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by Wayne Bcscn fectivcly by becoming more like the National also, as the Washington Post editorial board dency, fearing that any move to enact legisla Rifle Association (NRA) or the American Associ says, pressure Congress to take action. On tion will turn into another Don't Ask/Don't tell It was thrilling to participate in the National ation of Retired Persons (AARP). He is correct Sunday evening, following the National Equal fiasco. These folks keep telling us to wait for Equality March (NEM) in Washington on Sun that we should organize into a political force, ity March, CNBC's John Harwood, reported that the right moment to take action. day. The event, although smaller than in past but get real. The GLBT movement can't be a White House "advisor" described the years, achieved the desired goal of drawing the compared to organizations that possess im marchers as the "Internet left fringe." Harwood I he truth is, there will be no right moment. nation's attention to gay, lesbian, bisexual and mense constituencies. Botox notwithstanding, went on to say that, "For a sign of how seri Major issues, such as an economic meltdown, transgender issues. Democrats in Congress we all grow old and that is why AARP has ously the White House does or doesn't take this healthcare, Afghanistan and Iran will always and the Obama administration were also put thirty five million members. America loves opposition, one adviser told me today those be on the president's plate. Or, there will be an on notice that an anxiety-filled GLBT commu guns, which is why even city slickers like John bloggers need to take off their pajamas, get election on the horizon, making politicians skit nity demanded action, not just flowery words. Kerry and Mitt Romney feel compelled to pur dressed and realize that governing a closely- tish about social issues. Thus, there is never a chase varmint guns and tramp though the divided country is complicated and difficult." better time to act than the present, or at least While this was my third march, it was inspiring fields to whack squirrels. lo make up for this the very near future, such as waiting a few to see this event through the fresh eyes of obvious deficit in raw numbers, we sometimes This crude stereotype of nutty and politically months for special strategic concerns. Those Jamie, my partner. He is thirty years old and must supplement traditional politics with unsophisticated radicals typing in their under preaching infinite patience must remember grew up in a small town in rural Nebraska demonstrations, marches and moral persua wear is inaccurate and a risky miscalculation. that 15 years have passed since the Don't (population 700). From his vantage point, the sion in the media - anything to get America to Indeed, I would venture to say that many of Ask/Don't Tell debacle. Despite the raucous march was an extraordinarily life-affirming listen to what we have to say. The march did those insisting on swift action - David Mixner, protests of bigots, most Americans are now event. He shared the same look of awe and em achieve spotlighting our issues in a way that Richard Socarides, John Aravosis and Paul mature enough to handle GLBI rights. powerment that was on the faces of the ener postcards to the White House never could. As Yandura - likely have more political experience getic youth in DC, who will one day become our expected, President Barack Obama's soaring than those questioning the credentials of such My own activist philosophy is simple: Never leaders. The NEM occurred over the objections oratory delighted the sold out crowd at the critics. pass up an opportunity to complement the of Rep. Barney Frank (D-Mass), who said that Human Rights Campaign's national dinner. Obama administration or Congress when they the spectacle was a "waste of time." If I were Make no mistake, the speech was historic, and These "malcontents" are savvy and influential earn it. But, never give a pass to politicians Frank, I'd be more concerned about not deliver Obama's words have significantly more impact former insiders who are fighting so that we do who do not embrace full equality. ing on GLBT issues while the Democrats control now that he is in office, not just a candidate. It not repeat the disappointment of the Clinton Washington. This may cause disillusionment, was an effective use of the bully pulpit and put years. They are wise and experienced advo leading some people to believe that voting is a him squarely on record supporting equality. cates who understand that if we don't live in "waste of time." the moment, it may slip away. Unfortunately, when I woke up, as I told Frank believes that instead ol marching, GLBI MSNBC, I was still a second-class citizen. We On the other side, we have those who are too people should organize more efficiently and ef must continue to hold Obama accountable, but hung up on the ghost of Bill Clinton's presi
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Some Thoughts at the Jewish New Year
by Cantor Jack Chomsky, Congregation deviants and worse." and future of gay ma rriage throughout the I think it quite likely that many GLBT Jews in Trfereth Israel, Columbus U.S. is presumably the main reason for this. Columbus are not connecting with the exist What does his observation mean to us here in Still, I wonder whether people in the GLBT ing Jewish community - because they may The Jewish New Year (Rosh Hashanah) was Columbus, where there are no GLBT syna community even know where they stand in the not be aware of how much the community observed in the middle of September, and gogues? Are the experiences he describes conservative and reform world. seeks to welcome them. Yom Kippur late in the month (September 27 similar to those of people who have grown up and 28). I'm honored to have the opportunity or cometo Columbus? Now about that term "conservative." It refers So please accept a belated Shanah Tovah to share some thoughts on the occasion of the to the movement within the Jewish world in (Happy New Year) - wherever you would like to Jewish New Year celebrations - both to mem My own experience as a member of Columbus which my congregation (and another Colum feel welcomed in the Columbus Jewish com bers of the Jewish GLBT community and to the Jewish clergy suggests that the Columbus bus-area congregation) is engaged. It doesn't munity. Maytheyearahead be a sweet one, GLBT community at large. Jewish community is, by and large, a welcom refer to the world of general politics. The con filled with a growing feeling of connection to ing place, one in which GLBT people don't servative movement is in the middle- more God, to the community and to valued people I have found myself thinking a lot lately about often experience rejection. Yet absence of re traditional than the reform (that's reform - in your lives. a piece written by Jay Michaelson that ap jection is not the same as acceptance - or not reformed) movement but less so than peared in the Jewish Daily Forward in May feeling welcome. And as I am not myself a the Orthodox. Ihe reform movement moved on And be aware, as October passes, so does the 2009. Jay is a well-known writer and teacher member of the GLBT community perse, I'm the "gay issue" around 1990. They were actu amazing Jewish festival of Sukkot. (October 2- on Jewish spirituality and also a significant not well positioned to judge what happens or ally preceded in this action by the reconstruc- 11). Although Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kip organizer in the Jewish gay world. His piece doesn't happen to those who are. tionist movement in 1984. As for the Orthodox, pur gather the Jewish masses around the U.S. was called "Why Straight People Go To Gay there is still strong opposition to the idea of these days, Sukkot is one of the three Pilgrim Synagogues." (The Forward is a great Jewish What I do know is that my conservative (I'll gay clergy or recognizing gay marriage or age Festivals on the Jewish calendar, when newspaper dating back to 1897, and a great talk more about that term in a minute) con commitment ceremonies - but my sense is thousands of Jews did (and now once again place to keep up with what's happening in the gregation is not only theoretically welcoming that, at least here in Columbus, members of do) gather in great joy inJerusalem. Around Jewish world.) to gays, but that when the conservative move the GLBT community might feel welcome al here, it is celebrated primarily by those a bit ment ruled (in December 2006) that it was most anywhere. more Jewishly observant. As a fall harvest fes In his forward, Michaelson asserts that "be possible to ordain gay men and women and to tival, it has some pretty wild customs, which I cause of their community bonds and shared solemnize same-gender relationships, the In this regard, I beg outlook readers to share won't get into here. The central props for histories of exclusion, GLBT synagogues are Board of Directors shortly thereafter voted to their experiences with me (contact info Sukkot? The Sukkah (a temporary dwelling we often warmer and more welcoming than your affirm that the synagogue could be used for below). I know for a fact that at least one area build outdoors) and the Lulav and Etrog (a average synagogue in the suburbs. These are such ceremonies. This may not sound like Orthodox synagogue (there are three) is at palm branch and a unique citrus fruit from Is communities made up of people who have much - but I thought it was remarkable that least reasonably welcoming to GLBT mem rael). It's about shelter- but it's also about felt, at times, actively excluded from the Jew they chose to take this action without being bers. But I don't know about the others. I can fertility- both in nature and in our bodies. ish world, perhaps as all Jews used to (eel asked to - that it was at the initiative of "or imagine even Columbus' most Orthodox con Google "lulav" and you can learn something when they were excluded from the main dinary" members of the congregation - nei gregation being a welcoming place. But I about it. Or check out your neighborhood syn stream of America. GLBT people have experi ther the clergy nor activists from the GLBT don't know from my own experiences. What I agogue- where you can wave a lulav in all enced rejection, and so GLBT synagogues community. In a sense, I feel that this is em would most like to know is what kind of expe directions and connect with the earth, your work hard to make up for it." He also says blematic of the desire to be welcoming on the riences members of the GLBT community community, your history, and hopefully your that "their members are people who have part of the "normative" Jewish community. have had with the Columbus Jewish commu future, too! every reason to leave the Jewish world and nity. Any negative experience would reflect never come back. They - we - have been At the same time, though, none of our clergy quite negatively on congregations or agencies Cantor Jack Chomsky has served Congregation scorned, vilified, marginalized, reduced to has been asked to preside at a commitment - and I would be honored to address it with Tifereth Israel of Columbus, since 1982. He can be reached at 614.253.8523 - or [email protected]). sexual beings, and analogized to perverts and ceremony. The uncertainty over the present the individuals or agencies involved.
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by Heather E. A. Mitchell Tiffany, a mother of two living in Alabama, that support group that you can turn to considers herself an ally to the LGBT com whenever the going gets rough." Allies to the LGBT community and those munity. As an African American woman coalitions that develop with community with an interest in issues of race, religion, "A lot of my straight friends don't know partners play a valuable role in the quest and sexual orientation, she focuses on the this, but it makes such a difference at the for LGBT equality. And the role played by al similarities that exist among people, dis- end of the day to me that they are still lies is one that members of the Gay com missingthose who discriminate against standing side by side with me, and accept munity have sought to develop and rely the LGBT community in the name of reli- ing ALL of who I am," she says upon for a long time. Understanding the di verse ways LGBT identity labels continue to Perhaps one of the greatest hurdles in develop can be a challenge, as can be "I think often that God, Allah, G-D, etc. cre coalition building that the LGBT community finding renewed ways to build coalitions ated us ALL: black, white, Jewish, Chris faces is finding time to reconnect with and with other communities that are evolving tian, Muslim, and all others. Does He love learn about how other communities have m;• coming ^g^columbus themselves. Returning newer members of us any less, because we are who we are? been developing, as well. Coalition build K\m metropolitan the community to some of the earlier prac He created us the way we are, and God ing, in its truest sense, is about creating 'orums tices in coalition building can be the key to NEVER makes mistakes," she says. 1 lasting partnerships that are mutually ben W club renewing and revitalizing partnerships with could never shun, disown or demean any eficial to all who are involved. As the LGBT allies and other community organizations. one for the way God made them. Who am I? community continues expanding the un And more importantly, who are the people derstanding of its own community, finding wed 11/4:12p-l:l5p@ ACC-Lunch Forum Ally programs on college campuses began who feel they can speak for the God who ways to understand the development of MEET CHRISTINE POON, DEAN, developing in the mid 1980s. And in follow loves us all? other communities is vital. ing years, Gay/Straight Alliances (GSAs) in FISHER COLLEGE OF BUSINESS high schools and LGBT affinity groups in Coalition building is something that has Overcoming these challenges will be well places of industry began popping up. Re long been a part of the LGBT movement. worth the reward. Andrew, a software de Tue 11/10:530p- 730p @ ACC-Evening Event gardless of point of entry, these groups de Prior to the Stonewall Rebellion, social up veloper in Ohio who identifies as Queer, be "URBAN COLUMBUS 