains on the bone. There is a rea- soup with toasted seeds or nuts. You’re a genius. in a single layer in a basket, bottoms up, and spread son this happens; it’s the wishbone, which blocks softened butter on the cut sides. Serve them hot the knife from slicing all the way down to the rib THE PIE FALLS APART and call them hot buttered rolls. cage. So get the wishbone out of there, then get OR THE CRUST CRUMBLES back to carving. And the best way to carve is to Spoon it into wineglasses in alternating layers THE UNFIXABLE TWO start by cutting the whole breast off the carcass, with a bit of ice cream or whipped cream and call There are really only two kitchen errors that can’t removing one half-breast at a time. Then do your it a pie trifle. be easily repaired. If something is burned — and I slicing. don’t mean just singed or browned on the bottom Also, unless you’re a professional chef or a sur- THE WHIPPED CREAM — it’s going to taste bad pretty much no matter geon, I suggest carving the bird in the kitchen IS OVER-WHIPPED what you do to it. You could try telling your guests MATTHEW MEAD ~ Associated Press (where there are no spectators). If the whipped cream starts to look dry and you smoked it, but the chances are they’ll know the This photo shows a delicious solution for a dry cake. grainy, just add a little more cream and carefully terrible truth. Your only real choice is to toss it out THE BEEF OR PORK beat it until soft peaks form. Then stop. You’re done. and serve more of the dishes that weren’t burned. IS OVERCOOKED (OR COLD) Alternatively, assuming you have enough heavy Or order out for pizza. In the meantime, if you are so inclined, distract This one is easy. Start by heating some of what- cream to make a second batch, keep beating the That said, a slightly burned turkey sometimes By SARA MOULTON your guests with an easy snack and cocktail. Plan ever gravy you have on hand. If it appears there first batch until the cream completely breaks and can be saved. If it’s mostly the skin that took the Associated Press ahead and stash some bacon and wheat crackers, as might not be enough, stretch it by adding a little forms butter (and liquid, the buttermilk). Drain off heat, carve the bird (in the kitchen!), discard the well as apple cider, bourbon and oranges. Quick- beef or chicken broth (or, in a pinch, water). Slice the buttermilk (save it for pancakes the next morn- skin, then use the broth technique described above If you’re planning to entertain at home this holi- ly wrap half a slice of bacon around each cracker, the meat thin, arrange it in overlapping slices on ing) and season the butter with salt. Serve it with to bring back some moisture. But if the meat itself day season, you’d be wise to bear in mind the words sprinkle with pepper, then arrange on a baking the serving plates (do all of this out of view in the the dinner rolls. It will be the best butter you’ve is burned... Well, everyone loves the sides most, of Julia Child: “Never apologize. Never explain.” sheet and bake (whatever temperature the oven is kitchen), then pour a liberal helping of hot gravy ever eaten. anyway. Because something is going to go wrong. Some- already at is fine) until the bacon is just barely crisp. on every serving. The second mistake that can’t be undone: over- thing always does. But that doesn’t mean you need For the drink, spike cider with bourbon and an or- THE CAKE IS DRY mixed, gluey mashed potatoes. I made this mistake to tell the world. Her philosophy was simple: Em- MATTHEW MEAD ~ Associated Press ange slice. Nobody will notice the delay. THE SAUCE LOOKS GREASY Make a simple syrup by combining equal parts many years ago and I’ve never forgotten it. It was brace the disaster, do what you can to fix it, but tell This photo shows overcooked Brussels sprouts. How to avoid this next time? Plan better. For This is because the fat and other liquids are sugar and water and heating them in a saucepan Thanksgiving and I’d just begun attending cook- nobody. Just serve it as is and chances are good no Whatever the kitchen disaster, there’s usually an