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02.05.21 █ dallasvoice 3 instan DallasVoice.com/Category/Instant-Tea TEA Deadline for city elections is Feb. 12 Caring for a pet’s pearly whites Texas GOP fires ex-gay Whitt The deadline to file as a candidate in the May 1 municipal The Texas Republican Party has fired ex-gay elections is Feb. 12. Dallas resident Kevin Whitt, who was hired Nov. In Dallas, three council members will hit term limits and can’t 20, 2020, as a field organizer, according to the run in this year’s election: Mayor Pro Tem Adam Medrano, District Texas Tribune. Yes, the election was over, so 2; Lee Kleinman, District 11, and Jennifer Gates, District 13. we’re not sure what he was hired to organize. Medrano chairs the LGBT Task Force. Whitt is the one who, in 2019, organized the Two other gay incumbents — Chad West and Omar protest against Drag Queen Story Hour at the Narvaez — will run for re-election. At least two other LGBTQ Grauwyler branch library in Dallas. You remem- candidates — Jonas Park and Leland Burk — are expected to ber that protest; it’s the one where they showed qualify for the ballot. up at the wrong library on the wrong day. Obvi- — David Taffet ously not the most talented field organizer. Whitt was fired after posting a video of Vols needed for vaccination himself recorded in Washington, D.C., on Jan. 6 speaking to, well, no one, claiming to be an registration pop-ups ex-transgender, ex-drag queen, ex-prostitute Dallas County Commissioner Elba Garcia, in conjunction who had been the victim of sexual abuse as with other elected officials and community leaders, continues a child. He claims he wasn’t the victim of a to host pop-up registration sites for the COVID-19 vaccination. reparative therapy scam; he just got invited to “It is important that business owners and community members church and got saved. understand that making the COVID-19 vaccine accessible to all What was he doing in D.C.? Why, taking part of our residents in Dallas County is a top priority,” said a press in the insurrection at the Capitol, of course. Al- release from Garcia’s office. though he was on the steps, he isn’t accused of Pop-up registration sites have become “a great success” in being among those who broke into the building. While in D.C., he visited the pizzeria that’s helping communities register for the vaccine, and volunteers known for the Pizzagate conspiracy that alleged are welcome to help process registrations, the press release Democrats were running a child sex-traffick- noted. Fluent bilingual volunteers with computer skills are ing ring out of the restaurant. In the pizzeria, especially needed. he was shouting at employees that they were Anyone interested in becoming a volunteer at a COVID-19 pedophiles and refused to leave when asked. registration site can call Garcia’s office at 214-653-6670. — David Taffet Kevin Whitt — Tammye Nash

4 dallasvoice.com █ 02.05.21 Caring for a pet’s pearly whites

ienvenidos to my month- First as the insides of their teeth don’t need to sure I have a detailed conversation with my ly column! I am super of all, I be brushed; only the outside of their teeth clients, setting expectations and talking excited this time around, recommend needs to be brushed. But do brush all the about options. because this column visiting the way to the back of their mouths. Make sure Our more mature babies can be fragile marks my one year anni- Veterinary to take it slow and associate this with a and we need to be cautious about these versary of contributing to Oral Health good experience, as we want this to be a procedures, but it all starts with just a simple Dallas Voice as a writer! Council’s lifelong addition to the care and well being dental exam and a thorough conversation. It has been such an website of our dogs and cats. If you have a veterinary hospital for your honor to be a part of this (VOHC.org). Now let us be realistic (LOL): Even when baby, ask for a dental exam, and, if they amazing publication, and This is the you use this approach, many dogs and cats recommend a dental cleaning, feel free to I look forward to continuing to be a part of it veterinary will never let you do anything to their teeth. ask if they have any offer for the month of and, hopefully, continuing to change lives. version of The good thing about toothpastes for dogs February. If you do not have a veterinarian As some of you may know, February is the Ameri- and cats is that they have enzymes that or want to visit me in Addison, I will perform National Pet Dental Health Month. Dental can Dental help break down the plaque, so even if you a thorough exam on your baby and share disease is one of the most common diseas- Associa- cannot brush their teeth, the toothpaste will the details with you. I will also take my es in dogs and cats. In fact, it is so common tion, and still help break down some of the plaque. time to make sure all of your questions are that it is rare to see an adult dog or cat that this website You can also give them dental treats to addressed. does not have any signs of dental disease. offers a help with their oral health, and the VOHC During the month of February, my hospi- Dental disease includes much more list of products approved for oral care for website has a good list of the best products tal is offering a $50 discount on the dental than just tartar and gingivitis. With dental dogs and cats. Choose a toothpaste and you can use. cleaning fee. We hope you will be able to disease, you can also have evidence of bad toothbrush from the VOHC list and start by Once they have tartar accumulated on visit us and have us help you in taking care breath, bone loss, tooth root exposure, ab- offering just a small portion of toothpaste as their teeth, only an actual dental cleaning of your baby’s oral health. scesses, oral pain and teeth mobility among a treat every day. Once your baby likes the can get rid of that. These cleanings are I am so thankful to be able to share these other issues. taste of it, start touching a few of their teeth usually performed once yearly and under columns with you, and I am truly looking The most important thing we can do as with the toothpaste on your finger once dai- anesthesia, as the pet needs to be still in forward to my continued collaboration with pet parents is to aid in preventing dental ly for about a week or so. Slowly continue order for a proper cleaning to be performed. Dallas Voice. Until the next time, abrazos disease, and the gold standard prevention to touch more and more teeth until you can Some dogs and cats, however, may need and stay safe! will continue to be brushing our babies’ touch almost all teeth without a fight. Once dental cleanings more or less frequently. Dr. Josh owns Isla Veterinary Boutique teeth. I do realize this is easier said than you’ve reached this point, then incorporate These decisions can be made and ad- Hospital at 14380 Marsh Lane, Ste. 110 in done, but I promise that if you approach it the toothbrush. Make sure to remember that dressed when your veterinarian performs Addison (next to Tom Thumb). Contact them little by little, it can be done! you do not have to open their mouths at all, an oral exam, and, as a veterinarian, I make at 972-738-1111 or visit IslaVet.com.

