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PAIGE CORNWELL says Sheila is the most interesting person The Seattle Times‌ he has ever known, with a laugh you can ‌SEATTLE — When the COVID-19 pan- hear across the room. demic forced the nation into lockdown, “These memories lift us beyond our im- long-term care facilities were chained mediate circumstances and concerns,” he the tightest. Residents of Washington’s says. “And make us grateful again for our nursing homes, assisted-living wings and long journey together.” memory-care units were limited to their Sheila has to remain in the facility until rooms. No touching, no walks, no con- she can bear weight on her ankle. Once she nections. can, Don says, “I’ll get to have her back.” Meanwhile, their loved were on the out- “Bye, sweetie,” he says to his wife side, speaking through phone calls, drop- through the window. “I love you. I’ll look ping off care packages and waving from forward to seeing you this evening.” parking lots. Those rules are loosening, Update: Sheila has moved back to the but with strict limits; even hand-holding couple’s unit in independent living. “We still isn’t allowed. are glad to be together again,” Don said. These restrictions had a specific im- pact on couples with one spouse living Pan and Bob Smith in a facility and the other someplace else. Married for 45 years. They’ve spent most of their lives together, Pan: Lives in an Edmonds, Washing- and their initial separation was supposed ALAN BERNER, THE SEATTLE TIMES VIA TRIBUNE NEWS SERVICE‌ ton, adult family home. to be the hardest part. They reassured Don Belcher taps the window and says goodbye for this visit with his wife Sheila. Visitors are Bob: Lives in their Edmonds house. themselves there were still visits, outdoor not currently allowed inside CRISTA Rehab so he’s taped images to the window. Last winter, Pan Smith had no issues excursions, even vacations. They could with walking or talking. She might get lost, still be with their partner, their sweet- Taped against them and facing inward “Did you get the apples?” or what she said sometimes didn’t make a heart, their beloved. are photos from their life. Every three Before his morning visits he makes a whole lot of sense, but given that she was Until lockdown. or four days he rotates the photos: their list of emails, messages and cards he’s re- diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, her family Over three months, The Seattle Times adult children with their families; their ceived, news events, and evening TV op- felt fortunate. followed the experiences of couples sepa- son when he was 3 giving his mother a tions he wants to tell her about. Tonight, She recognized visitors, and she had a rated because of COVID-19-related lock- flower; their first grandchild and his fian- they’re planning on watching a mystery. lot of them coming in and out every day, downs at senior facilities. These are the cée, beaming with joy; a scene from their He’ll bring over items and food she’s re- until lockdown. Within two months of not stories of who they are, how they coped 60th anniversary luncheon. quested, like sliced apples to sit on her tray. seeing her husband and children, Pan, who and where they are now. Had Sheila, 84, not fallen and fractured He comments on her yellow cardigan; she is 71, was bedridden, unable to eat or sit an ankle bone, the couple would be to- says that she’s bored in there without him. up on her own. Don and Sheila Belcher gether at their apartment in Cristwood “He comes twice a day, whether I like it Her husband of 45 years, Bob Smith, Married for 60 years. Park, a few minutes’ walk from the rehab or not,” she jokes as they talk on the phone. watched his wife’s decline through Face- Don: Lives in CRISTA independent center on the CRISTA campus. She be- Their conversations surround their Time. senior living. gan her recuperation at CRISTA in early memories together. They met in Phila- “Here my wife is sick with this scary Sheila: Temporarily living at CRISTA March, just as lockdown began. delphia, where she was studying medieval disease, and I can’t hold her hand, I can’t Rehabilitation Center. More than 60 years into their marriage, history and he was in medical school. For be with her,” said Bob, 71, who lives in the On the window of his wife’s room at Sheila and Don Belcher were separated at 10 years they taught in Ghana and Ethio- couple’s home in Edmonds. “It was kill- CRISTA Rehabilitation Center in Shore- length. Twice a day, every day, Don, 86, pia, where Sheila gave birth to one of their ing