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· ·~S30ZNe'l(.Ut;e(btJvtnue · /~~pkl{nil*YllZlg;; · ·· . · ~ 111iin~71s~41~2i,sof. · ~}',; nniversaries are ripe with mean their loss once again, and draw lessons, ing and charged vvith emotion and find inspiration and instruction, Aal resonance- V\'ith joy or sorrow, from each person's contributions and with hope or sense of loss, depending II achieven1ents. Even as the wounds are on the event they n1ark. A prime exan1- open afresh, there is a concomitant heal ple is September 11, the day that in a n event of such ing and a growth of sorts, as well. matter of ninety n1inutes the Twin To\v In the case of the World Trade Cen ers, icon of America's financial preem A magnitude that ter, we cringe in horror at the brutality inence, and a section of the Pentagon of those who perpetrated the atrocity. Building, the nerve-center of America's took place on the At the same time, we beco1ne awe-struck unrivaled military might, came crash eve of Rosh once again at the fullest measure of ing down. With them came the loss of devotion expressed by New York City's our country's sense of invulnerability. Hashana surely fire-fighters, police and rescue person A first Yahrzeit brings the initial year nel, as \vell as countless volunteers - to a close and ends a period of mourn carries a compelling valiant Hatzolah members prominent ing - mourning for loss of innocent among them - who risked all ... and, at lives, mourning for precious brothers message to us as times, gave all - to save others. and sisters who were caught in the infer Jews. As we pause, \Ve also experience a no and left behind bereaved families and profound appreciation for the kinship stricken communities, mourning the we feel with all of our fellow Americans loss of America's imperviousness to - not just for a sense of shared victim physical attack. And then there is the ization, but for all the blessings of liv shock from the loss of a symbol that ing in a country that not only tolerates proclaimed for all the world that even our path of worship and avodas Hashem the sky is no limit to American growth with the essence of the departed. Their (service to G-d), but welcomes its and unchallenged superiority. neshamos are summoned for a review of flourishing. Indeed, we are all in this On a personal level, a Yahrzeit is an the Divine judgment. And the survivors together, and perhaps we can draw a encounter of sorts on a spiritual plane, experience a closeness, as they evaluate straight line between shared blessings
8 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 and shared suffering. As Jews, and as Yes, it is a time to build - in realms timeless hopes into thriving realities - Americans, we were - and are - targets of the spirit. After all, aren't we Jews well especially with the approach of the New of the destructive hatred of those who versed in finding paths through moun Year- our People's sacred mission? Isn't do not see room on this planet for our tains of ashes, and building impressive this a most appropriate time to respond chosen ways of life. edifices on tragedy-scarred terrain? to this call? Isn't translating prophetic visions and N.W. here are a number of lessons that we would do well to review and Treinforce on this Yahrzeitand con tinue to reflect on even after it passes. If, Rav Bulman zt"l Had One indeed, in the wake of September 11, Americans in general and New Yorkers Last Dream in particular have felt a need to devote more time and attention to the spiritu al dimensions of their lives, how inuch more so should we Jews, the People of the Torah, do the same. Suffering a hum bling blow in terms of physical might and material glory can in its way be an impetus for dedicated spiritual growth. Those who mark the passage of time by the civil calendar think in terms of"9/1 l." We Jews live by the rhythms Rav Nachman Bulman zt"l gave all he had to the Jewish people. of the lunar year, and to us, 23 Elul is He gave his time. He gave his health. He gave himself. the Yahrzeit of that cataclysm. An event Even in his passing, he gave. He gave us the tremendous opportunity to of such magnitude that took place complete his last masterpiece: Beis Midrash Nacl1liel the Rav's center during the days of Selichos, on the eve for Torah and Prayer in Neve Ya'akov, Yerushalayim. of Rosh Hashana - and now is being revisited during the same season of Beis Midrash Nachliel is in the midst of a building campaign to erect a permanent house of learning to study and spread the unique Torah introspection - surely carries a com wisdom that the Rav zt"l left behind. pelling message to us as Jews. The call of the hour - and the year, for that mat You, too, can have a portion in Rav Bulman's legacy while creating a ter - issued by political leaders was one vibrant center for Torah and Prayer in Eretz Yisrael. of "Let us continue our lives as usual. To partake in this special project, or for information regarding We will show the enemy that we have dedication opportunities, please contact Rabbi Yehudah Bulman at not surrendered!" It is a call worth lis 972-2-585-9686 or fax: 972-2-585-5778 tening to. Our teachers of Torah, how ever, issued another call, as well, sum moning us to respond to an alarm that echoes the shofar's cry, "Wake up! Wake up from your slumbering!" On this Yahrzeit, we should review the words spoken by Gedolei Yisroel' in the after math of 23 Elul, and follow their direc tives-their remarks, reflections, and rec ommendations - as we prepare to continue to build on the deep impres sion of what is commonly referred to as Ground Zero. You Can Make It A Reality. ·1·w~-~~i~-~-th~- ~~;d-~;: ·r~~ -~-~~-;:;;pi~:-t~-> -~ssays based Tax-deductible checks can be made payable to: on addresses by Rabbi Matisyahu Sa!o1non (the Mashgiach of Bais Medrash Gavoha in Lakewood) Friends of Nachliel Inc. and Rabbi Yaakov Perlow (Novominsker Rebbe 1055 N.E. 174th St. and Rosh Agudas Yisroe{) among others, published N. Miami Beach. FL 33162 in this journal last October and November. U.S. Tax# 22-2418389
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riter, translator, editor, ora ing out and elevating his congregants nity but for Rav Bulman." tor .... Teacher) Rav, Mash along the way. Reb Nachman recognized the need Wgiach.. .. Philosopher, ideo- Other endeavors included involve for a self-contained comn1unity for Eng logue, visionary) innovator.... Friend, ment in teacher training at Torah U1ne lish-speaking olim, to facilitate their mentor, role model, advocate .... Amkan, sorah, founding Yeshiva Derech Ayson adjustment to Bretz Yisroel, with Torah darshan, pashtan, lamdan, Shaliach tzib in Far Rockaway, and the Sarah Schenir based guidance to meet their specific bur, ovcid Hashem. Whoever met Rabbi er High School and Seminary in Born needs. Toward this end, his founded Nachman Bulman ,,,..,., fell under the Park, Brooklyn, which he headed Kiryat Nachliel in Migdal Ha' amek, in spell of his passionate conviction and through the mid-70's. the Lower Galilee, where he led just such dedication, and recognized all of these Of paramount significance to the a kehilla from 1978 until 1993. I-le then facets of his personality. But each per \Vriter of these lines - as well as to the returned to Ohr Somayach. son experienced them in his or her own readers - in 1963, Rabbi Bulman Two years ago, the Bulmans moved specific way. became the founding editor of The Jew to Neve Yaakov, a new shechuna (neigh In the pages that follow, we present ish Observer, was deeply involved in its borhood) in Northern Jerusalem, where several offerings from among the thou design, goals, editorial policy, and served he became a leading force in a rapidly sands of people who were his students, as an active member of its Editorial growing co1nmunity, n1aintaining his his colleagues, his admirers, recording Board for close to two decades. involvement in kiruv and his position in their impressions of Reb Nachman. But In addition, his masterful translations Ohr Somayach. first let us record the facts that form the of Eliyahu Kitov's classic sefarim - Ish Rabbi Bulman passed away on Shab frame of time and place for his activi Ubeiso (A Jew and His Home) and Sefer bos, 26 Tamuz I July 6. His extraordinary ties, his involvements, his achievements, Ha Toda' ah (The Book of Our Heritage) levaya took place at l a.m. on that his persona, his imprint. into articulate English - are now found Motza'ei Shabbos, with thousands filling He was born in Manhattan's Lower and studied in Jewish homes the world the beis midrash, auditoriun1, and sur East Side 77 years ago to his parents - over. rounding streets of Ohr Somayach. Gerrer Chassidim who emigrated from When Rabbi Bulman and his life's The remarkable mix of people who Poland. A musmach of Yeshiva Rabbi partner, Rebbetzin Shaindel Bulman, gathered to mourn his passing - at such Yitzchok Elchonon at age 25, he brought were oleh to Bretz Yisroel in 1975, he an unusual hour! - testified to the broad his unique amalgam of fearlessness devoted his myriad gifts to kiruv, pri range, extensive reach and profound and compassionate dedication to pul marily as Mashgiach of Yeshiva Ohr hold of his efforts to reach out, uplift, pits in a series of American communi Somayach in Jerusalem. In the words of inform and inspire others .... The indi ties, ranging from Danville (Va.) in the Yonoson Rosenblum, noted author, vidual tributes that follow will serve to early I 950's, to South Fallsburg (N.Y.), columnist, and contributing editor to sketch in some of the details of his Newport News (Va.), New York's West The Jewish Observer: "I am one of hun impact on those who were so deeply Bronx, and the Young Israel of Far Rock dreds who would likely never have touched by him. away ('67-'75); leading, inspiring, reach- found his way into the Torah commu- N.W.
10 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 Rabbi Mendel Weinbach
"Father, father, chariot ofIsrael and its horsemen." here were t\VO occasions \Vhen this painful outcry was recorded Tin sacred writings - uttered by someone who mourned the passing of a leader of his generation, expressing a sense of inadequacy to take up the man tle of responsibility bequeathed to him. The first was when the Prophet Elisha saw his master, Eliyahu Hanavi, taken up to heaven in a storm. The sec ond was when Rabbi Akiva encountered the funeral procession of his mentor, Rabbi Eliezer, on its way from Kesari to Lod on a Motza'ei Shabbos. And it has been echoed again and again in similar circumstances. It was on Matza' ei Shabbos, Pars has Mattos-Massei (July 6), that this cry was heard from a huge crowd of talmidim and admirers who gathered at one o'clock in the morning in the Beis Hamidrash of Yeshivas Ohr Somayach in Yerushalayim for the funeral of Rabbi Nachman Bulman ?")lt. The cry of "Father, father" truly expresses the grief felt not only by those Rabbi Bulman at dedication of new Torah scroll, Beis Midrash Nachliel in Neve Yaakov. at the late night funeral but by count less thousands in Bretz Yisroel, the whose lives were transformed by the his talmidim in Ohr Somayach and his United States and throughout the world impact ofReb Nachman's Torah, his per congregants in the co1nmunities in Rabbi Weinbach, Rosh Ha yeshiva of Ohr Son1ay sonality and his love for every Jew. America and Bretz Yisroel whom he ach in Jerusalem, is author of several books on "Father, father," says the Midrash, served as Rav for many decades. He was the teachings of the Chofetz Chaim as well as 127 means "Father and mother." Reb Nach the wise father sharing his wealth of Lessons From Megillas Esther, and Turnabout, man, like Eliyahu Hanavi and Rabbi Torah with his beloved children and based on the Malbim's commentary on Esther (Feldheim). Eliezer, was both father and mother to guiding them with his profound Torah
The Jewish Observer, September 2002 11 hashkafa. But he was also the caring and insight offered by the Iyun Yaakov: compassionate mother to whom men A tzaddik does not leave this and woman of all ages came with their world, say Ghazal ( Yoma 38), until personal problems, and left his presence another tzaddik appears to replace with lighter hearts and clearer minds. him. Why, then) are we so distraught "Chariot of Israel and its horsemen" by the passing of a tzaddik? is explained by Targum Yonasan ben The answer lies in the mourning Uziel as "Your tefillos were 1nore valu we express till this very day for the able to Israel than chariots and riders." destruction of the First Beis Hamid All of these aspects - father, moth kash. Why cry for the destruction of er, and the praying protector ofhis peo that Temple when it was replaced by ple - found such poignant expression a second one? Hashem indeed gave us on that Yorn Kippur eve in Ohr audiences throughout the world. His the opportunity to build that Second Somayach a quarter of a century ago brilliant pen and literary genius Beis Hamikdash, but it lacked five when our beloved Mashgiach, having launched The Jewish Observer, and cre elements that distinguished the first lifted our souls with his Kol Nidrei, ated the English version of the Torah one - there was no aron kodesh with ascended to the Aron Kodesh platform classic Book of Our Heritage. He set a its kapores and keruvim to serve as a to speak words ofchizuk. standard for the rabbinate in America repository for the Luchos Habris "It is traditional," he said to the with his courageous championing of (Tablets of the Law) and Sefer Torah; hundreds oftalmidim, "for parents to daas Torah, and emerged as a fire from heaven in the form of a lion bless their children at the outset ofYom spokesman for genuine Orthodoxy. He did not descend to the altar; the Kippur. Since your parents are not here made his secular knowledge a tool for Shechina, which invested the first to do so, I will act as their shaliach, communicating Torah values to a Mikdash with such sanctity, was miss their proxy." modern generation. ing; the Ruach Hakodesh, which And there he stood in his kittel, with imbued men with prophecy, was not tears in his eyes, reciting the blessing AS SEVERE A LOSS AS THE there; and the Urim v'Tumim, which of the Chaye Adam to his "children," DESTRUCTION OF THE REIS lit up the breastplate of the Kohein who suddenly realized that for them HAMIKDASH Gadol, no longer functioned as the he was a father, a mother and a pro- transmitter of a Divine response for tective shield. The death of a tzaddik, say Chaz- guidance. Reb Nachman was the true ish al, is as severe a blow as the Just as the Second Beis Hamikdash eshkalos ... the man of many diverse ta]- destruction of the Beis Hamik- served as a replacement but was not ents, which he dedicated to avodas dash (Rosh Hashana !Sa). This com- quite the same as the first, so, too, the Hashem. His articulate tongue brought parison, as it relates to the passing of novice leader who replaces the tzad the truth and beauty of the Torah to Reh Nachman, is illuminated by an dik of a previous generation is never quite the same, for each generation II Jewish Roads Lead to New Have is one step further removed from the source. Welcoming Yeshiva Community How can we replace the role of Reb • Appealing Mikvah Nachman as an aron hakodesh who was q • Friendly Shuls such a great repository of Torah, • Kosher Eateries whether in his role as founder of Yeshi • 90 Minutes from New York, va Derech Ayson of Far Rockaway, of a "f "'!' easy access by car, train & bus Tahnud Torah in a remote com1nuni Excellent Chinuch ty in Virginia, or as Mashgiach in Ohr • Yeshiva" Elementary School Somayach? Where will we find that leo • Tuition Bonus Affordable Housing nine fire with which he waged battles • Mesivta • Down Payment Loans against compromise in American Jew • Beautiful Beis Medrash & Grants l9, • ,,. , ish life and which helped win the bat • Kolle! in Formation • Subsidized ...,. ' , tle against a stadinm (planned in 1978 Apartment Rentals ...... , for Shuafat, on the edge of Jerusalem, • Attractive Housing Stock today the location of thriving Ramat Shlomo) that threatened chareidi Yeshiva of New Haven neighborhoods in Yerushalayim? Where 765 Elm St. • New Haven, CT 06511 203·786-3096 will we be able to have that sense of
12 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 Shechina, which one felt listening to his Yosef Chaim Sonnenfeld, and made spiritual wealth of these generations that moving tefillos or his words of private them feel as if they were fighting the he served as a link. The golden chain counsel? Where can we seek that ruach same battles against Reform, Haskala, went back to the Neviim who would hakodesh anticipation of the future secular nationalism and compromise come alive in his incomparable shiurim needs of Torah Jews arriving in Eretz that these giants had waged in their in Chumash and Nach, to the Tannaim Yisroel from the Western world, which countries, and that Reb Nachman had and Amoraim whose superhuman wis made Reb Nachman the father or waged in America. When he explained dom and impeccable character seemed guide of such communities as Betar, the world views of the Chazon !sh, the to jump off the pages of the Gemara or Migdal Ha'emek, Telz Stone, Neve Brisker Rav, Rabbi Aaron Kotler and Midrash he explained. He enabled us to Yaakov and many others? And, finally, Rabbi Elazar Shach, he brought home virtually hear what the Rambam, who will supply us with the unflinch the depth of daas Torah of the previous Chovos Halevavos, Mabit, Mesillas ing, unequivocal responses to queries on generation as it applied to our own. Yesharim, the Vilna Gaon and Reb public and private issues which char But it was not only in regard to the Tzaddok Hakohein had to say about our acterized the Urim VeTumim? These have all been lost with the pass ing of Reb Nachman.
