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Copyright © 2014 by Don Ayre All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, distributed, or transmitted in any form or by any means, including photocopying, recording, or other electronic or mechanical methods, without the prior written permission of the author, except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical reviews and certain other noncommercial uses permitted by copyright law. Printed and bound in Canada at McNally Robinson Booksellers 1120 Grant Avenue, Winnipeg, Manitoba R3M 2A6. Cover and Book design by McNally Robinson Booksellers. Cover Photo: Watercolour by Don Ayre www.mcnallyrobinson.com/selfpublishing ISBN: 978-1-9278169-33-8 First Edition October 2014 ◆ Toward a ◆ More Loving and Caring World don ayre mcnally robinson booksellers self-publishing and print-on-demand ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS n writing this book, I acknowledge the people who share in its vision. I Iam reminded of the very real contributions of my friends and associates. As a generation, we grew up together, worked together and did what we could to contribute to a better world. I am also reminded of the clients and colleagues who shared their thinking with me through the years when I was in private practice. From them, I learned that dialogue can make a difference. I wish to express my deepest gratitude to Heather Emberley who edited my work several times. From Heather, I have learned that it is one thing to write about social concerns as criticism and yet quite another to communicate them positively in ways that they can be supportive of others. I also wish to acknowledge Sarah Wood for her unique contribution and creativity in formatting this book with its many diagrams and quotations. My heartfelt appreciation goes out to Jean Ayre, my partner. Her patience through the years as I struggled to balance my idealism with reality and to contribute to a better world has been huge. There were many hours of dialogue involved in writing and rewriting this book. Putting one’s idealism into words is a process that is never-ending, it seems. I especially want to thank those of you who have chosen to read this book. As long as we believe in and are willing to commit to the progress of a vision that contributes toward a more loving and caring world, it will happen. Love’s Imperatives Look for Beauty in all things, Expect Love at all times, Share from the Heart, Be Grateful for Life Itself, Smile… and Enjoy Each Day. CONTENTS 9 INTRODUCTION The Journey from Self-Awareness to Cosmic Consciousness 11 I. A Growing Need for New Insights 17 II. Method of Inquiry 26 III. Method of presentation 34 IV. Invitation to Readers 39 PART ONE Developing the SELF and Growing the SOUL 41 1. Exploring Life’s Four Most Basic Questions 61 2. Using Knowledge for Developing the SELF 75 3. Using Wisdom for Growing the SOUL 93 4. Exchanging Knowledge and Wisdom with Kindred Spirits 103 PART TWO The Process of Meditation 105 5. Meditation, prayer and the Power of Integrated Questioning 119 6. Meditation and Communion with the World of Nature 127 7. Meditation and the Personal/Social Development of Universal Love 139 8. Meditation and the Ongoing Evolution of Cosmic Consciousness 147 PART THREE The Four Dimensions of Meditation 149 9. Witness Meditation and the Process of Self-Awareness 157 10. Discursive Meditation as a Source of Individual Happiness 165 11. Transformative Meditation and the Politics of Change 177 12. Transcendental Meditation as a Means of Contributing to Civilization’s Slow Progress 191 PART FOUR Dealing with Life’s Transitions 193 13. Transition #1: From Family to Community 201 14. Transition #2: From Education to Employment 213 15. Transition #3: From Single to Partnership Living 221 16. Transition #4: From Independence to Interdependence 237 CONCLUSION Self, Soul and Technology 239 I. The Growing Need to Link Psychology With Theology 247 II. The Growing Need to Resolve Issues of Technology vs. Spirituality 255 III. Hope for Our Humanity 261 IV. Hope for Us as Individuals 265 BIBLIOGRAPHY INTRODUCTION The Journey From Self-Awareness To Cosmic Consciousness ife is a journey in self-awareness. Our awareness expands to include Lothers of our generation and of generations gone before us. Gradually, our journeying becomes more purposeful – directed from within towards a common human destiny. It is then that our limited awareness of ourselves expands as the world we find ourselves in challenges us and we begin to realize that we have an enormous potential for contributing to a more loving and caring world. It is for us to choose. 