2012" veloped, in part, to network LGBT folks with heaval and the call for equality were com lieves, "It is hard to overstate the What does Urban Columbus look like in 2012? Will their straight allies. monplace for communities that had been importance of being an ally. There is still traditionally under-represented. The 1950s, much progress to be made in terms of we enjoy a thriving cosmopolitan region and where Allies are those who took it upon them 60s, and 70s saw a lot of grassroots, politi equality for people of all sexual orientations might this energy come from? Panelists will include selves to learn about the issues related to cal action in search for social justice. Free and forms of gender expression and iden Mark Feinknopf, Walker Evans and Michael Wilkos the LGBT community and subsequently dom Riders, The Vietnam War protests, and tity. This progress cannot be fully realized with conversation led by Cleve Ricksecker. Social worked to support it. They are those who the call forthe Equal Rights Amendment without the help of allies." and networking time with appetizer buffet and cash have been open to challenging themselves, provided ample opportunity for people to as they better understand and can articu organize to affect change. He goes on to say, "I hope that allies are bar 5:30- 6:30. late the damage caused by homophobia, not afraid to ask questions regarding the both to members of the LGBT community 40 years after Stonewall, the LGBT commu issues (as some problems are less obvious Wed 11/18:12p-1:15p @ ACC - Lurch Forum and societyas a whole. nity presses on in its quest for equality. than others). People from the community MEET THE MAN: OALE CHIHULY... ON CHIHULY! Support from allies and coalition building should help and not hinder this process, as As the pot of alphabet soup stirs, the LGBT across communities is as important as gaining impassioned speakers on behalf of community grows in letters and identifiers ever. These alliances are important not only the cause can do nothing but good." Wed 12/2:12p-1:15p@ACC Lunch Forum that enumerate each population within the at political, financial, and social pressure ARTIE ISSAC - "The Demise of Polite Conversation: community. Similarly, other communities points, but also to the way they personally Heather £ A Mitchell is a contributor of gaily Is Communication on the Brink?" balance issues of race, religion, immigra touch people's lives. fwd>. Checkout their podcast on iTunes or at tion, and class in ways that see increase in www.gailyfwd.com. wed 12/9:12p-1:l5p@ ACC-Lunch Forum language, history, and culture. As such, ar- Ena, a lesbian and college student at Ohio LES WEXNER - Premier of The Metropolitan Club ticulatingthe plight of another community State, says that her straight friends lend can be challenging. Yet the progress made her support, even when they don't realize "Leadership Legacies Series" for cross-communal social action is the re they're doing it 1 definitely think allies are ward. important in the way that they are part of Registeratcolumbusmetroclub.org or call: 614464-3220
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CERTIFIED MPDHW*TV« I 1 11 6 BBS* o utloo kfo In nibus.com That hat could come inhandv at some darkroom paitv situations. nov2009 open kimono ilffllH Teresa long Talhs Bats, Flu, SlDs anil taotpes by Michael Daniels We caught up with her by email, no doubt MD: Do you see a difference in impact on fits all residents of our community. as she and her staff were running between the GLBT community? MD: What are the biggest stigmas people Whether it's dealing with H1N1, mosquitoes, clinics and serving patients. TL Outbreaks know no boundaries. When face when using public health services? or HIV/AIDS, Columbus Public Health Com any group is affected, we are all at risk. How do we dispel those stigmas? missioner Dr Teresa Long is always on the Michael Daniels: What are the most press TL Some people may think we provide job, working to ensure safe and healthy citi ing health concerns that CPH is address MD: When most people think of health healthcare for the poor. Though we do pro zens of the City. We'd planned to sit down ing on an ongoing basis? concerns in the GLBT community, they vide some clinical services for disease con over a coffee for this interview, but with the Teresa Long: Currently, our biggest chal think of HIV/AIDS and STDs. We in the trol and vulnerable communities, our role is outbreak of H1N1 cases and the shortage of lenge is the H1N1 influenza pandemic. The community know that heart health, obe to create the conditions in which all resi vaccines, Dr Long was understandably busy. disease is widespread, and affecting new sity, smoking, cancer (esp. breast cancer dents can be healthy. It is much broader groups that are not used to flu risks, but in lesbians), and mental health are also is than 1:1 care. are now at risk of serious complications, sues. 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"We have a wide range of customers: trans Justin Ayers, the store's certified compounding gender persons needing tailored hormone treat technician, gave an example of how compound ments, HIV patients who have trouble getting ing works for hormone treatments for women. prior authorization for special treatments, and lesbians who need fertility drugs or who have "Progesterone usually comes in a capsule special women's health issues," he said. made with peanut oil," said Ayers, 25," but some people are allergic to peanuts. We can A compounding pharmacy can often concoct compound the medication man olive oil cap drug formulas that are specially tailored to pa sule." tient said Beth Prachar. Ihe Apothecary Shop's pharmacy sales specialist. Even pets can benefit from The Apothecary Shop's compounding lab. Brandebura ex For example, she said, her shop's staff can cre plained that the shop often compounds veteri ate liquid versions of medications normally nary medications. available only in pill form, for patients who cannot swallow pills. This specialty work and For example, he said, they can concoct a "triple high-level customer service are what distin fish" compound for cats, and one with beef or guish The Apothecary Shop from commercial chicken for dogs. pharmacies such as CVS. "We even had a horse at OSU where we created "We get to know our customers, we customize an apple-flavored compound." said Brande their prescriptions, and often well even deliver bura. the medications to their homes if they can't come to us," said Prachar, 41. The LGBT community is important to the staff at Ihe Apothecary Shop, said Prachar, and they Brandebura said that Ihe Apothecary Shop, are involved in the community. Prachar noted • \ W*" part of a 14-store, privately owned chain, fo that they support IransOhio and Network cuses on several areas of pharmacology, which Columbus. often require customized care. All three staff members stressed the family like "'Transplant patients usually need individually nature of the business and its customers. tailored anti rejection drugs, which we can de liver to the hospital bed before they are dis "When you come in here, you're not going to be charged. We're located at the Eye Center, so we judged," said Brandebura. "No matter who you do a lot of specialty compounds for ophthal are or what meds you need, there's no stigma. mology patients, and we also do quite a bit of We treat everyone the way we treat our fami work in pain management and sports health. lies." We also do a lot of work with oncologists to meet the needs of cancer patients," he said. Zola Bennett, a lesbian customer of Ihe Apothecary Shop, agrees. Prachar said the shop's work with HIV medica tions and hormone treatments are areas that "Dave treats everybody the same, and we feel might especially benefit the LGBT community. like we're family," said Bennett, who explained that even though she and her partner moved "I often deliver HIV meds to patients homes, farther away from the shop, they are still loyal and we are especially good at obtaining prior customers. authorization for these drugs from insurance companies," she said. "It's a good atmosphere, and we feel at home here," she said. Brandebura explained that HIV patients fre quently come to him after being turned away The Apothecary Shop is located in the Arena from commercial pharmacies like CVS orWal- District's Eye Center building, 262 Neil Avenue. greens. Suite 130 Telephone is 614.360.2800 For more information, see www.theapothe- "If an HIV patient goes to a commercial phar caryshop.com, or email Beth Prachar at macy with a prescription, and the computer [email protected]. tells the pharmacist that prior authorization is needed, they'll usually just hand the 'scrip back to the patient," he said.
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It's not their fault They're just ness in a significant number of my students rochemicals to achieve inner harmony and to But by the time they reach high school, they on drugs. Even when they are not, the act like were frustrating to me as a teacher. I knew they function successfully as a student. settledown and use their drugs morestrategi- they are. were capable of great things, but were some cally, such as before a major exam. This behav how disabled. Then I looked into medication for Its Never "Just the Drugs" ior follows them into college. It doesn't mean I came to this stereotype by observing the Attention Deficit/Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD). that they quit using their Ritalin et al recre- ysung adults that I teach at a local community Much of it is stimulants that are chemically American lifestyle too often encourages kidsto ationally. Many kids learnto grin d it up and college. Overall, they are bright, witty, respect similarto methamphetamine. go on medication, and it's not just the pseudo- snort it while still in high school -theyjust ful, and charming. Likewise, they are cynical, medical drug-pushers hired by the pharmaceu make sure to save some for Finals Week. apathetic, and have a problem getting things Look at some of the most popular medications tical industry. Lack of parental guidance (too done. for youngsters. Ritalin, Metadate, and Concerta busy), the stress of living in two households be The Silver Lining are amphetamine methylphenidate. Dexedrine cause of divorce, the splendid variety of sugar- Now, every older generation will complain about is dextroamphetamine. Adderall is mixed am based products that give them short blasts of We do not need to treat our drug-addled kids as the young 'uns. But there is something differ phetamine salts. Desoxyn is dextrometham- chemically-induced energy, the omnipresent pathological. It wont do them or us any good. ent about this latest batch, something more ex phetamine. Vyvanse is lisdexamfetamine. distraction of computer and cell phone talk- Rather, let's accept them as normal. treme in the oscillation between wit and sloth. ; ing/texting/lM/twitter, models for interaction Popular medical folklore frames attention-chal presented on television and movies that privi Even those who do not do the drugs will still in I realized I had seen all these traits in abun lenged and hyper kids as being unable to lege rapid-fire exchange of verbal virtuosity gest the sugar, follow the hype, and are grafted dance before, when I was in the party scene, focus, not because their minds are moving too rather than meaningful information exchange, to technology as their more psychochemically- especially at after-hours with people over 25 fast, but because their minds are not moving and the supremacy of stye over substance in adventurous peers. And, as in any society, it is years old. fast enough in the right direction, like children kiddy-folk-heroes such as Miley Cyrus, Lady often the adventurous who set the pace. who need a nap. But rather than sedate ADHD Ga-Ga, Perez Hilton, Eminem, and Kanye West, We called them "after-cracks." Most of the at youth into a stupor, it was determined that all take their toll. Besides, these kids are not so different from tendees were hopped up (or, in popular clubs- what they need is a proper stimulant so that Our society constantly pushes our young peo prior generations since the information/drug peak, cracked out) on any number of they could focus. Kiddy-meth, if you will. ple's collective awareness to the surface and explosion that has been accelerating since the substances. The most sparkling, entertaining, leaves it there stranded, abandoning them to a 1960s. They a re faster, wittier, and better in and attention-deficit were those on crystal There are no reliable estimates as to how many perpetual state of veneer, instilling in them an formed than we were at their age. If we mentor meth. More often than not, it's fun to talk with students are given kiddy-meth while growing unwillingness to explore things in depth for fear them on their terms, they will be even better witty people on meth at 4 AM. But it is unwise up. When I ask my students, they say thirty per that they may find nothing of worth. Or even equipped than we are for what is to come, and to make plans with them the next day or so. cent. Or fitly percent more dreadful, fear of being left out of the in better able to teach the generation that will cessant glittering chatter of their fabulous supplant them. And they will thank us. Please do not take this as approval or disap Nobody really knows. It would be naive to think peers. proval of people who do meth. It is about obser we could determine the number by prescrip We must leam to imitate the rapid-fire verbal vation, not moral judgment. tions because kids share them with their Cracking On Responsibly virtuosos of after-cracks, but without their friends. Or sell them. Or get them from street vices. If we don't, if all we do is freak out, I have I see these very same traits in my students, venders. But don't give up on them. Our children of the confidence the people of this generation are most of them between 18 and 20 years old. No crack may be strung out, but they are not stu strong enough to succeed without us. generation in my experience is brighter, and Prescribing stimulants to help kids concentrate pid. They are proof of the resiliency of the none is more ill-equipped to go to college. They works, but only short-term. If a child is hyper human race. 