me.” line, Washington, Don Belcher taped a walks around the corner from the build- children in a bedroom. Pan Smith — her nickname is “Pan,” cardboard display he hoped would give ing’s entrance, through a thicket of flow- They moved to Seattle permanently in though she wouldn’t correct someone Sheila Belcher a boost for the day. Facing ers, to the window, where Sheila is waiting. the 1970s. Sheila enjoyed meeting inter- if they called her “Pam” — moved to a outward are images of spinach and tarte She picks up a call on the room’s landline national students at Seattle colleges; in memory care facility last December, as flambee pizza, giving away that the dis- and hears her husband’s voice. total, their family hosted 100 students her dementia worsened to the point she plays were once pizza boxes. “How are you doing, sweetie?” he asks. from other countries over the years. Don wasn’t safe in their home. The first month PRIME OCTOBER 2020 | 3 was great, Bob says. She had visits from Jim: Lives in adult family home. and know he is well and reassure him Yao, 77, used to visit her husband at family members, friends and members of It has been five months since Diane Le- that I am well, too,” she said. One of her Aegis Gardens in Newcastle daily, though their church, where she worked as a recep- wan last saw the man she has been mar- daughters visits a few nights a week and the frequency dwindled starting in No- tionist and was known as the “jelly bean ried to for 44 years this month. It has been helps around the house. vember, when she received her cancer di- lady” because she gave out candy. about that same amount of time since Diane goes grocery shopping, wear- agnosis. But Cheng would occasionally After the facility closed its doors to visi- they’ve had a conversation. ing a mask, of course. But she misses her come back to their house in Renton. His tors, Bob and Pan would check in using an They live close to each other. Diane, husband. Maybe, she, thinks, it’s actually last trip home was in mid-February, be- iPad, though she didn’t always understand 90, lives in their Federal Way house; Jim more difficult for her than it is for him. fore Aegis shut its doors in the pandemic. how to use it. Then residents started re- Lewan, 85, lives in a nearby adult fam- “I really just miss his company and his Cheng has lived at the Newcastle fa- porting COVID-19 symptoms, and nurses ily home. But their phone conversations sense of humor,” she said. “It’s so sad cility for about two years. He seems to were too busy to help Pan with the iPad. haven’t gone well because Jim can’t really that he is such a good fellow and that this recognize his loved ones, and his long- She didn’t understand why she didn’t have speak. Seeing each other in person, sepa- would happen to him. To have this happen term memory is fairly strong. He and Yao visits; Bob worried that she or the other rated by space and a pandemic lockdown, doesn’t seem fair.” were introduced by a family member in residents might think they were being held would be too much for Diane to handle. “Goodness knows” when Diane will see Taiwan. They lived in Topeka, Kansas, hostage. “To see each other and not be able to Jim again. She just hopes her husband re- where Cheng was a urologist, but they “With Alzheimer’s, time is a sacred communicate, and all I could do was members her. always wanted to retire in the Seattle area commodity, and the weeks, hours, months wave, to me that would be too emotional,” Update: Diane Lewan visited Jim in to be closer to Yao’s extended family. They are just very sacred,” said their daughter she said. “To see him and not really visit early September, on their 44th wed- moved here in 2014. Molly (Smith) Machado. “I have no doubt him.” ding anniversary. During their outdoor, The couple connected through Face- that our absence dramatically impacted Unable to use his legs because of a socially distant meeting, she recounted Time calls during the lockdown; Cheng her. It was my clear my mom was going stroke, Jim spends most of his time in a their honeymoon in Westport and their would often ask if someone could take through trauma and was afraid and scared wheelchair or bed. His speech is limited night at a local tavern, though he couldn’t him home or if they could go out to eat. In and alone.” to a few words, so pre-pandemic visits recall it. When she said goodbye, she July, they got to see each other with Aegis’ Around the same time as the facility’s consisted of sitting together and watch- pretended to throw him a kiss, and he “outdoor living room,” a 7-foot plexiglass outbreak, Pan