1 | A Need for New Insights 2 | Toward a More Subjective Method of Inquiry 3 | Toward a More Objective Method of Presentation 4 | Intended Readership 9 1 | A Need for New Insights A more loving and caring world… It would make our journeying through life so much easier and so much more rewarding. From the point of view of psychology, it’s a matter of our fulfilling the integrity of our growth and development both as individuals and as humanity. Psychologists call it “Actualizing our human potential”. From the point of view of theology, it’s a matter of our living up to the potential of our intended divinity and staying on the track with the destiny of our species. Theologians know it as “Discovering our divine calling”. Generation after generation, we have amassed a tremendous buildup of knowledge and wisdom about ourselves and the world we live in and about the ongoing progress of our civilization. Now that we have the means of communicating world-wide to create a global community and the technology to advance it, we need new insights into based on the knowledge and wisdom we have accumulated thus far. Instead, old solutions to old problems are being played out – wars, social injustices, and environmental issues. Why are we feeling the pressures to change – locally, globally? How do we respond – individually, collectively? Experience tells us that neither our psychological nor our spiritual realization is happening as it should. Why not? What can we do about it? On the one hand, psychologists and related professionals are telling us that we need to be more aware of ourselves and of others, more loving; that we need to be fulfilling our integrity as individuals. On the other hand, theologians and related spiritual advisors are telling us that we need to be more conscious of the global community and of our common humanity. Our politicians world-wide are saying everything in between. They are urging us to be more cooperative socioeconomically, community by community, country by country while at the same time they are advising us to be more sharing in our international use the world’s resources. Meanwhile, global inequities, uprisings and wars go on unabated. We need to be more loving toward one another and more caring towards our planet Earth. 11 12 toward a more loving and caring world The primary purpose of this book is to demonstrate that there is a common ground of awareness that is emerging between the extremes of psychology and theology that will help us develop our SELVES and grow our SOULS as one. I believe that the availability of knowledge from an interconnectivity of biology, psychology, sociology, theology, cosmology and related disciplines will help us deal more effectively with the stresses and strains of living in the emerging global community. Ultimately, this will lead to a stronger sense of Universal Love and to a more loving world. A secondary purpose of this book is to review the writings and conversations with people of like minds who are concerned about how the rapid development of our technology is affecting our society’s sense of spirituality. I believe that a more holistic platform is needed for the growth and development of ourselves as individuals and for our humanity as inhabitants of the planet Earth. Ultimately, this will lead to a stronger sense of Cosmic Consciousness and to a more caring world. In their recent book CLASH: Eight Cultural Conflicts That Make Us Who we Are, Stanford University professors – Hazel Role Marcus PhD. and Alana Connor PhD. – point out that “as our planet gets smaller, hotter and flatter cultural conflicts are becoming fiercer.” They suggest that a new group of professionals is forming on campuses as advisors and counsellors to our newly forming global community. They insist that these new professionals will be able “to show us how to navigate some of the deepest cultural divides that are just now forming”. This influx of new knowledge as it flows through our television and computers adding to and revising the old can be overwhelming. What can we do to update ourselves as individuals? What can we do to make our know-how for our children more relevant? What can we do to make the know-how for our children’s children more relevant? What can we do for our species as a whole? Politically, we are having difficulty cobbling together a new sense of global community. In trying to develop a new, more all-encompassing notion of SELF and WORLD, Marcus and Connor ask: What exactly is a person? What is a good person? And what is her or his relationship to other people, the past, and the environment? The cycles that feed and flow from the big idea that the SELF is independent are quite distinct from cycles the feed and flow from the idea that SELF is interdependent. Built around this big idea, the cultural WORLD don ayre 13 outside people's bodies have just as much structure, pattern, and order as do the genes, neurons, and grains regions within their bodies.