A LINK IN THE GENERATIONAL CHAIN OF MESORAH THEVORT • The menu for the seuda is limited to 3 • The Vort celebration is to be courses followed by a regular dessert. ut there is yet another perspective discontinued. The L'chaim (held at of his passing as comparable to • No Viennese table and no bar. Ch urban Beis Hamikdash. In our the time that the engagement is B THE MUSIC Shemoneh Esrei, we pray for the welfare announced) should also not turn into a of pleitas sofreihem - the remnants of Vo rt. • A band may consist of a maximum of our scholars. This is a reference to those THE WEDDING 5 musicians (one of the musicians may act spiritual giants who serve as a link from as a vocalist) or four musicians and one • Only 400 invited guests may be one generation to another, creating a additional vocalist. seated at the chassuna seuda. golden chain which connects us to the • A one-man band is recommended. Beis Hamikdash and Sinai. When such • The kabbolas panim smorgasbord a generation-bridging figure passes, we should be limited to basic cakes, fruit plat FLOWERS & CHUPA DECOR sense the trauma of that chain being ters, a modest buffet, and the caterer's •The total cost of these items for the entire broken and onr links to the Beis Hamik standard chicken or meat hot dishes. wedding should not exceed $1,800. dash suffering destruction. Reb Nachman served his talmidim FOR THE FULL VERSION OF THE SIMCHA GUIDELINES and all who heard him as a link to AND THE ACCOMPANYING KOL KOREH, another generation, another world. His please email [email protected] or call 212-612-2300 approach to Gemara echoed the derech of the sacred Lithuanian yeshivas, which We the rabbinical signatories - barring familial obligations - and unusual and he had received from his great teachers. extraordinary circumstances- will not participate in or attend a wedding celebration that His stories abont the colorful Chassidim disregards these guidelines. (Rabbinical listing in formation) in the Poilishe Shteibel on the Lower East Rabbi Shmuel Birnbaum Rabbi Eli Simcha Schustal Rabbi Elya Ber Wachtfogel Side of Manhattan, where he grew up, Rmh Ha yeshiva. Mirer Yeshiva Roih Hayeshiva, Bai> 8inyomin, Stamford Ro!h Ha Yeshiva, Yeshiva Gedolah of South Fallsburg introdnced talmidim to a hitherto Rabbi Elya Svei Rabbi Yisroel Rokowsky Roih Haye>ftiva, Yeihiva Gedola of Philadelphia Rabbi Yisroel Simcha Schorr Rabbi Chaim Boruch Wolpin unknown world of Chassidus. He blend Rosh Hayeihiva. Yeshiv.1 Karlin 5to!in Rabbi Shmuel Kaminetzky Ro>hei Ha Yeshiva, Yeshiva Ohr Somayach ed the wisdom of the Chassidic writings Rosh Hayeshiva. Yeshiva Gedo/a of Philadelphia Rabbi Aryeh Malkiel Kotler Rabbi Zecharia Gelley with that of the masters of Mussar, Rav, Kha! Adas Je>hurun Rabbi Vaakov Perlow Roih Hayeihiva, Beth Medmh Govoha, Lakewood inspiring his listeners to strive for the No'IOm1nike1 Rebbe Rabbi Yisroel Tzvi Neuman Rabbi Lipa Margulies moral perfection of past generations. Rabbi Yosef Yitzchak Feigel stock Rosh Ha yeshiva. Beth Medrash Govoha, Lakewood Rosh Hayeshiva, Yeshiva & Mesifta Torah Temimah Rosh Hayesiliva, Yeshiva of long Beach When he taught the talmidim in our Ohr Rabbi Dovid Tzvi Schustal Rabbi Dovid Kviat Rabbi Moshe Wolfson Chairman, Conference of Synagogue Rabbonim Rosh Hayeshivo, Beth Medraih Govoh
The Jewish Observer, September 2002 13 own lives and aspirations. And when he every experience to harbotzas Torah HELP FOR PARENTS OF spoke with such pathos about Jews who (Torah dissemination) and avodas TEENS IN CONFLICT chose to be burned at the stake rather Hashem (service of G-d). To strive than embrace the cross, our eyes welled constantly to reach higher goals and to up with tears as if we \Vere ourselves wit set higher standards for our own nesses to their heroic martyrdom al Kid talmidim. dush Hashem. Most of all, he taught an entire world TEL: 718-758-0400 He had a brilliant historical per the meaning of mesiras nefesh. An intel CONFIDENTIAL 10 AM- 10 PM spective of every n1ovement in the lectual giant who would have been lion Jewish world and every segment. He ized in the secular world chose instead /SUPPORT GROUPS /REFERRALS taught us to understand the ideology of to serve in far-flung rabbinical positions, /HOTLINE each, to criticize when necessary, but to to deal with youngsters as one of the do so out of compassion and love for a founding fathers of NCSY, and to ded fellow Jew. icate so many years to helping alienat ed Jews find their way back to their HIS LEGACY Torah and their people. His remarkable Rebbetzin and outstanding children b Nachman's passing indeed earned a significant share in his self-sac eaves us an orphaned generation, rifice for having made it possible for Reb Rrike the children who have lost Nachman to achieve so much in his life their father who connected them to the time. Their example of mesiras nefesh glorious past. For half a century, he will serve as a standard that all of us will taught Torah and Torah values to so strive to live up to. While we may feel 1537 50th Street, many talmidim and congregants. But he inadequate to fill his giant footprints, Brooklyn, NY 11219 also taught those of us who were priv whatever we succeed in achieving will ileged to work with him some power be to his credit and shall serve as a liv (718) 854-2911 ful lessons: To dedicate every talent and ing monu1nent to his memory. • Two indispensiible guide$ for a more mea.ningfgl J ish life ... Modesty: An Adornment For Life Halachos and Attitudes concerning Tzni~s of dress and conduct
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14 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 Rabbi Hillel Goldberg
at helped sustain Torah ~:n tions 'tif"cities across four conti Hcaptivating voice, his soft whis and frustration. Things cannot be put nents. Rabbi Bulman translated Eliyahu pers, his smooth, ceaseless unraveling of right just because the right is seen and Kitov's classic works, setting a standard the most complex Torah texts, his ges the solution is conceivable. for accuracy and elegance, and led the tures, his hammering the table, his sub Ah! The scope of his "shortfall." prayers for Rosh Hashana and Yorn Kip tlest nod - and my tears - stand before Rabbi Bulman revolutionized families, pur, setting a standard for en1otion and me, alive, burning, pulsating. Never seekers, simple people, sophisticated inspiration. Rabbi Bulman coerced, by before has the saying of Chazal, "The unrelenting force of intellect and emo righteous, in their deaths, are called tion, countless people to see beyond their alive," been so alive. Hundreds of con • limited vision. His vision, he did not fully versations, lectures, dynan1ic inter abbi Bulman never realize; others' vision, he nurtured, changes with others in my Rwrote his overarching, expanded, deepened, layered - individ presence ... they condense, distill, and ually, literarily, institutionally. proclaim: unfinished symphony. discursive masterpiece Sympathetic observers commented of Jewish thought. He ho mourned his passing? over the years: Notwithstanding the obvi never wrote it: on paper. Lithuanian roshei yeshiva, ous- Rabbi Nachman Bulman's extraor W Chassidic rebbes, modern dinary talents, stature, deeds - he was not He wrote it on the Orthodox neighbors, ex-hippie types, always justly recognized for his gifts. His human heart. chareidim, non-religious Jews, scholars, vision of the depths of the Torah, of the despairing divorcees whose get - after integrity of the Torah community, of the countless previous failures-he had suc connection with the giants in the Torah cessfully secured, penniless orphans past, was too fertile to be fully appreci people. His stopping• points were official whose shidduchim he had made, and the ated. His insight was so sharp, so cutting, positions in official institutions, but no families of people who died premature as to recall the Prophets of old. Did Jere less in chance encounters, on countless ly, whom he had counseled: the list, in all miah realize his vision of a repentant travels, and over Shabbos meals. its variety, is not the final point. Rabbi Bul Jewish people? Rabbi Bulman saw Rabbi Bulman built institutions. He man never wrote his overarching, dis through things, within individual lives had a major hand in founding one cursive masterpiece of Jewish thought, and within the community. With his kehilla, two girls' seminaries, one yeshi integrating Mussar, Chassidus, philosophy Rabbi Hillel Goldberg is executive editor of Den va, one synagogue, The Jewish Observ and Midrash. He never wrote it: on paper. ver's Intermountain Jewish News and active in a er, all of which continue to this day. He wrote it on the human heart. People wide variety of outreach efforts, including the Rabbi Bulman delivered masterful lec connected to him, not as they might con 1nikveh team of10rah Community Project. A fre tures in yeshivos and seminaries, and nect vicariously to a public figure, or pro quent contributor to these pages, he was repre sented by "Is Reform Jewry Coming Home?" in mesmerizing orations at conventions. fessionally to a counselor, or pedagogically the June '99 JO. Quietly, behind the scenes, he delivered to a learned rabbi, or lovingly to a fam-
----""___ _ The Jewish Observer, September 2002 15 ily patriarch, though he was a public fig - unfolded which such ease, passion, and AREIVIM ure, counselor, rabbi, and patriarch. prec1s1on. They connected to him because he did not HOTLINE stand apart. For all his presence and ho is the paradigm? The Baal charisma, he was, like he once said of the Shem Tov, who transformed From crisis to control. great Polish ta/mid chacham Rav Men W individuals in spiritually Helping our boys and girls achem Ziemba, a simple Jew, accessible, charged encounters? It fits: Anyone direct. Who mourned his passing? Sure ever buttonholed by Rabbi Bulman Parents: 1-866-6AREIVIM ly not least, his students and disciples. knows the transforming emotion, pun Teens: 1-866-0URGUYS Riveting, humbling: the way he gency and kedusha of his teaching. Rabbi Email: [email protected] unfolded a text of Torah, even so much Israel Salanter, who gave visibility to the Alf calls are confidential. as a single line or phrase, unveiling oth Torah's stress on character? It fits: Rabbi erwise unseen layers, nuances, made so Buln1an's visceral recoil at lapses in i':>r.i•';>ii 'lX f.111'¥ ll ~·y';> ample, so striking, under his probing eye integrity was part of his essence. Rabbi Samson R. Hirsch, who wove tapestries of thought, and who rejected any tac tical compromise with non-Orthodox Judaism and secular Zionism - and some of whose descendants settled in Israel? It fits in every particular. Rabbi After the turbulence experienced this past year, one cannot help but Bulman would cringe at being includ connote this word with dying for a noble cause. Wouldn't it be refreshing to ed in this esteemed company, but he know that one could be ahero and stay very much alive?? embodied all of their legacies - but they Allow us, please, to introduce you to one such living hero. He is a are not his n1odel. American born, sub Romanian Jew who immigrated to Israel not too long ago with his large ject to realities they never knew, Rabbi Buln1an was his own paradig1n) refract family. What makes him so unusual is the degree of his religious observance ing his multifaceted inheritance through at the time of his immigration. Because despite the many decades of life his own lens. under a harsh, Communist regime - this Jew and his family remained deeply An eloquent expositor of all threads religious!!. Furthermore, the level of learning he attained during those difficult of Torah thought, Rabbi Bulman was years, now places him on equal rank with serious scholars, born and bred in shaped by the severity of his father, the the free world. Gerrer remnants of his childhood, the lomdus of Rabbi Joseph B. Soloveitchik, the person of Rabbi Yitzchak Hutner, the ideology of Agu das Yisroel, the thirst for Torah evinced by ba'alei teshuva, and the breakdown of the Jewish family. He was both tel escope and microscope) reflector of vast knowledge) and acute focus on Dear Friend, we now have the possibility to show our support and individual quest. encouragement to a living hero. Let us applaud him for his courage and The wonder is not that Rabbi Bulman tenacity. Allow him to reap the rewards after years of much sacrifice. left much undone. The wonder is the Forward your contribution and let him unencumberedly witness his next way he improved on the saying of the generation tread the path he so valiantly forged for them. Lomzer Yeshiva's Mashgiach, Rabbi Moshe Rosenstein: "It takes five hours Forthis good deed, may you, too, meritthe same. of thinking to achieve five minutes of pure thought:' In Rabbi Bulman's case, 1 1f0> 11" 1l~nCJ?1l:J;.e -;.r,1 :;J' every word and gesture seemed to be a Rabbi Yaakov Perlow Rabbi Yisroel Yaakov Fischer Rabbi Nissim Karelitz pure thought. A concentrated essence. His symphony, if unfinished, was both a kaleidoscope and an unflagging thirst Please make your tax-deductible contribution payable to: for the absolute simplicity of the most Relief Fund and send to: Rabbi Shmuel Dishon, concentrated essence of all, the oneness 1682-48'" Street, Brooklyn, NY 11204 of Hakadosh Baruch Hu. •
16 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 Rabbi Leonard Oppenheimer
Rabbi Bulman, ?":::lt
rying to write an appreciation of ed in the traditional yeshiva - the study ular world. In Rabbi Bulman I found Rabbi Bulman is an impossible of Tanach, machshava, Chassidus, and a throwback to an earlier time; a per Ttask. He, as a master of Tanach, what might be generally termed as son who was so deeply steeped in would be the first to point out the great Chovos Halevavos- the study of what Torah and Jewish history that one danger that inheres in not properly Hashem wants of an intelligent, search assumed that he had grown up in eulogizing a great person. Nevertheless, ing person contending with a compli Europe, while at the very same time one must try to do what one can to cated world. Equally expert in the writ being a totally modern person, inter capture the essence of a man who ings of the Maharal, Rabbi Kook, ested in and conversant with all the was beyond definitions, labels, and sifrei Chassidus, Rabbi Hirsch, the great societal issues of the day. For categorization. great works of Mussar, as well as much myself, and many others, Rabbi Bul Perhaps the best way to begin is to of the great wisdom of the secular man was the pillar we could rely repeat his self-introduction, speaking world, Rabbi Bulman could reliably be upon - knowing that if we looked and at Kha! Adath Jeshurun in Washington turned to for guidance for those who explored and delved with integrity and Heights. "Isn't it ironic that I, a descen searched for deep and powerful insight honesty into sources of Chazal, if we dant of Polish Jews, who grew up in the into the "spiritual" side of the Torah. understood the great issues of the day Gerrer shteibel and was educated by Never one to settle for pat, easy in the proper historical context under Lithuanian Roshei Yeshiva in Yeshivas answers, he probed and pushed him lying the positions taken, we would Rabbi Yitzchok Elchonon, should be self and others to get at the real tread a path to find Hashem despite all here lecturing to the German Jewish meaning hidden behind the deceptively obstacles. community about Rav Hirsch?" For simple Midrashirn and Aggados that is who Rabbi Bulman was - an through which Chazal strove to teach HIS EXTRAORDINARY HEART amalgam of many Mesoras and tradi us a Derech Hachayirn, a way of life. tions, all synthesized into a unique and Typical of many of his talmidim, I lthough Rabbi Bulman had an special whole. found my way to his sphere of influ insatiable intellectual curiosi Others are great lamdanim, or ence while a bachur in one of the great A ty, his most outstanding feature poskim, or beki'im b'Shas. Although yeshivas in Yerushalayim, gaining was his extraordinary heart - a heart Rabbi Bulman was certainly a master much from the derech halirnud and the that truly sought Truth and kirvas of these traditional areas of Torah, his lorndus that was offered there. Mussar Elokirn (closeness to G-d) while feel uniqueness lay in those miktza'os and !otndus were essential, but I was ing the joys and sorrows of all Jews. haTorah which are relatively neglect also searching for deep answers to Until his great heart finally gave after Rabbi Oppenheimer, Rav of Congregation Kess questions of hashkafa and the appar years of over-use, that heart was con er Israel in Portland, Oregon, wrote" Kiruv? I'm ent conflicts r felt between the wisdom stantly in evidence; softly talking to a Just a 'Regular Jew'!" featured in JO, lvlay '00. of Torah and what I knew of the sec- fellow Jew in distress, crying out