was hospitalized for non- ing television. Jim would look at the smacked his lips back at her. “He looks dividing wall on three sides that allows virus-related health issues. During the screen and say “wow.” He was diagnosed well and is being taken care of, so I’m at residents to meet with visitors outside. third hospital visit, she tested positive with Alzheimer’s, but he could usually least content about that,” she said. Aegis has used the model at several of its for COVID-19, though it didn’t affect her recognize his wife. facilities in the region. lungs in the ways it has for other seniors. On March 13 — Diane knows the exact Cheng and Yao Hsu One nice part about the outdoor liv- It caused her dementia to worsen. When date — she went to see him and was told Married for 52 years ing area was its proximity to the parking she was released, doctors told the family she couldn’t. There was a restriction, and Cheng: Lives in Aegis Gardens in lot, so Yao didn’t have to walk a long way, that she would need hospice care. she wouldn’t be able to see her husband Newcastle, Washington. Mike said. There was a spot for her to plug Because she’s considered to be in an until the pandemic settled. Goodness Yao: Lives in Renton house. in her portable oxygen tank. Each side had end-of-life situation, Bob was able to knows when that is going to be, she said. Not much was said during the first a table with a vase of pink orchids. visit her, first at the memory care facility The two first met at what was essen- outdoor visit between Cheng and Yao Cheng called Yao and Mike by name, and then when they moved her to an adult tially a blind date at a dinner. Diane had Hsu, who have been married for 52 years and they talked here and there during family home with five other residents. He an extra ticket to the dinner hosted by and unable to see each other since mid- their 30 minutes with each other. But for talks to her, holds her hand, feeds her, Washington Mutual, where she worked, February. the couple, the conversation wasn’t the which takes about an hour. He plays a re- and her manager suggested she take his Cheng, 79, has advanced dementia. Yao most important part, Mike said. cording of her singing when she was 16 friend. They met at the event, and “things has stage IV cancer. Both have trouble “A lot of it is just sitting there,” he said, that their son digitized from a reel. Her seemed to click.” But she didn’t hear back talking. But when Cheng did speak, he “and being together.” eyebrows raise when she hears her voice. from him, so she called him herself. That’s talked about how nice his wife looked, Update: Yao Hsu died Sept. 7 sur- She seems to recognize him, the man she how it started. They enjoyed each other even with a mask. rounded by her sisters, children and met through friends in the Bay Area and and had a lot of fun. “It was tough emotionally,” said their grandchildren. Cheng Hsu told his wife he married in 1975. Diane was divorced with four daugh- son, Mike Hsu. “Mom started crying and loved her through FaceTime. On Thurs- “She knows who I am, because she ters, and Jim had never been married. She there’s not a lot of words, but it was a very day, he was able to visit her one last time, doesn’t get as excited to see me as she does basically proposed to him, she said with special moment.” at the funeral home. when she sees one of the kids,” he said. “I a laugh. don’t know if maybe she thinks I’m the one After he retired from Boeing, the couple who locked her in.” filled their time with going out to lunch He’s not sure if the lockdown made her every Saturday and going on cruises. They decline faster. 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CAMPAIGNPAM KRAGEN The San Diego Union-Tribune n the ﬁ rst two years of Pat Anderson’s philanthropic mission, she knitted and shipped about 200 pairs of “Busters,” which are pairs of breast-shaped bra inserts for breast cancer survivors like herself who have had mastec- Itomies. Then a September 2018 article in suggested donations for shipping. But The San Diego Union-Tribune spread from the beginning, recipients began to the word on the 87-year-old Escondido, pay it forward. Busters-wearers — who California, resident’s home-spun project Anderson calls the Sisterhood of the Boo- and interest in her fashion accessories ex- bless Wonders — often enclose generous ploded. In the two years since, Anderson’s checks with their thank-you notes. Last part-time hobby has turned into a full-time year, the donations exceeded Anderson’s unpaid job that she said keeps her busy from expenses by $4,000. She donates the ex- 7 a.m. to 11 p.m. seven days a week. cess donations each year to Sharp Memo- Anderson, who turned 88 on Sept. 12, has rial Hospital. shipped more than 1,000 pairs of Busters “My recipients are extremely generous,” to women as far west as Hawaii and as far she said on Aug. 27. “It’s not unusual to get east as Georgia. To keep up with orders, a check for $100. They like Busters and Anderson brought on two volunteers last they want to make sure other people get year. Jan Rillie of Cardi , California, them, too.” and Pat Moller of Escondido are both Many of the Busters customers are experienced knitters and breast cancer referred by Sue Robinson, oncology survivors. patient navigator at Sharp Health’s When Anderson initially Laurel Amtower Cancer Institute launched the project in January in Kearny Mesa, California. A 2017, she committed to un- breast cancer survivor her- Pat Anderson derwriting all of the cost self, Robinson said the has shipped more than 1,000 of the yarn and pack- Busters are softer, pairs of “Busters,” breast-shaped bra aging herself and more comfort- inserts for breast cancer survivors like simply able and herself who have had mastectomies, to women as far west as Hawaii and as far east as Georgia. DREAMSTIME VIA TRIBUNE NEWS SERVICE PRIME OCTOBER 2020 | 5

more adjustable than prosthetics for keeps detailed and constantly updated post-surgical mastectomy and pre- spreadsheets. As of Aug. 28, her re- surgical breast reconstruction pa- cords show she had given away 1,054 tients. pairs of Busters, not including the “It’s been wonderful to have this many pairs she initially made in 2017 for our patients, especially patients to test out her pattern with fellow who are not going to reconstruct af- breast cancer survivors. ter mastectomies,” Robinson said. In the event of an emergency, “This surgery, for a lot of women, illness or death, Anderson said she is life-changing and it’s when their has gone through the spreadsheets cancer becomes real. The person and procedures for Rillie to carry on they look at in the mirror is not who the Busters project in her absence. they’ve looked at for all the years up But Anderson said she has no plans to that point. What Pat provides is to retire. an outreach of compassion for these “Absolutely not. I retired to do women whose breast identity has this,” she said. “It’s as exciting and changed forever.” fresh for me and the others as when Anderson lost her breasts to cancer at we first started.” the age of 74. During her recovery she was Robinson with Sharp Health said she’s given a pair of silicone prosthetic forms to grateful that Anderson has created a leg- wear inside her bra that she found heavy, acy plan for Busters because they’re so ill-fitting and uncomfortable. At first she important to the survivors who use them. experimented with rolled-up socks and “One thing I love about Pat is her vi- bath scrubbers in her bra, but nothing felt vaciousness and positivity and passion right. So for many years she wore nothing. for what she does,” Robinson said. “To Then in 2014, she learned about Knit- help other breast cancer patients going ted Knockers, an organization that works through a mastectomy, I think it’s beau- with knitters nationwide to make knit- tiful.” ted bra inserts. She knitted 135 pairs with that organization, then decided to create To order a set of Busters, pa- a solo project with her own pattern that tients can e-mail Anderson (thebuster- she felt was a more natural breast shape. [email protected]) with their preferred She calls the Busters project the capstone bra cup size, favorite yarn colors and Ahead with U of her 50-year career as a fiber designer mailing address. She aims to ship orders an s and craftswoman. within a few days. Because demand for Pl Anderson started knitting as a girl, Busters seems to come in waves, she and making socks for injured soldiers in World her volunteers are constantly knitting to Ease the burden on your War II. As an adult, she taught college- keep an inventory on-hand. Right now level textile design at a private studio and they have about 100 spare pairs in a va- loved ones by pre-planning. later ran a business selling her hand-wo- riety of sizes. ven pillows, jackets and table linens. Anderson said it’s important for her to Secure today’s prices for future Widowed in 2010, Anderson lived for personalize the gift of Busters as much services and ensure that your wishes eight more years at their Escondido ranch as possible so it’s a positive addition to will be fulfilled. until her son and