example, if it is recommended that you roast your easy fix available. starting to separate. Just return the sauce to the pot over low heat until the sugar is dissolved. If you ing school. I volunteered to cook the whole big one will notice or care. Did your souffle fall? Call 16-pound turkey at 325 degrees for 3 1/2 to 4 1/2 over low heat and whisk in a little water. It should want to flavor the syrup, add vanilla, lemon zest meal myself at my sister’s house. She didn’t own it a pudding cake instead. Are your cookies over- hours, but assume it’ll take the longer estimate. become emulsified and smooth again in no time. or juice, orange zest or juice, brandy or another li- a potato ricer, food mill or even a plain old potato cooked? Crumble them over ice cream. possible. Start by making sure you’re getting an Even so, start checking the internal temperature on queur. Brush the syrup liberally over the layers of masher. So when it was time to puree my potatoes, Which is to say, there’s almost no kitchen mis- accurate read on the turkey’s temperature. Use an the early side, after about 3 hours. If the turkey’s THE GRAVY IS LUMPY the cake before assembling. Or slice the cake and I reached for the food processor ... and ended up take that can’t be fixed so long as you stay calm and instant thermometer inserted at the leg/thigh joint, not done, keep checking at 30-minute increments Pour the gravy through a mesh strainer and drizzle the syrup over each serving. with wallpaper glue. keep an open mind. In fact, as far as I know there and make sure the probe doesn’t hit bone. until it registers about 160 degrees. (Remember, the discard the lumps. Alternatively, portion the gravy Or you can make a quick raspberry or straw- If this happens to you, please understand that are only two things that are unfixable. We’ll come Next, pull the bird from the oven and increase temperature will continue to rise to the needed 165 into a blender in batches and puree until smooth. berry sauce by combining some frozen (thawed) the potatoes are dead and you’ll need to cook up back to those, but in the meantime, let’s talk about the temperature by 50 degrees. Cover the turkey degrees while the bird rests). some of the most common holiday cooking prob- with foil, then return it to the oven. Check the tem- But when working with hot liquids, never fill a berries with a little sugar in a blender. Puree it all, something else to absorb the gravy. If you have lems and the best ways to fix them. perature every 30 minutes, but no more than that. THE TURKEY IS DONE TOO SOON blender more than a third full. then strain the puree to remove the seeds. Pour the enough potatoes, just cook up another batch. And sauce over the cake slices, top each portion with ice if time is running tight, cut the potatoes in 1/2-inch More frequent opening of the oven lets the heat If your turkey gets to 160 degrees and your guests THE MASHED POTATOES ARE LUMPY cream and call it cake a la mode. pieces before boiling them; they’ll be done much THE TURKEY ISN’T DONE escape, further slowing the cooking. Once you are have not arrived yet, don’t fret. The turkey needs to Leave them be and call them “rustic” or faster. Alternatively, grab a box of pasta (preferably So your guests arrived two hours ago, but the within striking range of your target temperature rest, covered loosely with foil, for at least 20 minutes “smashed” potatoes. Continuing to mash the po- THE CAKE/CHEESECAKE/PUMPKIN orzo or macaroni), boil it up, toss it with butter and turkey has barely broken 125 degrees. Now what? (155 to 160 degrees), remove the foil to allow for before carving. And it will stay rip-roaring hot for tatoes will risk overworking them and can make PIE IS CRACKED Parmesan and brightly inform your guests that you Maybe it’s time to check the movie listings? Just browning (unless the bird already was sufficiently up to an hour. kidding. Sort of. This is a hard fix, but it’s not im- golden). them gluey. (See the dire warning about gluey po- You can camouflage the cracks by decorating the just felt like going Italian this holiday.

