Yellow Topaz: from Atlanta and 15 Other Guides to the South
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Like the birthstone in the title Eleanor has always been a precious gem to her famliy and her friends and now will be a jewel to all those who read this riveting memoir about her life. – Carol Thalimer, Author of Explorer's Guide: Georgia, Quick Escapes YELLOW TOPAZ: from Atlanta and 15 other guides to the South. Step back when you read Eleanor A Historical Memoir Babcock's words, for each phrase is like the artist's stroke with a broad brush... It is such a joy to read words that can Eleanor Hope set your mind to whirling. – Candice Stellmach, Author Crisler Babcock I wanted to let you know how much I enjoyed reading Chapter 17. I almost felt like I was part of Zada's class. I love the way you write in the present tense and your style... makes for very interesting reading. – Sandra Kankainen, Friend Yellow Topaz A HISTORICAL MEMOIR Text edited by Morna Gerrard and Stephen Zietz. Production art by Christian Steinmetz. ELEANOR CRISLER BABCOCK Yellow Topaz A HISTORICAL MEMOIR 2011 For Joseph Julius Crisler (1867–After 1942), Son of Thomas Jackson Crisler and Amanda Ruth Manning Crisler, Milton County, Georgia, and President of the Crisler Clan in Georgia Contents Foreword Preface Part I: YELLOW TOPAZ Chapter 1 Character Is Put to the Test The family needs help. Atlanta, “the city with a heart,” introduces Mrs. Brock, a foster mother Chapter 2 Fresh Water for Her Bouquet A momentary appreciation and reward accepted by the aged self Part II: MATCHMAKING Chapter 3 Roses, Hershey Kisses, and Funny Papers Eleanor’s boyfriends, etiquette, and personal observations Chapter 4 First Letters from Bride and Groom Writing lines on paper is revealing of character. If bride and groom can read between the lines, questions might emerge between near strangers Chapter 5 Who Are We Anyway? Questions, questions, getting acquainted Chapter 6 Sex and Money Sex makes a baby, and money becomes a player on the stage of two lives Part III: HEIRS Chapter 7 Birth and Afterbirth Complications We hold our little prince for the first time Chapter 8 Do Colors Make a Difference? Colors identify the seasons. What about in-between time, in-between brothers Chapter 9 The Many Colors of Thread Why not tie origins together in a name for the third and last born Part IV: PLACES AND PEOPLE Chapter 10 Places, People, and Quiet Strength Special places and persons are visited and revisited Chapter 11 Happiness Is Not Accidental. It is a methodical world. Roots and causes matter Mothers, fathers, and in-laws are important Part V: DISRUPTION Chapter 12 Change Causes Pain Change is a given. Change can be difficult Chapter 13 Three Generations Meet for Tea Echoes connect the present with the past and enable a story of change to be told The story is about temporary darkness of mental illness Chapter 14 The Story of the Walls and Crayons The real world of little girls can change from independence to dependence and disarray Walls and Crayons, with a departed spirit, give childhood another chance Part VI: WORDS AND DEEDS Chapter 15 A Small Gift, a Sounding Board Written words become a vocal reflection of the writer, an echo, and in the hearing, a per- sonal therapist Chapter 16 Personal Lives on Common Grounds It is a bird’s-eye view for the Colonel and a musician when they fly from Georgia to Idaho. East and West integrate, and sons, a nation apart, experience healing Chapter 17 Paintings are Like People A brush stroke is participation in the “magnetism of an unseen influence” Chapter 18 Out of Ten Duties, One Duty is Selected A barefoot with yellow ribbon tied around the big toe started walking Eleven hundred caring citizens make history Part VII: FRIENDS AND WIDE OPEN SPACES Chapter 19 Until Another Season Is there life after death? The daffodil holds the answer Chapter 20 Best Friends for Life Two girls grow up together in Cumming, Georgia. They meet for the last time at death’s door, or was it just a dream Chapter 21 Weeds and Roses in Bouquet The connotation usually placed on weeds takes on new dimension Part VIII: LOCAL PAPERS AND RECORDED KINSHIP Chapter 22 A Major Decision Identification please Chapter 23 Unexpected Warriors from Prior Generations A brother and two sisters on a trip revisit their childhood home places Our party is crashed and our hearts stolen Chapter 24 Integrated with Family and History Crabapple, Alpharetta, and Roswell, Georgia are historical. The Crisler and Rucker Re- union is place and time to find missing pieces to an important ancestral puzzle Chapter 25 Trout, Hushpuppies, and Cheese Grits As surely