caregiver died in early women’s wardrobes rather than an un- 2018. Since then, she has lived at the Red- wanted reminder of what they’ve lost. wood Terrace retirement community in To make the shipments special, Busters Escondido, which has been in lockdown are wrapped in cellophane gift bags and since the pandemic began. Fortunately, colorful shipping envelopes and delivered Redwood has its own postal service, so with a hand-signed note authenticating she can ship orders without ever leaving each set as a hand-crafted original. the property. “A mastectomy is a very personal and Robert A. Filburn III Initially, Anderson gave away her Bust- private thing and a lot of women need to Licensed Funeral Director ers to mastectomy patients she found take their time to think about whether through the patient navigator in the on- they’re ready to take the next step to a 501 N. Baltimore Avenue | Mt Holly Springs cology department at Sharp Memorial. prosthetic. Being handed a prosthetic 717-486-3433 | ROBERT A. FILBURN, III, SUpERvISOR But as word has spread through news ar- can be upsetting and intrusive for a lot ticles and the Sisterhood network, she has of women, so they have to ask for Bust- received orders from all over. About half ers,” she said. “I’m not out to be the boob Call Rob today to set up an of all orders come from repeat custom- queen of the world, but I want to make appointment ers. Busters are made from lightweight sure that as many women as possible have 717-486-3433 synthetic yarn and filled with removable the opportunity to ask for a pair.” www.hollingerfuneral.com microfiber cushions. To keep track of the project, Anderson 6 | OCTOBER 2020 PRIME

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GREEN SHOOT MEDIA ost of our grandmothers had ADOBE STOCK VIA GREEN a cross-stitched sampler SHOOT MEDIA somewhere on their walls. Colorful threaded Xs marching across fabric to Mcreate a homey saying or scene are com- mon. Modern cross stitch, however, often combines this older art with a more snarky attitude. Cross-stitch Fabric Most cross-stitch is done on a fabric called aida, which is sized based on is an old craft the number of squares to the inch. For your fi rst cross-stitch, consider getting an aida with larger squares (fewer to the inch) so you keep your sanity and your with a eyesight. Cross-stitching can also be done on linen or evenweave, but those squares tend to be smaller. Aida is sti and all of these fabrics tend to fray, so bind the edges of a cut piece with mask- new ing tape or sew it with a zig zag stitch or serger. Thread Think of this as the paint for your can- attitude vas. You won’t be using regular sewing thread, though. You’ll use a type of thread called fl oss. Floss comes in skeins in every color of the rainbow. Each skein is a coil of fl oss that consists of six strands. eye). Your pattern can tell you what size Depending on your cross-stitch pattern, needle to use, but it usually corresponds you’ll use all six strands at once or split to the size of the fabric. More squares it into fewer strands. per inch means a tinier needle to make those squares. Tapestry needles with Chart or pattern their blunt points may be more friendly Call for an appointment! This is the map you’ll use when you’re to the beginner. stitching. It tells you what kind of stitch to use and which color. Each color will Get started have a symbol or, well, a color, assigned Start stitching from the center of your to it on the pattern. There should be a fabric. Before you put it in the hoop, fold legend to help you out. Each square on it in half one way and then the other way, the pattern represents a single cross pinching and creasing at the center. stitch. When you unfold the fabric, place a pin Hoops or frames in the center and put it in the middle of Before you start working, you’ll stretch the hoop or frame. Cross stitch is usu- the fabric into a hoop or frame, depend- ally worked from left to right and usually ing on whichever is easiest to hold. Plas- doesn’t include knots. tic hoops are more expensive than the Find the color you need to start and bamboo hoops you see in stores, but they the number of strands, then thread your hold the fabric better. Consider starting needle as you would for sewing but don’t Stress Free - Sedation Dentistry out with a plastic hoop for working and make a knot. Starting from the back, a bamboo hoop for framing or fi nishing. bring your needle up to a hole in the front, leaving about an inch in the back. George Blashford, DMD Needles Hold it as you go, you’re going to stitch You’re not going to use regular sew- over it to secure it. ing needles, either. You can use em- Pass the needle diagonally over the broidery needles or tapestry needles for square and down through the hole at your project. Both have larger eyes, but the corner. Make several more of these 35 Westminster Dr. Carlisle tapestry needles have blunted ends and stitches in a row, then work back the (717) 243-2372 embroidery needles have sharp ends. other way, closing the X. To end, pass the www.blashforddentistry.com Needles are also sized; the larger the needle under three completed stitches on number, the smaller the needle (and the the back and trim it o . 