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Editor’s note: This is a partial list of holiday events Perryville and Marble Hill, Missouri; Patrick IMMACULATE CONCEPTION kids — the number is (573) 339-6340. • Plowshares Sale available at press time. To search for or add a Furniture; Southeast Hospital gift shop; Sunny CHURCH MUSIC MINISTRY 8 a.m. to 1 p.m. Saturday, Dec. 10 holiday event, go to www.semoevents.com. Hill Garden Center and the LFCS office. Call CHRISTMAS CONCERT COOKIES FOR SANTA Abbey Road Christian Church, Cape Girardeau (573) 334-5866 for more information. There will 2:30 p.m. Sunday, Dec. 4, Immaculate Conception 5:30 to 6:30 p.m. Tuesday, Dec. 6, Osage Centre be a refreshment stop at the Marquette Tower in Catholic Church in Jackson Kids ages 4 to 7 will make Christmas cookies • Crafts, Gifts and Collectibles Show 25TH ANNUAL PARADE OF LIGHTS downtown Cape Girardeau. The church’s Advent/Christmas concert for Santa while listening to the classic tale of 5 to 9 p.m. Friday, Nov. 18; 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. Nov. 5 p.m. Sunday, Nov. 27, downtown Cape features the adult choir, choristers and the “The Night Before Christmas.” Register by Dec. 19; 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. Nov. 20 Girardeau CHAFFEE CHRISTMAS PARADE Bells of Joy Ringers. Special guests will be the 2; the cost is $10 for Cape Girardeau residents Notre Dame Regional High School The parade begins at 5 p.m. or as soon as dusk 1 p.m. Saturday, Dec. 3, Chaffee Head Start, Heartland Pops Chorus. and $11 for nonresidents. Admission: $1 on Friday and Saturday; free on arrives. The route starts at Capaha Park, proceeds Chaffee, Missouri Sunday down Broadway, turns right on Main Street and The parade begins at the Head Start parking 15TH ANNUAL HAPPY SLAPOWITZ MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL ends at Merriwether Street. This year’s theme is lot on North Main Street and ends at the TOY BASH 5:30 to 6:30 p.m. Wednesday, Dec. 7, Osage • Christmas Arts and Crafts Extravaganza “25 Years of Christmas Lights on Parade.” Old Chaffee High School parking lot. The theme is 6 p.m. Thursday, Dec. 8, various locations in Centre 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Saturday, Nov. 19; 10 a.m. to 4 Town Cape presents the event. “It’s a Disney Christmas.” There will be hot dogs downtown Cape Girardeau Kids ages 5 to 12 will make Christmas cards p.m. Sunday, Nov. 20 and hot chocolate after the parade. Contact H.B. The Happy Slapowitz Toy Bash is the largest for those in nursing homes and senior centers Osage Centre and the Show Me Center CHARLESTON CHRISTMAS PARADE Rice at (573) 887-3555 if you are interested in local toy drive for the U.S. Marine Corps Toys throughout Cape Girardeau. Register by Dec. 2; Admission: $5 Saturday (good for both days 6 p.m. Friday, Dec. 2, Main Street, Charleston, participating. for Tots program. This year’s event features the cost is $2 for Cape Girardeau residents and and both locations), $3 Sunday (good for both Missouri several bands at various venues. Also, Smokin’ $3 for nonresidents. locations). The theme will be “Spreading the Spirit of JACKSON LIGHTED CHRISTMAS Brothers will be on hand with barbecue. For Christmas,” and there will be activities at the PARADE more details, visit facebook.com/happyslapowitz. BREAKFAST WITH SANTA • River Valley Craft Fair Mississippi County Historical Society and local 5 p.m. Saturday, Dec. 3, uptown Jackson 8:30 to 10:30 a.m. Saturday, Dec. 10, Osage 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. Saturday, Nov. 19; 9 a.m. to 5 shops. The theme for this year’s parade is “Storybook SOUTHERN COUNTRY CHURCH Centre p.m. Sunday, Nov. 20 Christmas.” Santa Claus will arrive on the last TOUR OF CAPE GIRARDEAU COUNTY Santa is making a special stop for breakfast in Arena Building, 4-H Building at Arena Park DOWNTOWN CHRISTMAS OPEN float and will be at the gazebo at courthouse 4 to 8 p.m. Saturday, Dec. 10, and 1 to 4 p.m. Cape Girardeau. Parents and kids are invited to Admission: $5 Saturday, $3 Sunday HOUSE square after the parade. The pajama fun run Sunday, Dec. 11 visit with Santa and enjoy a yummy breakfast. If 5 to 9 p.m. Friday, Dec. 2, downtown Cape will be held before the parade, and there will be Take a Christmas tour of Christ Lutheran preregistered, the cost is $5 per child, $5 per adult, Girardeau carolers walking up and down the parade route Church in Gordonville; Zion United Methodist $8 for two children or $11 for three children. The Old Town Cape presents a night of Christmas before and during the parade. Christmas stories Church in Gordonville; Whitewater United cost is $8 per person the day of the event. fun. There will be carolers and sleigh rides, sweet and hot chocolate will be available in the Cape Methodist Church in Whitewater; St. James treats and holiday specials, and a host of festive Girardeau County History Center. United Church of Christ in Tilsit; and Immanuel FLASHLIGHT CANDY CANE HUNT cheer to help ring in the Christmas season. Lutheran Church in Tilsit. 