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Manhattan Family October 2013 Features columns 6 Beware the pumpkin 30 Good Sense Eating How to avoid a common Halloween horror by Christine M. Palumbo, RD By Kiki Bochi 38 FabuLYSS Finds 8 Friend or foe? by Lyss Stern When you disapprove of your child’s BFF By Risa C. Doherty 40 The Book Worm By Terri Schlichenmeyer 10 Dress ’em up Halloween costume ideas for the craft 41 Downtown Mommy challenged by Notoya Green By Sue LeBreton 42 Dear Dr. Karyn 12 Breathe easy By Dr. Karyn Gordon Schooling yourself about asthma may help lower your child’s absences 43 Healthy Living by Danielle Sullivan By Sue LeBreton 14 Bouncin’ at Barclays 44 Just Write Mom by Danielle Sullivan Talented youngsters shine in Brooklyn Nets Kids Dance Team 46 Death by Children By Tammy Scileppi By Chris Garlington 20 16 Get involved! 47 Lions and Tigers and Teens Top tips for parents on being partners in their By Myrna Beth Haskell child’s education this fall 48 Mommy 101 18 Real partnership By Angelica SerEda How to build a fruitful relationship with your child’s teacher 49 Divorce & Separation By Jenny Chen By Lee Chabin, Esq. 20 Admission accomplished 58 New & Noteworthy Top-five tips for success with finding the right By Lisa J. Curtis city high school By Maurice Frumkin 36 calendar 28 Really bad hits How teen fighting deals a blow to IQ 50 October Events By Kiki Bochi 31 Fun activities with pumpkins special sections By Carol J. Alexander 22 High School Directory 35 Start off strong 56 The Marketplace Fortify your child against bone loss 57 Party Planners By Heather Lee Leap 36 A good night Finding the best way to help your family fall asleep By Jamie Lober 53 A fairy-tale setting Majestic beauty surrounds Mohonk resort By Stacey Zable 53

October 2013 • MANHATTAN Family 3 Letter from the publisher Braces, vision, and ‘newfangled stuff’

he world of or- Like everything else, Visit any dental office and you will there are simple surgical procedures thodontics has there has been incred- see an array of contemporary tech- to cure myopia and astigmatisms. T come a long way ible improvement in the niques and equipment that make it My grown adult nephew recently had since I was a kid. I was styles, fit and cost of all easy and far less costly than it the surgery and no longer needs cor- one of those lucky chil- corrective devices. Not used to be. rective lenses. He’s been urging me dren whose teeth came only kids wear them For me, having to wear glasses to go too and have it done, and I’m at in straight and I didn’t these days. I know many was the bane of my existence. I had last giving it some consideration. need any correcting, adults who opt to wear to wear them early in school and I October is a great month. Beauti- but that wasn’t the case them, and I don’t mean hated them and having something in ful weather without being too cold for most of my friends. just people in their 20s, front of my eyes, and they felt heavy and, of course, Halloween. Keep As I recall, the braces but rather, fairly “ma- on my face. I was absolutely certain your children happy and safe when of my day were horribly unattractive ture types.” So many things are they made me look like a librarian you’re out trick or treating and most and painful to the wearer. They were optional that didn’t used to be. It’s and that boys wouldn’t like me. It of all, have fun. also painful to others. I can recall my fantastic! happened for me at the tender age Thanks for reading. first boyfriend having them and my This is National Orthodontics of 10 and I was also having the addi- first kiss ended with me having a cut Month and a great time to discover if tional humiliation of the boy behind lip. It was embarrassing to both of us your child needs to have corrections me snapping my (new) bra strap and to me it was an alarming intro on his bite or teeth, or perhaps both. and pulling my ponytail repeatedly to new physical intimacy. Everyone They do amazing things with little to throughout the school day. who got them dreaded it no matter no “big deal” for the child. There are It was also peculiarly scary to how much they wanted to have nice so many improvements in the world realize that my eyes were not work- Susan Weiss-Voskidis, teeth and a good smile. They were of medicine and science. It’s not only ing to capacity and this reality made Publisher/Excutive Editor also expensive. gadgets that indicate advancement. me feel somehow handicapped. Now [email protected]

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October 2013 • MANHATTAN Family 5 Beware the PUMPKIN BY KIKI BOCHI of year has nothing to do with trick- Instead, encourage kids to draw How to avoid or-treating. a pattern on the pumpkin that an ith Halloween just around You may not think of a pumpkin adult cut, and have kids be respon- a common the corner, parents will as posing a big risk to your family, sible for cleaning out the inside W hear a lot of safety warn- but statistics show your child is pulp and seeds. ings this month — from advice about more likely to get hurt carving jack- When the adults do start cutting, Halloween selecting a costume that won’t cause o’-lanterns than engaging in other they should always cut away from a child to trip, to advisories about spooky fun. Injuries to the hand themselves and cut in small, con- equipping every child with a flash- and fingers are the most common trolled strokes. horror light when walking in the dark. And accidents on Halloween, according s # H O O S E YOUR SPOT #ARVE IN A of course, there are the cautions to a study published in the journal clean, dry, well-lit area. Wash and about carefully checking every Pediatrics. thoroughly dry everything you will piece of candy your child collects. Pumpkins can be both slippery use to carve the pumpkin: carving All good advice, although you might and tough, a recipe for accidents. tools, knife, cutting surface, and be surprised to learn that the most Cuts can occur when a knife sticks even your hands. Any moisture common cause of injury at this time in the rind, then abruptly dislodges can cause slippage that can lead to as you tug on it. Or you can cut injuries. Take your time, and make yourself if the handle gets slippery sure your children stay back. The with pumpkin pulp, causing your kids will want to lean in to watch, hand to slide down the blade as but you don’t want to hit them by you push the knife into the pump- accident if your hand slips. kin. The American Society for Sur- s 0 I C K UTENSILSCAREFULLY!LARGER gery of the Hand suggests the and sharper knife is not necessar- following safety tips: ily better, because it can become s , E AV E THECARVINGTO wedged in the thicker part of the adults. Your kids may pumpkin, requiring force to remove beg and plead for a it. Instead, pumpkin carving kits — turn, but don’t put readily found online and at party a knife or other supply stores — require less force sharp tool in the to pierce the pumpkins. They are hands of chil- also easier to control than knives, dren, no matter reducing the risk of injury. How- how responsi- ever, accidents may still occur, so ble or mature families should exercise caution you think they with any carving tool. are. The Pedi- s#ONSIDER A DIFFERENT APPROACH atrics study Instead of carving a pumpkin, con- found that most sider decorating one. Kids can ex- Halloween ac- press their creativity with paint, cidents happen markers, and other art supplies to kids ages 10 to or items that can be glued or at- 14, but older teens tached to a pumpkin. Some fami- also frequently get lies skip the large pumpkin and in- hurt. A slip can happen stead, allow each child to decorate in a fraction of a second, his or her own mini-pumpkin. You and there won’t be anything can even recycle parts of old Hal- you can do to stop it, even if you loween costumes such as wigs and are nearby. hats. Or, you may want to consider using a fake, foam pumpkin, available at many craft stores. These are easier to cut and decorate, and you’ll be able to enjoy them for years to come.

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October 2013 • MANHATTAN Family 7 We care about who our children pick as friends, because we feel it is our job to guide them, and we want them to make “the right Friend or foe? choices,” subjective as that is. BY RISA C. DOHERTY A parent’s preference ents to recognize “ethical violations,” When you According to Hiller, parents and share our values, and model them for hen kids are little, we bring caregivers can and should take more our children to help them understand ceptance, and it will take courage. disapprove them to play groups and than their child’s preference into con- why some behaviors are wrong. By Once children reach their teen W baby classes, where we sideration. doing this, we can help them decide years, some parents feel as if all their pick friends for them. Most of the “Your child will ‘read the mood’ if for themselves what traits they look youngster’s friends might be engag- of your time, parents and toddlers get along, you are unhappy at the other person’s for in friends. Mothers whose daugh- ing in unsafe or illegal behavior. If and if there is a personality conflict house,” she says. ters witness them gossiping regularly that is the case, Wiseman says your child’s BFF that the parents do not want to work “Carol,” the mother of a PS 6 sec- or totally obsessing over brand names teen should ideally have one or more out, the friendship ends. ond grader in Manhattan agrees. will have a hard time condemning friends not interested in pursuing All that changes when children “My son will know if I don’t like those behaviors in others. these activities. Concerned parents start preschool and select their own his playmate.” She also says she lets Hiller says that by a certain age, should tell host parents what their pals. Unfortunately, we are not always him come to the realization that a describing how you don’t like a cer- teen said they experienced at the happy with their choices. friendship is not a good fit, asking tain friend of your child’s because of host’s house, despite the discomfort. It him, “How do you think the play date your values will cause the child to de- is that discomfort that “stops us from Prejudging others went?” — when she knows her son fend that friend. Although you can ex- being parents,” Wiseman says. She based on instinct shares her frustration. plain your own thinking and wait for also stresses that children are never As parents, we think we know what If a parent doesn’t particularly like children to reach the same decision ostracized just for having parents who is best for our children, and we have a friend, but does not want to nix themselves, they may not, and it is speak out; it is even likely that other preferences for the friends and par- the play date entirely, there are op- important for them “to learn to make kids will feel sorry for them. ents we invite on play dates. Some- tions. Hiller suggests an “outside” their own mistakes,” Hiller says. In addition, if you are certain times, it is hard to put aside those play date, so the children can play drugs or alcohol are in use in one preferences and not rely on instinct without “putting the parent in a ‘tight Unacceptable home, you can forbid your teen from to prejudge others. spot.’ ” If that’s not possible, Carol sug- behavior and going there. It may not be easy to en- “Linda,” a mom of a first and a gests moms with babysitters send the forgiveness force, but it is worth the effort. fourth grader at PS 209 in Manhat- babysitter on the play date. Some playmates are little terrors. Simmons warns concerned par- tan, says, “We have more experience, In addition, Wiseman notes that par- Carol says she won’t deny her kid a play ents to not assume their child is and we know the values we want to ents need to explain their reasons date with such a friend, but limits those “the hapless victim of their peers.” It embrace.” for not wanting a play date to a child play dates to the other kid’s house, own up as readily. sincere tone of voice, recogni[tion] our job to guide them, and we want would be wise, she advises, to reach Still, experts agree that avoiding younger than 8, but it is different with where that child can make messes or Some kids lie, spread cruel gossip of the thing that was hurtful, and them to make “the right choices,” out to teachers or coaches, to get play dates based on instinct alone is older children on “drop off” play dates. smear tomato sauce on the wall, if that’s or even “borrow” an item without offer to make amends.” subjective as that is. But, as Hiller other adults’ impressions of your not good, reminding us that a child Even then, just blurting out your dis- his unchecked predisposition. permission. Hiller says that a child’s willing- points out, we need to let go and child, and try to piece together the who parents avoid may possess posi- taste is not the best approach. There are many other reasons a Wiseman says the subject of the ness to forgive readily “is a lesson, separate here a bit, too, just as we do whole picture. tive attributes that are visible to our parent might dislike a potential friend. lie is significant. Some lies are merely too. We don’t want to teach our chil- with their choice of age-appropriate As kids get older, it is usually bet- children, but not apparent to us. Family values and A friend might hyper-focus on brand- rooted in common insecurities about dren not to forgive — but parents clothing, music, and TV. ter to refrain from repeated criticism Rosalind Wiseman, author of friendship standards name toys or labels. Wiseman empha- “keeping up” materially, and although can still ‘plant a seed.’ ” She says you of their friends. If you reinforced “Queen Bees and Wannabes,” and the Chances are, some of a playmate’s sizes the importance of “not com[ing] a parent should reinforce the evils can tell your child that you don’t usu- Minefield of your value system for years, they recently released “Masterminds and poor behavior will bother your child, across to your child as disapproving of rampant consumerism and lying, ally forgive someone as easily, and adolescent friendship already know precisely how you feel. Wingmen,” cautions against prejudg- too. Linda recommends asking your of her friends,” nor just simply telling generally, she can help her child un- hope she follows suit, but cautions In middle school, our children’s You do not need to constantly re- ing others. child, “Does this feel good to you?” your child that she can’t have the play derstand there are times all of us feel that such an approach may backfire social ties diversify, and we hear mind your child of your dislike for a “Instinct can justify and rational- or “Are you comfortable with this date because her friend is spoiled. insecure about fitting in. if your child is trying to separate about new friends, some of whom are particular buddy, who she may even ize judgments based on race, socio- behavior?” when faced with a friend Instead, she counsels parents to Other playmates make promises from you. suddenly experiencing new levels designate as “the one you hate.” No economic differences, and religion,” behaving badly. If your child still feels initiate a dialogue and make it a teach- they do not keep. In such situations, of independence, perhaps too soon. doubt, your preferences are already she warns, by steering children away strongly about keeping up the friend- able moment, asking the child such Wiseman recommends telling your The road to These kids may be free to go places in her head. In such a case, constant from others who “aren’t like [their] ship, Carol then suggests setting things as why she thinks the other child she can opt to say nothing, but independence and do things you feel your child is reiteration of your distaste can only family.” boundaries for behavior that you will kid talks about possessions so much, should remember that the friend is Hiller notes that children “start not yet prepared for. Some socialize serve to drive a wedge between you Wiseman also frowns on snap deci- find acceptable, and talking about it. if she thinks the friend’s goal is to im- unreliable. Or, she can confront the gravitating towards others as early at unsupervised houses, and others and your teen. sions based upon disapproval of dif- Often, children will tell parents press others, and why she thinks her friend. as infancy,” when they show a pref- sneak into R-rated movies. Parents . . . ferent parenting styles. about their conflicts with friends, friend finds it so important to own “Identify what happened and erence for one relative over another. may have approved of these same As our children age, we will fade “It’s not fair to punish the child for which will provide parents with an- certain things. learn how to articulate [their disap- She says that as children begin to playmates in grade school, but they more and more into the background the mother’s behavior,” she tells me, other opportunity “to discuss their Parents sometimes witness young pointment with the broken prom- select their own playmates, parents may behave differently now. when it comes to their social choices. pointing out that a mother’s parenting friendship standards with them — friends’ behavior that they would ise] in a straightforward and ethical should try to allow them to play with Simmons says we may still limit When they are younger, we have style may also differ from a father’s. what they like and don’t like in a never tolerate in adult counterparts. way,” she advises. others who make them comfortable, our child’s exposure to these friends more influence over their decisions, Brooklyn-based school social friend’s behavior — and what they And yet, it seems as if the children Wiseman adds, forgiveness can be saying, “supporting our children’s by refusing to take them or allow but as they proceed through adoles- worker Lori Hiller agrees. She notes want to do if their friend is violating often forgive their friends anyway. important and even with true, heart- independence means supporting the them to hang out in places we don’t cence we can still be there to parent that many of us mothers are our- those standards,” Wiseman says. “Kids are more tolerant of each felt apologies, the hurt one need not choices they make, while keeping sanction. She says there are some and advise. The hope is that by set- selves very different from our moth- Author of “Odd Girl Out,” Rachel other and more willing to call each reciprocate with immediate forgive- them safe — and that is true with decisions we may need to make as ting boundaries when they are young ers, and we shouldn’t reject our chil- Simmons advises parents: “Be sure other out, articulating their feelings ness. She tells parents to teach their their [choice of] friends.” parents, which can put our children’s and instilling proper values, they will dren’s pals based on our perception values are clearly crafted in the fam- and then forgiving,” says Simmons. children to understand a true apol- We care about who our children social status on the line, especially ultimately seek out kind, supportive, of their parents. ily.” She says it is our duty as par- She says that parents tend to not ogy, which should, “Be said with a pick as friends, because we feel it is for this age group, which craves ac- and caring people to call friends.

