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by Bob Vitale Like Obama, who was too young to be in then sometimes I was showing quarter the middle of the civil rights movement, horses in Kentucky," he said. As a student at Columbus Alternative Hardin represents a new generation of High School after the 2004 elections, LGBT leaders who have come of age He also has navigated sometimes-con­ Shannon Hardin took a challenge from after the 1980s AIDS epidemic. flicting worlds as a gay black man. He his government teacher and helped solve was raised in a church-going home, a problem posed by Ohio's dwindling Among his duties in the mayors office came out to his mother as a freshman in pool of poll workers. was working on the policy side of LGBT college, and still is involved in his issues, and he said he's proud of Colum­ church. He and classmates suggested a bill, bus's 100-point rating on the Human eventually passed by the Ohio General Rights Campaign's 2014 Municipal "She was very accepting and loving," he Assembly, that allowed 17-year-olds to Equality Index. It was the highest rank­ said of his mother, but like a lot of help out on Election Day. Youth at the ing of any city in Ohio. moms, she worried about how he would Booth programs now exist across Ohio, be treated by others. Hardin expresses and tens of thousands of young people "I know I would not have this opportunity more patience with others than a lot of have taken part. if it weren't for those folks who have us do.

Hardin already has had an impact, and "I never wanted to put people who were he's only been in public office for a few slow in coming around into a box as weeks. 1 I know I would evil," he said.

The 27-year-old former aide to not have this oppor­ Coleman said Columbus's newest Mayor Mike Coleman was ap­ tunity if it weren't for City Council member already has pointed to the Columbus City those folks who have been a great grasp of the city's neigh­ Council in October. He's the first borhoods and constituencies, openly gay council member on the front lines fighting and it'll be needed quickly. since 2007 and the first openly for those rights. It gave Hardin replaces Councilman Troy gay African-American ever to me the space to just Miller and must run in 2015 to hold public office in Columbus. finish the rest of Miller's term. be who I am." "I don't want to be seen as just the gay - Shannon Hardin "He is probably one of the most pre­ councilman, but I'm so proud of who I pared people for entering the life of pub­ am and whom I represent," said Hardin, lic office as anyone I've ever seen," who lives on the city's South Side and Coleman said. now works as an associate vice presi­ been on the front lines fighting for those dent for the Columbus Metropolitan rights," Hardin said. "It gave me the Hardin's seat on the City Council is a his­ Housing Authority. space to just be who I am." toric one. It was held by Jerry Hammond, Columbus's first black council president, Hardin began as a college intern in Cole­ Who is he? and by Coleman, the city's first black man's office and took a job as a commu­ mayor. nity affairs liaison in the mayors office "I didn't consider myself being gay as after graduating from Morehouse College that big of a deal," he said. "I'm a proud Its newest occupant said he wants to with a degree in political science and in­ African-American man. I'm a proud gay amplify the voice of young people in ternational relations. man. What I thought was important was Columbus • "where we don't just wait on that people saw me for who I was first. them to get older before we start listen­ He was described by The Columbus Dis­ They are pieces of my pie." ing to them" - and focus on neighbor­ patch as a protege of the mayor, but hood concerns and innovative ways to Coleman has higher sights for Hardin. Hardin was raised by his mother in enhance public safety. Columbus but also spent time with his "There he Is: That's baby Barack," he father, who had a horse farm in Ken­ "Those men created history in this city," joked at a swearing-in ceremony on Oct tucky. he said of his predecessors. "I want to help build its future." "It gave me this very inner-city life, and 12 november2014 Come meet Shannon at Network Columbus on Wednesday, Nov 12 at Level Dining Lounge, 6p-8p. outlookohio.com