8 | OCTOBER 2020 PRIME A BARBIE GIRL IN AN INDY WORLD

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KATHY WITT friends — not in her Dreamhouse, spring of 2021. For those who grew up choices, star power and sense of style. Tribune News Service Townhouse or even Malibu beach playing with Barbie, it is a big dose of As the original female empower- arbie has taken up resi- house, but at the Children’s Museum nostalgia and chance to stroll down ment brand, Barbie was born out dence in the Crossroads of Indianapolis. memory lane to see the most popular of a desire to show girls they have of America, along with “Barbie You Can Be Anything: The fashion doll ever produced in doz- choices, and there are plenty of ex- Ken, Midge, Alan, Christy Experience” opened recently and ens and dozens of colorful vignettes amples on display — from artist to B and other fashion-forward will remain at the museum until the showing o her creativity and career judge to builder to robotics engineer. PRIME OCTOBER 2020 | 9

In fact, Ruth Handler, the woman who model status to show that regardless ern farmhouse, reminiscent of her When the need for caffeine calls, created Barbie more than 60 years of gender, ethnicity or background, own Malibu Beach House, in Indy’s head to Bovaconti Coffee (www.bo- ago, believed that “through the doll, individuals can follow their path, be free-spirited Broad Ripple neighbor- vaconticoffee.com). It’s so Barbie with the little girl could be anything she challenged, make a difference and cel- hood, where you can relax outside its pink walls and mod floor, and of- wanted to be.” ebrate their choice. on the wraparound porch beneath a fers the types of drinks Barbie serves Teacher, rapper, rock star, boxer. From experiencing Barbie to ex- shading arbor. The house specialty is at her own coffee shop: lattes, cap- Detective, flight attendant, airline ploring Indy 21 flavors of gourmet popcorn, includ- puccinos and espressos, plus cold- pilot, paleontologist. From princess Ever an inspiration in exploring the ing spicy ginger curry and smoking pressed juices and kombucha. Located to presidential candidate, ballerina to possibilities, Barbie also encourages goose bacon and cheddar, plus small near Indy’s Fountain Square, the shop business exec, this exhibit inspires not everyone to extend their experience plates and wine, beer and bubbles. is tucked in the historic Bovaconti only girls, but all who visit — children of the exhibit right into the streets of Foodie that she is, Barbie operates Jewelers building and offers outdoor and adults alike. Barbie has pursued Indy for a fun, Barbie-centric getaway a bistro food cart and would find Just seating, a parade of pups with their more than 200 careers — and has done of shopping, dining and enjoying the Pop In a great place for stocking up, humans and a hip vibe. so while impeccably dressed for the city. but it’s also the perfect place to grab As the world’s foremost fashionista, part, right down to her boots or ballet Barbie would feel perfectly at home a snack to go, like a tin of the signa- Barbie would not want to miss 8FIF- slippers. With every ensemble and ac- at Just Pop In (www.justpopinpop- ture Indy Style, a sweet-salty blend of TEEN (www.8fifteen.com), a luscious cessory, Barbie has reinforced her role corn.com), a groovy California mod- caramel and cheddar popcorn. designer boutique featuring both new

