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September 1, 2016 - 28 AV 5776 Volume CIX - Number 21 Houston, Texas jhvonline.com $2 Per Copy Houston student takes on administration over anti-Israel incidents By AARON HOWARD | JHV high school level. the effectiveness of student activism at the high What’s also new is that Jewish high school school level. As the fall semester begins on U.S. college students are refusing to be intimidated, even The Jewish Herald-Voice spoke with Terk by campuses, pro-Israel organizations forecast that when high school administrators fail to address phone from Austin, Texas, where he is preparing this year will see new levels of pro-Palestinian acts of bullying, vandalism and offensive conduct to start school at The University of Texas. student initiatives. These initiatives include against Jewish students. everything from resolutions calling for boycott, In November 2015, anti-Israel students at Carnegie incident divestment and sanctions against Israel; to intim- HISD’s Carnegie Vanguard High School covered On Nov. 1, 2015, a student at Carnegie posted idation and posting clearly anti-Semitic messages over Israeli flags during an International Festival at least two messages on social media. One post on social media. Some college campuses have and posted a Twitter message calling for intifada. on Twitter was a cartoon reproduction of a become environments where Jewish students Eliav Terk, then a senior at Carnegie, refused to character with horns and a Star of David lurking feel threatened, particularly if they identify remain silent. over a child. The Arabic caption called for intifada. themselves as being pro-Israel. Terk’s willingness to act, provide metic- Terk went to the school administration on Nov. What’s new is that anti-Israel student activ- ulous documentation and persistence in going 11 and spoke to Assistant Principal Juan Garner. ities no longer are only an issue on college above the high school administration when they campuses. They’ve also become a problem at the refused to take action, provide a case study in See Anti-Israel on Page 2 Eliav Terk Community-wide Chai rollers initiative to tackle ‘suicide epidemic’

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A network is being created to stem the tide of suicide among young adults in greater Houston’s Jewish community. As many as nine community members, all under the age of 36, have died by suicide over the past year-and-a-half, prompting concerns of an epidemic. Three such deaths occurred during this summer alone. They coincide with a larger national trend, in which suicide in the U.S. has surged to the highest levels in nearly 30 years, according to federal data. Among young adults under the age of 34, suicide has become a leading cause of death. In response, young adults, local leaders and mental health experts in Houston are formulating a community-wide initiative, aimed at supplying suicide-prevention training for people in the community, and providing support to survivors, including bereaved family members and friends. “This is too big a problem – we need to tackle it as an entire community,” said Linda Burger, CEO of Houston’s Jewish Family Service, who convened an emergency meeting on Aug. 25 to formulate a plan of action to deal with the crisis. Tomer Dagan, Devorah Kirsch, Jessica Cherem and Ori Gross were among the crowd of Houstonians who enjoyed the tables at TORCH Young “We need a community response to Professionals’ first-ever Casino Night on Aug. 27. The newly established TORCH Centre was decked out with blackjack, craps, roulette, and Texas Hold’em tables for an evening of gambling, food, drinks and fun. Rabbi Johnny Ouzzan, director of TORCH YP, fulfilled his vision of bringing local suicide and support of survivors,” Burger young professionals together to enjoy a celebration in TORCH’s new home in the community. At the end of the evening, the gambling came to a close and the chips were cashed out for tickets and prizes that were raffled off. See Suicide on Page 4 Generations of pioneering, giving and caring are in Selber’s DNA By ALICE ADAMS | JHV and commitment to improving the quality of life for all Houstonians, Selber, with deep humility, gives credit for Sara Speer Selber is a household name, given the her achievements to the past generations of her family. regular accolades she has earned over the years. So, it will Easily traced, her U.S. roots reach back to 1872 when come as no surprise to learn she will be receiving the Free her great-uncle, Abrom Kaplan, landed in New York from To Be Award during the 2016 Writers In The Schools Nov. his home in Most, Poland. He was 15, had virtually no 20 gala. money and had been abandoned by an acquaintance he Selber, who has been a WITS parent, as well as collabo- thought would help him navigate this new country. rator and social justice advocate, spends each day making As Johanna Kaplan wrote in “Abrom Kaplan’s Cajun a meaningful difference for the people and places of Dream,” the boy wandered until he happened upon a rabbi Houston. Robin Reagler, Ph.D., and executive director of and distiller who worked for his father back in Most. With WITS, applauds Selber, not only for launching Camp Hope, this man’s help, Kaplan acquired a stock of trinkets and in collaboration with WITS, making it the first camp for household items. He peddled them on the east end of the HIV-positive children in the South. That partnership was Brooklyn Bridge, then he traveled north and sold his wares formed about 20 years ago when Selber was chief executive along the back roads of Connecticut. of the AIDS Foundation of Houston and needed pointers “He soon heard about a ‘new Southwestern country,’ on journaling for her campers. and by 18 he had relocated to Crowley, La., where with “Sara passionately promotes poetry and Writers In The hard work, he became financially successful, able to Schools,” Reagler said, “and is a fierce champion of perfor- assist people from his Polish home who wanted to mance poetry for Houston’s teen writers.” JHV: MICHAEL C. DUKE But, with yet another award for ongoing leadership See Caring on Page 4 Sara Speer Selber RIVEROAKS