8 MANHATTAN Family • October 2013 We care about who our children pick as friends, because we feel it is our job to guide them, and we want them to make “the right Friend or foe? choices,” subjective as that is. BY RISA C. DOHERTY A parent’s preference ents to recognize “ethical violations,” When you According to Hiller, parents and share our values, and model them for hen kids are little, we bring caregivers can and should take more our children to help them understand ceptance, and it will take courage. disapprove them to play groups and than their child’s preference into con- why some behaviors are wrong. By Once children reach their teen W baby classes, where we sideration. doing this, we can help them decide years, some parents feel as if all their pick friends for them. Most of the “Your child will ‘read the mood’ if for themselves what traits they look youngster’s friends might be engag- of your time, parents and toddlers get along, you are unhappy at the other person’s for in friends. Mothers whose daugh- ing in unsafe or illegal behavior. If and if there is a personality conflict house,” she says. ters witness them gossiping regularly that is the case, Wiseman says your child’s BFF that the parents do not want to work “Carol,” the mother of a PS 6 sec- or totally obsessing over brand names teen should ideally have one or more out, the friendship ends. ond grader in Manhattan agrees. will have a hard time condemning friends not interested in pursuing All that changes when children “My son will know if I don’t like those behaviors in others. these activities. Concerned parents start preschool and select their own his playmate.” She also says she lets Hiller says that by a certain age, should tell host parents what their pals. Unfortunately, we are not always him come to the realization that a describing how you don’t like a cer- teen said they experienced at the happy with their choices. friendship is not a good fit, asking tain friend of your child’s because of host’s house, despite the discomfort. It him, “How do you think the play date your values will cause the child to de- is that discomfort that “stops us from Prejudging others went?” — when she knows her son fend that friend. Although you can ex- being parents,” Wiseman says. She based on instinct shares her frustration. plain your own thinking and wait for also stresses that children are never As parents, we think we know what If a parent doesn’t particularly like children to reach the same decision ostracized just for having parents who is best for our children, and we have a friend, but does not want to nix themselves, they may not, and it is speak out; it is even likely that other preferences for the friends and par- the play date entirely, there are op- important for them “to learn to make kids will feel sorry for them. ents we invite on play dates. Some- tions. Hiller suggests an “outside” their own mistakes,” Hiller says. In addition, if you are certain times, it is hard to put aside those play date, so the children can play drugs or alcohol are in use in one preferences and not rely on instinct without “putting the parent in a ‘tight Unacceptable home, you can forbid your teen from to prejudge others. spot.’ ” If that’s not possible, Carol sug- behavior and going there. It may not be easy to en- “Linda,” a mom of a first and a gests moms with babysitters send the forgiveness force, but it is worth the effort. fourth grader at PS 209 in Manhat- babysitter on the play date. Some playmates are little terrors. Simmons warns concerned par- tan, says, “We have more experience, In addition, Wiseman notes that par- Carol says she won’t deny her kid a play ents to not assume their child is and we know the values we want to ents need to explain their reasons date with such a friend, but limits those “the hapless victim of their peers.” It embrace.” for not wanting a play date to a child play dates to the other kid’s house, own up as readily. sincere tone of voice, recogni[tion] our job to guide them, and we want would be wise, she advises, to reach Still, experts agree that avoiding younger than 8, but it is different with where that child can make messes or Some kids lie, spread cruel gossip of the thing that was hurtful, and them to make “the right choices,” out to teachers or coaches, to get play dates based on instinct alone is older children on “drop off” play dates. smear tomato sauce on the wall, if that’s or even “borrow” an item without offer to make amends.” subjective as that is. But, as Hiller other adults’ impressions of your not good, reminding us that a child Even then, just blurting out your dis- his unchecked predisposition. permission. Hiller says that a child’s willing- points out, we need to let go and child, and try to piece together the who parents avoid may possess posi- taste is not the best approach. There are many other reasons a Wiseman says the subject of the ness to forgive readily “is a lesson, separate here a bit, too, just as we do whole picture. tive attributes that are visible to our parent might dislike a potential friend. lie is significant. Some lies are merely too. We don’t want to teach our chil- with their choice of age-appropriate As kids get older, it is usually bet- children, but not apparent to us. Family values and A friend might hyper-focus on brand- rooted in common insecurities about dren not to forgive — but parents clothing, music, and TV. ter to refrain from repeated criticism Rosalind Wiseman, author of friendship standards name toys or labels. Wiseman empha- “keeping up” materially, and although can still ‘plant a seed.’ ” She says you of their friends. If you reinforced “Queen Bees and Wannabes,” and the Chances are, some of a playmate’s sizes the importance of “not com[ing] a parent should reinforce the evils can tell your child that you don’t usu- Minefield of your value system for years, they recently released “Masterminds and poor behavior will bother your child, across to your child as disapproving of rampant consumerism and lying, ally forgive someone as easily, and adolescent friendship already know precisely how you feel. Wingmen,” cautions against prejudg- too. Linda recommends asking your of her friends,” nor just simply telling generally, she can help her child un- hope she follows suit, but cautions In middle school, our children’s You do not need to constantly re- ing others. child, “Does this feel good to you?” your child that she can’t have the play derstand there are times all of us feel that such an approach may backfire social ties diversify, and we hear mind your child of your dislike for a “Instinct can justify and rational- or “Are you comfortable with this date because her friend is spoiled. insecure about fitting in. if your child is trying to separate about new friends, some of whom are particular buddy, who she may even ize judgments based on race, socio- behavior?” when faced with a friend Instead, she counsels parents to Other playmates make promises from you. suddenly experiencing new levels designate as “the one you hate.” No economic differences, and religion,” behaving badly. If your child still feels initiate a dialogue and make it a teach- they do not keep. In such situations, of independence, perhaps too soon. doubt, your preferences are already she warns, by steering children away strongly about keeping up the friend- able moment, asking the child such Wiseman recommends telling your The road to These kids may be free to go places in her head. In such a case, constant from others who “aren’t like [their] ship, Carol then suggests setting things as why she thinks the other child she can opt to say nothing, but independence and do things you feel your child is reiteration of your distaste can only family.” boundaries for behavior that you will kid talks about possessions so much, should remember that the friend is Hiller notes that children “start not yet prepared for. Some socialize serve to drive a wedge between you Wiseman also frowns on snap deci- find acceptable, and talking about it. if she thinks the friend’s goal is to im- unreliable. Or, she can confront the gravitating towards others as early at unsupervised houses, and others and your teen. sions based upon disapproval of dif- Often, children will tell parents press others, and why she thinks her friend. as infancy,” when they show a pref- sneak into R-rated movies. Parents . . . ferent parenting styles. about their conflicts with friends, friend finds it so important to own “Identify what happened and erence for one relative over another. may have approved of these same As our children age, we will fade “It’s not fair to punish the child for which will provide parents with an- certain things. learn how to articulate [their disap- She says that as children begin to playmates in grade school, but they more and more into the background the mother’s behavior,” she tells me, other opportunity “to discuss their Parents sometimes witness young pointment with the broken prom- select their own playmates, parents may behave differently now. when it comes to their social choices. pointing out that a mother’s parenting friendship standards with them — friends’ behavior that they would ise] in a straightforward and ethical should try to allow them to play with Simmons says we may still limit When they are younger, we have style may also differ from a father’s. what they like and don’t like in a never tolerate in adult counterparts. way,” she advises. others who make them comfortable, our child’s exposure to these friends more influence over their decisions, Brooklyn-based school social friend’s behavior — and what they And yet, it seems as if the children Wiseman adds, forgiveness can be saying, “supporting our children’s by refusing to take them or allow but as they proceed through adoles- worker Lori Hiller agrees. She notes want to do if their friend is violating often forgive their friends anyway. important and even with true, heart- independence means supporting the them to hang out in places we don’t cence we can still be there to parent that many of us mothers are our- those standards,” Wiseman says. “Kids are more tolerant of each felt apologies, the hurt one need not choices they make, while keeping sanction. She says there are some and advise. The hope is that by set- selves very different from our moth- Author of “Odd Girl Out,” Rachel other and more willing to call each reciprocate with immediate forgive- them safe — and that is true with decisions we may need to make as ting boundaries when they are young ers, and we shouldn’t reject our chil- Simmons advises parents: “Be sure other out, articulating their feelings ness. She tells parents to teach their their [choice of] friends.” parents, which can put our children’s and instilling proper values, they will dren’s pals based on our perception values are clearly crafted in the fam- and then forgiving,” says Simmons. children to understand a true apol- We care about who our children social status on the line, especially ultimately seek out kind, supportive, of their parents. ily.” She says it is our duty as par- She says that parents tend to not ogy, which should, “Be said with a pick as friends, because we feel it is for this age group, which craves ac- and caring people to call friends.

October 2013 • MANHATTAN Family 9 Dress ’em up Halloween BY SUE LEBRETON ure, this Halloween you can go costume to the costume shop and buy S expensive, perfect replicas of your child’s favorite character, but ideas for making costumes at home is part of the fun. If you are the least crafty person on the planet — next to me the craft — there are some fun ideas that are easy to make, meaning your children can do most of the work. challenged The trick is starting early, so the paint is dry before they head out hunting for treats. Here are some ideas to get your creative juices flow- ing. Thanks to the internet, you can find images for almost anything you can imagine. For the video game lover, pick a favorite character. I usually try to steer my son toward a highly recognized character, otherwise he is disap- pointed when house after house asks, “Who are you?” But older kids may enjoy being an obscure character that only their friends understand. s - A R I O AND ,UIGI 4HESE costumes require: overalls, a T-shirt and matching hat (red for -ARIO GREENFOR,UIGI WHITEGLOVES and a bushy moustache. You can easily make and tape onto the hats THE-OR,LOGO)FYOURCHILDNOLON- You can also CIRCLE AKA SCROLL WHEEL ON ger wears overalls, you can usually make an entire the front. locate an inexpensive pair at the body out of s - A C COMPUTER !NOTHER local thrift shop. boxes painted to easy box costume, painted s 7 I I REMOTE 9OU CAN USE A BOX match the character, just be silver or covered with duct and paint it white, then draw on the sure your child can walk and climb tape. The simple apple icon is logo and the buttons. Use a narrow stairs in the getup. You can buy the easy to print on the front. box. For a smaller child, you could pickaxe needed to mine in the game, s I 0A D AND I0AD MINI 4HESE TWO use a large, white T-shirt and draw but again, some foam board or card- would make a cute matching en- the buttons and logo with fabric board and markers will do just fine. semble for an older and younger paint. %VENIFYOUARENOTA-ACFAMILY child. You use the same idea as the s-INECRAFT 4HIS VERY POPULAR the “i” devices make for fun, easy I0OD WITH THE APPS JUST USE BOXES game is based on building a world costumes. SHAPEDMORELIKETHEI0AD9OUCAN from blocks, so it lends itself to easy s I 0O D 9OUNEEDASLIM LONGBOX get clever and design your own apps costumes. The costume could sim- 0AINT IT BLACK OR COVER WITH BLACK and see if anyone notices. ply be the block head made from a tape. On the front screen area, your Test out costumes at least a week box and an outfit that looks vaguely child can draw on his favorite apps, beforehand, so you can make any like the character you are emulating. or even print the icons and stick adjustments. Remember to make Yes, you can purchase a Creeper them on. Arms, legs, and head stick costumes that are easy to walk in, or a Steve head, but all you need OUTFROMTHEI0ODBODY ORYOURCHILD see in, and be seen. A flashlight or is a square box. Cut out eyes and a can be inside the box, so that he is reflective tape is always a nice, safe mouth and draw the face with paint in the screen area acting as if he is final touch. OR MARKERS -Y YEAR OLD QUICKLY in a You Tube video. If you want a Sue LeBreton is a writer and mother made himself a Steve character head coordinating costume, maybe you of a tween and a teen. She loves watch- with supplies in the garage when I CAN GO AS THE OLDER ORIGINAL I0OD ing them create interesting Halloween said “no” to paying good money for a that your child may not recognize costumes and tries to limit her role to cardboard box. — you remember, the ones with the cheering on their efforts.

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October 2013 • MANHATTAN Family 11 BREATHE

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BY SUE LEBRETON school days every year. In addition to missing valuable instructional sthma is the most common time, children and teens can feel reason that kids miss school. self-conscious about their absence A According to the American and condition. Asthma Foundation, asthmatic chil- If your child is one of the in- dren miss approximately 13 million creasing number of children affected by this chronic, inflammatory lung disease, increasing your knowledge about asthma can improve your child’s condition and possibly reduce school absences. Here are some tips about triggers and treatments. Use a spacer A spacer is a large, plastic con- tainer that helps your child receive the intended dosage of her medication. The puffer is inserted into one end, and the other end is a mouthpiece. Smaller children may have a face mask on the mouth end to help the device stay sealed so no medicine escapes. Is your child using her spacer at school? Registered Respiratory Therapist Caro- lyn McCoy says older children sometimes stop using the spacer, because it is bulky to carry and draws attention to them and their condition. If you notice your child’s asthma flar- ing up during the school year, talk about how she is using her inhaled medication. If your child finds her current device too visible, speak to your doctor about options that are less obvious but equally effective.

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BY TAMMY SCILEPPI and unique hip- Talented hop choreography to undreds of youngsters the team once again, ensuring youngsters flooded Long Island Univer- Brooklyn fans will be brought H sity’s Brooklyn campus on to their feet at Barclays Cen- Aug. 14 for the chance to try out for ter.” shine in the Brooklyn Nets Kids Dance Team Scott, a professional — with 17 kids ages 6 to 13 making dancer and choreographer the cut. for 13 years, has worked with Brooklyn The young dance team, presented stars like Beyoncé, Jay-Z, Ali- by Cookie’s, will be showcased in cia Keys, Britney Spears, and Nets Kids front of thousands of fans at Brook- many others. She currently lyn Nets’ Saturday and Sunday home works with Rihanna and Sean games at the borough’s Barclays Paul, in addition to new talent, Dance Team Center, starting Oct. 12, and repre- including Becky G and Tristan sent the basketball team at events Wilds. and media appearances throughout She jumped at the chance the New York metropolitan area. to work with the Nets. “With over 500 dancers audition- “Adar Wellington [dance ing for the 2013-14 Brooklyn Nets team coach and choreogra- All photos Adam Pantozzi / Brooklyn Nets Kids, this was the biggest turnout pher], a friend and long-time tine and teaches it to the kids at (Above) Frankie, center, of Staten Island, the Nets have ever had for an enter- dance colleague, asked me if rehearsal. just appeared on “America’s Got Talent” tainment team audition,” said Kim- I knew of any choreographer “It usually takes two rehearsals to with Staten Island’s Struck Boyz, and is berlee Garris, director of Entertain- that would be interested in learn a full routine; then a few more now part of the Brooklyn Nets Kids Dance ment Marketing for the Nets. “The coaching the Brooklyn Nets to perfect it and make it into a perfor- Team. (Left) Choreographer Tanisha Scott level of talent was extraordinary, Kids,” said Scott, who lives in mance on the court,” she said. “They teaching moves to the kids. and in the end, 17 dancers were in- the borough. “I instantly said Elijah, 9, of the Bronx, was selected to be a mem- perform during the weekend home vited to join the team. The Brooklyn ‘Yes! I would love to do it!’ I ber of the Brooklyn Nets Kids Dance Team. games, but sometimes for special Nets Kids will be led by head coach adore kids and to have the games or events they perform on Antonio and Vako from Brooklyn; and celebrity choreographer Tanisha opportunity to coach the first weekdays, as well. The kids alternate Alexa, Frankie and Serena from Scott, who will bring her high energy Kids Dance Team for the Brooklyn nettes, with a warm-up and stretch. with the Brooklynettes during game Staten Island; J’Nai from Queens; Nets is an amazing experience.” Then the kids were taught a quick time-outs.” Elijah and Keleah from the Bronx; At least two years of dance train- combination across the floor that Every year the look of the cos- Mario and Shirley from Long Island; ing was the main audition require- would take them to the semi-final tumes changes. But it’s always a Ellisyn from New Windsor, N.Y.; and ment. For dancers looking to gain an round. This was a test of basic skill hip-hop look that complements each Tymell from Wyandanch, N.Y. The edge, two audition workshops were and allowed us to see each child dancer’s own style, said Scott, add- other kids hail from New Jersey. held before open auditions, and the individually in a short time,” Scott ing, they look for kids that are great Alex, 9, from Manalapan, N.J., is kids got to learn a Brooklyn Nets explained. dancers, either with lots of experi- a featured dancer in Justin Timber- Kids routine straight from the court. There were 120 kids in the semi-fi- ence or with raw talent. They must lake’s latest video, “Take Back the Members of the older, all-girl Brook- nal round, during which Scott taught be able to pick up choreography “There is no greater feeling than “What I love most about working Night.” lynettes dance team were on-site to a routine. quickly, and have a lot of charisma, watching him do what he loves with the Brooklyn Nets Kids Dance The multi-purpose Barclays Cen- offer audition tips. “Once they learned this routine personality, and individual style. most,” said Felice. “I can’t wait for Team is watching them on perfor- ter arena hosts the Brooklyn Nets, The day of auditions, there were and had time to review it, we contin- “We look for the stars of tomorrow the first game to watch him perform mance day, because the crowd loves one of the hottest teams in the Na- four people on the judging panel: ued with the audition process and that you just can’t take your eyes off center court at a professional basket- them,” said Scott, who also likes tional Basketball League, and has Petra Pope, the senior vice president selected 50 kids as finalists. We then of, and those can brighten up a room ball game at Barclays Center.” to watch them have fun dancing. been the concert venue for Jay-Z, who oversees event marketing and had the finalists show us any special with just their smile!” she said. The young dancers have to juggle “But more importantly, not only do Paul McCartney, and The Who. Most community relations, in addition to skills that they had, i.e. tumbling, One of those kids is 10-year-old school and homework, with rehears- I get to choreograph fun routines for recently, MTV held its Video Music Garris, Wellington and Scott. break dancing, etc. From there, we Frankie from Staten Island, who just als in Brooklyn once a week after them to do, I get to be their coach. I Awards at the arena. Beginning in Once all the kids were checked in chose 17 spectacular kids.” appeared on “America’s Got Talent” school for two-and-a-half hours, as get to help inspire and mentor them 2015, the Barclays Center will also be at the audition, Garris did a quick in- Scott said she starts by finding with Staten Island’s Struck Boyz. they learn their moves, get ready to to be the best that they can be on the home of the New York Islanders troduction of what the process would a song that the kids would enjoy His mom, Felice, said she was perform throughout the season, as and off the court.” of the National Hockey League. entail, and then they got started. dancing to and the fans would enjoy, thrilled and proud that her son is well as at holiday events, and make This year’s team consists of many For more, visit brooklynnets.com or “First thing up was the Brooklyn- as well. Then she makes up the rou- part of the team. special appearances. kids from New York City, including: barclayscenter.com.

14 MANHATTAN Family • October 2013 Bouncin’ at Barclays

October 2013 • MANHATTAN Family 15 Get involved! esearch has shown that fami- you to meet the staff. what is going on in your children’s Top tips lies who are actively involved Go back to the classroom. Ask school. Let your parent coordinator R in their children’s education about family information workshops, know you are interested to receive can help boost learning and positive which can help parents navigate updates and help out with that bake for parents child development. As the new school the school system and applications sale or trip to the zoo if needed. year approaches, Learning Leaders, progress, support literacy and math Keep a calendar. Set up a family on being New York City’s most experienced skills, and understand child devel- calendar at home and make a note non-profit dedicated to engaging fam- opment. Some schools offer these of all school events, meetings, and ilies and communities to promote stu- already — free of charge and often workshops, so you don’t miss any- partners in dent success, calls on parents to get in more than one language — or may thing. Free apps for smartphones and involved where they can and reveals be able to introduce them to meet tablets, such as Cozi.com, can help. their child’s its top tips on how to do so. demand. Alternatively, the city’s Support learning at home. This Build relationships. Introduce Department of Education website, does not end once the homework is yourself to your children’s new teach- Schools.nyc.gov/ParentsFamilies, is finished. Think of ways to stimulate education ers if you have not already done so a user-friendly source of information your young learners in everyday life, and let them know you are available for parents and families. whether by holding a storytelling this fall if ever they need to discuss an issue Volunteer. Find out whether the competition or having a baking day with you. Also arrange to meet the school has a volunteer tutor pro- to learn about measures and frac- school’s parent coordinator so you gram you can join. Teachers and tions. Many online resources are know who to contact about future students will be grateful to have you, available to help parents; two good events or changes in school policy. and even if you are not working with places to start are Schoolfamily.com Attend orientations. Attend any your child’s class, you will learn and PTA.org/programs. back to school events or orienta- valuable techniques to support his Get help with the language. tions, particularly if you are new to learning at home. This is also one Parents who don’t speak English as the city or even the country. These of the best ways to become a part of a first language can still learn about will help you to learn about school the school community. their children’s schools. Use web- policies and what is expected of Stay connected. Try to attend Par- sites that provide materials about the your children — academically and ent Teacher Association meetings United States school system and the behavior wise — as well as enable throughout the year to keep up with Common Core Standards in several major languages; two are the K12. wa.us/CISL Family Engagement page and the Families section of the Com- mon Core Library page at Schools. nyc.gov/Academics. City schools can ask to have materials translated, so find out if this is possible and search online for bilingual learning activities, such as Colorincolorado.org for Spanish speakers. Jane Heaphy, executive director of Learning Leaders, says, “Our children are far more likely to suc- ceed if families actively partner with schools to support their education. There are many ways for parents to get more involved and the new school year is the perfect opportunity for them to do so in whichever ways they are able, whether it be attending a couple of meetings a year, or volunteering once a week.” Learning Leaders is New York City’s largest and most experienced non-profit organization dedicated to engaging families and communities to support student success. It offers family education workshops and resources in English and Spanish and recruits and trains volunteers to work in city Public Schools. For more, visit www.learningleaders.org

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October 2013 • MANHATTAN Family 17 Real partnership BY JENNY CHEN DO make teachers “They’re not always sitting at their How to build aware of your child’s desk,” said Daniels. f you’re like most parents, your specific needs a fruitful relationship with your students’ At the same time, parents should DO your homework I teachers is tenuous at best. The reach out to teachers and commu- before parent- teacher sends home papers and you nicate any special needs that their teacher conferences relationship glance at them — maybe. You ex- student might have. Come to parent-teacher confer- change an e-mail or two with her “Teachers can’t read minds,” said ences with specific questions about when there’s a field trip or your child veteran teacher and author of “Why your child’s progress and needs, with your forgot his homework. But develop- Do Only White People Get Abducted says Garon. Know what your child ing a stronger relationship with your by Aliens?: Teaching Lessons from has been doing, what he is strug- child’s child’s teacher will benefit the educa- the Bronx,” Ilana Garon. gling with, and what he enjoys. This tor and your child in the long run. We In a class of 20 students or more, will help your parent-teacher con- talked to several teachers and par- parents need to let teachers know if ferences be more productive and teacher ents about dos and don’ts when nur- there is something they should be effective. Also, if you have to miss turing this important relationship. aware of. Simply sending a short e- a conference, let the teacher know mail or requesting a parent-teacher beforehand. DON’T be a meeting is enough, and teachers re- helicopter parent ally do appreciate the extra informa- DON’T make excuses Your child may be the center of tion you can give them. for your child your universe, but that doesn’t mean Yuri Min, a teacher and tutor in Understand that your child that you need to know the details Southington, Conn., said that espe- earned the grade he brought home, of every little thing he is doing dur- cially during the beginning of the it wasn’t just passed down as a judging school. Don’t micromanage what year, she appreciates when parents ment from the teacher, says Garon. goes on in the classroom, but rather, share little tidbits about their chil- There may be contributing factors trust that the teacher knows what dren — their likes and dislikes and as to why your child is not doing she is doing, says New York City par- issues they may be having at home well in school, but work to hear ent and teacher Naomi Daniels. — to allow her to connect with her the teacher’s point of view before Teachers need space and time to students better. These tidbits can be making assumptions. Automatically do what they do best — teach — and shared in passing during pickup or blaming the teacher is not a produc- they don’t have time to send you a drop-off, or during informal conver- tive stance for the child. progress report every day. But do let sation while you are volunteering at “Just as parents are the author- your teacher know that you are there the school. ity figures at home, teachers are the to support her whenever necessary. authority figures at school, and par- “An open channel of communica- DO start off ents should support that as much as tion is good for everyone,” Daniels conversations positively possible. Teachers are the standard says. Social studies teacher Donna bearers for children while they are Paoletti at James Hubert Blake High at school,” Garon says. School in Silver Spring, Md., picked Daniels agrees. She points out up this trick in her 15-plus years that neither children nor teachers of teaching: she begins each e-mail are perfect, and parents should un- with a positive thing about the stu- derstand that their children might dent. Regardless of what the e-mail not be telling the whole story. Make is about, this puts the entire conver- sure to hear the teacher out first be- sation in a positive frame of mind. fore making any judgements. Parents can do this as well — start off each e-mail conversation DO continue the with something that you appreciate education at home about the teacher before addressing Learning shouldn’t stop when the any concerns you might have. child comes home, says Garon. “Parents need to do their part to DON’T expect foster good educational goals and immediate attention outcomes,” she said. Teachers are busy people and un- Ways you can do this? Check your derstandably aren’t checking their child’s folders often, ask open-ended e-mail all the time. If you send an questions about school, and gener- e-mail, expect that educators might ally be supportive. take a day or two to get back to you. Jenny Chen is a freelance writer spe- Most of the time, they are in the cializing in education and parenting. classroom, making lesson plans, or She has written for Washington Parent meeting with other parents. and Mothering Magazine.

