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by Wayne Besen fought the battle of the sexes to the victories in four states - and count­ point of exhaustion. Let's not even ing. The latest polls show that al­ In an online discussion forum, a re­ get started on the nasty dust-ups most half of Americans now spected activist recently lamented over transgender issues. support the freedom to marry. the decentralization of gay com­ munity advocacy. He made a pow­ Such disorganization is even more We also have to remember that not erful case that we would be better conspicuous when contrasted with long ago, the major GLBT organiza­ off if our efforts were more regi­ the conformity of our opponents. tions ran from religion. It was gay mented and unified. When growing up, these (mostly) religious activists that thought churchgoers were rewarded for fighting for acceptance within de­ "Our communal problem is that the obedience, while our very exis­ nominations was a worthy battle. LGBT community is so fragmented tence was considered disobedient. While not achieving the same suc­ that we are constantly a cacophony To survive as a GLBT youth, one had cess as marriage equality, there of voices rather than a choir," the to learn to question authority and have been successes - most no­ advocate wrote. He went onto be a freethinker. These traits make tably the Episcopal Church con- make the point that division can for incredibly interesting dinner firmingEugene Robinson as Bishop lead to defeat in the political arena. guests, but create havoc for politi­ of New Hampshire. We have also "We celebrate diversity of opinion cal organizers. seen the rise of groups that chal­ within our community but that does lenge faith-based bigotry, like Faith not work in politics." There is no doubt that the diversity in America and SoulForce. of organizations and mushrooming The community leader raised an­ of messages has hurt our move­ The controversial campaign by ac­ other point worth contemplating as ment on many levels. It has been tivist Mike Rogers to "out" clos­ legislation that affects the gay nearly impossible for any leader to eted politicians who favored community winds its way though gain traction - and thus legitimacy. amending the U.S. Constitution to Congress and will likely end up on The closest we have come to a ban gay people from marrying Obama's desk: "So, who will the larger than life leader is San Fran­ would also never have occurred in President listen to? Is it the Human cisco Supervisor Harvey Milk. How­ a centralized movement. Some Rights Campaign...or a host of ever, he achieved far more might argue that his exposing of bloggers? Sometimes, I wish we prominence after he was assassi­ Republican hypocrisy helped un­ could go back to a time when we nated (and later canonized by Hol­ dermine the GOP's legitimacy as had less ability to communicate. lywood) than he ever did while the party representing "family val­ Then, there were fewer voices to be alive. ues." heard and less confusion about who was representing the commu­ The discordant voices and actions Moreover, conformity also makes it nity." have unfortunately provided fodder difficult to turn around a sinking for our adversaries. They have end­ ship. The nation is headed on a new A Fractious Movement The problem with this analysis is less tapes of nudity and nuttiness - path, but hierarchical and rigid that a golden age of GLBT unity that have made it easier to portray GOP leaders are still obsessed with Is the gay community too never existed. The early 1950s ac­ GLBT people as the miscreants they tax cuts, abortion, Ronald Reagan tivists clashed with gay individuals claim we are. and opposing gay couples marry­ who preferred quiet, "private ing. segmented to be affective? lives." Activists who wore suits and That said, there is a strong case to ties to protests rejected the new make in favor of the diffuse nature The gay movement is untamed and radicalism of the 1960s and 1970s, of the movement It can lead to in­ freewheeling, like New York City, exemplified by the Stonewall rebel­ novation and questioning of exist­ while the Religious Right is tightly lion. ing paradigms. For example, we controlled, like Singapore. Each can't forget that the push for mar­ model has its advantages, but also JP^ Never-ending battles have also riage equality was considered its shortcomings. In a diffuse been fought over the role of sexual wildly "off message" only a decade media age that resembles the Wild liberation. Some activists have ago. If our movement had been West the more agile and fractious claimed that our movement is more centralized, marriage would movement may finally have the about sexual freedom, while others have seemed too radical and never upper hand. have preached assimilation and seen the light of day. However, mar­ found the overt displays of sexual­ riage activists and impatient same- © 2009 Wayne Besen. All rights reserved. ity at Gay Pride parades offensive. sex couples pushed the envelope. AnythingButStraightwww.waynebesen.com Additionally, our movement has This has given us game changing

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[limliinf Tomaid the Thiid Branch Jennifer Brunner has experience as a jurist and an executiue and is nam determined to reach the US Senate by Michael Daniels ment, and I've proven that throughout my ca­ versial at the time, the Drug Court now boasts Fisher is on record as favoring civil unions but Photo: Danner-Morris reer," she says. about its success on the Franklin County Courts not full marriage equality. [Note: this is not to website: "The TIES Program began operation in say that Fisher is not an ally of the GLBT commu­ In the spirit of this column's name, I'm going to True, I say to myself, Brunner has worked with April 2004 by Judge Jennifer L. Brunner (ret) nity. He most certainly is. Brunner is simply even start this piece by stating up front two things. #1: both Democrats and Republicans on a host of is­ after two years of planning. A steering commit­ more so.) I'm 100% behind Jennifer Brunner's candidacy sues, but I also know she's not afraid of a fight. tee was created and support was enlisted from for the US Senate, and #2: interviewing Bniimer community leaders and the Common Pleas "I'm also acutely aware that there have been sometimes feels like I'm interviewing my older She recently received the John F Kennedy Li­ judges. With over 30 successful graduates to only five women in statewide elected office in sister. Not that our current Secretary of State brary Foundation's 'Profiles in Courage' award. date, TIES participants are returning to college, Ohio since 1803," Brunner continues, "and and I are weekly dinner buddies, but more be­ It is given annually "to a public official or offi­ purchasing their first homes and becoming val­ never a Governor or Senator. I'd like to remedy cause our philosophies have about a 99% over­ cials at the federal, state or local level whose ued employed taxpayers. Additionally, several that" lap. Tliere. Open Kimono it is. actions best demonstrate the qualities of politi­ child custody issues have been resolved with cally courageous leadership ..." When present­ children being returned to safe and sober Brunner comes back throughout the interview to To the surprise of some, delight of others, and ing the award to Brunner, the Foundation noted, homes from the foster care system." the issue of leadership. "My method of wor chagrin of a few, Brunner has thrown her hat in "A series of voting irregularities in several major is that I bring people together and then em the ring for the US Senate seat being vacated in Ohio counties that use electronic voting systems As Secretary of State, Brunner has done more power them to achieve things that they never 2010 by Ohio's current senior Senator George led newly elected Secretary of State Jennifer than work on ballot machine issues. She com­ could have imagined doing alone." A stror Voinovich. On the same day Brunner declared Brunner to order that paper ballots be provided missioned and created the Voting Rights Insti­ porter of working groups, Brunner has a ti her intentions, so did LL Governor Lee Fisher. to any voter who requested one during the tute, an arm of her office that has three main record of successfully overseeing these Vi with the endorsement of Governor Ted Strick­ state's March 2008 presidential primary. Fur­ charges - "to work with communities, partner groups as they formulate policy initiatives land "Lee is the Lt. Governor and it would be ex­ thermore, after a study of the state's new elec­ with organizations and implement programs that then implement them. "It's the next logica pected that the Governor would endorse him," tronic voting systems - just two years old and will ensure a safe, reliable and trustworthy to transfer that philosophy into actually wr she says without animosity. representing millions in public investment - process that fosters and enhances access to and passing legislation," she says. found that the systems made by several major voting in Ohio by all of its eligible citizens; to act Many pols thought that Strickland's endorse­ voting machine manufacturers could be com­ as a clearinghouse to address voter concerns; Brunner is not afraid of being; called a libei ment of Fisher might encourage Brunner to get promised, Brunner called for the replacement of and to provide leadership on legislative and pol­ which she certainly is on social issues. "W out of the race, and some still think that might all of the state's electronic voting systems with icy initiatives to accomplish this mission." me, what you get is what you see," she say happen. Those who believe that don't know paper ballots and optical scan technology be­ "I'm Ohio through and through, and I can i Brunner very well. Let me assure you, she's in fore the November 2008 presidential election. Brunner has also turned what was once con­ pathize with many walks of life. I'm not afr the race to stay, and she's in the race to win. Brunner's proposal brought pointed and persist­ ceivably the most homophobic state office into work hard, and I'm not afraid to tell you what I ent criticism from partisans around the state; the most gay friendly. Her staff consists of a host believe ia The US Senate is a body that rununsos onn "I wouldn't jump into this race for political lever­ opponents of the move objected to the cost and of GLBT employees, including her Communica­ relationships between its members, and my go; age," Brunner says with quiet confidence. "I questioned the necessity of returning to paper tions Director Patrick Gal I away. Assistant Gen­ is to be elected to that body and then work to want the job, I know I can do it well, and I know I ballots. For her political courage and her com­ eral Counsel Brian Shinn, Voting Rights Institute improve the lives of those I serve, which I will can win." mitment to ensuring the enfranchisement of Director Kellye Pinkleton, VRI staffers Chris respectfully do so for the period of time that every Ohio citizen, Jennifer Brunner is honored Hughes and Dean Hindenlang, and Elections At­ they honor me with that seat" "There are a few main reasons that I'm run­ with the 2008 Profile in Courage Award." torney Kirk Walter, just to name a few. ning;" she continues. "The first is my commit­ I'm thinking the next 24 years would be j ment to public service, and the way I work with Brunner's willingness to take on tough issues Returning to the interview, I ask Brunner why about right t others. The US Senate is a very deliberative and challenge the status quo dates back to her she would be a better candidate than Fisher. body, charged with guiding and supervising leg­ days on the Franklin County Common Pleas "Whether someone is a better candidate or not Michael Daniels is Co-Publisher of outlook; columbus and surpris­ islation and deliberating on weighty issues. I bench, when she championed the creation of is proven on Election Day," she says, "but there ingly good at bocce You can challenge him to a game at have the skills of collegiality and cooperation the Treatment Is Essential to Success' program are some differences between Lee and myself. I mdaniels@outiookmedia com. that it takes to get things done in that environ­ - commonly known as the Drug Court. Contro­ am in favor of gay marriage, for example."

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You can match on a out being bombarded by ubiquitous and viral social and/or physical level - both aspects are I asked if he thought it was incongruous for social marketing for something called FindFred - billing important in relationships." service organizations to be affiliates or to take itself as 'the revolutionary new way for guys to money from FindFred. "I don't think so," he said. meet guys.' Anotherttiing that sets FindFred apart, said La­ "For years, our bars and restaurants have do­ hoti, is its usability. "We have designed the site - nated to those same socia I services groups. The It also doesn't take long to track FindFred back to skinned it. il you will so that it's very easy and web, and FindFred, is nothing more than a virtual its creators at Roy G Biv companies. Bivmeister intuitive to use, with fewer clicks and more natu­ place to meet people. We've taken an interior de­ Rajesh Lahoti and his team have been working on ral navigation and flow. Even where we have the sign approach to our site, and we have a fun, this project for sometime, he said, and now it's samety>e o f functionalities as other sites, our classy space, similar to Gay.com, which attracts time for FindFred to be found. I sat down with La­ subtle differences set us apart. It's like the differ Fortune 500 advertisers. If it's good enough for hoti to learn more. ence between the iPhone and other devices. They corporate America, why would any GLBT organiza­ may do the sa me thing, but the iPhone is just tion not want the funds?" The first question seemed to be the most obvious sexier, easier, more fun and morefunctional." - why a nother site? We have Manhu nt and Another piece of Roy G Biv's business model is to mt'A Adam4Adam and Gay.com for hookups, and So the site offers something for everyone, but grow FindFred to the point where it becomes the Gay.com and Facebook and MySpace for social what a bout that logo? Isn't that going to become company's sole focus. "Once we reach 200,000 networking, so why do we need yet a nother site? the new international symbol for guys in flagrante paying members," Lahoti said, "we'll spin off our delicto? restaurant and bar business a nd give those es­ "We always thought that our next property expan­ tablishments to the communities and the staff," Si sion would be on the Internet, not in a bricks and "If that's what you see in the logo, then I have to he said. That would mean that ownership of mortar building," Lahoti said. "FindFred is a vir­ ask where your mind is," Lahoti laughed. "It's Union Station/Bounce in Cleveland and U Cafe, tual meeting place where you can socialize in any meant to echo the two Fs in the FindFred logo and Havana, and Axis in Columbus would be turned manor. We're not a social network site like Face- the period at the end. But it's fun to see how it's over to a group of long-time staffers who would 11 111 111 l*. book and we aren't a specific meeting site with been perceived and it's just something that's fun run them and keep half of the net profits, and the and clean and fresh." HI in m one goal like Manhunt. We're more in the middle other half of net profits would go to Cleveland a nd " of where we target, like Gay.com. Just like you can Columbus GLBTand allied non-profit organiza­ go to a great restaurant/lounge like U Cafe, Find­ FindFred is using a business model that we tions. "Once we reach that level," Lahoti said, Fred members can look for friends, long-term re­ haven't seen before - more of a communal own­ "we want to make sure that we give back to the lationships, short-term companions, a date, ership and dividend model, with affiliates who communities who have supported us and helped 'i, JIII browse pics, nothing, or maybe a future husband. don't make up front sales commissions, but are us build our business to where it is now." What happens between two guys all depends on invested as partial owners in the company itself. the right time and right place. I wasn't looking for Lahoti was a bit nostalgic as he continued. anything when I met my partner of almost 10 "We know that this is going to become the largest "Michael Council, Wilbur Ischie, Ray Brown and I years. The right guy can change the outcome." gay media company serving only gay men in the have achieved almost all of our business and fi­ world," Lahoti said. "The principals of the com­ nancial goals. This venture isn't about the bottom The concept behind FindFred has been in the pany are only taking 10% of the revenue. America line. We want to see our community have equal works for sometime, but its launch was speeded has become too top-heavy in salaries and we de­ civil rights now. We're setting out to do something up by politica I events. "We knew we were going to cided to be a part of a new wave of companies that truly gives back to the entire GLBT commu­ m do this," Lahoti said, "but it wasn't front burner. that are more grass roots in nature. Another 20% nity." Then the 2008 elections came. We saw the own­ is going directly back to our affiliates for helping ers of Manhunt, who could easily have given us to initially populate the site. A minimum of "We were so entrenched in helping to turn Ohio enough money to defeat Prop 8 in California, not 10% will go back to GLBT organizations, health blue that we didn't have the resources to help on organizations, performing arts groups, sports only NOT give to the No on 8 campaign, but actu­ leagues and equality groups, and we'll have an Prop 8," Lahoti said. "We want to be there next ally contribute money to (Republican candidate advisory board from across the continent to help time. That gets us excited." John) McCain. Our team was a spoke in the wheel us determine where those monies are spent Afun that helped to turn Ohio blue, and this other com­ 10% will go back to members in the form of The company plans to roll out FindFred across the pany that makes 100% of its millions of dollars member perks. The rest will be used to support United States and Ca nada by the end of June of revenue from the gay community and is owned the site, technical expenses, marketing, feature 2009, with a Spanish-language interface and by a gay man is contributing to a candidate and a enhancements and distribution to a large team rollout in Mexico, Central and South America to party that are actively trying to write discrimina­ who will work for the site." follow, along with coverage for Europe and other tion into our lives - often successfully. I turned to parts of the world. A women's site is also in the my team and said 'the time is now' and we kicked pipeline but "requires redoing the match and in­ the launch into high gear." Affiliates include individuals who are working on terface skin to serve the needs of the women's marketing and programming, outreach and pro­ community," Lahoti said. The site will offer a match feature, email, live and motions, and who have notoriety and name recog­ video chat, and posting of pictures, both public nition that can help to quickly populate the site to For more information on FindFred or to reserve your screen and private. "Each user can get out of FindFred a critical mass of users. {In the interest of full dis­ name, visit wmv.findfred.com. And usepromocode 'outlook' what he wants at the time," Lahoti said. "One closure, it's important to acknowledge that out- when prompted. major thing that sets us apart is our match fea­ lookxolumbus is a FindFred affiliate. So are many photo: Randall Shirley I

