November 2020 Ickleham Parish Magazine
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November 2020 ICKLEHAM PARISH Magazine Leatherhead Parish Office November Dear friends 2020 I have been talking to a number of people who are feeling really tired. On reflection one reason is that when we are assimilating changes in our circumstances, especially when the future is uncertain, we expend a lot of emotional energy. Bereavement, Mickleham and the process of grief, is a classic example of that. For most of us, the whole COVID-19 | LLP licenced to carry out the reserved legal activity of non-contentious probate in England and Wales by the ICAEW experience thus far - lockdown, constantly-changing rules and guidelines, coming out of Parish lockdown, and now new uncertainty about what is on the horizon - has taken a huge amount Magazine of emotional energy … and the ongoing uncertainty continues to drain us. I am reminded of the book by Robin Skynner and John Cleese called ‘Families and how to A community magazine for survive them’, which came out of John Cleese's experience of group therapy run by Robin Mickleham and Westhumble Skynner and his wife Prue. The book is in five sections exploring the lifecycle of a relationship. Stepping Stones published under the auspices It starts with a couple meeting and deciding to marry, the health of their relationship, the MORE THAN JUST A PUB of Mickleham PCC with an arrival of a baby and the changes that brings, and then how the baby develops into a healthy independent editorial panel. General Store Restaurant & alfresco dining adult who then meets their own life partner and starts the cycle again. The magazine is published at The book takes the form of a conversation between John and Robin, with John posing Serving essential basic items Serving fresh classic style pub the beginning of each month questions that Robin answers. 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Printed by Bishops Printers Funeral Directors & Monumental Masons Portsmouth pologies to John Banfield for adding an incorrect title to his by-line for last month's Email: [email protected] letter. It should have been: Canon of St Christopher’s Cathedral, Bahrain. Editor A 1 Crib Service St Michael’s Mickleham Parish Magazine 2020 'Christmas Card' New Community Group he Parochial Church Council (PCC) This short article has required a ‘Hold the As in past years readers who would like to send Christmas greetings at St Michael’s has, as many will be Front Page’ request to this prestigious to their local friends by way of the magazine and donate the money T e all know aware, been going through a staged journal, but there will be more detail in saved on cards and postage to charity should contact Sue Tatham. Wthat this has review of St Michael's needs and the next edition. There are two matters, 01306 882547 [email protected] been a peculiar aspirations for the immediate and however, which we wanted to raise and The copy deadline for the December magazine is year and lots of longer term. One of the important start to address quickly. Sunday 8th November. events have been needs which has come to the fore is the One of the group’s specific roles is cancelled in order greater interaction between the church to add to the help that St Michael’s The charge is £10 per person (£20 per couple) but if you would like to keep us safe. and the wider community. to give more, that would be great. currently gives to the vulnerable and Under present restrictions we do not particularly perhaps over the Christmas Proceeds this year will go to St Michael's C of E Infant School The PCC has thus formed a new group lonely. During these Covid months, think that we can bring the Crib Service period. We all will know of friends or and St Michael's Community Nursery which will focus specifically on our further areas of division have become to you in the usual way which is very church’s expressed aim of being ‘At the apparent: between those who are neighbours in or within reach of our disappointing. However, we know heart of the community’. See below for adequately skilled and physically parish who may like the odd phone how important this is to so many of contact details of the group's members. equipped to take part in on-line call now and then, just to feel more in you, it signifies a moment of calm and Without going into specifics, the overall communication through WhatsApp/ touch. We would be grateful for your reflection in the business of preparing intention is to broaden St Michael’s Zoom etc and those who are not. The assistance in identifying such needs: for Christmas Day. In view of this we actions ‘beyond the church walls’, doing magazine continues to be a vital link to we know of some, but please contact Want to Zoom into have decided that a Crib Service will more and being seen to be more involved our community, but the new group's any of the group members if others Sunday Services happen, but not in its usual form. We with wider community activities, beyond aim is to add to this on a day-to-day or come to mind. at St Michael's? are working together to bring a Crib the church electoral role. as-needed basis directly to individuals, Finally, who knows what Christmas Service to your home through the is going to be like this year? There is wonders of Zoom. There will be further unfortunately a high likelihood that ll our church services can be watched via Zoom. St Michael's Community Group Members details in the December magazine some of the usual events such as The weekly Zoom codes will be available in Pews News Online which is • Mark Day 07852 117249 • Andy Diamond 07789 775354 A and we will contact our school and Christingle, Nine Lessons etc will be sent to all church members. If you would like to join us by Zoom then contact [email protected] [email protected] nursery families so that as many of absent or very different. This group has Alison Wood for the codes or to ask her to include you on the emailing list for * Amy Ward 07709 199292 • Will Dennis 07903 842674 you as possible can still experience the initiated one new event which should Pews News: / phone 01372 376443.