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Top Hezbollah Commander Mustafa network later removed that report from to guarantee credit stability if [the central Monday awarded Newport-based Congre- Badreddine Killed in Syria its website. bank] does not implement the U.S. law.” gation Jeshuat Israel control over the his- (JNS.org) The Lebanese terrorist organ- Badreddine has been linked to near- Lebanon’s banking sector, which ac- toric Touro Synagogue, America’s oldest ization Hezbollah has appointed Mustafa ly every high-profi le Hezbollah terror at- counts for 6 percent of the country’s gross Jewish congregation, while rejecting argu- Mughniyeh as its new military command- tack over the last 30 years, including many domestic product (GDP), is one of the few ments from New York City-based Congre- er following the assassination of his uncle, against Israel and the 2012 attack on Israeli institutions within Lebanon that isn’t dys- gation Shearith Israel—which has acted as Mustafa Badreddine, last week in Syria, in tourists in Bulgaria. He was also behind the functional or corrupt. Salameh said that a trustee of the synagogue for nearly 200 what was described by the terror group as 1983 bombings of the U.S. and French em- banks intending to close the accounts of in- years—that it is the rightful owner of the a “major explosion” at Damascus Interna- bassies in Kuwait. dividuals or organizations violating the U.S. building, the Associated Press reported. tional Airport, the London-based Arabic law will need to wait for a response from The dispute dates back to 2012, when daily newspaper Asharq Al-Awsat reported. Lebanon’s Central Bank Will the central bank’s Special Investigation Jeshuat Israel, facing fi nancial diffi culties Badreddine, 55, was the commander of Comply With U.S. Finance Committee. that threatened to shutter the synagogue, Hezbollah’s contingent that had been fi ght- Law Targeting Hezbollah Hezbollah enjoys deep ties and support attempted to sell a set of bells from Torah ing in support of Syrian President Bashar (JNS.org) The head of Lebanon’s pow- within Lebanon’s Shi’a Muslim communi- scrolls to Boston’s Museum of Fine Arts al-Assad’s government against opposition erful central bank said that it will comply ty. Its members include high-profi le gov- for $7.4 million in order to remain open. forces and Sunni terror groups such as Is- with a United States fi nance law that tar- ernment ministers, politicians and other But Congregation Shearith Israel, which lamic State and the Nusra Front. gets the Lebanese terror group Hezbollah. local offi cials. became a trustee of the synagogue in the In the announcement on his death, Last December, the U.S. government 1820s, rejected the move and said it was the Hezbollah said, “He said months ago that passed the Hezbollah International Fi- Federal Judge Rules in Favor bells’ rightful owner. he would not return from Syria except as a nancing Prevention Act, which aims to of Congregants in Touro Yet in Monday’s 106-page decision, Mc- martyr or carrying the fl ag of victory. He is sanction international fi nancial institu- Synagogue Dispute Connell wrote, “The central issue here is the great jihadi leader Mustafa Badreddine, tions that knowingly facilitate Hezbol- (JNS.org) A federal judge ruled in favor of the legacy of some of the earliest Jewish and he has returned today a martyr.” lah’s activities. the congregants of the 250-year-old Touro settlers in North America, who desired to The Beirut-based Al Mayadeen satellite “The U.S. law has to be implement- Synagogue in Newport, R.I., in an owner- make Newport a permanent haven for pub- TV network, which is sympathetic to Hez- ed worldwide and in Lebanon,” said Riad ship dispute that threatened to shutter the lic Jewish worship.” bollah, initially reported that Badreddine Salameh, governor of Lebanon’s central historic building. was killed in an Israeli airstrike. But the bank, Reuters reported. “It is not possible U.S. District Judge Jack McConnell on  CONTINUED ON P. 6 JEWISH LINK OF NEW JERSEY TABLE OF CONTENTS

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 CONTINUED FROM P. 4 es after a disagreement on comments by of Students (NUS) following the election of ters and numbers, along with the English Ya’alon that military offi cers should speak an anti-Israel president. text, “Are you ready for a challenge?” Roman Treasure Discovered their minds publicly even when they go On Thursday, Newcastle University’s The part that remains hidden is aimed in Cargo of Sunken Ancient against the government’s positions. student union voted in favor of dis-affi liat- at programmers and hackers, and tells the Ship off Israel’s Coast The prime minister summoned the de- ing with the NUS. The disaffi liation came story of an agent in trouble who is trying (JNS.org) The Israel Antiquities Authori- fense minister for a clarifi cation meeting just days after the student union at the to open the door. The idea behind the ad is ty (IAA) announced Monday that two divers on Monday after Ya’alon asked Israel De- U.K.’s Lincoln University also voted in fa- that anyone who can read the hidden text discovered the cargo of an ancient Roman fense Forces offi cers at an event in Tel Aviv vor of leaving the NUS. should contact the Mossad, thus undergo- merchant ship off the coast of Caesarea, on Sunday to express themselves “even if The decision by the two schools fol- ing a selection exercise even before the for- Israel, during the recent Passover holiday. your ideas confl ict with the ideas and posi- lows the April 21 election of Malia Bouattia mal screening process. The ship sank during the late Roman peri- tions adopted by the high command or the as NUS president. Bouattia, who is a Mus- od 1,600 years ago. government.” After the meeting, Ya’alon and lim, has said that boycotts against Israel White House Appoints Divers Ran Feinstein and Ofer Ra’anan Netanyahu issued a joint statement saying should come in conjunction with “Palestin- Chanan Weissman as Jewish immediately contacted the IAA after their that “our differences have been ironed out. ian resistance.” She has also criticized her Community Liaison discovery. A subsequent dive with IAA ar- There is no argument that the military is alma mater, Birmingham University, for be- (JNS.org) The White House on Thurs- chaeologists led to the further discovery of subordinate to the government and that ing a “Zionist outpost in higher education,” day approved a new liaison to the Ameri- numerous items that had been in the ship’s IDF offi cers are free to express their opin- lamenting that it has “the largest Jsoc (Jew- can Jewish community, Chanan Weissman, cargo, many of which were very well pre- ions in the appropriate forums.” ish student society) in the country.” who will be the fi rst Orthodox Jew to fi ll served. The items include a bronze lamp Referring to how IDF Deputy Chief of the position for a Democratic presidential depicting the image of the sun god Sol, a Staff Yair Golan—who recently compared Is- Israeli Mossad Ad Blends administration. fi gurine of the moon goddess Luna, a lamp raeli society to Nazi Germany on Holocaust Clear and Cryptic Techniques Two other Orthodox Jews have held the in the image of the head of an African slave, Remembrance Day—was widely criticized to Recruit Cyber Workers same position in Republican administra- animal statues and two metallic lumps for speaking his mind, Ya’alon had told the (JNS.org) The Mossad wants you—if you tions. One of them, Tevi Troy, who served made from thousands of coins in the form military offi cers on Sunday, “I once again de- can fi gure out what this says. That is the mes- in the role under president George W. Bush, of the pottery vessel in which they had mand that you and the soldiers under your sage of the Israeli spy agency’s latest cam- told Jewish Insider that he sees an “advan- been transported. command keep saying whatever is on your paign to recruit cyber workers, launched on tage but also a challenge” to being Ortho- The unique metallic lumps weigh about mind. Do it even if what you have to say is the eve of the country’s Independence Day. dox in the White House post. 44 pounds, while many of the coins them- not part of the mainstream, and even if your The ad, which includes coded text, aims “The advantage is that you have in- selves bear the image of the Roman emper- ideas confl ict with the ideas and positions to seek out potential employees for the stant credibility within the community as or Constantine the Great, who is known for adopted by the high command or the gov- Mossad’s cyber division and for other spe- knowledgeable and credible representing being the fi rst Roman emperor to convert ernment… Continue acting on your human cial jobs. The ad debuted in Israel Hayom the community. The challenge is that the to Christianity and make it the offi cial reli- conscience and moral compass, and don’t and other Israeli publications on Wednes- bulk of American Jews are not Orthodox gion of the empire. blindly follow the direction of the wind.” day and features two parts: one hidden, the and you have to show you can reach out to other exposed. The exposed section features all,” Troy said. Ya’alon to IDF Officers: Don’t Second British University the Mossad symbol, the menorah, and the Weissman, who replaces Matt Nosan- Shy Away From Publicly Cuts Ties With Student Union verse from Proverbs 11:14 that the agency chuk, is the former spokesperson for the Disagreeing With Government Over Anti-Israel President uses as its motto: “Where there is no guid- State Department’s Bureau of Democracy, (JNS.org) Israeli Prime Minister Ben- (JNS.org) The United Kingdom’s Newcas- ance, the people fall, but in abundance of Human Rights and Labor. Nosanchuk held jamin Netanyahu and Defense Minister tle University became the second school to counselors there is victory.” The ad also fea- the Jewish liaison position for almost three Moshe Ya’alon worked out their differenc- cut ties with the country’s National Union tures computer code comprising English let- years.

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Rabbi Dr. Zev Eleff and researcher Men- Founding Partner, Jewish Link Design Group counting of the Omer we hold by certain com where, over the next two weeks, tra- achem Butler will examine Masorah as Adam Negnewitzky restrictions to refl ect our sadness for the ditional scholars will take unique looks it pertains to the bat mitzvah rite of pas- Contributing Editor deaths of Rabbi Akiva’s 24,000 students. at the nuances of Masorah. Jewish Link sage. These and other essays on Masorah Nina Glick Lag B’Omer, or the 33rd day of the Sefi rat contributor Rabbi Gil Student also ad- couldn’t be more timely for our commu- Senior Editor Jill Kirsch HaOmer, is taking place next week on May dresses on page 38 the need to under- nity. Advertising Director 25. On that day, all expressions of mourning stand Masorah as a Modern Orthodox Let us know with your letters and Yaakov Serle for Rabbi Akiva’s students are lifted. It is a day community, which sometimes faces pres- emails where you think Masorah fi ts into Production Editor when couples may get married, when we sure to depart from Masorah from within our lives as Jews. Jennifer Hoff er create festive bonfi res or even get a haircut. and without. *A note on the spelling of the word Offi ce Manager These activities, special to this period Is is possible that Masorah is “anti-inclu- “Masorah.” Rabbi Student told us that Dena Kinderlehrer on our calendar, are part of our Masorah*. sion”? By sticking to what our fathers and the Ben Yehudah Dictionary vowelizes Bookkeeper On a literal level, masorah means “tra- mothers have taught us, are we old-fash- the word as Masorah, which is also the Gila Negnewitzky dition.” For some members of our commu- ioned or out of touch with the modern standard academic pronunciation, but Sales Development nity, perhaps some Jewish traditions are world? Or is it this body of knowledge of acknowledges that there is also histor- Ken Goff stein looked upon cynically as not jiving with learning and teaching that, as Rabbi Tzvi ical basis for the pronunciation of Me- Sales Representatives Avi Koenig those who seek an Orthodoxy that at times Hersh Weinreb writes, is “the complex sorah. “While I do not feel bound by ar- Risa Lefkowitz tries too hard to keep up with modernity. combination of adhering to worship and bitrary academic standards, Masorah is Simon Worman On the other hand, it’s exactly these “old fi nding meaning in a consistent daily reg- also the way I remember my rabbeim Database Coordinator shul” traditions that form the very deep imen,” and therefore has empowered Jews pronouncing the word, which seems to Moishie Rosenberg foundations upon which our continuity as and Judaism to move forward through a me the most appropriate way to deter- Sports Editor a people relies. history fi lled with hardship? mine this issue,” he said. 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We daism and spent a short time in yeshiva. Af- hat in the garbage and moved far away, short, and ideally we should all try to learn don’t know who to follow.” ter his brief stint, he wasn’t so convinced leaving observance behind. from each other communities’ strengths I once again was deeply troubled—both that observant life was for him, so he de- A few years later, he felt a pull to come and do our best to minimize our own com- by how they had been rejected by their fami- cided to leave. But he was a bit nervous back and give mitzvos a try again. So he munities’ weaknesses while living peace- lies and with how they were stuck religious- as to how his peers would react when he went to his local modern Orthodox shul fully and respectfully with one another. ly with nowhere to go. They left before I told them the news. However, when he infor Shabbos. He fi gured they’d have more Some people decide at some point in could get their contact info, and despite my formed his roommate about his decision, progressive views on how to handle abuse their lives that the Orthodox communi- attempts to locate them, no one was able his roommate didn’t argue with him or than the community he had come from (a ty in which they were raised in is not the to put me in touch with them. So I start- try to sway him at all. Instead, he offered seclusive part of the ultra-Orthodox world). best fi t for them and so sometimes modern ed making calls on my way home from the to wake up early the next morning to help He also hoped that by just showing up he’d Orthodox Jews will move to the right, be- talk—contacting people in different lead- him carry his bags to the bus stop. get a “Good Shabbos” and a “Do you have coming yeshivish, Lubavitch or even Hasid- ership positions of major Jewish organiza- When Rabbi Kaplan saw his roommate’s anywhere to eat?” from his fellow con- ic. So too, some ultra-Orthodox Jews decide tions. I told them we need some sort of re- magnanimous reaction, he was deeply gregants. But instead everyone ignored him to move to the left to more modern or cen- source for people in this situation. (I have touched and decided that maybe there was for several weeks in a row until eventually trist Orthodox communities. no idea, by the way, if the Hasidic or Haredi something to this Torah way of life after he stopped going to shul again. I met such a couple over a year ago world has any resources for modern Ortho- all. He decided to stay in yeshiva and went As much as he resented his own com- when I spoke in Rockland County. This dox Jews who transition into their commu- on to become a prolifi c writer and world- munity for its shortcomings on abuse han- couple had been raised in one of the strict- nity, but if there’s a need and nothing exists, class Torah educator and scholar. The sto- dling, he told me they’d never just leave a est Hasidic sects and did not feel that they then someone should start something!) ry of Aryeh Kaplan’s roommate exemplifi es single guy alone at shul. They’d invite him could remain in it anymore. Unfortunately, how religious Jews ought to conduct them- both for meals and insist he stay over to their families had rejected them when they  CONTINUED ON P. 30

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daism as a barrier, sought to unite with their Scapegoating Their Own Jewish Community fellow Soviets and called for the complete dissolution of Jewish communal organi- By Larry Domnitch of Israel by its detractors? How does the Such abandonment is not a new phe- zations. However, that did not assuage the Jew respond to the vilifi cation of Israel? nomenon. There are many precedents. coming tidal wave of Soviet anti-Semitism. The Jewish far left What does the Jewish leftist see when After struggling for decades to achieve Once again, history repeats itself. Today has become a more fre- he/she looks in the mirror? full emancipation in 19th-century Prussia, it is Israel and its policies that are blamed. quent and increasingly Today’s Jewish leftist position toward multitudes of Jews took it to the next step Some claim: If it was only we who changed! louder voice in the grow- Israel is a response to the collective Jewish and sought baptism as a bridge to society. If only we accommodated! But such words ing chorus against Israel experience of persecution and isolation Then, they would achieve the equality for have no meaning in the context of Jewish within the growing ex- over the millennia. Despite their denials, which they had so fervently hoped. As Jew- history, past or present. In today’s Middle treme liberal camp. they sense the anti-Semitism from their ish poet and author Heinrich Heine put it, East, it is the evil of others, not the behav- The following illustrations hardly tell camp. They want to impart to their fel- “The baptismal certifi cate is the ticket of ior of the Jews, that causes mayhem. the whole story. low leftists that it is the others, those Zi- admission to European culture.” Jewish leftists! When you slam Israel Last month’s protest two days before onists, who are contemptible, but they are In Russia, Jewish thinkers of the en- you do not act out of ideology which defi es Passover by a Jewish anti-“occupation” worthy of admiration even though they lightenment mocked and ridiculed the rab- all reason. You act out of fear—out of your group IfNotNow at the offi ces of the Anti are Jewish. They believe that by joining bis, blaming them for the diffi cult circum- yearning for acceptance in a world where Defamation League in New York and AIPAC the anti-Israel feeding frenzy by endorsing stances of Russian Jewry within the Czarist the scourge of Jew hatred so often rears in Boston netted 23 arrests. Protesters wore the views of the enemies of Zion they can empire. If only the Jews modernized them- its head. Know that Zionism is beautiful. T-shirts which read, “No liberation with oc- walk the halls of the college campuses, the selves, they would be better respected! Such It is the liberation movement of the Jew- cupation.” In total, about 500 participated far-left gatherings, and be impervious to hopes, however, were followed by vicious ish people, and it has been an overwhelm- in “Liberations Seders” around the country. the hate because they too stand with the Czarist pogroms and severe discriminato- ing success. Zionism has brought light into Two Jewish members of the far-left BDSers. Then they can face their friends ry policies. By November 1917, when radical darkness. It has set the bar on what can be CODEPINK unfurled a banner at the West- because they, too, harshly condemn Isra- change came to Russia in the form of com- accomplished in the face of adversity. ern Wall reading “American Jews Support el or even disavow the existential rights of munism, the Jewish communists’ organiza- Most importantly, know that “a Jew is a BDS.” In a statement, the two blamed the the Jewish state. tion, known as the Yevsektsia, which saw Ju- Jew” and there is always a path back home. violence in the region on the “occupation.” There are Jewish professors and students who are joining in the attacks against Israel on college campuses. Some, although a smaller minority, have even aligned with the Palestinian advocacy group, Students for Justice in Palestine, which bears responsibility for much of the anti-Israel activity. Another group, Jewish Voice for Peace, which regards itself as the Jewish wing of the Palestine solidarity movement, supports BDS and the Palestinian claim of the right of return. The New Israel Fund dispenses funds to fringe groups in Israel that defame the Jew- ish state. Some call for economic boycotts. Leaders of the Reform Movement call for the end of the “occupation.” In a column in Haaretz, a former president of NFTY, the Reform Jewish Youth Movement, compared opposition to the “occupation” with the fi ght against “segre- gation” in the 1960s. AlL oF oUr cUsToMeRs rEcEiVe Presidential candidate Bernie Sand- cReAtInG lAsTiNg ers recently infl ated numbers of Palestini- oUr uNdIvIdEd aTtEnTiOn aNd an casualties in the most recent Gaza war and accused Israel of a “disproportionate” uNpArAlLeLeD pRoFeSsIoNaLiSm, response. mEmOrIeS Past chairman of the Conference of bEnEfItInG fRoM oUr cReAtIvItY Presidents of Major Jewish Organizations, Seymour Reich, in an article highly critical oNe eVeNt aT a tImE aNd yEaRs oF eXpErIeNcE. of Israel entitled “Israel’s Assault on Democ- racy: Time to Speak Out,” referenced Sand- ers’s absurd comments and noted how they were “greeted with enthusiastic approval by the mostly young audience, many of them Jewish.” American Jewish author Michael Cha- bon referred to the “occupation” as “the most grievous injustice I’ve ever seen.” What is needed here is far more than a basic history and current events lesson. Unlike so many American Jews who are simply distant from Israel because of decades of assimilation, this is beyond the usu- al detachment. The growing chorus of Is- rael’s Jewish American detractors not only represents the divide among American Jews and Israelis but also a trend in Amer- ica among some young millennial away from Israel and toward the Palestinians. Sixty-eight years after the birth of Israel, office: 718.256.7200 cell: 917.335.4144 Jews on the far left along with fellow leftists are standing with Israel’s opposition. email: [email protected] www.aaronteitelbaumproductions.com Are they all blind? ORCHESTRA & PRODUCTIONS Do they not see what is happening? Who perpetrates the violence and who acts Tweet Us @teitelbaumaaron ` Like us on Facebook Aaron Teitelbaum Productions ™Follow us on Instagram @aaronteitelbaum in response? Do they not see the rejection t

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 9 COMMUNITY NEWS Hero of Entebbe Sasson Reuven to Mark 40th Anniversary of Raid By Pearl Markovitz

Whether the raid on Entebbe is recent history for us or a historical event that we only relate to through viewing the 1977 fi lm Operation Thunderbolt, the story is as grip- ping today as it was 40 years ago on July 4, 1976. Rabbi Shalom Baum of Congrega- tion Keter Torah is partnering with Rab- bi Ephraim Simon of Friends of Lubavitch Sasson Reuven of Bergen County to relive this historic event with our community. On Wednesday was something from above—not only to evening, May 25, Keter Torah will host for- protect Jews but to rescue Jewish hostages. mer Israeli Special Forces Commando Sas- I felt privileged to be there and very eager son Reuven who will share his remarka- to succeed. I prayed that things would go ble story with our community. The hope is the right way.” that younger members of the community In what many referred to at the time as will come out with parents and grandpar- a nes galui, an open miracle, the mission ents to hear the story of this heroic rescue was highly successful. Israel sent 140 com- from one of its heroic participants. mandos on a 2,500 mile journey to carry A native of Kfar Saba, “Sassy” complet- out a nighttime rescue operation that freed ed high school in Beer Sheva. He began his over 100 hostages in 90 minutes. Every one IDF service in 1973, the day of the Yom Kip- of the terrorists was killed in the operation. pur War ceasefi re. He was a member of the Four Israeli hostages were killed and four prestigious Red Beret/Paratrooper 890 Bri- Israeli commandos were wounded. Tragi- gade unit and took part in many danger- cally, Lt. Colonel Yonatan Netanyahu, older ous missions throughout his three years brother of Prime Minister Binyamin Netan- of service. yahu, was killed in the action. Overall, the Shortly before his service was to be mission was no less than a miracle. completed, he was summoned by Lt. Colo- For the Holocaust survivors among the nel Nechemia Tamari, with whom he had hostages it had been a nightmarish reliving participated in many counter-terrorism of their previous ordeal. For the Israelis and missions. He was selected as one of 15 par- Jews from around the world it was another atroopers in the Sayeret Matkal unit to be challenging event in the history of our peo- fl own to Entebbe, Uganda to perform the ple. For the commandos and IDF soldiers highly critical mission of storming the air who took part in the mission it was an op- terminal where more than 100 Israeli hos- portunity to display once again the Jew- tages were being held at gunpoint. Reuven ish pride, strength and determination that was among the fi rst paratroopers to jump keeps our people going. According to Reu- out of the fi rst Hercules C-130 aircraft that ven, “Terrorism cannot persevere. Light will landed in Entebbe seven minutes ahead of always overcome the darkness.” three additional transport planes. The community is invited to hear this Reuven recalls the level of sensory alert message directly from Sasson Reuven on that he was on during the incredible mis- May 25, 8 p.m., at Congregation Keter To- sion. “This was not just another mission. It rah, 600 Roemer Avenue, Teaneck.

of Education and Administration. He is Yair Daar to Join He’Atid also a graduate of Yeshiva University’s YU  CONTINUED FROM P. 1 Lead program. “A few years back when I fi rst learned engaged in yahadut through meaningful, about Yeshivat He’Atid, I thought, ‘This is experiential programming. something I’d love to be a part of one day,’” Having spent the past decade teaching said Daar. “Trying to help children grow Limudei Kodesh, Daar will bring his talent as individuals, personally and spiritually, and expertise to He’Atid as he serves the is something that has always been valua- school in this dual capacity. As part of his ble to me. This is a major part of Yeshivat responsibilities as the mashgiach ruchani, He’Atid’s mission and something I hope to he will teach Mishnah to the school’s fi fth help further.” graders and parsha to students in all grades. Daar continued, “The innovation tak- Abby Flamholz, President of the Board ing place at Yeshivat He’Atid already has of Directors, commented, “Yair shares in much to contribute to Jewish education the school’s vision of combining 21st-centu- globally. Taking this job is not just about ry skill building, experiential learning and working on behalf of one institution, but the building of a unifi ed Jewish communi- rather for the extended Jewish commu- ty that will allow our students to become nity. I have been impressed by how in- creative thinkers and leaders in both their viting the school has been to those look- Jewish and professional lives. We are ex- ing to learn and by how thoughtfully the tremely excited to have him play a lead role leadership has sought to learn from oth- in researching cutting edge, affordable, ed- ers. Yeshivat He’Atid’s parent body, facul- ucational models as we continue to build ty and lay leadership make up a dedicated out our older grades.” and caring group. The yeshiva clearly has a Daar is a graduate of Lander College, bright future both as a school and a com- holds a master’s degree in school psychol- munity. I look forward to meeting each ogy from Touro College, and is a doctor- member of the He’Atid family and getting al candidate at the Azrieli Graduate School to know each of our students.”

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201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 11 COMMUNITY NEWS One Israel Fund Offers a Glimpse Into Life in Judea and Samaria Teaneck—On Saturday but added, “That’s asking a night, May 14, an overfl ow lot…I know. It’s hard.” Na- crowd packed the home talie urged that if you can’t of Mindy and Mutty Stein make aliyah, you should to hear representatives of get involved in helping sus- One Israel Fund. Marc Pro- tain and build life for the visor, Director of Security Jews living there. From left: Mindy and Muttie Stein, Marc Provisor, Natalie Projects, and Natalie Sop- After a short fi lm show- Sopinsky, and Evy and Shimmy Stein. insky, Director of Commu- ing life in the communities nity Development, describe on the Gaza border during the 2014 rock- of Homeland Security and continues to what life is like on the front et attacks, Marc Provisor spoke about his lecture on various security and coun- lines of terror in the Bibli- role in counter-terror and his personal ex- ter-terror issues facing security profession- cal heartland of Judea and periences as a security chief in the Shilo als today. Provisor has been instrumental Samaria. region where he served for 10 years. Pro- in increasing the level and preparedness Natalie Sopinsky de- Rabbi Steven Pruzansky and Marc Provisor visor’s counter-terror skills have earned of security throughout Judea and Samaria scribed the work of One Israel Fund as of living can be quite low. Sopinsky told him recognition from the Israeli security and his efforts have literally changed the “the federation for Judea and Samaria” the audience of her fi rst trip to the Shom- establishment, including the Award of Ex- face of security in the region. and explained that the quality of life for ron, how she saw Ramallah, and how she cellence and Valor from the IDF Central One Israel Fund’s “Vests 4 Israel” cam- her and the 400,000 Jews living in these determined the only answer to the Arab Command General. He has also provided paign was initiated by Provisor after a fel- communities is high, while the standard presence in the region is to make aliyah, counsel to the United States Department low security chief, Ze’evik Etzion, was killed by Hamas on the fi nal day of Opera- tion Protective Edge. Ze’evik was repairing an electrical problem and was not wearing his security vest. Existing vests constrict- ed movement and the security chiefs were not wearing them. They weren’t practical. In meetings following the war, One Is- rael Fund met with representatives from the security chiefs and IDF Homefront Command to redesign new vests and raise the necessary funds to replace the vests needed in Judea and Samaria, as well as 2nd Annual the Gaza border communities. To date, over 300 vests have been donated at a cost of $1,450 each. The vest design was recently adopted by the IDF which will begin supplying emergency response team members with new vests throughout Judea and Samaria based upon Provisor’s DINNERHONORING design. Mindy Stein, hostess of the event, addressed the crowd saying, “We aren’t living in Israel…we aren’t being asked to fi ght. So we have a responsibility to, at the very least, help those who are and get involved.” Provisor conducts security assess- ments throughout Judea and Samaria, recommending technological and practical security upgrades. In his capacity at One Israel Fund, he speaks throughout the United States to raise awareness, educate audiences and raise vitally needed funds for security and emergency medical Nina and Judah Eizikovitz Ruchi and Jonathan Tiger projects. Security projects include perim- GUESTS OF HONOR OHR HACHESED SERVICE AWA R D eter surveillance camera systems, thermal cameras (which can detect movement beyond a perimeter fence), vests, patrol ve- TH hicles, emergency lighting and emergency MONDAY, JUNE 6 , 2016 medical equipment for intensive-care am- bulances and medical personnel. One Israel Fund also funds communal 29 IYA R 5776 projects including schools and academic institutions, libraries, playgrounds and religious institutions, which add great- 7:00PM BUFFET DINNER ly to the quality of life in these communities. The 400,000 Israeli citizens living throughout Judea and Samaria are the CONGREGATION KETER TORAH vanguard of the security and sovereignty of the Jewish state. 600 ROEMER AVENUE For more information, to get involved TEANECK, NEW JERSEY 07666 with One Israel Fund, to schedule a tour of these areas, or to invite a representative of One Israel Fund to your community, contact Natalie Sopinsky, Director of Community Development for One Israel Reservations can be made at ohrhatorah.com/dinner Fund, at [email protected] or call 516.239.9202 x22.

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Local Students Shine at 10th grader at Torah Acade- Helfgot, who is fi nishing his second year ChidonHaTanach National Finals my of Bergen County (TABC). at TABC, marked his third year of participa-  CONTINUED FROM P. 1 He will represent the Unit- tion in the national competition. He told ed States at the Internation- The Jewish Link he put in a huge amount ble about their study of Tanach. Through- al Chidon HaTanach next of work in these past six months in prepara- out the day, contestants were given the year. He will be joined by the tion, and studied upwards of 400 hours over opportunity to meet fellow “Chidoners” national runner-up, Engle- that time, making sure to review the entire through their joint language—Tanach. As wood’s Nechama Reichman, a syllabus of 82 perakim each day. “My weekly people left, they picked up next year’s syl- 9th-grade student at Manhat- Skyped-in TABC Chidon HaTanach meeting, labus, already getting ready for next year’s tan High School for Girls. The headed by Rabbi Neil Winkler [the founding event,” he told The Jewish Link. middle school winner was rabbi of the Young Israel of Fort Lee, who Adding his congratulations to the Uriel Simpson, also a Teaneck made aliyah last year], was also a source of winners this year was Rabbi Frazer, who resident, who is a 7th grader great support and much-needed insights, as served as a judge. He enjoyed cheering at Yeshivat Noam. He will also well as some friendly competition with my on the many students he knew from past travel to Israel for the compe- brother Ephraim.” [Ephraim was also a na- competitions. “It was very gratifying to see tition. tional fi nalist in the middle school division, that all of the kids who won trips to Isra- NJ Chidon champions with the judges, from left to right: Dr. Other national fi nal- representing Yavneh.] el had previously fi nished in second or Mark Licht, Lerone Edalati, Nechama Reichman, Rabbi Ezra ists from our re- third place at some point in the last two Frazer (judge and former U.S. Chidon coordinator), Uriel gion include Sho- years. So they have all been studying dil- Simpson, Shlomi Helfgot, Dovi Nadel (current U.S. Chidon shana Erblich and coordinator). PHOTO COURTESY OF DAVID KHABINSKY. igently for a long time, and they all un- Nechama Novick derwent the experience of being so close ience to study day in and day out for an- from Bruriah, Mayan Kapus- to winning the trip to Israel but narrow- other year in order to win the grand prize,” tin, Noah Pascher and David ly falling short. And they all had the resil- he told The Jewish Link. The other judges Pascher from JEC, Alexa Schan- were Lerone Edalati of The zer and Liev Markovich from Jewish Agency, Dr. Mark Li- The Moriah School, Esther Wer- cht of the Chidon Steering blowsky from Reenas Bais Yaak- Committee, Teaneck’s Tehi- ov, Avi Bendory from RKYHS, la Kornwasser (who placed Ettie Guelfguat, Sonia Weiner, 10th in the world at the 2015 Tzvi Ginsberg and Sarah Strauss International Chidon, when from Rosenbaum Yeshiva of RYNJ Chidon Coach Sharon Motechin (right) with RYNJ she was in 8th grade) and North Jersey, Tani Greengart and fi nalists Ettie Guelfguat, Sarah Strauss and Sonia Weiner. current Frisch student Jonah Shmuel Ross from TABC, Mir- PHOTO COURTESY OF ROSENBAUM YESHIVA OF NORTH JERSEY. Chill (who placed 11th in the iam Fisch, Ephraim Helfgot, Miriam Ka- Many other local competitors, their world at the 2012 Interna- han and Ari Kapelyan from Yavneh Acad- parents and coaches spoke to The Jewish tional Chidon, when he was emy, Risa Glasser, Chaim Glasser, Shaul Link about the time spent with one an- in 7th grade). Khayyat, Yakirah Rothberger, Eliezer Zylb- other over the past year, showing a vari- YBH students, from left to right: Eliezer Zilberman, The high school win- erman, Tzviki Negnewitzky of YBH, and ance in the preparation style for each fi nal- Shaul Khayyat, Chaim Glasser and Tzviki Negnewitzky. ner was Shlomi Helfgot, a Yehuda Mazin and Eli Nat from Yeshivat CONTINUED ON P. 68 PHOTO COURTESY OF ADAM NEGNEWITZKY. Teaneck resident, who is a Noam. 