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by The Rev Deniray Mueller Yet the tide is turnin aspects of the church. We must keep it is turning. As surel] pushing other denominations So God created man in his [own] image, order in the Universe, Our Time has and faith groups to do male and female... Come! same... there is r. numbers and bei And God saw everything it was very good Church doo your face.' (Genesis 1:27,31) ningtoopei bershipofalii There are groups Judge not, that you be not judged'(Matthew 7:1) those churches are within each de­ displaying banners nomination that Do to others as you would ha ve them do to you of'Reconciling Con­ provide support (Luke 6:31) gregations,' 'Inclu­ for LGBTs. sive Churches,' These organi­ We hold these truths to be self-evident that all 'All are Welcome,' zations not men are created equal that they are endowed and'Open and only provide by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, Affirming.' A support and that among these are Life, Liberty, and the Pur­ major reason for community, suit of Happiness. (US Declaration of Independ­ this movement is but also work ence) the continuous within the de­ and unrelenting nomination to Afoundation of the United States and most work by thousands make it more western democracies has been freedom of reli­ of LGBT church open and af­ gion -the principle that supports the freedom members during the firming. A list of of an individual or community, public or private, past four decades to gay-friendly to manifest religion or beliefs in teaching, prac­ make their voices churches can be tice, worship, and observance. The concept is heard, to be in the pews found by state and generally recognized to also include the freedom daily, supporting churches denomination at to cha nge religion, or not to follow any religion at with their presence, their vol- www.gaychurch.org. all. unteerism, their leadership, and their money, it has been this very We now have faith leadership In a country presumably founded on freedom of refusal to be excluded, this determi­ jroups within the various religion, something hasgone dramatically nation to be a full member of the religion Stonewall Unions across the country. wrong for many members of our society; it is the of their families and childhood, this unwaver- They combine clergy and lay people from different denominations to address the spiritual to exclude some people from their churches than creeds and prejudices that is turning this Thereare abuse within thathatct communityc . This is a good completely or from their full rights as church tide! It has been the loud and constant asser­ many of us, including me, who have opted to source oof informatioinformation about who is welcoming in members. Taunts, threats, isolated Biblical tion of the growing 'out' LGBT community that stay within the mainline denominations a"-4 thHie- area^ . quotes and inaccurate metaphors are cited to they are Children of the Creator and made as fight for the rights of all of us. It hasn't Lx justify heaping guilt, condemnation and exclu­ they are in the image of that Creator that is easy, but we have made progress in some of Remember thisthis:: sion on LGBT persons who seek to practice the bringing about a new day in the churches, syna­ these denominations. For instance, when I was •• NobodNobodyy cacan teltelll you what is right for you ex­ faith of our fathers.' The oft-spoken phrase of gogues, mosques, and holy places of the world. ordained in the Episcopal Church last June, cepceptyout you.. love the sinner, hate the sin' is more hurtful and And we cannot stop! there were three of 'us' - two living in long-term •• YoYou havhave evereveryy right to select the teachings abusive than out-and-out exclusion. The identi­ committed relationships. We have been wel- frofromm religioreligionn tha that t speasf k truth to you and cast fication of LGBT persons as 'intrinsically evil The very freedom of the human spirit depends corned and accepted into thearms of the outtherestouttherest.. and objectively disordered' flies in the face of on our own freedom to be fully a part of the reli­ • You have a right to find a church, syna­ church. Even with prohibition of ordination or in- • You have a righ n dearly-held precepts of human dignity, individ­ gions of the world! Indeed, one might make the elusion of LGBTswithin a denomination, there gogue or mosque thath. t accepts and loves y* ual worth, and the teachings of Jesus, Mo­ argument that the very survival of organized re­ are churches, synagogues, faith organizations *"% ** whoyou are hammed, Buddha and many other spiritual ligion itself hinges on our awakening them to out there which go the extra mile to accept •• We are all ChildreChile n of the Creator and wor­ leaders. being the places of love, brotherhood, compas­ everyone into the Creator's community. ththy ooff lovlove anand ththe freedofi m to worship when and sion, and service to all humanity that they claim how and whomever we wish There have been hundreds of thousands LGBT to be! We need to continue to support those who are persons who have been rejected or turned away willing to stay and fight within the system so The Rev Deniray^ Mueller» (deniray@deni: to the CanonCa forfo Publicc Policy and Soci from their churches. Annually there are hun­ Each of us has the right to worship as is appro­ thateWneelsev^llbewelcome.Weneedto r«e^«^/ Diocese^ ^J of SouthernJ Ohio, r dreds who take their lives because their church priate for us, whether organized religion, spiri­ see more 'open and affirming or 'inclusive' or has pronounced them Incompatible with Chris­ tual searching or meditation. NO ONE can tell us 'welcoming' signs going up on churches across thernOhioSo- tian teachings' and their families have rejected we are not a Child of the Creator and therefore this country. C?L *n-th Relations them. Urged on by religious officials, there are unloved. WultiI&AiltlW#!t*IillM Advocacy Commission; Commission; denominational o representative to countries in Asia and Africa that are actively The Metropolitan Commun ity Church was MetropolitanMetropolitan Area Area Church Churtt Council; member of Stoneivall persecuting and executing gays, just because We deserve: Union Faith Leaders Forum and Co-Chair of Pride 2009 In- they are gay. • Freedom to attend the religious/faith insti­ founded to provide a safe place for LGBTs to terfaithumon Service; Faith Leaders member Foru**»»•'* ' *>**• c~th '-"*- tution of our choice worship. To-date the United Church of Christ teriaith Service; member We have to stop this spiritual violence that these • Freedom to worship whom we want (UCC) and Disciples of Christ Christian (DCC) churches are perpetuating on us! • Freedom to find our own spiritua lity are the only churches which welcomes LGBTs to

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Fun* thusly branding their house as a beacon of out into public. Heterosexual men and women gaiety. I'll admit this is a n extreme case, but really don't worry about their space being vio­ there are other subtle instances too. Let's say lated. They have become complacent in sim- r,Ir> ^m^^l^Alhnfm^mnA *rn,,r,A fk^rv, yuur giriirienu is uuiiig trie riiuirinig warn ui !-• I'- _>ll|.'|.'l_,OIUU,M_> IMCI I OVOl j'UMO UlUUHU 11 I ON I shame." On her way out the door, you decide can be defined as "male" and "female" with to give her a parting kiss. She hesitates to similar desires. We as gender benders know see if anyone is watching and when the coast thatthose ideas quite contrary to reality. is clear, she accepts the smootch. In this in­ stance, her intentions may be to keep your re­ The temptation of "Closet Space" is strong. lationship private. I would like to call these It's dark, comfortable, and it's truly a great examples of "Closet Space." place for 'hide and seek.' 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gay pride flag used to have two more colors on behind all of those things? There was something it, but they were removed supposedly because of deeper. In the short time we've been dating, Paul has gay publication, there is noth­ manufacturing issues that arose with having never once balked at me holding his hand. I love ing harder than putting together the Pride issue. that many colors. I think it's interesting the two Affection. that because, as cheesy as it might sound, there It is an all out logistical gauntlet and a creative most "racy" attributes were the ones that got is nothing better to me than holding his hand black he MimnoH r.nr\ fnrhid IAJD OVAJO nnr covnalih/ nr our Rojng able fe) ShOW OUr lOVefS affeC- when we're walking down the street or watching magic. What would the neighbors think? tion in public without TV or riding in the car. It's authentic, it's honest The Pride edition is always the biggest of the persecution, with­ it's out... it's just awesome. So it was more year, as advertisers (thankfully) crawl out of the So first we castrated our own symbol out fear of than troubling to me that all through mass I woodwork to show their support while getting to make our movement more being at­ found myselfuzIking at grabbing his hand. the biggest bang for their buck. Typically this pa latable for the rest of the tacked, issue is double tie pages and double the print world. Then we overused it to and Why am I hesitating? I started debating in my run, which presents not only production chal­ the point of insignificance. head. It's my freaking church and everyone lenges, but printing and distribution trials as The rainbow as a symbol knows I'm gay. I own the gay paper in town for well. has become so watered Christ's sake, I couldn 't be more out if I tried. down that it doesn't hold Just hold his hand. Me and the Big G got no On the artistic end of it I'm stunted at best. It's any bite, any fear, and problem with this, so why am I worrying all rainbows. I ask myself the same question controversy. It's not a about repercussions? What if he's uncom­ every year: what's something new we can do symbol of power like the fortable with it? What if the lady next to with a rainbow? Let me tell you the answer: labrys or a reminder of us snickers? But it's the Catholic nothing] There is no way to do rainbows that horrific persecution like Church - it's supposed to be all about haven't been done a hundred thousand times the pink triangle. The love! Where is this coming from... before. They are tired, they are redundant and rainbow is pretty and they are overused at gluttonous levels. Come the safe and non-threaten­ We all know where i end of June, Michael always says he's so full of ing. It's also intangible. Growing up queer, we are often Pride he could puke. If he actually ever did throw ta ught that the way we express up, you know what it would be? You guessed it - Does anyone else find it our feelings is wrong. That who rainbows. troubling that our civil we want to give affection to is rights symbology is based bad. That the core of our being As overdone as they are, the cra^f thing is, peo­ on something that is actactuu ­ is broken, undesirable, unnatu­ ple not only expect them every yea r, they want ally an illusion? It's some­ ral, and unacceptable. You're them. Design a Pride logo without a rainbow thing you can see but can't not good enough the way you and suddenly you're trying to hide that you're touch. It's something to go areis drilled into our head over gay. Don't put a flag on yourfloat and it's obvi­ over, but can't be gotten to. and over again and we quickly ous you've got internalized homophobia. Don't something that promi"' realize that our parents'and put a hot boy wearing nothing but a rainbow treasure that can nev our God's promise of uncondi­ bow on the cover and we're pandering to the re- tional love is actually very con­ How does that inspire hope ditional and very contingent on fidence in our ability to achieve ' \ proper behavior. It's a paradigm equality? Doesn't it actually impl that for most of ustakesyears, if Now don't get me wrong. I love that we've taken gay rights are a pipe dream? No^ ./ not a lifetime, toreconcile. Appar - over the rainbow as our symbol for freedom, the rest of the w^n let »* haw • ' ently, I'm still working on it. equality, unity and love. Whenever I see an ac­ bow. The joke's ( tual rainbow I think 'ahhh, God really does love But can I solely bla me my church for us gays.' When I see a car with a rainbow sticker That beii making me feel uncomfortable enough I pull up beside them and yell "Hey gay ca r! to symbol.ir'^iiiiJMJiiiiiiiiiiitMiit.yfrirrintiiti E to not take his hand? Sure there is a lot What up? I'm gay too! Woop, woop!" And when I using symbols? Instead let's use images that of bad history between the Catholic church see a dog in the park with a rainbow bandanna I represent our community more concretely, and gay people, but I'm,a grown man who call him over, scratch behind his ears and ask openly, honestly. Let's use pictures of us that ma kes a conscious decision asto wher e I wor- s "Hey Buster, what horrible gay has anthropo- snow the world who we really are. Forget the wantnKL. ship. If I'm not seeing examples of gay love in lilTi]|illTMgiKillllllwBlBiill!gllMllTilglB ability to publicly share bapic, natural human my church, then I should be that example: Isn't VN statement. Is that anyway to treat thei;r intimacy witji^iy partner, just as our straight sitting in weekly mass with my arm around my \ \ ar a rainbow neckerc" \i '£....^'Mam brethren do, will be our greatest freedom and partner much more powerful than riding a float - NN you..." All good m is the Pride issue, it's our it's the basis for all that we're fighting for. down High St? We need to give the world solid lonthly. That's a lot of expec­ examples of our love, not rainbows. tations to manage. I started off by tryingto fin d This past Sunday I mettheguy I'm dating, Paul, However, whether on a handkerchief or'a flag, as pictures of the Stonewall Riots of 40 years ago, for church at St Mary's in German Village. Sit­ To that end, this Pride issue is saturated with a political statement, the rainbow has lost its but like the rainbow, the three pictures out there ting a few pews in front of us was a straight examples of our affections - there's a lot of kiss­ impact. Most of us don't even know what the are way overused. Next I tried some rainbows, couple in their mid twenties. During mass I kept ing. Kissing who we want when we want, is the colors stand for. Do you? Besides representing just to see. Ugg - rainbows. When that failed, I noticing the two sharing intimacy. He would put freedom we all deserve. Let this issue remind our diversity, the colors were origina lly designed thought, well, what does freedom mean to me? is arm arou nd her. She would rub his back. They you that we should never have to edit our affec­ to symbolize different aspects of the LGBT com­ What makes me feel authentic in my skin? What would hold hands. The whole time I kept think­ tions for those we love and we should always be munity. Pink wasfor sexuality, red for life, or­ gets my spirit exhilarated? Of course marriage ing, that is so nice but they have no idea how an example of love in the world. ange for healing, yellow for sunlight, green for equality cameto mind . Serving openly in the much they are taking for granted or what I nature, blue for harmony, purple/violet for spirit, military, sure. Dual adoptions, next of kin, joint would giveto be able to be that open with Paul Chris Hayes is Co Publisher of i and turquoise for art/magic. That's right, the checking accounts - yes, yes, yes. But what is here and now. likes kissing Paul.