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We would be if that cute guy in the green shirt got our beer and found a sweet shady spot joined in," he scoffed, pointing. on the dance floor. I was delighted by the fresh air and the good vibes and the scenic And just like that, within about fifteen sec view. onds, it happened. For a minute there, I felt like I was nineteen It had been sort of inevitable that some again, reliving the good old days when I thing awkward would transpire. It was set used to go dancing at the Odyssey four up, even in the invite. But somehow I'd nights a week, feeling playful and pro convinced myself that there need not be tected and free. Then, as now, I was bliss drama. fully unaware of the complex internal politics amongst my dance floor compan The small town analogy so often invoked ions. Who had hooked up with whom was when speaking about queer communities is nowhere on my radar. Who had had a an appropriate one. Most of us have to con falling out with whom - and over what - front that everyone knows everyone else's were like tabloid headlines that I didn't business and, out of courtesy and neces read. This cruise was similar. There was sity, pretends not to. Part of why I'd gone newness and freshness to the unfamiliar on the cruise was to visit a town slightly faces. different from the one I'm used to. My friend and I were laughing and dancing I remember when a gathering of gay men and looking to the shore, watching Vancou and good tunes meant dancing for the sake ver from beneath the Second Narrows of dancing. This year, it meant following my Bridge, talking about Sci-Fi movies we'd friend to the buffet table for roast beef. no>2009 Fish heads, fish heads, rollvpollvfish heads..fish heads, fish heads, .eat them up. 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Ot course, he added, almost as an from the online publication Journal afterthought he's currently barebacking Watch that documents the reality of such with two guys who are HIV positive, but transmissions. Interested readers can he's not worried about that. I asked him access it at http://aids-clinical- why not. He said that there are some new care.jwatch.org/cgi/content/full/2008/92 "Swiss studies" which "prove" that if 71. Ihe authors of this article concluded you're positive, taking your meds, and "Ihis report demonstrates that sexual have an undetectable viral load, then you transmission of HIV can occur in a can't transmit the virus, and both ol Ins serodiscordant couple, even when the partners are in those categories. He initially infected partner has unde added, with an in-the-know smile, "The tectable plasma viral loads, no other Swiss aren't afraid to tell the truth," as if STDs, and good adherence to an anti- HIV experts in the U.S. are suppressing retroviral regimen known to penetrate the this information tor some reason. Having genital compartment. Although com never heard of any such studies, I asked pelling data demonstrate a relation be him where he'd read them. Well, he tween low plasma viral load and reduced hadn't actually read anything. His risk for HIV transmission, one cannot sources were "three good friends," but he reasonably conclude from these data hastened to add that they were all "reli that persons with undetectable viral able and intelligent people" and that loads pose no risk for HIV transmission. A "one of them is a nurse." small but real risk remains, making the promotion of safer sex practices essen This is an excellent example of how wish tial, regardless of viral load." ful thinking, and in lact, all forms of delusional thinking, work. When people When I presented this information to intensely want to believe something, they Robert, he was understandably anxious. can take even the most casual hearsay His first question was "Well, how much as solid proof. That's what makes it pos does being undetectable lower the risk?" sible for so many people to "know beyond The scientific evidence on this question a shadow of a doubt" that it's a "scien is too complex and lengthy to summarize tifically proven fact" that HIV doesn't here. Suffice it to say that there are so cause AIDS, that global warming is a many conflicting findings, and so many myth, or that Obama was born in Kenya. confounding variables, that even the ex perts come to wildly varying conclusions. To get the truth about these "Swiss stud The risk may be reduced by as much as ies" I turned to the expert I often call ten-fold, or maybe five-fold, or maybe about HIV-related issues, Dr. Rick Loftus. less, but the bottom line is that it's never Rick is a physician who specializes in the reduced to zero. What this means in care of AIDS patients, and knows more practice is that those who choose to take than anyone else I know about the cur the risks are still playing Russian rent state of the science. He's an ex roulette. Ihe gun may contain more tremely busy man who works long hours, chambers than it used to, but there's still but apparently the legend of the Swiss a bullet in there somewhere. studies has been getting a lot of circula tion lately, and he was concerned enough Rick's advice to men in Robert's shoes; to find the time to write me a three page If men absolutely need to have condom- email and make two long phone calls to less sex, they should restrict that activity correct the record. to men of the same HIV status keeping in mind that a good chunk of our new HIV First of all, he said, no such studies infections are in negative men whose exist. What is true is that, in 2008, the partners also tested HIV negative but Swiss Federal Commission for HIV/AIDS had new HIV infections that had not yet issued a very controversial opinionthat produced antibodies. No men, positive or heterosexual couples in which the posi negative, should delude themselves into tive partner fully adhered to the medica thinking that unprotected sex with part tion regimen, had no concurrent sexually ners of a different status can't transmit transmitted diseases, and had main HIV, because it can." And, mindful of the tained an undetectable viral load for at wretched state of health-care in the U.S., least 6 months, could safely have vagi he added "And if they don't have health nal intercourse without condoms. So this insurance, once they're positive, they'll was an opinion, not a study, and a very never be able to get it, because in this controversial opinion at that; and it was country it's legal to refuse health insur an opinion about straight, not gay, con ance for pre-existing conditions." pies. Tom Moon is a psychotherapist in San Unfortunately, whatever may be true for Francisco. 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Consider the following: Adoption will dramatically increase • More children in the foster care system become available for adoption each year than are adopted. the number of adoptions of waiting • A child available for adoption often moves three or more times. children from North America's • Once in foster care, a child can wait five years for an adoptive family. Five years is a lifetime to a child. foster care systems. • Twenty percent of these children turn 18 in foster care and leave the system, without a family to call their own. WHAT WE BELIEVE WHAT WE DO The Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption views the The Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption is dedicated urgency of this issue through the eyes of these children. exclusively to moving children from foster care into As we work to make foster care adoption a streamlined permanent, loving adoptive families. process that is accessible and affordable to every family wanting to adopt, we remain dedicated to critical core Through direct service and signature programs like beliefs: Wendy's Wonderful Kids, Adoption-Friendly Workplace, "A Home for the Holidays" television special, A Child is • Every child deserves to live in a safe, loving and Waiting: A Step-by-Step Guide to Adoption, educational permanent family. videos, national public service announcements and • No child should linger in foster care or leave the poster campaigns. 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He understood the issue because he was adopted, and he wanted every waiting child to have the same opportunity for a family and home that he had. ©2009 Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption nor 3009 Dave Thomas founded the high school that our very own Chad Fryeattended.Gotowellington.org 0utI00kc0Iumbus.com DAVE THOMAS FOUNDATION 1-800-ASK-DTFA FOR ADOPTION* 1-800-275-3832 www.Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption.org Finding Forever Families for Children in Foster Care SIGNATURE PROGRAMS WENDY'S WONDERFUL KIDS Today in America there are more than 129,000 children in foster care waiting to be adopted. There are also 30,000 waiting children in Canada. Wendy's Wonderful Kids is making a difference - one child at a time - by awarding grants to local adoption agencies to hire professionals who execute aggressive, child-focused recruitment strategies to match children with families. 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Wendy's and public service announcements for television and radio each year to inform restaurants and franchisees display posters, use adoption tray-liners, collect and educate professionals, parents, policymakers, the media and the general customer donations with coin canisters and implement local fundraisingand public about foster care adoption. awareness efforts. 0utI00kc0Iun1bus.com Did we mention Wellington, org? 110V2009 Columbus' Premiere Event Venue tss^ff^S y^^^ \ BEAUTIFUL REHEARSAL DINNERS I W A D I I O ' PRIVATE PARTIES BAR MITZVAHS LJIVIDVJO STUNNING INTIMATE PROFESSIONAL MEETINGS DDCIV/IICDC LIVE MUSIC ART rllL IVI ICllC BACHELOR PARTIES MULTIFUNCTIONAL AWARD WINNING CHEF C \ / C MT BIRTHDAY PARTIES RECEPTIONS CREATIVE LVLN I PERSONAL BACHELORETTE PARTIES \/rK|| IT BRIDAL SHOWERS GALAS V CI \l U tZ CEREMONIES NIQUE WEDDINGS FABULOUS RETIREMENT PARTIES 1 mjK^Mm^mW^ / nov2009 Michael and Robbie got married behind those doors. Chris had Bubble Gum vodka for the first time wlrich was odd to drink with pink wedding cake. outIookcoIunibus.com By Jennifer Vanasco sources into providing loving health care for can't have access to our partner's health all in our community. But there are other issues. care benefits. Health care is a gay issue. Now, if you asked the ordinary gay person on A recent study showed that gays and les We may not have access to our partners or It is a transgender issue. It is a lesbian the street to list the top three issues for bians are still more likely to smoke than our partner's children when they are sick issue. LGBTs, I bet health care wouldn't be one of straight people: 37 percent of lesbians and because of draconian laws or policies that them. Heck, I bet health care wouldn't be in 33 percent of gay men smoke, compared to do not recognize our relationships. We might But you wouldn't know it from reading the the top five. 18 percent of straight women and 24 per be denied access to sperm banks or other mainstream media. cent of straight men. fertility treatments. And, if we are elderly, AIDS, maybe. But even AIDS seems to be we may be in nursing homes that do not re The national debate on health care is raging less present in our minds than it once was. The Gay & Lesbian Medical Association says spect or acknowledge our sexual orientation. in Washington and around the country, and that gays and lesbians suffer from a higher yet I've seen very little about the way this Right now, our movement is focused on rate of depression than the general popula We have not done a great job of articulating debate will shape the future lives of LGBTs, marriage, the military, immigration, hate tion, perhaps because there is still wide to the public and to politicians why our or what gays, lesbians, bisexuals and trans- crimes, and employment discrimination. spread prejudice against homosexuality. health care issues are so important and why genders think about the health care options These are all issues we should be fighting we must be included when policy is made. politicians are proposing. for. And they are easy to get our minds Transgender people are at increased risk for around. heart attack and stroke. But they are important. To all of us. And it is Even we in the gay press are doing a lousy time we applied the creativity and passion job of analyzing the prospective plans, or of But health care is perhaps the most impor There is hepatitis. There is MRSA. There is and fundraising skills we produced during taking a hard look on where gay and lesbian tant issue of all. Our health care system - breast cancer. There is prostate cancer. the AIDS crisis to the larger issue of LGBT health care stands today. and how it treats us and whether re health care. searchers are studying our needs - affects And there is the pervasive truth that for This is surprising, really, because the gay every single one of us. many gays and lesbians and especially We need a slogan. We need a ribbon. We and lesbian civil rights movement cohered transgender people, it is difficult to get need something to get the public on board - around the tragedy of AIDS in the 1980s and AIDS is a critical part of that, of course, but health care at all. We may not be protected and we need it now. early 90s. When so many of us were dying, it's only one part. We do need to keep edu from discrimination from doctors or in hos when health workers were treating our sick cating people about the dangers of AIDS, pitals. We may be worried to go to a new Jennifer Vanasco is an award-winning, syndicated gay brothers like lepers to be feared instead especially our young people, who were born doctor and have them give us lesser care columnist Email her at [email protected]. of victims to be helped, we were focused on in the 80s and were likely tired of seeing the because he or she is anti-gay or anti-trans Follow her at Jwitter.com/JenniferVanasco. corralling our monetary and mental re red ribbon before they were 10. or both. We may live in states where we o utloo kco In nibus.com no>2009 you are here welcome to vigilante censorship, anal pap smears and whole lottaAIDS! A Free Press Isn't Free -And Stealing It Should Be A Griine by Michael Daniels & Chris Hayes tomers. Publishers