The Jewish Observer, September 2002 17 emotionally while delivering a shiur a man who looked beyond the exter SUBLIME TRADEOFFS of brilliant eloquence, delighting in nal trappings to the person inside. And the latest wisdom of a neighborhood if that person was genuinely seeking hat heart also often led him to child, shouting in protest at an affront kirvas Elokim - that person was wel leave his beloved sefarim and to Torah, sharing the latest niggun that come in the eclectic circle of Rabbi Bul T become an activist when there he had composed, bringing his audi man's talmidim. They all found in him was a need to be filled. He started many ence to tears with his reliving of a a breath of fresh air - a person with mosdos Hatorah in the cities that he long-ago historical event, serving as who1n one could speak one's mind and served in as Rav and where he sent his a wonderful and passionate shaliach truly discuss issues of importance in children for chinuch. Seeing the need tzibburin fervent davening, or lovingly the lives of individuals and the klal. He for an eloquent voice to express the sharing the mundane concerns of his constantly challenged the veracity of opinions of Orthodoxy, he became the family and talmidim - Rav Bulman's one's thinking. This writer often felt the founding editor of The Jewish Observ heart was always apparent in all that roar of the Rav's heart, racing to er. Ultimately, his heart led him to leave he did. refute an idea that he felt was false or a brilliant career in the United States, That very same heart often led dangerous. But those conversations for his heart was overflowing with Rabbi Bulman to be an address for and shiurim became the bedrock of ahavas Bretz Yisroel. He never tired of people across all lines and affiliations. formulating a proper Torah hashkafa, encouraging Jews to come and settle Whether Chassidic or Litvish, informed by the breadth of learning the Land, and to imbibe of its special Mizrachi or Chareidi, American or and perspective that Rabbi Bulman kedusha. While a fierce opponent of Israeli - they found in Rabbi Bulman could uniquely provide. political Zionism, he bemoaned the tendency of many in our com1nunity to throw out the proverbial baby with the bathwater, and to ignore the great opportunity that Hashem has given us
in our time to come to Bretz Yisroe/ 1 despite the many problems that exist Personal responsibility throughout service - NOT JUST "PAPERWORK" there. ORIGINATOR OF THE PRESENT RABBINICALLY APPROVED METHOD As a great admirer of Dr. Yitzchak Highly recommended by Gedolai Hador- Here and in Erctz Yisracl Breuer's ?"r vision of a Torah con1n1u 104J-42nd Street, Brooklyn, NY 11219 nity in Bretz Yisroel, he heroically left Day & N.gh.t phone: (718) 851-8925 a prestigious position in Yerushalayim later in life to found Kiryat Nachliel in )))t1'0N1~1:lNj7 ))l"j7 - )'1~ 1Nl T111:l:i)) '1l~ Kavod Haniftar with Mesiras Nefesh and compassion for the bereaved family. Migdal HaEmek, despite enormous TAHARAS HANIFTAR SHOULD NEVER BE COMMERCIALIZED obstacles. For years, he struggled to maintain this community, until his heart no longer was strong enough to YOUR CAR IN ISRAEL FROM- do the constant fund-raising that was *US$ required. I will never forget when he .90 p~:AY returned from an extended trip to 15 America, and told us of the time that the Ponovezher Rav had come back TYPE OF CAR PER WEEK $ from an exhausting fund-raising trip A FIAT PUNTO l DR 112 B FIAT PUNTO S DR 126 and told his talmidim, "I gave Kial Yis roel the greatest gift I could possible FREE* c FORD FIESTA 147 Cl PEUGEOT306 182 give. I gave them the gadol I could have MT MINIBUS I 0 SEATS 518 become had I stayed behind in the beis SHABBAT D OPEL CORSA 189 hamidrash rather than becoming a "' Minimum l days rental, exc.ins. E DAEWOO LANOS 217 fund-raiser." Rabbi Bulman felt this subject to offer regulations. F SUZUKI BALENO 1.6 245 pain deeply, but did not let it stop him U.S.A New-York XL PEUGEOT 406 2.0 357 from helping the klal. 1-800-938-5000 212-629-6090 vx VOLVOS-70 630 Chaval al d'avdin vela mishtakchin. www.eldan.co.il EX MERCEDES E240 770 Woe to us when we lose such a person KX MAZDA MPV 651 for whon1 there is no replacement. May * unlimited mileage, exc. ins. his memory be a zechus for the fami *Valid low season only ly and Kial Yisroel. •
18 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 Rabbi Zev Kahn
A TALMID REMEMBERS TO LIVE THE TORAH LIFE OF WHICH HE SPOKE
remember the first time I heard dent, maybe a little put off by the envi Rabbi Bulman speak. I had only ronment, got up and walked out, as he I been learning at Ohr Somayach for ~llUNAL CON might have in a regular class in college. a few months. An older student who Rabbi Bulman paused for a few sec knew Rabbi Bulman from his first onds and then slammed his fist on the tenure at Ohr Somayach, before he table and boomed out: "I reject that! moved to Migdal HaEmek, told me not The Torah needs to be respected." No to miss it. Perhaps he sensed that I one n1urmured or moved. He did not would relate to his passion. I ren1ember look for honor, but he demanded it for this stockily built man, with a handsome the Torah. grey beard, standing at the bima. I strained to catch his opening words. And e loved his talmidim. Each one then all of a sudden, a booming voice was so precious to him. He rang out. Tears were flowing down his H knew where we were coming face. I sat there stunned, mesmerized, from. And he had a vision of where we soaring. were going. Clearer than our own And so it was every single time I vision. And that is why we always sought heard Rabbi Bulman speak. His shi him out for advice. And it sounded so urim on tefilla, on the chagim, his Shab right when he told us. He was a beacon bos night drashos in a packed beis for us who had left our moorings and midrash. My heart sang when I heard were seeking direction. him speak. My neshama was on fire He was a dreamer. He had a vision and I knew that his Torah was my of the Jewish world that was so appeal Torah. He would often start slowly, ing to us. It may not have been realis translating a few phrases of a photo tic. But we baa[ teshuvas are dreamers, copied sheet he had passed out, in his too. We had given up a world which had beautiful Rabbi Bulman way. Mesillas by, or someone who had called him no answers, only cynical questions. We Yesharim, Megillas Esther, the Yorn Kip yesterday in dire circumstances. Then too dreamed of changing the world, of pur davening. Then midway, we would he'd relate it to the events of the day, spending our lives immersed in Torah suddenly be launched out of our tiny to us and our lives, and to the lives of and living life to the fullest. We related shiur-room, to another world. There'd Jews in Israel and the diaspora. I'd sit to his dream. be stories of his days as a young rabbi there, not wanting the shiur to end. Nor I was college-educated; Rabbi Bul in Danville, or of rabbis in an age gone did he. man's eloquence was so thrilling Rabbi Kahn is the Associate Director of Outreach If a student would arrive late at a because it showed us that the Torah did at the Chicago Co1nmunity Kolle!. He was a stu shiur, he would interrupt to point out not have to be compromised intellec dent at Yeshiva Ohr Somayach in Yerushalayim an open chair. He would wait until tually. Orthodox Judaism's positions on for six years, graduating from the Ohr Lagolah progra1n, which trains young rabbis to work in everyone was comfortable. But one difficult issues like chosenness, women's outreach in the Diaspora. time, in a beginners' shiur, some stu- rights, democracy they were master-
The Jewish Observer, September 2002 19 Torah sage. He was the only person I knew who could break out into a niggun in the mid dle of his shiur to make his point. And then the tears would flow as we sat there watching a man from another world, bringing his world to ours. He was a link for so many of us to a world we never knew existed until \Ve walked through the doors of Ohr Somay ach. He was our bridge not only to the yeshiva world of Eastern Europe but to the talmidei chachamim and simple Jews who had once inhabited it. His words resonated with me. I want Rabbi Bulman with ri")J.' Rabbi A1endel \Veinbach ed to live the Torah life that he spoke of. pieces in his hands. Even if we couldn't was already shomer Shabbos when I That he dreamed of. I knew it was impos articulate them the way he did, we arrived at Ohr Somayach, but living sible to live with the passion he did. He walked upright and proud with the I in Eretz Yisroel, he taught me to live was so much larger than life. And he had knowledge that yes, the Torah will and breathe the Torah of Eretz Yisroel. lived in an age that we could only imag stand up for its position unashamedly. Every parsha was a secret door waiting ine. But a little of what he lived for, He opened my heart and mind to the to be opened to a new way of under remains in my heart. And will always Chumash, making the Torah alive and standing the world, especially the tumul remain. I will do all I can to pass on that real for me. I would walk out of Rabbi tuous events of the mid 1990s. The Oslo passion, that love of Torah, Eretz Yisroel Bulman's shiur with such a profound accords, the Rabin assassination, the bus and Kial Yisroel to my children and my sense of admiration for the com1nen bombings - I saw all these events students. For you, Rabbi Bulman, I will. tators on the Torah. through his eyes, with the clarity of a For you. •
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20 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 The childreh came jOYOiiS. 'artoiabte ar:h~of c~~ t~~~ about to commence and I was holidays and we had to face th~ started .clamortng: «MommY,,. feeling anything but joyft.tt I · · f when wilt yl>U buy the head of a was afready deeply In debt agony of deciding whlch pne 0 fish?~ twas at a loss rorwcrds. from the many medJcaf ourthlldrenwou!dmeritthejoy How could t explain to them experi:ses that r had over the of a new pair of shoes. All of that t eould Mt face the <1ngry paSf year. Tu start borrowlnq ;their footwear were fn terrible , ~ey1!$ °'.·the fish merdt::m.t, to t b b · y; i; i whom we owed riend; !l"'OW.n ;,;:re 't"'O!l Rosh Hashana. The New Year. A Yorn Tov when we dine at a table laden with symbolic food. We plead for a year of blessed bounty and easy livelihood. A year that will allow us to partake of just the kinds of delicious food simmering right now on the stove. A year in which we can afford to clad our children in precisely the kind of beautiful apparel they wear atthe present moment. Rosh Hashana. Can we imagine the scenario otherwise? Sadly, the answer could be yes. Somewhere on the next street or in the adjacent building, there is another family who will soon be sitting down to their Yorn Tov meal. But at their table, their hopes will not be symbolized with the food. It is likely to be etched in the creases on the father's brow or lurking in the mother's hollow eyes. And their silent prayers will have a different twist. They will plead for a year that should look very unlike their Yom Tov table. A year in which the fish or poultry won't always be missing from their plates. A year in which the children - now dressed in their outgrown clothing and castoff shoes - won't have to hide in shame when meeting a classmate on the way to shul. A year in which he will find a steady job and she will regain good health. Rosh Hashana. 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GATEWAYS ORGANIZATION 377 Route 59, Suite #1 •Mousey, NY 10952 800-722-3191 • 845-368-3860 • Fax: 845-368-3859 • www.gatewaysonline.com bachurim to join in the voluntary filling G-d's commands. Numerology, Thursday evening Mishmar study ses mystical implication, and G-d-given sions: He set up two ping-pong tables mitzvos, all tied together by, well, in the lobby outside the beis midrash. strings. Dry mitzvos and mystical impli The older boys would play ping-pong cations. with the novices for a spell and then at In the preparatory "declaration of 7:30 p.m. would stop, and say, "That was intent" before putting on tefillin, I con great. But I've got to go to Mishmar nect the tefillin of the arm with remem now. Hey, how about joining me?" brance of the Divine "outstretched Somehow the seasoned beis midrash boy arm," during the Exodus from Egypt; was able to engage in the recreational and its pressure against my heart is activities at the kids' level without sul meant to subjugate my desires and my lying his own k'vod ha Torah. Is engage innermost thoughts to His service. ment in recreation in Kansas City any Similarly, sitting in the shade of the more compromising? (I know that booths of Sukkos helps me recall the there are differences. But there are also Clouds of Glory that accompanied the similarities that one could build on.) Jews in the 40 years of travel when they Rabbi Keller voices another note of left Egypt .... caution against indulging in demands I could go on. But I'd rather quote for "spirituality ... meditation ... and several lines from a syndicated article Kabba/a." The problem he foresees is by Yonoson Rosenblum, which he that the outreach person will engage in wrote in response to a Jerusalem Report "bait and switch," ultimately disap column by Yossi Halevi Klein about the pointing the would-be baa/ teshuva with excesses of New Age Spirituality in either bogus spirituality or less-exciting Israel. In his article entitled "Quench halachos from the Shulchan Aruch. In ing Spiritual Thirst With the Real KIRUVTHROUGHSPORTSAND other words, stay away from so-called Thing," Rosenblum writes: "Evidence SPIRITUALITY: BAIT ... AND DELIVER spirituality. abounds that Israelis today are search Yet, Rabbi Keller himself points out ing spiritually ... The surest - and often To the Editor: that "Spirituality seekers are in reality the only way- to attract a crowd of sec The articles on "Redrawing the Torah 'hungry to hear the words of Hashem."' ular Jews to a lecture related to Torah Map of America" (May '02) were both I find this contradictory. If they want is to downplay the Torah and place all a celebration of achievement, and a chal "the word of Hashem;' why will they feel the emphasis on 'Kabba/a' or 'mysti lenge - a call for further broadening of cheated when it is followed by halacha? ca.' ... The reasons for the spiritual the boundaries of Torah in America. In If presented properly, they will seize it search are not hard to find. A recent Rabbi Keller's sweeping treatment of the and cherish it as dvar Hashem- the gen World Health Organization poll of subject, "A Time to Build," he threw in uine word of G-d, exactly what they teenagers around the world found a cautionary note regarding some "ten were thirsting for. Israeli teenagers to be the least happy dencies that bear scrutiny." I would like Moreover, I believe that presenting in the world .... The Jewish soul is to question some of them. Torah as a medium of spirituality is not blessed with a greater capacity to enter He comments that some bnei Torah misleading at all. When I envelop into a relationship with HaKadosh believe that "to be successful [in kiruv] myself in my tallis, and recite the pre Baruch Hu, but when the vessel for that they must demonstrate to their scribed passages that declare, "How pre relationship remains empty, the spiri prospective baalei teshuva that they're cious is Your Kindness, 0 G-d! Mere tual pain is great." (published in just like them-... talk like them, engage mortals take shelter under Your Hamodia, June 2 l, '02) in the same type of... recreational activ wings .. .," and I equate that wrapped Our alienated brothers are thirsty for ities ... - in short, to get down to their up moment as achieving incredible spirituality. So let's "bait" them with level." He admonishes the outreach closeness to G-d, isn't that an interface spirituality, and serve them Torah activist: "Don't compromise k'vod of spirituality and halacha? Oh yes, and u'mitzvos with spiritual references. But ha Torah ... and get down to their level." the Gematria (numerical value) of the there is no "switch." In fact, it's just a How much caution must one exer word tzitzis adds up to the 613, which case of motivation followed by delivery cise in this? Rabbi Simcha Wassern1an corresponds to the sum of 248 of thirst-quenching truths. In my view, ?"'1! once described how, as menahel of limbs/248 positive commandments, nothing to object to. Yeshiva Bais Yehuda in Detroit, close to plus 365 vessels/365 negative com Avr DAVm sixty years ago, he attracted younger mandments, which are engaged in ful- Brooklyn, NY The Jewish Observer, September 2002 23 RABBI KELLER RESPONDS:: Let Us Build Torah With Torah Not All Outreach is Kiruv At the outset 1 would like to reiterate what sands of Jews to Torah and Yiddishkeit. this postscript, which should in no way I wrote in 1ny original article: we have 1 have the greatest admiration for the devo be understood as referring to the whole been blessed in recent years with a bur tion and niesiras nefesh of the 1nany fine n1oven1ent. geoning, dynan1ic kiruv 1novement that people who have dedicated their lives to But as our chachami1n express then1- has been successful in bringing back thou- kiruv. I would have preferred not to write selves at tin1es, "Oy li itn 01na1~ oy li itn lo omar. \!\t'oe to 1ne if I say, and woe to me if I do not say" (Bava Basra 89b ). Subscribe or give a gift of Some Unpleasant Details - Not Ping Pong It \vould seen1 that the letter v.1riter, The JewU,h Obseroer perhaps due to my reticence to go into unpleasant details, has n1issed a point or two. And he can be excused; for I and $ave! rnyself vvas unaware of the extent of some of the problems I alluded to. We're WHY NOT GIVE OR GET A PRESENT not talking here of older boys playing THAT WILL LAST AN ENTIRE YEAR? ping-pong ,,vith younger boys, vvhich obviously does not din1inish k'vod Suhscrihe, or giYe a gift at these reduced prices ha10rah in any way. 1-lo\v about yun and 1'he ]elrish ()lJserver- filled \vith the viP\\1 ~ geleit-bnei 10rah dressing up like n1otor of leading J(Jrah thinkers on current issues- \vill be cycle bums with leather jackets and ban delivered each n1onth, directly to your door. danas on their heads (not on Purim) to The longer you subscribe frn~ the larger your savings. entertain their baalei teshuva? What about chashuva yungeleit running lake Of course, this ofler is uncon 24 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 quite a few people feeling misled and and is being sold in ways that are not in the strongest possible terms against picking up to go to a movie? What about acceptable on its own terms. There is those who would apply their own the san1e organization sponsoring and a long-standing tradition not to learn intelligence and thought process to running a project called "Speed Dating;' Kabba/a - secrets of the Torah - with understand the hints with which he which offers seven-minute dates with the young and with those not profi alludes to secrets of the Torah. "For I seven different partners in less than an cient in halacha - the revealed advise him faithfully that they [the hour and a half? These programs take Torah ... certainly not with those who secrets of the Torah] will not be place in trendy cafes and coffee hous are uninitiated in the basics of Yid attained and will not be known by any es, or on line in "chat rooms." VVhat dishkeit. sevaros (rationale) or understanding about their joint sponsorship of singles' except from the mouth of a wise dance parties with an organization Internet Kabbala mekubal to the ear of an understand called Klutz Productions? None of what ing mekubal. Any sevara applied to I have written here involves gilui sod - The Ramban in his introduction to this is only foolishness and mislead revealing secrets. It is all in the news his commentary on the Torah speaks ing nonsense, which brings much papers and on the Internet. The Spirituality Buzzword The writer quite reasonably express es his belief "that presenting Torah as a medium of spirituality is not n1is leading at all." He quotes Yonoson Rosenblum that "the secret and often the only way to attract a crowd of seculars . ENESS TEFILAH ..S~RIES* #1·-~1or4~es.6 to a lecture related to Torah is to I. Chol Hamoed Pesach-An Evening of Inspiration R' Pinchos Breuer/R' Pinchos Jung downplay the Torah and place all ·01. Tefilan f.o A Lifestyle _..