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L’CHAYIM www.JewishFederationLCC.org Vol. 42, No. 6 n February 2020 / 5780 INSIDE THIS ISSUE: Teammates and enemies 7 Our Community By Brian Simon, Federation President hen I was growing up in about the pick-up basketball games I with someone, if we’re tied together, 12 Jewish Interest Kansas City, we used to used to play here in Southwest Florida we might fight and argue, but there’s a 19 Israel & the Jewish World Wplay football in the fall al- (shout out to Jason Moon and Scott lot of pressure to keep it within bounds most every day after school. There was Lewin and Jeff Kleiman and Brian because we’re going to be together for 20 Jewish Film Festival a regular group of 6-8 boys who would Fox, et al). The teams were different a long time. That’s normal human re- 26 Commentary play. We knew each other’s strengths every time. The goal was to create fair lationships. On social media, it’s lots and weaknesses. For example, I was games with competitive balance. of interactions with people you may 28 From the Bimah short and slow I’ve been thinking about this in the never see again. Some of them don’t 32 Focus on Youth but pretty good at context of identification and our seem- even exist. A lot of them are using fake 34 Organizations catching passes, ingly fractured society. Social media names. There is no future. There are no and threw the ball seeks to make us take sides. It’s like bounds. And most dangerously, it’s not 36 Community Directory well enough to we’re constantly being asked to choose real communication.” play quarterback, a team. But with darker consequences. Haidt’s observations remind me 36 Temple News too. Each time we Jonathan Haidt is a social psy- of psychologist Robert Cialdini’s came out to play, chologist and author of The Righteous great insight from his book Influence. we made new Mind and, more recently, The Coddling Cialdini coined the term “social proof” n Brian teams. of the American Mind. He is sounding to describe the principle that we tend to Simon I played with alarm bells about the damage of social copy what others are doing, especially Michael Sullivan and Jeff Riffe as media to our democracy. when we are unsure. teammates one day. I got Paul Hem- “We’re really good at conflicting We are constantly bombarded with bree and my brother Danny the next and competing,” Haidt says, “but also information about complex issues – day. Your opponent today would be making up, forgiving and coming back international relations, trade, domes- 2 your teammate next time. together. We do this in our families tic policy. One could not possibly be PJ Library Family I could just as easily tell this story all the time. If you have a long future continued on next page Hanukkah Bash Jewish Family Services update By Jodi Cohen, Senior Outreach & Food Pantry Coordinator s you may know, the Federa- support the Federation know what we tion and ask, “Can you help me?” The tion provides food and emer- do and the impact that it has on the food that you bring in, the gift cards Agency assistance to people people in our community. People who that you donate, and your contribu- living in Lee and Charlotte counties, are hungry, who lack family or any tions to the Marcia Can Help Fund all 5 whether or not they are Jewish. (This kind of support, or who don’t have the make it possible for the Federation to Federation’s Senior Lunch will be on the quiz.) first clue about how to access available say “Yes.” Every single thing that you Bunch update I asked my father what he thought resources, walk in or call the Federa- continued on next page about my January L’CHAYIM article and he said it was long. When I asked about the actual quality of the article, Your Federation team forecasts he replied, “How come there’s always someone crying?” It was the same tone A PERFECT SEASON of voice that lawyer Reuben Warschof- of programming sky from the movie Norma Rae uses 18 when Norma Rae signs up to join the URJ Biennial hosts union. He looks at her signature and For more information 525 congregations says, “How come everyone down here visit Jewishfederationlcc.org has three names?” My knee-jerk response was to say, “What are you talking about? There Monthly Programming Forecast isn’t always someone crying!” Ongoing activities at the Federation: Mah Jongg * Jewish War Veterans * BBYO But then I thought more about his comment and the stories I share each month. What’s true is that when people February March April May 32 2020 2020 2020 2020 reach out to Jewish Family Services, Fort Myers BBYO update they often feel desperate, confused, despairing and are in crisis. I talk with people when they are vulnerable, and 02 01 05 03 more often than not, many feelings sur- Opening Day Closing Day Film PJ Library IsraelFest face as they share the story of their cir- Film Fes�val Fes�val Passover Party 2020 Have an item you’d cumstances or ask for assistance. 03 ‐ 28 16 19 13 People also become emotional Jewish Film Lion of Judah Holocaust Annual like to share? Memorial Mee�ng when they learn that the Federation Fes�val Program is indeed able to help them. 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