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Michael Daniels ^ then they should just stay home. from networking or doing business with an entire segment of the population simply because I have a penis. It is of­ People and organizations amaze me - and not always in a We in the GLBTQ community fensive that my friend should be shut out of attending good way. It's happened several times lately, and I just are not immune gathering simply because she does can't hold my tongue any longer. these very same at we do this to ourselves under the practices. We ise of "promoting and supporting our Twice in the past 30 days, I've contacted non-profits in re­ gather in sisters" or fighting "that in the world sponse to their broadcast email announcements, offering closed cir­ at large, heterosexism and woman sponsorships from outlook;columbus[o promote their cles and hatred are the norm" or because events. Twice I've been told, "We'd love to have you on celebrate we need a "safe space" that is board, but Publtatbn X\s already a sponsor and they re­ our not"heterocentric." quire exclusivity for print promotions." (often histor­ BULLSHIT. Really? Is the gay media that threatening? Does the ical mega-titled, deep-pocketed publishing powerhouse here and No, things a re not always in town really need to exclude the rest of us so that they past) equal or fair. Women often can capture a market? Or are they afraid to share the vic­ have it harder than men. Peo­ limelight with us, for fear we'll somehow steal their glory? tim- ple of color often have it harder Is an event co-sponsored by outbokauA Alive, or outlook hood, than whites. GLBT folk often and Fronteras, or outbokanA 104.9 TheRiversomehow scream­ have it harder than straight going to turn into a raging gayfest? Should a sports team ing that people. But does that mean that that receives sponsorship dollars and adsfrom the Dis­ we're not e hole up in little all-victim en­ patch somehow be forbidden from promoting to the pro­ accepted by claves, passing around the pity pipe gressive community? the rest of the drinking our own depression- world while KoolAid?Dowe really believe that In a city like ours, with its incredible diversity and inclu­ taneously shutting s evil and heterocentric and homo- sion, there is no room for this exclusionary practice. them out. female and racist and generally sucks? Don't get me wrong, I understand the value of being the I'm sure that there a re valid reasons for some events to be lead sponsor, or the premier sponsor, or the presenting all gay, or all straight or all male, or all female, or all left- Goddess, I hope not. sponsor, or the grand-poobah sponsor, of an event. I un­ handed. I just can't think of any. derstand that the publication that gives the most promo­ I hope that we stand up, acknowledge the playing field tions gets the biggest logo at the top of the page. That's I find it myopic at best, and hypocritical at worst, that isn't level, and then set about leveling it. I hope that as it should be. But in demanding exclusivity, these publi­ GLBTQ community members would organize, promote and women business professionals don't cloister themselves, cations demean themselves. Such demands reduce them champion events and organizations that exclude mem­ but rather insert themselves into organizations that are to the role of the catty, petty, bitchy kid on the playground bers based on gender. The historically male-dominated. I hope that people of color in junior high who announces "if you are going to be old boys'club way of don't draw inward, but rather showcase theirtalents friends with her, then you can't be friends with me!" and doing busi­ and bid on contracts. I hope that GLBT folks don't then huffs and stomps and pouts away. Shame on them. ness was circle their Volvo wagons, but rather go to wrong straight networking and business events, Ironically, it's then the organizations they are purporting to and invite their straight colleagues to . ~- • help that actually suffer. If you were having an event, ours. wouldn't the point be to have the most people attend to ensure its success? Or the most people with the highest That's the Outlook Media model disposable income perhaps? Binding an organization to anyhow. We won't apologize for exclusive sponsorships agreements only limits the pool who we are, but we won't hide of prospective contributors. How does that at all help? in someall-gay all-male "He- How isthatat all supportive? It doesn't and it's not Ma n-Penis-Lover-B reeders- and it reminds me of the overbearing abusive Hater's Club" either. We are boyfriend that won't let his partner have his own going to continue to invite friends and controls what he does, especially in pub­ men and women of all col­ lic. ors and a II orientations to all of our events. We are going But that partner is equally to blame. They have the to continue to partner with powerto change. Shame on the organizations and open and inclusive organiza­ events that allow themselves to be cornered into these tions with a goal of moving exclusive deals. If you work for one of such organiza­ ALL of us forward. And we will tions, know that agreeing and kowtowing to these archaic continue to sponsor events to and offensive demands only emboldens the bullies and help promote the community we undermines your events and organizations. Dare to ask are hereto bolster, even if it means them how restricting your marketing efforts strengthen our logo isn't allowed to appear beside your event. Dare to tell the playground bullies that you \ and The Dispatch, alive!, Fronteras. or any associate with whomever you like, thank you very much, so are and if they'd like to be part of that group, they're welcome the new and valued. But if they can't sit at the same table as your girls'clubs that We're hopeful that our misguided friends will see gay friends, or your alternative friends, or your tattooed are nowforming.lt is the light and work to build an inclusive, complete commu­ friends, or your Hispanic and African American friends, offensive that I should be shut out nity... someday.

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Freedom is Label-less by Jennifer Vanasco they will have to fit in with some cultural stereotype of what it means to be a woman I'm worried about these "straight' women who is in love with a woman. That they will who fall in love with other women. suddenly have to move somewhere where they don't speak the language or understand Recently, we've seen them on Oprah and on the references. Tyra. We hear them say things like Chris did on Oprah, after her heart was broken by the They are afraid they will label themselves woman she left her husband for:" If I'm ca­ and then be alone. pable of having intimacy with a man, then that means probably that I'm not gay," she Instead, the opposite is true. Declaring one­ says. "However, when it comes to relation­ self gay or lesbian, bisexual or queer is the ships and where I'm most comfortable, I most freeing feeling in the world. Better yet prefer to be with women." - it comes with an entree into a vibrant, flourishing culture that provides emotional Urn, the word for that is "bisexual." and social support.

It's interesting to me, that- like men who I think the "complications" these women sleep with other men but deny they are gay struggle with are the everyday difficulties - women, too, seem to have their own ver­ that come from being part of a lesbian rela­ sion of being on the down low. That is, they tionship in a straight world, where people fall in love with other women, they sleep with might not understand that a woman loving other women, they have relationships with another woman is to be celebrated, not vili­ other women, and yet they insist they are fied. straight Labels may seem restricting, but we all have The media loves this story. They say it's a them. The wrong label is stultifying. But the "trend." They say that women having a fling right one can be a passport into a new life, a with other women has cultural cache. In true life. And if the right label is "bisexual" hushed tones, they lionize these women who or "lesbian," it is an invitation into a com­ are "brave" enough to cross over into Les­ munity. bos without living there permanently. To be a woman in a relationship with a They may not have heard the gay axiom that woman in the center of the gay community "everyone is straight until they come out." is a very different experience - a validating experience-then to be in a lesbian rela­ Of course, some of them, like Oprah's guest tionship with no one around you but straight Chris, do indeed return todatingmen exclu­ people. sively. "It's less complicated," she told Oprah. I am not saying there aren't supportive straight people. There are hundreds of thou­ And, yep, it sure is. A woman in a straight sands of them - including many of my close couple only needs to worry about guest lists friends and all those heterosexuals who and seating charts, not whether the state in voted against Prop 8. But still, in the big, which she plans to marry will let her legally straight world, the assumptions are differ­ wed or adopt children. ent A woman is automatically assumed to be interested in men. People ask who the But I doubt it is the complicated legality that man is. People ask how it is possible for les­ makes women like Chris hesitant to call bians to have sex. themselves gay or bisexual. I'm worried for these "straight" women, be­ What I worry about is that they think that la­ cause clearly, they're not straight at all. So­ beling themselves "gay" or "bisexual" will ciety has just given them the wrong label. make them residents of a country in which they don't want to settle permanently. They Jennifer Vanasco is an award-winning, syndicated columnist. Email her [email protected]. think that "lesbian" will mean they have to Follow her at twitter.com/lenrvferyanasco. give up something about who they are, that T outloo kro hi nibiis.ro in Karen, from Will & Grace. "Oh, honey. We're alllesbians when the right guy' isn't around huh?" June 2009 THIS ONE'S TO REMIND ME TO WATER THE PLANTS... THIS ONE'S TO REMIND ME TO WALK THE DOG... THIS ONE'S TO REMIND ME OF MY DENTIST APPOINTMENT...