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02.05.21 █ dallasvoice 5 Senate confirms Buttigieg

Bipartisan vote marks historic his spouse, Chasten Buttigieg, will leave first for LGBTQ community their lives in the Midwest to become Washington insiders in a script that could be a play on American filmography, “Mr. CHRIS JOHNSON | Washington Blade Buttigieg Goes to Washington.” Courtesy of National LGBT Media Association Senate Majority Leader Charles “America is fortunate to have Pete as tion as first openly gay person to a Cabi- Schumer, D-N.Y., said on the Senate floor their secretary of transportation.” net-level position is a long overdue vote ete Buttigieg was ap- prior to the confirmation vote that Butt- Buttigieg won the historic designation buttoning up the progress and historic proved by the U.S. igieg is an “outstanding nominee” who amid a dispute over whether or not he confirmations the LGBTQ community Senate on Tuesday, has “demonstrated an impressive famil- should be considered the first openly gay has achieved in recent years. Feb. 2, as Secretary of iarity with our nation’s entire transporta- person to serve in a Cabinet role consid- Another Biden nominee, Rachel Transportation, mark- tion challenges,” including the proposed ering Richard Grenell did serve as acting Levine, may soon achieve another first ing the first time an gateway tunnel from New Jersey to New director of national intelligence, a Cab- for the LGBTQ community if and when openly gay person has York City. inet-level role, under Trump. Grenell, she is confirmed as assistant secretary been confirmed to a “I know that Mr. Buttigieg is com- however, never sought nor won Senate of health and becomes the first openly Cabinet-level position — a long overdue mitted to working with members from confirmation for the position, although transgender person to win Senate confir- achievement for the LGBTQ community. both sides to improve rail and transit, he was confirmed for his concurrent po- mation. The former South Bend mayor, nom- highways and more in rural communi- sition as U.S. ambassador to Germany. inated by President Biden after making ties, urban centers and everywhere in James Hormel, who became the first Praise for Buttigieg history in the 2020 Democratic primary between,” Schumer said. “I’m excited to openly gay ambassador in U.S. history as an openly gay candidate, was con- call him ‘Secretary Pete’ by the end of the in 1999 after former President Clinton Sen. Gary Peters, D-Mich., was among firmed on a bipartisan vote of 86-13. day.” designated him in a recess appointment the senators who took to the Senate floor The Democratic caucus was united in The bipartisan vote reflects the confir- as U.S. ambassador to Luxembourg, said in support of Buttigieg, giving a shout- support for Buttigieg. Among the Re- mation hearing for Buttigieg, when he Buttigieg can rightfully claim the title of out to Chasten Buttigieg in the process: publicans joining them were Texas Sen. enjoyed a relatively breezy reception by first openly gay Cabinet official because “As a Midwesterner, and as a husband John Cornyn as well as Joni Ernst of lawmakers from both parties on the Sen- of the “acting” nature of Grenell’s role, to a Michigander who was born and Iowa, Roger Wicker of Mississippi, John ate Committee on Commerce, Science although the Trump White House had in- raised in Traverse City, Secretary-desig- Kennedy of Louisiana and Rob Portman & Transportation, with the exception of sisted the distinction belongs