AN O INDEPENDENTU VOICE FOR THE TLESBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, AND TRANSGENDER COMMUNITIES October 16, 2015 | Volume XIII, Issue 12 level about PrEP before go, “namely young gay becoming infected was black men and trans- At Upcoming PrEP Town always low. It seems gender women among terrible that we have an whom HIV rates are option to prevent trans- very high and increas- Hall Forum, the Pill is mission but we are hav- ing.” ing difficulty getting it out That message isn’t By Mark S. King there.” lost on Baltimore resi- When physician John Vaz talks about pre-ex- The research on dent Anthony Morgan, posure prophylaxis (PrEP), the daily pill to Personal PrEP shows effica- 34, a gay black man prevent HIV infection, he can’t help but think cy rates that are fairly who began taking PrEP about a few friends in his own social circle. food and refreshments at 6:30pm, followed astounding. The larg- a year ago. “I have friends who have become HIV by a panel that includes people on PrEP as est ongoing study has “Most of my friends positive in the last three years,” he said. “So well as healthcare providers. The town hall is shown PrEP to be 87% are HIV positive,” said on a personal level, I have some sadness that jointly hosted by AIDS Action Baltimore and effective in preventing Anthony, “and a lot of this was not an option they knew about or ex- Chase Brexton. All are welcome. transmission, but Dr. Vaz the friends I grew up plored.” The event will share the latest data on is quick to point out that with in the south Bronx The concern Dr. Vaz has for his own the use of PrEP among gay men and trans- “those figures include didn’t make it at all. Tak- ing PrEP is something I friends extends to the patients he sees as an gender people, while the personal perspec- everyone in the trial,” Dr. John Vaz of infectious disease specialist at Chase Brex- tives of those taking PrEP are sure to be of including those who did Chase Brexton: can do to honor the peo- ton Health Services. He also believes that particular interest. Audience questions will be not take the pill regular- think about PrEP ple who didn’t get this “we must improve buy-in for PrEP,” which is encouraged. ly or at all. Among those chance.” why he is participating in an upcoming public Dr. Vaz believes that PrEP can make an who took the pill every Anthony realizes event to educate the community on the new enormous difference in new HIV infection day as prescribed, PrEP was closer to 100% that, because HIV is so prevalent among men HIV prevention pill. rates if only those at risk knew more about it. effective in preventing HIV transmission. of color, his risk of becoming infected is high- “Get Prepped on PrEP” is a public town “At Chase Brexton, I see a lot of young gay “PrEP will be a heartbreaking public er. “I have sex with men of all races,” Anthony hall forum being held on Thursday, October men come in with a new diagnosis of HIV. health failure if we can’t get it to those most in said, “and I want that added protection.” 29, at Chase Brexton Health Services at 1111 We give them the best possible care mov- need,” said Jim Pickett, Director of HIV Pre- “The real motivator for me was when I N. Charles Street. The evening begins with ing forward, of course, but their knowledge vention Advocacy at AIDS Foundation Chica- —continued on page 3

from staff reports FreeState Legal The day-to-day hurdles Law Now in Effect client Ken Jiretsu facing transgender Mary- on the left, with landers should become FreeState staff less burdensome with the Easing Rules for Gender attorney Rebecca Earlbeck passage of Senate Bill 743 and its companion House Changes on State ID Bill 862, entitled “Vital Re- cords – New Certificates can be changed to match the individual’s gender ments,” said Jiretsu. “I will no longer have to of Birth – Sex Change or identity. explain why my driver’s license has a different Diagnosis of an Intersex Ken Jiretsu wasted no time taking advan- gender marker than my birth certificate.” Condition.” The legislation, tage of the new relaxed requirements. Early on In a press release, FreeState Legal said which took effect on Octo- October 1, Jiretsu, a transgender man, went to that it has worked with hundreds of clients who ber 1, makes it significantly the Maryland Division of Vital Records office in were eligible to update their name but were pre- easier to amend the gender Baltimore with his attorney from FreeState Legal viously unable to update the gender marker on on birth certificates by elim- and became the first person to apply for a new their birth certificate because of the excessive inating the requirement that birth certificate under the law. “It is such a relief and outdated surgery requirement. “The value a person undergo surgery to know that my birth certificate is finally changed of having accurate identity documents cannot before the birth certificate and will accurately match all of my other docu- —continued on page 4 BALTIMORE OUTLOUD OCTOBER 16, 2015 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 1 2 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD OCTOBER 16, 2015 • baltimoreoutloud.com news // LOCAL

Upcoming PrEP friends, because we all know we try really Town Hall Forum hard to wear condoms every time, and situ- – continued from page 1 ations happen, and if there is something out there to help, why not? I even say I am on started dating someone, a white guy actual- PrEP on my cruising apps.” ly, who was HIV positive,” said Anthony, and Anthony says the question he is asked he is realistic when it comes to the possibil- most often is whether or not he still uses con- ity of letting his guard down in the height of doms. “I tell them I do,” he said, “and then passion. “I don’t want to find myself trying to they wonder why I do. I’m really not into hav- use a condom every single time. Sometimes ing gonorrhea.” it happens. Sometimes a condom doesn’t get Dr. Vaz believes the process of beginning reached for.” PrEP must begin with a thorough risk assess- Anthony isn’t alone when it comes to not ment by a medically and culturally compe- following safer sex measures perfectly, con- tent physician, such as the work provided by sidering there are still 50,000 new HIV in- Chase Brexton every day. fections in the United States every year. The “We see our fair share of HIV negative difference is that Anthony is doing something gay men,” said Dr. Vaz. “But PrEP isn’t sim- else about it. ply about getting drugs into bodies. It’s about “I take the PrEP pill every morning,” Antho- having frank discussions and getting people ny said. “I take something for blood pressure into a comfortable environment to discuss anyway, so I’m used to taking a pill every day. I their sexual health and other sexually trans- go to Chase Brexton every 90 days to see my mitted infections.” The first step in assessing provider and we talk about my blood work to if PrEP is right for you is getting basic edu- be sure I’m not having any side effects. I have cation about it, said Dr. Vaz. “The town hall had no side effects. Everything is normal.” event on October 29th would be an excellent The peace of mind PrEP has provided An- start to that process,” he adds. thony has led him to speak up about it. A lot. For more information on “Prepping for “I have been as vocal as I can possibly PrEP,” contact Chase Brexton at 410-837- be,” he said, “especially with my gay black 2050 extension 8813. t Help to Honor – Transgender Day of Remembrance 2015 A transgender person is murdered some- All names with complete information, where in the world every 29 hours. While and their photo if available, will be read we know of many (too many) murders of at Transgender Day of Remembrance and transgender people in Maryland, we are listed online at the Baltimore Transgender also certain that we don’t know about ev- Day of Remembrance website at Sites. ery trans person whose life was cut short google.com/site/tdorbaltimore/in-memo- because of gender-based violence, med- ry-of ical neglect, bullying and harassment, or Please submit names on or before Fri- the many other ways in which we are taken day, November 13th, to ensure inclusion. from the people and communities who love Thank you, and be sure to join us for us. Transgender Day of Remembrance in The planning committee of this year’s Baltimore on Friday, November 20, 2015. Transgender Day of Remembrance asks More information online at Sites.google. that you please help us to honor and re- com/site/tdorbaltimore. t member our trans sisters and brothers and gender-fluid others. If you know of some- one in Maryland who identified as trans and who lost their life due to violence, including suicide, please contribute their name and other information. To submit names and information please use the online form found at Sites.google.com/site/tdorbaltimore/sub- mit-names. If you have an image file of the person, you can email it to [email protected] with “TDOR Photo” in the subject line and it will be included with the memorial notice. BALTIMORE OUTLOUD OCTOBER 16, 2015 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 3 news // LOCAL