__.GraspingtheCont'l···pt • 3. Achieving Personal Growth Thru Tefilah .. 1 emphasis on Kabba/a or Mystica." . 4. Mot1vatmg The Young In Tefilah • 5. Shagbos Da~~rnng_--,Mabng It Meaningful .. • 6'"'fhe UnexplorectOppbrtl'mrty-"' Pers00al1ze!lo/T··... s .., The use of the word "spirituality" ... R' Pinchas Jung · 'If ·· · in my article and in that of Yonoson Rosenblum happen to be identical. AWARENESS TEFILAH SERIES #2 &AUDIOTAPES The thoughtful reader of my article I. Do We Believe in Our Own Tefilos 4. Changing Our Life Drastically Through Teilah would have noticed that "spirituality" R' Matisyohu Salomon R' Moshe Meir Weiss is used as a buzzword for mysticism, 2. Removing the Tefilah Roadblocks 5. Tefilah: A Way of Connecting meditation and kabbala - which in the R' Pinchos Jung R' Paysach Krohn opinion of many of the outreach 3. The Power of Tefilah 6. The Shul: Are We Too N. Home in 'His' House? ' organizations is meant to satisfy R' Chaim Kaufman R' Lipa Geldwerth those v.1ho are seeking spirituality - Far Eastern style - as in guru land AWARENESS TEFILAH SERIES #3 &AUDIOTAPES transcendental meditation. Of course, I . Kedushas HaMokom - The Sanctity of Place .. R' Shmuel Kamenetsky/R' Pinchos Jung there is spirituality in Torah, but the 2. Revering the House of Tefilah ...... R' Benjamin Yudin/R' Pinchos Jung spirituality is there without any "mys 3. Preparing for the Peak Day of Yorn K1ppur...... R' Yaakov Haber/R' Pinchas Jung tica." Rosenblum makes exactly the 4. Tefilah - Women Taking a Leading Role • 5. Tefilah - Gazing at the Sp1ntual Mirror • same point that I did in my article - 6. Emunah The Golden Key to Tefilah...... R' Pinchos Jung that these spirituality seekers are really thirsty for the real thing - the cosT PER sERrEs '36 $ SPEClllL: sgg dvar Hashem; but since the Far East BUY 2 SETS & SAVE: ONLY 70 BUY ALL 3 SETS & SAVE: ONLY ern spirituality thing is so much in Aii rates include sh1cp1ng and handing • Discounts for b11e1 Yesh,va and --:-oran Taoe L1b'anes avai!able vogue, they are being baited with I woulc like to order_ 0 SE~IES I 0 SER.!ES II 0 SER!ES ii! "Spirituality." He does not - as I do N.A.ME not - condone this. He merely takes r'ID0i1ESS note of the practice and obviously PHONE# H/B( ------H/B ( be1noans it. Checks should be payable to: Agudath Israel - Awareness Project The point is that in order to attract Return form with paymer.t to: POB 753, Monsey, NY 10952 people to Yiddishkeit, it is being rep Email: [email protected] Phone: 845"426-1999 xl06 • Fax• 845·426-1998 resented as something that it is not) • The Jewish Observer, September 2002 25 harm and no benefit. For nothing will way we can get them in the door. And . New Tapes on come from all of the sevara bnt evil, besides, we're not really teaching them because they speak about Hashem in Kabbala. We tell them some Midrashim : Beginning of a inanner that is completely removed and we call it Kabbala." This in itself is from truth; and for this there is no shekker - falsehood. Chazal teach us, . Sefer Melochim atone1nent." "Chosamo shel HaKadosh Baruch Hu 1 - Honoring Clothing As the pasuk in Mishlei (25,3) says, emes - The seal of Hashem is truth:' One 2 - Raising Children i~; moo O'i717N "l1~ - "The glory of cannot bring people closer to the truth 3 - Saying "Omein" Hashem is to conceal things" - which the with falsehood. Were this the only All 3 for $18, Gaon explains as referring to secrets of problem with the "Kabbala" being the Torah. taught, it would be bad enough. But one Free Booklet included When this objection is raised to the Yeshiva Fund group has on its website a whole course outreach people who use this approach, with the heading "Spirituality:' Under it they will tell you: "Well, that's the only is Kabbala 101, which actually goes into the ten sephiros - explaining them in a manner not fit for a Jewish family mag azine. It is said that someone once quot ed a Tosafos to Reb Chaim Brisker. He replied, "I am not proficient in all of the Tosafos in Shas. But I can tell you such a Tosafos does not exist." I too can say the same regarding this" Kabba la." ''With Us ... In Our Place" - The Fifth "Stream" This whole approach of attempting to attract people to Yiddishkeit with uwhat gives us success in iuar? Please use my donation to: pseudo-spirituality, and to solve the 'I'he spin-tual fOrtresses of 1brah." • I--Iclp a young Choson problem of intermarriage by spon Rabbi Yehoshuah ben Levi (iHakos) J(a/lalt get n1arried! soring n1ixed singles events, new dat For thousands of years, the Torah has kept Am • Give a Turah scholar in ing schemes, and offering dating need of surgery peace Yisrocl alive. advice on the web site with absolute Keep the learning of Turah alive. of inind! • Enliven the lives of a ly no relation to Torah values, is an Due to severe reductions of 40(Yo or more in Israeli Turah fan1i1y 1vith a Y01n approach which, no 1natter what nu1n governn1ent subsidies, Yeshivas and Turah families 1bv grant! bers are claimed, will not in the long are turning to fil 'vith cver~increasing requests for • l--Ielp provide a hon1e run produce lasting Tarah results - but assistance. We cannot let them down. Ezras Torah for a nev.r]ywed couple! now more than ever needs your help. is creating a mongrelized form of • Endov.r a Free Loan Become partners 1vith Ezras "Ibrah and send in Fund or Medical Judaism. We already have four so your generous contribution today! En1ergency Fund! called "streams"; Orthodox, Conserv ative, Refor111, and Reconstructionist. We will now have a fifth - Outreach Judaism. Its basic foundation is the "'T.es , I would like to help Ezras Torah's needy. approach that I described in my arti ..l_ f e Enclosed is my tax deductible contributlon for: cle - as conveyed by the person who ::J$18 '.J$36 U$50 U$100 l.J$180 U$250 0$360 :.J$500 ::J$1,000 !.)$___ _ met Reb Yosi ben Kisma (AvosVl:9)), Method of payment: J Check W Visa U M/C U A/E Ac. #: __ ~-~----- Exp. Date: ____ and asked him, "Please come live Please contact me regarding establishing an Ezras Torah Endowment Fund for a: in1anu bimkomeinu - vvith us in our CJ Free Loan Fund 0 Medical Emergency Fund place." Be like us, and it will remain Please send me an Ezras Torah Halachic Pocket Calendar & Guide, for the current year. (checked below, contribution enclosed) "our place." 0 Pocket-sized Hebrew Luach D Pocket-sized English Luach D Wall-sized Hebrew Luach That is, in order to get people "in the door," we n1ust get down to their level, Name TeL ( tell them what they want to hear, and Address C_ity State Zip in essence give a hechsher to their life Please make check payable to: Ezras Torah, 235 East Broadway, New York, NY 10002 • {212) 227-8960 JO style. But then the medium becomes 26 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 the message: Since this is the way we another form of Judaism. and now is the time to build. But we communicate with you, this is Judaism. The panicky cry of "spiritual holo must build Torah with Torah. There are We must declare loudly and clearly that caust!" does not justify the philosophy many Jews out there seeking to find not all outreach is kiruv. that all things are fair in kiruv. The ends their roots and who, whether they real In order to be mekarev Jews, we do do not justify the means. We cannot, out ize it or not, are thirsty for the true dvar not have to amalgamate Torah with Far of our great desire to prevent inter Hashem. Bnei Torah and ehrliche Yid Eastern forms of religion and Ameri marriage, toss all standards of tzenius den with the talents and capabilities can forms of dating and "relation out the window. And regardless of the must feel the need to get involved in ships/' nor do we have to resort to great need for kiruv, nothing can jus hafotzas Torah and in bringing back tawdry gimmickry that only tarnish tify tampering with the authenticity, and these nefashos through Torah to Avinu es the glory of Torah and subverts undermining the integrity, of Torah. She'bashamayim, and in this zechus kavod ha Torah. If we have true emuna In closing, let me reiterate the main may we be zocheh to Uj?i::l n'VO T'IN'::l in Hashem and His Torah, we do not point of my article: that we now have 'JDN 1)"'1J'::l i11i10:l. have to dress up as gurus and motor unprecedented opportunities for kiruv, RABBI CHAIM Dov KELLER cycle bums and dating experts, to sell that Torah. Kiruv 11vas not invented in the 2 r;t century. Avraham Avinu was 1nekarev idol worshipers to true e1nuna - not with n1ysticism, but \vith chessed and the profound truth that there is one G d who created the world and who rules it. Avraham converted the men and Shalheves is privileged Sarah converted the women. They did to present series of not run mixed singles events, \vhich unforgettable shlurim by would have been very popular in the morally decadent world of Canaan. As for the legitimation of the other Hagaon Harav "streams of Judaisn1," which I touched upon in my article, it is not li1nited to Shimshon Dovid the outreach people giving lectures in the temples and synagogues of these Pincus ~"~t aberrant forms of Judaism. There is RabbJ Pincus was a unique light to our one national outreach moven1ent that generation. He accomplished so much and strengthened the Jewish spirit advertises "a crash course in Basic bringing people dOBer to Hashem. Judaism" in different locations. When His Torah ts our Inheritance. an unsuspecting Jew seeking to learn Each series contains six about his religion calls or visits the cassettes culled from the vast treasures of his lectures. website of the organization, he will be given a list of a number of institutions TORAH lit TBFILAH - including Conservative and Reform synagogues offering these courses, EMUNAH lit BITACHON given by their own personnel! THE RADIANCE OFSHABBOS The Ends Do Not Justify The Means THE ESSENCE OF I believe it is time for the kiruv nm JEWISH WOMAN movement, which has so many dedi A Unique Opportunity to cated people in its ranks and has enhance Your Spiritual Growth! accomplished so much for Yiddishkeit, to come to the realization that certain AVAILABLE AT YOUR LOCAL JVDAICA SHOP parts of the movement have become OR DIRECT l'R.0111 SHALHEVES infected with a dangerous virus, and to 1270 48th Street• Brooklyn, IW 11219 realize that they may be on a slippery 718·633·300!1 718-4311·1041 718-438-7332 slope - one that can lead to creating OF DORO PARK LAKEWOOD: 73'.2·364·7473 • fllOMBY: 845·425·8798 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 27 YAMIM NORAIM RErUCTIONS Rabbi Fyvel Shuster The secret of the Truah Gedo/a Resolving the tensions between festive conduct and the judgment ofRosh Hashana he Laws of the Rosh Hashana service in the Shulchan Aruch Tconclude with a puzzling halacha: "After the tefilla, we blow a truah gedola (a series of short blasts) with out a tekia (long, straight blast)" ( Orach Chaim 696,1). Sephardic congregations follow this custom, but Ashkenazi Jews do not. Nonetheless, it would be worthwhile to gain an understanding in the purpose of the "truah gedola." The Mishna Berura explains its functions as a means for "confusing the Sattan, so that he not seek to prosecute the Jews -immediately following the tefilla, they go home to eat, drink and celebrate. This demonstrates [the Sat tan would claim] that they are not in a state of eimas hadin (in awe and fear of the judgment)." This explanation arouses many questions: How does the truah, in particular, confuse the Sattan and prevent him from prosecuting us when we begin our seems to festive seuda? make sense. C o had just with eimas Rabbi Shuster is a maggid shiur in Machon Lev, hadin then go dfr m shul to par Jerusalem. A f!equent contributor to these pages, his article, "Living on the Edge;' appeared take of a festive, Yorn Tov meal? Does in the September '99 JO. n't such behavior imply a lack of con- 28 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 after year, eating and drinking happily, while we are aware of these possibilities? • It would seem that the only way to enjoy n one hand, we sense the natural a happy Yom Tov seuda on Rosh Hashana is by ignoring the entire O tendency to weep on Rosh Hashana; process of din. Once again, the Sattan's prosecution seems to be on target. and on the other hand, the people are The confusion is increased when we examine Chazafs comparison of our actually commanded to eat, drink, and judgment to that of Adam Harishon. " ... In the eleventh hour he [Adam] was judged, in the twelfth hour he was rejoice. pardoned, then Hakadosh Baruch Hu, said to him, 'This is a sign for your chil dren. As you stood before Me in judg • ment on this day and were pardoned, so in the future, will your children viction in their quaking before the din er Yorn Tov, so that the awe of the din stand before me in judgment on this that is taking place; or, at the very least, should be evident in his demeanor. ..." day, and they too will be pardoned!' convey a misplaced sense of confidence? The Tur quotes the Midrash on (Pesikta) On the other hand, why should we which this halacha is based: Rabbi Chaim Friedlander ?"~t asks, fear the Sattan's prosecution? We do not "Rabbi Chanina and Rabbi "How can the Pesikta describe Adam eat, drink and rejoice at the Rosh Yehoshua say, 'Which nation is like this Harishon's judgment as a pardon? The Hashana meals simply because we nation who knows the nature of their pesukim seem to recount a guilty verdict choose to. This is mandated by halacha, G-d (His customs and judgments)! and a harshly punitive sentence. As a as we see in the continuation of the The custom of the world is that a man result of Adam Harishon's sin, death was Shulchan Aruch's Halachas of Rosh who is facing judgment wears black introduced to the world, he was ban Hashana: clothes, wraps himself in black, lets his ished from Gan Eden, and his entire "We eat, drink, and rejoice, and we beard grow, and does not cut his nails, stature was diminished. If this is the type do not fast on Rosh Hashana ....'' for he does not know how his judg of miracle judgment we are relying on, As the Mishna Berura explains: ment will turn out. The Jewish People how can we display simcha on Rosh "In Nechemia (ch.8), it states 'Go are not like this ... ; they eat, and Hashana?" eat rich foods, drink sweet beverages, rejoice on Rosh Hashana, for they and send portions to those who are not know that Hakadosh Baruch Hu will UNDERSTANDING DIVINE JUDGMENT prepared, for the day is holy to perform a miracle for them." Hashem; be not sad, for the joy in he answers to these questions are Hashem is your strength."' CONFIDENCE: ON WHAT BASIS? contingent on our understanding The tension of the day is encapsulated Tof Hashem's judgment and its in that pasuk. On one hand, we sense the e are now faced with yet purpose. Rabbi Friedlander explains that natural tendency of the nation to weep another question: According the din of Hakadosh Baruch Hu is not (as was the case in Sefer Nechemia) on W to this Midrash, our puzzling Rosh Hashana; and on the other hand, custom of convening festive meals on the people are actually commanded to Rosh Hashana is based on Am YisroeI's eat, drink, and rejoice. confidence in the verdict of the judg This duality can also be felt in the ment. Yet, each person knows his own 'l4~5'1lta!lpertapl halachos of appropriate dress for Rosh failures during the past year, and faces • Each Daf is read, Hashana. The Shulchan Aruch tells us: the challenge of repenting sincerely. translated, and explained "One should wash his clothes and VVhat basis is there, then, for such con slowly and clearly in just cut his hair on Erev Rosh Hashana." fidence? 