Femme Feelings: Mapping Affective Affinities Between Femme and Third Wave Feminists
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FEMME FEELINGS: MAPPING AFFECTIVE AFFINITIES BETWEEN FEMME AND THIRD WAVE FEMINISTS Clare Lemke A Thesis Submitted to the Graduate College of Bowling Green State University in partial fulfillment of the requirements for the degree of MASTER OF ARTS August 2011 Committee: Bill Albertini, Advisor Ellen Berry ii ABSTRACT Bill Albertini, Advisor This latest moment of feminism has been marked by a surge of energy around femininity and the potentially radical and queer pleasures feminists might find in feminized gender expressions. In both academic and popular contexts, contemporary feminist fascination with femininity is discussed as two separate phenomena: as evidence of a third wave feminist “reclamation” of femininity amongst young and largely heterosexual-identified women on the one hand, and as evidence of a “revival” of femme identity practices in queer communities on the other. These kinds of clear delineations between feminists based on sexual identity and age persist despite efforts in queer and feminist theory to disrupt notions of stable and coherent identity. However, viewing femme and non-queer-identified third wave feminists in isolation to each other ignores how both of these groups are innovating expressions of femininity which reject heteronormative expectations. By thinking differently about how individuals relate to each other, we can see tenuous but telling affinities between femme and third wave feminists, and imagine models for feminist organizing around such affective crossings. In this literary study, I argue that femme and non-queer-identified third wave feminists have similar understandings of their femininities and their erotic desires, if not necessarily similar sexual experiences or partners. Specifically, I trace how the affects of irony and hunger travel within and between femme theory and third wave theory as partially shared sensibilities. Ironic femininities are constituted in femme and third wave discourse as self-reflexive, deliberately cultivated and chosen feminized gender expressions which resist repressive iii patriarchal ideals. Furthermore, both queer femmes and heterosexual-identified third wave feminists employ a sensibility of hunger to recode feminized sexual modalities like openness, vulnerability and submission, and to pursue ways of fucking and loving outside of heteronormative models. In order to examine this largely unacknowledged and implicit relationship, I use José Esteban Muñoz’s theory of queer relationality and Ann Cvetkovich’s concept of “literary publics” as the framework of this study. I argue that feminist coalition building around affect would offer us the chance to explore connections between feminists of various ages and sexual identifications that we currently ignore. iv For my fifth of the office in 240 Shatzel Hall. Thank you for being a room of my own (sort of). v ACKNOWLEDGMENTS I am enormously grateful and indebted to my wonderful committee, Bill Albertini and Ellen Berry for their support of this project. Dr. Albertini provided crucial guidance and highly attentive feedback throughout the writing process, beginning when this study was just a seminar paper in his Spring 2010 Queer Theory course. Dr. Berry infused this project with new energy many times by talking through ideas, problems, and potential sources with me (and by being gracious enough to fix my life every time I showed up at her office hours). I also owe thanks to Dr. Radhika Gajjala for helping me develop my ideas for this thesis in her Feminist Research Methods course, and for being a committed graduate student advocate. Furthermore, several sections of this thesis benefited from the productive feedback from members of the Feminist Writing Group and participants of the BGSU Women’s Studies Research Symposium. Thank you to friends and family for putting up with my moods and boringness over the past year (and the other years, too). Thank you, thank you Jamie Stuart and Marla Wick for lending me your awesome copyediting skills. Special thanks to Manda Hicks for making me feel capable and for encouraging me to write in my own voice. Lastly, thank you to all the amazing femme and feminist writers who have given me inspiration, energy, and the resources to imagine myself otherwise. vi TABLE OF CONTENTS Page INTRODUCTION ................................................................................................................. 1 Interrupting Narratives …………………………………………………………….. 5 Imagining New Models of Feminist Organizing …………………………………… 12 Finding the Right Frequency: Tuning into Irony and Hunger in Femme And Third Wave Theory …………………………………………………………… 16 CHAPTER 1. LADIES, FEMMES, AND “FEMINIST FATALES”: EXCHANGES OF IRONIC FEMININITY BETWEEN QUEER AND HETEROSEXUAL FEMINISTS ………….......................................................................................................... 