Easing Rules for Gender tions who work to support our diverse com- parities facing the LGBTQ community, the Changes on State ID Chase Brexton munity.” LHRC is coordinating outreach and oth- – continued from page 1 The open house featured displays and er community-based programming. The Launches Baltimore materials on programs and areas of focus range of programming is expected to grow be overstated, said Patrick Paschall, executive of the center, including health insurance and change along with the needs of the ar- director of FreeState Legal. “When transgender LGBT Health information and the Affordable Care Act, ea’s LGBTQ population. people have identity documents with an inaccu- HIV treatment and PrEP, resources for ag- To launch their first major program, the rate gender marker, they are outing themselves Resource Center ing LGBTQ people and their caregivers, LHRC has worked with Service and Advo- as transgender and risking discrimination every transgender health services as well as the cacy of GLBT Elders (SAGE) to develop time they are asked to show ID. For example, By Bill Redmond-Palmer Young Professionals Network. the Caring and Preparing (SAGECAP) pro- when you start a new job you are required to On October 8, an enthusiastic cross-sec- The goal of the LHRC is to provide gram with a goal of supporting the unique prove that you are eligible to work in the U.S. To tion of community members attended the resources, training and programming that needs of LGBTQ individuals who act as do so, most people use their birth certificate to long anticipated grand opening of the new will enhance the quality of life of LGBTQ informal caregivers to people in their lives. establish citizenship and a driver’s license to es- LGBT Health Resource Center (LHRC) of individuals, families and service-providers The program offers one-on-one and group tablish identity. Many transgender people expe- Chase Brexton Health Care in Baltimore. in the Baltimore region. counseling, caregiver support groups, ed- rience discrimination from employers when the After over 13 months in development and The LHRC provides a safe space and a ucational seminars and future planning gender listed on those two documents is differ- planning, the center’s staff hosted a VIP central location where ent,” he continued. Reception and ribbon cutting ceremony, LGBTQ can access an The law has four new provisions: it eliminates followed by a champagne and sparkling ci- information clearing- the outdated surgery requirement; provides the der toast to the center’s future. house that includes applicant with a new birth certificate rather than “We are so excited to be launching the referrals to accepting an amended one; repeals the requirement that LGBT Health Resource Center of Chase and competent health there be a court order; and explicitly covers in- Brexton Health Care,” says LHRC execu- care service provid- tersex people, the first time Maryland law has tive director Nate Sweeney. “We look for- ers as well as hous- acknowledged them. ward to working with all of the amazing ing information, legal In the past, transgender and intersex people providers and staff of Chase Brexton, as resources, and other who wished to update the gender marker on their well as collaborating with so many of the community assets. birth certificate were required to prove they had amazing service providers and organiza- Together with undergone some form of surgical intervention trained staff, the infor- – often denied by health insurance and prohib- mation clearing house itively expensive. Under the new law, a person is centered on a Re- may update the gender designation on their birth source Room, where certificate based on the sworn statement of a li- ly to Maryland birth certificates, FreeState fliers, brochures, and censed health care practitioner who has treated Legal is hopeful that Maryland judges will literature from orga- Staff of Chase Brexton Health Care’s LGBT Health or examined the person, stating that the person apply the new statutory standard for Mary- nizations throughout Resource Center: Bernadette McCarter, Bethany land residents who were born outside the the community are has obtained transition-related care that is indi- Henderson, Nate Sweeney, Alex Kent, and Corey Lacey vidually appropriate for that person, which could state when considering petitions for decla- displayed for clients include surgical, medical, or other treatment. ration of legal gender. To that end, FreeS- who visit. In the future it will include a large assistance for individuals seeking financial Now, for the first time, applicants will re- tate Legal has filled what it says is the first bulletin board for community events. The planning services, long-term care, or other ceive a new birth certificate. Previously, the law of many petitions under the new legal stan- Resource Room also has an internet-con- aging resources. required that a person’s birth certificate indicate dard on behalf of transgender people born nected computer that visitors can use to To support their transgender clients, that the gender marker had been amended, in outside of Maryland. “Nearly every trans- research services and information. The the center has developed a program with which case the birth certificate itself would out gender or intersex person in Maryland can center also has one-on-one meeting rooms a dedicated doctor who specializes in their the person as transgender, and transgender benefit from this new law, whether they that allow staff to provide personal advice care. The Young Professionals Network is people often experienced discrimination as a re- were born in Maryland or somewhere else, and counseling. also housed at the LHRC, and provides sult. The law requires that a new birth certificate and regardless of whether they have pre- To facilitate group meetings and com- networking for young LGBTQ profession- be issued with no indication that the gender has viously updated their birth certificate or if munity education and training, the new als, and provides fund-raising support to been changed. they have not begun the process of updat- center includes a conference room where the LHRC. Another step forward is the repeal of the ing any identity documents. We help trans- LHRC staff members will train health care “The LGBTQ movement has made such court order requirement. Individuals can simply gender Marylanders update their name experts both from Chase Brexton Health amazing strides in the past few years”, file paperwork with the Maryland Division of Vital and gender on various identity documents Care and from across the broader health said Sweeney, “and we are dedicated to Records rather than requiring a court order de- to reduce the level of discrimination that service industry, on LGBTQ medical, psy- making an impact in health disparities that claring gender change. they face when they are required to show chosocial, and other health-related issues. affect us as a community.” Although the statute applies specifically ID,” said Paschall. This type of training is intended to provide LHRC services can be accessed by to Maryland birth certificates, FreeState Legal FreeState Legal serves low income the development and education neces- phone at 443-573-5070 or in person on is hopeful that Maryland judges will apply the LGBTQ Marylanders by providing free le- sary to enable them to deliver effective, the second floor of Chase Brexton Health new statutory standard for Maryland residents gal advice and helping to remove barriers affirming and welcoming care to patients Care’s Mount Vernon location at 1111 North who were born outside the state when consid- that limit access to employment, health who might under other circumstances feel Charles Street in Baltimore. To obtain ser- ering petitions for declaration of legal gender. care, housing, and public accommoda- uncomfortable self-identifying to their pro- vices from or more information about the More information about the new law is available tions. More information about the new law vider, or patients who out of fear of dis- LHRC, via the web, visit Chasebrexton. on FreeState Legal’s website at Freestatele- is available on FreeState Legal’s website at crimination, might otherwise avoid seeking org/index.php/services/lgbt_health_re- t gal.org/what-we-do/birth-certificate-frequent- Freestatelegal.org/what-we-do/birth-certif- services. source_center. ly-asked-questions. t icate-frequently-asked-questions. t In an effort to identify and answer un- Bill Redmond-Palmer is a longtime This article is derived from an October 1 This article is derived from an October met needs in the region as well as to fill community advocate around HIV / AIDS, press release by FreeState Legal. 1 press release by FreeState Legal. in gaps in services and reduce health dis- faith, sexual and gender-minority issues. 4 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD OCTOBER 16, 2015 • baltimoreoutloud.com news // LOCAL

At Baltimore Black Pride 2015

Black Pride Celebrated in Baltimore By Baltimore Black Pride Jenkins, and Ken Jiretsu. The finale was Committee Sunday Praise in the Park and our Com- The Center for Black Equity – Baltimore, munity Festival at St. Mary’s Park, located the parent organization of Baltimore Black in the Seton Hill area, with a special ap- Pride, celebrated its 13th annual Pride pearance by interim police commissioner season with the theme “Bridging the Gap, Kevin Davis and featured female illusionist Embracing our Uniqueness.” This year’s Helena Hologram (Queen of Gospel) and planning committee consists of Ms. Carrie family, gospel singers The Relationship Hiers, assistant to the executive director; and Katrina Smith, R&B singers Dominque Kim H. Walker, treasurer; T. Letoi Robin- Morgan and Justin Bennett, along with lo- son, director of development; and Carlton cal LGBT fraternities and sororities, and R. Smith, executive director. our sponsors PNC Bank, Chase Brexton Baltimore Black Pride is celebrated Health Clinic, BeSure / Project Re, Women in October, together with LGBTQ history, Accepting Responsibility, and local ven- HIV /AIDS Awareness, and Breast Cancer dors. Awareness months. HIV/AIDS and breast The Center for Black Equity-Baltimore cancer have devastated the African-Ameri- would like to thank our sponsors Baltimore can community, with African-Americans be- OUTLoud and the Afro-American newspa- ing number one in health disparities. We per as being media sponsors, PNC Bank, choose the mantra “We embrace and cel- Star Track, Alere Pharmaceutical, Northern ebrate our Blackness everyday” to affirm Pharmaceutical, Gilead, Johns Hopkins our community despite circumstances. We School of LNursingike , UDHMH/PHPA,s On CUAA, have become afflicted, as a community, by injury lawyer Steven Heisler, and several crime, racial discrimination and the recent anonymousF donors.aceb took! city uprising. The 2015 Baltimore Black Pride cele- bration included new projects including the professional mixer, Single in the City, PoP- uP Art Show, Speak Fire, an opening re- ception, and workshops. Most events were hosted at our host hotel, Hotel Indigo (24 West Franklin Street, downtown Baltimore). The Grown & Sexy Cultural Affair featured Gwendolyn Collins, an amazing silent auc- tion and celebrated Icons We Love awards recipients: Mayo McClinton, Bryanna A. BALTIMORE OUTLOUD OCTOBER 16, 2015 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 5 Protecting the ‘Homeland’?