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14 May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM COMMUNITY NEWS Naftali Bennett Headlines YBA Delegation to US Regain the freedom The weekend of May 19 to 22 brings a absence from YBA to serve as executive di- of your home – fl urry of activity to the New York City area rector of the Ministry of Religious Servic- Shabbos included. and to Teaneck in particular by representa- es and of the Chief Rabbinate under Nafta- tives from Yeshivot and Ulpanot Bnei Aki- li Bennett. Glatt holds a masters in Jewish va. YBA is Israel’s leading Religious Zion- history from Hebrew University and was a Our ShabbosLift gave us ist educational network. It consists of 74 major in the paratroopers. our independence back. schools and 25,000 students attending ye- Rabbi Dr. Yona Goodman will serve *UDIBOHFEPVSMJWFT shivot, ulpanot, hesder yeshivot, mechi- as a scholar in residence at Beth Aaron. not and a college. The schools run from Rav Yona was also born in the U.S. and We wereable to stay the famed Yeshivat HaKotel, to which grew up in the NYC area. He is national JO our own home" director of education for YBA. Rav Goodman studied at YBA’s 4UBJSMJGUTt8IFFMDIBJS-JGUT hesder Yeshivat HaGolan, and served in the Israeli army as a 3BNQTt"DDFTTJCMF#BUIT tank commander. He is the former director general of the na- &MFWBUPS4IBCCPT"EBQUBUJPO tional Bnei Akiva movement. For the last 20 years, Rabbi Call for FREE Consultation! Goodman has taught at Orot Israel College, part of the YBA network. Rav Goodman holds a Ph.D. in Jewish education from Hebrew U. He specializes in guiding teachers and parents whose teenage children have begun to deviate from the Jewish way of life. For 15 years, he has had a fi ve-minute weekly spot on the subject of education on Israel Nation- ShabbosLift 5. al Radio. 4PMVUJPOT Naftali Kandler will serve as a scholar in residence at Shaa- 4)"#-*'5t rei Orah. Kandler is Director of Institutional Advancement for We make stairs easy. Shabbosincluded. YBA. He is an educational en- trepreneur and is the founder of several educational in- 4)"#-*'5 stitutions, including the fi rst pre-military mechina for youth Naftali Bennett in the Israeli periphery, and the many in the area have direct ties, to less mechina of Or M’Ophir—a leadership pro- well known schools at the periphery of gram for Ethiopians. He served as rav for a mainstream Israeli life in small towns like Moroccan shul in Kiryat Malachi for a dec- Ofakim, a dozen miles west of Be’er Sheva, ade and also founded the largest national where YBA has a yeshiva for boys, an ulpa- conversion program in Israel, called AMI, na for girls, and a co-ed state religious high with more than 2,000 students annual- school. YBA has schools that span the en- ly. He lived for four years as a teenager in tire length and breadth of Israel, from Ei- London and holds a B.A. in education and lat to the Golan, and from Efrat to Ashdod. an M.B.A. Here is the quick rundown of the activi- On Sunday morning, from 9:30 to 11:30, ties for the upcoming weekend: Janet and Kenny Hoffman will be hosting • Scholars in Residence: a parlor meeting at their home about YBA’s Elchanan Glatt - YBA’s Executive Direc- mission. The three YBA representatives will tor - Bnai Yeshurun be there, along with the executive vice pres- Rav Yona Goodman - YBA’s Director of ident of YBA’s presence in America and Can- Education - Beth Aaron ada, Akiva Covitz. Dr. Covitz was formerly Naftali Kandler - YBA’s Director of Insti- associate dean at Harvard Law School and tutional Advancement - Shaarei Orah vice president for the global online learn- • Informational Parlor Meeting: ing company edX. He teaches at Yeshiva At the home of Janet and Kenny Hoff- University and is a columnist for the Jew- man, Teaneck ish Link of New Jersey. Sunday Morning, May 22 The YBA mission concludes with an in- 9:30-11:30 a.m. formation session that includes Naftali • Private meeting with Naftali Bennett, Is- Bennett, a proud YBA graduate himself. It rael’s Minister of Education and Diaspo- will be hosted by Esther and Henry Swieca ra Affairs: at their Park Avenue home. Bennett leads At the home of Esther and Henry Swie- the HaBayit HaYehudi Party, and holds two ca, Park Avenue, NYC ministries in the current government— Sunday evening, May 22, 6:00-8:00 p.m. education and diaspora affairs. Earlier, he Reservation and donation to the YBA held the ministries of the economy, reli- scholarship fund required gious services and Jerusalem. After tremen- The weekend begins with a Shabba- dous success in the software industry in ton in Teaneck at three different shuls. El- Manhattan, Bennett returned to his native chanan Glatt, YBA’s executive director, will Israel, where he is now a leading fi gure in serve as a scholar in residence at Bnai Ye- national politics. shurun. Before making aliyah, Glatt spent Please contact Akiva Covitz (akiva.co- his early childhood in Manhattan. During [email protected]) or Reva Judas (secretary@ the years of 2013-2015, Glatt took a leave of afyba.org) for more information.

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By Shmuel Landesman to the present day, movingly led by Young Israel member Dr. shul member currently serving in the IDF. though the nature Ronald Wachsberg, the father of a current Mordy Nissel and his crew (Adina Mermel- On Wednesday evening, May 11, the of the attacks has IDF soldier. stein, Cipi Brand, Paula Baumser, Ezra Nis- Young Israel of Passaic-Clifton hosted a dual changed. Israel As nighttime fell, Rabbi Glasser shifted sel and Moshe Mermelstein) prepared the Yom Hazikaron Commemoration and Yom remains incred- to Yom Ha’atzmaut celebratory mode. He incredibly attractive and appetizing repast. Ha’atzmaut celebration in its new building. ibly vibrant, but emphasized that Yom Ha’atzmaut is about Special thanks were given to Teddy Cohen Several hundred local residents came to par- at great expense, offering Hoda’ah (thanksgiving) of Jerusalem Pizza in Passaic ticipate. which must never to Hashem for the miracle of for his donation of food. There Rabbi Yaakov Glasser, spiritual leader of be forgotten. the State of Israel. The rabbi ex- was Israeli food (falafel), Amer- Young Israel, began the Yom Hazikaron pro- Rabbi Glasser plained the importance of liv- ican food (hot dogs), healthy gram, stating that the fi rst Yom Hazikaron continued with a ing in a generation fortunate to food (salads) and unhealthy began on May 14, 1948, hours before the dec- story told by Tel Shlomo Mermelstein return Jewish sovereignty to the food (the scrumptious des- laration of the State of Israel, 68 years ago Aviv Chief Rabbi blows a shofar for Yom land of Israel. He gave as an anal- serts). Ha’atzmaut. CREDIT: YIPC to the day on the Hebrew calendar. Quoting Yisrael Meir Lau. ogy a recent zoo trip he made Moshe Mermelstein DJ’ed from David Ben Gurion’s diary, the rabbi con- Rabbi Lau’s mentor, Rav Shlomo Zalman Au- with his children on Pesach. the Israeli religious music. tinued by remembering that tragic morning, erbach (d. 1995), was asked by students for While the animals’ living condi- The atmosphere was happy when the Gush Etzion bloc was lost to the permission to take off from their yeshiva tions at the zoo were quite good, and most of the attendees sat Jordanian Arab Legion. Every Jewish man studies to go pray at the graves of tzaddikim it was just their habitat, not their Dr. Ronald Wachsberg, down, relaxed and shmoozed. there was killed (the wom- up in the Galilee, and to go to Meron home. Their true home is in the father of IDF soldier Rabbi Glasser told the Jew- en and children having for Lag B’ Omer. The Sage responded wilds. So too for Jews in the geu- Avichai Wachsberg, ish Link, “The Young Israel has been previously evacuat- that down the road from the yeshi- lah (Diaspora). America is, Passa- recites a prayer for hosted a vibrant Yom Ha’atz- ed). David Ben Gurion de- va in Jerusalem was Mount Herzl, ic is, a habitat. Israel is home. chayalim. CREDIT: YIPC maut program for decades. clared the founding of the with its large military cemetery fi lled Next came the Yom Ha’atzmaut tefi llot. However, it was especially moving to per- State of Israel at 4 p.m. Fol- with Kedoshim (young Jews who sac- The brand new prayer books for the evening petuate this legacy now in our new shul lowing the ceremony, he rifi ced their lives for the sake of the were donated by Rabbi Emeritus Chaim building. I am infi nitely grateful to God, and immediately returned to Jewish people). Better to go there to Wasserman, who is now practicing what he those who sacrifi ced their lives, for this in- military headquarters to pray, he said. preached—he lives in Israel having made al- credible gift of Jewish history.” deal with the attack of sev- Rabbi Glasser said everyone in iyah upon retiring from the shul. Yitz Weiss en Arab armies. the audience should visit Har Herzl led a song-fi lled service. At the end of daven- The rabbi stressed the Rabbi Glasser speaking the next time they are in Israel. He ing, the men burst into spontaneous song importance of recognizing at the Yom Ha’atzmaut said it is important to pay respects to and dance in the main sanctuary. This por- the enormous sacrifi ces program. CREDIT: YIPC those Jews who sacrifi ced their lives tion of the program concluded with the made to create and maintain Medinat Yisra- so the rest could live, and so they could have singing of HaTikvah and Shlomo Mermel- el. It was not a free gift. It was paid for with a State of Israel, which must not be taken stein blowing a huge Yemenite shofar. the blood of many Jews, and with the suf- for granted. The festivities continued downstairs in fering of the newly created widows and or- Prayers were then recited on behalf of the shul’s social hall. A poignant video mes- Partial view of the crowd enjoying the Yom phans. Unfortunately, this history continues the soldiers of Tzahal (Israel Defense Force), sage was played from Avichai Wachsberg, a Ha’atzmaut repast. CREDIT: YIPC

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201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 21 COMMUNITY NEWS Boteach Jewish Values Gala Draws Hundreds of Community Leaders By Tzvi Allen Fishman Marion and Elie Wiesel, Champions of the Children Award; His Royal Highness Prince Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, famed lectur- Reza Pahlavi, Champion of Human Rights er, author and media personality hosted Award; Bret Stephens, Champion of Isra- the fourth major event of his World Values el Award; Rep. Tulsi Gabbard, Champion Network at Manhattan’s Marriott Marquis of Freedom Award; Ken Kurson, The Scott on Thursday evening, May 5. Turen Champion of Human Spirit Award; The event, called “The Jewish Values In- MK Amir Ohana, Champion of Human Dig- ternational Awards Gala,” drew a sellout nity Award; United Hatzalah Founder Eli crowd of hundreds of New York and New Beer, Champion of Human Life Award; Rep. Jersey community leaders to a reception, Ed Royce, Champion of Liberty Award; Ac- Hatzalah Israel founder Eli Beer with Shmuley dinner and awards ceremony featuring tress and Activist Pamela Anderson, Lover Boteach and Dr. Mehmet Oz at the Champion of Jewish Values Gala. TZVI ALLEN FISHMAN honorees from various walks of life. of Israel Award. Boteach’s World Values Network acts as The Adelsons received their award from HRH Reza Pahlavi is the founder and a platform for fostering awareness of Jew- famed Afghani women’s activist Fatima Ka- leader of the “National Council of Iran,” a ish values and defending Israel in the main- zimi, head of the Bamian Women’s Minis- government in exile of Iran. As the oldest son stream and international media. It tackles try in Afghanistan. Geza Rohrig is a Hungar- of the late Shah of Iran and Crown Prince of pressing issues through debates, panels, fo- Dr. Miriam and Sheldon G. Adelson with ian actor and poet who is best known for Iran, he left Iran at the age of 17, two years rums and lectures at venues worldwide. It Rabbi Shmuley Boteach presenting the his role in the 2015 fi lm Son of Saul. Dr. Re- before the Iranian Revolution. Both he and also orchestrates ad campaigns to protect Champion of Holocaust Memory Award to Dr. becca Kook is the daughter of Hillel Kook his late father have been great friends of Is- the Jewish State and introduce Americans Rebecca Kook at Champion of Jewish Values who was well known by his adopted name rael and the Jewish people. He received his to the beauty of Jewish values. Gala. TZVI ALLEN FISHMAN Peter Bergson. After hearing in 1942 that award from Birthright Israel creator and phi- The Jewish Values Gala is a medium for Miriam and Sheldon G. Adelson, Judy and two million Jews had been slaughtered in lanthropist Michael Steinhardt. publicizing the work of the World Values Michael Steinhardt, Nily Falic and Mona Europe, he set up the “Emergency Commit- Eli Beer is founder of United Hatza- Network, raising funds for its activities and and David Sterling. tee to Save the Jews in Europe.” Rohrig and lah of Israel and President of Friends of recognizing individuals, both Jewish and The Champion of Jewish Values awar- Kook received their awards from Dr. Miri- Hatzalah. He created the now-famed mo- non-Jewish, who strive to positively affect dees came from a wide array of disciplines. am and Sheldon G. Adelson. torcycle-based emergency ambulance unit society. They included Dr. Miriam and Sheldon G. Famed Holocaust survivor and Nobel after witnessing the chaos of the #12 Jeru- This year’s gala was hosted by four re- Adelson, Champions of Women’s Rights Laureate Elie Wiesel and his wife, Mari- salem bus bombing in 1978 and the death nowned philanthropists and major bene- Award; Geza Rohrig and Dr. Rebecca Kook, on, received their awards from philanthro- of a child in Israel who could not be resus- factors of the World Values Network.: Dr. Champion of Holocaust Memory Award; pists Nily, Jana and Simon Falic. Nily Falic citated by an ambulance that arrived 20 is chairman of Friends of IDF and Jana is minutes late. He received his award from co-president of WIZO, while Simon Falic is famed physician and television personality, JEWISH COO and Chairman of Duty Free America. Dr. Mehmet Oz. Journeys Jewish Moms Bring Home Much More Than Souvenirs From invites you to an evening of inspiration with a ‘Mommy Birthright’ Trip The plan was to inspire non-Orthodox dren under 18 living at home). As each trip has Jewish moms to connect with their heritage returned, the women who left as strangers re- Dr. David Pelcovitz and Israel. For the 110 Jewish moms who live turn as “sisters,” with a connection not just to in Bergen County, that turned out to be just each other, but to all the women who preced- Thinking Alike vs. Thinking Together: the beginning. ed them on earlier trips. Paths to Strengthening Relationships In 2011, Julie Farkas from Bergenfi eld, NJ, “The physical trip to Israel allows wom- with the help of JInspire, a grassroots Jewish en to make that connection to their roots in learning initiative with chapters in NY and a way that nothing else could,” said Julie. Be- Hear from JWRP Trip Alumnae NJ, organized a group of 25 Bergen Coun- ing right there and seeing everything fi rst- about their participation ty Jewish women to join about 400 oth- hand—the sites, the speakers, the comrad- Amy & David Albalah ers from cities around the world on a high- ery and the music and dancing—all help to with JWRP and the impact it has made on their lives. ly subsidized Jewish Women’s Renaissance accelerate participants’ realization that they Project (JWRP) sponsored trip to Israel. Lov- are a part of something special and grand, ingly nicknamed “Mommy-Birthright,” the and that the gift of Torah is theirs too. Sim- Monday evening, May 23, 2016 goal was to awaken participants’ Jewish ply put, “When you’re there, you just get it.” identity and spirituality. These women have Since that fi rst trip, Julie, along with oth- 7:30 pm each come back from the trip with their er volunteers whom she recruited as “city own story of inspiration, and a newfound leaders,” including Esther Friedman, Dena Congregation Rinat Yisrael connection to Judaism as well as each other. Levi, Andrea Portel, Phyllis Krug and Ela- Once these women were home, it was im- na Kaplan, in addition to the continued 389 West Englewood Avenue, Teaneck portant to make sure that spark of enthusi- support from JInspire, have led fi ve more Admission: $18. Men and women welcome. asm didn’t go out. At that point, the basis for groups, totaling over 110 women from north- Jewish Journeys of Northern New Jersey (JJN- ern NJ on JWRP trips to Israel. “JWRP does NJ) was born. With each subsequent trip, the an amazing job putting the entire program For more info, [email protected]. participants returned with a newfound spirit- together, but the enthusiasm could all disap- uality and motivation to continue the journey pear if we didn’t help keep the spirit alive at Jewish Journeys has taken over 100 women to Israel on a JWRP they had begun. Most were excited to better home,” said Julie Farkas. “birthright-like” experience. Pre-trip and follow up programming include: understand and participate in Jewish tradi- JJNNJ is running a fund drive to help sup- weekly Torah classes, a monthly challah bake, Shabbat programming, tion, and wanted to learn more. They now port their efforts and also has openings for social outings, one-on-one learning and holiday celebrations. attend ongoing events that include weekly their next trip for moms, leaving on Novem- Torah study, classes about holidays and tradi- ber 13, 2016. Through JWRP, JJNNJ has also Event Committee TEANECK tions, a monthly challah bake, Hebrew class- started a trip for the husbands of women Michal Kleiman , Donna Pasternak es, Shabbat dinners, social events and visits who have gone on the trip. For more infor- City Leaders from guest speakers. More importantly, most mation about participating in a trip, or do- Julie Farkas, Esther Friedman, Elana Kaplan, Phyllis Krug, Dena Levie, of the participants want to inspire their fami- nating to JJNNJ, please go to the website at Andrea Portal and Debbie Rosalimsky lies and share what they’ve learned (which is www.JewishJourneys.org or email Julie@ the reason it is open only to women with chil- JulieFarkas.com.

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By Andrea Nissel products in one’s home. “The goal is to empower everyone who cares about Israel to In an effort to counteract the BDS (Boy- make a difference,” Weilgus explained. She cott, Divestment and Sanctions) move- urges every household across the Diaspora Manhattan Campus ment, ACHI is introducing their own BDS to designate a dish and keep it fi lled with campaign: Buy, Display and Support Isra- Israeli products, sharing the concept with el. ACHI, along with Jewish Journeys, host- everyone who enters your home. “It is our ed an informational event this past Sun- silent weapon to fi ght the BDS.” day, May 15, in Teaneck. The objective of Often Jewish people living in Ameri- the event was to enlighten guests about the ca feel helpless in the effort to advance SENIOR multitude of Israeli products available for the Israeli economy and overall situa- purchase in the United States tion. Through the concept of benefi ting Israel’s economy. Think Israel, Buy Israeli, we ACHI, American Commu- can engage in supporting Is- nities Helping Israel, is a not- rael on a very regular basis EXECUTIVE for-profi t organization en- with what seems to be a fairly couraging people nationwide simple undertaking. The idea to use Israeli products as is to encourage Americans to part of a campaign known as support Israel through prod- Think Israel, Buy Israeli. Since uct purchases, thus helping ASSISTANT its inception in 2004 during themselves and Israel simul- the second intifada, ACHI’s taneously. Through initiatives mission is to help the Israeli economy and such as the Klee, people are able to make a The Touro College Graduate School keep Israel in the hearts and minds of Jews difference in their lives, the lives of those in the Diaspora. around them and ultimately the lives of of Social Work has experienced The event was held at the home of Jew- those living in Israel. ish Journeys’ leader Andrea Portal. JWRP These two organizations are so in sync remarkable growth, with campuses takes Jewish mothers on a trip to Israel with one another in that they empower connecting participants to the land, Jew- people who care about Israel to make a dif- ish values and one another. “Upon return- ference. “Each can gain something from the in midtown Manhattan and Brooklyn, ing from the trip, women develop a love for other,” remarked Tova Taragin, ACHI coor- Israel and are inspired to learn more about dinator for the Baltimore/Washington area over 300 graduate students, and their Jewish identity. Many of the partici- who was selling a variety of cookbooks fea- pants continue to be active in Jewish Jour- turing Israeli recipes with proceeds directly more than 100 clinical partners. neys, attending events that include challah benefi ting Israel. baking, Torah classes and Shabbat dinners. Guests indulged in delicious snacks all Their commitment to Israel and support- made from Israeli products that are avail- Minimum Requirements • Bachelor’s degree and three years experience in academic management. • Experience in managing databases, performing statistical analyses and reports • Experience in coordinating ing its economy is paramount,” Portal told able for purchase in most of the local ko- the Jewish Link. A love for Israel is central sher markets. From humus to borekas, the special events and programs to both ACHI and Jewish Journeys. Both or- food was plentiful and delicious. Product ganizations are committed to the success lists along with recipes were distributed for of our Jewish homeland. participants to take home. ACHI volunteer Please submit current CV to: ACHI is comprised of volunteers of all Lynda Zentman presented a cooking demo ages. Their goal is to share the critical con- that included Israeli salad, chickpeas sal- cept of supporting Israel and implement- ad and dates with goat cheese fi lling. With ing easy, palpable ways to do so. “I am pas- some help from refreshing mimosas, every- Annalene Antonio, LSW, LMSW sionate about volunteering for ACHI and one was in a jovial mood. Executive Assistant to the Dean keeping Israel in the hearts and minds of The message guests were encouraged our next generation,” said Rochelle Zupnik, to leave with was that supporting Isra- and Director of Programming ACHI coordinator. The event was not in- el could be as easy as choosing different tended to raise funds but rather awareness. brands of food already on your shopping Touro College Graduate School of Social Work Israel needs our constant support, especial- list. Always keep Israel close to your heart ly during troublesome times. 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201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 23 COMMUNITY NEWS Bnei Akiva’s Rabbi Boston Globe Columnist Yona Goodman to Jeff Jacoby to Visit Speak at Beth Aaron Young Israel of Teaneck

Rabbi Yona Goodman, National Direc- checked or developed programs or policies By Sara Kosowsky Gross tor of Education in the Yeshivot and Ul- in the Israeli school system. Among them, panot Bnei Akiva Educational Network in he served on a committee that restructured The Young Israel of Teaneck (YIOT) an- Israel and the former director general of the teacher training programs for religious nounced that Jeff Jacoby, Award-winning the national Bnei Akiva movement in Isra- teachers; a committee that constructed a Op-Ed Columnist for the Boston Globe, will el, will speak at Congrega- plan for teaching Jewish speak on Sunday, May 22, at 8 p.m., on the tion Beth Aaron on Shab- philosophy (Machshevet topic of “Zionism Is a Badge of Honor.” This bat, May 21, at 6:55 p.m. His Yisrael); and a committee event is part of the YIOT’s Dr. Bertram z”l topic will be “In What State that checked the unique & Ann Newman Adult Education Program Is ‘The State’? The Challeng- needs of education for girls. and is in celebration of Yom Ha’atzmaut es Facing the Religious Zi- He is a senior staff member and Yom Yerushalayim. onist Movement in Israel in Mahut, which is a nation- “We are honored to have Jeff Jacoby Today: An Israeli Rabbi and al center that specializes in join our community and help enhance our Educator’s Insight.” helping schools or commu- observance of both Yom Ha’atzmaut and Rabbi Yona Goodman nities immediately after ter- Yom Yerushalayim. His in-depth knowl- was born in the United ror attacks. edge of the Middle East and his passion for States and made aliyah as For the last 15 years, he the State of Israel will serve to heighten our a teenager. In the last 20 has been broadcasting a awareness of the current climate as well as Jeff Jacoby years, Rabbi Goodman has fi ve-minute weekly spot on inspire us to do all we can for the Jewish preservation and championing of indi- taught at Orot Israel Col- the subject of education on State,” said Rabbi Binyamin Krohn, rabbi of vidual liberty.” In 2009, he was presented lege. Rav Goodman studied Rabbi Yona Goodman Israeli National Radio. He is the Young Israel of Teaneck. with the Ben Hecht Award for Outstand- in the Golan Heights Hesder Yeshiva and a member on the board of directors of the Jacoby is a nationally recognized con- ing Journalism on the Middle East. In 2014, served in the Israeli army as a tank com- international movement of Religious Zion- servative voice in journalism. In 1994, the he was included in the “Forward 50,” a list mander. He is the former director general ist Kollels (Torah MiTzion). Boston Globe recruited him from the Bos- of the 50 most infl uential American Jews. of the national Bnei Akiva movement in Is- Beth Aaron is located at 950 Queen ton Herald, where he had been chief ed- His columns are distributed by the New rael. Rabbi Goodman gives courses for the Anne Rd. in Teaneck. itorial writer since 1987. In 1999, Jacoby York Times Syndicate, and readers can also Israeli board of education to high school Rabbi Goodman holds an MA in Jew- became the fi rst recipient of the Brein- follow him on Facebook, Twitter and his principals, high school supervisors and oth- ish education and is a doctoral candidate del Prize, a major award for excellence in website, www.JeffJacoby.com. ers about ways to enhance Jewish values in at Hebrew U. He specializes in guiding opinion journalism. He has been recog- The YIOT is located at 868 Perry Lane in the lives of our children. teachers and parents whose teenage chil- nized by the Institute for Justice with the Teaneck. The event is free and open to the In the last decade, he has participated in dren have begun to deviate from the Jew- Thomas Paine Award, which honors jour- public. For more information contact aec@ many different national committees that ish way of life. nalists “who dedicate their work to the yiot.org. A NIGHT OF BEAUTY IN TEANECK One Night Only, Pop-up Show

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24 May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM COMMUNITY NEWS Kaplen JCC Music School Awarded $40,000 NEA Grant seasonal promotions

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201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 25 YESHIVAT CHOVEVEI TORAH RABBINICAL SCHOOL

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Sunday, June 19, 2016 · 13 Sivan 5776 · 9:30 AM - 5:30 PM Monday, June 20, 2016 · 14 Sivan 5776 · 9:15 AM - 4:30 PM SAR High School · 503 West 259th Street, Riverdale, NY

IN COOPERATION WITH Beit Morasha of Jerusalem Center for Modern Torah Leadership Drisha Institute for Jewish Education Institute for Jewish Ideas and Ideals Midreshet Ein HaNatziv Midreshet Lindenbaum SAR High School Torah in Motion USA Yeshivat Maale Gilboa Yeshivat Maharat

In memory of Riva Koschitzky z”l Dedicated by Tamar and Eric Goldstein

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26 May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM COMMUNITY NEWS NEFESH International Presents Symposium on Sexuality By Yeta Solomon, LCSW ent on “Sexual Dysfunction ancies in the Level of Desire.” This list of presenters and their topics and the Unconsum- Rachel Hercman, LCSW, makes it very clear that this symposium NEFESH International is very proud mated Marriage.” will address “Menopau- will be an extraordinary event that mental to present a truly groundbreaking event Dovid Kohn, LCSW, sal and Sexual Dys- health professionals will not want to miss. in our community. After much effort and is the founding di- function: Assessment, The symposium will be held at the Young preparation, this full-day Symposium on rector of a group- Treatment, and Clinical Israel of Great Neck, 236 Middle Neck Rd. Sexuality will ﬁ nally come to fruition on based private prac- Considerations.” in Great Neck, NY. Registration will begin Sunday, June 5. NEFESH has arranged for tice in Brooklyn and The ﬁ nal plenary will at 8:30 a.m, with the program running from a full array of outstanding professionals New City, NY, specializing include Nosson Solomon, 9 a.m. until 5 p.m. There will be a one-hour to present on many important topics rein couples counseling, sexu- PhD, a psychologist in private break for lunch, and box lunches will be lated to sexuality. al compulsivity, addiction and complex practice in Brooklyn, a past president of available for purchase online. Fees are $150 The opening plenary will include Rab- trauma issues. He will speak about “Sex- NEFESH International and a member of for NEFESH members, $185 for non mem- bi Avrohom Union, MA, of Los Angeles, ual Compulsivity and Addiction: A Rela- its executive board, who will present on bers and $100 for student members. Group Rabbinic Administrator of the Rabbini- tional Treatment Framework for Trauma “Sexual Development in Children and Ad- rates can be arranged by contacting secre- cal Council of California, as well as dayan Healing.” olescents”; Benzion Sorotzkin, PsyD, main- [email protected]. Social workers can earn 7 and menahel of its Beit Din. Rabbi Union The next set of concurrent sessions will tains a private practice in Brooklyn and CE credits. To register for the symposium, will speak about “The Torah Perspective on feature Pamela Klein, LCSW, who has a pri- will speak about “Treatment of Patients please go to the NEFESH website, www. Sexuality.” Joining him will be Rabbi Sim- vate practice in Brooklyn and Queens, spe- with Same- Sex Attraction”; Rabbi Avro- nefesh.org. cha Feuerman, LCSW, Senior Director of cializing in sex therapy and marital coun- hom Union, MA, will conclude the pro- Join with other mental health profes- Operations at OHEL, private practitioner, seling; she will discuss “The Assessment gram with “A Torah Perspective on Chal- sionals to experience an important learn- and president of NEFESH, who will discuss and Treatment of Couples with Discrep- lenges in Sexuality.” ing opportunity. “The Personal and Cultural Cognitive Mind- set in the Treatment of Sexual Disorders.” The program will then feature concurrent sessions with Dov Finkelstein, LCSW, a Clinical Instructor of Psychiatry at the New York School of Medicine who also maintains a private practice working with couples, specializing in sex therapy and anxiety disorders. He will pres- Moshava Ba’ir Excited for Another Great Summer

The wonderful Bnei Akiva of the U.S. and Canada day camp, Moshava Ba’ir, is in high gear, putting the ﬁ n- ishing touches on plans for Summer 2016! This summer, Moshava Ba’ir will be adding on an additional pool, to bring us to four heated pools! We are also very excited to share with you one of our newest peulot (activities)—the Zoom Floom Slip N’ Slide! Our roshei chinuch (education directors) have been working hard on our tochnit chinuchi (educational program) for summer 2016! This summer, the campers will learn, experience and internalize the many lessons and stories about our Avot and Imahot (forefathers and mothers) all the way through Yetzi- at Mitzrayim (Exodus from Egypt)! Moshava Ba’ir is also thrilled about the overwhelming interest and strong camper enrollment for summer 2016! We are currently full and have closed registration for Summer 2016. We open registration for Summer 2017 at the end of August, so make sure to apply early! If you would like to learn more about Moshava Ba’ir, please contact our ofﬁ ces at 212-465-9536 or moshavabair@ bneiakiva.org.