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Bom Conselho, Brazil Dec 4,2013 Castanhal, Brazil De Mesquita Shot to death Stabbed to death Sao Paulo, Brazil Stabbed to death Jan 5,2014 The following ceremonies are planned in Ohio: Shot to death Teresina, Brazil Cristal Calvin Curtis Unidentified Stoned to death Jan 19,2014 Athens: Ohio University's Baker Center Fifth Floor Atrium, 1 Park Place Dr, Lipscomb Thays Brito De victim Natal, Brazil 45701:8p-9p on Wednesday, Nov 19. (Her preferred name Oliveira Dec 31,2013 Michele Coelho Shot to death was never discovered) Dec 8,2013 Itapissuma, Brazil De Morais Nov 8,2013 Bauru, Brazil Shot to death Jan 6,2014 Cotalina Cincinnati: Cincinnati Cultural Arts Center, 3711 Clifton Ave, 45220:7p- Detroit, Michigan Shot to death Mataraizes, Brazil Ramirez 8:30p on Thursday, Nov 20. i and burned Gabriely Spanic Beaten to death Jan 19,2014 Pamela Madureira De Cali, Colombia Columbus: Fifth Avenue United Methodist Church, 299 King Ave, 43201: Amari Hill Dec 10,2013 Mato Marco Noe Stabbed to death 7p-9p on Thursday, Nov 20. Nov 17,2013 Minas Gerais, Brazil December 2013 Lopez Castillo Richmond, Virginia Stabbed to death Campinas, Brazil Jan 6,2014 Suman Singh Toledo: Sylvania United Church of Christ, 7240 Erie St, Sylvania, 43560: Shot to death San Pedro Sula, Jan 20,2014 7p-8p on Thursday, Nov 20. Unidentified Unidentified Venezuela Guwahati, India Lady Butterfly Victim victim Strangled to death Burned to death Dec 12,2013 December 2013 Cleveland: Huntington Park, Lakeside Ave and W 3rd St, 44113:5:30p ^^JJ,3 | Brazj Fortaleza, Brazil Brasilia, Brazil Paloma Buxexa on Saturday, Nov 22. Stabbed to death Stabbed to death Jan 8,2014 Jan 23,2014 Glenda Belem, Brazil Messajana, Brazil Remembering Betty Skinner Sohlil Unidentified December 2013 Shot repeatedly in the Shot to death Betty Skinner, 52, was described by fellow resi­ Nov 17,2013 victim Morelos, Mexico head and chest dents of her assisted living facility as friendly, Karachi, Pakistan Dec 12,2013 Beaten and stoned Jose Araya nice and outgoing. She was found dead in her Shot to death Videira, Brazil Unidentified Jan 25,2014 apartment in Cleveland's Brooklyn neighborhood Shot to death Juaria victim Presidente Derqui. on Dec 5,2013. Police said she died of blunt Jacqueline December 2013 Jan 9,2014 Argentina force trauma to the head. No one has been ar­ Cowdrey Larissa San Francisco, Acapulco, Mexico Shot to death Honduras rested in her murder. Nov 19,2013 Dec 16,2013 West Sussex, UK JoaoPesso, Brazil Rayka Tomaz Unidentified Strangled to death Jonathan Jan 10,2014 victim Rosa Ribut December 2013 Fortaleza, Brazil Jan 25.2014 Remembering Brittany Stergis Nov 24,2013 Unidentified Morelos, Mexico Stabbed multiple times Ciudad Nezaulcoyotl, The mother of Brittany-Nicole Kidd-Stergis said Edmonton, Alberta, victim Mexico her child struggled with coming out as trans­ Canada Dec 21,2013 Alondra Hildago Luana Professora Throat slit gender but was much happier after doing so. Beaten to death Faridabad, India Cardenas Jan 10,2014 The 22-year-old was shot in the head and found Beaten to death Jan 5,2014 Goiania, Brazil AdorKha dead inside a car on Cleveland's West Side on Karina Zulia, Venezuela Shot in the chest Jan 26.2014 Dec 6,2013. Delshawn Carroll, 20, was sen­ Nov 26,2013 Alondra Hidalgo Stabbed to death Jahurpur, Bangladesh tenced in October to 18 years to life in prison for Sape, Brazil Cardenas Prince Joe Beaten and tortured her murder. Shot to death Dec 22,2013 Fernandinha Jan 12,2014 Maracaibo, Venezuela Oliveira De Belize City, Belize Thifani Unidentified Stabbed to death Mesquita Stabbed multiple times Jan 27,2014 Remembering Tiffany Edwards victim Jan 5,2014 Rio de Janeiro, Brazil "Tiffany was love. Tiffany gave love," the aunt of November 2013 Luana Soares Teresina, Brazil Unidentified Killed and Tiffany Edwards told a Cincinnati TV station. The Manaus, Brazil Dec 25,2013 Stoned to death victim dismembered Coelho Neto, Brazil 28-year-old was found shot to death on a Jan 14,2014 Cinthia Unidentified Tissia Cincinnati street on June 25,2014. Quamar Ed­ Jarinu, Brazil November 2013 Haydee victim Killed with an ax Jan 28,2014 wards, who's no relation to Tiffany, was indicted Puebla, Mexico Georgina Leon Jan 5,2014 Itaguai, Brazil for her murder a month later and awaits trial. Strangled to death Dreyer Ciudad Trujillo, Peru Toni Gretchen Beaten to death Dec 28,2013 Beaten to death Jan 16,2014