lose because ad rev enue falls. Just as we go to press with this issue, we had the honor of presenting at a Columbus Deputy Director George Speaks of the De City Council hearing, chaired by Conn partment of Safety summed it up best in cilmember Priscilla Tyson, in support of Or his testimony at the hearing. "Thomas Jef dinance 1409-2009 that would make it ferson once said that information is the illegal to take more than 5 copies ol a iree currency of the realm," Speaks said. "This publication without consent of the pub legislation would give Columbus Police an lisher or the distribution venue. important tool in being able to prosecute theft of that most important currency." This legislation is welcome and overdue, and we thank Tyson for her leadership. Ihe full text of the legislation is available online at Tyson's City Council webpage, Whether someone takes a publication to www.columbuscitycouncil.org/tyson - and sell or simply because he/she disagrees citizens can leave comments and thanks to with that publication's content, everyone the Councilmember at that site as well. loses. We encourage all outlook readers to stand Readers lose because they are deprived of with us and fight vigilante censorship and multiple points of view. Advertisers lose be intellectual hooliganism. cause they are deprived of potential cus inside: the salubrious issue: vol 14 • issue 6 Welcome to our salubrious issue. Where as the head here's what'll make you feel good line above might be a little crass, the truth is AIDS and healthcare for the queer community is no laugh you are here small pond creative class ing matter. In this edition of your favorite magazine we've put together a commentary on the current iSltV deep inside hollywood ^% snapshot fX\ complete*te dth e circuit state of GLBT health. Are you aware HIV rates are on ^fcr 23 frames per second the rise, as is anal cancer? Health Care reform is from (nicer coming but does it include our community? How do the mail room to eternity eTO interview: eating out 3 you manage being a serodiscordant couple? All that is talked about inside. It's good stuff. ffii examined life ^W lashion fornard Also in here is your usual favorites. 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This same analysis also listed the use I will never forget the first time I heard the The thought of anal pap smears lingered in fact that surprised even my most health- of GHB, shared drug needles, and promiscu words "anal pap smear." my mind long after my friends left for the conscious friends. While searching for dis ous sexual life as additional risk factors as evening. What other procedures, diseases, eases that are more prone to gay sexual sociated with Hepatitis C. My two friends and I were sitting around the and overall health questions pertained activities, I came across a little disease dinner table after a delicious meal and a strictly, or at least more frequently, to GLBT called Hepatitis A. Remember that rim job If you are a lesbian reading this article, then bottle (or three) of wine. We were letting people? you once gave someone but never told any I bet you feel pretty smug right now. Gay loose with personal stories in complete Sex one about? Well, you better either be vacci men have all these extra risks with anal and the City fashion. Jacob, the most I began my research with anal pap smears, nated for the disease, or pray that your cancer, the Hepatitis family, and the om promiscuous member of our little group, had because the topic was still fresh in my partner came straight from the shower. Hep nipresent HIV fear. However, ladies, there's just told us of yet another sexual encounter mind. I soon discovered that anal cancer is atitis A can be transmitted from the oral- room for you to do research, as well. There with a random boy he had recently met at closely linked with cervical cancer in fecal route. It may be an uncomfortable are a lot of studies and literature out there Level. As usual, Sebastian and I gave Jacob women. Both diseases arise from the human thing to talk about, but someone has to that debate the topic of breast cancer in our disapproving looks. Then, out of the papilloma virus (HPV), the same disease bring it up at some point. So, if you are one lesbians. Some studies say that lesbians are blue, Sebastian uttered those infamous that leads to genital warts and penile can of those guys who like to go downtown and two, even three times more likely to be diag words. cer. The rate of anal cancer in gay men around the corner, then I suggest you look nosed with breast cancer, while others com today is reflective to the rate of cervical into your history of vaccinations. pletely rebuke this hypothesis. However, 'Jacob, when was the last time you got an cancer in women before the widespread use many studies have one common denomina anal pap smear?" Sebastian asked. of pap smears, which leads many doctors to Since we're already discussing the relation tor: child bearing reduces the risk of devel urge sexually active gay men to receive anal ship between rimming and Hepatitis, I oping breast cancer. Therefore, if you never I literally choked on my pinot grigio. I slowly pap smears every three years. Sue Goldie, might as well introduce you to Hepatitis A's plan on having kids, or plan on adopting, turned my head towards Sebastian and MD and author of a Harvard University study slutty little brother-Hepatitis B. Rimming then please be sure to get a mammogram asked him, "What in the hell is an anal pap on anal pap smears, said that screening for is just one way to spread this disease, a on a regular basis. smear?" anal cancer in gay men would provide the nasty little bugger that can lead to liver fail same, if not greater, life-saving benefits as ure. Fifteen to 30 percent of those infected Finding most of this information was as Both Jacob and Sebastian looked at me with cervical cancer screenings in women. Dr. with Hepatitis B do not show symptoms, easy as a quick Google search. In today's incredulous eyes. "You've never heard of an Goldie and her coworkers agree that receiv which include fatigue, vomiting, and loss of battle for information, there is no excuse to anal pap smear?" Jacob said to me,"Where ing an anal pap smear every three years appetite. Hepatitis B is spread the same be unaware of the dangers of sex - hetero or have you been?" would identify many cases of anal cancer way as HIV - blood contact. Blood can be homosexual. During your routine appoint early - at a time when it can be successfully transferred among partners through rim ment with your physician, it is in your best I had no idea what to say to them. After a treated. ming, oral sex, and anal sex. Fortunately for interest to be completely honest with them minute, I shook the shock out of my eyes and anyone interested in one, or all, of these sex regarding your sexual activity. An inability to began fishing for an explanation. "Isn't Doctors who have studied anal cancer in ual activities, a vaccination is also avail provide accurate information will only pre there just one kind of pap smear? You know, men agree that a large part of the problem able for Hepatitis B. vent you from getting the best care that is the one where the baby doctor checks out a is the lack of education for both physicians specific to your personal sexual life. girl's axe wound?" I asked the boys. and patients. Not only do many gay men not Maybe rimming isn't exactly your thing, and tell their doctors about their sexual activi you might be thinking you're safe from the With a passion to spread this information I was in for a surprise. Turns out, anal pap ties, but most doctors are not trained to give Hepatitis monster. Not so fast, buddy. An onward, I shared my new wealth of knowl smears exist and are more common than I anal pap smears. Luckily, there has been other often-ridiculed, but practiced more edge with Sebastian and Jacob the next time ever knew. Sebastian began telling me some recent light shed on the issue of HPV than we think, sexual activity can lead to we got together for drinks. about the process, and he included all of the in males. In September, the Food and Drug the bastard child of the Hepatitis family: graphic details. The anal pap smear is ex Administration advisory committee voted to Hepatitis C. What exactly is this activity that "Hey, Jacob, were you ever vaccinated for tremely similar to the pap smear in women. recommend approval of the HPV vaccine increases the chance of acquiring Hepatitis Hepatitis A?" I asked him. He shook his A sample of cells is collected from the anus Gardasil for males ages 9 to 26. The advi C? The answer is... fisting. When you think head from left to right. and rectum and then examined to identify sory committee stated that while penile and it might be time to grease up those palms, any structural changes. Certain cell muta anal cancer are rare, about 200 out of do a bit of of your own research on this "I think it may be time to schedule your next tions are precursors to anal cancer, which, 100,000 men are diagnosed with genital member of Hepatitis clan. Hepatitis C is not doctor's appointment." given the basics of gay sex, is more promi warts every year. It may be a small step in curable, and 80 percent of infected people nent in homosexual men. While anal cancer preventing the spread of these diseases, but do not show symptoms. A recent analysis in nov2009 fyou Google "aiialpapsmcarCoIumbus. Oh" the fifth entry will be titled clu-oniciTdburningscrotum" outlookcoIumbus.com Adopt. Volunteer. Give. Capital Area Humane Society adopt • - adore*: advocate Because every rjet should have the life your pet ha&. 3015 Scioto-Darby Executive Ct. (614) 777-7387 Hlllard, OH 43026 www.cahs-pets.org o ut loo kco hi mbus.com Thisisthecutcstdogphotocvcr! Ever! Go adopt him light this minute. no>2009 feature TAKE A PERSONAL STAND AGAINST HIV Thanks to advances in medical treatments, people who are infected with HIV are now able to live longer, fuller lives. This is a great accomplishment, but it allows for complacency "I can just take a pill" is a valid argument, but it's not the whole pic ture. If you do just take the pill, side ef fects, strict timed dosages, and HIV stigma follow. Think about it this way: Do you take your vitamins every day, at the exact time? If the answer is no, then you don't know what it means to just "take a pill." Side ef fects follow any medicine regiment whether its diarrhea to hallucinations. HIV meds are tough on the body and mind. When it comes to stigma, would you date someone with HIV? Think about that if you become in fected and how it would affect your social life. The hottest guy at the bar gets rejected after someone finds out of he's HIV+, too. HIV relevance to the younger generation is lost and they are not aware of what is hap byShaunWhybark Prevention is a critical component in the pening right now in Central Ohio. CATF has fight against HIV. In here is a little bit of Stigma runs rampant in Central Ohio, so had 36 HIV+ (86% MSM) tests this year so As World AIDS Day approaches on December HIV 101. The virus is transmitted primarily let's discuss stigma. Stigma is often based far, over 58% of them were in the age range 1st, so does the anniversary of nearly 30 through (4) bodily fluids: blood, semen/pre- on ignorance, irrational fears, lack of edu 18-30. That is an increase of nearly 28% years of the disease's existence. First iden cum, vaginal fluid, and breast milk. That cation and information pertaining to a per over last year alone. This is a common posi- tified in mid-1981, the disease now affects means if he cums inside you, and you don't son or group of people. Let's apply that to tivity trend in most areas of the state. Isn't just over 33 million people throughout every know anything about him or his status, you HIV in Central Ohio. Would you sleep with NOW the time to learn about how we keep continent of the world. With new advances have put yourself at risk of being infected. someone who was HIV+? Is your answer no? our community safe and to start showing in medicine and therapy comes great People avoid being infected by taking SIM Is that answer based on fear of being in more respect for those living with HIV, so progress in managing the disease, but pre PLE steps. Getting to know the person you fected, fear of the person, or fear of reality? they can feel safe about having open and vention issues surrounding the disease are sleeping with, asking about their sta Based on testing session interviews, the honest conversations with friends and fam arise. Stigmas, lack of relevance, and com tus, having opened and honest dialogue, majority of individuals would say no to hav ily? placency have now taken the forefront of and most importantly, WEARING A CONDOM ing sex if they knew the other person were people's minds as HIV is treated as a are key points to remember when thinking HIV positive. If you became HIV-*-, would you The Columbus AIDS Task Force challenges chronic disease, not the automatic death about having sex. This disease is 100% expect that treatment to you would be dif you to take a personal stand against HIV. sentence it once was perceived. PREVENTABLE, but it requires personal re ferent? You are the key to making HIV an important sponsibility. We can give you tools and ed issue here in Central Ohio and to stopping The Columbus AIDS Task Force has been ucation, but it takes willpower and respect If you wouldn't sleep with someone who is the spread. Contact Shaun Whybark at leading fight against HIV/AIDS in Central for yourself to create this change. HIV+, why would you have unprotected sex [email protected] or 614.340.6737 Ohio since 1984. CATF started out with a with someone you didn't know, without find to set up training sessions for your work or group of volunteers whose goal was helping Change is difficult. Barriers are always ing out their TRUE status first? A true sta personal friend group. Have conversations people with HIV get affairs in order. When thrown up in response to change. Let's dis tus is one that is based on fact, not what with friends about our free HIV testing serv these volunteers started, they were doing cuss barriers within the Central Ohio gay they say it is. Their status may not be accu ices, so you both know your status. Keep what they could for people before they died. community and how it relates to HIV pre rate. It takes a simple test to find out. We up-to-date on testing if you are sexually ac Times have changed and the Columbus vention and personal responsibility. Think don't talk about HIV with our friends or tive, and above all, respect yourself enough AIDS Task Force has evolved into an agency about how many times you have said or lovers, yet we don't want to acknowledge to make him use a condom. It's your life. that cares for people living with HIV/AIDS by heard: "It won't happen to me," "I can just HIV exists. It's a catch 22 and we are You have control. providing case management, housing, HIV take a pill," or "He would tell me if he was caught in the crosshairs. "It won't happen testing, and mental health assistance. In Columbus AIDS Task Force - still leading addition, CATF has an outstanding record in positive." Do you honestly think it can't to me" is not a valid argument. It CAN hap prevention to ensure that Central Ohio is happen to you? Do you think you can take a pen to you. We are seeing increasing num the fight. Join us. educated about HIV. pill and all is right in the world? 