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DECEMBER 6, 2019 | KISLEV 8, 5780 | VOLUME 72, NUMBER 5 $1.50 Jewish Advisory Board: Month of anti-Israel activity at Building bridges for ASU sparks debate ELLEN O’BRIEN | STAFF WRITER two decades n Tuesday, Nov. 19, students flooded a meeting of ELLEN O’BRIEN | STAFF WRITER Othe Undergraduate Student Government at Arizona State University to debate a planned resolution in favor or 20 years, the Phoenix Police Department’s Police Chief’s Advisory of the boycott, divestment and sanctions movement. The FBoards have been bridging the gap between the police department meeting came after a month of anti-Israel and anti-Semitic and minority communities in Phoenix. That includes the Jewish Advisory incidents on campus. Board, which allows the Jewish community to stay connected with police The proposed resolution would have called on the ASU resources and for community leaders to share concerns. administration to divest from any Israeli companies that the “The actual function of the board is multifaceted, but its primary university is currently invested in. function is to build a bridge between the Jewish community and the Although a vote on the resolution was delayed until the police department,” said Detective Michael Hillman, the Phoenix Police next student government meeting, around 60 students Department community liaison to the Jewish Advisory Board. from Jewish organizations across ASU attended the event Paul Rockower, executive director of the Jewish Community Relations to speak out against the proposal. Council of Greater Phoenix and a new member of the advisory board, Sarah Balis, president of the Hillel Jewish Student Center says that the program is a unique opportunity for the Phoenix Jewish at ASU, was the first student to speak at the meeting. community to be heard. Neta Galili debates the Israeli government’s policies in Gaza SEE ASU, PAGE 3 and the West Bank with Benjamin Cooper. PHOTO BY ELLEN O’BRIEN “Good public diplomacy is about listening,” said Rockower. “The advisory board is showing that the Phoenix Police Department is listening to the concerns of the community, and it’s showing that we’re listening to their concerns.” Chanukah gift guide As the liaison to the Jewish Advisory Board, Hillman also benefits from Chanukah is on Dec. 22 this year, leaving you plenty of time to a special connection to the Jewish community: He’s worked as an off-duty figure out what to get your family and friends. Take advantage police officer at Temple Chai for 22 years. “I’m not Jewish, but I’ve been of the waning hours of Cyber Week (wasn't it just Cyber Monday last year?) using our breakdown of online Chanukah at the temple for so long that I tell people I’m the most Jewish Christian gifts with a quirky twist, like this T-shirt sold by locally owned you’ll ever meet,” Hillman said. Schmattees. Go to Page 13. The Jewish Advisory Board is one of 12 community advisory boards that PHOTO VIA SCHMATTEES.COM regularly meet with the Phoenix Police Department. Other boards include SEE JAB, PAGE 2

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NATIONAL INTERNATIONAL ISRAEL Israeli-American Council’s yearly IDF humanitarian aid team heads to Attorney General Mandelblit formally conference held in Florida Albania following earthquake submits Netanyahu indictment HEADLINES JAB chair of the Jewish Advisory Board. uniformed police officer or patrol car stationed CONTINUED FROM PAGE 1 According to Levertov, the concerns of the outside their building — all of these can be representatives of the African American community don’t change significantly from confusing to police officers who aren’t familiar community, the LGBTQ community and meeting to meeting, but it’s important to have with the Jewish community. the refugee community in Phoenix. police officers continue to listen and be aware. “The police do their best, but they can’t According to Hillman, the program has “It’s nothing new in a sense. We talk necessarily understand all those things,” been around for around 20 years, and has about anti-Semitism or anti-Semitic attacks,” Zeichick said. continually evolved based on the needs of Levertov said. “That’s not new, but you know As for Hillman, his relationship with the the communities they represent. Each board that the police department is addressing it. Jewish community makes it possible to works independently with a liaison to address There’s a real sense of ‘we’re listening, we’re respond quickly to an emergency. On the 2019 Phoenix Jewish News that community’s specific concerns. doing our best.’” day of the Chabad of Poway shooting in print dates “Other advisory boards cre- April, members of the advi- ate initiatives, but we don’t sory board messaged Hillman January 4 June 7 about the tragedy. He reached necessarily do that,” said Rabbi January 11 June 21 Levi Levertov, chair of the out to commanders in pre- Jewish Advisory Board. “Ours cincts throughout Phoenix January 18 July 12 is more about communica- and asked them to send patrol January 25 August 9 tion, keeping communication cars to synagogues. February 1 August 30* “It makes people feel a little lines open between ourselves February 8 September 6 in the community and also bit safer,” he said. keeping the police department And when a big event or February 15 September 13 informed for things that we holiday is coming up, the February 22 September 20 Representatives from the 12 community advisory boards meet at an annual summit board provides a channel of see that they might not take with the Phoenix Police Department. PHOTOS COURTESY OF THE PHOENIX POLICE DEPARTMENT March 1 September 27 communication to ensure that notice of.” March 15 October 4 Each meeting of the Jewish Advisory Board The board can also advise the police security is a priority. includes a 20-minute presentation from an department about cultural differences and “With our heightened awareness of security March 29 October 18 officer from the police department, followed disagreements, Zeichick said. “Particularly throughout the Jewish world and through- April 5 November 1 by a round table discussion and dinner. At in the Jewish community, we’re not all the out the world, the board has played a really April 12 November 15 same. Something that may be true with the instrumental role,” Levertov said. He noted the most recent meeting, a representative of April 19 December 6 the Phoenix Police Bias Crimes Detail came ultra-Orthodox community here may not be the internal bridge-building that happens at to explain how hate crimes are investigated. true for the more secular Jews and vice versa.” board meetings, too. May 3 December 13 “We look for people from the police Differences such as some congregations “You sit with Jewish organizations that you May 17 December 20 celebrating one day of Rosh Hashanah while would never really be sitting at a table with,” department who can come in and explain May 31 *Annual Directory things, and then we can bring that mes- others celebrate for two, or different opinions he said. “It’s not about Orthodox, Reform, sage back to our congregations or our on the importance of maintaining eruvs, or Conservative. It’s about Jewish community. organizations,” said Alan Zeichick, vice inconsistencies in whether synagogues want a We’re all here for each other.” JN WWW.JEWISHAZ.COM

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Hillel Student President Sarah Balis addresses students gathered at the Hillel student center on Nov. 19. PHOTO BY ELLEN O’BRIEN ASU the Palestinian cause is anti-Semitic weigh me CONTINUED FROM PAGE 1 down ... It’s just not true.” A month of controversy “If USG wants ASU to remain a place Debbie Yunker Kail, executive director at where all students feel included, you must the Hillel Jewish Student Center at ASU, vote against any resolution that supports the identified a series of four recent anti-Semitic BDS movement,” Balis told senators. or anti-Israel incidents in a statement emailed Jewish students had a variety of reasons for to members of the ASU Jewish community opposing the resolution. on Nov. 14. “This whole resolution is absurd,” said Those incidents included anti-Semitic neo- Emily Kaplan, president of the ASU chapter Nazi flyers found on campus on Nov. 1, two of Students Supporting Israel. “It literally opinion pieces published by The State Press shuts down any connection, any chance to on Oct. 17 and Nov. 6 that called on students have dialogue.” to boycott Israel and a protest by Students for Jacob Wirtzer, ASU chapter president of Justice in Palestine that disrupted an event Alpha Epsilon Pi, said that a student govern- with two veterans of the Israel Defense Forces. ment meeting was the wrong place to have a Many Jewish students felt threatened and productive discussion. intimidated at the protest, and came to the “In this setting, it’s hard to have any kind of USG meeting to oppose any further attempt debate because it seems like it’s very hard our to boycott Israel. side versus their side,” Wirtzer said. “As the president of the Jewish fraternity, Other students, including USG Senate from what I hear from my guys, it’s creating an President Dominic Frattura, argued that environment on campus that’s unwanted and USG shouldn’t take a stance on any foreign it’s completely unwarranted,” said Wirtzer. policy issue. A Jewish Cemetery that cares Dr. Stanley Mirvis, assistant professor of his- Benjamin Cooper, the senator who spon- about the Jewish Community tory and the Harold and Jean Grossman chair sored the resolution, spoke in favor of his in Jewish Studies at ASU, said Jewish students proposal at the end of the session. were thinking about these issues even before “In the ASU charter, it says we are funda- the last month of incidents. mentally responsible for the communities that “As a Jewish studies professor, I’ve had a lot we serve,” Cooper said. “As USG, we also of students that come to me feeling nervous share that responsibility.” and wanting perspective about things,” Mirvis Cooper raised concerns about the univer- said. “Jewish students on campus are very sity’s endowment fund, which is invested in a aware of what’s happening.” variety of companies that could hypothetically • Jewish Owned and Operated Dr. Volker Benkert, assistant professor include weapons manufacturers, fossil fuel • Sidewalks at Every Grave of German history at ASU, said that while • Jewish Owned and Operated companies and technologies with the potential • Caring Professional Staff protesters and supporters of the BDS move- • Paved Sidewalks Throughout – for human rights abuses. • Intermarried No Need to Ever Families Walk on a Grave Welcome ment have a right to free speech, that does not “This frankly has nothing to do with the • Intermarried Families Welcome give them the right to disturb and intimidate Jewish clubs that are here, it has nothing to • Beautiful(480) Open-Air 585-6060 Pavilion for Services students. do with pro-Israel clubs that are here. It has 24210• Caring N.and 68thProfessional Street, Staff Phoenix Nevertheless, “what I’m much more con- everything to do with what is actually occur- (off Pinnacle Peak Rd) cerned about than the protests, and what the ring in the state of Israel and the university mtsinaicemetery.com(480) 585-6060 university has strongly condemned, is the itself,” Cooper said. “I am a proud Jew, I’ve presence of these clearly anti-Semitic flyers been raised my entire life Jewish and I will www.mtsinaicemetery.com e-mail: [email protected] never let the allegation that my support for SEE ASU, PAGE 9 24210 N. 68th Street, Phoenix, AZ 85054 JEWISHAZ.COM JEWISH NEWS (off Pinnacle Peak Rd) DECEMBER 6, 2019 3 HEADLINES MANDY PATINKIN LOCAL IN CONCERT: DIARIES WITH ADAM BEN-DAVID ON PIANO Q&A: Israel

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srael Maimon is the president and CEO of the U.S. Special Envoy to Monitor and Combat Development Corporation of Israel, better Anti-Semitism Elan S. Carr (second from left) I displays an Israel Bonds award presented by known as Israel Bonds, the security invest- (from left) Israel Maimon, Philadelphia lay leader ment option for anyone looking to invest in Daryl Segal and Chairman of the Board Howard the Jewish state. L. Goldstein. In addition to a legal career, Maimon also served in the Israel Defense Forces, eventually reaching the rank of major, and was cabinet secretary for two prime ministers. This year’s annual Israel Bonds International Leadership Conference was held in Phoenix at the Arizona Biltmore from Nov. 14 to

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Almost half of grandparents live an hour away or less Grandparent caretaking is more prevalent among from their grandchild. grandparents who live close-by (an hour away or less).

