Your Access to Fulfillment and Abundance For Everything in Life An Anthology Dr. John Spencer Ellis and the entire collaborative team of The Code congratulate you for taking control of your life and seeking knowledge to live each day to the fullest! All Rights Reserved 2009 John Spencer Ellis Enterprises, Inc. “This book is dedicated to all of my teachers who gave me the wisdom to make a difference in people’s lives.” Dr. John Spencer Ellis 2 Table of Contents Introduction by Dr. John Spencer Ellis 5 Health and Nutrition 7 Relax Your Stress by Cheryl Y. Price, Ph.D. 8 Aging Backwards by Jackie Silver 19 “Mind” Your Wellness by Selwa B. Hamati 27 The True Cost of Weight Loss by Dan Agresti 38 Lose It for Real by Natasha Linton 44 Healthy Approach to Weight Loss through Sensible Eating by Chef Marie-Annick Courtier 54 Total Life Vitality in a Lean Body by Kelli Calabrese, M.S. 59 Aging Well with Exercise by Norma Shechtman, M.ED, M.A. 71 Business and Wealth 74 Conquering the Invisible Enemy… Your Mind! by Tim Taylor 75 Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth by T. Harv Eker 82 Enjoying Enlightened Entrepreneurship: A New Business Paradigm by Mitchell Jay Rabin 93 How to Build Wealth with Risk Taking by Debbie Allen 105 Home, Community, and Relationships 112 Design Psychology by Kelli Ellis 113 Communication by Jim Sayih 118 Unrealistic and Unspoken Expectations Harm Relationships by Jacklyn Marcus, Ph.D. 130 How to Really Help a Teenager by Tami Walsh, M.A. 142 Equipping Teens to Succeed by Jeanelle Lanham 146 The Four Most Dangerous Assumptions You Can Make for Your Child’s Education by Larry Hochman 152 Thinking about Medicating your Child? by Mickey Caputo 163 The Kids of the New Millennium by Teo Alfero 175 Spirituality and Living Your Dreams 188 Visualization is the Key to Unlocking the Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Tim Ralston 189 Life Purpose by José Ferreira Jorge 204 Project X by Dawn Franklin 213 Your Inner Guidance Knows by Jeanna Gabellini 220 The 9 Essential Principles for Living Your Life in Balance by Michelle Van Otten 229 Living in a Human Suit™ by Scott Brandon Hoffman 241 3 The One Game You Can Never Win by Dean Delker 254 Are You Ready for the Next Level? by Jonathan Conneely 263 Confidence, Fortitude, and Success 273 The Massive Success Formula by Anton Pearce 274 The Three Percenters by Chalene Johnson 281 So Many Choices, So Little Time by Todd Newton 296 How Do People Get Stuck and Unstuck? by Marie Ginga 304 Changing the Direction of Your Life at Any Moment by Cassie Parks 315 FEVER by Perk 325 Enhancing Motivation to Create Lasting Change by Nancy DiCioccio, M.P.H. 334 From Fear to Fearless by David Di Francesco 345 Your Time to Succeed by Russell A. Yermal 353 Persistence and the Art of Winning by Eric Durak, M.Sc. 364 The Attitude of Success by Tom Terwilliger 371 Planning Your Success: Identifying, Prioritizing and Achieving Your Goals by John Charles Robinson 380 About the Authors 391 4 Introduction by Dr. John Spencer Ellis www.JohnSpencerEllis.com A special message from the creator of The Code: First, I want to thank you for taking charge of your life. We all have the resources and ability to design our lives any way we choose. It has always been this way. Those who understand this, and take action, will achieve greatness. Those who think they have been dealt a losing hand, are disadvantaged, or somehow think having more will take resources for others, are simply wrong. The truth is that genetics give you a baseline for who you are at birth. However, your thoughts, environment, beliefs, values and your interpretation of environmental stimulus greatly affect the expression of your DNA. In return, your life is ultimately created by the expression of your genes. Proper expression of your genes allows you to feel better, become more of a person, and live your life to the fullest. What is even more important is what you do for future generations. It’s all about “intergenerational transmission of consciousness.” What does this mean? It’s simple. You don’t just pass along eye color and hair color to your offspring. It’s also more than a transcendence of an art or vocal skill. You actually transmit your consciousness to your children. As DNA is “conditioned” and “expressed” over time, it ultimately changes who you become. When you produce an offspring, your DNA and way of perceiving the world is transmitted to your children. Eating right, managing stress, and sleeping well are important to the health and well-being of your baby. However, perhaps they are not any more important