6:30 to 7:30 p.m. Friday, Dec. 16, Arena Building Bring your family and friends to experience the SCOTT CITY LIGHTED CHRISTMAS Bring your flashlights and help find the excitement of the annual Downtown Christmas PARADE CHRISTMAS COUNTRY CHURCH hidden candy canes. When you arrive, you get Open House. 5 p.m. Saturday, Dec. 3, Scott City TOUR to decorate a bag to collect the candy canes. “Polar Express” is the theme for this year’s 3 to 9 p.m. Thursday, Dec. 15 and Friday, Dec. 16 After the candy canes are collected, there will LFCS HOLIDAY HOME TOUR Scott City Park and Scott City Fire Department More than 20 churches in Cape Girardeau, be cookies and hot chocolate, and children can 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. Saturday, Dec. 3 parade. The parade will begin at the Bob’s Perry and Bollinger counties will deck their halls make a Christmas list for Santa. A parent must See how other folks decorate for the holidays Foodliner parking lot and end at the city park, and invite visitors inside for Christmas music accompany children. Please dress according to with the Lutheran Family and Children’s where refreshments will be served by the fire and refreshments. Churches can be toured in any weather. The cost is $3 if preregistered and $5 Services Holiday Home Tour. The houses department. The Scott City Elementary Honor order. For a list of churches, visit www.facebook. on the day of the event. featured on the tour range from historic to Choir will be on stage singing Christmas carols. com/christmascountrychurchtour. new construction, but they’re all decked out for After the choir, Santa Claus will come to visit CRAFT FAIRS Christmas. Tickets are $25 in advance or $30 the with the children. Awards will be given to the JUST FOR KIDS Get a head start on your holiday shopping, day of the tour. Tickets are available at Bank of first-, second- and third-place floats. To enter a Call the Cape Girardeau Parks and Recreation and find some one-of-a-kind items, at local arts Missouri locations in Cape Girardeau, Jackson, float, call (573) 264-2322. Department to register for these events just for and craft shows: File photos: Laura Simon and Glenn Landberg

60 Flourish | winter 2016 www.semissourian.com/flourish www.semissourian.com/flourish winter 2016 | Flourish 61 Continued from page 47 easier to line pans, cover birds browning too quick- HOLIDAY ly and wrap leftovers. “Veteran Owned” THE SIDES EQUATIONS • Carrots: a 1-pound bag makes 4 to 5 servings • Cranberry sauce: a 12-ounce package of fresh with a bit of water until dissolved. This mixture PERFECT GIFT cranberries makes about 2 1/4 cups of sauce; a then is diluted with additional cold water (volume 16-ounce can has 6 servings will vary depending on the size of your bird) and For the People On Your List • Gravy: plan for 1/3 cup of gravy per person Detail Shop ice. Be certain the brine is completely cooled be- Who Have Everything! • Green beans: 1 1/2 pounds of beans makes 6 fore using it. to 8 servings # Turkeys should be brined for at least 8 to 10 Gift Cards Available • Mashed potatoes: a 5-pound bag of potatoes hours, but can go as long as 72 hours. 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Roasting temperatures vary widely by recipe. THE REST – Early in the day, use the second oven to cook Some go at a slow and steady 325 degrees. Others The turkey never should go directly from the anything that can be done ahead. Pies and rolls are For your stunning crank the heat to 400 or 425 degrees for the first oven to the table. Like most meat, it needs to rest good. Closer to the time you will serve the meal, hour, then drop it down for the rest of the time. before serving for the juices to redistribute. Cover use the second oven to cook things that need a Thanksgiving table, However you roast, use an instant thermometer the turkey with foil and a few bath towels layered higher temperature than the turkey, such as roast- inserted at the innermost part of the thigh (with- over that (to keep it warm), then let it rest for 20 to ed root vegetables and pies. 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