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 27 COMMUNITY NEWS Arbor Day Is Celebrated in Teaneck

By Pearl Markovitz ship’s mature and majestic trees create liage in summer. In autumn, its colors Lehman went on to relate some of the lovely canopies over many streets and af- change to an intense orange, yellow and moving background stories of the Trees of “NOW, THEREFORE BE IT RESOLVED, ford special beauty to our community. red. It attracts bees, fruit and many species Love planted so far. In one case, a red maple that we, the Township Council of the Town- Our trees also offer us many practi- of birds and mammals.” was planted in Terhune Park in memory of a ship of Teaneck, do hereby proclaim Sunday, cal benefi ts. In the winter they shade our Last year, at the Teaneck Night Out, loved one. A sugar maple was planted in Vo- May 15, 2016, as Arbor Day in the Township homes from cold winds and thus help re- the Shade Tree Advisory Board launched tee Park alongside the picnic tables, the drag- of Teaneck, and urge all citizens to support duce heating bills. In the summer, they pro- a new program which they dubbed “Trees on and the playground to honor a person for efforts to care for our trees and woodlands of Love.” The motivation for the new pro- whom this was a favorite spot. A fringe tree and to support our community’s forestry project was to offer opportunities to individu- was planted by a wife in memory of her hus- gram, and urge all citizens to plant trees to al Teaneck families to honor or memorial- band whose unshaven beard, which he re- gladden the hearts and promote the wellbe- ize their loved ones through the planting of fused to shave off, resembled a fringe. ing of present and future generations. BE IT a native tree in a township park. For a one- This year’s Tree of Love was planted FURTHER RESOLVED that the Township of time fee of $350 covering the cost of the by Sandy Wolkenberg, member of the Te- Teaneck will celebrate Arbor Day on May 15, tree, planting and a water bag for the fi rst aneck Shade Advisory Board, to honor her 2016, at Herrick Park, hosted by the Shade few years, the purchaser may choose from co-member and dear friend Ellen Schwartz, Tree Advisory Board.” a wide selection of native trees and select on the occasion of Ellen’s 75th Birthday. El- With this proclamation, read by Roby the park where the tree will be planted. In len’s daughter Addie, who resides in Ver- Langert, Chairperson of Teaneck’s Shade vide shade, which may cut down on the addition, a granite plaque will be provid- mont, is the co-sponsor of the tree. In trib- Tree Advisory Board, the Arbor Day Cel- need for constant air-conditioning. Health ed mentioning the name and occasion to ute to her friend, Wolkenberg read a lovely ebration commenced. Assembled were benefi ts of our trees include providing be marked, such as marriages, births, anni- poem by Karen I. Shragg entitled, “Think members of the Shade Tree Advisory Board oxygen and helping reduce carbon diox- versaries, graduations and bar and bat mitz- Like a Tree.” Shwartz was visibly moved by including Zina Barrera, Dania Cheddie, ide levels in the air. “Our trees provide us vahs. Memorial plaques to loved ones are the tribute. Norma Goetz, Anna Kurz, Ellen Schwartz with beauty as well as peace and tranquil- also provided. The program concluded with the actual and Sandy Wolkenberg. Also in attendance ity. That is why we on the Teaneck Shade “To date, 19 Trees of Love have been planting of the tree by members of the De- were Dan Daume, Environmental Com- Advisory Board are grateful to the Teaneck planted in Teaneck from the launch of the partment of Public Works under the over- mission Liaison, and Kevin Arahill, Depart- Town Council for their constant support in program this past Fall,” reported Addie Le- sight of Kevin Aranhill. Sienna Dube, grand- ment of Public Works Liaison. our projects,” says Langert. hman, part of the “TOLETTES,” the three daughter of Chairperson Langert, and a Teaneck has a wide variety of species Every year the Department of Pub- women who head the Tree of Love Pro- student at Yavneh Academy, assisted in the of trees including maple, oak, birch, elm, lic Works plants the specifi c tree decided gram. “The trees were planted in township planting. linden, sycamore, pine, copper beech, wil- upon by the Advisory Board in the specifi c parks including Martin Luther King Jr., Ter- For more information and to download low and many others. Many of our trees area designated. This year a Tupelo tree was hune, Andreas, Phelps, Votee and Eleanor an application for a Tree of Love, visit Tean- are quite old, as shortly after the Civil War selected to be planted in Herrick Park. Ac- Kilichek.” [email protected] the statesman William Walter Phelps plant- cording to member Norma Goetz, “The Tu- ed thousands of pine, linden and other spe- pelo tree (Nyssa sylvatica) is native to east- cies on his expansive Teaneck estate. Many ern North America. It is often grown as a Migdal Ohr to Hold of those original trees still stand. Our town- shade tree as it offers thick, dark green fo- Annual Gala Dinner New York—Migdal Ohr, Israel’s pre- min Brafman, Esq. will be the Master of mier organization for underprivileged, or- Ceremonies. phaned, abused and new immigrant chil- Additionally, we are excited to an- dren, will hold its Annual Gala Dinner nounce that two 11th-grade Migdal Ohr stu- on Monday, June 6 at Tribeca 360 in New dents who are enrolled in the Mevashlim York City. This year’s event will honor dis- L’Atid “Cooking Up a Future” program will tinguished supporters who have contrib- be attending this year’s Gala and working uted signifi cantly to the success of the or- with the caterer to prepare a special dish ganization over its 43-year history. for the guests. Migdal Ohr is proud to recognize our This year’s Gala co-chairs include Jeff Honorees Dr. Arthur Henry and Adina Ger- and Shira Eisenberg of Lawrence, New ber of Lawrence, New York and Louis and York, and Jordana and Adam Grunfeld of Anat Menaged of New York City for their New York City. unwavering commitment and dedication Please call 212-397-3700 or visit www. to Migdal Ohr’s children in need. Rabbi Al- migdalohrusa.org/2016gala to purchase len and Alisa Schwartz, also of New York tickets to the 2016 Migdal Ohr Gala Dinner. City, will be receiving the Rabbinic Part- Founded over 43 years ago, Migdal Ohr nership Award. (Tower of Light) serves nearly 12,000 Jew- The evening will pay tribute to these ish children and young adults across Israel couples and will also include a special annually, through its 160 youth clubs and program featuring Migdal Ohr’s Founder three main education campuses. Providing and Dean and 2004 Israel Prize winner, free, essential services including education, Rabbi Yitzchak Dovid Grossman. Promi- housing, clothing and food, medical care nent criminal defense attorney and out- and counseling to at-risk youth, Migdal Ohr spoken advocate on behalf of Israel and is dedicated to making a difference in the the greater Jewish community Benja- future of Israel. Rabbi Naftali Kandler to Speak at Shaarei Orah On Shabbat, May 21, Rabbi Naftali shivot and Ulpanot of Bnei Akiva in Israel. Kandler will be speaking twice at Shaarei He is the founder of several educational Orah. Before Mincha at 6:45 p.m., Rabbi institutions, such as the fi rst pre-military Kandler will be speaking on “Giyur: Once mechina for youth in the Israeli periph- a Kohen Always a Kohen or How Can ery, Orot Chesed—the national chesed or- One Become a Jew?” And during seudah ganization of the Garinim Toraniyim, and shlishit, at 8:10 p.m., he will be addressing more. He served for 10 years as the rav of a “Peah: Learning Chesed, Talking Chesed, Moroccan shul in Kiryat Malachi. He lives Living Chesed.” Rabbi Kandler is the Di- with his wife and seven children in Yad rector of Institutional Advancement at Ye- Binyamin.

28 May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM COMMUNITY NEWS Ma’ayanot’s Heartbeats Evening Is Back!

Heartbeats, Ma’ayanot’s highly antic- community. Each year Heartbeats organ- staff unanimously voted for Bat Melech, ipated annual Night of Song, Dance and izers choose a charity to which the pro- a shelter for victims of domestic violence. Connection open to all women in the ceeds of that year’s performances will be When asked why Bat Melech was chosen, community, will take place on Wednes- donated, and over the years over $50,000 Ms. Tammam explained, “Because we are day evening, June 1, at 7 at the Hackensack has been donated to a variety of organiza- an all-girls school, we wanted an organiza- Middle School, 360 Union Street in Hack- tions, including Sharsheret, Save a Child’s tion that benefi ts women, and as Bat Me- ensack. Started several years ago by three Heart (SACH), Chabad Children of Cherno- lech is the only shelter of its kind in Isra- standing room only. Hackensack Middle students in the Class of 2009, Heartbeats is byl and The Lone Soldier Center, to name el that serves religious women, we realized School, where the event will be held, can an annual student-created and student-di- just a few. that they could really use our help.” seat over 600, and we hope to fi ll them all!” rected performance open to women of the Preparations for this year’s production Indeed, the entire senior grade is en- A fi nal noteworthy component of began almost a full year ago when the cur- thusiastic about raising money for Bat Me- Heartbeats is the inclusion of Sinai stu- rent Heartbeats staff, then rising seniors, lech, and they have come up with numer- dents; as they did last year, Sinai stu- YU Holds was chosen: Denny Tammam and Davida ous ways, in addition to ticket sales, to raise dents will perform an original dance rou- Respler were chosen as business manag- as much as possible for their chosen cause. tine with Ma’ayanot students from all four Panel ers; Chana Waintraub, Ellie Blanchard and Before Pesach they ran a car wash; they are grades. Mrs Sima Morell Kelner, Director of Tamar Nissel as dance directors and Adina soliciting both business ads and friend and Sinai Ma’ayanot, explained the importance Discussion on Rosenberg, Abby Steifel, Gabi Lerner and family ads that will appear in the playbill of such inclusion: “It means so much to our Avigayil Schiff as song directors. Ms. Elana and they are selling food to Ma’ayanot un- girls and their families that they are includ- ‘The Business Flaumenhaft, Assistant Principal for Stu- derclassmen during breakfast and lunch. ed in such an enriching experience. They dent Life, serves as faculty advisor for the Noteworthy this year is the change in see themselves as part of the greater com- of Sports’ event. venue for the event. “Last year Heartbeats munity and you can see their pride.” As in past years, the Heartbeats staff se- was in Temple Emeth,” explained Ms. Tam- For additional information, or to pur- The Yeshiva University Wall Street lected the benefi ciary charity; this year’s mam, “and even with 500 seats, we had chase tickets, email info@ma’ayanot.org. Group presented a panel discussion about “The Business of Sports” on Mon- day, May 9, featuring Mark Wilf, owner/ president of the Minnesota Vikings; Da- vid Samson, president of the Miami Mar- lins and Ahmed Zayat, owner of Amer- ican Pharoah, the fi rst Triple Crown winner since 1978. The moderator was Lawrence Burian, executive vice president, general counsel and secretary of both The Madison Square Garden Com- pany and MSG Networks Inc. The networking event, organized by the Offi ce of Alumni Affairs, was hosted by Proskauer Rose LLP and sponsored by BMO Capital Markets. Approximately 200 people attended.

All four participants have strong con- nections to YU. The Wilf family are major supporters of the University: YU’s up- town campus is named for them, and the Wilf scholarship program has been supporting students for 31 years. Samson is a 1993 graduate of Benjamin N. Cardozo School of Law, where he also serves as the chairman of the board of overseers. Ahmed Zayat is a 1983 graduate of Yeshi- va College, and Burian graduated from Yeshiva College in 1991. Questions from both Burian and the audience focused on the economic models of each business, labor/management relations, gambling (including fantasy sports), advertising, the effect of digital technologies and the role YU has played in how each participant has run his business. Regarding the last topic, Wilf spoke about giving back to the community (community service is required from everyone in the Vikings organization) and the pride he feels in how his family has supported YU’s mission for almost four decades. Samson and Zayat mentioned how the “moral compass” they got from YU inspires and guides them to make a difference in people’s lives through the businesses they run. The YU Ofﬁ ce of Alumni Affairs sponsors several networking events each year. More information can be found at www.yu.edu/alumni.

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 29 ESSEX & UNION COMMUNITY NEWS Jewish Family Service of Central NJ 5K Run Coming in June

Elizabeth—Jewish Family Service of donors. Corporate sponsors to date include for individuals, families and children; car- Gottlieb, Gordon Haas, Eric Harvitt, Mark Central NJ (JFSCNJ) will hold a 5KRun/Walk Beckerman & Company, Greenfi eld Gar- egiver support for children with special Hauptman, Susan Klapper, David Leven- in support of the organization’s many ser- dens, Landmark Homes and the Wilf Fami- needs; support for families caring for loved berg, Ruth Margolin, Jennifer Pollak, Phyl- vices on Sunday, June 5, at Oak Ridge Park, ly Foundations. ones with Alzheimer’s/dementia; nursing lis Reich, Michelle Rosen and Marc Singer. 136 Oak Ridge Road, Clark, NJ, at 9 a.m. The JFSCNJ is the premier health and social and home health aide services and transpor- Go to www.jfscentralnj.org/run4JFS if event is being chaired by JFSCNJ Board service agency serving all residents of Union tation for the homebound elderly. you would like to run/walk or sponsor the Member Mindy Goldberger and the entire County, NJ with a kosher food pantry, Meals Committee members include: Phyl- event. You can email [email protected] community is invited to sponsor the event on Wheels and produce from its urban com- lis Bernstein-Kuchner, Adam Blumenreich, for further information or contact Execu- and/or join the run. Bib pick-up is 7:30 a.m. munity garden. JFSCNJ also provides pro- John Delisio Blumenreich, David Brooks, tive Director Tom Beck if you wish to be a and prizes will be awarded for the largest grams for Holocaust survivors; counseling Seth Dombeck, Toby Goldberger, Michael corporate sponsor. Bris Avrohom Camp Gears Up at Union ‘Y’ With only a little more than fi ve weeks pool and basketball, tetherball and softball and El Al left until camp begins (June 28) the YM- fi elds, as well as safe tented areas. Catered YWHA of Union County is quick- lunch is included on all non-trip Commemorate ly fi lling up. With total ca- days. A bus is available in se- pacity of 500 children lected areas and early and Yom (ages 3–15) spanning late camp options are over nine divisions, available as well. State there are limit- licensed, the camp Hazikaron ed spaces left. The has Color War pro- programs are Jew- grams, Maccabiah, Rabbi Avremy Kanelsky, director of the ish-oriented, rang- concerts, shows and Jewish Information Stand at Newark Air- ing from the ob- in-house entertain- port, together with the El Al security staff servant divisions to ers. Campers can reg- held a memorial service for fallen IDF sol- the Israeli divisions. ister for the full eight diers in honor of Yom Hazikaron. He then Swimming, sports, weeks (June 28–Aug. 19) spotted a group of Birthright passengers crafts, music, drama and or four weeks. Y Family and he had 20 individuals put on tefi llin—13 dance, yoga, Jewish learn- Membership is included in for the fi rst time. Pictured is Rabbi Avremy ing, Israeli culture, cooking, na- all price quotes. Limited schol- with one of the Birthright passengers. ture and trips are just some of the arships are available. For more infor- daily activities. With gorgeous, fenced-in, mation call 908-289-8112 or access our web- with so much suffering, that’s one thing. secure campgrounds, campers enjoy pic- site at www.unionycamps.org. To the Ex-Haredim Who Can’t Find But if a person leaves observance because nic-like lunch and snack areas; two ga-ga The camp is located at 501 Green Lane a Place in the Orthodox World the people failed have him, then that’s courts; a fi re pit; an indoor and outdoor in Union.  CONTINUED FROM P. 8 something else. We can’t continue to fail people in need. Over the course of the year, a lot of So here is my modest attempt to do conversations on this topic have been had more than just talk. We have a big net- with many different people, but nothing work here. We need you guys to speak up. concrete has been done because no one If you’re in the Centrist or Modern Ortho- was ready to partner with me on this and dox world and are willing to host someone I’m already insanely busy running Jew in (who has left the Haredi or Hasidic world) the City and taking care of my family. But for a Shabbos and/or if you will help advo- then yesterday I got yet another reminder cate for them to get a place in your school, that we must do something. I read an ac- please let us know. Likewise, if someone count of an ex-Hasidic woman who want- from the Haredi or Hasidic world wants to ed to stay observant after she left her Ha- be matched up with someone in the Cen- sidic community, but every non-Hasidic trist or Modern world, please email us at school she checked out didn’t want her [email protected] and we’ll see who kid. After enough rejections she got fed we have in your area. up and just left altogether. Today she is no This is not a perfect solution to the longer observant. problem, but this is my attempt to be If a person leaves observance because like Aryeh Kaplan’s dear roommate and he has intellectual issues with Torah or is do some lifting when someone out there not able to maintain his faith in a world needs help.

30 May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 31 ESSEX & UNION COMMUNITY NEWS JCC MetroWest Announces L’Dor V’Dor Gala 2016 Marilyn and Lester Bornstein, Flo Peck and Family and Amelia and Cory Perlstein to Be Honored

West Orange—Marilyn and Lester Born- opment Program, serves on the Executive stein, Flo Peck and family and Amelia and Committee of the JCC Board of Trustees Cory Perlstein will be the distinguished and has worked tirelessly guiding many honorees at JCC MetroWest’s L’Dor V’dor key JCC committees. (from Generation to Generation) Gala on L’Dor V’Dor, the passing of leadership Thursday, June 23, at 6:30 p.m. at Crystal Pla- from one generation to the next, will be za, Livingston, NJ. This year, JCC MetroW- celebrated in the context of the JCC’s role est is thrilled to be celebrating three gener- in every stage of life from early childhood ations of leadership. The Bornsteins, Pecks through senior adulthood. JCC MetroW- and Perlsteins will be recognized for touch- est reaches approximately 50,000 individ- ing so many lives through their dedication uals each year through early childhood to the MetroWest Jewish community and Lester and Marilyn Bornstein Flo Peck Cory and Amelia Perlstein programs, programs for senior adults and committed service to JCC MetroWest. special needs individuals, summer camps, The Bornsteins (West Orange, NJ) have ten by the writing bug in a JCC creative Peck Family (Montville, NJ), in Flo’s mem- fi tness and wellness programs, sports and been active in the local Jewish communi- writing class. ory, has made a leadership gift for the new recreation, community-wide events, Jewish ty for many years. Lester was a founder Flo Peck, of blessed memory, was the JCC Camp Deeny Riback aquatics center. education, theater and the arts. of the Healthcare Foundation of New Jer- gatekeeper of the JCC for 23 years, serving Amelia and Cory Perlstein (Livingston, Tickets for the Gala are $180 per person. sey, which has provided funding for many as Executive Assistant to four different JCC NJ) have already distinguished themselves Dietary laws will be observed. critical projects at JCC MetroWest and in Executive Directors. Flo was the embodi- as members of the next generation of JCC For reservations and tribute-journal ad the greater community. Marilyn, a fi xture ment of JCC organizational history, had the superstars. Amelia, a JCC Board member information, please call Katy Strulson, JCC in the JCC’s Lifelong Learning program, is answer to every question and was the “se- and graduate of the Jewish Federation’s Special Projects Director, at 973-530-3915 or also a published author, having been bit- cret sauce” that streamlined all tasks. The Arthur Borinsky Young Leadership Devel- [email protected]. Jewish Family Service of MetroWest to Host Evening of Laughter Honoring Michael Elchoness Jewish Family Service of MetroWest ing and is a regular on late-night comedy ing as treasurer of the JFS of MetroWest Jewish Family Service of MetroWest is a will hold its annual Evening of Laughter programs. The performance will benefi t board. Mr. Elchoness is also a board mem- comprehensive social service agency provid- on Wednesday, June 8, at Temple Beth Ahm Jewish Family Service of MetroWest’s pro- ber of the Jewish Federation of Greater ing mental health counseling and support Yisrael, 60 Temple Drive in Springfi eld, NJ. grams and services. MetroWest NJ and a board member of Rut- services on a non-discriminatory basis. With The featured performer will be comedi- The Evening of Laughter this year rec- gers University Hillel. He is on the adviso- a presence in the community since 1861, JFS an Gary Gulman who was a fi nalist on the ognizes the efforts of Michael Elchoness, a ry board of Team LeGrand, a division of the today delivers an expanding number of pro- NBC reality-talent show Last Comic Stand- Livingston resident who is currently serv- Christopher and Dana Reeve Foundation. grams to increasing numbers of people. 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32 May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM MIDDLESEX COMMUNITY NEWS Highland Park 2nd Graders Learn Science as a Community

By Sharon Mark Cohen teachers sharing responsibility and run- Before a lively Q & A, Schultz ning fi eld trips. noted that the river system had to What are children learning in school Utilizing PowerPoint, Schultz explained be fl ushed out because liquid waste these days? For some lucky students in High- that there are over 200 waterkeeper pro- from factories was turning it into an land Park, the answer is more than every- grams around the world trying to get the industrial garbage can. The cleaning day science. Bill Schultz, the Raritan River- waters safe, swimmable and fi shable. With resulted in the waterways now be- keeper, spoke to 2nd-grade classes in the small some volunteer and some paid positions, ing usable for recreational kayak- borough, which borders the Raritan River, the waterkeepers in the private, nonprof- ing, as well as a safe home to fi sh encouraging them to think about what hap- it agency use a variety of strategies to curb and birds. The students were fasci- pens when trash gets into the riverway and pollution. nated to hear that seals have even ends up downstream. The May 6 assembly To put it plainly, Schultz noted, they returned to the Raritan River and combined about 150 students from six 2nd- “talk for the fi sh and sue polluters.” Schultz whales were spotted there last fall! grade classes at Bartle Elementary School and deemed himself as “the Lorax for the fi sh, In conjunction with Earth Day, two at Rabbi Pesach Raymon Yeshiva (RPRY). who don’t have a voice.” Schultz reiterated that we must “re- The program was created to foster more of a Introducing the students to the concept duce, reuse and recycle” to get trash community feeling between public and pri- of a watershed, he worked to impress upon out of the streams. The riverkeeper vate schools in the Middlesex County school them that when you litter in the northern left the students with the message system, and it certainly succeeded. Council- part of the state, rainwater fl ushes it away, that, “if each of you throws garbage man Josh Fine initiated the program, with but it only fl ushes it away from you and on in a can, that’s 150 pieces I don’t have the help of the Environmental Commission to someone else. to pick up.” and dedicated teachers and administrators. Teachers then engaged the students in Emma Shannon, a student at Agreeing that it would be a great way to an educational game, set to music, where Bartle, asked, “The gas the speed ships use, Dahlia Wallace, a student at Bartle, tie the two schools together, the 2nd-grade they learned about how easy it is to pol- doesn’t that pollute?” To which Schultz re- learned that “if people pollute the river classes reached out to Schultz, who was lute the nation’s waterways. The teach- plied, “Not as much as it used to, but it still they will come and tell people to clean up thrilled when the elementary schools con- ers followed with a guessing game, where does a little.” the river and they will also clean up the riv- tacted him last year. It brought a “whole students either stood or sat depending on “To keep rivers clean I learned not to er because the oil would kill the fi sh and new concept of public and private schools whether they thought things such as plas- throw trash in the water,” added Ahuva they wouldn’t be able to breathe.” working together” to the programming, tic, Styrofoam, metal and paper would sink Broder of RPRY, while Tzvi Huff, also of Together, the students from area pub- which he was then able to bring to his or fl oat. They demonstrated the results by RPRY, declared, “To keep the rivers safe we lic and private schools are being educated funders. Schultz reported that the program, putting various elements into a fi sh tank need clean water for many things, [like] to about their environment, while learning now in its second year, is going well, with fi lled with water. help fi sh be safe from pollution.” about the importance of community. Highland Park—New Jersey’s First HeartSafe Municipality HeartSafe Communities is a program Attendees of the HeartSafe Designa- designed to promote survival from sudden tion Celebration and Cardiology Education- out-of-hospital cardiac arrest. HeartSafe al Program praised Highland Park for being Communities programs promote surviv- forward-thinking and proactive in becom- al by enhancing the American Heart Asso- ing New Jersey’s fi rst HeartSafe municipali- ciation’s Chain of Survival, a series of fi ve ty, and they endorsed engaging more inter- links that give victims of a medical emer- ested citizens and elected offi cials to export gency the best chance to survive, including: the HeartSafe Communities concept to oth- • Immediate recognition of cardiac ar- er municipalities in Middlesex County and rest and activation of the emergency re- then across the state of New Jersey. sponse system “This important achievement, Highland • Early CPR with an emphasis on chest Park becoming New Jersey’s fi rst HeartSafe compressions municipality, is the result of hard work on • Rapid defi brillation the part of members of the Highland Park • Effective advanced life support Mayor’s Wellness Campaign, the generous • Integrated post-cardiac arrest care donations of automated external defi bril- Municipalities can become designated Distinguished Speakers at Borough of Highland Park Mayor’s Wellness Campaign HeartSafe lators by involved residents, and the May- as HeartSafe Communities by establish- Municipality Celebration and Cardiac Education Program held on May 2 at Borough or and Borough Council’s commitment to Hall, Highland Park, NJ. Front row, seated: Elsie Foster-Dublin, Councilwoman; Josh Fine, ing and meeting a set of criteria including community health, wellness and security,” Councilman and Mayor’s Wellness Campaign Council Liaison; Clifton R. Lacy, MD, Cardiologist availability of CPR instruction, public-ac- said Dr. Clifton R. Lacy, Cardiologist and and Mayor’s Wellness Campaign Chair; Gayle Brill Mittler, Mayor. Second row, standing: Justin cess defi brillators and aggressive resusci- Chair of the Mayor’s Wellness Campaign. Footerman, Mayor’s Wellness Campaign Member; Nancy Pinkin, Assemblywoman NJ 18th tation protocols for fi rst responders and Legislative District; Joseph Vitale, Senator NJ 19th Legislative District and Chair, Senate Health, “This effort will translate into saved lives area hospitals. For years, the Highland Human Services, and Senior Citizens Committee; Susan Welkovits, Council President; Howard and preserved functional status for visi- Park Mayor’s Wellness Campaign (MWC) Blau, MD, Cardiologist; Betty J. Turock, PhD, Past President, American Library Association, tors and residents of Highland Park. It is a pursued the goal of becoming a HeartSafe Professor and Dean Emerita Rutgers University School of Communication and Information; Ted model to emulate for other municipalities Community. The recent donation of a Gutowski, MD, Cardiologist; Marc Scheiner, MD, Cardiologist. across the state of New Jersey.” number of AEDs (automated external defi - brillators) by involved residents complet- Past President, American Library Associa- ed the fi nal steps to meet the criteria for tion Professor and Dean Emerita Rutgers Borenstein McConnell Calpin a HeartSafe Community. On April 5, the University School of Communication and Council of the Borough of Highland Park Information and Clifton R. Lacy, MD; Marc Wills Trusts Estate Planning Estate Administration designated the municipality as the fi rst Scheiner, MD; Ted Gutowski, MD and How- HeartSafe Community in the state of New ard Blau, MD, Cardiovascular Disease Spe- Jersey. cialists. On May 2, Highland Park hosted a The borough is currently scheduling HeartSafe Designation Celebration and quarterly educational programs for the Cardiology Education Program. Speakers public on Heart Disease Awareness, Pre- included Gayle Brill Mittler, Mayor, Bor- vention, Diagnosis and Treatment, and ough of Highland Park; Josh Fine, Coun- also scheduling Heartsaver CPR/AED class- NY/NJ Offices: cilman and MWC Council Liaison; Clifton es taught by the Highland Park First Aid R. Lacy, MD, Cardiologist and Chair, May- Squad. The next class will be held Sun- or’s Wellness Campaign; Justin Footerman, day, August 28, at 1:15 p.m. It will be a three- (908) 236-6457 155 Morris Avenue, Suite 201 Member Mayor’s Wellness Campaign; Nan- hour, hands-on American Heart Association BMCEstatePlanning.com 6SULQJÀHOG1- cy Pinkin, Assemblywoman, NJ 18th Legisla- course on how to perform CPR and how to )RUW+DPLOWRQ3DUNZD\ th To schedule a free consultation tive District; Joseph Vitale, Senator, NJ 19 use an AED, taught by Ari Lewitter, a mem- %URRNO\Q1< Legislative District; Betty J. Turock, PhD, ber of the HP First Aid Squad. email: [email protected]

