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About that weird 16 editorial information, call sound my car is making. It’s just the way I’m wired — always has been. 800-879-1210 or 573-335-6611 Conversations with other people prove I’m not the only one in a perpetual state of stress. And with the holidays approaching, what I hear more than anything is not joy and excitement — it’s dread about a Publisher Jon Rust jam-packed season of cooking, shopping, traveling and entertaining. Without even planning it, many of the stories in this issue touch Advertising director on the issue of stress — how it affects the mind and body, how to get Donna Denson through heartbreaking times as a parent, how to save time on holiday prep, what to do if something goes wrong in the kitchen before your Editor big holiday dinner. Robyn Gautschy Why do we do this to ourselves? We all, myself included, need to Design remember that mindfulness, self-care and “me time” are needed for our features living Nadir Hussein mental, emotional and physical health. (The experts say so! Read more I stress about about this on page 10.) Sometimes we need to take care of ourselves 26 ‘Being healthy makes 30 A flexible space Account executives before we can take care of others, even if it means saying “no” to Ashley Aufdenberg, Emily stress before there is you feel fabulous’ someone. (Easier said than done, I know!) 32 Soup-er meals Colbert, Jody Seabaugh, Laura “ As Jackson writer Sarah Geringer says of her new book, “Christmas 28 ‘You’re always stronger Hulcy, Samantha Mlot, Glenda even stress to stress 34 Paws & Effect Peace for Busy Moms,” featured on page 52, “I thought it was time to than you think you are’ Mayberry, Jennifer Berti, Debbie about because I’m Stoverink and Paul Walker focus on the peace we can find in the season, not just for ourselves, but stressed about the for other people. Focus on peace, not perfection.” age appropriate Cover photography It’s fitting, then, that this month’s fashion photo shoot is all about business/finance Laura Simon stress that I will inevitably rest and relaxation while “glamping” — aka “glamorous camping.” 36 #imadethis 6 Money resolutions Cover model I think a weekend of cozy blankets, hot dogs and s’mores on the have soon. campfire, and a peaceful night’s rest are just the ticket to enjoying — 38 ‘It’s OK to be quiet’ Shalyn Tucker 8 Rethink your desktop not just surviving — the upcoming months. 40 Parents: Are you guilty of Photography And hey, if your idea of a relaxing getaway looks more like a five-star arguing in front of your kids? Laura Simon and Ben Matthews hotel or just eating pizza in bed, that’s cool, too. Whatever it takes. ” Here’s to a truly enjoyable holiday season spent with the people you health/fitness Flourish magazine is printed four 41 The Five of Clubbs love most. times a year. All contents © 2016 10 Feeling stressed? by the Southeast Missourian. All 12 Step away from the rights reserved. Reproduction ‘tis the season or use in whole or in part of the snack machine contents, without prior written 46 Holiday equations permission of the publisher, is strictly prohibited. 48 A festive feature style & beauty ~ Robyn Gautschy, editor 52 At peace with the season 15 The Beauty Counter 54 Trim that tree 24 The power of a good fit 55 The holiday hustle 57 Fixes for kitchen disasters connect with us 60 Holiday happenings Follow us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/flourishwomen Online at www.semissourian.com/flourish 4 Flourish | winter 2016 www.semissourian.com/flourish www.semissourian.com/flourish winter 2016 | Flourish 5 business & finance / money resolutions MONEY RESOLUTIONS Did you spend too much and save too little this year? Damage your credit? Here’s how to get back on track in 2017. By Suzanne Thompson Cozza the The Heartland’s CW, where she dispenses fi- “It’s important to know where your money is nancial advice five days a week at 6:30 a.m. She going,” says Tracy M. Bonner, branch operations When it comes to money, it seems there’s nev- emphasizes the importance of self-discipline. manager at The Bank of Missouri. “Every dollar er enough, and with the holidays looming ahead, “With a holiday financial plan, you are setting spent and every dollar saved adds up. Develop a it’s easy to accumulate more debt than you had boundaries that should not be crossed, not even by spending plan as well as a savings plan. The two go intended. you,” she says. “Once it is set, there is no turning hand in hand.” LaKenya Taylor, author of the book “Improving back.” When the holidays loom, it’s easy to whip out a Your Money Flow,” says having a plan is import- The only acceptable changes to spending are credit card and say, “Charge it.” Balances can pile ant. ones that reduce the amount of spending, she says. up fast, but it takes time to pay down the balances. “Have a holiday financial plan and stick to it,” “If you need to update the plan, that’s OK, but “Don’t let this be daunting,” says Ashton Bals- she says. “Keep yourself in the black and not in the only do it if decreasing the amount is the plan; mann, assistant vice president and mortgage loan red. ... I know you want to be kind and get a gift, otherwise, get creative when it comes to gift-giv- officer at Wood & Huston Bank. “Whether it’s plus cook for everyone, but this year, do something ing,” she says. “Perhaps make some gifts. You can the credit cards that may seem like they’ll never go a little different.” always check out Pinterest.” Taylor is known as the “Money Clues Lady” on Tracking your spending is a must. Continued on page 43 ALL SHE WANTS FOR CHRISTMAS IS A LUXURY BATH BY THE LUXUS GROUP 573-334-6100 www.myluxushome.com 6 Flourish | winter 2016 Stock photo www.semissourian.com/flourish winter 2016 | Flourish 7 business & finance / productivity tunity for unique storage. One stylish and By BrandPoint affordable option is to cut a peg board and place it in an open frame. This eye-catching Empty boxes, piles of paper, pens strewed wall hanging allows for easy access to office about — everyone is guilty of office disorga- essentials. nization. What most people don’t realize is a messy, disheveled office space can dramatical- WRITE IT DOWN ly reduce worker efficiency and productivity. Sixty-two percent of office workers A staggering 98 percent of office workers 7 prefer to manage their to-do list on say they’d be more productive at their jobs if a piece of paper rather than a computer or their offices were more organized, according digital device. Write your task list and place to a 2015 Post-it study surveying 1,000 full- it somewhere you’ll see it, such as the edge of time office workers. That means it’s time to your computer monitor or the front of your get organized, and these 10 simple ideas will Stock photo notebook. This visual reminder will keep you help you tidy up your work area and stay on on task throughout the day. task for good. items. If you don’t use it weekly, find another DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL REDUCE AND RECYCLE place for it. That means unused folders, sta- STUFF Go through drawers and get rid of pa- plers, tape dispensers and the like can go in 8 1 a drawer. At a loss for how to organize paper perwork and supplies you never use.