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Anti-Israel From Page 1 was rejected by the Carnegie High School administration. Terk voiced his concern about the image to “In their rebuttal, they repeatedly Garner and showed him the cartoon. attempted to portray me as the aggressor Garner said he could not determine who was seeking a form of vengeance at whether the cartoon was anti-Semitic the school. Additionally, at no point in the or not and that he would need to obtain rebuttal did they state they would prevent background information. Immediately after anything like this from happening again.” the meeting, Terk made detailed notes of the On June 16, the grievance was sent to conversation. the HISD Regional Superintendent Jennifer Nothing was done between the initial Topper. At that point, Topper reviewed the meeting and the school’s International An Iranian flag was put on top of an Israeli flag grievance and contacted Terk to arrange an Festival on Nov. 13. Organized by the An anti-Semitic Tweet posted by a Carnegie during International Day at Carnegie Vanguard interview to discuss the grievance and the International Club on campus, the High School student. High School. administration response. International Festival featured regional A meeting between Topper and Terk took booths with cuisine, music and fashion at all times. Students are expected to use presented a copy of the Tweet and a photo of place on June 21. shows from the countries in that region. social media responsibly. Misbehavior at any the scarf with the Hamas slogan, “Jerusalem “Mrs. Topper was extremely responsive One of the displays was a Middle East time, including bullying, cyberbullying, etc. is ours, we’re coming for it.” and in no way attempted to minimize or booth. On the border of the booth were ... that interferes with a student’s education Administrators promised to investigate delegitimize the validity of my grievance,” the flags of all the countries in the region, or substantially disrupts school operation is the scarf, speak formally with the students said Terk. including Israel. prohibited.” and contact the proper authorities in HISD. “She conducted a full investigation and Twice during the festival, the Israeli flag The Code of Student Conduct continues: By the beginning of the new school accepted my grievance,” he continued. “In was vandalized, said Terk. “If you have a conflict with another student, calendar year, there still was no word. When my grievance, I requested a full investigation “One time, the Israeli flags were covered seek immediate assistance from a teacher, he inquired, Terk was told that any action into the actions of the specific adminis- over with Palestinian and Iranian flags. counselor or administrator. Do not take that might be taken would be retroactive, trators and for reforms to be put into place A Carnegie student removed the covering matters into your own hands. In order to since the new calendar year had commenced. that would protect Jewish students from flags. The second time, the Israeli flags were preserve our unique culture and climate, “Retroactive,” said Terk, “was an excuse discrimination on the basis of religion, torn down and thrown in the trash. A group (Carnegie) adopts a no-tolerance policy for not to take any action.” political affiliation and national origin. of three Carnegie High School students, one misbehavior and will pursue disciplinary The JHV contacted Garner, who “I was told that any future complaints wearing a kaffiyeh, one wearing a Hamas action to the full extent in accordance with responded, “No comment,” to our request for about anti-Semitic discrimination should scarf, one waving a huge Palestinian flag HISD’s Code of Student Conduct.” an interview. be directed to the regional superintendent, were photographed immediately after they Garner told Terk he had spoken to the so that she could play a hands-on role in the tore down the Israeli flags. Photos were student who posted the anti-Semitic cartoon StandWithUs resolution process. taken of the flag-covering incident and the and one of the students who had torn down In April 2016, StandWithUs selected “I’m happy with the seriousness of how students. These photos were sent to me,” said the flags. Terk as a high school intern. StandWithUs she took my grievance,” he said. Terk. These meetings and the conversations is a nonprofit dedicated to informing the On Aug. 4, 2016, Topper sent a letter Even though the incidents occurred on between Garner and the students did not public about Israel and to combating anti- accepting Terk’s grievance. Topper’s letter school grounds during a school-sanctioned occur in a formal setting. No misbehavior Israel extremism and anti-Semitism. Terk read, in part: event, no administrator or teacher took any was recognized. No disciplinary action was was invited to a StandWithUs anti-BDS “Every incident referred to in the action at the time. taken. conference in Los Angeles. During the grievance has been investigated. … In Following International Day, Terk asked “During our meeting, I was told that I conference, Terk approached the organiza- response to the requested remedy “that for a second meeting with school admin- should try to see where the student [who tion’s legal counsel to ask what he could have adequate steps be taken to prevent further istrators to address both incidences. Terk posted the anti-Semitic cartoon] was coming done differently. acts of intimidation, vandalism, bullying and exchanged social media messages with a from,” said Terk. “They are members of an “Nothing wrong, everything right,” Terk offensive conduct,” the Carnegie adminis- half-dozen students who were present at the oppressed and victimized group I was told was told. StandWithUs began working on tration is designing formalized communi- festival when both these incidences took and I should try and empathize with them.” the case. A pro bono Texas lawyer was cation processes and protocols within their place. Once again, Terk compiled detailed Terk asked what disciplinary action recruited to help. Terk provided a written school structure to ensure students have a notes of the conversations. would be taken. He was told action was account to StandWithUs lawyers, detailing clear process to both address their concerns On Nov. 24, Terk, met with Garner and already taken; that is, the unofficial conver- all incidences, meetings and interactions and appeal the actions taken if so desired.” the Dean of Instruction, Melissa Matsu. sation with the students. Once again, with Carnegie administrators. Said Terk: “StandWithUs provided me Terk outlined all the events and asked following the meeting, Terk made notes of On the day of his graduation, May 27, with an extraordinary amount of help. what action the school would take. School the proceedings and conversations. 2016, Terk filed a formal grievance with They were willing to take on the burden administrators asked Terk whether these “I felt the school administration was HISD. of standing by the word of an individual incidents were threatening or offensive. Terk trying to politicize what was essentially a Formal grievance high student over the word of a high school answered, “Both.” disciplinary issue,” commented Terk. “I felt “I waited until graduation so that there administration. According to the HISD Code of Student they were not taking my concerns seriously.” was no possibility of retribution by the school “My advice to high school students: It’s Conduct booklet, which is issued to and Terk requested a follow-up meeting with administration. Plus, it took quite a while to important to be able to identify what consti- signed by all Carnegie students as an Principal Ramon Moss. complete all the necessary paperwork,” said tutes anti-Semitism. More important, have acknowledgement of receipt, “students (are On Dec. 14, Terk and another Jewish Terk. the confidence to stand up and speak out expected) to exhibit exemplary behavior student met with Moss and Garner. Terk On June 9, Terk’s grievance initially against it.” PAGE 3 JEWISH HERALD-VOICE UP CLOSE SEPTEMBER 1, 2016 Houston Mayor Turner to headline Symposium on Jewish Business Commercial Real Estate breakfast Ethics to feature sports notables The Jewish Federation of Greater On Sept. 22, Congregation Beth Houston’s Commercial Real Estate Society Israel will host its second-annual Lyon will welcome Houston Mayor Sylvester Cohen Symposium on Jewish Business Turner at its Fall Breakfast on Tuesday, Ethics. Rescheduled from last spring, as Sept. 13 at La Colombe d’Or, 3407 Yoakum a result of the Tax Day Flood, the panel Blvd. The society chairs are Martin for this upcoming evening will feature Bronstein and Elliott Hirshfeld; honorary Oliver Luck, former Houston Oilers chairs are Stanford Alexander, Ted quarterback and currently the executive Dinerstein and Ed Wulfe. The breakfast is vice president of Regulatory Affairs chaired by Marni Zarin and Shawn Golan. for the National Collegiate Athletic “The mayor’s efforts to ensure the Association. The panel also includes successful future of Houston directly Chris Myers, former NFL center with affect the commercial real estate sector,” the Houston Texans, and Rabbi Joshua said Zarin. “Political views and actions Herman, assistant rabbi at Congregation influence how our city is developed in both Beth Israel. Lisa Malosky, sports tangible and intangible ways, which, in reporter, writer and producer, will serve turn, shapes Houston’s environment. The as the panel moderator. mayor’s implementation of ideas into laws The program is named after Lyon and codes is tantamount to the future of Cohen, a business leader in the Houston commercial real estate within Houston. I Mayor Sylvester Turner community who was dedicated to ethical am honored to have been asked to chair the industries. The goal of the society is to reach living throughout his lifetime. Commercial Real Estate breakfast with the out to members, welcome new members, Questioned in the article, “Beth mayor as the speaker in such an important socialize, exchange ideas and information, Israel Symposium focuses on Ethics of moment in Houston’s economy.” hear from respected and influential high- Collegiate Athletics,” published in the Born and raised in the Acres Homes level speakers and enjoy a sense of Jewish Jewish Herald-Voice on April 7, 2016: ... community in Northwest Houston, Turner identity and community. This breakfast will “is the concept of amateurism in college attended neighborhood public schools until be the CRES’ ninth program. Over the past sports ethical or even viable anymore?” forced integration came to Houston and four years, the society has grown to include That’s the question to be examined Oliver Luck he was bused to Klein High School. After more than 190 members and attracts full at this year’s program. Specifically, a predictably rocky start, the student body houses at all of its events. the keynote speaker, Luck, expressed outstanding student who has enrolled in eventually adapted to its new enrollees. Society steering committee members that “there still needs to be a place an MBA degree program for fall 2016 and Turner later was elected president of the include Kevin Alexander, Josh Aruh, Denis for amateurism, competition for the who best exemplifies Cohen’s eternal student body and graduated as valedic- Braham, Dan Braun, Martin Bronstein, love of the sport.” Luck did concede, optimism and unwavering devotion to torian. 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“Moments matter.” Caring From Page 1 “The people who know me best use immigrate to the U.S.” #momentsmatter,” she said, “because each Kaplan was successful in local commerce moment matters.” One of those moments and purchased the Jim Todd Plantation in occurred when she was in college. “I was 1901. He developed land, established banks held up by a man, hiding in my back seat with and opened rice mills in a number of towns, a gun in his hand,” she said. “That moment according to the book. He also helped mattered.” people from Poland immigrate to the U.S., Going against a popular notion, Selber supported civic and religious institutions isn’t sure the American people have lost so and became an ‘agricultural pioneer and a much of their humanity. “I think we live in pillar of several communities, including the information overload, but I also think we town eventually bearing his name.’ care,” she said. “For me, I appreciate all There still are a few Jewish families in gestures and that all people come at things this part of Cajun Country. Kaplan died in from angles different from mine, like my 1944. However, the Abrom Kaplan Memorial art teacher from Celebration Company. I go Hospital, founded in 1958, remains in there every Wednesday. I pay for my lessons, operation today. and I learn because my teacher Gabby sees Selber said she modeled her own life things without a filter. She also emails me after all four of her grandparents, all of daily: ‘Hello, Sara. How are you doing?’ whom left Poland before the 1930s and, upon JHV: MICHAEL C. DUKE “I believe all of us can make magic at reaching the U.S., kissed the ground as soon Sara Speer Selber enjoys painting once a week at Jewish Family Service’s Celebration Company. every moment,” she added. “Like Writers in as they disembarked. the Schools. The fourth-graders I work with “I loved spending time in Kaplan as a by seeing young people giving their time to a deal with G-d to serve others for the rest gave me permission to be a writer again. kid,” she said, reminiscing about how she entertain them,” Selber said. “That first time, of my life if my son could just be OK. A few “In real life, we may have abilities – but loved going to the drug store with her grand- though, we sort of giggled because we hadn’t weeks later, we received a report from our we also have the ability to be kind to others – father, because everybody knew each other. been around older people that much. But in last round of tests in Houston. It had been a and the more we do it, the better it feels, even “When someone died, our house was time, we couldn’t wait to go to the J again. false diagnosis.” though it is not always easy. But, I can hear where people gathered. You could say it’s We looked forward to Sundays. I’m not sure Throughout her life, since that defining my Bubbie’s voice today, saying as she was been in our DNA to help and take care of if either of us was that good, but we loved moment, Selber said causes find her. “In stirring soup, “If people aren’t nice to you, others for several generations,” explained doing it. Midland, there were few Jewish families you be nice to them.” Selber (whose mother was a Kaplan “I also remember riding in the car with – just like in high school when I attended Selber said her joy comes from waking descendant). my parents to take food when someone was Hockaday School in Dallas. So, aside from up healthy and spending time with people In this small world, Selber’s grand- sick and, when someone came for treatment volunteering with the larger congregation in she loves. “Certainly, I have had an amazing mother, in her youth, was as close as a sister at MD Anderson, they often stayed in our neighboring Odessa – they had a synagogue career and professional life, centered with WITS’ Reagler’s grandmother. “Robin home. My father came from a large family – and Rabbi Moshe Cahana, of blessed on community initiatives that made a and I are two generations removed from he was the eighth child – and he had grown memory, and other circuit rabbis who held difference, and, if we could get back to what those women,” Selber said. “We call them up with a mother and father who reached services periodically. It also was the situation people were doing when my grandmothers ‘the angels who came before us.’ ” out to those in need. My Bubbie was always which led me to join Midland’s Junior League, were teaching me, we would be helping Selber spoke to the JHV about how cooking and feeding the homeless and she where I learned so much about organized families and neighbors and not worrying she began reaching out and caring about seemed to be the designated cook and baker volunteers and organization. about the blame game our political cycle others. ‘I was about in third grade when to take care of family, friends and neighbors.” “In Midland, if you were engaged with brings.” my father and Deborah Cohen’s father took But, Selber said the Aha! moment of her the community, you were accepted. There Selber now recognizes her father’s great Deborah and me, on a Sunday, to sing for life came after the birth of her first son. was no working your way through the wisdom in taking her to sing for the aged the Seniors’ Club at the JCC. Deborah, to “Our oldest was diagnosed with ranks,’ she explained. ‘I hope I can give at the J, and she has had the privilege of this day, remains incredibly engaged with myotonic dystrophy,” she began. “We were back one-tenth of what I learned while I was helping her grandparents, aunts, uncles and the Houston community and, at that time, living in Midland [Texas], at the time. I there. It was a remarkable start to my career, her dad, who is 88. “When I lost my mom, it her father was the finest mind in the field of remember sitting on our porch in West Texas believing everything was possible and living was definitely a game-changer. Now, it’s my gerontology. and thinking, ‘I’m Jewish. I don’t know how with the mantra, ‘What’s the worst that could responsibility to keep our family together, “I remember all the smiles and, in to pray. We’ve always negotiated with G-d. happen.’” to assure her legacy of caring for the family hindsight, think the seniors were touched So, in that space, feeling so helpless, I cut Selber’s personal mantra today is lives on.”