20 minutes The Mishna Berura explains that this And then, each year, after Rosh • $4 per tape (plus S&Hl • Subscription rate: $3 per tape is ('to show what '\Ve are confident in Hashana, people do get sick, some die, (plus S&HI Hashem's chessed, that He will bring our others go bankrupt, Rachmana litzlan. judgment to compassionate justice. All of these occurrences are rooted in the Nevertheless, one should not wear din of Rosh Hashana. How can we embroidered or silk clothes as on anoth- maintain a faiyade of confidence year The Jewish Observer, September 2002 29 ah" refers to those who know how to • break through the external barrier of the he simcha that accompanies the Rosh din. "Ju truth, the din is simply a cov ering, ... but within din one encounters THashana seuda is our celebration for being rachamim. Am Yisroel understands this, and thus accepts Hashem's judgment graced with our assigned task as Hashem' s willingly." chosen people, understanding our potential The truah gedola, the crying sound of the shofar, which (according to the Mech to repair any damage we may have caused aber') is blown between the conclusion of Mussaf and our festive meal, confus in our lives and in all of Hashem's creation. es the Sattan because it reveals that we have not forgotten the judgment of the day and all of its frightening implica • tions. At that point, we sit down to our a n1atter of Divine "revenge," but rather (Mercy), and transforms the attribute Yom Tov seuda with a true understand is aimed at tikkun - repair, so to speak. of din to the attribute of rachamim ing and acceptance of Divine Judgment The purpose of all the "punishments" (Vayikra Rabba 29:3). as tikkun, as an expression of Hashem's decreed upon Adam Harishon and his Rabbi Friedlander quotes Rabbi rachamim. The simcha that acco1npanies descendants was to provide him - and Yonasan Eybshitz 7":n on this Midrash: the Rosh Hashana seuda is our celebra them - with a framework for avoda "We know that tekias shofar signals a tion for being graced with our assigned (Divine service) that would enable time of judgment. How, then, can it also task as Hashem's chosen people, under them to repair the damage caused by sin. transform judgment into mercy? When standing our potential to repair any We also understand that whatever pun we initiate the process of din by blow damage we may have caused in our lives ishments may result from the judgment ing the shofar, we demonstrate that we and in all of Hashem's creation. of Rosh Hashana are, in fact, our only recognize that the inner purpose of din When Nechemia commands Am Yis hope for tikkun. is tikkun, and we accept it. This decla roel not to be dejected, but rather to eat "Ashrei ha'am yodei s'ruah - praise ration 'sweetens' the judg1nent, for and drink on Rosh Hashana, he worthy is the nation that understands when one yearns for tikkun, his world explains, "Ki chedvas Hashem hi the shofar blast?' Doesn't every nation can be repaired far more easily than that ma'uzchem - For the joy of Hashem is know how to blow a shofar?.. .. Rather, of one who would like to escape the your strength." The Malbim (in Sefer they (Am Yisroel) know how to process of judgment." HaCannel) explains that, among the appease their Creator with the truah, The Sfas Emes, based on the Zohar, many words in Lashon Hakodesh that and He moves from the Throne of explains that one of the translations of can be used to express happiness, "ched Judgment to the Throne of Rachamim the word truah is "to break."" Yodei s'ru- va" refers to the happiness that one feels despite a reason to be sad. This chedva YESHIVA SHIR CHC>DC>SH is the joy of Am Yisroel in the noble mis sion for which it has been chosen, in the Is Your 8th Grade Son quest that they undertake each year, despite their own shortcomings, and Slipping Through The Cracks? despite the harsh punishment that they v We empower Bochurim to reclaim their Chalek in Limud Hatorah may need to endure. And it is the ma' oz, V' Strategies targeting comprehension , retention the strength of Am Yisroel. and analytical thinking skills No nation has suffered as Am Yisroel v Chumash I Mishnayos I Gemorah I Halacha/Historia has. 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Endorsed by Rav Yisroel Belsky N"o'7v and other Roshei Yeshiva N''tr''?'P 30 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 YAMIM NORAIM REFLECTIONS Rabbi Dov Berish Ganz BEIN ADAM L'CHAVEIRO f es Rabbi Yisroel Salanter left a profound and enduring impact upon In truth, teshuva and the consequent greater frumkeit should the world of Torah when he founded what became known as the strengthen one's observance of all n1itzvos. Accordingly, the sincere Mussar Movement. One event that reputedly nzotivated a very young teshuva of the Yamim Noraim should inspire a heightened sensi Reb Yisroel was an incident that occurred on the eve of Yorn Kip tivity to bein adam I' chavero rather than have the opposite effect. pur. It is recounted in Nesivos Ohr by Rabbi Yitzchak Blazer (a dis Reh Yisroel apparently saw that man's type of inconsistency as ciple of Reb Yisroel). part of a pattern common to many others. He went on to promul Reb Yisroel noted a very devout few corning toward him. Reb Yis gate the Mussar Movement which stressed (among other things) the roel asked him something he needed to know (i.e. the tirne). The man idea that Jews should direct a special focus on the Torah's precepts was so overwhelmed with his own teshuva process that he did not answer. ofbein adarn I' chaveiro. Why, asked Reb Yisroel to himself, should that man's involve Based on the Torah reading of the first day of Rosh Hashana, ment with teshuva have the effect of impeding his required atten this article focuses on one of the daunting challenges faced -ivhen tion to the precepts ofbein adam l'chaveiro (of interpersonal nature)? seeking to refine one's bein adam I' chaveiro. Rabbi Ganz is a tOrn1er talmid and a niusnwch t is relatively easy to act gracious exemplary bein adam l'chaveiro is a far of Yeshiva Chofetz Chaiin of Forest Hills, NY. His ly with others ( 1) when those other greater challenge. It is even more dif recently published book, Defining Hurnanity - I people are themselves gracious and ficult when dealing with an annoying Exploring Torah Insights into I.Ian and Morality charming, and (2) when personally, one or unpleasant individual. Another dif {Feldheim,) contains a series of Mussar-style insights into Sefer Bereishis. This article is based is feeling happy and content. When ficult scenario is when one must on the ninth chapter of that volun1e. feeling irritable, however, acting with express words of dissatisfaction or The Jewish Observer, September 2002 31 in Bereishis 18) is the Torah's exemplar • of how one person should lavish vraham's conduct represents the Torah's ideal. kindness, graciousness and good will upon another. A No situation should cause a letdown of one's Avraham loved his son Yishmael as he loved his son Yitzchak (Bereishis outpouring of kindness and respect toward others. 22, 2 - Rashi). One can easily imag ine that with his unequalled kindness and sensitivity, Avraham could have rebuke, perhaps to a child, a spouse, a •was largely responsible. Avraham was felt distraught over being required to student or an employee. Typically, at first reluctant, but then Hashem break up his family, relegate his son there has already been a buildup of advised him to heed Sarah's counsel. and wife to eternal subservience, resentment, hurt, or conflict. So con Avraham was told to evict both and then send them off into real dan fronting the person and situation Hagar and Yishmael and send them ger. He could have also perhaps felt with good will and equanimity is into the desert on a life-threatening bitterness and anger towards Hagar exceptionally difficult. journey. Furthermore, according to the for causing this to happen. The conduct of Avraham, as S'forno, Avraham had to then desig But he was Avraham, the paradigm described in the Torah reading of nate that forever after, the descendants of chessed. Although he enacted the the first day of Rosh Hashana, is of Yishmael would be subservient to harsh response that was required by revealing. the descendants of Yitzchak. Hashem, in every other respect he Sarah became convinced that both Yet, the S'forno explains that Avra maintained his superlative goodness Hagar and her son Yishmael had to be ham accompanied them from his and gentleness toward Hagar. banished from their household. The home with the same "abundant kind Avraham's conduct represents the S'forno explains that this was because ness" that he lavished upon the three Torah's ideal. No situation should the conduct ofYishmael was intoler guests who had visited him. 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Even when a word of reproof or ited to that one matter only. eople may disagree with each a punishment is called for, all other We learn from this Rashi that other - at times, fairly intense aspects of one's bein adam l'chaveiro rebuke should be issue-specific, and it Ply. (As a rule, machlokes- feuding toward that person must remain at the should not evolve and disintegrate into -is almost always antithetical to Torah.) most exalted of levels. accusations and condemnations on Very often, the greatest damage does not (It could perhaps be compared to many different fronts. emanate from the disagreement itself, someone who seeks to rid his lawn of The S'forno quoted above expands but from the overall breakdown in civil some scattered weeds. It would be dis this concept and teaches that at difficult ity and consideration that can accom astrous if the material used killed all moments, it is not sufficient to merely pany strife. Two people arguing over a of the grass as well. The objective is to avoid an escalation into broad-based specific matter may soon find themselves eli1ninate the weeds while maintain conflict. Rather, what is required is that embroiled in an extensive multilevel ing every bit of the grass's vitality.) the entire interaction should otherwise conflict that can include out-and-out remain in step with the Torah's loftiest personal defamation and character abbi Avraham Trap 7""1 (a son of principles of bein adam l'chaveiro. assassination. Rabbi Naftali Trap of Radin) Rdeveloped a somewhat similar point from Rashi in Bereishis, 21, 25 (which is also read on of the first day of Rosh Hashana). That pasuk PLEASE HELP!!! describes how Avraham rebuked Avimelech over a well that was stolen. Dear Brethren, 'V"1Y.lY 11" YIY"IJ Rashi"adds" that he called him to task over "this matter" (the well). But the pasuk clearly states that Avraham We beg you to please help a ~J11!1n family who is in desperate need. rebuked Avimelech over "this matter" They have staggering debts which they cannot cope with. The father is (the well). What did Rashi add to what not well and cannot work to support the family. Their only steady income was clearly stated in the pasuk? is their Social Security checks which is minimal. Gemilas Chasodim Rabbi Trop answered that Rashi's loans must be paid, as well as rent, food, medical bills, etc. words were n1eant to be exclusionary. Rashi was pointing out that Avraham's Their agony is great. Please help this family have some menuchas rebuke concerned "this matter" - that of the well, and that only. This is an hanefesh from all their trials and tribulations. in1portant lesson, because criticizing someone face-to-face can easily give May Hashem bless you with good health, happiness, long life and rise to a dredging up of numerous may you always be able to help and never need to ask for help. other past grievances, totally uncon nected to the subject at hand (in mod May we be zoche to be mekabel panim Moshiach, soon, together ern tern1s, "kitchen sinking"). Avra ham, in his greatness, was above this with Kial Yisroel. ]l'.lN practice, and thus, Rashi's point is that his reprimand of Avimelech was lim- (•r-/) J ,,Y) '1 rg rr;, Io·J ux•11p 11u1n O'Jn '(!!!"\ ~l)O ?N1YJl nll)N1 l1 1'0,Nll )t7'l !li1'1 Rabbi Dovid Kvillt Rabbi Nisson Wolpin "'Agudo llsroel Snif dtofetz O!alm Editor, The Jewish Observer Please send your tax-deductible donation to: Cong. Zichron Shloma c/o Rabbi Nisson Wolpin 305 Avenue F Brooklyn, NY 11218 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 33 The Torah calls upon people to There are nu1nerous examples of eration imaginable; they must be strive to refine themselves (this is a this dynamic in the everyday interac speaking to each other as affection lifetime process) to the extent that they tions between friends, spouses, fam ately as they did on the day of their will naturally and instinctively act as ily, business associates, etc. For exam marriage. Then they may proceed to Avraham did. Then, even in the midst ple, a husband and wife are at the their issue." If people would hearken of a difficult situation with another beginning of a dispute. Accusations to these voices at such moments, person, the prevailing attitude of are exchanged, and tempers begin to almost anything in the world would kindness, respect and love that char rise. At this critical point, the "frum" improve - except perhaps for the ther acterized the relationship will continne response is to hear Rashi and the apy business. unabated. This will enormously limit S'forno speaking. Rashi would be say the harm that can ensue fro1n an ini ing to them, "lf necessary, you may he discipline of children poses tially circumscribed disagreement. discuss your one point of grievance, a similar challenge. Chastise but do not dredge up anything else." Tment over a finite issue should The S'forno would then say, "Excuse not evolve into a sweeping denuncia Erected in all Cemeteries me, Rashi! I agree with what you said. tion of the child as a person. The habit Call Toll-Free: 866-851-1314 However, that is not enough. Not only of sending a unilaterally negative and must they avoid additional com Rabbi M. Premock disapproving message at such plaints, but also, like Avraham, they moments can cause lasting harm. Recommended by many Rabbonim should act with the greatest consid- The ethic of the S'forno calls upon the parent or teacher in the midst of rebuke or discipline to maintain the normally warm and supportive atti Jonah's Fashion Inc. tude toward the child.' (And if the parent or teacher does not have a "normally warm and sup portive attitude toward the child" - then that would seem to be a far greater problem.) • We make skirts and jumpers, solids This also relates to the first point and plaids, from size 5 thru raised regarding one's conduct when junior and pre-teens feeling irritable or when dealing with • Bais Yaacov blouses made from difficult people. Avraham's exempla our own custom made ry conduct toward Hagar remained (extra heavy) material unchanged, despite the terrible things that were then transpiring - things for which she was to blame. Certainly, then, one's level of bein adam /'chaveiro should never falter simply because at certain times it is more dif ficult to act graciously. • 1 After considering the ideas of this article, one can better appreciate the words of Rabbi Yaakov Ka1ninctsky. A recently published work 111en tioned that Rcb Yaakov was asked about the advisability of spanking children as discipline. He responded that a young grandson of Rabbi Baruch Ber Leibowitz once turned on the lights on a Motza'ei Sl1abbos before Havdala. Reb Baruch Ber called the boy over, and with co1n plete calm, he lovingly said to the child, "You are very dear to my heart, and I bless you with long and good years. However, you just violated an issur d'rabannan, and for that you deserve a patch." Reb Yaakov continued that if a parent would give the child a patch with the cahn and love that Reb Baruch Ber did, then it could be permitted. 34 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 YAMIM NORA'IM REFLECTIONS Dr. Aaron Twerski '' '' er haps the most moving with each other, he asks, how are moment in the High Holidays is humans different? Pthe beginning of the Yorn Kippur The Torah commentators note that service. The haunting melody of Kol one can, through simple speech, by Nidrei is deeply ingrained in the Jew uttering a vow, transpose something that ish psyche. Even Jews with little Jew was previously permitted into soine ish affiliation seem to find their way thing that takes the properties of some into a synagogue for Kol Nidrei. Yet, it thing that is prohibited. For example, if seems somewhat strange that at this one utters a vow and proclaims regard holiest of moments in the Jewish year ing a goat that he owns "h'arei zeh olah we begin by seeking to annul all vows (this goat shall be hallowed for an olah made in the past year and negate the sacrifice)," the animal takes on the intent to make vows in the upcoming Solomon was granted the ability to properties of a sanctified animal. So year. One might expect that we would understand sichos chayos ve'ofos (the much so that if he puts the animal to his begin the service with a recognition of discussions between animals). If ani own use, he has committed the griev G-d as the ultimate Judge and Master mals have the ability to communicate ous sin of using property that has been of the universe, or with a plea to the Almighty to forgive us for the sins that we committed in the past year. But why the concern with vows? Man is unique among all G-d's cre ii:LlilAn .)i:Ui>IO) ations: He was given the power of speech. All of creation is divided into four categories: domeim (inanimate), tzomei'ach (vegetative growth), chai QUALITY SERVICES (animal life), and medaber (speaking). But the gift of speech means more than FOR merely the power to communicate. The THE FINEST great Chassidic master, Bnei Yissas' char, notes that animals have the ability to IN con1municate with each other. King AND VIDEO Dr. Twerski, a member of the Editorial Board of The Jewish Observer, is a professor in Brooklyn Law School and serves as chairman of the board of Agudath Israel of America's Commission on Legislation and Civic Action. The Jewish Observer, September 2002 35 consecrated to G-d. ya'aseh (He shall do all that comes out TALK - NOT CHEAP AT ALL Rabbeinu Yona explains that the of his month):' The Ari Zal notes that the mouth of a Jew has the status of klei Torah tells us that we are not to violate he American idiom is that "talk is shoreis (vessels of the Holy Temple). a vow because when one speaks, it has the cheap:' In the view of the Torah, When one pours flour for a Mincha sac effect of action. The word ya'aseh means Ttalk is very expensive. Words are a rifice into the designated vessel, the flour "to do," but it can also mean "to make." powerful force. Once they leave the too become sanctified. Very simply, the \'\Then one takes a vow, one created a mouth of the speaker, they have an inde words of a Jew are not simply speech, they malach, a ministering angel. If the spo pendent existence. They are as real as are a creative force that take on the char ken word is positive or a mitzva, then one physical objects. Man is defined by that acteristic of an act. Ari Zal is even more has created an angel that will defend and which makes him unique. It is not the explicit. He notes that when the Torah protect. If the spoken word is evil, then power to communicate that sets him instructs us not to violate a vow, it fol he has created a prosecuting angel that apart. Rather, it is the awesome power of lows that injnnction with the com can wreak havoc-not only on the speak speech as an active, creative force that dis mandment "Kechol hayotzeh mepiv er, but on the world at large. tinguishes man from the animal kingdom. Throughout the ages, Jews heeded the injunction "Thou shall not profane your speech" as a cardinal principle of faith. Righteous Jews would refuse to take an oath even before a beis din, even when the failure to do so would mean that they would forfeit substantial sums of money justly due to them. But even when not dea!U.g with a fom1al oath, righteous Jews were careful to treat their mouths as holy vessels. Profanity and idle chatter that had no n1eaning was scorned. There was no such thing as "small talk:' All speech had I Our cow Rabbi dUCCNd to the tramill.'J received Uz OU!' proiJram. 