to Grenell. nate Buttigieg fully recognizes the need of Ohio. hostile questions from Cruz. Undisputedly, however, Buttigieg is to protect the Great Lakes,” Peters said. Texas’ senator, Ted Cruz, was among Buttigieg, during his testimony before the first openly gay person to win Sen- “I agree with Mayor Pete’s belief that he the 13 Republicans who voted against the committee, said renewing Ameri- ate confirmation specifically for a Cabi- says, ‘Good transportation policy can Buttigieg’s confirmation. The others ca’s infrastructure would be key to his net-level position. play no less a role than making possible were Tom Cotton of Arkansas, Roger approach as transportation secretary. To be sure, other openly gay people the American Dream.’” Marshall of Kansas, Rick Scott of Flori- Buttigieg also said any renewal of the have won Senate confirmation, just not Sen. Maria Cantwell, D-Wash., also da, Tommy Tuberville Alabama, Richard transportation system would be sensi- for Cabinet-level roles. The first was Ro- praised Buttigieg on the Senate floor Shelby of Alabama, Josh Hawley of Mis- tive to racial equity, which is consistent berta Achtenberg, who was confirmed and said she “enthusiastically” supports souri, Marsha Blackburn of Tennessee, with President Biden’s campaign pledge in 1993 as assistant secretary for the De- Buttigieg because he’s up to facing the Marco Rubio of Florida, Tim Scott of to tackle systemic racism. partment of Housing & Urban Develop- nation’s transportation challenges. South Carolina, James Lankford of Okla- Annise Parker, CEO of the LGBTQ ment. The long list includes presidential “I look forward to the type of focus homa, Bill Hagerty of Tennessee and Bill Victory Institute, said in a statement that appointees, ambassadors and judicial that he can give to the Department of Cassidy of Louisiana. Buttigieg “shattered a centuries-old po- nominations, many of them for senior Transportation,” Cantwell added. “This Many of the 13 — including Cruz — are litical barrier” by winning Senate con- positions just shy of Cabinet-level roles. area of our government, right now, needs considered likely 2024 Republican presi- firmation to a Cabinet-level role as an Among them is Fred Hochberg, who to address the COVID crisis, it needs to dential contenders. Cruz, Hawley, Tuber- openly gay person and doing so with served during the Obama years as head help us plan for a better transportation ville and Marshall were among those who bipartisan support. of the Export-Import Bank; Eric Fanning, system of the future and it needs to un- objected to certifying the electoral college “While his confirmation is histor- confirmed as Secretary of the Army after derstand that this transportation infra- ballots, supporting Trump’s lies that the ic, Pete is focused on the difficult task a long battle in the Senate in 2016; and structure and investment in these chang- 2020 election was “stolen” from him. ahead,” Parker said. “America is in des- Patrick Bumatay, appointed by Trump to es in these sectors of cars and planes and perate need of a revitalized transporta- the U.S. Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals passenger systems are all changing in- Headed to D.C. tion effort and his two terms as mayor and now the highest-ranking out federal dustries, and so our competitiveness will provide the experience and perspective judge. be at stake as well.” With Tuesday’s vote, Buttigieg and needed to propose bold solutions. In many ways, Buttigieg’s confirma- SENATE, Page 11