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Jennifer Castro Raissa Robertona Andressa Jardim Inga. Brazil Unidentified Paola Alisson Henrique Jan 28.2014 Feb 1,2014 Feb 18,2014 Pinheiro Burned to death victim June 8.2014 Da Silva Santa Fe, Argentina CuiabS. Brazil Chapeco, Brazil March 1,2014 March 2014 Sao Paulo, Brazil July 31,2014 Stabbed to death Shot repeatedly in the Shot to death JoaoPessoa. Brazil Paulete Guerrero, Mexico Stabbed multiple Macaiba, Brazil head and chest Stabbed 15 times and March 17,2014 Stoned to death times Shot multiple gunshot Joice Paulete dragged Teresina, Brazil times Jan 28.2014 Alison Reyes Feb 19,2014 Shot to death Unidentified Zoraida Reyes Teresina, Brazil Lopez Taguatinga, Brazil Tatiana Martinez victim June 12,2014 Unknown Stabbed multiple Feb 4,2014 Shot multiple times in March 2,2014 Unknown March 2014 Santa Ana, California Woman times Tijuana, Mexico the face Cartagena, Colombia Woman Medellin, Colombia Choked to death Aug 9,2014 Stabbed to death Shot to death March 23,2014 Stabbed to death Sao Paulo, Brazil Sarita Camila Veronezi Sao Paulo, Brazil Yoz'min Shancez Found dead with her Jan 29.2014 Tatty Feb 21,2014 Mile Killed and dismem­ Unknown June 19,2014 eyes removed Itabela, Brazil Feb 7,2014 Sao Paulo, Brazil March 3,2014 bered Woman Fort Myers, Florida Shot to death Belo Horizonte, Brazil Shot 15 times Sao Paulo, Brazil April 2,2014 Shot and burned to Alejandro Leos Died of facial injuries Shot to death Marciana Sobral, Brazil death Sept 5,2014 Sarita Do Sopdo Lu March 24,2014 Hit in the head with an Memphis, Tennessee Jan 29.2014 Rafaela Feb 23,2014 Rose Maria Iguatu, Brazil iron bar Andre Luiz Shot to death Teresina, Brazil Feb 11,2014 Nova Serrana, Brazil March 5,2014 Shot to death Borges Rocha Shot multiple times Recife, Brazil Stabbed multiple Sao Paulo, Brazil Unknown June 23,2014 Karen Alanis Shot multiple times times Stabbed in the neck Jade Esmeralda Woman Tijucal, Brazil Sept 9,2014 Juju March 25,2014 April 2,2014 Shot multiple times in Sao Paulo, Brazil Jan 29.2014 Noiser Java Unidentified Coco Puerto La Cruz. Manaus, Brazil the face Thrown from a vehicle Salgueiro, Brazil Paima victim March 8,2013 Venezuela Beaten and strangled and run over Beaten and stoned to Feb 11,2014 Feb 26,2014 Edmonton, Alberta, Shot to death to death Unknown death Miraflores, Peru Tandil, Argentina Canada Woman Cris Shot to death Nicole Mileide June 30,2014 Sept 13,2014 Gutta Unknown Jessica March 28,2014 April 7,2014 Coruripe, Brazil Portal da Foz, Brazil January 2014 Denise Cobos Woman March 8,2014 Vitoria, Brazil Santo Antonio, Brazil Raped, then beaten to Shot multiple times Carapicuiba, Brazil Reyes Feb 27,2014 Tabasco, Mexico Stabbed in the neck Shotfourtimes death Beaten and hanged Feb 14,2014 Sao Paulo, Brazil Killed and body thrown and abdomen, hands Mahadevi Ceresita, Ecuador Shot multiple times into the street and feet bound vdlquiria Kellen Santorine Sept 25,2014 Unidentified Tortured to death April 20,2014 July 13,2014 Malleshwara, India victim Unknown Unidentified Giovana Souza Praga dos Carreiros, Uberaba, Brazil Pushed off a moving Jan 30,2014 Unidentified Woman Victim Silva Brazil. Raped, then beaten to train Buenos Aires, victim Feb 28,2014 March 9,2014 March 29,2014 Shot to death death Argentina Feb 16,2014 Rio de Janeiro. Brazil Aparecida de Goiania, Sao Paulo, Brazil Bruno Lokiss Beaten to death Ribeirao Preto. Brazil Shot multiple times Brazil Shot multiple times Qa la Joker Mia Henderson Sept 30,2014 Stabbed to death Shot to death April 21,2014 July 16,2014 Varzea Grande, Brazil Paoka Alves Kitana Unknown Istanbul, Turkey Baltimore, Maryland Shot to death Pererira Cuenca Adrian Feb 28,2014 Vanessa Alves Woman Shot to death Died of massive Jan 31,2014 Feb 17,2014 Aracaju, Brazil Da Silva March 29,2014 trauma Gull Dos Santos Piacabucu, Brazil Guayaquil, Ecuador Shot multiple times in March 9,2014 JoaoPessoa, Brazil Unknown Oct 1,2014 Beaten to death the head Angelica, Brazil Beaten to death by Woman Mackelly Castro Rio Largo, Brazil Sevda Strangled to death several people and May 29,2014 July 18,2014 Shot multiple times Unidentified Feb 17,2014 Unidentified dragged through the Porto Alegre, Brazil Teresina, Brazil victim Gaziantep, Turkey victim Vitoria street Shot multiple times Hanged to death Aniya Parker January 2014 Shot to death Feb 28,2014 March 12,2014 Oct 2,2014 JuizdeFora, Brazil Vitoria da Conquista, Boa Vista, Brazil Unidentified Marcio Moraes Lele Los Angeles. California Beaten and tortured Alex Medeiros Brazil Shot twice in the chest victim May 29,2014 July 18,2014 Shot in the head Feb 18,2014 Shot to death March 2014 Porto Alegre, Brazil Roatan, Honduras Nahomi Lui Rio de Janeiro, Brazil Paulete Luziano, Brazil Shot multiple times Beaten to death Jennifer Laude Inuma The 8-year-old was Unidentified March 12,2014 Burned to death Oct 11,2014 January 2014 beaten to death by his victim Sao Paulo, Brazil Kandy Hall Dennysi Manila, Philippines Iquitos, Peru father because he re­ February 2014 Shot 15 times Agamenon June 3,2014 Branddo Drowned in toilet bowl Beaten to death fused to cut his hair Guayaquil, Ecuador March 2014 Montebello, Maryland July 24,2014 and liked dancing and Stabbed and tortured Unknown Itaberaba, Brazil Died of massive Contagem, Brazil girls clothes. 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by Debra Shade that choice. I believe we're all responsible for If I'm raising my family in a poor neighbor­ This crazy place that we have all had a hand our future, our actions and our fellow man, so hood and don't have the means to improve my in creating, maintaining and developing is full Does anyone else feel like they owe the folks I had to chastise myself because I am not environment, it's easier to move to a "nicer" of so many dangers that we need to survive. who build and stock bunker basements an doing enough. neighborhood far from the central city that's Doesn't it make sense to prepare ourselves? apology? accessible on the bus line. What do we do when Ebola becomes wide­ Maybe it's a guilty conscience, but I'm reflect­ Look at what's going on in the world. We're spread in the United States, when terror at­ When we aren't questioning the shift and fo­ ing on all that is occupying the news from moving from a threat of classism to a society tacks turn to war on our soil, when bullying by cusing on the blend, we continue the cycles coast to coast and across the globe. I feel like of healthy, prepared and protected vs. poor, ill police depart- * = that create and sup­ I need to buy a home and build a bunker in my and dying. We are unable to afford basic med­ ments is not port this type of backyard. icines, food and transportation. We are bom­ met with the What do we do when classism. As a so­ barded with hate, bullying, racism, war, same outcries Ebola becomes ciety we are not Or do I? Does the world really want a brain like illness and separation. as bullying in widespread in the United blending, we are mine to rebuild society? Sure we will have sex schools, in cy­ just switching forthe purpose of reproduction, but at what There's growing separation between those berspace and States, when terror at­ places, changing point will it need to turn to sexual exploration who are able to survive and those who can't. If in the work­ tacks turn to war on our addresses. We're and acceptance? Maybe never. I were struck with a major illness tomorrow. I place? soil when bullying by addressing nei­ would be in a terrible predicament. As an en­ ther the cause nor Or maybe next time we will get it right from trepreneur, if I don't work, I don't get paid. If I tdowe police departments is not the effect and are the very start and leave the things that sepa­ don't get paid, my healthcare doesn't get paid do when the met with the same paying attention rate us as humans behind. Sexual orientation, for, I can't afford to eat healthy food, etc., etc. classes that to the wrong end income, race, religion, age and geography We all know the results of little and no income. are currently outcries as bullying in of classism. won't be detriments to the other. separated by schools, in cyberspace It makes me want to stockpile when the race and in­ The dream to pro­ Climbing out of the bunkers and into an op­ money is flowing. I want to make sure my come develop and in the workplace? tect, thrive and portunity to start over doesn't seem like such family's basic needs can be met. Much unlike to a simpler enjoy life is held by a crazy concept anymore. bunker conceptualists, our tomorrow is un­ class: income? all. We are born to do determined by any of us. We live in a world Some watching the movement of blacks and so. Even in infancy, we have the sense of fight What more can you and I do for Mother Earth? full of undetermined actions, leaving us only minorities to suburban communities and or flight. We gag when we choke in an attempt to control our reaction. whites back into cities hail the change as a to clear an object from our throats, we swim or Debra Shade is an author and owner of Shade Media. You sign of integration but aren't considering that float if tossed in water, we cry out for help can find her on Facebook at Shadyontop, follow her on Twitter @shadeyontop or buy her books from Amazon.com These people have decided to react before­ it's indicative of economics. when we hurt, are alone or are afraid. or a Lion's Den near you. She writes In the Shade every hand, and I'm reconsidering my opinion of cither month for Outlook.