8 Enjoy the freedom and convenience of a Yoe! Kramer kosher guesthouse, located For information and registration Edut'tlftinud J)ire«lor only minutes away from please call Rabbi Yehudah Rupp the Touro Synagogue, Rabbi the oldest synagogue Chaim \Vein 718.436.7'27'2 .. in North America Director Group dim:wll! ova1iablic for Simchos and Shabbos For reservations call: 1-888-465-0051 36 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 ding Torah scholar. And then Passover canze the words took on a life of their own, which along. Although the family was pious, when • he was bound to respect. Reh Yaakov came in to eat the Passover nteal, t is not the power to he sensed that food preparations were not suf n Yorn Kippur, man must justi ficiently meticulous to meet his personal high Icommunicate that sets fy himself before G-d. Man is standards for Passover. Reh Yaakov was in a man apart. Rather, it is Odefined by his ability to speak. quandary. He did not want to eat the food Speech is a sacred gift. A man who debas they had prepared because it did not meet the awesome power of es speech cannot declare the Kingdom of his standards. On the other hand, he did not G-d, nor seek forgiveness for his sins. He want to hurt the feelings of his host that had speech as an active, must first seek to reinstate himself before been so kind to him. creative force that the Almighty as a man of his word. If no~ Pondering this dilemma, Reb Yaakov his declarations of fidelity to G-d and a:une up with a stratagem to save his host frotn distinguishes man from remorse for sins he has committed are embarrassment. It is the custo111 ofChassidirn meaningless. They are indeed cheap talk. not to eat gebrokts on Passover. Under this the animal kingdom. That is why we begin the Yorn Kippur stringency, any matza products that come in service with Kol Nidrei. We seek to come contact with water or juice ofany kind are pro to grips with that which we have uttered, hibited. The reason for this stringency is that • and acknowledge that we may have made it is possible that some small amount offlour Passover because he would not eat gebrok improper use of speech. We seek abso was not fully baked and its subsequent con ts. For the rest of his life, Reb Yaakov would lution from those vows and pray that we tadwith liquid mightrender itchametz. 71iis not eat gebrokts on Passover. Although it was be inscribed in the book of those who stringency 1vas not followed in Lithuania nor not his fa1nily custom or that o.fLithuanian have the power and the right to speak. in many other countries. For the most part, fews, once he said he lvould not eatgebrok We then turn to the order of the day: it was followed only by Chassidim. ts, he treated those words as a realit;~ Never Speaking man with an honest tongue Reb Yaakov had a perfect out. He told his niind that he used them as an excuse not to declaring the Kingdom of G-d and seek host that he could not eat with thern on hurt the feelings of his hosts. Once uttered, ing forgiveness from Him. B We take pleasure in announcing to the niinn D71:V the first appearance of an addition to the series of pnY, inD ,,DO '711plYT il1'1l"1 pMY" ":ti 11Kll"1 lir.>'7 These D,il:l.K!:l, covering ::iiu D,,, n::iw and many ili1ni1 ni'Wi,D, were delivered throughout the ni:>i'Oil ln 'l:l'. 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Harvard Gaon 7"'1!, Rabbi Moshe Fein University researchers demonstrated, for Ostein 7"'1!, Rabbi Yaakov 0• example, that children from homes with Kamenetsky 7"'1!, and Rabbi Elazar no videos were 11 % more likely to do Shach 7"'1! signed a psak urging Kial Yis homework on weekdays and 23% more roel to stay away from television. Their likely to do homework on Sundays than warning preceded by a decade the ava children from homes with these dis lanche of scientific research demon tractions. VVhen a New Jersey elemen strating the very real dangers posed by tary school spontaneously announced a the gilui arayos, shefichas damim and "No TV Week;' The New York Times avoda zara (adultery and incest, murder, reported, "Students in every class start and idolatry) - the three cardinal trans ed spending more time reading books gressions that call for n1artyrdom rather and talking to their friends and families." than subn1ission - which are the main • Third, videos and computer games stay of television programming. Today, stimulate children in a way reading and nearly all bnei Torah (and scientific gestions as to what the problems with exercise do not, prolonging the time it authorities) acknowledge the damage "kosher" videos and computer ga1nes takes children to fall asleep. Brown Uni caused by the TV content. might be. versity researchers recently found that Tragically, awareness of the damage watching even one video produced a caused by the medium - by the flashing A CATALOGUE OF PROBLEMS shortened sleep duration and daytime images themselves - has been slower in ON THE SCREEN sleepiness up to 48 hours later. coming. Over the last quarter of a cen • Fourth, both videos and con1puter tury, "kosher" videos and computer irst, there is the possibility that games reduce impulse control by short games have become increasingly popu "kosher" videos and con1puter ening the viewer's attention span. The lar, and today even some bnei Torah are Fgames represent the edge of a tech confused by efforts to ban these seem nological slippery-slope: Once the video ingly harmless media. While mechanchim and computer equipment is in place, it Digest of Meforshim (Torah educators) have generally given can be used for viewing both worthwhile encouragement to the heroic efforts of and unsuitable materials. The Shulchan '1'1P7 in:J '1'1P7 men like Rabbi Ephraim Applebaum, of Aruch ( Choshen Mishpat 409:3) rules 7"::/l 1))1'7/'I 7N1r.l1!1 l'71T.1r.l Toronto, Ontario (who runs se1ninars that one may only keep a dangerous ani A·vailable at throughout North America showing the mal at home if it is bound in chains, but LEKUTE I dangers of TV, videos, and computer it is much n1ore co1n1nonplace to chain c!o Yit::chok Rosenherx 1445 54th Street games), some have ex'Pressed skepticisn1. dogs than videos and computers. Until Brooklyn. NY I I 2 /9+4228 Perhaps we might offer some sug- it becomes routine to lock up this sort 718-854-6701 of electronic equipment, the debate over Rabbi Leib Keleman teaches at Neve Yerusha 20 Volumes on Torah, Perek, Medrash, layim in Yerushalayim. 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Studies show that the Bernard Fryshman more time so1neone spends watching videos, the more his attention span dete riorates towards this 3.5 second thresh from his mouth the holiest of Syllables. A three page Internet download, old, making it painful if not impossible lying on a table in shu/, caught my eye: And what are we afraid of? 'I wish so and to concentrate on a shiurthat lasts 45 min it was a dvar Torah adapted from Rabbi so would drop dead so I can marry his utes (or even 30 or 15 minutes). Yissochor Frand's tape #237. I read on wife!'" • Fifth, videos and computer games to learn that one of the reasons the Rabbi Frand went on to complete impede imagination. A study of gifted 1 Kohein Gadol was not allowed to marry his thesis, but I remained transfixed. 4th, 5 h, and 6th graders included in the a widow was that he might have his Those people who argue that I should Surgeon General's report on television found that even watching "education eye on a married woman whom he use the Internet forget that I am not al" television depresses student's subse wanted to marry. To quote Rabbi Frand: a Kohein Gado/, my computer termi quent scores on tests of creativity. Har "When he [the Ko he in Gadofj went nal is not the Kodshei Kadoshim, and vard researchers explained these into the Holy of Holies on Yorn Kippur my purpose for being on the internet findings: vievvers never need to conjure to utter the Explicit Na1ne of Hashem, is not at the level of saying the Shem up an image. This is a frightening side which has supernatural powers of even Hamefurash on Yorn Kippur. If the effect in light of the teachings of Rabbi killing people, he might have in mind the Kohein Gado/ could have been divert Shlomo Wolbe N""t>">v and other gedolei hamussarabout the crucial i1nportance husband of the woman '"-'ho he wants to ed, where might I end up? of koach hatziur - imagination - for With all due deference then to those marry and therefore cause his death." mitzvos like emuna and tefilla. MOSHAV Z'KEINIM AL HATORAH who travel the Internet without •Sixth, we now know that the medi In his inimicable style, Rabbi Frand mishap, I will not risk whatever O/am um itself- the inoving, flickering i111ages goes on: Habba I have left by going onto the - acts directly on the brain to suppress "Yorn Kippur is the holiest day of the Internet. And in doing so, I would reas mental activity. Harvard University year. The location is the holiest spot on sure all and sundry that both the Inter researchers first de1nonstrated that 1 earth. The Kohain Gadol is going to utter net and I will survive. II someone V1. atching even the most excit ing video slipped into brainwave patterns typical of someone asleep. Last Febru Dr. Fryshman continues to write prolifically for The Jewish Observer. ary, researchers at the University of Chicago announced identical findings. Every activity a child engages in during his busy day refines some set of skills. Reading is enhanced by practice; V1.1rit ing is enhanced by practice; and inter acting with people is enhanced by prac tice. All these activities in some vvay help a child prepare for the challenges of adult life. Staring at a video display is also Counseling for enhanced by practice, but it is not geared Depression - Anxiety - Stress for any activity. Videos and computer games are practice for inactivity. When Substance Abuse & At-Risk Youth someone watches a video display, he is practicing sleeping - often for hours Daytime, Evening, & Sunday Appointments available every day. 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Applebaum's organization will be display two or more hours daily is a Practically, there are two steps we launching a national campaign to turn global marker for high risk of pediatric must take immediately. At the person off television sets for the Aserres Ye1nei hypercholesterolemia. People have al level, each of us needs to approach his Teshuva. \Vhat an impressive korban that long been aware of the tendency to or her Rav to seek guidance regarding would be for Kial Yisroel to begin the snack while staring at a video display videos and con1puter gaines. 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VOICES FROM BRETZ YISROEL Sarah Shapiro When Grown Ups are less world market when it comes to suffer ing -5the most cursory reading of any daily newspaper will remind us of tor nados in Tennessee, earthquakes in Iran, ongoing brutality against civilians in Sierra Leona, a daughter who disap ne of the standard hallmarks of with an explosive belt, and that the pears in Washington D.C., a daughter childhood is a sense of power Israeli soldier with a kipa on his head kidnapped in Utah - we can indeed 0 lessness, both in relation to may not be an Israeli soldier with a kipa boast of being star pupils with front row one's family and to the world at large. on his head), but exquisitely attuned, as seats when it comes to learning about To be a small person surrounded by well, to the gloriously soft breeze upon the limits of human power. We're being giants is an experience all humans your face. That's how it works. The pro forcibly indoctrinated. share - one which we fully expect to found emotional recognition that you And since as individuals we'd have to escape one day by turning into adults. are unceasingly, helplessly vulnerable to absorb the knowledge of our weakness But when, eventually, we do find our the world around you heightens not sooner or later, no matter where we were selves disguised as those odd-looking only your anxiety but all your other living, it is a great privilege to get the creatures called grown-ups, we discov senses, too. The capacity for joy is deep message in a uniquely meaningful fash er that "being in control" remains, in ened. and broadened - a capacity for ion, in this setting, under these cir fact, a pleasure rarely to be savored. pleasure in all things large and small. cumstances, all together as a people. We Adulthood offers endless opportunities The sky is bluer than blue. Little girls to feel as helpless as a child. jumping rope - a sudden vision, some Thanks to Arab terrorism, life in times, of unearthly loveliness. Simple Uncle Moishy, Israel has never been less than unstint kindnesses in the course of normal Mordechai Ben David, ingly generous in this respect. If it's exis interactions between strangers can be tential truths you're after- insights into invested with extraordinary poignancy. and other top-of-the-line the transient nature of our sojourn on A Friday night meal in your home, with Jewish enterJainers the planet and the unpredictability of Shabbat candles flickering and the peo are available the universe- then get on an Egged bus ple you love safely around your table, to visit to downtown Jerusalem. Walking along can induce such a mighty celebration of the sidewalk, your mind will of itself be the heart as to rival the roaring of a seriously ill attuned keenly not only to each and happy crowd. children every passerby (alert to the possibility Since human helplessness is obvi thanks to that the woman coming your way in her ously one of the main things that life is ,,,,,,,,.,,,.,rnnnnr.:w chador may be large not with child but designed to teach us, one way or anoth ~ :lj?l»' ., ro. ;nn er, before we slide off the mortal coil, AChessed project run by Mrs. Shapiro of Jerusalem is a frequent contrib then getting a crash course such as this Agudath Israel of Amerita: in conju11ction with utor to these pages, most recently with "Living can only be to our ultimate advantage. Where Everything is Ground Zero" (Feb. '02). Her Suki & Ding Produ(tions Although we who are fortunate enough To set up an appointment, call: most recent book is A Gift Passed Along: A Woman (212)797-9000 Ext235 • M-Fi 9- Looks at the \.Vorld Around Her - ArtScroll. to live here cannot claim a corner on the The Jewish Observer, September 2002 43 watch ourselves up on center stage, as ly with my world. their feet, their children, their parents, prophesied history unfolds. The driver, an Ethiopian in his early their friends, their health, their peace of twenties, said "Oh, it's An1erica, geveret. 111ind. * * * Nothing here. Don't worry." We thank You for our souls that are "Don't worry? Ho\v can I not worry? entrusted to You. n a taxi on the way downtovvn an My relatives are in America! And that An hour ago when I emerged from hour ago, the 4 p.tn. news reported would start a whole new era, and the taxi, it was a toss-up. Should I con1e I that a warning is out in America that besides, any nuclear radiation over here, to my favorite cafe, or to the other terrorists might be planning an attack there will get here, too! Don't you know one, with security guards at the on nuclear facilities. that?" entrance? ... in 1!