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If however, you were to ask her about the relationship dynamics that living with a woo hoo, dancing on air and burst your heart partners in magnetic relationships often feel, the look, she might laugh and say, "Oh no, I life threatening disease can create. open with joy sorts of fabulous feelings that the kind of compassionate honesty required just remembered that I left the report on my get relationships off the ground, but it's the to make a relationship work can feel over desk that I was supposed to get to my boss. (+) I'm terrified that if I have sex with grit, the inevitable crunchy times, the fear of whelming. Sorry if I looked cross." him/her I'll infect him/her. rejection and vulnerability and the desire to hide behind anger or numbness to avoid fac The easy way around this is to simply not Add to this, a lot of people involved in mixed (-) Every time we have sex, I keep thinking, ing this fear, and the painful reflections we share the truth. Unfortunately, this is a setup HIV status relationships, deep down inside, "Oh Crap! What if I get infected?" see of ourselves in our partners, that gives for relationship meltdowns. First of all, if you think that they are either totally alone in all those woo hoo feelings substance. Or, don't show yourself, people invent you. They their feelings, or that their partners will not (+) It's like I'm constantly seeing statistics more specifically, it's honestly and compas sionately facing the grit that makes love make you into who they want you to be or understand. The truth is, if you've felt some in my head and coming up with rules to beat work. fear you to be. It's probably no surprise that thing or worried about something, it's likely the odds. Like, for oral sex, if we want to at the beginning of an intimate relationship, that thousands of other people have also felt have oral sex without a condom, we gotta the you they invent is usually who they want or worried about the same thing or at least make sure there are no open cuts or sores in It's this grit, the risk, the connection relating you to be, someone wonderful, but impossi something close. If your fear really is unique, the mouth, we can't swallow, we gotta wait to the power of disclosure, the "us against ble to match up to. As the relationship slogs I think you should write it down and get it two hours after brushing our teeth, and we the world" or "us against the disease" and on, the you they invent is usually a lot less published. Look how much money that's gotta rinse w/ Listerine before and after oral the connection that comes out of it that can flattering. Second, we make shit up all the made for Stephen King. In the meantime, I sex. Sometimes it feels more like we're gonna make a magnetic* relationship so com time. If we're feeling insecure or cranky, we put together a composite of some of the do surgery than have sex. pelling. may see a wave of crossness flash across common but uncomfortable thoughts and our partner's face and think, "She's pissed feelings HIV positive and HIV negative part (-) I only allow him to perform oral sex on me. But let's face it, in the game of love, some off that I haven't washed the dishes yet." If ners in mixed status relationships have that Even though I know the risk for transmission times honesty is hard. Honesty requires us to we're in a particularly defensive or foul are challenging to share. Breathe as you this way is really low, I can't seem to totally show our warts, our fears and our vulnerable mood, we may finish it with, "Well screw her. read through this list. Remember that if relax when he performs fellatio. Forget about sides. It pushes us to risk rejection by saying It's not my fault she is such a neat freak. I'm what you're reading echoes what you've anal sex, even as a top. I'm just too nervous. something the other person doesn't want to sick of her nagging me all the time. Her thought or felt, that that fear or issue is hear. And it's not always easy to hear some standards are impossible. Besides, she still common. If you're reading what some HIV (+) I really love my boyfriend, but the only continued o ut loo kro In nibii8.com Remember East Village? There was a movement to have it called "The Gritty Kitty" nov2009 continued from pg 35 it too." way I can have passionate sex is to have sex This might be a challenging conversation be cause it involves sharing things that are diffi with someone else who's positive, someone I'm cult to say or difficult to hear. For this reason, it's not worried about infecting. important to establish some basic ground rules. ( ) I tried to bottom once, with protection, but Rule 1: No name calling. the whole time, I kept thinking, "Oh shit, is this gonna be the time!?" So it stopped. My Rule 2: No using broad sweeping generalizations boyfriend seems to take me not willing to go or interpretations. (Le. "You never want to have there as me not caring for him. It's like a wall sex with me because you think I'm disgusting.) between us. Rule 3: Use "I" statements, be specific and ob (-) She doesn't seem to want to touch me, even jective as possible and focus on your own though the risk of me getting AIDS from her is thoughts and feelings. [I.e. "When your dick really low. I leel like I'm toxic, like there's some went limp last night when I mentioned the box thing wrong with me. It's hard and it really of condoms, I felt rejected and it hurt.") hurts. Rule 4: Listen with an open heart so that you (-) I've been out lor years, but now, because ol can empathize with your partner rather than AIDS, I leel like I'm living in the closet and have with a lawyer's mind focused on tearing their to live in secret or come out all over again. It's statements to shreds. No one wins in battles of exhausting. the heart. But if both of you open your hearts in love, everyone wins. (-) Sometimes I think the disease gives him a li cense to be self-centered. I can't reach out for Rule 5; Strike when the iron is cold. Bringing up support without outing him and he doesn't want sensitive topics in the heat of the moment can anyone to know. bring up shame. Sometimes it's better to wait until everyone has their clothes on the morning (+) "Did you take your meds?" "Are you eating after and chat about things at the kitchen table enough?" "I smell cigarette smoke on your over a cup of coffee or herbal tea. jacket? You know that weakens your immune system." All this worry about my health, it Finally, if it feels too overwhelming to navigate makes me so crazy sometimes I just want to this on your own, you don't have to. It's ok to get scream. I want to eat chocolate ice cream and help from a friend or professional counselor. It's Twinkies for breakfast and smoke cigarettes and even ok to discuss these issues with the help of throw my medicine out the window just to spite a counselor. him. Ihe beauty of having this conversation is that ( ) When he gets sick from HIV related complica the truth will be out in the open, [hat truth can tions, I feel powerless because I can't do any guide you to the next step, be it seeking more in thing to help him. formation on safer sex from reliable sources such as the Columbus AIDS lask Force (-) I'm scared that someday he's gonna get re- (www.CATF.net) or The Body (www.thebody.com), ally, really sick. It's like hearing the ticking of a talking to a medical doctor about a Postexpo time bomb and always wondering when it's sure Prophylaxis prescription, buying out the going off for real. latex supply at the local CVS, going into individ ual therapy to deal with your feelings, or accept (+) If I hear one more time that it's "a manage ing that you just aren't willing to do the work to Kristen J. Elliott able disease like diabetes" I think I'm gonna stay together. If you do stay together, having scream. compassionate, honest conversations about MA, N.CC, LI.CD.C your fears and pain as well as your hopes and (-) Part of me doesn't want to be his crutch, his dreams will help you feel the full power of deep, caretaker and to baby him, but part of me likes deep love. taking care of him, or at least thinking in some Providing private consultation for individuals way that I am. V status relationships, also called serodiscordant couples or magnetic couples are & couples for our community for over 20 years. (+) Every time he gets sick, catches a little sore relationships in which one partner is HIV posi throat or a cold, he freaks out. I feel guilty be five and the other is HIV negative. cause somehow I think it's all my fault that he Specializing In goes through all of this because I'm positive. there's no such thing as "safe sex." Even if you masturbate with rubber gloves, you can wrench Substance Abuse • Relationship Issues (-) I feel guilty because he got sick and I didn't. your back out of whack or pull a groin muscle. Like there was some sort of lottery and I es Still, the research is pretty clear that HIV cannot Spirituality & Growth • Wellness Education caped. permeate latex condoms when they are used properly. It might be a good idea to have a PHP (-) Every time I come home and the house is a Postexposure Prophylaxis prescription on hand wreck, I get so angry I can't see straight, not at just in case something goes awry. him, at the disease, because it's left him so 6797 N. High Street weak. Regina Sewell is a mental health counselor, professor and writer To ask a question, propose a column topic, read Suite 306 I hink of this list as kindling, as something to a tout her approach to counseling, or check out her books Worthington, OH 43085 and other writing, go to www.ReginaSewell.com. Her most get an honest conversation going. If it's helpful recent publication, "Sliding Away" can be found in Knowing 614.846.0305 you can base your conversation around the list. Pains: Women on Love, Sex and Work in Our 40s, edited by "You know, a lot of HIV positive (or negative) MollyRosen. SPIRIT OF BALANCE, HARMONY AND WHOLEN people worry about bla bla bla, and I worry about nov2009 If you've never heard a concert at the KingArts Center, you should. The renovated theatre is amazing. outlookeoIuiiiLus.com creative class King Arts Complex in collaboration with the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption, Franklin County Children Services, and outlook: columbus present the exhibition Arts from Waiting Hearts Thursday, November 12,2009 thru January 29,2010 at the King Arts Complex. The exhibition will highlight ARTSTOM WAITIN G HEARTS art by youth ages seven to seventeen from Franklin County Children's Services who are available for adoption and awaiting their forever families. They invite the viewer to gain insight into their hearts through creative works that allow the viewer to have a small glimpse into their waiting hearts, minds and spirits. Join us as we work to increase adoption awareness and celebrate the youth as they share their vision of the future Our objective is to utilize art to create awareness in the community on adoption 25 young artists will create drawings, paintings, and other art that will be hung in an exhibition to be viewed in the King Arts Complex corridor. Each artwork will share a new story of adoption and healing by express ing through creative art. Premised on the visionary, poetic and prophetic potential in art, the exhibition avoids tabloid and sensational imagery. Ihe invited youth artists will be asked "to help us create a new vocabulary through their artworks and, in doing so, heal us, transform us and help us feel and understand the importance of adoption, especially in the African American community," says Stull. We hope the audience leaves the exhibition with a better understanding of the importance of adop tion in addition to feeling empowered through empathy, information, and actual facts to give them a sense that giving a child a home, makes our community stronger. Opening Reception for Arts from Waiting Hearts will be Thursday, November 12,2009 6p-8:30p at the King Arts Complex 867 Mount Vernon Avenue Columbus, OH. This exhibition is generously underwritten by Reed Arts and Members First Credit Union. Jazz Great Fred Hersch Gives Benefit Concert at Ohio State's School of Music Out pianist and composer Fred Hersch, a Cincin on the Jazz Studies faculty of the New England nati native, will give a solo benefit concert on Conservatory. Sunday, November 15 at 8 in Weigel Auditorium, 1866 College Rd., on campus. The benefit concert Hersch has acted as a passionate spokesperson is for the Mark Moffett, Jr. GLBT Music Scholar and fund-raiser for AIDS services and education ship in the School of Music. A public reception agencies since 1993. He has produced and per follows the concert. formed on four benefit recordings and at numer ous concerts for the charities Classical Action: Downbeat called Hersch "one of the small hand Performing Arts Against AIDS and Broad ful of brilliant musicians of his generation." Her Cares/Equity Fights AIDS that have raised over sch has earned a place among the foremost jazz $250,000 to date. He is himself HIV positive. artists in the world today. He has appeared on over one hundred recordings, including more than The Moffett Scholarship