as rain falls, adults and especially children need home-cooked food Carmel Cake is at a premium. Savor the essence of a Crisler Chapter 26 The Economy of the Rock Can one stand on another back to face a distant destiny Part IX: POLITICS Chapter 27 President for a Time We see ourselves as we are, and as other people of the world see us Chapter 28 Cobb County is a Tough Row to Hoe. Military service with call for duty in Vietnam is devastating for a gay friend Part X: THE FUN SIDE Chapter 29 Living History in Story Form Listener’s link past to the present. It’s a joy telling and hearing about it Chapter 30 Then, Now, and Later Life is a piece of cake and a camping weekend Heavenly advice is given to a comedian Part XI: HISTORY Chapter 31 Off the Cumming Square A jail house, a cotton gin, bee hives, hot biscuits and butter Enoch Smith and Mary Brown Chapter 32 History of a Good Family, Second Only to the Bible One will look backward to ancestors before looking forward to posterity Part XII: TRUE ESSENCE BEQUEATHED Chapter 33 The Men in My Life “To find one’s path, and walk in it, is needful” Chapter 34 Yellow Topaz Polished Large and gold encased, its real value represents sought worth Afterword Bibliography Article References In Memory A Family Record Foreword If you have never been knee-deep in the City of Atlanta or if you have lived the life of a long-time native, you are in for a treat. Eleanor Crisler Babcock’s writing has fascinated me for many years, as I watched her craft and chisel stories into their best forms. Yellow Topaz, from cut to polish, is a Jewell of a historical memoir, a compelling journey through life’s raw realities and charming fantasies. It is the experience, not only of one woman, not only of one family, but of humanity in a distinctive time and place. It is also a bequest for those still to come into life. Yellow Topaz is the story of character, love, people and places, of life’s disruptions, friends, Georgia history, politics, and inheritance. It moves through time and sometimes rapidly through the “city with a heart.” So, you will want to strap yourself in and hold on tight. Memories of a childhood foster home and adolescent adventures take you into another time. Musings of early romances and then love move into the uncertainties and certainties of marriage, children, and finance. Eleanor envisions and wheedles the family’s history in the most “imagineering” manner, with stories of vigorous life and quiet endurance. Yet, she does not ignore troublesome instability or the shadows of mental illness; she draws from the past and from departed spirits for strength and understanding. Eleanor’s writing is a cathartic vehicle, and her voice helps the reader to comprehend the influence of words and deeds of individual people who move in and out of life. Friends grow up together, and death brings her to question life after death. She strolls through the past with ease, excitement, and awe. Even the politics of the country and the county are served up as delectably as a piece of cake. A bit of locale history is as revitalizing as hot biscuits and butter. As a creative writing teacher, I have seen people attempt to take on the genre of historical mem- oir only to give up in frustration of the entanglement. Eleanor refused to give up. She persevered through critiques and revisions until the work became as polished as the gem that Eleanor is. I am thrilled that the memoir is now available for all to see and feel and relive. James Baldwin said that writing is heightened life. Eleanor brought that concept to reality as she laid out the details of the history of her life, her family, her people, her region, and her country. Yellow Topaz is a most pre- cious legacy. —SARAH ANNE SHOPE EDUCATOR AND WRITER Teacher of creative writing who holds a master degree in writing and doctor- ate in education, and literary credits include short story, essay, and poetry. Preface On a wet November evening during the Iraq-Kuwait-United States war, Eleemosynary is playing at Theater in the Square in Marietta, Georgia. A friend, Judy Ogden, needs a substitute to usher for her Reservist husband who is in Kuwait dealing with death statistics. I am told the seating in the theater is small, so I agree to usher. This fateful evening, three characters—a grandmother, her daughter, and her granddaughter, named Echo—tackle complex relationships in an honest way without being judgmental. Judy’s need for an usher and the play itself causes me, a mid-life mother and grandmother, to consider writing a memoir, bequeathing my true essence to three grown sons, leaving them sto- ries of the constancy of a good family.