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If you're a fan of Black (Iron Man 3, Kiss Kiss Bang E Documentaries, narrative films for TV, true crime specials: and his skillful handling of aggressive action and witty di­ The story has been told many times over, yet the public re­ alogue, then you know that any project he's a part of that mains hungry for more, maybe in the hope of finally under­ isn't another superhero sequel is great news. He's the standing how madness infects an entire group of young smart, funny, guy's-guy filmmaker, and that means we all people following one charismatic lunatic. look forward to getting more of that from him. Now, Ed Sanders' 1971 book, The Family, detailing the life But let's say you just really, really, really want to luxuriate of Charles Manson and his leadership of the 1969 Tate- in your own lust for certain male movie stars. How does a LaBianca murders, will be adapted for a TV miniseries to trifecta of Matt Bomer (picking this one up right after the be written by lesbian actor/writer Guinevere Turner (Go skin extravaganza that will be Magic Mike XXL), Russell Fish). Crowe (who solidly embraced his daddy-bear status in Noah) and, oh yeah, Ryan Gosling sound? Turner already has taken a turn at this sort of subject mat­ ter, having co-written the movie version of Bret Easton Yes, we know, they sound great. And those are the three Ellis' American Psycho with director Mary Harron. Director male leads of The Nice Guys, and you're welcome. It's set Jonas Akerlund should prove to be a more than appropri­ in 1970s Los Angeles, with Gosling as a detective hired by ate choice to helm this dark, dangerous project. gangster Crowe to find a missing young woman. Along the way, Gosling uncovers a conspiracy in which Bomer fig­ Prepare to feel creeped out all over again. ures as something of a bad guy.

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The upcoming miniseries for NBC from gay writer Jon And because singularity makes news, filmmaker Jason Robin Baitz (Brothers & Sisters) and lesbian filmmaker Benjamin (Orange Is the New Black, Girls) and producer Lisa Cholodenko (The Kids Are All Right) explores the so­ Lena Dunham are in the process of making Three Suits, a cial and legal fallout that takes place when a man slaps documentary for HBO. The film will follow three of B&K's another couple's misbehaving child. It's adapted from an clients as they're fitted for new threads and also as they Australian series and novel of the same name. demonstrate what the business means to them in every­ day terms of negotiating gender identity and gender pres­ Australian actress Melissa George (The Good Wife) will re­ entation. peat the role she handled in the original series, with new cast members Zachary Quinto, Thandie Newton, Peter Best of all, the Dunham stamp of approval means that a Sarsgaard, Mary-Louise Parker and Brian Cox joining doc about trans people that might otherwise get lost in the the American version. queer film festival shuffle will meet an audience that has never heard these kinds of stories before. Hope you're ready for bad behavior from childish adults. Oh, you can see that any day of the week in the Whole Romeo San Vicente's suits are custom made in London, as the song Foods parking lot, you say? OK, sure, but watch anyway. goes. He can be reached at [email protected].