beyond the beltway compiled by Jim Becker curity Council met to discuss LGBT perse- ing in outdoor sports items. Blatt worked former students and his family.” cution for the first time in its history. A gay in their Hamburg, Pennsylvania, store as a Had Davis not made a big deal about Muslim man, calling himself only “Adnan” seasonal stocker from September 2006 to her brief conversation with Pope Francis, ISIS throws gave his testimony over the phone, speak- March 2007 and claims she was discrim- the Vatican might not have revealed that ing from an undisclosed location, where he inated against on the “former student” in question was gay, more gay men to lives in fear. The meeting was convened the basis of her and that his boyfriend was included among to discuss the terrorist group Islamic State disability – gen- his family members. The former student, their death (ISIS) and its attacks on people for alleged der dysphoria – by Yayo Grassi, released a video of the en- homosexual behavior. Adnan’s testimony denying her ac- counter featuring Francis embracing and Seattle, Washington – The photos was an upsetting description of running cess to a female kissing his boyfriend, Iwan Bagus, without are horrible to look at. The words are dis- from one homophobic attack after another restroom and any protest or disclaimer from the Vatican. gusting to read. But we cannot look away. since 2013 – at the hands of not only ISIS, a female name At the same time, the Vatican did not walk We mustn’t ignore the fact that on what tag. Blatt claims back the Pope’s endorsement of “consci- has become almost a monthly showing of she had a right entious objection” to same-sex marriage. barbarism and bigotry, Islamic State (ISIS) to those “reason- Kate Lynn Blatt In other words, Francis endorses Davis’s militants throw men off of the tops of build- able accommoda- actions even if he didn’t want to explicitly ings because they are found guilty of ho- tions.” Cabela’s endorse her. mosexual acts. On October 4, ARA News, claims Blatt was properly dismissed after People close to the Pope also let Vati- a Syrian independent press agency con- she threatened a coworker’s child – an al- can reporters know through back channels cerned with covering local developments legation which Blatt vehemently denies. that Francis would replace the Papal Nun- across Syria, including its Kurdish region, DOJ asked Leeson to defer ruling on reported that ISIS murdered two Iraqi whether the GID exclusion in the ADA is le- men for being gay. “On Sunday afternoon, gal until a sex-discrimination claim by Blatt Daesh (ISIS) called on the people of Mosul is adjudicated. If Blatt is successful in her to gather in the square of Bab al-Toub [in sex-discrimination claim, there won’t be a the city of Mosul] in order to witness the need for the legality of the GID exclusion execution of the two men,” an eyewitness to be addressed by the court, according to told ARA News. “The victims were taken but the Iraqi army, other Iraqi citizens, and the DOJ. Attorneys for Blatt and Cabela’s to the top of a building and were brutally even his own family. “There were militia- disagreed with the DOJ’s reasoning, not- thrown off the roof.” Pope meets American men or security men who – if they found ing that even if Blatt were successful in her gay couple These murders follow reports on Twitter out someone was gay – would arrest him, sex-discrimination claim, there could still account Terrormonitor.org, that two other rape him, torture him. There were lots of be a need for another jury trial pertaining men were murdered in the city of Nineveh murders supervised by the Iraqi army,” to the GID exclusion. Holding two trials in cio, or ambassador, in the U.S. The Pope in the same fashion. In July, Islamic State said Adnan in his testimony. (Seattle Gay the case would be a waste of judicial re- apparently believed that Cardinal Carlo militants threw two men off a building for News – Shaun Knittel at Sgn.org) sources, both sides maintained. (Philadel- Vigano had set him up by making sure “being gay” before stoning them to death. phia Gay News – Tim Ciewk at Epgn.com) that Davis was in the receiving line when In April militants fighting in Syria brutally Francis made his public appearance at the stoned two gay men to death only seconds Nunciature. Vigano is reportedly close to after they were photographed embracing Federal judge Davis’s lawyer, Mat Staver from the group and “forgiving” them. Jessica Stern, ex- Pope met with Liberty Counsel, and as the Vatican’s rep- ecutive director of the International Gay to rule on ADA resentative in the U.S. was active in NOM’s and Lesbian Human Rights Commission gay former campaign against same-sex marriage. He (IGLHRC), says that ISIS militants have gender identity was appointed Nuncio by Benedict XVI. t killed at least 30 people for the perceived student and (Seattle Gay News – Mike Andrew at Sgn. crime of sodomy. The violence particularly exclusion org) plagues Iraqi and Syrian people deemed to boyfriend while have engaged in homosexual activity. Philadelphia, Penna. – A federal judge On August 24, the United Nations Se- has rejected a request by the U.S. De- in U.S. partment of Justice to avoid ruling on the Like Us On legality of the Americans with Disabilities The Vatican – The Roman Catholic Church continues to deal with the fallout These news notes have been compiled, Act’s exclusion of gender-identity disorder Facebook! with permission, from the online version as a protected disability. On September from the Pope’s meeting with anti-gay of various newspapers and other web 21, U.S. District Judge Joseph F. Leeson, American Kim Davis. The Vatican tried to sites. We thank these publications for Jr., ordered the DOJ to file paperwork by play down the significance of the meeting allowing us to bring you their news sto- November 16 clearly stating its position on with Davis, saying she was only one of ries. Usually the reports have been sig- GID’s exclusion. “several dozen persons who had been in- nificantly edited and you can read the Kate Lynn Blatt, a Pottsville trans wom- vited by the Nunciature to greet him. Such full story by going to the web site men- an, is challenging GID’s exclusion as part brief greetings occur on all papal visits and tioned following the item. Comments of her anti-bias lawsuit against Cabela’s, a are due to the Pope’s characteristic kind- are strictly the opinions of Jim Becker sporting-good chain. She claims the GID ness and availability,” a Vatican statement and not of Baltimore OUTloud or Pride exclusion violates her constitutional right said. The Vatican spokesperson added Media. to equal protection under the law. Cabe- that “the only real audience granted by the la’s is a retail store in Hamburg specializ- Pope at the Nunciature was with one of his

6 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD OCTOBER 16, 2015 • baltimoreoutloud.com out in the valley The Tough Questions

Just last week, I had the honor of walking with a family through the planning of their loved one’s funeral. As is normal in these types of situations, there were many deci- sions to make. And, as the family’s friend and pastor, I was asked to accompany them as they went about the process. So, early one morning, I met them at the funeral home. The younger daughter’s grown daughter and six-year-old grand- daughter met us there. I entertained the lit- tle girl while the family discussed the mon- etary aspects with the funeral director. And then, it was time to go upstairs to pick out the urn and other memorial items. The little granddaughter is pretty or we want to give them all of the facts be- sometimes adults need to take some time decades, actively advocating for all kids, bright. She understood that Nana had fore they’re ready. It’s a tough call to make, to put together an answer that is valid and but especially those in the LGBT communi- been very sick. And, she appeared to un- but it’s a necessary one for our children’s appropriate. ty. And, in her spare time, she is co-pastor derstand when her mother explained that development. It doesn’t hurt to say, “That’s a fantastic of New Light MCC, the first openly LGBT Nana had gone to live with Jesus. She ac- Sometimes, it helps if other people question, Chris. Let me think about that for friendly church in Washington County. She cepted the reality that she step in. Not a few minutes and then we can talk about will be answering your questions about wasn’t going to visit Nana long ago, a it.” Or, “I know you’re curious. That conver- parenting, as well as sharing stories of at her house anymore. friend of mine sation needs a little more privacy than we her own parenting adventures. Feel free So, I wasn’t expecting any explained her to send your parenting questions to her at awkward questions from encounter with “My friend is a [email protected]. this child. Parenting a tough ques- That was before we en- OUTloud tion. My friend transgender woman. She tered the room. While the is a transgen- told us that she was in the other members of her fam- Rev. Kelly Crenshaw der woman. ily discussed the purchase She told us grocery store when she of memorial glassware (ar- that she was in noticed a four-year-old boy tistic blown glass with tiny bits of the cre- the grocery store when she noticed a four- mains incorporated into the design), the year-old boy point to her and then ask his point to her and then ask little girl waited patiently. She expressed mom, “Is that a lady?” his mom, ‘Is that a lady?’” her opinion about the different pieces of The mom was embarrassed, but before art. And then she noticed the caskets. She she could speak up, my friend asked if she looked at me and asked, “What are these?” could answer the question instead. The Now, I’m sure I could have come up mom agreed. have here. How about we talk about that with an answer for her, but I knew that her My very tall friend leaned down, looked on the ride home?” mom and dad wanted to handle things in the little boy in the eye and said, “Yes, I’m Give your kids credit for being honest their own way. So, I called to her mother. a lady, just not a very pretty one.” Then, enough to ask the difficult questions. Trust This young woman handled the situation she turned to the mom and said, “I hope that they will handle the information you beautifully. She explained that when we go that helped you avoid a difficult conversa- give and may even surprise you with their to live with Jesus, we have to leave our tion in the middle of the grocery aisle.” acceptance. Whether it’s about sexual ori- bodies behind. And, our bodies have to Now, I know there are some that would entation, the origin of babies, or how to have somewhere to go. That’s the purpose argue that we should be open and honest know if you’re in love, be flattered that your of the casket. The little girl nodded and with our children. And, I certainly agree kids are willing to ask you. went on with her day. with that for the most part. But, that is Enjoy the questions! t I was so proud of that young mom. about as much information as a little guy Rev. Kelly Crenshaw is the mom of She answered a tough question with an could handle at that time. And the grocery 16 adopted kids, two biological ones, and honest and straightforward answer. She store was not the place to handle the ques- foster mom of dozens. Some are lesbian, provided just enough information to satis- tions that might follow. This gave the mom some gay, some straight, and some bi- fy her daughter’s curiosity, without going the time she needed to put her head to- sexual. Kelly founded a K-12 day school into more detail than her six-year-old mind gether to answer any questions in an ap- where kids could have a safe, bully-free could comprehend. propriate and well-thought-out way. environment for learning. She is co-own- I think that’s the biggest mistake we I think we forget that we have the right er of a counselling agency that works with make sometimes. We either want to keep to tell our kids that even though their ques- children and their families. She has worked our children from knowing anything at all, tions are perfectly valid and appropriate, with kids in the foster-care system for two

