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Seven Ways to Increase Wealth and Win Allah's Love Seven Ways to Increase Wealth and Win Allah’s Love You’re either a master of money or you become its slave Have you ever missed out an important family gathering or community event because you had to work? Or because you were short on money? How many times have you made a decision – a decision to move away from your family and friends, or a decision to dedicate weeks, months or years of your life to study something, so you could get a job? For the sake of money? Wouldn’t it be amazing if you could get money to serve you and make your life better rather than you using up your life to get money? What if you could use money to do whatever you want whenever you want, rather than have money dictate what you can and can’t do? As if money is a master over you. Telling you what to do, where to go and how to spend your time. But then how do you do that? You would need to be very wealthy, right? But… is it ok to pursue dunya like that? Wouldn’t having so much in the dunya put our deen in danger? Isn’t there a conflict between wealth and religion? In this short e-book, I’m going to show you that not only is there no conflict, but there are ways to increase wealth and win the love of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala. Straight from the Qur’an and Sunnah. You don’t need to choose between success in this world and the hereafter. You can have both. In this book, in sha Allah ta’ala, I’m going to show you how. What’s your Number One goal? To begin, I want to tell you the story about a brother I know. I was doing this goal-setting workshop, where I would ask people, “What’s your number one goal?” © DiscoverU 2015 MuslimMoneyMaster.com Page 1 Seven Ways to Increase Wealth and Win Allah’s Love There was this brother who was always going around telling people, “I want to get married; could you help find me a wife?” He came up to me after the lecture and he winks at me and goes, "Hey Muhammad...” I go, “What?” “Do you know what's number one on my list?" He winks at me again. And then I go, "What? Is Jannah number one on your list?" Then his face went a little red as he said, “No…” And then he was embarrassed to say that marriage was number one on his list. An interesting lesson I learned from there, whether we’re talking about the topic of money or the topic of marriage or whatever you’re involved in, is that your number one goal must always be Jannah. It must always be paradise. Your number one goal must always be pleasing Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala. Because, for example, if your number one goal is Jannah and your number two goal is buying a house, then you are not going to buy a house with interest or a riba mortgage. Why? Because your number one goal is Jannah. So you’re not going to compromise that with a number two goal because you care more about paradise than about getting in this house with interest. If Jannah was your number one goal and your number two goal was getting married, then you’re obviously going to look for a spouse that helps you and guides you to paradise. Now let’s look at the topic of money. What if seeking money was not your number one goal, it was your number two goal and your number one goal was Paradise? Can you see how, for example, it would lead you to reading a book like this? And how you can bring the two together in sha Allah? So let me get started right off the bat and get right into the topic… © DiscoverU 2015 MuslimMoneyMaster.com Page 2 Seven Ways to Increase Wealth and Win Allah’s Love Ways to increase your wealth and win Allah’s love Technique #1: Asking Allah for forgiveness The first technique is asking Allah for forgiveness and coming back to Allah. Prophet Nuh, ‘alayhi salam called his people to Allah for 950 years. He did it publicly, he did it privately, he did it openly---he used all different techniques. He did it for all these years, and his da’wah was: “And (Nuh) said, 'Ask forgiveness of your Lord. Indeed, He is ever a Perpetual Forgiver.” - Qur’an 71:10 Nuh’s people asked, “What do we get if we ask for forgiveness? What do we get if we turn back to Allah?” Then Nuh ‘alayhi salam says “He will send [rain from] the sky upon you in [continuing] showers and give you increase in wealth and children and provide for you gardens and provide for you rivers.” - Qur’an 71:11-12 He made this promise to them: He said, if you repent to Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala, if you turn back to Allah, "He will send down the rains from the Heavens.” In other words, their livestock, their agriculture would benefit from the water coming down. © DiscoverU 2015 MuslimMoneyMaster.com Page 3 Seven Ways to Increase Wealth and Win Allah’s Love “And He would give you increase of wealth.” Now, I want to pause here for a moment and make a point right here. For all those people out there, who think there is a contradiction between Islam and money, I want to ask: How could Prophet Nuh tell the people that if they ask for forgiveness, Allah would give them increase in their wealth, if there was a contradiction between wealth and religion? Think about it. So the first way to increase your wealth and win Allah’s love is through asking Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala for forgiveness. Basically turning back to Allah ‘azza wa jal. Technique # 2: Fulfilling ties of kinship The second technique is a way to make more money in a way that is actually going to make Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala love you more. And that is by fulfilling ties of kinship. Call your mom and say, “How are you doing mom?” “I love you.” Or visit your relatives back home or going to your cousin who you haven’t seen for a long time and saying “Hey, let’s go out for tea.” When you fulfill ties of kinship, Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala blesses you in your wealth. The Prophet salla Allahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said, as reported by Anas radhi Allahu ‘anhu, in Bukhari and Muslim: "Whoever wants to have increase in his provision and to live long, should honour his ties with his blood relatives.” The Prophet salla Allahu ‘alayhi wa sallam is saying that whoever wishes that Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala blesses them with provisions and blesses them with long life, should fulfill the ties of kinship. © DiscoverU 2015 MuslimMoneyMaster.com Page 4 Seven Ways to Increase Wealth and Win Allah’s Love So for example, let’s say you’re about to get into a business deal or you’re about to go to a job interview, what do you do pre-interview? Now, no non-Muslim would tell you this, but I’m telling you, before you go into the job interview, call your mom or go visit some relatives and be kind to them. Be kind to them and ask Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala, "Oh Allah, because of my kindness to my relatives, increase me in my rizq or sustenance." So that’s Technique #2, fulfilling ties of kinship or extending out and maintaining and honouring ties of kinship. Technique # 3: Business Technique #3 is to start your own business. Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala has forbidden riba and has made it haram. A lot of people, when they think of making money they think of putting their money in a savings account at the bank where they can collect interest. Or they think of mutual funds where they’re dealing with companies who deal in interest. There’s a whole bunch of riba involved in that. But I’m telling you, why don’t you start your own business? Because Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala says, "Allah has made bay’ (business transactions, i.e. buying and selling) halal, and made riba (interest) haram.” - Qur’an 2:275 If you look at the list of the wealthiest people in the world, you’ll see that 90-95% of them are business owners. Because Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala says wealth is here. It’s in the business. © DiscoverU 2015 MuslimMoneyMaster.com Page 5 Seven Ways to Increase Wealth and Win Allah’s Love There was somebody who was asking me once about how their parents were encouraging them to buy a house on interest otherwise they’ll be poor. So I said, and I’m going to swear by Allah here, Allah will never put the secret of success in something that He forbade or has made haram. That’s a gem right there. You can write it in gold. So if anybody ever tells you that you’ll only become wealthy if you deal in riba, if you deal in interest, then they have lied to you. They have lied to you out of ignorance or whatever it is because Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala will never put success in something that He has made haram.
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