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VICE PRESIDENT 2 525 Route 70, Suite A5 / Lakewood, NJ 08701 P: 732.994.5552 / F: 732.994.5553 E: [email protected] Table of Contents Editorial Letter from the Editor 4 Mailbox 6 Timeline 8 26 Chizuk To Light in Delight 10 Humor Free IVF 56 A Light in the Dark 14 The Five Friends 58 Message of Hope 16 Fertility Patient 62 Oil for Today 18 Tomorrow 20 Going in Circles 21 Playlist Just One Baby 64 Struggle to Freedom 22 In Ihr Chevron 65 Stop Waiting for Happiness 24 Chizuk from P r e g n a n c y Lo s s S u p p o r t Within Something Borrowed 66 Not Alone 26 What Nobody Tells You 72 Dear IF 30 The Price of a Secret 32 The Waiting Train 35 Yiddish What a Beautiful Mess 36 Riding the Waves 38 Section 84-102 Chanukah Miracle 40 24 Support Pick Your Battles: 44 Waze 46 52 Medical Testosterone Supplements 48 PCOS or HA 50 Natural Isn't Better 52 91 A TIME was founded in memory of: Five Myths 54 CHANUKAH TIKVAH/ SHAAREI 5777 ר׳ ירמי׳ ב״ר אהרן ע״ה • ר׳ מרדכי ע״ה ב״ר אפרים רוזן נ״י 3 Letter from the Editor How are you, dear reader? On Chanukah, we recite Hallel When we recite the complete Dearin its entirety. Readers, Hallel, we are blessing Hashem, If you are reading this magazine, not only for the happy, joyous then chances are that your life has And then there are times, such occasions but also for our some challenges at the moment; as Rosh Chodesh and the latter hardships, struggles, pains and you are encountering some days of Pesach, when we skip over difficulties. and ”לא לנו“ bumps on the road, trying to find the chapters of How do we refer to the This is no easy feat, Reb Mottel ”.אהבתי“ your way on unchartered terrain and attempting to conquer the incomplete Hallel? We refer to this Slonimer points out. He compares struggles, disappointments and as “Chatzi Hallel—half Hallel.” the two pesukim found in Hallel כוס pain. and notes that whereas is all in ישועות אשא ובשם ה' אקרא One doesn’t have to be a ends צרה ויגון אמצא ,And yet, had the above question mathematical genius to calculate one pasuk been addressed directly to you, that we are, in fact, saying way one pasuk, and the next pasuk It is .ובשם ה' אקרא you would have probably more than half of Hallel on those starts with answered with, “Baruch Hashem.” days. Why don’t we refer to it as natural to thank Hashem when 85% Hallel? Why is it considered the good times are flowing; “Baruch Hashem, we’re to be “half Hallel?” managing.” however, it takes tremendous This question can be answered avoda to praise Hashem while “Baruch Hashem, we’re with our abovementioned suffering. experiencing such Siyata obligation. Dishmaya.” Not only do we have the opportunity for a complete Hallel כוס ישועות אשא ובשםThe pasuk which alludes to blessing during the eight recitations of ה’ אקרא …And even Hashem for the goodness He Hallel over Chanuka, but endless “Baruch Hashem, we’re going times throughout the day. Every ,מה אשוב through a rough time.” grants us is found in which is never omitted when day. We can bless Hashem for all of צרה ויגון, In doing so, in blessing Hashem reciting Hallel.