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LOCAL Phoenix synagogues come together for Chanukah singalong ELLEN O’BRIEN | STAFF WRITER food and culture and celebration of the holiday.” At the end of the concert, all participating clergy will Chanukah miracle in its own right.” come together to sing and to light the menorah. Guinane "A That’s how Paul Rockower, executive director is especially looking forward to that moment. of the Jewish Community Relations Council of Greater “It’s a special melody, and to be together in community Phoenix, describes the Phoenix Sings Chanukah Sing-a- with so many and to sing those blessings together, I get Long, hosted by Congregation Beth Israel, which brings chills just telling you about that,” Guinane said. “When together eight cantors or cantorial soloists from eight dif- you get that many Jews together, all singing the blessings, ferent synagogues on Dec. 8. there’s something really special.” “For the past two years, the Jewish people have just expe- The concert and menorah lighting will be followed by rienced tragic event, tragic event, tragic event,” said Cantor a sufganiyot buffet. Seth Ettinger of CBI, the director and producer of Phoenix “I can’t wait to see that — I hope I get at least one,” Sings. “It’s so easy for people to come together to support Guinane said. their wider community during a tragic event, but how often Steve and Linda Bandler are underwriting the concert Seth Ettinger and the Shir Joy Youth Choir rehearse “We’re All Made do we really get to come together in celebration?” of Stars” for Sharing the Light, a different holiday concert featuring in memory of Steve’s mother, Sylvia, who passed away on Starting at 3 p.m., the singers will perform solos, Congregation Beth Israel and Pilgrim’s Rest. PHOTO BY ELLEN O’BRIEN Nov. 4. ensemble pieces and duets of well-known Chanukah songs. “The essence of Mom was that she was a strong, Participating musicians and congregations include Ettinger, in town during the concert.) Programs will be provided so independent and mobile woman,” Steve said. “She loved Cantorial Soloist Suzanne Guinane of Temple Emanuel of that audience members can sing along. the performing arts, and she loved Chanukah, too. She Tempe, Cantor Jonathan Angress of Beth El Congregation, “Whether you are Jewish, not Jewish, whether you know loved eating my potato latke and lighting candles with Cantor Baruch Koritan of Temple Beth Shalom of the West Hebrew, whether you don’t know Hebrew, these are going the kids.” Valley, Cantorial Soloist Mike Robbins of Beth Ami Temple, to be songs that everybody can sing along to,” Ettinger said. “She would have been there if she could,” Linda added. Cantorial Soloist Susan Colin of Congregation NefeshSoul, Rockower praised the concert’s mission of bringing Ettinger plans to make the Phoenix Sings concert an Cantorial Soloist Sharon Friendly of the Desert Foothills people together during happy times. annual Chanukah tradition, and Guinane is onboard. Jewish Community Association, Cantorial Soloist Erica “I think it speaks volumes to the connectedness of our “It’s wonderful to have a space to be out-loud-and- Erman of Congregation Kehillah and accompanist Jackie community and our ability to come together to celebrate proud Jewish,” she said, “and to have a space where we Huber. (Congregation Ohr Tzion assisted with preparations together for joyous events like Chanukah,” he said. “That’s can all come together and celebrate the miracle of the oil.” and was also going to participate, but their cantor won’t be the best way to connect community, through music and Guinane said. JN

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ELLENSmile O’BRIEN | STAFF WRITER On Seniors celebratesfor people to engage, socialize, 10 study, years grow and be a part started to an average of 250 each month. of the community,” Levertov said. “I go to the dinners now and I know so many people, n Nov. 17, Smile On Seniors of Arizona celebrated Today, SOS’ programs include movie nights, deli so many seniors, whereas I probably wouldn’t have had O10 years of programs for seniors at its annual benefit nights, kosher cooking workshops, lunches, Super Bowl many senior friends without it,” Mendelsohn said. “We fundraiser. Since Rabbi Levi and Chani Levertov started parties, date nights and holiday programming in addition learn so much from each other.” the program in 2009, it has expanded from one-on-one to visits from volunteers, therapy dogs and Rabbi Levi Lipsman makes it her business to go to the Shabbat visits to a wide range of services, some of which reach and Chani. dinner every month. “When you see all the seniors there hundreds of seniors a month. For all of its work, SOS relies on the help of volunteers and everything is homemade and you’re made to feel so Frances Lipsman lives in a retirement community in and donors. welcome, that’s quite a feat,” she said. Scottsdale and has been participating in SOS programs Nancy Mendelsohn starting volunteering in 2013 after Mendelsohn sees the difference it makes for volunteers, for three years. she saw the need for volunteers and programs in her seniors and the community. “It’s a fantastic group,” Lipsman said. “It’s so hearten- mother’s assisted living facility. “I don’t know anybody in this town whose parents are ing to see young people do so much for seniors.” “I’m very passionate about seniors, especially seniors using it who aren’t thrilled,” Mendelsohn said. “It really When Levertov moved to Arizona in November 2009, being alone and not having enough company, enough bridges the gap. It helps so many seniors and so many he knew that he would start a program for seniors. But ini- activities or people they can talk to,” Mendelsohn said. families, and it has really built community.” tially, it was only focused on visits to homebound seniors. “I’ve gone through a lot with my own parents, and it was While 10 years marks a milestone for Smile On “Our narrow-minded vision was really just one-on-one very, very difficult.” Seniors, the organization isn’t done growing. Long term, visits,” Levertov said. “We weren’t thinking about the big Over the years, Mendelsohn has seen the organiza- Levertov plans to build a center dedicated to SOS pro- picture of senior life in Arizona.” tion grow as new programs are added and more seniors grams. For now, the organization is adding to the current When Levertov realized that the homes for seniors and volunteers join. She started out visiting seniors with building to be able to provide more programs on site. didn’t have the resources to do a Chanukah celebration, her therapy dogs, and now organizes volunteers to play “The idea is to just keep growing, keep offering SOS evolved and began bringing more programs, activi- in weekly mahjong games at assisted living facilities. services and meeting new people,” Levertov said. ties and classes to retirement communities. She also cooks for the monthly Shabbat dinners, “More and more people are learning about it just by “Our goal was really just to offer more opportunities which have grown from around 100 seniors when she word of mouth.” JN

8 DECEMBER 6, 2019 JEWISH NEWS JEWISHAZ.COM HEADLINES ASU CONTINUED FROM PAGE 3 on campus,” Benkert said. “This is where And when current events have run their two sides had the opportunity to each share ASU draws a clear line and all organizations course, SSI has plans to reach out to Palestinian their point of view. involved are in clear condemnation.” students and establish a dialogue. “That we are willing and able to talk now, Benkert praised ASU for its handling of “We’re not going to stop putting on events it’s amazing,” Galili said. the protest. He said that dialogue is possible just because we have people who want to Mirvis noted that compared to other col- because of the university administration’s disrupt us,” Kaplan said. “That’s more of a lege campuses, ASU has much more subdued efforts to mitigate conflict and condemn hate reason to put on events, because we’re not rhetoric around the BDS movement and speech and violence while protecting freedom about having a one sided story. We want to anti-Semitism. of speech. talk to Palestinians and invite them to have “That’s not to say that we don’t have to Overall, students felt proud of how the conversations with them.” always be very vigilant and always be trying to Jewish community on campus came together While the fever pitch of current events will educate our students about how to perceive eventually die down, Jewish students will con- in response to events in the last month. these things,” Mirvis said. “But I feel that at Sarah Balis applauds after Danny Goldberg speaks “Our Jewish community at ASU has been tinue to be aware of these issues. “Even last ASU, we’re not getting as extreme of a reac- in response to USG Senator Benjamin Cooper. really good at putting out a united front,” year when BDS wasn’t on the docket, it was tion to these things as other places right now.” said Jacklyn Schur, vice president of the uni- very much in the mind of Jewish students in Morgan Fox, a Chabad student leader, versity’s Hillel chapter. “By collaborating with the wake of what happened in Pittsburgh, in said that the discussion afterwards was more all of the different Jewish organizations, the the wake of the growing anti-Jewish violence important than the USG meeting itself. “I response been really strong and that has given in America,” Mirvis said. was able to talk with multiple people from the students a better sense of community.” A chance for dialogue the other side, multiple senators to really The protests have made other students After the USG meeting, around two dozen understand where they’re coming from. And more determined to host and attend events students gathered in the front of the senate I think that was very important,” Fox said. on campus. chamber to debate and discuss the situation Mirvis and Benkert say students are eager “It makes me more inclined to go, even to in Israel and the Palestinian territories. for dialogue and a nuanced perspective. shabbat, which is something that I would go Neta Galili, an Israeli student and Chabad “There were many voices at the student to every week anyways,” said student Bella student leader, went straight to the front of the government meeting who called for better Schneider. “When I see an op-ed or people understanding, for learning from each other room at the end of the meeting to confront Alpha Epsilon Pi President Jacob Wirtzer speaks to protesting, I know it’s even more important Cooper, the sponsor of the resolution. After rather than deepen these divisions,” Benkert students before walking to the University Senate to show up.” an hour of debate, she felt relieved that the said. “Those voices are loud and clear.” JN meeting. PHOTOS BY ELLEN O’BRIEN