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June 2009 More than 90% of all Post It notes are made in Cynthiana, Kentueky. outlo okro hi nibus.eom on iorwar Pride Fashion bu're Free To Wear What You Want Any 01' Time 1 Marcus Morris / photo by Robert Trautman "Kevin" is the object of m uch affection. He is a :he gayest of all holiday weekends, is 19-year-old newly minted sophomore at OSU. He is, and while some a re greasing u p their looks like he is 15, and is blonde with blue eyes, motorcycles, and some are greasin g up to ride He weighs 130 pounds, and will end up with his something else, some queers a re thinking about legs in the air before the night is up. "Kevin" is what to wear. It's without a doubt that some in new to the scene, and he knows nothing about the community lost the memo on tasteful attire, fashion. He and "Martin" are wearing the exact This is not a bad thing. One of the most fun same outfit Only "Kevin" looks age appropriate. parts about Pride is that there is bound to be "Kevin" has not realized the power of the color some seriously tacky shit parading down High orange in the gay community, so his skin actu- St. It's entertainment. ally looks pinkish and fresh. Give him a few months and he'll look like an old Prada ba, We should enjoy the fact that we are free to be "Kevin" is celebrating his first Pride, and thinks as outlandish, overexposed, and gay as we he has met the man of his dreams every time he • i * would like. There is no other weekend where you rounds a comer. can see an adult man buying Tanqueray in vinyl hot pants at Europia. I thinkthere are some se- "Steph" is a proud lesbian and looks like an rious "types" who populate Pride. Here are my anime character. She has spiky, over-processed l^i]ii(*1*:iiiilYiiTniir3i iar: hair, and wears all of her clothes from PINK. She tV hastons of make-up on, and shiny acrylic nails. "Martin" is that older guy who is not aware that She looks like her entire face and body have • he has not seen a college dorm since George been photoshopped. Everything is reflective. She 1 was on Facts Of Life. He shops at Aber- just broke up with her girlfriend, who was way ie and Hollister, and listens to Lady Gaga too into Ani DiFranco, and she is looking to cele- is still a twink. He is really tan, and his brate Pride by having a good time. She snenris in color is nestled in the crow's feet his eyes. He will show up to Pride wear- asan orgasm in the bathroom at Liquid €lo shirt with the collar popped up, in a i Roller Girl whom she will never call. She *astel color, and distressed khaki cargo shorts ightwith 7 acrylic nails, 3 orgasms, 5 His American Eagle flip flops will be electric ibers, and 1 set of skates on her floor. white, and showcase the chicken legs that he hates, and will always have. Hewill cometo "Sahara" is the life of the party, and applies her Pride with his best friend Donna, who always eye-makeup better than most of her drag queen knew he was oau She will pn hnme tn Canal cohorts. She spends the entire night before Winchester after the parade, and he will spend soaking, and loofahing, and pumicing herself hours looking for a cute young thang. He works before she tries to work a mini dress. She made for Columbus Public Schools and his D-List pro- herself a silk chiffon empire-waist dress in hot ring a brightly pink, with matching hot pants. Her wig is a riefe. platinum version of one of the monstrosities that Diana Ross wears on occasion. Her shoes up to Pride with her life part- are also hot pink gladiator stilettos. "Sahara" is cky." "Dina" is a big black lesbian who a big girl who likes cosmopolitans. She wanted was always the best at sports in high school. Go her dress to match her drink. The problem is figure. "Dina" will also be wearing a pair of that "Sahara" starts knocking back the cos­ khaki cargo shorts, but "Dina" is not wearing a mopolitans before she hits Bat-N-Rouge. "Sa- shirt this year. She has decided to unleash her hara"will hosta party at Havana, and wows the 42DD tits to the world, and it is a spectacular crowd with her bawdy jokes, and ability to ener­ sight. Her breasts, which begin at her collar and gize the revelers. By 4 a.m., "Sahara" is a hot end at her belt, have seen perkier days. These mess. She heads back to her apartment in Ital­ are Mrs. Butterworth s breasts, and they have ian Village wearing only one gladiator stiletto, decided to demonstrate Capital Pride. She will with a lost heel. She carries the other shoe in also be wearing a pair of K-Swiss with white her hand. Her wig is cocked to the side, and her socks, and gold doorknocker earrings. "Becky" perfect makeup is smudged to hell. She has is slightly stoned, and her pale skin is sun had the Pride of her life. burnt, but she is wearing a pair of denim cut­ offs and a bandana around herchest. Her Martin, Steph, Dina, Becky, Kevin, and Sahara breast size clocks in at a 34A, so she will spend are just afew of the stereotypes I could delve most of the day re-tying the damn thing being into, and over exaggerate. The common thread held by her arms, until the combination of Arbor that links them together is the fact that they are Mist and the June heat cause her to throw up in going to Pride to celebrate themselves and our the pond at Goodale Park and she needs the culture. So what if you dress tacky, and look a bandana to wipe off her face. She had "Dina" hot mess by the end of the night? It means you comrow her thin reddish hair, and now her scalp had a great time. The theme of Pride this year is is red from the sun. She is the one who looks "Freedom." To quote The Rolling Stones, "You ^c like hell in all the Pride snapshots. are free to do what you want, any ole' time." outloo keo hi nibus.com The Stray Gits recorded a song entitled "Fishnet Stockings" on their European debut album in 1981. June 2009 you are here Happy Pride Holiday Everyone!

Welcome to the second issue of outlook-columbus, your community m gazine. Thanks for So what will it take to get us to Freedon lis, being out, proud, and un- picking us up again! apologetic. It will take us donning theB lent to which the Stonewall queens made us heirs and settling for ni full equality and inclusion. We I Its June, so of course it's all about Pride. For any of us that are queer, no matter how we must not apologize for who we are. We I rand say 'thank you, sir' when our participate it is political. Whether you're marching in the street with your church or with leaders toss us crumbs, but rather sfl I to be treated as equal citizens the leatherfolk, you're making a political statement. Whether you rally at the State House under law. We must introduce our spou I and 'my wife,'to everyone, or on the dance floor, you're making a political statement. Whether you go to thefestival not just when it's comfortable or conven re as out businesspeople. run as or spend the day jogging in the park a la Jeffrey, you're making a political statement out candidates, participate fully as out ci How affection in public. We 1 Even though the economy is currently overshadowing all avenues of policies and proce­ must show the world that the 'gay agenda' is agenda. That we are everywhere, dures, our fight for equality and the ability to live a free life is still the most emotionally involved in everythi jrned about every sent in every house of worshipM charged and hot button topic on the news, the Hill and the dining table. every school, ai I every city. In short, we must t id without being prideful. And mm 3, support, and elect those who stand proudly with us. This year's the me for the Columbus Pride Holiday is freedom. So we asked you, how d( ehowwi Bur freedoms, and what we I you define freedom? By far, marriage equality topped the list. Other replies wen can doto ensure and obtain them forthe long-term. same vein -when all God's children have equal acceptance in our society, whi are equal rights across the board, when there is no need for gay rights grou le housekeeping- anksto everyone who came out there is a cure. We agree. 3. Special thanksto Eric Himal the full ht as well as, Mr Scottie Nusbaui Freedom will be achieved when everyone, gay or straight, citizen or resit advertise id sponsors who provide the white or brown or purple, regardless of gender or expression, race, age, onto. Plea utilize their services, buy the system, familial status, or physical attributes is treated fairly and equally ot least, thanl to all of you - our readers. Yo:i and society in general. When adults in love can marry and define their fa it GLBT community publicatio] terms. When tenure and promotions are determined by performance and in the country. i the Golden Rule - in whatever form you wish to write it—truly rules our I and our government. Utopia? Maybe. Unattainable? Perhaps. Worth fighting Happy Pride! solutely. Love, Chris & Michael

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Let's step back in time for a moment. It is 1981 and three young men are sitting in their apartment discussing the news that a local Moral Majority chapter led by the Reverend Jerry Falwell is starting in Columbus, Ohio. As we can all imagine, they were outraged, yet de­ termined to draw attention tothediscrimination that was being per­ petrated on the GLBT communiiy. These three activists staged a March down High Street. News footage from the event indicates that many of the participants marched in disguise, covering their faces with bags for fear of losing their jobs. Afterthe March Reorganiza­ tion now known as Stonewall Columbus was born.

A parade spectator who was hiding in the bushes that day watching the parade wasformer World War II veteran, Rupert Starr, known by his friends as "Twink" Starr. Twink, 86, a retired decorated veteran was captured and spent time in a prisoner of war camp during WWII. He has spent much of his retired life fighting against the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy currently in place in the US Military. y* This June, Twink will visit Europe a nd will tour the site where he was imprisoned many years ago. The day after he returns to Columbus, Stonewall Columbus will honor him as the Grand Marshal of Pride 2009. After all these years, Twink will have the homecoming that he Our Political Quest for Freedom so very much deservesand you are invited to march and celebrate Began Forty Years Ago: The Riots with him. I ". tS ; Friday, June 27,1969 found the world mourning But for some reason, the crowd that had gath­ < thedeath of Judy Garland. Some have wondered ered outside the Stonewall, a crowd that had what effect the gay icon's funeral, which took become campy and festive and had cheered place in Manhattan, had on the events that each time a patron emerged from the bar, would soon transpire. soon changed its mood. Perhaps it was Judy Garland's death, or the summer heat, or the the riot spread and Greenwich Village residents, until the early morning hours. In the early morning hours of June 28, police of­ fact that police had been especially busy that many of whom were lesbian and gay, hurried to ficers raided the Stonewall Inn, a small bar lo­ summer raiding bars and patrons had become the scene. Someone squirted lighter fluid inside Over the next week, the protests and demon­ cated on Christopher Street in New York City's angry and frustrated. Or possibly it was the the bar and attempted to ignite it. Several on strations continued in Greenwich Village, but on Greenwich Village. Although mafia-run, the sight of several dragqueens being forced intoa ersgrabbed a downed parking meterand used a smaller sea le. The sense of anger that under­ Stonewall, like other predominantly gay bars in paddy wagon. it as a battering ram against the front of the lay the riots, the discovery that strength in num­ the city, got raided by the police periodically. Stonewall. Still others chanted "Gay Power!" bers could match and even defeatthe police, and the realization that members of the GLBTQ Whatever it was, the on-lookers lost their pa­ Soon a riot-control police unit arrived to rescue community did not have to tolerate meekly the Typically, the more "deviant" patrons (that is, tience. As to who th rew the first punch, ac­ customary bullying and harassment at the drag queens and butch lesbians, especially if counts are contradictory. Some say it was a the trapped officers and breakupthedemon- stration. However, it would be more than an hands of the authorities, quickly led to politi- they were "colored") would be arrested and drag queen, while others claim it was a butch cization. Anew era had begun. taken away in a paddy wagon, while white, lesbian, who initially defied the police. hour before the unit was finally able to disperse male customers looked on or quietly disap­ the crowd, and not before a group of drag peared. Then, reflecting the system's corruption, The crowd, which had grown to several hundred queens taunted the police by singing at the top Th is Pride Holiday we honor those activists that the bar owners would be levied an insubstantial people, erupted. People began pelting the offi­ of their lungs, "We are the Stonewall girls /We began our movement, we honor Judy Garland, fine, allowing them to open for business the fol­ cers with coins, which represented the payoffs wear our hair in curls /We wear no underwea r / and we honor our Grand Marshal Rupert lowing day. gay ba rs had to make to the police to stay in We show our pubic hair /We wear our dunga- "Twink" Starr. Moreover, Pride Holiday is our business. Then they moved to stones and bot­ 3es/Above our nelly knees!" contmuingtribute to everyone who has for the On this night the charge was the illegal sale of tles. The police, surprised by and not used to last forty years made change possible, who alcohol. The raid began in time-honored fash­ such resistance from patrons of gay bars, beat The first Stonewall Riot ended the morning of have made it a world where we can have a pa­ ion, as plainclothes and uniformed police offi­ those they could reach with nightsticks, but Saturday, June 28. That night the second riot rade down High Street, a two-day festival in a cers entered the ba r, arrested the employees, eventually were forced to take refuge by locking broke out, as thousands of demonstrators - in public park, and a magazine distributed ian d began ejecting the customers one by one themselves inside the Stonewall. the name of Gay Pride - flocked to the streets in throughout libraries and bars alike celebrating onto the street. front of and around the Stonewall Inn. Once ourlife and our loves. It'sa much betterday. The crowd swelled by hundreds more, as word of again there were confrontations with the police Rij'aenre: http/%w.glbty

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Columbus is celebrating its 28th Anniversary of serving the Cen- I wanted to start by thanking each and every one of you, our diverse LGBTQ and Ally mity. It's an exciting time! We are looking forward to hosting the community, lor the support and utilization of Stonewall Columbus and the Center on liday and collectively celebrating the achievements of the past and at Hii'ji. Without you. we wouldn't be celebrating 28 years of service. Without you. we the same time building for our future. wouldn't be able to show you how much we appreciate YOU by throwing one of the largest Pride Celebrations in the nation. We estimate hosting over 120,000 of you this his year's celebration is Freedom. Are we any closer to achieving our year... i? What freedoms do we have in place for the GLBT community today that we did not have twenty-eight years ago? In life we've all been taught not to take things for granted. However, sometimes we do without even realizing it It holds true for me with the comfort and security that I have IUS is thrilled to announce that our Pride celebration is one of the few in the diverse community that lives right here in Columbus. Recently, in traveling to ontinues to grow every year. Our Pride Holiday is one of the Phoenix, AZ to participate in a big city Vi marathon, I found that the inclusive life top ten festivals in the United States. In 2007 Columbus, Ohio was I'm accustom to, and assume others have, does not exist in all metropol­ highlighted in the Advocate as one of the top unexpected great itan centers. At an HRC/L Word event that my friends and I were destinationsior Pride in the country. Last year's attendance waiting in line for, we were actually ushered into an alley so was more than 120,000 and this year we project that num­ that the theater where the event was didn't appear to have a ber will increase by ten percent For the first time in the line of lesbians hanging out front of it. For the first time history of Pride, the festival will expand to include two in 20 years, I felt the sting of being ostracized for being days of fun and festivities at Goodale Park begin­ a lesbian and I saw a community that was ning Friday, June 19 from 5p - lip. and continue angry.. .yet content.. .with the small liberties that through Saturday, June 20th from 11a - 9p. Sat­ urday's March will begin with a rally at the they were "allowed" to have. I was shocked and re­ Statehouse on the corner of Broad and High alized that there is so much work that still needs Streets and then the parade will travel north on to be done. That experience renewed my appreci­ High Street to the festival at Goodale Park. The ation for the acceptance that we receive as annual Pride Brunch will be held on Sunday, members of the LGBTQ community here in Cen­ June 21, 2009 at the Grand Ballroom of the tral Ohio. On the flip side, it also renewed a Westin Columbus from 11a—lp. What an in­ sense of urgency in me to ensure that our cur­ credible weekend Stonewall Columbus has rent rights are not lost and that we continue to planned for our city! We can only continue this fight for the rights that we have yet to realize, increased visibility for our community with your such as legalized marriage. support. Stonewall Columbus has consistently been an in­ tegral player in the actions to facilitate forward Growth is positive; however it does mean that movement for our community and a key player in every year the production costs continue to rise. By community awareness. Not only involved in advocacy, becoming a donor through our Pride Circle campaign, SWC is also a home and meeting place of stellar pro­ you can help us to keep producing this cultural event grams and services (such as men's and women's sup­ every year. Pride Circle is a group of supporters who con­ port groups, recovery groups, fitness groups & creative tribute to help Stonewall Columbus produce the Pride Festi­ classes) that help nurture our community. We are one of very val and your contribution as a member of Pride Circle goes few cities in the nation that has this place to call home. A place directly to the cost of this event Please join the Pride Circle team by where we can continue to achieve the freedom that we all deserve, a donating today! place where we can meet safely and openly, a place to learn and grow. Stonewall Columbus can only continue to move our community forward and continue to Every donor that contributes through June 21,2009 will be entered into a drawing to throw an incredible Pride event with the support of each and every one of you! a brand new Wii, courtesy of board member Jay Poroda. For more information on the 2009 Stonewall Columbus Pride Festival, please visit our website at www.colum- sbration was named by the Advocate as one of the largest and best in the buspride.org. nation. All of this headway and visibility is incredible and it makes me so proud! But, we have to remember not to take all of this for granted. Celebrate Pride weekend. Cele­ Stonewall Columbus is extremely grateful for your generosity and your ongoing support brate who you are, who we are. Enjoy it and let's try to carry our pride and confidence i of the Central Ohio GLBT Community. We thank you for making the past 28 years pos­ through the rest of the year. Let's be thankful and remind everyone how far we've come sible and we look forward to working with you to ensure a future of unparalleled suc­ and how far we are going to go... together!!! cess! Much love in Pride,