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approached them. He told them that he entitled to. As a result, he owed them the full ertheless, we are sure that the father married Kiddushin 62-69 did not have enough space for his guests. price for their labor. (Chashukei Chemed) off the younger daughter. The reason for this Each plate cost him more than 200 shekel. is that a father has an obligation to marry of By Rabbi Zev Reichman He told them to please get up from the ta- Kiddushin 64 his daughter who is not yet an adult, and he ble so that others could sit there. The band May a Younger Sibling Marry Before an would not ignore this obligation to fi rst help May these words of To- members did so. They were hungry though. Older Sibling? his daughter who was no longer his obliga- rah serve as a merit le’iluy So they ordered pizza. Fifteen minutes lat- Rav Moshe Feinstein was asked about tion. This is diffi cult. In truth, a father always nishmat Menachem Men- er the pizza delivery man walked through the following case: A man had found a won- has an obligation to marry off his daughter. del ben Harav Yoel David the fancy hall carrying a tray of pizza and derful shidduch for his young son. The cou- Even if she has reached adulthood he has a Balk a”h. soda. The band members ate pizza for sup- ple were amenable and the father of the mitzvah to marry her off. Why, then, did the per and played music for the duration of bride wanted the marriage to occur quickly Gemara characterize him as being more ob- Kiddushin 63 the wedding. After the wedding, the father before the groom would reach the age of 20. ligated to his younger daughter than to his How to Treat Employees of the bride had a complaint. “You humili- The father of the groom wished to delay. He older daughter? Rav Moshe explained that The Baraita taught that a man can betroth ated me. True I did not give you to eat and had an older son. The older brother would only the father had the obligation to marry a woman with working for her as an employ- you were hungry. However, why did you feel bad were his younger brother to marry off the younger daughter; the older daugh- ee. If he tells her, “Become married to me from have the delivery man walking through our before he did. Perhaps, the younger brother ter, however, was obligated herself to fi nd a the work that I will do for you,” if he then per- fancy hall? Why eat in public? You could should wait until the older brother found a spouse in addition to her father’s obligation forms the labor she would be married to him. have eaten outside? You owe me money for spouse and married? Perhaps, only after the to help her. The Gemara meant to say that An employee deserves to get paid. Since he causing me shame. I wish to only pay you marriage of the older brother would it be a father would certainly fi rst fulfi ll the obli- deserves wages, performing the labor is con- half of your price.” Who was right? correct for the younger brother to marry? gation that was exclusively his before fulfi ll- sidered giving a gift to the woman and she be- Rav Zilberstein ruled that the band Rav Moshe ruled that the younger broth- ing the obligation that was partially his and comes married to him through the gift. members were right and the host wrong. er should marry and not wait for his older partially upon his daughter. If it is morally Rav Zilberstein was asked the following The Mishnah teaches in Bava Metzia that brother. He proved this ruling from Kiddu- wrong for a younger child to marry before question about paying employees. A man one who hires employees must treat them shin 64. The Mishnah taught that if a man the older child, how can Halacha be sure that made a wedding in a fancy hall. Typically according to the practice in the land. If the married off his daughter but did not speci- the father married off his younger child beat a wedding, the members of the band sit normal practice is to feed them while they fy which daughter he intended to marry off, fore his older child? A father would not want and eat at a table near the bandstand dur- work, he must feed them while they work. he certainly married off the daughter who to perform an act that was forbidden or dis- ing one of the courses and play a record- The normal practice with band members was a minor and not the daughter who was couraged. We see from the Gemara that it is ing to maintain a nice atmosphere in the is to allow them to eat at the wedding. The an adult. The Gemara explained that the not wrong for a younger sibling to marry be- hall. The band members sat down to eat host had no right to refuse to feed them. He Mishnah was discussing a scenario where fore the older one gets married. Therefore, at a table and put on a CD for the enjoy- caused himself his own embarrassment by the adult daughter had appointed her father Rav Feinstein instructed the young couple to ment of the guests. The father of the bride not giving them the meals that they were to serve as her shaliach to marry her off. Nev- marry promptly. (Daf al hadaf) MAGGID OF BERGENFIELD him, but he was fascinated by how Mendy ron’s sons, and the other is about the me- Emor: The Bench rolled off the list so lackadaisically, like it kallel, a man who curses using the name of was no big deal. God and is put to death. That is often trans- By Larry Stiefel understanding as Rabbi Rosencrantz, was “Wow.” lated as a blasphemer.” Vayikra: 24: 10-23 not fun when you had been sent by your “Yeah, Mrs. Weinblatt didn’t like what I “Is that going to be my punishment?” teacher for anything from a misdemeanor said and sent me to see you.” Mendy remained straight-faced, and When the Nachma- to a major felony. Fear was defi nitely the “I see. Well, I must admit, Mendy, that’s Rabbi Rosencrantz began to realize that per- nides School moved most common look. quite a bad list of words you said.” haps young Teplow’s innocent face con- to its new building in For others it was the “Who, me?” look of “I guess.” cealed more than he thought. “No, not today 2005, only a few objects feigned innocence. That usually didn’t last “What surprises me, though, is that you Mendy, but the school year is young.” were moved to the new long when faced with the principal’s with- don’t seem too bothered by this whole Mendy smiled. structure from the old one across town. All ering stare, but it was certainly a common thing.” “My point is that the story of the meka- the ancient school desks were chucked for opening gambit for many students. “I just don’t see what the big deal is.” llel must be pretty important if it is fi t into a new, state-of-the-art seats. The blackboards So what most surprised Rabbi Rosen- “Oh?” book that deals almost exclusively with the were abandoned for smart boards. Even the crantz when he opened the door to his of- “Yeah. My Dad and I were watching the laws of how we can become closer to God teachers’ lounge got new furniture. All that fi ce and found Mendy Teplow sitting on the Yankee game the other night, and the man- through purity and divine worship. I think came from the old building were a few do- bench with his feet dangling in the air was ager of the Red Sox screamed almost all it’s because we need to know that purity nor plaques, some beautiful old mezuzot, not so much that he was not a child the rab- those words at the umpire after a close call of speech is important in developing puri- the aron kodesh from the main synagogue bi expected to fi nd there as Mendy’s utter at fi rst base. And that was on national tele- ty and holiness in life. For example, just like and a large, friendly picture of Rabbi Lei- nonchalance regarding his precarious posi- vision.” the laws of keeping kosher teach us to seek bowitz, the founding principal. tion. Mendy looked like he was waiting for “Really!” holiness in the way we eat, avoiding curs- And the bench. a bus. “Yeah. You even got to watch him scream ing helps us to seek holiness in the way we Rabbi Rosencrantz loved the bench. It “Hello,” Rabbi Rosencrantz said. them again in slow mo on the replay.” speak. Do you see what I mean?” was solid oak, eight feet long and four feet “Hi.” “I’m sure that’s true, but that doesn’t “Yes,” Mendy said, “I guess.” high, and it weighed somewhere around “Are you here to see me?” make what he said right.” “That’s why God goes on to discuss laws 200 pounds. It was a very impressive piece “Yup.” “I guess. But last month some guy of murder and injury right after the story of of furniture. The seat was so high that if you Normally the rabbi would have escort- rear-ended my mom’s car at a red light, and the mekallel. Because bad speech, especial- were less than six feet tall your feet dangled ed the miscreant into his offi ce and shut when my mom got into an argument with ly during an argument, can lead to worse off the ground when you sat in it. It rested in the door, but instead he sat next to Mendy the guy, she used a lot of those words too.” things, like murder, or if you’re the Red Sox front of the principal’s offi ce. And it was, in a on the bench. Fortunately, the rabbi’s feet Rabbi Rosencrantz tried to picture Leia manager, ejection from the game.” word, imposing. reached the ground. Teplow, a social worker at the Jewish Fed- “I get it,” Mendy said That was the point of the bench: to be “So what are you here for? Loitering?” eration who ran the Meals on Wheels pro- “So you’ll try to avoid any bad words in imposing. Because if you were sitting on the “No, I don’t think so.” gram, going at it at a fender bender and tried your future speech?” bench it could mean only one thing. You “What, then?” not to chuckle. “Yes, Rabbi Rosencrantz,” Mendy said, were in trouble. “Apparently, I said a few bad words.” “I think your mom was probably pretty with what the rabbi hoped was no hint of The bench was where you sat when you “Really, like what?” upset at that moment, but she doesn’t nor- irony. were sent to the principal’s offi ce. No one There is a rule among lawyers in a court- mally talk that way, does she?” “That’s good. Because it’s a good way else would have the temerity to sit on it, be- room. When questioning a witness, never “I guess not.” to avoid death and also to avoid ejection, cause, well, because it was scary. It had been ask an open ended question, because you Rabbi Rosencrantz folded his legs un- whichever becomes necessary. Now go back even scarier in front of the old offi ce, with don’t want a response you weren’t anticipat- der him and leaned back on the bench. “You to class.” its ancient, beige tile fl oors and the faded, ing. The moment Rabbi Rosencrantz asked know, Mendy, in the third book of the To- And without looking back, Mendy industrial green paint job, but even in the the question he knew he had made a mis- rah, Vayikra, among all the laws of the ko- jumped off the bench and headed back to newly carpeted hallway with its warm, blue take, but it was too late. hanim, the priests, and the korbanot, the Mrs. Weinblatt in 3-B, hopefully not to re- earth tones, it had heft. Mendy told him. He told the rabbi sacrifi ces, the Torah only tells two stories turn to the bench ever again. Most children whom Rabbi Rosencrantz everything. Never mind how many letters about individual people. Do you know what Inspired by: Rabbi J. Saks, Covenant and found sitting at the bench when he opened some of these words had, or what letters the those stories are?” Conversation, Leviticus, The Blasphemer, the door to his offi ce had a certain look on words began with, it was an impressive list. Mendy stared at the rabbi, offering no re- Maggid Books, pgs 353–358. their faces. For some it was fear. Having to For a sailor it might have been impressive. sponse. visit the principal, even one as pleasant and Rabbi Rosencrantz should have stopped “One is the story of the deaths of Aha- Larry Stiefel is a pediatrician at Tenafl y Pediatrics.

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Teaching Out of the Box at Shaarei Orah— thereby illustrated his struggles of trying to read one way when everyone else was go- Rav Shimshon Jacob and the Kemach Institute ing in the other direction. The saintly staff of Sinai managed to help Rav Shimshon By Rabbi Haim Jachter to create a goal oriented and experiential ner that every Jew is part of Kedoshim, the deal with his challenge. Later Rav Jacob de- educational opportunity in which we pro- directive and goal to be holy. Unlike other cided to return the favor and established What a refreshing vide gap year students with a comfortable, portions of the Torah that were taught in a a program that will reach those for whom breath of fresh air to hear meaningful learning environment, while at didactic manner designed for elite students the conventional path of Torah study is not last Shabbat from an up the same time training them with the skills to achieve profi ciency, Parashat Kedoshim yet effective. and coming star in the to produce real world accomplishments in was presented to everyone gathered to- While during the Shabbat morning world of Jewish educa- various trades. We are the fi rst gap-year pro- gether for a speech. Rav Jacob explained speech, Rav Jacob proclaimed that every- tion, Rav Shimshon Jacob. gram to provide hands-on, project-based that every Jew has an equal opportunity one can and must become holy, at Seudah Rav Jacob, with a family history of commu- learning for post high school Anglo stu- and responsibility regarding Kedushah. Shelishit he explained what it means to be nity building in New Jersey, is the founding dents spending a year in Israel. The focus is Rav Jacob recounted with confi dence holy. Drawing upon the emergence of Shab- director of the Kemach Institute in Israel. to provide quantifi able targets both in the and great dignity his own journey and the bat where the root K’D’SH appears in the He made a fascinating and very out-of-the- Judaic and Professional Skills areas of the roadblocks to his realizing his potential. Torah for the fi rst time, Rav Jacob taught box presentation on Parashat Kedoshim program in order to allow every student Rav Shimshon struggled for many years that Kadosh means to create space for the that included a choir singing Mary Had a to perceive their growth and accomplish- with dyslexia and explained his struggle other. Hashem, by creating the world, made Little Lamb and youngsters acting out the ment.” The video describing the Kemach in a most interesting manner. He recruit- space for us to exist. In response, we are process of Moshe Rabbeinu’s teaching of Institute explains how students are pre- ed four members of Shaarei Orah to sing bidden to reciprocate and carve out room Torah in the Midbar, replete with dolls as sented with unprecedented opportunities Mary Had a Little Lamb and challenged for Hashem in our lives. Rav Jacob concre- props. to engage in Torah activities such as mak- everyone to see how far they could get in tized this point by asking each of us on the The Kemach Institute describes itself ing tzitzit and tefi llin and writing megillot. their attempts to simultaneously sing Ha- right side of the table to extend our hand on its website (http://www.kemachinsti- At Shaarei Orah, Rav Jacob’s goal was Tikvah to themselves. It was a surprisingly tute.org/) as a program whose purpose “is to communicate in a most powerful man- diffi cult task to accomplish. Rav Shimshon  CONTINUED ON P. 39 A SHABBOS MESSAGE

hanim as well as the person bringing the minimal overhead costs associated with Over Our Heads korban. Idol worshippers wish for their of- the solicitation process. While we should fering to be given exclusively to God and be diligent when deciding where to give, By Rabbi Eliezer Zwickler this donor was so that his tzedakah would not to be shared by others. it is important to keep in mind that nom- be used completely by the institution for I vividly remember my zaide z”l regu- inal overhead costs should not be a signif- Rav Chaim Volozhin its daily functioning and physical upkeep. larly writing checks to tzedakah when re- icant factor in our decision, as it does not zt”l would regularly send The donor objected to the rationale that ceiving solicitations in the mail. I cannot take away from the mitzvah of tzedakah a messenger to collect an individual should be paid from “tzeda- recall him ever throwing out an enve- which we fulfi ll. The story of Rav Chaim money on behalf of his kah” money. Rav Chaim returned the do- lope instead of sending a little something Volozhin and his approach to raising yeshiva. One solicited nor’s money and told him that his request in return. Today, we are often inundated funds for his yeshiva serves as a lesson to potential donor insist- could not be granted as his reasoning was with solicitations via in-person visits, tele- us that Hashem is gratifi ed by the process ed on sending his donation directly to rooted in the practice of idol worshippers. marketers, emails and postal mail. It can of tzedakah, from the time of the request Rav Chaim instead of giving the money He explained that when idol worshippers be virtually impossible to give to every- to the time a commitment is made. In the to the messenger. While the solicitor did donate funds, they send them directly to one. Each of us has organizations or pro- merit of this mitzvah may we and our fam- not take offense at the individual’s insist- their place of worship without any inter- jects that are close to our hearts which ilies be blessed to always have the ability ence, his behavior seemed strange. It was mediary. Rav Chaim, however, stated that we support more than the others. With to give, when solicited or unsolicited. a common custom for messengers to col- the Jewish custom was that another Jew the increase in the number of organiza- lect money on behalf of institutions as should benefi t from the benefactor’s act of tions, as well as the increased need in the Eliezer Zwickler is senior rabbi of Congregation AAB- is the common practice today. In the ac- benevolence. He brought the proof of his greater Jewish community, many of us J&D in West Orange, NJ. Rabbi Zwickler is also a psy- companying letter which was sent with assertion from the Gemara which is root- have become more cautious and skeptical chotherapist-LCSW in private practice focusing on cou- the money to the yeshiva, the man stated in Parshat Emor. It states that the only about where we give our tzedakah. Some ples therapy. Listen to Rabbi Zwickler’s webdvar on the ed that he wished for his donation to be type of offerings that were accepted from of us have expressed concerns about the Nachum Segal Network at 9pm each Motzei Shabbat, used completely by the yeshiva, and did idol worshippers were elevation offerings amount of overhead spent on fundrais- or on his YouTube channel (ezwickler). Rabbi Zwickler not want the messenger to receive any of and not peace offerings. This reason is being. At the same time, there are organi- can be reached at [email protected]. his funds as commission. The objective of cause peace offerings are eaten by the ko- zations that promote in their advertising RABBI’S MUSINGS AND AMUSINGS

USSR in the development and accomplish- minedly push onward, pulling yourself ‘Journey to the Top’ ments of its space program. In the end, up with every surge. Part of the euphor- President Kennedy’s assertion came true, ic feeling of reaching the top includes the By Rabbi Dani Staum get very far up at all, and only a few feet though he didn’t live to witness it. knowledge that you have pushed your- off the ground her feet slid off the foot- During that talk Kennedy noted that he self beyond your comfort zone. Whenev- One of our Chol holds and she was left hanging from her was well aware of the challenge of trying er we extend our limitations we feel elat- Hamoed outings this harness, before descending back to the to fulfi ll his dream. Yet he was unequivocal: ed and encouraged. Pesach was to a place ground. But that hardly stopped her from “We choose to go to the moon in this dec- We also must remember that the path called “High Exposure trying again, and again, and again. I loved ade and do the other things, not because to growth includes the knowledge that Rock Climbing.” The fa- watching her determination and persis- they are easy, but because they are hard… somewhere along the way you may lose cility boasts numerous tence, which precluded her from focus- We choose to go because that challenge is your footing and slip. But as long as your 40-foot climbs to the roof of the building, ing on her failure to get very far the fi rst one that we are willing to accept, one we harness remains fi rm and you’re able to each climb varying in diffi culty and level few times. The truth is that Chayala never are unwilling to postpone, and one which pull yourself back onto your path you’ll of challenge. (For those skeptics out there, did make it to the top, but no one can ac- we intend to win.” eventually reach the top. I climbed one of the walls. At the top there cuse her of not giving it her all and climb- Because we are so blessed with mate- Just remember that everyone’s “top” is was a bell, and I made sure the entire room ing a respectful amount. rial comfort and convenience, we need to different! was aware that I made it to the top.) On September 12, 1962, President John F. remember that growth and greatness only It was fun and gratifying to watch Kennedy gave a motivating speech at Rice come with exertion, persistence and effort. Rabbi Dani Staum, LMSW is the Rabbi of Kehillat New each of our children try the different University in Houston, Texas, in which he Discomfort and often pain are par for the Hempstead, Guidance Counselor and fi fth-grade Reb- climbs. (They have a lot of practice climb- discussed his resolve and assurance that course. be in ASHAR, Principal at Mesivta Ohr Naftoli of New ing walls in our home.) I particularly en- America would be the fi rst country to send Rock climbing serves as a great analo- Windsor and division head at Camp Dora Golding. He joyed watching our 5-year-old, Chayala. someone to the moon. He added that it gy for all worthy accomplishments of life. also presents parenting classes based on the acclaimed I was impressed that she was willing to would be done before the end of the dec- All of your bones may ache and be cry- Love and Logic methods. His email address is stamto- put on the harness and even attempt to ade. It was a bold statement considering ing out for relief, but if you are fueled by [email protected]. His website is www.stamtorah.info. climb at all. The fi rst few times she didn’t that at the time, the US was far behind the motivation and ambition you will deter-

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By Renee Nussbaum, PhD tion, the strength of this temptation is ev- this was in fact true. I also learned that it lected through observations of couples Part II idenced by the fact that some of our holi- is only when the pain of “holding on” be- spanning over 40 years, indicate that suc- est ancestors, even Moshe Rabainu, who comes greater than the prospect of “letting cessful marriages that endure over time In my last article talked directly with God, were not impervi- go,” that one is ready to release the bonds are rooted in the desire to give rather than (April 23), we consid- ous to its force. In Parshat Shemos we read of the emotions or behaviors that impact receive, even to the point of self-sacrifi ce; ered “cyberbullying” as a that when Hashem fi rst approached him at negatively on the quality of one’s life. moreover, it is this giving that creates inti- form of lashon hara, cir- the “Burning Bush,” with the prospect of Armed with this knowledge, we are macy and connection, and allows love and ca 2016. We also began leading the nation, he maligned them with ready to identify those strategies that can passion to grow and mature. Thus viewed, to answer the question of why it is so im- the words: “They will not believe in me” be helpful in applying the principle of “sec- the quality of our relationship with Haka- portant to resist the magnetic draw of this (Exodus: 4:1). According to the Talmud, in ondary gains” to eradicating lashon hara dosh Baruch Huh can be applied to our re- prohibition. In this article we will delve Shabbat, 97a, Hashem’s response to this ac- from our lives. The initiatives directed to- lationships with our spouses, as well as into the mystery of why it is so diffi cult to cusation was: “They are believers… the chil- wards cyberbullying offer some useful sug- others we love and care about; moreover, move forward in our commitment to erad- dren of believers…but in the end you will gestions. An excellent video, appropriate once achieving this level of connection, it icate this destructive force in our lives. In not believe” (Talmud, Shabbat 97a). for adolescents as well as adults, “Sticks would be easier to resist the temptation of the past few months, starting with our dis- In his column, “Covenant and Conver- and Stones,” demonstrates that a major violating and destroying it with the sharp cussion on the Mishkon Construction Pro- sations” Rabbi Sachs responds to the ques- factor leading one to participate in bully- arrows of lashon harah. It also helps to re- ject, we have been focusing on the meta- tion of why the Torah assigns such promi- ing either through “active participation,” or main mindful in the prayer we say three phoric value of the Mishkon, its utensils nence to this transgression, “branding it as “complicity through silence,” is the belief times a day at the beginning and end of and services. We considered the idea that one of the worst of sins.” He reminds us that it will protect one from becoming the the Amidah: “May Hashem open up my lips since Hashem needs nothing from us, all that speech is the special gift Hashem en- next victim. On a far simpler level, it allows and speak…words of praise” and “May God, He asks of us is meant as a paradigm for dowed us with, which specifi cally distin- one to be part of the “crowd.” This is espe- guard my tongue from evil and my lips the manner in which we are meant to in- guishes us as “homo sapiens.” In my articles cially true in the case of adolescents; but from deceitful speech…” Indeed, these To- teract with one another; and so, despite dedicated to “Lessons from the Bereishit even as adults we are social beings, and the rah insights, as well as these simple strate- the obstacles in our path, I do believe that Stories,” we also learned that the gifts of in- prospect of removing ourselves from the gies can go a long way in combatting the for those whose lives are dominated by tellect and speech were meant to be used “gossip circle” creates a sense of isolation, temptation of lashon harah. the knowledge that Hashem is watching in the service of spiritual growth. As a re- which for some can be diffi cult to bear. us and impacted by our actions, if the in- sult, we must go to the greatest extent pos- Yet, when so challenged, it is helpful Renee Nussbaum is a practicing psychoanalyst, with terest and motivation is there, we can in- sible to avoid misusing these precious gifts. to tap into our Torah study and enlist the special training in Imago Relational Therapy. She can deed transcend these temptations and as a Given these insights, the mystery surround- memories of Torah role models such as be reached at: [email protected]. result strongly reduce the collateral dam- ing the diffi culty in combatting the tempta- Avraham Avinu who never felt alone, even age caused by lashon harah. tions surrounding this prohibition grows. when he was the only one on this earth In Parshiot Tazriah/Metzorah, we dis- When I fi rst began my certifi cation in who believed in God; and it was because Market your business to covered reasons for the prominence lashon psychoanalysis, one of the seminal princi- he was fully connected to Hakadosh Ba- the Jewish Community! harah assumes in our Torah. We also ob- ples I learned is that when we hold on to ruch Huh, always engaged in giving with Advertise in the served the contrast between the diagnos- an emotion or behavior that seems to bring his whole heart and soul, that he never tic processes for the leprosy-like condition us emotional or physical pain, it is because stopped feeling the warmth of Hashem’s called Tzora’as, and the medical diagnosis of the “secondary gain,” we derive from re- embrace. The intimacy of Avraham’s con- of leprosy. We learned that Tzora’as is con- maining “stuck.” Even though it is diffi cult nection with Hakadosh Baruch, rooted in Call sidered a spiritual ailment, punishment for to consider that one would hold onto pain- the emphasis on “giving” rather than “tak- 201-366-9102 or email lashon hara; moreover, it is dished out in ful emotions or actions, by delving into ing” is consistent with current theory and [email protected] a “Measure for Measure” fashion. In addi- my own past, I came to understand that practice in “Relational Therapy.” Data col-

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The Mysterious Origin of Lag B’Omer attempt at a rationale for a puzzling pre-existing custom to marry from the 33rd day on- By Mitchell First Isaac points out that Purim and Lag B’Omer than, composed in Toledo in 1204, tells us wards. He does not have any earlier tradi- fall on the same day of the week every year. that R. Zerahiah (author of Ha-Maor, d. 1186) tion that the students of R. Akiva stopped The 33rd day of the But his remarks are brief and shed no light found a sefer yashan from Spain that report- dying on the 33rd day. (And his suggestion Omer comes out on the on the origin of the holiday. ed that the students died mi-pesaḥ ve-ad pros that pros meant “half of 30” did not do a 18th of Iyyar. When one There is a widely quoted statement ha-atzeret. The Sefer Ha-Manhig then inter- good enough job of explaining the custom looks at the sources prior by the Meiri (d. 1316) that implies that Lag preted pros ha-atzeret to mean “15 days be- of marrying starting on the 33rd day, since to the period of the Ris- B’Omer was already a holiday at the time of fore atzeret.” He assumed that the word pros 49 less 15 is 34, not 33.) honim, one fi nds something very interest- the “Geonim.” But there is no other evidence here was a Hebrew word and that it meant To sum up: In 1202, there is a clear ref- ing. In the pre-Rishonim period, the 18th of for Lag B’Omer as a holiday in the Geonic pe- “broken” or “half,” and assumed it was used erence by R. Abraham b. Nathan to a cus- Iyyar is recorded as a fast day, commemo- riod. And as stated earlier, in the period pri- here to mean “half of 30.” R. Abraham men- tom in France and Provence of allowing rating the death of Joshua. For example, this or to the Rishonim, the 18th day of Iyyar was tions a custom in France and Provence of al- marriages from the 33rd day onwards. The fast day is mentioned by the famous paytan observed as a fast day. Therefore, it is like- lowing marriages from the 33rd day onwards existence of the custom cannot be denied, R. Eleazar Kallir (c. 600). It is mentioned in ly that Meiri, in his reference to “Geonim” and then uses this explanation to attempt to even though the explanation for the cus- other sources from Palestine and Egypt in here, did not mean the rabbinic authorities justify this custom. tom suggested by R. Abraham cannot be the subsequent centuries as well. These ear- in Babylonia from the late 6th to early 11th But the word pros can also be interpreted accepted. The custom is also referred to in ly sources are collected by Shulamit Elitzur, centuries. Rather, he meant only the rabbin- in accordance with its meaning in Greek: be- annotations to Mahzor Vitry that are most in her work Lammah Tzammnu. ic authorities in Europe who preceded him fore. It turns out that when the word pros is likely those of R. Isaac b. Durbal. He was What is the earliest reference to the hol- slightly. There are many other examples of used in connection with the timing of a hol- writing a few decades earlier. Most proba- iday we know as Lag B’Omer? This is found later Rishonim like the Meiri using the term iday in rabbinic sources, it is almost always bly, he was writing in France. Based on all in a brief anonymous annotation in the “Geonim” to mean the earlier Rishonim. the meaning in Greek that is being used, and the evidence, it seems that the origin of Lag London manuscript of Mahzor Vitry. Most Where did the idea that R. Akiva’s stu- the meaning is “just before the holiday.” (This B’Omer lies in 11th- or 12th-century France or likely, the author of these annotations was dents died on the 33rd day of the Omer come Greek word is the origin of the prefi x in Eng- Provence. From there, it expanded over the R. Isaac b. Durbal, who died around 1175. He from? According to the Talmud (Yevamot lish: pre-, and of the word prefi x.) Moreover, centuries, once it was linked to the cessa- seems to have been from northern France, 62b), R. Akiva had 24,00 students and they all in our case, the argument for interpreting tion of the death of the students of R. Aki- as he was a student of R. Tam. In his an- died in one period, mi-pesah ve-ad atzeret. the word pros as “just before” is even strong- va. But we still do not know the true origin notations on a section on the calendar, R. The Sefer Ha-Manhig of R. Abraham b. Na- er. We already have a source that records of the holiday and its leniency. that the students of R. Akiva died mi-pesah (The above is a summary of a detailed ve-ad atzeret. When we fi nd another source article that was published in the most re- Thoughts From a Yeshiva that records that they died mi-pesah ve-ad cent issue of Hakirah, vol. 20.) pros ha-atzeret, our presumption should be Student on Yom Hazikaron that the sources can be reconciled. There- Mitchell First is an attorney and Jewish history scholar. fore, we should interpret the second source His recently published book: Esther Unmasked: Solv- By Ariel Altaras sound overhead. The Israeli Air Force had in a manner consistent with the fi rst source, ing Eleven Mysteries of the Jewish Holidays and Liturgy sent four fi ghter jets to the ceremony to and not in a manner that creates a contradic- (Kodesh Press, 2015) is available at the Judaica House Yom Hazikaron, as ob- honor the memory of the deceased. As the tion between them. in Teaneck and at amazon.com. He can be reached at served in Israel, is a day jets fl ew in formation overhead I couldn’t Close reading of Sefer Ha-Manhig re- [email protected]. of remembering what stop thinking about how amazing it is that veals that his explanation was merely an was and what our people Israel cares so deeply about its heroes. have had to lose in order to be where we When the ceremony concluded I be- are today. Yom Hazikaron is fundamentally gan walking toward the graves. As I ap- different from its American equivalent, Me- proached a newly dug grave of some indi- morial Day. In Israel, the sense of loss and vidual, whom at the time I did not know, mourning is palpable to anyone who looks I saw a circle of people forming in song. around. A nation whose populace, for the Once I took a few steps closer I realized most part, has witnessed war and death whose grave I was standing adjacent to. I R' Shimon BAR YOCHAI fi rsthand profoundly understands the im- was standing next to the burial site of Rav pact they have on one’s life and worldview. Yaakov Don Hy”d, a man who lived in Alon The Israeli people have experienced the Shvut, the same yishuv as my yeshiva is lo- KNOWS OUR hardships of war, and Yom Hazikaron is cated. A man who was killed no more than their day to mourn the losses of their loved a few hundred feet from my seat in the ones who fell fi ghting for the sovereignty Beit Medrash. of the State of Israel and the Jewish people. The tears began to fl ow down my face FIRST NAME What I fi nd so remarkable is how im- as I began to comprehend the fact that I Our kollel talmidei chachamim toil in Torah with mesiras nefesh portant Yom Hazikaron is to the nation of was standing in front of the grave of a per- at chatzos on Reb Shimon's kever 6 nights a week. Israel. Barbecues and relaxing with friends son who was killed for being Jewish and just doesn’t quite seem to cut it for them, living in his homeland. The songs and cries and instead of the typical American prac- of those near me rung through the air, and tices, mass ceremonies are held to hon- as I looked around and saw boys and girls SIGN UP or the bravery and heroism of those who of all ages crying for someone our nation have passed. lost so savagely, I realized that we are not AND WE'll Today I had the honor and privilege of crying together as Israelis and Americans, introduce taking part in one of those tremendous cer- but as one people. The nation of Israel is EXCLUSIVE OFFER emonies. The entire student population of my family, and I am theirs. 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By Rabbi Gil Student autonomy vs. authority and continuity vs. While the oral tradition of laws is a lished a symposium in its Spring 2010 issue change. Can an individual decide for himself primary part of the Masorah, other ele- on the subject of Masorah. The symposium The concept of tra- what lies within the Masorah and what does ments of Judaism are included as well. The includes articles by Rav Hershel Schachter, dition evokes powerful not? If the Masorah were strictly defi ned by Mishnah tractate Avos begins with an over- rosh yeshiva and rosh kollel at Yeshiva Uni- emotions in religious clear texts, the value of a textual expert’s view of the transmission of the Masorah: versity; Rav Tzvi Hersh Weinreb, executive debates. While less or- opinion would be self-evident. But since, at “Moshe received the Torah from Sinai and director emeritus of the Orthodox Union thodox religious streams least to the general public, Masorah seems transmitted it to Yehoshua; and Yehoshua and Rav Emanuel Feldman, rabbi emeritus give tradition a vote, but to be more of a Fiddler-on-the-Roof feeling to the elders, etc.” Commentators ask why of Congregation Beth Jacob in Atlanta. not a veto, the more conservative segments of traditionalism, why should rabbis retain a this transmission is placed at the beginning Rav Hershel Schachter writes that Ma- give it a veto in many circumstances. In the monopoly on remembering the past? Addi- of Avos—more than halfway through the sorah is not a body of knowledge, but a pro- latest debates over the left boundary of Or- tionally, if we are bound to follow tradition, Mishnah—rather than at the very begin- cess of transmission, of learning and teach- thodoxy, the term “Masorah,” roughly trans- is there any room at all for religious innova- ning of Berakhos, the fi rst tractate. Rav Me- ing. The Torah teaches that when you are lated as tradition, has been invoked to option to fi t the times? By defi nition, anything nachem Meiri explains that since the trac- uncertain about a matter of halacha, you pose religious innovations. What does it new is non-traditional. Masorah seems to be tate discusses proper and improper ethical must ask the Beis Din Ha-Gadol, the cen- mean and why is it so important to us to- a code word for ultra-traditionalism, not a behavior, rather than explicit mitzvah and tral rabbinic court. The court’s role here day? Last August, TorahMusings.com hosted guide for modern Jews. sin, one might have thought that the sub- includes not only serving as a central au- a symposium critically examining Open Or- Which brings us to the real question ject is not part of the Masorah. Therefore, thority, but also as the great scholars of the thodoxy. In a new online symposium on To- underlying this discussion: How binding is the chain of tradition is placed at the be- generation. Similarly, whenever someone rahMusings.com over the next two weeks, Masorah? To many, Masorah seems to be a ginning of this tractate, thereby emphasiz- has a question about Judaism, he should traditional scholars will analyze Masorah new term, cynically rolled out by rabbis to ing that these behaviors are also part of the ask his mentor or a great scholar of the gen- from multiple viewpoints. counter innovations that do not meet their Masorah. eration. This process of consultation and Masorah contends with two tensions approval. Actually, it is an old and respect- Orthodox Union’s Jewish Action mag- learning is called Masorah. Commitment that vex contemporary Orthodox Jews— ed term. azine, on whose editorial board I sit, pub- to Masorah consists of accepting the teachings taught by your teachers and the great scholars of the generation. Even though scholars disagree, you are still following the Masorah if you follow the teachings you receive from one of these great scholars. However, Rav Schachter explains, innovation is a positive force in Judaism. God wants innovation. The tension between the passive role of accepting a transmission and the active role of innovation can be resolved only by the great scholars of the generation. Only they have the scholarship and sensitivity to distinguish between innovations that cohere with received teachings and those that contradict them. Rav Emanuel Feldman attempts to describe Masorah rather than defi ne it, because its multidimensional nature requires lengthy analysis. Aside from various explicit teachings, Masorah includes a spirit of Ju- daism based on the wide-ranging intent of the Torah and its commandments. It con- nects the dots between the commandments, offering a comprehensive guide to life. It is the spirit of the Torah and determines what lies within the bounds of ac- ceptability, even beyond the technical limits of the law. Rav Feldman states that while innovations are not inherently bad, each proposal must be weighed by an expert in the Maso- rah. History offers numerous examples of innovations, such as pruzbul and various special edicts. These innovations arose due to historical changes that the leading sag- es determined warranted the innovations. However, despite title infl ation, not everyone is a genius or a wide-ranging expert of Torah. Only a few in each generation have earned widespread trust due to their im- peccable integrity and deep Torah knowledge. Rav Tzvi Hersh Weinreb writes that Ma- sorah is the Jewish lifestyle, including laws, customs, music, folklore and more. While there are core and peripheral parts of the Masorah, distinguishing between them is diffi cult and fraught with controversy. Rav Weinreb offers two observations to guide us when confl ict arises between Maso- rah and modernity. First, continuity is inherently valuable. Masorah in its broadest sense—”the complex combination of adhering to practical habits, maintaining attitudes of hope, clinging to a community, gaining inspiration from worship and  CONTINUED ON NEXT PAGE