Fund honors New York pi two dozen albums as bandleader/solo pianist. anist Mark Moffett, Jr., who passed away in 2005 at age 40 from brain cancer caused by HIV. Considered to be the most prolific and widely- Mark's partner, Paul Lockwood is staff member in praised solo pianist of his generation, Hersch has the School of Music and Artistic Director of tvolu been featured on CBS Sunday Morning, a variety tion Theatre Company (ETC) in Columbus. of National Public Radio programs, including Fresh Air, Jazz Set, and Studio 360. Also a tal Advance general admission tickets are available ented and frequently commissioned at a discount rate by phone 614.292.2295 or in composer, Herschconcerts and recordings fre person at the OSU Theatre Box Office in the Drake quently include his own work as well as others. Performance & Events Center. Advance tickets are $17 general admission; $12 senior citizens He has two Grammy nominations for Best Jazz In and students with ID. At the door leash or check strumental Performance and one for Best Instru only, tickets are $20; $15 senior citizens and stu mental Composition. dents with ID. A recipient of Rockefeller, Guggenheim, and NEA For more information, call 614.24/.7036. grants and fellowships, he is currently a visiting professor at Western Michigan University and is o ut loo keo In niLus.com And to think I just washed that window! You know she's not goingto clean up her mac & cheese hand prints when she's done. nov2Qoo, deep inside Hollywood EWAN MCGREGOR TO STAR IN A GAY MOVIE... AGAIN SUMMERHEIGHTSHIGH GUY GETS ANGRY Romeo's still waiting for the long-delayed homo romantic comedy I Love You, PhilipMor- Attention everybody who has no idea what Summer Heights Highms (aka most of you) r/sto finally open in U.S. theaters, but Ewan McGregor (who plays Jim Carrey's jailhouse and don't have any cool friends to tell you about the latest cult-cable comedy shows: beau in that film) has already lined up a role in yet another gay-themed movie. He'll Chris Ulley, hilanous Australian creator of that HBO series in which he played multiple play a son who gets a double-whammy of news from dad - not only is the patriarch characters (one of them gay), is coming back to the cable channel for Angry Boys. Much dying of cancer, he's also coming out of the closet - in Beginners, a new movie from like SHH Ulley will create and star as multiple characters, all of whom will explore, in Thumbsuckentorector Mike Mills. Christopher Plummer, about as far away from The mockumentary style, the complicated issue of what ifs like to be male in the 21st cen- Sound of Must as you can get will play the papa; no word yet as to who's going to play tury. In other words: more gayness is pretty much a lock. The show is shooting now, so daddy's young boyfriend. McGregor , you'll recall, has already played queer (and often- expect it sometime in 2010. That gives you plenty of time to catch up on the other fun undressed) characters in The Pillow Book aw\ Velvet Goldmine Maybe finally playing niest shows on IV you haven't been watching, like Summer Heights, The Mighty Boosh the straight guy in a gay film is his idea of a "stretch." Flight of the Conchords and Tim &Eric AwesomeShow, GreatJobliona Romeo's favorites. RADCLIFFE GOES FROM HOGWARTSTO ffl/SMESS SCHOOL HOPE FOR A SHOWGIRISSIWIL The timing couldn't be better for a musical that pokes fun at corporate incompetence, so if you need a silver liningforthe current economic crisis, put this in your checkbook - As any fan of ShowgirlswW tell you. it's the greatest film ever made featu. Daniel Radclrffe is considering returning to Broadway in a revival of How to Succeed in sation between two adult women about the great taste of "doggie chow." Ana Business Without Really Trying. Gay producers Craig Zadan and Neil Meron are putting original director Paul Verhoeven once imagined a sequel to the film following I together a workshop performance in December to see if Business can live again. The one's even more depraved adventures in Los Angeles, it never came to pass. Bi show originally opened in 1962 with Robert Morse in the lead - appropriately, Morse is some other people from "different places" have decided that the world has wait now playing a Kennedy-era big-bizzeron Mad Men-and was revived in 1995 with long to knwv the fate of its doomed cast. Currently called Showgirls: Story of Ho^ Matthew Broderick and a [ire-Will& tareMegan Mullally. If Radcliffe has the magic German-produced sequel will ostensibly center on the character of Hope (played to make this new version fly, it'll show New York audiences that he's got more arrows in original, and hopefully in this one, too, by Rena Riffel), the good girl gone even w his quiver, as it were, than his super-serious (and full-frontal flashing) role in Equus. than Nomi. She apparently dies of a cocaine overdose, causing her brother to seek re- venga Revenge on what, exactly, is sort of up in the air right now. But if there's a scene of some guy punching a pile of cocaine in the face then it's going to be amazing. Romeo'San Vicenteknows thatitreallyis pronounced "Ver-sayce''Hecan bereached}careofi*his publication or at [email protected] -• minute section. when Ben tells her he had sec with Johnny, whom By the third act, that idea has gone out the win- 123 Frames she thought there was the possibility of a burgeai- dtw in favor of more simplistic psychological ma byAdam Lippe Salky falters right away with Al&a's piece, which ing relationship with. But because Johnny has terial, as Johnny tries to figure out "who he is." is slow, shapeless, and has the look of a cheap TV gone from a muscle-bound jxk to a wistful pretty That he finds the intimacy with notjust Ben and Adam Salky's Dareis based on his 2005 short film. drama. The one saving grace is a cameo by Alan boy (and a 30-year-old teenager at that) who is Alexa, but with Ben's touchy-feely parents ("you The short was a fairly basic high-school gay fan Cumming, playing a successful actor coming defiantly, constantly proclaiming his heterosecual- should try the popcorn, ifs organic!"), is a nice tasy; the lighting guy for the school's stage pro back to visit the school at the behest of his former ity during the pool scene, Ben hasto be very ag touch, especially as it goes with his lost puppy dog duction of A Streetcar Named'Desirehas a crush drama teacher, and who challenges Alexa about gressive; which, even though he's inebriated, is look. on the lead actor. The lead actor, Johnny, has trou whether she has the life experienceto be an ac quite out of character from what we've seen. As ble learning his lines, and the lighting guy, Ben tress. His scene is curt, direct and cynical in all Ben loosens up and begins to discover himself Dare is not a great film. Salky struggles especially (nicknamed 'light Boy"), offers to give Johnny a the right ways, and he makes you forget Rossum's (culminating in a potential orgy scene where's he with the first act, and he's simplified the charac ride and help him leam them. They drive to the generally listless and uncomfortable performance dressed like Al Pacino in Cruising)- he also attains ters enough that they come together more as puz Johnny's big house with its glamorous indoor He also sets up the story well, as Alexa is shaken a heavy dose of lispy femininity, which may make zle pieces than as lovers. But his ending is swimming pool and Light Boy, though believabry by his words and choosesto seduce Johnny at a sense given the uptight, rich private school he at deliberately inconclusive and challenging. And it professing his sexual inecperience, goads Johnny party at his house tends, at least as a wayto twerdo coming out in gives dramatic weight to earlier sequences. He into making out with him, and eventually seduces such a close-mouthed community. Ben's section also nails down the notion that when your fan him. The feature film is broken up into three parts, Dareg&s its footing in the second Act, told from does get to the heart of some obviously confound tasies come true, sometimes they are awkward each with a different perspective, with the pool se Ben's perspective. In the short film, he was a shy, ing issues; namely how do out teens find dates, let and unsatisfying. There's a reason they didn't duction as the centerpiece Each main character, fairly well-built teen. In the feature, he's full-on alone companions, in a conservative area where seem realistic. Johnny (Zach Gilford), Ben (Ashley Springer), and awkward nerd, even sporting a curly fro. 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I know they had a few - or shame, whichever you prefer. And I think you MW: My parents do not know about this proj Walker and Chris Salvatore- make their feature actors in mind, but it just ended up working know what I'm talking about here. First, Desper ect and I don't think they ever will. They're 60, film debut in Eating Out: All You Can Eat, the out that I got the role. I had always wanted to ate Housewives hottie Ryan Carnes, then Marco Mormon and live in Utah. third installment in the raunchy rom-com fran play a straight guy in a film. Growing up Mor Dapper. How does it feel to be among this group DS: Of course. I love my family and they think chise from creator Q. Allan Brocka. mon and gay, I feel like I've been researching of fine-lookin' actors who have bared it all in the it looks very funny. I might insist they watch this role my entire life, as I've tried to cover up name of raunchy comedy? the edited-for-cable version though!. Like its predecessors, f^Jfindsan unlucky-at- my homosexuality. I was even engaged twice CS: Baring it all in a comedy is the way to go, love newbie pining forthe affection of the series' to girls before coming out. I'm proud of the in my opinion! That way if the audience laughs, MR: You're all gay, which is great, but there's al resident hunk who has his sights set on the work I did on this film, and I think that I pulled you can blame it on the jokes. ways talk in the industry that openly gay actors maybe-gay hottie who gets caught in the middle off the whole straight thing. MW: Ifs the one thing about the movie I didn't have a hard time finding work. What's your take of a quirky - and often unsanitary - love quad DANIEL SKELTON: I was actually approached by really want to do. But its over and as soon as on that? Do you think it's true, or are people rangle. a casting director at a restaurant so it was all my friends have seen the movie and I've making this stuff up? kind of just a matter of luck being on my side moved past it, I'll be over it But I'm still a little CS: This is a hard question. I think there are Confused yet? So are they. that day. The role initially intrigued me be unnerved by this... so many people with opinions about this topic cause the character of Casey is so relatable who are not educated enough to form one. I But while the movie has plenty to offer in the and honest that I think a lot of guys will find MR: Marco once told me that his, urn, "parts" hear people say to me all the time the same way of cheap laughs (from Leslie Jordan and they have something in common with him. So I were, let's say, modified forthe film. It turns out exact thing, that it is hard to find wonk if you're Mink Stole, no less) and a scantily clad climax, suppose just the way the character was writ that he's a shaver - down there - and hair and out. But what they don't realize is I am happy it's these three homigos -all gay and friends in ten was enough to get me excited to flesh him makeup had to glue little curlies back on. Were being who I am. I don't want to hide that from real life - who take this otherwise unseasoned out I feel good about what we've created. there any touch-ups for you guys? the world. The closeted people who do, yeah, sequel from dinner to dessert. CS: I tried to get Lex the makeup girl to paint maybe they are famous actors who are getting MR: So we're all Facebook friends now. And I'm sexy abs on me. But, no, there weren't any work left and right, but I bet they are living an In a recent interview, Skelton, Walker and Salva excited that you've each allowed meto be part of touch-ups done. internal hell. I don't mean to get all sappy and tore open wide about their first time (on screen), your growing online communities of people you MW: No. dark, but if you had to ask yourself on your love and sex on and offset, disrobing forthe don't actually know. It seems, however, that all DS: Not for me, no. death bed, "Am I proud and happy of the life I camera, and how showing off their soon-to-be- three of you are real-life friends. Were you led?" what do you think the answer would be? famous nether regions could affect their bud friends before or after Eating Out 3 came along? MR: You know that because of this film gays So before people express their opinions to gay ding careers... and their parents. CS: I met Michael a year and half ago in NYC. across the world will be combining your names men and women on being out in the media and We dated for six months then he moved to Los and the word "naked" in an online search, right? all the 'negative' effects it may have on one Order's up! Angeles. I moved out to LA a few months ago How doyou feel about being Googled then person's career, they should think about how it and we reconnected through this film. Daniel oogled? may make someone feel to have to lie about MIKEY ROX: Chris, let's start with you. This is and I became really dose friends during film CS: I feel okay with that. Being naked isn't all who they are. Just be yourself, I say. your second film, the first being the acclaimed ing. He is such a little comedian. Now we are that bad. If they were Googling a sex tape, that MW: Ifs true to a certain extent, but it should short Misplaced. Coincidental^, in both Mis- all good friends and hang out all the time! may be a little embarrassing. n't be. I play a straight guy in this film and I placed and Eating Out J, you play characters DS: We all became really close during filming MW: It's a natural part of this process, but I'm think I did the role justice. If straight guys can that troll online for sex. How much research went -1 hang out with those two on a pretty regular actually a very private and monogamous per play gay guys, why shouldn't it be perfectly all into preparing for these roles? basis and I'm