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JEWISHAZ.COM JEWISH NEWS DECEMBER 6, 2019 9 OPINION Editorials House bill to aid survivors he Holocaust not only took the lives 800,000 policies held in 1938 have yet to they don’t have appropriate, supportive Holocaust and their families should be Tof millions of Jews, it also took their be honored.” documentation of their claims. That argu- compensated for unpaid policies that were assets. More than 70 years after the defeat “Preventing Holocaust survivors and ment, of course, ignores the fact that Jews specifically set aside for times of trouble — of Nazi Germany, many survivors have their families from collecting on docu- who were rounded up in their homes, not to enhance the profit margins for the still not recovered what they are owed mented policies is truly outrageous and transported by cattle car and in forced insurance companies,” Wasserman Schultz under their families’ insurance policies that cruel,” she said. “But allowing these marches, and who survived death camps said. “This legislation would provide the covered property, accounts and tangibles global insurance corporations to hold on or escaped to the forests were unlikely to critically important financial support to which were stolen from them — totaling these victims who were forced to endure perhaps as much as $25 billion of unpaid the worst that humanity has inflicted on claims, including interest. a people.” Last week, legislation with bipartisan We applaud this bipartisan action. The support was introduced in the House of MORE THAN 70 YEARS AFTER THE DEFEAT legislation is another step by a Congress Representatives to allow Holocaust-era OF NAZI GERMANY, MANY SURVIVORS HAVE that reflects sensitivity to the precarious insurance beneficiaries to sue in federal plight of Holocaust survivors, and fol- courts to recover their unclaimed pay- STILL NOT RECOVERED WHAT THEY ARE OWED lows Congressional action in 2016 that ments. The legislation, which also has UNDER THEIR FAMILIES’ INSURANCE POLICIES. launched a five-year $12 million govern- a companion bill in the Senate, would ment initiative to provide support for remove time and other bars to the pursuit needy survivors. Those funds, channeled of those claims and would enable surviving through Jewish Federations of North families to seek recovery of the insur- America, marked the first time that the ance benefits that international insurance to this unjust enrichment is an offensive have kept their insurance papers in order. U.S. government allocated social service companies have kept for themselves since revictimization that cannot be allowed “Of course we have no documents,” funds specifically for Holocaust survivors, World War II. to stand.” one survivor said. “For obvious reasons.” and has been very successful. Rep. Debbie Wasserman Schultz The insurance companies say they aren’t The new legislation recognizes those The new effort to enable survivors to (D-Fla.), a co-sponsor of the Holocaust avoiding payment of legitimate claims. ‘obvious reasons’ and challenges the unlock the vaults of insurance companies Insurance Accountability Act of 2019, Instead, they say that what is keeping sur- insurance companies’ unreasonable for covered losses is a positive step. We said that “97 percent of the approximately vivors from qualifying for benefits is that documentation demands. “Victims of the urge passage of the legislation. JN Protecting our community begins at home ur Jewish community has focused response to reported sexual harassment within Jewish spaces can make it difficult Jewish organizations to take hold. Oheavily in the past several years on within their ranks has been uneven. to differentiate between what is and is In the meantime, Eisen notes that safety and security issues. With the rise in Thus, she says, when women within not appropriate and to address sexual gender disparity in leadership of Jewish anti-Semitic incidents here and abroad, Jewish organizations stepped forward harassment when it occurs.” And the organizations creates another problem: and mounting concerns about the reach with stories of harassment, leaders, study adds, “Harmful responses to Not only are men the cause of most and influence of purveyors of hate and including rabbis, “were often passive disclosures were especially common when harassment problems, they are also discrimination, we need to be vigilant and to complaints … or did nothing in the perpetrator was a donor or lay leader.” essential to any solution — and that proactive, and prepared to do everything doesn’t always work, since many male necessary to insure the well-being of our leaders struggle to figure out the cor- community. rect reactions to reports of harassment. But focus on those broader concerns VICTIMIZATION HAPPENS ACROSS ALL LEVELS OF To make matters worse, many men feel should not obscure recognition of the unsafe being alone at work with women need to protect individuals within our POWER WITHIN JEWISH ORGANIZATIONS, AND colleagues or socializing with them out- Jewish community from all threats, IS PERPETRATED BY INDIVIDUALS WHO HOLD side of work, for fear of being accused including those within the community. of sexual harassment. Eisen’s solution: In a recent study by the Safety Respect VARYING ROLES WITHIN THOSE ORGANIZATIONS. increased education and sensitivity train- and Equity Coalition, it wasn’t surprising ing, and “I think we just have to have the to learn that women are more often the conversations.” victims of sexual harassment rather than The lesson from the Coalition study is men. But it was surprising to learn that response,” leaving some women feeling The Coalition survey found that clear: As we continue to work to assure victimization happens across all levels of that their “complaints [were] ignored, while 70% of employees in the Jewish the safety of our Jewish community writ power within Jewish organizations, and minimized or laughed at.” nonprofit sector are female, only 30% large, we also need to focus upon the is perpetrated by individuals who hold According to the study, the structure of Jewish nonprofits are led by women. safety and dignity of the professionals and varying roles within those organizations. of Jewish institutions can even foster With slow turnover at the top of Jewish volunteers who sustain the work of our According to Lisa Eisen, president harassment: “The informal, familial and organizations, it will take some time for communal organizations. That is both the of the Coalition, Jewish organizational sometimes unprofessional environment significant female leadership of major right and moral thing to do. JN

10 DECEMBER 6, 2019 JEWISH NEWS JEWISHAZ.COM OPINION Commentary The importance of inclusion

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n overt and in subtle ways, so many of perspective treats Jews of color and multiple however, doesn’t always shift how people their identity is different from yours. Engage Iour Jewish institutions and communities ethnicities as if they are either in need of our in our communities are actually treated. We them in conversation and get to know them. have let dominant narratives dictate who is acceptance or should be grateful for it. The must ask: How does the community repre- Be engaging rather than curious. a Jew. Too often, Jews of color enter Jewish framework we need to adopt is that there sent itself? Who are the community’s lead- 5. Do not expect a guest to immediately space that has been shaped by assumptions are multiple Jewish identities and origins, ers? Who takes an active part in communal become your resource on understanding of whiteness that transform safe, communal all of which are components of Jewish ritual life? Who serves on the board? Who their identity. and warm spaces into places fraught with peoplehood. are the people giving sermons, singing in the Having representation matters internally. curiosity, exoticization and discrimination. At Congregation Bet Haverim, I have chorus, teaching our children? How are Jews When we had more than one Jewish person When white Ashkenazi Judaism is the sought to deepen our awareness of the vast represented visually in the collateral materials of color sit on the board, issues pertaining to accepted unexamined beacon of who a Jew richness of Jewish civilization that extends of the community and on the walls? If there race within the congregation were addressed is in our communities, we inadvertently pre- beyond Eastern Europe. We began to learn is a lack of diversity, it must be recognized organically. Everyone’s awareness was vent many Jews and their families from being from the global Jewish community and to and addressed. engaged in a natural and relational way. It able to fully participate in Jewish life. Not incorporate an array of Jewish lore, rituals, We also must think about how people also helped to shift the “who is a Jew” nar- only do we render these Jews and their family music and prayer forms into our worship are treated when they walk into the build- rative without always needing to be explicit. members invisible — or worse, unwelcome services, and family and adult education. ing. We have regularly sent our community Recently, a black Jewish teenager told me — we are also not able to address adequately This global approach has created entry communications with these five guidelines: that when he was a child, it was meaningful their needs or their spiritual yearnings. points for Jews of different ethnicities to feel 1. Avoid making assumptions about for him to see a black Jewish woman have Embracing Jews of varied races and eth- welcomed. For example, a bar mitzvah of gender identity, sexual orientation, religious an aliyah. Not only did it help him envision nicities is about our survival and our thriving Indian and Jewish heritage requested that we identity, Jewish background, race or reasons having a bar mitzvah, but it encouraged him as a people. We all benefit from shifting the incorporate the piyyut Ahot Ketanah, which for joining us. to become a gabbai rishon in our community dominant narrative. When there is greater emerged from the Indian Jewish community, 2. Respect a person’s identity and self- years later. inclusion, our communities are enriched at his bar mitzvah. He had experienced it as label, and respect a person’s chosen name It also matters externally. For instance, and vibrant. We are more authentic in our part of our High Holiday ritual and remem- and pronouns. Do not comment about when our first vice president, a Jew of color, diversity, and that has tremendous cultural bered that we honored his heritage, and he whether a name sounds Jewish or not. represented the synagogue at a memorial and spiritual benefits for all of us. felt affirmed. 3. Do not comment on whether someone service for Coretta Scott King, other Jews of Too often, even the well-intentioned It is important to incorporate prayers from looks Jewish or not. color noticed, and people of color interested desire to “become more inclusive” is framed Yemen, Uganda or India, and to learn about 4. Do not assume people want to only in Judaism took note and showed up at the in ways that feel charitable or altruistic. This those Jewish communities. That learning, speak about their identity, particularly when SEE LESSER, PAGE 12 Protecting women should be the priority RABBI RICHARD HIRSH

hen the Jewish world cycles back to intervention that avoids an illicit consumma- understanding women’s need for protection The Bipartisan Violence Against Women Wour founding generations, we find in tion. But the behavior of Abraham and of Isaac from abuse as a human right, and making sure Reauthorization Act closes the “boyfriend the Torah behavior by the patriarchs that is remains troubling even for traditional Jewish our laws reflect that understanding. loophole,” meaning that those already found awkward as well as disturbing. Three times the commentators, who feel compelled to offer An example of how protection of women guilty of dating violence and/or stalking Torah presents a story about a husband and an explanation. Some imagine a convoluted may still be considered a secondary concern would be prohibited from owning or pos- wife traveling as strangers through an alien cul- lineage in which Sarah technically emerges as is the current resistance in the U.S. Senate to sessing firearms. ture. Each story involves the husband passing some distant “half-sister” of Abraham. Others take action on the Bipartisan Violence Against In the United States, an average of 52 off his wife as his sister, to avoid harm coming imagine Abraham stalling for time, until the Women Reauthorization Act which passed the women a month are victims of gun violence to him — with no apparent concern for the famine that has brought them to Egypt is House of Representatives in April as HR 1585. perpetrated by an intimate partner. And the potential harm that could come to the wife. ended and they can escape — counting on The original 1994 bipartisan VAWA has majority of women killed in acts of domestic In Egypt, Abraham fears that the Pharaoh God’s intervention to protect Sarah in the previously been reauthorized three times, violence are killed by guns. What VAWA seeks will kill him in order to possess Sarah. To interim. in 2000, 2005 and 2013, each time with to do is to keep guns out of the hands of per- secure his safety, Abraham asks that Sarah say Such interpretations protect the patriarchs improvements that offered additional protec- petrators and to remove access to guns from she is his sister, not his wife. Many years later, from being accused of lying; the vulnerability tions for women. Why then don’t all senators those whom the courts have found willing to in Gerar, Abraham again says of Sarah “she is that the husbands create for their wives seems agree to support the companion bill to the harass, abuse and injure women. Restricting my sister,” allowing King Abimelech to pro- to be of little or no account. Put differently, bipartisan VAWA? What are the concerns to those convicted from access to guns is an cure her as his consort. And a generation later, traditional commentators, while noting behav- which the risk to women is acceptably sub- important step toward tightening VAWA’s when Isaac and Rebecca also find themselves ior that exposes women to potential abuse, ordinated? protections for women. in Gerar, Isaac tells “the men of the place” that find a presumably more important concern While there are a number of expanded But rather than focus on protecting women Rebecca is his sister. to which the risk to women is acceptably protections in the 2019 VAWA, a primary (and children) from domestic violence, some Each of these biblical stories includes an subordinated. We must think differently, source of opposition is the issue of guns. SEE HIRSH, PAGE 12