Suicide From Page 1 immortalized. It’s something that will make them feel great, forever, at a time when they told meeting participants. “My goal is to ‘Are you thinking of killing yourself?’ are feeling at their lowest point,” he said. eradicate suicide in our community.” Experts recommend proper training and the use of direct language to help “On the other hand, maybe we can Hosted at the home of Gail and Norman someone suspected of contemplating suicide. use social media to beat social media,” he Stalarow, the meeting was attended by local “Ask the question: ‘Are you thinking of killing yourself?’ ” said Janet Pozmantier added. “It can be a way to get people good clergy and leaders from JFS, the Evelyn of Mental Health America of Greater Houston. “That one sentence has shown to information and offer comfort. If so, we Rubenstein JCC, Jewish Federation of Greater be one of the most effective things you can say, if you’re lucky enough to be with have to be proactive.” Houston and Mental Health America of the person and pick up signs and symptoms.” Meeting participants also discussed the Greater Houston, as well as bereavement and Experts also noted that someone who is talking about suicide is thinking positive role that local clergy can play in loss counselors from the Red Bird Center. about it. fostering discussions about mental health “Our kids are almost 19 and 21 – this “It’s an ol’ wives’ tale that says: ‘If people talk about it, they’re not going to do and suicide prevention. epidemic scares us,” Gail Stalarow told the it,’ ” said Margie Kosoy of Red Bird Center. “That’s actually not true. “I think we can use the upcoming High JHV at the start of the meeting. “An urgent “People talk about it, because they are thinking about it. They may not have a Holy Days to start some serious conversa- response is needed.” plan, but it’s a thought that does exist,” she said. tions and get people to sign up for Mental Norman added, “We need to start finding a Health First Aid training,” said Rachel cure for this epidemic. There has to be a cause, Davis, JFS’ chief development officer. “We and there has to be a cure.” into what’s happening in our community,” “We need training to know what to do can ask the question: ‘How can I have a Stanton said. “We need to create a safe in mental health emergency situations, and happy New Year when my friend’s child Education, support space to talk about these things, look into also non-crisis situations, just like we do died of suicide?’ ” Meeting participants agreed to form what’s contributing to this uptick in trend with regular first aid,” Pozmantier said. four subcommittees, dedicated to providing and provide resources to help before it gets Gail Stalarow added, “Mental health Nationwide epidemic suicide-prevention education and support to this point.” needs to be treated with the same level of Houston isn’t the only community for survivors. respect and seriousness as bodily health.” facing an epidemic of suicide in its young The first subcommittee, headed by the Removing stigma More than 660,000 people across the adult population. Stalarows, is planning an urgent prevention Stanton and others at the Aug. 25 U.S. have been trained in Mental Health According to reporting by the Jewish program in conjunction with the American meeting stressed the need to adopt First Aid, to date, according to the National Forward, there have been 28 recent young Foundation for Suicide Prevention. The non-stigmatizing language to discuss Council for Behavioral Health, which runs adult suicides in the Orthodox community, program tentatively is scheduled for Sept. suicide and mental health. the program. alone, in New York. 27. The group also plans to pursue a series “The language we use is so important, In Houston, the young profes- “Even if there were only one in our of smaller parlor meetings over the coming because of the effect it has on survivors,” sionals subcommittee, and the subcom- community and we could have something weeks and months in community members’ Stanton observed. “We can’t use language mittee focused on training educators and in place to help that one person, it would be homes. that reinforces stigma and shames someone communal professionals in the field, plan as though we saved an entire world,” said Another subcommittee is focused on for feeling that desperate.” to hold recruitment drives for Houstonians JFS’s Burger. “And, to that person’s family, providing suicide prevention education for Rather than saying someone to be trained in Mental Health First Aid. it would be even more valuable. students in middle school and high school, “committed suicide,” akin to saying that “If we begin to de-stigmatize mental as well as for youth groups. A third subcom- person committed a crime, it’s advised to Social media role illness and allow room for the identifi- mittee, meanwhile, will work on intensive say someone “died by suicide,” according to The role of social media in suicide also cation, assessment, treatment and recovery training for educators and communal leading suicide prevention, awareness and was discussed during the Aug. 25 meeting. of it like we do other illnesses, we would be professionals in the field. support resources. Participants agreed that platforms, such in so much better of a place,” she said. The fourth subcommittee is planning a According to Janet Pozmantier, director as Facebook, can be both a blessing and a Burger admitted that her goal of eradi- large program on Nov. 20, specifically for of The Center for School Behavioral Health curse. cating suicide in the local community is a young professionals. This subcommittee is at Mental Health America of Greater “I’m concerned that social media is lofty one. In researching the challenge, she comprised of members of the Federation’s Houston, addressing stigma is the first step helping this epidemic spread,” said Norman learned that suicide prevention experts aim Jerome Robinson Family Young Adults toward suicide prevention. Stalarow. to reduce suicide by 20 percent each year. Division, who, in partnership with JFS, “We can talk about awareness and “We immortalize a lot of this with Yet, she remains committed to her original, organized a support group earlier this year education, but until we address stigma, beautiful fan pages on Facebook, where larger goal. in response to Houston’s suicide epidemic. nobody is going to be able to save a life,” everybody writes on the wall and everybody “If we counted the last five deaths by The young adults program will hear Pozmantier said. talks about it for months and months. And, suicide in our community, if we were to from experts and will include a survivors’ Pozmantier touted a program, called people see that, then create fun runs for only reduce that number by 20 percent, that panel discussion, along with breakout “Mental Health First Aid,” that addresses them or golf tournaments and these great would only mean one – which one would sessions, led by social workers, according the issue of stigma. The eight-hour course things and great ways to raise money,” he that be?” Burger said. “I think we need to to YAD director Lisa Stanton. trains participants on how to identify, continued. have a broader vision and work together, “Our goal is to facilitate meaningful understand and respond to signs of mental “But, I fear that maybe this gener- as a community, to save as many lives as discussions about mental health and dig illnesses and substance-use disorders. ation recognizes this as a way to be possible.” PAGE 5 JEWISH HERALD-VOICE EDITORIAL SEPTEMBER 1, 2016 Editorial Gene Wilder, star of Middle schoolers need to be ‘Willy Wonka’ and other well-versed in Israel advocacy classic comedies, dies at 83 A few years ago, Greater Houston’s Jewish community woke up to the fact that it was sending its young people off to college ill-prepared and ill-equipped to deal with the latest incarnation of anti-Semitism, which manifests itself in the form of attacks against all things and all people Israel. At the time, college and university campuses across the country were experi- encing a dramatic rise in anti-Israel activities and campaigns, aimed at indoctri- nating a future generation of American leaders to turn their backs on Israel. The plan being that, without U.S. support, Israel can be destroyed. Local day school, congregational school and youth group leaders responded by introducing more Israel education in their teen programming. The Jewish Federation of Greater Houston invested in new Israel curricula for high school students and launched a first-of-its-kind program – Teen Israel Ambassadors – that teaches high school juniors and seniors effective Israel-advocacy skills. The latter program yielded instant results by preparing its graduates to help defeat anti-Israel resolutions, as well as adopt pro-Israel resolutions, on their respective college campuses. Meanwhile, local leaders, like Marvin and David Barish and Marna Meyer, built on the success of college programs, such as Birthright Israel, to create Israel travel experiences for local high school students. The Barishes created a program to take local teachers and school administrators to Israel, as well, and have helped high school students become involved with promoting strong U.S.-Israeli ties through the work of AIPAC. Students from Houston’s citywide congregational high school program, Kehillah High, also have become involved with AIPAC. These efforts, combined, have produced impressive results in a short amount of time. Recently, anti-Israel campaigns have spread to high school campuses, including in Houston. At HISD’s Carnegie Vanguard High School, for example, Israeli flags were torn down during an international festival and Jewish students ART SELBY AND AL LEVINE/NBC/NBCU PHOTO BANK VIA GETTY IMAGES were threatened with messages of violence. Similar incidents have been reported Gene Wilder in “The Producers.” at other high schools across the country. (JTA) – Gene Wilder, a comedic Tom Edison, Winnie-the-Pooh and your While high school students need to be educated and trained on how to respond actor known for playing wild-eyed eccen- average Playboy reader with a keen appre- to these problems on their campuses, experience has shown that such training trics, such as the titular characters in ciation of beautiful bosoms.” “Blazing often is too little, too late. “Young Frankenstein” and “Willy Wonka Saddles” and “Young Frankenstein,” Thus, in a similar way that our community has better prepared high school & the Chocolate Factory,” has died at 83. were, respectively, the top and fourth- students to deal with challenges on their future college campuses, we need to Wilder, who was Jewish, died highest grossing movies of 1974. create a means to prepare students – in middle school – for the new reality of Sunday, Aug. 28, from complications In 1972, Wilder appeared in the Woody having to face anti-Israel and anti-Semitic attacks during their high school years. of Alzheimer’s disease, his nephew, Allen film, “Everything You Always Middle school students need to be better educated about Israeli history filmmaker Jordan Walker-Pearlman, told Wanted to Know About Sex* (*But Were and current events. Equally, if not more important, they need to be taught and the Associated Press. Afraid to Ask).” rehearsed in effective Israel-advocacy skills before beginning their high school Born Jerome Silberman in Milwaukee, Wilder also starred as Avram Belinski, freshman year. Wis., in 1933, Wilder later adopted his a rabbi who befriends a bank robber, This is an opportunity to strengthen Jewish identity among the future gener- stage name, saying he couldn’t imagine played by a young Harrison Ford, in the ation of American leaders, while, at the same time, help to solidify U.S.-Israeli ties a marquee reading “Jerome Silberman as 1979 Western comedy, “The Frisco Kid.” for generations to come. ‘Hamlet.’ ” He and the late comedian Richard He worked closely with Jewish Pryor also teamed up in a series of black- director Mel Brooks. In addition to Jewish buddy movies, including “Stir starring in Brooks’ “Young Frankenstein,” Crazy” and “Silver Streak.” as the American grandson of the creator Wilder was married four times, of the famous monster, he portrayed including to Jewish comedian Gilda Letter to Editor accountant Leo Bloom in “The Producers” Radner in 1984. Radner died of ovarian opposite “Fiddler on the Roof” star Zero cancer in 1989. Mostel’s Max Bialystock, as well as a Following her death, Wilder became Comment on Duke editorial hard-drinking, pot-smoking gunman, active in promoting cancer awareness Thank you, Michael Duke, for a very well-written editorial, Aug. 18, re: “Community the Waco Kid, in the satirical Western, and research, co-founding “Gilda’s must confront CAUSE of too many untimely deaths.” We shirk from confronting reality, “Blazing Saddles.” Club,” a nonprofit organization providing especially when the cause of death was not what we could/can readily accept. Or, The New York Times called Wilder’s support to those affected by cancer. name another that is becoming so prevalent in our society, accidental overdose of performance in “Young Frankenstein,” In 1991, he married Karen Webb, a “recreational” drugs. The stigma that parents and grandparents feel adds to their deep which he co-wrote with Brooks, a speech therapist, and the couple was grief. They do not have the comfort of speaking of the cause of their unspeakable loss “marvelous addled mixture of young together until Wilder’s death. because it is, in their view, a sign of weakness and shame. Maybe an article on this subject would be beneficial. Rene’ Karpas Visit jhvonline.com to take part in this week’s poll: What is your favorite Gene Wilder movie? Last week’s results Correction: How do you think the Texans will do this season? In Aaron Howard’s “Watching movies ... with Joshua Starnes,” feature in the Wild-card team ...... 35% Super Bowl ...... 10% Aug. 25 JHV, Starnes was inadvertently referred to as Jonathan Starnes. The JHV Miss the playoffs ...... 30% AFC Champions ...... 10% regrets the error. Division winner ...... 15%

