P’s Sex Menu
Overview:
● I’m a queer, kinky survivor & constantly reassessing my sexuality. I haven’t figured it all out yet! I am a cis woman.
● I used to feel more submissive but after some trauma I started only feeling dominant. In the last few months i’ve realised I now identify as a switch. Either way, I would say i’m mostly into pain, sensation play, sensory deprivation and fear. Identify mostly with the roles Voyeur, and Sadist but some other vibes catch me at certain moments too. I also love to make partners feel taken control of, powerless, defenceless, ‘on edge’ etc, and I love to be on the receiving end of those dynamics too.
● Another thing I’m very much trying to unlearn is ‘compulsory orgasms’ which for me is harder than I thought! I can come in about 2 to 3 mins from solo masturbation 100% of the time, and I also fetishise orgasm in myself and in others massively. It can be really hard not to just head straight there as soon as i’ve started. I’m working on it, mainly because thinking this way makes sex with new partners quite stressful (I sometimes can get panicky if I don’t come), and it has made sex with longer term partners quick and samey in the past! (that said, quick and samey can be nice :) When orgasm IS on the table, I often prefer to “go second”, because I get really turned on by observing my partner come.
● I don’t think of penetration as ‘sex’ over other stuff, but i’m keen if you are. There’s a lot of other stuff I prefer. I’ve never had vaginal orgasms.
● I usually use barrier protection for blowjobs, penetration, and all fingering (don’t usually bother for cunniligus). If we become close (usually for me after a few months) I’m happy to ditch the condoms for giving head, but am equally happy to use both them & dental dams if someone prefers to. I like using gloves in my personal life (for reasons other than sexual health), but if you really like the feeling of no gloves, let’s discuss.
I get tested every 3 months.
PHYSICAL ACTS I ENJOY A LOT stuff in purple can get me to orgasm!
● Giving handjobs ● Spanking and other types of impact play particularly leather implements ● Nipple clamps used on me ● Edging ● Hearing people ‘talk themselves off’ muttering stuff as they come, announcing their impending orgasm, asking me if I want to see/taste it etc. ● Blowjobs ● Really rude/explicit dirty talk ● Doggy style/Flatiron position I don’t usually come via most penetrative positions but I really enjoy being fucked like this, esp by a mirror. (I also occasionally really enjoy a very quick fuck like this that’s over when the other person comes) ● Me on top. ● You on top with, especially this position so I have access to my clit with my hands ● Ass worship (receiving) generally having it squeezed, stroked, rubbed, kissed (clothed or unclothed) ● Wrestling/power struggle/roughhousing ● Rimming/anal play on you (incl strap on fucking, prostate massage, fisting etc) ● Wanking together, or me doing both of us at the same time. ● Getting myself off with my hand/vibrator ● Rimming/Anal play/anal sex on me very occasional. ● You fucking my mouth while I lie down and touch myself ● Penetrative Fingering (occasionally!) with gloves please, kind of slow. ● Oral on me usually takes a while to feel relaxed during this, but then I really like it. I like it really wet, and no suction just licking. I’ll give loads of verbal feedback. I don’t really like having my labia spread open with fingers first, I find it a bit offputting!
KINKS/FETISHES/DYNAMICS/THEMES things I find hot in no order of preference. Note: not all of these things are actually things i’d do or have done before. Some things are just fun to think about!
● Voyeurism SPYING! I love spying. Me watching you, others watching you, me watching others watching you, me watching you watching porn, making home movies, making you video yourself ● Bondage the tighter the better. Ropes, tape, I love it all. ● Physical punishment/sensation play nipple clamps, wax, flogging, caning, electrics, etc etc ● Sensory deprivation I just love the fear aspect of not knowing what’s coming! And I like to do this to others too. ● Threesomes/group sex watching you with another/others, other people using you in front of me, you being passed around, us having a running commentary about your performance or goading you. Also seeing you enjoy yourself with someone else. Being given oral while you get fucked or pegged. ● Sneaky sex time constained/someone could walk in at any moment. ● Cross dressing/gender play ● Teenage ageplay 16/17/18? Ah, the good old days. ● Mild humiliation, more like a patronising vibe (“you can’t help it can you?”) ● Professional dynamics: Teacher/student or lecturer/student, boss/employee ● Pet (puppy, kitty) dynamics Grooming/hairbrushing/whining/soothing/feeding ● Maledom/femsub, third party perspective me watching, not being involved. ● Dirty talk anything that relates to the above stuff, I also really like to hear about other (fictionalised or random) people you’d fuck and what you’d do to them, particularly submissive female characters. ● Safe exhibitionism Being watched but no one can get at me.
Limits
● I really dislike any sucking on outer/inner labia so basically: all tongue, no lips! ● Anything scat related ● Clinical words for body parts really turn me off: vagina, penis, clitoris, breasts, testicles etc. I also prefer ‘cunt’ over pussy. ● Bad personal hygiene obvs this is subjective, but if you have a foreskin please be considerate. Also areas for attention: breath, general BO, balls, buttcrack.