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Week of 2/17-23: The Way of Lament Spiritual Practice – Centering Prayer

The Method of Centering Prayer by Thomas Keating Centering Prayer is a method of silent prayer that prepares us to receive the gift of contemplative prayer, prayer in which we experience God’s presence within us, closer than breathing, closer than thinking, closer than consciousness itself. This method of prayer is both a relationship with God and a discipline to foster that relationship. Centering Prayer is not meant to replace other kinds of prayer. Rather, it adds depth of meaning to all prayer and facilitates the movement from more active modes of prayer—verbal, mental, or affective prayer—into a receptive prayer of resting in God. Centering Prayer emphasizes prayer as a personal relationship with God and as a movement beyond conversation with Christ to communion with Him. The source of Centering Prayer, as in all methods leading to contemplative prayer, is the Indwelling Trinity: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. The focus of Centering Prayer is the deepening of our relationship with the living Christ. The effects of Centering Prayer are ecclesial, as the prayer tends to build communities of faith and bond the members together in mutual friendship and love.

Wisdom Saying of Jesus Centering Prayer is based on the wisdom saying of Jesus in the Sermon on the Mount: “When you pray, go to your inner room, close the door and pray to your Father in secret. And your Father, who sees in secret, will reward you” – Matthew 6:6. It is also inspired by writings of major contributors to the Christian contemplative heritage including John Cassian, the anonymous author of The Cloud of Unknowing, Francis de Sales, Teresa of Avila, John of the Cross, Thérèse of Lisieux, and Thomas Merton. Centering Prayer is a wonderful way to help with lament. It opens up a sacred space for lament to be held and heard by God. Within that sacred space, comfort and love washes over our lament, renewing our hope and trust in God. “Yet even now, says the Lord, return to me with all your heart, with fasting, with weeping, and with mourning; rend your hearts and not your clothing.” – Joel 2:12 The Guidelines for Centering Prayer 1. Choose a sacred word as the symbol of your intention to consent to God’s presence and action within. • The sacred word expresses our intention to consent to God’s presence and action within. • The sacred word is chosen during a brief period of prayer to the Holy Spirit. Use a word of one or two syllables, such as: God, Jesus, Abba, Father, Mother, Mary, Amen. Other possibilities include: Love, Listen, Peace, Mercy, Let Go, Silence, Stillness, Faith, Trust. • Instead of a sacred word, a simple inward glance toward the Divine Presence, or noticing one’s breath, may be more suitable for some persons. The same guidelines apply to these symbols as to the sacred word. • The sacred word is sacred not because of its inherent meaning but because of the meaning we give it as the expression of our intention to consent. • Having chosen a sacred word, we do not change it during the prayer period because that would be engaging thoughts. 2. Sitting comfortably and with eyes closed, settle briefly, and silently introduce the sacred word as the symbol of your consent to God’s presence and action within. • “Sitting comfortably” means relatively comfortably so as not to encourage sleep during the time of prayer. • Whatever sitting position we choose, we keep the back straight. • We close our eyes as a symbol of letting go of what is going on around and within us. • We introduce the sacred word inwardly as gently as laying a feather on a piece of absorbent cotton. • If we fall sleep, we simply continue the prayer upon awakening. 3. When engaged with your thoughts, (include body sensations, feelings, images, and reflections), return ever-so-gently to the sacred word. • “Thoughts” is an umbrella term for every perception, including body sensations, sense perceptions, feelings, images, memories, plans, reflections, concepts, commentaries, and spiritual experiences. • Thoughts are an inevitable, integral, and normal part of Centering Prayer. • By “returning ever-so-gently to the sacred word,” a minimum of effort is indicated. This is the only activity we initiate during the time of Centering Prayer. • At the end of the prayer period, remain in silence with eyes closed for a couple of minutes. • During the course of Centering Prayer, the sacred word may become vague or disappear. 4. At the end of prayer period, remain in silence with eyes closed for a couple of minutes. • The additional two minutes enables us to bring the atmosphere of silence into everyday life. • If this prayer is done in a group, the leader may slowly recite a prayer, such as the Lord’s Prayer, while the others listen.

Some Practical Points 1. The minimum time for this prayer is 20 minutes. Two periods are recommended each day, one first thing in the morning and the other in the afternoon or early evening. With practice, the time may be extended to 30 minutes or longer. 2. The end of the prayer period can be indicated by a timer which does not have an audible tick or loud sound when it goes off. There is a free Centering Prayer mobile app timer available. 3. Possible physical symptoms during the prayer: • We may notice slight pains, itches, or twitches in various parts of the body or a generalized sense of restlessness. These are usually due to the untying of emotional knots in the body. • We may notice heaviness or lightness in our extremities. This is usually due to a deep level of spiritual attentiveness. • In all cases, we pay no attention and ever-so-gently return to the sacred word. 4. The principal fruits of Centering Prayer are experienced in daily life and not during the prayer period. 5. Centering Prayer familiarizes us with God’s first language which is SILENCE.