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PAGE 6 JEWISH HERALD-VOICE SEPTEMEBER 1, 2016 COMMUNITY Houston native to join the IDF Meteorologist to discuss Houston Anna Weinstock, diverse mix of people a 19-year-old Houston from 22 U.S. and one weather at Avital Hadassah meeting native, was one of Canadian province, 233 North American including 75 lone soldiers, Avital Hadassah’s fall Since joining KTRK-TV immigrants to move who will become Israeli kickoff meeting will take in July 2006, he has to Israel, Aug. 17, on citizens and volunteer in place on Wednesday, Sept. been awarded the “Best a chartered Nefesh the IDF. 14, 1 p.m., at the Evelyn Weathercast” in Texas by B’Nefesh flight, the “Every single family Rubenstein JCC. KTRK-TV the Associated Press, as organization respon- and individual we bring meteorologist Travis well as the Media Alliance sible for removing or to Israel who decides Herzog will provide the of Houston’s Star Award minimizing the financial, to make aliyah is such a inside scoop on erratic for On-Air TV Personality. professional, logistical special thing for us as an weather patterns. Before joining KTRK-TV, and social obstacles of organization, but when Herzog is no stranger he worked as the morning immigration to Israel. SHAHAR AZRAN you see so many brave to Texas weather because meteorologist in Bryan, Weinstock will Anna Weinstock at JFK Airport young men and women he’s lived here all his life. Texas, at KBTX-TV, where volunteer in the Israel Defense Forces from North America sacrifice so much He received his calling to the Texas Associated Press as a lone soldier, one of many youngsters and voluntarily leave their families be a meteorologist when Travis Herzog twice recognized him as who leave their families in the United because they feel a yearning desire to Hurricane Gilbert spawned one of the top broadcast States and Canada to move to Israel serve in the IDF and defend Israel, that’s a tornado that passed by his childhood meteorologist in the state. Herzog says and join the Israeli Army, in partnership powerful,” said Rabbi Yehoshua Fass, home in San Antonio. In the aftermath, he enjoys being married, teaching his with Tzofim-Garin Tzabar. founder and executive director of Nefesh he became deeply interested in the three children about life, joyfully playing The flight’s passengers comprised a B’Nefesh. atmosphere and read every weather book racquetball, reading and tracking cold he could find, prompting his classmates fronts. to label him “the weatherman.” The name Added to this event will be the intro- has stuck to this day. duction of new Hadassah Life Members Although coming from a family of Jennifer Finkelman and Kayli and Abigail loyal Longhorns, Herzog left the fold to Rose Joachim. pursue his love of weather at Texas A&M. Bring weather questions to ask While in Aggieland, he met his wife, and Herzog, enjoy refreshments and social- decided to become a broadcast meteorol- izing and the meeting. RSVP to Gladys at ogist. He graduated with a B.S. in meteo- 713-771-2114 or emailing howglad13@aol. rology and a perfect 4.0 GPA. com. ‘The Shul’ to feature evening with noted rabbi On Friday, Sept. 23, ‘The Shul’ in Lubavitcher Rebbe, Rabbi Menachem Bellaire will host its semi-annual M. Schneerson, of righteous memory. Community Shabbaton at Genesis Rabbi Friedman is a professionally Steakhouse, 5427 Bissonnet St. ranked member of the National An elegant evening with gourmet Speakers Association. His speaking cuisine, an inspiring and uplifting tours take him to every part of the guest speaker and a large group of United States, as well as to Israel, remarkable people, will make this a England, The Netherlands, South memorable Shabbat experience. Africa, Australia, Brazil, Venezuela, The guest speaker is Rabbi Manis Peru, Canada and Hong Kong. Friedman of St. Paul, Minn. The Rabbi Friedman was born in dinner and presentation will begin Prague, Czechoslovakia, in 1946, and Photo by Ron Zaguli at 6:30 p.m. immigrated with his family to the Rabbi Friedman is a renowned United States in 1950. He received author, counselor, lecturer and philos- his rabbinic ordination from the opher. who uses ancient wisdom and Rabbinical College of Canada in 1969. modern wit to captivate audiences Married to Chana, for 45 years, Rabbi around the world. His presentation Friedman is a father of 14 children will be as educational as it is inspiring, ages 27-45. spiritual – yet practical, funny and “The feedback from previous profound. Shabbat community dinners has been Rabbi Friedman’s first book,” truly phenomenal,” said Rabbi Yossi Doesn’t Anyone Blush Anymore?” Zaklikofsky. “They attract an extraor- (Harper San Francisco, 1990) was dinary crowd of people from across the widely praised by the media. It spectrum, transcending synagogue currently is in its fourth printing. affiliations. All enjoy a scrumptious Following the publication of the book, and elegant Shabbat dinner, enter- the rabbi was featured internationally tainment and Jewish inspiration, in more than 200 print articles, charged with the unique Shabbat and interviewed on more than 50 energy. television and radio talk shows. He “Standing only days before has appeared on CNN, A&E Reviews, Rosh Hashanah, we thought Rabbi PBS and BBC Worldwide, and has Friedman would be the perfect fit for been the subject of articles in the New guest speaker. We are very excited to York Times, Rolling Stone, Seventeen, be hosting him, a gifted orator, scholar Guideposts, Insight, Publisher’s and a mentor to thousands.” Weekly and others. Rabbi Friedman will discuss In an effort to empower women in “Getting to Like the People You Love – Judaism, he founded the world’s first Judaism’s roadmap to healthy relation- yeshiva exclusively for women, Bais ships.” A parallel children’s program Chana Institute of Jewish Studies and babysitting will take place during in Minnesota, where he continues the lecture. to serve as dean. Since its opening The cost includes Shabbat dinner. in 1971, 22,000 women of all ages, Table sponsorships are available. backgrounds, and from all over the Underwriters for the dinner are world have attended the institute. Guillermo Guefen and Erika and A film produced by the rabbi, “The Mannie Magid. Host committee Lost Key to Intimacy,” was voted the members are Amy and Gary Davis; winner of the Best Documentary Sandra and Steven Finkelman; Melissa at the Houston International Film and Ron Jacobs; Sheila and Gordon Festival in 2015. Sack; Rhoda and Steve Saka and Genie Rabbi Friedman is a noted biblical Kleinerman and Len Zwelling scholar, recognized for his sagacious Reservations should be placed in grasp of Jewish mysticism. From advance by visiting JewishBellaire. 1984-1990 he served as simultaneous com/Shabbaton or by calling translator for the televised talks of the 713-839-8887.