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TORAH STUDY SHABBAT CANDLE LIGHTING DEC. 6 - 5:02 P.M. Are we a camp or a community? DEC. 13 - 5:03 P.M. PARSHAT VAYETZEI subject matter), this confrontation with the continuously guards itself from attacks. SHABBAT ENDS GENESIS 28:10-32:3 angels was not the idealistic, hopeful experi- Jews have been attacked by extremists on DEC. 7 - 6:01 P.M. ence that Jacob had experienced as a young both the right and the left. There have RABBI ARTHUR man. This was not a group of angels who been mass shootings in synagogues and DEC. 14 - 6:02 P.M. LAVINSKY connected heaven and earth. These were individual assaults against conspicuously angels coming to offer Jacob courage as he Jewish men and women (mostly Orthodox) fter steal- was about to meet Esau. Jacob called the by hoodlums. European Jews have not been Find area congregations at jewishaz.com, where Aing his place Mahanaim — camps, i.e., a military this vulnerable since World War II. And you can also find our 2020 Community Directory. father’s blessing encampment. This wasn’t a time for idealistic American Jews are on constant guard against intended for his dreams; it was a time to prepare for war. potential murderers, both from the political at the Memorial Union during which two elder brother He quotes Rabbi Joseph B. Soloveitchik, right and left. injured Israeli soldiers were scheduled to Esau, Jacob is forced to flee his home to who commented on the difference between The problem is exacerbated by the fact speak. Universities, which are supposed to escape his brother’s wrath. Along the way, a camp (mahaneh) and a community (edah): that there are, tragically, many Jews who have embrace the free exchange of ideas, have he finds a place to sleep and he has a dream “A camp exists as a defensive tactic. Those wittingly or unwittingly joined forces with become hotbeds of intolerance and Jew- in which he sees angels ascending and within the camp are surrounded by enemies; anti-Semites who seek to eradicate the Jewish hatred in the guise of anti-Zionism. descending a ladder based on earth that their physical existence is threatened so they state and the Jewish people. It boggles my Of course, not every criticism of Israel is reached to the heavens. When he awakens, come together to protect themselves. A mind that there are Jews who support BDS anti-Semitic or even anti-Zionist. Israel, like he declares, “This is nothing but the house community, by contrast, is united not by (boycott, divestment and sanctions) against the United States, is an imperfect country of God, and this is the gate of heaven.” At fears of external enemies, but by a shared Israel and who have decried the move of the and sometimes needs to be reminded to live this point, Jacob was the young idealist, try- worldview, a shared desire to live happy, U.S. Embassy from Tel Aviv to Jerusalem up to its highest ideals. But as Jews we would ing to balance life’s challenges with his quest good lives. During the course of life, we and who lament the fact that the U.S. do well to act like an edah (a community) for spirituality. sometimes feel that we are in an edah; we live recently recognized that Israel has a right to and join forces with those who support the Toward the end of the parsha, once again among people we trust and like; we strive for settle historically Jewish lands in Judea and State of Israel, which also happens to be the Jacob sees angels. But many years have similar goals; we try to link heaven and earth Samaria. There are, therefore, attacks from strongest democracy in the Middle East. passed and he is both older and wiser. He is by living our earthly lives with a keen sense within that should cause us all great concern. We would do well to heed the words of now a husband and father of a large family. of the spiritual. Yet there are other times Some people delude themselves into Hillel in Pirkei Avot: “If I am not for myself, Jacob is about to meet his brother after all when we feel that we are in a mahaneh; we thinking that anti-Semitism and anti- who will be for me? If I am only for myself, these years and he is understandably afraid. are threatened, our families are in peril. We Zionism are unrelated. Nothing could be what am I? And if not now, then when?” It is The text states: “And Jacob went on his unite in order to defend ourselves.” further from the truth. Earlier this month, high time for us to stand up for Jews, to sup- way and the angels of God met him. And The question we might ask is, “Does the University of Toronto Student Union port the only Jewish state (especially when Jacob said when he saw them: ‘This is God’s today’s Jewish community more closely opposed serving kosher food on campus Jews are threatened the world over) and to camp.’ And he called the name of that place resemble a mahaneh (a camp) or an edah because keeping kosher is ostensibly “pro- live proudly as the children of Israel. JN Mahanaim (camps).” (community)?” I submit that tragically, Israel.” Also, recently, students at ASU Rabbi Arthur Lavinsky, retired pulpit rabbi and According to my colleague Rabbi Marc world Jewry is more like the former — a wearing emblems of anti-Israel organizations Navy chaplain, is former president of the Board of Angel (an interesting name considering the camp that constantly feels threatened and and waving signs tried to shut down an event Rabbis of Greater Phoenix.

LESSER HIRSH CONTINUED FROM PAGE 11 CONTINUED FROM PAGE 11 synagogue understanding that they would to speak of these issues that is encouraging opponents of VAWA have seized on the for women for the sake of promoting the likely be welcome. By having Jews of color and helpful, rather than shaming. “boyfriend loophole,” diverting the discus- exercise of power by men. in visible leadership positions, Congregation There is a great deal of ground to cover, sion from how best to ensure the safety of Commenting on Abraham’s passing off Bet Haverim was able to participate in and it can feel daunting. Yet this work is women at risk to a focus on how to ensure Sarah as his sister, one commentator sug- forums that were largely for people of color. essential, and it is also rewarding. The more that anyone, even a convicted abuser, should gests that “no one should rely on a miracle We were often the only Jewish voice repre- these values, principles and approaches have the right to own a gun. The Bipartisan in a dangerous situation. One should secure sented in those important spaces. become part of our communities, the more Violence Against Women Reauthorization Act protection in every way that one can.” It also makes a difference if our commu- authentic and whole we become. A com- risks being held hostage by those for whom The Bipartisan Violence Against Women nities are involved in justice issues around mitment to shift the culture around race will an unrestricted right to own guns will always Reauthorization Act — bill S.2843 — is one racial equity. For Jewish leaders who have result in benefits that radiate well beyond be the governing concern — even when it such protection. It is our responsibility to worked on issues of racial justice, I have race. This approach is a sacred obligation, leaves their mothers, sisters, daughters and urge our senators to assure that the protec- noticed that some of us have a tendency and I believe it is a key both to our survival granddaughters exposed to an increased risk tions that VAWA affords to women should to distance ourselves from Jews who have and how we will thrive. JN of violence and of death. be the priority. less experience in challenging racism. We The biblical patriarchs were similarly more The stakes are too high to rely on a miracle. JN Rabbi Joshua Lesser is the spiritual leader of can be frustrated and even dismissive of concerned about their own well-being than Congregation Bet Haverim in Atlanta. This piece Rabbi Richard Hirsh is a member of Jewish Women “white” Jews who are reluctant to examine is an excerpt from an essay originally published protecting their wives from mistreatment. In their privilege. I strongly believe that this International’s Clergy Task Force to End Domestic on the website Evolve: Groundbreaking Jewish privileging gun ownership over protection Abuse in the Jewish Community. JWI is the leading is the work in which we must engage. We Conversations, an initiative of Reconstructing for women, some legislators seem ready to Jewish organization working to end violence against must cultivate patience, listening and a way Judaism. The full version can be found there. repeat ancient history: displacing protections women and girls.

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etermining that your aging parent may indicate that new decisions may have Dor loved one is in need of assistance to be considered. may be one of the most difficult decisions • Personal hygiene problems like poor you will ever make. You may be met with grooming, a sloppy appearance, infre- resistance; you may find yourself in a no- quent bathing win situation. • Home in disarray or needing to be Whatever the case, an increasing num- cleaned ber of families will face such quandaries • Weight loss or weight gain (check for this holiday season. For out-of-town spoiled food or insufficient food in the visitors, the condition of their elderly home) relative(s) may come as a shock. For those • Failure to manage medications or already intimately involved with caregiv- medical appointments ing responsibilities, the holidays and the • Increased difficulty with mobility (such onset of winter can bring about a number as climbing stairs or using a bathtub) of emotional needs of our loved ones that • Changes in judgment, mood or overall can bring even more challenges. behavior This year, as we roll into the holidays, • Increased forgetfulness (check for be on the lookout for signs that your unopened mail or unread newspapers) aging relative may be in need of some • Missed bill payments or other financial assistance. Look especially for signs of difficulties change; changes in health, mood and • Unusual or extravagant purchases that living conditions can all be important are out of character indicators. • Decreased social activities or failing to In addition, family members should maintain friendships be speaking with the people who see • Struggles with basic tasks such as eating, their aging relative(s) on a daily basis to dressing, walking, cooking, managing find out if they have noticed any recent medications changes. • Not maintaining outside friendships or Below, we list some signs of change that interests

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• Erratic attitude, paranoia, refusing to can lead to confusion, frustration and care when skilled nursing is not needed. communicate, abusing alcohol or drugs miscommunication. Who will take respon- Families should know that there are many • Suffering from consistent memory lapses, sibility for what tasks? Often the majority of options available for assistance. These confusion, loss of reasoning skills, dif- the work is delegated to the family member include in-home care, day care, family ficulty answering questions, gets lost who has the most available time. Caregivers counseling and other services. walking or driving, inability to find the placed in this position harbor resent- The best course of action is to have a right word ment which leads to the demise of family game plan. The family needs to sit down • Signs of physical illness, such as black and relationships, the most important support and assess their loved one’s needs and blue marks, bed wetting, dehydration, system the loved one so desperately needs. evaluate if they have the skill sets within problems swallowing In this situation, a compromise is usually the family unit to care for their loved one, the best course of action for the loved one or if they need to seek outside assistance. Failure to do anything when you notice and the entire family. Decisions involving care for a loved one these conditions will create even greater The primary caregiver may feel should not be hurried or rushed. The difficulties down the road. unappreciated or victimized because family should take their time and weigh all When making decisions about getting other family members feel he or she is not the options available to them. assistance for a loved one, don’t be tempted providing the best care. While neither side So, this holiday season, take inventory to take on all the responsibility yourself. may want to be seen as “giving in,” it may with your loved ones, especially those loved It is important to understand that be in the best interests of the loved one ones who are sitting around the holiday caregivers need care, too. The idea that to compromise. dinner table. taking on the responsibility for an ailing or Outside evaluations from physicians Take note of some of the signs that I have aging parent means that the caregiving or case or care managers may also prove outlined for you above. If you recognize adult child does everything by themselves, helpful in deciding on the best course of any of these signs, then this is a good the while simultaneously continuing to action. Many loved ones would prefer to time to begin having the conversation about meet the demands of their own lives and remain at home if the cost of care is not “making the decision” to provide them with families, is simply unrealistic. prohibitive or if the care necessity does not some caregiving assistance. JN In our busy world, caregiving is already exceed what can be provided. a complicated task, but when multiple Many times, a trained personal care Bob Roth is the managing partner of Cypress family members are involved, the complexities provider can provide the majority of HomeCare Solutions.

JEWISHAZ.COM JEWISH NEWS DECEMBER 6, 2019 B3 SPECIAL SECTION DIGNITY FOR THE SENIOR LIFESTYLE HOMEBOUND Jewish War Vets hold logo contest Maureen Alexander CAROLYN CONTE 917-622-8917 he Jewish War Veterans of the USA establishment of the National Museum of Tis celebrating its 125th anniversary American Jewish Military History. with a contest. It is holding a logo design The JWV is a military group with a competition with a reward of $500 and a military focus, said Rinkoff, but they • Certi ed Nursing Assistant feature in the next issue of its publication, are also invested in justice for the Jewish “Jewish Veteran.” Submissions, welcome community as a whole. In September, for • C P R Certi ed from any individual over 18, must be example, the JWV called on Chancellor • 23 Years Experience emailed to Christy Turner at cturner@ Timothy White of San Francisco State jwv.org by January. University to respond to some online • References Available JWV is the longest-running veteran’s comments made by a professor about service, according to its website. Zionism. • Live-In “We are the only consistently running “We have three things other vet orga- veteran’s service organization, so it is a nizations don’t: We are close to Israel, we very exciting milestone,” JWV Public fight anti-Semitism and we publicize that Relations Coordinator Cara Rinkoff said. Jews have fought for this nation since the Jewish War Veterans National Commander JWV was founded in 1896 by a group of Revolutionary War,” said JWV National Dr. Barry Schneider visits Phoenix earlier this year. PHOTO BY NICK ENQUIST Jewish Civil War veterans, who responded to Commander Harvey Weiner. discrimination and diminution of their ser- Weiner wants Jews to be proud of the fact Guests of the 2020 February JWV vice record. Since then, JWV has fought for that they have served in every war in a greater Executive Meeting will vote upon the recognition of Jewish veterans nationwide. proportion than the general public. contest submissions. JN The group has advocated for things like After all the contest entries are in, the the Star of David on gravestones, religious winning logo will be used for the JWV This piece originally ran in the Baltimore Jewish protections in the 1944 G.I. Bill and the anniversary in 2021. Times, a Jewish News-affiliated publication.

Maravilla Scottsdale Helps Families Tackle Complex Topics Experts at Maravilla Scottsdale encourage older adults to engage in open, honest discussions about their well-being and future care needs with their adult children and whether a retirement community setting is an option they may wish to consider.