Kelly Jaeger President, Stonewall Columbus

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WHEREAS* Stonewall Columbus was founded in 1981 and is the largest gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender organization in Ohio: and

WHEREAS, each year for twenty eight years, Stonewall Columbus has sponsored the Pride March and Festival, making it one of the largest celebrations in the country, with participants coming from a Jive stale radius; and

WHEREAS, through donations generated at the Pride March and Festival, Stonewall Columbus supports its community Center in the Short North, provides needed social and community services, provides education services to schools, churches and civic organizations; and

WHEREAS, diversity is protected by a city policy to prohibit discrimination on the basis of race, gender, religion or sexual orientation; and

WHEREAS, Stonewail Columbus is an asset to our entire community, exemplifying Columbus' commitment to tolerance of diversity and acceptance for all citizens; and

WHEREAS, June 19-21 is highlighted by the festivities of the Pride Festival and Parade, o time when gay, lesbian, bisexual and the transgender community will celebrate the diversity of Columbus, Ohio;

Ohio, doNOW, hereby THEREFORE, issue this Citation I Michael of Recognition B. Coleman, to Mayor of the City of Columbus, Stonewall Columb us • 2009 Pride Festival "Freedomn and theurge achipven**>*> all members oft" our community to join in recognition of and the achievements abovementioned. recognition of this significant occasion

IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand and cause the Great Seal of the Mayor of the City of Columbus, Ohio, to be hereto affixed this /P* day of June 2009.

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What IS happening at th Effect through Sound." Contact-. Monic, their issues with coming out and provide a place to Bi-Monthty Spring thru Fall [email protected] or call 614.204.1420 or meet others who may be going through the same This group meets bi-monthly on a sea; The first half of 2009 ha iillifrlOllTS www.buddhawest.org transition or who have already c (Spring through Fall). The group initial Center. For the first time Paul fa/d-todd [email protected] Stonewall to leam the basics of effective running for hosted a Sports and Fitness Expo which was ex­- Community Drum Circle good overall health, exercise, race training and fan. tremely successful. Columbus Sports Teams and 2nd Saturday @ 3:30p-5:30p Men's Discussion Group The regularbi-monthlymeetings are held as outings Health and Wellness professionals from all of central Open to all drummers; there will be some facilitation 3rd Tuesday @ 7p at a variety of locations in Columbus to run/walk. All Ohio converged at the center offering visitors impor- and free style drumming. Led by B. Wahru Clevelandeland. . InteresteInterestedd iinn meetinmeetingg ne neww people. ? Looking for sup­ levels of experience are welcome and encouraged to tant information, health screenings, product samples Contact B. Wahru, [email protected] porportt anandd directiondirection?Th? The grougroupp iiss opeopenn ttoo alalll anandd offeroffers join us! Contact [email protected] and fun. the opportunity to meet and interact with gay men Gay, Joyous, and Free Narcotics Anonymoulymouss from a vanvariete y of backgrounds. The group meets to Stonewall Health Check Stonewall Columbus is committed to offering pr y Saturday @7:30p ibout common challenges, frustrations and ad­ Varies grams that help our communityto leam and grt 'pport group of GLBT individlualswhoari e vantageages uuniqui e to gay men. Topics include: meeting Stonewall Health Check encompasses all health re­ Individuals call or stop by the center looking for help. recovering from drugaddic- new people, developing a support network, dealing lated programming being offered at The Center on Some folks who contact us are engaging in very un­ '"' stress from families, and responding to homo- High. This programming includes, but is not limited healthy behaviors. Volunteers and staff are there to lia in the workplace. The group is lead by Jim to health fairs, presentations as well as any other assist them in finding just the right avenue for °-n les, PhD, a licensed psychologist who offers the health related classes offered in the Studio on High. apective of an experienced counselor. Come join Future programming will be determined on a case- choices. Oftentimes joining one of the center groups Girl Spot is a women's social group in the Columbus us! by-case basis. Contact Letha Pugh at or participating in an activity can helpfight the anxi- area aiming to fill the social gap between bars and Contact-Jim Broyies: [email protected] [email protected]. ety and depression that is so prevalent in our com- home for LBTQ women. We strive to have fun, make a 1 in unity Feeling as if you belong sometimes is half difference, create a presence in the community and Older Lesbians Organized for Change (OLOC) Stonewall Senior Programming Committee 'i the battle If a "sense of belonging" is not enough offer a place to go for newcomers and those wishing 1 st Saturday in Jan, Mar & May 2009 @ 1 la-4p Varies and the depression is severe, the center does have a to develop new friends. We host Game Nights at A national organization of older lesbians 60 and over, Stonewall Seniors is a group committed to imple­ j counselor on staff to help. Stonewall Center on High on the 1st Sunday of each OLOC has local groups around the country and func- menting program ming that will provide an outlet to month from 5p-7p. 3rd Sunday events include: movie tions under the leadership of a national Steering seniors in the LGBT com munity. The meetings are 'ent roster of activities at the Center nights, live art festivals, local outings and dinner Committee. OLOC works toward providing a safe, subject to change based on the needs of the commit­ itrte that programs and groups alter parties. Contact [email protected] supportive network for older lesbians while actively tee. We are currently working on a friendly visiting .. schedules on a monthly basis so please contact the working to effect changes that will improve our lives. program for LGBT seniors in our community. The goal & leader or the center before attending any of the pro- GLBT Hiking Club We challenge ageism wherever we find it, plan oppor- of the committee is to begin to build a vibrant senior grams listed. There will be new classes added to this Seasonal /Various times tunitiesfor old lesbians to gather, support and con- program to address the increasing need in our com­ 4 list beginning in September 2009. Classes offered in This seasonal (Spring, Summer, Fall) social group tribute to the Old Lesbian Oral Herstory Project, and munity. If you have any interest in assisting with this the past include-. Yoga, Creative Writing, Ballroom meets at various locations throughout Central Sign publish a quarterly newsletter. Contact Sally Tatnall- program, please contact Letha Pugh. Contact-. Letha Dance, Survival Spanish, Zumba and Aerobic Line up with the yahoo group for info at [email protected], Jan Griesinger PO Box 5853 Pugh at letha_pugh%ahoo.com. Dancing. Looking forward to 2010, SWC will add hftp7/groups.yahoo.com/group/1 gbthikingcolumbus. Athens, OH 45701,740.448.6424, Cooking Workshops, Organic Farming, and Nutrition Contact [email protected] [email protected] Transgender, Cross Dressing, Gender Variant Peer ** and Weight Management. If there is a class that you Support Group would like to see offered at the center, please email Hearing Impaired Support Group PACI-Parents and Children Together 1st Wednesday @7p ', [email protected]~ tonewallcolumbus.org. 3rd Monday® 7p A family and social outing group for GLBT parents This is a peer led support group. Open to everyone- General Support Group for LGBT Hearing Impairs with children. This group does not meet at Stonewall. FtM, MtF Cross Dressers, Gender Queer, Intersexed, Listof Current Programs and Services: dividuals. Sign interpreter. Contact Christopher Cnr more information regarding membership or the etc. Facilitated byTransOhio staff. Drop-ins welcome. pilot_dogJ)oddie@ya hoo.com. jp's cunent events schedule, go to the following Contact-. [email protected] 1 Awakening the Goddess Within jsite:httpy/groups.yahoo.com/group/stonewall- •' 1 st & 3rd Monday @ 7p LinkOUT-LGBT Young Professionals of Central 0 umbusPACT TransOhio A supportive group designed to empoirver vonen to Usual Day is last Wednesday @7p 3rd Sunday @3p 'j connectwrthand celebratethe inner FermnineDi- Check with Contact' " Sister"" s of Lavender(SOL"" ) Serves the Ohio transgender and ally communities by vine. This will be an experiential group facilitated by and sites. "istWednesday@7p-9p providing services, education, support and advocacy, Shirah Siladie, LISW, who is a holistic psychothera- Our vision is to sha pe the future of the young LGBT Meetingeetingss ar aree helhe dId a at tNort No rthh Congregationa Congregational lUnite U nited d which promotes and improves the health, safety and pist who has been helping others to heal heart, mind professional community making Central Ohio a desir- Church of Christ (2040 W Henderson Rd, 43220) life experience of the Ohio transgender individual and

614.784.8108 fessionals and connect them to LGBT serving over. The focus of the group is to address issues and organizations and communities. As a group of mem- topics of interest to the mature lesbian Women's Book Club vty bers from diverse fields, cultural and socio-economic population. The group is also intended to be a safe 3rd Wednesday @6:30p '* Association backgrounds, we: harbor for womyntomeetand socialize with other A primarily lesbian group with members from many Check with Contact below to verify meeting dates • Serve as the voice for young LGBT professionals. womyn of similar sexual orientation. Contact Mem- backgrounds and ages. Friendly, thought-provoking and sites •Provide an educational/awareness forum for issues ' -'^SistersOfLavender.or' g or www.sister- discussions on a range of topics, generally related to A peer social group forgay men of colorand their that affect our community, Jr.org the month's book. The books vary in genre, ranging friends who seek to participate in social, recreational • Organize social and professional networking oppor- from non-fiction to poetry to historical literature to and spiritual activities and events. Our diverse mem- tunities. ong and Free Lesbian Group AA light'beach-reads/ The group provides an opportu­ bership consists of professionals ages 18 and up • Serve as a connection to community resourcesan d lay@7:30p nity for meeting members of the community. who want to do more than 'club' or partyon the encourage community building. support group offering hope and help to al­ Contact-. Becky at [email protected] weekends and choose instead to investigate more in- •Facilitate community service and civic involve- i io lesbian and bisexual women. } timate and deep connections with other gay/bi black ment. Professional Counselor Now Seeing Clients atthe -, and Hispanic men in Central Ohio. Contact Ric • Encourage professional development opportunities. Stonewall Columbus Diversity Team Center on High! •* Danielsfor future meetings information, ric_mc- Contact Joel Diazfor info on meetings, Every two weeks @ 5:30p-7p Sonny Saunders, MSE, PC, is a Professional Coun­ [email protected] [email protected] This group has come together to do outreach in the selor, Therapist and Clinician providing individual & communityto ensure all people feel free to be a part group counseling sessions to the GLBT population at 1 Buddhist Meeting-Nichiren Daishonin's Buddhism Men's Book Club of the com munity center. We work to present unique No Charge. He works in collaboration with Mary- 2nd Thursday @ 7p-8:30p 1 st Monday @ 7p opportunities to raise awareness of all groups and haven. Sonny is available on an appointment to An open and all-inclusive group whose purpose is to Read & discuss pre-chosen books. support sensitivity of all differences. This is a contin­ only. To schedule an appointment call Sonny Saun­ *, provide an atmosphere for learning and studying uing effort and we welcome all to join our learning ders at 614.306.9737. You will receive a call back but Nichiren's Buddhism, with the teachings based on Men's Coming Oi"" initiative. Contact Wanda [email protected] please be patient Sonny often has a long waiting list I Lotus Sutra, along with chanting Nam Myoho Renge 2nd & 4th Morula for this service. Note: Do not call the Center on High Kyo, which means,'The devotion to the Law of Cause Drop-in disc nners'Connec1' Ei m^^m lime 2009 Tlie eommunity center is for everyone! You ean reserve any of the rooms to hold a meeting, practice or an event. Call Suzie at 614.9.30.2260. outlo okco hi inbus.eo m what's important to you? (Byzgnfium. 1088 N High

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STAFF Letha Pugh 1.5 years on board Karla Rothan. Executive Director "Freedom means peacewithin." 3 years on staff, began volunteering for Stonewall Columbus in 1990. "Freedom is the ability to communicate and learn without fear. The Shane Morgan Center on High is a safe place where people can learn, love, heal and 2 years on board grow without fear" "Feedom 's just another word for nothing left to lose... Freedom to be myself, to love those I want to love regardless of their gender identity Suzie Simpson, Center Coordinator and expression, or their sexual orientation. Freedom to express my 3years on staff opinions and walk openly and proudly down the street." "I'd like to live to witness a time when we all have freedom to be who we are without discrimination!" Bruce Shalter, Board Treasurer 3.5 years on board Michele Fergonas, Office Manager "Freedom is being able to love who I want right out in the open." 2 years on staff "Freedom is being yourself" JayPoroda 1.5 years on board Joe Stefanko, Pride Holiday Chair "Franklin Roosevelt once said, In the truest sense, freedom cannot "Being able to march down the street, enjoy a festival and know that be bestowed; it must be achieved.' I think that the Pride holiday is Monday morning I will still have my job... that isfreedom. Not having much more than a celebration of the political/social achievements to remember secret knocks to get into places or not be able to take we have earned as a community. I believe that when we march, we my partner to family/public/employer functions... that is freedom. do so to achieve new freedoms, like repealing "Don't Ask Don't Tell, Being ableto say thankyou to those that fought this battle long be­ enacting meaningful hate crimes legislation and achieving the free­ fore I got involved... that is freedom." dom to marry."