Preparing the soul for the High Holy Days As the High Holy Days approach, Congregation Shaar Hashalom on Rabbi Stuart Federow of Congregation three Sundays – Sept. 18, 25 and Oct. 9 Shaar Hashalom will lead a three-session between 1:30 and 2:30 p.m. Congregants discussion, looking at the prayers, the and community members of all ages are Cheshbon HaNefesh, the introspection welcome to participate. called for at this time of the year. He Contact the synagogue office will talk about the themes of the season, at 281-488-5861 or email csh@ helping to make it more meaningful. shaarhashalom.org for more infor- Classes will take place at mation. PAGE 7 JEWISH HERALD-VOICE COMMUNITY SEPTEMEBER 1, 2016 Seven Acres annual ElderAge Houston Lecture Series free to community Preparing for the later stages in life workshop, “Planning for Aging – Having the requires extensive planning and an open Conversation,” will offer helpful strategies mind on the part of the elderly and on their for beginning productive conversations loved ones. This year’s ElderAge Houston about retiring: from driving, planning for life Lecture Series hopes to address how best transitions and end-of-life wishes. Members to approach the elder years by remaining of the panel are senior clinician at Family physically and mentally healthy, by facing Houston, Sao S. Lorn, M.A., L.P.C., L.M.F.T.; challenges of increasing frailty and staying Rev. Charles Millikan, D.Min., vice president alert to avoid fraudulent financial schemes. for Spiritual Care and Values Integration These subjects will be addressed by at The Methodist; and attorney Elyssa M. a panel of experts on aging over three Schnuur, J.D. successive Wednesday evenings in “As the exper ts in aging in our September. Underwritten for the fifth year community, Seven Acres is pleased to by Seven Acres Jewish Senior Care Services be offering these workshops,” remarked and jointly presented by the Alzheimer’s Malcolm Slatko, CEO of Seven Acres. “We Association, the lectures will take place at 7 Elyssa M. Scnuur, J.D. Laura Marsh, M.D. Kamden Kanaly, C.F.P. are also very happy to be co-hosting the p.m. on Sept. 14, 21 and 28 and will be held at well-rounded, holistic life. Leading the Sept. 21. It will be presented by Detective ElderAge lecture series with the Alzheimer’s the Evelyn Rubenstein Jewish Community discussion will be Rev. Helen Appleberg, Eric Carr of the Houston Police Department Association for the fifth year. Both of our Center, 5601 S. Braeswood Blvd. The lectures D.Min., director of the Center for Spirituality Financial Crimes Division; Kamden Kanaly, organizations realize the importance of are free of charge and open to all members of Aging and senior fellow at the Sealy C.F.P., vice president of Kanaly Truts; and community education in the fields of aging, of the community. Center of Aging, UT Medical Branch; Candy Twyman, L.M.S.W.-A.P., executive caregiving and long-term care planning for “Building a Healthy Future – Body, Mind and Christopher S. Fry, Ph.D., assistant director of the Better Business Bureau both the elderly population and for their and Spirit” is the topic for the first lecture professor at the Department of Nutrition and Education Foundation. The lecture will loved ones. We want to express our thanks on Sept. 14. The panel will cover a variety of Metabolism, UT Medical Branch. Also on the focus on tips and strategies for protecting to the Barbara and Barry Lewis family for approaches to promote healthy aging. The panel will be Laura Marsh, M.D., professor at financial assets, as elders are often partic- funding this series through the Seven Acres discussion is aimed at those who wish to the Menninger Department of Psychiatry, ularly vulnerable to scams and fraudulent Lou Lewis Memorial Scholarship Fund. The prepare for their later years by learning what Baylor College of Medicine and executive business practices. Lou Lewis Fund has always recognized that steps can be taken now to ensure a healthier director of the Mental Health Care Line, Talking with a parent about aging can be education and service go hand in hand.” lifestyle. Veterans Affairs Medical Center. difficult. Despite these challenges, conversa- There is no cost for the lectures and Experts on the mind, spirit and body “Protecting your Assets – Make the Plan, tions are much easier to have before a crisis. the public is welcome; however, seating is will offer practical advice on living a healthy, Avoid the Scam” is scheduled for Wednesday, Aimed at families of the elderly, the final limited. RSVP to 713-314-1313.

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THURSDAY, SEPT. 1 “Matan Bat Mitzvah Program: Jewish Parshat Re’eh – Deuteronomy 11:26-16:17 The Greater Houston Jewish Genealogical Women Through the Ages” is a 10-week course Society will meet at 7 p.m., at Seven Acres, for mothers and daughters who want to learn “Observe and understand (shamor 6200 N. Braeswood Blvd. The program more about Jewish women. It meets Sundays, RABBI DR. TZVI v’shamata) all these matters that I will be presented by Max Heffler on the 4-6 p.m., at United Orthodox Synagogues. To command you; so that it will go well with International Jewish Genealogical Society register go to uosh.org/event/matan.html. HERSH WEINREB meeting In Seattle. Open to anyone interested For questions, contact Amy Goldstein at you and with your descendants after in genealogy. [email protected]. Weekly you forever, for you will be doing what Torah PorTion is good and right in the sight of the L-rd SUNDAY, SEPT. 4, THROUGH TUESDAY, SEPT. 13 your G-d” (Deuteronomy 12:28). THURSDAY, SEPT. 8 Jewish Federation Commercial Real Estate A new one-year course in the teaching of breakfast at La Colombe d’Or, at 3407 Yoakum The commentator Ohr HaChaim Jewish Mysticism will be offered by TORCH St. RSVP [email protected]. This week’s Torah portion, Parashat wondered about the first part of this starting Sunday, Sept. 4, at 7:30 p.m., and Re’eh, is read near the beginning of the verse. Should it not read “understand Thursday, Sept. 8, at 12:30 p.m. In addition, WEDNESDAY, SEPT. 14 Hebrew month of Elul. The last month of and observe”? Why is the observation, there will be a special session in Zohar Study Avital Hadassah’s kickoff meeting, 1 p.m., at beginning Wednesday, Sept. 7, at 7:30 p.m. the JCC, features KTRK meteorologist Travis the year before Rosh Hashanah, Elul is the fulfillment, written before the need All classes meet at the TORCH Centre, 9427 Herzog. RSVP to Gladys at 713-771-2114 or viewed as a time to prepare oneself for for understanding? Surely, it would be Glenfield Ct. To register or for information, go email [email protected]. the process of Divine judgment, which preferable to first understand and only to torchweb.org. Scholarships are available. WEDNESDAYS, SEPT. 14, 21, 28 begins on Rosh Hashanah and concludes then to obey. THESE SYMPOSIUMS ARE AT THE JCC ElderAge Houston Lecture Series, a on Yom Kippur. Rabbi Chaim Zaitchik, an ardent ON TUESDAYS, 10 A.M., SEPT. 6-27 collaboration between Seven Acres Jewish Despite my excellent early Jewish devotee of Rabbi Salanter’s movement Senior Care Services and the Alzheimer’s education, I was fairly ignorant about the who survived the Holocaust, wrote •6Sept. 6, Jewish Herald-Voice staff writer Aaron Assn., 7 p.m, at the JCC, 5601 S. Braeswood significance of Elul until the year I began an essay titled, “Flawed Character Howard will lead “The Ten Commandments of Blvd. Lectures are free of charge and open to Jewish Participation in American Politics.” the community. RSVP to 713-314-1313. my post-high school Jewish studies. It Traits Weaken Faith,” which offers the was then that a teacher introduced me following explanation of why we must •6Sept. 13, Jay Zeidman will discuss “The THURSDAYS, SEPT. 15-DEC. 15 to a spiritual approach, known as the first “do what is good and right in the Making of a Jewish Conservative.” “On the Margins of Judaism,” taught by Mussar movement. This movement was sight of the L-rd” and only then under- Wendy Lerman, Melton Adult Education •6Sept. 20, Brooke M. Bacuetes, district office class, 10:45-11:45 a.m., at the Merfish Teen inspired by a charismatic, scholarly, stand G-d: manager for Congressman John Culberson, Center. For details, go to erjcchouston.org/ creative Lithuanian rabbi in the second “From this we gain the following R-Texas, will lead students on “A Visit to Your jewish-learning/florence-melton. half of the 19th century. guidance: in order for a person to Elected Representative’s Office.” FRIDAY, SEPT. 16 His name was Israel Salanter. He achieve the precious quality of faith •6Sept. 27, Mayor Pro Tem Ellen Cohen will Classic Connections kicks off the year found the religious condition of the Jews in the A-mighty in his life, he cannot close the series with “The Making of a Jewish with Shabbat services, 6 p.m, followed by of his time to be deficient in several do so through intellectual inquiry. He Liberal.” dinner, 7:15 at Congregation Emanu El. respects. For one thing, he was convinced must first rectify his ethical and moral Classic Connections is the temple’s social that people were ignoring the ethical conduct, laying down a foundation of For more information on Symposium or to group for people in their 50s and 60s. To register for classes, contact Esther Bethke at register, visit emanuelhouston.org, or email dimensions of our tradition. He insisted good deeds and charitable acts, and then [email protected] or 713-595-8186. [email protected]. that one had to be very meticulous in thereby develop a complete and strong his or her ethical behavior and devote faith. Only then can he understand the FRIDAY, SEPT. 9 THURSDAY, SEPT. 22 extra caution to relationships with other meaning of yir’at shamayim [fear of 60th Anniversary Shabbat, 7:15 p.m., at Beth Israel Lyon Cohen Symposium on Houston Congregation for Reform Judaism, Business Ethics, 5:30 p.m., in Wolff-Toomim people. He also was concerned with the Heaven], only then will faith be revealed 801 Bering Dr. – a service honoring HCRJ’s Hall. RSVP at bethisrael.org. lack of true faith, the absence of yir’at to him.” history as a congregation. A champagne oneg shamayim, fear of Heaven. As we advance from the advent of Elul to following services will highlight an evening to FRIDAY, SEPT. 23 Thus, he developed a comprehensive the High Holy Days, to the days of awe and the diamond anniversary year. The Shul of Bellaire semi-annual Community Shabbaton, featuring Rabbi Manis Friedman, methodology for achieving faith in the judgment, we would do well to remember the SUNDAY, SEPT. 11 at Genesis Steakhouse, 5427 Bissonnet St. A-mighty, true “fear of heaven.” He also teachings of the 19th century Rabbi Salanter, JKindHouston, a Jewish professionals group RSVP at JewishBellaire.com/Shabbaton or formulated a program through which and the teachings of those of his disciples, that helps nonprofits, seeks volunteers to sort call 713-839-8887. individuals could attain greater sensi- Rabbis Epstein and Zaitchik, who survived items for the Houston Food Bank at 9 a.m. For information and to RSVP, email Barry at tivity to their own ethical behavior into the late 20th and early 21st century. We [email protected]. FAMILY EVENTS AT THE J: with regard to their spouses, friends, would do well to focus on character devel- employers and employees, and neighbors, opment and self-improvement in our ethical • Sunday, Sept. 4, Time for Tennis, 10 a.m. 60th Anniversary Tailgate Party, 11 a.m., at Jewish or otherwise. He placed special and moral conduct; for to the extent that Houston Congregation for Reform Judaism, 801 • Sunday, Sept. 11, Dor l’Dor Grandparent Bering Dr. Spend Sunday afternoon at the 60th- Grandchild Bowling, 2 p.m. emphasis upon the month of Elul, when we grow in our behavior to other persons, anniversary tailgate. Tailgate feasting, bounce • Sunday, Sept. 18, Dead Sea Disco, 10:30 a.m. Jews approach the impending days of we will be granted strengthened faith and a houses, a photo booth and a dessert food truck • Saturday, Sept. 17 and Sunday, Sept. 25, judgment; he realized that these waning more profound appreciation of the Ribbono Shabbatify, for K-5th grade will help kick off a year of celebration. Watch the days of the Jewish year represent the shel Olam, the Master of the Universe. Houston Texans’ first game of the season on a huge projection screen, and have family fun with Learn more at erjcchouston.org or call optimal time to focus on what we would To read more articles and essays by HCRJ – for all ages. 713-729-3200. call faith in G-d and one’s duties to fellow Rabbi Weinreb, go to ou.org/torah/parsha- human beings. series/rabbi-weinreb- on-parsha.