THE CHILDREN’S MUSEUM OF INDIANAPOLIS VIA TRIBUNE NEWS SERVICE‌ The Children’s Museum of Indianapolis is the world’s largest children’s museum. 10 | OCTOBER 2020 PRIME and established designers, to update her wardrobe. After all, Barbie’s Dream Closet has room for more than 30 fashions as well as accessories and shoes, and she would want to refresh it each season, especially with the help of the 8FIFTEEN stylists. The stylists are personable and approachable, the space welcoming and irresistible; it feels like girlfriends getting together to dish on shoes and shopping. As someone who has dabbled in building and architecture in her long and varied career, Barbie would be adept at home improvement and rehab projects. Like many visitors, she would be drawn to the newly opened Two Chick’s District Co. (www.twochicksdistrictco.com), a home goods boutique founded by the mom-and-daughter duo of HGTV’s “Good Bones” series. Furniture, home décor, housewares, florals, even apparel — it’s all here and, as Barbie herself would note, very fashionably merchandised. At the front of the shop, a sleek wine bar pours a selection of lovely pick-me-ups and serves a selection of snacks and sandwiches. The artist and fashion designer in Barbie would appreci- ate overnighting amidst the luxurious appointments, curated art and splashes of color of the Pop Collection Suite at the Conrad Indianapolis (https://conradhotels3.hilton.com). Relax in the sculptured soaking tub then stretch out before a stone fireplace in the 800-square-foot guestroom. Room service beckons. Another Barbie-esque option is an award-winning three- bedroom bungalow in the Broad Ripple Village (www.vrbo. com/934652?unitId=1482598). The cottage-style home, once featured on a historic home tour, has a private backyard sanc- tuary with custom fire pit, water feature and relaxing basket swings – made for girlfriends, wine and wonderful times. Fun facts Consider this: The average person holds just over 12 jobs in a lifetime – jobs, mind you, not necessarily careers. Barbie has had over 200 careers: astronaut, photographer, film director, chef, nurse, scientist, surgeon – even a super star – making her a true action figure and an overachiever of the first order. Barbie explored the final frontier four years before Neil Armstrong set foot on the moon. The year was 1965 and As- tronaut Barbie rocketed into toy stores, wearing a spacesuit, helmet and can-do attitude. Barbie broke the glass ceiling in 1985, taking to the boardroom as “Day to Night” CEO Barbie. She had already made her way into the operating room 12 years prior in 1973, a time when few women were working physicians. Barbie runs for president in every election and has since 1992. (In 2016, she ran with the first all-female ticket.) With 2020 being an election year, expect to find Barbie on the campaign trail. In fact, Barbie has teamed up with She Should Run, a nonpartisan nonprofit working to increase the number of women considering a run for public office.

Plan your visit As the original female At the Children’s Museum of Indianapolis, www.child- empowerment brand, rensmuseum.org, advance tickets are required for all visitors. Barbie was created to show girls For information about visiting Indianapolis, click into they have choices and this exhibit www.visitindy.com. will help them explore the possibilities. They’re all part of Author and travel and lifestyle writer Kathy Witt feels you should the museum’s exhibit. never get to the end of your bucket list; there’s just too much to KATHY WITT, TRIBUNE NEWS SERVICE‌ see and do in the world. Contact her at [email protected], @KathyWitt, www.kathywitt.com. PRIME OCTOBER 2020 | 11

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Let my best friend’s legacy be more honesty toward MENTAL ILLNESS AND ADDICTION

NAOMI ISHISAKA The Seattle Times‌ EATTLE — One of the most important lessons I learned from the passenger seat of my best friend’s recovery journey is the saying “you Sare only as sick as your secrets.” The adage from Alcoholics Anonymous is something we talked about a lot, the idea that telling our truths could be healing for ourselves and others and that conversely, shame and secrecy only fuel addiction and mental health issues. Since my friend and longtime community and arts leader Rahwa Habte’s death on Aug. 27 after a long battle with mental illness and addiction, I have grappled with the question of how to make meaning from the incomprehensible. How could some good come from the heartbreak and grief? One way we can honor her legacy is to begin to break the silence and have a long over- due public conversation about the reality of mental illness and addiction, a conversation Rahwa started herself with her many public posts about her experiences and her work within the recovery community. Of all the things I am proud of her for — and there are so, so, many — her openness and transparency around her struggles with her recovery was on the top of the list. Be- cause as a society, we have a denial problem when it comes to mental health and addiction, especially in these pandemic times.