\fhose hand is the spirit "What was that?" I asked the driv "Here?" His eyes met mine in his of every human being. Given the situa er sharply from the backseat. Suspi rear-view 1nirror. He seemed skeptical. tion not only on this street but in the ciousness has becon1e second nature. "Yes! Of course, here! Radiation world, I'm glad to have opted for the In a n1ost unwelcon1e fashion, this bul goes everywhere!" greater comfort. From this small cozy letin had managed in an instant to "\A/e are in G-d's hands, geveret." corner table that I favor, I glance down unearth that ancient childhood sense watchfully from time to time at the door. of being utterly, maddeningly at the * * * Two ambulances flash by, shrill sirens mercy of strangers toying dang'hous- screaming, and instantly, in an 'm in the quiet upstairs atriun1 of a admirable demonstration of Jewish KARKA IN BRETZ YISROBL cafe on Ben Yehuda Street, the pedes unity, all the coffee-drinkers stiffen, alert. Call Rabbi Gavriel Beer for information I trian mall in the center of town where Did something happen? In Your hand are on obtaining cemetery plots in Beth 1nany suicide bombers have detonated the souls of the living and the dead. Shemesh and other locations in Israel. themselves over the years, where so Will there be more sirens? Into Your 011-972-2-656-9427 nlany, many Je\vs have lost their eyes, hand I entrust my spirit. their hearing, their faces, their hands, We wait. 1111 The Shema Yisrael Torah Network ofYerushalayim Has developed a structured learning program for those who work full time. All shiurim are given in English following the exact order of the text of the TUR and SHULCHAN ARUCH. One will receive weekly a written shiur sent to you via email. You wlll leam: MECHABER, RAMA, SHACH, S"MA, MISHNA BRURA and more. There are separate programs in Choshen Mishpat, Shabbos, Yoreh Deoh, Niddah, Aveilus, and soon Orech Chaim and Even Ha Ezer 44 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 VOICES FROMERETZ YISROEL Debbie Shapiro A FEW THOUGHTS ON A MOTZA 'El SHABBOS ast Matza' ei Shabbos, as usual, I We probably seemed an odd pair. Me, pain for Am Yisroel. took a long walk with a close an ultra-Orthodox grandmother, busy As I turn a\vay to enter my apart1nent Lfriend. After briskly circling the raising a large family. Avi, a recovered building, I found myself silently asking neighborhood, and sighing over the dif drug addict, dressed in cut-off blue jeans Hashem to give Avi - and all of Kial Yis ficulties of life, we hurriedly returned and a ragged t-shirt. roe/, for that matter - the strength to home to our fa1nilies. But we were joined together in our grow from these challenging days. B It was then that I noticed Avi. Avi is not religious. His family is, but he is not. Until very recently, he was addicted to hard drugs. Today he is Dear Oorah struggling to rebuild his life - and his rhings h , relationship with Hashem - after hav ave rea//y Ch ing freed himself of his abusive habit. anged Since You You c . Catne i Avi was perched on the bench out onVtnced tn nto 117y hfe When 11-'. Y Pqrents t · side of his parents' apartment house, e began k o send 117e class. You 1.· eeping Shabb to Yeshiva y, staring into nothingness. A cigarette istened os and . ou Were h dangled from his mouth. Oorah, You bee to tny questions You helped 117e fl . t ere for tne I greeted Avi with a warm smile and atne the retig. and 9ave tne it into 117y n ious refat: answers I. ew asked him how he's doing. 111y fC1111i/ ives that We . . n every Wa Y has co117 Just didn, Y, "Terrible," he replies. 117e that Cu e so far in th t have. th cutnber c; e Past fi "Something's the matter?" at a// of Cu omtnunicCit.· ew Years and ''Yes." I . CU117be ' IOns 117 , tny b .s It rea//y true? rs Profits help Q ade it a// Possibt. rather tef/s It was obvious that Avi could barely like tne Brow up. Does every long d: orah send kids like e. He told tne continue. "My close friend just died - to be Shoi?'J istance ca// tne to Yesh. er rorah Peopfe 1va. 111 tonight. He was critically wounded in I Wish Peo ' U'111itzvos? ake help kid. the bombing last week." 'Pie knew s tne_ rhCink What a dif(i. I have known Avi since he was an Who You, Oorah erence Usin have chose , and Please g Cucutnber infant, and felt myself almost over n Cucumber say thank y, has 117ade ,:. whelmed by my desire to hold this child · ou to a// 1or Your friends and protect him from the cruel world that surrounds us. But that, of course, Av; Snyder was not possible. Staten /st. anc1, NY I can only stand and share in his sor row. "When did you find out?" I ask. "I was with him ... tonight ... when he died." There are times that words can only be superfluous. There was nothing that I could possibly say. I stood for a few more minutes near the entrance to our building and shared in Avi's pain. Debbie Shapiro, a professional writer in Jerusalem whose byline appears weekly in the American Yated Ne'enu1n, has had articles pub lished in these pages, n1ost recently, "Food For The Soldiers," (April '02). ln·Statcra The Jewish Observer, September 2002 45 I Building Confidence. t o Building the Future. 0 C>. ~ r< One Child at a Time. O< t- 718-854-8600 POSTSCRIPT: THE BOBO VER RAV ':>"::IT Rabbi Benzion Twersky ''Yaakov Avinu Lo Meis - Our Father Jacob Did Not Die'' Practical Eternal Living During these past two years we have had a number of occasions to mark the passing of a leading Torah figure in these pages - including Chassidic mentors, Yeshiva and community leaders, and outstanding teachers of wide influence. Time after time, we read of their personal greatness and extraordinary achievements, we turned the page, and filed away the information and inspiration for reference at some future occasion ... more likely to slip away and become a dim memory, relegated to eventual oblivion. "Righteous men are considered alive even after their passing." Aware of it or not, we remain under the impact of their lives for years to come. We are better, more knowledgeable Jews, more considerate human beings, closer to fellow man and to G-d, because of their efforts and accomplishments. And as we repeat their teachings, "Their lips move while they are in the grave." In the lines that follow, Rabbi Bentzion Twerski instructs us by the example of the Bobover Rav'"" how to return to the lessons that were once absorbed from having had contact with a Gadof beYisroef, how to review these lessons, and how to reinforce their imprint on our neshamos. NW hazal tell us: "Ma'aseh Avos worn by the Kohein Gadol in the Beis please with exuberance and passion. siman labanim," the deeds of Hamikdash. It was this image of his I yearn to emulate his avoda whenev C our forefathers are a portent for father, Yaakov, that protected Yoseif er I can, however I can. I take every their future generations. The careful from sin. chance to repeat his beautiful Divrei analysis of the lives of the Avos pro If we are to survive the degradation Torah, and apply their lesson to my vides guidance for us in our own and temptations of our galus, we own life. times. Yoseif Hatzaddik was the first must learn survival techniques fron1 The Rav shared with us many "galus Jew." If we are to survive the the example set by Yoseif. times that the source of his inspiration tests of gal us life, we are obligated to was the image of his beloved father. He emulate the life of Yoseif during his wo years have passed since the was an avid chassid of his father, and years in Egypt. passing of my revered great followed his every nuance and detail Many lessons are derived from the Tuncle, the Bobover Rav ~-,,,. wherever possible. There is no ques various situations and tests that Yoseif (See JO Oct. '00.) I left Brooklyn well tion in my mind that the image of his faced. He overcame the trials of rejec over ten years ago. Yet, since his pass father stood before him at all times. tion and depression, power and lust, ing, "demus dyukno," his saintly image, Perhaps for this reason the revenge and retribution and in1moral is constantly before my eyes. I am "trap" (incantation) over the word ity. Chazal teach us that when the wife amazed at how much impact he had of his master Potifar tempted Yoseif, on my life. Every Shabbos and Yorn Tov, he was saved by the image of his father, I relive his simcha; I can still sense the Yaakov. They elaborate on the words thrill and privilege of being in the "va'yenio'ein Yoseif - and Yoseif Rav's presence for Sholom Aleichem or restrained himself, saying ...." The Kiddush. As I lifted my lulav and esrog visage of Yaakov appeared to Yoseif, this past Succos, I was swept into the telling him, if you contaminate your powerful emotions of his nanu'im each We make "housecalls~ self, your name will be erased from the day of Succos. As I sat down to form Choshen, the breastplate, which will be the wicks for my Chanukah lecht, I (718) 972-4003 could envision the Rav's avoda as he Rabbi Twerski of Milwaukee, grandnephew of the :i-,.,~ Bobover Rav ':,..::It, co-authored (together with prepared for this momentous mitzva. Rabbi Aaron T\verski of Brooklyn) the biogra Now, at every opportunity of avodas .,b:::>lv phical essay "Rebuilding the Glory of Bobov" ( 10 Hashem, I see him as the loyal servant Oct. '00). Over the course of 5 years, he ate the Shabbos n1ea!s \Vith the Reb1Je. before his Maker, eager to serve, to Specializing in small batim for a perfect fit. The Jewish Observer, September 2002 47 "va'yemo'en Yoseif' is a shalshelles. In tated 1ny father 111ost, however, was addition to its reference to the tune it that four or six months was not long represents, the \Vord also n1eans a enough for him to become what his "chain." This is to teach us galus Jews father saw in him, or envisioned hitn CHALLENGE the lesson ofjewish survival. The shal to become. Due to my grandfather's INFANT DEVELOPMENTAL CENTER shelles, the chain, is the key to survive powerful parenting, his children were the many trials of temptation, alien driven to fulfill his dreams for them. ation and assimilation into the non My father suggested that this was Jewish culture. In order to maintain the meaning of "demus dyukno she! Child Development our chain, we 1nust seek out rebbe'i1n aviv.'' Yoseif Hatzaddik saw his own and role models who will sear into our image, demus dyukno, as perceived by Specialists serving very souls 'vhat it is to be an eved his father! He knew that to compro Hasheni. Y.le must have living pictures mise himself was a total betrayal of the infants/toddlers of how a real Jew davens, pleads, image Yaakov, his father, had of him. dances and lovingly performs the will & their families of his Creator. It is these images that have been blessed to be the recip will guide us and protect us. This is the ient of my grandfather's chinuch. shalshelles, the chain, that protected I My parents have vividly linked all Yoseif in his moment of trial. of us children to the chain to which they are proudly connected. They too e should bear in mind that have con11nunicated to us their expec every day, we are creating tations and hopes. VVe yearn to be \Vor W these living pictures in the thy of their approval, and, more minds and hearts of our children. We importantly, worthy of being anoth are writing the script that they will be er link in that chain. reading from and acting from, long Several years ago, I went with my after we have disappeared from the wife to give a kvittel to the Bobover scene. We n1ust nlake these i1nages Rav '>"lll. After taking the kvittel and powerful enough to protect our chil giving us his berachos, the Rav escort dren from the temptations they will ed us to the door. At the open door he face throughout their lives. stopped us, lovingly pnt his arm My father, Rabbi Michel Twerski, around my shoulder, and told us how zoll zein gezunt, took this a step fur close he felt to me, and detailed at ther. His father, Rabbi Yaakov Yisroel length what he thought of me. I was Twerski '>"lll, known as the Milwaukee astonished. Until I heard my father's Rebbe, was a mechanech (teacher) par interpretation of demus dyukno she! EARLY• INTERVENTION •MAKES• A• DIFFERENCE excellence. He had a keen under aviv, I didn't understand what the Rav Evaluation &Therapy standing of the nature and potential '>"lll had done. In retrospect, he was of each one of his children, and he cus giving me my marching orders. He at our center or in the tom tailored his expectations accord wanted me to become that which he privacy of your home ingly. As the result of their love for "saw" in me. I pray that I can live up him, his children yearned to meet to his expectations. Free of Charge these unique expectations. When any Yes, we must choose leaders who of the children disappointed him, he will create living, vibrant images to Bi-Lingual Services Available didn't resort to lecturing. Rather, his guide our lives. We must also choose rebuke always took the form of "Es leaders who will hold us to the high Executive Offices past nisht)" meaning "You're above est standards, so that due to our 4228 Tenth Avenue, that." His regard and expectations were regard for their opinion, we will not Brooklyn, New York 11219 the major driving force in the lives of dare disappoint them. Rather, we his children and grandchildren. will yearn and strive to fulfill their When my grandfather was diag lofty expectations of us. Moreover, in 718•972•0880 nosed vvith cancer, the doctors gave our homes and in our circle of influ SERVING BIOOKLYH, QUEENS, STATfH ISlAND & A\ANHATTAN him four to six months. My father ence1 we must become the kinds of Funded & Rosulat 48 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 Rabbi Moshe Eisemann BO~~S ~~~~w IN SEARCH OF THE EHRLICHE YID A Review Essay Chafetz Chaim: Lessons in Truth, by I want to get back once more to those Rabbi Shimon Finkelman, (ArtScroll faces. Recently Rabbi Asher Schwab, a Mesorah/Publications, Brooklyn, NY, grandson of the late tzaddik, Rabbi 2001, 272 Pages, $23.99) Mordechai Schwab 7":>:!, published Ma'amar Mordechai, a collection of his not contain his surprise. The eyes of this iP n7PN'I nlir.IN Wj?:ir.:J P!:Wr.J ilWl' V" CN ... grandfather's Mussar talks. As is cus elderly man were a child's eyes, pure and ... If there were even one person prac tomary in such books, a short biogra holy as only a youngster's can be. They ticing justice and craving honesty, I would phy is provided. One of the anecdotes testified to a life of discipline and con forgive [Yerushalayim]. (Yirmiyahu is particularly haunting. In his old age, trol. What a story! 5,1) Rabbi Schwab had to have his eyes It helps me to understand a Rashi on examined. The attending doctor could Chumash. We all know it from the read once that at age forty, people get the kind of faces that they deserve. By I that time there is no more dissem For Them bling. The face - panim, from p'nim ... Never before have so many meaning, that which is within - lives up requests for G~mach interest to its billing. It acts as a window that is free loans flooded into our 22 open to everyone. No more masks. Just branches across Israel. Besides year-round clientele, Kolle! the truth, painful or inspiring. It is all out families and those requiring in the open. Yorn Tov loans, Arab terror has I want to suggest an analogy. As a soci brought financial crisis to: ety matures, it gets the library that it + Businesses, factories, farms reeling from the dire economy. deserves. Publishers have to make a liv + Tourism and hotel employees ing. What does not sell does not get print hardly working, if at all. +Tens ed. If Rabbi Shimon Finkelman has done of thousands of army reservists it again, if he gets away with writing a ~\; ·-,called to active duty. <,:" + More than 276,000 victims of book about telling the truth and gets it record I0.60fo unemployment. published, that means that there is a pub lic for such a work. This is in1portant to And For You! know. We are not as bad as we so1netin1es Every donation becomes a think we are. We are, to use the phrase perpetually revolving interest fron1 Yirmiyahu, nzevakshei emuna - peo free loan, aiding the struggling and the crisis-stricken, forever. ple interested in finding the way to truth. The vast merit of extending a Perhaps some of us are not quite what Gemach loan can tip the scales we should be in this area, but it does say for a Shonah Tova, a new year something about us and we can be a lit of life and happiness for you and yours: tle proud. Again to paraphrase, this time Succa 53a, ~11Ni'T'll:J'e)U'IJ'llj7t~-Our ,~"''"' i'tl)i 01') ,, '~ ''-''O" ,,'O~" middle age has perhaps atoned for our • .,;;;/' '. OJ>"'''"' ",.,,°0~1 1)'11nl1 1)'1,"'0' ')'1 youth. We are getting somewhere. 1Soitil"wlto deil/S wise{y with the needy, on an evil day, He will Rabbi Moshe Eisemann, a Rebbe in Yeshiva Ner ... will guard him and revive him and he will be joyous. " '"',,'"., ,,, Israel of Baltin1ore, is author of the translation Rav Chaim P. Schelnberg (Honorary President) 0 11 and cornmentary of the ArtScroll/Mesorah Rav Shmuel Auerbadl Rav rose/ RMtnb/um OZER DALIM '"' » Yechezkel, L)ivrei Hayarnim, and Iyov, as well as Rav Nadlman Bulman• Rav Ma!lsyahu Salomon 1301 Avenue K other books under private label, including The Rav rose/ s. ElyaJhlr Rav Shimon Sdlwalt' ~ Rav Mordecahl G/fter' Rav Aaron Y. L Slltelnman Brooklyn, N.Y. 11230 Machzor Con1panion and Lighting up the Night. Rav Awollom Pam' Rav ovadla Yost/ -= (718) 434-2228 OzerO.lim He is a frequent contributor to these pages. The Jewish Observer, September 2002 49 beginning of Chayei Sarah. Sarah was moment, but first a few remarks about with flavor and aroina to warm and to as beautiful at twenty as she was at this wonderful book. delight, an outpouring of appreciation seven. What does this really mean? Do and of love for the subject. They are an we not associate beauty more with a Four in One unforgettable lesson from a master woman of twenty than with a child? A teacher. seven year-old is cute, but is she beau ctually, we are getting four for the But a strict one. The book is divided tiful? Here we have the answer. lnno· price of one. The volume com into lessons for every day of the year, and cence has a charm of its own, purity is A prises four selections of the whoever makes the very worthwhile beautiful. Chazal were thinking of an Chafetz Chaim's writings: Sefer Sefas investment of buying this book, as inner beauty. Sarah at twenty glowed Tamim, Sefer Shem Olam, Selected Let good as guarantees that, every morning, with childlike innocence. ters, and Selected Insights. Each of these he will feel Rabbi Finkelman looking How does all this relate to Rabbi is translated and augmented with a pot· over his shoulder, making sure that the Finkelman's Chafetz Chaim: Lessons In pourri of additional sources and of daily stint is not shirked. And, since the Truth? I will get to the answer in a intriguing anecdotes, a savory cholent book is about honesty, we may as well be consistent with our own principles and take his admonition seriously. We It is with great ioy and trepidation that will be the better for it. we begin to work on another publication The better, but not necessarily the of the writings of more comfortable. Those of us who are not ready to commit to living a Je\vish life jewishly, might be better off invest· rHAGAON REB SHLOMO ing our hard earned money elsewhere. Here is a pearl from the Brisker Rav that HEIMAN ZT"L can set all of us thinking and perhaps Former Rosh Ho Yeshiva of Yeshivas Ohel Toroh-Baranovitch, blushing