6 dallasvoice.com █ 02.05.21 CFA holds caregiver conference

Alzheimers Association joins Alzhei- Coalition for Aging LGBT for mer’s Dis- ease and The LGBTQ community and Alzheimer’s session on symptoms of and dementia Over 400,000 Texans are living with Alzheimer’s, and the LGBTQ community is not immune. caring for those with dementia and its im- Nationwide, an estimated 7.4% of the LGBTQ older adult population is living with dementia, pact on the and that number will continue to climb. An estimated 2.7 million LGBTQ people are over the age of 50 – and age is the greatest risk factor for Alzheimer’s disease. DAVID TAFFET | Senior Staff Writer LGBTQ If you are a caregiver of someone with Alzheimer’s disease, you already know the difficulties [email protected] commu- you face on a day to day basis. Making long-term care and end-of-life care decisions can nity and be emotional and difficult. Openly discussing these situations with the person with dementia thought the main sign of Alz- will offer while he or she is still able to do so can help ensure you understand his or her wishes and heimer’s Disease was simply a number prevent stress or disagreements with family later on. loss of memory and inabili- of resourc- Due to the cognitive decline that occurs as a result of dementia, at some point, the individual will no longer be able to make medical and care decisions. Advance directives are legal ty to recognize those around es avail- documents that specify preferences regarding these decisions, including end-of-life care. them. But my father had Alz- able to the Regardless of marital status, it is important for all couples to create advance directives to heimer’s, and he knew who I commu- ensure that their wishes are followed. In the absence of advance directives, treatment and care decisions will be the responsibility of the person’s spouse, or if the person is not married, was until the morning he died. nity. For Rob Emery a blood relative, usually a parent or sibling. This can’t be stressed enough. Alzheimer’s is the I noticed something was eldercare most expensive disease in the nation. wrong one day as we were driving from professionals, a breakout session will be Fear of discrimination and a history of negative interactions with health care providers may be his home in Delray Beach, Fla., toward offered on cultural competency. Social an obstacle to seeking care. For example, one survey found that 40% of LGBTQ older adult I-95 to go to Miami Beach, about 60 miles workers and licensed professional coun- respondents say their providers don’t know their sexual orientation. If you’re anxious about south. As we got on the interstate, my selors may receive 3.0 CEUs. seeing a doctor, a little research and preparation can help you feel more comfortable. father got more nervous, and when we Rob Emery, one of the organizers and Check for referrals to health care providers from the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association (GLMA.org) or an LGBT community center in your area. You can also visit alz.org/care to find left Palm Beach County and entered speakers at the conference, called elder- helpful caregiving information and resources. Broward, he was almost in a panic. But care an LGBTQ issue. Often, he said, care If you have questions or just need to talk with someone, you can call the 24/7 Alzheimer’s once we were in Dade County, he started for an elderly parent is left to the LGBTQ Association helpline at 1-800-272-3900 where you will always be immediately connected calming down. child who is seen as the sibling without with a caring person.For more information, please plan on attending The Dallas & Northeast As we crossed the causeway into Mi- their own children to care for and there- and the Fort Worth North Central Texas Chapters of the Alzheimer’s Association LGBTQ ami Beach, he was able to give me accu- fore the one most able to provide care for Alzheimer’s Caregiver conference online, rate directions to the building his mother their parents. Anecdotally, that even hap- Friday, February 12, 9:00 am – 12:30 pm. lived in during the 1960s, a building he pens in families where the parents reject- Register at 1-800-272-3900 or visit www.tinyurl.com/AlzLGBTQ hadn’t seen since. ed their gay, lesbian or transgender child. On another outing, he directed me to But Emery said he thinks there’s an- a Hungarian restaurant in Fort Lauder- other reason: LGBTQ people are com- dale that he hadn’t been to in 50 years. passionate and caring people. When The directions were accurate down to we are rejected by our own families, we how many traffic lights before making a learn to form our own families of choice turn into the parking lot and where the and care for each other. And that was entrance was. Once inside, he spoke to never so true as during the AIDS crisis. the waiters and ordered for us in flu- In assisted living facilities and nursing ent Hungarian, the language his family homes, LGBTQ people are often forced spoke at home in New Jersey until about to go back into the closet to protect them- the time he was about six. selves from bullying, neglect or abuse. Earlier that day, we had been to the Emery said that’s why CFA LGBT’s work Hard Rock Casino on the Seminole Res- with senior living facilities is so import- ervation. He kept winning at the slot ant. If they’re not interested in caring for machines, but he kept walking off from LGBTQ people, the community needs to the machines before taking his winnings. know that. If a facility wants to provide My pockets were becoming filled with care for LGBTQ seniors and is working coins as I chased behind him. with the coalition to offer socially rele- Panic; bad short-term memory but vant programming, that’s important in- good long-term memory; mood swings; formation to know as well. discomfort with unfamiliar surround- Emery said he thinks memory care ings — all signs of Alzheimer’s. facilities come under their own catego- Taking Care of Our Own is an LGBTQ ry. People who work in those homes are caregiver conference that Coalition for used to hearing just about anything, so Aging LGBT is presenting in partnership when an LGBTQ person’s filter is gone, with the Alzheimer’s Association the and it isn’t possible for them to mask who morning of Feb. 12. they are, there are rarely repercussions. Speakers will give information about CFA, Page 11