Points for Further Development 1. During the prayer period, various kinds of thoughts may arise: • Ordinary wanderings of the imagination or memory • Thoughts and feelings that give rise to attractions or aversions • Insights and psychological breakthroughs • Self-reflections such as, “How am I doing?” or “This peace is just great!” • Thoughts and feelings that arise from the unloading of the unconscious • When engaged with any of these thoughts, return ever-so-gently to the sacred word. 2. During this prayer, we avoid analyzing our experience, harboring expectations, or aiming at some specific goal such as: • Repeating the sacred word continuously • Having no thoughts • Making the mind a blank • Feeling peaceful or consoled • Achieving a spiritual experience

Ways to Deepen Our Relationship with God 1. Practice two 20-30 minute periods of Centering Prayer daily. 2. Listen to the Word of God in Scripture. 3. Join a weekly Centering Prayer Group. • It encourages the members of the group to persevere in their individual practices. • It provides an opportunity for further input on a regular basis through multimedia resources and discussion. • It offers an opportunity to support and share the spiritual journey.

What Centering Prayer Is and Is Not • It is not a technique but a way of cultivating a deeper relationship with God. • It is not a relaxation exercise, but it may be quite refreshing. • It is not a form of self-hypnosis but a way to quiet the mind while maintaining its alertness. • It is not a charismatic gift but a path of transformation. • It is not a para-psychological experience but an exercise of faith, hope, and selfless love. • It is not limited to the “felt” presence of God but is rather a deepening of faith in God’s abiding presence. • It is not reflective or spontaneous prayer but simply resting in God beyond thoughts, words, and emotions. What Is Lament? Lament is a form of prayer. It is more than just the expression of sorrow or the venting of emotion. Lament talks to God about pain. And it has a unique purpose: trust. It is a divinely-given invitation to pour out our fears, frustrations, and sorrows for the purpose of helping us to renew our confidence in God.

Four Elements of Lament As Psalm 13 illustrates, most laments feature four essential elements: Turn to God. Often a lament begins by an address to God: “How long, O Lord? Will you forget me forever? How long will you hide your face from me?” – Psalm 13:1. The point is that the person in pain chooses to talk to God about what is happening. Bring your complaint. Every lament features some kind of complaint: “How long must I take counsel in my soul and have sorrow in my heart all the day? How long shall my enemy be exalted over me?” – Psalm 13:2. More than a sinful rehearsing of our anger, biblical lament humbly and honestly identifies the pain, questions, and frustrations raging in our souls. Ask boldly for help. Seeking God’s help while in pain is an act of faith: “Consider and answer me, O Lord my God; light up my eyes, lest I sleep the sleep of death, lest my enemy say, ‘I have prevailed over him,’ lest my foes rejoice because I am shaken.” – Psalm 13:3-4 . Unremitting sorrow can create a deadly silence as we give in to despair (“there’s no hope”) or denial (“everything’s fine”). But lament invites us to dare to hope in God’s promises as we ask for his help. Choose to trust. This is the destination for our laments. All roads lead here:“But I have trusted in your steadfast love; my heart shall rejoice in your salvation. I will sing to the Lord, because he has dealt bountifully with me” – Psalm 13:5-6. More than the stages of grief, this prayer language moves us to renew our commitment to trust in God as we navigate the brokenness of life. Lament is the prayer language for God’s people as they live in a world marred by sin. It is how we talk to God about our sorrows as we renew our hope in his sovereign care. To cry is human, but to lament is Christian.

Why Is Lament Christian? The practice of lament is one of the most theologically informed actions a person can take. While crying is fundamental to humanity, Christians lament because they know God is sovereign and good. Christians know his promises in the Scriptures. We believe in God’s power to deliver. We know the tomb is empty, and Jesus is alive. And yet we still experience pain and sorrow. Lament is the language for living between the poles of a hard life and trusting in God’s sovereignty. It is a prayer form for people who are waiting for the day Jesus will return and make everything right. Christians don’t just mourn; we long for God to end the pain. “He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.” – Revelation 21:4 Therefore, Christians not only mourn the brokenness of the world, but we also long for the day when all weeping will cease. We wonder, “How long, O Lord?” – Psalm 13:1. Anyone can cry. But only Christians can faithfully lament. Writing your own lament beautifully combines rich theology with real emotions. Until Jesus returns, the world will be marked by years. Children will continue to be born, and their first cry will announce their arrival into a broken world. To cry is human, but to lament is Christian.