David Glisten 2 years on board "To me freedom is the ability to act and to think independently and Kelly Jaeger, Board President creatively. Freedom allows me the opportunity to impact my commu­ Board member and Pride committee member since May 2004 nity in a positive way. Freedom is a gift we all enjoy. On Pride Day "We, as the human race, have endured and conquered many strug­ 2009 as we celebrate, please take a moment to reflect what freedom gles. Regardless of the color of our skin, the people whom we love or means to you and how your thoughts and your actions can be an in­ the religious beliefs that we may hold - freedom is the ability to live spiration to those still trying to find their freedoms." honestlyand respectfully without fear of persecution or violence. We should be free to revel in our individuality and be proud of who we are."

Wanda J. Ellis, Board Vice President 5yearson board 'RIDE "I am celebrating my freedom to serve my creator, Jesus Christ I'm celebrating my freedom as an African American, my freedom as a fe­ Joe Stefanko: Pride Chair male, and my freedom to be a n openly same gender loving lesbian Jan Adams-Richards: Pride Coordinator who has finally found the love of my life, my life partner. It is the best Karla Rothan: Art Show Chair of times, it is the worst of times, but we must celebrate our victories Suzie Simpson: Entertainment Chair and our strugglesto maintain our focus. Come celebrate with us." Rob Harley: Festival Co-Chair Scott Schoppen Festival Co-Chair Andrea Ebreck, Board Secretary Sally Krohn: Festival Vendor Chair 3.5 years on boa rd Hope Hindrichs: Festival Dispatch Chair "This year's theme celebrates the many successes of the LGBT civil Linda Blount: Festival Green Co-Chair rights movement, but also reminds us to continue fighting forfull Katherine Kriedermann: Volunteer Coordinator equality, without which we will never truly be free." James Wiley: Beverage Chair Karen Hamm: Toll Booth Chair Richard P. Harrison, Jr. "Rick" Phil Davison: Hospitality Co-Chair 1 year on board Tom Graffeo: Hospitality Co-Chair " I saw a t-shirt once that said It is better to be hated for what you Linda Schulen Parade Co-Chair are, than loved for what you are not.' Brilliant... I spent too much of Kelly Jaeger: Parade Co-Chair my life working on being loved for what I was not - but no longer. I not Brenda Heft; Motorcycle Security Chair only revel in my Freedom but will spend as much time as it takes to Edwin J Yang: Float Chair work on ensuring that ALL people have the Freedomto be who they Ariana Adams-Richards: Traffic Control Chair are.. .AND loved for who they are." Deron Fete Communications/Marketing Co-Chair John Herman: Communications/Marketing Co-Chair Judy Herendeen Lori Steigerwald: Poker Run Chair 1 year on board Kelly Jaeger: Run for Pride Chair "Freedom to me is being my own agent, that is the freedom to act in Phil Anderson: Fore! Pride Chair accordance with my own values and beliefs." Rob Berger: Speakers Rally Stage Chair Linda Schulen Brunch Chair

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Clyde Huffman, Volunteer and Class Participant THE FAMILY OF 4 WHO VOLUNTEERS EACH YEAR AT PRIDE My partner and I have financially supported Stonewall since its inception, but it wasn't until I re­ tired that I realized I could be doing more to support the GLBT community. I began recently volun­ Kim Barajas-Mother of Ryan and Jennica teering at the Center on High. The satisfaction I have received cannot be expressed loudly enough, RyanMobley-Son,21 lb personally see the work carried out by the board and staff has been eye opening experience and Jennica Barajas-Daughter, 18 has given me the opportunity to see how important all of our financial support is to the expeditious Wendy Johnston - Kim's Partner commission of the agency's mission. I have made new friends and met many interesting people. A very important side benefit of volunteering has been participating in the yoga classes offered at Kim's Years volunteered/different events/tasks: the center. My partner and I are currently taking our second set of classes and I am enjoying the I've volunteered for 6 years and have done everything from passing out Pride flyers at Gallery Hop, benefits of feeling better, feeling stronger, sleeping better and having more flexibility in this aging to check-in, cheering etc. at Run for Pride, to set-up both at Bicentennial and Goodale Parks and body. I would encourage anyone with the time and/or resources to get involved. You will thoroughly my favorite.. ..beerticket sales!!! enjoy your commitment. Why I volunteer and what it means to my family: Heather Slattery Woods, Volunteer and Ally I originally volunteered because I am painfully shy and figured it would be a great way to help me Growing up in Columbus, I have always been aware of Stonewall, but was not really sure what the overcome that, while contributing to a great cause. I included my kids because I wanted them to center was all about. I have always had many close friends in the GLBT community and over the understand their responsibility to the community at large and more specifically, to understand ^ears, I have learned of their many experiences and struggles. I have always tried to lend an ear their responsibility to the gay community. With having openly gay teenagers, I felt it was important and help them in anyway that I could, but many times that simply was not enough. Recently, I dis­ that we be able to do something as a family that supported our beliefs and because I've always covered a volunteering opportunity at Stonewall Columbus and thought that it would be a good taught my kids to be accepting of the differences of others. I also wanted them to understand that chance for me to leam more about the center and to help others. I am completely amazed at all of they belong to something so much bigger than themselves. Volunteering for Pride is a much antic­ the support and services the community center offers to the GLBT community. And more impor­ ipated event in our home and now that the kids a re older and more often than not doing their own tantly, lam overwhelmed by the warm and welcoming nature of the staff. They made me instantly thing, I know that regardless of what else is going on, we will still all come together during that feel at home, just as they do with anyone who walks through their doors! And now, I feel that I weekend to celebrate who we are. cannot only better help my close friends, but the GLBT community as well. Every week, I look for­ ward to my time at the center where I greet people, answer phones, do various clerical tasks or "Freedom is a powerful word with so many different personal meanings. For me, it is the freedom simply whatever needs to be done. I truly feel fortunate to be a part of such a wonderful organiza­ to simply "be." I know that I am fortunate to live a life where my children and I can be "out" to tion! family, friends and co-workers. I also realize that many people do not have those freedoms, so if through volunteering, I can give someone a day, or a weekend, or even a minute in time to realize Sally Sue Krohn. Volunteer and Ally their own vision of freedom, I feel that is my greatest gift of all." I get asked a lot, why I, a straight woman, am so committed to the causes of HRC and Stonewall. I volunteer for Stonewall and Pride because I believe my God loves everyone exactly as He created RyanMobley-Son,21 them - gay, straight, whatever- and I will continue to work hard until everyone understands and Ryan has volunteered for 6 years with Run for Pride, Festival Set-Up and Tear Down, and the Fam­ accepts that too. I have watched dear friends struggle because of their sexual orientation and it ily Area breaks my heart. One friend was not allowed into the hospital room of his critically ill partner of 13 years because he was not someone's version of "family." Another friend paid a ridiculous amount "Freedom to me is synonymous with Choice. That may seem a self-defeating statement in the of money for health insurance because he couldn't be covered on his partner's plan. Happily, that face of terms like 'sexual preference' but in fact that is exactly why the freedom to choose is so company now understands that family dynamic and offers domestic partner benefits. Wonderful critical. A few things in life you get no choice in, your fa mily, your race, your height, several others changes, but I see there is still much to be done. but none so potentially problematic as your sexual orientation. We have not chosen to be hated, we have chosen to not hate back. We have the freedom to choose either reaction and we have chosen I learned of Stonewall and Pride through my church, Maynard Avenue United Methodist. We've to live with PRIDE." gone from being a small group just walking in the parade to having glorious, upliftingfloats de­ signed by our very talented and creative Jeffrey Kidwell. We've had a booth in the festival a few Jennica Barajas-Daughter, 18 ^ears. I volunteered to help in any way I could, maybe 5 or 6 years ago, because I saw there was so Jennica has volunteered for 5 years with Run for Pride, Set-Up, Tear Down, and Family Area much to do to put on this amazing festival. I found my "niche" is "Vendor Check-In." It's a lot of work, and getting up pretty early on a Saturday but it's something I do with much Pride because it "The first thing that comes to my mind when I think about freedom would be America. I think way helps the committee (Go Team Jan-Joe!) and any little thing I can do to make the day a success is too often people in this country take advantage of the fact that we have more than many others. well worth any effort. On a side note, I managed a band for 15 years and have been at thousands When it comes to being a lesbian I like the fact that freedom plays a role in that. It makes me of festivals and I was amazed and continue to be amazed at how well this event goes off. It is so happy that I can be who I am and open about my sexuality without fear of censorship or reprisal. well run and that is a huge credit to the fabu people at the helm. Freedom isa beautiful thing!"

I am free to openly love anyone my heart tells me to love. True FREEDOM will come when everyone Wendy Johnston is allowed that same privilege without any restriction or second thought. My first year volunteering was really just a ploy to spend time with my very special lady Miss Kim, and now I do it because I enjoy the people and the celebration.

"Freedom is mine to live and experience every day. I know this because when I get up those who know me will a Iways love and support me."

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CH: For so young in your career, you've worked with some big names like Busta Rhymes, En­ rique Inglesias, and Lil Wayne. Which celeb has been yourfavorite to work with? Who would you like to work with in the future? What differences a re there per­ KD: I have been blessed to have gotten the forming to a GLBT crowd compared opportunity to work with such talented artists. hetero crowd? Than a Latino I can see myself working with anyone who's crowd? fabulous, innovative and risky!! by Chris Hayes KD: For those who haven't seen me yet should KD: When I perform for a GLBT crowd I'm in be prepared for some upbeat energetic my diva mode!! For a hetero crowd I'm very CH: Besides your music, you're also known for This year's headliner is the beautiful and feisty songs. They should be ready to dance. My fab!! And for a Spanish crowd I run the show! your fashion. What's your favorite thing to wear Kat DeLuna. You will know Kat from her debut performances are full of adrenaline and over­ In general it's all very over the top and fun!! when you're not in the spotlight? What's your Gold single, "Whine Up" featuring Elephant all fun! Through music I show my creativity especially favorite thing to do when you aren't performing? Man, and second smash single "Run The when I'm performing! KD: I love to experiment with high-end fash­ Show" featuring Busta Rhymes and Don Omar. CH: Britney's tour just came through town and ion. I love couture dresses and vintage At only 20 years old, she has worked with some she was obviously lip syncing, with so much CH: You have definitely been working the GLBT pieces. It's always fun playing dress up. If I'm of the biggest names in the industry and re­ dancing in your shows can you actually sing party and Pride circuits this year (Dinah not in my glam mood you will see me in cently kicked off the summer on the "True Col­ live? Shore/White Party, Long Beach/San skinny jeans, 6-inch heels and a vintage top ors" tour with Cyndi Lauperand Rosie KD: I'll admit it's hard to dance and sing up­ Fran/Columbus Pride etc)? What's your connec­ or blazer. Chic and cute. O'Donnell. She is one to watch for sure. I caught beat hour sets back to back. No matter what tion to the community? Is there any political up with Kat on the road to find out what we can the situation is I always sing live, there has fallout from doing so many GLBT events? CH: What's next for Kat Deluna? expect from her performance at Pride Holiday, even been times when I've sounded out of KD: No, not at all!! They have been supporting KD: My sophomore album is out later this her connection to the community, her fashion breath and even tired. I trulybelievethe me from the start and I will always remain year, entitled Inside Out I will be touring and sense and what freedom means to her. harder I work at something the better the faithful to them!! 100%! building empires out of broken bricks. Most outcome. I will eventually perfect all perform­ importantly I will be living life to the fullest Chris Hayes: Is this your first timeto Columbus ances. But you need to understand as well, CH: This year's theme for Columbus Pride Holi­ and loving every single aspect of what I do! and or Ohio? we are human and we need our voices to rest day is "freedom." What does freedom mean to Kat D eLuna: It is and I'm excited. especially if we're going to need it to stay you? What's your definition of freedom? Kat DeLuna is the final performer at Pride Fest healthy for a longtime! We're not robots! Lol. KD: Freedom - having a choice. You have a on the Freedom Stage Saturday, June 20 For CH: For thosethat have never seen you perform, chance to stand firm next to what you believe more info on Kat visit www.katdeluna.com. what can they expect? CH: I saw you at the White Party's closing party in! And being who you want to be all the time!