02.05.21 █ dallasvoice 7 The perfect gift

A guide to Valentine’s Day gifting in the time of COVID

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Here are a candles in scents like Opulent and Am- your eye is going these days. house, prepare the one who holds your few items that make it a little easier: the brosial are a no-brainer if you’re looking Aryka Randall, filmmaker, author and heart with this silly but practical gift: TatBrow Microblade Pen to whip those for a romantic gift that keeps giving. founder of TTF Mag, has a line of sweat- The Original Pickle Box. It’s got a base- brows in shape; the Nailboo Dip Kit lets And, although it’s for the body and not shirts and tees that are irresistible with ball cap, cotton shopping bag, pair of you give a manicure that’s dangerously for the house, I have to mention yummy bold statements as simple as TOMBOY sunglasses, lip balm, matches, three face close to what you get at the salon, and Nanor’s Rose Scrub, too, which has the and as FEMME. Trust me, you’ll love masks, hand sanitizer, toothpicks, twee- Murad Intense recovery cream and rap- same effect. them. 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02.05.21 █ dallasvoice 9 A daughter’s love, in poetry

esléa Newman, best on his father, and Newman notices her known for the classic own father turning away in sadness to Heather Has Two Mom- give the older man his dignity. mies, has also released Her father continued to work as an at- a book of poetry torney well into his 80s. One judge tells called I Wish My Fa- her father to stand near the bench. Obvi- ther, which deals with ously, her father reasons, the judge made the death of her father. the request because he was having some After her mother died, care for her trouble hearing. father mostly fell on Newman, even Her father’s pain in selling the home though she has two brothers. But she he’d lived in for 60 years is Newman’s called that responsibility a blessing. pain as well, as she moves him into as- Newman’s poetry tells the story of her sisted living. He finally agrees to move father finally retiring as an attorney as he and give it a year. He died, she notes, 11 approached his 90th birthday. She writes months and 27 days into his stay at the with humor and poignancy as she tries facility. to see things through her father’s dim- While each poem carries some sadness ming eyes. — getting rid of her mother’s clothes At a restaurant, an older man at the that her dad kept in their closet for years next table recognizes her father’s school after her death, visiting the neurologist Lesléa Newman icling her mother’s death, are wonderful ring. They went to the same college. He’s to get a dementia diagnosis, driving — closer. works for anyone with aging parents or impressed with the man’s sharp vision. there’s warmth as each step approach- I Wish My Father, along with I Carry My are dealing with their recent loss. But then the other man’s son puts a bib ing his death draws father and daughter Mother, a previous book of poetry chron- — David Taffet

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10 dallasvoice.com █ 02.05.21 SENATE, From Page 6 SMILE with your EYES! Alphonso David, president of the Hu- nation, and this confirmation is a sig- man Rights Campaign, congratulated nificant achievement toward that goal,” Buttigieg for his “historic confirmation” David said. in a statement. Ruben Gonzales, executive director of “This confirmation breaks through LGBTQ Victory Institute, said in a state- a barrier that has existed for too long; ment Buttigieg’s confirmation is a “tes- where LGBTQ identity served as an im- tament” to both Biden’s commitment to pediment to nomination or confirmation inclusivity and the American people’s at the highest level of government,” Da- “willingness to judge a leader by their vid said. “Let this important moment for qualifications, not their sexual orienta- our movement serve as a reminder to ev- tion.” ery LGBTQ young person: You, too, can “Each new political barrier broken serve your country in any capacity you inspires more LGBTQ people to consid- earn the qualifications to hold.” er careers in public service, a virtuous David also credited President Biden cycle we will accelerate until equitable for achieving the historic first for the representation is achieved,” Gonzales

LGBTQ community, saying Buttigieg’s added. ` █ confirmation follows through on a com- Chris Johnson is chief political and White mitment to diversity. “President Biden House reporter for the Washington Blade promised to deliver an administration and a member of the White House Corre- representative of the diversity of this spondents’ Association.

