Nikah Its True Bliss and Reality and the Muslim Husband
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By: Hadhrat Maulana Shah Abdul Hamid Is’haq Sahib Dâmat Barakatuhum ا کی وت ریما وت ہر یشء ریمی زنیم ریمی آامسن ریما ا کی ئ وت ںیہن ریما وت وکیئ ش ںیہن ریمی If you are mine everything is mine, the heavens are mine, the earth is mine, if you are not mine, then nothing is mine. Title: Nikah! How to Attain its True Bliss and Reality & The Muslim Husband Transcription of a Majlis delivered by: Hadhrat Maulana Shah Abdul Hamid Is’haq Sahib Dâmat Barakatuhum First Edition: Sha’ban 1436 / May 2015 Publication no: Kab 047 Published by: Khanqah Akhtari, Azaadville; Tel: (+2711) 413-2785/6 Cell: (+27) (0)81-591-9082 Fax: (+2711) 413-2787 Email: [email protected] Website: www.ka.org.za Blog: hameediyyah.blogspot.com TABLE OF CONTENTS SECTION 1 – FORWARD ........................................................................................ 5 SUNNAT OF THIS OCCASION ............................................................................. 6 SUNNAT BRINGS BARKAT ..................................................................................... 8 SIMPLICITY OF NIKAH BRINGS BARKAT .................................................................. 9 OCCASION OF NIKAH OF THE PIOUS ...................................................................... 10 MIXING HARAAM AT THE OCCASION OF NIKAH ...................................................... 11 OCCASION OF NIKAH OF SAYYIDATINA FATIMA .................................................. 12 THE IMPORTANCE OF NIKAH IN TODAY’S TIME ...................................................... 13 TOLERATE AND MAINTAIN THE NIKAH ................................................................. 14 WHAT CAME FIRST, THE CHICKEN OR THE HEN ..................................................... 14 GIVE PREFERENCE TO KNOWLEDGE OF DIEN......................................................... 15 PROPER UNDERSTANDING OF DIEN...................................................................... 18 HALAAL SUSTENANCE ........................................................................................ 20 A PIOUS WIFE .................................................................................................. 24 AN ISLAMIC LIFESTYLE WILL BRING PEACE & COMFORT ......................................... 25 UPBRINGING OF CHILDREN ................................................................................. 26 CHOOSING A PARTNER ....................................................................................... 29 A LESSON FROM A GIRL WHO IS GETTING MARRIED ................................................ 30 WHY DON’T WE FIND COOLNESS OF OUR EYES IN OUR WIVES AND CHILDREN........... 31 WHERE WILL ONE FIND HOW TO DEVELOP DIENI QUALITIES ................................. 33 SUMMARY ........................................................................................................ 35 SECTION 2 - FORWARD ...................................................................................... 39 BEST WOMAN! ................................................................................................. 40 Page | 1 A WOMAN IS A TEST FOR HER HUSBAND! ............................................................. 41 THREE TYPES OF PEOPLE WHO ALLAH HAS TAKEN RESPONSIBILITY TO HELP ...... 42 THE STANDARD OF A GIRL’S RELATION ................................................................. 42 THE GREATEST CAUSE OF LOVE .......................................................................... 43 THE MOST BLESSED NIKAH ................................................................................ 44 THE DEFINITION OF A PIOUS WIFE ...................................................................... 44 THE SIMPLE CURE FOR INFATUATION .................................................................. 45 THE TEACHINGS OF KEEPING YOUR GAZE PURE ..................................................... 46 HOW CAN ADULTERY BE STOPPED? ..................................................................... 47 THE REWARD FOR KEEPING YOUR EYESIGHT PURE ................................................ 47 TO SEE A GIRL BEFORE MARRIAGE ...................................................................... 48 TO SEE A STRANGER .......................................................................................... 50 TO FORCE A BAALIGH GIRL ................................................................................. 50 A FATHER’S RESPONSIBILITY TOWARDS HIS SON ................................................... 50 A FATHER’S RESPONSIBILITY TOWARDS HIS DAUGHTER ......................................... 51 TO THINK A PARTICULAR DATE IS A BAD OMEN FOR A WEDDING IS AN ABSURD ACT ... 