Rahwa Habte, a Seattle community leader, organizer, chef and entrepreneur died Aug. 28 at age 42. NAOMI ISHISAKA, THE SEATTLE TIMES VIA TRIBUNE NEWS SERVICE‌ PRIME OCTOBER 2020 | 13

Even before the pandemic, the device to access it — and others miss Washington State Department of personal connections and the “meet- Health (DOH) said that for every ing after the meeting” in the parking person with mental health needs who lot or out for breakfast with someone receives treatment, there are more who needs extra support. who don’t, and now COVID has only “(Online vs. in person is) the dif- made that worse. The state estimated ference between transactional and in August that 3 million Washingto- relational,” Cunningham said. “Be- nians will experience “clinically sig- ing able to regularly go to meetings is nificant behavioral health symptoms” a very relational experience.” People over the following two to five months, know and recognize you and can help and predicted a significant increase lift you back up when needed, he said. in self-medication and substance use “The places where the disease over six to nine months as well. thrives — like liquor stores and can- For people of color, low-income nabis shops — are alive and well,” people and essential workers — often Cunningham said. “The places where the same group of people — the im- recovery can happen are shut down.” pacts are even worse, the DOH said. What would it take for us to change Those groups are experiencing some the conversation around mental ill- of the worst health and economic ef- ness and addiction? How could fects of the pandemic. we begin to normalize caring for This dismal forecast isn’t helped by our mental health as we do physi- the abrupt halt to many of the usual cal health? How could we approach avenues for recovery support — such people who are struggling with com- as in-person groups — due to COVID. passion instead of judgment? Joshua Wallace is the CEO and At Asian Counseling and Refer- president of Peer Washington, an or- ral Service (ACRS), trying to shift ganization to provide peer emotional attitudes toward mental health and support for people impacted by ad- addiction has been a many decades- NAOMI ISHISAKA, THE SEATTLE TIMES VIA TRIBUNE NEWS SERVICE‌ diction, mental illness or HIV and long project. ACRS Behavioral Health Rahwa Habte’s family and friends gathered at a memorial on Sept. 3 near the former location AIDS, and the parent organization Services Director Yoon Joo Han said of her Hidmo Eritrean Restaurant in Seattle’s Central District. to Peer Seattle, where Rahwa found while stigma exists everywhere, a recovery home. within some immigrant and refugee COMPASSIONATE. EXPERIENCED. TRUSTED. “What we know is that isolation is communities it can be especially hard the biggest cause of the degradation to break through entrenched belief of our disease,” Wallace said. “Stigma systems around mental illness. is really what pushes that because the To combat that, Han said ACRS embarrassment of it oftentimes has uses storytelling to teach clients us sitting at home alone, not talking and families that mental health and about it, not admitting it, not being physical health should be treated the honest about it with those who care same. Just as you should not be dis- Dealing about us and love us.” criminated against for having high He said that people in recovery in- blood pressure, you should not be with ternalize societal messages that if you treated poorly when you have mental are struggling with mental illness you illnesses either, she said. are broken and if you are struggling In order to break the stigma around Grief with addiction you are a moral failure. mental illness and addiction, “we Being in a community of people with need more brave Asian people or im- the same lived experience helps to migrants or people of color talking break those messages down, he said. about their experience openly, hon- Yet COVID disrupted the crucial estly with people and encourage other Time alone doesn’t heal everything, we can offer safety net Peer Seattle and many people to talk about it,” Han said. other organizations built. Due to the The more we talk about it, the many resources that could help. coronavirus, Peer Seattle had to shut more we will understand that men- its doors to in-person support group tal illness and addiction touch all of meetings and groups moved online. us, whether we acknowledge it or Jonathan Cunningham, a long- not, and that stigma only makes the EST. 1907 time friend of Rahwa’s (and mine as problem worse. well), has nearly six years of sobriety. “If people were able to put their He said while online recovery sup- hand up and say, ‘hey, I need some port meetings work great for some, help’ and we were more of a warm, for many people, they can be a poor welcoming society, I think a lot of substitute. Some don’t have the nec- changes could occur,” Cunningham essary technology — internet and a said. One Mile East of the Square - 2020 W.Trindle Rd., Carlisle www.HoffmanFH.com 717.243.4511 14 | OCTOBER 2020 PRIME Consider sewing your own

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