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Continued from page 24 the Franciscan tradition. Its mission is education. Mother Cabrini is accred- to enable all students to develop and ited by the Middle States Association broaden their spiritual, intellectual, of Colleges and Schools and was creative, emotional, social and physi- twice named a Blue Ribbon School cal abilities. of Excellence by the U.S. Department to WIN of Education. The campus, which St. Jean Baptiste High overlooks the Hudson River, provides School a safe and enriching learning environment. The college preparatory cur- 173 East 75th St., Manhattan tickets or riculum includes an honors program 212-288-1645 or www.stjean.org with advanced placement and college St. Jean Baptiste High School, a level courses, as well as internship Catholic girls’ school, was founded opportunities. Free tutoring and by the Sisters of the Congregation prizes an after-school program are avail- of Notre Dame in 1929. The School able. Cabrini’s co-curricular program is accredited by the Middle States includes over 30 activities that pro- Association of Secondary Schools. mote the development of leadership The school partners with St. Joseph’s Visit us at our and character. Among these activities College and student earn college are varsity basketball, volleyball and credits in Writing, French Literature NYParenting page softball, the award-winning Drum and Spanish Literature. Advanced Corps and Color Guard, Cabrini Placement courses in English, social and register to win Singers, Mission Volunteers and com- studies, math, science and Spanish, munity service trips. as well as advanced science and math electives are offered. Students partici- Mount St. Michael pate in programs such as The Cornell Weill Medical Research Internship, the Academy Futures and Options Career Essential 4300 Murdock Ave., Bronx Program, the Cooper Union Summer 718-515-6400 or www. Research Institute in Science and mtstmichael.org Engineering, The Telluride Association Attention All Writers! Mount St. Michael is a Catholic Summer Seminar at Indiana University, High School for Boys with a College the Hugh O’Brien Leadership We’re looking for personal essays Preparatory Curriculum. We have Conference at Adelphi University. received the honor of being rec- All seniors participate in a full day of about you, your family and life ognized as a Blue Ribbon High service each week at local hospitals, School. The school is located schools, soup kitchens, senior centers, in your community. on a 22 Acre Campus. We offer and other social service agencies, Advanced Placement classes, Honors earning 140 hours throughout the and Academic levels. There are 5 school year. Partner with us and share your Computer Labs and 6 Science Labs. Activities include Student Council, Financial Aid and Scholarship oppor- National Honor Society, French tunities are available. We have a and Spanish Honor Societies, stories and your memories. Full Athletic Program and extracur- Ambassadors, softball, soccer, track, ricular activities. 100% Graduation step team, as well as clubs in art and rate with 98% of graduating Seniors photography, cooking, Latina dance, Email [email protected] to attending a 4 year college/university. public speaking, French, and Global Transportation and Bussing is avail- Concern. have your piece included in our able. 100 percent of graduates attend college. Principal: Sister Maria Cassano, magazine and on our website. St. Francis Preparatory CND. School 6100 Francis Lewis Boulevard, St. John’s Preparatory Fresh Meadows School 718-423-8810 or www.sfponline. 21-21 Crescent St. Queens org 718-721-7200 or www. St. Francis Preparatory School knows stjohnsprepschool.org that choosing a high school can be St. John’s Preparatory School was difficult; for four years you will learn founded by the Vincentian Fathers new things, meet new friends and in Brooklyn in 1870. It is currently have new experiences. At St. Francis located in the residential community Prep, new students have the oppor- of Astoria, Queens. The school build- tunity to receive a rich, well-rounded ing features large and well equipped education. The Prep is known for its science laboratories, state-of-the-art excellence in learning, but it offers computer labs, wireless capability, so much more. St. Francis Prep is a smart boards, a well stocked library, a Catholic college preparatory school in band room, art room, a magnificent 26 MANHATTAN Family • October 2013 Special Advertising Section 2013 August Open house 7-3-13:Layout 1 7/3/2013 1:34 PM Page 1

High School St. John’s Preparatory School Educating Tomorrow’s Leaders Directory Nurturing Christian Environment auditorium, beautiful chapel, spacious through St. John’s University and guidance center, a large gymnasium, Syracuse University. Xaverian stu- a fully-equipped weight room, an out- dents are also exposed to real world door track, and its own retreat center. application of knowledge through St. John’s Prep seeks to fulfill its a robust Internship Program. The Mission by providing a vigorous widely acclaimed STEM (Science, academic education that prepares Technology, Engineering, and Math) OPEN HOUSE students for the challenges they will Program is offered through a part- meet in the 21st Century. Advanced nership with Project Lead the Way Saturday Placement courses are offered in all (PLTW). Our unique educational October 19, 2013 subject areas. Students in the Honor approach is bolstered by the use of Program take supplementary courses the iPad, an invaluable tool which is 11:00 A.M. - 3:00 P.M. issued to each student for his 4-year in Latin and Art History. To ensure Extensive College and all students at the Prep are success- tenure at Xaverian. Extensive College and ful, courses are offered on different Honors Courses levels of difficulty; placement in the Xavier High School Unique Baccalaureate appropriate level is done on a subject 30 West 16th Street, New York, Program with by subject basis. NY, 10011 Program with St. John’s Prep has a unique academic 212-924-7900 or www.xavierhs. St John’s University affiliation with St. John’s University. org The Baccalaureate Program is a spe- Contact: Jonathan Cambras, Comprehensive cial program that allows qualified Director of Admissions Extra-curricular students at the Prep to complete Founded in 1847, Xavier High School Program their senior year of high school at the is an academically rigorous, Catholic, University. For eligible students this is For information please call Admissions. Jesuit, college preparatory school in (718) 721 - 7200 (ext. 699) a great saving of time and money. New York City that educates intelli- gent, motivated young men of diverse 21-21 Crescent Street, Astoria 11105 Saint Peter’s Prep backgrounds and means. Xavier www. stjohnsprepschool.org 144 Grand Street, Jersey City, NJ teaches students to take responsibility 201-547-2308 or www.spprep.org for their lives, to lead with integrity, to act justly in service of others, to Founded in 1872, Saint Peter’s Prep pursue excellence in every endeavor is an independent, Catholic, college and to deepen their relationship with preparatory school for boys located in God. Ultimately, Xavier forms young historic downtown Jersey City, con- men who will go forth to transform tinuing a tradition of academic, social the world for God’s greater glory. and spiritual development that has been the hallmark of Jesuit education Rooted in a commitment to Jesuit for over four centuries. Prep’s campus educational principles and Catholic L i k e u s o n lies in the shadow of the Statue of values, Xavier High School is poised Liberty and Lower Manhattan, where to offer young men a first-rate liberal the townhouses of Jersey City’s his- arts education and prepare them toric Paulus Hook district meet the for some of the best colleges and high rises of the waterfront. Here, universities in the country. Beyond more than 900 diverse students helping its students attain academic representing communities through- excellence, Xavier creates young men out New Jersey and New York grow of competence, conscience, and com- and challenge themselves in 18 AP passion. courses, 18 varsity sports, more than How does Xavier affect such positive 50 co-curricular activities, and a four- results in our students? By adhering or follow us on year Christian Service program. to the principle of Cura Personalis— At the convergence of many paths, care of the whole person—Xavier’s Saint Peter’s Prep is the starting point teachers, coaches, counselors, and for life’s great journeys. That’s why administrators strive daily to ensure we say, “It’s not just Prep for four that every student is challenged, years…it’s Prep for life!” instructed, coached, and mentored. Aside from the rigorous academic course of study and successful athletic Xaverian High School and co-curricular programs, Xavier 7100 Shore Road, Brooklyn offers students tremendous leadership 718-836-7100, ext 117 or www. and service opportunities in the form xaverian.org of our award-winning military science Xaverian offers a strong liberal program and our continually burgeon- arts core program, complemented ing community service initiatives. In by the opportunity to enter a Pre- other words, a Xavier graduate is Professional Pathway of study. compelled to put his talents and abili- There is a wide array of Advanced ties, and the instruction he receives, Facebook Search: NYParenting Placement and college credit courses to work in service of God and others. Special Advertising Section October 2013 • MANHATTAN Family 27 Really bad hits

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October 2013 • MANHATTAN Family 29 HEALTHY EATING Hours of fun family Understanding oral activities with allergy syndrome ave you ever bit into a juicy, If allergic to ragweed pollens, Pumpkins ripe piece of fruit and expe- avoid bananas, cucumbers, melon, GOOD SENSE H rienced a tingling or numb- and zucchini. ness in your mouth? If so, you may BY CAROL J. ALEXANDER EATING have oral allergy syndrome, a reac- Incidence increasing tion associated with pollen allergy “Most of the literature I have t’s that time of year again — when CHRISTINE M. PALUMBO, RD — that is becoming more common. reviewed indicates oral allergy syn- pumpkins reign. If you want to Many raw fruits and veggies drome is increasing but did not I get past the usual jack-o-lan- have proteins that are very simi- provide an explanation as to why,” tern carving and tackle some other lar to those found in tree, grass, says registered dietician Debra Ind- pumpkin activities, you’ve come to and weed pollens, so your body orato, owner of Approach Nutrition the right place. Just read on for responds to them in the same way. Food Allergy Management, LLC and art, cooking, and learning activities Up to a third of people with sea- Kids With Food Allergies. your kids will enjoy. sonal allergies experience oral al- Oral allergy syndrome is more If you want your pumpkins to last lergy syndrome, according to the commonly found in older children, longer than carved jack-o-lanterns, American Academy of Allergy, teens, and adults. Unlike certain draw the faces on them with perma- Asthma, and Immunology. other allergies, it is uncommon to nent markers. Telltale signs include an itchy outgrow it. My own daughter de- Use mini pumpkins to create a cen- mouth and tongue, as well as swol- veloped the syndrome in her early terpiece or other decorations for the len lips. In certain instances, ears 20s after suffering from tree pollen season. Carve out the mini pumpkins can be itchy. allergy since middle school. and fill the center with a votive candle The most common food culprits “A parent would be concerned or tea light. Line the walkway or porch are apples, carrots, peaches, plums, if the obvious swelling of the face, rail with them for Halloween or an- cherries, pears, tomato, melons, lips, and tongue would occur after other evening occasion. zucchini, cucumber, kiwi, and ba- eating the trigger foods,” explains Having guests? Carve out a very nanas. However, other foods can Indorato. “A child might also dem- large pumpkin and use it as a punch be problematic, such as lettuce, onstrate signs of trying to scratch bowl. BALL3ETUPROLLSOF in straight rows, green pepper, and certain nuts. In their tongue or throat.” Process your own pumpkin meat paper towels or empty point out that 10 x some cases, peeling or cooking the If your child experiences these for pies, cakes, or muffins. This is pop bottles as pins and get 4 = 40, or that 10 x 8 = 80. foods before eating can help. symptoms, take him to a pediatric enough fun the kids will want to help rolling. &INISHCOUNTINGOUTTHESEEDSINTHE One or more of the foods could allergist. you. Here are the steps: Look up the formula for volume of same fashion until done. How did your trigger oral allergy syndrome in tree pollens, avoid peaches, apples, “Diagnosis would be made by s " A KE THEPUMPKIN an ellipsoid. 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Count by twos and you know what you want to create be- tablespoons) 60 calories, 2 g protein, 3 tablespoons lemon juice Christine Palumbo, a registered di- together as a family and package them place them in piles of 10s on the table. fore you start, it will help you to decide 5 g fat, 3 g carbohydrate, 0 g satu- etitian nutritionist in Naperville, Ill., is 2 teaspoons garlic, chopped to give as gifts. Arrange the piles in straight rows of what colors to color the seeds. You can rated Fat, 0 g trans fat, 1 g fiber, 0 on the faculty of Benedictine University. 3/4 teaspoon cumin, ground mg cholesterol, 90 mg sodium. You can always enjoy a game of 10 piles in each row to make 100 seeds use this technique to make a picture Follow her on Twitter @PalumboRD, Fa- pumpkin bowling. Cut the stem off PERROW3ETUPROWSTOMAKE for the refrigerator or to make holiday 1/2 teaspoon salt Courtesy of United Soybean Board cebook at Christine Palumbo Nutrition, A MEDIUM SIZED PUMPKIN #ARVE OUT seeds. Count them out by 10s and by cards to send to friends and family. or [email protected]. three holes to resemble a bowling HUNDREDS 3INCE THEY ARE ARRANGED Happy pumpkin season! 30 MANHATTAN Family • October 2013 HEALTHY EATING Hours of fun family Understanding oral activities with allergy syndrome ave you ever bit into a juicy, If allergic to ragweed pollens, Pumpkins ripe piece of fruit and expe- avoid bananas, cucumbers, melon, GOOD SENSE H rienced a tingling or numb- and zucchini. ness in your mouth? If so, you may BY CAROL J. ALEXANDER EATING have oral allergy syndrome, a reac- Incidence increasing tion associated with pollen allergy “Most of the literature I have t’s that time of year again — when CHRISTINE M. PALUMBO, RD — that is becoming more common. reviewed indicates oral allergy syn- pumpkins reign. If you want to Many raw fruits and veggies drome is increasing but did not I get past the usual jack-o-lan- have proteins that are very simi- provide an explanation as to why,” tern carving and tackle some other lar to those found in tree, grass, says registered dietician Debra Ind- pumpkin activities, you’ve come to and weed pollens, so your body orato, owner of Approach Nutrition the right place. Just read on for responds to them in the same way. Food Allergy Management, LLC and art, cooking, and learning activities Up to a third of people with sea- Kids With Food Allergies. your kids will enjoy. sonal allergies experience oral al- Oral allergy syndrome is more If you want your pumpkins to last lergy syndrome, according to the commonly found in older children, longer than carved jack-o-lanterns, American Academy of Allergy, teens, and adults. Unlike certain draw the faces on them with perma- Asthma, and Immunology. other allergies, it is uncommon to nent markers. Telltale signs include an itchy outgrow it. My own daughter de- Use mini pumpkins to create a cen- mouth and tongue, as well as swol- veloped the syndrome in her early terpiece or other decorations for the len lips. In certain instances, ears 20s after suffering from tree pollen season. Carve out the mini pumpkins can be itchy. allergy since middle school. and fill the center with a votive candle The most common food culprits “A parent would be concerned or tea light. Line the walkway or porch are apples, carrots, peaches, plums, if the obvious swelling of the face, rail with them for Halloween or an- cherries, pears, tomato, melons, lips, and tongue would occur after other evening occasion. zucchini, cucumber, kiwi, and ba- eating the trigger foods,” explains Having guests? Carve out a very nanas. However, other foods can Indorato. “A child might also dem- large pumpkin and use it as a punch be problematic, such as lettuce, onstrate signs of trying to scratch bowl. BALL3ETUPROLLSOF in straight rows, green pepper, and certain nuts. In their tongue or throat.” Process your own pumpkin meat paper towels or empty point out that 10 x some cases, peeling or cooking the If your child experiences these for pies, cakes, or muffins. This is pop bottles as pins and get 4 = 40, or that 10 x 8 = 80. foods before eating can help. symptoms, take him to a pediatric enough fun the kids will want to help rolling. &INISHCOUNTINGOUTTHESEEDSINTHE One or more of the foods could allergist. you. Here are the steps: Look up the formula for volume of same fashion until done. How did your trigger oral allergy syndrome in tree pollens, avoid peaches, apples, “Diagnosis would be made by s " A KE THEPUMPKIN an ellipsoid. Take the proper measure- predictions measure up? susceptible individuals once they pears, kiwi, plums, coriander, cel- reviewing the history and pattern s 7 H E N YOUCANINSERTAFORKTHROUGH ments of your pumpkin to estimate If you laid all the seeds end to are sensitized. ery, fennel, parsley, cherries, and of symptoms, foods eaten when the skin, remove from the oven and let how much liquid your pumpkin will end in a train, how long would the carrots. the symptoms occurred, how often cool. hold. Then carve it out and see if you train stretch? Again, record everyone’s Pollens and If allergic to grass pollens, avoid after eating the symptoms oc- s 7 H E N COOLENOUGHTOHANDLE CUT got it right. PREDICTIONS "UT DO YOU HAVE ENOUGH trigger foods peaches, celery, tomatoes, melon, curred, prick skin tests, and pos- the pumpkin, remove all seeds, and Hide miniature pumpkins around room to lay out all those seeds? 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Count by twos and you know what you want to create be- tablespoons) 60 calories, 2 g protein, 3 tablespoons lemon juice Christine Palumbo, a registered di- together as a family and package them place them in piles of 10s on the table. fore you start, it will help you to decide 5 g fat, 3 g carbohydrate, 0 g satu- etitian nutritionist in Naperville, Ill., is 2 teaspoons garlic, chopped to give as gifts. Arrange the piles in straight rows of what colors to color the seeds. You can rated Fat, 0 g trans fat, 1 g fiber, 0 on the faculty of Benedictine University. 3/4 teaspoon cumin, ground mg cholesterol, 90 mg sodium. You can always enjoy a game of 10 piles in each row to make 100 seeds use this technique to make a picture Follow her on Twitter @PalumboRD, Fa- pumpkin bowling. Cut the stem off PERROW3ETUPROWSTOMAKE for the refrigerator or to make holiday 1/2 teaspoon salt Courtesy of United Soybean Board cebook at Christine Palumbo Nutrition, A MEDIUM SIZED PUMPKIN #ARVE OUT seeds. 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October 2013 • MANHATTAN Family 35 A good night BY JAMIE LOBER ing up on weekends and weekdays,” store,” said Kothare. Finding the said Dr. Sanjeev Kothare, associate Try to limit sleep to just night- etting a good night’s sleep professor and director of pediatric time. “Do not take naps in the af- best way to comes down to sleep hy- sleep medicine at the Department ternoon, because the nap does not G giene — basic strategies of Neurology at New York Univer- allow you to sleep on time at night that you can implement to help sity Langone Medical Center. Many since you have already had your help your your entire family get through the kids will go to sleep at midnight and little sleep taken care of.” night easier. And there is no better wake up at 10 am on Saturday and Find ways to unwind before bed. time to start than the new school Sunday, and expect to sleep on a Some kids like to take a warm bath family fall year. weekday and get up at 6:30 am, but in the evening, and you can add Families often talk about chang- the brain does not allow you to do scents that your child finds relax- asleep ing their ways when school re- that. Here are some ways to help. ing to the water. Jeffrey Rose, clini- sumes, but the truth is that people Make sure your day begins with cal hypnotherapist at NYU, says should have a routine that works daylight. certain essential oils can reduce for them throughout the year. “When you wake up in the morn- stress and relax your child, but you “Kids should have at most a one- ing, you want to get a dose of bright must be sure they are from natural hour difference in sleeping and wak- light, and you can buy those at the sources, rather than using artifi- 36 MANHATTAN Family • October 2013 Special Advertising Section Make sure that the room is quiet, dark, and a little bit cool. The American Academy of Jack & Jill School Sleep Medicine suggests thinking of your room 209 East 16th St. NY, NY 10003 as a cave. Bats, which are great sleepers, get A community pre-school since 1949 Jean Leshaw, Director 16 hours a night. 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The American Academy of Kothare. Sleep Medicine suggests thinking Some conditions are more se- of your room as a cave — since vere than others. “Narcolepsy is bats, which are great sleepers, get a condition where you are sleepy 16 hours a night, in the dark, cool and fall asleep, and when you environment of a cave. It’s also laugh, you fall to the floor, which recommended to try to get rid is cataplexy, and one of 2,000 kids of or deal with things that cause have it.” stress during the day, so you do Sleep has gained a lot of atten- not bring your worries with you tion recently. to bed. “People’s awareness of sleep as Encourage your child to sleep an important issue has increased. independently. Parents, families, teachers, and “A problem is that kids do not even patients are more aware that like to sleep on their own and like sleep is important and part of A good night to sleep with their parents, so every aspect of our human body, you have to gradually do separa- because for everything that we BY JAMIE LOBER ing up on weekends and weekdays,” store,” said Kothare. tion,” said Kothare. You can try do to run well, you have to have Finding the said Dr. Sanjeev Kothare, associate Try to limit sleep to just night- to watch your child while he falls healthy sleep,” said Kothare. etting a good night’s sleep professor and director of pediatric time. “Do not take naps in the af- asleep, and if he wakes up, come Do your part to motivate your best way to comes down to sleep hy- sleep medicine at the Department ternoon, because the nap does not in again and extend the behavior. child to get a good night’s sleep. G giene — basic strategies of Neurology at New York Univer- allow you to sleep on time at night Everybody needs a different “If you sleep well, you will that you can implement to help sity Langone Medical Center. Many since you have already had your amount of sleep based on age. be healthier in every way,” said help your your entire family get through the kids will go to sleep at midnight and little sleep taken care of.” “The newborn needs 16 to 18 Kothare. Do not be discouraged night easier. And there is no better wake up at 10 am on Saturday and Find ways to unwind before bed. hours; the 1-year-old needs 12 if you, the parent, are struggling. family fall time to start than the new school Sunday, and expect to sleep on a Some kids like to take a warm bath to 14 hours; the 2 to 4-year-old “Everybody can improve their year. weekday and get up at 6:30 am, but in the evening, and you can add needs 10 to 11 hours; the preteens sleep and it can be good to see a Families often talk about chang- the brain does not allow you to do scents that your child finds relax- need about 10 hours; the teenag- sleep physician.” asleep ing their ways when school re- that. Here are some ways to help. ing to the water. Jeffrey Rose, clini- ers need eight-and-a-half to nine Jamie Lober, author of Pink Power ICNY EAST MIDTOWN sumes, but the truth is that people Make sure your day begins with cal hypnotherapist at NYU, says hours; and the rest need eight (http://www.getpinkpower.com), is should have a routine that works daylight. certain essential oils can reduce dedicated to providing information on to eight-and-a-half hours,” said UPPER EAST SIDE for them throughout the year. “When you wake up in the morn- stress and relax your child, but you Kothare. women’s and pediatric health topics. “Kids should have at most a one- ing, you want to get a dose of bright must be sure they are from natural Some kids encounter obstacles She can be reached at jamie@getpink- hour difference in sleeping and wak- light, and you can buy those at the sources, rather than using artifi- that interfere with sleep. power.com. © 2013 Jamie Lober Special Advertising Section October 2013 • MANHATTAN Family 37 WOMEN A safe Halloween alloween is a holiday that bag, or a flashlight. You can also should check if the porch light is on. is notoriously fun for both apply reflective tape to the costume. If not, that’s usually a sign that they H parents and kids. The weeks aren’t home or they don’t want any surrounding Oct. 31 are filled with Don’t trip! trick-or-treaters. pre-Halloween parties, candy corn Kids want their costumes to look (my favorite!), picking out spook- cool, but there’s nothing cool about Let’s talk treats tacular costumes (I know every Di- tripping and stumbling all Hallow- Before eating the treats in a trick- vaMom loves to look as FabULyss as een night. Make the costume trip- or-treat bag, you’ll want to get a good FABULYSS her DivaTot), scary-themed crafts, proof by: LOOKATTHEM7HENYOURCHILDGETS and more. But, in order for Hallow- s-AKINGSUREITSNOTTOOLONG home, have him dump everything FINDS een to be as enjoyable and memo- s7EARINGSHOESTHATFIT out and let you see what he has. You LYSS STERN rable as possible, it has to meet the s!VOIDING SWORDS CANES AND don’t want him to eat anything that’s safety-standards of every parent, es- other props that can get in your way loose or not in a wrapper. Anything pecially in the crowded-and-bustling unwrapped, including fresh fruit, New York City. Halloween is meant Don’t go alone SHOULD BE THROWN AWAY 7ITHOUT A to be spooky and full of pranks and It’s best for kids to trick-or-treat wrapper, it’s hard to tell if food is laughs, but we as parents know that with family members or friends. And clean and safe to eat. the wellbeing and security of our it’s also a good idea to have a grown- Once you’ve looked over the children is not funny or negotiable. up with them. A cellphone can be an- treats, let your children dig in! But As a fellow mom of two (with a third other handy item to have along. That make sure they don’t overdo it to on the way), I would love to share way, if you’re not on trick-or-treating avoid tummy aches. Plus, if they with you a “lysst” of some absolutely duty, you can check in with your don’t eat too much on Halloween, vital Halloween safety tips for kids child, and, if need be, your child can they’ll have leftovers to enjoy in the of all ages: call for help. days and weeks to come. In other Talk it over when deciding where words, you can make Halloween a See and be seen to trick-or-treat. Sticking close to little sweeter by making it last a little After dark, kids aren’t usually home is great, because then children longer! swarming the neighborhood. But on know many of the people and won’t Halloween night, they are. That’s get lost in unfamiliar neighborhoods. Pumpkin carving why kids need to watch out for cars And people who already know him There are few things as much as- and other traffic. just might throw an extra treat in sociated with Halloween as carving Be sure that your child’s mask or his bag! a pumpkin, but it can be extremely costume doesn’t cover his eyes or Make sure your child knows that, dangerous for younger children. As make it tough for him to see where when trick-or-treating, he should an alternative to carving, you can he is going. You might think about avoid going inside a stranger’s home. consider allowing your younger kids using makeup instead of a mask. If Sometimes a person might invite to use markers, paint, or a pumpkin- your child does wear a mask, make him in for a treat, but he can just say decorating kit without the risk of sure the eye holes are big enough his mom or dad asked him not to carving with a sharp blade. I love that he can see. go inside anyone’s house. (Likewise, painting pumpkins with my boys. I Kids also need to be seen on Hal- never go up to or into a stranger’s have a feeling I will be painting a few loween, so it’s a good idea to wear car, even if the person offers a Hal- characters from the movie “Mon- or carry something that glows in loween treat.) sters University” with my younger the dark. You might choose a glow- And if a child is wondering about son. ing necklace, a glow-in-the-dark treat whether to go to a certain house, he Have a safe and ghoulishly fun Halloween! Lyss Stern is the founder of DivaLysscious Moms (www. divamoms.com).