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son to person. Most common symptoms of ing the vaccination to fully develop the an- It is also important to note that you can- the flu virus include fever, fatigue, muscle tibodies to the flu, and you still may not be not get the flu from the flu vaccine – the flu ache, runny nose, or cough. Each year, fully protected against all strains of the vi- shot is simply inactivated or “dead” virus, thousands of deaths are reported due to rus. There are, however, some individuals and the flu mist is an extremely weakened flu-related illnesses. However, spread- who may be at risk for complications from form of the virus. For any questions or con- Health ing the flu to others is easily preventable. the vaccine and should speak with their cerns regarding the flu vaccination or any Chat Many sources, including the CDC and Flu. physician before receiving it: children un- other vaccination, contact your physician. Megan Courtney gov, state that obtaining a flu vaccination in der the age of two, pregnant women, and As the fall season is upon us, it is time the form of a shot or the nasal spray is the adults over 65. If you are 65 years of age to start preparing for all of the things the best protection from becoming infected. In or older, ask your doctor if high-dose flu season may bring – cooler weather, hol- No Flu for You fact, “you are 60% less likely to need treat- vaccine is right for you. Many physicians idays, and, unfortunately, some unwant- ment” by a doctor for flu-related illnesses if and pharmacies carry the high-dose for- ed things like the flu. Let’s all do our part By Megan Courtney you are vaccinated. mula. in making the change in season a little Summer has come to an end. Kids are For the most effective protection from What else can you do to protect your- smoother by helping to prevent the spread back in school, temperatures are dropping, the flu, it is best to get vaccinated as soon self and loved ones from infection? Besides of the flu! t and leaves are beginning to fall. It’s time as a vaccine is available – this is usual- getting your yearly flu vaccine, always Megan is a coordinator of special pro- to start thinking about protecting ourselves ly available in most areas by October. It wash your hands to prevent the spread of grams with the Frederick County Health and our loved ones from seasonal illness- is now easier than ever to access the flu germs. Avoid others who may be ill, and if Department where she has specialized in es like influenza, or the flu. Usually, flu vaccine, whether you prefer the shot or the you are feeling sick, stay home to prevent the field of HIV care over the past three season peaks in the winter, but the overall flu mist. Vaccinations can be obtained at spreading any illness to others. Also, clean years. She holds masters degrees in pyy- timing may be unpredictable throughout doctor’s offices, pharmacies, or grocery and disinfect common areas frequently. chology and human services. different parts of the country. Typically, flu stores. Under the Affordable Care Act, season takes place in the U.S. between many insurance companies must cover October and May, with a peak in January the flu vaccination at little or no cost as or February (Flu.gov/prevention-vaccina- a preventative service. Also, many local What to Do When tion/vaccination/index.html). The flu virus services offer free flu shots to residents. is actually considered an epidemic in the Check with your local Health Department Parents Make it Tough U.S. Luckily, we are able to protect our- for flu clinics in your area at: Dhmh.mary- selves with a yearly flu vaccine. land.gov/flumd/SitePages/getvaccinated. by Rev. Kelly Crenshaw But, you need to know that it Each flu season can be different and aspx. Kids, Kelly’s is your job as a kid to ask those the symptoms of the flu can vary from per- It takes about two weeks after receiv- As a mom, I hate to ad- questions anyway. mit that I make my kids’ lives Kids Parents may not have all of tough sometimes. I hate to the answers, but they had some think that I embarrass them or of them. And, if they don’t know that they are confused by my decisions themselves, I’m pretty sure they can and my choices. find someone who does know and can As you grow up, there are going to answer for you. be times when your parents’ decisions Just know don’t make any sense. that your parents Maybe they love you and decided to want you to be take a va- the best you cation to a can be in every place you situation. They don’t like. Or, wish you nev- maybe they er had to be forced you to embarrassed go to a family or confused reunion when or hurt. They you had the pray that chance to be you will always be with your friends happy, healthy and successful in at a sleepover. everything you do. You might be embarrassed when But, deep down inside, all parents your dad yells too loudly at your soccer know that their kids are curious people game. Or, you might be hurt and con- – people who want to grow and learn. fused when you found out that neither So, ask those questions, but may- parent could make time to go to your be you should save the really rough school’s open-house night. ones for a time when you aren’t in Sometimes, one of the worst things public. is when they won’t answer your ques- Be brave. Be curious. t tions. Maybe they’re confused about what you’re asking. Maybe they aren’t sure what to say.

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How Can It Not Be About Me? responsible for so much around us. It is not us do, by the way…) and for the love of about us! When my neighbor is in need, I God please don’t have kids! Relationships, Rev. Dr. Rob Apgar-Taylor me that where my treasure is, my heart need to care. When racism tears people’s healthy ones anyway, demand generosity. I graduated from high school during the will also be. In other words, my life will be dreams apart and nearly burns neighbor- Nurturing a culture of generosity is a loving Reagan Years. Our generation was the guided by what I value. Look at what I do hoods to the ground, I need to care. When response to the life of faith. first generation to be called the “Me Gen- with my money, time, and talent and you the earth is in danger, I need to care. When So you want to be happy? Live a gen- eration.” We were Dinks (Double In- will see my priorities. our nation experiences three school shoot- erous life! Love generously… laugh gen- come No Kids) and Yuppies (Young True faith demands a gen- ings in one week, I need to care! erously… share your life, your talents and Urban Professionals). The world was Spirit erous spirit. That is a tenet of If you are the kind of person who thinks even your resources with extravagant joy. our oyster and we wanted it all! The Speaks every major world religion. it’s all about you, please don’t get married. I can’t tell you if the rich people are tru- problem is that we came to expect it Generosity as a spiritual prac- Please don’t even be my friend because ly happy. But I can tell you the generous all and there grew a self-centered narcis- tice is healthy for us in several ways. I really don’t like selfish people (few of ones are. t sism that I am not sure we as a nation have First, generosity is the response to ever really outgrown. We have become a thankfulness and joy. The Jewish tradition nation obsessed with “Me.” reminds us that we are “Blessed to be a genders in their cultures. Traditionally, the But the reality is that it is not all about blessing.” Because we are blessed, we in shamans or medicine givers were two-spirit me. It never has been, and those who think turn are able to share with those around people. They were considered gifted – “the or live this way are either very lonely or us as a reminder of our gratefulness. I am Beyond healers, the medicine people, the visionar- very disillusioned after a while. You want blessed. Would I like a bigger house with a the ies and care givers.” The Navajo called them the truth? Nobody really likes a selfish per- second bathroom? Sure. And I would look Ice nàdleehé, meaning transformed; the Aleut son. If I live like it’s all about me, I am go- amazing in that red convertible. But bless- Machine and Kodiak, achnucek; the Sioux, winkte. The ing to find myself very alone. ings come in so many ways. This past week L:aura Anderson abundance of terms among the various tribes Relationships are about sharing. Faith I had the joy of watching my little girl (27 indicates a wide-spread familiarity and accep- journeys are about relationship. No matter years old but still daddy’s little girl) come tance of gender-variant people. what faith journey we are on, we are taught out of a dressing room for the very first time Gender Will Roscoe, author of The Zuni that we are responsible to and for our re- in her wedding gown. As I sat there with a Man-Woman, has done extensive research lationship with lump in my throat, I was overwhelmed by Privilege into the prevalence of two-spirit people on this a) the Divine how very blessed I am. In that moment, no continent, their presence being among the b) the world man has ever been richer than I was. Previously we discussed cisgender privi- most widely shared aspects of North Amer- c) other people. We are generous because it reminds lege and pondered the possibility of a grow- ican societies. He writes, “They have been My own tradition (Christian) teaches us who we are. We are accountable to and ing transgender privilege due to increased documented in every region of the continent, awareness and acceptance of trans people in among speakers of every major language our society. (Remember, “privilege” is an un- group, and in every kind of tribe.” Indeed, the earned advantage enjoyed by certain presence of transgender individuals groups of people.) Apart from the fact has been a long tradition. Attempts to that it may be sort of cool these days Part 2 deny their existence and subvert their to be trans, any meager privilege bestowed importance were largely inspired by Euro- upon trans people is far outweighed by the pean missionaries. We are finally seeing to- ongoing lack of basic rights – rights routine- day a reemergence and acceptance of the ly enjoyed by the cisgender folks around us. two-spirit people. Instead of being viewed as (Even today, in 32 states, I can be denied negative outcasts, as has been the case in housing, employment, or public accommoda- Western cultures, the Native-American tra- tions simply because I am transgender.) For- dition toward transgender and gender–ex- get any privilege – the lack of basic civil rights pansive people has gone far beyond mere by the transgender community is appalling. acceptance. Two-spirit people have long It wasn’t always this way, especially in been considered valued members of their North America. Prior to the 15th century Euro- societies. (This past February the Bay Area pean arrival and colonization there was a long American Indian Two-Spirit Powwow was a tradition of reverence and admiration for gen- gathering in San Francisco for two-spirit tribe der-expanded individuals among the indige- members to reemphasize the importance and nous peoples. Western values systematically tradition of gender-expansive peoples on this stripped the North American peoples of their continent.) native culture including the veneration and re- We as a society have much to learn from spect of those in their societies who are now these ancient traditions as we work to put described as two-spirit (a term adopted in the aside the negative influences of our Europe- 1990s). Although the term two-spirit may be an origins that have for so long dominated relatively new, this gender-expanded concept this culture. Are we striving for a return of the has been documented throughout history in two-spirit, transgender privilege long enjoyed over 130 North American tribes. in North America? Of course not; unearned According to Zachary Pullin, a Chippewa advantages for any group undermine the Cree, the term two-spirit comes from the Ojib- struggle for equality for all! Rather, our work we phrase niizh manidoowag and defines the should be toward creating a just, diverse so- diverse experiences of native North Ameri- ciety in which all are treated with respect and cans who were beyond the male and female dignity. t