According to Sandra Dangelo, Executive Director of Maravilla Scottsdale, no matter how independent, vibrant and self-sucient someone may be today, the question of “what if” lingers. The financial responsibility and possible care needs of a loved one can take a toll on the family.

“With planning and the knowledge of all available resources, the family can find peace of mind, said Dangelo. “The subject may not be an easy one to broach, but we can help families tackle this complex subject, allowing folks to make better informed decisions.”

Sandra suggests that previewing retirement communities with family members can jump-start dicult conversations about future needs. Scheduling visits to learn more about the lifestyle and services o‚ered within senior living environments can provide family members with tremendous insight into a loved one’s preferences, as well as educate the entire family as to the various housing and care options available.

Maravilla Scottsdale, for example, o‚ers accredited independent living, assisted living and memory care programs. Accredited through the Commission on Accreditation of Rehabilitation Facilities (CARF), a three-year CARF accreditation parallels a five-star rating in the hospitality industry.

Here, independent seniors seeking maintenance-free living to complement their active and engaging lifestyle can choose from a variety of spaciously designed one- and two-bedroom residences in boutique-like atmosphere. When needs change and grow, residents enjoy the assurance of quality care and services o‚ered at Maravilla Scottsdale’s licensed assisted living and memory care.

Learn more about the lifestyle oered at Maravilla Scottsdale at an upcoming Lunch & Learn on Tuesday, December 17 at 11:30am. To RSVP, please call 480.269.1952 or visit MaravillaScottsdale.com.

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The assisted living & memory care services at Maravilla Scottsdale are about the whole family and the whole YOU. But the best part? No matter if you need a little help or a lot, you will be amazed by the dierence. Please call Maravilla Scottsdale to schedule your complimentary lunch and tour.

Lunch & Learn | Tuesday, December 17th • 11:30am Join us for a complimentary lunch and learn about our engaging lifestyle and supportive assisted living & memory care services. Take a tour, make a friend, and ask lots of questions. Seating is limited. To RSVP, please call 480.447.2381.

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SENIOR LIFESTYLE Isolated seniors don’t have to be lonely during the holidays ARNOLD SCHWARTZ AND DEBORAH MULLER

hrinking social circles, life changes, The friend mentioned it to another and Skids and grandchildren living across within a couple of days, they had a group the country … it all often leads to isola- of 12 to dine out. tion for older adults, which is especially 2. Take a hike: Exercise releases endor- poignant around the holidays when phins essential to elevating one’s mood. many seniors feel heightened levels of The fresh air, great views and chance to loneliness. make new trail friends with healthy habits While others are opening gifts, gather- are additional benefits. Even if you don’t ing around the table for a large family make a new best friend on a hike, you dinners and toasting the coming year are moving your body, which is always at festive gatherings, some older a good thing. The Valley offers many individuals don’t different hiking experience the groups across a holidays as they range of difficulty. Waiting isn’t easy, but if you are waiting for home used to and this I have another leads to feelings friend who, with care services including bathing, personal care, grocery of isolation and his wife, leads sadness. a McDowell- shopping and laundry help, any wait is too long. Fortunately, there Sonoran hike every are several ways one Christmas Day. They Area Agency on Aging provides these and other services to help older can prevent such social started several years adults remain in their homes. There are more than 1,000 older adults on isolation, either for your- ago with a handful of self or the senior in your life. individuals and the group the waiting list for this essential assistance. With your support, we can lift First, realize that while expecta- has now grown to over 40 people. the year long wait and provide critical services to more seniors in our tions are high and comparisons run 3. Attend a Chanukah service: community. rampant, you don’t need to feel Dig deeper into your religion and any pressure to make real life rediscover the meaning of the oil, WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR? a Hallmark movie. Second, the Maccabees, the traditional Your generous Arizona Charitable Tax Credit donation of $800 will make redefine what makes a fam- foods and accoutrements of ily during the holidays. Your the Festival of Lights with an immediate impact on the life of a homebound older adult by providing ISTOCK/GETTYIMAGES home care services for 10 weeks. Your $400 donation will provide those bridge or mahjong group, like-minded people who also fellow synagogue members or even the attend. Spiritual care is an important services for 5 weeks. Thank you for investing in our community. Your person in the next room at the retirement component of self-care and well-being. Arizona Charitable Tax Credit donation to Area Agency on Aging will community are not only great “stand-ins” 4. Lend a helping hand: Whether make a critical di erence to older adults who are waiting for home care for family, they can also become wonder- serving in a soup kitchen, helping orga- servcies. ful friends who are just like family. Lastly, nizations such as Toys for Tots, visiting don’t let loneliness feed on itself — the a hospital or walking dogs on Dec. 25, Lifting the wait can make the di erence – Your support can best way to deal with it is to override your volunteering places you among many make the di erence. instinct to isolate yourself. other people and warms one’s heart. Consider these activities or opportuni- My synagogue gets a group together to Donate online: www.aaaphx.org ties as a fun and festive way of engaging volunteer at the annual Salvation Army Call direct: 602-264-2255 with others over the holidays (and actu- Christmas Dinner. There’s no possible ally, all throughout the year): way to feel lonely when helping others Mail your donation: Area Agency on Aging 1. Dine out: Resist the ease of micro- who are less fortunate feel less lonely as 1366 E. Thomas Road, Ste. 108 wave cooking or DoorDash delivery and well. And afterwards, some of us go out Phoenix, AZ 85014 grab a meal with others. Not only does for Chinese! JN one get a tasty treat and can explore *Consult your tax advisor – The Area Agency on Aging is a 501 (c)(3) charitable organization qualifying for the new restaurants, dining out with one or Arnold Schwartz is a member of Beth Ami Temple Arizona Charitable Tax Credit under the Arizona Department of Revenue. Our Tax ID number is 74-2371957. Our Qualifying more people can allow for more intimate Charitable Organization (QCO) number is 20044. of Paradise Valley, a boutique synagogue for active conversation and deeper connections. adults. For more information about the congregation ©2019 Area Agency on Aging | 1366 E. Thomas Road, Ste. 108, Phoenix AZ 85014 I have an older friend who asked an or its regular activities, visit bethamitemple.org. 24-Hour Senior HELP LINE 602-264-HELP (4357) | aaaphx.org acquaintance who had nothing to do on Deborah Muller is a public relations consultant for a recent holiday to join her in eating out. several Valley organizations.

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WITHOUT CHEATING: Do you know when the first night of Chanukah is this year? Go ahead, take a guess. It’s Dec. 22! You’ve actually got some time to figure out what you’re going to surprise your friends and family with this year, gathered around the candlelight. That doesn’t mean you should drag your feet here, necessarily, but it’s not exactly go-time yet. For you go-getting gift hunters out there, this list is for you. The absolutely definitive list of the Chanukah presents sure to tantalize and delight. Chinnapong / iStock / Getty Images Plus / Getty Chinnapong / iStock

“Hershel and the Hannukah Goblins,” by Eric Kimmel, Weighted Blanket illustrated by Trina Schart Hyman We don’t make a commission from It’s only the best children’s book about the holiday! selling weighted blankets. But man, Follow Hershel as he braves a succession of increasingly those things are awesome. These fearsome goblins, intent on ruining Chanukah for the heavy, form-hugging blankets have whole town. You can find “Hershel and the Hannukah to be felt to be believed. Find one Goblins” on amazon.com for $17.99. at laylasleep.com for $99.

“The Jewish Cookbook,” by Leah Koenig You can find every manner of chicken, brisket and other staples in Leah Koenig’s new cookbook, out this year from Phaidon. Better yet, many of the recipes are drawn from the far corners of world Jewry, rendered with love and beautiful color photographs. For $35.99 from Target, that’s a bargain. All other images screenshots from websites. from images screenshots All other SEE CHANUKAH GIFT IDEAS, PAGE 14

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Otterbox Phone Case The Otterbox phone case has been a really solid, functional Chanukah gift for a long time. They’re wonderfully durable, helping countless phones over the years survive all manner of drops. The newest versions are thinner, and not quite as unwieldy as Otterbox cases of the past. They come in blue, pink, black and ocean green. Get it on amazon.com for $22.20.

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ANDREAmemorable COHEN conversationis informed by the belief in tikkun olam. hilanthropy isn’t a topic of conversation Our children know more about current Pthat necessarily has a right and wrong events, not because they are assigned to bring answer. Starting a dialogue with a teen with in articles and discuss them in school, rather f just the question, “If you could donate to any because their friends are sharing articles with organization to help solve a problem or issue, them online. They are bright, inquisitive and where would you direct that gift?” opens the truly do care about our world. We absolutely door to a wonderful conversation about our can and should engage them as philanthropists at an early age. $4 Per values and shared concerns. Often, when we try and talk with our tweens We should be taking advantage of these and teens, discussions are less about perspec- teachable moments as Jewish teachable tive and more about being right. Children moments. When we engage in conversations about social justice and giving, we should Month have very valuable and, at times, strong Billed as $48 a year. opinions about what problems in the world remember to tie this work back to text and they want to help solve. Even if you aren’t Jewish values. As parents and educators, ultimately going to involve your child in the grounding good behavior in our Jewish roots decision as to how you will be allocating your and values is an opportunity we shouldn’t pass families charitable dollars, you can certainly up. Hebrew and Yiddish allow us to identify engage them in the conversation. Talking positive actions with a Jewish label. Whether about giving is important and it is a significant we refer to it as philanthropy or tzedakah is conversation that will show them you sincerely situationally dependent. value their opinion. Upon becoming a bar or bat mitzvah, the Giving conversations also allow your Jewish Community Foundation works to children to learn more about what motivates engage teens by helping them establish their you and your family. own lifelong charitable giving fund. Teens From the youngest age, we are conditioned donate at least $500 (usually from what they to give tzedakah. Annually in Jewish pre- have received in gifts) and a charitable endow- schools across the Valley, tzedakah boxes are ment fund is established in their name. The made out of reclaimed food containers (my fund is invested with the Foundation’s assets favorite is a small-sized can of Pringles). We and every year for the rest of their life, they will are taught that the Jewish people give tzedakah give away a portion of their fund to organiza- because it is a mitzvah. We are taught that giv- tions of their choice. Teens are empowered ing tzedakah will help us fulfill the mitzvah of as grant makers at a young age and will be tikkun olam; repairing our world. reminded of the experience of becoming a bar The why of giving philanthropically is not a or bat mitzvah annually. new lesson or concept in our Jewish commu- When these young fund-holders enter nity. But there has been a tremendous rise of high school, they are invited to participate opportunities for giving and engagement for as strategic philanthropists as members of children. And with these new opportunities, the Youth Philanthropy Board. This group we adults have begun to learn that our children works to identify values that will inform their have much to teach us about philanthropy. giving, determine their funding focus, seek In generations past, most charitable orga- out potential grantees and ultimately decide nizations only created opportunities for how to grant $10,000 into our community. engagement for donors who were giving at Significant opportunities exist in our commu- jewishaz.com/month a high level. Now, organizations are realizing nity for involving teens and tweens in giving, that kids are powerful forces for change. and as adults it is our responsibility to guide Organizations now focus on empower- our children toward these opportunities. JN 602-870-9470 ext. 1 ing children to use their voices, hands and limited dollars. Our children have Andrea Cohen is the youth philanthropy director of the different problem-solving strategies and Jewish Community Foundation of Greater Phoenix. For more information about tzedakah opportunities aren’t limited by the constraints of “doing for tweens and teens and the B’nai Tzedek Youth it because that is the way we have always Philanthropy Program, contact acohen@jcfphoenix. done it.” Our children have a world view that org or 480-699-1717.