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nity. We are sure that Lizette Parker, whom dox used to be classifi ed as one. Unfortu- Musings From the Past Week we did not know, was shining her radiance nately, that case seems to be disintegrating on the events that evening. We have been as there are now myriads of opinions as to By Rabbi Mordechai jor street in Cote St. Luc where we lived, Cav- told that she was a moving force in encour- what it actually means to be “Modern Or- and Nina Glick endish Boulevard, a street similar to Queen aging the black community to work togeth- thodox.” Even more challenging seems to Anne, where on both sides of the street er with the white community to improve the be the relationship between the Orthodox We drove through every light pole for at least three blocks had services for all of us living here. Former May- world and their attitudes to those who are the streets of Teaneck Israeli fl ags attached for the week leading up or Hameeduddin working alongside Mendy less observant or not at all observant. Why and Bergenfi eld on to Yom Ha’atzmaut. What we thought about Schwartz, Elie Katz, Dr. Pruitt and everyone can’t we all be friends in the same way as Yom Ha’atzmaut and wondered where all were the many homes in this community else on the council is reason for this commu- we saw in the interactions between the Te- the fl ags were. Every year, on the day that that prior to Chanukah erect life-size Cha- nity to feel a sense of satisfaction. Families of aneck city council? Does it really matter the State of Israel was born, we attach blue nukah decorations on their grass which do the candidates sharing stories and pride with whether or not a person keeps Shabbos in and white fl ags to the back windows of our nothing but imitate those of our Christian each other over the accomplishments of order to have them as a friend? Do we want car and proudly drive everywhere with the friends and neighbors who light up their their family members was a sight to be seen. to raise our children with the attitude that fl ags blowing in the wind. With the excep- lawns for their holidays. Are our values be- We felt as though more of us should be ex- those who are not observant are less Jew- tion of one house on Highgate (whose ten- coming slightly mixed up? posed to such fraternity. ish than those who are? We would hope ants happen to be related) we saw nothing During the same week just two days ear- Perhaps a greater lesson for us all to not. It is time, we believe, for the entire blue and white. There was not a mention on lier we were proud to join the festivities sur- learn from is why we in the Jewish com- Jewish community to reevaluate their atti- West Englewood—such a disappointment rounding the victory celebration of the candi- munity have so much diffi culty interact- tudes to their fellow Jew and perhaps they from a community that places aliyah and dates who were re-elected to the Teaneck city ing with those who do not live their lives could take an example from the Teaneck Eretz Yisrael so highly on their radar. You can council. Most impressive to us was the com- similarly to the way we do. The Charedi are city council. We were obviously moved to be sure that there must have been others bination of people from so many different generally with their cohorts, the Yeshivish see their faces wrapped in smiles, sharing hiding from us somewhere but we did not ethnic and racial groups celebrating for the generally tend to be within their own cir- their victory and truly happy to forge for- see them. We were accustomed to the ma- purpose of the betterment of their commu- cles and the wide range of Modern Ortho- ward for the betterment of the community.

sorah from different viewpoints. Rabbi Kemach Institute. His is an idea and institution A New Symposium Explores Masorah Alex Ozar explores the notion of Maso- Teaching Out of the Box at Shaarei whose time has come. In his address to Shaa-  CONTINUED FROM PREVIOUS PAGE rah within the framework of Analytic Orah—Rav Shimshon Jacob rei Orah, Rav Jacob spoke about his great defi nding meaning in a consistent dai- Philosophy, Rabbi Dr. Zev Eleff and star and the Kemach Institute sire to bring Nahat to his grandfather of blessed ly regimen”—has enabled Judaism to researcher Menachem Butler examine  CONTINUED FROM P. 35 memory. Rav Jacob has exceeded his dream. He continue through centuries of hard- a historical example—the bat mitzvah across the table. Invariably, the people on the brings great Nahat not only to his grandfather ship. Secondly, the different elements ceremony—that highlights aspects of other side extended their hand in exchange. and family, he brings great pride and joy to the of Masorah refl ect specifi c Jewish val- the complex notion of Masorah, Rabbi Rav Jacob explained that just as we make room entire community. Rav Jacob represents what ues. Laws, customs, practices, and com- David Brofsky discusses the laws of cus- for someone who has made room for us in his is right in our community—a beautiful story mon attitudes emerge from distinct toms and Rabbi Prof. Jeffrey Woolf ana- life by extending his hand, we should recipro- of success. May Hashem help Rav Shimshon Ja- ideas about God, community and indi- lyzes Rav Joseph B. Soloveitchik’s the- cate and be holy since Hashem is holy. Just as cob bring his family, the Kemach Institute and viduals. ological concept of Masorah. Together, Hashem makes room for us in His world, we his students to ever higher levels of success! Yet even after those essays, there is these essays explore, in different ways, make room for Him in our world. still more to discuss. In the upcoming the necessity for and parameters of Ma- We defi nitely should make room for Rav Rabbi Haim Jachter is the spiritual leader of Congregation symposium on TorahMusings.com, we sorah in an attempt to answer the ques- Shimshon Jacob in the world of great Jew- Shaarei Orah, the Sephardic Congregation of Teaneck. have gathered scholars to examine Ma- tion: What is Masorah? ish educators and his creative and innovative

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By Mordechai Schmutter So this way they teach them, as a con- basement?” And my son said, “Leave what of America,” meaning “The state that Amer- cept, “By the way, there are other states out in the basement?” ica fl ies over to get to where it’s going.” And One of the great joys there.” I think they hope that the kids will We had no idea what the “homework” Connecticut is called “The Blue Law State,” of being a parent that get together and discuss their respective was, exactly, or why his friend had to come because it’s closed on Sundays. they don’t tell you before states at recess or something. over three times, but our son attempted And every state has its own fl ower. I they send you home from It’s kind of like in the old days, when to do the entire thing in secret, because didn’t even know there were 50 kinds of the hospital is that occa- the entire yeshiva could afford only one if we helped him, we would make him fl owers. Massachusetts, for example, has sionally your kid will come up to you in his Shas, so everyone in the yeshiva mastered do it properly. And then, the night before the Mayfl ower. This is not a corny joke I pajamas, about an hour after his bedtime, one mesechta, and that way, if you, let’s the kids had to hand it in, they brought just made up. Look it up. and say, “I have an enormous project due say, needed to know something from Bava their projects upstairs, along with the list And every state even has its own insect. tomorrow.” Metzia, you would ask the Bava Metzia of requirements, and my wife fi nally got a New Jersey has the European honeybee, This just happened to me. And it wasn’t guy. (This might be why they split the Ba- chance to look at them, and then to look which isn’t even an American insect, and just a regular project. It was for a state fair. vas.) But this is the same thing. They even at our son’s project, which looked like he 16 other states have that same bee. I think Well, it wasn’t really a state fair. A state gave out little directories when we got to did it in four minutes. His prime concern it’s because of all the state fl owers. Mean- fair is when you get together in a large the fair. was not to make things look good; it was while, New York has roaches. Though that’s parking lot to get thrown around on scary “You need anything on Louisiana? Call to fi nish his homework. (That’s our fault, not their offi cial insect. It’s ladybugs. rides that are not actually attached to the Schwartzman. He did a project on Louisi- I think. We ask him every night, “Did you But at least my son knows the offi cial ground. This was a school fair about the ana in 4th grade.” fi nish your homework?” So that’s his prime state fl ower of Maryland. I doubt the peo- states, in which the parents got to come I hope nobody calls my kid with ques- concern.) ple in Maryland know the offi cial state in and marvel at which kids’ projects were tions about Maryland. For example, one of the requirements fl ower of Maryland. I can’t even tell you the clearly done by the other parents. Yes, my son picked Maryland. I don’t was that each kid had to post pictures of a offi cial state fl ower of New Jersey (violet). To be fair, we should have known about know why. I think he picked it because his lot of the offi cial state “things.” Every state They didn’t ask us that on our citizenship this sooner. The school sent a note home friend picked it, and he fi gured they could has its own “things,” like an offi cial bird test when we moved here from New York. weeks ago. With our son. But if our son work on it together. I didn’t even know and a mammal and a state capital and a But at least I know how to fi gure out which can’t be trusted to tell us about the project, there was a project. All I knew was that he nickname that the other states called it in 4th grader to call about it. what makes them think he can be trusted told me his friend was coming over to “do high school. Some of these are ironic nick- to give us a note? homework.” (I think he actually made fi n- names, like how New Jersey is called “The Mordechai Schmutter is a freelance writer and a hu- A lot of schools have some kind of state ger quotes, but I didn’t notice at the time.) Garden State.” mor columnist for Hamodia, The Jewish Press and fair, because the thing is that they can’t Then his friend came over, and the two of “What?!” my wife is saying over my Aish.com, among others. He also has four books out teach the kids about every single state. them disappeared into the basement, and shoulder. “We have a garden.” and does stand-up comedy. You can contact him at There are like 50 of them. But they also they came up about a week later, and we That’s not the only strange name. For [email protected]. can’t teach them about none of the states. asked, “Where is it? Did you leave it in the example, Indiana is called “The Crossroads

CHESED NJ NCSY and Ma’ayanot Perform Chesed in Houston On Thursday, May 12, 16 students from Ma’ayanot Yeshiva High School traveled with NJ NCSY to Houston to help with clean up and rebuilding in the wake of the recent and tragic ﬂ ooding which damaged the United Orthodox Synagogues of Hou- ston for the second time in less than a year. Erev Pesach, Rabbi Gershie Meisel, Region- al Director of Southwest NCSY, reached out for help from fellow NCSY regions. Imme- diately, NJ NCSY, together with Murray Leb- en, chairman, and Rabbi Zev Prince from Ma’ayanot sprang into action, planning a chesed mission that resulted in a deeply meaningful and unforgettable experience for all participants and staff. “Spending a weekend in Houston was an gettable experience and has inspired me “I love that we were able to make a huge “It was a pleasure to work with Hou- incredibly meaningful experience in many to take part in more chesed opportunities. difference in such a small amount of time. ston NCSY. The girls once again outdid ways. For one thing, helping people who This trip has helped me realize how amaz- It was extremely empowering. It showed themselves, completing two days of work have literally nothing at this point, and making and crucial chesed really is,” commented that when we can truly accomplish an- in one, in the name of doing chesed for oth- ing them smile was amazing. In addition, it Ma’ayanot student Naomi Kutin. ything when we put our minds to it,” ex- ers,” stated Rabbi Ethan Katz, regional di- “I’d like to thank pressed Dina Wagner. rector of NJ NCSY. Rabbi Prince from Ma’ayanot and Rab- bi Katz and Murray Leben from NCSY for giving me this incredible, unique opportunity. Even though the work was difﬁ cult, it was all worth it when we saw what we had accomplished and how grateful the communi- was truly unbelievable to see how stunned ty was. The feeling you experience is price- people were by the fact that we came all the less, the feeling knowing that you have way from New Jersey to help. Working with made a difference in the world. This trip Rabbi Katz and Murray from NCSY made the has inspired me to help out and do more experience much more meaningful, as well. chessed, no matter what it is or where I Overall, this chesed trip was truly an unfor- am,” added Malka Feldman.

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Rabbi Sacks advocates for only seen schools from a “par- Shuls and Schools strengthening the relation- ent lens.” What if rabbis and ship between schools and syn- lay leaders went on offi cial By Wallace Greene that he would have to give up teaching at agogues to secure a more en- school tours of their mem- Jews College, the oldest rabbinical school gaged, active and enthusiastic bers’ schools observing them Rabbi Eddie Shos- in the world. Not wanting to leave teach- next generation of Jews. through a “synagogue lens?” tak, Rav-Mechanech at ing behind, he sought his rabbi’s advice. His He also made the following observa- And vice versa. This could be one way to the Hebrew Academy rabbi answered matter-of-factly: “And why tions: gain knowledge on what they need to proof Montreal, recently can’t you do both?” And so it was, Rabbi • Parents are teachers: Rabbi Sacks duce in order to close the “shul-school drove Rabbi Lord Jona- Sacks assumed the post of senior Rabbi and quoted Rabbi Moshe Alshich who asked: partnership” gap. than Sacks to a speaking became Principal of Jews College in 1984. “How do we act in order to succeed in ed- • Communal responsibility should in- engagement for NCSY The takeaway is if our shuls are going ucating our children?” And answered: “It clude day schools: As part of every shul’s Montreal. He took ad- to be successful, our schools need to be is what you love that your children will tzedaka allocations, each school should vantage of their time together to ask him, successful. And if our schools learn to love.” Rabbi Sacks con- receive an annual per capita distribution “Where can one make a greater impact—in are going to be successful, our tinued: “It is the way your life based on the number of students enrolled a day school or a synagogue?” shuls need to be successful. refl ects your loves, those are who are also members of their synagogues. Rabbi Sacks responded: “Without ques- Not independently, but in part- the things that our children It is an expression of “putting your money tion one can make the most impact on day nership. will absorb and eventually where your mouth is” in investing in our schools, and communities should have This leads us to a number of make their own.” Parents must future. Investment in synagogue program- their primary focus on day schools, but in important issues: say and do, but it is by refl ecting our love ming for youth is important, but study af- partnership with strong synagogues.” • In day schools, our tefi la programs for Jewish life and practice that our chil- ter study has also shown that Jewish en- He said that shuls are where day-school aim to go beyond keva (form) and focus on dren will choose to commit to become engagement is dependent more than ever on graduates are integrated into the commu- proper meaning, kavana (intention) and engaged and enthusiastic Jews. Children are day-school education. nity, and their strength will help determine thusiasm. Often when our students come very perceptive. If parents just talk the talk Rabbi Sacks underscored the impor- the success of the day-school experience. to shul, prayers feel fl at, without life and but don’t walk the walk regarding daven- tance of focusing on day-school education Rabbi Sacks then shared lacking in dignity. Our syna- ing, learning, tzedaka, commu- in securing the Jewish future two anecdotes. The fi rst was gogues often don’t look and nal involvement, shmirat mitz- while challenging us to think that in the mid-19th centu- feel like what is experienced in vot etc. they will pick up on it. about their partnerships and ry when Rabbi Samson Raph- day schools. They value consistency and interdependent relationships ael Hirsch was invited to be- • There is also a perceived honesty and see through pho- with synagogues and parents come Rabbi of a community gap between school-honored niness. so that children see a love of Ju- in Germany, he was asked to build a new values of Torah Lishma (study for its own • Meaningful interaction must be pres- daism in all walks of their lives. synagogue. He refused and declared: “First sake) and lively discussion. Often our shul ent between professional and lay lead- Rabbi Dr. Wallace Greene has had a dis- I will build a school, then I will build the lectures are sparsely attended, Torah readership of schools and synagogues: Syna- tinguished career as Jewish educator and shul.” And so he did, building the famed Re- ing time is noisy and crowds empty out gogue leaders need to know what is going administrator. He was the Executive Direc- alschule in Frankfurt. during the Haftarah. Children who per- on in their members’ schools and school tor and Principal of the Joseph Kushner He- The second observation was more perceive being deceived by not experienc- leaders need to know what is going on brew Academy, Dean of Ohr Torah Insti- sonal. In 1983, he was to be appointed Rab- ing in practice the theory they are taught in their students’ synagogues. Many rab- tute and founder of the Sinai Schools, and bi of the prestigious West Marble Arch Syn- in school are less likely to become excited bis, and lay leaders, have only visited their is currently the Executive Director of The agogue in London. Rabbi Sacks was told about their Judaism. own children’s school, and therefore have Shulamith School of Brooklyn.

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cle. For now, the approach to giving conse- Chores, Every Child’s Six-Letter Dirty Word quences is similar to that of rewards. Discuss with your child ahead of time By Shoval Gur-Aryeh, PhD (There are too many to list here.) Discuss with your child what the re- what the consequence will be if they don’t Part II I recently spoke to a mother about ward will be ahead of time. This gives him complete a chore. The rationale for this is some of the chores appropriate for her something to look forward to while doing fairly straightforward. Imagine how resent- In my last column, children. She was a bit incredulous that the chore. On a related note, think of sever- ful we adults would feel if one day police I began a multi-part ar- her 7-year-old son would be able to fold al reward options and then let your child started issuing tickets for chewing gum ticle on how to suc- towels or help make a salad when he isn’t decide the reward they prefer. This em- while walking. Without foreknowledge of cessfully get children able to tear toilet paper in preparation for powers them and increases their motiva- this new law, we’d think it was unfair to to do their chores. I Shabbat. I explained that perhaps he is tion to do the chore well. cite us for not following it. explained the importance of adopting an unable to tear toilet paper because he Lastly, give your child his reward as Also as with giving rewards, it’s impor- authoritative (not authoritarian) parent- hasn’t had consistent practice doing it. soon after he completes the chore as pos- tant to hand out consequences as soon as ing style, one in which you, the parent, ap- Healthy 15-year-olds are capable of sible. This is the best way to rein- possible to maximize their impact. proach your child as the person in charge, reading, but a 15-year-old who’s nev- force the connection between Step Six: Be reliable and consistent. As the commander-in-chief! This is not natu- er been taught how to read and doing the chore and getting a much as anything else, getting children to ral for many people, but important none- hasn’t had any practice doing so reward. If you wait too long do chores depends on parents doing what theless. Making the decision to be author- won’t be able to read! to give the reward, it loses its they say they’re going to do (reliable) and itative is the fi rst step toward getting your Step Four: Sit down with your power to motivate good be- doing it from one day to the next (consist- children to do their chores. children and explain what is ex- havior. ent). Otherwise, children learn that they The second step I shared last time is to pected of them. Don’t pro- In the category of “chil- can’t trust they’ll get a reward for doing set realistic expectations for yourself about vide complicated instruc- dren say the darndest their chores and that they won’t be held ac- what it will be like when directing your tions, but be specifi c in things,” my 6-year-old countable for not doing them. children to do their chores. In other words, terms of what they’re sup- daughter asked me to- Finally, above all else, always remem- gird yourself and strengthen your resolve, posed to do. Resist the night (as I was putting ber to give verbal and physical affection re- knowing that your children will push back urge to assume they know exactly what her to bed, no less) what I was writing my gardless of whether or not your children do at times, and defi nitely quite often in the you want them to do (just like spouses, next article about. When I told her, she of- their chores. This reinforces the message beginning, until it’s well established who children are not mind-readers). This is par- fered her own sage advice for parents, “If that your love and affection don’t depend the boss is in the family. Preparing your- ticularly important when children are still kids refuse to go to bed, you should give on how they behave. To us adults, this is self for resistance can help keep you from learning a new chore. them medicine.” Now, I’m not sure what obvious and goes without saying, but chil- second-guessing yourself, such as thinking Step Five: Choose rewards and conse- medicine she was referring to (I promise dren often aren’t mature enough to under- that you’re being too hard on them. quences. Experts and parents alike are divid- my wife and I have never knowingly given stand this on their own. Now for Step Three: Select chores for ed on whether or not to give rewards for do- our children drugs or full glasses of wine for your children. It’s important to be realistic ing chores, although there is much greater the sole purpose of making them drowsy Dr. Gur-Aryeh is a clinical psychologist with a private in choosing chores that are developmen- consensus on the importance of providing at bedtime), but I imagine she meant that practice in Saddle Brook, NJ. He works with a wide va- tally appropriate, while also not underesti- some form of consequences if they don’t do children should receive some form of con- riety of clients seeking mental health treatment and mating what your children are capable of them. Whether or not to give rewards de- sequence for refusing to go to bed. specializes in mood disorders and addiction in particu- doing. A quick search online will produce serves its own article, so I’ll save that for an- The type of consequences that are most lar. If you would like to contact him, you can do so at numerous helpful websites with similar other time. For now, if you do wish to re- effective will be discussed in greater detail [email protected], at 201-406-9710 or through lists of chores according to age categories. ward your child, here are some tips: when I write about rewards in a future arti- his website at www.shovalguraryehphd.com.

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201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 43 A TEEN’S PERSPECTIVE The Joys and Challenges of Keeping Kosher

By Oren Oppenheim Sure, the vast majority of time when I eat When the symbol or certifi cation is less it’s hard to imagine life without them, yet I at home, at school or at a friend’s I don’t clear-cut—such as if the item has a “K” on still remember the days when they had no My bus didn’t leave need to worry about whether this piece of it, which could be anyone—my dad will, if hechsher. (Yes, I know I’m spoiled because for 20 minutes, so I de- chicken is kosher or not, or whether this he is interested in the item, try to contact Oreos and M&Ms have been kosher for cided to head up to wine for Kiddush is mevushal, or anything the company and fi gure out if the item is my entire life… My parents have told me Hudson News to get a like that. But when I’m out and about, and kosher. I remember back when “The Simp- about when those became kosher years quick snack. I chose need to get food, kashrut becomes front sons Movie” came out, there was a spe- and years ago.) A side benefi t of kashrut to purchase some and center. That snack looks unique, but cial promotional cereal themed ubiquity: getting to experience tastes that Keebler Peanut Butter crackers—they does it “have anything”? (Read: does after the characters, but the are usually non-kosher, such as fake seemed cheap, somewhat fi lling (I it have a hechsher symbol?) I won- only kashrut symbol it had bacon. Funnily enough, I’ve knew at the time that it would be der if there are any kosher restau- was a K. For Kellogg’s cere- had “Baconnaise”—bacon more than an hour until I’d have rants near here, let me check als, that’s fi ne, but this cere- mayonnaise—that was dinner at home, barring any Shamash—but who is the per- al was made by “MOMCO,” certifi ed OU-D. quintessential Port Authori- son certifying that place? Is whatever that was. My dad Bu kashrut is also ty delays…) and tasty. What that certifi cation reliable? Is contacted the mysterious more diffi cult to keep I forgot to check, however, that symbol a good one? company and found out that nowadays for various rea- was whether they were Kashrut is the cause of the company was Malt-O-Meal, sons. One main reason is that ingredi- kosher or not—and I a thousand questions, which makes cereals certifi ed kosher by a ents have become far more complicated, only remembered af- and the constant im- reliable source, but using the K symbol. given how much can be manufactured ter leaving the store. I scrambled to read petus for a search for answers. Thinking about it, I would guess that with absurd combinations of chemicals over the packaging, looking for a tiny sym- Perhaps one of the reasons I’m at- kashrut is both easier and more diffi - and mysterious substances with scientifi c bol and thinking: “I thought they were ko- tuned to think about kashrut is my cult for all of us nowadays. names. A few years back my family went sher—they’re Keebler, they must be ko- father. (Yes, I know it was just Moth- It’s easier because to “Harry Potter World” in Orlando, and sher—they’re just peanut butter crackers, er’s Day…) My dad loves using reliable there are so many ko- not only was the Butterbeer drink (which but maybe they’re not kosher and then I books on kashrut symbols, or, in re- sher symbols out there is featured prominently in the books) not can’t eat them and—” cent years, websites such as Kosher- and so many resourc- certifi ed, but we couldn’t even tell if it was Then I found the small OU-D symbol in Quest to check out kashrut symbols es, online and offl ine, to “ingredients kosher” because every ingre- the bottom left-hand corner of the package, he doesn’t recognize. Yes, we know use to fi gure out if you’ll dient had six syllables. (Except, I think, for and all was right in the world until my 8:50 the stalwarts (the OU, the Kof-K, be comfortable eating “water” and “sugar.”) It can now be either p.m. bus inexplicably arrived at 9:20 p.m. I the CRC, etc.), but what about something. Also, because hard or impossible to tell if an item with- could talk about the challenges that bus de- a regional hechsher from say, companies are cognizant out certifi cation is actually kosher or not, lays have posed to me in my life, but I don’t Florida? Perhaps it’s one we of the fact that they can which means we need to rely far more on think that would make for very interesting can trust. (I understand that score a signifi cant amount symbols. reading, so let’s discuss kashrut instead. hechsher reliability can be sub- of consumers if they turn ko- Another challenge is simply the pres- Kashrut has always been a cornerstone jective and that different people handle it sher, more and more items nowadays are sure, in some sense. There are always com- of my life and my Jewish identity, sim- in different ways; I’m just talking about my receiving certifi cation. Just think of food ply because it is relevant every single day. family’s own experience.) and drink like Tootsie Rolls or Gatorade—  CONTINUED ON P. 48

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During the shiva mourning period life—never really sure of whether we are Discovering Ourselves Rav Chayim Druckman spoke to Rachelle capable of negotiating the obstacles and Fraenkel, the mother of Naftali, and com- diffi cult times successfully—and never re- By Rabbi Neil N. Winkler and the discovery of the bodies, days that forted her with the deepest truth and with alizing our potential. But then come the were fi lled with desperate searches, pas- moving words. He told her: “We went out moments, like those 18 days, when a fl ash “We went out search- sionate prayers and boisterous demonstra- searching for our boys…and we discovered of lightning, an inspiring event, allows us ing for our boys…and we tions, ended in dashed hopes and nation- ourselves.” see where we really are and that, indeed, discovered ourselves.” al mourning. But from the tragedy emerged Rachelle described this phenomenon there are others around us who will help. This week is a very the realization that we are truly one. with the following parable: It is that rare moment when we discover emotional one in the During these weeks we displayed a uni- “The experience of our people during ourselves and recognize what we are capa- Jewish calendar—es- ty, a oneness, that we had not shown in these days was much like a man who was ble of with the support of those who stand pecially here in Israel. Yom HaShoah, Yom many years. Nor was this limited to the lost in the forest on a stormy night. There ready to help us. Such moments may not Hazikaron and Yom Ha’atzmaut, three days State of Israel. Jews around the world gath- was no light to guide him onto the prop- come often, but if we can remember what of memorials and celebrations, that are ered to protest and to pray. They sent let- er path, nor could he see if there was any- we saw in that fl ash of lightning, that mo- all condensed into the short period of a ters to the families and to government offi - one who would help. And so, as he tripped ment of inspiration, if we can realize that few days. And although there is so much cials. They gathered in Times Square and in over roots and collided into unseen trees, there are those around us who can and will to share with you regarding the impact of Rabin Square, they demonstrated in South he began to lose hope and imagined that help, we can understand our potential and these days for us in Israel, I have chosen to Africa and South America, they prayed in he would never be capable of getting out work to accomplish much more than we focus on a seemingly less important event, the Mall and at the Wall. For almost three of the forest. As he pondered this frighten- ever imagined. but an event that can grant us a different weeks, our usually fractious and conten- ing possibility, a fl ash of lightning lit up the As a result of the remarkable response perspective regarding the signifi cance of tious nation stopped arguing. Religious and skies and the forest so that, for a few sec- of Jews around the world, it was decided these days and these observances for us secular, left and right, old and young unit- onds, the man was able to see where he tru- by the three bereaved families, the Gesh- this year. ed for one purpose alone. All hearts beat as ly was, which road he need take and all the er Foundation and the Mayor of Jerusalem This month marks the two-year anni- one as the personal tragedy of three fam- others who were there ready to help.” that the date of the kidnappings would be- versary of the kidnappings of the three ilies put a face (or three) upon the nation- Too often, we walk in a dark forest, not come an annual Yom Achdut, Day of Unity, boys, Naftali, Eyal and Gilad, a terrorist act al struggle of our people. The period of sure where we are or where we are going. when a “Jerusalem Unity Prize” would be that galvanized an entire people. The 18 mourning and horror, therefore, became We are lost, believing that there is no one nightmarish days between the kidnapping the time of self-discovery as well. to help us and tripping our way through  CONTINUED ON P. 48

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201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 45 NEWS FROM ISRAEL Special Needs Student Fulﬁ lls Childhood Dream by Joining IDF

Like many other young Israeli boys, 20-year- for duty as an IDF soldier every Wednesday at an old Yinon Refaeli has dreamed of serving in the army offi ce. Israel Defense Forces (IDF) since he was a child. After his weekly army service, Rafaeli at- The challenge for Rafaeli is that he suffers from tends a program at the Shalva center in Jerusa- cerebral palsy (CP) and cannot speak. lem. “They love him at Shalva,” Batya Rafaeli said. This never stopped Rafaeli from seeking “They were very excited when they saw him in out ways to show his dedication to his dream. his IDF uniform.” “Every Purim he dressed up as a police offi cer Shalva programs provide care to mentally and or soldier,” said Yinon’s mother, Batya Rafae- physically challenged children in Israel. Rafae- li. “He would always approach soldiers on the li has been attending Shalva programs since he street to talk to them and fi nd out more about was 6 years old. “There is nothing like Shalva,” said the military.” Roni Rafaeli, Yinon’s father. “They helped him with Today marks one year since Rafaeli’s dream everything. He can walk, he can talk with a comput- came true. “Yinon’s school has a program so that er when he is at Shalva and he can eat alone.” anyone can have the opportunity to join the Rafaeli is proud to wear the IDF uniform and Yinon Rafaeli gets ready for weekly Yinon Rafaeli salutes in his uniform at army,” Batya Rafali said. He has been reporting contribute to the State of Israel—in his own way. army service. work.

Nefesh B’Nefesh Releases Video • Chana Deevon, who recently retired after 53 years of working as a midwife at Celebrating Israel’s Independence Day Shaare Zedek Medical Center in Jerusa- lem. She delivered nearly 40 thousand ba- Jerusalem—As Israel celebrates its 68th The video pulls its title, “With these day, with the dream of starting and raising bies over the course of her career, including Independence Day on Wednesday night, Hands,” from the Naomi Shemer song writ- a family in the Jewish State. her granddaughter and great-granddaughter. Nefesh B’Nefesh has launched an emotion- ten for Yehoram Gaon, “Od Lo Ahavti Dai,” • Marta Weiss, a Holocaust survi- Four generations of the Deevon family ap- ally charged video to accompany the joy- and emphasizes the building of the State, vor who at a young age survived the pear in the video. ous occasion and showcase the human a project that began over 68 years ago and Auschwitz-Birkenau camp among other • Rabbi David Twersky, who immigrat- mosaic of Israel: http://www.nbn.org.il/ continues today. horriﬁ c encounters. Last January, on In- ed to Israel in 2013 and now lives in Jerusa- yomhaatzmaut/. Those featured in the video are: ternational Holocaust Remembrance day, lem. He made aliyah in order to live out the From war hero to farmer, teacher to • Captain Ziv Shilon, who was seriously Weiss represented the State of Israel at the aspirations and dreams of his parents and midwife, the video tells the stories of the injured by an explosion on the Gaza border United Nations in an emotionally charged grandparents in the Jewish homeland, clos- everyday heroes that epitomize what in 2012 and lost his hand. The story of his appeal never to forget. er to the Jewish people. makes Israeli society unique—the strength recovery has made Shilon into a household • Shmuel Jambrina, a 25-year-old soldier • Shachar Nitzan, a third-generation of its immigrants. Israel’s human mosaic name in Israel as an icon of resilience, lead- from Spain who served in the Nahal Bri- farmer from Ein Vered. He studied ag- illustrates both the diversity of Olim and ership and Zionism. gade. He is now a reservist who is planning riculture in Rehovot and is farming the those who have dedicated their lives to se- • Rena Rapps, a newlywed who made ali- a career in education and starting a family same land that his father and grandfather curing and building the State of Israel. yah from the US in 2014, on her 20th birth- of his own in Israel. worked before him.