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In 2003, we were sued by the GLCCB with- lently sex-negative antidote to the liberation in a week of our initial issue. Several years of the late 60s and early 70s, some place later, we returned the favor and sued the the beginning of the backlash to the alliance Community Center. At the time, our lawsuit of some radical feminist with the right-wing State Power: against the Center made sense to us, but in anti-pornography movement churning in A recent lawsuit filed by a Baltimore lesbi- way. Brennan is seeking at least $70,000 in retrospect, we now view it as a misguided the mid-70s. Certainty the state has taken an-feminist against a San Francisco lesbi- damages and an injunction. Stevenson and distraction from the real battles facing our advantage of all opportunities to insert it- an-feminist, two high-profile heterosexual the website denied the allegations. communities. self into matters of private sexual conduct underage sex cases, and the raid on the Also in August, the newspapers ran two Men who grew up in the pre-Stonewall and this oppressive trend keeps growing. male escort advertising website Rentboys. stories of underage sex by high-profile peo- 50s, 60s, and even afterward, knew all too The new buzzwords are sex trafficking and com by Federal Homeland Security agents ple, one national the other local. Jared well that contacting the police could be a di- campus sexual assaults, but it is the same and the NYPD has gotten us thinking about Fogle of Indiana, long- saster and to only do that in a life or death anti-sex narrative that allows the coercive the use of state power to address commu- time spokesperson emergency. In those days, interactions with arm of the state to intrude with devastating nity grievances and enforce moralistic sex for the Subway the authorities by gay people were almost consequences codes. It’s our belief that sexual minority sandwich shop always negative. Although we have gained There is a bright spot in this sad tale, peoples and communities should be ex- chain, is expect- increased visibility and acceptance in the where liberation has been replaced by assim- tremely suspicious of state power. ed to plead guilty last five decades, and there are out po- ilation, where we look to the state to protect In August, Baltimore lesbian-feminist to possessing lice officers and police liaisons, the fun- us with hate-crime laws and we file suit to child pornogra- damental nature of police power is a address private wrongs, and that is the pub- “In the 60s and 70s, a 15-year- phy and cross- scary thing and we should avoid in- lic outcry over the Rentboy.com raid and ar- ing state lines voking it and encountering it except in rests. We are heartened by the outrage and old boy receiving oral sex to pay for sex the most extreme circumstances. demonstrations that it has triggered in the from an older woman would with at least two Back in those prehistoric LGBT and allied communities and among underage 16- times, a 15-year-old boy re- civil-liberties groups. We had feared that this bring bragging rights and and 17-year- ceiving oral sex from old girls. Lo- an older celebration. Also back then, a cally, Molly woman teenaged boy having sex with Shattuck, a would prominent bring A Friend We a man was, at least in some woman and brag- working-class communities, onetime ging rights Baltimore and celebra- Should Do an accepted rite of passage Ravens tion. Also back cheerlead- then, a teen- and something to enjoy. Now er who is aged boy having sex experiences like this bring the ex-wife with a man – sometimes of a prom- for money, sometime not Without harsh penalties, with the inent utility – was, at least in some company working-class communities, an youths being seen as abused executive, accepted rite of passage and type of response to something that is so sex- pled guilty to something to enjoy. Now experi- ual was beyond the capacity of the organized and victimized. This is a new performing oral ences like this bring harsh penalties, with the movement. How uplifting to see a community construct arising in part from sex on a 15-year-old youth who youths being seen as abused and victimized. response to this sexual oppression: some- was a high school classmate of her son. And This is a new construct arising in part from thing more than the constant drum-roll about the emasculation of boys and on August 25, Federal Homeland Security the emasculation of boys and the victimiza- marriage equality, military service, and lesbi- agents and the NYPD raided the office of tion narrative that is the central justification an and gay families coming from the Human the victimization narrative that Rentboy.com and arrested seven people, in- for state intervention. Everyone must wait for Rights Campaign and the various groups with is the central justification for cluding the CEO. Federal prosecutors called the magic legal age to have sex. How does “Equality” in their names. the website an Internet brothel promoting il- that work in the real world of teen desire? The use of the courts to address a dis- state intervention.” legal prostitution. Yes, rapes occurs and other coercive sexual pute among individuals may not appear to While the lawsuit and these criminal cas- relationships happen. However, it should not be in anyway connected with the collective Cathy Brennan filed suit against San Fran- es may appear unrelated, it is precisely their be the age difference between sex partners enforcement by “The People” of the criminal cisco lesbian-feminist Joey Stevenson and juxtaposition that makes our case: namely, that defines a relationship. laws with the devastating effects prosecu- a company that owns a website geared to that government power can be dangerous Certainly, in this current age where sex tions can have on all who are caught up in lesbian and bisexual women, alleging defa- for LGBT people and our communities. We abuse is seen everywhere, where all sex them. But it is when our communities look mation. (See Article in Baltimore OUTloud, believe that LGBT people should always be between a teenager and an older person unquestionably and uncritically to the state September 4, 2015 issue.) Brennan is a vigilant about how the government uses its is labeled pejoratively as “pedophilia,” and as an ally, that we find troubling. We certain- prominent and controversial lesbian-feminist power and take care when asking for state where sex-offender registries, civil confine- ly understand that not all laws are bad, that who opposes gender-identity protections intervention. ment and other so-called protection tools of some such as anti-discrimination laws pro- that she fears come at the expense of wom- We at Baltimore OUTloud are no strang- the state proliferate, sexual liberation and tect us, but we should not look to the govern- en and girls. She claims in her lawsuit that er to lawsuits intended to settle disputes sex affirming communities are on the run. Al- ment for solutions. Before we go off dancing Stevenson and the website criticized her within our communities. We have been on though the onset of AIDS clearly put an ex- with the state, we should realize that it could positions on gender issues in a defamatory the receiving and giving end in this regard. clamation point on the emergence of a viru- be a very bad date indeed! t

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ambiguity about that either. But what about mental collapse? When we feel depleted, our bodies and minds let us know, without a ques- est act of kindness is worth more than the tion, that we need to refuel, protect and take grandest intention.” Ask care of ourselves. The Law If you have more substantial assets, Relationships have a huge role in this & You you might consider setting up a charitable Dr. J process. They can be a safe haven that we Lee Carpenter remainder trust. This type of trust enables Janan Broadbent, Ph.D. seek when the external demands are weigh- you to give generously to your favorite ing us down. A partner can also be the most charity while enjoying significant tax sav- significant and closest person who can detect ings yourself. What is Your our limits and remind us to slow down. How- Why Your Here’s how it works: Once you estab- ever, relationships can also be that extra load lish and fund the trust, the named chari- Payload added to the demands and push us into over- Kindness ty acts as the trustee, managing the trust load. Then too, it might be you who is creating assets. You receive regular income pay- ? that difficult situation for your partner, instead Should Outlive ments from the trust for a number of years Limit of vice versa. How to decipher all this? or for the rest of your life, depending on the You have seen those truck ads, GMC, Ford, Whatever issue, person or situation you You terms of the trust instrument. These pay- whatever… They dump a huge load of dirt are dealing with, the key to healthy resolution ments can be a percentage of the trust’s into the truck bed, or some insanely gar- is awareness of what is going on inside your interest income or a fixed amount. Then gantuan engine, and the truck performs as mind. But that is not sufficient by itself. There Bob Hope once quipped, “If you hav- upon your death, the remaining trust as- smoothly as if there was nothing back there. is a reality out there, especially when another en’t any charity in your heart, you have the sets are distributed to the charity to sup- But there is also some information on what person is involved. worst kind of heart trouble.” Surely he was port its mission. the limit is on that payload that the truck can Tip #1: Check out your perceptions with onto something. The best sorts of people Under a charitable remainder trust, handle because of course, there is a physical your partner. No matter how long you have are admired not for their earnings but for you can take an income tax deduction for reality to metal. known each other, and their giving – the value of your Drawing on that met- how well you think you whether of their gift to the trust. aphor, human beings do know him/her, human time, their talent, This deduction is not have a manual with beings are complicated or their treasure. spread out over specifications that state and can surprise you with Many of us five years, and how much we can handle, unexpected thoughts. in the LGBT the value of your even physically. Witness As good as we may be community give projected income some of those weightlifters in communication, we all generously by from the trust is who take on tremendous misperceive, misunder- supporting caus- subtracted from amounts. Here, I want to stand and misinterpret. es we believe it. For example, focus on the mental and emotional loads we The only remedy for our lack of infallibility is in. We donate if you set up a assume. At any point in our lives, there are being able to check things out through the towards AIDS re- $500,000 char- tasks, responsibilities, obligations, expecta- same channels of communication. search, we lobby itable remain- tions, and accompanying feelings that add up Tip #2: Be protective of yourself. There for equality, we der trust and to those payloads on us. Often, the weights is a difference between selfishness and volunteer at ani- your projected of these are not conscious. But then, there self-protectiveness. No matter how great your mal shelters, and trust income is are times, we feel the weight of it all. This is support network of partner, friends, and family we support the arts. This level of engage- $125,000, the value of your gift for tax pur- when people make statements about not be- might be, there are things you need to do for ment is not unknown outside our commu- poses will be $375,000. Upon your death, ing able to deal with it. Have you experienced yourself that only you can do. What are they? nity, but as LGBT citizens, we often em- the remaining trust assets are excluded this? What did you do about it? When a car Eating right, sleeping enough, exercising, and brace important causes with a special kind from your estate, which may result in an runs out of gas, it won’t go any more – no keeping in touch with your own mind, no mat- of passion. additional tax savings. ambiguity about it. It will just stop. When we ter how old you are. With a little advance planning, these Whether you want to establish a char- run out of energy, we collapse – similarly, no Proceed on to health and happiness! t charitable impulses can continue to help itable remainder trust or simply make a others after we are gone. Consider the small bequest to an organization you have causes you currently support. By includ- long supported, calling an estates and ing a specific bequest in your will, you can trusts lawyer is the first step. With profes- ensure that your financial support for them sional guidance, you can ensure that your outlives you. Even if you bequeath a mod- estate plan reflects your personal sense of est amount – say, ten times your annual charity. donation – you can effectively endow your Perhaps the 19th-century clergyman regular gift for a period of years beyond Henry Ward Beecher put it best: “Every your death. charitable act is a stepping stone toward How much should you leave to charity? heaven.” t Those of us who are fortunate enough to Lee Carpenter is an associate attorney have a spouse, partner, or children will of at the law firm Semmes, Bowen & Sem- course want to provide for them first. Af- mes and can be reached at 410-576-4729 ter all, charity begins at home. But even or [email protected]. Learn more a token bequest to a worthy cause can be about LGBT estate planning at Mdlgbtes- a gratifying addition to your estate plan. tateplanning.com. This column offers gen- In the words of Oscar Wilde, “The small- eral legal info, not specific legal advice. BALTIMORE OUTLOUD OCTOBER 16, 2015 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 11 Quality of Life

HIV in men who took PrEP every day.