38 MANHATTAN Family • October 2013 WOMEN “BEST NEW ACT IN AMERICA!” Piers Morgan, AMERICA’S GOT TALENT A safe Halloween alloween is a holiday that bag, or a flashlight. You can also should check if the porch light is on. is notoriously fun for both apply reflective tape to the costume. If not, that’s usually a sign that they H parents and kids. The weeks aren’t home or they don’t want any surrounding Oct. 31 are filled with Don’t trip! trick-or-treaters. pre-Halloween parties, candy corn Kids want their costumes to look (my favorite!), picking out spook- cool, but there’s nothing cool about Let’s talk treats tacular costumes (I know every Di- tripping and stumbling all Hallow- Before eating the treats in a trick- vaMom loves to look as FabULyss as een night. Make the costume trip- or-treat bag, you’ll want to get a good FABULYSS her DivaTot), scary-themed crafts, proof by: LOOKATTHEM7HENYOURCHILDGETS and more. But, in order for Hallow- s-AKINGSUREITSNOTTOOLONG home, have him dump everything FINDS een to be as enjoyable and memo- s7EARINGSHOESTHATFIT out and let you see what he has. You LYSS STERN rable as possible, it has to meet the s!VOIDING SWORDS CANES AND don’t want him to eat anything that’s safety-standards of every parent, es- other props that can get in your way loose or not in a wrapper. Anything pecially in the crowded-and-bustling unwrapped, including fresh fruit, New York City. Halloween is meant Don’t go alone SHOULD BE THROWN AWAY 7ITHOUT A to be spooky and full of pranks and It’s best for kids to trick-or-treat wrapper, it’s hard to tell if food is laughs, but we as parents know that with family members or friends. And clean and safe to eat. the wellbeing and security of our it’s also a good idea to have a grown- Once you’ve looked over the An Electrifying Story children is not funny or negotiable. up with them. A cellphone can be an- treats, let your children dig in! But As a fellow mom of two (with a third other handy item to have along. That make sure they don’t overdo it to Told Through Music, on the way), I would love to share way, if you’re not on trick-or-treating avoid tummy aches. Plus, if they Dance & Technology with you a “lysst” of some absolutely duty, you can check in with your don’t eat too much on Halloween, vital Halloween safety tips for kids child, and, if need be, your child can they’ll have leftovers to enjoy in the of all ages: call for help. days and weeks to come. In other Talk it over when deciding where words, you can make Halloween a See and be seen to trick-or-treat. Sticking close to little sweeter by making it last a little BEGINS JUNE 24 After dark, kids aren’t usually home is great, because then children longer! swarming the neighborhood. But on know many of the people and won’t Halloween night, they are. That’s get lost in unfamiliar neighborhoods. Pumpkin carving why kids need to watch out for cars And people who already know him There are few things as much as- If You Like and other traffic. just might throw an extra treat in sociated with Halloween as carving Be sure that your child’s mask or his bag! a pumpkin, but it can be extremely the Bar/Bat costume doesn’t cover his eyes or Make sure your child knows that, dangerous for younger children. As make it tough for him to see where when trick-or-treating, he should an alternative to carving, you can he is going. You might think about avoid going inside a stranger’s home. consider allowing your younger kids Mitzvah Guide... using makeup instead of a mask. If Sometimes a person might invite to use markers, paint, or a pumpkin- your child does wear a mask, make him in for a treat, but he can just say decorating kit without the risk of sure the eye holes are big enough his mom or dad asked him not to carving with a sharp blade. I love ...You’ll Love that he can see. go inside anyone’s house. (Likewise, painting pumpkins with my boys. I Kids also need to be seen on Hal- never go up to or into a stranger’s have a feeling I will be painting a few loween, so it’s a good idea to wear car, even if the person offers a Hal- characters from the movie “Mon- the Website or carry something that glows in loween treat.) sters University” with my younger BarBatMitzvahGuide.com the dark. You might choose a glow- And if a child is wondering about son. ing necklace, a glow-in-the-dark treat whether to go to a certain house, he Have a safe and ghoulishly fun Halloween! New Stories Lyss Stern is the founder of DivaLysscious Moms (www. Every Week divamoms.com). facebook.com/barbatmitzvahguide

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October 2013 • MANHATTAN Family 39 BOOKS Pirate and librarian make a great pair o you have a small child who couldn’t hush, there makes a big racket? Is it hard would be no pirates al- D to keep him quiet? Then this lowed in her building! book might be just the thing to keep Library Lou told Pete him entertained — and hushed. that she would help him Would you believe that it’s just find the treasure, but firs he had to lends faux-ferocity as hard to keep quiet when you’re take a bath. to a pirate who’s really a pussycat, THE BOOK a pirate? It is, and in the new book The next day, Library Lou handed and gentleness to a tiny librarian “No Pirates Allowed! Said Library Big Pete another assignment. “X” who turns out to be a tiger. Kids WORM Lou,” by Rhonda Gowler Greene, and didn’t mark the spot; there were who love books will surely want to TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER illustrated by Brian Ajhar, you’ll see a whole bunch of letters to look see where Big Pete finds his “gold.” all the challenges a buccaneer must through. It might have been a secret Add in the wonderful illustrations overcome. code, which would take a long time by Brian Ajhar (pay attention to Big Everything was “just right” at Sea- to figure out. Pete’s facial expressions!), you’ve got breezy Library. People were reading But after a few days of Q and L a book that’s really appealing. silently when, bang! Big Pirate Pete and Z, Big Pete got impatient. Was I’d highly recommend being very stomped through the door. there actually gold hidden in the silly with this book, and putting your “X Marks this spot!” he hollered. rows and rows and rows of books on best pirate on when reading it aloud. He was looking for treasure, but the shelves? Where, exactly, was the Do that, and “No Pirates Allowed! nobody could get close enough to treasure inside Seabreezy Library? Said Library Lou” will keep your 3 tell him that Seabreezy was a library If you and your child are readers, to 7 year old quiet — at least for a because he smelled terrible! you know where it is. But “No Pirates minute. But Library Lou was having none Allowed! Said Library Lou” is a fun “No Pirates Allowed! Said Library of that. She told Big Pete to be quiet. reminder. Lou,” by Rhonda Gowler Greene [40 Library Lou said that if Big Pete With a rhyme and a growl, Greene pages, 2013, $15.95]. Kids will clamor for this ‘Noisy Tractor’ our little one isn’t ex- dies wearing raincoats shouldn’t be which was translated from Spanish actly quiet, is she? You allowed on tractors. Of course, the into English. It’s cute, filled with posi- Y can hear her stomping lady on the tractor didn’t hear him. tivity, and is curiously inspirational. to the bathroom to brush her Soon, she pulled off the road and It’s also a little odd: adult sensi- teeth, rummaging around for headed for a village filled with flow- bilities might notice that authors her favorite toy, and clomp- ers and happy colors. But the villag- Mar Pavin and Nivola Uyá seem to ing out the door. ers weren’t so happy — they shouted end their book twice — but turn the In the new book “A Very, at the lady, too, and said that people page, and there’s plenty of story left. Very Noisy Tractor” by Mar like her shouldn’t drive tractors. That’s not bad, from a kid’s point-of- Pavin and Novila Uyá, ev- But a young boy on the side of the view, but it’s something for parents erybody in the area knows road was curious, because he hoped to to remember as their read-aloud who’s coming down the road. have a tractor just like that one some- starts to wind down. It was a quiet day in the country, day. He had a few questions and the Still, the good here vastly out- when a lady with a HUGE hairdo lady answered him, but she couldn’t weighs that relatively minor quirk: came putt-putting down the road on stay long. Her husband — who was a kids will love the humor and the ap- a tractor. A pizza delivery boy heard very good cook — had dinner waiting pealing characters. Adults will enjoy her coming and hollered, “Ladies for her, so she jumped on the tractor the dream-affirming message inside, with crazy hairdos shouldn’t drive and cha-chugged off down the road. and the illustrations are absolutely tractors,” but she never heard it, be- At the end of the road, there was irresistible. Three to 7 year olds cause the tractor was too noisy. a man with a huge moustache and a will shout about “A Very, Very Noisy A few miles later, someone with huge smile. He didn’t care what the Tractor.” thick glasses shouted, “Ladies with lady wore or what colors she had on. “A Very, Very Noisy Tractor,” by Mar glasses shouldn’t drive tractors!” but The little girl with him didn’t care Pavin and Nivola Uya [28 pages, 2013, the lady on the tractor (who wore what the lady on the tractor carried, $15.95]. thick glasses, too) never heard it be- either. Terri Schlichenmeyer has been read- cause the tractor was too loud. They saw what they saw, and it ing since she was 3 years old, and Did we say that the lady on the was love. she never goes anywhere without a tractor was wearing a raincoat? She It’s hard not to be totally charmed book. She lives on a hill with two dogs was, and a mailman yelled that la- by “A Very, Very Noisy Tractor,” and 12,000 books.