46 May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM NEWS FROM ISRAEL Technion Graduates Match With Top Hospitals in US

By Raizel Druxman ical program with unparalleled opportuni- Committed to encourag- was the support, commu- ties for students to shadow and work with ing study beyond the class- nity feel and parent-es- After four years immersed in medical Nobel Laureate–winning doctors in their room, Technion’s American que feel of the adminis- training abroad, Technion’s American Med- fi eld of choice, be involved in cutting-edge Medical Program has part- tration,” Gorbatov said. ical Program graduates are moving on to research and receive personalized atten- nerships for students to Solomon also appre- the next chapter—residency at their hospi- tion with class sizes of 20 to 30 students. shadow doctors at a range ciated how invested the tal of choice. of urban and rural hospitals administration is in the Technion students were accepted to the Research and Clinical Work in Northern Israel. Technion students. “The adminis- most competitive residencies in the US in- The unique structure of research and also has affi liations with tration is so open to ide- cluding Harvard’s Brigham and Women’s clinical work is what draws many students over 20 medical centers in the US and Can- as for improving the program,” he said. Hospital, Mayo Clinic and the University of to the Technion program. Allen Pimienta, ada. During the clinical years, students can “When you have the support of the admin- Pittsburgh. from Toronto, matched at Mayo Clinic in carry out their elective clinical rotations in istration, you feel like you have a voice in Family Medicine. Pimien- these centers, giving match candidates a leg the program—and that’s special.” ta chose the program be- up in their application process by allowing Sybil Sailofsky, a third-year student cause of the strong research hospitals to put a face to a name. from Montreal, summed it up best. “We aspect. While studying at Rachel Singer, from Calgary, matched at have a wealth of information and a wealth Technion, he published pa- Eastern Virginia Medical School in Pediat- of family.” pers in four different jour- rics. While working at the hospital in Isra- The choice to study internationally nals and is the fi rst author el, she saw a 3-year old boy admitted to the came as a no-brainer to many students. “I on two. “I can’t get this re- emergency room half paralyzed. “They origi- wanted to have a non-traditional experi- search opportunity any- nally thought he had a stroke and then dis- ence to study medicine,” Solomon said. “I where else,” Pimienta said. covered he had a different diagnosis. I got to feel so lucky to be part of a community “Not only do renowned re- watch him gain back his movement,” Singer where 90 percent of the people are com- searchers teach our classes, said. “Watching his body heal itself was deep- ing from abroad to follow their dreams and but they also give us their ly moving and emphasized why I love peds.” study what they are passionate about.” Among the 20 graduates of the class of cell phone information and say, ‘Please Alex Peyser, from Great Neck, NY, stud- Singer wanted a change. “Moving to a 2016, 90 percent will be pursuing residen- contact us with any questions.’” ied engineering at Columbia University new country, and not knowing what I was cies in the US or Israel. Since the fi rst gradu- Rostic Gorbatov, from Boston, matched and matched at Northshore LIJ in obstetrics getting into, has been an amazing opportu- ating class in 2010, there have been 163 grad- at Jacobi Medical Center in Bronx, NY in In- and gynecology. “The clinical part at Techn- nity to fi nd my own way,” she said. “I want- uates of the program of which 85 percent ternal Medicine. He also chose Technion ion was amazing,” Peyser said. “When I was ed it to be special and Israel fi t the profi le.” have been accepted to top residencies in because of the strong science and research in Israel we got our hands wet; they let me The beachfront location in Haifa adds to the US or Canada and 7 percent have cho- focus. While there, he researched the asso- do everything.” the appeal. sen to do residencies in Israel. ciation of how Vitamin D affects cardio- For future students considering Techn- This high match rate refl ects the suc- vascular disease in diabetes. “I spent three Supportive Environment ion’s American Medical Program, “Just do cess of Technion’s American Medical Pro- years doing research at Harvard,” Gorba- Although students came for the rigor- it,” Solomon said. “It’s a great place to study gram. They have mastered their trade and tov explained, “but at Technion I did more ous academic reputation of Technion, they medicine and it will be an experience of a created an internationally acclaimed med- hands-on research than I ever have.” received much more. “What I didn’t expect lifetime.”

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hattan, but instead I’ll have to travel farther solve the challenges that it sends my way, of meaning behind kashrut in my eyes: the The Joys and Challenges to the pricier place. and then come out the better for doing so. spiritual dimension. Kashrut allows me to of Keeping Kosher Sometimes it seems like kashrut could Case in point: I’ve been trying to fi nd ko- tangibly follow God’s words and to be con-  CONTINUED FROM P. 44 be a burden. But that’s not how I view it. sher-certifi ed bubble tea, which even ac- scious of my religious and spiritual identi- I view kashrut as a series of puzzles I cording to the internet didn’t seem to ex- ties even when I’m doing something seem- mercials for non-kosher candy and treats need to solve. One puzzle might be to fi nd ist in America. (I don’t know if bubble tea ingly as materialistic and earthly as eating. on kids’ channels, there are always glowing the kosher place nearby. Another might be is “ingredients kosher” but I’ve heard there That makes all of the challenges worth it. reviews of unique new non-kosher eateries to fi nd out if this item is actually kosher. are problems with gelatin in it.) But after popping up, there are way too many “Tasty” It actually becomes more rewarding to dis- some hardcore Googling, I found a place Oren Oppenheim, 18, is a senior at Ramaz Upper videos on Facebook that show how to cook cover that the item with the weird hechsh- in Great Neck (27 Dressings) that is kosher School in Manhattan and lives in Fair Lawn, NJ. He delectable treif dishes. There seems to be er is one I can have! Yes, it can get annoy- certifi ed AND has bubble tea! By putting in spends his free time writing and reading, and hopes to this whole WORLD of delights out there ing—but it’s manageable, feasible and the the effort, I reaped the reward, and the sat- become a published novelist and a journalist. You can that those of us who keep kosher miss out right thing for me to do. Thanks to my par- isfaction of having solved the challenge… email him at [email protected] and see his on! I’d love to try that gelatin “raindrop ents and my background, I’ve learned how at least partially. I have yet to get to Great photography at Facebook.com/orenphotography. He is cake,” but I can’t. I’d want to get some of to keep kosher and how to be discerning Neck, but everything in due time... still planning his trip to Great Neck for that bubble tea. the cheaper/more convenient food in Man- about what I eat. It is never easy, but I try to This all leads to the greater dimension

Jewish nation to its holiest site needs to him guilty of the “murder” of 2,000 people? And so I worry, because a mere two Discovering Ourselves anger us. Vile threats are hurled at us, his- Will we have to expect that the Jew- years after seeing the truth when light-  CONTINUED FROM P. 45 torical facts are denied, truth is perverted ish dean of a most prestigious law school ning struck for those 18 days, many have and reality warped—all in service of the would defend a student who insults a for- already lost their way and no longer awarded to those who have furthered har- ultimate goal of delegitimizing the Jewish mer Prime Minister and current member of search for, or care for, the others in that mony and accord within the people and State and the Jewish people by erasing our the Knesset by publicly asking her why she forest with them. the State of Israel. And that day is celebrat- past. smelled so much? To these lost souls I recommend that ed this week, as well. And yet, in my mind, none of these And must we understand that, though they go search for their brothers. Yet, today, I truly worry. threaten us as much as the clear discon- condemned by Muslim students, this per- Perhaps they would then discover Anti-Semitism is once more in vogue. nect of more and more Jews from their re- petrator was subsequently defended by themselves. The guilt of the Holocaust, the active or ligion, their nation and their state. We have 11Jewish students? tacit support by “civilized” countries of the learned over the years to expect the hatred This past week, Daniel Gordis, well- Rabbi Neil Winkler, founding rabbi of the Young Is- murder of six million no longer haunts the spewed by anti-Semites. But must we now known author and historian, wrote a pow- rael of Fort Lee, is a musmach of RIETS and a grad- consciences of these states. Openly anti-Se- adjust to hearing the same vicious lies es- erful article in which he stated: uate of Yeshiva College and Bernard Revel Graduate mitic statements expressed by members of cape from the lips of our co-religionists? “To survive, Jews need instinctive loyal- School. He served the Fort Lee, NJ community for 36 the British Labor Party must worry us; uni- Must we accept that so many Jews are ty to Jews…when Jews are under attack, a years and taught Jewish Studies in the Moriah School versity students who invite representatives members and leaders of the BDS move- long-standing instinct that has kept us go- of Englewood as Coordinator of Tanach studies. Rabbi of terror organizations to speak but deny ment? ing has been the instinct of loyalty. That so Winkler also served as president of the RCBC until he that right to the elected leaders of the only Must we become acclimated to hearing many prominent Jews do not understand and his wife, Andea, made aliyah in November, 2014. democracy in the Middle East should trou- a (former) “Jewish Outreach Coordinator” that is a sad indication of to where we have Rabbi Winkler is the author of Bringing the Prophets ble us and the decisions of UN committees of a current presidential candidate publicly come. More ominously, it may indicate to Life, an overview of the Early Prophets, and he cur- to deny any historical connection of the curse the Prime Minister of Israel and hold where we are headed.” rently lives in Jerusalem.

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ticle titled “Could a Health Savings Account How Two Healthcare Laws Uncovered Be Better Than an Employer-Matched 401(k)?” The professor’s answer: Yes, most a ‘Bulked Up’ Retirement Account defi nitely. Because of its substantial tax savings at By Elozor M. Preil Similar to an IRA or other qualifi ed re- plement to high-deductible insurance contribution, and no tax cost at distribu- tirement plan, withdrawals for other pur- coverage. This increased awareness also tion, Giesler calculates an HSA has a much The moment a new poses are taxable as regular income. How- sparked some other non-health insurance higher after-tax future value (ATFV) in com- law is enacted, someone ever, if funds are withdrawn before age 65 observations: a few fi nancial experts came parison to a 401(k), where contributions are is wondering if there is a for non-medical reasons, a 20 percent pen- to the conclusion that an HSA could be a deductible but distributions are taxable. way to take advantage of alty is applied. better retirement vehicle than an IRA. In Even when an employer matches a portion it. This dynamic is frequently seen in fi - On introduction, the HSA was sort a March 2014 article, Retirement Manage- of a worker’s 401(k) contributions, the ATFV nancial regulation. Lawmakers use taxes of a “niche” program, intended to defray ment Analyst Dana Anspach called the HSA of an HSA is still higher under most circum- and incentives to generate revenues and medical expenses for households with- an “IRA on steroids,” explaining: stances. A 401(k)’s advantage is greater only infl uence group behaviors, but since there out comprehensive coverage, usually the “Where else do you get to contribute if the employer makes a 100 percent match is rarely full knowledge beforehand as to self-employed or those working for small- tax-deductible dollars and withdraw them on employee contributions. In all other cir- how the populace will respond, every new er companies that didn’t provide em- tax-free? Health insurance premiums and cumstances, in every marginal tax bracket, regulation comes with the prospect of un- ployer-sponsored health insurance. That medical expenses of some kind are a cer- the HSA prevailed. known consequences—and sometimes, changed with the passage of PPACA. tainty. Why not pay for them with tax-free Giesler also observes that the compara- opportunities. Although PPACA was signed into law dollars? I can think of almost no downside tive tax savings between a 401(k) and a Roth A current example of uncovering un- in 2010, several provisions did not take ef- to funding an HSA instead of an IRA. If you 401(k) are primarily dependent on wheth- expected opportunities can be found in fect until January 2014, including the man- don’t need your HSA funds for medical ex- er the tax rate at distribution is higher or Health Savings Accounts, and changes re- date that all individuals not covered by an penses or insurance premiums then af- lower than the rate when the funds were sulting from the Patient Protection and Af- employer-sponsored health plan, Medicaid, ter age 65, you can use the money just like deposited. A higher future tax rate favors fordable Care Act (PPACA). Medicare or other public insurance programs funds in your IRA or 401(k).” the Roth account, where deposits are made Introduced in 2003, Health Savings Ac- had to secure an approved private-insurance Besides the increase in households buy- with after-tax dollars, with growth and dis- counts currently permit individuals with policy or pay a penalty. Combined with a pro- ing individual high-deductible health in- tribution tax-free. A lower future tax rate qualifying high-deductible health insur- vision that insurers could not decline appli- surance, HSA eligibility got another boost. makes a 401(k) attractive because of the de- ance plans to contribute up to $3,350 annu- cants based on pre-existing conditions, many Premium increases prompted some larg- duction on deposits. ally on a pre-tax basis for anticipated out- more Americans found themselves either er companies to manage costs by replac- Mainstream personal fi nance commen- of-pocket medical expenses (the threshold maintaining or buying health insurance at ing comprehensive medical coverage with tators may still see the 401(k) as a default is $6,750 for a family, with an additional signifi cantly higher rates compared to previ- high-deductible health plans for their em- funding priority, but a number of experts $1,000 if over age 55). Any earnings on the ous years. Faced with rising premiums, some ployees, sometimes including an allocation who have run the numbers say things have deposits are tax-free, as are withdrawals— opted for higher-deductible plans. This ap- to fund an accompanying HSA. And that changed. As Geisler says near the end of his as long as the money is used for qualifi ed proach reduced premiums (although most got some creative thinkers wondering… article: medical expenses. In addition, unused bal- were still higher than before) but left individ- Could an HSA be better than a 401(k)— “The emergence of HSAs requires reex- ances are allowed to accumulate. After age uals with greater fi nancial exposure; poten- even with an employer match? amining the traditional fi nancial-planning 65, HSA funds can also be used to pay in- tial out-of-pocket costs were higher. 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regular food you would buy to satisfy your so you can plan accordingly is that no tax- Tax Tips for Dieters nutritional requirements, and therefore es have been taken out all year. That means are considered non-deductible personal ex- you need to be prepared to pay them with By Daniel Magence, most obese country in the world. I’m not penses. your tax return. CPA, Esq. sure why, but it may have something to do The same goes for membership dues to So let’s say you made $10,000 as a health with the fact that the $65 billion we spend a gym or health club. The IRS does not al- coach this year. If you’re in the 25 percent It seems like every- on weight loss is completely dwarfed by the low a deduction for these. And while acces- tax bracket, then you must pay $2,500 in where you look there’s $117 billion we spend on fast food. But the sories such as yoga mats, dumbbells and income taxes at year end. Unfortunately, it another diet plan be- question that’s relevant for now is whether running shoes are not deductible, items doesn’t stop there though. As an independ- ing advertised. Sure, we any of these costs are tax deductible. that are specifi cally prescribed by a physi- ent contractor you’ll have to kick in another all know about Weight In 2002, the IRS issued a landmark rul- cian, such as orthotics and knee braces, 14.13 percent for self-employment taxes (So- Watchers, Nutrisystem, and Medifast. But ing that obesity is considered a medical are deductible. cial Security and Medicare taxes). So on that there’s also been some rather unusual ones. condition, and therefore costs incurred While the qualifi ed expenses above $10,000 you made, you’ll owe $3,913 in fed- There’s the Cookie Diet where you eat sever- for its treatment is a tax-deductible are technically tax deductible, in reali- eral taxes. al cookies a day and somehow lose weight. medical expense. It should be noted ty very few people are able to get this This is where tax planning becomes cru- I have my doubts though. I once ate an en- that a physician must diagnose the pa- benefi t. That’s because you can only cial to the process. The fi rst strategy is to ne- tire package of Double Stuf Oreos and I don’t tient with obesity; there’s no deductions deduct medical expenses that exceed gate as much of the taxable income as pos- think I lost a single pound. Then there’s the if you simply decide you need to lose 10 percent of your adjusted gross in- sible with qualifi ed business expenses. This Subway Diet which defi es the laws of na- some weight. come. That’s quite a hurdle could be business mileage, supplies, trav- ture. Apparently, you can lose dozens of So, in short, if you for most taxpayers, unless el expenses, etc. Another thing you should pounds by feasting on foot-long hoagies begin a diet regi- you already have a lot consider is taking a home offi ce deduction. every day. And let’s not forget the ever-popu- men to improve of other medical ex- The second strategy which may make sense lar tapeworm diet from the early 1900s. Peo- your health or ap- penses. when you begin making a considerable in- ple would actually ingest a tapeworm with pearance, then no expenses are deducti- But what you can come from this business is incorporating as the theory being that the worm would grow ble, but if it’s to treat a specifi c disorder, such do is get reimbursed by your fl exible spend- an S Corporation. While the details of this in your intestines and absorb the food. For as obesity or hypertension, then some of the ing account for these expenses—wheth- strategy is beyond the scope of this article, some reason, this last one has lost some expenses may be deductible. er it’s an HSA or FSA. Flexible spending ac- you can use the S Corporation to eliminate of its luster in recent years. I suspect there So let’s discuss what exactly can be de- counts follow IRS guidelines for qualifi ed much of the self-employment taxes, saving must be some downside of having a worm ducted for those who qualify. The IRS allows medical expenses, so by the IRS ruling that you thousands each year. that can grow to be 30 feet long lodged in you to deduct any fees paid to join a weight weight loss programs are deductible expens- your intestines. loss program. This includes the initial fee as es, you may now be reimbursed for these ex- Daniel Magence, CPA, Esq. is a principal at Pristine CPA The fact is, Americans spend over $65 bil- well as additional fees to attend meetings. penses. This enables you to use pre-tax dol- Solutions, LLC (www.pristinecpa.com). Pristine CPA lion on weight loss every single year. There’s These meetings are typically used to devel- lars to cover the costs. Solutions off ers tax and accounting services to individ- gym fees, weight loss program fees, diet op diet plans, discuss menus and receive lit- Another issue relevant to weight loss is uals and businesses of all sizes, whether it’s tax returns, pills, meal replacements, and, of course, the erature regarding the plan. if you become a consultant/health coach for bookkeeping, payroll services or personal income cost of tapeworms. It’s easy to see how these Unfortunately, the IRS is very adamant one of the diet programs. This has become budgeting. He can be reached at dmagence@pristi- costs add up. Considering we spend more that any costs incurred to buy reduced-calo- increasingly popular, especially for Medi- necpa.com or 201-326-6908 if you have any questions on weight loss than the entire GDP of some rie diet foods (think Nutrisystem and Med- fast. Most likely you will receive a 1099-Misc or comments, or are interested in using Pristine CPA’s countries, we must be the skinniest country, ifast) are not a deductible expense. The IRS at the end of the year as an independent services. Feel free to contact us for a free consultation. right? Well, not exactly. In fact, we’re the 9th views these foods as mere substitutes for contractor. The fi rst thing you must realize

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By Susan L. Rosenbluth, star choir that has been ed,” she said, explain- TheJewishVoiceAndOpinion.com achieved. But Mrs. Lazar is ing that, for many of not surprised by the group’s the HaZamir singers, Vivian Lazar knows that HaZamir, the growth. the choir is their only International Jewish High School Choir, “From the start, I saw the formal connection to which she directs, is more than just a musi- potential,” she said, adding Judaism and Jewish cal organization through which some 400 that she always had faith in learning. young Jewish students came together last the teens and local conductors Since the choir’s month to present a gala concert celebrat- who were attracted to the or- founding in 1993, Mrs. ing four-part traditional and contemporary ganization. “We have reached Lazar said she has Jewish music. a level of musical achieve- heard of many HaZ- HaZamir is, in fact, the only interna- ment that no one would have amir youngsters who tional organization of its kind, devoted ex- predicted,” she said. have become more clusively to Jewish choral music. When the Jewishly connected Jewish teens, some observant, many com- Annual Festival as a result of their ex- pletely secular, in 25 American and six Is- Each year, a few weeks perience. She has not raeli chapters, come together locally in before Passover, the entire organization “In the public spaces, Shabbat is fully heard of any Orthodox HaZamir members their own areas and then as a complete, co- comes together for a four-day festival, observed, all food is glatt kosher, and tra- who became less observant. hesive group, they stand as testament to which includes a Shabbaton and hours of ditional, Orthodox minyanim are conduct- the power of music to foster Jewish iden- combined rehearsals. For Mrs. Lazar, one ed,” said Mrs. Lazar, explaining that even Gala Concert tity, which can forge community and life- of the most important elements is the way the secular teens would not have it any oth- The festival culminates in a gala Sunday long friendships. the group and the students themselves ener way. afternoon concert performance which, this “While we achieve musical excellence sure that each teen’s religious observance is “When one of our male teens needed in HaZamir, the chorale experience is a por- respected and accommodated. a minyan, all the boys willingly participat-  CONTINUED ON NEXT PAGE tal into the other equally important parts of the HaZamir mission, which is to foster a love for all Jews and, of course, Isra- el; to give our teens a chance to build and demonstrate leadership skills and to ensure that they will continue to love and support serious Jewish music for the rest of their lives,” said Mrs. Lazar. Being Different The organization provides the opportunity for teens whose love of music ventures beyond the ubiquitous popular and rock. At HaZamir, they can be themselves with others who understand the love of serious classical and contemporary music. Much of the music the teens learn at HaZamir includes thoughtful and important new set- tings of prayers and Jewish liturgy as well as older, more familiar pieces. “At HaZamir, it is okay to be different from many of our regular high school peers,” said a HaZamir mezzo-soprano who belongs to the group’s Central NJ chapter and is a senior at the Hillel Yeshiva High School in Deal. For one thing, all HaZamir teens willingly commit themselves to weekly rehearsals in their own regions where they learn all the required music and harmo- nies by heart. All the students learn what the words mean and the history of the mel- odies. Many Chapters There currently are chapters in Mary- land (Baltimore), Massachusetts (Boston), Connecticut (Hartford), Texas (Houston and North Texas), California (Los Angeles and Silicon Valley), Florida (Miami and Palm Beaches), Minnesota (Minneapolis/St Paul), Ohio (Cleveland and Columbus), Pennsyl- vania (Philadelphia and Pittsburgh), Rhode Island (Providence) and Washington, DC. In New York, there are ﬁ ve chapters (Brook- lyn, Long Island, Manhattan, Rockland and Westchester), and four in New Jersey (Ber- gen County, Central Jersey, North Jersey and South Jersey). There are also six chapters in Israel, including Ashkelon, Beit She’an, Jerusalem, Karmiel/Misgav, Kfar Saba and Ofakim/ Merchavim. When Mrs. Lazar ﬁ rst became involved with HaZamir, there were only eight chapters, and some skeptics questioned whether the group could actually create the all-

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How Two Healthcare Laws Uncovered HaZamir’s Singing Teens Learn sitivity to dynamics, enunciation and in- old HaZamir singer Samuel Dylan Rosner, a ‘Bulked Up’ Retirement Account to Be Part of Klal Yisrael tonation that could serve as a model to of the Westchester chapter, whose HaZam-  CONTINUED FROM P. 51  CONTINUED FROM PREVIOUS PAGE professional adult groups. ir-commissioned setting of Psalm 96 was premiered at the concert (with the compos- imum employer-matching contribution to year, was held before a sold-out audience Techezaknah er at the piano), will not fi nd a way to pur- an employee’s 401(k).” in Carnegie Hall. The concert’s meld of pro- A high point of the concert was the sue composition when he matriculates at During the debate over PPACA, Nan- fessional-level chorale music; palpable love presentation of the group’s Kinor David Harvard next year. cy Pelosi, the Speaker of the House, said of Judaism and strong sense of community, Award to Rabbi Haskel Lookstein, who was Others may not become professionals, “We have to pass the bill so that you can friendship, and spirituality was a powerful given his plaque from last year’s winner of but, Mrs. Lazar said, many HaZamir gradu- fi nd out what’s in it.” She probably wasn’t testament to the success of the HaZamir or- the award, Dr. Ruth Westheimer. ates go on to sing with other groups and all thinking that one of the “fi nds” would be ganization, and, in particular, the talents of Rabbi Lookstein, who retired this year maintain a love for the kind of music and a tax-free “super account” that might be Mrs. Lazar and her husband, Matthew La- as spiritual leader of Congregation Kehilath tradition they backed up with the chorus. more attractive than an employer’s 401(k). zar, the group’s founder and leading force. Jeshurun and became Principal Emeritus of But then again, you never know what At this year’s concert, as in the past, the Ramaz School, both in New York, has Love for Israel might come from new fi nancial legisla- many of the chapter directors assumed the supported Jewish choral arts since he at- They will also carry with them a passion tion, especially after some inquisitive, out- podium to conduct the full choir in differ- tended Camp Massad and participated in for the State of Israel, a fervent devotion for side-the-box thinkers have a chance to dig ent songs, but there was no question that the Massad Choral Group, the predecessor the Jewish state they will need when they into the details. Mr. Lazar is the one in charge. He brings his of HaZamir. step foot on an increasing number of Isra- remarkable reputation as a conductor and After expressing his admiration and ap- el-hostile college and university campuses. Elozor Preil, RICP®, CLTC is Managing Director at Wealth interpreter of Jewish music to the HaZam- preciation of the group’s performance, he At the concert, it was announced that Advisory Group and Registered Representative and Fi- ir teens, and they respond by delivering a participated in a rendition of Techezaknah many of the teens from the HaZamir chap- nancial Advisor of Park Avenue Securities LLC (PAS). He commanding, robust performance. (“Be Strong”) whose words, by Chaim Nach- ters in Israel will soon be reporting for duty can be reached [email protected]. See www. Mrs. Lazar noted that, as the choir has man Bialik, have become Massad’s anthem. into the Israeli Defense Forces. In their hon- wagroupllc.com/epreil for full disclosures and dis- grown in numbers, some observers have or and for their safety, the entire chorus claimers. Guardian, its subsidiaries, agents or employ- feared the group might sacrifi ce “nuance The Future sang David Burger’s iconic setting of “Tefi ll- ees do not give tax or legal advice. You should consult and interpretation.” Those concerns were For some of the HaZamir teens, par- ah,” the prayer for the State of Israel and the your tax or legal advisor regarding your individual sit- put to rest at Carnegie Hall. The choir, in- ticipation in the choir leads to a future in men and women in uniform who take on uation. cluding its superb soloists, showed a sen- the arts. It is hard to imagine that 18-year- themselves the defense of the Jewish state. 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By Leah Koenig/Tabletmag.com der (rendered kosher if the remaining milk (excerpted and printed with permission) inside was drained out) were part of a typical Jewish menu. This is not a book about Michael Wex is not a chef. He’s not a the nouveau, artisanally enhanced Ashke- lifelong challah baker, an avid cookbook nazi cuisine that is currently enjoying a collector or even, by his own admission, cultural renaissance. But it is a book that much of a home cook. But his new book, everyone interested in that cuisine should Rhapsody in Schmaltz: Yiddish Food and familiarize themselves with. Why We Can’t Stop Eating It, might just be Wex, 61, grew up in Alberta, Canada, in the most important Jewish food book pub- an Orthodox family that spoke both Yid- lished this year. dish and English at home. Later in life he As a novelist and author of Born to shed his religious observance and went to Kvetch, a New York Times best-selling graduate school for literature, concentrat- book on Yiddish language and culture, ing on Old and Middle English, Old Norse Wex has established himself as one of and German philology. A career in anything the fi eld’s few public intellectuals—the Jewish or Yiddish was not on the agenda. Malcolm Gladwell of the Yiddish world, But when he was in his early 30s, an ad- minus the controversy. In Rhapsody in vertisement for a klezmer concert playing job if they would be interested. But when Schmaltz, he turns his attention to food, in Toronto piqued his interest. “My family I couldn’t pawn it off on someone, I be- specifi cally the nostalgic brand of cooking had been disconnected from the world of gan to think about how I might approach served forth from the hardscrabble kitch- secular Yiddish culture,” he said. “I had no it. I started from the idea that, unlike al- ens of Eastern Europe. exposure to The Workmen’s Circle and all most all other cuisines, Jewish food is de- Wex covers all the bases, devoting a of that organized stuff.” termined by religious demands that might Michael Wex PHOTO BY ZOE GEMELLI chapter to the sacred triumvirate of Yid- Before long, he tapped into the not have anything to do with geography. dish cooking (garlic, onions and schmaltz) With a delicate mix of scholarship, in- then-budding klezmer revival movement. A When it comes to Ashkenazi food, there is and another to the centerpiece and prima- sight and humor, Wex addresses the bor- musician friend told him about KlezKamp, a kind of uniformity that stretches across ry gut bomb of the traditional Shabbat ta- derline masochistic relationship Ashkenazi a (recently discontinued) annual festival for a large continent, and that has to do with ble, cholent. Cholent, he writes, is “ground Jews have with their cuisine, and the over- Yiddish and klezmer music that launched religious underpinnings. zero—the big bang, if you ask those who whelming nostalgia that, despite the indi- in 1984. It was something of a revelation. You mean like kashrut. eat it—of East European Jewish food, the gestion, keeps us coming back for more. “These were people roughly my age who Yes, kashrut is crucial and not just for primal ooze from which many of the best- He also digs up curious and fascinating tid- were playing real klezmer music. Not al- the avoidance of pork, which was the main known, most characteristic Yiddish dishes bits, like the fact that for centuries, pashtet ways particularly well, but actually doing meat in Ashkenazi areas of Europe. There emerged.” (meat pies encased in dough) and cow ud- it.” Wex realized that with his background are other aspects, like the prohibition as a native Yiddish speaker and his inter- against eating an animal’s sciatic nerve. est in studying language, he had something You can remove it, a practice that is more to add to the conversation. “The fi rst year common in Sephardic communities, but I went as a paying customer, not knowing it is very labor intensive and expensive. It anyone,” he said. “I walked out with a ca- renders the back part of the cow, which reer.” Flash forward three decades and he is considered to be the tastier end, essen- still has it. tially off limits. Kosher beef is confi ned to Recently, I spoke with Wex to fi nd the tougher front cuts like the iconic bris- out why he was keen on writing a book ket. These are cuts that benefi t from a long, about food. It turns out, he wasn’t. But his slow cooking in some kind of liquid. So, methodical and humorous-without-fall- that is an example of how a religious pro- ing-back-on-kitsch approach to the sub- hibition determines what people eat and ject—and his ability to seamlessly weave how they cook it. between Maimonides, Crisco, and The Big You write in the book that “Saturday is Bang Theory, and reference Caroline Ken- the most important ingredient to Ashke- nedy and a carrot tsimmes in the same sen- nazi cuisine.” Can you explain that? tence—makes me glad he did it anyway. Except for the delicatessen, which is a What was your inspiration for writing category unto itself, all of the signifi cant W + L BKLYN NOW OFFERS a book about food? Ashkenazi dishes have a connection with Honestly, it was my agent who fi rst Shabbat or the various holidays. Many of A FULL BAR suggested it. 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58 May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM FOOD & WINE LINK Yiddish Flavor Cheese Please!  CONTINUED FROM PREVIOUS PAGE By Shlomo Deutsch en on Shabbat. Kugel, kishke and an aura to a cuisine that is not so many other emblematic Jewish haute by any stretch of the imag- The long-awaited return of high-quality kosher foods quite literally come out of ination. You can raise grave ques- cheese is fi nally over. Mark Bodzin and his team the cholent pot. The stand-alone tions about its health benefi ts, at Vermont’s Shelburne Farm are once again taking kugel is relatively recent. Before and yet it has retained something orders for their “kosher cheese worth eating.” Due that, kugel was cooked in a spe- that makes people go on eating it. to popular demand, the cheese for this batch is cial pot that was submerged in the With gefi lte fi sh, for example, most Chalav Yisrael. Quantities are limited so order now. cholent as it simmered. These are American Jews know the stuff from Two years ago, Bodzin used the crowdfunding foods that have to be able to sit the supermarket and it doesn’t website, Kickstarter.com, to fund his fi rst batch and over a slow fl ame for almost the taste good. Relatively few people the necessary one-day Vaad HaRabonim-of-Mas- entirety of Shabbat, so you end have had real homemade or artisan sachusetts-supervised run for the cheddar. Kick- up with a lot of very brown, soft versions. But yet it has a status that starter and other crowdfunding sites have been foods. even if you don’t like it, it has to be increasing in popularity over the years as ways to Yeah, Ashkenazi cuisine isn’t on your holiday table. It wouldn’t popularize products and ideas. On Kickstarter the exactly known for its freshness feel right if it wasn’t there to com- product creator sets a fundraising goal and gives and crunch. plain about. perks at different money levels. In his case, Bodzin The 1,200 pounds of cheese have aged for a year I remember my parents making A lot of Jewish food’s appeal, I offered a pound of cheddar for $32, with the price and are now ready for orders. They have managed fun of how nobody ate fresh vege- have found, has more to do with decreasing per pound the more cheddar a consum- to lower their prices signifi cantly, with a pound tables in the old country. The old fond memories of growing up than er purchased. for just $18, half a pound for $9.50 or 10 pounds timers didn’t understand why an- the food itself. Your early sensa- The kosher foodie community loved the prod- for $100, an average of half the original Kickstart- yone would eat a raw carrot—that tions are the ones that stay with uct, with 308 backers raising more than $19,000 to er price. was for horses. One of the Yiddish you. You similarly always remem- fund the one-day run of cheddar. Originally, Bodz- Bodzin and his team at Shelburne Farms en- cookbooks I came across actually ber your fi rst kiss. Technically in had not thought he would make a Chalav Yisra- joyed the experience of making kosher cheese. stated that human beings were not speaking it probably wasn’t your el cheese, explaining on his Kickstarter campaign, In an interview last year, Shelburne Farms’ head meant to eat raw vegetables. Read- best kiss, but it is the one that gave “As of now there are no plans to make this Cha- cheese maker, Kate Turcotte, told the Jewish Link, ing that explained so much to me— you the taste. lav Yisrael, the cost is just too high. We are making “Overall, it was a really positive experience for us. they are actually doing this on pur- Also, as a person’s religious ob- 600 pounds of cheese a day; to add on the cost of We make the same cheese seven days a week, with pose! One exception was radishes, servance declines, these emblem- having two mashgiachs (one to watch the milking a very routine kind of production. The kosher pro- which were commonly dipped in atic foods tend to take on more in the day and one to watch the milking at night) duction involved only slight changes to our system schmaltz. But as far as green vegeta- meaning. They become the ex- would add another $1 to $2 per pound for each and process, but doing it allowed us to open up our bles go, they tended to avoid them. pression of who or what someone day’s run.” product to a whole new group of people who will So, why do people love the food is as a Jew. Eating them is an out- After receiving customer feedback, the most now have access to our cheese.” To order your Cha- so much? ward symbol and a way of affi rm- common request was to make a Chalav Yisrael lav Yisrael cheddar, visit www.munclearks.com. That was one of my big ques- ing something about yourself. The version of the cheddar. So in March of 2015, Bodz- tions with this book. I wanted to food becomes the stand-in for so in and his team ran their second batch of cheese, Shlomo Deutsch is a TABC work study intern at the Jewish Link. fi gure out why people attach such much of the other stuff. but this time under Chalav Yisrael supervision.