than how you interpret the world each day. So, what is your responsibility? Your duty as a human is to have as many good and beneficial experiences as possible. You must surround yourself with people who ask more, demand more and live more fulfilled lives. Why is this important? Because over time, people tend to take on the values and behaviors of those they encounter on a daily basis. You have the responsibility to continually educate yourself, respect your body, have strong family bonds, make a 5 difference in the world, and experience gratitude for everything you have and want to have. As you enhance your life and grow as a person, do it from the perspective of “success intelligence.” This is a phrase coined by Dr. Robert Holden. True success only comes from having clear intentions on your path to success. It’s about being true to yourself, and not getting caught up in the manic society that exists all around us. Understand what success means to you and not the Jones family down the street. If you are so busy keeping up with the Jones’ (fill in the blank), you won’t have any time to enjoy their company. Being wise on your path to unlimited success is a responsibility you carry for yourself and future generations. Use the knowledge from The Code as a resource guide to live your life at the highest level. Your children will thank you! - Dr. John Spencer Ellis 6 Health and Nutrition 7 Relax Your Stress by Cheryl Y. Price, Ph.D. www.anewwaytoheal.com I’M STRESSED OUT! Day after day, we hear these words: on our jobs, at school, and at home. But what does it mean to be stressed out exactly? Are you: • Overwhelmed at work? • Can’t make ends meet? • Trying to balance home and work? • Just can’t relax? • Facing a layoff? Webster defines stress is a “physical, chemical or emotional factor that causes bodily or mental tension and may be a factor in disease causation.” The more we stress, the more we release stress hormones that damage our bodies. According to the American Institute of Stress, up to 90% of all doctor’s visits are stress- related. If you’ve seen a doctor recently, there is a 90% chance that your illness was caused by stress disorders. Given that, when we reduce our stress levels we can in turn reduce, and possibly eliminate, the majority of our sicknesses and diseases. Wouldn’t that be great? But first, we have to understand how stress causes the majority of our ills. And how we can prevent it? Deb Shapiro, author of Your Body Speaks Your Mind, talks about our immune system and stress: “When the stress response continues over a period of time— with a regular release of adrenaline and cortisol, and the resulting psychological and emotional changes—you may begin to experience more serious problems.” As a result of feelings of stress, Americans consume five billion tranquilizers, five billion barbiturates, three billion amphetamines, and 16 tons of aspirin every year. We are a drug-dependent nation. And drugs cause to our bodies to break down as well. We must wean ourselves from drug-dependence and choose other means that promote wholeness of our physical body, our emotional body, our spiritual body and our mental body. 8 Despite the fact that it is impossible to totally eliminate stress from our lives, we can minimize it so its effects are negligible. In doing so, we can live free of pain, sickness and anxiety. But first, we must know what stress is, what causes it, and ways to minimize it. Defining Stress Experts have defined stress in many ways, but there is no agreement as to what stress really is. This was shown to me by the answers to the question I posed to my audience at one of my stress relief seminars—what does stress mean to you? I got a different answer from each person because just like our fingerprints are unique to us, so is our meaning of stress. Hans Selye, author of The Stress of Life, defined stress as “the nonspecific response of the body to any demand made upon it.” He noted that when good things (the birth of a child) and bad things, (a death of a loved one) happen to us, our bodies react physiologically in the same manner. Walter Canon, a noted psychologist employed at the Harvard Medical School, first identified the stress reaction as the fight or flight response. (After Hurricane Katrina, psychologists changed the stress response to fight, flight or fright). Canon says that your body prepares itself, when confronted by a threat, to either stand your ground or run away. The fight or flight response is a throw back from our ancestors who needed to be able to respond to physical threats in their environment.