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by Chris Azzopardi ago. You know, I keep myself to myself. I don't What I mean by that is that in order to under­ do a huge amount of interviews. When you watch him in Pride, a film about CA: Movies about gay people weren't al­ stand what it means to be a straight person the alliance between striking miners and gay ways as celebratory as Pride and others or a gay person, it doesn't require too much I am delighted to say, though, that absolutely activists in the mid-1980s, it's hard to ignore that have been released recently. With that imagination. We all come from a union of a nothing has changed, really. I've been in the the fact that Andrew Scott came out publicly said, do you think Pride would get the same man and a woman, and a gay person can business coming up on 20 years now. I just last year. reaction if it came out 20 years ago? understand heterosexual love. I think straight started very young, and so I've always AS: I just know that it feels people actually fundamentally find it wanted to play all sorts of different parts. The British dramedy finds the 37-year-old very timely. I think it's easy to understand homosex­ actor putting those puppy eyes on full dis­ incredibly pro- ual love-there's just a With something like Pride, obviously, I have to play. As Gethin, a man dealing with the after­ gressive, and "People understand stigma attached to it speak a little more about personal issues math of coming out, his sincerity makes you the idea of sexuality at a very basic that maybe prevents - that's something I realize with this project - totally forget his Moriarty character on the just differ­ them from admitting but, in the future, I feel that in order to be BBC's Sherlock and the shade he throws ent attrib­ level, and so I never have that sometimes. progressive it's not necessary for me to speak Benedict Cumberbatch. utes of thought that people are about (my sexuality) in every interview I do.... gay peo­ intrinsically homophobic People understand There are certain times when it's right to talk Chris Azzopardi: How does it feel being part ple being sexuality at a very about it, and there are absolutely times I feel of a movie that's moved so many people in explored is I think that's something basic level, and so I that it's not relevant. the gay community? extremely that's learned." never have thought Andrew Scott: It's extraordinary, really. We're important. that people are intrin­ CA: You've co-starred with some of the all completely blown over by it. The response But the idea of - Andrew Scott sically homophobic. I finest-looking men in show business: Bene­ we're hearing from cinemas across the coun­ this story 20 years think that's something dict Cumberbatch, Tom Hardy, James try, where people are standing up at the end ago, talking about that's learned. McAvoy and Daniel Radcliffe, to name a and they're clapping - it's just very unusual these people as heroes, I'm few. Is it in your contract that you only for me. I've certainly never been in a film be­ not sure.... I just know the fact that it's been CA: In November 2013, you came out pub­ work with the most attractive men in the fore where that happens. embraced by both gay audiences and licly. So, to mark your one-year anniver­ industry? straight audiences is very important. sary, tell me what changed for you after AS: Absolutely, it is. And I believe it's in all We kind of really hoped that the gay commu­ coming out to the world. their contracts as well, which is why they get nity would embrace it, but we keep saying We set out to make a mainstream film, and it AS: It's funny, I don't see it at all like that. I to work with me. [Laughs.] that it's not just a gay movie. The message - is a mainstream film - it's finding a main­ can understand why people could perceive it the idea of solidarity - isn't just for a gay au­ stream audience - and sometimes the word as my "one-year anniversary," but for me it Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the interna­ dience. All of us are more similar to each "mainstream" is a bit reductive. was something that happened a long time tional LGBT wire service. Reach him at chris- azzopardi.com. outlookohio.com If that's his contract, I want his agent! november 2014 31 bookmark