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By Bin Goldman can make you feel like someone drained all Reasons the color from the world and all the ener- There are many reasons why people Time to Change: It’s great to be part of gy from your soul, like your limbs feel like with mental illness are stigmatized. One www.time-to-change.org.uk a community. It can make lead and your brain is wading through im- is that they are perceived as dangerous. England’s biggest program to chal- you feel like you’re not penetrable fog. It can make you feel like Much of that has to do with the media, lenge mental health stigma and discrimi- alone, like you’re among you’ve lost control because you’re constant- who, whenever there is a mass shooting, nation. Take a look at their pages on Men- people who get you and ly terrorized by worries that you know are are quick to label the perpetrator “mentally tal Health and Stigma or on Personal your life experience. In a community, espe- irrational, but that just circle around you ill” (often to counter the gun control narra- Stories. Or go to their pledge wall (www. cially our various Jewish communities, you and get stronger when you try to chase tive). Another reason for the stigma is that time-to-change.org.uk/pledgewall) to see have people to turn to, who will mobilize for them away. You might also have to deal many people perceive mental illness as people’s personal pledges to do some- you and share your joys and your challenges. with side effects, sometimes serious, from less real than other illnesses and its symp- thing small to support others with mental Except when you don’t. medications that you hate, but that you de- toms are more within the person’s control. illness and to make your own. When your challenge happens to be pend on to function. So many people who In religious communities, people are more depression, anxiety, an eating disorder, suffer from mental illness feel trapped, pa- likely to look at mental illness as refl ect- Mental Health America: addiction or another emotional chal- thetic, overwhelmed or hopeless. ing some sort of moral fl aw. In many Jew- lenge, things are different. Then the peo- As if that weren’t enough, though, if you ish communities, the stigma around men- mentalhealthamerica.net/may ple around you have beliefs and atti- are battling a mental illness, you have a dou- tal illness also has a lot to do with marriage This organization promotes mental tudes that make it very hard for you to ble burden. Not only do you suffer from the and fear of introducing mental illness into health through prevention, early identifi - reach out and get help for your commu- disorder itself, but also from the stigma. You the gene pool. That means that parents and cation and intervention for those at risk. nity. As a result, most of the time you pre- might have to push through your illness and siblings of someone with an emotional dis- This link is for its Mental Health Month tend that everything is fi ne while you suf- pretend that you’re perfectly fi ne, in a way order are also stigmatized. 2016 page. Check out the infographics fer, ashamed and isolated on the inside. that no one would expect from someone linked to on the right-side menu. Also What makes this so absurd is that, wheth- with a physical illness. Because of the stig- What Can We Do? check out mentalhealthamerica.net/feels- er or not they know it, everyone has some- ma against mental illness, you might live in The most important thing we can do like, or just search Twitter for the hash- one in their life who suffers the same way. fear that someone will notice and fi gure out to reduce the stigma of mental illness is to tag #mentalillnessfeelslike, for loads of More people suffer from some form of the pain you are in. If your child has emo- talk about mental illness. For many of us, eye-opening tweets about what it’s like to mental illness every year than from the tional or behavioral problems, you may this may require going out and educating live with mental illness. fl u, and over your lifetime your chance of have to endure regular judgments, spoken ourselves about it (see sidebar for resourc- For even more resources, visit bin- having some episode is around 50/50. and unspoken, about your parenting. You es). The more that parents, educators, rab- goldman.com/awareness. The stigma against mental illness is may also have internalized the stigma from bis, leaders and everyone else talks about not a problem specifi c to the Jewish com- around you and are judging and belittling mental illness, the harder it will be for us essay for the Jewish Week on losing her son munity, nor is there evidence that it is any yourself. Perhaps, worst of all, stigma may to ignore it. We need to stop using words to suicide. However, it can’t keep being that more prevalent here than in other com- be preventing you from getting help at all, like “crazy” or “bipolar” in a pejorative way, we carry stigma against people with mental munities. We’ve made much progress something that causes people unnecessary and tell our children and everyone else to illness, but that we rely on them to take re- over the years in addressing it. However, pain and isolation and in some cases tragi- stop as well. Those with mental illness in sponsibility for standing up to end it. Now stigma is still a community issue that we cally ends in suicide. their immediate family can make home a it’s time for all of us to start talking. can only address together. May is Mental safe space where siblings or parents can Health Awareness Month, a time in which Stigma Prevalence be open about their experiences. In addi- Dr. Bin Goldman is a licensed clinical psychologist with organizations and individuals who work Stigma is everywhere. One study found tion, every one of us needs to be remind- offi ces in Teaneck and on the Upper West Side. He spe- or live with mental illness work to edu- that 70 percent of employers would hesi- ed that mental illness is real and that peo- cializes in comprehensive psychological evaluations cate the rest of us about issues related to tate to hire someone with a mental illness. ple can’t magically get over the symptoms. and psychotherapy. Dr. Goldman is also Visiting Schol- mental illness. We are also in the middle This often means that people have to keep At the same time, we need to know that ar and Clinical Psychology Supervisor at Teachers Col- of Sefi rat HaOmer, a time in which we try their illness a secret and sneak out to psy- treatment is an available, effective and re- lege at Columbia University. You can reach him at (973) to correct in ourselves the failure of Rab- chiatrist appointments for fear of losing spectable option. We also need to remem- 869-9246, [email protected], or visit his web- bi Akiva’s students to treat each other with their jobs. In our own communities, peo- ber that we have no idea how hard anoth- site, bingoldman.com. dignity. It seems like an appropriate time, ple who are dating for marriage with a er person has it before we instinctively then, to take a closer look at how the stig- known mood or anxiety disorder can have judge him or her. ma against mental illness affects us and an extremely hard time fi nding someone Over the years, different people who our fellow community members. who will date them. Even doctors demon- suffer from various forms of psychologi- The Family Link strate stigma toward mental illness. A cal problems have boldly come forward to is the 3rd issue Double Jeopardy study published just two months ago talk about their experience for the benefi t We don’t see other people’s mental found that the same doctors who effec- of the public. Some notable examples in- of every month! illness the way we would see a cast on tively help patients manage chronic physi- clude Rabbi Nathaniel Helfgot’s 2001 Jew- To advertise, call someone who’s been injured. But living cal illnesses like diabetes neglect to follow ish Action article about depression, Tem- with mental illness is hard at best, and up with their patients when their diagno- imah Zucker’s writing on eating disorders, (201) 366-9102 sometimes it can be brutal. Mental illness sis is depression. and Ruth Roth’s recent incredibly powerful

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Leah Sokoloff Nursery Noam Maps Out Israel Students Proud of Their Blue and White Yom Ha’atzmaut Celebrations Abound at Yavneh The children at The Leah Sokoloff Nursery School explored maps as they learned Yavneh Academy’s celebration for Isra- about Israel. They enjoyed celebrating with a trip to “Israel” on Thursday, Yom Haatzmaut. el’s 68th birthday was truly spectacular. The chag began with beautiful tefi lla, including Hallel, and continued with dancing; dagla- STEM, Aliyah and Lemonade nut; singing; an Israel-themed Color War for the Lower school; themed in-class activ- Defi ne Yom Ha’Atzmaut at BPY ities; Israel map fun; and a “trip” to Israel with stops at the shuk, Tel Aviv, Yerushlay- After a moving Yom Hazikaron, which chagigah, where students from grades kin- im, Tsfat, Ein Gedi and an army base. set the backdrop for expressing profound dergarten through eighth performed a spe- gratitude for Israel, Ben Porat Yosef stu- cial daglanut program. dents celebrated Israel’s 68th birthday, Yom A highlight of the day was the work of Ha’atzmaut, with great enthusiasm. Early the lemonade stand of the BPY fi fth graders, Childhood students boarded virtual fl ights who raised over $900 for Yashar LaChay- to Israel so they could explore Israel’s wa- al—an organization that supplies Israeli ter sources, the Kineret, Yam Hamelach, soldiers who serve on the front lines with and the Mediterranean Sea, through a va- necessities such as toiletries, sunscreen and riety of STEM activi- socks—and the Amit ties; these taught the Orphans and Children students about trans- Sandwich Program. porting water, using The students had water to transport been working on this products and the spe- project in their math, He’Atid Students Perform in cial characteristics of science and writing some of these bod- curricula. Throughout Honor of Yom Ha’atzmaut ies of water. The day the past few weeks also included a visit they experimented The Yom Ha’atzmaut celebrations at to the Kotel, baking with different kinds Yeshivat He’Atid began with Hallel in the pitot at a Bedouin of cups to measure ca- morning and continued throughout the day. camp, experiencing pacity, evaluated insu- The highlight of the day was Kitah Gim- army training boot lation and researched mel’s beautiful daglanut performance. camp and dining at the environmental Their well-rehearsed display was dynam- Cafe Sababa. impact of the materi- ic, energetic and moving. Not only did they Meanwhile, ele- als used. The students perform live, but the music track was a mentary and junior wrote persuasive es- mash-up between Beri Weber’s Yachad and high school students says about which the students singing Hashem Melech. The came together for tzedakah they wanted students’ ruchniut was infectious. a meaningful communal Hallel, followed the proceeds of their stand to support. The girls of class 1B celebrated Yom by dancing and daglanut. They then expe- At the end of the evening, the students Ha’atzmaut by choreographing and per- rienced the four different aliyot to Israel were gratifi ed after calculating that the forming a dance for the entire school. They (from North Africa, Europe, Ethiopia, and funds they raised will provide 750 school conceived of the concept for the dance and Russia) through interactive exhibits. Stu- lunches to children in need, or a full year with the help of the bnot sherut, their per- dents trudged through the desert, board- of lunches for four children. This effort im- formance enhanced the day. All He’Atid stu- ed boats and planes and crept under the ra- pressed Amit, which will feature the BPY dents joined together for rikudim, which dar of British Mandate troops, all to reach fi fth grade lemonade stand in the upcom- were broadcast live so parents could watch Eretz Yisrael. The day ended with a family ing issue of their magazine. the festivities. Moriah EC Students Lauren Elise Get a Taste of Israel Nursery Moriah celebrated Yom Ha’atz- Prints maut this past week. One of the day’s activities was entitled, “A Israeli Flag Taste of Israel.” Each child had the opportunity to taste a number of The 4’s class at The Lauren Elise Bier typical Israeli foods, and then fi ll Nursery School at Congregation AABJ&D out a survey chart with their prefer- prepared for Yom Ha’atzmaut in a new and ences. After the taste test, students exciting way. They used their footprints shared their opinions with their and handprints to make a larger-than-life classmates. Israeli fl ag.

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RPRY Parades for Solomon Schechter Yom Ha’atzmaut Students Travel Israel on Yom Ha’atzmaut

Schechter students celebrated Israel’s 68th birthday with classic Israeli dances in a morning rekudiyah; playing on the beach in Tel-Aviv; praying at the kotel in Jerusa- lem; fi shing in Tibe- rias; and swimming through the coral reefs of Eilat. They fl oated in the Dead Sea, drank tea in a Bedouin tent and dug for ancient treasures in a make- shift sand dune. They capped off the day with a spirited zimri- yah. RYNJ Takes Yom On Thursday May 12, students and fac- in the gym for Grades 4 through 7. Booths Ha’atzmaut Outdoors ulty of the Rabbi Pesach Raymon Yeshiva were focused on the seven species for in Edison, New Jersey, celebrated the 68th which Israel is famous. Grades 1 through birthday of the State of Israel. 3 experienced a trip to Israel, rotating Yom Ha’atzmaut began with the addi- through various classrooms that featured tion of Hallel to tefi llah. Students from experiences from kibbutzim to major cit- Early Childhood classes through Grade 8, ies in Israel. Early Childhood and kinder- dressed in blue and white, were joined by garten enjoyed their own special program parents and grandparents for a neighbor- in the Beit Midrash. hood parade. Grades 6 through 8, had lunch, pic- Before the parade kicked off, Mayor nic-style, with student guests from Yeshiv- Brill Mittler of Highland Park led the Pledge ah Netivot, Solomon Schechter Day School of Allegiance. Rabbi Daniel Loew, Head of in Marlboro, and Yeshiva at the Jersey Shore. School, recited the Prayer for the State of Students then went to Congregation Ohr To- Israel, and everyone sang Hatikvah. Singing rah for a program which included greetings and waving fl ags, students marched, and from Rabbi Jay Weinstein of the Young Isra- JKHA Celebrates Israel at 68 then returned to school for outdoor sing- el of East Brunswick, a d’var Torah given by a ing and dancing. student, and an address by Avraham Negui- The halls of JKHA were buzzing with ex- also participated in Israeli Football and in- Grade 8 hosted a Yom Ha’atzmaut fair sa, a member of the Israeli Knesset. citement, activity and celebration for Yom depth learning about the mitzvot of the Ha’atzmaut. The day began with the entire Land of Israel. school gathering to sing the Hatikvah in The JKHA students enjoyed a barbecue TABC Transitions from Yom unison. The Epstein-Stein auditorium was lunch in the perfect spring weather, further fi lled with their voices singing as one. enhancing the day’s celebrations. Hazikaron to Yom Ha’atzmaut The Lower School students spent the day touring the modern State of Israel. TABC marked Yom Hazikaron with a tack when he was six and he described the Highlights of their visit included a stop at moving program. Rabbi Adler began by trauma that the families of terrorist victims Technion University in Haifa to learn about poignantly contrasting Yom Hazikaron have to live with for the rest of their lives. magnetism, venturing to Tzfat to learn dif- with Yom Hashoah and then discuss- He praised the Koby Mandell Foundation ferent forms of artistic expression, joining ing the transition from Yom Hazikaron to for providing an opportunity for him, and Maccabi Tel Aviv in the gym, experiment- Yom Ha’atzmaut. The talmidim then heard people like him, to feel normal again. ing with salt water at the Dead Sea, build- from Evyatar Alush from Israel via Skype. Shifting emotions from sadness to ing the skyline of Jerusalem and tasting the Mr. Alush lost his father in a terrorist at- joy, TABC joined all of the religious Zion- fl avors of the seven species. ist community in celebrat- In addition, the Lower School joined ing Yom Ha’atzmaut. The together with fellow Greater MetroW- day began with the entire est Day Schools (Golda Och Academy, JEC yeshiva joining together in and Gottesman RTW Academy) to sing Ha- the singing of Hallel dur- tikvah together through a video conference ing Shacharit. Throughout and to sing yom huledet sameach to Israel. the day rebbeim focused The Middle School fi lled the atrium their shiurim on topics re- with ruach as they celebrated Israel with lated to various aspects of a chagigah, complete with festive dancing Israel. The celebrations cul- and singing. The Middle School students minated in a barbeque; the then had their time to shine on the stage students played kadur regel with the annual Kochavei Kushner talent (soccer) and kadur aff (vol- competition. The beautiful weather was leyball) on the closed off the perfect setting for team building activi- Amsterdam Avenue. ties with Rabbi Tani Prero,and the students

64 May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM SCHOOLS YOM HAZIKARON Frisch Holds Yom Hazikaron Ben Porat Yosef Commemoration Highlights Fallen Soldiers For Yom Hazikaron, Israel Memorial on Yom Hazikaron Day, Frisch held a school-wide tekes led by Dr. Tuvia Book, Director of Israel Edu- Ben Porat Yosef junior high stu- of each soldier, and the character trait cation and Advocacy, that paid tribute to dents and faculty led a deeply moving for which each soldier was known. The Israel’s fallen soldiers and those lost in ter- community-wide Yom Hazikaron Com- students conveyed the level of sacrifi ce ror attacks since the Jewish state was es- memoration Ceremony on Tuesday endured by the country that is a home tablished. night, May 10, which was at- not only for Israeli citizens, Students read poetry, sang songs and tended by almost 400 people but for all Jews worldwide. engaged in tefi llah together. At the con- from Bergen county and was Mrs. Mandel told her clusion of the program, students sang Ha- co-sponsored by One Family son’s story, expounding tikvah with the hope that Israel will know Fund, Jewish Federation of on the theme that while Principal Rabbi Ciner speaks to students on Yom no more loss and sorrow, and only joy, Northern New Jersey, Yashar the emotional burden of Hazikaron. peace and security. LaChayal and Ben Porat Yo- her loss was at times al- sef. The program comprised most unbearable, she has a performance by the students that fo- learned that it is always important to Speakers Move MTA Students cused on the experiences of four indi- continue to carry on in life and fi nd rea- vidual Israeli soldiers and their fam- sons for joy and gratitude. The evening on Yom Hazikaron ilies, and a talk by featured speaker, was a fi tting tribute to the memories Cheryl Mandel, whose son, Lt. Daniel of Israel’s fallen soldiers and victims By Bentzion Zuckier Mandel, z”l, was killed in action during of terror, and enabled the attendees to a mission in Nablus. acknowledge and express support for On Yom Hazikaron last Wednesday, Yeshi- The students presented the story those who protect and defend Israel. va University High School for Boys (MTA) conducted a program featuring four speakers who told their stories regarding the current condi- On Yom Hazikaron RKYHS tions in Israel, including unfortunate incidents of terror. Honors IDF Soldiers The fi rst speaker was Rabbi Eli Cohn who spoke generally about the importance of Yom RKYHS participated in a Hazikaron, and about taking time out of our number of different programs busy lives to remember the 23,320 lives that search for the three captured boys two sum- to commemorate Yom Haz- were unfortunately lost while defending, and mers ago, as well as his personal connection to ikaron beginning with a lim- just living in, the land of Israel. the ambush and murder of Tzahal soldier Ha- mud mishnayot, the learning Then, 10th graders Jacob Lauer and Eli Burg, dar Goldin. A clip about Hadar was shown; it of Mishna to commemorate who attended the Makor Chaim exchange pro- detailed his kidnap by Hamas militants during fallen soldiers, after which gram earlier this year and witnessed the effects an attempted ceasefi re and also elaborated on there was a musical ceremo- of terrorism fi rsthand, detailed their feelings his life and time in the army as a Givati Soldier. ny recounting stories of peo- when they learned that their friend Akiva Meir, After the speeches, the MTA choir sang the ple who gave their lives for a Makor Chaim student, experienced the trag- Israeli National Anthem, Hatikvah and Acheinu. the State of Israel. At the end ic death of his mother during a brutal terror- The program created an emotional venue for of the day, the students heard ist attack. students to refl ect on the message of Yom Haz- from alumnus Jacob Koenigson, RKY- ries of letters written by IDF soldiers Shmuli Goldis, a veteran Israeli paratroop- ikaron, and helped deepen the students’ appre- HS ‘11, who shared details about his re- and the students viewed a video com- er and coach of MTA’s baseball team, then told ciation and understanding of Israel and those cent experiences serving in the IDF. memorating the soldiers that lost their his story from Operation Protective Edge, the who lost their lives for it. The 11th grade students then shared a se- lives in Operation Protective Edge.

the years. Shneur Garb, head of The Garb TABC Work Study Students Gain Consulting Group, said, “I have had 25 TABC seniors work with my company dur- Experience in the Working World ing work study over the last 10 years. They work hard as engineers and enjoy their By Shlomo Deutsch ize the values of work ethic and integri- given me opportunities for exponential work. In fact, many of them come back to ty, and experience the satisfaction of a job growth in many facets. I get to involve my- work for me after their year in Israel, and Each year the seniors at TABC get the well done.” self with children everyday, which devel- 95 percent of my company consists of TABC unique experience of participating in TABC students Ariel Fromowitz and ops responsibility and allows me to be a students who previously worked for me in TABC’s work study program for their last Drew Stromer spoke to The Jewish Link role model so I can help ensure each child their work study programs.” Moshe Kinder- month of senior year. The work study pro- about work study’s benefi ts and learning is moving in the right direction,” Drew said. lehrer, publisher of The Jewish Link, con- gram allows them to work and learn about opportunities. veyed his satisfaction with work study par- a wide range of industries. This year TABC Ariel is using his work study to ticipants who are part of the newspaper’s seniors are working in journalism, educa- shadow a heart surgeon in order to internship program. “We give our interns tion, technology, fi tness, real estate, law determine if he would like to strive the chance to work as both writers and ed- and even farming, to name a few. The rea- to be a surgeon for his career. “For itors for our paper. They have a real hand son behind work study’s initiation many people who have an idea of what in the content that our readership read reg- years ago is twofold: as a responsibility for fi eld they would like to go into when ularly,” he said. “We get tremendous bene- educators and a benefi t to students. Direc- they grow up, work study is a great fi t as our interns not only help us over the tor of the program, Rabbi Daniel Fridman tool to see if that interest would be a course of the month they are here, but a explained, “The Talmud in Masechet Kid- good fi t,” Ariel commented. “Also, get- number have written freelance for us after dushin (29a) teaches us that a father has a ting the experience of working with Students experience farming as part of the TABC they graduated. We defi nitely see it as a bit responsibility to teach his son an occupa- non-Jews opens me up to the secular work study program. Pictured from left to right: of a training and proving ground for future tion, and issues a stern warning against fa- world since it is an environment that Ovadia Esquenazi, Yosef Muller, Yossi Hein, Zack young writers for us and for other media thers who shirk this duty. Students are, in a I do not experience in my day-to-day Greenberg, Moshe Stuart. outlets. Our interns have also helped us bet- halachic sense, children, and teachers are, life as a Jewish teenager.” “I also work in the tech department which ter understand what is going on with our in a halachic sense, parents. We have a re- Drew’s work in Manhattan Day School is good for life since it is so crucial to know teen and young adult population and we sponsibility to ensure that our students do has given him opportunities to make him- how to operate different technologies as have had numerous story ideas come out of not graduate without having a measure self a role model and learn about the tech- many companies are based off tech.” our interactions with them.” of practical experience in the workplace.” nology industry. “Working in a middle A number of employers have been wel- TABC also hopes for, “students to internal- school through the eyes of a teacher has coming to TABC work study students over  CONTINUED ON P. 67

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 65 SCHOOLS RYNJ Students Set BPY Students Plant Vegetables Their Sights on Space in Grammy’s Torah Garden RYNJ kicked off its Second Annual Sat- a working satellite dish to observe how sig- ellite Project as part of a new Space Science nals from the satellite in orbit are received Unit in fi fth grade. Rabbi Efrayim Clair and from Earth. A third station helped students Rabbi Dov Hochbaum, the school’s educa- visualize gravity, teaching students the national technologists, worked together with ture of satellites orbiting around the earth. Mrs. Penina Richman, RYNJ’s science coor- Utilizing the approach of the Maker Move- dinator, to craft a three-station program in ment that involves learning by creating, which children learned about satellites. In students practiced Next Generation Sci- doing so, the children also navigated the ence Standards in a tangible and exciting format. The RYNJ Space Science Unit incorporates key STEM (Sci- ence, Technology, Engineering, Ben Porat Yosef fourth graders took their turn working in Grammy’s Torah Garden this and Math) concepts through- week, the new vegetable garden planted by students outside the school building. In addi- out its curriculum and was de- tion to planting peas, they learned about some of the many agricultural mitzvot that apply signed by Mrs. Penina Richman, when farming in Israel, including the charitable obligations of pe’ah, leket and shich’cha. science coordinator, and Mrs. Jenni Levy, Lower School Gen- eral Studies Principal, in consul- Yeshivat Noam Middle tation with experts in the fi eld. After two years of preparation Schoolers Commemorate and design, the students are enjoying their learning. The unit Yom Hashoah culminates in the three-part program hands-on learning ex- In partnership with Facing History, Ye- never forget the atrocities against the Jewish perience, and a research paper. shivat Noam Middle School teachers led a people. Then the students split up by grade In this unit there are both tradi- meaningful program centered around the and heard from survivors and their families tional labs and computer-based theme of strength during the Shoah. The about life in Europe during the war. lab experiences. students watched a powerful video illus- Eva Grunberger Major from Nyirbator, A vital component of the trating strength and the teachers facilitated Hungary, great-grandmother of fi ve current new RYNJ science curriculum an interactive dialogue about the content Yeshivat Noam students, spoke to the sixth is the embedding of technolog- of the video. graders about surviving Auschwitz and ical skills in the study. RYNJ ed- Led by Rabbi Hagler, the students read showed the students the number imprint- ucational technologists intro- “The Acceptance” which is a commitment to ed on her arm. She shared with the stu- duced the new unit and taught dents her memories and the importance of students how to utilize Google living a Jewish life. Spreadsheets to chart key infor- Fran (Fay) Malkin spoke to the eighth mation and patterns in space. graders and shared with them the docu- topic of how a GPS systems work. One sta- Mrs. Richman, after conducting exten- mentary fi lm about her family. Michael tion used compasses to replicate GPS tri- sive research and attending Next Genera- Katz, a parent of Noam alumni, spoke to angulation. This session helped students tion Science conferences with the Bergen the seventh grades and Morah Esther Feil understand how a GPS system can locate County Supervisors and Principal Associa- spoke with the fi fth graders. where a person is on a map in real time. tion and visiting Fair Lawn Public Schools, The eighth graders put on a dramatic Another station allowed children to build oversaw the creation of the unit. production about the Shoah for the middle school students during the day, and for their parents and the larger commu- TABC Sights Mercury nity in the evening. At the culmination of the production, the students divided into in Transit various rooms and each presented the story of a survivor. Under the creative and ar- At TABC, Dr. Berman’s 11H Physics class had tistic expertise of Rebecca Lopkin and Ye- the opportunity to make a bracha of “oseh maas- shivat Noam eighth grade history teacher, eh Bereishit,” per Rabbi Adler’s psak, over the Rabbi Jeremy Hellman, the students creat- viewing of the transit of Mercury in front of the ed a living museum using art, poetry, nar- sun. Less than once a decade, Mercury, the clos- rative and artifacts from Europe to bring est planet to the sun, passes between the earth each story to life. and the sun, in a confi guration visible to us in New Jersey. May 9, 2016 was one of those few occasions. The event was viewed using a ten MTA Participates in Gift inch diameter refl ecting telescope made safe using a 10,000 times light reducing fi lter. Students of Life’s Senior Swab viewed the event at magnifi cations of 57 times, 70 times, and 150. By Mendel Weintraub der to receive a self-swabbing kit on their 18th birthday. Dozens of students partici- On Tuesday, May 10, Yeshiva University pated, as MTA joined over 10 yeshiva high YBH Students Witness High School for Boys (MTA) juniors and sen- schools involved in this special project. iors participated in the Gift of Life’s Senior Senior Swab was the fi nal Arista project Planetary Phenomenon Swab program. Senior Swab administers run by this year’s senior class. DNA swabbing of eligible high school stu- Dr. Zalman Berger, a renowned scientist dents for the purpose of adding them to a and grandfather of a YBH student, showed lifesaving bone marrow donor registry. The the second grade boys a rare phenomenon program is in memory of Dr. Michael Os- known as the transit of Mercury, the move- band, former Chief of Pediatric Hematolo- ment of the planet as it passes between gy and Oncology at Boston Medical Center, Earth and the Sun. They were able to see who spent his life caring for sick children this unusual event—that occurs only once and their families. every ten or more years—through two high While students below 18 years of age powered telescopes Dr. Berger set up in his were unable to have their cheeks swabbed, backyard. they were able to submit information in or-