40 MANHATTAN Family • October 2013 BOOKS PARENTINGParenting Pirate and librarian make a great pair o you have a small child who couldn’t hush, there makes a big racket? Is it hard would be no pirates al- D to keep him quiet? Then this lowed in her building! book might be just the thing to keep Library Lou told Pete him entertained — and hushed. that she would help him Would you believe that it’s just find the treasure, but firs he had to lends faux-ferocity as hard to keep quiet when you’re take a bath. to a pirate who’s really a pussycat, THE BOOK a pirate? It is, and in the new book The next day, Library Lou handed and gentleness to a tiny librarian DOWNTOWN “No Pirates Allowed! Said Library Big Pete another assignment. “X” who turns out to be a tiger. Kids WORM Lou,” by Rhonda Gowler Greene, and didn’t mark the spot; there were who love books will surely want to MOMMY TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER illustrated by Brian Ajhar, you’ll see a whole bunch of letters to look see where Big Pete finds his “gold.” NOTOYA GREEN all the challenges a buccaneer must through. It might have been a secret Add in the wonderful illustrations overcome. code, which would take a long time by Brian Ajhar (pay attention to Big Everything was “just right” at Sea- to figure out. Pete’s facial expressions!), you’ve got breezy Library. People were reading But after a few days of Q and L a book that’s really appealing. silently when, bang! Big Pirate Pete and Z, Big Pete got impatient. Was I’d highly recommend being very stomped through the door. there actually gold hidden in the silly with this book, and putting your “X Marks this spot!” he hollered. rows and rows and rows of books on best pirate on when reading it aloud. He was looking for treasure, but the shelves? Where, exactly, was the Do that, and “No Pirates Allowed! nobody could get close enough to treasure inside Seabreezy Library? Said Library Lou” will keep your 3 tell him that Seabreezy was a library If you and your child are readers, to 7 year old quiet — at least for a because he smelled terrible! you know where it is. But “No Pirates minute. But Library Lou was having none Allowed! Said Library Lou” is a fun “No Pirates Allowed! Said Library of that. She told Big Pete to be quiet. reminder. Lou,” by Rhonda Gowler Greene [40 Library Lou said that if Big Pete With a rhyme and a growl, Greene pages, 2013, $15.95]. Figuring out my own Kids will clamor for this ‘Noisy Tractor’ our little one isn’t ex- dies wearing raincoats shouldn’t be which was translated from Spanish actly quiet, is she? You allowed on tractors. Of course, the into English. It’s cute, filled with posi- style of parenting Y can hear her stomping lady on the tractor didn’t hear him. tivity, and is curiously inspirational. to the bathroom to brush her Soon, she pulled off the road and It’s also a little odd: adult sensi- grew up in an old-school kind of and I didn’t want to constrain that. wasn’t such a good idea to let kids teeth, rummaging around for headed for a village filled with flow- bilities might notice that authors home, where it was sometimes I also thought I was supporting live a life completely without bor- her favorite toy, and clomp- ers and happy colors. But the villag- Mar Pavin and Nivola Uyá seem to I said that kids should be seen his creativity and his expressive- ders. That, perhaps, giving them ing out the door. ers weren’t so happy — they shouted end their book twice — but turn the and not heard. ness, and that was important to structure was important as well. It In the new book “A Very, at the lady, too, and said that people page, and there’s plenty of story left. In my mother’s house it was im- me. I also knew it was something was in that moment that I realized Very Noisy Tractor” by Mar like her shouldn’t drive tractors. That’s not bad, from a kid’s point-of- portant to know your place as a my mother would not have allowed my kids have to get along in this Pavin and Novila Uyá, ev- But a young boy on the side of the view, but it’s something for parents child. You were required to address when I was a child, and that was world with others, and teaching erybody in the area knows road was curious, because he hoped to to remember as their read-aloud adults formally, not interrupt them important to me as well. For a while them that it is fine to do whatever who’s coming down the road. have a tractor just like that one some- starts to wind down. when they were talking, and not be I was pretty proud of my parenting they want and say whatever they It was a quiet day in the country, day. He had a few questions and the Still, the good here vastly out- disruptive in any way. style because it was smarter and want to whomever they want may when a lady with a HUGE hairdo lady answered him, but she couldn’t weighs that relatively minor quirk: I didn’t like those rules very more modern. I also thought that actually be doing them a disser- came putt-putting down the road on stay long. Her husband — who was a kids will love the humor and the ap- much as a child. I didn’t understand my parenting style was about rais- vice. a tractor. A pizza delivery boy heard very good cook — had dinner waiting pealing characters. Adults will enjoy why I couldn’t chime in on adult ing leaders and thinkers because I’m still not a fan of old-school her coming and hollered, “Ladies for her, so she jumped on the tractor the dream-affirming message inside, conversations whenever I wanted, my children were living life with- parenting, but there is something with crazy hairdos shouldn’t drive and cha-chugged off down the road. and the illustrations are absolutely and I hated the fact that I was out borders, but a recent playdate to be said for some of its values. tractors,” but she never heard it, be- At the end of the road, there was irresistible. Three to 7 year olds always being constrained. At the caused me to re-think some of that. There is something to be said for cause the tractor was too noisy. a man with a huge moustache and a will shout about “A Very, Very Noisy time, I thought my mother’s rules A few weeks back, I attended a teaching kids good manners, disci- A few miles later, someone with huge smile. He didn’t care what the Tractor.” were pretty harsh, and decided that playdate, and for much of the af- pline, and self-control — and there thick glasses shouted, “Ladies with lady wore or what colors she had on. “A Very, Very Noisy Tractor,” by Mar things would be different for my ternoon I watched a little boy bully is even something to be said for my glasses shouldn’t drive tractors!” but The little girl with him didn’t care Pavin and Nivola Uya [28 pages, 2013, kids. I decided that when I become younger kids (including mine), mother’s approach to parenting. the lady on the tractor (who wore what the lady on the tractor carried, $15.95]. a mom my kids could talk whenever breaking their toys and jumping on Notoya Green is a parenting expert thick glasses, too) never heard it be- either. Terri Schlichenmeyer has been read- they wanted to, even if it meant that the furniture repeatedly. When I got and former Family Law attorney. You cause the tractor was too loud. They saw what they saw, and it ing since she was 3 years old, and they were “interrupting.” home (with my son’s broken toys), I can read her blog at www.tripletsin- Did we say that the lady on the was love. she never goes anywhere without a So when my son David began thought a lot about what happened tribeca.com. You can also follow her on tractor was wearing a raincoat? She It’s hard not to be totally charmed book. She lives on a hill with two dogs scribbling on our walls, I didn’t and thought about my approach to Facebook at www.facebook.com/trip- was, and a mailman yelled that la- by “A Very, Very Noisy Tractor,” and 12,000 books. stop him. It was part of his voice parenting. I thought that maybe it letsintribeca and on Twitter @NotoyaG.

October 2013 • MANHATTAN Family 41 PARENTING HEALTH Overscheduling & Try genetic testing teen relationships for breast cancer Too much! negotiable and non-negotia- and as a result we get frustrated, uring this month of breast check-ups, so it was somewhat of as our daughters. Women with the Dear Dr. Karyn, ble (i.e. sleeping, eating, angry, and anxious. The truth is you cancer awareness, the key a surprise when she found a lump, highest risk variants of BRCA mu- My daughter col- school). cannot control who your son dates, D message is to get regular and it was found to be malignant. tations have a theoretical breast DEAR lapsed at school in the Get her to estimate but you can control how and what HEALTHY check-ups and do monthly self-ex- After intense chemotherapy and a cancer risk of 60 to 82 percent, com- spring. Prior to that, she how much time per you communicate to your son. So my ams, so women can detect any ab- mastectomy, she has been cancer- pared to 12 percent of all women. DR. KARYN was feeling very anxious week each commit- encouragement is to focus on this. LIVING normalities as soon as they appear. free. It was a long road, and she still The test came back negative, which DR. KARYN GORDON and complaining about ment will involve. Here are a few tips: first, aim to DANIELLE SULLIVAN This lessens the chance of breast takes preventive medication, which was reassuring but still offered no all her work. I know Fifth, get her be a safe person for your son. When cancer being deadly. Sometimes, can be quite draining at times. Now, guarantee. Consequently, if she had she was overcommitted to map her non- I say safe, I mean non-judgmental, finding a lump is the best-case sce- she is adamant about detection and tested positive, her chances for with too many extracur- negotiables warm, loving, caring, compassionate, nario, because it means that you can follows all post-cancer protocols. developing ovarian cancer would ricular activities. What on a calen- understanding, and genuine. That have it biopsied and removed. In ad- After my mother’s treatment was have been higher. can I do to help her dar so that means not saying that you don’t like dition, genetic testing can pinpoint completed, her doctors at Memo- According to the Breast Cancer balance her calen- she can see or approve of his girlfriend. If you do if the breast cancer gene runs in rial Sloan Kettering Hospital urged Alliance, more than 200,000 women dar this fall? what she is this, you can almost guarantee that your family, and it’s a simple blood her to get genetic testing done. A will be diagnosed with breast can- committed to his walls will go up and he will stop test. simple blood test known as BRCA cer this year. Of those, seven to 10 Dear parent, and how much sharing with you. My mother was diagnosed with would show whether she had the percent (15,000 to 20,000 cases) Unfortunately, your room there is I do think it’s important for you to an aggressive form of breast cancer cancer gene, which would deter- will have an inherited predisposi- question is one I get left over. Sixth, voice your concerns, but only if he is nine years ago. Prior to that, she mine if the disease would be prob- tion. Among women with that pre- asked all too often. get her to priori- willing and open to hear it. Ask him, had her regular mammograms and able in my sister and myself, as well disposition, more than half (7,000 When people pack tize from zero to 10 “I’ve got some concerns about your to 10,000 cases) will be the result their schedule, there how important her ne- relationship — would you like me of detectable mutations in BRCA1 are many potential gotiable items are to her. to share them with you?” If he says or BRCA2. Those women with a emotional and physi- Some activities are going “no,” then respect that. When teens BRCA mutation will also have a 10 cal consequences. to be more important to are asked whether or not they want to 60 percent risk of developing Thankfully, there are her than others. The key advice, I find they are much more ovarian cancer in their lifetime (35 many things you, as is that you don’t want to open to hear it. to 60 percent risk with a BRCA1 a parent, can do to eliminate everything, but Second, ask questions. Ask him, mutation; 10 to 27 percent risk with help. rather help her to focus on what “How are you and your girlfriend BRCA2). That’s compared with a 1.5 First, take her to is really important to her. doing?” “What do you most appreci- percent risk of developing ovarian see your family doc- Finally, help her to say “no” ate about her?” “How is she similar cancer for the general population. tor. Anytime there are to some of her potential commit- or different to your past girlfriends?” The National Cancer Institute of- physical symptoms, it’s ments. This is the toughest step. “How would you describe your dream ficially recommends that the follow- extremely important to get The reality is that we are not girlfriend?” At first, he may only say ing have the BRCA tests performed: your doctor on board. Sec- robots — we have limits. And one-word answers. But over time, if s-ULTIPLEBREASTANDOVARIANCAN- ond, it’s important for you to be effective, we need to be he continues to feel safe with you, he cers within a family (often diagnosed to model having a balanced selective. Once she does this, is likely to start sharing more. at an early age) calendar yourself. she will feel a huge difference Finally, ask him how he feels about s 4WO ORMOREPRIMARYCANCERSIN If parents preach emotionally and physically! your relationship to your husband. a single family member (more than one thing but live This question can be a real eye- one breast cancer, or breast and another, your teen Teen dating opener! The reality is children will ovarian cancer) probably will not lis- Dear Dr. Karyn, often mirror relationships of their s # A S E S OFMALEBREASTCANCER ten to what you have I have a 19-year-old son who re- parents. Opening this up in a dia- It’s vital for women who have had to say. Modeling is extremely im- cently decided to get back together logue might give you some clues as breast cancer to be tested to see if portant when we’re talking about with an old girlfriend who is not to why he is attracted to her in the they have the BRCA mutation, for her this topic. good for him. Any suggestions? first place. Good luck! own battle in fighting cancer, as well Third, sit down with her and ex- Dr. Karyn Gordon is one of North as her daughters’ and granddaugh- press your concerns. Let her know Dear parent, America’s leading relationship and par- ters’ health. why you are worried (refer to the It can be extremely difficult when enting experts. She is a regular contribu- Danielle Sullivan, a mom of three, collapse as an example), and discuss we see our teens dating someone tor to “Good Morning America,” founder has worked as a writer and editor in the the potential consequences if she that we don’t approve of. When I of dk Leadership, best-selling author of parenting world for more than 10 years. does nothing different this fall. coach parents, there is one strategy “Dr. Karyn’s Guide to the Teen Years” Sullivan also writes about pets and par- Fourth, if she is willing, help her that I often recommend: focus on (Harper Collins), and motivational enting for Disney’s Babble.com. Find her prioritize all her potential fall com- what you can control and accept speaker to a quarter of a million people. on Facebook and Twitter @DanniSull- mitments. Get her to make a list of all what you cannot control. So many of Visit her at www.dkleadership.org and Writer, or on her blogs, Just Write Mom her commitments in two categories: us focus on what we cannot control on Twitter @DrKarynGordon. and Some Puppy To Love.

42 MANHATTAN Family • October 2013 PARENTING HEALTHealtHh Overscheduling & Try genetic testing teen relationships for breast cancer Too much! negotiable and non-negotia- and as a result we get frustrated, uring this month of breast check-ups, so it was somewhat of as our daughters. Women with the Dear Dr. Karyn, ble (i.e. sleeping, eating, angry, and anxious. The truth is you cancer awareness, the key a surprise when she found a lump, highest risk variants of BRCA mu- My daughter col- school). cannot control who your son dates, D message is to get regular and it was found to be malignant. tations have a theoretical breast DEAR lapsed at school in the Get her to estimate but you can control how and what HEALTHY check-ups and do monthly self-ex- After intense chemotherapy and a cancer risk of 60 to 82 percent, com- spring. Prior to that, she how much time per you communicate to your son. So my ams, so women can detect any ab- mastectomy, she has been cancer- pared to 12 percent of all women. DR. KARYN was feeling very anxious week each commit- encouragement is to focus on this. LIVING normalities as soon as they appear. free. It was a long road, and she still The test came back negative, which DR. KARYN GORDON and complaining about ment will involve. Here are a few tips: first, aim to DANIELLE SULLIVAN This lessens the chance of breast takes preventive medication, which was reassuring but still offered no all her work. I know Fifth, get her be a safe person for your son. When cancer being deadly. Sometimes, can be quite draining at times. Now, guarantee. Consequently, if she had she was overcommitted to map her non- I say safe, I mean non-judgmental, finding a lump is the best-case sce- she is adamant about detection and tested positive, her chances for with too many extracur- negotiables warm, loving, caring, compassionate, nario, because it means that you can follows all post-cancer protocols. developing ovarian cancer would ricular activities. What on a calen- understanding, and genuine. That have it biopsied and removed. In ad- After my mother’s treatment was have been higher. can I do to help her dar so that means not saying that you don’t like dition, genetic testing can pinpoint completed, her doctors at Memo- According to the Breast Cancer balance her calen- she can see or approve of his girlfriend. If you do if the breast cancer gene runs in rial Sloan Kettering Hospital urged Alliance, more than 200,000 women dar this fall? what she is this, you can almost guarantee that your family, and it’s a simple blood her to get genetic testing done. A will be diagnosed with breast can- committed to his walls will go up and he will stop test. simple blood test known as BRCA cer this year. Of those, seven to 10 Dear parent, and how much sharing with you. My mother was diagnosed with would show whether she had the percent (15,000 to 20,000 cases) Unfortunately, your room there is I do think it’s important for you to an aggressive form of breast cancer cancer gene, which would deter- will have an inherited predisposi- question is one I get left over. Sixth, voice your concerns, but only if he is nine years ago. Prior to that, she mine if the disease would be prob- tion. Among women with that pre- asked all too often. get her to priori- willing and open to hear it. Ask him, had her regular mammograms and able in my sister and myself, as well disposition, more than half (7,000 When people pack tize from zero to 10 “I’ve got some concerns about your to 10,000 cases) will be the result their schedule, there how important her ne- relationship — would you like me of detectable mutations in BRCA1 are many potential gotiable items are to her. to share them with you?” If he says or BRCA2. Those women with a emotional and physi- Some activities are going “no,” then respect that. When teens BRCA mutation will also have a 10 cal consequences. to be more important to are asked whether or not they want to 60 percent risk of developing Thankfully, there are her than others. The key advice, I find they are much more ovarian cancer in their lifetime (35 many things you, as is that you don’t want to open to hear it. to 60 percent risk with a BRCA1 a parent, can do to eliminate everything, but Second, ask questions. Ask him, mutation; 10 to 27 percent risk with help. rather help her to focus on what “How are you and your girlfriend BRCA2). That’s compared with a 1.5 First, take her to is really important to her. doing?” “What do you most appreci- percent risk of developing ovarian see your family doc- Finally, help her to say “no” ate about her?” “How is she similar cancer for the general population. tor. Anytime there are to some of her potential commit- or different to your past girlfriends?” The National Cancer Institute of- physical symptoms, it’s ments. This is the toughest step. “How would you describe your dream ficially recommends that the follow- extremely important to get The reality is that we are not girlfriend?” At first, he may only say ing have the BRCA tests performed: your doctor on board. Sec- robots — we have limits. And one-word answers. But over time, if s-ULTIPLEBREASTANDOVARIANCAN- ond, it’s important for you to be effective, we need to be he continues to feel safe with you, he cers within a family (often diagnosed to model having a balanced selective. Once she does this, is likely to start sharing more. at an early age) calendar yourself. she will feel a huge difference Finally, ask him how he feels about s 4WO ORMOREPRIMARYCANCERSIN If parents preach emotionally and physically! your relationship to your husband. a single family member (more than one thing but live This question can be a real eye- one breast cancer, or breast and another, your teen Teen dating opener! The reality is children will ovarian cancer) probably will not lis- Dear Dr. Karyn, often mirror relationships of their s # A S E S OFMALEBREASTCANCER ten to what you have I have a 19-year-old son who re- parents. Opening this up in a dia- It’s vital for women who have had to say. Modeling is extremely im- cently decided to get back together logue might give you some clues as breast cancer to be tested to see if portant when we’re talking about with an old girlfriend who is not to why he is attracted to her in the they have the BRCA mutation, for her this topic. good for him. Any suggestions? first place. Good luck! own battle in fighting cancer, as well Third, sit down with her and ex- Dr. Karyn Gordon is one of North as her daughters’ and granddaugh- press your concerns. Let her know Dear parent, America’s leading relationship and par- ters’ health. why you are worried (refer to the It can be extremely difficult when enting experts. She is a regular contribu- Danielle Sullivan, a mom of three, collapse as an example), and discuss we see our teens dating someone tor to “Good Morning America,” founder has worked as a writer and editor in the the potential consequences if she that we don’t approve of. When I of dk Leadership, best-selling author of parenting world for more than 10 years. does nothing different this fall. coach parents, there is one strategy “Dr. Karyn’s Guide to the Teen Years” Sullivan also writes about pets and par- Fourth, if she is willing, help her that I often recommend: focus on (Harper Collins), and motivational enting for Disney’s Babble.com. Find her prioritize all her potential fall com- what you can control and accept speaker to a quarter of a million people. on Facebook and Twitter @DanniSull- mitments. Get her to make a list of all what you cannot control. So many of Visit her at www.dkleadership.org and Writer, or on her blogs, Just Write Mom her commitments in two categories: us focus on what we cannot control on Twitter @DrKarynGordon. and Some Puppy To Love.

October 2013 • MANHATTAN Family 43 PARENTING Proud to be a mom, even at the office

arenting is certainly the hard- a mom is the most important job is also the childless women. est thing I’ve ever done, but we’ll ever have. You can have all Women should not feel the need P it is also the greatest thing sorts of professional success, but to downplay the joy in the workplace JUST WRITE in my life. I’m not afraid to say it … being responsible for another per- they derive from motherhood, but anymore. I’m not the type who talks son’s health, education, emotions, I think many of us still do. I’m not MOM incessantly about my kids or posts outlook on life, safety, and more advocating having an all-day ses- DANIELLE SULLIVAN daily Facebook pictures of every- is nothing short of meaningful in sion about Junior’s new tooth, but thing we do, but there is nothing that every sense of the word. we should also be able to say, “I’m even comes close to the joy (and fear) Much of the mommy stigma starts taking a sick day, because my child that I receive from being a mother. I in the workplace. During different is sick,” without suffering repercus- feel honored that I have these three times in my life, I have worked along- sions from it. people in my life, not to train, but to side hostile childless co-workers My career is vitally important to share life with, and watch them as who resented my part-time status, me, but if it were a choice between they blossom into young adults. And and I have felt the need to pur- it and my children, my kids would I know I’m not alone in that feeling, posefully not discuss my children at win hands-down. In fact, with most yet, I have encountered countless work. After all, work is for working, anything, I would choose my kids. moms that downplay the joy they get not divulging personal information, It’s not the trendy parenting subject from motherhood. but I also knew that any swooning that gets talked about these days. One reason a mother might do over my baby would result in certain It’s an old-fashioned notion, I sup- it is because she’s at work and co-workers holding the new mommy pose, that even in this time of femi- doesn’t want to be known as “that status against me. I have also wit- nism and equal rights, I would value mom,” or she may shelf her abun- nessed a boss berate a co-worker for being a mom above all else. And, as dant mommy enthusiasm, because taking her child to the doctor and much as I like to think of myself as she wants to appear as hip as she coming in 30 minutes late! progressive and modern, I still do was before she had kids. But being When I was an editor, I went out value being a mom above anything. of my way to make new moms No matter what professional success on staff feel included and just I attain, I would feel like a failure if I as valued as they were in their failed at motherhood. pre-pregnancy days, while Throughout my career, I have also empathizing with their changed jobs according to my fam- home situation, lack of sleep, ily’s needs, and I don’t regret any and general emotional turmoil of it. My career has thrived on the that can come with being a changes, and in each circumstance, new mom. I have been around I have grown personally and profes- too many pregnant women — sionally. Motherhood transforms a who felt embarrassed for tak- woman, and there is no reason we ing extra bathroom trips, hav- should hide that fact. It’s beautiful. ing bad morning sickness, or Priorities change, and we often grow calling in sick, because they into more empathetic and caring had a colicky baby — to not individuals as a result of being a have compassion for women parent. making the sometimes abrupt Despite the difficult times, sleep- transition into motherhood. less nights and worry that comes At the same time, I’ve often from parenting, it remains the most heard snickers from childless important job most of us will ever employees about how the new have … and we shouldn’t be afraid mom was mentally scattered. to say so. Well, that happens sometimes. Danielle Sullivan, a mom of three, The swirl of pregnancy, birth, has worked as a writer and editor in the and new motherhood is, at parenting world for more than 10 years. best, daunting. Women need Sullivan also writes about pets and par- to support other women, in enting for Disney’s Babble.com. Find her general, and it’s not only the on Facebook and Twitter @DanniSull- women who are stay-at-home Writer, or on her blogs, Just Write Mom moms or working moms — it and Some Puppy To Love.