by Tom Muzyka write about it? Emanuel Wears: For as long as I can Fact can be harder to face than fic­ remember there has been a stone tion, especially when real life doesn't cross down the road near my grand­ TM: The story shows the trou­ have a happy ending. parents' farm in Appalachia. During bling attitudes and behaviors one of my childhood vaca­ communities had toward ho­ In the new book tions to the farm, mosexuality during the 1950s Grotesque, by Ohio someone must and onward. Do you think cer­ native Emanuel have told tain parts of the country retain this EW: The "mental health" aspect of Wears, we follow me that attitude? the novel was one of the most sur­ the journey of a there EW: Growing up in rural, north cen­ didn't know the storyline, she would prising elements to my research. Not boy trapped in had tral Ohio in the 1970s and 1980s, I want to know why she was reading knowing a psychiatrist from the rural West Vir­ been cannot say that I experienced a uni­ about the horrors of Kent's child­ 1950s/1960s, I turned to old text­ ginia at the an "ac­ formly open, progressive society with hood. books and widely published case height of the cident" regard to anyone not white, straight, studies. The bizarre explanations for era of intoler­ there. Anglo-Saxon and Protestant. When­ Her comment rang true to me and I homosexuality's causes were diffi­ ance. Kent Tucker About six ever I visited Appalachia, however, it added the prologue in the hope that cult to untangle and present in a didn't fit society's years ago, was as if many people were still liv­ the question would be how did he way that was true to the theory be­ image of how a boy however, I came ing at least 20 years earlier than the end up being murdered in prison cause they lack logic. should act, and his difference upon a newspaper clip­ rest of the country when it came to rather than what is going to happen from the norm set into motion a ping about the body my late grand­ those issues. to this poor little boy. I think this ap­ TM: The novel starts off with Kent in tragic series of events, more shock­ father had found along the proach not only made people want to jail and flashes back to his adoles­ ing than any story. road. Well, that initial story was The situation has markedly improved know what brought him to that cence, when his sexuality first enough for me to want to know more. there, thanks largely to television, point, but also enhanced the reader's began to emerge. Why did you de­ This retelling of history shows that but for far too many people the conflicted view of both Kent the boy cide to let readers know from the while society has come a long way, Even though it's a novel, I wanted to change means that they are just not and Kent the man. beginning that Kent ends up in jail the change has occurred very re­ make the story as realistic as possi­ quite as openly hostile to "the oth­ for killing a child? The sense of cently. Not too long ago, anyone seen ble. When following a story in a book ers" even though they still hold the One of my cousins read the book and tragedy is stronger when you know as different could have faced similar or a movie, I feel that the inclusion of same views. told me that whenever she had gone where he will end up. threats. something factually impossible or by the cross marking the place EW: I had originally envisioned the obviously inaccurate breaks the TM: One of the turning points in the where our grandfather found the prologue as an epilogue. I never in­ I spoke with Wears about the process spell. So I gathered more information novel is Kent's admission into a boy's body she had thought, "What a tended to cover his prison years, but he went through to capture Kent's about the society depicted in the state mental institution. The ther­ monster that man had to be." But the unique circumstances of his story and share his experience with book from old newspapers, a few apy he receives to "cure" his ho­ when reading the book, she found death had to be included. When a us. psychiatric textbooks from the 1950s mosexuality ultimately ends up herself feeling sorry for Kent both as friend read an early draft of the first and 1960s I found online, and con­ putting him on his destructive path. a child and an adult. part of the book, she was under­ Tom Muzyka: This story is based on versations with my parents and Have you encountered many cases standably troubled by the issues dis­ real events. How did you discover members of my extended family for of outdated and nonscientific Grotesque, by Emanuel Wears, is available for cussed, but so much so that she $12.59 on Amazon.com. this case, and what inspired you to details about not only the real life treatment? said that if she were a reader who 32 november2014 Wears is an Ohioan who now lives in Washington, DC. outlookohio.com : »"P

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SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 8 CLEVELAND / NORTHEAST FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 21 Ohio GSA Summit @ OSU Multicultural Cen­ Women's Happy Hour @ Lovellee's, 4462 ter, Ohio Union, 1739 N High St, Columbus, SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 2 Dennison Ave, Cleveland, 44109; 43210; 614.294.5437; kycohio.org: The free Momentum @ Gordon Square Arcade, 440.342.3098; thewh2.com: The monthly seminars are designed to help students and 6516 Detroit Ave, Cleveland, 44102; social event for women this month includes advisers from gay-straight alliances across 216.651.5428; lgbtcleveland.org: People a pre-Thanksgiving food drive. 5p-9p. who volunteered and participated in the the state. Sessions include GSA Basics and Avoiding Adultism. 9a-2p. 9th Gay Games will gather one more time SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 22 to share their memories of Northeast Rock n Roll City Sisters Holiday Turkey TOLEDO / NORTHWEST SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 15 Ohio's big week and share their ideas of Drive ©Cocktails Cleveland Sharon Needles and Amanda Lepore @ how to keep the spirit of the games alive 9208 Detroit Ave, Cleveland, 44102; rockn- SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 16 Axis, 775 N High St, Columbus, 43215; in the LGBT community. 6p-9p. rollcitysisters.org: The activist drag nuns Anything Goes @ the Valentine Theatre. 410 614.291.4008; axisonhigh.com: The RuPaul's host a fundraiser for the AIDS Task Force of Adams St, Toledo, 43604; 419.242.ARTS Drag Race winner and the trans THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 6 Greater Cleveland. It's $10 to buy a turkey, (2787); valentinetheatre.com: Cole Porter's model/singer will perform together the hit Laverne Cox: Ain't IA Woman: My Jour­ which you can donate online through the 1934 classic includes the songs "I Get a Kick single, "I Wish I Were Amanda Lepore." Nina ney to Womanhood @ Case Western Re­ event's Facebook page. 9p. Out of You," "Anything Goes" and the get- serve University Tinkham Veale Center, West hosts. 10p; $10-$100. your-mind-out-of-the-gutter "You're the Top."

11038 Bellflower Rd, Cleveland, 44106; 7p;$48-$68. outlookohio.com We've compiled a complete LGBT events calendar for every part of Ohio at outlookohio.com. november 2014 35 savage love by Dan Savage

l'm a 20-something married trans guy in an open- the same assumption doesn't apply in the case of a mar­ Qish marriage. In the online hunt for a guy to have ried gay man. If someone at one of the events you're at­ some aboveboard, under-the-sheets fun with, I run into tending is interested in you, he's likely to flirt with you snags because I'm trans (I disclose on my profile) and first and make polite inquiries about your marriage because I'm married. (monogamous? monogamish? open? poly?) second.