Open Wide Dear Dr. Eva, ask Dr Eva You stated in your last column that HIV Dr Eva Hersh can be passed on through oral sex. You also said that people don’t want to believe that, which is certainly true in my experience. Peo- ple are not going to give up oral sex. Can you HIV Q and A: talk about what can be done to reduce the risk, besides using condoms? I don’t know anyone PrEP, Oral Sex that’s willing to wear a condom for oral sex. I want to be as safe as is reasonably possible Dear Dr. Eva, without taking all the pleasure out of sex. Lately I am seeing a lot of ads promoting Striking a Balance of the use of Truvada to prevent HIV. Is this really a good idea, or is it just a way for Gile- Dear Striking, ad, the company that makes Truvada, to make Oral sex is a relatively low-risk activity. HIV even more money off the gay community than is much more easily transmitted through anal they already do? or vaginal sex. Low risk does not mean no risk, Skeptic so HIV sometimes is transmitted through oral sex. There are several things that can be done Dear Skeptic, to reduce the transmission of HIV and other Just to make sure everybody understands infections through oral sex. The main thing to the subject, PrEP is Pre-Exposure Prophylax- keep in mind is that HIV is transmitted through is. It refers to the fact that HIV can be prevent- blood and semen. To decrease your risk, mini- ed by taking anti-HIV medicines daily, even if mize the possibility of coming into contact with a person is having high-risk sex. Examples of another person’s blood or semen. high-risk sex include unprotected receptive • The single most effective way to do this anal or vaginal sex, or having multiple different is to avoid having your partner ejaculate into sex partners within six months. The medicine your mouth. has to be taken every day – it does not work • Keep the lights on – at least at first. It’s to take it only around the time of risky activity. important to look at your partner’s genitals. If While I’m sure that Gilead and its stock- your partner’s penis or groin area has a dis- holders will be happy with any profits PrEP charge, rash, ulcers, warts, or sores, do not brings to them, I don’t think that profit is the touch it with your mouth (or vagina, or anus). main driving force behind PrEP. For many Until the problem has been medically as- years, medical professionals and health edu- sessed and treated, limit your activity to mutu- cators have been trying to stop the spread of al masturbation. HIV through education, and hoping an effec- • When a person has a genital piercing, tive HIV vaccine would become available as a they are constantly leaking tiny amounts of more effective means of prevention. More than blood from the piercing, which increases the 30 years into the epidemic, it’s clear that edu- risk of transmitting HIV and other blood-borne cation has not been effective in the highest risk infections. Taking off the jewelry does not help groups, and there is no vaccine in sight. That and can actually increase the blood seepage. I is why there is a lot of enthusiasm for PrEP know you said you don’t want to use condoms, – it’s expensive and somewhat inconvenient, however condoms are especially important if but it has been proven effective to prevent HIV there is a genital piercing. If the person re- infection. PrEP is now covered by insurance. It moves the jewelry and allows the piercing to is recommended for the people at highest risk: heal, which takes several weeks, the blood people whose partner has HIV (this is called seepage will stop. a “serodiscordant couple”) and people who • PrEP, pre-exposure prophylaxis by tak- have many partners or have unprotected anal ing anti-HIV medicines daily, prevents HIV or vaginal intercourse. transmission through oral sex in addition to People who take PrEP should also use preventing transmission through vaginal or condoms and have safer sex. PrEP does not anal sex. prevent infection with hepatitis B and C, syphi- All sex is safer if both partners are sober. lis, herpes, gonorrhea, or other sexually-trans- People who are intoxicated are often sexually mitted infections (STI’s). A recent study of men careless and may make choices they would taking PrEP who were sexually active with not make when sober. t men showed an increase in the frequency of Eva Hersh is a Baltimore family physician. STI’s after starting PrEP. However, the study Send your comments and questions to her by also showed that there were no new cases of email at [email protected]

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such as “Carry Me,” “Tongues” (featuring claps and shouts of “hey” on “American Kopps), “In Clover,” “Feels Like a Lie,” and Love” you might be tempted to dance the Dance Feverish “Now” deliver swells of ecstasy. kazatsky, but please resist. “Killer Whales” Big Data, aka Alan Wilkis, has lots draws on the Cars playbook, while “Dream- By Gregg Shapiro act Honorary Title) and Blake Sennett (of of cool friends and isn’t afraid to call on ing” has more of a club vibe. “Street Fight” These days, dance music is showShap- hipster band Rilo Kiley), also makes unex- them as you can hear on his debut album goes for a stadium-sized dance feel, “Over iroing up in some unexpected places. Of pectedly dancey music on its debut album 2.0 (WB / Wilcas- & Over” brings the course, the title of Glaswegian group Belle Everything’s Coming Up Roses (Atlantic). settes / Crush). suburban white funk and Sebastian’s splendid new record, Girls Songs such as “Perfect Day,” the funky The coolest thing and “Admission To In Peacetime Want To Dance (Matador), rock of “When You Were Mine” (featuring about the col- Your Party” invites a should have been a clue as to the direction Tegan and Sara), and the active motion of laborations with great big beat. they’ve taken at the moment. Belle and “Running In Place,” are custom made for the guest art- Even if you don’t Sebastian are no strangers to danceable loft dance parties in up and coming neigh- ists is that they understand a word pop, but a number of the songs on Girls borhoods swarming with urban pioneers. are heard on the that Stromae says in Peacetime… are downright clubby. The What makes Night Terrors of 1927 espe- songs they co- – he sings and raps exhilarating electro of “Enter Sylvia Plath,” cially interesting is the way that Gorbel’s wrote with Wilkis. en Francais – he for instance deserves to be a tea dance emo vocals work so well within the dance Joywave makes wants one thing standard, beginning now throughout the framework. an appearance and one thing only end of the summer season and beyond. Like Night Terrors of 1927, with which on “Dangerous,” from you; that you “The Party Line” is a sexy and throbbing it has toured, Joywave is an exciting band co-written by the danse (translation: number sure to set booties to bumping and to catch in concert. Joywave is the perfect previously men- dance!). Stromae hips to shaking, and folks jumping “to the name for this great electronic dance band tioned Armbrust- gives us plenty of beat of the party line.” The seven-and-a- fronted by Daniel Armbruster, whose hip- er. Other collab- opportunities to do half minute “Play For Today” and the funky ster-nerd appearance belies the electro orations of note so on Racine Carée and flirty “Perfect Couples” are also en- genius within. The question in Joywave’s include “Clean” (Casablanca). Just chanting. debut album’s title, How Do You Feel Now? with Jamie Lidell, try not moving to Don’t be put off by its name because (Hollywood/Cultco) is easy to answer after “The Business of Emotion” with White Sea, rhythmic tracks such as “Ta Fête” (“Your Night Terrors of 1927 is a riveting live the first listen. Elated, mesmerized and “Get Some Freedom” with Dragonette, and Day”), “Papaoutaí,” “Bâtard” (“Bastard”), act. The mixed gender band, led by the addicted are three words that immedi- “Sick For Me” with Bear Hands. “Tous Les Mémes” (“All The Same”), “Hu- unlikely pairing of Jarrod Gorbel (of emo ately come to mind. Dance-floor delights Faceless corporate prog-rock confec- maín Á L’eau” (“Human to Water”), and tion Imagine Dragons (starting with that “Sommeil” (“Sleep”). name!) incorporated electronic and dance Just a few short years ago Brit twosome elements into the songs on its 2012 debut The Ting Tings were riding high on the suc- breakthrough Night Visions. On the fol- cess of their 2008 debut album We Started low-up, Smoke + Mirrors (Kid In A Korner/ Nothing, a disc that spawned hit singles such Interscope), ID wastes no time in hitting as “That’s Not My Name,” “Great DJ,” and the dance-floor on the appealing opener “Shut Up and Let Me Go.” But the 2012 fol- “Shots.” “Gold” makes interesting use of low-up Sounds From Nowheresville failed to samples and rhythms. “I’m So Sorry” has a maintain the momentum. The Ting Tings are stomp worthy of vintage Billy Squier, while back with Super Critical (Finca), a nine-track “I Bet My Life” imagines Mumford & Sons disc that has them moving in a decidedly as a clubbier act. “Friction” warms up the dance direction. They flash a sense of humor strip-club grind/vibe. and history on “Wrong Club.” “Do It Again” Olly Murs’ fourth album Never Been is good enough to listen to again and again. Better (SYCO / Columbia / Modest) is “Only Love” and the title track are reminders better than his previous albums, espe- of why we listened to the duo in the first place, cially if you like to dance. The focus has while “Communication” sounds like a fresh been shifted from pre-fab Brit-pop (thanks start. Simon Cowell!) to more straightforward Canadian club music duo Humans dance-pop (there’s a difference!). There’s leaves its mark with the hypnotic full-length less stylistic borrowing and more innova- pop-tronic debut Noontide (Hybridity). British tion. You can hear it immediately on the trance trio Above & Beyond hits new heights club strut of “Did You Miss Me?” and the on We Are All We Need (Anjunabeats / Ul- bouncing beat of “Stick With Me.” For the tra). The third time’s the charm for French most part, though, Murs hasn’t completely DJ Etienne De Crécy as he revives his Su- abandoned his carefully and commercially per Discount series with the aptly named manufactured sound as you can hear on Super Discount 3 (A+LSO / Sony / Pixade- duets with Travie McCoy (“Wrapped Up”) lic). German electro artist Fritz Kalbrenner’s and Demi Lovato (“Up”) and ballads such new studio disc is titled Ways Over Water as “Tomorrow” and “Hope You Got What (Suol/BMG). SPC ECO raises the bar on You Came For.” Sam Smith he’s not. the beats on The Art of Pop (Saint Marie / Smallpools put a distinctly sunny L.A. Kaboom). t spin on the dance-pop heard on its de- Joywave performs on October 14 in but album Lovetap! (RCA). With the hand Washington, D.C., at U Street Music Hall.