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Bat Mitzvah Houston Hillel welcomes back students

JULIA BETH DANZIGER

Julia Beth Danziger will celebrate her Bat Mitzvah at Chabad at the Medical Center on Friday, Sept. 2, and at Congregation Beth Yeshurun on Saturday, Sept. 3. Julia is the daughter of Susan and Paul Danziger; sister of Emma, Gaby and Joshua. Her proud grand- parents are Avril and Julius Danziger of Houston, and Jane and Howard Kramer of Rye, N.Y. Julia attends The Emery/Weiner School and is a graduate of Beth Yeshurun Day School and The Shlenker School. Her passion is gymnastics, and she participates in the JCC Xcel team program. For her mitzvah project, Julia volunteered with the JCC gymnastics Super Stars program for children with special needs. She also decorated tray tables for the patients’ rooms at the new Aishel House. She will be donating a portion of her monetary gifts to Aishel House. Julia is excited to be able to celebrate this special occasion with her friends and family. Engagement Helping prepare for Houston Hillel’s Welcome Back BBQ are Amy Altchuler, Rozanne Rubin, Emily Jackson, Naomi Wittlin and Hannah Wittlin. DR. AARON SEAN ASHTON and JAMIE ELYSSE BROD Houston Hillel’s Welcome Back BBQ Bejeault, Jeff Berlat, Eric Bishop, Alan drew students, young professionals Cohn, Eric Cohn, Rabbi Gideon Estes, and members of Houston’s Jewish Bonnie and Mark Hochstein, Emily community for an afternoon of friends, Jackson, Salomon Lahana, Beverly fun and food. Rabbi Kenny Weiss, Levinson, Bob Livitz, Jeremy Penner, Houston Hillel’s executive director, said, Jason Plotkin, Lennie and Barbie Roth, “It’s a great tribute to our staff and lay Rozanne Rubin, and Naomi Wittlin and leaders that Houston Hillel attracts such her daughter Hannah. a diverse range of students and young Rabbi Weiss noted, “Mark Hochstein professionals to our Welcome Back BBQ deserves much of the credit for the and throughout the year. During the delicious food. As he’s done for many barbecue, I spoke with Jewish students years, Mark took responsibility for coordi- who attend the University of Houston, nating everything. Alan Cohn brought his Rice University, Houston Community culinary expertise, and we couldn’t have College, Sam Houston State University done anything without Gary Swartz’s and UH Downtown. We also had a grills. Together, they made sure that we number of young professionals who had all the accessories – cole slaw, chips regularly attend programs sponsored by and condiments. Because of Mark, Alan Jewston, Houston Hillel’s community for and Gary and the many volunteers who Jewish 20-somethings.” handled all the food, Liza and I were able Roni Elayne Singer of Houston, Texas, and Jim Brod of El Paso, Texas, are Added Liza Naomi Abrams, Houston to concentrate on meeting new students happy and proud to announce the engagement of their daughter Jamie to Aaron, Hillel’s director of undergraduate and greeting those who returned from son of Dr. Scott and Hollis Ashton of Dallas, Texas. engagement, “It’s great to see so many summer break.” The happy couple plans to be married in May 2017 in Lakeway, Texas. students take some time to come to Students were treated to free Houston Houston Hillel for the barbecue just Hillel T-shirts. Rice students’ T-shirts before their first day of classes. It was are blue and have “Rice” in Hebrew on very exciting to talk with so many the front, while University of Houston smile by getting involved in Yachad, an freshmen who just moved to Houston. I students received red T-shirts with “Go New year: Get involved! inclusive organization where Jewish met with our student leaders just before Coogs!” in Hebrew. teens can hang out with people who have the barbecue started, and they’re anxious For more information about Houston special needs. By being on my school’s to involve our freshmen.” Hillel’s programming and a free Birthright Model U.N. team, I found that I am Hanging around Gary Swartz’s Israel trip during winter break, call the Deborah interested in current events and public grills and helping with food preparation Hillel Student Center at 713-526-4918 or brown speaking. Beren Academy has taken and serving were Amy Altchuler, Mike visit houstonhillel.org. me to AIPAC events, which fostered my Teen CommuniTy love of Israel and helped me become an informed advocate. I gained leadership Hi, I’m Deborah Brown. I am a skills by being a student ambassador senior at Robert M. Beren Academy, and leading events, like sixth-grade and I’m excited to be the teen writer orientation. I have discovered my love for the Jewish Herald-Voice this year. for singing by being in Girls’ Choir, Throughout the year, I’ll be writing and my love for dancing from a zumba in this column about cool and inspi- elective in 10th grade. rational people and opportunities for And, there is so much more to do teens in our community to get involved. during the school year beyond school- This week is the back-to-school related activities. There are youth week for most of us teens, which is groups, which I encourage every kind of dreaded. It means waking up teen to get involved in because of the early, spending nearly the entire day amazing experiences and friendships sitting in a classroom, and then hours you’ll get from them. I have been a part of homework. No one likes those things. of Bnei Akiva, the youth movement at And, I dislike those things as much as my synagogue, for years, and I’ve loved any teenager does. But, I think there’s every second of it. Opportunities like more to school than just classes and The Friendship Circle also are great work. ways to make a difference in the world Going back to school is a time for new while having fun. Synagogues love to beginnings. School gives us, students, have teens get involved in all kinds of opportunities that we wouldn’t get things: At my synagogue, UOS, I am anywhere else. And, these are almost a gabbait and I help lead prayers at always diverse, unpredictable and fun. Bat Mitzvahs and women’s services. They teach us new things, introduce And, did you know that the Jewish us to new people and give us unique Federation has a great program for 11th- experiences. They come in the form of and 12th-graders called Teen Israel clubs, sports teams, academic groups, Ambassadors? There are lots of other electives, youth groups and every- local groups for just about anything thing else you could imagine. You can you may be interested in – sports, art, discover new opportunities just by animals, politics, Girl Scouts and Boy talking to the right people: teachers, Scouts, and more. I even take tae kwon principals, counselors. Even small do. schools, like mine, the Robert M. Beren So, with all of these opportunities Academy, have so many things you can and more, what will you do this year get involved in. And, all these chances to make your school, community and to get involved make school worth the world a better place? I challenge you early mornings and long afternoons. to find a way to get involved and be I have discovered some of my part of something great. And, I want favorite things to do from these oppor- to hear about what you do! If you have tunities that I get at school. I realized my an amazing story to tell, email me at passion for davening, prayer, by offering [email protected], and you may to lead a girls’ davening every morning. be featured in this column! I have learned that I love making people Have a great year! Page 10 Jewish Herald-Voice Septemeber 1, 2016 Senior Living