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Foothills Food Bank is a registred 501 Foothills Food Bank is registered 501 (c) 3 Corporation. (c) 3 Corporation. Under Arizona State Under Arizona State Law, we are a Qualifi ed Charitable Law, we are a Qualified Charitable Organization, Code 20514, and donations to us qualify Organization, Code 20514, and dona- for Arizona Tax Credit, and/or charitable deduction. Foothills Food Bank is registered 501 (c) 3 Corporation. tions to us qualify for Arizona Tax Under Arizona State Law, we are a Qualifi ed Charitable Credit, and/or charitable deduction. Organization,480-488-1145 Code 20514, and donations to us qualify www.foothillsfoodbank.comfor Arizona Tax Credit, and/or charitable deduction. 480-488-1145 www.foothillsfoodbank.com Participants in the “Wheels of Love” charity ride in Israel. PHOTO BY TOMER FEDER. How to make your $800 Donation Cost You $0 And Help End Homelessness for Arizonans Hundreds of cyclists join 20th $800 - $800 = $0 ‘Wheels | JNS of Love’ charity ride You donate $800 to the Your state taxes are SIMONE MASHA Human Services Campus reduced by up to an Net cost to you he luggage-handlers at Ben-Gurion mented by the Ride Organizing Committee at www.hsc-az.org $800 tax credit TInternational Airport saw an increase made up of the original participants. As the in the number of bicycles coming in and event expanded, committee members would *This is an example. Consult out, as an expected 500 participants from ride the route ahead of time to make sure that your financial advisor about 12 countries arrived to participate in the Israel’s often rough roads and terrain were your specific situation. five-day “Wheels of Love” 2019 charity doable for the average person. bike ride, with as many as 125 riders joining Chaim Zlotogorski, originally from New from the United States alone. The ride, this York, recalled that “after the second ride, I year celebrating its 20th anniversary, raised think we understood that it had significant much-needed funds for Israel’s only pedi- potential. There were a few of us who are atric rehabilitation hospital: ALYN Hospital startup people and understood that if we Pediatric and Adolescent Rehabilitation focused on the ‘product’ as we would in a Center in Jerusalem. business and delivered the best product pos- Come socialize This year’s event took place from Nov. 10 sible, we could be successful.” to Nov. 14, with different routes beginning By 2002, the ride saw double the number and ending all over the Jewish state. of participants. The ride was started by a group of nine Two decades later, that figure has grown people in Israel who used to live in New York, to 500, many of whom are return riders. Six with us Denver, Chicago and London. They first parallel routes are now offered, each one peddled from Jerusalem to Eilat in the year crafted differently depending on the type of 2000, procuring $65,000 for the hospital. cycling road or trail and the level of difficulty. That year not only marked the first charity One route allows for leisurely cycling in jewishaz.com ride, but also the start of the Second Intifada the morning and visiting interesting tourist and the burst of the dot.com industry in the sites in the afternoon, while another, the United States. As such, there were some very “Challenge Route,” has cyclists peddling facebook.com/JewishAZ underemployed tour guides and business more than 130 kilometers (about 80 miles) people in Israel with the time to devote to daily, with steep, long mountain climbs. organizing such an endeavor. There is even a non-bike trail for friends twitter.com/phxjnews “We were all surprised by the success of and spouses who prefer their own two feet the first ride,” said Steve Zerobnick, one of rather than two wheels. the original participants. “We raised far more This was the third year that Boston resident than I ever envisioned. Given this success, it David Levenfeld went along for the ride. instagram.com/phxjnews seemed to me that we had a responsibility “The sense of camaraderie, the personal chal- to try and replicate it, and grow the ride. lenge of the physical aspects of the ride, and Figuring out how to run the ride was com- the unmatched way to see and visit Israel, are plicated, but because I work in tourism and the reasons that bring me back again,” he the Second Intifada made my business suffer, said. “To see literally hundreds of people from I had a lot of time to work to experiment.” all over the world come together in support In 2001, the bike ride had grown to 47 of the same cause amazes me.” participants. It was organized and imple- ALYN is Israel’s only pediatric

18 DECEMBER 6, 2019 JEWISH NEWS JEWISHAZ.COM SPECIAL SECTION Y ou r Y E A R -E N D D O N A T I O N rehabilitation hospital and a world leader in raised allow us to give the children the treat- will m ak e a d ifferenc e… the field of rehabilitation of children with a ments and therapies they require, rather A L L Y E A R L O N G . wide range of physical disabilities, in which than limit the care to the basic needs that are multidisciplinary expertise has been developed covered by the Israeli national health-care Your support will help provide in rehabilitative treatment of children and system. Every additional penny goes toward interest-free loans for: youth. In addition to the range of advanced additional therapists, a wider selection of rehabilitation services, the hospital, which emotional support modalities, innovative · Adoption/IVF was founded 85 years ago, has recently interdisciplinary projects and extra hands- · Crisis Situations Medical/Dental Needs inaugurated a groundbreaking innovation on care.” REDIRECT YOUR TAX center, ALYNovation, for adapting solutions This year, the event was expected to bring · Small Business Development DOLLARS & HELP ICM and developing technological accessories for in $3 million with riders raising money · Jewish Day School/Preschool Charitable Tax Credit Eligible the children. independently or as part of a team. And So Much More ($800 Married / $400 Single) Hospital staff regularly treat children from Edward Joyce, a resident of New York Truly a gift for you and the families who overseas and advise medical institutions City’s Upper West Side Manhattan and depend on ICM for their basic needs! worldwide on treatment and care, as well as captain of The Grumpy Roasters — a team Please make your donation TODAY. Providing emergency food, clothing on innovative solutions developed at ALYN. of 21 that started out in New York — is & essential items to more than “We have a unique approach to the treat- quick to rave about his experiences. 140,000 individuals annually. ment of children with disabilities,” said Dr. “We all support and encourage each other www.jewishfreeloan.org(602) 230-7983 Thank you for your support. Maurit Beeri, director general of ALYN. “Our for a common cause and have a great time,” www.jewishfreeloan.org (602) 230-7983 Gifts Online: www.icmaz.org hope is that every child reaches their maxi- he said. “The last day when we cycle onto Mail: P.O. Box 2225, Phoenix, AZ 85002 mum development potential, and we believe the ALYN Hospital grounds is tremen- QCO Code: 20385 that advanced medicine is just the beginning.” dously emotional. Upon finishing, you are Tax ID: 86-0401223 Contact: [email protected] “Medicine must partner with rehabilitation elated to have completed such a rigorous therapy, family support and a fair chance to endeavor, and when you see the kids that education if we are to succeed in providing are waiting for you at the end of the race, a child with a future of possibilities,” she you realize that what you have done pales in explains. “This partnership is afforded to us comparison to their accomplishments, and by the annual ‘Wheels of Love.’ The funds the drive they have day in and day out.” JN