I'm baby-stepping my way toward an offline search for Your trans disclosure is likelier to be the bigger deal - guys, going to events hosted by the local gay pride and a far bigger obstacle for most gay men - than your center. I've been thinking of not wearing my wedding wedding ring. Good luck. ring at these meet-ups, as I worry it says I'm taken and off-limits. Now that fecal transplants are all the rage for cor­ Qrecting gut microflora imbalances, when are we Would it be dishonest for me to present as unmarried going to hear about the healing benefits of sharing as long as I make it clear that I'm not looking for ro­ anal toys? mance? - Sharing Is Caring, Kids - Totally On-Limits Dude The poop being used to treat microflora imbalances is My response is likely to wind up on anti-gay websites, A"strained, centrifuged and frozen," accordingto a re­ ATOLD, so let me preface it with this: We only started port in The New York Times. This medicinal-grade poop hearing that monogamy wasn't just the cultural expecta­ now comes in pill form, and researchers predict that tion/default setting for married couples but a crucial, es­ these shit pills - administered orally - could save the sential, definitional element of marriage when same-sex lives of 14,000 Americans every year. (I call on President couples began to press for marriage rights. Obama to appoint a microflora imbalance czar.)

Married heterosexual swingers were fucking around (and Since the poop in your butt hasn't been strained, cen­ recruiting other married heterosexuals into their trifuged and frozen - you would have to be the Felix Unger "lifestyle," a term swingers embrace!) decades before of scat fetishists to go to that kind of trouble - sharing the marriage-equality movement got off the ground. And anal toys is unlikely to provide the same health benefits religious conservatives, while not fans of swinging, never to your partners. argued that non-monogamous heterosexual couples weren't really married or that they should be barred from So the advice around plugs and other ass toys remains marrying. the same: No sharing during play, abort if santorum is present, wash toys with hot water and soap before reuse. So it seems that monogamy - like children and religion - THE CLUB only defines marriage when same-sex couples want to However, we may need to revise the insult "eat shit and marry. die" in light of this new lifesaving/shit-eating treatment. PRIVATE MEN'S SAUNJQ But telling someone to "eat shit and balance your mi­ th MB West 5 AvenuP Anyway, TOLD, you don't have to be married to be monog­ croflora!" doesn't have the same punch. [Columbus, OH 43212 amous or monogamous to be married - and many gay (614)291^0049 • www.theclubs.c. male couples, married or not, aren't monogamous. So go Savage Love appears every month in Outlook and every week at out- ahead and wear your wedding ring. lookohio.com. You can email Dan Savage at [email protected], fol­ Always Open -Full Gym • Steam low him on Twitter at @fakedansavage or listen to his weekly podcast. whirlpool • Outdoor Heated Pool a Patio Savage Lovecast, every Tuesday at thestranger.com/savage. Prlvaie Dressing Rooms • Lockers While a wedding ring on a straight married man (or Secured ParkingjfifreaJMIFI-IS: woman) will be assumed to mean "taken and off-limits,"

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Open enrollment for 2015 begins Nov 15, and a group "People just aren't aware of these new opportunities \Ajtf t-\\b ~PU0JStd to f-\MrtUM&.. called Enroll America has identified the LGBT commu­ for financial assistance," Bell said. nity for special outreach efforts. A June survey by Gallup found LGBT Americans more likely to lack Enroll America is teaming up with Stonewall Colum­ health coverage than others. Under the Affordable bus to get the word out in Ohio. Stonewall has staff Care Act, people without insurance can buy it at members who are trained specifically to guide people cheaper rates than the general marketplace. one-on-one through the healthcare marketplace en­ rollment process. Dallas Releases Michael Sam From Practice Squad

Will Michael Sam get another and The Dallas Morning News didn't come out as gay, would he be in the chance to become the first openly ask whether Sam's sexual orienta­ NFL? We'll never know for sure, Jeffrey Kennedy of Columbus, Ohio, and Mark Pack of Pittsburgh, gay man to play in the NFL? tion was a factor in his inability to though there is enough evidence to Pa., will be married in Pittsburgh on November 14,2014. The small, gain a roster spot in the NFL suggest that would be the case." private courthouse ceremony will be followed by an obscenely large Seven weeks after the St. Louis order of french fries to be shared by the happy couple at the Origi­ Rams cut the first openly gay Outsports columnist Jim Buzinski At the University of Missouri, he was nal Hot Dog King. draftee from their team, the Dallas raised the issue, though: "Any gay last seasons defensive player of the Cowboys released Sam from their player contemplating coming out year for the Southeastern Confer­ Outlook publishes free wedding and engagement announcements every month for practice squad on Oct 21. will need to answer this theoretical - ence. LGBT couples in Ohio. Send your photos and announcements (200 words or less, Mainstream media such as ESPN if Michael Sam had not publicly please) to [email protected].