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the good of others. Additionally, director Poitras, who co-directed the queer 2003 Citizen Jojo doc Flag Wars, focuses on the openly gay Greenwald, as well as queer journalist/ By Gregg Shapiro hacker Jacob Applebaum, making this al- Now on DVD and blu-ray with a wealth of bo- ready fascinating story of increased interest nus material, Oscar-winning doc Citizenfour to LGBT viewers. A second DVD of special (Anchor Bay / TWC / Radius), the third part of features deleted scenes, Q&A footage with filmmaker Laura Poitras’s post 9/11 trilogy, is Poitras and Dennis Lin, and much more. a real-life thriller. The story of the U.S. gov- Finally making its way to DVD, the Clive ernment’s “war on whistleblowers,” it begins Barker-produced LGBT film fest selection in 2012 when gay journalist Glenn Green- Jojo Baby: Without the Mask (MVD Vi- wald, of Salon.com and The Guardian, is con- sual) is a doc about legendary club kid and tacted by an anonymous source. That source doll-maker Jojo Baby, co-directed by Dana turns out to be none other than 29-year-old Buning and Mark Danforth. Well-loved in NSA contractor Edward Snowden. the art world and nightclub scene, Jojo Baby From the encrypted emails about NSA credits both his late mother (who taught him surveillance to the news that everyone in the to sew by hand) and the late Greer Lankton (a country is being spied on with the compliance trans artist who worked with Jim Henson on of the largest telecom companies in the U.S. Sesame Street) with teaching him his craft. and the fact that the rest of the world’s pri- In fact, it was Lankton who discouraged Jojo vacy is being treated even worse, Citizenfour from attending art school. is a perfect illustration of the domino effect. Jojo’s dolls – consisting of wood, wire, There’s a lot of technical information in the human teeth and hair, and glass eyes – are movie that runs the risk of blending together. on display in both his gallery and apartment. Terms such as “metadata in aggregate,” “link- Working on multiple projects simultaneously, ability,” and “crypto-mathematics” might be Jojo is also known for transforming himself lost on the average viewer. What saves it is into works of art. In addition to his assort- the combination of the human elements and ment of tattoos, Jojo prides himself on his heart-pounding suspense. costumes as well as his skills with make-up, First and foremost is Snowden’s mo- something he credits to attending Mary Kay tivation for going public with the story; how parties. When dressed up, Jojo states that he the State’s power against people’s ability to feels more confident, has more energy, and meaningfully oppose that power was threat- feels more in control. ened. He saw the promise of the Obama ad- While the filmmakers incorporate inter- ministration betrayed while advancing things views with several people close to Jojo, in- that were promised to be curtailed, including cluding his brother Jay Jay and best friend the use of drones. The changes in the way Sal-E, Jojo Baby is the primary focus and the the internet went from being free and unre- one who tells his story the best. Jojo, who strained to the expectation of being watched has a penchant for “rough trade” (although he and the limiting of boundaries of intellectual quotes Boy George in regards to sex, saying exploration also disturbed Snowden. “I’d rather have a cup of tea”), talks openly Willing to risk his relationship with his girl- about his relationship troubles as well as his friend, as well as imprisonment, to prevent health issues, including his HIV-positive sta- the curtailment of his intellectual freedom and tus and bout with testicular cancer, as well as that of others, Snowden makes it clear he his Roman Catholic background and time in doesn’t see what he was doing as self-sac- seminary. The DVD doesn’t contain any bo- rifice, rather he felt he could contribute to nus material to speak of. t

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by Kristen H. Tull that your office is a “safe space” for the October 11th was National Coming Out Day, LGBTQIA community. This important step where we in the LGBTQIA community and allows your office to become a safe haven our allies celebrate our identities. The 27th for your students. You can provide a trust- anniversary of this occasion comes at a ing environment, equipped with the knowl- time of great success with the recent SCO- edge of how to offer support and resources TUS federal marriage recognition ruling. It to your students. is a time in our history where the marches, Once you go through Safe Space train- protests, lobbying, and hard work have paid ing, consider becoming a trainer. You can off. A goal of equality was reached. Our play an integral role in assisting those in voices were heard. your office and around the campus with A cause for celebration yes, but the learning how to become a “safe space.” work is not over. We can see that in Ken- If you do not have a Safe Space pro- tucky. We can read that in the news about gram, look into starting one and research the number of transgender murders in this other resources. Part of the mission of the country (as of July, the number is 15 since Consortium of Higher Education Lesbian January). We can Gay Bisexual Trans- also see that on our “The simple act of gender Resource campuses, in conver- offering up support Professionals (Lgbt- sations in the hallway campus.org) is to with slurs and words to your students offer support for of hate. policy changes and How do we create who are coming out, to provide resourc- an open and inclu- transitioning, or even es to LGBTQIA pro- sive culture on our fessionals in higher campuses? What re- questioning their ed. Organizations sources are available like Campus Pride to us in higher edu- identity is important.” (Campuspride. cation? How can we org) have resourc- offer support to our students? How can we es available to faculty, staff, and students, ultimately make our spaces a welcoming many of which are free. The Chronicle of environment? Higher Education partnered with Campus National Coming Out Day is recognized Pride to produce a video called “Ask Me: at many universities across Maryland and What LGTQ Students Want Their Profes- the country. Administrators, faculty, and sors to Know” (Chronicle.com/article/Ask- staff can and should play an integral role in Me-What-LGBTQ-Students/232797). the support of this day. Becoming a mentor This powerful video gives college stu- and a role model is a good first step. dents the opportunity tell us what they want I recall my own experience in coming us to learn. “Ask me” is an important state- out when I attended Salisbury University for ment. Students do not want us to assume my undergraduate degree. I struggled with or to assign identities to them based on finding myself and who I was. Eventually, appearance or even based on their birth I found the campus LGBTQIA group (then, name. Other concerns may include campus known as BT GLASS), where I discovered a housing or gender-neutral bathrooms. Our strong student-support system. Ultimately, role in higher education is to listen to our I noticed stickers on faculty doors – rain- students and be advocates. bows and the words “safe space” high- Finally, come out as an ally. The simple lighted – that let me know that some of my act of offering up support to your students professors were people I could talk to. They who are coming out, transitioning, or even became my trusted advisors, mentors, and questioning their identity is important. As I ultimately my friends. I cannot stress to you have pointed out, it can make someone’s how much this meant to me as student. day by just being there. This also takes us To promote mentoring opportunities, back to our own communities. The call for I encourage you to research Safe Space public service, as Dr. Roger Hartley dis- training options at your institution. Safe cussed last week, is needed now more than Space training usually involves a presenta- ever. Be an ally for your students on your tion and small group discussions on how to campus and the youth in your community. be an ally and to provide a “safe space” for Answer the call to public service within your your campus. The Safe Space sticker lets own university and become part of a network students and even your colleagues know of support for our LGBTQIA students. t

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ways make it interesting when Connor and I tatoes, green beans, or small slices of celery. are cooking. The three dogs are always under Daisy Just make sure that they are clean and are foot in the kitchen. If any morsel of food falls (Violet’s fresh. Apples are another good choice. These the floor, all three pounce as quickly as pos- big sister) foods provide vitamins and they are often fill- offering to Violet’s sible to get whatever treasure has come to ing because of the fiber they contain. There help eat a Vet them from above. Our dogs will eat anything. salad are other potential health benefits to certain Dr. Tony Calo This includes things that are not good for their food as well. It has been suggested that cru- digestive tracts, so Violet is often faced with ciferous vegetables, such as broccoli and the challenges of having certain foods de- cauliflower, may reduce the risk of bladder Snack Time nied to her. She acts as though not getting cancer in Scottish Terriers. Just like all treats, her food from our human plates is somehow these should be given in moderation and not for neglect on our part. What she does not re- in place of a good routine diet. Dogs should Dogs alize when she gives us the pained look of be fed according to their age, their activity lev- The only thing bigger than Violet’s heart is starvation whenever we are eating our dinner leading to seizures, coma, and death. These el, and any other specific needs. In Violet’s her appetite. She has been known to grab is that we are actually taking our responsibility are just a few examples of foods that may household, that means three different diets whole potatoes out of the pantry to nosh on. to her and her health very seriously. Many of seem safe but can have extremely grave con- for three different dogs. Violet gets an adult She has stolen pieces of bread and she has the foods that we humans love are too spicy sequences. (For a more definitive list please small-breed diet. Daisy gets a diet for ma- even acquired a veggie burger or two. Con- or too fatty for dogs. Spicy and fatty foods can refer to Aspca.org/pet-care/virtual-pet-be- ture (over seven years old) large-breed dogs. nor and I are vegetarian so we don’t have to lead to problems ranging from inconvenienc- haviorist/dog-behavior/foods-are-hazardous- Henry gets a grain-free adult diet due to a worry about meat falling from our counters. es, such as short-lived vomiting or diarrhea, dogs.) Finally, all raw meats and fish should sensitivity to grain. They all love their respec- Violet is not necessarily discerning about the all the way to life-threatening, such as pan- be avoided. Raw food snacks and diets are tive dog foods, but of course, that does not things she consumes, however, as she has creatitis (inflammation of the pancreas). Just often touted as a great option for pets when in mean that they don’t love their snacks. Keep also eaten acorns, grass, and bugs on her a few grapes or raisins can lead to kidney fail- reality, these can be a source of bacteria and it simple and keep it healthy. Violet has the outside adventures. ure in sensitive dogs. Onions and garlic can are difficult to digest. advantage of living with a veterinarian to help She is not alone in her love of food. Her cause immune-mediated anemia. Chocolate So what can Violet eat safely that will not sort out dietary issues for her. Not every dog older sister Daisy and her younger brother can be a tempting treat for humans, especial- be hard on any of her organs, her intestinal has this advantage, so if you are ever in doubt Henry love eating just as much as she does. ly around the holidays, but can be dangerous tract, and won’t add on any extra pounds? about a snack for your dog, always consult It is not uncommon for Henry to get up on the to dogs and cats. Xylitol is a sweetener found Actually, quite a few snacks that are healthy your veterinarian before giving it. t counter to obtain ill-gotten gain. We no longer in sugarless gum and other products that can for people are also healthy for dogs. Violet Send questions to violtesvet@baltimore- keep anything edible on the counters. This al- cause low blood sugar in both dogs and cats, and her cohorts love baby carrots, sweet po- outloud.com.