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█ Annnnnnd exhale Leo Cusimano Publisher 114 Now that the Trump turmoil is distancing ing between “two men, two women, can help three men and a woman.” It didn’t and editorial done, let’s talk about equality Tammye Nash Managing Editor █ 113 prevent hasn’t. My being married to Katie hasn’t David Taffet Senior Staff Writer █ 125 the spread changed any other person’s marriage. Philip Burton Proofreader t’s been a while since I have sent a of this Your free practice of religion remains on Contributors: Chris Azzopardi, Gary Bellomy, Jenny Block, J. Denton Bricker, Joey Cassiano, Jesus Chairez, Alicia Chang, column to Dallas Voice. That makes deadly solid ground. D’Anne Witowski, Lawrence Ferber, Hardy Haberman, I me a little sad, because I really enjoy pathogen. I read the Equality Act — all of it. Every Scott Huffman, Lisa Keen, Mark Lowry, Steven Monacelli, writing these columns, sharing thoughts (WTF are word. The word “religion” is mentioned Cassie Nova, Josh Robbins, Mikey Rox, Howard Lewis Russell, and questions with the readers. If I can the other in two ways — as one in a list of protected James Russell, Terri Schlichenmeyer, Leslie McMurray, provoke thoughtful discourse, that’s a 17 percent classes, like: “race, religion and national Mathew Shaw, Brandi Amara Skyy, Mark Stokes, Jef Tingley, Casey Williams win in my book. The reason I’ve been on think- origin.” The other time is when it says a self-imposed hiatus is because the Voice ing??) that the Religious Freedom Restoration advertising is published once a week; I would usually But a fol- Act can’t be used to challenge the rights Chad Mantooth Advertising Director █ 131 Stephen Mobley MarketPlace Sales █ 123 write down some thoughts on a Sunday, low-up listed in the Equality Act. edit the piece after giving it some thought question In other words, don’t discriminate. National Advertising Representative Rivendell Media Inc. 908-232-2021 on Monday and send it in on Tuesday. showed that only 51 percent wear a mask And if your religion requires you to reg- The trouble was, with Trump in the when in crowded gatherings or out in ularly assault other American’s human art White House, I could write about his public? rights, that’s a messed up religion. You Kevin Thomas Art Director █ 119 engaging in a conspiracy to overturn an HOW?! might want to find another kinder, more multimedia election on Sunday, and by Wednesday Then the corollary: Why is it easier to compassionate religion. After all, when it Stephen Mobley Social Media Director █ 123 he’d inspired a crowd of violent MAGA potty train a toddler than it is to teach a comes to freedom of choice, the ultimate Brian Kennedy Video Producer Israel Luna Video Producer/DVtv host zombies to assault the Capitol! full grown adult how to properly wear a choice is deciding which religion you Brad Pritchett DVtv Host And suddenly, just like that, a semi- mask? want to follow. You can even change your Brandi Amara Skyy DVtv Host well crafted column is old news! Seriously. mind. Regina Lyn DVtv Host It has been like this for quite some time. Every time I’m out (which isn’t often); But that’s not so with your sexual orien- circulation Now that President Biden has taken of- there are nitwits wearing the mask below tation or gender identity. Being discrim- Linda Depriter Circulation Director █ 120 fice, many of us have been able to exhale, the nose. Is your nose magical? Does it inated against because of those things is founders at least little. Inauguration Day featured prevent virus particles from attaching or just plain wrong. Robert Moore █ Don Ritz me ugly crying happy tears on my couch. does it not expel them when you breathe Freedom of religion is just one of the affiliations/memberships The nation is still sharply divided; there or sneeze? No, it doesn’t. You aren’t help- first 10 amendments to the Constitution. Associated Press - Associate Member are a mountain of problems, and we are ing, and you just look ignorant. It’s not above or below any of the oth- National Lesbian and Gay Journalists Association still near the high point of a deadly pan- Then there was the guy who wore the ers. It’s on an even par with free speech, Certified LGBT Business Enterprise demic. 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2020 Ford Mustang Ecoboost is here will find love beyond hardcore not just for gearheads enthusiasts. It runs with an EcoBoost turbocharged four-cylinder engine, CASEY WILLIAMS | Auto Reviewer which proves you don’t need big power [email protected] to enjoy the drive. If you just flipped through the pho- tos, you would never think there’s an 2020 Ford Mustang EcoBoost engine with only four cylinders beneath Four-passenger, RWD Coupe the long sexy hood and behind a classic Powertrain: 2.3-liter T4, 6-spd manual pony-strewn grille. No matter what’s Output: 310hp/350 lb.-ft. torque Suspension f/r: Ind/Ind between the fenders, this is my favorite Wheels f/r: 18-inch/18-inch alloy Mustang design, with an aggressive Brakes f/r: disc/disc stance accentuated by 18-inch wheels, Must-have features: Style, Engine fastback roofline and wide rump with Fuel economy: 21/30 mpg city/hwy triple sequencing tail lamps. LED head- Assembly: Flat Rock, MI Base/As-tested price: $26,670/35,850 lamps, foglamps and triple-lit elements behind each lens connect the car’s past to its future. Full-length racing stripes ord is relaunching the legendary and a subtle rear spoiler are perfect Mustang Mach 1 for 2021. And touches. F I’m excited for it and can’t wait to Back to that engine: The 2.3-liter throttle its big powerful V8 engine! turbo-four delivers 310 horsepower and I’m also a fan of the demonic Shelby 350 lb.-ft. of torque through a six-speed GT500 and its 760 horsepower super- manual transmission. Not only is it a charged V8. Both grace the dreams of joy to click-flick the shifter through the gearheads, but the Mustang we have gears, but it also contributes to frugal