44 MANHATTAN Family • October 2013 PARENTING Proud to be a mom, even at the office arenting is certainly the hard- a mom is the most important job is also the childless women. est thing I’ve ever done, but we’ll ever have. You can have all Women should not feel the need P it is also the greatest thing sorts of professional success, but to downplay the joy in the workplace JUST WRITE in my life. I’m not afraid to say it … being responsible for another per- they derive from motherhood, but anymore. I’m not the type who talks son’s health, education, emotions, I think many of us still do. I’m not MOM incessantly about my kids or posts outlook on life, safety, and more advocating having an all-day ses- DANIELLE SULLIVAN daily Facebook pictures of every- is nothing short of meaningful in sion about Junior’s new tooth, but thing we do, but there is nothing that every sense of the word. we should also be able to say, “I’m even comes close to the joy (and fear) Much of the mommy stigma starts taking a sick day, because my child that I receive from being a mother. I in the workplace. During different is sick,” without suffering repercus- feel honored that I have these three times in my life, I have worked along- sions from it. people in my life, not to train, but to side hostile childless co-workers My career is vitally important to share life with, and watch them as who resented my part-time status, me, but if it were a choice between they blossom into young adults. And and I have felt the need to pur- it and my children, my kids would I know I’m not alone in that feeling, posefully not discuss my children at win hands-down. In fact, with most yet, I have encountered countless work. After all, work is for working, anything, I would choose my kids. moms that downplay the joy they get not divulging personal information, It’s not the trendy parenting subject from motherhood. but I also knew that any swooning that gets talked about these days. One reason a mother might do over my baby would result in certain It’s an old-fashioned notion, I sup- it is because she’s at work and co-workers holding the new mommy pose, that even in this time of femi- doesn’t want to be known as “that status against me. I have also wit- nism and equal rights, I would value mom,” or she may shelf her abun- nessed a boss berate a co-worker for being a mom above all else. And, as dant mommy enthusiasm, because taking her child to the doctor and much as I like to think of myself as she wants to appear as hip as she coming in 30 minutes late! progressive and modern, I still do was before she had kids. But being When I was an editor, I went out value being a mom above anything. THE RHYTHM OF NEW YORK of my way to make new moms No matter what professional success on staff feel included and just I attain, I would feel like a failure if I as valued as they were in their failed at motherhood. pre-pregnancy days, while Throughout my career, I have also empathizing with their changed jobs according to my fam- home situation, lack of sleep, ily’s needs, and I don’t regret any and general emotional turmoil of it. My career has thrived on the that can come with being a changes, and in each circumstance, new mom. I have been around I have grown personally and profes- too many pregnant women — sionally. 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October 2013 • MANHATTAN FAMily 45 PARENTING The day I just QUIT quit. I am hip-deep in laundry. I There are 17 more shoes than feet in our front hall — not pairs, just individual shoes. There’s a kid I don’t know sleeping on the couch. There’s a dog I don’t know drinking out of my toilet. My fridge is loaded DEATH BY to the gills with old Chinese food and outdated Gogurts. I’m out of bread, CHILDREN eggs, milk, hot dogs, and Ho Hos. I CHRIS GARLINGTON haven’t shaved in four days. I have no clean towels. I wander into my son’s room where he’s fallen asleep like a true warrior, in a puddle of drool surrounded by a crenelated edifice of Brisk cans and spent instant snack Ramen bowls. It’s Snackhenge. The dinner table is piled to the roofbeams with clean clothes. I put them there with the admonition that my kids ought to put away their own duds. They just started changing in the dining room. There’s a Wii avatar staring at me from the flatscreen. He seems angry, impatient, like he’s been standing there a long time. He’s looking at me like he’s thinking, “Well? What are you going to do now?” What am I going to do? The only sane thing left. This experiment called “summer” has run its course, and it’s an epic fail. I know when I’ve been beat. I grab my keys, my giant “I quit.” Maybe you should … ” leather manbag, and my panama hat, “Dad?” “I quit.” and walk out the front door. It’s a good cigar. I mean, really, re- “If you quit your duties … I’ll quit I quit. ally good. I keep smoking and stare mine.” I’ve been a slave for nine long into the haze until my phone vi- I’m back at the house in 10 min- weeks. A kept man. A minion for my brates a hole in the chair. utes flat. miniature overlords, and I’ve had it. I “Dad, Connor is GrubHubbing a Chris Garlington lives in a standard need to refill my man card. pizza. Can I get a pizza?” two kids, wife, dog, corner-lot, two- I go to my favorite cigar lounge “I quit.” car dream package. He drives a 2003 and disappear into a deep leather “LOL. Hilarious. I’m starving. Camry, sports a considerable notebook chair under a cloud of fine Nicara- Some dog pooped in the kitchen.” fetish, and smokes Arturo Fuente Part- guan smoke. I break out a good book. “I quit.” aga Maduros at the Cigar King as often I order a cup of coffee so strong it “Dad?” as possible. His stories have appeared can bend time. I wallow deeper into The thing about a Partagas Ma- in Florida, Orlando, Orlando Weekly, the leather, tilt my hat down over duro is you have to take time to Catholic Digest, Retort, Another Realm, my eyes, and crack the spine on the smoke it right. You can’t smoke it too The Dead Mule School of Southern Lit- book. fast, it’s like fishing. You have to … erature, South Lit, and other magazines. Then the texts begin. “Hon? The kids seem concerned His short story collection, “King of the “Dad where are you?” about you.” Road,” is available on Amazon. His col- “Nicaragua.” “I quit.” umn “My Funny Life,” was nominated for “Srsly. I’m hungry.” “It’s been a long summer. You a national humor award. He is the au- “I quit.” probably need a mini-vacation.” thor of the infamous anti-parenting blog, “LOL, dad. You’re funny. Danny “I quit.” Death By Children; the anti-writing blog, needs a ride home, and his dog “Our house is full of kids and dogs, Creative Writer Pro; and co-author of pooped in the kitchen.” and they’re all starving to death. “The Beat Cop’s Guide to Chicago Eats.”

46 MANHATTAN Family • October 2013 PARENTING PARENTINGParenting The day I just QUIT Teens & Halloween quit. hen I was a child, the an- school Halloween festival. I am hip-deep in laundry. ticipation of Halloween s / R G A N I Z E A h$EADLY $UNGEON I There are 17 more shoes than W night was unbearable for Dance” to raise money for the Senior feet in our front hall — not pairs, me. I would sprint from the bus, Class Trip. just individual shoes. There’s a kid shove some food down, only be- s(ALLOWEEN THEMED CONCERTS I don’t know sleeping on the couch. cause my mom insisted, and then Musicians can dress the part. (Music There’s a dog I don’t know drinking spend what was left of daylight get- selections: “Phantom of the Opera,” out of my toilet. My fridge is loaded ting into a costume I had planned for “Theme from the Addams Family,” DEATH BY to the gills with old Chinese food and LIONS AND months. Once darkness enveloped “Rocky Horror Picture Show,” etc.). outdated Gogurts. I’m out of bread, the neighborhood, we headed out CHILDREN eggs, milk, hot dogs, and Ho Hos. I TIGERS AND in groups. By the time junior high Get into costume CHRIS GARLINGTON haven’t shaved in four days. I have TEENS school started, it was no longer cool Spread your love of the holiday by no clean towels. to go door-to-door asking for candy. donning a costume for work. Teens I wander into my son’s room where MYRNA BETH HASKELL However, we didn’t want to give up should always ask for permission he’s fallen asleep like a true warrior, the tradition of dressing up and ven- first, but the mood is often contain a puddle of drool surrounded by a turing out on Halloween night, so we gious and other employees might crenelated edifice of Brisk cans and armed ourselves with shaving cream opt to dress in spooky garb as well. spent instant snack Ramen bowls. instead of candy bags, and searched “Teens are about finding their power Is your teen into theater? Perhaps It’s Snackhenge. for other teen groups to sneak up on. to make a difference. Combining phi- he can direct a mini play for trick-or- The dinner table is piled to the By high school, most of my friends lanthropy with trick-or-treating is treaters at your door. Teens love to roofbeams with clean clothes. I put were assigned to doorbell manage- fun and altruistic. Trick-or-treating put on skits with friends. Younger them there with the admonition that ment. Sigh! I lucked out, however, for UNICEF is cool.” kids will get a kick out of it when they my kids ought to put away their own because I still got to dress up and Dr. Lynne Kenney, a pediatric psy- ring the bell. duds. They just started changing in chaperone my little sister. chologist, author of “The Family Coach the dining room. Forgive me for the pun, but I never Method,” and co-author of “Bloom: Tips and tales There’s a Wii avatar staring at me got Halloween out of my blood. Helping Children Blossom” explains, “Teens can help the neighborhood from the flatscreen. He seems angry, Today, I still dress up to answer the “Teens don’t have to miss out on the kids trick-or-treat, hand out candy, impatient, like he’s been standing door, and I hold an annual haunted fun! The key is to get creative.” or set up a fun haunted yard for the there a long time. He’s looking at me bash. Teens don’t have to give up the Kenney suggests that teens give neighborhood to enjoy.” like he’s thinking, “Well? What are holiday either. There are plenty of back to their neighborhood. Jessica Dearden, Woodstock, NY you going to do now?” ways teens can celebrate Halloween “Many parents prefer being out “We set up a tarp with sides and What am I going to do? The only — without a can of Gillette! in the neighborhood with their own made an awesome haunted house. sane thing left. This experiment children, so helping mind the door My nephew dressed up as a zombie called “summer” has run its course, Volunteer while families trick-or-treat is a help- and jumped out of his chair when and it’s an epic fail. I know when I’ve opportunities ful and practical neighborhood gift.” the kids got close to him. The kids been beat. I grab my keys, my giant “I quit.” Maybe you should … ” There are dozens of volunteer op- Kenney also suggests teens hold had a great time and still talk about leather manbag, and my panama hat, “Dad?” “I quit.” portunities for teens, and making a lemonade stand for the younger it!!” and walk out the front door. It’s a good cigar. I mean, really, re- “If you quit your duties … I’ll quit the world a better place for others is trick-or-treaters. Gloria Jean Lyons, Hyde Park, NY I quit. ally good. I keep smoking and stare mine.” always a satisfying endeavor. Some creative options: “Teens help run the haunted I’ve been a slave for nine long into the haze until my phone vi- I’m back at the house in 10 min- Annie Fox, character educator, ad- s'ROUP IDEA #REATE A NEIGHBOR- house in our community. They have weeks. A kept man. A minion for my brates a hole in the chair. utes flat. visor to teens, and author of “Teach- hood “haunted mansion.” Charge a fun designing the house and running miniature overlords, and I’ve had it. I “Dad, Connor is GrubHubbing a Chris Garlington lives in a standard ing Kids to Be Good People” says, nominal fee and donate the proceeds it on three weekends before Hallow- need to refill my man card. pizza. Can I get a pizza?” two kids, wife, dog, corner-lot, two- to a favorite charity. een each year.” I go to my favorite cigar lounge “I quit.” car dream package. He drives a 2003 s.ON PROFIT BLOOD DRIVE 6OLUN- Debbie St. Onge, Poughkeepsie, and disappear into a deep leather “LOL. Hilarious. I’m starving. Camry, sports a considerable notebook Safety for licensed teens teers can dress like Dracula and post NY chair under a cloud of fine Nicara- Some dog pooped in the kitchen.” fetish, and smokes Arturo Fuente Part- an entrance sign which reads: “I vant guan smoke. I break out a good book. “I quit.” aga Maduros at the Cigar King as often Halloween is a night on which s 4A KE IT SLOW 9OUNG TRICK OR to draw your blood.” Share your ideas I order a cup of coffee so strong it “Dad?” as possible. His stories have appeared young kids will be out en masse, treaters will be out on roads and Upcoming topic: Do you tell an- can bend time. I wallow deeper into The thing about a Partagas Ma- in Florida, Orlando, Orlando Weekly, celebrations will often include al- may not be equipped with suffi- The school other parent about her teen’s bad the leather, tilt my hat down over duro is you have to take time to Catholic Digest, Retort, Another Realm, cohol, and other teens may be out cient gear to be easily seen. connection behavior? When to tell … not tell … my eyes, and crack the spine on the smoke it right. You can’t smoke it too The Dead Mule School of Southern Lit- looking for mischief. Here are some s " E EXTRA CAUTIOUS 3TUDIES Even though showing off their cos- Please send your full name, address, book. fast, it’s like fishing. You have to … erature, South Lit, and other magazines. tips to stay safe while driving. show that driving at night is tumes at the elementary Halloween and brief comments to myrnahaskell@ Then the texts begin. “Hon? The kids seem concerned His short story collection, “King of the s 7 H E N DRIVING TO WORK OR A more dangerous for teens, and parade is a distant memory, there gmail.com or, visit www.myrnahaskell. “Dad where are you?” about you.” Road,” is available on Amazon. His col- party in costume, be sure to re- Halloween night is also an eve- are still plenty of opportunities for com. “Nicaragua.” “I quit.” umn “My Funny Life,” was nominated for move any type of head gear, long ning where celebrations often middle school and high school stu- Myrna Beth Haskell is a columnist “Srsly. I’m hungry.” “It’s been a long summer. You a national humor award. He is the au- cape, shoe covering, or anything include alcohol. Take particular dents to share their passion for the and the author of, “Lions And Tigers And “I quit.” probably need a mini-vacation.” thor of the infamous anti-parenting blog, else that might interfere with care, and steer clear of erratic holiday at school. Teens: Expert Advice and Support for the “LOL, dad. You’re funny. Danny “I quit.” Death By Children; the anti-writing blog, your vision or ability to operate vehicles. s " A KE (ALLOWEENTREATSFORGROUP Conscientious Parent Just Like You” (Un- needs a ride home, and his dog “Our house is full of kids and dogs, Creative Writer Pro; and co-author of the vehicle. s!BIDEBYCURFEWS fund-raising events. limited Publishing LLC, 2012). For details, pooped in the kitchen.” and they’re all starving to death. “The Beat Cop’s Guide to Chicago Eats.” s6OLUNTEER AT AN ELEMENTARY www.myrnahaskell.com.

October 2013 • MANHATTAN Family 47 PARENTING RELATIONSHIPSRelationships Preparing for my Ups & downs with second baby blended families ast month’s column was the ’m happy to announce that my first of two on blended fami- MOMMY 101 husband and I are expecting a DIVORCE & L lies, which are families in I second baby, and are excited to which one or both spouses bring ANGELICA SEREDA add to our family. I recently found children from a previous relation- out that I’m having another girl — SEPARATION ship. Dr. Kristin Davin, a clinical psy- and since the shock is almost LEE CHABIN, ESQ. chologist in Manhattan, explained worn off, I’m trying to get used that blending families takes time and to, and liking, the idea of hav- patience, the primacy of the spousal ing an all-girl home, all the relationship, the advisability of fam- time (I can’t say the same ily meetings, and more. Here, we for my husband). continue with that discussion. Everyone keeps ask- Adults and children should know ing me if I’ve told Olivia, that there will be ups and downs which is funny to me be- during the years that the blending cause she just turned 2, process continues. but, yes, I have told her, “People get over some hurdles, although I’m not so sure and think the challenges are over, how much she under- but there are likely to be new ones,” stands. Davin said. When I told her the For instance, children have differ- — every parent will screw up occa- ilies might behave the same way.” news, I announced that ent developmental stages — a chal- sionally. When that happens, own up As parents, we can be apprehen- mommy was having a baby lenge that exists in “intact” families to the mistakes or bad behavior. sive about talking to our kids. Davin and that she would be a big as well. If parents have talked over “I called your father ‘unreliable.’ advises, “Just ask them, ‘How do you sister. She responded by con- how they’re going to handle the dif- I’m sorry I said that, and I’ll try very think things are going?’” tinuing to play with her toys. ferent stages, be it the terrible twos hard not to do that kind of thing Let kids know you are dealing After weeks of not bringing it or the teenage years, conflict be- again.” with some of the struggles they are. up again, I decided to make it a tween them is less likely. Consistency “We’re all experiencing changes part of our daily lives, mostly be- Don’t force a relationship Are house rules being broken? If and that includes me. It isn’t easy. cause I feared she would continue A parent may want everyone in so, as parents, try to maintain the It’s OK to be missing the old family.” to elbow me in the belly, but also the new family to be happy, push too same standards of what is expected Davin also suggests that parents for learning and training purposes. fast, and pressure a child to quickly of the children. Ask yourselves, “Do talk to teachers to let them know So, I remind her that mommy has and lovingly embrace the new adult we have solid reasons for what we that the child is about to become a a baby in the belly and that she in his life. But this will happen on the are asking of them?” Be consistent member of a blended family. needs to be gentle. Each day she child’s timetable, not the parent’s. in how you treat different children, Maintain routines says hello and checks in with the As parents, we would do better to perhaps giving — and enforcing — Did you used to play in the park “baby” (my belly). focus on “the times we have spent to- the same curfew for kids who are the with your child every Sunday, or This baby is now becoming more To be honest, my gether with the child that have been same age. have some other special time one- real, not just to me, but to the biggest fear is that comfortable, and then perhaps to do A child’s resentment at inconsis- on-one with her or him? Continue whole family as well, and I’m hop- after months of trying to more of that and allow the relation- tent treatment may be magnified in a with these routines as best you can. ing that by making the baby a part wean her off her bottle she’ll ship to develop on its own terms,” blended family. Find time for each child, and con- of our lives now, it will ease the relapse once she sees me bottle says Davin. There may be good reasons for sider creating new routines for your transition for Olivia once her little feeding her little sister. Or worst, Trial, error, and handling errors inconsistency. When a child says, “I new and blended family. sister is actually here. what will happen to all of our great Slowly, I started to trust my in- Since each family is different, and don’t have to do that at Ma’s,” a le- Contact Kristin Davin at (917) 715– I don’t know what kind of big potty training? Will she suddenly stincts and learned more about each member is changing over time, gitimate response might be, “But this 6583. sister Olivia will be, but I think she want to be in diapers? what Olivia needed. I would con- try to remain flexible. Whether your is our home that we’ve established, New York City- and Long Island- will have her moments. I have no doubt that Olivia will stantly tell her that we were a team. approach (to dealing with household and the traditions and choices we’re based divorce mediator and collab- She’s great at helping out and love her sister and that they’ll be I have a good feeling that this sec- chores, for example) is working well making.” orative divorce lawyer Lee Chabin, Esq. really feels like a big girl when she close friends. But I’m definitely a ond baby will be in good hands. or not, you will probably need to Is my child alright? helps clients end their relationships can pitch in, so I’m sure she’ll be a little nervous about caring for two This time around she’ll have an make adjustments at some point. Try “Kids’ behaviors fall along a con- respectfully and without going to court. great help to me when I need her. small children. I remember my first experienced mom and big sister a plan that makes sense, and rework tinuum,” Davin said. “The question Contact him at lee_chabin@lc-mediate. But she also gets very clingy and few months as a new mom and how cheering for her. it as necessary. is ‘are they out of line for their age?’ com or (718) 229–6149, or go to http:// jealous, and I can see her feeling clueless I felt about everything. I And my husband is being proac- While some errors should never be Teenagers often isolate themselves, lc-mediate.com/. left out when I have a newborn in doubted myself a lot and spent a lot tive too. Each night at dinner he made — making disparaging remarks and this behavior may be just be- Disclaimer: All material in this column is for informational my arms. of time on Google. suggests a new baby name. about a parent to a child, for instance cause of their age. Kids in intact fam- purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.