so happy to have made such son, so I'm still learning how to be comfort right the other way around? Ifs sad that it's CH RIS SALVATORE: That is a coincidence, isn't good friends. Then there is Rebekah Kochan, able with this. that way in the industry, but I think it's chang it. I was never into trolling online for sex, if who I'm obsessed with. She is so hilarious on DS: [Laughs] Well, I wasn't actually naked in ing and will continue to change as our com that's what you mean by "research," but I did and off screen. Everyone in the cast was really the movie. So they won't come up with any re munity makes more and more advances and meet a few of my ex-boyfriends on the Inter easy to get along with. sults. progress with marriage and mainstream cul net. I think it's a lot easier for gays to meet ture. online. I even met Michael on MySpace. It's MR: Michael and Chris -1 stalked you for a few MR: Considering that this is the first major proj DS: To be honest, I'm not concerned in the very life imitating art, or, in this instance, the minutes on your profiles - you know, for research ect for you three, I'm sure your parents want to slightest. I love acting, but there are so many other way around. - and I noticed a suspicious amount of pictures see the work you've done. Will you let the family other things in the industry I'm excited to get of you two scantily clad and very close together. watch? Will you watch it with them? And if you into, particularly screenwriting. That being MR: Daniel and Michael -you're newcomers as Spill it - are you bum ping uglies? do watch it with them, can I sit in and enjoy the said, I do think there is a problem with sexual well. Eating 0ut3\s the first film for both of you. MW: Chris and I are dating. awkward silences? ity in this industry, and I hope that films like What was the audition process like, what in CS: [Laughs] Isn't it obvious? But, yes, I'm CS: [Laughs] I wouldn't mind watching the this can help open people's minds and help the trigued you about the role you accepted, and smitten by Michael Walker. movie with my parents. It's a really funny gay communityto continue making progress how do you feel about your very first on-screen movie with a great message at the end. My until the issue is no more. nov2009 If you eat out a girl onher period, you've earned your redwings. That'sgross to everyone outlookcolumLus.com MR: Were there any moments during filming where you thought to yourself, 'Hmm, maybe showing the goods isn't a good career move?' Do you think the nature of this film will prevent you from getting mainstream work? CS: No, not at all. I think it will help. MW: As I said before, it was the one thing about taking this PAUL role and doing this movie that I didn't want to do, but I knew that this was an opportunity that I couldn't pass up. I think what's important in getting future work is the performance. MOSCHELL DS: No goods were shown, so no worries here. Denver artist Paul MR: Whafs been the best part of this journey so far? Moschell has been CS: Working with a fantastic group of actors and the crew. producing his Everyone got along so well. Nobody had egos at all. 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I had a lot of reservation about clothes made from ized the coat was a lot larger than jizz bags. I am all for latex clothes, but they should come Ryan B. It looked like a dress. It with whips, and be bought from The Garden. It came as a looked like a great 1960s shift. If surprise that not only could you make clothes that didn't Ryan's hair would have been a bit A necessarily suggest sex, but that these clothes could ac longer, we could have put a little tually be chic. nude lipstick on, some rollers, and turned him into Sharon Tate. Sharon The biggest challenge for me is that I am a cynic. How Tate with a prophylactic cocktail dress. can I approach the idea of condom gear with a straight Ryan B. put on the tunic shirt under face? This changed when I decided to do the research and neath, and we gave him a macrame belt. Coupled actually see what this was all about. with gold high tops, he looked like an extra from Caligula at Studio 54. We also decided that Ryan should I learned that clothes were a vehicle for a message. It only wear his hot pink American Apparel underwear. Ryan made me reconsider my bitchy opinion. "Condom Couture" jumped, danced, twirled, and was overall the CCAD ver is an attempt by Planned Parenthood of Central Ohio to sion of the supermodel Naomi Campbell, although he get the word out about wrapping it up. In having an event managed to keep his cell phone to himself. where models strut down the runway wearing rubbers, they hope to raise money to continue the prevention of It was fun to photograph the garments, and I could even STD's, which affects 1 in 4 teenage girls. make a joke about the fact that there were three gay men in one room, a coat full of condoms, and nobody had their I thought about my teenage years, which were condom dick out. Well, Ryan B, was down to his underwear, but we free. There were people who were having sex, but I was on were pros, not ho's. It made me think that the next time 3 Quiz Team. I also used to rush home so I could watch day men are in a room, and one of them takes his pants off, time talk shows and eat Oatmeal Creme Pies, so I missed especially some of the party boys who frequent Q Bar and out on the Latchkey sex sessions. I watched a lot of Sally Axis, it might not be the worst thing for someone to have a Jessy Raphael, gained a lot of weight, and managed to coat of rubbers. escape high school without a single STD. Are condoms the worst thing? Of course not. Without a Planned Parenthood is hoping to help those who make the doubt, they are one of the best preventatives to STD's. choice to get laid. I decide that I should feature one of the When I was closeted, I was so petrified to have a baby; I designs in this very column. On October 1st, when the did not have sexual intercourse without one. Sex was still event actually took place, I was knocking on deaths door great. With boys, I was insanely diligent about condoms with flu-like symptoms, thankfully not H1N1, and couldn't when having intercourse until I was in a committed rela go to witness the condomania. I know a couple of the con tionship and was tested. I am not preaching my experi testants, so I called my friend Ryan Richmond to have a ence though. I am not the Oprah of condoms, at all. I fashion chat. think, fashion-wise, they are the best accessories you can wear during sex. Unless, you are into ball-gags, or cock Ryan is a student at CCAD, and one of the best design stimuli. Just don't dye your bush. I find that disturbing. talents they have. He made a condom dress last year that looked like a cocktail dress from the 1920s. The latex Condoms are nice because they can save lives, and give even managed to drape well, and gave the illusion of a non-adults a lot more options if they choose to be sexually drop-waist. It was an impossibly chic design. active. Thanks to Planned Parenthood of Central Ohio, they can be used to look chic. If only they made a cash This year, Ryan decided to make menswear, and he made mere condom... it well. His short sleeve jacket with a hood, tunic, and trousers were really bright, and a complete contradiction to your typical off-white rubber. I was impressed with the silk lining, and the pockets. Ryan also constructed the coat in a chevron pattern, which gave the condoms an in teresting texture. 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And so he I have friends telling me that this is a deal three kids in their 40s who've turned out pretty just that if I wasn't convinced that this man with lurks online until he lands someone gullible and breaker and that I am being emotionally abused. well), divorced three times. I recently met whom you've been corresponding - assuming you morally bereft enough to buy in. I don't know if I believe that -1 think he just someone online: 48, a wealthy, educated man exist NTC - is just another creepy pervert furiously needs to work on boundaries. I just had a "come with two boys, 12 and 14. He lives the cuckold beating off in front of a computer as he spins out Okay! Let's end with a note about standards and to Jesus" talk with the boy, and he still feels like lifestyle and is looking for a woman to marry his insanely creepy sexual fantasies for a gullible practices here at Savage Love: I typically change he didn't cross any lines and refuses to apolo who would participate and enjoy this with him. online audience of one. identifying details in a letter- exact ages, number gize. But to make me feel guilty, he said he will He says he "craves and needs" this lifestyle, of divorces, number of children - lest someone in "never post anything on another girl's Facebook and from what he's said so far, the boys have But two details lead me to believe that there could advertently out themselves to their fam ily and page ever again." That's not what I wanted. Now been trained from an early age to also live this actually be a four-times-married, thrice-divorced, friends. I didn't do that in NTC's case, because I'm my face hurts from crying, and I want someone lifestyle and would require that the woman he once-widowed moral bankrupt out there receiving praying to God that - if NTC exists - one of her sane to tell me which way is up. Whose side are marries include them in all ways. e-mails and IMsfrom a man who claims to be into children sees this letter and recognizes dear ol* you on? I would actually be happier if you told "the cuckoldt lifestyle," "familial nudity," and the Mom. And if her kids are reading-. Hey, guys, it's me that I was crazy and controlling, because al I've done some research and think I could be sexual abuse of his adolescent children: your age time to take Mom's cars keys, credit cards, and tering my own attitude is a lot easier than trying quite happy being a dominant. However, my con and your inability to spell "cuckold." If a creep computer away. Dementia has set in, or Mom's to get through to him. cern is that he wants me to be sexual with the with child-rape fantasies wrote this letter, NTC, been demented all along. Either way, she's a dan boys. He says that at home they practice familial you wouldn't be 67 going on 68 with reservations. ger to herself and others, and you might want to Pleeeeeease help. nudity. He also wants me to take each one to a You would be 37 at the most with DD breasts, and stage an intervention before the criminal-justice hotel on their respective birthdays (he doesn't you would've spelled cuckold correctly. (Unless... system does. Hurting In Oregon say at what age) and take their virginities. He sigh... the creep was into intergenerational sex has also suggested that, once we are living to and lousy spellers on top of everything else.) I am in desperate need. I have been dating a guy Ah... a nice, normal problem to cleanse the palate gether, if I wake up horny I should go to one of for two years. We're both 25, and we love each after the shit sandwich that opens the column this the boys' rooms and "grind my cunt into his face Now: If this man and his children exist, NTC, he's other a lot. He's sexy as hell (half Asian, quarter week. and fuck the boy." I think this is excessive and abusing his children and they should be removed Native, quarter black - he's divine), we connect could traumatize the boys. I don't know if this from his home immediately. He's scum, NTC, as is he's funny, upbeat and honest. Unfortunately, I'm not on anyone's side in this dispute, HIO. You type of extreme behavior is just fantasy for him any woman who would for a moment contemplate we have a recurring fight (once or twice a sound like an insecure, passive-aggressive guilt or if he is serious. shacking up with this piece of shit Because, month), and I wonder if we will ever resolve this tripper, and the boyfriend sounds like an inconsid again, what your Interwebs friend describes is not issue. He likes the attention of other women. The erate flirt. You've been having the same fight If I like this man after meeting him, I would con the "cuckoldt lifestyle," it's the rape and system fight goes like this: He will do something border twice a month for two years Enough already. If the sider this lifestyle, but with boundaries where atic sexual abuse of children. A man who is into line inappropriate with some chick right in front sex, the connection, and his race-based divinity the boys are concerned. As the dominant, what I cuckolding gets off on his wife having consensual of me (most recently, he had 30 consecutive don't compensate for the flirting, end this relation say goes, no questions asked (he has agreed to sexwith other adult men, not his children-, a drunk-posts on Facebook with some 19-year-old ship. If they do, HIO, stay with him - but only if you this in a recent IM), but I think we need to find a woman into cuckolding gets off on "cheating" on he met through his roommate), and I will get can stop policing his interactions with other balance. her husband with other adult men, not her minor pissed and hurt. I approach him calmly and say women and stop bitching about the flirting to him, I'm interested in your thoughts on all of this. stepchildren. that it feels disrespectful and I hope that one to your friends, and to me. Thank you. day we will come to an agreement on this issue. Once again forthe record-. I don't think this guy is He swears that it is all in my head and that I Find the Savage Lovecast (my weekly podcast) every Tues for real or that these kids exist. I think some creepy work myself up over nothing. 