20 Will the Real Femmes Please Stand Up?: Slippages ……………………………... 24 “Girl[s]-by-Choice”: Irony as a Method for Constructing Feminist and Femme Femininities …………………………………………………………….... 29 “Real but not natural”: Irony and Desire ……………………………………….. .. 37 “Fem Culture”: Ironic Femininity as a Galvanizing Force ………………………. 45 CHAPTER 2. IMAGINING DESIRE, FINDING AFFINITY: HUNGER AS FEMME-THIRD WAVE ALLIANCE IN THE WORK OF MERRI LISA JOHNSON …………. ........................................................................................................... 49 “Fem Quests”: Countering Heteronormative Scripts................................................. 54 Dangerous Desires: Sexual Risk and Hunger ............................................................ 62 Reading in between the Lines: Literary Publics as Sites for Affinity ……………... 69 Seeing the “fem place”: Coalitions Rooted in Shared Understandings of Desire … 76 CONCLUSIONS …….. ........................................................................................................ 82 vii REFERENCES ..........…........................................................................................................ 97 1 INTRODUCTION This latest moment of feminism has been marked by a surge of energy around femininity and the potentially radical and queer pleasures feminists might find in feminized gender expressions. Contemporary feminist efforts to queer and transform femininity are manifested in two crucial bodies of literature: third wave theory and femme theory.1 The feminist sex wars of the 1980s prompted a subsequent reclamation of butch-femme subjectivities within academic works and sexual subcultures. More recently, queer activists and scholars have theorized femme as a gender identity independent from the butch-femme dyad and as embodied by more individuals than just biological females.2 In other venues, emerging discussions about third wave feminism stress how third wavers reimage and reclaim femininity as part of their feminist politics. Both academic and popular sources discuss these two phenomena separately—referring to femme subjectivity largely in the context of LGBT communities and considering third wave consciousness largely in terms of more heterosexual-identified (if flexibly or cynically so) young women’s experience. These kinds of clear delineations between feminists based on sexual identity and age persist despite efforts in queer and feminist theory to disrupt notions of stable and coherent identity. However, viewing femme and non-queer-identified3 third wave feminists in isolation to each other ignores how both of these groups are innovating expressions of femininity which reject heteronormative expectations. If we read these efforts not only through a lens of age and sexual identification but also through a lens of affect, we can see how femmes and third wave feminists share certain feelings about and understandings of their femininities. I focus on the slippages between femme and non-queer-identified 2 third wave femininities because these affective overlaps are potential sources of connection and alliance for a diversity of feminists. By thinking differently about how individuals relate to each other, we can see tenuous but telling affinities between femme and third wave feminists, and imagine models for feminist organizing around such affective crossings. Affect is a powerful tool for reimagining feminist coalition building because affect signals more than mere feeling and instead should be understood as a force which creates community and alliance.4 Therefore, I use affect to mean feelings or sensibilities which inform individuals’ sense of self and makes them feel affiliation and collectivity with like-feeling others. While we generally assume that those who feel like us are those who share the same identifications and life experiences as us, I posit that affective connections also transgress boundaries of identity like age and sexual identification. Hence, I want to consider how affect could create community between like-feeling individuals who have different experiences, but who make sense of their experiences and identities in resonating ways. Recognizing the affective affinities between femme and non-queer-identified third wave feminists provides us with an opportunity to disrupt tired stories we tell ourselves about what feminists are like and how they relate to each other. Anyone who is interested in this latest moment of feminism (the last 20 years or so) will be familiar with two oft-repeated narratives circulating in both academic and popular accounts of this particular feminist era: First, that third wave feminists differ