wouldn’t benefit from hiring an engineer Why are people so focused on ‘the old’? with 40 years experience? What about the hospital hiring nurses with the same New York Times, titled, “Older people of all new hires in the senior citizen age amount of exposure to their craft and looking for work, find few options outside group,” it said. the art of nursing? Or, a retired teacher ALICE service.” Rutledge found older people most with 30 years experience in classroom ADAMS Quoctung Bul, the author, began his often are hired for jobs requiring higher management who wants to come back article by saying, “The rules of the job levels of dependability and outdoor and teach two or three days a week or a Reflections market aren’t the same for older workers.” work and lower levels of active learning, retired attorney who wants to serve as an This was not news to me. numerical ability and physical skills. adviser? Reading on, Bul points out the kinds “Jobs that tended to favor older workers One more thing: Whether a job is My twin grandchildren are being of jobs for 55-plus men and women tended to pay less,” Rutledge reported, in the service sector, private sector or home-schooled this year for fourth grade, narrow significantly as they grow older. like 6 percent to 12 percent less than jobs government sector, show me one job and since I’m now living under their roof, Then, he quotes Matthew Rutledge, an tending to favor younger people, mostly where it is not an imperative for the I’ve had the opportunity to see what economist for the Center for Retirement because they require less skill. worker to be savvy about the human race, home-schooling looks like. As for my Research at Boston College, who found, The final blow: Between 2008 and it’s quirks and habits. There’s not one, contribution, I’ve asked the twins to go to “they [seniors] are increasingly being 2012, workers aged 62 and older with right? specific sections of the newspaper, select funneled into what he describes as “old a college degree had a 50 percent less Old people’s jobs? Sounds like an an article that’s interesting to them, clip it person” jobs. chance of finding work, even after two ageist slur to me! out and write a three-sentence summary Really? A university-based think tank years of active looking. Older workers of the article in a notebook. They do this calls them “old person” jobs? And, aside without a college degree had a 35 percent exercise five days a week. from being politically incorrect, what are less chance of finding work. My objectives are introducing the these so-called “old person” jobs? So, what are we going to do about this, Senior moments daily paper and the Jewish Herald The article said “old person” jobs are especially if you, like me, aren’t ready to Popular keynote speaker Michael Voice to them, helping them become a mix of high-skilled service work (like retire? Pritchard was the guy who reminded us, comfortable navigating these newspapers managers, sales supervisors and accoun- First of all, I think our government “You don’t stop laughing because you as well as practicing their reading-for- tants) and low-skilled service work (like should bring all call centers back to this grow old. You grow old because you stop meaning skills and, of course, the ability truck drivers, janitors and nurse aides). country and hire mostly older people. laughing.” to summarize and communicate what The article goes on to say noticeably Secondly, it may be time to stop giving So, we found some funny senior they read, writing about it clearly and absent from the old person job list are mere lip service to the notion, “70 is the moments to share maybe a laugh or two: concisely. jobs requiring a fair amount of physical new 50.” Archie, aged 88, has a problem with his This exercise also encourages me labor. Finally, big business needs to do its house. It has two stories. It has stairs. When to read articles more closely, which is “Jobs in farming, manufacturing and part in an effort to hire their workforce he uses the stairs, Archie stops midway to why I found an article published in The repair represent less than one-quarter from across the board. What corporation catch his breath. His main problem is that, when he is ready to start again, Archie is unable to remember whether he was going upstairs or downstairs. * * * A letter to a national newspaper in the 1950s declared: “My grandfather, who is 87, has been converted to nudism. He sits all day long in the greenhouse without a stitch on except for his hat. When I asked him what he wants with a hat on if he’s a nudist he hits out at me with his walking stick and hollers, “Because I’m bald.” * * * In his later life, a former American bishop found himself having difficulty rising from a park bench where he had stopped to take the weight off his feet. After struggling ineffectively, he was delighted when a little girl offered a helping hand. “That’s very kind of you, my dear,” he told her, “But. are you really strong enough?” “Oh yes, the child retorted, ‘I’ve often helped my daddy when he was much drunker than you.” * * * Two elderly people are living in a retirement home in Houston – he was a widower and she a widow, had known each other for a number of years. One evening there was a community supper in the big arena in the clubhouse. The two were at the same table, across from one another. As the meal went on, he took a few admiring glances at her and finally gathered the courage to ask her, “Will you marry me?” After about six seconds of “careful consideration,” she answered, “Yes. Yes, I will!” The meal ended and, with a few more pleasant exchanges, they went to their respective places. Next morning, he was troubled. “Did she say ‘yes’ or did she say ‘no’?” He couldn’t remember. Try as he might, he just could not recall. With trepidation, he went to the telephone and called her. First, he explained he didn’t remember as well as he used to. Then, he reviewed the lovely evening past. As he gained a little more courage, he inquired, “When I asked if you would marry me, did you say ‘Yes’ or did you say ‘No’?” He was delighted to hear her say, “Why, I said, ‘Yes, yes, I will.’ and I meant it with all my heart.” Then, she continued, “And, I am so glad that you called, because I couldn’t remember who had asked me.” * * * Two elderly guests, Martin and Chris, attended a party given by a business associate to mark his daughter’s engagement to a man she had been living with for three years. During the party, the two seniors were overheard grumbling about the decline in moral standards. “All these people sleeping together before they’re married,” Martin muttered indignantly. “I didn’t sleep with my wife before we were married. Did you?” “I don’t know,” answered Chris thoughtfully. “What was her maiden name?” PAGE 11 JEWISH HERALD-VOICE SENIOR LIVING SEPTEMEBER 1, 2016

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Our The Texas Pie Company Original Pie Michael Mastro have created a large, server cautioned us that the plates were Dough. Since 1988, Chef Julie Albertson warm, contemporary restaurant, not just not to be touched as they were extremely has been crafting handmade pies, another steakhouse. The dining room is hot. I had to test it and agreed it was learning from her grandmother to use exquisite with comfortable seating and the hottest plate in memory and kept organic ingredients including fresh tables not on top of each other. China the meat hot throughout dinner. The fruits, milk and eggs. Today, her pies are and flatware are first class. I found steaks were knockouts, both in taste and famous for their handmade quality and service outstanding and the wait staff texture. farm-fresh fillings. Using pecans from very knowledgeable about the menu and Side dishes are quite special at Steak Texas growers and a homemade crust specific dishes. 48. I ordered two of my favorites: Roasted recipe, Texas Pie Company’s Pecan Pie Steak 48 features responsibly farmed Sweet Potatoes with bourbon and has been their No. 1 seller for more than prime steaks, hand cut in house by the torched marshmallows; and Asparagus David Huddleston, most famous for 25 years. master butcher and wet aged for 28 Fries. On my next visit, I’m going for his role as the real The Big Lebowski in First Place ($20,000) resulted in days. I like that the steak menu gives Crispy Hasselback Potatoes with garlic the film of the same name, passed away a tie – Bagel Dots, LLC from Houston you a choice of sizes, with small steaks truffle butter and chive cream cheese; in early August. Houstonians can drown and KITCHUN’s Holy-Coco-Cacao! starting at 8 ounces and regular steaks and Corn Crème Brulée. their sorrows and honor Huddleston’s No-Grain-Ola. from 12 to 22 ounces. Dessert is an absolute must. I shared passing by enjoying the Big Reubowski Bagel Dots, LLC.: Have you ever There also is a large seafood two and consumed way beyond my Burger at Kenny & Ziggy’s New York wondered what happened to the center selection, including Hawaiian Poke, normal limit. The first came from the Delicatessen Restaurant. of the bagel? Aarti Garehgrat, president Ahi Tuna, Shetland Island Salmon dessert menu, Ultimate Warm Vanilla The towering burger starts with a of Bagel Dots, has the answer. Bagel and Chilean Seabass, all sourced from Caramel Cake with gelato, whipped patty made from a special ground blend Dots are a truly innovative, fresh, new sustainable fisheries. Other menu items I cream and praline pecans. It was of short rib and skirt steak shipped in solution to an age-old problem: eating can’t wait to try include Prime Meatloaf, fabulous. fresh daily from New York. It is then bagels is messy. These bite-sized bagel made with ribeye and filet mignon, Prime The next dessert was unbelievable, layered with house-cured corned beef balls, filled with cream cheese and other Meatballs, Colorado Rack of Lamb, short both in presentation and taste. It was and sauerkraut, topped with Russian ingredients of choice, are delicious, fast ribs and a bone-in veal chop. not on the menu. The server called it dressing on a challah bun. It’s like a and ready to go. This wholesome snack Executive Chef Jeff Taylor runs the the “Beignet Tree.” It was the traditional Reuben on a burger. wide-open kitchen. When making a reser- New Orleans pastry, fried and served hot When Ziggy Gruber created the vation, ask for a table facing the kitchen. with a generous dusting of cinnamon burger, he asked diners and the general When available, I enjoy the wonderful sugar. But, catch this: Each beignet was public to help name the creation. There activity as part of my entertainment. placed on the branches of a metal tree, were many entries, but Gruber knew Dinner began with a glass of wine making it look like fruit hanging from The Big Reubowski was the winner the from an excellent list. I couldn’t resist a “Beignet Tree.” It was served with moment he read it. the full-bodied and complex Hilary two great sauces for dipping – Crème The burger is available all day, every Goldschmidt Cabernet Sauvignon, one of Anglaise and Chocolate Ganache. I will day, at both Kenny & Ziggy’s locations, my favorite cabs. My first appetizer was never forget that dessert! 2327 Post Oak Blvd. in the heart of The Hawaiian Poke. I chose the combination For your private party, many options Galleria area and 5172 Buffalo Speedway of Ahi Tuna and Shetland Island Salmon. are available. 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Recipes Wasabi-Encrusted Tilapia

4 fresh tilapia fi llets 2 cups Manischewitz Falafel Mix 1 bottle Manischewitz Wasabi 1 lemon, cut into 8 wedges Horseradish Sauce Salt 3 Tbsp. olive oil Pepper

Cover tilapia fillets with horseradish sauce on both sides, using about 1 tablespoon sauce per piece. Sprinkle each side with salt and pepper. Pour olive oil in large frying pan and heat to medium-high. Pour falafel mix on a large plate. Dredge fish on both sides in falafel mix until well-covered. Place tilapia pieces in pan. Fry on each side until golden brown and fish flakes easily with a fork, about five minutes per side. Place fish on serving platter with lemon wedges and additional Wasabi Horseradish Sauce on the side. Serves four.