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Talmudic Heroes: 10 a.m., East Valley JCC, 908 JACS: Support Group for Jewish Alcoholics, Featured Event N. Alma School Road, Chandler. Taught by Rabbi Addicts, and their Friends and Family: 7:30 p.m. Michael Beyo. Cost: $14. To register, visit evjcc.org/ Valley of the Sun JCC, 12701 N. Scottsdale Road, THURSDAY, DEC. 12 open-beit-midrash. Scottsdale. For more information, call the Shalom Center or email [email protected]. ADL Trivia Night: 6:30 p.m., Valley Bar, 130 N. Central Ave., EVJCC Speaker Series: 11 a.m., East Valley JCC, 908 Phoenix. Trivia night hosted by the Anti-Defamation League’s N. Alma School Road, Chandler. Speaker: Rabbi THURSDAY, DEC. 19 Young Leadership Committee. Ages 21 and up. Tickets: $20 Herschel Brodie of Temple Beth Sholom of the East The Life and Tragedy of King David: 9 a.m., East individual registration, $80 team registration of up to 5 people. Valley. Topic: Speaking for the Outsider: The Parallel Valley JCC, 908 N. Alma School Road, Chandler. Ticket includes one drink and appetizers. All proceeds benefit Cases of Elisha Ben Abuya and Ruth. Cost: $14 ($20 Free, registration required. To register, visit evjcc. the ADL. To register, visit support.adl.org/ADLTriviaNight. after Dec. 8), includes kosher lunch. To register, visit org/open-beit-midrash. evjcc.org/open-beit-midrash. Talmudic Heroes: 10 a.m., East Valley JCC, 908 N. SUNDAY, DEC. 15 Alma School Road, Chandler. Cost: $14. To register, Conversations with the Rabbi: 6 p.m. East Valley Events 9 a.m.-noon, East Valley JCC, visit evjcc.org/open-beit-midrash. JCC, 908 N. Alma School Road, Chandler. Rabbi Ladles of Love: 908 N. Alma School Road, Chandler. Volunteers SUNDAY, DEC. 8 Michael Beyo, EVJCC CEO, and Dr. Jaswant Sachdev EVJCC Interfaith Series: 11 a.m., East Valley JCC, Tour @ Phoenix Art Museum: 12:30–2 p.m., Phoenix of the Sikh Community discuss “Responding to cook and deliver meals. To register, visit evjcc.org/ 908 N. Alma School Road, Chandler. President Art Museum, 1625 N. Central Ave., Phoenix. Learn Hate.” Free, reservations required. To register, visit ladles-of-love. Gary Smith of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter- about the Phoenix Art Museum’s permanent evjcc.org/conversation. Israeli Movie Series: 3 p.m., East Valley JCC, 908 N. Day Saints will speak about their history, tenets collection from the artist, Leia Steingart. Museum Alma School Road, Chandler. Screening of “Torn,” and current challenges. Includes kosher lunch entrance fee may apply. For more information, MONDAY, DEC. 9 after the presentation. $14 ($20 after Dec. 15). The Torah Case for Reparations: 1-2 p.m., Temple a documentary about a Polish Catholic priest who contact Nicole Garber at 480-481-7024 or nicoleg@ discovers that he was born to Jewish parents. To register, call 480-897-0588 or visit evjcc.org/ vosjcc.org. To register, visit vosjcc.org/programs. Chai, 4645 E. Marilyn Road, Phoenix. Speaker: Rabbi open-beit-midrash. Aryeh Bernstein. Suggested donation: $18. Register Suggested donation: $5. To register, visit evucc.org/ SUNDAY, DEC. 15 at VBMTorah.org. movie-series. People of the Book Group: 2 p.m., Temple Chai 8 a.m.-noon, Temple Emanuel Blood Drive: MONDAY, DEC. 16 Small Sanctuary, 4645 E. Marilyn Road, Phoenix. of Tempe, 5801 S. Rural Road, Tempe. Men of There’s a Riot Goin’ On: Violence in Rabbinic Breast Cancer Support Group: 6:30 p.m., Temple A discussion about “Inheritance: A Memoir of Emanuel will host the Vitalant bloodmobile in the Thought: 7-8:30 p.m., Temple Chai, 4645 E. Marilyn Chai, 4645 E. Marilyn Road, Phoenix. Support Genealogy, Paternity, and Love” by Dani Shapiro. synagogue’s parking lot. Visit bloodhero.com and Road, Phoenix. Speaker: Rabbi Aryeh Bernstein. group for Jewish women in their journey through RSVP to [email protected]. enter templeemanuel as the sponsor code to sign Suggested donation: $18. Register at VBMTorah.org. all stages of breast cancer, including treatment up. For more information, call 602-565-3492 or MONDAYS, DEC. 9 AND DEC. 23 and recovery. For questions or to RSVP, contact Family email [email protected]. Caring for our Loved Ones: 7 p.m., Temple Chai Jessica Knight at [email protected] or MONDAYS Small Sanctuary, 4645 E. Marilyn Road, Phoenix. A 202-359-6835. Breakfast Babies: 9-10:30 a.m., The Brunch Meetings, Lectures & Classes Jewish support and resource group for families and Café, 15507 N. Scottsdale Road, Suite 100, 4:30-6 p.m., Temple Chai MONDAYS caregivers. No charge, but donations welcomed. Living through Loss: Scottsdale. A fun-filled morning gathering for Mahjong Mondays: 10 a.m.-12:30 p.m., East Valley Small Sanctuary, 4645 E. Marilyn Road, Phoenix. No parents and grandparents with babies or toddlers. TUESDAY, DEC. 10 charge, but donations are welcome. JCC, 908 N. Alma School Road, Chandler. Every Alzheimer’s Support Group: 10–11:30 a.m., Valley of Complimentary coffee and a chocolate-covered Monday, except on Jewish or legal holidays. No the Sun JCC, 12701 N. Scottsdale Road, Scottsdale. TUESDAY, DEC. 17 strawberry with the purchase of any meal. Includes RSVP is necessary. This free program is intended This group is for caregivers only. For more Arts & Culture @ the EVJCC: 10-11:30 a.m., East a story time picture book reading. Call 480-398- for players with prior experience. Be sure to bring information, call 480-481-7090. Valley JCC, 908 N. Alma School Road, Chandler. 7174 or visit brunchcafe.com for more information. a current mahjong card and a set if you have Speaker: Cantor Jonathan Angress of Beth El Museum @ the EVJCC: 10-11:30 a.m., East Valley Baby dance classes: 9:15-9:45 a.m., Arizona one. For more information, visit evjcc.org or call Congregation. Topic: From the Bimah to Broadway. JCC, 908 N. Alma School Road, Chandler. Speaker: Sunrays Gymnastics & Dance Center, 15801 N. 32nd 480-897-0588 Suggested donation: $4. For more information, Phoenix Art Museum docent Kathryn Heffernan. St., Phoenix. For babies who are walking up to age email [email protected]. WEDNESDAYS Subject: “More Than Just a Window.” $4 suggested 2 ½. This baby dance class is a fun introduction to ‘The Valley News’: 10-11:30 a.m., Valley of the Sun donation. For more information, email adrian@evjcc. The Battle for Jerusalem, 100 Years in One Hour: music, movement and dancing. Babies will dance JCC, 12701 N. Scottsdale Road, Scottsdale. The class org. Conflict, Geopolitics & Chanukah: 7:45-9 p.m., to the music while using all kinds of different props focuses on current events and is led by Dr. Michael Makor Synagogue, 13402 N. Scottsdale Road, and toys. Parent/grandparent participation is Book Signing: 6-8 p.m., Tanzy at Scottsdale Epner. No registration required. Suite A120, Scottsdale. Jake Bennett presents the required. Free. Advanced registration not required, Quarter, 15257 N. Scottsdale Road, Scottsdale. A limited to first 20 children who arrive. Call 602- THIRD SUNDAY OF EVERY MONTH modern history of Jerusalem and relates it to the conversation and interview with Eve Rodsky, author 992-5790 or visit arizonasunrays.com for more Jewish War Veterans: 10 a.m., Arizona State story of Chanukah. No charge. To register, email of “Fair Play.” Copies of the book will be available for information. Veterans Home, 4141 N. S. Herrera Way, Phoenix. purchase for $20 (cash only). For more information, [email protected]. Scottsdale Post 210 welcomes all Jewish veterans to visit igenparenting.com/fair-play-book-signing. TUESDAYS, DEC. 17 AND DEC. 31 THURSDAYS its monthly meetings. Refreshments served at 9:30 Alzheimer’s Caregiver Support Group: 10-11:30 Baby dance classes: 9:30-10 a.m., Arizona Sunrays a.m. Call 602-256-0658 for more information. TUESDAYS, DEC. 10 AND DEC. 17 Gymnastics & Dance Center, 15801 N. 32nd St., 3:30-4:30 p.m., Temple Chai Small a.m., Valley of the Sun JCC, 12701 N. Scottsdale Hope for Today: Phoenix. For babies who are walking up to age 2 SATURDAY, DEC. 7 Sanctuary, 4645 E. Marilyn Road, Phoenix. Spiritual Road, Scottsdale. This grassroots group will ½. This baby dance class is a fun introduction to Rides for Toys: 5-8 p.m., I-17/101 Target Parking Lot, program of recovery for those who suffer from meet every other Tuesday. Free and open to the music, movement and dancing. Babies will dance 2727 W. Agua Fria Freeway, Phoenix. Children can the debilitating effects of chronic pain and chronic community. Patient care not available during the to the music while using all kinds of different props ride on a City of Phoenix fire truck or police car in illness, based on the Twelve Steps of AA. For more group session. For more information, contact the and toys. Parent/grandparent participation is exchange for donating a new, unwrapped toy or information, contact [email protected]. Desert Southwest Chapter of the Alzheimer’s required. Free. Advanced registration not required, clothing item (size newborn to 8-year-old boy or Association at 1-800-272-3900 or alz.org/dsw. WEDNESDAY, DEC. 11 limited to first 20 children who arrive. Call 602- girl). Donations will go to at-risk children at Valley Generations After: 11-12:30 p.m., East Valley JCC, WEDNESDAY, DEC. 18 992-5790 or visit arizonasunrays.com for more charities. 908 N. Alma School Road, Chandler. A party “But Now God is Not One”: Kabbalah as the Cry of information. SUNDAY, DEC. 8 to celebrate family traditions. Bring a friend or a Broken World Longing for Redemption: 1-2 p.m., MONDAYS AND WEDNESDAYS Healing Handiwork: 1-4 p.m., Temple Chai Small family member, a story about a special holiday Temple Beth Shalom of the West Valley, 12202 N. Baby gym classes: 9-9:30 a.m., Arizona Sunrays Sanctuary, 4645 E. Marilyn Road, Phoenix. For more tradition, a favorite song and a favorite recipe. Free, 101st Ave., Sun City. Speaker: Dr. Nathaniel Berman Gymnastics & Dance Center, 15801 N. 32nd St., information, contact Nona at nona.siegel@gmail. reservations required. To register, call 480-897-0588 Suggested donation of $18. Visit valleybeitmidrash. Phoenix. Parents (and grandparents) are invited to com or 602-326-8851. No charge. or visit evjcc.org/generations-after. org for more information. bring in their babies, ages 6 months to 18 months. The Jewish Genealogy Group: 1:30-3:30 p.m., THURSDAY, DEC. 12 A Poetic Mythology for our Age of Anger? The This parent-child class uses tumbling mats, Temple Chai, 4645 E. Marilyn Road, Phoenix. Open Beit Midrash class: 9 a.m., East Valley JCC, Furious Emergence of Gods, Devils, and Human balance beams, parallel bars and trampolines. Meeting devoted to learning, problem solving and 908 N. Alma School Road, Chandler. The Life and Beings in Kabbalah and its Lesson for Today: Work on strength, balancing and coordination with answering research questions. Internet access will Tragedy of King David, taught by Rabbi Michael 7-8:30 p.m., Temple Chai, 4645 E. Marilyn Road, your baby. Free. This is a “drop in” class; advanced be available. For more information, visit azjhs.org/ Beyo. Free, registration required. To register, visit Phoenix. Speaker: Dr. Nathaniel Berman. Suggested registration is not required. Call 602-992-5790 or Genealogy.html. evjcc.org/open-beit-midrash. donation: $18. Register at VBMTorah.org. visit arizonasunrays.com for more information.