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Pulling the Trigger on tally change Ohio and end discrimi United States Census Bureau. Ear nation against the LGBT commu lier this year, the Williams Institute LGBT Equality nity. released an important study on poverty in the LGBT community. If you are gay or transgender in Sincerely, They found that poverty among les Ohio, do not expect discrimination bians and bisexual women ex to end any time soon. In September, Shirley A. Smith ceeded that of heterosexual women; the Ohio House of Representatives State Senator, 21st District and poverty among gay men was passed HB176, a bipartisan bill to equal to that of heterosexual men. end discrimination based on sexual For gay, lesbian, bisexual and trans orientation or gender identity in LGBT Americans Need gender Americans, the inability to housing, public accommodations, Health Care Reform, Too afford quality health insurance is as and employment. The Senate Presi real as it is for others throughout dent has publicly stated that he Opponents of real competition and our country. thinks this bill is unnecessary, but consumer choice in our health care he agreed to let the bill have one or system have pulled out all the stops No one, gay or straight, will be two hearings in committee. Ihose in their quest to scare Americans "forced by federal mandate into perfunctory hearings could mean into opposing much needed refoims government run health care." Giv little for several reasons. now before Congress. The latest in ing Americans the choteoi a pub the stream of myths came in a re lic option will mean that every First, my Cleveland colleague Dale cent column in which a Republican American, regardless of age, gen Miller introduced legislation identi activist asserted that gay and les der, race, or sexual orientation will cal to HB 176 in the last General bian Americans would be hurt if have access to affordable, quality, Assembly. He was allowed to give they had a choice of a public option health care coverage. sponsor testimony on his bill, and it in their health coverage. Nothing generated plenty of debate in com could be further from the truth. Those who are among the tens of mittee. millions of Americans who lack any Here a re the facts. Currently, some health insurance, or who can only As anyone who knows the political 9,390 U.S. employers, employing afford inadequate coverage, will, process will tell you, when a contro more than 25% of Americans, offer with real reform, finally have mean versial bill is opposed by the major domestic partner health benefits. ingful coverage and real choice in ity parly and given an obligatory Under Amerta's Affordable Health their health insurance. hearing, it is clear that the majority Choices Act all Americans who leadership pulled the trigger in pri have employer-provided health in In addition to greater coverage and vate. As planned, the bill died in surance, including those in the affordability provisions, there is new committee. LGBT community with domestic emphasis in this legislation on partner benefits, will continue to studying, understanding, and com Second, the Senate Republican have the choice of participating in bating disparities in health care ac Caucus remains as conservative as those programs. The reforms now cess and outcomes that will also it was last year. Though a few Sen proposed will not in any way deny benefit LGBT individuals. ate Republicans might be inclined domestic partners the option ol par to vote in favor of HB 176, the Sen ticipating in their partners current After six decades of debate, our na ate leadership's aversion to allowing employer provided health care cov tion is now presented with the op a vote on this bill prevents any Re erage. portunity to address our nations publican from doing the right thing. growing health care crisis. Those Nearly three quarters of LGBT Amer whose vision includes choice in Third, our caucus is comprised of icans do not have domestic partner health care coverage will make it a twelve members, while the Republi health coverage, however. Both reality. Sadly, until now, opponents cans numbertwenty-one. That two- public and private sector efforts are have only resorted to propagating to-one advantage means that they underway to expand domestic part myths and spreading false informa can force or ignore any piece of leg ner benefits coverage. In fact, we tion with the goal of hidingthe truth islation that their leadership wants. sponsor legislation that would ex behind a GOP banner emblazoned tend such benefits to federal em with the words, "Just say no." All These are the mighty challenges ployees, and hope that the author of Americans, including LGBT Ameri that HB 176 has to overcome. But, the above-referenced column and cans, deserve better. this is a battle worth fighting and his Republican organization will winning. supportoureffort to bring our gov Sincerely, ernment up to the standards estab I urge you to call the Senate Presi lished by the majority of Fortune Representatives Tammy Bald dents office and, on behalf of all 500 companies. As of this writing, win (D-WI) and Jared Polis (D- Ohio, insist that HB 176 get a vote only one Republican has joined the CO) Co-Chairs (with Rep. in committee. If it is shot down, it 118 Democrats who co-sponsor this Frank) of the Congressional will be shot down in public. If it sur legislation. LGBT Equality Caucus vives, it can move to the Senate floor. Only there will every state sen In 2008,13.2% of Americans were Originally printed in The Hill news ator have the chance to fundamen officially counted as poor by the paper on Sept. 30. 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In addition, HUD announced that Senate Vote For Federal Hate based organizations understand the unique the Department will conduct the first-ever na Crimes Protections President Obama toAppoin t needs and concerns of older LGBT individuals tionwide survey of discrimination based on sexual and assistthem in implementing programs for orientation and gender identity in housing Openly Gay US Ambassador On October 22, the Senate voted (68-29) to pass local service providers, including providing help the conference report for the FY 2010 Department to New Zealand and Samoa to LGBT caregivers who are providing care for an As part of its Blueprint for Positive Change, HRC of Defense Authorization bill, which included the older partner with health or other challenges. submitted more than 70 recommendations for David Huebner has been selected as the U.S. am Matthew Shepard Hate Crimes Prevention Act. executive action which would improve the lives of The Act gives the Department of Justice (DOJ) the bassador to New Zealand and Samoa. Huebner, The Administration on Aging will award a single LGBT Americans to the Obama-Biden Presiden who is the head of the China Practice and the In powerto investigat e and prosecute bias-moti Resource Center grant at approximately tial Transition Team. Since the administration vated violence by providing the DOJ with jurisdic ternational Disputes Practice of Sheppard Mullin $250,000 per year, pending availability of funds. began, HRC staff have met and communicated Richter & Hampton LLP, is also a founding board tion over crimes of violence where the perpetrator Eligible entities will include public-private non with numerous federal agencies on how to imple- hasselected the victim because of the person's member and former board co-chairfor the Gay & profit organizations with experience working on mentthese policies. The three policy changes Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD). actual or perceived race, color, religion, national LGBT issues on a national level. The funding an proposed by today were part of HRC's recommen origin, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity nouncement for the Resource Center will be dations for HUD. or disability. The Senate vote comes after House "As the American people have learned from my made available on the following website very passage (281-146) on October 8,2009. Recent experience, sexual orientation has nothing to do soon:http:/Avww.aoa.gov/AoARoot/Grants/Fund- Ryan "White HIV/AIDS polls show that majorities of every major sub with ones ability to represent our country abroad ing/index.aspx Treatment Extension Act group of the electorate support strengthening in the foreign service," said Jim Hormel, the first hate crimes laws to include sexual orientation openly gay U.S. Ambassador appointed to Luxem Passes House -with HRC Applauds Pro-LGBT and gender identity. More than 280 law enforce bourg by President Bill Clinton and a founder of Significant GOP Support Efforts by HUD ment, civil rights, civic and religious organiza the Human Rights Campaign. "I am pleased that tions support the Act. President Obama has chosen David Huebner who On Wednesday, October 21,2009, the House of will serve as an excellent ambassador to New On October 21, Shaun Donovan, Secretary of Representatives voted to pass the Ryan White Zealand and Samoa." Housing and Urban Development (HUD) an HIV/AIDS Treatment Extension Act 408 to 9. "Safetyat home, atwork, and in our communities nounced a series of proposed regulatory changes is a cornerstone of happy, healthy families"said Huebner, who is openly gay, is former Chairman that would include lesbian, gay, bisexual and "Having watched this disease afflict so many in Jennifer Chrisler, Executive Director, Family Equal of Coudert Brothers LP. A native of Pennsylvania, transgender (LGBT) families and prohibit dis my generation and still continue to affect so ity Council. "LGBT families live in 99% of coun Huebner is a summa cum laude graduate of crimination based on sexual orientation and gen many today, I am proud of each and every legis- ties nationwide. We are neighbors, friends, loved Princeton University, where he majored at the der identity in HUD programs, as well as the lator who votedto continue the critical support ones, family members, workers and community Woodrow Wilson School of Public and Interna first-ever nationwide survey of housing discrimi the Ryan White Care Program provides," com members. Many of us are also parents who want tional Affairs. He is also a graduate of Yale Law nation against LGBT people. ments Log Cabin Republicans National Chair more than anything to keep our children safe and School. man, Terry W Hamilton. "This legislation will to raise them in a world that finds strength in dif "Today, the Department of Housing and Urban enhance the efforts and programs of many pri ference and celebrates diversity. Bias-motivated HHS toCreat e a National Development announced an unprecedented set of vate & non-profit organizations already in place violence against any individual hurts our entire Resource Center for Gay initiatives that will protect LGBT people and our across the USA, making our nation's response to community. The protections and resources moved families in one of the most fundamental aspects HIV/AIDS much more effective." forwa rd by Congress will ensure greater safety Lesbian, Bisexual and of life-finding and keeping a home," said notjust for LGBT people as individuals, but as pa rents and caregivers." Transgender Elders Human Rights Campaign President Joe Sol- Log Cabin Republicans national spokesperson monese. "The policies proposed today will help Charles T Mora n comments: "This legislation is HHS Secretary Kathleen Sebelius today an some of the most vulnerable people in our com critical to maintaining the health of our nation. Religious Institute nounced plans to establish the nation's first na munity and the nationwide survey will finally We are heartened to see that an overwhelming Announces New Online tional resource center to assist communities shed light on the discrimination LGBT people face majority of Republicans -162 members, includ Guide To Promote LGBT across the country in their efforts to provide serv every day in trying to make homes for themselves ing the GOP leadership - supported the Ryan Inclusion In Faith ices and supports for older lesbian, gay, bisexual and their families. We thank Secretary Donovan White extension, rejecting the extreme rights Communities and transgender (LGBT) individuals. and President Obama for taking this historic step misguided and misinformed charges otherwise. forward." Conservatives recognized that in support of this Experts estimate that as many as 1.5 to 4 million legislation three important pieces of the Ryan The Religious Institute, a nonprofit, multifaith or LGBT individuals are age 60 and older. Agencies AccoirJing to today'sannouncement HUD will White Extension include education, prevention ganization dedicatedto advocating for sexual that provide services to older individuals may be submit a proposed rule that makes three impor and data reporting - all critical components that health, education and justice in faith communi unfamiliar or uncomfortable with the needs of tant changesto federa l regulations. First, it in prevent the spread of HIV/AIDS to begin with." ties and society, is launching Acting Out Loud. this group of individuals. The new Resource Cen cludes language that ensures same-sex couples ter for LGBT Elders will provide information, as and their children are recognized as families cov The original "Ryan White Comprehensive AIDS Acting Out Loudh an online guide for religious sistance and resources for both LGBT ered by HUD programs, including affordable Resources Emergency Act" was first enacted in leaders who want to take the next step towa rd organizations and mainstream aging services housing assistance. Second it requires organiza August 1990 by the US Congress and is the full inclusion of LGBT persons and theirfamilies providers at the state and community levelto as tions that administer HUD grants to abide by United States' largest federally funded program in congregational life. A multifaith resource, Act sist them in the development and provision of state and local laws that prohibit discrimination for people living with HIV/AIDS. The Ryan White ing Out Loud offers resources and tools applica culturally sensitive supports and services. The based on sexual orientation and gender identity. Care Act funds programsto improv e availability ble across a range of Christian, Jewish and LGBT Center will also be available to educate the Third it prohibits consideration of factors other of care for low-income, uninsured and under-in Unitarian Universalist traditions. LGBT community about the importance of plan than creditworthiness, including sexual orienta sured victims of AIDS and theirfamilies. The leg ning ahead for future long term care needs. tion and gender identity, in the awarding of mort islation has been reauthorized in 1996,2000 and The guide is available at www.actingout- gage loans insured by the Federal Housing 2006. loudguide.org. outloo kro hi iubus.ro in Ok, so 1 know that October is GLBT History month...but man did you read aU the history that was made this in October? The 21 & 22 were crazy! nov2009