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Funny that way Brandon Ingram as Arjie and Rehan Mudannayake as Shehan in Funny boy.

Set against Sri Lanka’s 26-year for a local stage production of The King civil war, ‘Funny Boy’ holds & I, and he gets a part. Meanwhile, messages for today Radha, who has been promised in an ar- ranged marriage to Toronto-based Rajan GREGG SHAPIRO | Screen Savor (Kanishka Ranabahu) begins a rela- [email protected] tionship with cast member Anil (Ruvin DeSilva), whose family is Sinhalese. ased on the acclaimed 1994 novel The reaction of Radha’s family mem- of the same name by gay writer bers, including the matriarch (Seema B Shyam Selvadurai (who co-wrote Biswas), is an indication of the trou- the screenplay), Funny Boy (Array) is bles to come. When Radha is seriously directed by Deepa Mehta (who co-wrote injured in a Sinhalese attack on a train the screenplay with Selvadurai). Mehta, it’s clear that things are only going to who is straight, is no stranger to queer get worse. material, having written and directed the By the movie’s early 1980s midpoint, award-winning 1996 lesbian feature Fire. teenage Arjie (Brandon Ingram) is Set in Colombo, Sri Lanka, during the enrolled in high school. It is there that mid-1970s and early 1980s, especially he meets Sinhalese Oscar Wilde-quoting turbulent years leading up to the begin- classmate Shehan (Rehan Mudannay- ning of the civil war between the Tamils ake). Before long, the teens realize that and the Sinhalese that lasted for 26 they have many things in common, in- years, Funny Boy is timely for a variety cluding being queer as well as a mutual of reasons. At a time when tensions are attraction. particularly high here in the U.S., with Around the same time, Jegan (Shivan- our own civil war seemingly looming tha Wijesinha), the son of a family friend daily, Funny Boy serves as a kind of who is involved in the revolutionary warning. Equally important is the cen- Tamil Tigers movement, has been sent tral theme of sexuality and acceptance to work for Chelva at the beachfront that propels the story. hotel he owns. It is through Jegan that When we first encounter 8-year-old we continue to see the deadly cultural Tamil boy Arjie (Arush Nand), he is divide become even more dangerous. dressed as a bride, and his sister Sonali The dramatic tensions of the story (Araina Nand) is dressed as a bride- continue to mount. Arjie and Shehan are groom. They are having a play wedding caught in a compromising position by with cousins and friends. But the fun Chelva. Jegan is arrested as part of the is short-lived when the adults, includ- Prevention of Terrorism Act. Chelva and ing Arjie’s concerned father Chelva Nalini’s marriage is straining under the (Ali Kazmi) and seemingly less upset pressures. Mobs of Sinhalese attack Tam- mother Nalini (Nimmi Harasgama), get ils on the streets and raid their homes. involved. As previously stated, the timing of When a relative tells Chelva that Arjie the release of Funny Boy couldn’t be is a “funny boy” he is visibly disturbed. better than at this particular moment. If Chelva has pinned all of his hopes on people are able to overlook some of the his older, more athletically inclined son issues, including the lack of Tamil actors Diggy (Avlok Wignaraja). among the cast members and issues Fortunately for Arjie, he has cool and with the language spoken on screen, worldly Aunt Radha (Agam Darshi), his Funny Boy is still worth seeing for its

father’s sister, for support and encour- various messages of understanding. █ agement. She takes Arjie to an audition Rating: B-

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FRI 02.05 Fort Worth’s Jubilee Theatre kicks off its 40th season with a streaming presentation of Katori Hall’s HooDoo Love, a tale of love, magic, jealousy and secrets, directed by Wambui Richardson and starring Jade Massentoff as Toulou, J.R. Bradford as JIB, Kris Jasper as Candy Lady and Nathan D. Thurman as Ace of Spades. Streaming through Feb. 28 at Vimeo. Tickets are $20 to access the video for a 48-hour period. For details visit JubileeTheatre.org.