48 MANHATTAN Family • October 2013 PARENTING RELATIONSHIPSRelationships Preparing for my Ups & downs with second baby blended families ast month’s column was the ’m happy to announce that my first of two on blended fami- MOMMY 101 husband and I are expecting a DIVORCE & L lies, which are families in I second baby, and are excited to which one or both spouses bring ANGELICA SEREDA add to our family. I recently found children from a previous relation- out that I’m having another girl — SEPARATION ship. Dr. Kristin Davin, a clinical psy- and since the shock is almost LEE CHABIN, ESQ. chologist in Manhattan, explained worn off, I’m trying to get used that blending families takes time and to, and liking, the idea of hav- patience, the primacy of the spousal ing an all-girl home, all the relationship, the advisability of fam- time (I can’t say the same ily meetings, and more. Here, we for my husband). continue with that discussion. Everyone keeps ask- Adults and children should know ing me if I’ve told Olivia, that there will be ups and downs which is funny to me be- during the years that the blending cause she just turned 2, process continues. but, yes, I have told her, “People get over some hurdles, although I’m not so sure and think the challenges are over, how much she under- but there are likely to be new ones,” stands. Davin said. When I told her the For instance, children have differ- — every parent will screw up occa- ilies might behave the same way.” news, I announced that ent developmental stages — a chal- sionally. When that happens, own up As parents, we can be apprehen- mommy was having a baby lenge that exists in “intact” families to the mistakes or bad behavior. sive about talking to our kids. Davin and that she would be a big as well. If parents have talked over “I called your father ‘unreliable.’ advises, “Just ask them, ‘How do you sister. She responded by con- how they’re going to handle the dif- I’m sorry I said that, and I’ll try very think things are going?’” tinuing to play with her toys. ferent stages, be it the terrible twos hard not to do that kind of thing Let kids know you are dealing After weeks of not bringing it or the teenage years, conflict be- again.” with some of the struggles they are. up again, I decided to make it a tween them is less likely. Consistency “We’re all experiencing changes part of our daily lives, mostly be- Don’t force a relationship Are house rules being broken? If and that includes me. It isn’t easy. cause I feared she would continue A parent may want everyone in so, as parents, try to maintain the It’s OK to be missing the old family.” to elbow me in the belly, but also the new family to be happy, push too same standards of what is expected Davin also suggests that parents for learning and training purposes. fast, and pressure a child to quickly of the children. Ask yourselves, “Do talk to teachers to let them know So, I remind her that mommy has and lovingly embrace the new adult we have solid reasons for what we that the child is about to become a a baby in the belly and that she in his life. But this will happen on the are asking of them?” Be consistent member of a blended family. needs to be gentle. Each day she child’s timetable, not the parent’s. in how you treat different children, Maintain routines says hello and checks in with the As parents, we would do better to perhaps giving — and enforcing — Did you used to play in the park “baby” (my belly). focus on “the times we have spent to- the same curfew for kids who are the with your child every Sunday, or This baby is now becoming more To be honest, my gether with the child that have been same age. have some other special time one- real, not just to me, but to the biggest fear is that comfortable, and then perhaps to do A child’s resentment at inconsis- on-one with her or him? Continue whole family as well, and I’m hop- after months of trying to more of that and allow the relation- tent treatment may be magnified in a with these routines as best you can. ing that by making the baby a part wean her off her bottle she’ll ship to develop on its own terms,” blended family. Find time for each child, and con- of our lives now, it will ease the relapse once she sees me bottle says Davin. There may be good reasons for sider creating new routines for your transition for Olivia once her little feeding her little sister. Or worst, Trial, error, and handling errors inconsistency. When a child says, “I new and blended family. sister is actually here. what will happen to all of our great Slowly, I started to trust my in- Since each family is different, and don’t have to do that at Ma’s,” a le- Contact Kristin Davin at (917) 715– I don’t know what kind of big potty training? Will she suddenly stincts and learned more about each member is changing over time, gitimate response might be, “But this 6583. sister Olivia will be, but I think she want to be in diapers? what Olivia needed. I would con- try to remain flexible. Whether your is our home that we’ve established, New York City- and Long Island- will have her moments. I have no doubt that Olivia will stantly tell her that we were a team. approach (to dealing with household and the traditions and choices we’re based divorce mediator and collab- She’s great at helping out and love her sister and that they’ll be I have a good feeling that this sec- chores, for example) is working well making.” orative divorce lawyer Lee Chabin, Esq. really feels like a big girl when she close friends. But I’m definitely a ond baby will be in good hands. or not, you will probably need to Is my child alright? helps clients end their relationships can pitch in, so I’m sure she’ll be a little nervous about caring for two This time around she’ll have an make adjustments at some point. Try “Kids’ behaviors fall along a con- respectfully and without going to court. great help to me when I need her. small children. I remember my first experienced mom and big sister a plan that makes sense, and rework tinuum,” Davin said. “The question Contact him at lee_chabin@lc-mediate. But she also gets very clingy and few months as a new mom and how cheering for her. it as necessary. is ‘are they out of line for their age?’ com or (718) 229–6149, or go to http:// jealous, and I can see her feeling clueless I felt about everything. I And my husband is being proac- While some errors should never be Teenagers often isolate themselves, lc-mediate.com/. left out when I have a newborn in doubted myself a lot and spent a lot tive too. Each night at dinner he made — making disparaging remarks and this behavior may be just be- Disclaimer: All material in this column is for informational my arms. of time on Google. suggests a new baby name. about a parent to a child, for instance cause of their age. Kids in intact fam- purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.

October 2013 • MANHATTAN Family 49 CalendarOctober Brett Boardman Photography

he New Victory Theater kicks when one young girl befriends a par- off its fall season with rollicking ticularly sly and silly fellow — her ‘Peter Pan’ and T adaptations of “Peter Pan” and shadow! A whimsical story about “Me and My Shadow.” friendship, this clever and charm- The tale of the boy who flies and ing play earned the Patch Theatre ‘Me and My never ages lands on stage with a dream Company a Helpmann Award for Best ensemble, via the brilliant imagination Presentation for Children in Sydney. of Sydney’s Belvoir. Aided by a bit of The troupe’s playground of paper, Shadow’ at the fairy dust, ingenious stage magic, and light, music, and magic ignites imagi- lots of happy thoughts, the Darlings nations and tickles the fancy of little explore J.M. Barrie’s Neverland, as theatergoers in a big theater space. New Victory their bedroom becomes a lagoon full “Peter Pan” on Oct. 4 at 7 pm; Oct of mermaids, a pirate ship at sea, and 5 and 12 at 2 pm and 7 pm; Oct. 6 at 3 a cove overrun with lost boys. Under pm; and Oct. 13 at noon and 5 pm. the spell of infectious make-believing, “Me and My Shadow” on Oct. 19 at audiences are sure to un-grow up and 11 am, 3 pm, and 7 pm; and Oct. 20 at fly along with them — second star to noon and 5 pm. the right and straight on till morning! Tickets start at $14. More giggles galore are on the The New Victory Theater [209 W. 42nd way during “Me and My Shadow,” St. (646) 223–3010, www.newvictory.org].

50 MANHATTAN Family • October 2013 Calendar Sat, Oct. 12 Submit a listing Third Annual Culture and Arts Going Places is dedicated to Festival: Morris-Jumel Mansion in bringing our readers the most Roger Morris Park, 65 Jumel Terr., be- comprehensive events calen- tween W. 162nd Street and Edge- dar in your area. But to do so, combe Avenue; (212) 923–8008; www. we need your help! nycgovparks.org/events/2013/10/12/ Send your listing request to mjm-culture-and-arts-festival; 10 am–6 manhattancalendar@cnglocal. pm; Free. com — and we’ll take care of Featuring vibrant music, artistry, the rest. Please e-mail requests crafts and food. more than three weeks prior to the event to ensure we have LEGO Pre-Robotics Workshop: enough time to get it in. And best RoboFun, 2672 Broadway at W. 102nd of all, it’s FREE! Street; (212) 245–0444; www.robofun. org; 10 am; $40. This workshop for preschoolers and Tues, Oct. 1 caregivers will give you the opportunity to build with LEGO, then add a battery Family Stargazing: Highline, and motors to make them move. between W. 13th and W. 14th streets; www.thehighline.org/events/ Mister G Concert: Leonard Nimoy free/2013/8/every-tuesday-stargazing- Thalia, 2537 Broadway at W. 94th on-the-high-line; 7:30 – 9:30 pm; Free. Street; (212) 316–4962; www.sympho- Gaze at the stars, planets, and moon nyspace.org; 11 am; $20, $17 (mem- through the telescopes of the Amateur bers), $15 (children), $13 (members). Astronomers Association. Concert presenting standard children’s music with English-Spanish Sat, Oct. 5 tunes, including genres like funk, rock, reggae, bluegrass, and jazz. Story Pirates: Symphony Space, 2537 Broadway at W. 94th Street; (212) Sun, Oct. 13 864–5400; www.symphonyspace.org/ event/8020-story-pirates; 11 am and 2 The Funkey Monkeys: The Jewish pm; $20 ($17 member) $15 (child) $13 Museum, 1109 Fifth Ave. at E. 92nd (child member). Street; (212) 423–3200; www.thejew- Children’s Museum of Manhattan This musical sketch comedy was cre- ishmuseum.org; 11:30 am and 2:00 ated entirely from stories written by pm; $18 (per adult); $15 (per child); $15 kids, and will have your family laughing Dr. Seuss at the (adult member); $13 (child member). hysterically from beginning to end. The Funkey Monkeys celebrate its 10th anniversary with a special perfor- Sun, Oct. 6 Children’s Museum mance filled with hilarious antics. LEGO Robotics Workshop: Robo- reate Dr. Seuss-inspired show with Justin the Magician. Mon, Oct. 14 Fun, 2672 Broadway at W. 102nd rhyming mobiles, design Opening day arts and crafts Street; (212) 245–0444; www.robofun. a recycled toy, enjoy an — and much more! — on Oct. 25, Charles H. Tally Holiday Monday org; 9:30 am; $75. C interactive storytime, and mar- Halloween festival on Oct. 26, and Family Programs: Metropolitan Mu- Students are introduced to robotics vel at costumed strollers during Who-ville Halloween Magic Show seum of Art, 1000 Fifth Ave. at E. 82nd by building and programming LEGO “The Grinch’s Holiday Workshop” with Justin the Magician on Oct. Street; (212) 570–7710; www.metmu- projects, using sensors, motors and at Children’s Museum of Manhat- 27. All events 10 am to 5 pm, $11. seum.org; 11 am, Noon, 1:15 pm, 2:30 LEGO’s playful WeDo software. Best pm; Free with museum admission. tan. Children’s Museum of Manhattan for kids in grades one through three. Take a day to play at the Met and There’s also a Halloween fes- [212 W. 83rd St. between Amsterdam enjoy fun discussion and sketching! For Chagall Family Day: The Jewish tival to usher in the year’s most Avenue and Broadway on the Upper families with children ages 5 to 12. Museum, 1109 Fifth Ave. at E. 92nd bone-thrilling day. And don’t for- West Side, (212) 721–1234, www. Street; (212) 423–3200; www.thejew- get to take in the Who-ville magic cmom.org]. Masterpiece Mondays: The Jew- ishmuseum.org; Noon–4 pm; Free with ish Museum, 1109 Fifth Ave. at E. 92nd museum admission. Street; (212) 423–3337; TheJewishMu- Celebrate the art of Marc Chagall. the galleries followed by a hands on Wed, Oct. 9 seum.org/families; 3:30 pm; Free with Kids ages 3 and up will dance to live museum admission. music, paint colorful characters, design workshop inspired by the objects in the Rick Riordan: Symphony Space, 2537 Children can explore the museum’s a dream mural, sculpt fanciful puppets, Broadway at W. 94th Street; (212) 864– galleries with sketching and art activi- and more. exhibition. 5400; www.symphonyspace.org; 6 pm; ties in this after-school series. Studio Sunday: MAD Museum, 2 $15, $12 (members). Columbus Circle, W. 58th Street and Tues, Oct. 8 The author of the Percy Jackson and Tues, Oct. 15 Eighth Avenue; (212) 299–7777; www. the Olympians series returns to discuss madmuseum.org/events/studio-sun- Family Stargazing: 7:30 – 9:30 pm. Family Stargazing: 7:30 – 9:30 pm. his latest book, “The House of Hades,” day-28; 2 pm; $10. the fourth installment in the Heroes of Highline. See Tuesday, Oct. 1. Join a professional artist to explore Highline. See Tuesday, Oct. 1. Olympus series. Continued on page 52 October 2013 • MANHATTAN Family 51 Calendar