just a little: The one sure-fire Rameilles·Vilno and Mesivto Torah Vodoath. way that Yoseif could guarantee that the brothers would return to Mitzrain1 was by putting their money back into the While some of Rabbi Heiman's works have been sacks. They would never rest until they published and have become stondard works of had returned money to which (so they eference far Talmudic scholars, we believe that many felt,) they had no right. of his shiurim, letters, lectures, correspondence and The book has many heroes. Of course, the Chafetz Chaim figures very ioulogies said about him still exist among his students prominently in the stories. There is also and their descendonts. the Chazon !sh, the Manchester Rosh Ha Yeshiva Rabbi Yehudah Zev Segal, you have any of these materials, or know someone Rabbi Elya Lopian, and many more. All ho does, it would be o great service to the world of the stories radiate an aura of purity and goodness, which of course inspire but, rah scholarship, if you would kindly contact Machon at least for myself if the truth be told, Zichron Shlomo at also intimidate. These people lived in a U.S.A: C.D. Sorotzkin 1215 East l 31h Street country for which I have yet to obtain Brooklyn NY 11230·4805 a visa. For rne, a small paragraph Fax (7181 266-7151 packed the greatest power, perhaps because of the majestic simplicity that Israel: C. D. Sorotzkin 2 3 / 6 Rechov Har av informs it. Such dignity needs no elab Sorotzkin ·Jerusalem Israel 94423 oration. Here it is: Tel. (02) 537·906 l / Fax. (02) 537·6938 Reb Yaakov [Kamenetsky] lived to age ninety-five. \\Then in his nineties, Machon Zichron Shlomo he was asked in what merit he had lived so long. "I never said a lie," was Headed by his reply. Hg"r Michel Yehudo Lefkowitz Sh/it"o As they say, Es iz schver tzu zein a Yid! Hg"r Yitzchak Scheiner Sh/it"a But, as they also say, Es iz schverer nischt tzu zein a Yid! 50 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 Innocence, Naivete, or Purity? tr ve eim be Yisroel (leading city Shabbos; that was clearly forbidden by amongst Jews). the Torah. So what could possibly be et us get back to those faces and There was a wonderful man, known the point of staying open? Shaking his to Rabbi Mordechai Schwab's for his pure faith and simple trust in head in disbelief, he shuffled off. L child-like eyes. I promised earli the goodness of both G-d and man. I would love, dear reader, to see your er to explain how all this comes into One Shabbos, someone came running face as you read this story. Are you this wonderful book about honesty. up to him with the terrible news that smiling at the impossible naivete, or are I recall hearing a tape from Rabbi a certain store-keeper had broken you sighing at our own lost innocence? Shimon Schwab 'nn in which he told ranks and, as the first traitor in the Next time you try to fudge a little on about paying a visit to a house of Frankfurt fudengasse, was keeping his your income tax, grab hold of Lessons mourning. As he came in, one of the store open on Shabbos. Our ty'ere Yid In Truth, remember our Frankfurter aveilim, a young child, asked in perfect burst out laughing at such obvious stu Yid, swallow hard, and earn your bit of seriousness, "How come you are still pidity. After all, the man was certain Olam Habba by being strong and alive when my father is dead? Why ly not allowed to sell anything on remaining true. • should you not die just as he did?" Touche! Rabbi Schwab remarked that only a child could have been so brutally honest. This youngster was bothered It hurts by a reasonable question and saw no reason to withhold it. He had not yet 1oc II learned what all of us do learn as we grow older and more sophisticated; om es IC that there are myriad ways around the truth, and that saying things as they are is simply one of any nun1ber of possibilities. .,.i Of course, to an extent, that is true. • We all know that 01':>w 'lOr.J n1iw':> imr.i that situations can and do arise in which the cold, unvarnished truth is not the halachically favored mode of communication. But arnongst our It hurts selves, we also know that darkei Shalom is not a concept that expands infinitely. We all know where the shoe pinches, r and ought to be graceful enough and sensible enough to admit it. We have a new take on the pasuk, o. "For Yisroel is like a youngster and it is for just that reason that I love him!" (Hoshe'a 11,1). G-d loves us when we It feels better just to talk about it. That's why we're here. Our staff is made up of display child-like innocence and caring and sensitive individuals. Together, eschew the '(street-smarts" that mark we can help you explore your options. We us as sophisticates in a society that has can refer you to recognized professionals for counseling, legal advice or help in lost its bearings. finding a safe environment. We can also Here is a story that Rabbi Finkel put you in touch with some very special man does not recount in his book, but Rabbis. But in order for us to reach out to you, you must first reach out to us. which readers may enjoy if only because it puts us in touch with the Confidential Hotline 1.888.883.2323 amoli'ke Yid [try translating that!] of (Toll Free) yesteryear. It happened in the town of 718.337.3700 my birth, Frankfurt-am-Main, before Do it for yourself. (NYC Area) Reform had wreaked its terrible Do it for your children. Shalom Ta>k For(€ 1s a 501 (c)O) charitable organ1zat100 depredations upon Yiddishkeit in that The Jewish Observer, September 2002 51 Rabbi Hillel Goldber The Bostoner Rebbetzin Raiche! Horowitz ;i"v e were perfect strangers. Yet, versities in the area. Open to friends in of our most beautiful men1ories came the Bostoner Rebbe invited us Boston and outside Boston. Open to rel at a Beth Jacob High School of Denver W for Shabbos right over the atives - and open to all of these people's graduation some years ago. A student phone. We were newly married, check children. from out of town had been friends with ing out housing possibilities in the The home of Bostoner Chassidim had one of our daughters for four years. It Boston area. We didn't give it a second three floors just for guests. After a while, vvas not until graduation that we met her thought: the Rebbe invited us for Shab a separate building (with eight apart parents. They looked familiar. Finally, we bos and so we went. Years later, having ments) was secured just for the medical put it together. Some 19 years earlier, had many children and hundreds of patients. \t\Teek in and week out, year in they were the couple that the Rebbetzin Shabbos guests of our own, I realized and year out - for decades - Rebbetzin had taken in so that they could under what it meant for a husband to invite Raiche! Horowitz prepared Shabbos go fertility treatment in Boston. They guests without first checking with his meals for I 0 to 40 people. Some of the had endured countless disappoint wife. It meant: His wife agrees. In the medical patients willingly pitched in for ments. My wife and I remembered the Rebbetzin's case it meant: Invite as the Shabbos preparations. Compared to Rebbetzin encouraging then1, 1nonth n1any as you want. It even n1eant: 1~he the advice, warmth, prayers and hope after month. They stayed at her home more you invite, the more I accomplish that the Rebbe and Rebbetzin supplied, more than a year! Now, 19 years later, in life. it seemed very little to help the Rebbet we realized that this friend of our own The passing of the Bostoner Rebbe's zin prepare for the huge Shabbos crowd. daughter-this graduate-was the fruit wife, Rebbetzin Raichel Horowtiz, was a The unstated message was this: You of that medical treatment. penetrating loss for the countless thou were not repaying a favor. You weren't sands who had been the recipient of her actually helping out the Rebbetzin or the n 1996, the Rebbetzin published The unreserved chessed. The Rebbetzin was Rebbe- because they were not helping Boston Rebbetzin Remembers: Reb the utterly reliable provider of meals, each other. This was not a model of a I betzin Raiche/ Horowitz of Boston I beds, advice, comfort, cheer and hope marriage in which spouses respected and Har Nof Recalls Jewish Life in Poland, for the entire spectrum of humanity. It cared for each other. This was much America and Israel (ArtScroll). is difficult to describe this credibly; if you more. When the Rebbe invited us for Violence marked the Rebbetzin's did not witness it, you will think I exag Shabbos, it was not because he wanted early years. She came to the US in the gerate. to and knew his wife would go along; it ! 920's, but her sister remained behind. We went to the Rebbes for Shabbos was because they both wanted to come So did countless relatives - all killed in that hot summer weekend over 30 closer to G-d. They were working for a the Holocaust. Their murder was hard years ago. We noticed: Many others higher cause. They both believed that ly a distant happening. Raiche! went, too. The Rebbe and the Rebbetzin chessed- reaching out to and caring for Horowitz had returned to Poland for ran what they called an "open house." other people - was a major path to G long visits twice. She knew her family Open to the charity collectors from d. Their marriage was not in service of well; with eloquence and pain she Israel. Open to very ill people seeking each other, but in service of G-d. This expresses her ache over their absence. major cures. Open to students from is why so many gladly rolled up their Then there were the pogroms, illness Brandeis, Harvard, MIT and other uni sleeves for the Rebbetzin. es, and premature deaths she 'vitnessed. Rabbi Goldberg is executive editor of Denver's Rebbetzin Horowitz invited couples Through it all, she remained an optimist, Internwuntain fewisf1 News. into her home for months at a time. One giving her the fortitude for the life she 52 The Jewish Observer, Sepfember 2002 eventually chose with the Rebbe. rubbed shoulders with people decked fortable together. Age did not slow her Her parents divorced when she was out in Yerushalmi garb, utterly removed schedule or commitment. Only her final four; her mother and stepfather, "Cleve from the secular world of Boston. But illness did that. May her example con lander-Nadvorna Rebbe;' ran an open the Rebbetzin made everyone feel com- tinue to inspire us. • house- also preparation for her married life. She grew up with meshullachim (charity fundraisers) and other visitors, some of whom were mentally ill. Her exposure to Chassidic Rebbes, Polish anti Semites, ne'er-do-wells, tzaddikim and American, non-Jewish public school For careful attention to your classmates gave the Rebbetzin an inex individual needs, call us today! haustible pool of wisdom even before she (845) 354-8445 met the Rebbe. Then, through exposure to countless Shabbos guests, medical spe cialists, brilliant students, impoverished drifters and religious seekers - not to You c;an! Just c;all mention her own, five accomplished chil The Yit:t:i Leibel dren - the Rebbetzin knew exactly what ''1 wish I could she stood for and what she wanted to do: Helpline. chessed. Aptly, her memoir had two HOURS: lvtonday-Friday ...... Sam -12pm unintended consequences. It revealed that speak to a Monday-Thursday ...... 8pn1 -11 pm she was older than the Rebbe, which gave Sunday ...... 9am -l2pm, 9pn1 -1 lpm hope to older, unmarried girls; and it revealed that for years she had been raised frum therapist by a single mother, which gave hope to 971s(;~~4~f-;~pw single parents. Chessed. Chicago ...... (800) HELP-023 By the time the Rebbe and Rebbetzin on the phone Lakewood ...... (732) 363-1010 moved to Israel half-time in the mid Cleveland ...... (888) 209-8079 I 980's, their children were following in Baltimore ...... (410) 578-1111 without giving · Detroit ...... (877) 435-7611 their footsteps. For example, in San Diego ...... (866) 385-0348 Jerusalem, the Rebbetzin could spread n·v o?p,.,?"n l'"O ~"";:.' .., re N'CY't il'TI m:v~ .,i,.,1' the wealth - the guests - among two (;i,wl"l"r"N~··,.,,=l my name.'' :''q.l J1N7,.,~~~;i·~/1'";1t!-" '"l children who lived in the Har Nof neigh Dedicated b Mr. & Mrs. Shmuel Boruch Wilhelm borhood. Even so, the Rebbe and Reb betzin still invited guests; their apart ment was packed for Kiddush and Havdalah. t these events I looked around <'d,g· t.he 6rowing Jewish Community nd saw young people, just as we ... ·· Complete family Resources ad been many years before. The •Healthy Jab Markel Rebbe and Rebbetzin had not reached out •Affordable Housing to us because this is what they were •Nurturing Community doing at that stage of their lives. Singles, •Learning Opportunities newlyweds, students, Chassidim, med •Shomer Shabbos Medical Residencies ical cases, friends, relatives: the Rebbe •Community Activities and Rebbetzin were reaching out to these people their entire lives. Total Torah Environment The diversity of people whom the •Cheder •Bois Yokov •Yeshiva Gedola •Kolle! Rebbetzin could relate to in Boston was •Mikveh •Eruv dazzling. In Jerusalem, the range •Wisconsin School Tuition Vouchers widened still more, with even the most for Qualifying Families traditional denizens of Me' ah She'arim added to the mix. Secular students The Torah Community of Rabbi Michel Twerski invnes your interest 1·800-226-3129 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 53 To build our "Bayis Neeman" - that's what it was all about, We had so many lofty dreams we hoped we could fulfill And we prayed to Hakadosh Baruch Hu that this would be His will! "WEDDING GUIDELINES" - ONLY A laws of the sota (wayward wife) and that We hoped that our children would out STARTING POINT of the nazir. "V\Thoever sees a sofa in her do us, thus we prayed ruination should separate himself from In 111iddos and in nJitzvos - and that To the Editor: wine:' The person who sees the sofa die Torah be their trade, May I add one point to Dr. Twers a horrible, n1iraculous death is shaken That chessed and compassion would ki's excellent piece on "wedding guide to the depths of his soul. But if he does beco1ne their second nature. lines" (JO, June '02). It concerns the not act upon this experience in1n1edi Humility and fear of G-d would be what "cynics" who find fault with the guide ately, he will not change. The sight of the gives them staturel lines (though it is difficult to under so ta will just be something to talk about stand how a member of the Torah com it, it will not have any lasting effect. One thing I can tell you, our youngest munity could be critical of that which If September I 1'"was not enough to precious child, was formulated and approved by wake us from our slumber, we have been Good things don't come easy and at gedolei Yisroel). sent enough reminders over the past ti1nes your dreams seem wild, 1 It was on September 13 \ two days year, apart fro1n the situation in Eretz To rear a tot through childhood, up into after the Twin Towers attack, when the Yisroel. Anthrax scares, a sinking stock his grownup years Novo1ninsker Rebbe N"vY7v announced market, tragic accidents and violent Takes a wealth of earnest tefillos and that the time has come to implement attacks against Jews in Brooklyn, Los wells and wells of tears! such guidelines. I highly doubt that any Angeles and Toronto ';ri, should be one questioned the Rebbe's words at that enough to make all of us realize, once But here's a thought I want to share time. People were too scared. They had and for all, that things have got to especially with you seen clearly and powerfully how fragile change. That years ago, when we begun, a is our existence and how quickly the Rib And as gedolim have made clear, wed young and starry-eyed "two" bon a Shel Olam can take a complacent, dings are only a starting point. Hashem One more child than Bobbi has was all secure nation and in a matter of min is calling out loudly and clearly to each I dared to ask. utes, envelop it \l\rith fear and uncer and every one of us, to ask of oneself, Never, in such shefa did I dream that we tainty. At that time, everyone understood "How can I improve?" Let us hope that would bask! that the correct response to the disas we do not procrastinate any longer in ter was, as the Rebbe suggested, to make responding, for the sake of ourselves and Today, at times, I look at you, no gold major changes in our lives and lifestyles. for all of Kial Yisroel. nor jewels that glow But human nature is such that when RABBJ SHJMON FlNKELMAN Can ever match this precious gift one does not react to inspiration imme Brooklyn, NY Hashem did us bestow, diately, the inspiration wears off. This is And here's this very awesome thought how the baalei mussar explain the teach that hits me now and then. ing regarding the juxtaposition of the MORE ON "HEADING A LARGE FAMILY" At times I may forget it but it hits me once again ... To the Editor: I was so impressed, overjoyed and "What if" Hashem had so decreed, that thankful for your issue of The Jewish "one less child would do." Observer devoted to Bayis Neeman A thought so overwhelming that it's BeYisroel, including "Heading a Large hard to think it through, Family," by Mrs. Faiga Koenig (Jan. '02). Don't you see! Any words to thank I would like to share something very Hashem would be too few! for alf l!gegroups . personal and meaningful to me as a P.S. "What if"- what we'd be missing- if He for the Orthodox:Jewish community. to that issue: didn't give us you!! To Our Youngest Child on Her Rabbinical references available Eighteenth Birthday: BRACHA ISAACS Home: (718) 338-1765 Over 40 years ago when Tatti and I Brooklyn, NY P er:.(917) 486-5655 set out 54 The Jewish Observer, September 2002 WAY BEYOND Us Bracha Goetz at' s going on in the cosmos A mitzva goes way beyond us As the Shabbos flames ignite? When we send one off into space, resonates through the Universe The endless vibrations created When we say "Shema" at night. Transform every time, every place. What's happening in the Heavens? 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