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moan the worst of it. We can hold on to the they do the most mundane things for no choose to accept and not just make the best expectations we’ve had from years passed, reason other than that they love us. Let’s of the situation but instead make the day or we can do with this holiday what we’ve be present. Let’s put down our phones and truly better than ever before. Jenny Block had to do with so many other things during the remote and talk to one another. Let’s be Let’s make this Valentine’s Day the one the pandemic: turn things on their heads and grateful for someone to care for who cares where real love takes the front seat, and all Girl on Girls make something entirely new out of it. for us. And let’s show that with our presence the trimmings slip into the back. Let’s use it I mean, maybe it’s a good thing. Valen- instead of some grand gesture. as a time to reassess and recommit to loving tine’s Day is kind of a tough holiday, anyway. It’s a day about all kinds of love. So one another with gratefulness and without Meeting the challenge of It’s a make-believe, card store day. But it’s whether you’re partnered or not, reach out distraction. Valentine’s Day in a pandemic almost impossible to not buy into it, to not to friends and tell them you love them and The most romantic thing in the world you want to create the perfect Valentine’s Day for are grateful to have them in your life. Grant can do is make sure your Valentine feels your person and to not want the same done yourself some self-care — some real self- seen. The rest is just window dressing. This is going to be a really weird Valen- for you. care — not just candles and a bubble bath, tine’s Day. I mean there’s lots to love: We And if you don’t buy in, people think but the real deal. have a president we can be proud of who you’re some heart-broken curmudgeon. In Ask yourself what you really need right loves us and respects us and wants to take this week’s solution other words, you can’t win for losing when it now: healthy food, a walk around the block, care of and protect us. There are vaccines comes to Valentine’s Day. a long call with a close friend or family mem- for COVID-19 that are slowly but surely This year though, we have no choice but ber, an appointment with a mental health being administered. And some days feel like to take on a new perspective. We can’t have provider. spring already, one of the many benefits of the same expectations because those ex- Just like you would care for someone living in Texas. pectations literally cannot possibly be filled. you love, Valentine’s Day is a great time to But it’s still going to be really weird. I mean, they could, I suppose. But it would remember to love ourselves. There aren’t going to be fancy dinners in be foolish at best and dangerous at worst. Holidays are full of pressure. But it’s packed restaurants. No theaters with full In a way, Valentine’s Day this year is a forced pressure we put on ourselves from giving houses. No romantic movies to be seen lesson in managing our expectations. too much weight to all the outside noise. shoulder-to-shoulder with other couples. What if instead of looking at Valentine’s You don’t have to buy a card; you can make We’re going to have to think differently this Day as our chosen one’s one and only real one. You don’t have to buy a fancy gift; you year. We’re going to have to opt for picnics chance to prove their love to us, we looked can skip it or craft it or even IOU it. You don’t and outdoor events. We’ll have to spend the at it as a day where we put all of our focus, have to plan an elaborate surprise; most of holiday learning how to create new things all of our intention on our love or like or fond- us want little more than our person’s full and in the kitchen or crafting pretty whatnots. ness — whatever you want to call it — for undivided attention and to be reminded that We’ll have to go on hikes or kick around the that person. we are indeed “the one.” soccer ball or go horseback riding with our Forget the idea of either of you proving a Do what you might generally forget to do person. thing. Instead, this year, let’s celebrate the or feel too busy or overwhelmed to do but So here’s the thing: This is our moment. very existence of love. Let’s remember it and know that you should do. Pretend like you’re Now’s our chance to do something that █ browse █ submit honor it and nurture it. courting again. Pay attention. Flirt. Cuddle. we don’t get to do every day in such a dra- Let’s make our person their coffee that The whole nine yards. matic fashion. We have the chance to decide For a more complete Community To submit an item for inclusion in morning instead of them having to make it. This year is not just challenging. It’s a Calendar online, visit the Community Calendar, visit if we’re going to make the most of it or be- Let’s say thank you — and mean it — when challenge. It’s a challenge that we can Tinyurl.com/dvevents. Tinyurl.com/dvevents.

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