Continued from page 51 Fri, Oct. 18 A Night at the Museum Slee- ‘Giant’ tale povers: American Museum of Natural History, Central Park West at W. 79th scar Wilde’s “The Selfish Street; (212) 769–5200; www.amnh. Giant” will come to life org; 6 pm; $145 per person, $135 O when children’s drama- (members). tists from Literally Alive present Break out your sleeping bags and the heartwarming tale at the Play- experience the museum like never be- ers Theatre, beginning Oct. 6. fore. This unique after-hours program The story, one of Wilde’s col- will thrill kids ages 6 to 13 and their lection of five stories first pub- caregivers. lished in 1888, tells the story of a “Four on the Floor”: New York City big meanie, who owns a lush and Center, 130 W. 56th St. between Sixth fragrant garden, in which chil- and Seventh avenues; (212) 714–4694; dren love to play after returning Photo by Kelly Marsh www.generalmischief.com; 8 pm; from school. “The Selfish Giant” on Oct. 6, 12, Players Theatre [115 MacDougal $15, $10 (children under 10, seniors, There’s plenty that happens in 13, 19, 20, 26, and 27, Saturdays at St. between Third and Bleecker streets students). between, and we won’t spoil the 11 am and 3 pm, and Sundays at 11 in Greenwich Village, (212) 475–1449, This dance performance ex- happy ending! am. $25-$45. www.literallyalive.com]. plores how people are “connecting” electronically. members). Kids ages 4 to 6 can engage with phonyspace.org; 4 pm; $15. Sat, Oct. 19 Join National Dance Institute’s Cele- works of art through activities and gal- Gear up for Halloween as the young Nature Walk: Riverside Park bration Team for its annual concert. lery tours that focus on themes related goblins and ghouls perform spooky or- South, W. 72nd Street and Hud- to special exhibitions. chestral classics for the whole family. “Four on the Floor”: 8 pm. New son River; www.nycgovparks.org/ York City Center. See Friday, Oct. 18. Baby Loves Disco: Le Poisson events/2013/10/19/summer-on-the- Rouge, 158 Bleecker St. at Thompson Tues, Oct. 22 hudson-nature-walk-in-riverside-park- south; 9 am; Free. Sun, Oct. 20 Street; (212) 505–3474; babylovesdisco. Family Stargazing: 7:30 – 9:30 pm. com; Noon–3 pm; $20, $60 (family four Learn about the trees, grasses, Highline. See Tuesday, Oct. 1. pack). flowers and bird life of Riverside Park LEGO Robotics Workshop: 9:30 South. am. RoboFun. See Sunday, Oct. 6. At this popular children’s dance Wed, Oct. 23 party, a DJ plays family-friendly songs National Dance Institute: Peter Sunday Art Discoveries: The Jew- from the ’70s and ’80s. 20th Annual Family Party: Ameri- Jay Sharp Theatre, 155 W. 65th St. at ish Museum, 1109 Fifth Ave. at E. 92nd can Museum of Natural History, Central West End Avenue; (212) 864–5400; Street; (212) 423–3200; www.thejew- PhilharMONSTER!: Peter Jay Sharp Park West at W. 79th Street; (212) 313– www.symphonyspace.org; 2 pm; $25, ishmuseum.org; 11:30 am; Free with Theatre, 155 W. 65th St. at West End 7161; [email protected]; www. $21 (members), $15 children, ($13 museum admission. Avenue; (212) 864–5400; www.sym- amnh.org; 5 pm; $175 (for adults), $85 (for children). Children will have the opportunity to interact with live animals, measure skulls, look into microscopes, and ex- Knights plore the Family Party’s “Museum Sci- slumber ence Center.” Fri, Oct. 25 ress up as your favorite historical character and A Night at the Museum Slee- D be transported back in povers: 6 pm. American Museum of time to the age of storybook Natural History. See Friday, Oct. 18. kings, princesses, and knights in a blend of education, fun, and Sat, Oct. 26 fantasy under the candle-lit roof Nature Walk: Riverside Park, 116th of the Cathedral of St. John the Street Overlook at W. 116th Street and Divine — the world’s largest Riverside Drive; www.nycgovparks.org/ Gothic cathedral. events/2013/10/26/summer-on-the- “Knightwatch Medieval Chil- hudson-nature-walk; 9 am; Free. dren’s Slumber Party” will feature Learn about the trees, plants and a scavenger hunt led by a court bird life. jester, medieval dancing and sing- Photo by Helena Kubicka de Braganca Charlie Hope Concert: Leonard Ni- St. John the Divine [1047 Amsterdam ing, and theme-based art projects the arches of the nave! moy Thalia, 2537 Broadway at W. 94th including clay gargoyles and brass For children ages 6 and up. Ave. at 112th Street, on the Upper West Street; (212) 316–4962; www.sympho- rubbings. A resident storyteller “Knightwatch Medieval Children’s Side (212) 316–7540, www.stjohndi- nyspace.org; 11 am; $20, $17 (mem- will lull participants to sleep under Slumber Party” at the Cathedral of vine.org] on Oct. 11 at 6:30 pm. $135. bers), $15 (children), $13 (members). Songs, folksy guitar, and sweet lyr- 52 MANHATTAN Family • October 2013 Calendar ics are the perfect combination for the and have a spooky Halloween. whole family. Halloween Spooktacular: Top of Sat, Nov. 2 the Rock, 30 Rockefeller Plaza, between Dog On Fleas Concert: Leonard Ni- W. 49th and W. 50th streets; www. moy Thalia, 2537 Broadway at W. 94th topoftherocknyc.com; 1–4 pm; $27, Street; (212) 316-4962; www.sympho- $17 (children ages 6–12). nyspace.org; 11 am; $20, $17 (mem- Children can enjoy face painting, bers), $15 (children), $13 (members). magic shows, and sweet treats, while Original music and a great live show, the whole family takes in the 360-de- will mesmerize audiences of all ages at gree panoramic views of New York this concert. City. Diwali, Festival of Lights!: Rubin The Park Avenue Free Concert: Museum of Art, 150 W. 17th Street, be- Christian Church, 1010 Park Ave. at E. tween Sixth and Seventh avenues; (212) 85th Street; (212) 288–3246; www.art- 620–5000 X 344.; [email protected]; satthepark.org; 8 pm; Free. www.rmanyc.org; Noon–4 pm; $10 Free concert commemorating the 15- ($10 adults). year anniversary of Matthew Shepard’s The Hindu New Year is celebrated death. with crafts, stories, dance, and music, sculpt clay lamps, string marigold gar- Sun, Oct. 27 lands, and add colorful flower petals to a giant collaborative Rangoli design! Game Design Workshop: Robo- Fun, 2672 Broadway at W. 102nd Street; (212) 245–0444; www.robofun. Long-running org; 9:30 am; $75. Red Grooms Exhibit: Children’s Kids will use their mathematics and Photo by Roderick Mickens Museum of Manhattan, 212 W. 83rd literacy skills while being creative prob- St. between Amsterdam and Broadway; lem solvers. Best for kids in grades one (212) 721–1223; www.cmom.org; $11 through three. Family party and admission fee. Game Design Workshop: Robo- Thought-provoking and whimsical Fun, 2672 Broadway at W. 102nd for adults and children alike, the exhibi- Street; (212) 245–0444; www.robofun. Halloween frolics tion reflects the city’s frenetic energy org; 9:30 am; $75. and exuberance. Collateral material amily frolics and a Hallow- Eve with a Halloween celebra- Kids will use their mathematics and provides children and families with a een celebration kicks off tion on Oct. 31, as more than 30 literacy skills while being creative prob- behind-the-scenes look at the artist’s lem solvers to create their own video F the fun at the American of the museum’s popular halls planning and conceptualization of his games. For grades four through six. Museum of Natural History. open to trick-or-treaters, and work. The specially selected pieces for The Family Party on Oct. 23 feature arts and crafts, roam- this exhibit help children understand Stop Motion Animation Work- features educational activities ing cartoon characters, and live the many different ways of seeing their shop: RoboFun, 2672 Broadway at W. and entertainment for children performances. world and environment. 102nd Street; (212) 245–0444; www. of all ages. Interact with live ani- The Family Party on Oct. 23 at robofun.org; 9:30 am; $75. Circle of Dance: National Museum mals, measure skulls, and look 5 pm. $85 for children and $175 Students write their scripts, create of the American Indian, Alexander storyboards, and design characters in into a microscope to see the in- for adults. Hamilton U.S. Custom House, 1 Bowl- order to shoot their own stop-motion side of an ivory tusk. You can Halloween Celebration on Oct. ing Green between State and Whitehall animation videos. For grades four also explore the Family Party’s 31 at 4 pm. $11. streets; (212) 514–3700; nmai.si.edu; through six. Museum Science Center, which American Museum of Natural His- Fridays – Wednesdays, 10 am–5 pm; Thursdays, 10 am–8 pm, Now – Tues, showcases museum scientists’ tory [Central Park West, between W. Access Family Workshop for Dec. 31; Free. ongoing work through hands-on 77th Street and W. 81st Street on the Children with Special Needs: You can learn about the cultural sig- The Jewish Museum, 1109 Fifth Ave. activities, and much more. Upper West Side, (212) 313–7161, nificance of American Indian dance at at E. 92nd St.; (212) 423–3200; www. Then, celebrate All Hallow’s www.amnh.org]. this exhibit. Suitable for all ages. thejewishmuseum.org; 10:30 am; Free with museum admission. Frogs — A Chorus of Colors: Families who have children with de- Trinity Pl. at Rector Street; www.trinity- Tues, Oct. 29 American Museum of Natural History, velopmental and learning disabilities wallstreet.org/events/family-table#; 5 Central Park West at W. 79th Street; will visit an exhibition with a museum pm; $25 per family. Family Stargazing: 7:30 – 9:30 pm. (212) 769–5200; [email protected]; www.amnh.org; Daily, 10 am–5:45 pm; educator and then create their own The Family Table offers you an op- Highline. See Tuesday, Oct. 1. Now – Sun, Jan. 5, 2014; Suggested works of art. portunity to relax after a hard week of admission $19, $10.50 children, $14.50 multi-tasking and spend a Sunday eve- Jazz for Kids: The 55 Bar, 55 Chris- Thurs, Oct. 31 seniors and students. ning with family, while connecting with topher St. at Seventh Avenue South; See more than 150 live frogs, includ- neighbors over a healthy meal. Spirits of Halloweens Past: Di- www.amycervini.com/jazz-for-kids; 2 Menna Children’s History Museum, 170 ing 10 species of colorful dart-poison pm; $5. frogs. Learn about their importance to Central Park West between W. 76th ecosystems and the threats they face Play percussion instruments, listen to Mon, Oct. 28 and West 77th streets; (212) 873–3400; kid-friendly jazz songs and learn a little in the wild. www.nyhistory.org; 5–7 pm; Free with bit about jazz. For kids 2 to 6 years old. Masterpiece Mondays: 3:30 pm. The Jewish Museum. See Monday, Oct. museum admission. Le Carrousel: Bryant Park, 42nd The Family Table: Trinity Church, 74 14. Dress up like your favorite character Continued on page 54 October 2013 • MANHATTAN Family 53 Calendar TRAVEL ist Experience this summer that will Continued from page 53 change seasonally for kids ages 4 to Street and Avenue of the Americas; 12 to get them experiencing nature (212) 768–4242; www.bryantpark.org; through eco-friendly, hands-on ac- Daily, 11 am–8 pm; Now – Mon, Sept. Experience a historic Halloween A fairy-tale setting tivities. Expeditions include learning 30; $2 per ride, 10 rides for $15. ress up like your favorite historical This lovely French inspired carousel about the birds, ancient trees, fish, character and come to where curious offers kids (and adults!) plenty of fun Majestic beauty surrounds Mohonk resort and Shawangunk Mountain Quartz right in Midtown, featuring brightly D kids celebrate Halloween! conglomerate rock that fill the nat- colored animals and French cabaret Meet the headless horseman, listen to ural environment outside Mohonk music. Weather permitting. gilded-age ghost stories, visit a fortune teller, BY STACEY ZABLE which is still run by the original fam- Mountain House. Available week- and taste test historic candy during “Spirits of ily that opened it in 1869, welcomes ends and holidays year-round and Masterpiece Mondays: The Jewish Halloweens Past” at the DiMenna Children’s Museum, 1109 Fifth Ave. at E. 92nd St.; ost kids have not seen a guests with year-round recreation. daily in the summer, the Kids’ Club History Museum at the New York Historical (212) 423–3200; www.thejewishmu- “backyard” like the one My family and I visited the resort also offers the chance to do age-spe- seum.org; Monday, Sept. 30, 3:30 pm; Society on Oct. 31. M they’ll experience as at the end of this summer and took cific activities such as frog hunting, Monday, Oct. 14, 3:30 pm; Monday, Special guests The Hudson River Ramblers a guest of the Mohonk Mountain full advantage of the great outdoors. rock scrambling, sports, crafts, and Oct. 28, 3:30 pm; Monday, Nov. 11, will also entertain families throughout the mu- House in New Paltz, New York. The Many of the hiking trails are kid- more. In July and August, teens ages 3:30 pm; Monday, Nov. 25, 3:30 pm; seum with haunted history songs and tales. 259-room lakeside Victorian castle friendly, and my city kids truly loved 13 to 17, get their own dedicated ac- Monday, Dec. 9, 3:30 pm; Monday, Suitable for children ages 6 and up. sits among 40,000 acres of scenic the chance to walk along cliffs over- tivities, such as day-long hikes, golf, Dec. 23, 3:30 pm; Free with museum Spirit of Halloween on Oct. 31 from 5 to 7 beauty. Some 85 miles of hiking trails looking green valleys, mountains, and and tennis. admission. pm. Free with museum admission. surround the historic property, of- hills with, in some cases, the clouds The resort caters to families in al- Kids ages 4 to 7 can explore the mu- DiMenna Children’s History Museum at the New fering guests of all ages the chance and the mist directly at eye level. most all aspects, including the three seum’s galleries with sketching and art York Historical Society [170 Central Park West activities in this after-school series. to be awe-struck by the unequaled Our favorite trail was Eagle Cliff, meals that are elaborate buffets with between W. 76th and W. 77th streets on the Upper views of the Catskill Mountains and where, during our hike, we periodi- plenty of options for kids, and even Gazillion Bubble Show: New West Side, (212) 873–3400, www.nyhistory.org]. Photo by Jonathan Wallen in some points, vistas that stretch cally sat in one of the numerous dedicated areas just for them at each World Stages, 340 W. 50th St. be- beyond into the surrounding six small, covered gazebos — almost meal. An a la carte dining room is tween Eighth and Ninth avenues; (212) states. tree house-like in feel — that dot the available for dinner, but families with 239–6200; gazillionbubbleshow.com; vitaltheatre.org; Saturdays and Sundays, $20 (four hours) $25 (all day). [email protected]; tinade- Only 90 miles north of New York trail along the way, and watched the Fridays, 7 pm, Saturdays, 11 am, 2 pm, younger children will do best with 11 am and 1 pm, Now – Sun, Dec. 8; The city’s first mobile Rental Roller varon.com; Sundays, 11 am, Now – 4:30 pm, Sundays, Noon and 3 pm, City in the Hudson Valley, the all- birds soar above the breathtaking the buffet, or opt to feed kids in the $39.50–$59.50. Skating attraction, providing safety- Sun, Jan. 5, 2014; $40, $20 (children Now – Sun, Nov. 24; $44.50–$89.50. inclusive Mohonk Mountain House, vistas that stretched endlessly to- buffet and then put them in the eve- This musical is based on the popular certified roller skating equipment, under 3). Bubbles, bubbles, everywhere! You ward the horizon. ning Kids’ Club program before en- children’s books. Suitable for children rental roller skates and inline skates, to A live, musical, and interactive haven’t seen bubbles like this. Light- We also accepted the challenge joying a romantic dinner. Afternoon brunch for families, where children ing, magic, and bubble tricks galore ages 3-10. skaters of any age, for both local New to climb to Sky Top Tower, a more can sing along and dance around the tea and cookies are also served. await you in this show. Best for kids 5 Yorkers and visitors alike. Skate Truck NYC: Skater’s Circle, W. piano. strenuous hike and one with views Families who stay during the up- and up. 72nd Street entrance of Central Park; Family Concert and Brunch: Mea- that could leave those with a fear of coming holiday season will love the “The Selfish Giant Musical”: The “Fancy Nancy The Musical”: www.skatetrucknyc.com/Home_Page. sure Lounge at Langham Place, 400 heights with their hearts pounding. decked-out grounds and house, fea- McGinn/Cazale Theatre, 2162 Broad- html; Saturdays and Sundays, 12–8 pm, Fifth Ave. between W. 36th and W. Players Theatre, 115 MacDougal St. The tower, which stands more than turing numerous gingerbread cre- way at W. 76th Street; (212) 579–0528; Now – Sun, Oct. 27; $15 (two hours) 37th streets; (212) 613–8667; michael. between Third and Bleecker streets; 1,500 feet above sea level, offers a ations and decorated Christmas www.literallyalive.com/shows/giant. panoramic view in four directions trees, including a 60-foot Austrian html; Saturdays, 11 am and 3 pm, Sun- stretching into Pennsylvania, Mas- pine with 1,500 lights. Seasonal fun days, 11 am, Sun, Oct. 6 – Sun, Nov. 17; sachusetts, Vermont, Connecticut, comes in the form of a family Yule $25–$45. New Jersey, and of course, New York log hunt, trim-a-tree party, holiday Halloween for ‘Hansel and Gretel’ Musical based on the fairytale by Oscar Wilde. State. Those same mountains are craft making, and caroling. ntroduce a new genera- filled right now with the spectacle of Special discount overnight pack- tion to a beloved and clas- “Piggy Nation the Musical”: fall colors, adding to the excitement ages for children ages 12 and under I sic fairytale — and be pre- Snapple Theater Center, 210 W 50th St. of your family’s hikes. are available during select theme pared to have some phantastic at Broadway; (212) 921–7862; piggy- When it’s time to get off the trails, programs, including November Spe- fun yourself — when City Parks nationnyc.com; Sundays, Noon, Now – Mohonk Mountain House is just as cial Kids Stay and Eat Free from Nov. Foundation presents “Hansel and Sun, Dec. 29; $30–$60. welcoming. Recreation choices vary 6 to 10; Holiday Family Fun from Dec. Gretel’s Halloween Adventure” at This musical geared towards kids by the season with some part of the 13 to 22; and President’s Day Special will teach them proper etiquette while the Swedish Cottage Marionette all-inclusive rate. Family fun can be from Feb. 18 to 24, 2014. Rooms are they tap their toes to the music and Theatre in Central Park, begin- enjoyed horseback riding, mountain follow along with the story of Sammy fairly basic, but request one with a ning on Oct. 1. Hamhock. biking, snowshoeing, cross-country fireplace and porch and kids won’t The holiday-themed show is skiing, snow tubing, ice skating, play- even notice that there are no TVs. inspired by the adventures of Big Apple Circus Presents Lumi- ing golf and tennis, and taking horse- Mohonk Mountain House [1000 the brother-and-sister duo, and nocity: Lincoln Center of the Perform- drawn carriage rides. Mountain Rest Rd. in New Paltz, (855) picks up where the original Swed- ing Arts, 10 Lincoln Center Plaza; (212) Lake Mohonk provides water-based 274–4020, www.mohonk.com]. ish Cottage Marionette Theatre 875–5374; www.lincolncenter.org; fun with boating, fishing, and swim- Stacey Zable is an award-winning Friday, Oct. 25, 6:30 pm; Saturday, Oct. production leaves off — with the ming. An indoor pool is also available veteran travel writer and family travel 26, 12 pm; Sunday, Oct. 27, 12:30 pm; pair’s pet swan Samantha flying “Hansel and Gretel’s Hallow- 31 at 2:30 pm and 4 pm. $7 for for swimming any time of year. Guests expert who has written about destina- Wednesday, Oct. 30, 6:30 pm; Thurs- the children back to their humble een Adventure” from Oct. 1 to children under 12, $10 all others. day, Oct. 31, 11 am; Friday, Nov. 1, 11 16 and older can enjoy time at the tions, resorts, and cruise lines around home after their wild escapade in Nov. 2. Tuesdays through Fridays Swedish Cottage Marionette The- am; Saturday, Nov. 2, 12:30 pm; 30,000-square-foot spa, indulging in a the world. Her favorite trips are those the forest. at 10:30 am and noon. Wednes- atre [W. 79th Street near West Drive in In its 36th season, the Big Apple Cir- treatment, using the fitness center, or that she shares with her husband and Recommended for children days at 2:30 pm; and weekends Central Park, (212) 988–9093, www. cus celebrates the vitality of life at the taking an exercise class. two daughters. Send travel questions ages 3 to 9. at 1 pm. Additional shows on Oct. cityparksfoundation.org]. city epicenter in their new production. The complimentary Mohonk Kids’ and comments to Stacey at info@fami- Club launched a new Junior Natural- lytraveltrails.com.

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ist Experience this summer that will change seasonally for kids ages 4 to 12 to get them experiencing nature A fairy-tale setting through eco-friendly, hands-on activities. Expeditions include learning about the birds, ancient trees, fish, and Shawangunk Mountain Quartz Majestic beauty surrounds Mohonk resort conglomerate rock that fill the natural environment outside Mohonk BY STACEY ZABLE which is still run by the original fam- Mountain House. Available week- ily that opened it in 1869, welcomes ends and holidays year-round and ost kids have not seen a guests with year-round recreation. daily in the summer, the Kids’ Club “backyard” like the one My family and I visited the resort also offers the chance to do age-spe- M they’ll experience as at the end of this summer and took cific activities such as frog hunting, a guest of the Mohonk Mountain full advantage of the great outdoors. rock scrambling, sports, crafts, and House in New Paltz, New York. The Many of the hiking trails are kid- more. In July and August, teens ages 259-room lakeside Victorian castle friendly, and my city kids truly loved 13 to 17, get their own dedicated ac- sits among 40,000 acres of scenic the chance to walk along cliffs over- tivities, such as day-long hikes, golf, beauty. Some 85 miles of hiking trails looking green valleys, mountains, and and tennis. surround the historic property, of- hills with, in some cases, the clouds The resort caters to families in al- fering guests of all ages the chance and the mist directly at eye level. most all aspects, including the three to be awe-struck by the unequaled Our favorite trail was Eagle Cliff, meals that are elaborate buffets with views of the Catskill Mountains and where, during our hike, we periodi- plenty of options for kids, and even in some points, vistas that stretch cally sat in one of the numerous dedicated areas just for them at each beyond into the surrounding six small, covered gazebos — almost meal. An a la carte dining room is states. tree house-like in feel — that dot the available for dinner, but families with Only 90 miles north of New York trail along the way, and watched the younger children will do best with City in the Hudson Valley, the all- birds soar above the breathtaking the buffet, or opt to feed kids in the inclusive Mohonk Mountain House, vistas that stretched endlessly to- buffet and then put them in the eve- ward the horizon. ning Kids’ Club program before en- We also accepted the challenge joying a romantic dinner. Afternoon to climb to Sky Top Tower, a more tea and cookies are also served. strenuous hike and one with views Families who stay during the up- that could leave those with a fear of coming holiday season will love the heights with their hearts pounding. decked-out grounds and house, fea- The tower, which stands more than turing numerous gingerbread cre- 1,500 feet above sea level, offers a ations and decorated Christmas panoramic view in four directions trees, including a 60-foot Austrian stretching into Pennsylvania, Mas- pine with 1,500 lights. Seasonal fun sachusetts, Vermont, Connecticut, comes in the form of a family Yule New Jersey, and of course, New York log hunt, trim-a-tree party, holiday State. Those same mountains are craft making, and caroling. filled right now with the spectacle of Special discount overnight pack- fall colors, adding to the excitement ages for children ages 12 and under of your family’s hikes. are available during select theme When it’s time to get off the trails, programs, including November Spe- Mohonk Mountain House is just as cial Kids Stay and Eat Free from Nov. welcoming. Recreation choices vary 6 to 10; Holiday Family Fun from Dec. by the season with some part of the 13 to 22; and President’s Day Special all-inclusive rate. Family fun can be from Feb. 18 to 24, 2014. Rooms are enjoyed horseback riding, mountain fairly basic, but request one with a biking, snowshoeing, cross-country fireplace and porch and kids won’t skiing, snow tubing, ice skating, play- even notice that there are no TVs. ing golf and tennis, and taking horse- Mohonk Mountain House [1000 drawn carriage rides. Mountain Rest Rd. in New Paltz, (855) Lake Mohonk provides water-based 274–4020, www.mohonk.com]. fun with boating, fishing, and swim- Stacey Zable is an award-winning ming. An indoor pool is also available veteran travel writer and family travel for swimming any time of year. Guests expert who has written about destina- 16 and older can enjoy time at the tions, resorts, and cruise lines around 30,000-square-foot spa, indulging in a the world. Her favorite trips are those treatment, using the fitness center, or that she shares with her husband and taking an exercise class. two daughters. Send travel questions The complimentary Mohonk Kids’ and comments to Stacey at info@fami- Club launched a new Junior Natural- lytraveltrails.com.

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