66 May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM SCHOOLS Ma’ayanot STEM Class Yavneh Students Don Tours Bloomberg Teaching Hats By Shalva Faber ‘18 food. Instead they stay in the building and Yavneh Academy recently hosted a socialize, which promotes unity and idea group of two dozen teachers from DJLN, On Monday, May 9, the Ma’ayanot building. Some items are specially marked Digital Jewish Learning, from the Miami STEM class visited Bloomberg L.P. to fur- as health-food snacks, to demonstrate that area. These educators came to the New ther learn about the roles of women in the the company cares about its employees’ York-New Jersey area to see digital learn- technology industry. Bloomberg has been well-being. ing and integration in action. The educa- described by Business Insider magazine— After the tour and snacks, the Ma’ayanot tors spent an afternoon at Yavneh Academy when referring to its branch which collects students had a panel discussion with three where they visited classrooms using tech- and sells fi nancial data—as “the most suc- Bloomberg employees—including Ms. Kau- nology to enhance and expand the learn- cessful technology company ever started in fman Gulko ‘01—who are Orthodox Jewish ing. They witnessed robotics in kindergar- New York City.” ten and online research skills in Grades 1 The trip was organized through 3. Additionally, they viewed Inter- by Ma’ayanot alumna Michal active Nearpod lessons in third grade, on- with a small group of middle school stu- Kaufman Gulko ‘01, an Appli- line learning of Ivrit and a blended model dents. The students were able to share in- cation Specialist of OTC de- math classroom in fourth grade. In Mid- novative projects they had created either rivatives at Bloomberg, in dle School, the seventh grade science class by coding or by 3D print design using an conjunction with Ma’ayanot students were creating mitosis videos af- online CADD program. The Yavneh Mak- co-directors of STEAM (the A ter learning the science and technology les- erSpace was also an engaging topic dis- is for art) Education and In- sons through online videos which were cussed. Middle school students were able novation, Mrs. Gila Stein and prepared by their classroom teachers. to articulate to the educators how tech- Mrs. Orly Nadler, Yet the highlight of the visit was cer- nology has enhanced and enriched their The students were given tainly the conversation these teachers had learning at Yavneh Academy. a tour of the building and learned about women working in the high-tech world, how its architecture ties into the compa- and who achieved a balance between their ny’s culture. One of the fi rst things they no- personal and professional lives. They ex- Assemblyman Joe Lagana ticed was that the indicators on the eleva- plained the importance of computer cod- tor for up and down lit up in red and green, ing and computer science, and to not Visits Yeshivat Noam the same way that stocks indicate and in- let it’s diffi culty intimidate the students. crease and decrease. They suggested some computer languag- One of the goals of the company is es, which are good starting points, includ- transparency —the idea that everyone is ing C++, Java and JavaScript. The students in the know on what is happening there. also learned about the Terminal, a comput- They achieve this in their offi ce design by er system that Bloomberg L.P. provides to having an open fl oor plan, with no cubi- clients for a fee, which enables profession- cle walls. Conference rooms, which require als in fi nance and other industries to access some privacy, have glass walls. To demon- the Bloomberg professional services. With strate its concern for the employees’ wel- this tool, users can monitor and analyze re- fare, there are 33 fi sh tanks in the building, al-time fi nancial market data and buy and to bring fortune and good luck. sell in the electronic marketplaces. New Jersey State Assemblyman Joe Union Advocacy Center. According to Ariel- The students also got to enjoy some of After the trip the students had a much Lagana, who represents the 38th district, la Noveck, the North Jersey Field Director the employee perks, including snacks. The better understanding of what life is like in spent the morning at Yeshivat Noam meet- for Teach NJS, “Our goal is to increase state reason there are so many snacks is so that the corporate world of high-tech, and how ing and greeting students, staff and par- funding to gain parity in core education- employees don’t need to leave work to get to navigate it as Orthodox Jews. ents. Assemblyman Lagana toured the cam- al programs and services for all non-public pus, addressed the students and answered schools.” questions about education affordability spe- Assemblyman Lagana has taken an ac- Frisch Juniors Tracking cifi cally, and local government in general. tive role in supporting non-public school “I regularly try to visit with businesses, funding in the Assembly and is now advo- Presidential Primary Race schools and organizations throughout dis- cating for the State Senate to approve a re- trict 38 to ensure I am hearing from my con- cent bill raising the funding for non-public Mrs. Kaplan’s junior classes have been stituents on the issues that matter most to schools. Currently, Yeshivat Noam receives working on an interactive and in-depth them where they live and work,” said Assem- $25 per student from the state for security year long presidential primary project. blyman Lagana, “and in that light, today’s funding and the current bill would increase Students have been tracking the rac- visit at Yeshivat Noam reaffi rmed my strong that amount to $144. es of the candidates vying to become the belief that we must continue to improve According to Nathan J. Lindenbaum, who presidential nominees for the Democratic school security for all New Jersey children.” is a Yeshivat Noam founder, board member and Republican parties. Working in groups, The opportunity was initiated and di- and a committee chair of Teach NJS, “Advo- they created web pages—under the guid- rected by Teach NJS which is a partnership cacy is about community activism. We need ance of Rabbi Pittinsky, Director of Edu- of 20 Jewish Day Schools, including Yeshi- to show our local elected offi cials that we cational Technology—for their respective vat Noam, the Jewish Federation of North- appreciate the work they are doing and we candidates that included links, videos, doc- ern New Jersey, the Jewish Federation of need to make calls, visits and emails to make uments, pictures, cartoons, polling results Junior Pamela Abraham crosses out candidates the Heart of New Jersey and the Orthodox our voices heard as a community.” and more. As candidates dropped out, stu- as they drop out of the race. CREDIT BETTY KAPLAN dents wrote political obituaries and were The assignment furthered the political as Rabbi Fridman said, “The Midrash notes assigned to track a different candidate still education of Frisch students, many of whom TABC Work Study Students Gain that just as we are commanded to rest on in the race. will soon be eligible to vote for the fi rst time. Experience in the Working World the seventh day, we are commanded to  CONTINUED FROM P. 65 work for six days. The Talmud in Masechet Parents also love the perks that their Shabbat (31a) relates that the fi rst question Moriah Third Graders Donate children are gaining through the work any of us have to answer upon arriving at study program. Banji Ganchrow (aka Mom the heavenly tribunal is whether or not he Bears to Israeli Children #1) expressed how son #1 (‘14) and son #2 conducted himself honestly in business. (‘16) as well as other students profi t from There is great dignity in work, and there Moriah third graders collected about 150 stuffed the work study program, “Work study pro- is no greater blessing than fi nding work animals to donate to Bears from Bergenfi eld. The vides students with an introduction to the which speaks to one’s interests, abilities, stuffed animals will be sent to Israel to children real world environment of employment and values. We deeply hope that each stu- who are ill and to victims of abuse and terror. and being out of school gives them the feel- dent will fi nd a rewarding career … which Student Abby Gertzulin spearheaded this pro- ing of having more freedom and puts their will enable him to support his family.” ject. It was her own idea to hold a stuffed animal senioritis to good use,” she said. toy drive and Mrs. Pekhet helped her actualize the TABC’s work study program has been Shlomo Deutsch is a TABC work study intern at the Jew- vision. successful for more than the last 18 years. ish Link.

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By Shana Adler ‘16 the website:http://www.midnightrun.org/ hours sorting and packing the clothing This run would not have been as suc- index.php) into boxes by size and clothing type, so cessful as it was without generous dona- Last Thursday night, Led by faculty adviser Ms. Caryn Keller, that items could be easily located and tions from Sammy’s, Cedar Market, Grand thirteen Ma’ayanot and Ma’ayanot Chesed Committee heads given out on the night of the Run. Along & Essex, Target, Trader Joe’s and Dunkin Do- students, two facul- Shana Adler ‘16 and Tamar Even-Hen ‘16, the with Ms. Keller, students also made sand- nuts. Each of these stores donated a large ty members and one group distributed clothing, toiletries, and wiches and put them in brown paper amount of food and other necessities that alumna traveled to New food to members of the homeless com- bags with granola bars, fruit, hard-boiled made this mission possible. York City to participate munity at various stops around the city. At eggs, and Munchkins to distribute with Participating in this Midnight Run mis- in Ma’ayanot’s ﬁ rst ever each stop, men and women were able to water bottles and hot coffee. sion afforded each student a new perspective Midnight Run mission. Midnight Run is pick the clothing and toiletries that they Third grade students at the Moriah as to how lucky they are and how much they an organization through which volunteer wanted from among various shampoos, School also played a big role in helping take for granted. Chana Fisch ‘16 remarked, groups package donated goods and dis- toothpaste, lotions, shirts, sweatshirts, the Ma’ayanot Chessed Committee pre- “Midnight Run was truly a heartwarming ex- tribute them to homeless people in New pants and the like. pare for this mission. A few weeks ago, the perience, and I am honored to have been a York City late in the night. This distribu- To prepare for this mission, the children packed boxes that they had deco- part of it. The fact that we were able to give tion of goods gives homeless individuals Ma’ayanot Chessed Committee ran a rated with soap, shampoo, toothpaste, and each person something (or a few things!) that access to clothing, food and other neces- clothing drive, and received hundreds of other necessities, so that the Ma’ayanot would help them to live that much more eas- sities that they would not otherwise have. articles of clothing to distribute on the students could distribute these boxes to ily, and the gratitude they showed, made the (To learn more about Midnight Run, visit night of the run. Students then spent the homeless. night both unique and special.”

Local Students Shine at ChidonHaTanach National Finals  CONTINUED FROM P. 13 ist. Liev Markovich, of The Moriah School, said he spent an hour each week studying with the Moriah Chidon program and then more time studying on his own, giving up time he would have spent playing video games or watching TV. Conversely, Uri- el Simpson of Yeshivat Noam reported he had a more diffi cult time carving out prep time because he was spending a great deal of time doing his own bar mitzvah prep and attending the smachot of friends during their collective bar mitzvah year. To create more free time, he took a break from his sports activities for the year: hockey, The 150 national fi nalists at Manhattan Day School. PHOTO COURTESY OF DAVID KHABINSKY. basketball and tennis. The only activity he didn’t give up was guitar, which was a great put in one and a half hours a week at home. While he has had students participating success. We hope and pray he continues distraction and provided a break from the He said that the practice tests adequately in the national fi nals for the past fi ve years, his devotion to learning Torah and fi nding intense Chidon prep, his parents told The prepared him for the exam and he looks this is the third year working with students meaning and inspiration in that endeavor.” Jewish Link. Simpson, as well as the other forward to participating next year. going to the international competition in Uriel Simpson’s father Mordy also had two Noam national fi nalists Yehuda Mazin It’s impossible to talk about the many Israel. However, that is not how he meas- a meaningful experience studying with and Eli Nat, spent a signifi cant amount of Passaic students in the Chidon compe- ures his success. “I tell all my students that his son. time being coached by Rabbi Elie Kurtz. tition without mentioning one name: they are winners just by the fact that they “I can honestly say that I learned more The RYNJ Chidon program has been Ruby Stepansky. Mr. Stepansky has run a participated in the learning, over and above Tanach studying with Uriel than I learned coached by Morah Sharon Motechin free Sunday Chidon prep program for in- their school curriculum,” he added. in all my years at school and college! The for many years, now with Rabbi Yehuda terested, committed students for the past Nechama Reichman, daughter of Engle- level of detail and knowledge of Tanach Herbst. Morah Motechin, also an earlier fi ve years, primarily for local Passaic-based wood and East Hill Synagogue’s Rabbi Zev that the kids gain from studying for the coach of national runner-up Nechama Re- students, but he has been sought out by and Rebbetzin Chana Reichman, thanked Chidon is truly remarkable,” he told The ichman, who is an RYNJ alumna, shared a number of top-ranking Bergen County Morah Motechin of RYNJ, noted the “end- Jewish Link. students in recent years. In ad- less dedication” of Stepansky and dition to separate Sunday ses- said that Manhattan High School sions for boys and girls, he offers for Girls has given Nechama great fl exibility for other free coach- study skills and a drive for academ- ing sessions by student request. ic excellence. During the past fi ve years, he The Reichman family also felt has coached many national fi - the burden and weight of history as nalists. This year, he noted hav- their daughter competed. “We feel ing worked with high scorers blessed that a family whose ances- Nechama Reichman, Esther Wer- tors suffered the indignities of the blowsky, the fourth-place high Shoah, now has a daughter who is school runner-up, and he also playing an active role in celebrat- spent a session or two with na- ing the gift of the Jewish state’s in- tional middle school winner Uri- dependence. While she took her el Simpson. Because of Stepan- test she held on her lap the siddur Uriel Simpson, national middle school champion from Liev Markovich of The Moriah School, poses with his sky’s review sessions, it’s also not of her great-great-great-grandmoth- Yeshivat Noam, with his parents Mordy and Loren. PHOTO certifi cate. PHOTO COURTESY OF EDWARD MARKOVICH. a surprise that YBH, which is lo- er Mrs. Emma Prinz, o.b.m., who COURTESY OF DAVID KHABINSKY. some thoughts on the dedication and qual- cated in Passaic, sent six national fi nalists passed away in Bergen-Belsen.” “Because he did the Chidon last year, ity of RYNJ’s Chidon competitors. “We to the competition, including Tzviki Neg- Teaneck’s Rabbi Nathaniel Helfgot, rab- it defi nitely helped him pace himself this meet during lunch two times a week. Our newitzky, son of Jewish Link staff member bi of Congregation Netivot Shalom, shared year to cover all the material in a time- students display a tremendous amount of Adam Negnewitzky. his and his wife Rachel Brenner’s perspec- ly manner. I’m really proud of all the hard commitment and dedication by giving up “My mode of operating is like eat- tive on their son Shlomi’s high school win, work and dedication that he put into his two lunch periods a week and devoting ing an elephant (assuming that it was ko- not forgetting that their son Ephraim also Torah studies,” said Loren Simpson, Uriel’s countless hours at home. They have ac- sher): One bite at a time,” he told The Jew- competed as a national fi nalist: “Shlomi mother. quired a vast knowledge of the books that ish Link. I try to pace the students so that worked really hard for the last few months, Dovi Nadel, the national coordinator we studied together and we are very proud it’s not overwhelming. I try to teach/review often getting up at 5:30 a.m. and reviewing of the American Chidon Ha’Tanach, asks of them,” she said. not only the material but tangential topics Tanach for two hours before he went off that if any individual or school is looking Tzvi Ginsberg, an RYNJ student, shared related to the material—Hebrew grammar, to school. We are so happy to see that his to get involved in the contest or would like that he studied with Rabbi Herbst during phrases which might be used in prayer, oth- commitment, hard work and dedication al- to learn more, they can be in contact with lunch two to three times a week, and also er Jewish texts,” Stepansky said. lowed him to learn so much and to achieve him at dovin@jafi .org.

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built their lead to 21. With 9:38 to play, Noam 6B Tree Point abandoned the zone and switched to a suffocating man-to-man Basketball MGBL Minute defense. The lead was cut to 15 (54-39) This week’s spotlight game takes us to The fi rst half was back and forth, but would not get any closer as Heichal Champs! the Storm Center, at the Torah Academy of Heichal took a quick lead but Tree Point Hatorah remains undefeated by a fi nal Bergen County. On Tuesday night may 17 stuck with them, going into the half score of 60-44. two undefeated teams, Heichal HaTorah down 8 points, 29-21. In addition to more exciting Men’s and Tree Point Play, matched up, know- In the second half Tree Point strug- Basketball, the High School league started ing that only one squad would leave the gled to fi nd their shot, unable to score last weekend. Go to the MGBL site mgbl. game with a 1 in the loss column. until the 12-minute mark; Heichal org to see complete schedules.

Congratulations to the Yeshivat Noam Knights 6B team on their victory on Sunday. The Knights completed the Yeshivat Noam sweep of the YMSSA 6th Grade Basketball Super Sunday with an MGBL Mens League Rothenberg Law Firm impressive 50-34 victory over Moriah. MGBL Mens league Camp Shalom Grey Team Injurylawyer.com team MGBL Mens League team Shaare Orah Additional coverage on the game will appear in next week’s edition. MTA Soccer MTA Repeats as Weiselberg Lions Update Tournament Sponsor Lions Suff er Disappointing The Martin Weiselberg Memo- ing achieved eight varsity titles in given how many of their students rial Tournament is proud to an- the league’s 36 year span. Of the ten have participated, and we are excit- Defeat, But Head to Playoff s nounce that for the second consec- tournament Most Valuable Play- ed at their continuing presence utive year, the event has fostered a er awards, three have gone at our event,” says tourna- By Ariel Dubizh ior David Pando and junior partnership with the Marsha Stern to eventual Lions play- ment director Elliot Wei- Ariel Feuerstein. Talmudical Academy/MTA. Last year, ers, more than any oth- selberg. “We hope that On Tuesday May 10, the In the third quarter, MTA MTA became the fi rst Yeshiva High er high school. These the connection be- MTA soccer team fi nally got continued to press, but SAR School in the decade-long existence include current MTA JV tween the Martin Wei- the chance to play managed to come of the event to become a sponsor Head Coach Noah Isaacs, selberg Memorial Tour- SAR on home turf. back and tie the and The Martin Weiselberg Memori- as well as Ami Rosenfeld, nament and MTA will The game started game 5-5. From al Tournament is honored to be as- who won the award twice; help our event reach new with a goal by fresh- then on, the fi ght sociated with a school with such a his two older brothers, Eitan heights on both the compet- man Hudy Weiss, continued, but un- rich and long-standing hockey tradi- and current MTA Varsity Head Coach itive and charitable levels in our which initiated fortunately, SAR tion as MTA. Gabe, both Lions players, each won quest to aid Hatzolah.” MTA’s lead. MTA continued to came out victorious, by a fi - An original member of the Met- All-Tournament team awards during The 2016 Martin Weiselberg Me- charge on, managing to come nal score of 9-7. ropolitan Yeshiva High School Hock- their years of participation. morial Tournament will take place up with a two point lead (5-3) This Tuesday, the MTA Li- ey League, MTA, Yeshiva Univer- “MTA continues to shine as an this coming Sunday, May 22, from at the end of the half; the suc- ons look forward to their fi rst sity’s High School for Boys, is one example in recognizing how mean- 9:30 a.m.-6:30 p.m. at Yeshiva Har To- cess came from goals by sen- playoff game versus DRS. of the winningest programs, hav- ingful the tournament is to the kids, rah in Bellerose, Queens.

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201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 69 SPORTS Gotham Burger Sportstar Ma’ayanot Hockey Impresses of the Week Yehuda Brinn on Way to Playoffs The Jewish Link of New Alexander Ovechkin, he’s By Jen Sanders teams have competed so much in the past Jersey and Gotham Burg- just the best player in the that the players greet each other with hugs er would like to recognize game. I learnt everything I This year’s Ma’ayanot Rapids hock- and smiles. Once the clock started though, Frisch Junior Yehuda Brinn know from watching him ey team is an especially young team. With the smiles were gone and it was gameface as this week’s Sportstar of play. only two seniors and a handful of juniors, time. Sophomore, Ayelet Marder knocked the Week. The 16-year-old What is your pre game the Rapids’ underclassmen have played a in the fi rst goal for the Rapids. Frisch an- Brinn, had a standout sea- meal? critical role in the team’s success. Tuesday swered back with a goal in the fi rst period. son for the Cougars, one Noodles, banana. Noodles night May 10 against the Westches- highlight of the season gives me that boost of energy ter Wolverines was no exception as was his hat trick in the to play. And the bananas help the contributions of freshmen and quarterfi nals game. Brinn’s me with my cramps. sophomores were instrumental in amazing season didn’t end What is your earliest sports leading the Rapids to victory. Ayelet when the playoffs did, he memory? Marder ’18 opened up the scoring was at it again last month My championship hock- in the fi rst period with a shot from at the Semmelman All Star ey game in seventh grade. It near the mid-court line that eluded game. At the game Brinn Brinn displays his trophy. went into double overtime the Westchester goalie. Late in the three-peated as the hardest and we lost. Even though we fi rst period, Jolie Levart ’18 scored shot champion with a 99 lost, it was the best hockey and the Rapids led 2-0 at the fi rst in- mph shot. game I ever played. termission. Yehuda congrats on a What is your favorite sports In the second period, Chaya Ross ’19 as- The third period was just as intense. great season and continu- memory? sisted on a goal by Avigayil Shapiro ’16 and Goalie Kayla Kalb had dozens of saves to ing your reign as the MYH- Scoring 3 goals in quarter- Chaya later scored a goal of her own to help keep the Rapids close. Luckily Jolie SAL’s hardest shooter. JLNJ fi nals against Rambam. Hav- bring the score to 5-0. Sandwiched between Levart scored the second goal for the Rap- would like to ask you about ing lost to them last year in those two goals, Jolie Levart ’18 scored her ids with co-captain Rebecca Malech’s as- yourself and your hockey the semis, coming back to second goal of the night. sist, making the score 2-1. With seconds left, career: their house and scoring a hat The defense was stellar as well, limit- Frisch knocked in their second goal, tying Who is your role model? trick and that feeling of win- ing Westchester’s scoring opportunities. it up. In sudden death overtime, the Cou- Rabbi Morris is my role ning the overtime goal was Goalies Kayla Kalb ’18 and Shoshana Klein gars were very eager to continue their ral- model because he always unreal. ’18 did not allow a goal all night. Shosha- ly. The Rapids, however, would not permit teaches me to do the right The Gotham Burger Sport- na made a superb save on a slapshot with that to happen. With another key assist things and he’s probably Brinnn wins his third straight star of the Week will receive a 2 minutes remaining in the game to pre- from Malech, junior captain Michal Rosen- our hockey team’s biggest hardest shot competition at $10 gift certifi cate to Gotham serve the shutout. feld knocked the game winner. fan. 99 mph. Burger. Please send nominees On Thursday, May 12 the Frisch Cougars The Rapids are the third seed in their Who is your favorite professional ath- for next week’s Gotham Burger Sportstar of came to Ma’ayanot to play the last game division and play at HAFTR on Sunday, lete? the Week to [email protected]. of the season before the playoffs. These May 22. Yiddle League Regular Season Continues Despite weather more befi tting football games, Yiddle League continued its regular season this past Sunday. While many boys donned sweatshirts to cope with howling winds and temperatures in the 50’s, some boys manned-up and stuck to their short- sleeve uniform. Prior to the games though, Yiddle League sportsmanship and derech eretz was at its fi nest as Moshe Pomper and Chayim Skulnick, two of the top third graders, agreed to transfer from a team featuring their classmates in order to balance out the 3rd grade teams. The games were competitive throughout the numerous divisions, but none more so than one of the 4th/5th grade games that featured a walk-off Chaim Skulnick Moshe Pomper homerun.

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Mia Kaplan behind the plate Elisheva Katz at the plate for Ma’ayanot. as Andy Rudin calls the balls Yiddle League Pre1A YYL Camp Regesh Rangers, CREDIT SHALVA FABER Ma’ayanot varsity soccer team. and strikes. Rangers player at bat. Daniella Nussbaum is locked in.

TBO Team Jewish Link won 8-7 on Wed. on a walkoff YYL Zadies Bake Shop Brewers single by Joey Weisberg in a tough game against the Yonah Hook delivers the pitch Teaneck Southern Knights CREDIT DOV HOOK Yiddle Leaguer Dovid Yaakov Goldberg fi res to fi rst YYL CoolKippahs.com Cardinals Abramoff admiring his shot. for his Yiddle League team. Daniel Stempel on the hill.

YYL Morre-Tec Industries Inc YYL Valley Brook Veterinary Tigers discuss Yeshivat Noam fans cheering, as the Knights Blue Jays, Moshe Zelig and YYL Links Residential-Nina Eizikovitz Indians, Esti strategy. CREDIT DOV HOOK sweep sixth grade championship Sunday. Jonathan Billauer. Distenfeld keeps her eye on the ball. Ma’ayanot Rapids Softball Defeat Cougars and Sting in Doubleheader

By Shalva Faber ‘18 While Frisch did get three runs in the What: Zack Rosen Basketball Camp fi rst inning, Ma’ayanot was able to hold Who: Sunday, May 15 was an eventful day them in that position for the rest of the Boys Entering Grades 5–12 for the Ma’ayanot softball team. At 12 p.m. game. Tali Antosofsky and Elisheva Katz When: Ma’ayanot played against Frisch, and fol- made incredible plays in the fi eld, and Noa August 23rd – August 26th (Session 1) lowed that up with a game against SAR at pitched an excellent game. August 29th – September 1st (Session 2) 8 p.m. Before Ma’ayanot games start, it is This was an incredible start to the Where: customary to have one of the team seniors doubleheader, with a much needed few Yeshivat Noam, 70 West Century Road, Paramus, NJ lead the players in some pre-game pump hour break between each game. It was Staff includes: up. We call this, the “I believe.” Gabi Lerner now time to go up against SAR, an unde- Rabbi Gary Beitler, Rabbi Jonathan Kessel Cost: ’16 led the team in the cheer, which helped feated team. $399 / Session (includes lunch and ZRBC gear) ready the players for the game, along with While not much happened in the fi rst their Easton blue bat. couple of innings, Mia Nissel ’19 and Eli- sheva Katz made excellent plays in the fi eld. In the second inning Noa made a stu- pendous catch. Because we can’t get enough of our amazing catcher Sarah, go fi gure that she would make an incredible catch at home. With the help of our astonishing trifec- ta of captains—Elisheva Katz, Sima Zand and Noa Applebaum—the Rapids devised a master plan. While the plan is kept as secret as the Coca-Cola recipe, I can say that one lesson learned was to wait for the per- ZRBC Tali Antosofsky makes the play from third fect pitch. base. CREDIT SHALVA FABER The game then came to a close, leaving In the fi rst inning bases were load- SAR with their fi rst loss of the season, and Attitude on 3… ed when Sima Zand ’16, the birthday girl Ma’ayanot winning 3-2. This is the second (cue the music), was hit by a pitch, bring- time Ma’ayanot has beaten the undefeated My name is Zack Rosen and I’m excited to announce that coming off of a dynamic, uplifting, all-around unbelievable inaugural ing home Adina Rosenberg ’16. Up next was Sting, as just last year the Rapids toppled experience last summer, ZRBC is back for two sessions this summer. Each session will be jam-packed with games, contests, Tali Antosofsky ’18 who hit a two-run dou- them in the championships. EJ@ERE@Q=HEVA@OGEHHSKNGKQPO łHIOAOOEKJO REP=IEJO LNKIKRAO LNEVAO =J@IQ?DIKNA2OEJC>=OGAP>=HH=OPDAIA@EQI ble, bringing home Elisheva Katz ’16 and While there were snow-like conditions we will internalize how to translate what we learn from playing the game on the court, to playing the real game, the game Noa Applebaum ’17. Sarah Berman ’18, our the entire day, it was wonderful to have so of life, off the court. Encouraging a teammate, sharing the ball, playing to your strengths, dealing with adversity, being coachable- it’s all there within the lines. The guys who join me at the end of the summer will improve in ways that they never prized catcher, brought in two more runs many family members and friends come thought possible and they will walk out of their ZRBC experience better players, and more importantly, better people. I’m with an incredible triple. She came home out to cheer on the Rapids. Some came to ecstatic for camp. I’m excited to coach. And I’m eager to help guys realize their potential. See you on the court! when Danielle Pasternack ’17 singled her in. celebrate Sima’s birthday, complete with The fi rst inning put the Rapids in an incred- balloons and cake. To contact Zack, email [email protected] ible position, leading with 6 runs. Lesson learned. You can’t Sting a Rapid. To register, visit www.zackrosenbasketballcamp.com

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Esther Shayowitz Odeliah Weissmann Real Estate Agent at V & N Realty Real Estate Agent at Prominent Properties (201) 692-3700 • (201) 638-5858 • [email protected] (201) 568-5668 • (201) 561-2612 • [email protected] Find a trustworthy real estate professional that has the knowledge, It’s all about relationships - relationships this agent has with other skills and personality that matches your needs. Look for someone agents and most importantly with previous clients and with you. who sells homes locally and understands the local market trends. Responsiveness is a very big key to maintaining that relationship. Because you’ll be working so closely on such a big transaction, the You need to know your agent is there when you need them. It’s very relationship you have with your agent should be one of comfort important to have a steady stream of communication throughout this and trust. process. Additionally, understanding each clients individual needs and really internalizing that to either market your home properly or help you find the home that’s right for you. That trust is what you are looking for.

Kathleen Bertinato Edyie Rosenfeld Real Estate Agent at Weichert Realtors Real Estate Agent at Russo Real Estate (201) 592-1400 • (201) 954-6728 • [email protected] (201) 837-8800 • (201) 647-9716 • [email protected] First thing, you want to make sure they are a full-time agent. Homebuyers may spend as much money on their real estate agent as on This gives sellers the confidence they will be focused on selling their car, but many will choose their agent in less than an hour. Choose their home. Make sure they are professional, honest, that they your agent wisely. You want someone who knows the local market in know the market, and they have a good online presence. Sellers your target neighborhoods. Look for expertise not just eagerness. should check reviews and testimonials of what others thought about working with them.

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201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKNJ.COM May 19, 2016 • 11 Iyar, 5776 75 REAL ESTATE Considering Downsizing Your Living Space? By Susan Lowensteiner- are continuously monitored via closed cir- showers, gym, weight room, yoga-pilates not submitted in an orderly fashion, the ap- Magot, Sales Associate, Vera cuit TV. The building also has a 24-hour secu- studio, computer game room, golf simula- plication will not be reviewed and an addi- & Nechama Realty Group LLC rity, compactor, doorman, elevator, exercise tion facility, screening room. In addition an tional $150 will be charged. The Admissions room, on-site management, children’s play Outdoor play area, BBQ grill stations with Committee meets once a month. The re- What options for area, outdoor pool, recycling valet. Century community and private dining area, movie sults of the interview and the recommen- downsizing are available Tower is the ideal residence for the 21st cen- screen, great lawn, fi re pit, outdoor sports within the Bergen Coun- tury living. court, 81 foot long infi nity pool. The Mod- ty area? What are the amenities of The Colony, ern of Fort Lee located at 800 Park Ave- There are quite a few! One option is 1530 Palisade Avenue? nue, is a rental building. Therefore an appli- Fort Lee, which is minutes from the George The Colony is a modern, luxury apart- cant must go to their Leasing Offi ce located Washington Bridge and Manhattan, and ment building with numerous amenities in- within the building. a short ride on Route 4 East from Bergen- cluding doorman, indoor and outdoor pool, What is the application protocol for the fi eld and Teaneck. Co-op apartments, such Jacuzzi, sauna, gym, laundry facilities, newer Century Tower, located at 1600 Parker Av- as those in the Century Tower and the Colo- enue, and The Colony, located at 1530 Pali- ny, offer smaller homes within walking dis- sade Avenue? tance of the Young Israel shul on Parker Av- The application process may vary from enue. The Fort Lee community is also home one co-op building to another. The Cen- The Colony to a Sephardic Orthodox congregation on tury Tower, application process involves a dations of the Admissions Committee are Center Avenue, which is near Main Street $500 fee. The application and processing made at the next scheduled meeting of the and the business district. The Abbott Street fee, which is submitted to the Managing Board of Directors. In general, applications Chabad House near Palisades Avenue at the Agent, is reviewed by the Committee. Upon take (4) weeks to process, or a total of close southern end of Fort Lee is another option. completion of the fi nancial review, which to two (2) months from submitting applica- The co-op buildings of the Century Tow- should take approximately one week, the tion until fi nal approval. There is a charge of er, located on Parker Avenue and The Colo- applicant will be called for an interview $110, for a parking space. Prospective buyers ny located on Palisade Avenue are two pop- Century Tower with all of the potential occupants required should be aware of all the requirements of ular choices. A new rental building, The screening room, 24-hour security, common at the interview. The board will then act on the different co-op buildings located within Modern, located on Park Avenue, is another area, community room, compactor, elevator, their recommendations in a timely manner. the community of Fort Lee. option. Bergenfi eld and Teaneck area restau- exercise room, health club, full-time handy- There is a charge of $90 for a parking space. rants also offer home delivery service. man, on site management, private outdoor The Colony requires completed applica- Susan Lowensteiner-Magot, of Vera-Nechama Realty What are the amenities of the Century playground, 24-hour superintendent and va- tions to be submitted to the management Group, has experience in helping clients buy and sell Tower, 1600 Parker Avenue? let parking. offi ce by the 10th of the month in order to houses within the Bergenfi eld, Teaneck, and New Mil- Built in 1980, the 238-unit, 30-story build- What are the amenities of The Modern, be considered for the next board meeting. ford areas, as well as co-ops and condos in Fort Lee. In ing offers extraordinary round-the-clock se- 800 Park Avenue? There is a $500, application and processing addition, her expertise extends to guiding and assist- curity, including a doorman, garage atten- Brand new rental hi-riser, offers residen- fee which is submitted with the completing her clients through every phase of the challenging dant and full concierge services available tial lounges, internet café, catering kitchen ed application to the management offi ce. process of downsizing as they change their living space 24/7. Common areas such as the lobby, eleva- and dining area, indoor children’s play area, However, if there is any incomplete or lack from larger to smaller. tors, garage, fi tness center and social center spa lounge with sauna room, lockers and of required supporting documentation, and UNSURE WHICH CONSTRUCTION COMPANY TO CHOOSE?

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