november 2014 For more news, visit outlookohio.com. outlookohio.com The Month in Marriage Wedding Bells Ring At 6p on the day of a positive ruling, here's the in Wave of New States schedule: • Columbus: Union Cafe, 782 N High St, 43215. Ohio is still in limbo - or at least it was when this issue of Outlook went to press - but an Oct • Cleveland: Twist, 11633 Clifton Blvd, Lake- 6 decision by the US Supreme Court not to wade wood, 44102. back into the issue of marriage equality quickly expanded the number of states issuing licenses • Cincinnati: Below Zero Lounge, 1122 Walnut to same-sex couples. St, 45202. Flaggots Ohio Named Best at Toronto Pride The justices' decision not to revisit 2013 rulings • Toledo: Legends Show Bar, 119 N Erie St, means federal appeals court reviews stand and 43604. Four months after they performed at "Words cannot express how grateful I apply to all states in their jurisdictions. All so far WorldPride in Toronto, Ohio's LGBT flag am for every member and sponsor of have been in favor of marriage rights. • Dayton: MJs Cafe, 70 N Jefferson St, 45402. corps found out they were named one this amazing organization and for of the parade's best groups. every fan and supporter who believes Suddenly, marriage equality is the law in 32 in what we do," Flaggots leader Matt states as of Oct 21: Alaska, Arizona, California, Going to the Courthouse... Flaggots Ohio won the Best Choreogra­ Eisert said via Facebook. Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Hawaii, Idaho, phy Award. Illinois, Indiana, Iowa, Maine, Maryland, Massa­ Marriage equality moved much closer to Ohio in chusetts, Minnesota, New Hampshire, Nevada, October. With marriage rights expanding to Indi­ New Jersey, New Mexico, New York, North Car­ 26 Ohio Care Centers Rated LGBT-Friendly ana and West Virginia, here's the latest rundown olina, Oklahoma, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Rhode on the closest county courthouses to wherever Island, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, Washington, Twelve hospitals in Cleveland's University you happen to live: West Virginia, Wisconsin and Wyoming, as well Hospitals system were named Equality Chillicothe: Veterans Administration Chill­ as the District of Columbia. Leaders in the Human Rights Cam­ icothe Medical Center. Akron, Canton, Youngstown: You're closest to paigns 2014 measure of services Mercer, Pa. Contact the Mercer County Register That means more than 195 million Americans - and policies. Cincinnati: Bethesda North Hospital, of Wills and Clerk of Orphans' Court at more than 60 percent of the population - now Cincinnati Children's Hospital Medical 724.662.3800. live in states that respect everyone's right to The distinc­ Center, Good Samaritan Hospital. marry. tion means Cincinnati: You're closest to Lawrenceburg, Ind. they met four Cleveland: Cleveland Clinic Main Campus, Contact the Dearborn County Clerk's Office at "Every day America becomes more welcoming of criteria: train­ MetroHealth Medical Center, UH Case Med­ 812.537.8867. same-sex couples as marriage equality be­ ing their em­ ical Center, UH MacDonald Women's Hospi­ comes the law of the land," said Michael Premo, ployees in tal, UH Rainbow Babies and Children's Cleveland: You're closest to Erie, Pa. Contact the campaign manager for Why Marriage Matters LGBT patient- Hospital, UH Seidman Cancer Center, VA Erie County Register of Wills at 814.451.6264. Ohio. "Just as America is ready for the freedom centered care, a visitation policy for un­ Louis Stokes Cleveland Medical Center. to many, Ohio is ready for the freedom to marry." married LGBT partners, and Columbus: Richmond, Ind, and Parkersburg, non-discrimination policies for both pa­ Columbus: Columbus Public Health De­ WVa, are roughly the same distance from Cen­ Ohio, however, wasn't part of the October tide. tients and employees. partment, James Cancer Hospital and tra I Ohio. Contact the Wayne County Clerk's Of­ Although judges in the Cincinnati-based 6th US Solove Research Institute, Ohio State Uni­ fice in Indiana at 765.973.9220, or contact the Circuit Court of Appeals heard arguments in Au­ Also getting the highest ranking: Veterans versity Wexner Medical Center, VA Wood County Clerk's Office in West Virginia at gust on pro-equality rulings in Ohio, Michigan, Administration centers in Chillicothe, Chalmers P Wylie Ambulatory Care Center. 304.424.1860. Kentucky and Tennessee, they hadn't issued a Columbus and Dayton; Akron's Summa ruling as of late October. Health System, the Department of Public Conneaut UH Conneaut Medical Center. Dayton: You're closest to Richmond, Ind. Con­ Health in Columbus; and children's hospi­ tact the Wayne County Clerk's Office at The Ohio case at issue would require the state tals in Cincinnati and Cleveland. Dayton: VA Dayton Medical Center. 765.973.9220. only to recognize marriages performed else­ where, but a ruling in favor of full equality for The full list is as follows: Elyria: UH Elyria Medical Center. Toledo: You're closest to Angola, Ind. Contact one of the other states would apply here as well. the Steuben County Clerk's Office at Akron: Summa Health System. Geneva: UH Geneva Medical Center. 260.668.1000. When and If... Beachwood: University Hospitals Ahuja Parma: UH Parma Medical Center. Marriage is also a financial decision. Skylight Medical Center. Why Marriage Matters Ohio has scheduled "De­ Financial adviser Olga Starr looks at those Richmond Heights: UH Richmond Medical cision Day" parties in Columbus, Cleveland, considerations on Page 22. Cincinnati, Toledo and Dayton if and when fed­ Bedford: UH Bedford Medical Center. Center. eral appeals court judges issue a pro-equality ruling on pending marriage cases for Ohio. Chardon: UH Geauga Medical Center. Toledo: University of Toledo Medical Center. outlookohio.com Good job, Flaggots! Way to represent! november 2014 7 A^TAVAYAVA^^ ^\ F\ ^K k^K ^^

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