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WEDNESDAYS AND FRIDAYS Chanukah in the Park: 3-5 p.m., Desert Breeze Baby gym classes: 9:30-10 a.m., Arizona Sunrays Park, 660 N. Desert Breeze Blvd. E., Chandler. Gymnastics & Dance Center, 3923 E. Indian School Arts, crafts and a Chanukah celebration hosted Road, Phoenix. Parents (and grandparents) are by the East Valley JCC’s Camp Rimon and Early invited to bring in their babies, ages 6 months to 18 Childhood Learning Center. Free. For more months. This parent-child class uses tumbling mats, information, visit evjcc.org/youth. REACH HIGHLY EDUCATED, AFFLUENT READERS IN THE VALLEY balance beams, parallel bars and trampolines. Work on strength, balancing and coordination with SUNDAY, DEC. 15 Website Storytime with Temple Emanuel of Tempe: Print E-Blast Facebook your baby. Free. This is a “drop in” class; advanced Page Views registration is not required. Call 602-992-5790 or 1 p.m., Changing Hands Book Store, 6428 S. Readership Subscribers Followers visit arizonasunrays.com for more information. McClintock Drive, Tempe. Celebrate Chanukah 40,000 15,000 4,500 3,795 with stories and songs with Rabbi Dean Shapiro Shabbat from Temple Emanuel. FIRST FRIDAY OF EVERY MONTH TUESDAY, DEC. 17 First Fridays: 6:30-8 p.m., Beth Emeth Synagogue, Baking Class: 7 p.m., East Valley JCC, 908 N. Upcoming Special Sections 13702 W. Meeker Blvd., Sun City West. Begins Nov. Alma School Road, Chandler. Holiday baking 1. Traditional Friday night services with a twist; class with chef Melinda. Registration required. each month a special aspect, theme or prayer Tickets: $18. Register at evjcc.org. from the Shabbat evening liturgy is focused on. WEDNESDAY, DEC. 18 Questions about the service, and Jewish prayer Family celebration: 5:30-7:30 p.m., Temple Chanukah in general, will be answered to help each person. Emanuel of Tempe, 5801 S. Rural Road, Tempe. No fee, open to everyone, Jewish and non-Jewish December 13 Celebrate Chanukah with latkes, crafts, dreidl alike. For beginners and experienced members. derby and a singalong. For more information, call 623-584-7210 or email Send holiday greetings [email protected]. FRIDAY, DEC. 20 and help Jewish News Chanukah lunch for seniors: 11 a.m.-1 p.m., FIRST SATURDAY OF EVERY MONTH readers celebrate the Center for Senior Enrichment at The Palazzo, Kavana Café: 8:45 a.m., Congregation Or Tzion, holiday season with this 6250 N. 19th Ave., Phoenix. Lunch and menorah 16415 N. 90th St., Scottsdale. This is an informal special section. opportunity to learn with Rabbi Micah Caplan lighting with Rabbi Nitzan Stein Kokin from Beth prior to Saturday-morning services. A light El Congregation. Musical entertainment by Gal breakfast will be served. For more information, visit Drimmer, an Israeli guitarist and vocalist. Cost: congregationortzion.org or call 480-342-8858. $10. To RSVP, contact [email protected] or call 602-943-2198. EVERY SATURDAY Torah Express: Noon, Congregation Or Tzion, EVERY NIGHT OF CHANUKAH 16415 N. 90th St., Scottsdale. On Shabbat Town of Carefree Chanukah Celebration: mornings, during the congregation’s Kiddush 5:30 p.m., Sanderson Lincoln Pavilion, 101 Easy Charitable lunch, join Rabbi Micah Caplan and other Jewish St., Carefree. Menorah lighting will be led by a professionals and teachers from the community for different community group or family each night. Giving an in-depth study of the Torah portion of the week. First night festivities hosted by Temple Chai December 13 No RSVP required. For more information, visit and the Jewish Social Group of Cave Creek and congregationortzion.org or call 480-342-8858. Carefree. Gift bags will be available for children Connecting Jewish News every evening. For more information, visit SATURDAY, DEC. 21 christmasincarefree.com/menorah-lighting. readers to opportunities Sippy Cup Shabbat: 10-10:45 a.m., Congregation and giving related Kehillah, 5858 E. Dynamite Blvd., Cave Creek. Seniors This special Shabbat morning is designed for resources. parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles of FRIDAY, DEC. 27 toddler age children and is open to all families in New Year at The Palazzo: 1 p.m., Center for the community. Welcome the first day of winter Senior Enrichment at The Palazzo, 6250 N. and prepare for the beginning of Chanukah with 19th Ave., Phoenix. Performance by singer/ Shabbat music, dancing stories and more. RSVP to impersonator Tom LaGravinese. Champagne Business/ Renee by Dec. 18th at 602-369-7667 or via email at and cake will be served. Free. To RSVP, contact [email protected]. [email protected] or call 602-943-2198. Ask the Expert December 20 MONDAY, DEC. 23-FRIDAY, DEC. 27 Arts Winter Camp Ages 2-pre-K: Camp Rimon Katan Content devoted to the at the East Valley JCC, 908 N. Alma School Road, MONDAY, DEC. 9 Valley’s dominant industries, Chandler. For more information, visit evjcc.org/ BNC Roz Fischer Concert & Conversation: 1 camp. p.m., Palo Cristo Church, 3535 E. Lincoln Drive, economic trends and innovative entrepreneurs MONDAY, DEC. 23-FRIDAY, JAN. 3 Paradise Valley. Child prodigy Ethan Yang, age Winter Camp Grades K-9: Camp Rimon Gadol 16, will perform classical violin music. He will be publishes monthly. Ask the at the East Valley JCC, 908 N. Alma School Road, accompanied by award-winning pianist Wei Expert allows local business Xing. Refreshments will be served. Tickets: $7 Chandler. For more information, visit evjcc.org/ people to share insight from camp. at the door. No reservations required. For more information, contact Joan Sitver at Joansitver @ their field of expertise. Chanukah aol.com. SUNDAY, DEC. 8 WEDNESDAYS, FRIDAYS, SATURDAYS AND Ezras Cholim 1st Chanukah Gift Boutique & SUNDAYS, DEC. 25-JAN. 19 JEWISHAZ.COM Expo: 10 a.m.-2 p.m., Ezras Cholim, 7118 N. 7th St., Old Jews Telling Jokes: 2 p.m., 7 p.m. and 8 Phoenix. Chanukah expo with gifts, food, local p.m. start times, Herberger Theater Center, Contact your sales consultant to schedule Jewish vendors and raffles for Chanukah prizes. 222 E. Monroe St., Phoenix. The Off-Broadway Free admission. Please bring non-perishable food comedic performance visits Phoenix. For more your advertising at 602-870-9470, ext. 2, for Chanukah food drive. Call 602-492-4989 for information about the show or to order tickets, [email protected] more information. visit playhouseinfo.com or call 602-252-8497. JN

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Where’s your Jewish news? Greenland Edition Jan Scheer and Gerry Elgarten left Scottsdale, with That’s a rap! the Jewish News, looking for cooler weather. They Beth Ami Temple’s fifth annual “Rap with the Rabbi” took place on Nov. 2 with approximately 40 members in attendance. A lively discussion with the rabbi found it in Nuuk, the capital of Greenland. was held. PHOTO COURTESY OF ARNOLD SCHWARTZ PHOTO COURTESY OF GERRY ELGARTEN

Where’s your Jewish News? Sea of Galilee Edition Frank and Stephanie Thier visited Israel and Jordan in October and took this photo before visiting a kibbutz near the Sea of Galilee. PHOTO COURTESY OF STEPHANIE THIER

Correcting the record Dr. Bjorn Krondorfer, Janice Friebaum, Bogdan Bialek, Sheryl Bronkesh and Dr. Anna Cichopek-Gajraj attended a reception for Bialek hosted by the Phoenix Holocaust Association on Nov. 13. The reception followed a Nov. 12 screening of Bialek’s documentary “Bogdan’s Journey,” which tracks his efforts to persuade the people of Kielce, Poland, to confront the painful history of Europe’s last Jewish massacre. PHOTO COURTESY OF JANICE FRIEBAUM

Getting out the vote Arizona Secretary of State Katie Hobbs spoke about the importance of registering to vote at an event hosted by the National Council of Jewish Women Arizona on Nov. 19. PHOTO COURTESY OF NATIONAL COUNCIL OF JEWISH WOMEN ARIZONA

This COMMUNITY page features photos of community members around the Valley and the world. Submit photos and details each There is only us More than 50 people attended “There Is No Them; There Is Only Us,” an open community event hosted week to [email protected] by 10 a.m. Monday. by Temple Chai and the Jewish Addiction Awareness Network on Nov. 19 to raise awareness about substance abuse and mental health in the Jewish community. PHOTO COURTESY OF RABBI BONNIE KOPPELL

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BAR MITZVAH Phyllis E. Anatole passed away peacefully on October 31, CAMERON SHAI BROOKS 2019 at the age of 87. She leaves behind son and daughter- Cameron Shai Brooks becomes a bar mitzvah on Dec. 30, in law, Michael and Debbie Anatole; daughter, Ellen Anatole; 2019, in Israel. A member of Temple Chai, he is the son of grand-daughter and grandson-in-law, Elana and Jordan Levine; Cindy and Adam Brooks of Scottsdale. grandson and grand-daughter-in-law Jesse and Amanda Grandparents are Marion and Dennis Schepps of Houston, Anatole; and great-grandchildren, Kyrian and Rowyn Levine. Texas; and Susan and Barry Brooks of Phoenix. For his mitzvah project, Cameron will organize the annual Phyllis’ motto was, “I love fun,” and she most certainly did. She whiffle ball tournament at the JCC. was a devoted wife to Ronald M. Anatole, zichrono liv’racha. A student at Mountainside Middle School, Cameron She overcame every obstacle life presented with grace and a positive attitude enjoys sports. that was an integral part of her being. She had a sharp, dry wit, and an ever- present smile. She was a Woman of Valor, who loved her family, and changed all of their lives to the better. She was blessed with strength, and blessed all who knew her with courage, graciousness and kindness. Memorials will be private. BAT MITZVAH DANIA CHAIT Dania Chait became a bat mitzvah on Nov. 23, 2019, at Sylvia Naomi Bandler died peacefully on Temple Beth Sholom of the East Valley. She is the daughter Nov. 4th, 2019. She was born Sept. 4, 1936 of Claudia and Jaime Chait of Chandler. in Brooklyn, New York to Anna and Joseph Grandparents are Esther and Ismael Cortez; and Mercedes Weintraub. She was first and foremost a devoted and Juan Chait. mother and grandmother. After receiving her For her mitzvah project, Dania will be collecting socks, master’s degree in social work from ASU in T-shirts and monetary donations accepted through the synagogue office for the Lone Soldier Project. 1984, Sylvia helped countless individuals and A student at Willis Jr. High School, Dania enjoys the families as a licensed clinician at Camelback/ outdoors, hiking, exploring the desert, painting, swimming, St. Luke’s Hospital, specializing in chemical singing and reading. dependency, especially with adolescents.

Aside from her family, Sylvia’s greatest joy was BAR MITZVAH traveling, which took her to all continents, ALEXANDER MICHAEL GEYSER including Antarctica. Her vast travels were an Alexander Michael Geyser became a bar mitzvah on Nov. example of Sylvia’s philosophy to seize life’s 23, 2019, at Congregation Beth Tefillah. He is the son of opportunities regardless of age. Lisa and Jeff Geyser of Phoenix. Grandparents are JoAnne Pacheco of Salt Lake City, Utah, She is survived by her three sons and their wives, Mack and Lori Bandler, and the late Patrick V. Pacheco; and Joyce Geyser of Phoenix Steven and Linda Bandler and Ron and Laura Bandler; her grandchildren, and the late Dr. Michael Geyser. Zachary (Meg), Aaron (Nikki), Adam (Jessica), Kyle (Leah), Jillian, Emma, For his mitzvah project, Alexander volunteered downtown Griffin, Andrew and Madison; and her two great grandchildren, Rex and at Central Arizona Shelter Services, where he and his family Lucio. She is also survived by her sister, Harriet Dolgin, brother Martin passed out ice, drinks and towels to the homeless. Alex Weintraub, nieces and nephews. also volunteered at the Vista Colina Homeless Shelter and stocked their food pantry, brought diapers for the babies and Sylvia was laid to rest on Nov. 7th 2019 at Beth Israel Memorial Cemetery art supplies for the children, and brought daily supplies for in Phoenix. The family gratefully asks that any donations be made to the the families there. Alex will continue these mitzvot as lifting Congregation Beth Israel Camp Stein Scholarship Fund. May her memory others brings joy to his life. A student at Pardes Jewish Day School, Alexander enjoys photography and playing be a blessing. basketball, football and soccer with his Pardes team. JN

Florene Feldman Weitz, 77, born in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, OBITUARY passed away on Nov. 13, 2019. She was a loving wife to Frank – SALE – Weitz; parent to Beth Weitz Katz (David) of Phoenix, Arizona Aaron Steven Sak, 82, of Scottsdale, and Andrew Weitz of Boca Raton, Florida; and Grammy to GREEN ACRES Arizona, formerly of Highland Park, Bennett and Brett Katz and Chloe, Cameryn and Carly Weitz. died peacefully November 2 in She had a thriving career in Milwaukee as co-owner of the CEMETERY Scottsdale. Original TEMPLE SOLEL Section • Lot #2 Purple Ticket Sellers, providing estate sales to most of the Beloved husband of Sharon (née North Shore community. She was an avid antique collector Gersten); wonderful father of Barry and dealer. Her home was an ongoing collection of beautiful PLOTS 1 & 2 (Susan) and Lorel; proud zayde of things. Florene will be remembered as always one with a great sense of style. Andrea and Jamie; loving brother Florene was a warm, loving person and a friend to all who came across her path. Two plots for $6,550 She loved to travel. We will miss her smile, laugh and her style. (a $12,000 value) of Jerry (the late Barbara); and dear uncle of Brian (Randi) Sak, Brian Donations can be made in Florene’s memory to: UMOM New Day Centers, Penny Celmins 602-769-2224 (Stacy) and Anthony Rothman. 3333 E. Van Buren St., Phoenix, AZ 85008 or at umom.org.

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