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We're all there to- The race itself has grown from approximately 91 The Stonewall Ballroom Dance Club, a program of gether, living, learning, laughing, enjoying one an- registered participants (only about 80 runners/ Park at the Gayzebo Stage Friday the Center on High, will host an evening of ballroom othei ipany and conversation, etc. It's not ers crossed the finish line) in 2004 to over 170 • and disco dancing at Wallstreet Nightclub on Friday i hat community organizations or groups istered participants, with wer 150 crossing the performing on Fri- June 5. Ballroom instructor Jeff Grace will lead the involved in-it's about well, Unity... and finish in 2008. If s only goingto keep getting to r Jeff Altergott per- dancing from 8p-10p. After lOp dancers will Disco One of the best decisions that we made was to the night away with DJ. Michelle. N^ ' change the location of thaRun from Nationwide /rappers No Shade, Arenato Goodal e Park Thi| change in venue rad 9p, after 9p $5 cover charge. D( i Unity Picnic drew about 50 at- a reegles "The Muss] $2 all evening. Pride Tags will beb, indyear, close to 100! People cally affected the atmosphere of the went giving it more of a warm community and grassroots feel - evening. If you live to dance or just love to watch blbught their spouse, partners, date, parents, fam- which is certainly what Stonewall is all about. Wfe've Saturday, June 20 ballroom and disco Sat. June 5 will be a great way ily, tidkidss anandd friends . If s always a great feeling to, seen an increase in walkers, families, pets and al­ PririP Parade to join in the pre-Pride programs • "ie picnic, take a step back and look at the lies who participate. Somethings, however, hayj ~e Une-up by Not of those who join us for this fantastic mained the same, like the number of return Saturday, Jim s an important day-and it's a perfect op- indf iduals who wil I be participating in theii An Exhibit of Pride A unity for people to learn about one another and for Pride event. They look forward to this event R^ra^lnlfWiflflfrTililFttH Stonewall Columbus has a deep commitment to the to see that the spectrum of identity and sexuality is ry year, as it's their way to come out and support GAYZEBO & FREEDOM STAGE Saturday 1:30p-9p arts. Nestled in the heart of the Short North Arts Dis- infinite and that through our diversity! community, support Stonewall, and support Having 2 stages this yeargj JS the opportunity trict, the center transforms into a gallery and per- all Unite to create change. At the end of emselves in TM itthv vnv. formance space several times a year. June's Short everybody wants the same thing-the ability tu North Gallery Hop is held open every yearto cele- t "1 and be respected for it. brate the works of GLBT artists and allies in a juriei Stonewall Columbus fas firmly planted our feet and u IP shoOIIUTw* ati thme umniiuiiucommunityj UCHLCIcenter. WCOveI r O3U0 anoiartistos ouusub-- i idld in Goodale Park at picnic benches near play- established ourselves as the community center for ta on itted over 90 pieces this yearyear. Michelle Lach, ground from lla-5p. Picnic is open to the entire the LGBT and Allied community in Central Ohio. Not Ca Media Studies Assistant Professor, Columbus Col- GLBTQI and Ally community. Please bring a dish to only does your continued support of the Run for* n lege of Art and Design, and Nicholas Hill, Professor share. Kids are welcome! For more info wwwtran- Pride 5K make for a great addition to the Pride of Art and Director of the Frank Museum of Art, Ot- sohio.org. day list of events, but more importantly, itsupt terbein College will sdectthe pieces that will be ex­ The Stonewall Columbus Center on High. On a itti One fciTrieorf, Steph Taylor hibited the entire month of June. Works can be ForelPride Golf Classic monthly basis, The Center serves hundreds of peo- & | I FarrfluJWeed Eaters, Joshua purchased and 20% of the artists' sales will be do- See you cm the links for the 2nd Annual Fore!PRIDE pie by providing programs, services and special in- Kli. phnsdli Brothers, Nina Vtest & natedto the center. The artists reception is 4p-6p, Golf Classic, a 4-person amateur 18-hole golf terest initiatives (i.e. diversity, health, faith) for our Kat I ncers! and then the gallery opensto the public 6p-10p. The scramble event. Players of all skill levels are encour- community. Vte couldn't do it without all of performing arts are also represented at the shew. agedto play, as this is an event fxused on fun and you.. .so.. .thanks, as always, foryour unwavering » .Upstairs in Studio One starting at 8p will be 15- charity to others within the Columbus community. support. I look forwardto seein g YOU Saturday, June Drag-a-Palooza Tfi [ if** (H* 111 KI •'iiirniiii nil 13, at 9:30a at Goodale Park for the SIXTH Annual Lady 'akeRomance, Zero at theBoneby Lori Sum- friends, or as a foursome. The cost for the event is Run for Pride 5KRunAValk. Alexi s, and Hey Diddle Diddleby Marie Davis. There $8(VPerson (cart and dinner included), $320/Team. www.columbuspride.or^runforpride friends take to the parking lot behind Axis for the s no admission for these events. For more info visit 100% of Proceeds go to Stonewall Columbus GLBT dance party and drag shew. Mrxefalsies ivww.columbusprideorg/artshow. Support Activities. Dinner will be prtwided by 7th Annual Pride Poker Run "" jn you can shake a stick at! Schmidt's and the Hole-in-One Prizes are being pro­ Get on your motor running and head out en f jghtlife.com for more info. Sunday, June 7 vided by Barefoot Wines and Bubbly and Gulf Front highwayforaamazingr torcycleride! This year's 3rd Annual TransOhio Unity Picnic Treasure. There will also be a Silent Auction, Raffle poker run meets at Club Dhcrity (863 S High St Sunday, June 21 The first TransOhio Unity Picnic was held in June of Prizes, and Trophies. Register online. Tee off is lp at 43206) at 11a and bikes leave at 12p. Everyone Pride Brunch: A Salute to Judy Garland 2007. The previous year, Shane Morgan had been in Raymond Memorial Golf Cairse (3860 Trabue Rd). welcome! Tell your friends! Join the fun. share the It has been fortyyears since the Stonewall riots oc- Houston visiting his mom and her partner, both of For more info visit memories. and win great prizes. The ride ends back curred.lt was the night that Judy Garland died. New who were very involved in PFIAG-Houston and any­ www.columbuspride.org/fore n* Club Diversity with a cookout Driver S15 / pas- York was grieving and discouraged by the discrimi- thing that was Transgender related in Texas. The ?nger S10 - al I benefiting Stonewall Columbus. nation that continued to cripple our nation and TransOhio Unity Picnic was inspired by Houston's Saturday, June 13 vain Date June 14. For more info visit www.colum- GLBT people Join in honoring Grand Marshal, Ru­ annual Transgender Unity Banquet This year they Run for Pride 5K Run/Walk uspride.org/pokerrun. pert "Twink'Twink" Starr, JudJu y and the brave men and celebrated the 17th anniversary of their Unity Ban­ by Kelly Jaegar women who started our modern gay rights move­ quet! How cool is that? Friday, June 19 ment Entertainment prtwided bytheRichard Lopez The sixth annual Run for Pride 5K event on Satur­ Pride Festin Goodale Park Trio featurinfeaturing vocalisvocalistt CarolyCarolyn MapesIVtepes.. BruncBrunch iis The Houston "mwement toward unity" began as a day, June 13,9:30a at Goodale Park I feel like it was Rockin' in the Streetsatthe Freedom Stage Fri- lla-lp attheWestin Columbus-Grand Ballroom. visionary dream in the heart of Dr. Peggy Rudd who just yesterday that I was pushingto have the event day 5p-11p Fortickets and info visit realized how much our collective body of talented at all. And, now, here we are coming together for the It's fantastic to be able to have Rockin in the Streets www.columbuspride.org/brunch. people could accomplish if we held our hands and sixth year. ark this year. The ectra space & trees for mewed forward as one. She knew we could realize will be a big plus. The beautiful Lustivious Bat-N-Rouge this dream even if we held tenaciously to our cwn Every year, Stonewall receives a va.. Dela Virgione will emcee this year's amazing lineup! Held at Af ricentric High & (comer of Livingston personalities and life styles. The secret related to yais for hosting sucha health-centrL Vte have everyone's favorite Melissa Ferrick, plus and Grant) the 2009 Bat-N-ftouge charity drag soft­ human respect for others who did not share the ~ vd, with several of our re ware very excited to have Trina Hamlin's Bard. ball fundraiser is the closing event for Pride and a same needs;' as noted on the Houston Transom est cheerleaders bem which includes Allison Miller (AniDiFranco's drum- damn good time. Cone ait and watch as the Mono- K™ fiinViViVi''" * Hied friends. I remember the year when a yc 1 & Gail Ann Dorsey (Gwen Stefani & Da/id stats take on the as the current National child crossed the finish line as the first place fin- e's bass player & back up vocalist). OthertaJ- Entertainer of thf umbus' own, Nina West ncludes Coyote Grace (a girl meets girl; girt be- (www.superdragqi I) and Columbus favorite ate unity wrthm communities regardless was on a tough journey to getting healthy simply mes boy; girl and boy become a band band) ^k Virginigimaa vvesWesit uu-iwsco-hLc iueCLGSAand BNR Commit- of sexual orientation or gender identity and expres- completed the race. While she may have been the innovative Steph Taylor & The State Of from Flonda *QeQ ar *em alsolcon prounmi|Hd t**«**'*'»»"o welcome» speciap-wioi«l gues. .OHt- emam-. sion. The TransOhio Unity Picnic draws people from lastto cross the finish.. .she accomplished herfirsa Aussie/Burbank indie artist Martine Locke, & ies. Derek & Romaine from Sirius/XM OutQ. Gates throughout the state of Ohio, including some atten- 5K while everyone cheered her on and joined her at 1 Columbus/Louisvilllumbus/Louisville singer Chrissy Foster. 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The crowd score in which Thornton croons like a young loved it, and I went home knowing it was a John Hiatt and a post- Smiths Morrissey, is a real turning point in my life. rites-of-passage tale, which is bold and racy, speaking loudly -/^Hfe ^ OC: And your experience about sexuality and reli- v \ with Waves on Waves gion. Sex, Dreams, & „,; -\ :~ K . informed the musical Self Control! might aspect of the show, prove a challenge we're assuming. for some audi­ KT: Waves on ences, but, ulti­ Wave is a pop mately, group, and I Thornton says definitely kept his goal is "to in mind that make people pop-rock feel laugh, make when I was them think, and writing the movethemallat music for the the same time." show. But ulti­ Te No Below, Thornton mately, I created talks in deiail about music that expresses the shows genesis < theemotional vibe of the In the heart of the Short North provocative themes. show. I was really turned on by 689 N High St, Columbus, OH 43215 I Duncan Sheik's music for Spring Awak­ 614 233 6666 outlook: So, the gay community already ening - it was one of my favorite theater expe­ knows you as the creative force behind the riences of the past several years - and I loved band Waves on Waves. We know Sex, how the music wasn't so much advancing Dreams, & Se/Wo/rfro/incorporates musi­ the plot it was expressing the emotional tone Diversity cal performance, but you're also able to of what was happening. matters--* use your past experience on the stage in Ttm Diversity Exchange: A Community-based initiative helping you prepare for this show. OC: How does it feel, revealing some veiy America's changing demographics Kevin Thornton: Yes, I have a huge back­ perso nal things about yourself? Friday, June 5, 2009:8:30 to 10:30 am ground in theater. If s what I studied in col­ KT: Well, it's personal, but I also tell stories lege. I've also been in several regional about things that everyone faces. I tried to Attend the Greater Columbus Arts Festival after the breakfast program productions. I've always fantasized about make it as universal as possible even though doing something like this. it's loosely based on my life. It was important Keep Your Talented Workforce: to me that the story be painfully honest. But I Mentoring & Other Workforce OC: How did you develop the actual content also wanted it to be funny. My first sexual ex­ Diversity-Retention Strategies of the show? perience was the first time I felt shame, but KT: I got out of Nashville for a couple of days in the show, it's both embarrassing and hilar­ and went back to Indiana to visit my parents. ious. To me, the ultimate triumph in life is to Location: Milo Arts Studios, 617 East Third Avenue Columbus, Ohio http:/torww.miloarts.com/ I was feeling very nostalgic and drove around be able toembrac e what's happened toyo u Conveniently located in downtown Columbus, this haven for to childhood spots that I hadn't seen in years, and move on. That's what I'm trying to con­ artists Is housed in a spectacular historic building. including the house where I lived as a child. It vey. looked like a haunted house, like it hadn't Exchange strategies and experiences: A must-attend for anyone Interested In proven diversity- related strategies for diverse workforce retention and talent acquisition. Community and business leaders been lived in for 20 years. All these memories OC: We know the subject matter is intense, wll speak to the process and benefits of developing Internal talent through mentoring, professional starting coming tomind . I also went to visit and there's also some strong language. coaching programs, affinity groups and other strategies. Leam how to attract and Iceep the best and my old college campus. That was a time Have your parents seen it? I'm won dering brightest employees while building a community reflective of today's diverse world. when a lot of pain was ending for me. I had whattheirreactionwillbe. grown up in a Fundamentalist Christian envi­ KT: They've been on the website and listened Business & Community Leaders; • Jennifer 3. Gardner. SPHR, Hrm Director, Talent/Human Resources at Detoftte & Touche ronment, and it wasn't until college that I to some clips of the show. My mom's only • Nelson Hewitt. Equal Opportunity Special Investigator City of Columbus, Community Relations started to accept my sexuality. concern is that I don't perform the show Commission naked. My mom is actually the hero of the • Denlse Jenkins. Sr. Workforce Development Coordinator at Nationwide ChWrens Hospital OC: So, the memories led you to create the show- she's the most touching part. I know • Fred Wills. Senior Diversity & Inclusion Coordinator, Organizational Development a Human Resources at Nationwide Chlldrens Hospital show? that when she's in the audience, it will be KT: Yeah. I came back to Nashville, and my tough to get through. REGISTRATION REQUIRED. Register early: $35 each or $30 for two or more who register at the mind was on fire. I wrote a 10-page short same time. Induce your name, title, company name, e-address, phone number and any special dietary story - it had kind of a David Sedaris vibe. I SD&SC is playing at the Cinei Fringe FestivalMay26- needs. Check payable: Diversity Matters LLC. Mail to: Ron Kohr, 503 Brookside Drive, Columbus, Ohio thought it was pretty funny, so I read it at an June6,2009 at Coffee Emporium, 110East Central 43209. Request an invoice if necessary. 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MZ/fSCREENWRITER TO DIRECT HAVE A7f/?CK0N THE GAY NURSE NEESON AND CONNELLY Another new hospital d rama ? Why not? Espe­ When young, gay writer Dustin Lance Black cially since it's set to star Michelle Trachten- snagged a Best Original Screenplay Oscar this berg of Buffyaud Gossip G/r/fame. (And for yearfor Milk, it was pretty much inevitable the record, Romeo knew she'd grow up to be that he would find himself uttering that most awesomewhenshewason The Adventures of Hollywood of sentences: "What I really want to Pete & Pete.) The show's called Mercy, and do is direct." And so, like many career-hot the pilot is due to start shooting a ny second ; scribes before him, Black is ascendingto the now forfall pickup consideration. Obviously, director's chair of a big studio film with because it's just a pilot, ysu may never see it What's Wrong with Virginia. (It's not his virgin or hear about it again besides an "Oh, yeah, outing as a filmmaker; he's helmed a few the network passed on it" notice in Variety. But ind ie flicks already.) Liam Neeson and Jennifer if it winds up on the fall schedule then be on Connelly are both attachedto sta r in the the lookout for cool, queer, indie film guy drama, about which little has been revealed so Guillermo Diaz {Party Girl} in an ongoing role fan presumably, it won't get rolling until after as a gay nurse. Fingers crossed that this is a Black reunites with MA director Gus Van Sant good one; now that Gedde Watanabe can't on The Electric Kool-Aid Acid Test. Virginian represent on the departing £/?., somebody has still in pre-production, so it probably won't pop to pick up the slack. up in theaters until 2010 at the very earliest. WHAT'S AMY SEDARIS DOING? FRY AND ALLEN MIX AUSTEN AND THE OFFICE That's a question Romeo finds himself asking from time to time, because new entertainment There was a time when theater directors product from the delightfully strange switched up Hamlet in every way possible, Strangers With Candy\ady is always a wel­ staging the Danish prince's tragedy in the Old come arrival on the pop-culture radar. Coming West or on the moon or in the mafia. Now it soonest (most likely) is Jennifer's Body, the seems to be Pride and Prejudices turn, what feminist horror film from writer Diablo Cody with the self-descriptive new novel Pride and and director Karyn Kusama, whose lesbian Prejudice and Zombies and now the upcoming cred would be well established with movies British mom Jane Austen Handheld. Gay actor like Girlfight and Aeon /to even if she hadn't Stephen Fry plays Mr. Bennet and pop sensa­ also helmed an episode of TheL Word. 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Next stop, the (or the cranky lunch line lady, or whoever tle Respect" went Larry Tee is probably gratefulto Erasur e and Pet Shop Boys for /WeBroadway musical and wacky Japanese Sedaris plays) we'll be buying a ticket to see. a long way in es­ paving the way for him to indulge in his dance music diversions. videogame. tablishing Era­ The proud papa of electro, Tee unleashes a torrent of blistering sure's credibility. beats on his latest album ClubBaddWta). Far smuttierthan any­ Romeo San Vicente went to an all-boy boarding schoolandfovedewry minute ofit. Hecan be reached care of this publi­ The tradition con­ thing ever let loose by Erasure or PSB, songs such as "Let's Make cation oratDeeplnsidefally\[email protected]. tinued with such Nasty," "Ucty (Work It Out)," "Get Your Grind On," "Clap That Ass," fierce numbers as "My Penis," and its companion, "My Pussy," will make your ears ,;\Y x< "Stop!," bum and ring simultaneously. 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You can satisfy all of yourdancing Boys were at the forefront of electronic dance music, gay or formance and a visual component, a live CD spanning 20 years needs with the cuts "Kissie Show," "Wolfgang Bang," and the straight Teamed up with hetero Vince Clarke (of Depeche Mode and a DVD of BBC TV appearances round out the package. judgmental bravado of the bonus track "I'm So LA" and Yaz renown), the flaming and fabulous Andy Bell, with a set of pipes to rival Clarke's former musical partner Alison Mo^et You can dance to the Pet Shop Boys' new album tes(Astralw- Hats off to Jason Antone who deserves to be crowned the new leaped into our lives as Erasure and we simply couldn't imagine erks), but you might have to work at it. Bouncy opener "Love gay disco god. The guy can sing, which works in his favor, and a world without them. 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"Did You World" through moving originals including the title tune, "Ooh A majority of the 41 tracks on thefirst two discs of studio record­ See Me Coming?" is reminiscent of Very-era PSB, while "More Ooh Ooh," "Function," "Feelin' You," and "How's Anybody Gonna ings speak well for Erasure's considerable contributions to the Than A Dream" dabbles in futuristic electro. "King of Rome" and Love You Like That." Beware of "More Than Friends" on which genre. Early hits such as "Oh, L'Amour," "Sometimes," "It "Legacy" are two more low-key, albeit dramatic, numbers. "Pan­ Antone sounds like he's doing a Barry Manilow impersonation. demonium" almost lives up to its name and the equally rhythmic