From Sharon Collison on Manischewitz.com

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From Manischewitz.com PAGE 13 JEWISH HERALD-VOICE ARTS & ENTERTAINMENT SEPTEMEBER 1, 2016 From musical prodigy to creator of Israel Philharmonic Orchestra during World War I led Huberman, in and their families from Europe to who went to Sir Arthur Wauchope, high 1920 at the age of 31, to put his musical Palestine, guarantee a staff to run the commissioner of the British Mandatory aaron concertizing on hold. He went to the symphony, and to renovate the concert Government. Wauchope loved the idea of howard Sorbonne in Paris to study social and hall in Tel Aviv proved to be beyond bringing culture to that barren outback Looks at Books political sciences. That’s where he joined Huberman’s ability. Finally, Albert where he was stuck. the Pan-Europa movement, a program to Einstein bailed him out by raising the “Then, there was the obstacle of unite Europe politically, economically funds. convincing German Jews that Nazism and militarily. “Another obstacle was getting David would not blow over and they needed to Josh Aronson has ensured we “Huberman wrote a book about the Ben-Gurion (then director of the Jewish uproot themselves and move to Palestine. remember Bronislaw Huberman. In his movement. He annoyed people in his Agency) to agree to let the musicians and It took a lot to convince them to move. feature film documentary and historical concerts by talking politics. By 1933, the families have permanent immigration Huberman had prescience about what novel, “Orchestra Of Exiles” (Berkley), dream was completely dashed because of certificates into Palestine. Ben-Gurion was coming. He experienced pogroms Aronson tells the story of the Polish Naziism,” said Aronson. had agreed in 1935. But, following the as a child and had experienced anti- Jewish violinist who made musical and Originally an opponent of Zionism, Arab riots in 1936 and the severe limitation Semitism in its worst sense. I imagine he political history during the first part of Huberman made trips to Palestine to play of Jewish immigration by the British as had this sense it was going to get worse, the 20th century. concerts in 1929 and 1931. He was struck a response, Ben-Gurion reneged on his and he relentlessly pushed back against A child prodigy who first appeared in by the Jewish passion for music, but agreement. that. public at the age of 7, Huberman became believed it was impossible that one could “Huberman was more powerful and “He ultimately saved thousands of one of classical music’s great soloists. create a premiere orchestra there. strategic than Ben-Gurion was at the Jews and started the culture of Israel. More importantly, before most people, Conditions radically changed time. He had the ear of British aristocracy Men like that should not be forgotten.” Huberman realized the full extent of the following the Nazi seizure of power. More and politicians. * * * danger that the Nazi regime posed to than 8,000 of the Jewish musicians, actors “Ben-Gurion didn’t want musicians If your book club would like to European Jews. His project to create a and other artists in Germany were either to receive the limited immigration participate in “Take Your Pick” by reading world-class orchestra in pre-world War fired or forced out of their positions in certificates. He wanted workers and ‘Orchestra of Exiles” and/or “The Dead II Palestine allowed some 70 Jewish orchestras, the theater and academia. engineers. He didn’t have an interest Man,” mail [email protected]. musicians and their families to escape Now Huberman’s idea of starting a new in culture. He wasn’t wrong or the bad Once your email is received, you will German persecution and build up orchestra in Palestine, composed mostly guy. He simply didn’t believe, as I do, get the discussion questions. More infor- Palestine’s cultural life and economy. of German Jewish musicians, seemed like that culture is as important as farms mation will be coming as we get closer to “Orchestra Of Exiles” is one of the the right plan at the right time. Yet, he still when it came to building a new state Book Fair. two books in this year’s “Take Your Pick” faced what seemed like insurmountable such as Israel. Huberman finally outma- Copies of both books will be for sale program, a new version of the Jewish barriers, said Aronson. neuvered Ben-Gurion by going to Chaim at the JCC’s front desk. The purchaser of Book & Arts Fair’s “Community Read.” “Money was the first obstacle. Weizmann in London, who presumably a book gets free admission into the “Take This year, the community may choose Obtaining the funds to move 70 musicians went to the British prime minister in 1936, Your Pick” program on Nov. 1. the Aronson book or Nora Gold’s “The Dead Man” (or both books). Aronson and Gold will appear together on Nov. 1 at 7:30 p.m. at the Evelyn Rubenstein JCC. EVELYN RUBENSTEIN JCC Any book club that reads either or both books, will receive: Discussion questions HOUSTON to help facilitate their meeting; discounted admission of $10 to each book club Coming Soon participant for the “Take your Pick” program on Nov. 1 (One representative should purchase the tickets for the full group); a table at the pre-event dinner at the J on Nov. 1 at 6 p.m. Members of each book club can sit together, bring their own food and drink or purchase from Laykie’s Café at the J. As a musician himself, Aronson rates Huberman on a level with Pinchas Zukerman and Itzhak Perlman, two other Upcoming Family Events violin child prodigies. “When a prodigy plays, it’s jaw Dor L'Dor Grandparent Grandchild Bowling dropping that a child can play with that intensity and maturity,” said Aronson. Sunday, September 11 | 2:00 PM “It’s like an adult playing. As a child, Huberman was etherial, from another Mishpacha and Me place.” For families with children ages 0-5 Since Huberman performed most often in Austria and Germany, he Time for Tennis was well-known to classical musical Sunday, September 4 | 10:00 AM audiences there. His desire to understand the reasons for the carnage he witnessed Dead Sea Disco Sunday, September 18 | 10:30 AM

MFAH to open exhibition Shabbatify by photographer For families with children K–5th Grade 8th Annual Rice University Saturday September 17 & Sunday, September 25 Helen Levitt Jewish Studies Lecture Series Join us for a meaningful, fun-filled afternoon and help The Museum of Fine Arts, Houston, make Rosh Hashanah gifts for JFS on Sunday afternoon. soon will open “Helen Levitt: In the Jewish Houston: Architecture, Politics, Suburbia Street,” an exhibition featuring more than Presented by the Bobbi and Vic Samuels Center for 40 works by the renowned photographer Jewish Living and Learning, in partnership with the Helen Levitt. Recording the theater of Rice University Program in Jewish Studies New York streets, the exhibition includes black-and-white and color photographs September 18, 21, 25 spanning the artist’s career from the late 1930s to the mid-1980s, as well as a short film by Levitt from the 1940s. “Helen Levitt: In the Street” will be on view from Sept. 13, 2016, to Jan. 2, 2017. Wheel to Survive Houston A lifelong New Yorker, Levitt Fight Ovarian Cancer frequented the Lower East Side, Spanish Sunday, September 25 Harlem and other working-class neigh- borhoods of the city, where life played 9:00 AM-3:00 PM out on the stoops and sidewalks. Using Join our inspirational indoor BINGO Night at the J a handheld Leica camera, outfitted with cycling fundraiser, Wheel to Wednesday, September 28 | 7:00 PM a right-angle viewfinder that allowed her Survive, and pedal for the Join your friends and neighbors for a fun, adult only to look in one direction but snap photo- cause! graphs in another, Levitt often passed evening of some good old fashioned BINGO. unnoticed by her subjects, capturing unguarded instants of joyful play and meditative melancholy that constitute the SAVE THE DATE! mystery and poetry of everyday lives. “Long admired for her ability to Ann and Stephen Kaufman Jewish Book & Arts Fair capture subjects unaware, without direction or interference, Helen Levitt is Oct 29–Nov 13, 2016 one of the most celebrated photographers Authors, films, theatre, concerts and more! of the 20th century,” said MFAH director Gary Tinterow. “We’re excited to bring her photographs to Houston this fall.” EVELYN RUBENSTEIN JCC HOUSTON Learn more at erjcchouston.org “Helen Levitt: In the Street” will travel A United Way Agency to the Milwaukee Art Museum after its 5601 S. Braeswood | Houston, TX 77096 or call 713.729.3200. Houston presentation. PAGE 14 JEWISH HERALD-VOICE SEPTEMBER 1, 2016 OBITUARIES

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JHV: MICHAEL C. DUKE Michael Talisman (44), Jake Plantowsky (34), Josh Strauss (29) and the Jaguars get a pregame JHV: MICHAEL C. DUKE prep talk in their new locker room. David Kleban (7) threw eight touchdowns against Calvert High School on Aug. 25. Emery football drops opener in 150-point showdown

By MATT SAMUELS | JHV “This is probably the best group of athletes we will play all year,” senior Emery and Calvert High Schools Michael Ran said. “I think we had some combined for 150 points on the football great plays, but we just kind of got worn field Aug. 25. down later in the game.” Unfortunately for the Jaguars, it was For three quarters, Emery matched 26 straight points from Calvert that made Thompson score for score. the difference down the stretch. Emery quarterback David Kleban The Trojans broke a 59-59 tie in the threw eight touchdowns – three to Ran fourth quarter, and wore the Jaguars and two each to Jake Plantowsky and down in the final 10 minutes, beating Brandon Gomel. Graubart and Grant Emery 85-65 in front of several hundred Schneider also scored for the Jaguars. fans at freshly minted Caress Stadium. “I’m proud of what we did tonight – “It’s tough losing a game like that, especially for the first three quarters – especially after such a good first half,” and we are going to build on this and not senior captain Lewis Graubart said. let it discourage us,” Kleban said. “But, it’s only week one, and we have a lot JHV: MATT SAMUELS The Jaguars led at different points of to learn from. We did a lot of great things A Calvert receiver stretches for the end zone against Emery on Aug. 25. the game, including 15-12 at the end of and I think we will be all right.” Emery has ever faced. The Trojans are the state and feature star quarterback the first quarter and 36-34 at halftime. Calvert is arguably the best opponent one of the top public school teams in JaQuan Thompson. Calvert scored four straight touchdowns, however, to start the fourth quarter and turned a 59-all tie into an 85-59 lead. Emery scored in the last minute for the 85-65 final. The Schneider file “They definitely tested us and we High now know some areas we can improve City born in: Houston in,” Ran said. “If we can get to the level Emery Senior School: Year: of competing with them, I think we will Sport: School Football Positions: be fine against our other opponents this Favorite movie: Deadpool RB/DB year.” Favorite restaurant: Torchy’s Tacos sports Favorite music: Drake After winning the school’s first state Favorite app: Snapchat championship in football last season, stars Best thing about my school: the relationship Emery coach Adrian Adams wanted the between teachers and students Jaguars to start the 2016 season off with My favorite class: Math a tough opponent. Each week, the JHV My favorite teacher: “This was exactly the game I thought Biggest fear: Heights Ms. Mehra we were going to get,” Adams said. “We highlights local Jewish The best thing about being Jewish: How had a lot of great things. I told them, high school athletes. connected the whole community is this is not the state championship. We Three things I can’t live without: just need to get in a little better shape. friends, family, football We will look at the film, go back to work next week.” Visit jhvonline.com to see I’d love to trade places for a day with Dez Bryant The game also was the first to be all past athletes, nominate If I could live anywhere in the world, played in the recently completed Caress an athlete it would be Dallas Stadium. or to purchase an 8x10 When I finish school, I “It’s a beautiful stadium, and we glossy color print want to study sports management are very lucky to have these facilities,” Graubart said. “I hate to start it off with a of any athlete. Photo by JHV: Michael C. Duke loss, but I don’t think there will be many more of those here.”

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