52 THE RIGHTS OF A WIFE...................................................................................... 53 THE ETIQUETTES OF PROPOSING ......................................................................... 54 BIRTH CONTROL ............................................................................................... 55 UNNATURAL RELATIONSHIP WITH ONE’S SPOUSE .................................................. 58 THE MEHR OF THE CROWN OF MADINA SHARIEF .............................................. 61 THE AMOUNT OF DOWRY ................................................................................... 61 THE SIMPLICITY AMONGST THE SAHABA AND THEIR DOWRIES ............................ 62 TO GO TO A FEAST WITHOUT AND INVITATION ....................................................... 64 Page | 2 THE WALIMAH FEAST ....................................................................................... 66 ADVICES ON ACCEPTING AN INVITATION ............................................................... 67 THE WORST TYPE OF MEALS .............................................................................. 68 THE ETIQUETTES OF EATING .............................................................................. 68 TO TAKE PART IN A GATHERING OF EXTRAVAGANCE .............................................. 69 THE INVITATION OF A FAASIQ (VIOLATOR OF ALLAH LAWS) ................................ 69 INVITATION OF BOASTERS .................................................................................. 70 OCCASION OF FEEDING....................................................................................... 70 JUSTICE BETWEEN WIVES .................................................................................. 70 RASULULLAH SUNNAT OF TRAVELLING ............................................................ 73 TO FEAR ALLAH IN THE MATTER OF THE WIVES’ RIGHTS ................................... 73 AN ACTION OF NABI WORTHY OF FOLLOWING .................................................. 73 ONE THAT WILL BE STRICKEN WITH PARALYSIS ON THE DAY OF QIYAMAT ................ 74 THE METHOD OF REFORMING WOMEN ................................................................ 75 THE TEACHINGS OF BEING PATIENT WHEN A WOMAN EXCEEDS HER LIMITS ............. 76 THE FORBIDDANCE OF HITTING A WOMAN MERCILESSLY ....................................... 77 BE CONSIDERATE TOWARDS A WOMAN’S FEELINGS ............................................... 77 RASULULLAH ’S TREATMENT TOWARDS HIS WIVES............................................ 78 RASULULLAH ’S INFORMALITY ......................................................................... 79 THE BEST HUMAN ............................................................................................ 80 THE RECOGNITION OF A PERFECT MO’MEEN ......................................................... 81 HOW TO KEEP HIS WIFE .................................................................................... 81 AN INCIDENT WORTHY OF FOLLOWING ................................................................ 83 WHEN WILL IT BE HARAAM TO GIVE A DIVORCE.................................................... 84 Page | 3 THE PERSON IN THE EYES OF RASULULLAH WHO GIVES THREE DIVORCES IN ONE SITTING ........................................................................................................... 87 ALLAH DOES NOT LIKE DIVORCE ..................................................................... 88 DIVORCE UTTERED WITHOUT AN INTENTION IS ALSO A DIVORCE ............................. 89 DIVORCE BY FORCE ........................................................................................... 90 DO NOT BE SUSPICIOUS OF YOUR WIFE................................................................. 90 IT IS KUFR TO CHANGE YOUR PEDIGREE ............................................................... 91 ONE WHO CHANGES HIS RACE, JANNAT IS FORBIDDEN FOR HIM .............................. 91 ONE WHO HAS SUSPICION OF HIS WIFE UNNECESSARILY WILL BE DISGRACED ON THE DAY OF QIYAMAH AND A DISHONEST WOMAN WILL NOT ENTER JANNAH................... 92 STEALING FROM THE HUSBAND ........................................................................... 94 THE MOST WEALTHY ........................................................................................ 95 FOOD AND CLOTHES FOR THE WIFE ..................................................................... 95 TO SPECIFY HER EATING TIME ........................................................................... 96 WARNING AGAINST BEATING A SLAVE ................................................................. 96 THE FORBIDDANCE OF BEATING A NAMAAZI ......................................................... 97 FORGIVE YOUR WIFE AND SLAVE SEVENTY TIMES IN A DAY .................................... 97 PUT ONLY THAT MUCH BURDEN THAT CAN BE TOLERATED ....................................