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Sis­ The Columbus Gay Men's Chorus (CGMC) pre­ Law School in downtown Columbus the weekend bribes, toilets, clean-up on isle 4, and other un­ ter James isa nun of the Sisters of Charity who is of August 14-16. Over twenty-five workshops and mentionables. Contribute and you'll get listed on sented its ForteAwardto local artist, educator and sunny but reserved. Mrs. Muller is an African activist, James Arter, at its annual fundraiser, presentations are scheduled for focus tracks that over 2,000 posters & fliers, nearly 1,000 T-Shirts American woman, worldly-wise, 38ish and con­ include: Health & Safety Legal & Employment; and the web-site (now with over 55,000 hits!), Forte, on May 16. Arter, Associate Artist at the cerned for the ultimate well-being of her son. Au­ Greater Columbus Arts Council, has had a deep Partners, Spouses and Family; Religion and Spiri­ and who knows where else. Those who have ditions will bereadingfrom the script. 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For Benji Michalek is currently looking for someone scope Youth Center representative; John Moore, standing collaboration during the successful those artists who would like to exhibit art respon- smart, ping and outto si t with him in a base­ Treasurer, Deaf Services Center Executive Director campaign for a domestic partner registry in Cleve­ siveto these themes, please send an expression of ment and interview people for the whole world to and representative; Joe Keehner, Jr., Board Liaison land. Community Shares will recognize the work of interest tO;CoJumbustheaossroadsofohio@earth- hear! The show covers research on the gay com­ and Central Ohio Green Education Fund represen­ Sue Doerfer, George Forbes, and Stanley Miller anrj link.net by 5p on July 31. 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I have a problem with my happiness; he is a wonderful man who has a beauty that over­ whelms me; we have a beautiful home; I am monogamous for the first time in a decade. But I just learned that I am the spitting image of a man who is in jail for raping my boyfriend.

He says he is not in a place to dig up his emotions about the subject and wants to hold off on sex - fine by me. I admire him and his courage to be with me despite my appearance. I still love him, but I feel like there is something I could do to help him, to user and having an alternate sexual orienta­ help us. So I guess I am asking for sugges­ tion in the sense that both users and gays tions. are constantly confronting judgmental op­ position from an ill-informed and puritanical Asking Not Begging American public. I wonder whether you have any thoughts on this matter. Do you believe First suggestion: Verify his story. that drug users are deserving of the same kind of empowerment and liberation as If you have a stunt double out thererotting i n H„A gays, or do you view drug use as a "dis­ jail somewhere for raping your Wonder ease" that needs to be "cured" the same Boyfriend, ANB, then there are police reports way that the Carrie Prejeans of the world and trial transcripts and a mug shot that believe gays need to be "cured?" looks just like you. Go find'em. I realize that one significant difference be­ I'm an asshole, of course, for casting doubt on tween heroin use and sexual tastes is that your beautiful boyfriend's dramatic explana­ heroin use is illegal, but of course gay rela­ tion for why his wonderfulness cant have sex tionships were illegal until relatively re­ with you right now - or ever, potentially, since cently. Am I just rationalizing? Or could drug he's "not in a place to dig up his emotions" use be the next civil-rights frontier? and wants to "hold off" on sex. But cast I must, ANB, because one of two things is going today, DRUGS, you'd no longer be a drug user. birth control out there. There's the Depo- Dude Requests Understanding Gay Sensibil­ If I stopped inhaling my boyfriend's Provera shot, the patch, the implant, the ring on. Either your boyfriend is making this rape ity story up or he failed to share hugely pertinent pheromones - and cock - today, DRUGS, I'd (which is very low dose and which many still be a big homo. Because gay is like Cats women prefer to the pill), lUDs (both with info with you before moving in. Whichever it is, Uh... gee. and without hormones), and cervical caps ANB, your boyfriend is at fault ("now and forever"), while heroin is like Twitter (fun at first, sure, but you'll regret it one day). that can be used with spermicide. Also, I don't believe that all drug use is abuse, and I See the difference? there are many kinds of pills (from low to Why would he make it up? Well, it could be believe that recreational drugs can be used re­ high dose, mini-pills, various hormone com­ that he's not attracted to you, ANB, and ma­ sponsibly. And I believe a person should be bos, etc.), and PILL should talk to a profes­ nipulating you with a victim story allows him But, yeah, the freedom to use drugs can cer­ able to use a drug regularly without being la­ tainly be viewed as a civil-rights issue: It's sional about which pills she was on and the to reap the rewards of being with you while specific things she didn't like about them. beled - by himself, by others, by court order - about the rightto contro l what you do with earning him a "Get Out of Fucking You Free" an "addict." I also wish that more people were card. your own body, and that argument resonates open about their drug use - but, in the hypo­ with others advanced by gay-rights advocates Some are much more effective than others, critical fashion of most Americans, only when and advocates of reproductive choice. But dif­ there are serious cost barriers to some of If the story checks out- if you find that mug we're talking about drugs that I like and have shot-then your boyfriend has my sympathies. ferent drugs carry different risks - risks of these if they're not covered by insurance, used myself, e.g., caffeine, sugar, pot and my harm, risks of overdose,risks of death - and, and there can be side effects to any sort of But if he wasn't ready to resume his romantic boyfriend's pheromones. and sexual life, ANB, he had no right to be out legal or not heroin is a highly dangerous drug. hormonal birth control, but it's good to be there dating anyone, least of all a man who It's a drug that's made more dangerous by its aware that they exist. Recreational heroin? Heroin seems kind of ex­ prohibition, sure, but it's dangerous even looks exactly like his rapist. When we date, treme, DRUGS, as recreational drugs go. I've ANB, we're telling people that we're in a place when it's pure. But I think you have a right to I also had awful experiences with hormonal known a few people who've self-medicated use it, if you want to use it, and that you pills, and it took years until I finally got a where we're ready for love,romance, an d sex. with heroin and functioned well enough to get If we're not, we have no business dating any­ should have access to safe, medical-grade great doctor who took the time to explain all by-just- and I think that all drugs should be heroin and clean needles. But I don'tthink you my options - and there are so many! I now one seriously. Period. At the very least, the legal, your drug of choice included. We need to have a nonhormonal IUD; it is fantastic, and I onus was on him to disclose this information - should use it, not when there are other, better, end the war on drugs, a failure and a waste of safer drugs available. am grateful for my doctor's advice. There's his rape, your resemblance to his rapist - be­ money and lives. And the quickest way to end a great "birth control effectiveness chart" fore moving in, not after. it is for successful drug users - people like you, Like my boyfriend's pheromones. at Planned Parenthood's website me, Michael Phelps, and the president of the (www.plannedparenthood.org). And finally: If you're not having sex with your United States of America - to be open about boyfriend, or anyone else, and there's no sex in I like that you told PILL, the teenage girl who our past, present, and future drug use. But I didn't like the pill and whose boyfriend Been There, DoneThat your foreseeable future, ANB, that's not don't think "drug user" is an identity that's re­ monogamy-that's celibacy. "doesn't like" condoms, to "enjoy outer- ally comparable to sexual orientation. Using course, oral, masturbation, and sex toys - Thanks for sharing, BTDT. drugs is something you do, DRUGS, it's not and tell your boyfriend that these aren't con­ I am a high-functioning regular heroin user somethingyoua/e. (not quite an addict), and I feel constantly solation prizes for teenagers, but honest-to- DownloadWe Savage Louecast (my weekly podcast) every God sex acts that adults enjoy" But I wish Tuesday at www.thestranger.com/savage OR www.outtook- compelled to hide my drug use. I feel that Look at it this way: If you stopped doing drugs columbus.com. [email protected]. there are similarities between being a drug that you had mentioned all the other kinds of

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