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ready planned for next year from Septem- ber 23 to October 1. Learn more about this year’s event at 2015.baltimoreinnovation- week.com. Tech One of my favorite technology events Talk in the Baltimore area is the Maryland Ed- David Sugar Tech meetup. This event is a monthly event that typically takes place the second Thurs- day of every month. Typically at this event What’s Going you will find both educators interested in technology and those in the technology on in Tech in industry focused on educational technolo- gy. Most of the meet-ups start with two or Baltimore three local ed-tech companies in the area discussing what they do. Afterwards there This article will look at some of the tech is time to network. The meet-up for Novem- events taking place in Baltimore. There ber is scheduled for Thursday November are always a number of meetups, special 12, at 5 p.m. at the Betamore space (1111 events, etc. oriented towards the technol- Light Street). Learn more at Meetup.com/ ogy community. Not only are these events EdTech-Mary- a great way to learn land-Meetup. more about technol- “There are always a Finally not so ogy but also a way to number of meetups, much an event but connect with others. more of a news- By no means have I special events, etc. letter is Technical. been to all of these oriented towards the ly/baltimore. Here meet-ups or events there’s not only listed here but below technology community. the opportunity to are just a few to be learn about up- aware of, whether Not only are these events coming technol- monthly or once a a great way to learn ogy events here year. in the Baltimore First there is Bal- more about technology area but it’s also timore Innovation a great way to Week, which just but also a way to connect stay connected to passed. It was the with others.” the Baltimore tech last week of Septem- community and ber this year from September 25 to Oc- learn what’s happening. There are also job tober 3rd. Events ranged from programs postings. focused towards robotics to teaching kids As mentioned above these are just a about programming. There were also pro- few suggestions for events and meet-ups grams focused on starting your own tech- in the Baltimore area. Using Google, Meet- nology business to highlighting startups in up.com, and Technical.ly/baltimore are my the Baltimore area. I personally made it top suggestions on finding other events. If to a day where the discussion was about you know of an event or have a general learning what goes into starting a tech technical question please e-mail outloud- startup. Baltimore Innovation Week is al- [email protected]. t

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glass. Each glass with genuine feature is framed gold, 23k gold in off-white painted leaf. Back in supports that show the 60s when off the brilliance of the building the color and detail. was known as During World War the Maryland II the skylight was National Bank painted out to avoid Building, the attracting the atten- initials M and tion of potential en- N were mount- emy bombers. ed on the roof Looking Up Maybe you’re to the north not a reader or a and south. traveler; there is They were By Harvey O plenty to see out- illuminated How often do you look up? Personally, side as well. One of and changed I do it a lot. I can’t help myself. When I my favorite rooftops color. We am walking down the street, or into a new in Baltimore is the were told the room, and I find myself surveying my sur- gold and patinated color had roundings, the survey invariably has me copper roof of the something looking up. This issue’s article is not about Bank of America to do with a particular building or any one architect. It Building (originally the weather. is about what you can experience by look- the Baltimore Trust I don’t have Company Building) At Baltimore’s Penn Station any backup at East Baltimore for that and “Take the time to look and Light Streets. would be cu- The mansard style roof is covered in cop- rious to hear from anyone who knows for up and see what you per shingles that have aged to a soft green sure. notice that you may over the 86 years of its life. Gold ribs rise The next time you’re downtown and at vertically around the roofline. A restoration City Hall adjacent look up at the dome. The have been blindly done some years ago finished those ribs dome is divided into 12 sections by ver- walking by for ages. tical ribs. Between each rib are horizontal bands of lapped roof If only you could shingles. At the base of each Baltimore is rich with lick it... the top of section is an ocular window with Baltimore’s City beauty just above your an arched pediment topped with Hall head.” an urn. The ribs terminate at plinths that make up a solid bal- ustrade-like band. ing up. I’ll do my best not to oversell it. Below this band is a entab- There is a wonderful collection of lature with delicate dental mold- buildings in Baltimore with skylights. In the ings above a series of slender atrium at the Enoch Pratt Free Library is columns lifting the whole struc- a fairly big one. The skylight is surround- ture above a wall of elegant, ed by a stylized egg and dart molding that double hung, arch-topped wid- sits just inside a bulkhead filled with large ows. Topping the dome is a plaster florets, each set inside a detailed golden-capped cupola that is a coffer. This whole feature rest upon a sim- miniature version of the dome ple entablature, supported by a colonnade and column feature beneath it. of pilasters topped with ornate capitals One last detail of note is the that separate a series of iron casement central ocular directly above the windows on the second floor. It’s beautiful. front door. It is not a window at Another amazing skylight in the city is all – it’s a clock. the one at Baltimore’s Penn Station. While These are just a small se- in the waiting room, look up. Sunlight is fil- lection of the sites to see. The tered through three shallow dome skylights next time you are walking down- (each 25 feet in diameter) of clear and town, explore for yourself. Take stained glass. Each circular dome is set the time to look up and see in a square creating triangles in the nega- what you notice that you may tive space at the corners and a rectangular have been blindly walking by band flanks each square. Each of these for ages. Baltimore is rich with t spaces is also filled with clear and stained beauty just above your head.

22 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD OCTOBER 16, 2015 • baltimoreoutloud.com BALTIMORE OUTLOUD OCTOBER 16, 2015 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 23 Chicago in 2010. This community which that is close to his heart. On a lighter note I also asked him what he thought of the features role-play and animal costumes he would also like to have a fundraiser to controversial new practice of titleholders was reportedly formed as a subculture of raise money for mats that can be used at a setting up GoFundMe pages to raise mon- the science fiction conventions in the early puppy mosh and at educational events with ey for their travel funds. Gryphn feels that 1980s. Grypn noted that he met furries of the idea that the mats would be passed on the whole idea of being a titleholder is go- Leather all sexual orientations and found the group to the next Mid-Atlantic Puppy titleholder ing out in public, meeting people in person, Line to be very welcoming. After attending a for his use. As far as moving on to repre- supporting other clubs and organizations, Rodney Burger seminar on human puppy play at Camp sent the Mid-Atlantic area at one of the In- and holding fundraisers in LGBT friendly Ramblewood in Darlington, Maryland, Gry- ternational Puppy Contest, that is an idea bars to show support and to help the busi- phn discovered something that he could for another time. It is not a requirement of nesses. I couldn’t agree more. Meet Mid- really “get into.” He met his first pup han- his current title and it is something that he It sounds like our first Mid-Atlantic Pup- dler online and formed a relationship. He would consider for another year. For now, py titleholder has been well trained. He recently discovered that there are leather he is proud to be Mid-Atlantic Puppy 2016. gets a big bark of approval from me! t Atlantic clubs for like-minded folks and earlier this year became a member of the Mid-Atlantic Puppy 2016! Kennel Korps (MAKK). When I asked him to describe his first On a beautiful early fall evening I met with experience at pup play he said, “It was Pup Gryphn at the Mt. Vernon apartment surreal. I had on puppy mitts, knee pads, that he recently moved into with his han- and got down on all fours. I ready got into dler Rich. Although it has now been a few it. In fact I got so far into the headspace months since Gryphn was select- that I really do ed Mid-Atlantic Puppy 2016 at Pup not remember the first-ever Mid-Atlantic Puppy Gryphn all the details.” Contest (held on August 29 at the curbs & He does re- Baltimore Playhouse as part of obeys! member that Chesapeake Leather and Pride or he discovered CLAP), it was clear the he was still his kink and beaming from having been select- as Mid-Atlantic ed for the title. Puppy 2016 Gryphn grew up in the small he is excited town of Bridgeville, Delaware, and about educat- recently moved to Baltimore from ing folks about Newark, Delaware. His journey puppy play. into the leather / kink community For example began about 15 years ago. (He many outside also spent four years in the Ma- the community rines, which included two tours in Iraq.) are curious about the increase in visibility His introduction to kink began when he of the puppy community at leather events, discovered the furry community. He found but really do not understand it and often this subculture to be “really fun” and even act inappropriately. People often want to attended the annual Mid-West FurFest in pull on his puppy tail when he is in puppy mode. One wouldn’t pull on a real dog’s tail. It would be rude and disrespectful towards the dog’s owner. Human pups should be given the same respect. I asked him what advice he would give to someone who was interested in puppy play. Gryphn said, “They should be safe. Make friends with people who are sane and in the com- munity. Don’t just jump in. Network first.” After all you want your first experience to be favorable. I think that is excellent advice. Meet- ing people online can be good, but when you get into all types of kink play you really want to make sure that it is an enjoyable experience. The leather credo is: “Safe, sane and consensual.” As for his title year, Pup Gryphn plans to not just attend as many events as he can, but he also wants to educate and hopes to hold a few fund- raisers of his own. The Trevor Project, a national organization with a focus on sui- cide prevention for LGBT youth, is a charity

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